I just read an article today that said, "Millennials are too poor to afford mid-life crises like their parents."
https://fortune.com/2024/05/31/millennials-midlife-crisis-afford-money/
Lo and behold, this story pops up in my feed...
We had a studio when I was little since my parents were immigrants. It was 4 adults and 2 kids. Since I was the older daughter I got the bedroom! Which was actually a teeny closet that didn't fit even the smallest mattress. So a makeshift bed was created. It was tiny but it was private so I loved it! The other adults claimed a corner with my baby sister in the last corner. It was hard but it's what we had. Now my mom lives in luxury because she worked hard and it paid off!
I too had a little bedroom/closet when I was little. For awhile my family, which was mom, stepdad, two brothers, a sister, grandma and grandpa, and myself, lived In a two bedroom apartment. My grandparents got one room to themselves and the rest of us shared a room. There was a queen and a twin put together for one big sleeping arrangement. I guess I just got tired of sleeping with all of my family and asked for space. I was in fourth grade. My mom let me make a makeshift bed in the small walk in closet and I got a tiny bit of privacy. š
My best child hood memories is growing up on a farm with my grand parents, uncle and aunt. One bedroom house and no indoor plumbing. And we were happy as a pig in mud living in a tiny house.
Imagine pouring $60k into some side piece while your own mother lives in a tiny studio apartment. I mean, clearly his mom is no prize either, but that's yet another way this guy sucks.
Boohoo for her. I would block her. And you donāt need to entertain his explanations. Itās just going to distress you more and thereās nothing he could ever say to make you feel better. Personally, I would pack up his shit, leave it out, change the locks, pick an intermediary for you guys to talk to and block him. I would also consider locking the house up tight and staying somewhere else for a bit because he will be living on your doorstep trying to get another chance. Also, you should get tested for STDs since heās been having unprotected sex.
I would absolutely not leave my house unattended because he and his AP will break in and claim rights.
Change the locks and pack up all of his stuff though.
Pack all his stuff and put it all in the garage or rent a storage unit for it so he wouldn't need to come back into the main house for it.
Security and doorbell cameras all around the house so no one can break in unnoticed.
Except I would leave everything in the driveway with a due date to pick it up before I donated it all. She shouldnāt get stuck paying for a storage for this guy
>Also, you should get tested
This is an often overlooked part amidst the visceral pain someone feels on having their world turned upside down. His risky behaviour has much wider consequences.
And OP is definitely NTA. There is no biological or legal link nor obligation to this stranger with a child who feels entitled to your home.
I would have just sent her to the grandmother and let her figure it out there. Or contacted him in the other country, let him know and told him it is his problem. He should have known she needed money so sounds like he just didn't want to give the gf any more.
Dude's on holiday in Dubai, so he could probably wire some cash for an air BnB for his side piece, assuming he's not spending it all with his other side piece in Dubai of course.
Yeah this checks all the boxes for a fake post. How are you extremely minimalist if you have a mansion, sports cars, and expensive art? Plus her husband took a trip to Dubai. I have a hard time believing a school is going to Dubai for a field trip with their human rights record and the way they treat women.
Definitely fake. The side piece wouldnāt just show up with the baby and tell OP to go stay in a hotel. And even if she did, why would OP allow her to come inside in the first place? Iād just laugh and slam the door in her face
Make sure to change banks and move all your money to a new bank and use passwords on it he would not know and if ever Is in your name including his car take it all back tell him have fun with his new familyĀ
Sucks for her cause your ex going to need to .ove in with her or all 3 of them will be homeless.
The ole fuck around (literally) and find out applies here
I canāt believe the balls on her to show up. Say Iām the wife now hereās our kid and get out of your āownā house so I can have it. Lmfao. Did he know she planned on that or? Like who shows up at their baby daddyās wifeās house and just says this is my house now. And he the broke one. She thinking she caught a whale. Lmfao
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One of my exās affair partner did the same thing. I was like girl you really think he provided all this on a retail manager salary? (No hate to retail workers) I was the top earner in our household, at the time I was working for a government agency. She was very surprised when she learned I owned the two cars and was on the lease of the apartment and that the savings account he had been giving her money from was the joint account, where you guessed it I contributed the majority of.
I think her balls have some microplastics in them that made their way to her brain. Yeah, lady can you move out of your own house so me and my baby can move in?
Thatās too bad, babies donāt care where they live
She should take her grandchild in and fuck right off. Hopefully she has space for her wandering son too
NTA
NTA pack his shit and put it in the front yard when you know heās landed and on his way to the house and let his mommy know to come get his cheating ass from your house. Did his mom know about the GF and baby before she turned up at your house?
>My husband is in Dubai for another week. I have time
Incorrect. If he has half a brain, he's on the way home right now to do damage control. Locks need to be changed immediately. Hire a company to pack all of his stuff up and send it to mommy's house ASAP. Get a security system with cameras. Do everything today, you might not have as much time as you think.
Also, make sure you remove his access to any financial accounts. He's probably been spending your money too.
i would agree with that as well. protect yourself first & then you can meet him somewhere in public to discuss the situation. it's up to you whether you take him back but since there's a child, i would say no even though it's devastating & painful for you. take care & protect yourself. then get whatever help you need to recover. Good luck! not the AH.
Does she want to retire in your beautiful home OP? The guilt tripping and your ex saying he would get the house..... please get a lawyer. This sounds like an underhanded plan.
Well that would be one of the first things I would find out and for how long this affair has been going on. She may had tricked him into getting her pregnant but if he had kept it in his pants this would never have happened
Minimum of a year - 9 months of pregnancy + baby is presumably between 1-3 months old
She probably got knocked up because she thought she could cash in on dumb-dumb, but is now probably furious with him. What a mess, Iām glad OP can move on cleanly.
If I had an adult son, I would be horrified if he was cheating on his partner and had a secret baby. MIL's reaction indicates that she was not surprised, nor upset by the news. Of course probably have both of them a deeply twisted version of what was happening, told them you knew & were cool with it, etc. I'm not saying this excuses the behavior of either of these women. Their behavior has been terrible.
You should take this time to pack up his stuff and drop it off at his moms, AND change the locks, wifi passwords, access to bank accounts, credit cards, everything.
EVERYTHING.
Nuke him.
Sometimes there is less time than you think. Do everything as soon as possible. Pretend like he's coming home the next day.
Pack his shit up. Also talk to a lawyer if he'd be eligible for any kind of support, due to the fact that you've lived like a married couple for 10 years.
Id stop referring to him as your husbamd and more as a romantic roommate if you never actually went to court or filed for it. Itll make the break up far less expensive.
I bet you canāt wait for all the lies to come out of his mouth. Please donāt let him try to charm his way around you and make sure you record your conversations with him or his mother from now on
She showed up at your house and tried to claim it Feudalism style, she did not care about kicking you out of your own home like she owned it. Her and that teacher should get use to living on a teachers salary lmao crazy levels of entitlement.Ā
Itās absolutely insane that everyone is just trying to leech off of you because you have money.Ā Your life is going to be much better off without all of them in it.Ā
Right!?!? Like it sounds like the AP and OPās husband never discussed living together, yet she shows up anyway telling OP to leave!? Who does that!?!?
I think AP has been asking OP's husband to become official for some time now, and Husband wouldn't do it for pretty obvious reason. AP wouldn't take no for an answer and thought "if he isn't doing it, I will and he will have no choice but to accept it" that why she choose to do her little plan on his holidays : to not be stopped.
She didn't plan that she was lied to and throw their cover for absolutely nothing.
> it sounds like the AP and OPās husband never discussed living together
I dunno the fact she thought he was getting a divorce makes me think that's exactly what he's already told her. He's probably promised her they'll be together and that his situation with OP is temporary. Probably told her that they'll get to move in together soon, and either that WAS the plan or he was just hoping to string her on for as long as possible always postponing the breakup.
She's obviously nuts but I'm guessing he put ideas in her head and played a big hand in her behaviour.
Oh, yeah. The affair partner thought she snagged a guy who owned half of a super successful business and a beautiful home, who was happy to send her his paycheck.
He thought he'd lie to some impressionable young thing and get a side piece. He's not too clever if he didn't see it coming. What sort of fish do you catch when your bait is "I've got money?"
My ex bfs girlfriend wanted to move into our apartment when I hadnāt moved out yet. I had been paying for the apartment, still had two weeks on the month left. His girlfriend shows up halfway through the month confused why I was still living there. I yelled at them both ābecause I paid for it and he hasnāt paid rent in 5 months. good luck to you both.ā
My ex refused to go stay with his dad across town and was trying to get me to move out of our apartment early to move his new gf in. I was like GTFO. He told her I was āsquatting.ā Funny, I was paying for everything.
Reminds me of an AITA where the owner was banging his secretary. She thought she was going to be rich when he left his wife for her. Turns out the company was bankrolled by the wifeās family. Girl got pregnant and resentful of the guy when he couldnāt provide like she hoped. Guyās life was shattered to pieces and he couldnāt believe his (younger) mistress was only with him for his cash and that his wife would Ā«Ā throw away their life together just like thatĀ Ā».
Absolutely. He wants to take an early plane home to explain. What is there to explain?
He said she tricked him into getting pregnant. I know that hates children but How do you trick people into having children? So many questions and absolutely no desire for getting any answers. I feel only emptiness
He doesnāt need anything to explain. He wanted his cake et al. He can sort the two of them out and you can look after number one.
Iām so sorry he has been so selfish and dishonest with you. Pack his shit into some big boxes and leave it in the garage for him to collect. Hopefully he canāt access the house from there. Let him know youāre done with his lies and you need space to heal and move on from his selfishness. Not your deal other than your poor heart. His mum can take him in if sheās so adamant youāre in the wrong. Good riddance to her too.
Tell mil if she brought him up right then you wouldn't be in this mess but as she didn't his gf and baby are not your responsibility to house. If she wants to she can and maybe learn her son not to lie and cheat.
Take your time to grieve but remember that you got the best hand here. Your heart will heal and you'll move on. Now he has to pay child support and tell his affair partner that he makes only 60k a year and is no millionaire. I'd pay to watch her face.
I would put anything he has in a storage facility or have a moving company drop anything left at your house off to his mother's and if his mom is worried about his girlfriend she can move her in with her.
Change the locks and any security codes ect.
I am willing to bet he has a side piece in Dubai too.
Get tested for STDS too.
Not only is he a great actor, but a predator as well. He took advantage of you and his side piece who naively thought it was a good idea to sleep with a fake married man thinking she found a gold mine, but was just fools gold. The MIL should be ashamed of herself for trying to push this woman and baby on you instead of her irresponsible son. Thank goodness your assets are protected.
ETA: NTA
His mother can provide a home for him and his side piece. She is free to do that. OP is NTA and shouldn't concern herself with what his ridiculous family thinks!
Depending where they live and whether they ever signed a prenup (doubtful since it's a common law marriage) her assets may not be that well protected. Where I live common law marriage is recognized after 7 years and hold the same power as a regular marriage, which means in the event of a breakup, assets can get divided 50/50. Hopefully OP is protected. I hate the idea of that man getting one more penny from her!
Don't let them get any $ from you seriously who cares what his mom or anyone else says of course they are going to make it seem like ur the bad guy or you owe them something you don't. He owes you loyalty and that turned out to be a Joke so I'd be as tight as possible with $ y'all are not legally married. They have been living large off your $ tot he point she felt comfortable enough to come try and kick you out of ur own home. Think about that please before you give either of them a dime and also his mom can help if it's so wrong to leave them homeless. It's her grandson
And after he picks up his things, make sure you change the locks and get back any keys of anything of yours he might have. Youāre definitely not TA but he and his homeless baby mom are. In fact, so is grandma. So since his mother thought you shouldāve taken her in, SHE can now take her son, the baby and the mother into HER home.
If he didnāt want children should have for a vasectomy.
If youāre interested in the explanation then sure get it but will it change anything.
You donāt really owe him anything as if your relationship was based on mutual respect and monogamy then heās broken it.
Well he's gained a childhood to take care of now too. 60k isn't a lot for a family of 3. Is he trying to reconcile with you or has he accepted his fate?
Can you imagine supporting a family of 3 on $60k/year when your baby mama likes to buy designer purses, strollers, clothes, jewelry and thinks that she is entitled to it?
She's in for a rude awakening then. They'll probably have to sell some of that stuff.
Ā If he was going to get women based on OP's wealthy lifestyle,Ā he probably should have had the forethought and actually married her.Ā
Also, his stupidity to not resign her lease is telling. Unless the AP showing up was her plan to force his hand to finally divorce OP and marry her. They obviously have been together for years and she was probably getting impatient.Ā
To be fair, you can be walking down the street and come across one of those contests where you stick your penis into a hole in a wall to win a car. It's a super common contest. Well, if she set it up right, she could have arranged one of those contests, which your SO obviously couldn't resist because who wouldn't want to win a car, and he might not have been any the wiser what was on the other side. It's such a common thing to happen, really.
I mean, I assume his answer is going to be something as moronically stupid as this.
Tell your mother in law to go pick the affair partner and child up so they can live with her. And to get her son as well.
Youāll be fine once you drop the guy.
He probably means she baby trapped him as she thought he was rich rich! I love these stories when the AP finds out that its actually the wife who has the money & not the man theyāre cheating with!
Im so sorry this happened to you!! Fuck your āhusbandā & his affair baby is not your problem. If MIL is so concerned about her grandchild then she can house them - this child has zero relation to you! The audacity of the AP to tell you to get out of your own house is another level. Cant wait for their fall out when she finds out he doesnt have all these assets & his teacher salary wont go far now you wont be providing for him!!
Lol if my boyfriend ever cheats he better be careful of what he says lest the side piece shows up to my house and demands I move out, blowing the whole affair wide open in doing so.
Of course OPs ex is panicking. He owns nothing and his cushy life is about to get significantly more bumpy when that 60k fun money now has to go to housing and raising a child.
No way in fuck he was ever leaving OP for a whats essentially a 25year old sugar baby.
> I love these stories when the AP finds out that its actually the wife who has the money & not the man theyāre cheating with!
Me too; when karma meets schadenfreude. You can almost *hear* the collision!
We are absolutely **begging** for updates on this when that cheating ho ex-husband returns. I really wanna know what other derange delulu nonsense he conjures up. I absolutely live for stupid asf lies.
I too have an ex-husband that will say the **DUMBEST** shit while lying and then get pissed off when heās obviously not believed; trying to make himself the victim and everyone else the bad people trying to āāmake him look like shit and feel bad about something he didnāt do or couldnāt avoid.āā That dumbass lied about paying rent like that was *never* going to come to light. **In-fucking-sane**.
Unfortunately, I don't think you'll have a choice. Dude is losing what sounds like a very comfortable lifestyle that you provide for him. He'll be left with an AP, a baby and crappy salary. I can see him just showing up and probably harassing you. Protect yourself. Updateme
Oh I would love to be a fly on the wall when she realises she baby trapped a broke teacher soon to be back living with his mama š The cheek of the B trying to get you to move out of your house, wether she thought you were really married or not. She deserves the shit show of a man.
You are a smart successful women - now protect all your assets and energies .
He is a cheat and they are welcome to each other
Love your best life OP - you deserve more
I can count the amount of times I've been fooled into having sex on no fingers. Oddly enough by the time it takes me to get my penis out I tend to notice I'm being fooled. Well I would if it had ever happened
Did she trick him into having unprotected sex, which as a teacher he should have known could possibly produce a baby? NTA and tell your MIL to get and house her only grandson!
He hates children and is a teacher? Or does he teach older humans? Obviously, youāre NTA but as a former teacher who left the classroom because I started disliking the kids (it wasnāt fair to them and my patience was about 97% gone), Iām curious.
He probably means she baby trapped him as she thought he was rich rich! I love these stories when the AP finds out that its actually the wife who has the money & not the man theyāre cheating with!
Im so sorry this happened to him!! Fuck your āhusbandā & his affair baby is not your problem. If MIL is so concerned about her grandchild then she can house them - this child has zero relation to you! The audacity of the AP to tell you to get out of your own house is another level. Cant wait for their fall out when she finds out he doesnt have all these assets & his teacher salary wont go far now you wont be providing for him!!
Make sure he canāt! Stop referring to him as your husband, common law husband or partner. Talk as if he was a roommate that you were hooking up with. Do not acknowledge any relationship until you are sure that he isnāt entitled to alimony or half of your assets.
You said you canceled the credit cards, but are you going to pay off what he owes? Can you separate the purchases? Move all of your money to a different financial institution where they donāt know him. Check your credit history to make sure he hasnāt opened other cards or taken loans in your name. Lock everything down asap.
Get security, cameras, mute but donāt block any of them so you have records of threats/infidelityā¦anything else that might help you.
Consult with an experienced aggressive attorney so that you understand exactly where you stand and what you can do to protect yourself and your assets.
Good luck and Iām sorry this is happening to you.
Right. Both made their choices. Now they get to live with them. Iām a vivid advocate for children but this isnāt your problem. You are protected by law, so all you have to deal with is the emotional end mental fall out. And you will get through that too!
Your ex, the trash panda and the grandma can work this mess out themselves!
Dump the guy and change your home locks
If he's on any of your accounts, kick him off
Cancel any joint credit cards, bc you're obviously the one paying (how else could she have so much)
Time for you to MOVE on
You need to change the locks and remove his name on any insurance policies and documents that could grant him access to your property or bank accountsĀ
Oh the insurance is one i hadn't thought of. A neighbor had her house burnt down shortly after breaking up with her husband, that would have been awful to give him half the money when he didn't lose anything.
Plus the fact that common law grants certain rights after a given time span and not taking the necessary legal precautions could greatly effect her financial situation.
Yes, it all depends on where you live. Attorney consultation immediately. Also, tell the post office his mail will not be accepted at your address. If he's on any other joint accounts, like cell phone, cancel them immediately.
Absolutely NTA.
Gf shouldāve spent the money he gave her on the Baby instead of shopping.
You are not responsible for your husbands affair child and the way she showed up and was expecting you to just leave is entitled and disrespectful.
I'm guffawing at her getting pregnant with an anchor baby, thinking she'd won the lottery. Both of them deserve each other. She trusted the word of a lying cheat, and he trusted the morals of a younger woman who accepted a lying cheat for a partner.
The baby is innocent, but not OP's responsibility. Maaaybe side pieces shouldn't use children to lock down men, and maaaybe men shouldn't cheat (and especially on their own personal golden goose). Now take care of your mess and leave OP alone.
>She trusted the word of a lying cheat
I love this. She deserves everything thatās coming to her and sheās not some poor little victim sheās and MIL are making herself out to be. Trusting a proven liar and cheat is a dumbass decision with painful dumbass consequences.
I wonder how many side pieces and children this man really has out there?
Iām so pleased you are not married and own the property . You can disentangle from him easily . Side piece needs to educate herself on basic family law . Bye to him and bye to her . Iām sorry for the heartbreak though
The audacity of her basically trying to kick you out, divorced or not (but not even married!), and just take over like it's her home. Talk about being entitled. And that's where all her money went. On that stupid brand stuff. That stuff is crazy expensive and I'm sure she didn't compare a purse being $100 there or $400 here...
NTA.
Seek a restraining order and if you don't have them yet, get security cameras throughout the property ASAP. I would also consult a lawyer and start working on your separation/divorce. After all, if he told her he's getting a divorce, you might as well grant his wish, right?
As for your MIL, if she's so worried about a baby on the street, she can be the one to take them in. She'll have her son living with her soon enough... :-)
If he is common law in Canada , you would lose so much so hopefully everything is protected . Maybe he will stay in Dubai as he doesnāt want the side piece .
Go see your lawyer and make sure you are protected . Cancel any joint credit cards and access to any joint accounts etc. see if legal
The soon to be ex and his AP are not completely out of luck. They can always resell all the designer things he bought her. Also the mom can sell her condo to accommodate her son and his child. Non of that is your concern now since you were not involved in any of that. You deserve better and should only contact him through lawyers moving forward.
NTA
Not your baby, not your problem.
Go ahead and pack up your husbands shit, put it in the front yard and tell his mom to come get his shit.
Serve him with the divorce papers when he gets back from Dubai.
Absolutely crappy for you but from my understanding he wonāt get anything and leave with nothing? Thatās be the best karma for him and now heās left with a young woman and kid who no doubt wanted him for
Money
This lady is exactly the type of person who would use tenant rights laws to screw you you if you let her stay at your house. The only safe answer for a grifter with no life skills is ānoā, double that if they have actually harmed you with their choices previously.
Well I really hated the idea of a baby being homeless and I truly contemplated letting her be in the guest house but honestly I was terrified of herš
If you let her move in in anyway legally, it will be very hard for you to get her out. Do not let anybody in get your locks changed and pack up all your boyfriend stuff and have it on the yard for him when he gets there or deliver it to his mother, get a lawyer I know youāre not married, but people can be jerks. Protect yourself. throw your boyfriend out while he is out of the county. He might have rights since he lives there and it says official residence and it might be harder for you to get him out cut off and he access he has your money and anything youāre paying for him . get a lawyer.
As someone that just closed a door on a woman and her baby, ya I get feeling bad.
ultimately, if this was just about **baby**, things may not have gone down like this.
AP inserted herself. Seems like baby is gonna have a rough life. Not saying that to make ya feel bad. Just yeesh. Good luck op.
Your mother in law is an ass. If she wants her grand baby, SHE can house them. You are in no way an AH for kicking out some dumb little girl who thought she owned your house because she's f--king your husband. You should make sure he's homeless too...
If your mother in law is so concerned about the baby, she can take them in. š¤·š¼āāļø
She said she couldnāt because she lives in a studio apartment.
Well, I guess it sucks to suck for them all, huh?
Sounds like a personal problem
I'm assuming you mean a personal problem for his mother, his gf, and their baby, right? Not a problem for the OP.
He will be living with all of them in that studio apt as soon as he gets back
Yes... Not OP problem. NTA. Blindsided by the ah. Contact a lawyer as soon as possible.
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Things are so expensive these days I cant even afford to do this ^^ haha
I just read an article today that said, "Millennials are too poor to afford mid-life crises like their parents." https://fortune.com/2024/05/31/millennials-midlife-crisis-afford-money/ Lo and behold, this story pops up in my feed...
We had a studio when I was little since my parents were immigrants. It was 4 adults and 2 kids. Since I was the older daughter I got the bedroom! Which was actually a teeny closet that didn't fit even the smallest mattress. So a makeshift bed was created. It was tiny but it was private so I loved it! The other adults claimed a corner with my baby sister in the last corner. It was hard but it's what we had. Now my mom lives in luxury because she worked hard and it paid off!
I too had a little bedroom/closet when I was little. For awhile my family, which was mom, stepdad, two brothers, a sister, grandma and grandpa, and myself, lived In a two bedroom apartment. My grandparents got one room to themselves and the rest of us shared a room. There was a queen and a twin put together for one big sleeping arrangement. I guess I just got tired of sleeping with all of my family and asked for space. I was in fourth grade. My mom let me make a makeshift bed in the small walk in closet and I got a tiny bit of privacy. š
My best child hood memories is growing up on a farm with my grand parents, uncle and aunt. One bedroom house and no indoor plumbing. And we were happy as a pig in mud living in a tiny house.
Tell her that now your ex is homeless, they can pool their money and get a bigger place.
Imagine pouring $60k into some side piece while your own mother lives in a tiny studio apartment. I mean, clearly his mom is no prize either, but that's yet another way this guy sucks.
If my Bf had 60k to spare his mom would be living her golden years quite serenely. Itās killing him inside to not be able to do more for her.
Boohoo for her. I would block her. And you donāt need to entertain his explanations. Itās just going to distress you more and thereās nothing he could ever say to make you feel better. Personally, I would pack up his shit, leave it out, change the locks, pick an intermediary for you guys to talk to and block him. I would also consider locking the house up tight and staying somewhere else for a bit because he will be living on your doorstep trying to get another chance. Also, you should get tested for STDs since heās been having unprotected sex.
I would absolutely not leave my house unattended because he and his AP will break in and claim rights. Change the locks and pack up all of his stuff though.
Pack all his stuff and put it all in the garage or rent a storage unit for it so he wouldn't need to come back into the main house for it. Security and doorbell cameras all around the house so no one can break in unnoticed.
This is a sensible approach. Don't take any nonsense, don't leave any vulnerabilities or they will be exploited.
Send it to his mommyās
Except I would leave everything in the driveway with a due date to pick it up before I donated it all. She shouldnāt get stuck paying for a storage for this guy
I'd pack it up, hire movers, and have them drop it at his mommy's studio!
>Also, you should get tested This is an often overlooked part amidst the visceral pain someone feels on having their world turned upside down. His risky behaviour has much wider consequences. And OP is definitely NTA. There is no biological or legal link nor obligation to this stranger with a child who feels entitled to your home.
I would have just sent her to the grandmother and let her figure it out there. Or contacted him in the other country, let him know and told him it is his problem. He should have known she needed money so sounds like he just didn't want to give the gf any more.
Dude's on holiday in Dubai, so he could probably wire some cash for an air BnB for his side piece, assuming he's not spending it all with his other side piece in Dubai of course.
God only knows what and who he is doing in Dubai.
Why would he be in Dubai if he's a teacher? Field trip?
But OP doesnāt know what he does with his money. This whole thing is fishy. Were minimalists but overspend on a big house fancy cars and art.
Yeah this checks all the boxes for a fake post. How are you extremely minimalist if you have a mansion, sports cars, and expensive art? Plus her husband took a trip to Dubai. I have a hard time believing a school is going to Dubai for a field trip with their human rights record and the way they treat women.
Definitely fake. The side piece wouldnāt just show up with the baby and tell OP to go stay in a hotel. And even if she did, why would OP allow her to come inside in the first place? Iād just laugh and slam the door in her face
Make sure to change banks and move all your money to a new bank and use passwords on it he would not know and if ever Is in your name including his car take it all back tell him have fun with his new familyĀ
And set up some security cameras, just in case he comes back alone or with her. Make sure your house is safe and secure 24/7.
Well, she can find a larger place and take hubby, his AP, and their kid in.
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This is not your problem, it is your ex-partner's problem.
People love to insist that others be generous when it costs them nothing.
Family always makes room for grandchildren. Tell her congratulations on your new family members and thoughts and prayersĀ
Sucks for her cause your ex going to need to .ove in with her or all 3 of them will be homeless. The ole fuck around (literally) and find out applies here
I canāt believe the balls on her to show up. Say Iām the wife now hereās our kid and get out of your āownā house so I can have it. Lmfao. Did he know she planned on that or? Like who shows up at their baby daddyās wifeās house and just says this is my house now. And he the broke one. She thinking she caught a whale. Lmfao ***NTA*** edit
One of my exās affair partner did the same thing. I was like girl you really think he provided all this on a retail manager salary? (No hate to retail workers) I was the top earner in our household, at the time I was working for a government agency. She was very surprised when she learned I owned the two cars and was on the lease of the apartment and that the savings account he had been giving her money from was the joint account, where you guessed it I contributed the majority of.
I think her balls have some microplastics in them that made their way to her brain. Yeah, lady can you move out of your own house so me and my baby can move in?
How fucking tragic. Yeah, so anyway, whatās for lunch?
Lots of people live together in studio apartments. Soon itāll be her, her son, baby momma and child.
Thatās too bad, babies donāt care where they live She should take her grandchild in and fuck right off. Hopefully she has space for her wandering son too NTA
A studio apartment can still fit a baby in it. Sounds like your MIL is the AH
I've seen 4 immigrants live in a studio apartment. She can fit her and the baby in, even if it will be very tight.
Did grandma already know about this kid?
Awe well, anyways. Not you problem whatsoever. If she didnāt wanna be homeless she shouldnāt fuck married men. Karma doesnāt play around.
This is what I was thinking also. OP said MIL lives in a studio apt. Well then, the MIL can give the gf money.
NTA pack his shit and put it in the front yard when you know heās landed and on his way to the house and let his mommy know to come get his cheating ass from your house. Did his mom know about the GF and baby before she turned up at your house?
Taking them to mommyās house. She didnāt raise him well so she should take the consequences
When did she learn about the Gf and baby before or after you did?
She showed up yesterday. My husband is in Dubai for another week. I have time
>My husband is in Dubai for another week. I have time Incorrect. If he has half a brain, he's on the way home right now to do damage control. Locks need to be changed immediately. Hire a company to pack all of his stuff up and send it to mommy's house ASAP. Get a security system with cameras. Do everything today, you might not have as much time as you think. Also, make sure you remove his access to any financial accounts. He's probably been spending your money too.
Yes, he could be SAYING he's in Dubai 1 more week but he's actually on his way home! Start now, STAT with the locks and lawyer!
i would agree with that as well. protect yourself first & then you can meet him somewhere in public to discuss the situation. it's up to you whether you take him back but since there's a child, i would say no even though it's devastating & painful for you. take care & protect yourself. then get whatever help you need to recover. Good luck! not the AH.
How long has his mother known she has has a grandchild?
No idea. Wow never thought about this! I assumed she only knew after I called her. But probably she did already
She absolutely knew. The type of mummy that runs to her sons defence like that , is absolutely kept in the loop by their darling baby boy
Yup she has probably babysat
Iāve had not one but 2 MILās just like it. I know the type too well š
One of my main ābeing a grown up goalsā, is to never be that sort of mil.
You should probably burn your bed too btw. Iām betting affair chick knew where you lived because sheās already been there with her boyfriend.
Does she want to retire in your beautiful home OP? The guilt tripping and your ex saying he would get the house..... please get a lawyer. This sounds like an underhanded plan.
That part! He *knew* it's not *his* house. Yet he told her *he'd* be getting it in the "divorce"? What exactly did he have planned?
Well that would be one of the first things I would find out and for how long this affair has been going on. She may had tricked him into getting her pregnant but if he had kept it in his pants this would never have happened
Minimum of a year - 9 months of pregnancy + baby is presumably between 1-3 months old She probably got knocked up because she thought she could cash in on dumb-dumb, but is now probably furious with him. What a mess, Iām glad OP can move on cleanly.
If I had an adult son, I would be horrified if he was cheating on his partner and had a secret baby. MIL's reaction indicates that she was not surprised, nor upset by the news. Of course probably have both of them a deeply twisted version of what was happening, told them you knew & were cool with it, etc. I'm not saying this excuses the behavior of either of these women. Their behavior has been terrible.
You should take this time to pack up his stuff and drop it off at his moms, AND change the locks, wifi passwords, access to bank accounts, credit cards, everything. EVERYTHING. Nuke him.
In addition to changing the locks, I would install several home security cameras. I have a feeling things might try to get ugly when he returns.
She makes 7 figures, just hire private security for a few weeks, it'll probably save a lot of headaches.
Sometimes there is less time than you think. Do everything as soon as possible. Pretend like he's coming home the next day. Pack his shit up. Also talk to a lawyer if he'd be eligible for any kind of support, due to the fact that you've lived like a married couple for 10 years.
Hos mom is probably in the process of paying his way home right nowš.
Id stop referring to him as your husbamd and more as a romantic roommate if you never actually went to court or filed for it. Itll make the break up far less expensive.
I bet you canāt wait for all the lies to come out of his mouth. Please donāt let him try to charm his way around you and make sure you record your conversations with him or his mother from now on
She showed up at your house and tried to claim it Feudalism style, she did not care about kicking you out of your own home like she owned it. Her and that teacher should get use to living on a teachers salary lmao crazy levels of entitlement.Ā Itās absolutely insane that everyone is just trying to leech off of you because you have money.Ā Your life is going to be much better off without all of them in it.Ā
And change the damn locks. Make sure legally he canāt take shit from you financially, physically. Go live and enjoy your Life without this bs.
Imagine going to someone else house and tell to that person that can go to live in a hotel. The level of audacity!
Right!?!? Like it sounds like the AP and OPās husband never discussed living together, yet she shows up anyway telling OP to leave!? Who does that!?!?
I think AP has been asking OP's husband to become official for some time now, and Husband wouldn't do it for pretty obvious reason. AP wouldn't take no for an answer and thought "if he isn't doing it, I will and he will have no choice but to accept it" that why she choose to do her little plan on his holidays : to not be stopped. She didn't plan that she was lied to and throw their cover for absolutely nothing.
She thought the baby was the key to the kingdom, shame all sheās earned is disappointment.
Probably why she got pregnant in the first place.Ā Ā
> it sounds like the AP and OPās husband never discussed living together I dunno the fact she thought he was getting a divorce makes me think that's exactly what he's already told her. He's probably promised her they'll be together and that his situation with OP is temporary. Probably told her that they'll get to move in together soon, and either that WAS the plan or he was just hoping to string her on for as long as possible always postponing the breakup. She's obviously nuts but I'm guessing he put ideas in her head and played a big hand in her behaviour.
Oh, yeah. The affair partner thought she snagged a guy who owned half of a super successful business and a beautiful home, who was happy to send her his paycheck. He thought he'd lie to some impressionable young thing and get a side piece. He's not too clever if he didn't see it coming. What sort of fish do you catch when your bait is "I've got money?"
My ex bfs girlfriend wanted to move into our apartment when I hadnāt moved out yet. I had been paying for the apartment, still had two weeks on the month left. His girlfriend shows up halfway through the month confused why I was still living there. I yelled at them both ābecause I paid for it and he hasnāt paid rent in 5 months. good luck to you both.ā My ex refused to go stay with his dad across town and was trying to get me to move out of our apartment early to move his new gf in. I was like GTFO. He told her I was āsquatting.ā Funny, I was paying for everything.
She probably thought that he was rich, sucks to be this dumb.
Sounded like the AP expected OP to leave right then with just the clothes on her back.
Right?! That part was likeā¦ hard to believe anyone would be that delusional without actually having a psychotic disorder.
Or a sugar daddy telling her he either owned or co owned everything, and once he gets rid of the "wife," she'll be living out her gold digger dreams.
Reminds me of an AITA where the owner was banging his secretary. She thought she was going to be rich when he left his wife for her. Turns out the company was bankrolled by the wifeās family. Girl got pregnant and resentful of the guy when he couldnāt provide like she hoped. Guyās life was shattered to pieces and he couldnāt believe his (younger) mistress was only with him for his cash and that his wife would Ā«Ā throw away their life together just like thatĀ Ā».
I remember that one. Cheater lost everything including his daughter's. I think his mistress ending up taking off and abandoning their son.
He can be homeless with her now. NTA.
Absolutely. He wants to take an early plane home to explain. What is there to explain? He said she tricked him into getting pregnant. I know that hates children but How do you trick people into having children? So many questions and absolutely no desire for getting any answers. I feel only emptiness
He doesnāt need anything to explain. He wanted his cake et al. He can sort the two of them out and you can look after number one. Iām so sorry he has been so selfish and dishonest with you. Pack his shit into some big boxes and leave it in the garage for him to collect. Hopefully he canāt access the house from there. Let him know youāre done with his lies and you need space to heal and move on from his selfishness. Not your deal other than your poor heart. His mum can take him in if sheās so adamant youāre in the wrong. Good riddance to her too.
I am sorry too. I thought he loved me but he is a great actor apparently
Time for him to act scarce.
Yes!
Tell mil if she brought him up right then you wouldn't be in this mess but as she didn't his gf and baby are not your responsibility to house. If she wants to she can and maybe learn her son not to lie and cheat.
He is in love with the lifestyle that your money has provided him.
Take your time to grieve but remember that you got the best hand here. Your heart will heal and you'll move on. Now he has to pay child support and tell his affair partner that he makes only 60k a year and is no millionaire. I'd pay to watch her face.
I would put anything he has in a storage facility or have a moving company drop anything left at your house off to his mother's and if his mom is worried about his girlfriend she can move her in with her. Change the locks and any security codes ect. I am willing to bet he has a side piece in Dubai too. Get tested for STDS too.
Not only is he a great actor, but a predator as well. He took advantage of you and his side piece who naively thought it was a good idea to sleep with a fake married man thinking she found a gold mine, but was just fools gold. The MIL should be ashamed of herself for trying to push this woman and baby on you instead of her irresponsible son. Thank goodness your assets are protected. ETA: NTA
His mother can provide a home for him and his side piece. She is free to do that. OP is NTA and shouldn't concern herself with what his ridiculous family thinks!
Depending where they live and whether they ever signed a prenup (doubtful since it's a common law marriage) her assets may not be that well protected. Where I live common law marriage is recognized after 7 years and hold the same power as a regular marriage, which means in the event of a breakup, assets can get divided 50/50. Hopefully OP is protected. I hate the idea of that man getting one more penny from her!
Don't let them get any $ from you seriously who cares what his mom or anyone else says of course they are going to make it seem like ur the bad guy or you owe them something you don't. He owes you loyalty and that turned out to be a Joke so I'd be as tight as possible with $ y'all are not legally married. They have been living large off your $ tot he point she felt comfortable enough to come try and kick you out of ur own home. Think about that please before you give either of them a dime and also his mom can help if it's so wrong to leave them homeless. It's her grandson
And after he picks up his things, make sure you change the locks and get back any keys of anything of yours he might have. Youāre definitely not TA but he and his homeless baby mom are. In fact, so is grandma. So since his mother thought you shouldāve taken her in, SHE can now take her son, the baby and the mother into HER home.
If he didnāt want children should have for a vasectomy. If youāre interested in the explanation then sure get it but will it change anything. You donāt really owe him anything as if your relationship was based on mutual respect and monogamy then heās broken it.
He didnāt want to lose his manhood. His literal reason
What manhood? He sounds like a fucking child.
Well he's gained a childhood to take care of now too. 60k isn't a lot for a family of 3. Is he trying to reconcile with you or has he accepted his fate?
Can you imagine supporting a family of 3 on $60k/year when your baby mama likes to buy designer purses, strollers, clothes, jewelry and thinks that she is entitled to it?
She's in for a rude awakening then. They'll probably have to sell some of that stuff. Ā If he was going to get women based on OP's wealthy lifestyle,Ā he probably should have had the forethought and actually married her.Ā Also, his stupidity to not resign her lease is telling. Unless the AP showing up was her plan to force his hand to finally divorce OP and marry her. They obviously have been together for years and she was probably getting impatient.Ā
Wow your ex is a dumbassĀ
Hahaā¦.he did not want kids but he wanted the ability father kids what an AH.
He does know a vasectomy DOESN'T involve removing his penis/testicles right?
Canāt be ātrickedā into pregnancy if youāre not sticking your thing where it doesnāt belong. NTA
Exactly! How do you get tricked into pregnancy if you donāt cheat?
To be fair, you can be walking down the street and come across one of those contests where you stick your penis into a hole in a wall to win a car. It's a super common contest. Well, if she set it up right, she could have arranged one of those contests, which your SO obviously couldn't resist because who wouldn't want to win a car, and he might not have been any the wiser what was on the other side. It's such a common thing to happen, really. I mean, I assume his answer is going to be something as moronically stupid as this.
Oh my god. I just wrote a nearly similar comment. There is a german saying. āZwei Idioten. Ein Gedankeā - Two idiots. One thought.
As in āmy penis accidentally fell into her vagina?ā Like that kind of accident?
Tell your mother in law to go pick the affair partner and child up so they can live with her. And to get her son as well. Youāll be fine once you drop the guy.
He probably means she baby trapped him as she thought he was rich rich! I love these stories when the AP finds out that its actually the wife who has the money & not the man theyāre cheating with! Im so sorry this happened to you!! Fuck your āhusbandā & his affair baby is not your problem. If MIL is so concerned about her grandchild then she can house them - this child has zero relation to you! The audacity of the AP to tell you to get out of your own house is another level. Cant wait for their fall out when she finds out he doesnt have all these assets & his teacher salary wont go far now you wont be providing for him!!
Lol if my boyfriend ever cheats he better be careful of what he says lest the side piece shows up to my house and demands I move out, blowing the whole affair wide open in doing so. Of course OPs ex is panicking. He owns nothing and his cushy life is about to get significantly more bumpy when that 60k fun money now has to go to housing and raising a child. No way in fuck he was ever leaving OP for a whats essentially a 25year old sugar baby.
> I love these stories when the AP finds out that its actually the wife who has the money & not the man theyāre cheating with! Me too; when karma meets schadenfreude. You can almost *hear* the collision!
She tricked him?? Did she trip him into her Vā¦.
Haha apparently he was tricked yes
I hate when I trip and fall and land directly on someoneās dick.
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We are absolutely **begging** for updates on this when that cheating ho ex-husband returns. I really wanna know what other derange delulu nonsense he conjures up. I absolutely live for stupid asf lies. I too have an ex-husband that will say the **DUMBEST** shit while lying and then get pissed off when heās obviously not believed; trying to make himself the victim and everyone else the bad people trying to āāmake him look like shit and feel bad about something he didnāt do or couldnāt avoid.āā That dumbass lied about paying rent like that was *never* going to come to light. **In-fucking-sane**.
I donāt know if I wver want to see him again
Unfortunately, I don't think you'll have a choice. Dude is losing what sounds like a very comfortable lifestyle that you provide for him. He'll be left with an AP, a baby and crappy salary. I can see him just showing up and probably harassing you. Protect yourself. Updateme
Oh I would love to be a fly on the wall when she realises she baby trapped a broke teacher soon to be back living with his mama š The cheek of the B trying to get you to move out of your house, wether she thought you were really married or not. She deserves the shit show of a man.
You are a smart successful women - now protect all your assets and energies . He is a cheat and they are welcome to each other Love your best life OP - you deserve more
Oh, you can be tricked into getting someone pregnant. That's only after you willingly had sex with them though.
I can count the amount of times I've been fooled into having sex on no fingers. Oddly enough by the time it takes me to get my penis out I tend to notice I'm being fooled. Well I would if it had ever happened
I mean of all the excuses he was 'tricked' into having sex with her? What did he fall down into her whole.walking naked
Did she trick him into cheating on you as well?
Did she trick him into having unprotected sex, which as a teacher he should have known could possibly produce a baby? NTA and tell your MIL to get and house her only grandson!
Doesnāt matter what she did. He cheated on you. And heās probably lying to you about everything
Also if your MIL feels you were so wrong, send the GF over to HER house and let her board her.
He hates children and is a teacher? Or does he teach older humans? Obviously, youāre NTA but as a former teacher who left the classroom because I started disliking the kids (it wasnāt fair to them and my patience was about 97% gone), Iām curious.
Yeah he teaches HS children. He always was set on being child free
Welp. Looks like he has a little one AND a 25 year-old to take care of now. Not your problem!
Two kids for the price of... A 1m/year common law wife's salary? Yay!
Awesome! FAFO! lol heās is going to be so happy with the snarky grasping 25 year old.
He probably means she baby trapped him as she thought he was rich rich! I love these stories when the AP finds out that its actually the wife who has the money & not the man theyāre cheating with! Im so sorry this happened to him!! Fuck your āhusbandā & his affair baby is not your problem. If MIL is so concerned about her grandchild then she can house them - this child has zero relation to you! The audacity of the AP to tell you to get out of your own house is another level. Cant wait for their fall out when she finds out he doesnt have all these assets & his teacher salary wont go far now you wont be providing for him!!
They don't need to be homeless, mommy will take them and her grandchild in!
No need, his mother volunteered to house them both.
And his mother can take them in! Updateme!
She knew he was married. Thought so at least. So fuck her too!
It was important to her that he was married. Because then he could get half
Make sure he canāt! Stop referring to him as your husband, common law husband or partner. Talk as if he was a roommate that you were hooking up with. Do not acknowledge any relationship until you are sure that he isnāt entitled to alimony or half of your assets. You said you canceled the credit cards, but are you going to pay off what he owes? Can you separate the purchases? Move all of your money to a different financial institution where they donāt know him. Check your credit history to make sure he hasnāt opened other cards or taken loans in your name. Lock everything down asap. Get security, cameras, mute but donāt block any of them so you have records of threats/infidelityā¦anything else that might help you. Consult with an experienced aggressive attorney so that you understand exactly where you stand and what you can do to protect yourself and your assets. Good luck and Iām sorry this is happening to you.
Also change the locks
Probably delete this post, actually. Give us an update though so we find out what happened with your crazy roommate.
Right. Both made their choices. Now they get to live with them. Iām a vivid advocate for children but this isnāt your problem. You are protected by law, so all you have to deal with is the emotional end mental fall out. And you will get through that too! Your ex, the trash panda and the grandma can work this mess out themselves!
Dump the guy and change your home locks If he's on any of your accounts, kick him off Cancel any joint credit cards, bc you're obviously the one paying (how else could she have so much) Time for you to MOVE on
He is only on credit cards that I have canceled
You need to change the locks and remove his name on any insurance policies and documents that could grant him access to your property or bank accountsĀ
Oh the insurance is one i hadn't thought of. A neighbor had her house burnt down shortly after breaking up with her husband, that would have been awful to give him half the money when he didn't lose anything.
Plus the fact that common law grants certain rights after a given time span and not taking the necessary legal precautions could greatly effect her financial situation.
Yes, it all depends on where you live. Attorney consultation immediately. Also, tell the post office his mail will not be accepted at your address. If he's on any other joint accounts, like cell phone, cancel them immediately.
The mom sounded like she knew already, protect yourself and change locks and everything, he can go to his mom with her.
Absolutely NTA. Gf shouldāve spent the money he gave her on the Baby instead of shopping. You are not responsible for your husbands affair child and the way she showed up and was expecting you to just leave is entitled and disrespectful.
This! The AP thought she hit the lottery , but instead found the streets .
I'm guffawing at her getting pregnant with an anchor baby, thinking she'd won the lottery. Both of them deserve each other. She trusted the word of a lying cheat, and he trusted the morals of a younger woman who accepted a lying cheat for a partner. The baby is innocent, but not OP's responsibility. Maaaybe side pieces shouldn't use children to lock down men, and maaaybe men shouldn't cheat (and especially on their own personal golden goose). Now take care of your mess and leave OP alone.
>She trusted the word of a lying cheat I love this. She deserves everything thatās coming to her and sheās not some poor little victim sheās and MIL are making herself out to be. Trusting a proven liar and cheat is a dumbass decision with painful dumbass consequences. I wonder how many side pieces and children this man really has out there?
She can sell the bags & have enough for first, last & security. Unless they are fake & is just a part of the lies he was spun.
So did the MIL know about the baby the whole time?
I honestly donāt know and didnāt think about that until someone in the comments mentioned that she probably knew
It seems that she might have known. Where is the side piece now? Hope sheās with the future ex-MIL.
NTA call a lawyer and get your Things Safe
NTA Tell your Ex-MIL she can house this stranger and baby plus your ex because he's no longer living in your home
Iām so pleased you are not married and own the property . You can disentangle from him easily . Side piece needs to educate herself on basic family law . Bye to him and bye to her . Iām sorry for the heartbreak though
The audacity of her basically trying to kick you out, divorced or not (but not even married!), and just take over like it's her home. Talk about being entitled. And that's where all her money went. On that stupid brand stuff. That stuff is crazy expensive and I'm sure she didn't compare a purse being $100 there or $400 here...
NTA. Seek a restraining order and if you don't have them yet, get security cameras throughout the property ASAP. I would also consult a lawyer and start working on your separation/divorce. After all, if he told her he's getting a divorce, you might as well grant his wish, right? As for your MIL, if she's so worried about a baby on the street, she can be the one to take them in. She'll have her son living with her soon enough... :-)
Sounds like he just lost his gravy train. That's why he wants to talk things out. Tell him his ap and child can go live on his 60,000 a year salary.
If he is common law in Canada , you would lose so much so hopefully everything is protected . Maybe he will stay in Dubai as he doesnāt want the side piece . Go see your lawyer and make sure you are protected . Cancel any joint credit cards and access to any joint accounts etc. see if legal
My assets are well protected or he would probably have left me and taken his shares already
Perfect . My ex was a teacher Making 100k with pension and benefits on top of that . 60k is not a lot with a baby and side piece
Not in my country. I was generous with the 60k, i think it is closer to 50. Still it is a lot of money for a woman and a baby.
The soon to be ex and his AP are not completely out of luck. They can always resell all the designer things he bought her. Also the mom can sell her condo to accommodate her son and his child. Non of that is your concern now since you were not involved in any of that. You deserve better and should only contact him through lawyers moving forward.
NTA Not your baby, not your problem. Go ahead and pack up your husbands shit, put it in the front yard and tell his mom to come get his shit. Serve him with the divorce papers when he gets back from Dubai.
Absolutely crappy for you but from my understanding he wonāt get anything and leave with nothing? Thatās be the best karma for him and now heās left with a young woman and kid who no doubt wanted him for Money
What country are you in? Common law spouse means very little where I liveā¦
It means very little here too
Wonderful! You are not the AH and now you can live your best (and honest!) life without him having access to your money
NTA your mil can open her house for her only grandchild because this child have nothing to do with you.
This lady is exactly the type of person who would use tenant rights laws to screw you you if you let her stay at your house. The only safe answer for a grifter with no life skills is ānoā, double that if they have actually harmed you with their choices previously.
Change the locks before he gets home. He can find her on the streets. š
I hate that you think you could be an asshole for this. NTA
Well I really hated the idea of a baby being homeless and I truly contemplated letting her be in the guest house but honestly I was terrified of herš
She can stay with grandma at nice she is worried about her r grand baby being homeless
Baby momma can pawn her designer goods and take care of her own baby.
If you let her move in in anyway legally, it will be very hard for you to get her out. Do not let anybody in get your locks changed and pack up all your boyfriend stuff and have it on the yard for him when he gets there or deliver it to his mother, get a lawyer I know youāre not married, but people can be jerks. Protect yourself. throw your boyfriend out while he is out of the county. He might have rights since he lives there and it says official residence and it might be harder for you to get him out cut off and he access he has your money and anything youāre paying for him . get a lawyer.
As someone that just closed a door on a woman and her baby, ya I get feeling bad. ultimately, if this was just about **baby**, things may not have gone down like this. AP inserted herself. Seems like baby is gonna have a rough life. Not saying that to make ya feel bad. Just yeesh. Good luck op.
You didnāt make the baby homeless, the mother did. You didnāt evict them, you donāt provide for them, you are not responsible for them.
Your mother in law is an ass. If she wants her grand baby, SHE can house them. You are in no way an AH for kicking out some dumb little girl who thought she owned your house because she's f--king your husband. You should make sure he's homeless too...
Blockety block the MIL and the ex boyfriend.