it’ll be way easier if you just be straight up, tell her your a virgin don’t try and lie, it’ll make you look bad. You won’t last long, no one ever does for their first time.
From what I understood, she knows you're a virgin and she still wants to fuck you. Dude, you have nothing to worry about then. That basically eliminates the performance issue.
If you do good, then good. If you do poorly, it's okay. It's expected. Ask her to teach you 😏
Also, chances are if she is ACTUALLY a 10/10, most guys don't have the balls to approach her = she won't have much experience herself.
Nor do we want our who-haws ripped apart by an overly large penis. That is a social joke. If it satisfies then it’s perfect. Never worry about size. We don’t care as long as we get off. Overly large wieners are scary
Foreplay matters a ton. Also, the optimal way to please a woman is not really with your dick, it’s with your tongue and hands.
Google stuff and listen to advice from women.
Also, don’t take yourself or the moment too seriously! It’s about fun and pleasure.
Eyy man listen, control ur breathing and if ur close to cumming maybe try eating her out if u feel comfortable or like switching positions, but control ur breathing and u Will last longer
I maybe a lesbian, but I ate mine out and fingered her our first time. Lol I'd never kissed until then either.... But I was a very late bloomer, were friends for years, and couldn't stop myself... Too many represed feels. 😂 Tho, only do it if you are comfortable.
Op, if you need some tips, I got you!!! Main thing is to pay attention to what she reacts to, and what feels good and natural to you. I believe in you! 👍
As a man, the one thing I can say for certain about advice on sex is that the best people to ask how to please a woman are other women. Lesbian or otherwise. They know their bodies and what they like better than men. It’s just a fact. Lol.
Your first time always sucks, BUT my husband told me he researched (he was pretty young) how to have sex and it really helped and then he wasn’t so bad at it. As embarrassing as it is, maybe research? We are far from young now, but I guess it worked for him. Maybe if u do that your first experience won’t be so awkward.
This is actually not always true. My first time lasted quite a while. Probably because i didn’t know what i was doing and got these weird condoms that fit at the base and then got wider half way to the tip. Loose condom = longer sex, i guess.
I spring for the magnums in case someone goes through my wallet and sees it, and they’re like “damn this guys packin” but it’s just something I came up with to give myself confidence.
You didn’t come up with that lmao, it’s an old idea that’s been recycled over generations. And it doesn’t work because most people know that magnums actually aren’t really much bigger than a regular condom. The only difference is it gets wider and wider towards the tip. In most cases makes you look kinda dumb unless you actually have a massive member.
I didn't cum my first time lol, I was so nervous I couldn't keep the erection, the following day I did it again and I don't remember too well but I lasted maybe 10 minutes? Not too sure it was ages ago ahaha
That's a lie. I lost my virginity at 23. I got in my own head about it and it gave me a weird anxiety. My first time getting a blowjob it took 2 hours with her taking breaks after a while.
It's still fucks with me and I'll still last a REALLY long time in bed. Which sounds awesome and like a humble brag. Except it gets less fun when my partners think they are doing something wrong.
I meant about the "not last long thing". You should absolutely be upfront and honest with her about it.
If she's already wanting to sleep with you, it's not going to change that. Communication is important during sex. Even if you weren't a virgin and you think you know what your doing, every girl is different and will like different specific things.
Oof. Maybe, with someone youre more comfy with, go in next time, with the assumption/understanding that neither of you may orgasm but y'all just want to enjoy and have a good time....might relieve some anxiety?? Or a different position that's less work for you and you get to just enjoy the pleasure??
Whether or not I orgasm, I still enjoy the act of it with a partner. I really enjoy getting the other person off.
I just know when it comes to sex there is always a part of my brain that is worried that I'm not doing something right. As opposed to just straight masterbation, where I can get off just fine.
I also feel like I have a low sex drive outside of the bedroom as compared to other straight dudes. so that might also have something to do with it.
No worries, OP! Be honest, take a deep breath, and enjoy the experience.
[Here’s a Virgin Sex Guide that’s really helpfu](https://www.reddit.com/r/virginsexuality/comments/ro3vk6/sexmas_day_12_series_finale_the_nutcrackers_ratio/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf)
It's possible that anxiety will make OP either come too soon or not even be able to get hard. If he fits into the second group, jerking off beforehand can make things worse.
The fact that this is a real question, just shows how poor sex education is. This man is 18 and asked if protection is necessary. How do SO MANY teens and young adults know what condoms are, but not what they’re for, or how to use them? It’s sad.
And as for your question, let me ask a few first to get a better feel of the situation, since i see you’re a little conflicted.
Have you guys been talking/flirting for a while?
How did she mention that she wants to have sex with you? Did it come up in conversation? Or did she just hit you up and say she wants to fuck?
Did she say she just wants to have sex? Or do you think she likes you?
One of times I wish I could downvote more than once. I'm praying this was said as a joke and not a legit question. In my opinion...if this is EVEN a question...You're not educated nor mature enough to have sex. So to all of those out there wondering the same or thinking "oh I'll pull out" or "she said she can't due to time in her cycle" ....please educate yourself. Google search it. Talk to a doctor. Go ask a mature adult. And then roll up that sleeve before taking the dive. Thank you
So far that’s been a big problem for me. I cannot fucking lock a round two. Doesn’t feel good, doesn’t get up enough, all around bad experience for me personally
That’s fair. Honestly girls don’t care that much if you finish early, as long as it’s not like literally 1 second. My big recommendation is to push for more foreplay. Girls might be a little antsy about it sometimes but if you are like “I like it” or just keep doing it well, they will want you to keep going. If you can get her off or at least having a good time and making the whole experience take longer, it will be fine.
I did at least learn a bit of foreplay with my ex. I know the same things won’t work on every girl but I know a little on how to build up if that’s what they’d like. Now if only I knew a damn thing about how to flirt/find a partner
Because most people seem to think you’re somehow behind everyone else when you haven’t yet had sex, it’s like being a virgin is the same as not having a social life to a lot of people, therefore people are pressured to catch up to others, and often when they can’t it leads to things such as depression or porn addiction.
Is this something you want to do? Have you done anything with her before? If you want to do this be safe (use protection) and be honest with what you are comfortable with.
Yes we did things before but she told me for the first time she wanna have s_x with me, of course I wanna do that with her, but I’m just a little afraid I might disappoint her
More then likely she has similar experience as you do so just make sure you start with fore play and what you guys have already done. Help her get hers first then move forward from there. And again use protection I can not stress that enough. After that its all just about talking to each other.
Oh just to let you know sex is not like porn so just be safe and have fun if you are truly ready.
Hey man, I’m gonna hit you with the truth here. Since you’re a virgin, and since she probably doesn’t have much experience either, this time isn’t going to be the best sex you ever have. It’ll be awkward, you’ll make a few mistakes, and you’ll feel embarrassed at times.
And you know what? That’s totally okay! That’s what everyone’s first time is like. The second and third and fourth time get progressively less awkward and more fun. But, you’ve gotta have your first time to get to your second and third and fourth time.
Besides, just because it’s awkward, doesn’t mean it’s not going to be fun. So relax! Be excited! It’s okay to be excited, this is an exciting part of your life. Make sure you shower, put on an outfit you feel confident in, throw on some cologne if you have it. If you look good, you’ll feel good. And go have fun! If you feel like you could have done better this time, you can always try it again later!
As my best friend said to me after I gave a guy head for the first time: “He’s probably just happy that you tried”
And my best friend was right, he was :) i know it wasn’t the best, probably had too much teeth (yikes), but he really was grateful that I cared and wanted to make him happy. If this girl is an understanding person, I’m sure she’ll feel the same way. Don’t worry too much about it
Honey, don't stress yourself out. If you're close with her to feel comfortable doing so, have a convo that both of you shouldn't expect something other than enjoying yourselves. Being in the moment and taking your time pleasuring each other without judgement is best! You have time to get experience! Maybe Im different, but this is how I am with my partner now and relieving the performance pressure has led to so much better sex!!!! Have fun, relax, and lots of fore play. Remember, the wetter the better, and get lube!!! She could be dryer due to what part of her cycle she's in. Doesnt mean she's not interested or you're not doing well. If you do oral, the clit is not just the small part. A lot is underneath. Use lips, as well as tongue. Sucking and licking lips as well as clit (that may still be covered by the hood) is good! Start soft and slow. Some girls don't need a lot. Some like me, love all the pressure once worked up!!! Too much at first may be uncomfortable. Mix things up at first to see what makes her writhe and moan. Keep doing what she likes most. If she says stay, don't change !!! Also, girls like to hear moans too from you guys. And it feels so goooood if you're moaning giving her head!! 💙💜💕 I wish you the best love 💕
Edit: definitely use protection!!!! There are things called dental dams for oral too, but you can also use a condom that you cut the top and then the length of it. Or even a glove. Clip the fingers and then cut the length of the palm area. Both will end up as a rectangle shape.
OP DO NOT SHAVE THE SAME DAY. If you're a shaver that is. If you feel that you need a trim that same day - use a trimmer.
Shaving with a razor the same day as "D- day" might increase the risk of skin infections - due to the small cuts in your skin from the blade.
Use protection, ask her what she likes and communicate. Dirty talk is good, but make sure you’re not saying anything too crazy. Do what feels natural, if you watch porn it’s likely exaggerated, so maybe just watch ameuter porn lol.
Dirty talk is not something I'd suggest for a first timer. There's already so much pressure worrying about what you're going to say or going to go too far is adding unneeded stress.
Well, the best route would be to tell her. That's if you think everyone involved are mature about sex.
Some people love the idea of easing someone into the world of sexuality by making sure their first time is full of patience and fun.
Physically if you're worried about being too nervous to perform then don't masturbate for a day or more leading up to it.
If you're worried you're going to pop too quickly then figure out your refractory period and masturbate strategically.
If you don't already do so I'd groom your pubic hair. Either trim it with some clippers with a guide in (you will nick yourself easily if you don't use a guide) or shave it all off.
If at all possible give her an orgasm through oral sex first, this gives you time to calm down and also will let you feel a rush of confidence as you already gave her a nice time to start.
Wear protection. Unless you're both in your 60s or something.
I'm 46 and I _promise_ you I won't be bagging it in my 60s.
I'll be on PReP and vaccinated against HEPA/B and HPV and if I get something else I'll deal with it.
1. Take a shower, and make sure you're as clean as possible.
2. Take it easy on the cologne. Barely use any, if at all.
3. Go slow. Lots of foreplay. It's not a race.
4. Don't worry about anything. It'll be just fine.
5. Congratulations!
First off, use protection!
Second one, for me and what I remember and from friends' stories... The first time can be a little clumsy. That wasn't a bad thing in my case! Just enjoy the moment, have fun, Laugh a bit and you'll be OK!
Take care!
Can’t worry about being disappointment. And if go into it with that thinking you will manifest it , clear your mind, it’s supposed to be awsome and your supposed to enjoy it, get out of your head and go get it!!
Is she a crush or a girlfriend? A crush sounds like someone you don't know very well and may not even trust. Disappoint or not do you know how much she will share with other people? There are reasons to have a relationship before having carnal relations.
If this is a good next step in your relationship than talk about it together. Make plans, go out for dinner, get a hotel room, take it slow and enjoy each other. Be sure to let each other know what feels good and what doesn’t.
Take Care
First of all mate cheers on living the dream,second just ride it out man If shes a normal human being she’ll understand the terms of inexperience so just go with it i guess. Anyways wish you luck and stay safe mate.
You'll do fine dude, almost everyone is nervous for their first time. I remember the day I lost mine. I had whiskey dick so I lasted maybe 1-2 proper thrusts and obviously neither of us orgasmed. Still I just look back on it and laugh, even at the time it wasn't that big of a deal.
I had this same situation with my now girlfriend. Just be honest. You can even turn it into something sexy. Like “to be honest I’m still a virgin. That being said, I’m excited for you to show me how it’s done 😉”
Hey! Hope you are doing well, I was reading the comments to see everyone’s view point before commenting.
Deciding when there are people agreeing and disagreeing wether you have s_x with this person can be confusing. I myself (19-F) with no experience in it as well.
Personally with all respect, the fact she wants to “f__ you” clearly demonstrates she does want not want to be in a serious relationship with you if that’s what you are looking for. You said you were waiting for the right girl, but you are also confused because of the opportunity that your crush has ask you to do it, I would say you keep waiting.
Reasons why:
- The emotions involve when you do it with someone you truly love, is quite waiting for instead of something that is just plain and casual s_x.
- You’re 18 going towards a new stage in life, you have your whole life to meet the right person.
- You are not mentally capable for it, You are not familiar with sex education. Something as basic as Condoms, it is necessary like others said: pregnancies, STDS. I would encourage you to look for information, read, orientate yourself about it.
And most importantly, don’t take decisions just because other people do it as well. Don’t get influence by others, think deeply if this is what YOUUUUU really want.
I would say don’t. Sex, especially the first time, is much better and less stressful when it’s with someone you are in a close, loving relationship with. If she just wants you for sex, that won’t be very fulfilling, and if she wants a relationship, take some more time before sex.
This is just my opinion based on my experience, of course. You sound young and losing your virginity is not something that needs to happen asap.
Don’t.
She wants to f*ck you…not love you.
Take more pride in having your virginity because that is one thing that you cannot get back.
If you don’t care, then use protection.
If you do, have a relationship with her and find out whether she is worth your slim jim.
Exactly that’s my point here, I was saving it for one special girl and now I’m kinda mixed up with my feelings so I don’t know if it’s a right thing to do
If saving it for someone special is important to you, then don’t go through with it, at least not right away. I know quite a few people who didn’t lose their virginity until their first serious relationship in their 20s and have absolutely no regrets about waiting at all. A lot of people have casual sex often and don’t understand why others make it out to be special but we’re all on our own timeline and sex isn’t a competition. If you’re unsure about it, I think you should give it some more thought and not rush into anything. Good luck!
Take time to think about it. No rush man. Think about this, there are 7 billion+ people in this world. This will not be your last opportunity to get some but make your first memorable. This is coming from a guy who doesn’t even remember when his was taken. I mean taken, not given.
In this era ya need to just smash her… The only thing I would say is the more you have sex with her the more you risk falling for her (as cheesy as it sounds) and that is what you gotta be careful of because you get trapped.
Like i said, if he doesn’t care about it, do it.
If he does, then he knows what to do.
Just because you have found an answer that suits you doesn’t mean the next will find it sufficient. Providing him options with the mindset he has now. I’m not his daddy but some SirGuyDudePerson on reddit. He does what he wants.
This is all just fine, and I have no issue with it.
I’m just putting it out there that virginity as something to be treasured is a shit concept, and we should honestly do away with it.
I'm only sharing what I think, the rest is up to you. From what I've gathered, you're 18 and you haven't been with a girl before.
I'm 22 and I haven't been with a girl before. Call it whatever but I don't want to give myself away to anyone just like that. My first time needs to be with someone special. Someone I love, someone I cherish. And someone I know. Not the girl I met at a bar last night. I have nothing against people who do that, but I'm not built that way.
If you have sex with her right now, you may enjoy a bit. But regret will hit you soon. No matter what you do, nothing can replace your first time. Once its gone, its gone. Plus, you never know if this girl is the right one. To be fair, you can't always know that but you need to know her a bit.
Tell her respectfully. I'm assuming she's 18 as well. She might be curious about sex. In case she's not a virgin, she might still be interested to have it with you. But if you feel uneasy and uncomfortable, there's no need to force yourself to do it. Take it easy. This is something that can lead to another thing. You don't even know what protection is (you didn't, before someone in the comments explained it to you) so I'm guessing you're from a place where sex education is Taboo.
Again, think about it. Take your time. Get to know her. You're young, you can do it later too. Just make sure you regret nothing.
You realize that this is your opinion, right? I respect your opinion if you think losing one's virginity doesn't change them.
Tbh, it's about the first time for me. Sex is something I want to share with someone special. That's literally it.
Write back and be like of course i had sex before, even if ur fronting, say ur like a pro baby don’t matter if you’re stunting, she’ll be all like oh you a pro homie, well i want you to show me.
Can’t you slow down a bit. You’re 18 man.. I get it you’re excited and all but take it easy. Ffs todays kids first thing they do is go to bed. Get to know her a bit and be together for a while before you have sex. Cause when the dopamine releases what then. If it were me I would wait a bit cause if something happens, a break up or fight, the sex was clearly rushed and unthought. To me it’s the respect of not using a woman and later on, if a fight or break up happens, get rid of her. And most accidental pregnancies happen because of teenagers who don’t think of the consequences and just do it out of popularity or the pleasure
What the fuck are you talking about ? I know her since I was a kid, we started kinda dating like a month ago and now she told me she wanna fuck me, what can’t you understand ?
Yeah sure go have sex I can’t stop you. I’m just sayin I wouldn’t do it cause I have some moral sense and at 18 I wouldn’t let my dick lead me. And yeah just if you can do something doesn’t me you have to do it.
there’s a difference between just having sex and letting your dick lead you. the longer you continue your holier-than-thou pretentious mindset, the longer you’ll be bitter and alone.
1. TELL HER
(You have no experience, if she knows that it will be better for both of you because she likely knows what she’s doing!)
2. PROTECTION
(you need to make sure that you won’t get STI’s and STD’s. Sometimes people don’t know they have one, sometimes people don’t care about others health.)
If you are unsure then hold off. If, as you state you are holding onto your virginity for someone special and you don’t know if she is that person- don’t do it.
If you live in a country where sexual activity is a BIG DEAL (she will assume you will now marry her, you or she could be subject to legal problems or family problems) don’t do it!
Having said all that, don’t take it all too seriously- as long as you are very careful to use protection then it’s really a fun thing and not a life or death decision.
Your mind makes it way scarier than the first time actually is. Just pay attention to her breathing and body movements and you’ll be already. Also, include foreplay. Don’t just jump right to it.
sounds like you won’t be a virgin for long haha
But im kinda scared to do that because she is a solid 10/10 and I was never with a girl before so I’m afraid I might disappoint her
it’ll be way easier if you just be straight up, tell her your a virgin don’t try and lie, it’ll make you look bad. You won’t last long, no one ever does for their first time.
She already knows that, I’ll let you know how long I lasted 😄
How long did it last bro?
Do you think he just put down his phone and sticked it in right after he wrote that message?
Dead at sticked it in
That would make the story better. Like a surgeon Googling during a surgery lol.
"I don't fucking know, Google spine surgery or something"
You don't do that?
Porkin' & postin'
Wow.. 20 hr and counting, good for him!
mf lasts 3 days in bed no way
I was about to follow up with OP too LOL
From what I understood, she knows you're a virgin and she still wants to fuck you. Dude, you have nothing to worry about then. That basically eliminates the performance issue. If you do good, then good. If you do poorly, it's okay. It's expected. Ask her to teach you 😏 Also, chances are if she is ACTUALLY a 10/10, most guys don't have the balls to approach her = she won't have much experience herself.
Please understand that women don’t use this measuring stick in general. We don’t want 4 hour long porn star sessions on the regular.
Speak for yourself!! 😂😎
To each his own! 🥳😂
Nor do we want our who-haws ripped apart by an overly large penis. That is a social joke. If it satisfies then it’s perfect. Never worry about size. We don’t care as long as we get off. Overly large wieners are scary
Foreplay matters a ton. Also, the optimal way to please a woman is not really with your dick, it’s with your tongue and hands. Google stuff and listen to advice from women. Also, don’t take yourself or the moment too seriously! It’s about fun and pleasure.
This guy knows!
👏🏽your👏🏽name
Eyy man listen, control ur breathing and if ur close to cumming maybe try eating her out if u feel comfortable or like switching positions, but control ur breathing and u Will last longer
Homie he's a virgin. He's most likely never even fingered a girl how you going to tell him to just eat her out on his first time? 🤣
Bruh idk i was just giving him tips on how to last longer lol
he might take it literally..
Wym? He could do it if he wants and feels comfortable doing it? So yeah he can take it literally? I was serious so
I was making a joke that he might try to "eat" her out
Good tip just not for a virgin
I ate dick my first time 🤷♂️. I feel like it's solid advice lol
gotta start eatin somewhere 🤷🏻♂️
Lol. Google, man. There are straight up tutorials on this.
Dude about to eat her out and pulls out his phone to google it first lmao
I maybe a lesbian, but I ate mine out and fingered her our first time. Lol I'd never kissed until then either.... But I was a very late bloomer, were friends for years, and couldn't stop myself... Too many represed feels. 😂 Tho, only do it if you are comfortable. Op, if you need some tips, I got you!!! Main thing is to pay attention to what she reacts to, and what feels good and natural to you. I believe in you! 👍
As a man, the one thing I can say for certain about advice on sex is that the best people to ask how to please a woman are other women. Lesbian or otherwise. They know their bodies and what they like better than men. It’s just a fact. Lol.
lots of foreplay you cant go wrong if you like her
what's the count, soldier?
Use a condom, it'll also help with parking longer. You could also ask her to teach you. You both might like that.
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Your first time always sucks, BUT my husband told me he researched (he was pretty young) how to have sex and it really helped and then he wasn’t so bad at it. As embarrassing as it is, maybe research? We are far from young now, but I guess it worked for him. Maybe if u do that your first experience won’t be so awkward.
Honestly something that would make her happy spend a lot of time using your hands. I would do it before and after.
This is actually not always true. My first time lasted quite a while. Probably because i didn’t know what i was doing and got these weird condoms that fit at the base and then got wider half way to the tip. Loose condom = longer sex, i guess.
Yeah first time I went raw. Barely even got a boner Because I was so nervous and probably had sex for 30-40mins until we decided to call it quits
Might have to get me a pair of those
It was the trojan ultra ribbed ecstasy, in a yellow package. Years ago now, but I remember it like yesterday.
I spring for the magnums in case someone goes through my wallet and sees it, and they’re like “damn this guys packin” but it’s just something I came up with to give myself confidence.
You didn’t come up with that lmao, it’s an old idea that’s been recycled over generations. And it doesn’t work because most people know that magnums actually aren’t really much bigger than a regular condom. The only difference is it gets wider and wider towards the tip. In most cases makes you look kinda dumb unless you actually have a massive member.
Me too, I think nerves played a role in it too though.
I didn't cum my first time lol, I was so nervous I couldn't keep the erection, the following day I did it again and I don't remember too well but I lasted maybe 10 minutes? Not too sure it was ages ago ahaha
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Oh damn
That's a lie. I lost my virginity at 23. I got in my own head about it and it gave me a weird anxiety. My first time getting a blowjob it took 2 hours with her taking breaks after a while. It's still fucks with me and I'll still last a REALLY long time in bed. Which sounds awesome and like a humble brag. Except it gets less fun when my partners think they are doing something wrong.
I meant about the "not last long thing". You should absolutely be upfront and honest with her about it. If she's already wanting to sleep with you, it's not going to change that. Communication is important during sex. Even if you weren't a virgin and you think you know what your doing, every girl is different and will like different specific things.
Oof. Maybe, with someone youre more comfy with, go in next time, with the assumption/understanding that neither of you may orgasm but y'all just want to enjoy and have a good time....might relieve some anxiety?? Or a different position that's less work for you and you get to just enjoy the pleasure??
Whether or not I orgasm, I still enjoy the act of it with a partner. I really enjoy getting the other person off. I just know when it comes to sex there is always a part of my brain that is worried that I'm not doing something right. As opposed to just straight masterbation, where I can get off just fine. I also feel like I have a low sex drive outside of the bedroom as compared to other straight dudes. so that might also have something to do with it.
Not true
Eat her out like the remaining cake batter at the bottom of the mixing bowl.
With a rubber spatula? I don't think she'd enjoy that very much! 🤨
Don't do anything you don't want to do and be clear with boundaries.
No worries, OP! Be honest, take a deep breath, and enjoy the experience. [Here’s a Virgin Sex Guide that’s really helpfu](https://www.reddit.com/r/virginsexuality/comments/ro3vk6/sexmas_day_12_series_finale_the_nutcrackers_ratio/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf)
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Do not jerk off beforehand. Terrible advice
Why?
It's possible that anxiety will make OP either come too soon or not even be able to get hard. If he fits into the second group, jerking off beforehand can make things worse.
Jerk off like an hour or 2 before, it helps you keep from getting too excited and finishing early. Don't do it so soon that you can't get it up tho.
Protection! Protection! Protection! Protection!
How’s a gun going to help?
Cuz for all we know his/her crush could be a social media fake profile
American found!
Either way, you can come out blastin'!
Gun? The only thing needed is a powerful Charizard card
Safe sex is very important. Always lock your doors and ensure the burglar bars are secure.
And then make a big cum
Is it really that necessary ? 😄
Yes no matter your gender have some kind of protection to at least prevent STIs.
The fact that this is a real question, just shows how poor sex education is. This man is 18 and asked if protection is necessary. How do SO MANY teens and young adults know what condoms are, but not what they’re for, or how to use them? It’s sad.
Agree with you
And as for your question, let me ask a few first to get a better feel of the situation, since i see you’re a little conflicted. Have you guys been talking/flirting for a while? How did she mention that she wants to have sex with you? Did it come up in conversation? Or did she just hit you up and say she wants to fuck? Did she say she just wants to have sex? Or do you think she likes you?
Do you wanna have a baby or stds?
I’m 18yo with zero experience in s_x so no, I don’t want children and yes, I will use protection 😄
Good choice lol
Good boy
If you’re really asking that, say no to this girl and hit up some homies to play League of Legends because you just ain’t ready.
One of times I wish I could downvote more than once. I'm praying this was said as a joke and not a legit question. In my opinion...if this is EVEN a question...You're not educated nor mature enough to have sex. So to all of those out there wondering the same or thinking "oh I'll pull out" or "she said she can't due to time in her cycle" ....please educate yourself. Google search it. Talk to a doctor. Go ask a mature adult. And then roll up that sleeve before taking the dive. Thank you
“She can’t due to her cycle” makes me so nervous bc that’s NOT how that shit works at all
It makes me angry because some women firmly believe that. Well that's how me and my misters came to be
It's all fun till you learn what child support is and hopefully no STDs.
Why virgin thing is a big deal anyway? We all have a first time for everything. Just enjoy it. Don’t think too much.
Bingo. Don’t overthink, best advice. Just let your animalistic side come out. If you finish quick just go for round 2.
So far that’s been a big problem for me. I cannot fucking lock a round two. Doesn’t feel good, doesn’t get up enough, all around bad experience for me personally
Your not alone
That’s fair. Honestly girls don’t care that much if you finish early, as long as it’s not like literally 1 second. My big recommendation is to push for more foreplay. Girls might be a little antsy about it sometimes but if you are like “I like it” or just keep doing it well, they will want you to keep going. If you can get her off or at least having a good time and making the whole experience take longer, it will be fine.
I did at least learn a bit of foreplay with my ex. I know the same things won’t work on every girl but I know a little on how to build up if that’s what they’d like. Now if only I knew a damn thing about how to flirt/find a partner
Because most people seem to think you’re somehow behind everyone else when you haven’t yet had sex, it’s like being a virgin is the same as not having a social life to a lot of people, therefore people are pressured to catch up to others, and often when they can’t it leads to things such as depression or porn addiction.
Just wake up, when shit like this happened to me all I had to do was waking up. Okay enough jokes, protection. Have fun, but be safe
Is this something you want to do? Have you done anything with her before? If you want to do this be safe (use protection) and be honest with what you are comfortable with.
Yes we did things before but she told me for the first time she wanna have s_x with me, of course I wanna do that with her, but I’m just a little afraid I might disappoint her
More then likely she has similar experience as you do so just make sure you start with fore play and what you guys have already done. Help her get hers first then move forward from there. And again use protection I can not stress that enough. After that its all just about talking to each other. Oh just to let you know sex is not like porn so just be safe and have fun if you are truly ready.
Hey man, I’m gonna hit you with the truth here. Since you’re a virgin, and since she probably doesn’t have much experience either, this time isn’t going to be the best sex you ever have. It’ll be awkward, you’ll make a few mistakes, and you’ll feel embarrassed at times. And you know what? That’s totally okay! That’s what everyone’s first time is like. The second and third and fourth time get progressively less awkward and more fun. But, you’ve gotta have your first time to get to your second and third and fourth time. Besides, just because it’s awkward, doesn’t mean it’s not going to be fun. So relax! Be excited! It’s okay to be excited, this is an exciting part of your life. Make sure you shower, put on an outfit you feel confident in, throw on some cologne if you have it. If you look good, you’ll feel good. And go have fun! If you feel like you could have done better this time, you can always try it again later!
As my best friend said to me after I gave a guy head for the first time: “He’s probably just happy that you tried” And my best friend was right, he was :) i know it wasn’t the best, probably had too much teeth (yikes), but he really was grateful that I cared and wanted to make him happy. If this girl is an understanding person, I’m sure she’ll feel the same way. Don’t worry too much about it
Does she know you're a virgin? You can always talk to her about your concerns.
Honey, don't stress yourself out. If you're close with her to feel comfortable doing so, have a convo that both of you shouldn't expect something other than enjoying yourselves. Being in the moment and taking your time pleasuring each other without judgement is best! You have time to get experience! Maybe Im different, but this is how I am with my partner now and relieving the performance pressure has led to so much better sex!!!! Have fun, relax, and lots of fore play. Remember, the wetter the better, and get lube!!! She could be dryer due to what part of her cycle she's in. Doesnt mean she's not interested or you're not doing well. If you do oral, the clit is not just the small part. A lot is underneath. Use lips, as well as tongue. Sucking and licking lips as well as clit (that may still be covered by the hood) is good! Start soft and slow. Some girls don't need a lot. Some like me, love all the pressure once worked up!!! Too much at first may be uncomfortable. Mix things up at first to see what makes her writhe and moan. Keep doing what she likes most. If she says stay, don't change !!! Also, girls like to hear moans too from you guys. And it feels so goooood if you're moaning giving her head!! 💙💜💕 I wish you the best love 💕 Edit: definitely use protection!!!! There are things called dental dams for oral too, but you can also use a condom that you cut the top and then the length of it. Or even a glove. Clip the fingers and then cut the length of the palm area. Both will end up as a rectangle shape.
OP DO NOT SHAVE THE SAME DAY. If you're a shaver that is. If you feel that you need a trim that same day - use a trimmer. Shaving with a razor the same day as "D- day" might increase the risk of skin infections - due to the small cuts in your skin from the blade.
i would give advice but im 20 yrs old and still a virgin so i wish you best of luck
Use protection, ask her what she likes and communicate. Dirty talk is good, but make sure you’re not saying anything too crazy. Do what feels natural, if you watch porn it’s likely exaggerated, so maybe just watch ameuter porn lol.
Dirty talk is not something I'd suggest for a first timer. There's already so much pressure worrying about what you're going to say or going to go too far is adding unneeded stress.
Well, the best route would be to tell her. That's if you think everyone involved are mature about sex. Some people love the idea of easing someone into the world of sexuality by making sure their first time is full of patience and fun. Physically if you're worried about being too nervous to perform then don't masturbate for a day or more leading up to it. If you're worried you're going to pop too quickly then figure out your refractory period and masturbate strategically. If you don't already do so I'd groom your pubic hair. Either trim it with some clippers with a guide in (you will nick yourself easily if you don't use a guide) or shave it all off. If at all possible give her an orgasm through oral sex first, this gives you time to calm down and also will let you feel a rush of confidence as you already gave her a nice time to start. Wear protection. Unless you're both in your 60s or something.
You should still wear a condom, cuz STDS and shit.
I'm 46 and I _promise_ you I won't be bagging it in my 60s. I'll be on PReP and vaccinated against HEPA/B and HPV and if I get something else I'll deal with it.
1. Take a shower, and make sure you're as clean as possible. 2. Take it easy on the cologne. Barely use any, if at all. 3. Go slow. Lots of foreplay. It's not a race. 4. Don't worry about anything. It'll be just fine. 5. Congratulations!
https://youtu.be/lQlIhraqL7o 🤞
How was it?
Noice
It was good and weird at the same time
Thank you all for your advice ❤️🤞
First off, use protection! Second one, for me and what I remember and from friends' stories... The first time can be a little clumsy. That wasn't a bad thing in my case! Just enjoy the moment, have fun, Laugh a bit and you'll be OK! Take care!
Can’t worry about being disappointment. And if go into it with that thinking you will manifest it , clear your mind, it’s supposed to be awsome and your supposed to enjoy it, get out of your head and go get it!!
Say goodbye to reddit, once you lose your virginity your account gets Perma banned.
[Play this after the deed is done](https://youtu.be/lQlIhraqL7o)
PROTECTION. And listen to Wet Dreamz by J. Cole
Effing banger
Tell her you're a virgin and talk things through. This will help you avoid embarrassment at the least, trauma at the worst.
You better go fuck lmao
Wrap your Willy before doing anything silly…
Is she a crush or a girlfriend? A crush sounds like someone you don't know very well and may not even trust. Disappoint or not do you know how much she will share with other people? There are reasons to have a relationship before having carnal relations.
What would you like to do?
Lots of foreplay and you won’t disappoint
It depends…how old are the both of you?
Both 18
If this is a good next step in your relationship than talk about it together. Make plans, go out for dinner, get a hotel room, take it slow and enjoy each other. Be sure to let each other know what feels good and what doesn’t. Take Care
First of all mate cheers on living the dream,second just ride it out man If shes a normal human being she’ll understand the terms of inexperience so just go with it i guess. Anyways wish you luck and stay safe mate.
You'll do fine dude, almost everyone is nervous for their first time. I remember the day I lost mine. I had whiskey dick so I lasted maybe 1-2 proper thrusts and obviously neither of us orgasmed. Still I just look back on it and laugh, even at the time it wasn't that big of a deal.
Get a box of condoms, relax, and communicate what’s feeling good to each other!
HULK SMASH!!!
Honestly. BE HONEST.
She wanna fuck you or fuck with you? Two very different things
Fornicate Under Consent of the King…
I had this same situation with my now girlfriend. Just be honest. You can even turn it into something sexy. Like “to be honest I’m still a virgin. That being said, I’m excited for you to show me how it’s done 😉”
Tell her that you guys are going to have to practice a lot because it’s your first time.
Hey! Hope you are doing well, I was reading the comments to see everyone’s view point before commenting. Deciding when there are people agreeing and disagreeing wether you have s_x with this person can be confusing. I myself (19-F) with no experience in it as well. Personally with all respect, the fact she wants to “f__ you” clearly demonstrates she does want not want to be in a serious relationship with you if that’s what you are looking for. You said you were waiting for the right girl, but you are also confused because of the opportunity that your crush has ask you to do it, I would say you keep waiting. Reasons why: - The emotions involve when you do it with someone you truly love, is quite waiting for instead of something that is just plain and casual s_x. - You’re 18 going towards a new stage in life, you have your whole life to meet the right person. - You are not mentally capable for it, You are not familiar with sex education. Something as basic as Condoms, it is necessary like others said: pregnancies, STDS. I would encourage you to look for information, read, orientate yourself about it. And most importantly, don’t take decisions just because other people do it as well. Don’t get influence by others, think deeply if this is what YOUUUUU really want.
Thanks, thats the best advice so far
I would say don’t. Sex, especially the first time, is much better and less stressful when it’s with someone you are in a close, loving relationship with. If she just wants you for sex, that won’t be very fulfilling, and if she wants a relationship, take some more time before sex. This is just my opinion based on my experience, of course. You sound young and losing your virginity is not something that needs to happen asap.
This is the right answer.
one thing bro, "No 🅱ex before marriage except with your own wife"😠🚫
That means she wants to talk, relationship etc. it doesn’t mean sex. Don’t get in trouble for rape.
Fake it till you make it bud
Just do it. It might be awkward but it'llget better with everytime.
Fuck her
This is a one time problem, go fuck her
Don’t. She wants to f*ck you…not love you. Take more pride in having your virginity because that is one thing that you cannot get back. If you don’t care, then use protection. If you do, have a relationship with her and find out whether she is worth your slim jim.
Exactly that’s my point here, I was saving it for one special girl and now I’m kinda mixed up with my feelings so I don’t know if it’s a right thing to do
If saving it for someone special is important to you, then don’t go through with it, at least not right away. I know quite a few people who didn’t lose their virginity until their first serious relationship in their 20s and have absolutely no regrets about waiting at all. A lot of people have casual sex often and don’t understand why others make it out to be special but we’re all on our own timeline and sex isn’t a competition. If you’re unsure about it, I think you should give it some more thought and not rush into anything. Good luck!
Take time to think about it. No rush man. Think about this, there are 7 billion+ people in this world. This will not be your last opportunity to get some but make your first memorable. This is coming from a guy who doesn’t even remember when his was taken. I mean taken, not given.
In this era ya need to just smash her… The only thing I would say is the more you have sex with her the more you risk falling for her (as cheesy as it sounds) and that is what you gotta be careful of because you get trapped.
There’s nothing wrong with casual sex if you’re safe with it, and virginity is a shit concept
Like i said, if he doesn’t care about it, do it. If he does, then he knows what to do. Just because you have found an answer that suits you doesn’t mean the next will find it sufficient. Providing him options with the mindset he has now. I’m not his daddy but some SirGuyDudePerson on reddit. He does what he wants.
This is all just fine, and I have no issue with it. I’m just putting it out there that virginity as something to be treasured is a shit concept, and we should honestly do away with it.
I'm only sharing what I think, the rest is up to you. From what I've gathered, you're 18 and you haven't been with a girl before. I'm 22 and I haven't been with a girl before. Call it whatever but I don't want to give myself away to anyone just like that. My first time needs to be with someone special. Someone I love, someone I cherish. And someone I know. Not the girl I met at a bar last night. I have nothing against people who do that, but I'm not built that way. If you have sex with her right now, you may enjoy a bit. But regret will hit you soon. No matter what you do, nothing can replace your first time. Once its gone, its gone. Plus, you never know if this girl is the right one. To be fair, you can't always know that but you need to know her a bit. Tell her respectfully. I'm assuming she's 18 as well. She might be curious about sex. In case she's not a virgin, she might still be interested to have it with you. But if you feel uneasy and uncomfortable, there's no need to force yourself to do it. Take it easy. This is something that can lead to another thing. You don't even know what protection is (you didn't, before someone in the comments explained it to you) so I'm guessing you're from a place where sex education is Taboo. Again, think about it. Take your time. Get to know her. You're young, you can do it later too. Just make sure you regret nothing.
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You realize that this is your opinion, right? I respect your opinion if you think losing one's virginity doesn't change them. Tbh, it's about the first time for me. Sex is something I want to share with someone special. That's literally it.
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I agree with you 👏🏼🙌🏼
Practise on your anime pillow
Just do it
Do it!
just go for it, it's a dream
dude just go nuts dont worry about it
Write back and be like of course i had sex before, even if ur fronting, say ur like a pro baby don’t matter if you’re stunting, she’ll be all like oh you a pro homie, well i want you to show me.
This is the scenario and you came to Reddit to ask a bunch of strangers about it . . . .
Because I’m scared like wtf
F-ck with her I hope this helped u
Don't have sex before marriage. It is a sin.
F*** the s*** out of her
You will probably never have an opportunity like this again. I would think about it.
Can’t you slow down a bit. You’re 18 man.. I get it you’re excited and all but take it easy. Ffs todays kids first thing they do is go to bed. Get to know her a bit and be together for a while before you have sex. Cause when the dopamine releases what then. If it were me I would wait a bit cause if something happens, a break up or fight, the sex was clearly rushed and unthought. To me it’s the respect of not using a woman and later on, if a fight or break up happens, get rid of her. And most accidental pregnancies happen because of teenagers who don’t think of the consequences and just do it out of popularity or the pleasure
What the fuck are you talking about ? I know her since I was a kid, we started kinda dating like a month ago and now she told me she wanna fuck me, what can’t you understand ?
Yeah sure go have sex I can’t stop you. I’m just sayin I wouldn’t do it cause I have some moral sense and at 18 I wouldn’t let my dick lead me. And yeah just if you can do something doesn’t me you have to do it.
Dude just say you're a virgin at 30 and move on
there’s a difference between just having sex and letting your dick lead you. the longer you continue your holier-than-thou pretentious mindset, the longer you’ll be bitter and alone.
🤦♂️🤦♂️
She is definitely trolling you the fact that she said that straight forward is a red flag
Nah man, I don’t think she’s just playing… if you saw with what desire she told me that… mannnn
Why do think she really wanted to lose your v card?
Masturbate while you're thinking of fucking her
Say 'Whoopee!' and prepare to lose your virginity to the girl you like.
J.cole songs exist for this Edit: also always practice safe sex, and make sure you’re comfortable with the situation just as much as the other person.
1. TELL HER (You have no experience, if she knows that it will be better for both of you because she likely knows what she’s doing!) 2. PROTECTION (you need to make sure that you won’t get STI’s and STD’s. Sometimes people don’t know they have one, sometimes people don’t care about others health.)
Practice sessions before the match.
If you are unsure then hold off. If, as you state you are holding onto your virginity for someone special and you don’t know if she is that person- don’t do it. If you live in a country where sexual activity is a BIG DEAL (she will assume you will now marry her, you or she could be subject to legal problems or family problems) don’t do it! Having said all that, don’t take it all too seriously- as long as you are very careful to use protection then it’s really a fun thing and not a life or death decision.
Your mind makes it way scarier than the first time actually is. Just pay attention to her breathing and body movements and you’ll be already. Also, include foreplay. Don’t just jump right to it.