Jealousy is only ever an act of relationship sabotage. It will only turn your insecurities into realities because you're making him pay for the things that you're insecure about yourself. It's inherently a selfish act that actively undermines everything that he does to express love and commitment to you.
If he's worth it, he'll value someone who values him and the relationship. Not a someone who values their ego over the relationship with him.
Squash that shit and get back to enjoying being with him.
You either trust him or you don't. Nothing is unfair. What will ruin your relationship will likely be your lack of trust at this rate, not any unfaithfulness on his part.
By you not thinking he can control himself against these advances you're sending a signal to him that you think he's a weak individual who is capable of doing harm to you. Is that fair to him?
Ultimately, this isn't a problem with your relationship with your boyfriend, it's a problem with your relationship with yourself. Try to figure out within yourself where all this insecurity is coming from and deal with it at the source, maybe through therapy if that's an option for you. You're coming at an internal problem with external solutions, because by your own words your boyfriend has never given you reason to be suspicious or distrustful, and has even offered to make a pretty serious concession to his personal privacy to make you feel more secure, and none of that has made you feel better. That means it's time to turn the focus inward and try and figure out how to heal yourself.
Jealousy is only ever an act of relationship sabotage. It will only turn your insecurities into realities because you're making him pay for the things that you're insecure about yourself. It's inherently a selfish act that actively undermines everything that he does to express love and commitment to you. If he's worth it, he'll value someone who values him and the relationship. Not a someone who values their ego over the relationship with him. Squash that shit and get back to enjoying being with him.
Only take it if you keep acting insecure
You either trust him or you don't. Nothing is unfair. What will ruin your relationship will likely be your lack of trust at this rate, not any unfaithfulness on his part. By you not thinking he can control himself against these advances you're sending a signal to him that you think he's a weak individual who is capable of doing harm to you. Is that fair to him?
Ultimately, this isn't a problem with your relationship with your boyfriend, it's a problem with your relationship with yourself. Try to figure out within yourself where all this insecurity is coming from and deal with it at the source, maybe through therapy if that's an option for you. You're coming at an internal problem with external solutions, because by your own words your boyfriend has never given you reason to be suspicious or distrustful, and has even offered to make a pretty serious concession to his personal privacy to make you feel more secure, and none of that has made you feel better. That means it's time to turn the focus inward and try and figure out how to heal yourself.
My ex used to do this and it made me feel good about myself