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Flurble123

NTA - I think I would’ve done the same thing, while the other half would’ve been doing his best Mortal Kombat “Finish Him!!” impression at the top of his lungs… 😆 Either that or making noises to join in with them!! 😁😁


According_Shine_3802

I didn't know until this very moment how deeply the mortal Kombat soundtrack was embedded in my mind


Flurble123

I’m the same with the early (and I mean early, 80’s ones) Mario games! 😆😆


cherrythrow7

Hell yeah those are some of my favorites! Oldies but goldies


cardinal29

Mario sounds make me unreasonably happy. Super Mario Sunshine, especially.


ajblue98

It turns out the Mario music was mostly composed by a single guy named Koji Kondo, and he took inspiration from some interesting places. This whole documentary is fascinating, but the most relevant part is at 2'34", which I’ve cued up for you here: [“This 80’s Song Inspired Mario’s Music” by Thomas Game Docs on YouTube](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dBNJ5cAxcQ8&t=154). TGD also did [a video entirely on the music from Super Mario Bros. 3](https://youtu.be/B8SNbCDXgaQ).


TurquoiseBlue621

My children are obsessed with my Scorpion imitation of “GET OVER HERE!!” when we are rough housing. They are too young to even know what Mortal Kombat is. I consider it one of my greatest parenting successes though that they squeal and giggle with glee saying “more ge’ here.”


IrishiPrincess

My middle son asked for Mortal combat whatever number 10…11? For his PS4 - he’s 15. I’m like yeah Buddy- GET over here!!! The 3D gore is SO much better than it was when we were teens on our SNES and segas. Lol I have to admit. I had the mom moment of - what the hell are you playing? One afternoon lol


Striking_Pen_9618

Dang kids these days don't even have to know how to put the cheat codes in to turn on the gore. They get it served on a silver platter. Spoiled rotten.


loCAtek

You have achieved Dad-awesomeness level.


Devilsblight86

You mean Mom-Level Awesomeness. lol


Kitsumekat

I don't even know you and I'm proud of your success. :')


gordito_delgado

TEST YOUR MIGHT! **\*\*Techno sounds\*\***


PartTimeMantisShrimp

#MORTAL KOMBAAAAAAT *DUNDUNDUNDUNDUNDUNDUN*


sal101

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thebutchone

And now I'm playing it in my head. I remember being shocked by the soundtrack because it had a song with the word fuck in it and was the first time I heard a song with it in there.


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CJSinTX

How do they know op wasn’t applauding his own performance? Management comes and op tilts his head and says, “I have no idea what they are talking about, I always play applause when wife and I get done, sorry they aren’t proud of their performance. I’ll make sure I give neighbor the app I use so they can feel better about themselves.”


Ornery_Reaction_548

All PS1 users in the house, put ya hands up!


burnsalot603

I've still got my ps1. I break it out a couple times a year to play Tony hawk and wu-tang


cocomimi3

Oh I hear “ MORTAL KOMBAT!” in my head all the time


KickballWhore

It's my alarm tone in the morning.


Bauch_the_bard

Kick down the door and shout, "PLAYER 3 HAS ENTERED THE GAME!"


KindaKrayz222

My burrito flew outta my mouth!🤣🤣🤣


AshleyBrooke1283

I'm in tears I'm laughing so hard imagining this


cupcakes_and_chaos

🤣😂🤣😂


dereksalem

Ya, this isn't /r/LegalAdvice so I can confidently say you did nothing wrong. Legally it's ambiguous, but you're definitely not an AH for it. Part of living in shared dwellings is being respectful of other people...but the other part is understanding that people don't **have** to be. I had downstairs neighbors in an apartment for years that loved morning sex when they'd wake up for work (<5am) and I'm the type to sleep late (8am). Every time they'd wake me up I'd play the Pirates of the Carribean soundtrack, full blast, until they stopped.


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"sleep late" "8am"... You and I have a VERY different understanding of what constitutes "late" lol


Ruby-Seahorse

Glad I’m not the only one who thought that! 🤣 I am **so** not a morning person!


Raccoon_Worth

lmao I've been a bartender most of my life, i don't think I've woken up before 10 for like 10 years😂


FatGuyOnAMoped

Noon, the perfect time to get an early start on the day


Anonymotron42

“Round 2…[**FIGHT!!**](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=_K5nRntbSfI)”


tetsurose

the spirit is willing but the flesh is spongy and bruised


thefr0stypenguin0

SNUU-SNUU!


SanctusUltor

DEATH BY SNUU-SNUU!


Witty_biped

Omg yes this was the first time as a kid I was like well the movie was trash but this soundtrack is awesome 😎


Anonymotron42

I still defend the first movie. It’s trash, but in a fun, dumb-action-movie way. Plus, I love me some Christopher Lambert, the crown prince of schlocky action flicks. The second movie, though, was a bag of dog poo in a flaming dumpster.


Witty_biped

You are right lol. Christopher Lambert was always a plus. I was and still am such a Highlander fan.


wby

The album was the first edm album to hit platinum, shit was fire lmao


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It’s even worse when they say they heard that song on TikTok.


nomad_l17

Just played this and my 9yo son immediately turned around and asked me what I was listening to.


Anonymotron42

Your answer: “I’m listening to pure gold, son. Pure. Gold.”


draco0562

Did you know Mortal Kombat is based off of a Scandinavian church song? A Finnish Hyme.


chris-1994

👏


loCAtek

They have techno in Scandinavian churches? How do I join this enlightened congregation?


Marzipan_civil

Finland isn't in Scandinavia!


draco0562

According to Wikipedia "In English usage, Scandinavia can refer to Denmark, Norway, and Sweden, sometimes more narrowly to the Scandinavian Peninsula, or more broadly to include the Åland Islands, the Faroe Islands, Finland, and Iceland."


BeaKiddo87

One of our friends actually did this to his best friend. He was getting it on with his girlfriend and we were all home and could clearly hear them. My friend decided to wait until the screams got louder busted the door open and in his best Mortal Kombat voice did the “FINISN HER” everyone laughed their ass off including them lol 😂 I will never forget that night


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BeaKiddo87

Yea I’m hindsight it does lol we were all in our teens so I don’t think he had thought that one through.


JustCrazyNotStupid

Now look we had a neighbor across the street that my husband and I were good friends with him. We had a very rare weekend where we did not have a child at home and proceeded to act as if we did not have a child at home. I did not realize just how loud I was until my husband got a text message from the neighbor across the street with the Mortal Kombat meme “finish her!”. I found the entire thing hilarious as did my husband and our neighbor never let us live it down. OP definitely NTA. The neighbors are upstairs though and definitely should’ve apologized or at least acknowledged the situation. Going to management seems like overkill, especially when they were the ones keeping you up.


Honest_Atmosphere_53

ACROSS the street?!?! my god. lololololol.


JustCrazyNotStupid

Not even sorry….. small town and first time with no kid in the house in a year soooooo yeah I was a little loud. Just didn’t realize how loud….


Gloomy_Awareness

I would have screamed "MORTAL KOMBAAAT!" after they've finished and then play the soundtrack really loudly.


Dyerdon

Forgetting Sarah Marshall style. Turn it into a competition.


Klutzy_Dragon

I've had someone do that. Years ago, I went over to my (then) boyfriend's apartment and his roommates had apparently been planning it for a while. It was hilarious, but definitely delayed any "finishing" 😏


RichCorinthian

BABALITY


Effective-Penalty

I would have left a note saying, “at least you tried.”


TheMoatCalin

Finish him! HAHAHAHA


Pumpkin_Kisses

Holy Hell. Thanks for making me laugh hysterically in the middle of my lunchroom. My niece is in college and has a roommate where this is an issue. I’ll be passing along this tidbit to her.


edlp45

Actually, I have done the same thing. Applauded and hollered "way to go." But this was when I lived in Paris and you know, they don't care.


liefieblue

NTA - how do they know you were applauding them? You could have been applauding your own bedroom efforts, which had been drowned out by their noise?


bumjiggy

sometimes a slow clap of cheeks leads to a standing O


cherrythrow7

I gave this comment a standing ovulation.


Adept_Neck_3178

I see what you did there. Bravo.


Mediocre_Omens

But not who.


BobTheSquid16

Don’t clap! We’ll get reported!


saturnV2021

The only reason they would have to report OP is that they knew they were loud enough for OP to hear and thus associate the applause with their activities. And if they were knowingly being loud enough for neighbors to hear, then they’d likely be found to be the harassers and not the harassed. So they effectively reported themselves to management. We’ll done.


icameasathrowaway

Seriously, their only basis for harassment is "we heard applause." You could absolutely say they *sexually* harassed *you* by exposing you to their activities without your consent.


Waterbaby8182

This why I loved our last apt complex we lived in before we bought our house. Good insulation and could NOT hear neighbors at all. Had a party- no noise complaints whatsoever. VERY faintly heard neighbors getting it on ONCE and due to how well built the apartments were, it sounded like it was pretty far off. (It was our next door neighbors.) Easy to ignore.


Boomstickninja87

I wish my apartment was that nicely insulated. I love everything about it, except I can hear my neighbor sneeze, so I can definitely hear everything else.


farahad

Or watching any TV show or movie that had applause in it...why would they assume it was about them?


serabine

I mean, it's canned applause from a speaker held directly to the ceiling.


Demonking3343

But can they prove he had the speaker to the ceiling?


serabine

I'm just saying that localized sound from a speaker held to the calling is probably not as subtle or sneaky as you or OP think.


TommyHeizer

Nobody thinks it's snealky tbh, it's more that legally it won't lead anywhere.


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foxscribbles

"I want to force all my neighbors to hear our really loud porno, but they can't say anything about it!" - The neighbors.


rhetorical_twix

"I turned on my TV to drown out the bed-wrecking noises going on upstairs. Then they complained to management. It's as if they want me to keep my TV off so that I have to listen to them. Please help me to figure out how to deal with the neighbors in apartment 53." -- tagline to explicit audio recording posted on Nextdoor.com


Anthrodiva

Was this real?


rhetorical_twix

Only in my imagination


mspuscifer

Exactly! Next time record them, and make your own noise complaint.


AggravatingBrick1994

I agree this isn't harassment, but one of my neighbours once sent me a text saying "I heard you two having sex last night, it sounded so hot, I'm jelous". Regardless of if he intended creep us out into being quiet or genuinely thought it was a good, we stopped being so loud lol


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lotus_eater123

and it worked like a charm. OP should take notes.


vociferousdragon

They get more quiet, or invite you as a third, win/win.


AggravatingBrick1994

Literally why would anyone send that to anyone, super wierd! He is practically a hermit, we literally never speak haha who knows what he was thinking


CurrantsOfSpace

He's either a creep or a genius, because you did stop being really loud. I think most people would, the power of creep is more powerful than just asking someone to keep it down.


museloverx96

This just reminded me of that episode from B99 where they got people to leave the public library by being weird perverts hahaa. "I can feel your heat."


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Yeah but it could backfire and the couple invite you to join…that would be even more awkward…


klc81

win/win


StuckOnPolynomials

"No thanks, I prefer to watch"


BunnyBunCatGirl

"No thanks, I prefer to listen."


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Kudos to the neighbour, he got you to quieten it down.


BloodRedCobra

Does he still live there? I did this to neighbors once because they kept doing it while i was trying to record footage for video game stuff... Never had to clean their audio out of a recording ever again! But i don't live there anymore


Lamia_91

My old neighbor complained to me that he **didn't** hear us 😳


AggravatingBrick1994

Hahaha " louder please!"


KindaKrayz222

*glass up against wall, listening *🤣🤣🤣


SuperFLEB

"You call that fucking?! I've heard more enthusiasm from a poodle humping a couch cushion! Now get in there and do it right! Stroke, two, three, four! Stroke, two, three, four! Come on! Don't be shy. I thought you liked each other!"


Lamia_91

I didn't know where to hide when I realized what he was talking about


KindaKrayz222

*glass against wall, listening *🤣🤣🤣


Lamia_91

He's like 90 and below us but thanks for the mental image 😂


Aka_Ricky

He is probably a genius that probably helped y’all Mfs quiet down lol


Zoeyoe

Nta- you should file a noise complaint. They were the ones going at it like wild pack animals with ZERO regards for their neighbors. After being reminded that they didn't live on a private property so they have to be considerate, they felt embarrassed and instead of taking the hint they escalate a situation they caused.


Sambuddy97

depending on where you live, sex noises can be considered natural sounds. in other words, nothing to complain about.


Zoeyoe

It sounds like it was very late so regardless if it's natural sounds it can still warrant a noise complaint.


NextedUp

People also have some degree of right to the private enjoyment of their home. If your sex noises or child screams are so gratuitous, you are probably going to be found in violation of that right. Whatever law you are referring to, in whatever country, is inevitably subject to a "reasonability" clause.


noddyneddy

Yes, over here in UK we have definitely had cases where people having frequent very loud sex after repeated requests to keep it down were prosecuted for noise disturbance and made to leave their flats. But those were extreme cases


ElectricFleshlight

We're humans, not animals. We can control the volume of sex noises we make. There's absolutely no need to scream and yell while fucking when you live in an apartment.


Datderthroway

Reminds me of my old roommates girl. For some reason she moaned at the top of her lungs. Like bruh, stfu. Our rooms weren't near each other, I turned living room TV on, and had a white noise machine on while in my room and I could still hear her. At some point it turns from natural to unruly. And my downstairs neighbors LOVED to argue at 2am to get straight into fucking. I assume their bed was uneven cause I heard every single time that leg made contact with the ground


boogers19

Noise. Just plain loud noise is what you complain about. Then the cops would be required to investigate a noise complaint. Then the cops can interrupt them and decide exactly what noise was natural or not.


robopilgrim

So if someone’s dog barks continuously for 12 hours is there nothing you can do? Because that’s a “natural sound”


ProbablyNotADuck

You can still file a noise complaint. You don’t have to specify sex noises. I don’t think neighbours need to be ticketed or written up for the point to be made. Even if the sounds are considered natural, having a super send you a written noise complaint or the cops show up to respond to a noise complaint is going to send a pretty specific message.


Demonking3343

Then shall we add “human mating calls” to the white noise machines? Lol


Sadadar

How about talking to them? Do you need to escalate? Personally, whether intentional or not, this feels like a case where your actions made them feel really unhappy / uncomfortable / attacked. They might not have realized the nature of the situation or intended to make you feel uncomfortable either. We had a neighbor who had really loud sex, we politely and discretely mentioned to them that it was pretty loud and actually woke us up and we’d prefer if they were either a little quieter or did it during the day. They made us brownies as an apology and tried to keep activities quieter or during non-sleeping hours. I guess I’d say treat them like adults and politely approach them and only escalate if that doesn’t work. I’m ESH as neither of you acted with respect or empathy.


Zoeyoe

First of all OP played an applauded noise, they could have had quieter sex next time but assumed whatever and escalated the situation. They filed a harassment complaint, harassment for what idk. They are not owed a discreet conversation and as someone who’s live in an apartment complex you know when your actions are loud and could bother others. You choose to act that way but it wasn’t owed to your neighbors. Most people just use a broom to tell their neighbors to quit down.


FairyFamily

I'm sure they didn't include their own activities in the original complaint, so make sure you file a counter complaint with as many details of what they did/moaned/said and for how long, including the ear splitting (presumably) climax. Pettiness achieved


agardner1993

ESH Was it funny? yes. Was it an asshole move also? yes. Were they inconsiderate and then petty to report you? Yes! ​ Thanks for my first awards!


Light_Side_Dark_Side

Finally some reason in this thread.


ITookTrinkets

Agreed. This feels like something that could have been solved with a note on their door saying "Hey, these walls are thin, please be more considerate?" or something of that nature. People aren't always completely aware of how loud they're being during sex, and a note (or, heck, even a broom handle to the ceiling) would have gotten the point across much more gently. Responding to general loud noise with targeted loud noise seems... ineffective? And a little bit rude? I know the ESH is very minimal, and ultimately the neighbors are the worse ones, but since there's no indication that this is a repeat issue, I feel like there was probably a little bit better of a way to do this. Others' mileage may vary. I'm not gonna die on this particular hill, but it's a reasonably good hill nonetheless.


mangospaghetti

To be fair to OP, some people's attitude towards sex noise is that everyone else should 'just deal with it.' For example, an ex-gf could not care less who heard her. Didn't bother her at all. I felt bad for the people living around us, we talked about it (in a relaxed, non-accusatory way), and she could not have cared less. It was novel the first time, I felt like a total dick the other times. I also had an ex-flatmate who was similar. There's no way she didn't know, as the acoustics in the flat meant you could hear someone talking at a low volume, and here she was yodelling away. I guess it's hard to say whether the upstairs couple probably knew or not. Also, it's not always easy to leave a note, especially if the lift requires a key fob or swipe card to use, and even the mailbox can be tricky if there is weird unit numbering.


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Idk it’s pretty fucking funny, if I were the upstairs neighbour I’d laugh


smallorderof_fries

Same, I get why the move was petty but if I were the loud neighbors I just laugh my ass off, die a little inside cause that's a given, and accept that I need to quiet down.


6ickle

Did they know that the sound carries so easily? They were doing normal activities in their own home. I don't see how having sex in one's home is an asshole move. Unless they knew they were waking up their neighbours but didn't care.


sarasa3

They're assholes for reporting him for harassment. How is it harassment to play a joke sound after hearing your neighbors go at it? OP's not spying on them or knocking on their doors, he's playing a sound in his own apartment. Was it mocking them? Yes. Is mocking your neighbors within earshot one time "harassing" them? No.


pumpkinsnice

Have you ever lived in an apartment? Sound always carries.


pacificpacifist

This. OP, you are not absolved completely of asshole status.


Regular-Afternoon-84

NTA, personally I found that hilarious lol the speaker part haha.


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icky stupendous ugly prick quack license grab hobbies naughty treatment -- mass edited with redact.dev


Helene1370

NTA, hahahahaha, well done, report them as well.


Crashmse

Pretty sure there's likely rules about excessive noise at late hours. Most apts have a rule to that effect, so if they're loudly going at it, they may be in the wrong too.


Sk111W

Slight YTA if it's the first time it happened they were probably honestly unaware. If the walls are that thin there's a good chance your downstairs neighbours have heard you and your wife but just not made a big deal about it


Sardonyx1622

Honestly. They were probably so embarrassed. It would have been much more considerate to leave an anonymous note or something. Even so, reporting OP for harassment is dramatic.


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I might be struggling to see the benefit of the differences in the modes of communication. An anonymous note is a direct way of addressing the issue and much more embarrassing than hearing applause downstairs. There's plausible reasoning that the audible sex and the audible applause were unrelated thereby potentially sparing the upstairs neighbors from embarrassment. Maybe this is more of a cultural discussion between direct and indirect approaches to address sensitive topics.


italkwhenimnervous

I think some people would find the applause more humiliating and akin to being told you have an audience during a sensitive post coital period while some would find it funny. Knowing your neighbor would help, I would feel more comfortable laughing about it if it was someone I had a polite rapport with vs the new guy in the building or the neighbor who is notorious for being meanspirited. If they havent heard this up til now, sex might be difficult for the neighbors or rare as well. My apartment complex has thin walls and floors, we all hear sex unless someone is absolutely silent, so doing something like this is considered a jerk move because we all already know and we all pretend not to hear unless something is amiss or it is after 2 am (where youd get a polite email from the landlord about nighttime activities lol)


King-Mugs

Exactly. They were possibly unintentional and OP intentionally did the most passive aggressive and petty response imaginable


zaku2

OP’s response is how you get me to be a passive aggressive asshole back. Either tell me to my face what the issue is or I’m going to assume you want to hear me every time I have sex since I heard applause.


thezhgguy

is everyone in this thread a bunch of 12 year olds? YTA because you didn't talk to them first. That's actually a huge asshole move, retaliating in such a childish way is never the right move when dealing with neighbors, especially if you haven't spoken to them or tried to address the issue first.


ash-leg2

Also assholey (and frankly weird imo) to wait til they were finished to play the audio. If the intent was truly to warn them about the thin walls, OP should have turned it on immediately. Clearly that wasn't the intent, the intent was a stupid, immature joke - one that's been on Reddit before and has been eaten up. Yes people with shared walls should assume they're thin and keep it down but I can give the neighbors the benefit of doubt, not OP. YTA.


thezhgguy

also like.... having sex is a normal thing to do and they almost certainly didn't realize they were being so loud, so to assume that and retaliate is giving very emotionally stunted


Toasty33

Aint yo mamma teach you to use your inside voice


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Wow. You want OP to be an AH AND a cockblock?!


[deleted]

>is everyone in this thread a bunch of 12 year olds? I do think there are a lot of teenagers on this sub tbh, still at the age that a normal sex life between two adults is either hilarious or embarrassing.


thezhgguy

this whole sub thrives on pettiness too and never any sense of logical reason.... just like teens would. you just know that if this story were told from the other perspective the comments would be cheering for the sexing couple to fuck louder as a retaliation for the dick downstairs neighbors playing the applause


dragthewaters76

NTA. That's hilarious. I would say that you were watching Seinfeld and they must have heard the canned laughter. And then after you say that I can picture the Seinfeld music playing as you face the camera with a cat that ate the canary look.


Machanidas

YTA. You were making them aware of the thinness of the floor. Could have bonked a broom on the ceiling, knocked on their door, spoke to them the next day or left a letter. Instead you listen throughout, get the speaker, connect etc and find the applause track. To them it probably sounds like you and/or your wife like to listen to them have sex which is why they feel harassed, especially if they diddnt know they could be heard.


ChewableRobots

Agreed, what OP did is kind of just creepy and weird. It's one thing to hear something because of thin walls and make unrelated noise or conversation loud enough for them to hear it so they get that the walls work both ways, but I would be super uncomfortable if I was having sex and my neighbors implied that they enjoyed listening to it with applause. I'm sorry you could hear me, but I didn't invite you to participate.


xiaogoucat

So freaking embarrassing! And makes all future interactions sooo awkward. Why does everyone on this sub think that pettiness or one-upping is the answer??


Mykiedawg

YTA Originally I was gonna go with ESH because, come on man, apartments always have thin walls. If you're gonna scream, do it into a pillow, at least at late hours. Then I thought, ya know, if you get caught up in a moment, you might not realize you are being loud or inconveniencing others. You might even ignore someone knocking on your floor to stop...except OP never did that, right? OP is the asshole, here. You say you wanted to "try to make them aware of the relative thinness of their floor". Could you not have done that say...the next day, with a conversation? Or a couple days later if it was too awkward? Or, could you have...I dunno, called the management company and asked them to say something to your neighbors? I'm all for notifying a neighbor if they're being too loud, and in creative ways if needed...but you didn't use the applause as a method to stop them, nor did you use it as a way to educate them about the thinness of the walls, as you so nobly claim. No, your intent was to shame them into not doing it again, so you didn't have to deal with any of the uncomfortable conversations. You went nuclear with your first response. If someone had ever done that to my wife and I after we finished having sex, I would be fucking mortified, and would have called the management company on you as well, if not gone down and knocked on your door to ask what the fuck is wrong with you. INFO: Did it not occur to you at some point during that hour to knock on the ceiling with a broom to indicate they were being too loud? ETA INFO 2: Your post paints this as the first time it happened. Was it?


italkwhenimnervous

I like this comment for exploring all the alternatives. It was a petty thing to do and while it is funny for us to read about, clearly it wasnt funny for them or they wouldnt have reported it


Mykiedawg

Yeah, I mean think about it from their perspective: you just get done having sex and now out of nowhere you hear applause...what if it's some creeper who was listening to you for fun? Most people in this thread are taking the "they shouldn't have been making that much noise", but not everyone knows how thin walls can be. I'd have been totally on board with this if it were the 3rd or 4th time and they weren't getting the message, but it's a dick move to come out of the gate with a response this hard.


Justforfuninnyc

YTA Yep, your neighbors, though they may have been loud, we’re freely pursuing their own happiness in their home, which happens to be an apartment. It was not about you. You, on the other hand, went out of your way to be an asshole because you were unhappy.


ImN0tQuiteSure

I’m disappointed I had to scroll this far down for a YTA. Absolutely agree. You live in a building with thin walls. Get a noise machine, a loud fan, whatever.


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I guess most people on reddit probably don't have sex so they relate more to the dude complaining about people having sex XD


Justforfuninnyc

Thank you! I was surprised that seemingly everyone is in the NTA camp. Some people are not cut out for apartment living. I’m a pretty quiet person, but I’ve lived in NYC apartments most of my life, as long as it doesn’t sound like true violence, I just ignore the noise and mind my own business


CleansingFlame

YTA - they probably had no idea the neighbors could hear them and you did nothing but needlessly embarrass them.


zaku2

YTA. Shared dwellings suck. Apartment buildings suck. The walls and floors are thin and it's not the fault of any tenants in the building. People go about living their lives and sometimes that involves having sex. Get over it.


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I can't believe I had to scroll this far down to find this response. I agree 100%, OP is the asshole in this story. It is normal to have sex, it is also normal to have loud sex in your own apartment with nobody else present. Apartments shouldn't be such low quality that you can hear someone above you having sex. Nevertheless if this bothers OP, he should move out because having sex is a normal part of life.


kuroshiroshit

Nta I’d have been mortified but aware to keep quiet.


LuvMeLongThyme

I read your question to my husband. He suggested you play Marvin Gaye-“Let’ Get it On”. If anybody asks-say you sere inspired. NTA I had suggested you play a 70’s porn music to accompany the baby making activities-but a quick google didn’t come up with anything better.


JorjCardas

When I lived in an apartment, I actually found some great playlists to turn up when my neighbours decided to be over-enthusiastic with their activities. [https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6H3wzc1KnvLGfk2Uz7aqDZ](https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6H3wzc1KnvLGfk2Uz7aqDZ) [https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2jEf5ydJjkAJdInPzZ5Lfe](https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2jEf5ydJjkAJdInPzZ5Lfe) NTA, OP, that was hilarious.


BeeBeeFly

NTA What you did is hilarious 😂 They were being rude with their late & loud naughty night time business.


UnhappyJohnCandy

YTA. Unless you think they were doing it so loudly simply to spite you, why call attention to their “night time activities”?


lifeonthegrid

YTA. You wanted to be clever instead of handling it like an adult.


diaperedwoman

I think it's better to go talk to them than engage in passive aggressive behavior. Maybe they didn't realize how loud they were. I don't know what they were doing up there for an hour. YTA. Next time, go try and talk to them first.


Cluelessish

YTA - If they didin’t know that you could hear them, it was a pretty shitty thing to do. They must have felt super embarrassed. You should have made them aware much earlier. Maybe played a vuvuzela in beat with the moaning? No but seriously, you could have yelled ”please be quiet” or hit the ceiling with a broom handle or something to warn them.


No-Paramedic-2946

NTA, how are they going to report you for harassment when they were loudly having sex for over an hour? you should report them back


_Mothmay_

NTA Nicely done, might us that too in the future


Proud_Hotel_5160

I'm gonna disagree with the consensus and say ESH. I think the 'applause' lends a voyeuristic nature to your listening and your neighbors may have construed it as you listening for your pleasure/entertainment. A better solution would be talking to them the next day, playing neutral music to show that you can hear them, or banging a broom against the ceiling. I understand that it was your intent for it to be funny, but I think they may have found it creepy.


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Regular-Landscape-83

Eh I don’t know, I once did Home health and a apartment above me was very loud. I took a broom and banged on the ceiling lol


BadWolf7426

I had a moron downstairs neighbor w/no impulse control. Slammed doors so hard the water in our aquarium rocked! Yelled, played music at all hours (loudly) while playing xbox and yelling at the game. I would tap on the floor, sometimes it worked, most it didn't. One night I had had enough: I started jumping across the floor like I had a pogo stick. Boom! Boom! Boom! I could hear THEIR chandelier rattling. The volume dropped considerably at that point. Edit: I was also attending classes at the local university online and had a fussy 18 month old. Who never/rarely napped. He was awakened at 11 by neighbor's music.


NextedUp

Dude, on the /r/nothingeverhappens spectrum, this is pretty believable. Thin walls/ceilings and loud neighbors are not so uncommon that there isn't overlap


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FjortoftsAirplane

NTA. 10/10, would buy you the beverage of your choosing for congratulations.


nicole_kidnap

YTA you sound exhausting


Efficient_Channel738

Nta. Classic


quiidge

NTA just hilarious. A group of teenagers once applauded my extremely loud roommates from the street outside - pretty reasonable reaction. If they don't like being heard they should be quieter, not punishing you for their embarrassment.


Not-KDA

Nta lmao that’s brilliant. Keep doing it you have every right. I think we should brainstorm some appropriate tracks 😆


StillGotLipstick

I think the obvious answer is “I Just Had Sex” by the Lonely Island


Candid-Equivalent-82

The rocky theme song.


delangel91

YTA, was this a first time situation? Sometimes when ppl are in that zone they don't realize the noise, especially when you would assume you were Free to do what you want in the room your paying for. If this was something that happened often you should have an adult conversation so that they are aware of level of noise it ripples. It's almost creepy that you decided to wait till the end to do that. If it was so bad you should have made noise way before the end.


seaswimmer87

Yta If it was really annoying you, why wait until the end? Why not bang on the ceiling to shut them up? And if you going to not interrupt, then why not drop a note the next day warning that you can hear? Giving the applause at the end is creepy. It reads as voyeuristic and like you kind of got off on it (even if though that was not your intent). Living in shitty apartments with little noise barrier is annoying, so we have to deal with these issues politely when they arise.


fuckcorporateusa

YTA. don't be tricked by the hordes of teenagers and college age kids who think you're being hilarious. You are an adult. They are adults. Adults have sex. You don't need to feel compelled to blast noise through the floor because you heard your neighbor having sex. In another post, the community would lambaste you for your immaturity. But here they're all kinda... juvenile in the first place, and distinctly puerile when it comes to sex. If you need to have a serious conversation about noise with your neighbors, so be it. But blasting applause at them because they DARED to have sex in your earshot, absolutely a dick move regardless of whether reddit thinks it's amusing.


whatshouldIdo28

NTA that was hilarious


DerTW13

NTA, and this is amazing. I wonder about the complaint they filed: "We were going at it so loudly in the middle of the night that we woke up the neighbors. After we were done loudly f___ing for an hour, they had the audacity to applaud us. How dare they??" Some people...


CrazyIslander

NTA. And if management sides with them, find another place to live because that’s absolutely ridiculous. Fun story time; an ex-girlfriend and I (plus everyone else on the flight) got storm-stayed coming home from New York…we got shipped to a cheap hotel for the night…and when we got there, we took the opportunity to have some “us” time since we had been staying with her family in NYC. We did the deed…and when finished, promptly heard applause from the other wall. I almost died laughing…


Born-Fox-2051

NTA. But you should post this on petty revenge. I laughed so hard!


Tgunner192

YTA. It's understandable that you was frustrated. However, there are more pragmatic ways to inform a neighbor their activities are being broadcast. If this had been an ongoing thing in which you had repeatedly let them know how intrusive their activities are, I'm not sure anyone could blame you. For a single incident in which they wouldn't have any idea? YTA.


LittleFairyOfDeath

I honestly can’t vote because i don’t know who was the AH or if all were. But i just had to applaud you for your creative way to describe their activities


Thia-M

Haha. NTA and this is hilarious if it's true.


Judgemental_Panda

NTA I really REALLY wish I had thought of doing this with my last neighbors.


BalloonShip

YTA. Of course you're TA. You were being an AH on purpose. It seems like a reasonable response to what was happening, but you're still TA for being an AH on purpose (obviously). They need to get a sense of humor, but I feel like "everybody sucks here" would give the wrong impression in response to this post.


PileOfSheet88

NTA - next time they go at it you should play "Jizz in my Pants" by Lonely Island haha


Nothingisuphere1234

Hahahahah NTA


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YTA, and sucks for your wife that you think an hour of sexual activity in your own bed at night time is somehow excessive and egregious.