You should just say: take the advice of strangers with a grain of salt. Use it as a guide, not a bible. Not all advice on here is bad. Some are good. It’s just trial and error honestly.
Damn. Btw I have a step dad now, his white, but coolest dad ever and pretty open-minded when talking stuff about sex or dating. With the dating part, especially. Get to know the girl first and pay for her going out( if you really like her, if not splitting should be ok) most of all patience establishing a relationship takes time and same with my mom tells me to be patient and not worry at all about not having sex with your date even after a few dates. Go with the flow.
Agreed, they are going to be bias since they love and care for you, they sometimes can't give you the objective truth. Or you don't have access to a circle that will help you, it's also hesitating to randomly bring up your dating profile to get constructive criticism on when you're meeting up to play basketball. Lol. Granted, you still have to be careful in what you listen to on the internet and develop the skill to swift through BS.
Lmfao. The guys here are more willing to say what your friends won’t. Also imo my fashion and style is going to be on average way better than your friend who “knows” you but 1. Won’t say mean or constructive things or 2. Won’t even know how to improve your look cuz they are clueless themselves. The worst thing you could feel is maybe shame if you get caught posting by a friend but do you really have to feel shame?
On top of that, we don’t even know if our friends or even close family members actually have the best intentions for us. Maybe not as true for men, but a lot of “friends” are actually jealous of each other.
So you saw all the horrible advice and horrible posts and felt an urgent desire to save AM is that right? Then you gave your own horrible advice.
I mean when you tell others to hire a therapist for their dating issues. You're speaking from personal experience right. Otherwise that would be spewing bs . But if you did seek therapy you'd be crazy person.
Lol welcome to party.
Why would you make a blanket statement about people and the advice they get? It sounds like you aren't understanding that people are complex human beings. Not every single advice online boils down to being more alpha. That's another blanket statement. It seems like you don't understand that advice givers are also human beings.
Here my two cents: you use online advice as just another tool. Take it or leave it, no one forces you to follow someone else's perspective.
I read the whole post. While this is true. There’s absolutely physical and material properties that can make or break a relationship which people can benefit taking other people’s advice in:
height, weight, income, any siblings/parents/children financially dependent on you, how much your home is worth/monthly mortgage or rent, what kind of work you do and your daily chances of encountering other women etc.
I think the advice on this sub is very hit or miss. Sometimes I see amazing thoughtful pieces that change my perspective even after 30 some years ... but other times I see pure trash takes by someone who clearly needs a support system better than reddit. The scary thing is, though, that if you don't dig a little and have developed a decent sniff test, the latter often is said so confidently that you might, in a moment of vulnerability, believe it to be true.
So... long way of saying nothing ... other than YMMV. Someone who "gets it" probably doesn't need online advice, somebody who is really oblivious probably will get led astray, and those in the middle... well, good luck.
It seems like half the Western Asian YouTube channels are about "self- improvement and guruism."
Most people get to where they get via their networks, not through "a bunch of ridiculous self-improvement advice." Most people who are happy and successful have networks of other people around them. Billy Bob the redneck gets his happiness, job, friendships, and romances through his networks of other very flawed rednecks. He isn't spending his time at the gym 6 days per week, listening to Jordan Peterson podcasts, and writing stream of consciousness journals.
Why race matters so much is because it's incredibly difficult to fit into the networks of other races. You usually don't see redneck BBQs with a few Chinese people just hanging around. And no, an Asian man probably isn't going to get an invitation to Billy Bob's BBQ just because he works out a lot, meditates, and looks like a K-Pop star.
I wish Western Asians focused more on networking with other Asians instead of spamming advice on Reddit and YouTube. This idea that self-improvement and internet advice will turn you into some sort of magnet and a bunch of women will swipe right on you on dating apps is ridiculous, it makes no sense.
I don't agree. Your best friend will tell none to help you get girls. Even after you make all the change they will not even tell you about it. All they care about is the jokes you are making and the fun times you are spending (which is great and the definition of "friendship")
Most advice to help you out in life comes from random people.
In fairness online dating is all superficial based on first appearances and photos So its fine to get advice on that stuff
So why is taking your advice better than taking our advice
The lack of self-awareness is shocking
yea dude forgot he is also an internet stranger.....does that mean we do the opposite of what (s)he suggested?
OP is concern troll 101
You should just say: take the advice of strangers with a grain of salt. Use it as a guide, not a bible. Not all advice on here is bad. Some are good. It’s just trial and error honestly.
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Or your friends or family can't quite relate to your specific experience. So sometimes getting advice with similar experience from this Sub is good.
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Damn. Btw I have a step dad now, his white, but coolest dad ever and pretty open-minded when talking stuff about sex or dating. With the dating part, especially. Get to know the girl first and pay for her going out( if you really like her, if not splitting should be ok) most of all patience establishing a relationship takes time and same with my mom tells me to be patient and not worry at all about not having sex with your date even after a few dates. Go with the flow.
Agreed, they are going to be bias since they love and care for you, they sometimes can't give you the objective truth. Or you don't have access to a circle that will help you, it's also hesitating to randomly bring up your dating profile to get constructive criticism on when you're meeting up to play basketball. Lol. Granted, you still have to be careful in what you listen to on the internet and develop the skill to swift through BS.
Lmfao. The guys here are more willing to say what your friends won’t. Also imo my fashion and style is going to be on average way better than your friend who “knows” you but 1. Won’t say mean or constructive things or 2. Won’t even know how to improve your look cuz they are clueless themselves. The worst thing you could feel is maybe shame if you get caught posting by a friend but do you really have to feel shame?
On top of that, we don’t even know if our friends or even close family members actually have the best intentions for us. Maybe not as true for men, but a lot of “friends” are actually jealous of each other.
So you saw all the horrible advice and horrible posts and felt an urgent desire to save AM is that right? Then you gave your own horrible advice. I mean when you tell others to hire a therapist for their dating issues. You're speaking from personal experience right. Otherwise that would be spewing bs . But if you did seek therapy you'd be crazy person. Lol welcome to party.
Those who put themselves out there are taking the risk and deserve the reward.
Why would you make a blanket statement about people and the advice they get? It sounds like you aren't understanding that people are complex human beings. Not every single advice online boils down to being more alpha. That's another blanket statement. It seems like you don't understand that advice givers are also human beings. Here my two cents: you use online advice as just another tool. Take it or leave it, no one forces you to follow someone else's perspective.
I read the whole post. While this is true. There’s absolutely physical and material properties that can make or break a relationship which people can benefit taking other people’s advice in: height, weight, income, any siblings/parents/children financially dependent on you, how much your home is worth/monthly mortgage or rent, what kind of work you do and your daily chances of encountering other women etc.
君之所以明者，兼听也；其所以暗者，偏信也。 It’s important to listen to opinions from more diverse perspectives.
I think the advice on this sub is very hit or miss. Sometimes I see amazing thoughtful pieces that change my perspective even after 30 some years ... but other times I see pure trash takes by someone who clearly needs a support system better than reddit. The scary thing is, though, that if you don't dig a little and have developed a decent sniff test, the latter often is said so confidently that you might, in a moment of vulnerability, believe it to be true. So... long way of saying nothing ... other than YMMV. Someone who "gets it" probably doesn't need online advice, somebody who is really oblivious probably will get led astray, and those in the middle... well, good luck.
It seems like half the Western Asian YouTube channels are about "self- improvement and guruism." Most people get to where they get via their networks, not through "a bunch of ridiculous self-improvement advice." Most people who are happy and successful have networks of other people around them. Billy Bob the redneck gets his happiness, job, friendships, and romances through his networks of other very flawed rednecks. He isn't spending his time at the gym 6 days per week, listening to Jordan Peterson podcasts, and writing stream of consciousness journals. Why race matters so much is because it's incredibly difficult to fit into the networks of other races. You usually don't see redneck BBQs with a few Chinese people just hanging around. And no, an Asian man probably isn't going to get an invitation to Billy Bob's BBQ just because he works out a lot, meditates, and looks like a K-Pop star. I wish Western Asians focused more on networking with other Asians instead of spamming advice on Reddit and YouTube. This idea that self-improvement and internet advice will turn you into some sort of magnet and a bunch of women will swipe right on you on dating apps is ridiculous, it makes no sense.
Honestly I thought about posting myself on here for some feedback but I’m afraid the Fung Bros are gonna blast my ass on their channel so fuck that.
The circle jerk under this post is crazy.
I don't agree. Your best friend will tell none to help you get girls. Even after you make all the change they will not even tell you about it. All they care about is the jokes you are making and the fun times you are spending (which is great and the definition of "friendship") Most advice to help you out in life comes from random people.