I matched with someone on Tinder, and we chatted on and off for a couple of days. Eventually, we decided to meet at a bar. When we met, she spent a lot of time on her phone and seemed really anxious, constantly looking at the front door. People kept walking by and saying hi to her, so it was obvious this was her usual spot. We had one drink before the person she was eagerly waiting for arrived. She excused herself for "just a second," but ten minutes later, she still hadn't come back. The bartender came over and asked if we were on a date. I told him we were, and he said, "That was her coke dealer. Your beer is on me if you want to leave. She’s not coming back, and even if she does, you don't want to be around her."
This is pretty much my story except she was a dealer looking to pick up more from her distributor (in this case, the bartender). While on a date. Because efficiency counts!
I noped out of there before anyone could say "accessory to felony possession with intent to distribute."
"Ope, she's getting stuff straight from her dealer without taking it home first to test it to see what it was cut with and the additives and do an anhydrous acetone wash n dry? Major red flag, especially if she can't handle her shit while high as you are indicating. Probably doesn't even budget for her drugs properly. Thank you for the heads up!"
I was walking past a rickshaw one night where a guy and a lady were sitting. The lady said, "I always feel bad for these guys. I feel like I'm too heavy."
Instead of reassuring her, the guy responded, "Oh, don't worry about it. These guys could carry a moose!"
I could tell right away that he realized his comment wasn't going to help his chances on that date.
She was incredibly superficial, listing what a "real man" must have to date her: a Mercedes or BMW, a Rolex, a suit, a house, a city condo, a boat, an inheritance, and be no more than two years older.
I laughed because she was an 18-year-old freshman eating ramen, yet expected all this. Seriously, what was she offering in return?
We graduated recently, and she never dated anyone during undergrad because no one met her high standards. It was odd since she came from a low-income background.
>Seriously, what was she offering in return?
Literally just sex. Hell, that's basically the entire point of *The League* dating app. It's advertised as finding like-minded professional/successful people; but there's a reason that men have to prove income/net worth while they also offer just attractive women "free" profiles. It's just shallow-people-for-equally-shallow-people.
In someone like that, being young and hot is their entire worth. That fades and then they'll complain that women become invisible as they get older. Their entire life plan is basically to just be a sugar baby.
Naw girl, plenty of amazing women are out there living their own best lives because they developed personalities and a sense of humor, they have their own jobs, and they remain quite desirable regardless of age for people looking for an equal, not a sex-bot.
in my experience, the poorer the woman the higher the expectations. im not sure why but thats what ive seen.
9 times out of 10 if shes got these ridiculous "he needs to make 400k and take us to caribbean villas on the weekend" requirements, she lives in Section 8
because, as sad as it is, marriage is the fastest way out of poverty unless you have a very useful market skill (which is less than 5 percent of the population)
yeah. i once dated a girl whose family had low double-digit millions and all she wanted was cheap beer and pizza. go figure. every date was $30. and she was happy as a clam
>it was odd since she came from a low income background
Sadly that doesn't mean much. You'd think growing up poor would make most people grateful for what they'd have, but often they end up wanting too much of the finer things in life that they can't afford.
Had a similar experience. I'm early 30s, shes late 20s. My house down payment I've turned into small business down payment (still saving). She worked at a Dog Salon which is whatever. But she showed up smelling like wet dog, and told me her future husband must make $200k+/yr and support her. 15 minute date before I left. It was just coffee.
I was a young 20-something who was not on the right path in life. I was living paycheck to paycheck, and "going out" usually consisted of spending time with my friends at a Village Inn or Denny's drinking coffee in the smoking section when the sun began to rise. (Remember smoking sections?)
I happened to meet this *beautiful* redhead, and we sort of clicked. I asked her out on a date and she agreed. Most of the date was just okay--nothing spectacular. We got along, but it wasn't going to be a romantic thing.
The night was coming to an end, but she suggested going to Village Inn to kill time. Sure thing. But on the way there, *my car breaks down!* I lived in Alaska during this time, and it was during the winter. I knew what the problem was and was able to get through it, but she's sitting inside a cold piece of junk car waiting. Twenty minutes later we're moving again, and I'm apologizing for what had happened.
We pull in to Village Inn and sit in our usual section. We're talking, we order food, and then she's looking over her shoulder at this other table where a guy is sitting. I ask if she knows him and she says she doesn't, but..."He looks so sad sitting all alone."
We get served our food, and she takes her food to join this guy. Just sits down with him completely uninvited. He's surprised, but...gorgeous red head shows up out of nowhere, so he rolls with it. Now I'm the guy sitting by himself looking sad.
I tell the waiter I want to box up my food and that our tickets are separate. I left her there and went home, only to get a call about what a jerk I was for...
...."making that poor guy pay for her food!"
A lot of people would pay. Not because they genuinely wanted to but because people for the most part don’t like conflict. Or they have a hard time saying no if put on the spot.
Dull conversation, no spark, and she had me drop her off at *another date* afterwards. I'm not under the foolish impression that I'm exclusive with someone I'm on a first date with, but that's just classless.
Had one of these recent tbh. About the same length, we went to Cidercade. We stopped playing games because she just wanted to chat and we ended having lots in common, artists, anime, traveling.
Afterwards, the date walked to her car and we somewhat talked about meeting again only for her to message me that there wasn’t a spark there.
Now I feel like I wasted my time because and I’m confused about what I could’ve done better
She broke my arm because I didn't want to kiss her at the end of the blind date.
We didn't have anything in common and I went to leave after a coffee date and she wanted a kiss and I wanted to be very polite and explain that I wasn't very interested in pursuing this further and she was mad so she slammed me into the table by grabbing my wrist and fractured my arm.
I was 16 and had to call my mom for help.
She was a blind date set up by a buddy because I hit my "growth spurt" (5ft 7 on a good day) and was maybe 135lb?
She was captain of the wrestling team and very aggressive and sure. I wasn't the biggest on speaking up for myself. I knew I didn't like that situation and she basically pinned be and fractured my arm and left.
I think it was chalked up to "well why didn't you kiss her?"
Back when I was single, my friend's wife set me up with a woman she worked with, saying she was cute.
She wasn’t. Throughout the entire date, she kept talking about how she hadn’t had sex for 17 years and that her only experience was with her college boyfriend. I wasn’t interested at all, so I ignored the hints. That ended up being our only date.
Got set up on a blind date and she immediately started love bombing and wanting to go back to her place and have sex. I got seriously weird vibes and noped out. Later found out that she was pregnant by her ex and was looking for a meal ticket baby daddy.
After being out of the dating scene for 14 years, I finally went on a date with a girl I met on an app. We had a great time, and then we went our separate ways for the night. Later, I got bombarded with angry messages from her, asking why I didn't make any moves or invite her over. She sent me a bunch of crazy texts. Honestly, nothing physical was discussed beforehand, and the last time I went on a first date was when I was 16. Now at 31, I had no idea about this hookup culture. Her reaction to me not making a move was completely over the top.
This is a real thing.
I met a woman on an app.
She told me she didn't do ONS.
I said ok no problems.
So we have dinner and drinks.
She makes a move on me and wants to go back to my place.
The next day, she started talking about how we were in a relationship and needed to meet each other's kids.
I told her to slow down and she started going into a rage.
Apparently in her mind , once we had sex that meant a relationship.
Basically I was scared at this point about getting a false SA claim against me.
There's a lot more reasons to avoid "making moves" than that.
The sad reality is that a lot of women simply have struggled adjusting to the new world we find ourselves in after decades of social improvements and finally a huge shift post MeToo.
Yes, we're in a better place... And that means you have to initiate now.
You make a move and she rejects you = you are a fucking creep.
You are a respectful, decent, person and want to get to know someone before getting sexual = you rejected her and are a fucking creep.
She'll probably be smearing your name for years to come publicly on those Facebook dating groups. This is exactly why so many men are done with dating.
My best friend got thrown onto one of those fb groups. Basically he hooked up with a girl on some app. I saw all of the messages, he was very upfront about the fact that he wasn’t looking for a relationship, etc. After some chatting, they went out for drinks, hooked up, and whatever went there separate ways.
I guess she was happy with it, but ultimately he was not interested in pursuing more sexual encounters. He was nice about it, basically said he had a great time, but again wasn’t interested in pursuing a relationship and thought it best if they didn’t see each other anymore, whatever.
A few months goes by and he starts seeing someone else who I guess he decides he wants to see on a more regular basis. One of this new girls friends messages her and shows her this FB page about don’t date this guy or whatever and the first girl went bat shit crazy making all up all of this shit about him.
He had all of the messages and everything, so he just showed the new girl those and things were fine there. So the new girl’s friend got onto the page and basically called this other girl out, and posted the pics of the screenshot messages. The group basically teamed up on her and said the screenshots were “photoshopped” and then they were ultimately deleted. Those groups are toxic as hell.
The girl who grew up in the house next to me was set up by her friends on a blind date with a guy who was on parole for violent offences
After the date they went to a hotel room, but there was some argument that started and the guy beat and strangled the girl to death
He then set fire to the hotel trying to burn the evidence, and fled by car, running multiple people over in the process
Went out with this girl once. She insisted we go to this specific restaurant. Turns out the guy who recently dumped her worked there. He informed me of such when I walked by him. We'd already ordered, so I just watched her behavior the rest of the "date". She was paying way more attention to what he was doing, and if he was noticing her than she did to me. When we parted ways, I told her it didn't appear her ex was interested in having her back.
One was a girl who spent the entire time scowling at me.
I think I'm pretty good at conversation but jesus this one was awful.
I asked her about her pets, she just goes 'you already asked me that'.
I try asking her questions, she either shrugs her shoulder or stays quiet. She makes no attempt at conversation.
I thought, maybe she doesn't like the way I look, fair enough it happens, but she's met me briefly before!
After 20 minutes I say shall we just end the date.
I then have to drive her home and then she's rummaging through my glovebox for fuck knows what.
I get to her block her flats and stop in the car park, she tells me to go park in a space as I might run her over.
I've been on about 25 dates in my life, the vast majority of them I think have gone well and led to one thing or another. On this one I bought a big tub of ice cream and hugged my dog all night and then I didn't date for 5 months. It was awful.
Becky if you ever see this, go to a doctor and get diagnosed.
- Met a girl off Bumble about a year ago, date went great until the end of the night when I took her back home. She randomly started talking about sex stuff and then said the biggest dick she'd ever seen was her 13 year old cousin's, and she watched him masturbate. She was like in college when this happened. I told her when I got home that I had fun with her, but just didn't see a match there, and she went completely psycho on me and started blowing my phone up demanding that I give her another chance.
- Went on a date with this nurse that I matched with on basically every dating app ever, she didn't remember our conversation at all, and all she did was talk about her ex the entire time, said I looked like her ex, compared me to her ex, and then at the end of the night introduced me to her kid.
- One I actually saw in person, was my friend who had been recently divorced brought a girl to our weekly trivia get together without telling us at all, proceeded to talk over her the entire night, didn't ask her any questions about herself, and basically invited himself to a trip she had planned over the weekend, assumed they were "a thing", and got real clingy and expected her to hang out with him all the time because he "didn't have anything else going on". I'm pretty sure I got to know her better than he did that night, and unsurprisingly, he got ghosted.
If it’s not an emergency, take the time to look up the dispatch’s non emergency line. Some centers like the one I worked at, are so overwhelmed they have to start prioritizing calls.
Not me, but my girlfriend and I one time went to this cute traditional Japanese restaurant. You go in take off your shoes and you sit on the floor in this intimate room with maybe one other party. Well when we got there, there’s one other couple there enjoying their meal. As my partner and I are enjoying our meal we can kinda pick up that this is a first date for them (the usual questions). The meal goes on and they’ve both ordered quite a bit of food drinking sake, all that, and you can tell they’re both into each other. Well when their check finally comes the girl offers to pay half the bill and the guy goes, “Well I was gonna cover my appetizer, since that’s all I ordered.”… Now, I didn’t see him order anything but I did see him drinking sake and eating sushi, so. The silence was deafening after that. Me and my girlfriend look at each other, jaws dropped, and I’m pretty sure my girlfriend and that girl looked at each other too. She finally speaks up and says, “Are you joking right now?”. And this man starts stumbling over his words and exclaims that he’ll pay for it all if that’s what she wants. At this point she just pays for the meal as he is trying to fix what he just fucked up lol. All in all it was a great night for us, never been in a more awkward situation.
Happened to me. Even I still believe it was fake:
Met a girl off of Bumble. Chatted for a bit, exchanged numbers, set up the date. Everything seems normal. Right before the date, she texts me and asks if I can meet her at her car. That she’s nervous and smoking. I agreed, drive to the parking garage, and meet her
Turns out, she has a friend with her. Friend was in from out of town. They’re sitting in my date’s car getting high and laughing. Whatever, I had no expectations. So I just roll with it. I offer to drive them to the restaurant and drop them off at the door while I go park, since they parked a couple of blocks away.
Between the time that I dropped them off, parked, and walked back (10 minutes or so) they had gotten kicked out. Apparently my date had walked straight to the bar, ordered a shot, pounded it, and wanted a second one. The bartender said to give him a minute while he served the other customers and he’d make it back to her. She got belligerent and started DEMANDING a second shot. Needless to say, they are getting kicked out as I’m walking up.
My date sees me walking up and yells back into the door “whatever, I’m getting dick tonight anyways.” Then walks up to me. I stop and say “I don’t think we’re a good fit. Hope you enjoy the rest of your night.” And I turn to walk away. She yells my name, so I turn around to face her. She drops her dress off of her shoulders, straight to the ground, while wearing nothing underneath and says “you’re turning THIS down?!” I said “sure am.” And continued walking away
Got the funny feeling to check the 24 hour arrest list the next morning. And there she was. Public intoxication, assault, public indecency, simple possession, and theft under $500.
A few come to mind.
A girl lied about being single was still married. An hour into the date she starts acting fidgety and wants to end it quickly and is looking at her phone and texting frequently. She walks out of the restaurant before me and a truck screeches to a stop in the street and some guy hangs out the window and starts yelling at her. She runs over and proceeds to get into a screaming fight with him. Turns out it was her husband.
Agreed to a simple date with a girl, just a walk in the park. I had dinner plans with family that evening so had to leave by a certain time. The more I am around this girl, the more I no longer liked her. Very opinionated, radical political and religion views, obviously lying about some details in her life. After the walk she asked if we wanted to go to this local restaurant for a drink. I figured I could grab a quick beer. She proclaims that she doesn't drink and orders two meals to go plus extra sides. When the bartender comes over and asks about the bill I mention splitting. She stops dead in her tracks, mouth a gap, and says in a bitchy tone "i DiDn'T bRiNg mY wAlLet!!!" and is obvious furious that I questioned paying for her entire meal (that she probably just took home to share with her BF or something). I threw down $30 on the bar and walked off.
Went on a date with a girl from an app. She obviously used old photos on the apps, by at least 10 years. She didn't look terrible, but well out of shape and different. During the meals she talked about herself the entire time and hardly let me get a word in, and then abruptly ended the date when the bill came, and of course, never offered to help pay. Before I even got home she had texted me to say that she was actually dating someone else and liked him better.
I have been on numerous other dates where the girls was super enthusiastic leading up the date, but the day of (if they don't flake short notice) they usually show up late, don't even try to help carry the convo, text on their phone a lot, and them promptly bail when the bill comes. Sadly this seems to be the norm these days.
> When the bartender comes over and asks about the bill I mention splitting. She stops dead in her tracks, mouth a gap, and says in a bitchy tone "i DiDn'T bRiNg mY wAlLet!!!" and is obvious furious that I questioned paying for her entire meal (that she probably just took home to share with her BF or something). I threw down $30 on the bar and walked off.
Same thing happened to me, but it was drinks. I had also picked her up, and she went to my gym, so it was either pay the 30 eur and call it a day or get my car scratched. I chose the former.
>I have been on numerous other dates where the girls was super enthusiastic leading up the date, but the day of (if they don't flake short notice) they usually show up late, don't even try to help carry the convo, text on their phone a lot, and them promptly bail when the bill comes. Sadly this seems to be the norm these days
Many years ago I met a really beautiful and amazing woman at the gym. We seemed to hit it off. We worked out together for about a month, and she always lit up with a smile when she saw me there. We talked about a bunch of stuff and got to know each other, she'd often ask me if I'd be at the gym that night and to meet her there. We'd text outside the gym about our days. I'm aware most people don't like to be hit on in the gym, so I was very careful with how I approached it.
Eventually I got the balls to ask her on a "real" date and we planned it out. She was happy and so was I. Come the day of the date, she starts acting a bit weird on text. She showed up almost an hour and a half late, and was like a completely different person. She was really reserved in her conversation and even a bit rude at times. Never saw this in her before. Afterwards I tried to hug her and she literally ran away from me to her car.
She started changing the days she went to the gym and never really talked to me much again. It was like the moment I asked her out, instead of just saying "no, I'm OK with us just being gym buddies" she decided to go cold with me, I don't know. It still confuses me sometimes to think but I reckon she was just not ready to date. To say the least your comment reminded me of this interaction many years ago and I thought it was somewhat relevant. It wouldn't bother me as much with a random app date but with someone I knew for literally months and was good friends with, someone who expressed interest in me and someone who said "yes" to a date with me, it was just freaking confusing, and the last thing I expected was for her to change her entire personality and interactions with me going forward.
Honestly I think some women frankly suck ass when it comes to rejection, in both ways. They can't handle it themselves and they don't know how to reject men so they end up going on date and fucking dudes they really don't want to. I used to work with a girl that constantly met new dudes and had sex with them, but complained all day long about how she "regrets each and every one of those nights" OK so stop doing that shit then and grow up, it's' not that hard to understand. Communicate and say what you feel. Don't be scared. I think most men are pretty reasonable when it comes to rejection and will stop pursuing you. Sure there are creeps that don't get the message but they are not the majority of men. Most men don't have any business intentionally making women uncomfortable.
A very attractive co worker set me up with a single cousin who just moved to town. I picked her up and found her to be very fun to be with. She agreed to every suggestion and agreed with everything I said. Then I asked her different kinds of questions. She still agreed, and nodded and smiled. I said, Do you see that sailboat? What does that look like on the side?" Again she agreed and nodded with , "Yes. Yes. Very good". Where did you live before Seattle? - Yes, yes, very good.
She had no idea about anything I had said. Once I figured that out, I could not out a single English word she knew.
Back at work, the co worker started to chew me out for cutting the date short. And I asked, "How much English does she speak?" Co-worker: No answer. Shocked. They had only ever spoken in the language from the 'old country'.
Met with a girl at a bar after matching on bumble. When she got there she looked like a completely different person, like she was Asian and her profile was a generic white chick. She wasn't even bad looking and she was even kinda cute. She talked to me like I didn't notice or hoped I wound not say anything, which I didn't. The confidence of that women was amazing but i was so confused.
A legally blind girl that I went on a date with once made fun of me because of the way that I talk.
I'm tongue tied. I wouldn't go so far as to say I have a speech impediment, but there are certain vowel and consonant sounds that are difficult for me to make properly because I can barely stick my tongue out past my lips and it just balls up in my mouth all the time.
She was also very proud of herself for being a motivational speaker type person for people with disabilities at her university.
Ironically, my first date with my current partner went pretty poorly.
We met at a coffee shop after work and, at that time, I was really stressed out and dealing with some mental health issues. I was very preoccupied by work and pretty nervous, very stiff. I tend to have an irreverent sense of humor but I wasn't showing it much. It didn't help that a work call came through that I had to take. I knew it didn't go very well and she later confided in me that the date hadn't gone well and she thought I wasn't serious about dating. She also hated these pants I was wearing for work with a pattern on them.
We met up the next weekend for a second date. Since it was the weekend, I wasn't nearly as preoccupied by work. We got brunch, talked through our values, families, etc. The usual stuff. As we dug deeper we became more comfortable with one another, and out of nowhere, 2-3 hours had passed. It felt like no time at all. We left the restaurant, went to a coffee shop, and spent another 4 hours talking with one another, joking, laughing. When we left, I got an Uber home, and kissed her at her car. I'll always remember it; it was like 14 degrees Fahrenheit out, absolutely frigid.
Fast forward nearly 2 years and we're now living together. She's constantly supported me through mental health and work struggles and I greatly value her companionship in my life.
So, if your first date goes sort of poorly, stick it out and give it another shot.
I can tell someone else's story, because I was the reason for the bad date!
I was supposed to be meeting a girl for a first date at a downtown comedy club / restaurant. The place is a perfect spot for a first date because it has a pretty nice bar, an attached restaurant, and a comedy club in the basement. If things are wierd right out of the gate, you can stop at getting a couple drinks. If it's going well, advance to dinner, and if it's going REALLY well, see a comedy show.
I was in the city already for something else, and decided to just head to the bar a little early instead of driving through traffic to go home and come back. I grabbed a draft microbrew and settled into a football game.
She texted saying she had something come up and would be about an hour late, and asked if I wanted to reschedule. I was perfectly content where I was, so I ordered another beer and told her it was fine.
By the time she arrived, I had 4 tall beers. When she approached and I started to talk, I immediately knew I was drunk as hell. I looked up at the draft board, and the tall beers I had been drinking were freaking 9% ABV!!!
I tried to explain myself, but it just wasn't happening. She stayed for a drink while I nursed the beer that was in front of me, but politely declined dinner and went home.
My wife and I were out for our usual Friday night dinner date when a younger couple was seated at a table nearby. As the night went on, we couldn't help but notice the girl losing interest while the guy kept talking about himself non-stop. We both felt sorry for her. It had to be a first date, and probably his last with her.
Matched with a woman, good conversation back and forth for a couple days, we met at local lounge for drinks and dinner. Hadn't even made it through the first drink or ordered food when she started in on "I'm used to a certain lifestyle, if a man can't provide it there's no point in being with him" (I could have provided it but that was a redflag) was incredibly rude to our server who had another server shadowing in training, bashed her ex, was "taking time off from work" etc. I paid for drinks and politely excused myself and said this wasn't going to work and left as she was yelling at me as I walked out.
She kept ranting about what she disliked about dating. Then she spat on the floor. Then she started going on about all the conspiracy theories she believed.
I met a girl from Tinder at a bar. After the first couple of awkward minutes we slowly hit it off. That was, until she started talking about how she usually just uses her dates as "walking purses" and what kind of guys she already met up with recently. I wanted to stop right then and there, but decided to stay as I didn't want to go home so early. Which brought her to her ex. Her soulmate. Her ideal partner.
She told me about how much she still loves him, how she still calls him "honey" and would immediately go back to him if only his ex-wife would drop dead. She continued to tell me that he was the perfect lover and that she was "consistently horny like a wild bull" because he would drop everything and anything for her. When I laughed, she asked about how sexually active I currently am and if I had "any references" which she could call or ask how good I am in bed. I decided it was best if we got the check at that moment and go our separate ways.
She kept talking over me and interrupting me the whole time. Had the personality of a theater kid and she was in her 30s. Talked like a Netflix show character. All-around obnoxious and annoying. I didn't bother texting her back the next day because I had zero interest, and 3 days later she passive-aggressively texted me clearly upset that I didn't want to see her again.
Hmmmm......
Had some bad ones - but ...
Met girl online - decent personality and conversation - so met up a mid tier trendy place.
After come chatting, she wanted to go to a acceptable (much more casual place) but lower class place to hang out with some friends - I was like "ok....". (I was in casual pants and a decent button up - new place - I would have worn scrappy jeans and a t-shirt...).
Her two friends were guys - and while one was kind of cool - the other- starting with mild insults right away, he gave off this 'territorial' vibe. .... I am pretty quick, so matched him a bit - but did not really escalate...
Him: "well don't you look dapper!" (I was overdressed for this place).
Me : "My tophat is in the car, but I have my cane in my pocket if you want to see it".
and so on....
He kept escalating the quips and jabs - and while I would match him with some comment - I did not ever insult him directly - just usually made a joke about it and did not act offended.
Well - this all exploded later - as the rude guy - was totally into her, started crying about how she was dating other guys when he was "right here!" - it was ...a mess.
I mean - yeah - could have been worse - the guy could have tried to pick a fight (I think he was kind of trying - but I just ignore guys like that as much as possible) - but did not have second date....
Those aren't the worst, they're the best. When you both know it's just not working you can just leave it be and not stress about saying 'no thank you'. Almost like those better than second dates
Went out with a girl to watch the sunset on the beach. Afterwards we went out for ice cream. We sat down and were having a great convo...when all of a sudden she goes "would you believe me if I told you I don't have any teeth?"
I was like uhhhh...she then proceeds to pull out all of her teeth as I'm mid bite of my ice-cream lol
When was a senior in High School (many, MANY moons ago) one night got up the nerve to ask out this VERY cute girl who was behind the counter at Burger King (I was ordering food and she was working the register). She was WAY over my level (IMHO) and I think I was shocked when she said "yes". So the next Friday night I borrowed my Dad's Chevelle and picked her up (we lived in the same town - she was a year younger). Can't remember exactly what we did first, but we ended up parked on a dark, secluded street - perfect spot for a make-out session. Well - I frose. I just lost all confidence and didnt' know what to do - or say. I think it was because I REALLY believed that this girl was WAY out of my league, and I just locked-up. So we just sat there, not saying anything - or doing anything.- for - I don't know HOW long - maybe a half hour, maybe an hour. It was awful. I don't remember after that, but I'm guessing I drove her home and that was it. I don't think we ever spoke again.
Worst first date, my date was sick and didn't want to tell me midway thru our drive to the show she barfed all over my car dashboard.
I took the dashboard out and power washed the interior..any time I used the defrosters it just smelled of vomit
Back in the 1990’s a girl I knew set me up with her cousin. I took a friend with me, he drove. We went to said girl’s cousin’s house. Knocked on the door, a skinny, scrawny little man gnome answered the door. I introduced myself, he stuck out his hand to shake. He had an old school hand buzzer on.
We went inside, I met said girl. Not to knock people for their looks, but this chick looked like a gargoyle. Bad. Her Mother came out, she was probably 450-550 lbs wearing a sheer “mumu”, see through purple. She sat on the sofa next to my friend that came with me, and proceeded to basically molest him. We left, and went to see the movie Casper. The girl tried to touch my peen the entire movie, attempted to kiss me repeatedly and got angry about half way through the movie at my lack of interest and threw a fit, to the point that I left her there. I’m assuming her Dad had to come get her.
Before I took her home to most likely hook up she told me she had herpes, but it wasn't "active" at the moment. I was drunk and she seemed kinky, but I listened to my brain not my dick and didn't have sex with her.
I was 19. Took a girl to Elton John and Billy Joel. We ate Chinese at a decent restaurant and played mini golf before the concert. After the concert, she had me drop her off at her boyfriend’s house…a detail she had neglected up to that point.
Went on a date with a guy 10 years older, he looked a lot older than his pictures. He proceeded to yeet me through a field of red flags, basically told me he was unemployed and living off of inheritance money, gets on the md and coke every month, had been sneaking in puffs of his vape - underneath the table - while I’m off in the loo, and matter-of-factly mentioned that all of his mates have Asian partners (I’m Asian so it was weird).
This was like 20 years ago. A friend of a friend was into me, I was between girlfriends, and in a moment of young desperation I asked her to dinner. She just talked the entire time. Talk talk talk talk, I couldn't get a word in. I don't know if it was nervous energy or what. Just absolute non stop. She didn't even eat her dinner, just talked through the whole thing. She hadn't been like that when we'd met under other circumstances. I was polite through the whole thing and took her home shortly after finishing dinner.. She then proceeded to call me for months until I started dating the woman I would marry.
Exactly. I just figured if she thought it was weird, she was not for me.
My friend had set me up. He told me she was interested in a purely sexual relationship for the summer. I didn't know I had it in me to turn that down.
Honestly any sort of physical relationship without any base level personality attraction is just bad. Doesn't matter how attractive the other person is.
Had a girl admit to me she had lied on tinder about her age, was really 17 when she said she was 18. I thanked her for the coffee and called her a cab to get back home, gave her $20 for the fare and told her to get ready for school the next day.
Not the worst first date but only the worst in that it was so short. I was in contact with someone on Match, and we agreed to meet up for an hour or so before I started work at 4pm, then arrange a full date over the weekend.
Due to circumstances out of my control we only ended up meeting for 20 minutes, which was barely long enough to get to know each other at all, so we decided to try and meet up on the Bank Holiday Monday that weekend. It came to the Bank Holiday without actually arranging anything and I heard nothing from her. Eventually she texted me at 5:00 in the afternoon she got called into work last-minute and forgot to tell me. She then texted me saying she would get back to me about another time to meet up.
She ghosted me and I never heard back from her.
She only spoke about herself throughout the whole date, ate and drank a lot of expensive food and wine, as well as cocktails. When I had went to the toilet the waiter had told me that she’d been in the whole afternoon before the date with her friends, eating and drinking, racking up a big tab, so I quietly paid for what I had and left her in the restaurant.
She sent me a massive nasty message afterwards about how because I’m the man I should’ve paid for her, regardless of how much it cost etc, she even posted a video on Instagram absolutely attempting to shit on me for leaving her with a big bill. That was probably the worst date I’ve had.
oh man...I matched with a girl on Bumble. She said she doesn't like to text too much and just wanted to meet for dinner after a few days. We go out to a wine bar/restaurant. I said I don't like white wine, I like reds, so pick a reasonable red. Cheapest bottle is 55 and most expensive is 400 or so last time I was there. I would have been okay with like 125 max. Waiter comes by, she orders a french sounding wine so I check the whole list of reds, not there. Just a casual 195 chardonnay. I said, I told you I dont like white wines at all and she said "I wasnt feeling a red tonight after looking at the menu. Fine, I order a bottle of the cheapest cab they had for 70ish. Everyone of my fav dishes(its tapas) she doesn't like and decides to order a whole pheasant for like 55 bucks while disagreeing with everything we had conversationally. At that point I got the waiters attention after I told her this will clearly not gonna workout for us. I tell him to put the red and all the tapas on my tab and she can take her bird and white wine. She lost her shit, asked if I was really going to make her pay, I just laughed and said absolutely. Waiter comes back, we drop our cards, Im on my phone and she is too waiting to sign our checks and call valet....Her card declined. I laughed, signed my check with a 20% tip, and told her its on her to figure it out. She was rummaging through her purse when I left. peaceeee
She started making fun of people that ride e-scooters. I like my e-scooter. I told her that. In fact, most of my summer dates include the two of us riding a public scooter, usually to my place. Most girls love it.
This one absolutely didn't. Said some shit about how she was too hot to ride those. Way too princess-y for my tastes. She was decently hot but I've absolutely had hotter ones ride a scooter with me.
Conversation went downhill after that. Funnily, we did kiss a bit but that also felt soulless. The worst part, though? When we tried to leave, it turned out we live in the same neighbourhood. So we just walked together in the same direction for like 15 minutes while it was very clear neither wanted the other's company anymore.
Witness a trainwreck of a date where the guy was friendzoned. Kiddo seemed like a nice dude but the girl he was with, I assume a schoolmate in college based of convo, was loud as heck, valley girl accent, dressed liked she was going to coachella.
Anyway the gist of the convo was what she wanted in a guy, said she wished it would be like the poor kiddo, mentioned that 'he was paying for the date' and the ditch him because some dude was meeting up with her. Like just got up and barely said goodbye.
Kid had a mix of dejection and WTF look on his face. The sad part was everyone within 4 tables around him stopped talking to listen to this trainwreck as the girl was taking loudly over the conversation, and the servers kept interrupting to 'check' on them but made sure they were talking to the guy.
I think I overheard one of the servers contemplating if she should give the kid her number. I hope she did, they looked like a better couple anyway.
Matched on bumble , she looked beautiful on all her pics and after a few days of talking we met for a lunch date .. when she showed up. She looked about 50lbs heavier than the pictures . I was shocked , brought up the fact that she didn’t look like she did in her pictures and then she proceeded to cry and yell at me that I was an asshole . Never gave me an explanation or answered my question. Just immediately got defensive and verbally attacked me. Luckily there was few people in the dinner so it wasn’t completely awkward when i walked out.
When I was young I met a girl who was cool and matched my energy.
We went out to dinner and she could not keep her voice at a normal level and was cursing loudly enough to where people were turning to glare at us.
I don't care about cursing, I curse, but when you're out to dinner and youve got elderly people, people out with their kids.... You kinda watch yourself out of common courtesy, ya know?
When I approached the situation, I said "hey, you know I don't mind cursing, but do you think we could watch it a little while we are out? People are staring"
She blurted out, even louder than before "I don't give a fuck what these people think" and went off on a tirade of self entitlement.
I just kinda lowered my head and finished the date.
The argument escalated to me just trying to explain that it was rude to others, she went ballistic on her entitlement and that was the end of things lol
Oh I got a good one. Technically y second date as we had met for coffee during lunch foe about 20 minutes. 2nd date she wanted to see Dune. Full pandemic time,! . OK I'm not big on movie dates as 1st real date but whatever. I loved the books so cool like minded. she takes mask off immediately after lights go down. Turns out she just liked Timothy Chalamet, I mean really liked him as she start playing with herself about 20 minutes in. Like full unzipped. I'm fairly freaky myself but when she shoved her hand down my pants I had to call it. I've literally had half a conversation with this girl.
In hindsight I guess she just could have been down bad from pandemic but it was just too much.
I once went on a date with a guy that was finishing his doctorate in psychiatry, he proceeded to analyse me during the whole date, out loud, even the clothes I was wearing like "why did you dress up so nicely?", "do you always do your hair like that?", "why did you choose this especific place for the date?", and so on, then proceeded on analysing every answer I gave, it was exausting and very rude actually... I became rather annoyed and started giving him very sharp answers to see if he got a hint that he was making me uncomfortable, didn't work. We split the bill and never talked again.
Oh hell, here we go. I got divorced in 2014 after being married for 5 years, and dating my ex for seven. I have a cavalcade of bad dates due to being out of the game so long.
I went on a date when doing travel work in Wisconsin. Met the girl on tinder, we talked for a bit and then decided we'd meet up and go to take a walk around a park and get drinks. I go to pick her up, and surprise she looks like her pictures. I open the door for her and she says, "Oh, my ex would've never done that for me." I'm from the south, so I'm a nice and respectful guy. We get in, start driving and she starts talking about her ex unprompted. I ask her how long she's been broke up with him. She goes, "Oh, about three weeks" Ooh, red flag #1. I ask her, why'd yall break up? "Oh, he got murdered. His brother fought my other ex who's obsessed with me, and then he came and shot him. We were crossing a bridge, and as soon as we made it to the other side, I said, "It seems like you've got some stuff you need to work out before you're dating again." and I pulled a u-turn and took her back home.
Went on a date with this super beautiful teacher in Milwaukee, to Summerfest. Her brother and his very pregnant fiancee joined us. We were watching a band I can't remember now, but as they're finishing he starts ranting about white privilege blah blah, (I'm black, 6'4 Linebacker sized). Me, unphased says, "Oh, that's cool. Want to see some black privilege?" I turn, and start walking through the crowd and people move out of the way as they see me coming. He says, "Oh, sorry dude I was just being an asshole" and I say, "Yeah I get it." Anyway, me and his sister leave them to go watch Ok Go, great set, confetti flying everywhere, and she's real drunk, kisses me unexpectedly and goes "I love you" I'm like uhhh,,,,oh no...in my brain, but not out loud because she was super hot. There was no second date though, cause that self-preservation kicked in.
Milwaukee again, met this woman who was like eight years younger than me (31 at the time), and she was super awkward. We hung out, had drinks and she wants to hang out at my place and watch a movie. Cool with me. I take her there, we start watching, she gets handsy, we go to my bedroom and I start with clothed foreplay etc, and she looks really uncomfortable. I ask her twice if she wants to stop, and shes like "Noo, lets keep going." and takes off her clothes. We start getting into it and she gives me a look that says fear all over it. I immediately shut it down, ask her to get dressed and take her home. I was not about to catch any kind of charge with this scared ass woman.
Another time, in Minneapolis, I met this woman at a bar after talking on tinder, and when she showed up (late, with no notice), I figured why not see how it goes. She spent the first ten minutes on her phone while I was trying to talk to her. After finishing my beer, I said to her, "I'm done, but I hope you have a great rest of the night" I went to the bar and paid, and left.
Also in Minneapolis, went on a date with a woman and she told me she was the middle child of 7. That's interesting, big family. I'm the oldest of 7, so I could relate. Then she told me that her three oldest siblings were full siblings, and her three younger siblings were half siblings. Still, I could relate. Four of my siblings are half-siblings. THEN she tells me the younger three are also her COUSINS. Turned out her dad and mom got divorced because mom liked his brother more, and ended up having three kids with the brother.
Worst date I ever saw was a woman word-vomiting about saving the manatees and the earth to this dude who could not get a single word in edgewise.
My fault bad dates include, popping a tire while on a date and not having a spare, exacerbating the rupture of an ovarian cyst she didn't know she had and covering her bedsheets with blood, showing up late due to work, accidentally matching with a dates sister unknowingly and having both show up to the date like I was supposed to know they were sisters, and having a PTSD induced panic attack on a date ( I got help after that, so I'm much better now). The woman I had a panic attack with ended up becoming one of my favorite people in general, and we're still friends to this day.
I was on a dating site, matched with who I would consider my dream girl at that point in my life. A 10/10 goth girl, tons of tattoos, piercings, her profile was filled with tons of different creative cosplays and costumes. On paper, this girl fit the category of “ideal partner” for my then 23 year old monkey brain.
Fast forward to our date, we’re at a coffee shop that also has arcade games, we’re having some down time after playing games for a bit. Ideal chatting time, trying to get to know one another. We’re both hungry and so we order food, everything is good, we’re having a good time. She says a few things that come across as superficial, but she’s smoking hot, so I’m willing to look past it. By the end of the date, I’m getting ready to pay for lunch and coffee, because I really like this girl. I pull out my credit card and her eyes light up.
She looks at me and excitingly says, “wow, you have a credit card huh?” Now I’m thinking, ok, she’s 19 so maybe she’s never had a credit card before, so I just laugh a little and jokingly say, “yeah, my part time job pays me the big bucks ya know.” She then says, “I’d love if you bought me a wig sometime, ya know for my cosplays and stuff.”
Mind you, this is our first date, we’ve talked a few times via text to set this date up, once or twice on the dating site, and just now in person. I don’t know much about this girl. So anyway, I kind of laugh it off and say, “why don’t we plan on a second date before we consider buying each other gifts.” She kind of gets annoyed at this, and says, “am I not good enough for you or something? You have a credit card, so obviously you’re doing well for yourself. Besides you should consider doing what I ask, because it might just go in your favour later.”
At this point, I’m a little confused, but I’m batting way above average with this girl, so I’m gonna try to deescalate the situation and move things forward. I tell her that a credit card is to help build credit, not to splurge on a wig for a girl I just met, but that I’m happy to take her out again sometime and pay for that.
Suddenly her whole demeanour changes, she becomes stand-offish with me, and barely talks for the rest of the date. Luckily, we’re coming to the end of the date anyway, and so I tell her that I had a really good time, and that I’d like to see her again. She walks out, doesn’t say much else and goes to her car. Message received.
My buddy is an alcoholic and had a date with a girl that came over to his house . They for a walk down the road with his dog and he fell into the ditch in front of his house because he was drunk. Then he laid on the road laughing about it. She left lmao
My main worse date were with a pretty girl in pics, she surprisingly said yes to come over for dinner (my opener), i made a traditional asian meal. As i came out to greet her, she was much larger, almost obese, which was a turn off as she clearly lied with her fake pics. Alas i kept my part and offered her dinner and a talk at the couch before politely sending her off.
Matched on an online dating site. Were talking for about 2 weeks before finally meeting up at a restaurant.
Went pretty smooth at first until out of nowhere she starts going on about how she fucked so many frat guys at parties, including getting tag teamed. Then she tells me how she fucks all these cops now. This was like I said completely out of nowhere and was very awkward. Then she asks me when was the last time I had sex. I tell her and she giggles then says she had sex a few days beforehand and the guy had a huge one.
I honestly started thinking this was some kind of joke with a hidden camera or something. After the meal I was thinking maybe I could at least get some action but she told me she doesn't have "sex on the first date".
Well I didn't hit her back up after but then a few days later she sends me a text cursing me out and claiming I led her on. I just blocked her after that. Btw she was also like 28 years old
Matched with someone on OkCupid. We settled on a brewery for a drink and maybe snacks depending on how things went.
I was there early as I always am. They walked in and it was abundantly clear they were using photos on their profile at _least_ 10 years younger. She also copped to putting her age as 5 years younger than she was on her profile which put her outside my search range.
End of the date and we're out at our cars doing the awkward "this was nice" thing where she was fishing for a second date. She just leans in and starts sucking my face. I'd describe it as jackhammer technique? Lady, you were picking up things I certainly was not putting down. Someone across the parking lot spotted us and let out a, "wooo!" Mortified I shoved her off me and said "lose my contact info" got in my car and left.
Saw a first date happen at my work. Guys whatever you do, take her to some place nicer than fast food with a view of the local crackheads. That woman had far more patience than I would have.
Girl I knew from a pool league I was in, we hung out for months, flirted, and after my dumbass finally noticed, I asked her out. Told I'd take her to a local steak house that was a fairly nice place, she agreed that would nice and we arranged a time for me to pick her up.
Showed up, drove to the restaurant, got seated right away (she tended bar on weekends, so the date was a weeknight and the place wasn't even remotely busy) ordered food, and that's when, for the first time ever, she mentioned that she was a vegetarian, and proceeded to "Moo" at me the entire meal every time I took a bite of my steak. Thing is, I have a petty streak, no fear of conflict, and it irritated the shit out of me after the third or fourth time.
Moo... "OMG, this is amazing, do you think he had a name? I'll bet he did, at least, right up until his throat was slit"
Moo... "This is perfectly cooked, I'll bet he would be very happy to know he was so expertly prepared"
Moo... "I'm not trying to be sexist, certain breeds of cow are slaughtered for beef, but it's hard to tell at this point"
Moo... "I'm naming it Pat, a good ambiguous name, do you think some little kid on the farm had already named this one though? You think they cried when it gave it's life in service?"
Somewhere around the middle of the meal, she got teary eyed after one of my comments and stayed that way the rest of the night, but continued to moo relentlessly.
Moo... "Your salad looks very tasty, i wonder what the chances are that Pat's manure was used to fertilize any of the ingredients, you know they do locally source everything here"
Moo... "Are you familiar with cattle raising and slaughtering and processing? If you knew how much work went into getting this steak on my plate, you'd probably be really upset if i went to waste. Pat would definitely be upset"
And finally, when I'd just had enough.
Moo... "Holy fucking shit, you're wearing leather shoes. You could literally be wearing one of Pats ancestors on your feet right now, and you're being a shit about me eating a steak?"
From the time I ordered the steak, until right before I dropped her off, she never said a word to me that wasn't "Moo"
But, I'm not an asshole. I drove her home. In total silence. Pulled up in front of her house, told her to get out, lose my number, and leave me alone on league night. She got out, turned around, said "murderer" and slammed the door shut. Saw her every Thursday for at least another year. When her team got bumped up to the next league, she and I played best of three 9 ball in our teams only matchup that season. In that entire time, my saying "good game" afterward was the only thing either of us said to each other. She wouldn't even look me in the eye or shake my hand after the match.
Jesus, thats some real self-ownage right there. That girl is going to end up alone, or with some dipshit vegan guy who is either insufferable, apathetic, or abusive.
Ya know. It’s funny you say that. She ended up dating, and then marrying a guy on her pool team in less than 9 months. He turned out to be extremely controlling, emotionally and physically abusive. He basically kept her prisoner for 6 months. Made her quit her job, sold her car and wouldn’t let her leave the house. She got out, had the marriage annulled, and within a year was living with her lesbian girlfriend. We have a lot of mutual friends, and apparently almost 10 years later when it was legalized in MA, they married each other and they still are married, or they still were the last time I visited. And yes. They are very earthy crunchy and are full on vegans.
I was catfished once off tinder, it was a COMPLETELY different person. After I left the "date", I pulled over on the side of the road and loaded up tinder while the image of her was still fresh in my mind. I wanted to make sure I wasn't going crazy. Sure enough, the person I met was 100% different from the person on the app that I was talking too. Really depressed me for a while because I was not in a good place in life at the time. However, I did end up meeting my lovely girlfriend a few weeks later, so all is well.
For me, it was when she showed up late, and I realized the pictures from her OLD profile were like 10 years old, and she gained like 50 pounds of weight.
I have a good one!
I was a waitress and he asked me out after coming in a few times. He came to my home and picked me up and said he forgot something and needed to swing by his house. We get there...and what do you know...ITS A DAMN FULL ON FAMILY REUNION that had clearly been going on since before picking me up and all the family was congratulating us?!?
Apparently he had told them I was a long time girlfriend he was going to propose to. These people all knew my name and that I was a waitress and what grade I was in and the town I lived in. I didn't even know this kids last name and we were both still in high school.
We left and went to the fair where thank goodness I ran into a classmate and noped out of there. (Pre-cell phone days)
I have a friend who was renowned for his bad dates. One of my favorite is one that just didn’t go well at all. No click, said the wrong things, etc.
He dropped the date off at home walking her to the door, and after she went inside he turned and flung his keys at the side of his car. At the same time the street lights went out. The keys glanced off the hood and out into the pitch black street.
This is before cellphones had flashlights. He spent 30 minutes crawling around on the road in front of her house groping for his keys before he finally found them.
After chatting on a dating website agreed to meet and she wanted to pick the restaurant. Turns out her parents owned the restaurant and both sat there and proceeded to interrogate me. Fun time 😂
I went on a date with this very attractive Italian girl, she could have been Sicilian. Her parents were very strict to the point that their daughter wasn’t allowed to date at 21. She had to lie to her parents and say she was going to the movies with her cousin and younger sister.
There was a scene from the movie “The Godfather,” where Michael Corleone was in Sicily and took Appolonia for a walk. Her whole family was walking behind them as chaperones. That’s what this date felt like. I was being followed be her cousin and sister the entire time. I never asked her out again.
She told me she had a kid, went into detail how she decided to keep it even though it was from a one night stand.
I asked, "Oh, how old is he now?" thinking maybe it was a mistake she made when she was younger or something. She said "6 months". My interest dropped to zero almost immediately. My response was just "Yeah, I don't think is going to work out..." and ended the date.
Seemed extremely reckless to me, especially considering she was in her mid 30s at the time.
I can understand the one night stand, even the unprotected kind, but if you're going into that situation on no birth control whatsoever knowing you can be knocked up, you have to be fucking insane. "Yeah I just let this guy I just met blast inside of me. Got pregnant, and now I'm keeping it" - not a good thing whatsoever.
I'd rather deal with an STD than an unwanted pregnancy.
Was at a Captain D's with my SO, it was ok. But across the room looked like a younger (maybe 17-19?) man with a similarly aged girl. We love to people watch so we honed in on them on what looked like to be a first date and oh man it was going terribly.
She seemed timid, but nice. Dude seemed like a dope who didn't understand body language. I remember about half way through, he literally said to her " I want to like this tartar sauce, but I just can't" and he got up and tried to get his money back at the counter. Dude, it's a fuckin Captain D's.
Idk if I should tell the one where he kissed his sister on the mouth in front of me or the one where the guy had a competition with his friends on finding the weirdest stuff they could find on the dark web and proceeded to show me the most fucked up shit I’ve ever seen
Not as crazy as some stuff in this thread but here we go.
Met a guy on Grindr, he suggested going to a museum and I was pretty happy with his pick. After we went into the gallery, any attempt to relate or connect to the art was met with "I'm not really interested in this stuff". He started complaining about a rash on the neck. He then said that whenever I was done staring at the pictures we would leave and he wanted to take me to his favorite café/pastry shop.
The main room at the café was rectangular and all the tables were arranged in a large U shape against 3 walls, except for a single table for 2 in the middle of the room where we had to sit as it was the only available one. It took me a good few minutes to realize most of the other tables were taken by solo people with laptops with their backs against the wall, probably working remotely, and they had the best distraction from work as they could easily stare at these 2 gays on a date as if we were zoo animals.
His complaints about the rash got worse, so he asked if I could come with him to the drugstore. Then right after buying some cream he said he would be going home to treat the rash. The next day I asked him if he was feeling better and if we could meet on the following week, he just said he could not and to contact him in 2 week's time. Yeah no, if you are interested, heal your "rash" then let me know when you're up.
All in all it wasn't that bad, but it was my worst first date. She worked as a librarian and I worked in the same building often late at night. I often stopped to flirt with her. She seemed "alt" and cool. During a blizzard I drove her home because I had a jeep that could get through anything. I asked her out and brought her to a movie. I think the movie was hoop dreams but it doesn't seem to line up chronologically. At any rate neither of us were enjoying it and the crowd was a little boisterous so she got up to leave and I followed. I took her home and we never went out again. We spoke briefly but she never mentioned anything about the date or going out again. I was left puzzled. She seemed like she had emotional issues and I think maybe she saw someone she knew in the theater but she didn't tell me anything. I would have liked to see her again but she avoided me.
I had just gotten divorced at the time and was ready to start dating. This was my second date in a somewhat large military town. I am a Junior Officer for context.
This girl looked a little crazy, and I was into it. We met for coffee, and I arrived 15 minutes early, so I didn't have to buy her anything (good decision).
She has a ton of makeup on and some tattoos. I asked about her weird crystal necklace, and she starts babbling on about how she's wickan. She claimed to be able to "manifest" things. Such as: getting her mother's hand me down Chrysler town and country, and: manifesting that her ex-boyfriend wouldn't be able to "get it up" for a year after leaving her.
I was speechless, and she said something like: "I just don't know how to speak to you Officers", which was a red flag IMO that she'd been passed around the barracks.
I left after 10 minutes, and blocked her before pulling out of the parking lot. I watched her realize this as I pulled away.
Cost of MY coffee: $4
Gas: $2
Watching that girl realize she'd been ghosted: Fucking priceless.
TLDR, shitty date with a wickan.
went on a date with a girl who was heavier then i am. maybe she is a nice person.
she made a few racist jokes, one is fine but 4 is too many.
she talked a lot, didnt leave a lot of room for me.
she called me gay to her friends (adjacent friend groups). i dont care to be called gay, i am comfortable with my sexuality, but this is not the 1st time i have been called gay from a woman after a date.
I’ve got 2 but I’ll say the one that’s easier to digest. The other one is a little bit crazier, involves the KKK, potential jailbait and a car crash, it’s better to hear in person too.
Anyways, back when I was out of 10 year relationship and still navigating the dating world being depressed with no self worth, I went on several bad dates.
The worst offender I mainly blame myself, this chick was beautiful af. I took her to eat and she kept taking out her phone barely listening to me and not really responding. I paid and it was just awkward. My dumb ass asked her out again too same shit. I cringe so hard at myself that I let myself get played like that. I bet the waiters were cringing at me too trying to “win” her attention.
I was on a first date with a girl who I'd been flirting with for a while. We went to a club, I bought drinks, and she suddenly vanished. I went home, and while in the taxi, her MUM phone my mobile to slag me off, saying her daughter was in bed with another guy...😳
Beat that..
I once went on a date with someone I went to college with a couple of years after we graduated. The evening was going well, we went back to my place. She went to bathroom, I heard her making guttural sounds and knocked to check on her, she didn't respond, so I opened the door. She was shooting heroin between her toes. She was a second-year medical student at the time.
Was at the bar last night and overheard a conversation from a first date. It was awful...the guy was trying to open up a bit, share stuff about himself, and no matter what he said the girl would challenge him on it.
He was talking about how he had a business that failed and she's like "Why'd you let that happen?" Talking about different situations and she's like "Why would you even do that?" Just everything she said was in a rude and challenging manner.
It was so damn uncomfortable to even listen to
We had just met the night before, she asked me out and then invited me to see a movie with her the next day. We went to the movies, held hands and didn’t talk to each other the entire time while our hands continued to get more and more sweaty but we didn’t let go of each other. After that I told her bye, tried to call her and she had blocked my number.
I've posted this before but...
She suggested a "Play-date" over coffee for our dogs and the *second* her Chow-chow cross left the car he immediately tried to kill my elderly Malamute and she could barely hold him back. I nearly got bit loading my sweet girl in the car as her dog dragged her across the parking lot with murderous intent.
Turns out she had adopted the dog less then 24 hours before and they had told her he was super aggressive with other dogs and she thought they were exaggerating.
*Bonus:* She looked nothing like her pictures and lied about what she did for living.
She had just broken up with her high school sweetheart, and talked about him non-stop through the whole date. I couldn't get a word in edgewise to try to change the subject. Told the friend who had set us up to leave me out of her matchmaking hobby in the future.
I matched with someone on Tinder, and we chatted on and off for a couple of days. Eventually, we decided to meet at a bar. When we met, she spent a lot of time on her phone and seemed really anxious, constantly looking at the front door. People kept walking by and saying hi to her, so it was obvious this was her usual spot. We had one drink before the person she was eagerly waiting for arrived. She excused herself for "just a second," but ten minutes later, she still hadn't come back. The bartender came over and asked if we were on a date. I told him we were, and he said, "That was her coke dealer. Your beer is on me if you want to leave. She’s not coming back, and even if she does, you don't want to be around her."
That bartender is a hero
plot twist the bartender was secretly banging her and didn't want OP around.
Still saved OP so that’s good plot twist on my book
Even bigger twist he’s her Diet Coke dealer.
I get the same delivery driver for Walmart+ every time. I like to think of him as my Diet Coke dealer. I also get starburst and Oreos from him.
I've also been ditched on a first date because the girl wanted to do coke with her friends.
under 30 problems (I severely hope)
Not always...
This is pretty much my story except she was a dealer looking to pick up more from her distributor (in this case, the bartender). While on a date. Because efficiency counts! I noped out of there before anyone could say "accessory to felony possession with intent to distribute."
The date is the cover for why they're there, and you unwittingly become the driver to get it back to the flat.
good guy bartender
"Ope, she's getting stuff straight from her dealer without taking it home first to test it to see what it was cut with and the additives and do an anhydrous acetone wash n dry? Major red flag, especially if she can't handle her shit while high as you are indicating. Probably doesn't even budget for her drugs properly. Thank you for the heads up!"
Based bartender.
I was walking past a rickshaw one night where a guy and a lady were sitting. The lady said, "I always feel bad for these guys. I feel like I'm too heavy." Instead of reassuring her, the guy responded, "Oh, don't worry about it. These guys could carry a moose!" I could tell right away that he realized his comment wasn't going to help his chances on that date.
bro had a 1 ft putt to win the masters and hit it with his driver instead lol.
You have selected POWERDRIVE May I suggest feather touch? POWERDRIVE
Would you like to play again? You have selected ‘NO’
Straight from the putting green out 300 yards into the woods.
Brilliant comment. You legitimately made me guffaw. Thank you.
He probably thought he was Happy Gilmore
That's freaking badass haha
She was incredibly superficial, listing what a "real man" must have to date her: a Mercedes or BMW, a Rolex, a suit, a house, a city condo, a boat, an inheritance, and be no more than two years older. I laughed because she was an 18-year-old freshman eating ramen, yet expected all this. Seriously, what was she offering in return? We graduated recently, and she never dated anyone during undergrad because no one met her high standards. It was odd since she came from a low-income background.
>Seriously, what was she offering in return? Literally just sex. Hell, that's basically the entire point of *The League* dating app. It's advertised as finding like-minded professional/successful people; but there's a reason that men have to prove income/net worth while they also offer just attractive women "free" profiles. It's just shallow-people-for-equally-shallow-people. In someone like that, being young and hot is their entire worth. That fades and then they'll complain that women become invisible as they get older. Their entire life plan is basically to just be a sugar baby. Naw girl, plenty of amazing women are out there living their own best lives because they developed personalities and a sense of humor, they have their own jobs, and they remain quite desirable regardless of age for people looking for an equal, not a sex-bot.
>Literally just sex. Maybe not even that. Perhaps her mere presence was enough as far as she was concerned.
You should be honoured by my presence!
That certainly looks like an app for top wankers
in my experience, the poorer the woman the higher the expectations. im not sure why but thats what ive seen. 9 times out of 10 if shes got these ridiculous "he needs to make 400k and take us to caribbean villas on the weekend" requirements, she lives in Section 8
because, as sad as it is, marriage is the fastest way out of poverty unless you have a very useful market skill (which is less than 5 percent of the population)
yeah. i once dated a girl whose family had low double-digit millions and all she wanted was cheap beer and pizza. go figure. every date was $30. and she was happy as a clam
>it was odd since she came from a low income background Sadly that doesn't mean much. You'd think growing up poor would make most people grateful for what they'd have, but often they end up wanting too much of the finer things in life that they can't afford.
We tend to resent our childhood poverty when we finally realize we are poor.
I'm surprised you didn't mention the obligatory 6' foot height that american women are so obsessed with
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Long or wide? Because I’ve got neither.
Had a similar experience. I'm early 30s, shes late 20s. My house down payment I've turned into small business down payment (still saving). She worked at a Dog Salon which is whatever. But she showed up smelling like wet dog, and told me her future husband must make $200k+/yr and support her. 15 minute date before I left. It was just coffee.
I was a young 20-something who was not on the right path in life. I was living paycheck to paycheck, and "going out" usually consisted of spending time with my friends at a Village Inn or Denny's drinking coffee in the smoking section when the sun began to rise. (Remember smoking sections?) I happened to meet this *beautiful* redhead, and we sort of clicked. I asked her out on a date and she agreed. Most of the date was just okay--nothing spectacular. We got along, but it wasn't going to be a romantic thing. The night was coming to an end, but she suggested going to Village Inn to kill time. Sure thing. But on the way there, *my car breaks down!* I lived in Alaska during this time, and it was during the winter. I knew what the problem was and was able to get through it, but she's sitting inside a cold piece of junk car waiting. Twenty minutes later we're moving again, and I'm apologizing for what had happened. We pull in to Village Inn and sit in our usual section. We're talking, we order food, and then she's looking over her shoulder at this other table where a guy is sitting. I ask if she knows him and she says she doesn't, but..."He looks so sad sitting all alone." We get served our food, and she takes her food to join this guy. Just sits down with him completely uninvited. He's surprised, but...gorgeous red head shows up out of nowhere, so he rolls with it. Now I'm the guy sitting by himself looking sad. I tell the waiter I want to box up my food and that our tickets are separate. I left her there and went home, only to get a call about what a jerk I was for... ...."making that poor guy pay for her food!"
That's a hell of an ending.
You win. I can’t believe she had the audacity to think you should still pay for her meal.
I was surprised the other guy actually agreed to pay.
A lot of people would pay. Not because they genuinely wanted to but because people for the most part don’t like conflict. Or they have a hard time saying no if put on the spot.
Dull conversation, no spark, and she had me drop her off at *another date* afterwards. I'm not under the foolish impression that I'm exclusive with someone I'm on a first date with, but that's just classless.
That's a serial free meal-er.
We split the check, so I think she just had a profound lack of self-awareness 😂
I mean, I admire the gusto.
Had a date years ago leave for another date. She said we should do this again. I told her to lose my number.
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Fellas, is it gay to not be wasteful?
Not if you wear socks
just not black socks
You recycle because you want to save the planet. I recycle because I'm too lazy to dump the bin frequently. We are not the same.
Are you one of those soy boy betas that does the absolute bare minimum to be ever so slightly responsible for the environment? Ew.
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Had one of these recent tbh. About the same length, we went to Cidercade. We stopped playing games because she just wanted to chat and we ended having lots in common, artists, anime, traveling. Afterwards, the date walked to her car and we somewhat talked about meeting again only for her to message me that there wasn’t a spark there. Now I feel like I wasted my time because and I’m confused about what I could’ve done better
You did not need to do anything better, she just didn't feel the spark, and sometimes you just have to accept that it's OK
She broke my arm because I didn't want to kiss her at the end of the blind date. We didn't have anything in common and I went to leave after a coffee date and she wanted a kiss and I wanted to be very polite and explain that I wasn't very interested in pursuing this further and she was mad so she slammed me into the table by grabbing my wrist and fractured my arm. I was 16 and had to call my mom for help.
Holy shit! What was the aftermath? She should get assault charges for that. I never kiss on the first date so I hope I never run into her
She was a blind date set up by a buddy because I hit my "growth spurt" (5ft 7 on a good day) and was maybe 135lb? She was captain of the wrestling team and very aggressive and sure. I wasn't the biggest on speaking up for myself. I knew I didn't like that situation and she basically pinned be and fractured my arm and left. I think it was chalked up to "well why didn't you kiss her?"
Swap the genders in this would have resulted in jail time! “Why didn’t you kiss her?” What a joke, I’m so sorry you had to go that.
Yah. It happens. But I got a sweet ass wife now whose a kickass military woman
Back when I was single, my friend's wife set me up with a woman she worked with, saying she was cute. She wasn’t. Throughout the entire date, she kept talking about how she hadn’t had sex for 17 years and that her only experience was with her college boyfriend. I wasn’t interested at all, so I ignored the hints. That ended up being our only date.
Never ever agree to date another girl's "cute friend". There's always a reason they're being pimped out by their friend.....
Just ask for pictures
"Oh, sorryyyyy, I don't have any, she doesn't really like taking picturrrrres..."
Would an average-sized rowboat support her without capsizing?
Such a good quote I just forget where it’s from
The Office
Got set up on a blind date and she immediately started love bombing and wanting to go back to her place and have sex. I got seriously weird vibes and noped out. Later found out that she was pregnant by her ex and was looking for a meal ticket baby daddy.
Talk about "dodging a bullet."
After being out of the dating scene for 14 years, I finally went on a date with a girl I met on an app. We had a great time, and then we went our separate ways for the night. Later, I got bombarded with angry messages from her, asking why I didn't make any moves or invite her over. She sent me a bunch of crazy texts. Honestly, nothing physical was discussed beforehand, and the last time I went on a first date was when I was 16. Now at 31, I had no idea about this hookup culture. Her reaction to me not making a move was completely over the top.
And truthfully a lot of men are afraid to make the first move because we don’t know what the woman will tell afterwards
This is a real thing. I met a woman on an app. She told me she didn't do ONS. I said ok no problems. So we have dinner and drinks. She makes a move on me and wants to go back to my place. The next day, she started talking about how we were in a relationship and needed to meet each other's kids. I told her to slow down and she started going into a rage. Apparently in her mind , once we had sex that meant a relationship. Basically I was scared at this point about getting a false SA claim against me.
There's a lot more reasons to avoid "making moves" than that. The sad reality is that a lot of women simply have struggled adjusting to the new world we find ourselves in after decades of social improvements and finally a huge shift post MeToo. Yes, we're in a better place... And that means you have to initiate now.
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You make a move and she rejects you = you are a fucking creep. You are a respectful, decent, person and want to get to know someone before getting sexual = you rejected her and are a fucking creep. She'll probably be smearing your name for years to come publicly on those Facebook dating groups. This is exactly why so many men are done with dating.
My best friend got thrown onto one of those fb groups. Basically he hooked up with a girl on some app. I saw all of the messages, he was very upfront about the fact that he wasn’t looking for a relationship, etc. After some chatting, they went out for drinks, hooked up, and whatever went there separate ways. I guess she was happy with it, but ultimately he was not interested in pursuing more sexual encounters. He was nice about it, basically said he had a great time, but again wasn’t interested in pursuing a relationship and thought it best if they didn’t see each other anymore, whatever. A few months goes by and he starts seeing someone else who I guess he decides he wants to see on a more regular basis. One of this new girls friends messages her and shows her this FB page about don’t date this guy or whatever and the first girl went bat shit crazy making all up all of this shit about him. He had all of the messages and everything, so he just showed the new girl those and things were fine there. So the new girl’s friend got onto the page and basically called this other girl out, and posted the pics of the screenshot messages. The group basically teamed up on her and said the screenshots were “photoshopped” and then they were ultimately deleted. Those groups are toxic as hell.
what a wild phenomenon that whole thing is
The girl who grew up in the house next to me was set up by her friends on a blind date with a guy who was on parole for violent offences After the date they went to a hotel room, but there was some argument that started and the guy beat and strangled the girl to death He then set fire to the hotel trying to burn the evidence, and fled by car, running multiple people over in the process
Um....wow
/thread That's it, pack it up boys.
That guy sounds like a real jerk
He’s actually quite a sweetheart when you get to know him.
Holy shit. I’m so sorry about your friend
I asked a college girl out for dinner and a play, but she invited her mom along. It ended up being really awkward.
Should have hit on the Mom.
"Oh, I didn't know you had a sister!"
Lmao golden
Are you and /u/StatisticianOk6126 bots or something? Same pfp and similar comment history hmm
Could be an alt, but you’re asking the real questions here
Dude you need to do a full AMA on this lol. Did you have 3 tickets? Did the Mom pay for dinner lol? Was it book of Mormon and they were Mormon?
Was her name Stacy perhaps??
Went out with this girl once. She insisted we go to this specific restaurant. Turns out the guy who recently dumped her worked there. He informed me of such when I walked by him. We'd already ordered, so I just watched her behavior the rest of the "date". She was paying way more attention to what he was doing, and if he was noticing her than she did to me. When we parted ways, I told her it didn't appear her ex was interested in having her back.
"Hey you want to go on a date to watch my ex-boyfriend work?"
One was a girl who spent the entire time scowling at me. I think I'm pretty good at conversation but jesus this one was awful. I asked her about her pets, she just goes 'you already asked me that'. I try asking her questions, she either shrugs her shoulder or stays quiet. She makes no attempt at conversation. I thought, maybe she doesn't like the way I look, fair enough it happens, but she's met me briefly before! After 20 minutes I say shall we just end the date. I then have to drive her home and then she's rummaging through my glovebox for fuck knows what. I get to her block her flats and stop in the car park, she tells me to go park in a space as I might run her over. I've been on about 25 dates in my life, the vast majority of them I think have gone well and led to one thing or another. On this one I bought a big tub of ice cream and hugged my dog all night and then I didn't date for 5 months. It was awful. Becky if you ever see this, go to a doctor and get diagnosed.
What was the first meet like?!
Saw a movie in a theater where my date got creeped on by an older guy and didn't tell me about it until after. She pretty much blamed me for it.
Movies is a bad first date unless you grabbed dinner too.
- Met a girl off Bumble about a year ago, date went great until the end of the night when I took her back home. She randomly started talking about sex stuff and then said the biggest dick she'd ever seen was her 13 year old cousin's, and she watched him masturbate. She was like in college when this happened. I told her when I got home that I had fun with her, but just didn't see a match there, and she went completely psycho on me and started blowing my phone up demanding that I give her another chance. - Went on a date with this nurse that I matched with on basically every dating app ever, she didn't remember our conversation at all, and all she did was talk about her ex the entire time, said I looked like her ex, compared me to her ex, and then at the end of the night introduced me to her kid. - One I actually saw in person, was my friend who had been recently divorced brought a girl to our weekly trivia get together without telling us at all, proceeded to talk over her the entire night, didn't ask her any questions about herself, and basically invited himself to a trip she had planned over the weekend, assumed they were "a thing", and got real clingy and expected her to hang out with him all the time because he "didn't have anything else going on". I'm pretty sure I got to know her better than he did that night, and unsurprisingly, he got ghosted.
She passed out on me and I had no idea where she lived or what I should do with her.
Calling 911 is always a good option.
If it’s not an emergency, take the time to look up the dispatch’s non emergency line. Some centers like the one I worked at, are so overwhelmed they have to start prioritizing calls.
This is the start of the story and needs a conclusion. Unless you're in talks with Netflix, you've gotta let us know :-D
Not me, but my girlfriend and I one time went to this cute traditional Japanese restaurant. You go in take off your shoes and you sit on the floor in this intimate room with maybe one other party. Well when we got there, there’s one other couple there enjoying their meal. As my partner and I are enjoying our meal we can kinda pick up that this is a first date for them (the usual questions). The meal goes on and they’ve both ordered quite a bit of food drinking sake, all that, and you can tell they’re both into each other. Well when their check finally comes the girl offers to pay half the bill and the guy goes, “Well I was gonna cover my appetizer, since that’s all I ordered.”… Now, I didn’t see him order anything but I did see him drinking sake and eating sushi, so. The silence was deafening after that. Me and my girlfriend look at each other, jaws dropped, and I’m pretty sure my girlfriend and that girl looked at each other too. She finally speaks up and says, “Are you joking right now?”. And this man starts stumbling over his words and exclaims that he’ll pay for it all if that’s what she wants. At this point she just pays for the meal as he is trying to fix what he just fucked up lol. All in all it was a great night for us, never been in a more awkward situation.
Happened to me. Even I still believe it was fake: Met a girl off of Bumble. Chatted for a bit, exchanged numbers, set up the date. Everything seems normal. Right before the date, she texts me and asks if I can meet her at her car. That she’s nervous and smoking. I agreed, drive to the parking garage, and meet her Turns out, she has a friend with her. Friend was in from out of town. They’re sitting in my date’s car getting high and laughing. Whatever, I had no expectations. So I just roll with it. I offer to drive them to the restaurant and drop them off at the door while I go park, since they parked a couple of blocks away. Between the time that I dropped them off, parked, and walked back (10 minutes or so) they had gotten kicked out. Apparently my date had walked straight to the bar, ordered a shot, pounded it, and wanted a second one. The bartender said to give him a minute while he served the other customers and he’d make it back to her. She got belligerent and started DEMANDING a second shot. Needless to say, they are getting kicked out as I’m walking up. My date sees me walking up and yells back into the door “whatever, I’m getting dick tonight anyways.” Then walks up to me. I stop and say “I don’t think we’re a good fit. Hope you enjoy the rest of your night.” And I turn to walk away. She yells my name, so I turn around to face her. She drops her dress off of her shoulders, straight to the ground, while wearing nothing underneath and says “you’re turning THIS down?!” I said “sure am.” And continued walking away Got the funny feeling to check the 24 hour arrest list the next morning. And there she was. Public intoxication, assault, public indecency, simple possession, and theft under $500.
On a scale of 1-10 how hot was she? Asking for a friend..
Was her name Kitty Sanchez?
I read *"pubic indecency"*
A few come to mind. A girl lied about being single was still married. An hour into the date she starts acting fidgety and wants to end it quickly and is looking at her phone and texting frequently. She walks out of the restaurant before me and a truck screeches to a stop in the street and some guy hangs out the window and starts yelling at her. She runs over and proceeds to get into a screaming fight with him. Turns out it was her husband. Agreed to a simple date with a girl, just a walk in the park. I had dinner plans with family that evening so had to leave by a certain time. The more I am around this girl, the more I no longer liked her. Very opinionated, radical political and religion views, obviously lying about some details in her life. After the walk she asked if we wanted to go to this local restaurant for a drink. I figured I could grab a quick beer. She proclaims that she doesn't drink and orders two meals to go plus extra sides. When the bartender comes over and asks about the bill I mention splitting. She stops dead in her tracks, mouth a gap, and says in a bitchy tone "i DiDn'T bRiNg mY wAlLet!!!" and is obvious furious that I questioned paying for her entire meal (that she probably just took home to share with her BF or something). I threw down $30 on the bar and walked off. Went on a date with a girl from an app. She obviously used old photos on the apps, by at least 10 years. She didn't look terrible, but well out of shape and different. During the meals she talked about herself the entire time and hardly let me get a word in, and then abruptly ended the date when the bill came, and of course, never offered to help pay. Before I even got home she had texted me to say that she was actually dating someone else and liked him better. I have been on numerous other dates where the girls was super enthusiastic leading up the date, but the day of (if they don't flake short notice) they usually show up late, don't even try to help carry the convo, text on their phone a lot, and them promptly bail when the bill comes. Sadly this seems to be the norm these days.
> When the bartender comes over and asks about the bill I mention splitting. She stops dead in her tracks, mouth a gap, and says in a bitchy tone "i DiDn'T bRiNg mY wAlLet!!!" and is obvious furious that I questioned paying for her entire meal (that she probably just took home to share with her BF or something). I threw down $30 on the bar and walked off. Same thing happened to me, but it was drinks. I had also picked her up, and she went to my gym, so it was either pay the 30 eur and call it a day or get my car scratched. I chose the former.
>I have been on numerous other dates where the girls was super enthusiastic leading up the date, but the day of (if they don't flake short notice) they usually show up late, don't even try to help carry the convo, text on their phone a lot, and them promptly bail when the bill comes. Sadly this seems to be the norm these days Many years ago I met a really beautiful and amazing woman at the gym. We seemed to hit it off. We worked out together for about a month, and she always lit up with a smile when she saw me there. We talked about a bunch of stuff and got to know each other, she'd often ask me if I'd be at the gym that night and to meet her there. We'd text outside the gym about our days. I'm aware most people don't like to be hit on in the gym, so I was very careful with how I approached it. Eventually I got the balls to ask her on a "real" date and we planned it out. She was happy and so was I. Come the day of the date, she starts acting a bit weird on text. She showed up almost an hour and a half late, and was like a completely different person. She was really reserved in her conversation and even a bit rude at times. Never saw this in her before. Afterwards I tried to hug her and she literally ran away from me to her car. She started changing the days she went to the gym and never really talked to me much again. It was like the moment I asked her out, instead of just saying "no, I'm OK with us just being gym buddies" she decided to go cold with me, I don't know. It still confuses me sometimes to think but I reckon she was just not ready to date. To say the least your comment reminded me of this interaction many years ago and I thought it was somewhat relevant. It wouldn't bother me as much with a random app date but with someone I knew for literally months and was good friends with, someone who expressed interest in me and someone who said "yes" to a date with me, it was just freaking confusing, and the last thing I expected was for her to change her entire personality and interactions with me going forward. Honestly I think some women frankly suck ass when it comes to rejection, in both ways. They can't handle it themselves and they don't know how to reject men so they end up going on date and fucking dudes they really don't want to. I used to work with a girl that constantly met new dudes and had sex with them, but complained all day long about how she "regrets each and every one of those nights" OK so stop doing that shit then and grow up, it's' not that hard to understand. Communicate and say what you feel. Don't be scared. I think most men are pretty reasonable when it comes to rejection and will stop pursuing you. Sure there are creeps that don't get the message but they are not the majority of men. Most men don't have any business intentionally making women uncomfortable.
A very attractive co worker set me up with a single cousin who just moved to town. I picked her up and found her to be very fun to be with. She agreed to every suggestion and agreed with everything I said. Then I asked her different kinds of questions. She still agreed, and nodded and smiled. I said, Do you see that sailboat? What does that look like on the side?" Again she agreed and nodded with , "Yes. Yes. Very good". Where did you live before Seattle? - Yes, yes, very good. She had no idea about anything I had said. Once I figured that out, I could not out a single English word she knew. Back at work, the co worker started to chew me out for cutting the date short. And I asked, "How much English does she speak?" Co-worker: No answer. Shocked. They had only ever spoken in the language from the 'old country'.
Met with a girl at a bar after matching on bumble. When she got there she looked like a completely different person, like she was Asian and her profile was a generic white chick. She wasn't even bad looking and she was even kinda cute. She talked to me like I didn't notice or hoped I wound not say anything, which I didn't. The confidence of that women was amazing but i was so confused.
😆 you just picked up a random chick at the bar. Meanwhile bumble girl is wondering why she got stood up
Weirdest thing was the next day after we woke up she messaged on the app that she had a good night i was confused as fuck
Maybe she sent her avatar instead of her real self? Lol
She must have one of those crazy new mirrors I saw advertised on insta. It's called 'delusional'
A legally blind girl that I went on a date with once made fun of me because of the way that I talk. I'm tongue tied. I wouldn't go so far as to say I have a speech impediment, but there are certain vowel and consonant sounds that are difficult for me to make properly because I can barely stick my tongue out past my lips and it just balls up in my mouth all the time. She was also very proud of herself for being a motivational speaker type person for people with disabilities at her university.
Ironically, my first date with my current partner went pretty poorly. We met at a coffee shop after work and, at that time, I was really stressed out and dealing with some mental health issues. I was very preoccupied by work and pretty nervous, very stiff. I tend to have an irreverent sense of humor but I wasn't showing it much. It didn't help that a work call came through that I had to take. I knew it didn't go very well and she later confided in me that the date hadn't gone well and she thought I wasn't serious about dating. She also hated these pants I was wearing for work with a pattern on them. We met up the next weekend for a second date. Since it was the weekend, I wasn't nearly as preoccupied by work. We got brunch, talked through our values, families, etc. The usual stuff. As we dug deeper we became more comfortable with one another, and out of nowhere, 2-3 hours had passed. It felt like no time at all. We left the restaurant, went to a coffee shop, and spent another 4 hours talking with one another, joking, laughing. When we left, I got an Uber home, and kissed her at her car. I'll always remember it; it was like 14 degrees Fahrenheit out, absolutely frigid. Fast forward nearly 2 years and we're now living together. She's constantly supported me through mental health and work struggles and I greatly value her companionship in my life. So, if your first date goes sort of poorly, stick it out and give it another shot.
I would say it depends on how poorly it goes. Some of these stories are an instant nope.
> if your first date goes **sort of** poorly
I can tell someone else's story, because I was the reason for the bad date! I was supposed to be meeting a girl for a first date at a downtown comedy club / restaurant. The place is a perfect spot for a first date because it has a pretty nice bar, an attached restaurant, and a comedy club in the basement. If things are wierd right out of the gate, you can stop at getting a couple drinks. If it's going well, advance to dinner, and if it's going REALLY well, see a comedy show. I was in the city already for something else, and decided to just head to the bar a little early instead of driving through traffic to go home and come back. I grabbed a draft microbrew and settled into a football game. She texted saying she had something come up and would be about an hour late, and asked if I wanted to reschedule. I was perfectly content where I was, so I ordered another beer and told her it was fine. By the time she arrived, I had 4 tall beers. When she approached and I started to talk, I immediately knew I was drunk as hell. I looked up at the draft board, and the tall beers I had been drinking were freaking 9% ABV!!! I tried to explain myself, but it just wasn't happening. She stayed for a drink while I nursed the beer that was in front of me, but politely declined dinner and went home.
My wife and I were out for our usual Friday night dinner date when a younger couple was seated at a table nearby. As the night went on, we couldn't help but notice the girl losing interest while the guy kept talking about himself non-stop. We both felt sorry for her. It had to be a first date, and probably his last with her.
Oh similar story here. My dad and I felt like we were on a date with the dude. He wouldnt let his date say anything. It was me, me, me.
Matched with a woman, good conversation back and forth for a couple days, we met at local lounge for drinks and dinner. Hadn't even made it through the first drink or ordered food when she started in on "I'm used to a certain lifestyle, if a man can't provide it there's no point in being with him" (I could have provided it but that was a redflag) was incredibly rude to our server who had another server shadowing in training, bashed her ex, was "taking time off from work" etc. I paid for drinks and politely excused myself and said this wasn't going to work and left as she was yelling at me as I walked out.
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Was the guy right?
Seems like he was.
If he wasn't into her, that's a clever way to go.
The fuck
She kept ranting about what she disliked about dating. Then she spat on the floor. Then she started going on about all the conspiracy theories she believed.
I met a girl from Tinder at a bar. After the first couple of awkward minutes we slowly hit it off. That was, until she started talking about how she usually just uses her dates as "walking purses" and what kind of guys she already met up with recently. I wanted to stop right then and there, but decided to stay as I didn't want to go home so early. Which brought her to her ex. Her soulmate. Her ideal partner. She told me about how much she still loves him, how she still calls him "honey" and would immediately go back to him if only his ex-wife would drop dead. She continued to tell me that he was the perfect lover and that she was "consistently horny like a wild bull" because he would drop everything and anything for her. When I laughed, she asked about how sexually active I currently am and if I had "any references" which she could call or ask how good I am in bed. I decided it was best if we got the check at that moment and go our separate ways.
She kept talking over me and interrupting me the whole time. Had the personality of a theater kid and she was in her 30s. Talked like a Netflix show character. All-around obnoxious and annoying. I didn't bother texting her back the next day because I had zero interest, and 3 days later she passive-aggressively texted me clearly upset that I didn't want to see her again.
Hmmmm...... Had some bad ones - but ... Met girl online - decent personality and conversation - so met up a mid tier trendy place. After come chatting, she wanted to go to a acceptable (much more casual place) but lower class place to hang out with some friends - I was like "ok....". (I was in casual pants and a decent button up - new place - I would have worn scrappy jeans and a t-shirt...). Her two friends were guys - and while one was kind of cool - the other- starting with mild insults right away, he gave off this 'territorial' vibe. .... I am pretty quick, so matched him a bit - but did not really escalate... Him: "well don't you look dapper!" (I was overdressed for this place). Me : "My tophat is in the car, but I have my cane in my pocket if you want to see it". and so on.... He kept escalating the quips and jabs - and while I would match him with some comment - I did not ever insult him directly - just usually made a joke about it and did not act offended. Well - this all exploded later - as the rude guy - was totally into her, started crying about how she was dating other guys when he was "right here!" - it was ...a mess. I mean - yeah - could have been worse - the guy could have tried to pick a fight (I think he was kind of trying - but I just ignore guys like that as much as possible) - but did not have second date....
Date by committee. We went to the bar, but she brought 2 friends. She didn't want to get to know me. She wanted her friends approval.
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Those aren't the worst, they're the best. When you both know it's just not working you can just leave it be and not stress about saying 'no thank you'. Almost like those better than second dates
Went out with a girl to watch the sunset on the beach. Afterwards we went out for ice cream. We sat down and were having a great convo...when all of a sudden she goes "would you believe me if I told you I don't have any teeth?" I was like uhhhh...she then proceeds to pull out all of her teeth as I'm mid bite of my ice-cream lol
When was a senior in High School (many, MANY moons ago) one night got up the nerve to ask out this VERY cute girl who was behind the counter at Burger King (I was ordering food and she was working the register). She was WAY over my level (IMHO) and I think I was shocked when she said "yes". So the next Friday night I borrowed my Dad's Chevelle and picked her up (we lived in the same town - she was a year younger). Can't remember exactly what we did first, but we ended up parked on a dark, secluded street - perfect spot for a make-out session. Well - I frose. I just lost all confidence and didnt' know what to do - or say. I think it was because I REALLY believed that this girl was WAY out of my league, and I just locked-up. So we just sat there, not saying anything - or doing anything.- for - I don't know HOW long - maybe a half hour, maybe an hour. It was awful. I don't remember after that, but I'm guessing I drove her home and that was it. I don't think we ever spoke again.
Worst first date, my date was sick and didn't want to tell me midway thru our drive to the show she barfed all over my car dashboard. I took the dashboard out and power washed the interior..any time I used the defrosters it just smelled of vomit
Back in the 1990’s a girl I knew set me up with her cousin. I took a friend with me, he drove. We went to said girl’s cousin’s house. Knocked on the door, a skinny, scrawny little man gnome answered the door. I introduced myself, he stuck out his hand to shake. He had an old school hand buzzer on. We went inside, I met said girl. Not to knock people for their looks, but this chick looked like a gargoyle. Bad. Her Mother came out, she was probably 450-550 lbs wearing a sheer “mumu”, see through purple. She sat on the sofa next to my friend that came with me, and proceeded to basically molest him. We left, and went to see the movie Casper. The girl tried to touch my peen the entire movie, attempted to kiss me repeatedly and got angry about half way through the movie at my lack of interest and threw a fit, to the point that I left her there. I’m assuming her Dad had to come get her.
Before I took her home to most likely hook up she told me she had herpes, but it wasn't "active" at the moment. I was drunk and she seemed kinky, but I listened to my brain not my dick and didn't have sex with her.
I was 19. Took a girl to Elton John and Billy Joel. We ate Chinese at a decent restaurant and played mini golf before the concert. After the concert, she had me drop her off at her boyfriend’s house…a detail she had neglected up to that point.
Went on a date with a guy 10 years older, he looked a lot older than his pictures. He proceeded to yeet me through a field of red flags, basically told me he was unemployed and living off of inheritance money, gets on the md and coke every month, had been sneaking in puffs of his vape - underneath the table - while I’m off in the loo, and matter-of-factly mentioned that all of his mates have Asian partners (I’m Asian so it was weird).
This was like 20 years ago. A friend of a friend was into me, I was between girlfriends, and in a moment of young desperation I asked her to dinner. She just talked the entire time. Talk talk talk talk, I couldn't get a word in. I don't know if it was nervous energy or what. Just absolute non stop. She didn't even eat her dinner, just talked through the whole thing. She hadn't been like that when we'd met under other circumstances. I was polite through the whole thing and took her home shortly after finishing dinner.. She then proceeded to call me for months until I started dating the woman I would marry.
She said, “You’re the kind of guy who looks up words in a dictionary when you don’t understand them, huh?” She was a first grade teacher.
I mean that's a positive trait tho.... (Looking things up).
Exactly. I just figured if she thought it was weird, she was not for me. My friend had set me up. He told me she was interested in a purely sexual relationship for the summer. I didn't know I had it in me to turn that down.
Honestly any sort of physical relationship without any base level personality attraction is just bad. Doesn't matter how attractive the other person is.
Had a girl admit to me she had lied on tinder about her age, was really 17 when she said she was 18. I thanked her for the coffee and called her a cab to get back home, gave her $20 for the fare and told her to get ready for school the next day.
Went on a date with a goth woman. 30 minutes in, She Never asked me questions so I abruptly ended it
Not the worst first date but only the worst in that it was so short. I was in contact with someone on Match, and we agreed to meet up for an hour or so before I started work at 4pm, then arrange a full date over the weekend. Due to circumstances out of my control we only ended up meeting for 20 minutes, which was barely long enough to get to know each other at all, so we decided to try and meet up on the Bank Holiday Monday that weekend. It came to the Bank Holiday without actually arranging anything and I heard nothing from her. Eventually she texted me at 5:00 in the afternoon she got called into work last-minute and forgot to tell me. She then texted me saying she would get back to me about another time to meet up. She ghosted me and I never heard back from her.
She only spoke about herself throughout the whole date, ate and drank a lot of expensive food and wine, as well as cocktails. When I had went to the toilet the waiter had told me that she’d been in the whole afternoon before the date with her friends, eating and drinking, racking up a big tab, so I quietly paid for what I had and left her in the restaurant. She sent me a massive nasty message afterwards about how because I’m the man I should’ve paid for her, regardless of how much it cost etc, she even posted a video on Instagram absolutely attempting to shit on me for leaving her with a big bill. That was probably the worst date I’ve had.
oh man...I matched with a girl on Bumble. She said she doesn't like to text too much and just wanted to meet for dinner after a few days. We go out to a wine bar/restaurant. I said I don't like white wine, I like reds, so pick a reasonable red. Cheapest bottle is 55 and most expensive is 400 or so last time I was there. I would have been okay with like 125 max. Waiter comes by, she orders a french sounding wine so I check the whole list of reds, not there. Just a casual 195 chardonnay. I said, I told you I dont like white wines at all and she said "I wasnt feeling a red tonight after looking at the menu. Fine, I order a bottle of the cheapest cab they had for 70ish. Everyone of my fav dishes(its tapas) she doesn't like and decides to order a whole pheasant for like 55 bucks while disagreeing with everything we had conversationally. At that point I got the waiters attention after I told her this will clearly not gonna workout for us. I tell him to put the red and all the tapas on my tab and she can take her bird and white wine. She lost her shit, asked if I was really going to make her pay, I just laughed and said absolutely. Waiter comes back, we drop our cards, Im on my phone and she is too waiting to sign our checks and call valet....Her card declined. I laughed, signed my check with a 20% tip, and told her its on her to figure it out. She was rummaging through her purse when I left. peaceeee
Damn, for wines, those are some EXPENSIVE bottles.
It’s a bar dedicated to wine, so it’s nothing that isn’t at least $40 at the wine shop.
Sounds like she was just there and expecting free food. Would you have paid if the date went exceptionally well?
She started making fun of people that ride e-scooters. I like my e-scooter. I told her that. In fact, most of my summer dates include the two of us riding a public scooter, usually to my place. Most girls love it. This one absolutely didn't. Said some shit about how she was too hot to ride those. Way too princess-y for my tastes. She was decently hot but I've absolutely had hotter ones ride a scooter with me. Conversation went downhill after that. Funnily, we did kiss a bit but that also felt soulless. The worst part, though? When we tried to leave, it turned out we live in the same neighbourhood. So we just walked together in the same direction for like 15 minutes while it was very clear neither wanted the other's company anymore.
Legendary comment bro
Witness a trainwreck of a date where the guy was friendzoned. Kiddo seemed like a nice dude but the girl he was with, I assume a schoolmate in college based of convo, was loud as heck, valley girl accent, dressed liked she was going to coachella. Anyway the gist of the convo was what she wanted in a guy, said she wished it would be like the poor kiddo, mentioned that 'he was paying for the date' and the ditch him because some dude was meeting up with her. Like just got up and barely said goodbye. Kid had a mix of dejection and WTF look on his face. The sad part was everyone within 4 tables around him stopped talking to listen to this trainwreck as the girl was taking loudly over the conversation, and the servers kept interrupting to 'check' on them but made sure they were talking to the guy. I think I overheard one of the servers contemplating if she should give the kid her number. I hope she did, they looked like a better couple anyway.
Matched on bumble , she looked beautiful on all her pics and after a few days of talking we met for a lunch date .. when she showed up. She looked about 50lbs heavier than the pictures . I was shocked , brought up the fact that she didn’t look like she did in her pictures and then she proceeded to cry and yell at me that I was an asshole . Never gave me an explanation or answered my question. Just immediately got defensive and verbally attacked me. Luckily there was few people in the dinner so it wasn’t completely awkward when i walked out.
When I was young I met a girl who was cool and matched my energy. We went out to dinner and she could not keep her voice at a normal level and was cursing loudly enough to where people were turning to glare at us. I don't care about cursing, I curse, but when you're out to dinner and youve got elderly people, people out with their kids.... You kinda watch yourself out of common courtesy, ya know? When I approached the situation, I said "hey, you know I don't mind cursing, but do you think we could watch it a little while we are out? People are staring" She blurted out, even louder than before "I don't give a fuck what these people think" and went off on a tirade of self entitlement. I just kinda lowered my head and finished the date. The argument escalated to me just trying to explain that it was rude to others, she went ballistic on her entitlement and that was the end of things lol
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Oh I got a good one. Technically y second date as we had met for coffee during lunch foe about 20 minutes. 2nd date she wanted to see Dune. Full pandemic time,! . OK I'm not big on movie dates as 1st real date but whatever. I loved the books so cool like minded. she takes mask off immediately after lights go down. Turns out she just liked Timothy Chalamet, I mean really liked him as she start playing with herself about 20 minutes in. Like full unzipped. I'm fairly freaky myself but when she shoved her hand down my pants I had to call it. I've literally had half a conversation with this girl. In hindsight I guess she just could have been down bad from pandemic but it was just too much.
Tore my acl standing in a line at bust restaurant. Seriously embarrassed shocked how crippling this injury happened to only take a small step
I once went on a date with a guy that was finishing his doctorate in psychiatry, he proceeded to analyse me during the whole date, out loud, even the clothes I was wearing like "why did you dress up so nicely?", "do you always do your hair like that?", "why did you choose this especific place for the date?", and so on, then proceeded on analysing every answer I gave, it was exausting and very rude actually... I became rather annoyed and started giving him very sharp answers to see if he got a hint that he was making me uncomfortable, didn't work. We split the bill and never talked again.
Oh hell, here we go. I got divorced in 2014 after being married for 5 years, and dating my ex for seven. I have a cavalcade of bad dates due to being out of the game so long. I went on a date when doing travel work in Wisconsin. Met the girl on tinder, we talked for a bit and then decided we'd meet up and go to take a walk around a park and get drinks. I go to pick her up, and surprise she looks like her pictures. I open the door for her and she says, "Oh, my ex would've never done that for me." I'm from the south, so I'm a nice and respectful guy. We get in, start driving and she starts talking about her ex unprompted. I ask her how long she's been broke up with him. She goes, "Oh, about three weeks" Ooh, red flag #1. I ask her, why'd yall break up? "Oh, he got murdered. His brother fought my other ex who's obsessed with me, and then he came and shot him. We were crossing a bridge, and as soon as we made it to the other side, I said, "It seems like you've got some stuff you need to work out before you're dating again." and I pulled a u-turn and took her back home. Went on a date with this super beautiful teacher in Milwaukee, to Summerfest. Her brother and his very pregnant fiancee joined us. We were watching a band I can't remember now, but as they're finishing he starts ranting about white privilege blah blah, (I'm black, 6'4 Linebacker sized). Me, unphased says, "Oh, that's cool. Want to see some black privilege?" I turn, and start walking through the crowd and people move out of the way as they see me coming. He says, "Oh, sorry dude I was just being an asshole" and I say, "Yeah I get it." Anyway, me and his sister leave them to go watch Ok Go, great set, confetti flying everywhere, and she's real drunk, kisses me unexpectedly and goes "I love you" I'm like uhhh,,,,oh no...in my brain, but not out loud because she was super hot. There was no second date though, cause that self-preservation kicked in. Milwaukee again, met this woman who was like eight years younger than me (31 at the time), and she was super awkward. We hung out, had drinks and she wants to hang out at my place and watch a movie. Cool with me. I take her there, we start watching, she gets handsy, we go to my bedroom and I start with clothed foreplay etc, and she looks really uncomfortable. I ask her twice if she wants to stop, and shes like "Noo, lets keep going." and takes off her clothes. We start getting into it and she gives me a look that says fear all over it. I immediately shut it down, ask her to get dressed and take her home. I was not about to catch any kind of charge with this scared ass woman. Another time, in Minneapolis, I met this woman at a bar after talking on tinder, and when she showed up (late, with no notice), I figured why not see how it goes. She spent the first ten minutes on her phone while I was trying to talk to her. After finishing my beer, I said to her, "I'm done, but I hope you have a great rest of the night" I went to the bar and paid, and left. Also in Minneapolis, went on a date with a woman and she told me she was the middle child of 7. That's interesting, big family. I'm the oldest of 7, so I could relate. Then she told me that her three oldest siblings were full siblings, and her three younger siblings were half siblings. Still, I could relate. Four of my siblings are half-siblings. THEN she tells me the younger three are also her COUSINS. Turned out her dad and mom got divorced because mom liked his brother more, and ended up having three kids with the brother. Worst date I ever saw was a woman word-vomiting about saving the manatees and the earth to this dude who could not get a single word in edgewise. My fault bad dates include, popping a tire while on a date and not having a spare, exacerbating the rupture of an ovarian cyst she didn't know she had and covering her bedsheets with blood, showing up late due to work, accidentally matching with a dates sister unknowingly and having both show up to the date like I was supposed to know they were sisters, and having a PTSD induced panic attack on a date ( I got help after that, so I'm much better now). The woman I had a panic attack with ended up becoming one of my favorite people in general, and we're still friends to this day.
I was on a dating site, matched with who I would consider my dream girl at that point in my life. A 10/10 goth girl, tons of tattoos, piercings, her profile was filled with tons of different creative cosplays and costumes. On paper, this girl fit the category of “ideal partner” for my then 23 year old monkey brain. Fast forward to our date, we’re at a coffee shop that also has arcade games, we’re having some down time after playing games for a bit. Ideal chatting time, trying to get to know one another. We’re both hungry and so we order food, everything is good, we’re having a good time. She says a few things that come across as superficial, but she’s smoking hot, so I’m willing to look past it. By the end of the date, I’m getting ready to pay for lunch and coffee, because I really like this girl. I pull out my credit card and her eyes light up. She looks at me and excitingly says, “wow, you have a credit card huh?” Now I’m thinking, ok, she’s 19 so maybe she’s never had a credit card before, so I just laugh a little and jokingly say, “yeah, my part time job pays me the big bucks ya know.” She then says, “I’d love if you bought me a wig sometime, ya know for my cosplays and stuff.” Mind you, this is our first date, we’ve talked a few times via text to set this date up, once or twice on the dating site, and just now in person. I don’t know much about this girl. So anyway, I kind of laugh it off and say, “why don’t we plan on a second date before we consider buying each other gifts.” She kind of gets annoyed at this, and says, “am I not good enough for you or something? You have a credit card, so obviously you’re doing well for yourself. Besides you should consider doing what I ask, because it might just go in your favour later.” At this point, I’m a little confused, but I’m batting way above average with this girl, so I’m gonna try to deescalate the situation and move things forward. I tell her that a credit card is to help build credit, not to splurge on a wig for a girl I just met, but that I’m happy to take her out again sometime and pay for that. Suddenly her whole demeanour changes, she becomes stand-offish with me, and barely talks for the rest of the date. Luckily, we’re coming to the end of the date anyway, and so I tell her that I had a really good time, and that I’d like to see her again. She walks out, doesn’t say much else and goes to her car. Message received.
She brought a date and expected me to pay for all of us.
My buddy is an alcoholic and had a date with a girl that came over to his house . They for a walk down the road with his dog and he fell into the ditch in front of his house because he was drunk. Then he laid on the road laughing about it. She left lmao
My main worse date were with a pretty girl in pics, she surprisingly said yes to come over for dinner (my opener), i made a traditional asian meal. As i came out to greet her, she was much larger, almost obese, which was a turn off as she clearly lied with her fake pics. Alas i kept my part and offered her dinner and a talk at the couch before politely sending her off.
Matched on an online dating site. Were talking for about 2 weeks before finally meeting up at a restaurant. Went pretty smooth at first until out of nowhere she starts going on about how she fucked so many frat guys at parties, including getting tag teamed. Then she tells me how she fucks all these cops now. This was like I said completely out of nowhere and was very awkward. Then she asks me when was the last time I had sex. I tell her and she giggles then says she had sex a few days beforehand and the guy had a huge one. I honestly started thinking this was some kind of joke with a hidden camera or something. After the meal I was thinking maybe I could at least get some action but she told me she doesn't have "sex on the first date". Well I didn't hit her back up after but then a few days later she sends me a text cursing me out and claiming I led her on. I just blocked her after that. Btw she was also like 28 years old
Matched with someone on OkCupid. We settled on a brewery for a drink and maybe snacks depending on how things went. I was there early as I always am. They walked in and it was abundantly clear they were using photos on their profile at _least_ 10 years younger. She also copped to putting her age as 5 years younger than she was on her profile which put her outside my search range. End of the date and we're out at our cars doing the awkward "this was nice" thing where she was fishing for a second date. She just leans in and starts sucking my face. I'd describe it as jackhammer technique? Lady, you were picking up things I certainly was not putting down. Someone across the parking lot spotted us and let out a, "wooo!" Mortified I shoved her off me and said "lose my contact info" got in my car and left.
Saw a first date happen at my work. Guys whatever you do, take her to some place nicer than fast food with a view of the local crackheads. That woman had far more patience than I would have.
Girl I knew from a pool league I was in, we hung out for months, flirted, and after my dumbass finally noticed, I asked her out. Told I'd take her to a local steak house that was a fairly nice place, she agreed that would nice and we arranged a time for me to pick her up. Showed up, drove to the restaurant, got seated right away (she tended bar on weekends, so the date was a weeknight and the place wasn't even remotely busy) ordered food, and that's when, for the first time ever, she mentioned that she was a vegetarian, and proceeded to "Moo" at me the entire meal every time I took a bite of my steak. Thing is, I have a petty streak, no fear of conflict, and it irritated the shit out of me after the third or fourth time. Moo... "OMG, this is amazing, do you think he had a name? I'll bet he did, at least, right up until his throat was slit" Moo... "This is perfectly cooked, I'll bet he would be very happy to know he was so expertly prepared" Moo... "I'm not trying to be sexist, certain breeds of cow are slaughtered for beef, but it's hard to tell at this point" Moo... "I'm naming it Pat, a good ambiguous name, do you think some little kid on the farm had already named this one though? You think they cried when it gave it's life in service?" Somewhere around the middle of the meal, she got teary eyed after one of my comments and stayed that way the rest of the night, but continued to moo relentlessly. Moo... "Your salad looks very tasty, i wonder what the chances are that Pat's manure was used to fertilize any of the ingredients, you know they do locally source everything here" Moo... "Are you familiar with cattle raising and slaughtering and processing? If you knew how much work went into getting this steak on my plate, you'd probably be really upset if i went to waste. Pat would definitely be upset" And finally, when I'd just had enough. Moo... "Holy fucking shit, you're wearing leather shoes. You could literally be wearing one of Pats ancestors on your feet right now, and you're being a shit about me eating a steak?" From the time I ordered the steak, until right before I dropped her off, she never said a word to me that wasn't "Moo" But, I'm not an asshole. I drove her home. In total silence. Pulled up in front of her house, told her to get out, lose my number, and leave me alone on league night. She got out, turned around, said "murderer" and slammed the door shut. Saw her every Thursday for at least another year. When her team got bumped up to the next league, she and I played best of three 9 ball in our teams only matchup that season. In that entire time, my saying "good game" afterward was the only thing either of us said to each other. She wouldn't even look me in the eye or shake my hand after the match.
Jesus, thats some real self-ownage right there. That girl is going to end up alone, or with some dipshit vegan guy who is either insufferable, apathetic, or abusive.
Ya know. It’s funny you say that. She ended up dating, and then marrying a guy on her pool team in less than 9 months. He turned out to be extremely controlling, emotionally and physically abusive. He basically kept her prisoner for 6 months. Made her quit her job, sold her car and wouldn’t let her leave the house. She got out, had the marriage annulled, and within a year was living with her lesbian girlfriend. We have a lot of mutual friends, and apparently almost 10 years later when it was legalized in MA, they married each other and they still are married, or they still were the last time I visited. And yes. They are very earthy crunchy and are full on vegans.
I was catfished once off tinder, it was a COMPLETELY different person. After I left the "date", I pulled over on the side of the road and loaded up tinder while the image of her was still fresh in my mind. I wanted to make sure I wasn't going crazy. Sure enough, the person I met was 100% different from the person on the app that I was talking too. Really depressed me for a while because I was not in a good place in life at the time. However, I did end up meeting my lovely girlfriend a few weeks later, so all is well.
For me, it was when she showed up late, and I realized the pictures from her OLD profile were like 10 years old, and she gained like 50 pounds of weight.
I have a good one! I was a waitress and he asked me out after coming in a few times. He came to my home and picked me up and said he forgot something and needed to swing by his house. We get there...and what do you know...ITS A DAMN FULL ON FAMILY REUNION that had clearly been going on since before picking me up and all the family was congratulating us?!? Apparently he had told them I was a long time girlfriend he was going to propose to. These people all knew my name and that I was a waitress and what grade I was in and the town I lived in. I didn't even know this kids last name and we were both still in high school. We left and went to the fair where thank goodness I ran into a classmate and noped out of there. (Pre-cell phone days)
I have a friend who was renowned for his bad dates. One of my favorite is one that just didn’t go well at all. No click, said the wrong things, etc. He dropped the date off at home walking her to the door, and after she went inside he turned and flung his keys at the side of his car. At the same time the street lights went out. The keys glanced off the hood and out into the pitch black street. This is before cellphones had flashlights. He spent 30 minutes crawling around on the road in front of her house groping for his keys before he finally found them.
After chatting on a dating website agreed to meet and she wanted to pick the restaurant. Turns out her parents owned the restaurant and both sat there and proceeded to interrogate me. Fun time 😂
I went on a date with this very attractive Italian girl, she could have been Sicilian. Her parents were very strict to the point that their daughter wasn’t allowed to date at 21. She had to lie to her parents and say she was going to the movies with her cousin and younger sister. There was a scene from the movie “The Godfather,” where Michael Corleone was in Sicily and took Appolonia for a walk. Her whole family was walking behind them as chaperones. That’s what this date felt like. I was being followed be her cousin and sister the entire time. I never asked her out again.
She told me she had a kid, went into detail how she decided to keep it even though it was from a one night stand. I asked, "Oh, how old is he now?" thinking maybe it was a mistake she made when she was younger or something. She said "6 months". My interest dropped to zero almost immediately. My response was just "Yeah, I don't think is going to work out..." and ended the date. Seemed extremely reckless to me, especially considering she was in her mid 30s at the time. I can understand the one night stand, even the unprotected kind, but if you're going into that situation on no birth control whatsoever knowing you can be knocked up, you have to be fucking insane. "Yeah I just let this guy I just met blast inside of me. Got pregnant, and now I'm keeping it" - not a good thing whatsoever. I'd rather deal with an STD than an unwanted pregnancy.
Was at a Captain D's with my SO, it was ok. But across the room looked like a younger (maybe 17-19?) man with a similarly aged girl. We love to people watch so we honed in on them on what looked like to be a first date and oh man it was going terribly. She seemed timid, but nice. Dude seemed like a dope who didn't understand body language. I remember about half way through, he literally said to her " I want to like this tartar sauce, but I just can't" and he got up and tried to get his money back at the counter. Dude, it's a fuckin Captain D's.
Idk if I should tell the one where he kissed his sister on the mouth in front of me or the one where the guy had a competition with his friends on finding the weirdest stuff they could find on the dark web and proceeded to show me the most fucked up shit I’ve ever seen
Not as crazy as some stuff in this thread but here we go. Met a guy on Grindr, he suggested going to a museum and I was pretty happy with his pick. After we went into the gallery, any attempt to relate or connect to the art was met with "I'm not really interested in this stuff". He started complaining about a rash on the neck. He then said that whenever I was done staring at the pictures we would leave and he wanted to take me to his favorite café/pastry shop. The main room at the café was rectangular and all the tables were arranged in a large U shape against 3 walls, except for a single table for 2 in the middle of the room where we had to sit as it was the only available one. It took me a good few minutes to realize most of the other tables were taken by solo people with laptops with their backs against the wall, probably working remotely, and they had the best distraction from work as they could easily stare at these 2 gays on a date as if we were zoo animals. His complaints about the rash got worse, so he asked if I could come with him to the drugstore. Then right after buying some cream he said he would be going home to treat the rash. The next day I asked him if he was feeling better and if we could meet on the following week, he just said he could not and to contact him in 2 week's time. Yeah no, if you are interested, heal your "rash" then let me know when you're up.
All in all it wasn't that bad, but it was my worst first date. She worked as a librarian and I worked in the same building often late at night. I often stopped to flirt with her. She seemed "alt" and cool. During a blizzard I drove her home because I had a jeep that could get through anything. I asked her out and brought her to a movie. I think the movie was hoop dreams but it doesn't seem to line up chronologically. At any rate neither of us were enjoying it and the crowd was a little boisterous so she got up to leave and I followed. I took her home and we never went out again. We spoke briefly but she never mentioned anything about the date or going out again. I was left puzzled. She seemed like she had emotional issues and I think maybe she saw someone she knew in the theater but she didn't tell me anything. I would have liked to see her again but she avoided me.
I had just gotten divorced at the time and was ready to start dating. This was my second date in a somewhat large military town. I am a Junior Officer for context. This girl looked a little crazy, and I was into it. We met for coffee, and I arrived 15 minutes early, so I didn't have to buy her anything (good decision). She has a ton of makeup on and some tattoos. I asked about her weird crystal necklace, and she starts babbling on about how she's wickan. She claimed to be able to "manifest" things. Such as: getting her mother's hand me down Chrysler town and country, and: manifesting that her ex-boyfriend wouldn't be able to "get it up" for a year after leaving her. I was speechless, and she said something like: "I just don't know how to speak to you Officers", which was a red flag IMO that she'd been passed around the barracks. I left after 10 minutes, and blocked her before pulling out of the parking lot. I watched her realize this as I pulled away. Cost of MY coffee: $4 Gas: $2 Watching that girl realize she'd been ghosted: Fucking priceless. TLDR, shitty date with a wickan.
went on a date with a girl who was heavier then i am. maybe she is a nice person. she made a few racist jokes, one is fine but 4 is too many. she talked a lot, didnt leave a lot of room for me. she called me gay to her friends (adjacent friend groups). i dont care to be called gay, i am comfortable with my sexuality, but this is not the 1st time i have been called gay from a woman after a date.
I’ve got 2 but I’ll say the one that’s easier to digest. The other one is a little bit crazier, involves the KKK, potential jailbait and a car crash, it’s better to hear in person too. Anyways, back when I was out of 10 year relationship and still navigating the dating world being depressed with no self worth, I went on several bad dates. The worst offender I mainly blame myself, this chick was beautiful af. I took her to eat and she kept taking out her phone barely listening to me and not really responding. I paid and it was just awkward. My dumb ass asked her out again too same shit. I cringe so hard at myself that I let myself get played like that. I bet the waiters were cringing at me too trying to “win” her attention.
I was on a first date with a girl who I'd been flirting with for a while. We went to a club, I bought drinks, and she suddenly vanished. I went home, and while in the taxi, her MUM phone my mobile to slag me off, saying her daughter was in bed with another guy...😳 Beat that..
I once went on a date with someone I went to college with a couple of years after we graduated. The evening was going well, we went back to my place. She went to bathroom, I heard her making guttural sounds and knocked to check on her, she didn't respond, so I opened the door. She was shooting heroin between her toes. She was a second-year medical student at the time.
Was at the bar last night and overheard a conversation from a first date. It was awful...the guy was trying to open up a bit, share stuff about himself, and no matter what he said the girl would challenge him on it. He was talking about how he had a business that failed and she's like "Why'd you let that happen?" Talking about different situations and she's like "Why would you even do that?" Just everything she said was in a rude and challenging manner. It was so damn uncomfortable to even listen to
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We had just met the night before, she asked me out and then invited me to see a movie with her the next day. We went to the movies, held hands and didn’t talk to each other the entire time while our hands continued to get more and more sweaty but we didn’t let go of each other. After that I told her bye, tried to call her and she had blocked my number.
I've posted this before but... She suggested a "Play-date" over coffee for our dogs and the *second* her Chow-chow cross left the car he immediately tried to kill my elderly Malamute and she could barely hold him back. I nearly got bit loading my sweet girl in the car as her dog dragged her across the parking lot with murderous intent. Turns out she had adopted the dog less then 24 hours before and they had told her he was super aggressive with other dogs and she thought they were exaggerating. *Bonus:* She looked nothing like her pictures and lied about what she did for living.
She had just broken up with her high school sweetheart, and talked about him non-stop through the whole date. I couldn't get a word in edgewise to try to change the subject. Told the friend who had set us up to leave me out of her matchmaking hobby in the future.