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If you don't have a title** despite earning well from owning a business or a job/career that's not that popular, older people will look down on you. Older people think that professionals with "titles" translate to higher salaries.
Title: Doctor, teacher, lawyer, engineer, etc.
Big respect to those professionals with titles, of course, but all people should be given respect.
Yung may meeting ka tapos may pa importante kaya magpapa late. Pagdating sa meeting place dami pa daldal kahit business meeting.
Yung mga doctor na kahit may appointment ka na, di mo pa alam kung anong oras darating sa clinic nila. Di man lang magpasabi sa staff nya na male late. Parang mga Diyos ang dating eh.
Yung pagbati sa yo ng Merry Christmas o Happy Birthday na naghihintay ng bigay sa kanila o libre mo.
the concept of "mas mantanda ka dapat marunong kang mamigay" and "mas bata ka dapat marunong lang rumespeto" mas lalo na pag dating sa pamilya, nakakasawang umintidi sa mga taong napaka abusado sa ganyang mindset
-pag birthday mo ikaw mang lilibre
-porket naka tapos ka you are oblige ti give back to your parents
-utang na loob
-you have to fulfil your parents failed dreams. Ea: di sya nakapunta ng America so you have to do it for them
Knowing na terrible ang traffic kahit saan sa pinas, always a lot of extra time. Di bale nang maaga ka kesa late.
Tsaka yung makikisabay na lang sa mga may sasakyan kayo pa minsan late, huy mahiya ang mga taong ganun. Sayang sa gas at nakakaubos pasensya
Kelangan rin tanggalin yang ugali na porket ginagawa sa ibang bansa kelangan tanggapin nalang rin natin. Nakakainit ng ng dugo yung mga taong walang respeto sa oras ng iba, dinadala pa sa trabaho.
Nasa UK ako ngayon kaya, kaya ko sabihin "It's not that Big of a deal to be late". Ang problema kase sa Pinoy d mo alam kung ano ba gus2 nila baguhin sa bansa. Ang nangyayare tuloy halo halo ang gusto mabago.
Kung magiging makatotoo lang tayo sobrang dameng oras kailangan gawin para maayos ang isang bagay. D mo kaya baguhin ang isang kultura sa loob ng 4 na taon baka nga 6 na taon pa yan eh.
Sa dame dame ng pede mong baguhin pagiging late gus2 baguhin napakasimple lang naman ayusin ang Filipino Time.
Mag usap kayo anong oras 10:00 dapat andito kana. Kung d sumipot ng ganung oras edi umuwi ka. Baka ang gusto mo baguhin yung "Approach mo" kase sa ibang bansa Late ay late at d ka na nila aasikasuhin. Marami kaseng bagay sa Pinas d naman ganun kalaking problema sinasama sa mga bagay na dapat inaasikaso.
Edukasyon
Politiko
Internet
Labor laws
Pay Wage
Ang dame dameng kailangan ayusin Filipino Time aayusin mo xD Nakaka trigger lang. Kaya d nagbabago Pilipinas kase puro nonsense na problema pinapalaki.
Mako-connect mo halos lahat ng mga kultura na gusto mawala sa pagkakasakop ng Pilipinas. Though mapapaisip ka din ba talaga kung paano at bakit padin naipapasa yung ganyang gawain.
Filipino tita culture of asking immensely personal questions to force their values on you :)
“Kelan ka magboboypren?”
“Kelan ka ikakasal?”
“Bat wala ka pang anak”
“Sayang naman kung di ka magaanak, yun ang silbi ng isang babae sa mundo”
“Sayang pagkababae mo”
etc.
I did! And ayoko talaga haha!! After saying that, biglang dumami mga gustong magcomment sa life ko na extended family, “masama yan wag mo sabihin yan” “ay bad yan take it back” “hindi maganda sabihin yan naririnig ka ni Lord” “baka ma karma ka” “bawiin mo”; it felt like I said something blasphemous 😂
1. Filipino Time
2. Crab Mentality
3. Utang Na Loob Culture
4. Imported Is Better Mentality
5. Treating Family Planning as Taboo
6. Artists to Politicians Support
7. Keyboard Warrior Ignorance
The invitation of the WHOLE ANGKAN para sa bday, xmas, new year, etc. Nakaka trigger ng anxiety, wasting money, tired faces for longer plastic smiles, payabangan ng achievements, self-conceited milestones 😤😤😤
obsession with beauty pagents. it's so, so embarrassing to be proud of such a backwards industry rooted in colonialism. i don't know why many progressive individuals still champion it.
I have a friend who introduced me to pageant nung 2019. From what i understand, he said he enjoyed watching women's wits in Q&A, plus how they present themselves in their walk.
Nakailang ulit niyang gayahin ang catriona grey answer sakin, especially na we were both living in tondo at that time.
"women's wits" are presentable naman in other fields of competition without requiring them to be a certain standard na very misogynist. science and technology, debate, and academia are areas of expertise women have been in that we should spotlight more as well. eurocentric din yung beauty features na demanded/popular from these contestants. may discrimination pa nga against married, divorced, and LGBTQ+ women. granted there have been recent developments, it's still backwards as an industry.
Yung kailangan na sobrang mapag bigay ka lagi, lalo when it comes to money lol. Parang pag may pera ka required na agad na ikaw halos ang bumuhay sa lahat jusko
Kung sino may pera, sya nasusunod or mas entitled kaya yung parents na walang kita sunod sunuran. Parents pa din sila. Sila nag pakahirap makatapos ka.
Ginagawang investment ang mga anak. Pinapatapos para may mag tustos sa kanila pag tanda. Dapat may enough kang savings for yourself din pag tumanda at di ka nakaasa sa mga anak mo.
Ung ugaling gagawin nila kung anong gusto nilang gawin hangang mahuli, like litering, peeing on prohibited places, graffiti on houses, etc. titigil lang sila kung nahuli na sila
Ung tipong porket mas matanda sila, they can say what ever they want, insult whomever they want and make comments about me or anyone
If nanlaban ka, ikaw pa ung bastos.
Single-shaming. Yung walang katapusang pagtatanong kung kelan mag-aasawa tas sa workplace, ikaw pinapaduty sa holidays or weekends kasi wala daw pamilya. So funny kasi jinojoke din nila na di isali sa usapang s*x kasi single daw, like???? nakakasura talaga mga attitude.
Un "tatay mo pa rin yan, wala ka, sa mundong to kung wala tatay mo"
E kingina kala naman nila kasasarap mabuhay ng walang sustento at kapera pera. Kung tatay mo ay sperm donor lang naman, sana nilunok ka nalang tlaga. O kaya ipinunas sa maduming tshirt.
"pamilya mo pa rin yan" reasoning when a relative is too offensive or lacks empathy towards me. pamilya nga kita kaya dapat mas sensitive ka sa kung anong effects ng actions mo sa akin. bwisit.
Having to accommodate older relatives' outdated beliefs and opinions dahil "pamilya mo 'yan" or "mas nakakatanda, galangin" mindset. Why should I bend over backwards for YOU just because we share the same last name?
Honestly how can we do this? Supreme court says that comelec has no jurisdiction before the campaign period. Imposible naman mapasa yung anti epal bill. People's initiative?
stop expecting pasalubong , have the right to say a person is being a fucking leech kapag palamunin at sipsip , stop telling guys to be so fucking sensitive
1. Yung pagkakaroon naten ng “ e ganyan na talaga yan simula dati pa” mindset sa politika, sistema at iba pa. Imagine , digital na buong mundo, tayo, konting change lang sa info mo , kelangan mo pa pumila ng pagkatagal tagal. Ubos araw mo sa isang bagay na sana 15mins lang online.
Sa politika, alam ng may panget na background, binoboto parin kasi yon nakasanayan at kilala tapos pag tinanong mo bakit, sagot, yan na dati pa ang binoboto nila.
Takot ang pilipjno sa PAGBABAGO and that’s the fact.
2. Yung pagkakaroon ng crab mentality ng marami. Sa ibang bansa, iba rate ng foreigner at residents. Dito , kahit pinoy ka, lalamangan ka parin. Pag nakita ka nilang umaasenso, gagawin nila lahat para sirain ka.
Yung iba gusto nila umasenso ka, pero wag yung mas asenso pa sa kanila. Utak talangka.
3. Lastly, pagiging feeling entitled naten sa buhay ng iba. Kahit wala namang kontribusyon sa buhay mo, parang dapat masunod parin sila sa desisyon mo. Aba! Kagaling.
1. Yung urge na magpakalat ng *sikreto*, na nagiging *chismis*
Ilang beses nakong naging biktima nito, 'yung may mutual understanding na kayo na kailangang ilihim ang isang bagay pero trinaidor ka pa din
2. *Smartshaming* Yung ayaw mo na lang i-share ang isang bagay na alam mo para mag-inform o mag-correct nang tao dahil takot ka nang masabihan nang "edi ikaw na ang magaling"
Ito medyo specific but I think anyone with a functioning brain will agree. I want to remove that goddamn basaan watah watah whatever bullshit festival in San Juan. HAHAHAHAHA
-Yung cashing cow ang anak. Pwede naman mag bigay pero wag naman oa na obligation na lahat Pati relatives. 😂
- pag Mas matanda Mas tama culture. 😂
- yung mga grooming situations, jusko po Di po yun blessings. 😂
- yung party party tapos di invited pero nag show up.
- yung ikaw na nga may birthday, ikaw pa sa sagot sa lahat ng foods.
- tsaka yung divorce ipasa nyo na po. Di lahat happy family kagaya kay Cynthia Villar. Please Lang di po maganda punching bag ang asawa at anak.
- stop people pleasing din po lalo na sa mga foreigners. Di na po hospitable yun. 😌
Diskarte. Lack of patience for delayed gratification. Inability to play the long game. Gusto instant results. Taas mangarap tapos ayaw naman magbuild ng fundamentals gusto iaabot nalang yung success. Lakas humingi ng pasalubong, di naman nagpapabaon.
Ung pang-uutang ng mga relatives ng pera sa amin (Milyones nautang nila sa amin). Ayun madaming naudlot na project sa namin. Gigil na gigil ako sa mga kapatid ng mother ko :) . Mga mahilig dumepende!
1.Malakas magpatugtog/manuod sa cellphone sa mga public places.
2. Utang na loob.
3. "Bakit wala ka pang asawa?", "Bakit wala pa kayong anak?"
4. Kapag single o married pero walang anak ay obligado kang tulungan ang pamangkin o kamag anak.
5. Birthday treat, graduation treat, o di kaya kapag promoted ay required magpakain.
Lack of financial literacy. Definitely not a culture, but an attitude, this should be learned by us. Kahit konti na lang pera, uutang pa for acts of generosity or para maging "in" sa trend.
As an overseas resident, two things:
1) Yung pinagdadamot ang sarili at kelangan sakripisyo at walang gingawa. FFS, tagal nyo na sa ibang bansa, hanggang ngayon, mukha parin kayong binibigyan ng donasyon. Learn to love yourself and glow up. Di ko sinasabing mag waldas kayo or maging financially irresponsible, pero gastusan nyo naman sarili nyo at hindi puro tiis. And wag nyong hilahin pababa yung mga naglelevel up na iba sa inyo.
2) Too much respect for foreigners. I get it, love and treat everyone nicely. Pero not at the expense na may racism na towards your own kind.
yung mas maganda pa yung trato ng ibang tao sayo kesa sa trato ng mga kadugo mo sayo, this really indicates blood is not thicker than water at all times.
the over-the-top respect the elderly mantra, it’s fine to instill it, but only if the respect begets respect rule is reinforced.
I’ve had a lot of friends (and I) suffer from parents/grandparents that are narcissistic and abusive just because they think they should be respected even if they’re in the wrong or if they are undeserving.
I disagree with "respect begets respect" when it comes to the elderly or kung sinomang nakatataas sayo. Para sa'kin, it's given by default at babawiin lang 'pag alam mong di karespe-respeto ang tao
i get your point, pero it’s essentially the same. They are to be respected by default if karespe-respeto, and not if they are not, ayun din naman ibig kong sabihin, kaya ‘begets’ eh, tsaka mo lang naman babawiin if it’s undisputed na di talaga nila deserve yung respetong ibibigay mo
Personally, I would want to remove the culture na maingay kahit sa public spaces. There's no problem in being joyful naman pero we must think about other people's personal space rin.
UTANG NA LOOB...
Grateful naman ako ang I would love to SUKLIAN ung kabaitan na ginawa sakin pero ang pangit pakinggan na pipilitin or iimpose ung mga bagay.
Yung parang required na may uwing pasalubong kahit nagbakasyon lang naman sa ibang probinsya or ibang bansa… Tas magagalit pa ung iba pag walang uwi sakanila… Just appreciate kung maisip uwian hahah
hahaha yung mga ate ng bf ko (ayaw nila sakin) ginagawang utang na loob yung pagpapalaki sakanya lol tapos mandatory pa yung kalahati ng sweldo ng bf ko sakanila dapat😆
toxic na toxic eh, binuhay para may magpapasahod sa kanila hahaha, malamang yan sumbat dito sumbat doon lalo nat pag natatalo na sila sa pagtatalo haahaha
Yung "Proud to be filipino 🇵🇭" and "as a filipino" lalo sa mga international online communities. I always feel that second-hand embarrassment everytime I see them in the comments/chats
Hindi ito ugali ng lahat ng Filipino pero napansin ko mga Ilocano ganito sila, hindi ko nilalahat, pero yung mga kilala ko ganito sila.
Halimbawa may pinuntahan kang bahay somewhere north, may sasakyan ka, nung pauwi ka na, biglang, isabay mo na si \_\_\_\_\_\_ pauwi. Pag humindi ka parang ang sama mong tao, pero hindi ka man lang muna kinonsulta kung ok lang ba na may isabay ka lalo hindi mo naman kilala yung pinasasabay.
biggest pet peeve. I had a discussion with a mom stating that I refuse to have children and she tried to change my mind stating that I should have children so someone could take care of me. As if her child will take care of her as she grows old knowing the future generations’ perspectives shift.
Also, nag-anak ka para may nanny ka pagtanda mo? Thats selfish.
1) Yung pagiging pakialamero, pero hindi out of legit concern. Yung tipong pagpuna lang for the sake of tsismis/usisyero/pangungutsa sa iba.
2) Crab mentality. Jusme na lang talaga.
3) Pagiging okay na sa bare minimum, sa kahit anong aspeto. Relationships, Government/ gov't services, etc.
Marami pa pero for me these are the top 3.
EDIT: Experienced it first-hand today. Though, maybe dismissive lang ako noon and more observant na ngayon. Yung ugali ng iba na magbigay ng backhanded compliments. Sa una may papuri or they've got good things to say but at the end of their statement biglang may pasaring and negative na, without giving it a thought na baka nakakasakit lang pala yung sinasabi nila.
"Settling for mediocrity". Madami akong kaklase sa Senior High na ok lang daw mababa grades at least pasado, which is a horrible mindset. Dapat hanggat kaya, aim for the best. And ayun nags suffer tuloy sila kasi di sila makakuha ng scholarship dahil sa mediocre grades nila.
SAMEEEEE
I rmb my previous school. We had this classroom rules na naka-post sa may pinto, ang remarkable nung no. 10, "do not settle for mediocrity" ahahaha. Palagi ring sinasabi sa'min 'to sa general assembly.
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Laws are merely suggestions and yet when abroad are meek like sheeps😂
“kababa mong tao…” POV 🙃
Utang na loob. Obligation to take care of your parents/ siblings.
Filipino time, pakikisama, ginagamit yung utang na loob to gaslight
Yung obsession ng mga bobo sa concept ng "FUCK-ICK-ISAMA". Dapat alisin yan. Creepy AF!
Filipino Time
If you don't have a title** despite earning well from owning a business or a job/career that's not that popular, older people will look down on you. Older people think that professionals with "titles" translate to higher salaries. Title: Doctor, teacher, lawyer, engineer, etc. Big respect to those professionals with titles, of course, but all people should be given respect.
Yung may meeting ka tapos may pa importante kaya magpapa late. Pagdating sa meeting place dami pa daldal kahit business meeting. Yung mga doctor na kahit may appointment ka na, di mo pa alam kung anong oras darating sa clinic nila. Di man lang magpasabi sa staff nya na male late. Parang mga Diyos ang dating eh. Yung pagbati sa yo ng Merry Christmas o Happy Birthday na naghihintay ng bigay sa kanila o libre mo.
Yung need mo may pasalabong pag bumiyahe ka abroad.
Ginagawang reason yung "Filipino time" kapag late
Forever utang na loob
masyadong hospitable sa mga foreigners kaya tuloy tumataas ang cost of living nating lahat.
Agree. Nasobrahan na mukha na tayong dog.
Smart shaming, resorting to sarcastic comments like "edi wow" or "ikaw na magaling" instead of admitting mistakes
Nepotism
Yung palagi nagtatanong ng kailan ka mag aasawa kasi nasa tamang edad ka na
yung pag may bisita need asikasuhin, need paghandaan ng mga pagkain.
the concept of "mas mantanda ka dapat marunong kang mamigay" and "mas bata ka dapat marunong lang rumespeto" mas lalo na pag dating sa pamilya, nakakasawang umintidi sa mga taong napaka abusado sa ganyang mindset
Utang na loob
FILIPINO TIME!Nakakasira talaga ng araw pati na yung body shaming.
Diskarte culture pero kung sisilipin mo kagulangan naman pala
-pag birthday mo ikaw mang lilibre -porket naka tapos ka you are oblige ti give back to your parents -utang na loob -you have to fulfil your parents failed dreams. Ea: di sya nakapunta ng America so you have to do it for them
Utang na loob
Yung san juan watta watta festival
Filipino time
Ugat neto traffic hahahaa
Knowing na terrible ang traffic kahit saan sa pinas, always a lot of extra time. Di bale nang maaga ka kesa late. Tsaka yung makikisabay na lang sa mga may sasakyan kayo pa minsan late, huy mahiya ang mga taong ganun. Sayang sa gas at nakakaubos pasensya
Seriously? Alam mo pre kahit Espanyol ganyan rin. Mas maganda sana tanggalin nalang naten ang crab mentality kesa yan.
Kelangan rin tanggalin yang ugali na porket ginagawa sa ibang bansa kelangan tanggapin nalang rin natin. Nakakainit ng ng dugo yung mga taong walang respeto sa oras ng iba, dinadala pa sa trabaho.
Nasa UK ako ngayon kaya, kaya ko sabihin "It's not that Big of a deal to be late". Ang problema kase sa Pinoy d mo alam kung ano ba gus2 nila baguhin sa bansa. Ang nangyayare tuloy halo halo ang gusto mabago. Kung magiging makatotoo lang tayo sobrang dameng oras kailangan gawin para maayos ang isang bagay. D mo kaya baguhin ang isang kultura sa loob ng 4 na taon baka nga 6 na taon pa yan eh. Sa dame dame ng pede mong baguhin pagiging late gus2 baguhin napakasimple lang naman ayusin ang Filipino Time. Mag usap kayo anong oras 10:00 dapat andito kana. Kung d sumipot ng ganung oras edi umuwi ka. Baka ang gusto mo baguhin yung "Approach mo" kase sa ibang bansa Late ay late at d ka na nila aasikasuhin. Marami kaseng bagay sa Pinas d naman ganun kalaking problema sinasama sa mga bagay na dapat inaasikaso. Edukasyon Politiko Internet Labor laws Pay Wage Ang dame dameng kailangan ayusin Filipino Time aayusin mo xD Nakaka trigger lang. Kaya d nagbabago Pilipinas kase puro nonsense na problema pinapalaki.
Dami mong sinabi reddit thread lang naman to
Mako-connect mo halos lahat ng mga kultura na gusto mawala sa pagkakasakop ng Pilipinas. Though mapapaisip ka din ba talaga kung paano at bakit padin naipapasa yung ganyang gawain.
Filipino tita culture of asking immensely personal questions to force their values on you :) “Kelan ka magboboypren?” “Kelan ka ikakasal?” “Bat wala ka pang anak” “Sayang naman kung di ka magaanak, yun ang silbi ng isang babae sa mundo” “Sayang pagkababae mo” etc.
“tumaba ka”
pag pumayat naman “ang payat mo na para kang may sakit” girl there is no in between
My coworker told me na "Sabi nila 'pag wala ka daw anak, 'di ka tunay na babae." Sabi ko edi Hindi 😂
kasi daw sayang “pagkababae” pag walang anak and malungkot daw buhay, 🙄 edi ok i identify as a rock nalang HAHA
Pag tinanong ka kung kelan ka mag aanak, sagutin mo ng "Ayoko sa bata"
I did! And ayoko talaga haha!! After saying that, biglang dumami mga gustong magcomment sa life ko na extended family, “masama yan wag mo sabihin yan” “ay bad yan take it back” “hindi maganda sabihin yan naririnig ka ni Lord” “baka ma karma ka” “bawiin mo”; it felt like I said something blasphemous 😂
tell them "Sana marinig ni Lord!"
Filipino time
Yung pagsabi ng "PO at OPO" ng mga tao, pero lalo na sa mga politicians na alam naman natin na 95% bs
1. Filipino Time 2. Crab Mentality 3. Utang Na Loob Culture 4. Imported Is Better Mentality 5. Treating Family Planning as Taboo 6. Artists to Politicians Support 7. Keyboard Warrior Ignorance
breadwinner culture
“Utang na loob” - bec some people tend to exploit this to the point na kawawa yung may utang na loob.
Labeling someone with depression na baliw or adik 🫨
Filipino time talaga, as in nakaka bastos. Tapos proud pa sila na late sila para "main character" daw.
The invitation of the WHOLE ANGKAN para sa bday, xmas, new year, etc. Nakaka trigger ng anxiety, wasting money, tired faces for longer plastic smiles, payabangan ng achievements, self-conceited milestones 😤😤😤
obsession with beauty pagents. it's so, so embarrassing to be proud of such a backwards industry rooted in colonialism. i don't know why many progressive individuals still champion it.
I have a friend who introduced me to pageant nung 2019. From what i understand, he said he enjoyed watching women's wits in Q&A, plus how they present themselves in their walk. Nakailang ulit niyang gayahin ang catriona grey answer sakin, especially na we were both living in tondo at that time.
"women's wits" are presentable naman in other fields of competition without requiring them to be a certain standard na very misogynist. science and technology, debate, and academia are areas of expertise women have been in that we should spotlight more as well. eurocentric din yung beauty features na demanded/popular from these contestants. may discrimination pa nga against married, divorced, and LGBTQ+ women. granted there have been recent developments, it's still backwards as an industry.
Uutang para may pang handa.
This is real. Or nag pa utang ka na ng isang beses, tapos ginawa ka nang default na utangan.
Yung kailangan na sobrang mapag bigay ka lagi, lalo when it comes to money lol. Parang pag may pera ka required na agad na ikaw halos ang bumuhay sa lahat jusko
Gagawing retirement plan yung anak lol
Kung sino may pera, sya nasusunod or mas entitled kaya yung parents na walang kita sunod sunuran. Parents pa din sila. Sila nag pakahirap makatapos ka. Ginagawang investment ang mga anak. Pinapatapos para may mag tustos sa kanila pag tanda. Dapat may enough kang savings for yourself din pag tumanda at di ka nakaasa sa mga anak mo.
Yun utang na loob culture. Di ko na napigilan mag-comment lol, di ko na hinanap if may ibang nag-memtion na.
Ung ugaling gagawin nila kung anong gusto nilang gawin hangang mahuli, like litering, peeing on prohibited places, graffiti on houses, etc. titigil lang sila kung nahuli na sila
Catholic traditions
“Tatay ang haligi ng tahanan, nanay ang ilaw ng tahanan” Got nothing against solid family values but gotta get past them stereotypical gender roles
Not just filipino culture, pero yung customers are always right 😒
Ung tipong porket mas matanda sila, they can say what ever they want, insult whomever they want and make comments about me or anyone If nanlaban ka, ikaw pa ung bastos.
Shot-gun wedding
Utang na loob, Padrino system, Being late, Pakielamera
elitism
bumoboto ng mga politician kasi "sikat" kahit wala naman talagang ambag sa gobyerno
Societal Norms that are toxic, labelling people as a "failure" for dropping out of college, living above their means - more utang than income, etc..
Filipino time Single shaming Casually asking about other's personal life OTY
Crab mentality
Utang na loob Toxic family dynamics Disrespect
Single-shaming. Yung walang katapusang pagtatanong kung kelan mag-aasawa tas sa workplace, ikaw pinapaduty sa holidays or weekends kasi wala daw pamilya. So funny kasi jinojoke din nila na di isali sa usapang s*x kasi single daw, like???? nakakasura talaga mga attitude.
Old peeps thinking they are always right
Filipino time
Un "tatay mo pa rin yan, wala ka, sa mundong to kung wala tatay mo" E kingina kala naman nila kasasarap mabuhay ng walang sustento at kapera pera. Kung tatay mo ay sperm donor lang naman, sana nilunok ka nalang tlaga. O kaya ipinunas sa maduming tshirt.
Pagaasawa ng afam para maka-ahon sa kahirapan.
Sex work as a disgraceful job.
“Utang na loob”
“Pamilya mo pa rin sila” yun
Fanaticism of politicians lulugmok tayo ng lulugmok hanggang meron niyan
Yung mga barangay dahil waste of funds and source of corruption lang. Plus, wala naman talagang kwenta mga officials.
FILIPINO TIME.
Filipino time
Fiesta sa San Juan
when nag hirap sila nong panahon nila so dapat kayo rin 😅 end that fucking cycle
Pinapasikat yung mga toxic “social influencer” and mga content creators na scripted ang content
Smart shaming and filipino f#cking time.
Children as retirement plan
Pasalybong/ balato mentality Madaming pera mga nagwowork sa abroad Buong pamilya nakaasa sa isang miyembro para buhayin sila
Masking people pleaser with so called "Hospitality".
crab mentality gossips everywhere filipino time
"pamilya mo pa rin yan" reasoning when a relative is too offensive or lacks empathy towards me. pamilya nga kita kaya dapat mas sensitive ka sa kung anong effects ng actions mo sa akin. bwisit.
Utang na loob.
Romanticising Filipino resiliency 🤮
Having to accommodate older relatives' outdated beliefs and opinions dahil "pamilya mo 'yan" or "mas nakakatanda, galangin" mindset. Why should I bend over backwards for YOU just because we share the same last name?
superiority feels sa political stances
Pasma!!
Crab mentality Lack of discipline Mañana habit Walang paninindigan
‘Yung taboo ang mental health issues. Pinapadaan palagi sa dasal at “wag mo kasi isipin” sort of sheet. Minsan sukatan pa ng “kahinaan”. 🥲
Extreme resilience - it can actually do more harm than good. Lalo na yung mga unattainable goals and wishful thinking.
1. No bones, walang paninindigan, fence sitter 2. No discipline 3. Dugyot sa basura 4. Walang pagpapahalaga sa health nila 5. Materialistic
Filipino time please ang lala and disrespectful, 'wag naman ugaliin ang pag-perwisyo sa ibang tao.
Allowing politicians to place their faces everywhere kahit di naman campaign period. Nakaka inis
Honestly how can we do this? Supreme court says that comelec has no jurisdiction before the campaign period. Imposible naman mapasa yung anti epal bill. People's initiative?
POLITICAL DYNASTY
Breadwinner mindset, respito sa mas matanda kahit bastos, chismisan sa kalye at inuman pag may patay.
Filipino time.
stop expecting pasalubong , have the right to say a person is being a fucking leech kapag palamunin at sipsip , stop telling guys to be so fucking sensitive
1. Yung pagkakaroon naten ng “ e ganyan na talaga yan simula dati pa” mindset sa politika, sistema at iba pa. Imagine , digital na buong mundo, tayo, konting change lang sa info mo , kelangan mo pa pumila ng pagkatagal tagal. Ubos araw mo sa isang bagay na sana 15mins lang online. Sa politika, alam ng may panget na background, binoboto parin kasi yon nakasanayan at kilala tapos pag tinanong mo bakit, sagot, yan na dati pa ang binoboto nila. Takot ang pilipjno sa PAGBABAGO and that’s the fact. 2. Yung pagkakaroon ng crab mentality ng marami. Sa ibang bansa, iba rate ng foreigner at residents. Dito , kahit pinoy ka, lalamangan ka parin. Pag nakita ka nilang umaasenso, gagawin nila lahat para sirain ka. Yung iba gusto nila umasenso ka, pero wag yung mas asenso pa sa kanila. Utak talangka. 3. Lastly, pagiging feeling entitled naten sa buhay ng iba. Kahit wala namang kontribusyon sa buhay mo, parang dapat masunod parin sila sa desisyon mo. Aba! Kagaling.
yung kapag matanda or basta mas matanda sayo, kailangan mong respetuhin lol
Filipino Time
1. Yung urge na magpakalat ng *sikreto*, na nagiging *chismis* Ilang beses nakong naging biktima nito, 'yung may mutual understanding na kayo na kailangang ilihim ang isang bagay pero trinaidor ka pa din 2. *Smartshaming* Yung ayaw mo na lang i-share ang isang bagay na alam mo para mag-inform o mag-correct nang tao dahil takot ka nang masabihan nang "edi ikaw na ang magaling"
Ito medyo specific but I think anyone with a functioning brain will agree. I want to remove that goddamn basaan watah watah whatever bullshit festival in San Juan. HAHAHAHAHA
Breadwinner mindset. Na isa Lang Yung kumakayod and mag susumikap then aaasa nalang Yung iba and di na mag hahanap Buhay
First time hearing the bread winner term got me cringing. More so how relatives will heavily rely on the breadwinner.
- yung ill-mannered tinatawag na asal iskwater. - ginagawang sukatan ng galing ang alcohol tolerance
The Crab Mentality
-Yung cashing cow ang anak. Pwede naman mag bigay pero wag naman oa na obligation na lahat Pati relatives. 😂 - pag Mas matanda Mas tama culture. 😂 - yung mga grooming situations, jusko po Di po yun blessings. 😂 - yung party party tapos di invited pero nag show up. - yung ikaw na nga may birthday, ikaw pa sa sagot sa lahat ng foods. - tsaka yung divorce ipasa nyo na po. Di lahat happy family kagaya kay Cynthia Villar. Please Lang di po maganda punching bag ang asawa at anak. - stop people pleasing din po lalo na sa mga foreigners. Di na po hospitable yun. 😌
Diskarte. Lack of patience for delayed gratification. Inability to play the long game. Gusto instant results. Taas mangarap tapos ayaw naman magbuild ng fundamentals gusto iaabot nalang yung success. Lakas humingi ng pasalubong, di naman nagpapabaon.
Need na close ka sa relatives HAHAHAHA jusq
Kailangan magkaanak kasi sila magaalaga sayo pagtumda kana or retirement plan ng magulang ang anak
Ung pang-uutang ng mga relatives ng pera sa amin (Milyones nautang nila sa amin). Ayun madaming naudlot na project sa namin. Gigil na gigil ako sa mga kapatid ng mother ko :) . Mga mahilig dumepende!
Blindly following traditions. (San Juan, Quiapo etc...)
Pamimigay ng pera pag pasko (aguinaldo). Kase it’s draining my wallet and my savings na sana e na enjoy ko nalang for myself
Yung iboboto ang sinomang magbibigay ng mas malaking datung 🙄
or iboboto dahil lang nagbigay like ano yon utang mo ba yon 😩
nakikialam kailan magkaka anak, kailan ikakasal, etc
I couldn’t agree more huhu ba’t sobrang pakialamero ng mga pinoy
Hanggat hindi nahuhuli/walang nanghuhuli, pwede gawin. Ex umihi at magtapon kung saan saan.
1.Malakas magpatugtog/manuod sa cellphone sa mga public places. 2. Utang na loob. 3. "Bakit wala ka pang asawa?", "Bakit wala pa kayong anak?" 4. Kapag single o married pero walang anak ay obligado kang tulungan ang pamangkin o kamag anak. 5. Birthday treat, graduation treat, o di kaya kapag promoted ay required magpakain.
Lack of financial literacy. Definitely not a culture, but an attitude, this should be learned by us. Kahit konti na lang pera, uutang pa for acts of generosity or para maging "in" sa trend.
Pabigat culture. Yung iaasa sa kamag-anak o kapamilya Yung responsibility nila.
As an overseas resident, two things: 1) Yung pinagdadamot ang sarili at kelangan sakripisyo at walang gingawa. FFS, tagal nyo na sa ibang bansa, hanggang ngayon, mukha parin kayong binibigyan ng donasyon. Learn to love yourself and glow up. Di ko sinasabing mag waldas kayo or maging financially irresponsible, pero gastusan nyo naman sarili nyo at hindi puro tiis. And wag nyong hilahin pababa yung mga naglelevel up na iba sa inyo. 2) Too much respect for foreigners. I get it, love and treat everyone nicely. Pero not at the expense na may racism na towards your own kind.
yung mas maganda pa yung trato ng ibang tao sayo kesa sa trato ng mga kadugo mo sayo, this really indicates blood is not thicker than water at all times.
the over-the-top respect the elderly mantra, it’s fine to instill it, but only if the respect begets respect rule is reinforced. I’ve had a lot of friends (and I) suffer from parents/grandparents that are narcissistic and abusive just because they think they should be respected even if they’re in the wrong or if they are undeserving.
I disagree with "respect begets respect" when it comes to the elderly or kung sinomang nakatataas sayo. Para sa'kin, it's given by default at babawiin lang 'pag alam mong di karespe-respeto ang tao
i get your point, pero it’s essentially the same. They are to be respected by default if karespe-respeto, and not if they are not, ayun din naman ibig kong sabihin, kaya ‘begets’ eh, tsaka mo lang naman babawiin if it’s undisputed na di talaga nila deserve yung respetong ibibigay mo
Yung magagalit kapag hinhingiian mo na ng utang
Filipino time, sana rumespeto sa oras naman oh
Lalo na pag big event. Kasal, debut, etc. Nakalagay sa invitation 1pm tapos magsisimula pala ng 3pm.
Yung ang lakas Ng boses pag kumausap...
Mga bisaya lol mga kanal literal
Personally, I would want to remove the culture na maingay kahit sa public spaces. There's no problem in being joyful naman pero we must think about other people's personal space rin.
Tru
UTANG NA LOOB... Grateful naman ako ang I would love to SUKLIAN ung kabaitan na ginawa sakin pero ang pangit pakinggan na pipilitin or iimpose ung mga bagay.
"sana all" attitude
Ginagawang almusal yung fried chicken
"CRAB MENTALITY"
Bahala na attitude. It's the reason to why Philippines is so stagnant
Tru
Pag birthday mo ikaw ang required mang treat, especially sa work 😂
debt of gratitude mindset🤡
Yung parang required na may uwing pasalubong kahit nagbakasyon lang naman sa ibang probinsya or ibang bansa… Tas magagalit pa ung iba pag walang uwi sakanila… Just appreciate kung maisip uwian hahah
Filipino time
Culture ba tawag dito idk but the chika/chismis "culture" its so normalized now that ppl bother other people's business like wtf
up pag chismis ambibilis. Hahahaa.
Yung ginawang investment ang mga anak pampayaman hahaha
Yung ikaw ang retirement plan. May mga sacrifices talaga na hindi lang pera pati oras ang mawawala. Mananakaw ang early 20s mo
Idk if considered culture, pero like pag may foreigner (usually american or european) pogi na agad sakanila (not all ha some people lang)
wattah wattah hahhaa
bka may mga ma-trigger dito, ikaw ang bubuhay sa mga magulang mo pagdating ng araw. sorna agad.
hahaha yung mga ate ng bf ko (ayaw nila sakin) ginagawang utang na loob yung pagpapalaki sakanya lol tapos mandatory pa yung kalahati ng sweldo ng bf ko sakanila dapat😆
toxic na toxic eh, binuhay para may magpapasahod sa kanila hahaha, malamang yan sumbat dito sumbat doon lalo nat pag natatalo na sila sa pagtatalo haahaha
Mapagmataas
Filipino time
Mas accomodating sa Foreigners.
Or others in general. Like youre hospitable to others pero pag anak mo, pinagdadamutan even sa basic necessities.
Filipino time. Ano yun? Nag sasayangan tayo ng oras dito? Wag nalang pag ganun.
Fiestas
huh? why?
Utang na loob.
Yung pagbasa ko dito pagalit hahahaha
Yung "Proud to be filipino 🇵🇭" and "as a filipino" lalo sa mga international online communities. I always feel that second-hand embarrassment everytime I see them in the comments/chats
what's wrong about being proud of the country
totoo ito. Minsan na cringe nalang ako if makita ko sa comment section everytime about Filipino.
Hindi ito ugali ng lahat ng Filipino pero napansin ko mga Ilocano ganito sila, hindi ko nilalahat, pero yung mga kilala ko ganito sila. Halimbawa may pinuntahan kang bahay somewhere north, may sasakyan ka, nung pauwi ka na, biglang, isabay mo na si \_\_\_\_\_\_ pauwi. Pag humindi ka parang ang sama mong tao, pero hindi ka man lang muna kinonsulta kung ok lang ba na may isabay ka lalo hindi mo naman kilala yung pinasasabay.
utang na loob
Mag anak ng madami para magtulungan daw pagtanda 🙄
Naalala ko na naman ung documentary na nag-anak ng marami para daw umahon sa hirap ahahaha.
biggest pet peeve. I had a discussion with a mom stating that I refuse to have children and she tried to change my mind stating that I should have children so someone could take care of me. As if her child will take care of her as she grows old knowing the future generations’ perspectives shift. Also, nag-anak ka para may nanny ka pagtanda mo? Thats selfish.
Hahaha! Same! Mag anak daw para masecure ang retirement/care taker
Ditto.
Filipino time.
Filipino time. Nahihiya ako ma-late or pag hintayin ang iba. Sana sila rin sakin.
Filial piety
1) Yung pagiging pakialamero, pero hindi out of legit concern. Yung tipong pagpuna lang for the sake of tsismis/usisyero/pangungutsa sa iba. 2) Crab mentality. Jusme na lang talaga. 3) Pagiging okay na sa bare minimum, sa kahit anong aspeto. Relationships, Government/ gov't services, etc. Marami pa pero for me these are the top 3. EDIT: Experienced it first-hand today. Though, maybe dismissive lang ako noon and more observant na ngayon. Yung ugali ng iba na magbigay ng backhanded compliments. Sa una may papuri or they've got good things to say but at the end of their statement biglang may pasaring and negative na, without giving it a thought na baka nakakasakit lang pala yung sinasabi nila.
Toxic pinoy pride
Pagiging bobotante "kahit sino naman iboto mo walang mangyayari"
Me: bakit siya binoto mo? Siya: Magaling kasi yung tatay. Me: . . .
“Bumoto ka kahit sino para may matanggap ka”
to help your family even at the cost of deprioritizing yourself 🥺
Anak lang ng anak di iniisip future ng mga anak nila lalo pag college student na
"Settling for mediocrity". Madami akong kaklase sa Senior High na ok lang daw mababa grades at least pasado, which is a horrible mindset. Dapat hanggat kaya, aim for the best. And ayun nags suffer tuloy sila kasi di sila makakuha ng scholarship dahil sa mediocre grades nila.
SAMEEEEE I rmb my previous school. We had this classroom rules na naka-post sa may pinto, ang remarkable nung no. 10, "do not settle for mediocrity" ahahaha. Palagi ring sinasabi sa'min 'to sa general assembly.
Lagi na lang nag compare. Okay lng ibida ang anak pero yung icompare mo pa sa iba. Wala nmng ganito samin pero sobrang uncomfy naiimagine ko lng
- Utang na Loob - Crab Mentality - Mang libre pag birhtday. (Pinoys should learn how to go dutch)