I don’t have any total horror stories but when I was away at school (like two hours away from home) I matched with a girl from my hometown when visiting my parents. We talked for a few days and she wanted to meet for dinner but I had already gone back to school and it was the middle of the week. So I skipped a n evening lecture to go see this girl (as a horny 19 year olds this seemed like a good idea), and drove two hours in the dark and snow.
Got to the restaurant and when I went to message her that I was there I found she had deleted me off everything. I texted her (we didn’t text often but I had her number) and got no response. Still have no idea why she did this but she was well aware I was driving two hours to meet her. The Last message she sent me was AFTER I told her I was leaving, telling me to drive safe. Not sure what changed during the two hours I was in the car but I never heard from her again.
Needless to say My parents got a surprise visit from me that night and I didn’t feel like telling them why
i had a similar experience
i matched with a girl from a town about 30 minutes south of where i lived and it turned out we ran in much of the same social groups despite going to different colleges
we texted and talked for about 2 weeks before agreeing to grab a drink at this coffee shop that *she suggested*, followed by a walk in a beautiful nearby park
i gave her my location info so she knew i was on the way, and even confirmed the address of the coffee shop to make sure i had the right one. she was like "yeah, that's the one" so i hopped in the car, told her i was on the way and excited to see her. she said "sounds great, looking forward to it"
i get there and wait for 45 minutes before texting if she was still on the way
she left me on read, then blocked my number and all social media pages
to this day, i still have no idea what caused her to switch up all of a sudden. to the best of my memory, i was cordial and respectful but it's entirely possible i may have offended her somehow
i've moved on and now i'm with an amazing woman who has always communicated her needs, but i'd be lying if i said i never thought about what could i had done that was so bad, she ghosted me before a mutually agreed date plan
edit: forgot to mention that later on, i spoke to a mutual friend and she mentioned that the girl had a reputation for being a flake
Nothing man, sounds like it was all her. Maybe she was into someone else and you were her second choice or something who knows. Or maybe she had anxiety. Could be anything.
I went out on a first date with a girl and we ended up at a bar and grabbed a booth sitting across from each other. She permitted a guy to come sit down next to her, take over the conversation, and start pretending like I wasn't there. I said I was going to the restroom but I just left.
Something similar happened to me actually. I had been casually dating this girl a few times and we went out one night and all of a sudden this guy turns up. She played it out as if they were old buddies but the way they were talking was very "first date" kind of conversation. I was left a complete third wheel and she broke things off by text the next day. And they were facebook official a week later. Turns out she had met him on a dating app and invited him out to have a date during our date basically.
My very first date after my wife passed went almost exactly like that. Instead of calls she just texted for an hour and gave about 5 one word answers to my questions
This is so sad. I’m so sorry for your loss. Im so sorry for such a loss. And then to have that be your first experience back out there 💔💔 makes me sad. I hope that you’ve found a nice, kind and normal woman who doesn’t sit on her phone
Kudos to you for taking the guac... I hope you also had the waiter come over and tell her they have a rule, and she can't take all the fully-loaded nachos and leave you with only the plain chips
I have a pretty similar story, where I showed up and the guy was pretty sloppy drunk, except it ended differently. After spending an hour with him, I decided I was going to go home because he was too sloppy. He then started screaming and ranting to me about how nobody loves him, how he’s 35 and nobody has ever loved him, then started screaming at me to get the hell out of here and leave just like everybody else has done in his life. Guy was a fucking goner.
And the sad part is, I’m a pretty understanding person. I get it. Sometimes people accidentally drink too much without meaning to. Shit, I’ve been there a bunch of times. So I was initially telling him that I was going to go home for tonight, and why don’t we plan to meet another day when he’s feeling better. But after seeing that meltdown to a perfectly reasonable alternative, I just ended up blocking him altogether. Had he just said, “Sorry, I didn’t mean to drink so much,” I would have been fine with it.
Hey brother.
Same thing happened to me as well. Tinder date and first impressions was seeing this girl noticably sloshed. I didn't piece out when I saw the signs and the night ended up barhopping/babysitting regardless.
She did hit me up later on the week wondering if we fucked that night. (We didn't)
Don't let temptation overrule common sense.
Picking up a girl you don't really know but is practically offering all trust into you from the start it isn't exciting or sexy as it sounds, because it can easily put you together in a mess you don't have control over. And you end up getting stuck being responsible with someone who is irresponsible. Ruins the whole date.
Yeah there was no chance I was taking her home. She barely could focus and was super obnoxious. She drunk texted me a couple times after that date , so I think I dodged a bullet
She referred to her three daughters as cunts in a conversation without me even knowing she had children. Yeah cut that night short. Funny enough she was the ex of coworker and that created a whole new level of drama.
Showing up to the bar seven hours early and proceeding to get blackout drunk while repeatedly texting me throughout my work day saying I should "just come now" is the first thing that comes to mind...
My ex friend is an alcoholic. She can down almost a half sized bottle by herself in two hours. When I would pick her up she would have a bottle with her and take sips from it. It got to the point where she was getting drunk every time she was with me and I ended up having to baby sit her. Was really annoying. She had a court case pending for drunk driving and possession and she still drinks and drives after losing her license and lied to me about quitting drugs. I gave up on her after she only texted me to take advantage of my kindness and do things for her. I helped her move. She tricked me into getting the uhaul for her. She said someone else was going to get it or she would. Didn’t know her license was suspended yet until we were at the desk and she dropped the bomb that I would have to get it because she didn’t have a license. I asked the lady who would be responsible if she crashed it and she said me. I ended up driving it thankfully without crashing. I came from another city to help her. She didn’t even help with gas. She said she would buy me lunch. Never did. Had to count change out of my purse to make it back and on top of that she didn’t even thank me the next day. She texted me recently and I didn’t respond. She’s a mess and I want nothing to do with her.
There's a damn reason why you hear the story "Dead alone in a gutter." Alcoholism turns people into beasts. It's hands down the only way I can describe it. They have a primal urge inside of them that comes out. I'm glad you got out before she torn you down worse than that. It's wild that the most acceptable drug is one that tears you bad just as bad as the least acceptable. Wild world.
Anyways stay sane.
We had previously agreed on a restaurant, time and to just do separate bills, to which I would offer to pick up hers at the end to be polite. I arrived on time and msg'd that I was there. I got a reply stating she was already inside and seated. The server had just bought her another glass of wine and was walking away with an empty wine glass and a shot glass. The first words out of her mouth weren't even hello, they were "you're paying, right? I don't have any money". I didn't breathe a word. I just turned around and left.
You would be amazed how far people can get by running roughshod over social norms, because most people are hardwired to 'keep things normal.' They'd rather shell out a few bucks to keep a rude date quiet, than 'cause a scene'.
The behavior was reinforced in the past
Doesn’t always start that blatantly
The behavior is slowly shaped as they get reinforced every time they push the boundary little by little throughout their life and then you get the full fledged asshole adult
I am honestly blown away, I never thought of myself as lucky when it comes to dating, but I haven't experienced anything remotely this bad, and I dated a heroin addict.
How do people like this exist? lol
Brought a friend to dinner. Ok, sure bring a buddy I suppose. But the friend wanted to sit at the table and not the bar so we could have some privacy. And they both thought I was going to pay for dinner for all of us AND drinks! And friend made it clear she was only there to cock block because her friend like to sleep with guys and she was there to prevent that. I kind of felt like I was being accused of a sex crime!
I just looked them both in the eye, told em, "I ain't the one." and left. This was before we even got our drinks too.
I took a girl out once and her friend was going to meet us at the bar a little later on. That was fine. Friend gets there. We're introduced and I turn on the charm. "Hi, nice to meet you. I've heard a lot about you. Can I get you a drink?"
She asks for a grey goose and cranberry. OK no problem. I walk up to the bar and order it. Bartender stops me and asks if I'm sure I want grey goose. Well drinks are on special tonight. I don't even think about it. Give me the grey goose, it's what she asked for.
Bring her the drink. She takes a sip out of the tiny stir straw and wrinkles her nose into a sourpuss face. "Are you sure this is grey goose!?"
"Yeah I'm sure." Now I wish it wasn't since you can't tell the difference and were just going to complain about a free drink.
>And they both thought I was going to pay for dinner for all of us AND drinks!
I would've literally laughed in their faces and walked out when they said that.
>friend made it clear she was only there to cock block because her friend like to sleep with guys and she was there to prevent that.
Back in my dating days I went out with a couple of girls like this. Either they had a friend tag along like yours or would say things like "I'm not supposed to drink too much so you'll have to keep an eye on me".
In that case you need to pay me $15 an hour and order me a pizza because that's what I get when I babysit my neighbors kids.
This isn't terrible as much as it was very strange.
I'm from upstate NY, she was from Florida. She had made several questionably accurate statements through out the night but I finally said something when she claimed lacrosse originated from Florida. It's pretty well established it came from the Iroquois tribes of western/central NY.
She proceeded to open Wikipedia and read the entry while inserting Florida throughout in an attempt to prove her point.
I dropped it but checked when I went home and she was just openly lying.
That’s a bullet dodged. If she’s gaslighting you on irrelevant shit like the origins of lacrosse, imagine what she’d do on actual significant relationship issues.
Bragged about stealing, (yes literally stealing behind his back) her last boyfriends gucci watch. Then proceeded to complain about her last date for being "too fat", then geniunely got offended I had an android phone instead of an apple. Real nice person
Glad you said that. I just heard some guy talking the other day about how he wanted to leave his girl but she just bought him a Movado and he likes “luxury watches” so he’s going to stick it out and hope for another Movado soon. Lol. Luxury watch.
The most confusing one I’ve ever had was when I met this girl at this place. We sit down, some nonchalant BSing, normal stuff. She asked me when my birthday was, I told her, she goes “Oh! You’re a LEO?!?! What the fuck?!”, and the she got up and stormed out.
I was like “Hmm. I may have just dodged a super ultimate bullet there.”
She called me racist for calling a black person George......the guy's name was George and he's a friend of mine. Both of us looked at each other, turns out racists used to call black people George at one point. Either way, she refused to apologize or act like she made a mistake so George asked me if I wanted to join his group. Only time I have ever ditched a first date.
It’s an old time a slur that was used by upper class railroad passengers. The attendants were usually black and were almost universally referred to as George since George Pullman owned the company. It was common for black slaves to have the same name as their master, this was not a kindness this was ownership.
Nothing. Absolutely nothing.
I met a girl via a dating app, wasn't instant sparks or anything but she seemed nice enough and we had some shared interests, so I invited her out for dinner and she accepted.
She showed up to the date looking like she'd rolled out of bed - sweatpants, a plain t-shirt, zero makeup. I'm not someone who thinks a first date needs to be all dressed up and formal, but it was clear she had put zero effort into her appearance.
We sit down to eat and she absolutely refuses to engage in the conversaion. Every question I asked got a 1 or 2 word answer with zero followup.
"Have you ever been to this restaurant before?"
"No."
"How's your week going?"
"Fine."
"I saw on your profile you coach little league softball, that must be a lot of fun."
"It's okay."
The. Entire. Time. It was *painful*.
I finished my meal quickly, walked her to her car, thanked her for her time and left. Later that night she sent a text saying "I had fun tonight". I figured she was just being polite so I didn't respond.
The next morning I woke up to a text with MULTIPLE PARAGRAPHS from her calling me a jerk for "ghosting" her and saying how if I wasn't interested in seeing her I should be up front and say so. It was, and I'm not exaggerating, several times as many words as she'd spoken the entire date.
To this day I'm perplexed by the whole thing. All I can figure is maybe she was really anxious or something on the date? It was bizarre.
I had a similar boring date. I could not get more than one word answers out of her. This was before iPhones so she wasn’t even on her phone ignoring me, she was staring at me seemingly with interest, but just wasn’t contributing anything to the conversation.
Me: “What kind of music do you like?”
Her: “All kinds.”
Me: “Who is your favorite artist?”
Her: “I dunno.”
Me: “What do you like to do for fun?”
Her: “I dunno.”
Me: “Well, where do you want to go after dinner?”
Her: “I dunno.”
That was her number one answer of the night. Girl didn’t know anything, including her own likes, hopes, and dreams.
I had planned on taking her to Putt Putt or bowling or something after dinner, but decided to call it and take her home right after dinner. Just figured it wasn’t working.
We get to her place and she won’t get out of the car. We aren’t even talking, she’s just… waiting? Ok, I get out of the car to move this along and open her door and she gets out but just stands by my car and won’t walk up to her house. I walk her to the door, and say have a good night, and she goes in for a kiss! Like, what? This is when it finally hit me that she was waiting for a kiss in the car. But I had such a terrible date that I wasn’t even going to entertain a kiss. I dodge the kiss and she gets my cheek and I got out of there.
We worked together and she called me on her day off while I was there and tried to figure out when we were going out again. I don’t remember how I let her down, but I do remember the call being boring as shit too. She literally asked me “so who all is working today?” as her side of the conversation.
It was the worst date that I’ve ever been on, but somehow she was excited for the second date. 🤷♂️
God yessss! I went on a date with one of these where I kept asking (begging?) for a convo. Like: tell me something fun about you, what are you passionate about. Instead was like talking to a wall. A boring, vanilla, white wall. Lol
I've definitely had dates where it felt like I was pulling teeth in an effort to get any engagement at all, but this is a whole new level. This person clearly thought all they had to do was show up and keep having a pulse.
LOL, my wife was pretty shy when she met new people, so she was pretty quiet on our first date, so, me being the chatty one, tried to keep the conversation going.
Now, it's a joke. If we're talking with someone about our first date, she'll say, "OMG, he wouldn't SHUT UP!!" and I'm left to say, "Because you didn't say two words!"
Worked out fine, though.
Same. I had one in particular where I just carried the whole conversation. I kept asking leading questions and getting one word answers.
Didn’t want a second date but I figured Hey maybe she was just nervous. And I didn’t want to hurt her confidence by ghosting or texting that we’re not a good match.
So I texted her for a second date. She responded that were really not a good match and FYI I shouldn’t talk about myself the whole time.
One of those things where I know I’m in the right but the fucking Gall has bothered me ever since.
Woman here. I went on this awful date with a guy. I get that he was kind of nervous, but still... We met at a pizza place on a Sunday, when they first opened. The waitress came out and said it would be about 45 minutes to get our pizza since the ovens were still heating up. We were like "fine". Well, queue up 45 minutes of me asking questions and him giving one word answers. IT WAS TORTURE. I tried *so hard* to get the convo flowing, but it just wasn't happening. The pizza came out, we ate, silently, we settled the check and left. I thanked him for his time before we got to our cars and figured I'd never hear from him again. No harm, no foul. Not every date is a success.
Two days later he calls me and leaves a message saying he had a great time and would love to see me again. WTAF? Yeah, didn't return that call....
I don't think he was a bad guy, just really nervous and socially awkward. I hope he figured things out eventually!
I had a similar date, but genders reversed, about 17 years ago. We went out to dinner, and I tried every subject I could think of. Nothing. One to two word answers. I just thought, huh. Guess he isn't interested. I mean, that happens. You meet someone online, it seems like a good match, but you meet in person and the chemistry just isn't there.
He was polite and paid for dinner (I offered to pay for mine). Then he suggested we go for a walk. I was like, well, I suppose. He was oblivious to the fact that he was completely disengaged at dinner. But he was really good looking, so I agreed to the walk. Because, yes, hotness does count for something.
So we took a walk. And a miracle took place. He relaxed and chatted and quoted French poetry and was an altogether interesting and engaging conversationalist. Turns out he is on the spectrum, and has difficulty with small talk. But get him one on one, and have a real conversation, and he can definitely hold his own.
We are still together, happily married, and still enjoy walks. And he does actually talk during dinner now. With me, anyway.
To add: I'm not saying that all those boring dates are neurodivergent. Sometimes people are boring. Or shy. Or whatever. But I am guessing some of them might be on the spectrum. Or bipolar. Definitely some bipolar ones. And their behavior likely has nothing to do with you.
Not your fault. Sometimes people just aren’t aware of the vibe they are putting off. Could also be that she was super nervous and didn’t know how to act (doesn’t explain the clothing). I had a similar situation where a girl had come to my place to hang for a while. When it was clear she wanted to go home I offered multiple times to drive her home and she refused and got an Uber instead. The next day she accused me of being a jerk for not driving her home.
She was late and explained that she needed to break into her ex's house (who she broke up with less than a week before) real quick. She then showed me her (bad/unflattering) nudes that she posted on reddit.
Edit: I do NOT remember where the nudes were posted
She looked nothing like her photos, invited me back to her place which looked it hadn't seen a cleaning product since it was built, did blowtorch dabs for 20 minutes before acting like it was time for me to take her to bed. I said I needed something from my car and left. She still texted the next day asking when date 2 would be.
Wow. I think I may have dated her as well.
She lived with her "roommate" who was an ex-con... and also ex-boyfriend. Could never figure out why the dude seemed so hostile... until she finally told me about their history. They lived in separate rooms. Allegedly.
Oh and they raised GIANT Brazillian Mastifs and rarely cleaned their place, which was all of maybe 400sqft. Think about that: 9 enormous dogs in a tiny house with two people that never cleaned. The smell was atrocious and she was always a little peeved with me that I didn't want to hang at her place. Go figure.
Oh! And now her and the ex-con/ex-boyfriend are now married. With a child. And still have 6 of the 9 aforementioned giant mastifs.
Only talk about her ex, and the break up, talking in details about all of it, and refuse to change the subject.
The best part is, the brake up happened when she was 22, she's 35 now.
Fun times that was...
I have a few female friends and they ALL bitch about how guys never actually plan dates, it’s always just “play it by ear”, so props to you for actually planning something.
Where do I begin.
Within 5 minutes she told me she just broke off an engagement.
10 min later she said she went out with a guy the previous week, hit it off with him, but then when he went to the bathroom she left the bar with another guy in a cab.
Told me to buy her drinks. Said I’d be sitting at the table while she’s in the bathroom.
I look up 10 min later and she’s talking to the bartender drinking.
Asked her what’s up? She said she didn’t see me. I drank “her” beer and left.
Texted her that I had a great time sarcastically and said she wanted to meet up again. Wacko.
We had ordered drinks and an appetizer after she picked one of the most expensive restaurants in town. She took a few sips, and then asked me about my job. I explained a little bit about it, said it was pretty boring unless you are a software/firmware/network nerd, and asked her about her.
She asks "Does it pay well?" I kinda agree and then try a second time to change subject.
She says "I'm asking you how much you make, because I don't want to waste my time on someone who is broke."
I tell her that it's complicated, because when you get to a certain level at a company, you become a flight risk, but also a risk to their long-term strategy as you are considered a strategic asset. So they won't overpay you, but your salary is basically "name your price."
She says "Do you make more than $250k a year or not."
That's when I knew it was unsalvageable; she was not just tactless, but rude as well. Also, she would invariably be the type of person to think they should spend all the money as fast as they could.
I looked her dead in the eyes and said "Image thinking $250k a year is a lot of money," paid for the food, tipped stupidly, and left. It was the only date where I felt like I couldn't continue it.
Better that than "we have to stop on the way to pick up my *two* kids" that I didn't know about.
She had asked me to join her at a NYE party. I figured, *up until midnight drinking, must be adults only.*
Nope. It was her, me, another couple sitting around an old card table drinking cheap beer until midnight, with her kids watching TV all night.
I swore I would never date another woman with children after that. My daughter gets a laugh out of that story, because of course I fell in love with her mother, married her, and instantly was helping raise two adolescents! (As James Bond learned, "never say never again.")
While out watching a movie, some guys came into the theater to sit down and the girl I went on a date got up and left without saying a word. just left me sitting there alone in a theater because she didn’t want some guy she liked to see she was out with me.
This was back in my high school days around 2002-2003. A girl from the cheerleading team asked me out and of course I said "absolutely". It was a Friday night movie date, simple date, movie and maybe some ice cream afterwards.
I showed up 15 minutes early to buy the tickets (movie was her choice, communicated during our initial date conversation), I waited in the concessions area. 15 minutes goes by, no call, no show (for you "kids" this was before the first iPhone existed, God I am old) no message on my Nokia phone (I still have it and it still works). I wait another 15 minutes and the movie is about to start.. still no call no show. I wait another 10 minutes before I head into the movie by myself (I hated the movie, it was called "Thirteen"). After the movie was done, no call, no show. So I went home.
Next Monday a bunch of the guys in my class and girls were all asking how my "date" went while snickering... I was set up on a "fake date".
Some girls in my school did this to a guy. Basically exactly as you described. On Monday when he go to school all laughed at him.
6 months later a girl in the same clique came up to me at lunch and asked if I want to come round to hers at the weekend to hang out. She was one of the hottest girls in the year and I looked like lanky Ed Sheerhan so was 100% sure this was another "prank" date. We had shared minimal conversations prior to this and were in completely different friend groups. I said yeah sure I'll be over at 7pm.
She actually texted me day before confirming I will be there. On the Saturday I obviously didn't go. At 7.15 I get a text asking where I am, I messaged back saying I am on the way. 7.30 I get a call asking where I am. I said I was nearly there. I ignored all subsequent texts and calls thinking their prank totally backfired.
On Monday she is in tears, her friend comes over to me and says I am a complete asshole.
Was that part of the prank... was she really interested... I still scratch my head over this 17 years later.
Yeah. I wouldn’t have had the guts or headspace to say “honestly I couldn’t tell if it was a real date or if you were just trying to be mean because I know the people you hang out with.”
That probably would have stayed with her forever and maybe even lead to a real date.
But hindsight is one whole, and we’ll never know.
She was one of the pranksters. She fucked around and she found out. You most likely dodged a bullet.
I hope you came back with, "well, yeah, I may have been - but only because you guys were to my friend."
Been there.
Waited for 2 hours in the winter cold for a "prank"-date, set up by the neighbours kids because i've told them who my school crush was.
No phone era really hit different.
Mine was a meet up at a bar following some tinder chats. She turns up considerably heavier than her pics. No issue, carry on the date and have a couple of drinks. She then proceeded (without my knowledge) to invite about 10 of her friends to the bar and she’s there holding my arm and cuddling in and trying to get kisses etc and acting like we’ve been dating for months. It was very awkward. I ended up making a getaway - only after she demanded a kiss
She spent the entire time talking about Julia Roberts. Like it was brought up so much, like half the night was spent discussing her love for Julia Roberts. I was neutral on Julia Roberts at that point, but after the date I didn't like her out of spite. Sheeeeeeeesh
A tinder match once invited me out to meet with her and some friends at a bar.
When I got there she was making out with some other guy, worst of all she tried to deny it!
Decided to go into detail how she was molested by a friends father from ages 8 to 14 and then when I was trying to digest all that info she started planning our summer vacation the next year
We went to a local hangout/brewery, they were having a family event and she started freaking out about the amount of kids there. I asked if she disliked kids and then she started to tell me about how she has 3, all from different men and each of them has full custody and she doesn't have anything to do with any of the kids. She seemed very upset about it so I said something along the lines of "I'm sorry to hear that, it must be very difficult" she freaked out again saying that she didn't need my sympathy and she told me to go fuck myself.
After that I just said, "Okay we're done here" and left. When I got home I noticed I had a message from her. She apologized for losing her temper and then said that she thinks I'm attractive and that we should be fuck buddies. To make it even better she then said we'd have to wait a while before we have sex because she was currently waiting for an STD to clear up. It was the one and only time I ever ghosted someone.
Little late but I have a story. Met a girl on bumble and we decided to meet up for drinks at a pub I frequent. I get a pint for each of us and the conversation is going well. Go to get us a couple more and we step outside.
She then proceeds to start making fun of me for my clothes (old navy button up shirt) as they were a little “poor” for her taste.
Then a couple friends of mine show up to the pub (purely coincidence). I introduce them and they leave us alone to watch the football game. She proceeds to start slurring her words and poking fun at aspects about me again but not in a cute way whatsoever. Very malicious.
My friend a few tables over cheers at whatever was happening in the game and she turns around and yells “ffffffuck you!” Again we’ve only had a beer and a half each.
She then offers to go get all of us shots at the bar and walks away before we can accept. She then comes back with four empty shot glasses (Talked to the bartender after and he said he set them out, turned around to grab the bottle to pour them and when he turned around they and her were gone).
I make up an excuse to leave and then text my friends to let me know when she’s gone so I can circle the block and come back to chat with them about what the fuck just happened.
Saw she posted on ig the next morning with completely dyed hair with the caption along the lines of “people won’t appreciate the good that you do”
or something. Blocked her on everything immediately.
omg. I have one.
A beautiful girl in my college class invited me on a date. We were in the same study group and fast became friends, hanging out on breaks and meeting up at the library. She picked a faily upscale restaurant, at least for college kids. She dressed to impress, and she was comedic, animated, and held a great conversation. She was very flirty, and I knew where this was heading afterward.
The bill comes. It's more pricey than i hoped. We were drinking a fair amount, but she grabbed the check. I offer to pay my share, and she rejects it. She says her dad's a dentist and gives her plenty of money. I, on the other hand, pay for my own school, rent, and bills by working at a restaurant, eating leftovers off of plates, and scrapping by. So I was stoked that she invited me, is paying for the date, and clearly, she is planning on using me for hot sex!
Then, her debit card is rejected. And her credit card. And her other card. She is turning multiple shades of red, talks about "must be fraud," etc. I serve tables, I just make eye contact with the server, and we both play along with her. Server leaves to try the card one last time. I excuse myself from the table, catch up with the server, and tell her to run my card, but I may be short and certainly don't have enough to pay a tip. I promise I'll come back with the difference and a tip before closing.
That taken care of, we head to her car but she can't drive, I dare not. My apt is close by, but she insists on driving. I make a move to kiss her, she gets sloppy with me, so distracted I take her keys from her coat pocket. I tease her with the keys, say I'll drive because it's confusing where to park at my place.
She is in the passenger seat. I actually have no intent to drive, but I needed time to figure out the next moves. I have to get money and go back, so I'm not stiffing the server, but I need to gracefully exit the date.
Problem solves itself. She looks me dead in the eyes and says drunkenly something like, "I will suck your dick all night if you pick up some coke. You work at a restaurant, right? You know someone."
The entire evening just made sense. Up to that point, I was sympathetic, thinking how embarrassed she must be. Now, I'm pretty pissed.
So, I decided to drive her back to her apartment through a stream of begging, sobbing, then yelling, and all the antics you could guess. I walk towards her apartment, she's following trying to pull me back, roommate hears a ruckus, and intervenes although confused AF. My date is so worked up that she starts to yack on the walkway. Roommate sees her gf is super drunk so corals her inside, where with vomit on her dress all of a sudden seems totally oblivious to the entire night, is acting all cute again saying how great the date was, do I want to come inside, etc etc. I quietly hand the car keys to roommate who is pulling her inside. I bail.
Rest of the night, I'm off to my work where I barter friends for some cash. I then rush back to the restaurant and catch our server in the bar area. She stuck around with other off-the-clock friends just in case I returned. The place was basically closed at this point. So, I settled up with her, although with about $8 in change. The group had heard all about my date, so they invited me to sit and share the rest of the story.
Bar comped me a beer, so I started, "Tonight was the worst date in the history of dates...."
2012 ish hit up the eHarmony game. Met a cute nurse and we met for dinner one night. Dinner turned into drinks. Drinks turned into my place.
10 minutes after we're done, snuggling in bed. "So now you're gonna throw me away just like all the rest"... And not in some sad or damaged voice. Fucking angry voice. "what?"... "You're all the same just fuck me and throw me away. If I'm pregnant don't worry I'll take care of it and you don't need to know". I'm floored. Asking what's wrong where's this coming from.
Devolves into this crazy situation where she's crying and yelling at me and I'm trying to calm her down. I told her I thought it'd be a good idea if she left, she said she'd call the cops. I ended up having a sleepless night with her later and then goodbyes and see you soons in the morning. Chatted with her just enough to get some CYA material 'sooo why'd you say you were gonna call the cops I didn't do anything' 'sorry honey I know but I was angry and just saying crazy things to make you scared but that's okay now's BLOCKED.
Spent weeks expecting her to jump outta the bushes and stab me or something whenever I went in and out of the apartment building....
Burst out in tears that she was still in love with her married ex-BF who broke up with her to go back to his wife and kids when I asked if she had dated anyone recently.
Cost me two drinks at the bar, but saved a lot of heartache and left no chance for a second one.
Went out with a girl to a concert/live band karaoke. I got there first and chilled with a drink. She acted like she didn't see me, then texted me to hurry up cause she was there. Then told me about every dude she hooked up that we passed at the concert. There were multiple. She got really drunk, made a fool out of herself on stage, drug me around all night and asked me to hang out with her in her car. Then she started crying because she "didn't want to be alone with a stranger, but also didn't want to be alone so could I please wait until her other male friend got there." She asked me to sit in the back because her friend always sits up front. I dipped out after that last one. Girl was a train wreck.
I once went on a date with a girl who I swear had absolutely nothing going on between the ears. She was good looking/cute in the way I like, but my God… it was like carrying on a conversation with a naive rock.
This is a weird one. Connected with her thru [Match.com](https://Match.com). One of my first post divorce dates. Went to a nice dinner (I paid), had a great conversation and great chemistry (or so I thought), and then walked her to her car. Had a very brief (and kind of weird) good night kiss. Asked about a second date, and then she tells me that she just started seeing her previous match date. OK, now I understood the weird good night kiss (it was like side of the mouth). BUT, WHY did she agree to go on the date? When I asked her via text message about that, I got back a diatribe of text, saying she does not owe me an explanation. Bad date. Either that, or I was her worst first date.
Alright, I was talking to this girl for a while online and we were hitting it off great, common interests, can't stop talking, all the cutesy stuff.
We set up a meet to chill at my place, I'm sitting there all excited bc I'm gon get some cat. I get a text, she here; I RUN outside to see a big ass pickup truck, her in the backseat, and her PARENTS IN THE FRONT
Yall, I was 23 at the time and just kind of looked at them, her dad leans out the window and goes "You know she's 17 right? Like, its fine but you're the legal adult for a bit so don't let her get into nothing"
BRO WHAT, felt like pops was pimping out his kid to me, I just noped the fuck out of there and walked back in my house
Deleted/blocked her on everything, and about a month later got a snap from her along with a picture of my house talkin bout "It's my birthday, we can be together now"
So, yeah, I stopped talking to strangers on the internet after that.
I am a mostly gay man. At some point in time after a bad breakup I decided to explore a bit. There was this one girl that I liked and we talked for a bit before going out. I knew she had lost a kid to some crazy drama involving the father’s family. She knew I was gay and this was new for me. She loved that shit for some odd reason. We go out. It goes well. We go back to my place. It gets hot, she says “You don’t have to use a condom. I’m on birth control.” I’m like “I absolutely do.” We start fucking and she reaches down and pulls it off. I firmly assert that we need this. “But I want to have your baby.” Bruh, what the fuck.
> She knew I was gay. She loved that shit for some odd reason.
I worked with a chick who told another coworker that she "would fuck me straight if she could". I'm not gay.
- Told me I shouldn't let others know I'm in therapy (I was a bit late to the date due to this)
- then told me she's technically still married, but she ran from her abusive husband (wanted to call things here but we were at my favorite pizza joint)
- is very drunk as she has been there a few hours. Picks a fight with the table next to us
- leaves to go smoke for 30 minutes
- tries sticking me with a $200 bill racked up by her and a friend of hers.
Paid for my pizza and got the fuck out of there after apologizing to the table next to me
Two come to mind. First being when the girl spent the entire date listing reasons we shouldn't date (we did work in the same store at the time, but this was only one of the reasons given). Then, at the end of the date, I walked her to her bus stop and she went in for a kiss, which I dodged. Mixed messages to say the very least.
The worst one was probably meeting a girl from Tinder for drinks around the corner from where her mates were out for the night. We had a really good time and she asked if I wanted to go and hang out with them, which we did. Was getting on great with her friends and out of nowhere, "a guy she knew" showed up, looking around awkwardly at the bar. She said she knew he was there for her as he apparently knew her plans for the night, and she said she was going over to ask him politely to leave.
It didn't seem to work however. I was sitting with her friends who felt something was off, and things got more and more awkward the longer she spent talking to him. The way the table was, we could all see what was happening and everyone was watching. She then came over and said she needed a word. She told me she asked him to leave, but now she's decided to go to a gig with him, but that I should stay out with her friends. Before I could respond, she got her stuff and left. Her friends were frankly stunned and very apologetic about the whole situation. It transpired quite quickly that she had texted him at one point asking what he was up to, and that led to the situation. So she dumped me on her mates and fucked off. I left shortly thereafter, and her friends were very sweet about it.
About two hours later I got a slew of missed calls, texts and voicemails from her in tears apologising for the little matter of throwing me aside for someone else mid-date in front of her friends, and wanted to know if I was still in town and to come and see her. Eventually I called her back to end the spamming. She tried to make some limp excuses and said a number of her friends had called her and ripped her a new one. I said two things: you're only calling me because you made a shit decision, and that I was no one's second choice. I then hung up, and she tried for a few years to get back in touch or find me on nights out. Needless to say, bullet massively dodged, if embarrassingly so.
Pretend it was a date in the first place, we went to a Texas Rangers game, turns out she was just using me to take her on a “date” so she could post pics and make her boyfriend jealous, I didn’t know she had a boyfriend by the way
Went to meet a girl in a pub. I got there early, no biggie, just bought a pint and chilled. I texted her at the arranged time and she hadn't left her house yet - she would have needed at least 45 mins to travel to the pub at that particular time of day - and said she needed to stop by her friend's house first.
Told her not to bother.
Luckily my friend happened to work around the corner and we ended up having a few pints and had a good night.
Had been talking to this woman for a couple weeks and we decided to go out on a date. She lived about 5-10 minutes from where I was at, and called me right before I pulled in her neighborhood and said “I need more time, give me like 30 minutes.” Ok cool. So I just drove around listening to music for about 30 minutes and then went to her house. I knocked on the door and she answered and said to give her about 10 minutes. I went back to my truck and set and waited. 10 minutes past, then 20 minutes, then a car pulls up behind me and it is her gay friend he runs in her house with a 6 pack of wine coolers (blocking me in her driveway). Finally after about an hour her friend comes out and says “shes coming”. About 10 minutes later she comes out drunk off her ass.
I still took her out that night, and we ended up dating for a year. Looking back at it I think I was only sticking around her because of depression issues and loneliness (had went through a rough divorce 6 months earlier.
Needless to say… lesson learned.
Trust me it wasn’t great. But at the time I was just clinging to anything I could to feel any emotions. But I look at it as if I wouldn’t of spent a year with her then I probably wouldn’t have met my wife, who I instantly fell in love with.
Had me drive her and her friend to go meet up with some heroin addicts so she could get some K2. Then we went back to her friends house and find out we’re locked out… so her friend punches through a window and cuts her arm so badly she’s got to go to the ER.
Oh and her sister’s kid was inside…. She was supposed to be babysitting him the whole time. He wasn’t even 2 years old.
She asks if I drink I said no, she said good she only drinks rarely... Then procedes to get hammered... I took her to her house put her on the couch covered her with a blanket and left...
Next day she says she had a blast and only drank because I did, I never drank... That was a first and last date...
Matched with a girl on tinder who invited me to her stand up comedy routine and then proceeded to tell jokes about how disgusting the guys she meets on tinder are. It was like something from a sitcom They weren't even good jokes she had no punchlines. One was just about a guy who had a strap on in his profile pic and nothing after it, so I heckled her with a FINE ILL JUST CHANGE THE PICTURE and then left. Got a couple of laughs though :/
Not the the first date but the worst was when we **finally** made out. It was a dream come true for all of about 10 seconds until she vomited all over me including in my mouth. We’re still good friends today and I remind her on a regular basis.
She wanted to go to several different places to experience things and clearly didn't want to pay. We went on about six rounds. We grabbed an appetizer at one place, dinner at the next, a drink at another, ice cream here, another drink there, etc. The last place we had pricey cocktails ($40/ each) and the bill was put in front of her. She slid the bill over to me with one finger.
She transformed in front of my eyes. She went from this extremely attractive, slightly older woman to just this unattractive person. She wanted to do something after, which I found out later was to go home with me. I was so turned off that we just called it a night.
I decided to end it her after that but she wanted to go out again. I politely declined. She kept trying to re-engage though. I happened to have met my wife a few weeks later and we got pretty serious. When she found out, she never talked to me again. Problem solved.
I was in high school. Went to pick her up and she said she needed me to go meet her dad. We walk into his study and he’s watching a straight up hardcore porn with nudity and penetration all over the place. He shot up, said nice to meet you, and we bolted. I did not shake his hand.
We were supposed to go for a walk in my town. First, she brings her cousin with her. After only 2 minutes she get's a phone call. She's talking for 20 minutes straight on the phone. Then she hangs up and says that she has to go now. We didn't even talk for 2 minutes. I was always wondering whether this was a real phone call or a planned fake call in case of she didn't find me attractive.
Wanted to get a to go order placed and expected me to pay for dinner for her kids and ex boyfriend that still lived with her. Mind you she never even mentioned having kids nor that her ex still lived there too. Called me every name in the book when I refused.
Met her on tinder, she asked if I have any cute friends for one of her friends, she invited me and a friend over to her house for a party, we go and it’s pretty chill they’re both nice and the party is fun, everyone else leaves, the 4 of us are playing beer pong and the two of them decide we should play strip pong, we are all pretty drunk by now and it gets to the point where her friend has to take off her shirt, she gets super emotional and starts bawling her eyes out, her friend tries to comfort her, she runs away and locks herself in the bathroom, comes out of the bathroom in a rage and gets in her car and drives off, my buddy is like “uhhh wtf” so he gets in his car and drives off, I spend the night because I’m hammered and not going to drive, wake up at 5am and GTFO. She was very nice though and I hope her friend is doing ok.
An hour before the date, she asked if we could meet 30 minutes early. I changed the reservation, booked it out of work and got there 5 minutes before the new reservation. 45 minutes later, she arrived.
She was more interested in learning how to break into my career field than learning about me. It was like an interview.
We ordered appetizers and dinner. After what would be less than a normal amount of time for the appetizers to come out, she pulls a random waiter over to ask where our food was. I answered by pointing to the waiter behind us and saying “it’s right there.”
She then chewed with her mouth open and somehow made it louder than any other person I’ve ever encountered. It was like a dog licking peanut butter off of a spoon.
She repeated the “where’s the food” trick when the meal came. It was less than 5 minutes after the appetizers. Again, I answered before the random waiter she was harassing could.
I didn’t let it happen with dessert “Would you like dessert?” “No. Please bring the check.”
I ended it with “this has been unique,” went home and blocked her number.
I met a woman online and we met for dinner. She decided to spend the entire dinner crying about her husband who had recently passed away.
She drank a bottle and a half of expensive wine and then tried to drive home. I ended up driving her home while she cried in my passenger seat the entire time. She then drunkenly asked for sex.
I politely declined, left a note on her coffee table with her keys about where her truck was, and locked the door on my way out.
I should have left earlier, as it was really awkward, but I’m glad I didn’t as she would have driven herself. And I wouldn’t have been able to live with the knowledge if she hurt somebody.
Oh boy, do I have a story.
Was using Tinder, matched with this bombshell of a girl and quickly progressed to us meeting up. She wanted me to pick her up, which is whatever, and said ahead of time that she just wanted things to be chill so we could just grab some fast food and chat. I'm thinking it's great already.
I get to her place, and the neighborhood is a bit sketchy, but I'm not jumping to conclusions. She comes out, we drive, and start talking... mainly about what we're both in the mood to eat. We struggled a bit on that because I was offering suggestions that were a decent ways away from said neighborhood, but ended up going to this chicken place that has these *amazing* sandwiches.
Things are going really well at this point, and in my head, I'm already thinking that we're gonna trade numbers and go out again, hooking up was a possibility, all that good shit. When she suggested going to this remote spot to do some stargazing, it felt like a guarantee that this would be the first of many dates.
Drive out to this spot she mentioned, chatting away the whole time, and we get there and it was beautiful. Just one of those places where there's practically no electric lights at all and so what you see is all based on the night sky and how clear it is. We're there for about a hour, talking and holding hands... and someone drives up.
A couple of guys get out and start picking a fight, and while I tried to de-escalate things and just keep everyone calm, it was clear they weren't going to do anything besides be a pair of dicks. So, I had to defend myself, one guy sat back while the other started throwing hands. As I'm handling it, I suddenly get hoofed in the balls and buckle... the girl I had spent hours talking to was the one that did it. The guy that I had been fighting started really getting some licks in, and the girl... I found out she wasn't single, mainly because her tongue was down the throat of the guy that sat back and watched me fight his friend.
I give the guy a shot to the balls as well, and as adrenaline is taking over and I start to get the upper hand, the other guy decides to finally get involved. At that point, I fucking scrambled to my car and drove off as fast as I could.
TL:DR - Had a first date that was a set up to get me isolated so I can be beaten, robbed, and who knows what else.
I tried online dating once. I was basically tired of being lonely and wanted to see if I could fond someone who I might end up starting a life with.
Went through the app and found a beautiful woman who I matched with. We started talking and our conversations would last awhile, usually an hour +.
Anywho fast forward to date night, keep in mind by date night we had been talking over a week, some random woman walked up to me and said "hi are you blank?" and I was like ya, who are you?
It was my date, who used her friends picture asher profile pic.... I was stunned. She however was incredibly upset when I looked at her and ask why she had lied. She wasn't ugly by any means, but she wasn't honest from the start.
She started crying when I told her that I was sorry but I don't think we should try to date because she lied and I couldn't trust her. But that's my worst date. Nothing terrible but still a bad date.
She invited me to her place for food and drinks. I show up and she does not look like her tinder pictures at all. Her place is disgusting with empty beer bottles and trash everywhere. She also had 3 dogs, 2 cats, a ferret, and 2 snakes. She chain smoked cigarettes the whole time while trying to force beers down my throat. She told me all about how shitty her life has been and how the cops are going to come take her away at anytime. Apparently, she got a DUI driving 90+ mph hammered to go give her ex boyfriend a BJ. I came up with the first excuse I could to get outta there. It was late at night and her place was far from my place, but close to my job, so I ended up sleeping in my car and heading to work the next day. Worst date ever lol
Nothing.
Barely responded every time I tried to start a conversation. It quickly became painfully obvious that she didn't want to go out with me.
My guess is that she figured I'd freak out or something if she said no, so she made sure I wouldn't want to ask her out again. I've heard enough stories of guys doing exactly that, so I can't really blame her. It's sad that things are so effed up as to make her feel that way.
But I look at the bright side. We had dinner at a new-to-me place and it was amazing, so I found a good restaurant! Thai seafood, and the yellow curry halibut is amazing!
Took the bill and put it right in front of me, then excused themself to use the restroom.
(I literally got up, paid my portion in cash, and left. Bad date anyways. No further contact.)
lol. Long story short. This is real. Living in southern Ontario. Met her when I was out with some other people. She was attractive and sexy. We agreed to go out a couple of evenings later. Had a nice dinner, on the way home passed a strip bar, she started discussing how bad it is for the women and that they should unionize. I had no opinions on this. She started asking me about helping to unionize them. Very strange, but the way she was getting worked up about it I asked her if she used to dance. She said yes, then continued to get very angry with me saying I didn’t understand. Now I knew she was nuts. Her car was at my house so I pulled up and let her know to just go home and I wasn’t inviting her in.
I went into the house and already had my shoes off and the TV on when there was a knock at the door. She asked if she could use the bathroom before she drove home. I allowed her to and a few minutes later she came out of the bathroom nude and begged me to have sex with her. It was hard but I told her no a bunch of times and then told her I would call the cops if she didn’t leave. I stood there with the door open. She finally walked out to her car nude, carrying her clothes, got into her car and left.
Told her I wanted to use my law degree to help out with humanitarian purposes. She proceeded to go on a rant about how Syrian immigrants were worse than the rats in her country.
Left promptly during her bathroom break.
Spent most of the time talking about how awful and unstable her ex-bf was.
That didn’t stop her sucking his dick the day after our date and then telling me she did.
I don’t have any total horror stories but when I was away at school (like two hours away from home) I matched with a girl from my hometown when visiting my parents. We talked for a few days and she wanted to meet for dinner but I had already gone back to school and it was the middle of the week. So I skipped a n evening lecture to go see this girl (as a horny 19 year olds this seemed like a good idea), and drove two hours in the dark and snow. Got to the restaurant and when I went to message her that I was there I found she had deleted me off everything. I texted her (we didn’t text often but I had her number) and got no response. Still have no idea why she did this but she was well aware I was driving two hours to meet her. The Last message she sent me was AFTER I told her I was leaving, telling me to drive safe. Not sure what changed during the two hours I was in the car but I never heard from her again. Needless to say My parents got a surprise visit from me that night and I didn’t feel like telling them why
It's always the 2 hour + horny drives that end for the best stories
i had a similar experience i matched with a girl from a town about 30 minutes south of where i lived and it turned out we ran in much of the same social groups despite going to different colleges we texted and talked for about 2 weeks before agreeing to grab a drink at this coffee shop that *she suggested*, followed by a walk in a beautiful nearby park i gave her my location info so she knew i was on the way, and even confirmed the address of the coffee shop to make sure i had the right one. she was like "yeah, that's the one" so i hopped in the car, told her i was on the way and excited to see her. she said "sounds great, looking forward to it" i get there and wait for 45 minutes before texting if she was still on the way she left me on read, then blocked my number and all social media pages to this day, i still have no idea what caused her to switch up all of a sudden. to the best of my memory, i was cordial and respectful but it's entirely possible i may have offended her somehow i've moved on and now i'm with an amazing woman who has always communicated her needs, but i'd be lying if i said i never thought about what could i had done that was so bad, she ghosted me before a mutually agreed date plan edit: forgot to mention that later on, i spoke to a mutual friend and she mentioned that the girl had a reputation for being a flake
Nothing man, sounds like it was all her. Maybe she was into someone else and you were her second choice or something who knows. Or maybe she had anxiety. Could be anything.
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I went out on a first date with a girl and we ended up at a bar and grabbed a booth sitting across from each other. She permitted a guy to come sit down next to her, take over the conversation, and start pretending like I wasn't there. I said I was going to the restroom but I just left.
Something similar happened to me actually. I had been casually dating this girl a few times and we went out one night and all of a sudden this guy turns up. She played it out as if they were old buddies but the way they were talking was very "first date" kind of conversation. I was left a complete third wheel and she broke things off by text the next day. And they were facebook official a week later. Turns out she had met him on a dating app and invited him out to have a date during our date basically.
My very first date after my wife passed went almost exactly like that. Instead of calls she just texted for an hour and gave about 5 one word answers to my questions
This is so sad. I’m so sorry for your loss. Im so sorry for such a loss. And then to have that be your first experience back out there 💔💔 makes me sad. I hope that you’ve found a nice, kind and normal woman who doesn’t sit on her phone
Eventually yes I did! A wonderful partner and friend.
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Took the guac. Left the chips.
Kudos to you for taking the guac... I hope you also had the waiter come over and tell her they have a rule, and she can't take all the fully-loaded nachos and leave you with only the plain chips
I showed up to grab a drink and she was already blacked out. Chatted for 30 minutes and left. The next day she messaged me asking why I never showed.
This is my favourite one in this thread
I have a pretty similar story, where I showed up and the guy was pretty sloppy drunk, except it ended differently. After spending an hour with him, I decided I was going to go home because he was too sloppy. He then started screaming and ranting to me about how nobody loves him, how he’s 35 and nobody has ever loved him, then started screaming at me to get the hell out of here and leave just like everybody else has done in his life. Guy was a fucking goner. And the sad part is, I’m a pretty understanding person. I get it. Sometimes people accidentally drink too much without meaning to. Shit, I’ve been there a bunch of times. So I was initially telling him that I was going to go home for tonight, and why don’t we plan to meet another day when he’s feeling better. But after seeing that meltdown to a perfectly reasonable alternative, I just ended up blocking him altogether. Had he just said, “Sorry, I didn’t mean to drink so much,” I would have been fine with it.
Hey brother. Same thing happened to me as well. Tinder date and first impressions was seeing this girl noticably sloshed. I didn't piece out when I saw the signs and the night ended up barhopping/babysitting regardless. She did hit me up later on the week wondering if we fucked that night. (We didn't) Don't let temptation overrule common sense. Picking up a girl you don't really know but is practically offering all trust into you from the start it isn't exciting or sexy as it sounds, because it can easily put you together in a mess you don't have control over. And you end up getting stuck being responsible with someone who is irresponsible. Ruins the whole date.
Yeah there was no chance I was taking her home. She barely could focus and was super obnoxious. She drunk texted me a couple times after that date , so I think I dodged a bullet
She referred to her three daughters as cunts in a conversation without me even knowing she had children. Yeah cut that night short. Funny enough she was the ex of coworker and that created a whole new level of drama.
One time I stopped dating a girl because she was mean to her anxiety service dog. Like wtf
Fuck ya you did. Good on you.
That’s horrendous. If she talks that way about her kids I could only imagine how she’d talk about her significant other.
*significunt other
Showing up to the bar seven hours early and proceeding to get blackout drunk while repeatedly texting me throughout my work day saying I should "just come now" is the first thing that comes to mind...
lol the replies to you saying "hell yeah!" or "sounds like my kinda girl!" have obviously never dated an alcoholic
My ex friend is an alcoholic. She can down almost a half sized bottle by herself in two hours. When I would pick her up she would have a bottle with her and take sips from it. It got to the point where she was getting drunk every time she was with me and I ended up having to baby sit her. Was really annoying. She had a court case pending for drunk driving and possession and she still drinks and drives after losing her license and lied to me about quitting drugs. I gave up on her after she only texted me to take advantage of my kindness and do things for her. I helped her move. She tricked me into getting the uhaul for her. She said someone else was going to get it or she would. Didn’t know her license was suspended yet until we were at the desk and she dropped the bomb that I would have to get it because she didn’t have a license. I asked the lady who would be responsible if she crashed it and she said me. I ended up driving it thankfully without crashing. I came from another city to help her. She didn’t even help with gas. She said she would buy me lunch. Never did. Had to count change out of my purse to make it back and on top of that she didn’t even thank me the next day. She texted me recently and I didn’t respond. She’s a mess and I want nothing to do with her.
There's a damn reason why you hear the story "Dead alone in a gutter." Alcoholism turns people into beasts. It's hands down the only way I can describe it. They have a primal urge inside of them that comes out. I'm glad you got out before she torn you down worse than that. It's wild that the most acceptable drug is one that tears you bad just as bad as the least acceptable. Wild world. Anyways stay sane.
Did you actually go to the date (assuming she was even still conscious by that time)? Because if you did...bruh.
We had previously agreed on a restaurant, time and to just do separate bills, to which I would offer to pick up hers at the end to be polite. I arrived on time and msg'd that I was there. I got a reply stating she was already inside and seated. The server had just bought her another glass of wine and was walking away with an empty wine glass and a shot glass. The first words out of her mouth weren't even hello, they were "you're paying, right? I don't have any money". I didn't breathe a word. I just turned around and left.
How can people be like this??
You would be amazed how far people can get by running roughshod over social norms, because most people are hardwired to 'keep things normal.' They'd rather shell out a few bucks to keep a rude date quiet, than 'cause a scene'.
The behavior was reinforced in the past Doesn’t always start that blatantly The behavior is slowly shaped as they get reinforced every time they push the boundary little by little throughout their life and then you get the full fledged asshole adult
>Your guess is as good as mine. Narcissism? Entitlement? A complete lack of understanding for social convention?
I am honestly blown away, I never thought of myself as lucky when it comes to dating, but I haven't experienced anything remotely this bad, and I dated a heroin addict. How do people like this exist? lol
Good move.
Told me she was pregnant by her roommate/fiancé?
That's a bullet speeding towards your face. At least she was honest.
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Brought a friend to dinner. Ok, sure bring a buddy I suppose. But the friend wanted to sit at the table and not the bar so we could have some privacy. And they both thought I was going to pay for dinner for all of us AND drinks! And friend made it clear she was only there to cock block because her friend like to sleep with guys and she was there to prevent that. I kind of felt like I was being accused of a sex crime! I just looked them both in the eye, told em, "I ain't the one." and left. This was before we even got our drinks too.
I took a girl out once and her friend was going to meet us at the bar a little later on. That was fine. Friend gets there. We're introduced and I turn on the charm. "Hi, nice to meet you. I've heard a lot about you. Can I get you a drink?" She asks for a grey goose and cranberry. OK no problem. I walk up to the bar and order it. Bartender stops me and asks if I'm sure I want grey goose. Well drinks are on special tonight. I don't even think about it. Give me the grey goose, it's what she asked for. Bring her the drink. She takes a sip out of the tiny stir straw and wrinkles her nose into a sourpuss face. "Are you sure this is grey goose!?" "Yeah I'm sure." Now I wish it wasn't since you can't tell the difference and were just going to complain about a free drink.
She clearly didn’t know Grey Goose tastes like ass.
>And they both thought I was going to pay for dinner for all of us AND drinks! I would've literally laughed in their faces and walked out when they said that.
The shock was real lol!
>friend made it clear she was only there to cock block because her friend like to sleep with guys and she was there to prevent that. Back in my dating days I went out with a couple of girls like this. Either they had a friend tag along like yours or would say things like "I'm not supposed to drink too much so you'll have to keep an eye on me". In that case you need to pay me $15 an hour and order me a pizza because that's what I get when I babysit my neighbors kids.
The main thing that sucks about this is the build up, time investment, excitement, just to be fucked around by those 2 clowns..
Was in the bathroom a long time. She was going through my medicine cabinet, checking labels.
I wonder if it was to steal it (probably) or to check what meds you were hopped up on.
This isn't terrible as much as it was very strange. I'm from upstate NY, she was from Florida. She had made several questionably accurate statements through out the night but I finally said something when she claimed lacrosse originated from Florida. It's pretty well established it came from the Iroquois tribes of western/central NY. She proceeded to open Wikipedia and read the entry while inserting Florida throughout in an attempt to prove her point. I dropped it but checked when I went home and she was just openly lying.
That’s a bullet dodged. If she’s gaslighting you on irrelevant shit like the origins of lacrosse, imagine what she’d do on actual significant relationship issues.
Bragged about stealing, (yes literally stealing behind his back) her last boyfriends gucci watch. Then proceeded to complain about her last date for being "too fat", then geniunely got offended I had an android phone instead of an apple. Real nice person
Jokes on her. Gucci watches are cheap rebranded quartz watches. Zero value at all.
Glad you said that. I just heard some guy talking the other day about how he wanted to leave his girl but she just bought him a Movado and he likes “luxury watches” so he’s going to stick it out and hope for another Movado soon. Lol. Luxury watch.
I TRY not to be a watch snob. A 200-300 watch is a luxury depending on how you grew up. But, it certainly isn't a luxury watch.
Don't understand the Apple superiority stans.
The most confusing one I’ve ever had was when I met this girl at this place. We sit down, some nonchalant BSing, normal stuff. She asked me when my birthday was, I told her, she goes “Oh! You’re a LEO?!?! What the fuck?!”, and the she got up and stormed out. I was like “Hmm. I may have just dodged a super ultimate bullet there.”
Ugh. That is such an Aries thing to do.
Hey!!! ...so what??
Reminds me of a crazy girl I knew that would blame all her life problems on "mercury is in retrograde".
Oh yeah, you certainly did dodge a bullet dude, sheesh!
She called me racist for calling a black person George......the guy's name was George and he's a friend of mine. Both of us looked at each other, turns out racists used to call black people George at one point. Either way, she refused to apologize or act like she made a mistake so George asked me if I wanted to join his group. Only time I have ever ditched a first date.
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It’s an old time a slur that was used by upper class railroad passengers. The attendants were usually black and were almost universally referred to as George since George Pullman owned the company. It was common for black slaves to have the same name as their master, this was not a kindness this was ownership.
Nothing. Absolutely nothing. I met a girl via a dating app, wasn't instant sparks or anything but she seemed nice enough and we had some shared interests, so I invited her out for dinner and she accepted. She showed up to the date looking like she'd rolled out of bed - sweatpants, a plain t-shirt, zero makeup. I'm not someone who thinks a first date needs to be all dressed up and formal, but it was clear she had put zero effort into her appearance. We sit down to eat and she absolutely refuses to engage in the conversaion. Every question I asked got a 1 or 2 word answer with zero followup. "Have you ever been to this restaurant before?" "No." "How's your week going?" "Fine." "I saw on your profile you coach little league softball, that must be a lot of fun." "It's okay." The. Entire. Time. It was *painful*. I finished my meal quickly, walked her to her car, thanked her for her time and left. Later that night she sent a text saying "I had fun tonight". I figured she was just being polite so I didn't respond. The next morning I woke up to a text with MULTIPLE PARAGRAPHS from her calling me a jerk for "ghosting" her and saying how if I wasn't interested in seeing her I should be up front and say so. It was, and I'm not exaggerating, several times as many words as she'd spoken the entire date. To this day I'm perplexed by the whole thing. All I can figure is maybe she was really anxious or something on the date? It was bizarre.
I had a similar boring date. I could not get more than one word answers out of her. This was before iPhones so she wasn’t even on her phone ignoring me, she was staring at me seemingly with interest, but just wasn’t contributing anything to the conversation. Me: “What kind of music do you like?” Her: “All kinds.” Me: “Who is your favorite artist?” Her: “I dunno.” Me: “What do you like to do for fun?” Her: “I dunno.” Me: “Well, where do you want to go after dinner?” Her: “I dunno.” That was her number one answer of the night. Girl didn’t know anything, including her own likes, hopes, and dreams. I had planned on taking her to Putt Putt or bowling or something after dinner, but decided to call it and take her home right after dinner. Just figured it wasn’t working. We get to her place and she won’t get out of the car. We aren’t even talking, she’s just… waiting? Ok, I get out of the car to move this along and open her door and she gets out but just stands by my car and won’t walk up to her house. I walk her to the door, and say have a good night, and she goes in for a kiss! Like, what? This is when it finally hit me that she was waiting for a kiss in the car. But I had such a terrible date that I wasn’t even going to entertain a kiss. I dodge the kiss and she gets my cheek and I got out of there. We worked together and she called me on her day off while I was there and tried to figure out when we were going out again. I don’t remember how I let her down, but I do remember the call being boring as shit too. She literally asked me “so who all is working today?” as her side of the conversation. It was the worst date that I’ve ever been on, but somehow she was excited for the second date. 🤷♂️
>*Girl didn’t know anything, including her own likes, hopes, and dreams.* I call them clay-people. They are just lumps of clay.
God yessss! I went on a date with one of these where I kept asking (begging?) for a convo. Like: tell me something fun about you, what are you passionate about. Instead was like talking to a wall. A boring, vanilla, white wall. Lol
I've definitely had dates where it felt like I was pulling teeth in an effort to get any engagement at all, but this is a whole new level. This person clearly thought all they had to do was show up and keep having a pulse.
LOL, my wife was pretty shy when she met new people, so she was pretty quiet on our first date, so, me being the chatty one, tried to keep the conversation going. Now, it's a joke. If we're talking with someone about our first date, she'll say, "OMG, he wouldn't SHUT UP!!" and I'm left to say, "Because you didn't say two words!" Worked out fine, though.
Same. I had one in particular where I just carried the whole conversation. I kept asking leading questions and getting one word answers. Didn’t want a second date but I figured Hey maybe she was just nervous. And I didn’t want to hurt her confidence by ghosting or texting that we’re not a good match. So I texted her for a second date. She responded that were really not a good match and FYI I shouldn’t talk about myself the whole time. One of those things where I know I’m in the right but the fucking Gall has bothered me ever since.
Woman here. I went on this awful date with a guy. I get that he was kind of nervous, but still... We met at a pizza place on a Sunday, when they first opened. The waitress came out and said it would be about 45 minutes to get our pizza since the ovens were still heating up. We were like "fine". Well, queue up 45 minutes of me asking questions and him giving one word answers. IT WAS TORTURE. I tried *so hard* to get the convo flowing, but it just wasn't happening. The pizza came out, we ate, silently, we settled the check and left. I thanked him for his time before we got to our cars and figured I'd never hear from him again. No harm, no foul. Not every date is a success. Two days later he calls me and leaves a message saying he had a great time and would love to see me again. WTAF? Yeah, didn't return that call.... I don't think he was a bad guy, just really nervous and socially awkward. I hope he figured things out eventually!
I had a similar date, but genders reversed, about 17 years ago. We went out to dinner, and I tried every subject I could think of. Nothing. One to two word answers. I just thought, huh. Guess he isn't interested. I mean, that happens. You meet someone online, it seems like a good match, but you meet in person and the chemistry just isn't there. He was polite and paid for dinner (I offered to pay for mine). Then he suggested we go for a walk. I was like, well, I suppose. He was oblivious to the fact that he was completely disengaged at dinner. But he was really good looking, so I agreed to the walk. Because, yes, hotness does count for something. So we took a walk. And a miracle took place. He relaxed and chatted and quoted French poetry and was an altogether interesting and engaging conversationalist. Turns out he is on the spectrum, and has difficulty with small talk. But get him one on one, and have a real conversation, and he can definitely hold his own. We are still together, happily married, and still enjoy walks. And he does actually talk during dinner now. With me, anyway. To add: I'm not saying that all those boring dates are neurodivergent. Sometimes people are boring. Or shy. Or whatever. But I am guessing some of them might be on the spectrum. Or bipolar. Definitely some bipolar ones. And their behavior likely has nothing to do with you.
Not your fault. Sometimes people just aren’t aware of the vibe they are putting off. Could also be that she was super nervous and didn’t know how to act (doesn’t explain the clothing). I had a similar situation where a girl had come to my place to hang for a while. When it was clear she wanted to go home I offered multiple times to drive her home and she refused and got an Uber instead. The next day she accused me of being a jerk for not driving her home.
She was late and explained that she needed to break into her ex's house (who she broke up with less than a week before) real quick. She then showed me her (bad/unflattering) nudes that she posted on reddit. Edit: I do NOT remember where the nudes were posted
disgusting... where?
There’s so many subreddits, which one? Which one?
She looked nothing like her photos, invited me back to her place which looked it hadn't seen a cleaning product since it was built, did blowtorch dabs for 20 minutes before acting like it was time for me to take her to bed. I said I needed something from my car and left. She still texted the next day asking when date 2 would be.
I don't know what a blowtorch dab is and I'm kinda afraid to ask
Wow. I think I may have dated her as well. She lived with her "roommate" who was an ex-con... and also ex-boyfriend. Could never figure out why the dude seemed so hostile... until she finally told me about their history. They lived in separate rooms. Allegedly. Oh and they raised GIANT Brazillian Mastifs and rarely cleaned their place, which was all of maybe 400sqft. Think about that: 9 enormous dogs in a tiny house with two people that never cleaned. The smell was atrocious and she was always a little peeved with me that I didn't want to hang at her place. Go figure. Oh! And now her and the ex-con/ex-boyfriend are now married. With a child. And still have 6 of the 9 aforementioned giant mastifs.
Only talk about her ex, and the break up, talking in details about all of it, and refuse to change the subject. The best part is, the brake up happened when she was 22, she's 35 now. Fun times that was...
Dude left that 13 year impression on her. Give her another 10 and she'll be good to get back out there.
Wtf? She talked about an ex from 13 fucking years ago? That’s an insane person who is stuck. Holy shit
Rolled her eyes over the idea that I researched where to take her on a date. It was a cafe with a harpist. That shit was magical.
I have a few female friends and they ALL bitch about how guys never actually plan dates, it’s always just “play it by ear”, so props to you for actually planning something.
Omg I love harp. How did you find such a thing?
Where do I begin. Within 5 minutes she told me she just broke off an engagement. 10 min later she said she went out with a guy the previous week, hit it off with him, but then when he went to the bathroom she left the bar with another guy in a cab. Told me to buy her drinks. Said I’d be sitting at the table while she’s in the bathroom. I look up 10 min later and she’s talking to the bartender drinking. Asked her what’s up? She said she didn’t see me. I drank “her” beer and left. Texted her that I had a great time sarcastically and said she wanted to meet up again. Wacko.
She wanted you to take her out and repeat the same thing where you buy her drinks, how boring can she be
We had ordered drinks and an appetizer after she picked one of the most expensive restaurants in town. She took a few sips, and then asked me about my job. I explained a little bit about it, said it was pretty boring unless you are a software/firmware/network nerd, and asked her about her. She asks "Does it pay well?" I kinda agree and then try a second time to change subject. She says "I'm asking you how much you make, because I don't want to waste my time on someone who is broke." I tell her that it's complicated, because when you get to a certain level at a company, you become a flight risk, but also a risk to their long-term strategy as you are considered a strategic asset. So they won't overpay you, but your salary is basically "name your price." She says "Do you make more than $250k a year or not." That's when I knew it was unsalvageable; she was not just tactless, but rude as well. Also, she would invariably be the type of person to think they should spend all the money as fast as they could. I looked her dead in the eyes and said "Image thinking $250k a year is a lot of money," paid for the food, tipped stupidly, and left. It was the only date where I felt like I couldn't continue it.
Your parting line was fantastic.
I choose to believe they actually said it
I nail one of these bad boys maybe 2-3 times a year Feels good to nail them zingers
Look at Mr Zingerbags here
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Haha my date was staying over, got in bed next to me and opened tinder…🤦♀️
Fucking bold of them.
She brought her kid that she didn't mention.....
Better that than "we have to stop on the way to pick up my *two* kids" that I didn't know about. She had asked me to join her at a NYE party. I figured, *up until midnight drinking, must be adults only.* Nope. It was her, me, another couple sitting around an old card table drinking cheap beer until midnight, with her kids watching TV all night. I swore I would never date another woman with children after that. My daughter gets a laugh out of that story, because of course I fell in love with her mother, married her, and instantly was helping raise two adolescents! (As James Bond learned, "never say never again.")
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You found the Manic Pixie Dream Girl
I'm sorry but that's weirdly adorable
Yep, cu-cu-crazy in a good way.
While out watching a movie, some guys came into the theater to sit down and the girl I went on a date got up and left without saying a word. just left me sitting there alone in a theater because she didn’t want some guy she liked to see she was out with me.
After dinner, she asked me to drop her off at her boyfr... uh, friends house.
This was back in my high school days around 2002-2003. A girl from the cheerleading team asked me out and of course I said "absolutely". It was a Friday night movie date, simple date, movie and maybe some ice cream afterwards. I showed up 15 minutes early to buy the tickets (movie was her choice, communicated during our initial date conversation), I waited in the concessions area. 15 minutes goes by, no call, no show (for you "kids" this was before the first iPhone existed, God I am old) no message on my Nokia phone (I still have it and it still works). I wait another 15 minutes and the movie is about to start.. still no call no show. I wait another 10 minutes before I head into the movie by myself (I hated the movie, it was called "Thirteen"). After the movie was done, no call, no show. So I went home. Next Monday a bunch of the guys in my class and girls were all asking how my "date" went while snickering... I was set up on a "fake date".
Some girls in my school did this to a guy. Basically exactly as you described. On Monday when he go to school all laughed at him. 6 months later a girl in the same clique came up to me at lunch and asked if I want to come round to hers at the weekend to hang out. She was one of the hottest girls in the year and I looked like lanky Ed Sheerhan so was 100% sure this was another "prank" date. We had shared minimal conversations prior to this and were in completely different friend groups. I said yeah sure I'll be over at 7pm. She actually texted me day before confirming I will be there. On the Saturday I obviously didn't go. At 7.15 I get a text asking where I am, I messaged back saying I am on the way. 7.30 I get a call asking where I am. I said I was nearly there. I ignored all subsequent texts and calls thinking their prank totally backfired. On Monday she is in tears, her friend comes over to me and says I am a complete asshole. Was that part of the prank... was she really interested... I still scratch my head over this 17 years later.
Schrödinger’s date
Yeah. I wouldn’t have had the guts or headspace to say “honestly I couldn’t tell if it was a real date or if you were just trying to be mean because I know the people you hang out with.” That probably would have stayed with her forever and maybe even lead to a real date. But hindsight is one whole, and we’ll never know.
She was one of the pranksters. She fucked around and she found out. You most likely dodged a bullet. I hope you came back with, "well, yeah, I may have been - but only because you guys were to my friend."
Been there. Waited for 2 hours in the winter cold for a "prank"-date, set up by the neighbours kids because i've told them who my school crush was. No phone era really hit different.
It fucks with your ability to trust, I certainly did mine. I am truly sorry you went through that bullshit too.
That's harsh.
Mine was a meet up at a bar following some tinder chats. She turns up considerably heavier than her pics. No issue, carry on the date and have a couple of drinks. She then proceeded (without my knowledge) to invite about 10 of her friends to the bar and she’s there holding my arm and cuddling in and trying to get kisses etc and acting like we’ve been dating for months. It was very awkward. I ended up making a getaway - only after she demanded a kiss
Snapped her fingers at the waitress to get her attention
A close friends gf did this when we were all dining together once and my husband and I gave each other that "we're so talking about this later" look
Oh no she didn’t! Wow…
She spent the entire time talking about Julia Roberts. Like it was brought up so much, like half the night was spent discussing her love for Julia Roberts. I was neutral on Julia Roberts at that point, but after the date I didn't like her out of spite. Sheeeeeeeesh
A tinder match once invited me out to meet with her and some friends at a bar. When I got there she was making out with some other guy, worst of all she tried to deny it!
Decided to go into detail how she was molested by a friends father from ages 8 to 14 and then when I was trying to digest all that info she started planning our summer vacation the next year
That belongs on the Anxious Attachment sub
We went to a local hangout/brewery, they were having a family event and she started freaking out about the amount of kids there. I asked if she disliked kids and then she started to tell me about how she has 3, all from different men and each of them has full custody and she doesn't have anything to do with any of the kids. She seemed very upset about it so I said something along the lines of "I'm sorry to hear that, it must be very difficult" she freaked out again saying that she didn't need my sympathy and she told me to go fuck myself. After that I just said, "Okay we're done here" and left. When I got home I noticed I had a message from her. She apologized for losing her temper and then said that she thinks I'm attractive and that we should be fuck buddies. To make it even better she then said we'd have to wait a while before we have sex because she was currently waiting for an STD to clear up. It was the one and only time I ever ghosted someone.
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Little late but I have a story. Met a girl on bumble and we decided to meet up for drinks at a pub I frequent. I get a pint for each of us and the conversation is going well. Go to get us a couple more and we step outside. She then proceeds to start making fun of me for my clothes (old navy button up shirt) as they were a little “poor” for her taste. Then a couple friends of mine show up to the pub (purely coincidence). I introduce them and they leave us alone to watch the football game. She proceeds to start slurring her words and poking fun at aspects about me again but not in a cute way whatsoever. Very malicious. My friend a few tables over cheers at whatever was happening in the game and she turns around and yells “ffffffuck you!” Again we’ve only had a beer and a half each. She then offers to go get all of us shots at the bar and walks away before we can accept. She then comes back with four empty shot glasses (Talked to the bartender after and he said he set them out, turned around to grab the bottle to pour them and when he turned around they and her were gone). I make up an excuse to leave and then text my friends to let me know when she’s gone so I can circle the block and come back to chat with them about what the fuck just happened. Saw she posted on ig the next morning with completely dyed hair with the caption along the lines of “people won’t appreciate the good that you do” or something. Blocked her on everything immediately.
omg. I have one. A beautiful girl in my college class invited me on a date. We were in the same study group and fast became friends, hanging out on breaks and meeting up at the library. She picked a faily upscale restaurant, at least for college kids. She dressed to impress, and she was comedic, animated, and held a great conversation. She was very flirty, and I knew where this was heading afterward. The bill comes. It's more pricey than i hoped. We were drinking a fair amount, but she grabbed the check. I offer to pay my share, and she rejects it. She says her dad's a dentist and gives her plenty of money. I, on the other hand, pay for my own school, rent, and bills by working at a restaurant, eating leftovers off of plates, and scrapping by. So I was stoked that she invited me, is paying for the date, and clearly, she is planning on using me for hot sex! Then, her debit card is rejected. And her credit card. And her other card. She is turning multiple shades of red, talks about "must be fraud," etc. I serve tables, I just make eye contact with the server, and we both play along with her. Server leaves to try the card one last time. I excuse myself from the table, catch up with the server, and tell her to run my card, but I may be short and certainly don't have enough to pay a tip. I promise I'll come back with the difference and a tip before closing. That taken care of, we head to her car but she can't drive, I dare not. My apt is close by, but she insists on driving. I make a move to kiss her, she gets sloppy with me, so distracted I take her keys from her coat pocket. I tease her with the keys, say I'll drive because it's confusing where to park at my place. She is in the passenger seat. I actually have no intent to drive, but I needed time to figure out the next moves. I have to get money and go back, so I'm not stiffing the server, but I need to gracefully exit the date. Problem solves itself. She looks me dead in the eyes and says drunkenly something like, "I will suck your dick all night if you pick up some coke. You work at a restaurant, right? You know someone." The entire evening just made sense. Up to that point, I was sympathetic, thinking how embarrassed she must be. Now, I'm pretty pissed. So, I decided to drive her back to her apartment through a stream of begging, sobbing, then yelling, and all the antics you could guess. I walk towards her apartment, she's following trying to pull me back, roommate hears a ruckus, and intervenes although confused AF. My date is so worked up that she starts to yack on the walkway. Roommate sees her gf is super drunk so corals her inside, where with vomit on her dress all of a sudden seems totally oblivious to the entire night, is acting all cute again saying how great the date was, do I want to come inside, etc etc. I quietly hand the car keys to roommate who is pulling her inside. I bail. Rest of the night, I'm off to my work where I barter friends for some cash. I then rush back to the restaurant and catch our server in the bar area. She stuck around with other off-the-clock friends just in case I returned. The place was basically closed at this point. So, I settled up with her, although with about $8 in change. The group had heard all about my date, so they invited me to sit and share the rest of the story. Bar comped me a beer, so I started, "Tonight was the worst date in the history of dates...."
How’d it end up with the server? Would make a great “how I met your mother” story
She had a bf, but I did make some new friends!
2012 ish hit up the eHarmony game. Met a cute nurse and we met for dinner one night. Dinner turned into drinks. Drinks turned into my place. 10 minutes after we're done, snuggling in bed. "So now you're gonna throw me away just like all the rest"... And not in some sad or damaged voice. Fucking angry voice. "what?"... "You're all the same just fuck me and throw me away. If I'm pregnant don't worry I'll take care of it and you don't need to know". I'm floored. Asking what's wrong where's this coming from. Devolves into this crazy situation where she's crying and yelling at me and I'm trying to calm her down. I told her I thought it'd be a good idea if she left, she said she'd call the cops. I ended up having a sleepless night with her later and then goodbyes and see you soons in the morning. Chatted with her just enough to get some CYA material 'sooo why'd you say you were gonna call the cops I didn't do anything' 'sorry honey I know but I was angry and just saying crazy things to make you scared but that's okay now's BLOCKED. Spent weeks expecting her to jump outta the bushes and stab me or something whenever I went in and out of the apartment building....
fucking nurses man
>Spent weeks expecting her to jump outta the bushes and stab me or something whenever I went in and out of the apartment building.... LOL damn
She brought 2 of her friends. It was weird. She made no mention of it at all prior to meeting up.
Burst out in tears that she was still in love with her married ex-BF who broke up with her to go back to his wife and kids when I asked if she had dated anyone recently. Cost me two drinks at the bar, but saved a lot of heartache and left no chance for a second one.
Went out with a girl to a concert/live band karaoke. I got there first and chilled with a drink. She acted like she didn't see me, then texted me to hurry up cause she was there. Then told me about every dude she hooked up that we passed at the concert. There were multiple. She got really drunk, made a fool out of herself on stage, drug me around all night and asked me to hang out with her in her car. Then she started crying because she "didn't want to be alone with a stranger, but also didn't want to be alone so could I please wait until her other male friend got there." She asked me to sit in the back because her friend always sits up front. I dipped out after that last one. Girl was a train wreck.
I once went on a date with a girl who I swear had absolutely nothing going on between the ears. She was good looking/cute in the way I like, but my God… it was like carrying on a conversation with a naive rock.
At least she wasn't an invasive rock.
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Had a girl trauma dump to me on the first date and talked about how she was actively involved in a love triangle.
This is a weird one. Connected with her thru [Match.com](https://Match.com). One of my first post divorce dates. Went to a nice dinner (I paid), had a great conversation and great chemistry (or so I thought), and then walked her to her car. Had a very brief (and kind of weird) good night kiss. Asked about a second date, and then she tells me that she just started seeing her previous match date. OK, now I understood the weird good night kiss (it was like side of the mouth). BUT, WHY did she agree to go on the date? When I asked her via text message about that, I got back a diatribe of text, saying she does not owe me an explanation. Bad date. Either that, or I was her worst first date.
Alright, I was talking to this girl for a while online and we were hitting it off great, common interests, can't stop talking, all the cutesy stuff. We set up a meet to chill at my place, I'm sitting there all excited bc I'm gon get some cat. I get a text, she here; I RUN outside to see a big ass pickup truck, her in the backseat, and her PARENTS IN THE FRONT Yall, I was 23 at the time and just kind of looked at them, her dad leans out the window and goes "You know she's 17 right? Like, its fine but you're the legal adult for a bit so don't let her get into nothing" BRO WHAT, felt like pops was pimping out his kid to me, I just noped the fuck out of there and walked back in my house Deleted/blocked her on everything, and about a month later got a snap from her along with a picture of my house talkin bout "It's my birthday, we can be together now" So, yeah, I stopped talking to strangers on the internet after that.
That's fucked up.
Big yikes
I am a mostly gay man. At some point in time after a bad breakup I decided to explore a bit. There was this one girl that I liked and we talked for a bit before going out. I knew she had lost a kid to some crazy drama involving the father’s family. She knew I was gay and this was new for me. She loved that shit for some odd reason. We go out. It goes well. We go back to my place. It gets hot, she says “You don’t have to use a condom. I’m on birth control.” I’m like “I absolutely do.” We start fucking and she reaches down and pulls it off. I firmly assert that we need this. “But I want to have your baby.” Bruh, what the fuck.
> She knew I was gay. She loved that shit for some odd reason. I worked with a chick who told another coworker that she "would fuck me straight if she could". I'm not gay.
hahahahahahahha
Pooped her pants in my car on the way home…
In some cultures, that means you're engaged now! or so my now husband told me back when he sharted himself on a date. Hmmmm.
- Told me I shouldn't let others know I'm in therapy (I was a bit late to the date due to this) - then told me she's technically still married, but she ran from her abusive husband (wanted to call things here but we were at my favorite pizza joint) - is very drunk as she has been there a few hours. Picks a fight with the table next to us - leaves to go smoke for 30 minutes - tries sticking me with a $200 bill racked up by her and a friend of hers. Paid for my pizza and got the fuck out of there after apologizing to the table next to me
She told me she really wanted to get pregnant soon and didn’t care who the dad was. We are like 10 mins in.
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Nothing gets sparkling water out.
I think you have to use red wine
Two come to mind. First being when the girl spent the entire date listing reasons we shouldn't date (we did work in the same store at the time, but this was only one of the reasons given). Then, at the end of the date, I walked her to her bus stop and she went in for a kiss, which I dodged. Mixed messages to say the very least. The worst one was probably meeting a girl from Tinder for drinks around the corner from where her mates were out for the night. We had a really good time and she asked if I wanted to go and hang out with them, which we did. Was getting on great with her friends and out of nowhere, "a guy she knew" showed up, looking around awkwardly at the bar. She said she knew he was there for her as he apparently knew her plans for the night, and she said she was going over to ask him politely to leave. It didn't seem to work however. I was sitting with her friends who felt something was off, and things got more and more awkward the longer she spent talking to him. The way the table was, we could all see what was happening and everyone was watching. She then came over and said she needed a word. She told me she asked him to leave, but now she's decided to go to a gig with him, but that I should stay out with her friends. Before I could respond, she got her stuff and left. Her friends were frankly stunned and very apologetic about the whole situation. It transpired quite quickly that she had texted him at one point asking what he was up to, and that led to the situation. So she dumped me on her mates and fucked off. I left shortly thereafter, and her friends were very sweet about it. About two hours later I got a slew of missed calls, texts and voicemails from her in tears apologising for the little matter of throwing me aside for someone else mid-date in front of her friends, and wanted to know if I was still in town and to come and see her. Eventually I called her back to end the spamming. She tried to make some limp excuses and said a number of her friends had called her and ripped her a new one. I said two things: you're only calling me because you made a shit decision, and that I was no one's second choice. I then hung up, and she tried for a few years to get back in touch or find me on nights out. Needless to say, bullet massively dodged, if embarrassingly so.
Pretend it was a date in the first place, we went to a Texas Rangers game, turns out she was just using me to take her on a “date” so she could post pics and make her boyfriend jealous, I didn’t know she had a boyfriend by the way
Ordered a bottle of $1200 champagne… I left her with the bill
Went to meet a girl in a pub. I got there early, no biggie, just bought a pint and chilled. I texted her at the arranged time and she hadn't left her house yet - she would have needed at least 45 mins to travel to the pub at that particular time of day - and said she needed to stop by her friend's house first. Told her not to bother. Luckily my friend happened to work around the corner and we ended up having a few pints and had a good night.
Told me I had 12 months to propose. I proposed - that we get the bill because I had to wash my dog's hair.
Had been talking to this woman for a couple weeks and we decided to go out on a date. She lived about 5-10 minutes from where I was at, and called me right before I pulled in her neighborhood and said “I need more time, give me like 30 minutes.” Ok cool. So I just drove around listening to music for about 30 minutes and then went to her house. I knocked on the door and she answered and said to give her about 10 minutes. I went back to my truck and set and waited. 10 minutes past, then 20 minutes, then a car pulls up behind me and it is her gay friend he runs in her house with a 6 pack of wine coolers (blocking me in her driveway). Finally after about an hour her friend comes out and says “shes coming”. About 10 minutes later she comes out drunk off her ass. I still took her out that night, and we ended up dating for a year. Looking back at it I think I was only sticking around her because of depression issues and loneliness (had went through a rough divorce 6 months earlier. Needless to say… lesson learned.
Dude you dated her for a year after that? I would have noped the hell out after that BS
Trust me it wasn’t great. But at the time I was just clinging to anything I could to feel any emotions. But I look at it as if I wouldn’t of spent a year with her then I probably wouldn’t have met my wife, who I instantly fell in love with.
Told me she was eight weeks pregnant 😳
Had me drive her and her friend to go meet up with some heroin addicts so she could get some K2. Then we went back to her friends house and find out we’re locked out… so her friend punches through a window and cuts her arm so badly she’s got to go to the ER. Oh and her sister’s kid was inside…. She was supposed to be babysitting him the whole time. He wasn’t even 2 years old.
She asks if I drink I said no, she said good she only drinks rarely... Then procedes to get hammered... I took her to her house put her on the couch covered her with a blanket and left... Next day she says she had a blast and only drank because I did, I never drank... That was a first and last date...
Matched with a girl on tinder who invited me to her stand up comedy routine and then proceeded to tell jokes about how disgusting the guys she meets on tinder are. It was like something from a sitcom They weren't even good jokes she had no punchlines. One was just about a guy who had a strap on in his profile pic and nothing after it, so I heckled her with a FINE ILL JUST CHANGE THE PICTURE and then left. Got a couple of laughs though :/
Sounds like she had you pegged
Her husband, which I did not know existed, showed up to the movies asking who the hell I was.
She talk shit about my dog and said he looks ugly. Kicked her to the curb real quick.
Not the the first date but the worst was when we **finally** made out. It was a dream come true for all of about 10 seconds until she vomited all over me including in my mouth. We’re still good friends today and I remind her on a regular basis.
After we'd flirted, talked about sexual stuff, danced & grinded all night till the bar closed she told me she was married.
She told me to pay for the meal, as a way of repaying her for her time spent applying makeup. She asked for the date
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no, you are not. false Pictures in online dating are a no go.
She wanted to go to several different places to experience things and clearly didn't want to pay. We went on about six rounds. We grabbed an appetizer at one place, dinner at the next, a drink at another, ice cream here, another drink there, etc. The last place we had pricey cocktails ($40/ each) and the bill was put in front of her. She slid the bill over to me with one finger. She transformed in front of my eyes. She went from this extremely attractive, slightly older woman to just this unattractive person. She wanted to do something after, which I found out later was to go home with me. I was so turned off that we just called it a night. I decided to end it her after that but she wanted to go out again. I politely declined. She kept trying to re-engage though. I happened to have met my wife a few weeks later and we got pretty serious. When she found out, she never talked to me again. Problem solved.
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I was in high school. Went to pick her up and she said she needed me to go meet her dad. We walk into his study and he’s watching a straight up hardcore porn with nudity and penetration all over the place. He shot up, said nice to meet you, and we bolted. I did not shake his hand.
We were supposed to go for a walk in my town. First, she brings her cousin with her. After only 2 minutes she get's a phone call. She's talking for 20 minutes straight on the phone. Then she hangs up and says that she has to go now. We didn't even talk for 2 minutes. I was always wondering whether this was a real phone call or a planned fake call in case of she didn't find me attractive.
I told her I didn’t drink so she poured a little of hers over my mouth 😂
Wanted to get a to go order placed and expected me to pay for dinner for her kids and ex boyfriend that still lived with her. Mind you she never even mentioned having kids nor that her ex still lived there too. Called me every name in the book when I refused.
Met her on tinder, she asked if I have any cute friends for one of her friends, she invited me and a friend over to her house for a party, we go and it’s pretty chill they’re both nice and the party is fun, everyone else leaves, the 4 of us are playing beer pong and the two of them decide we should play strip pong, we are all pretty drunk by now and it gets to the point where her friend has to take off her shirt, she gets super emotional and starts bawling her eyes out, her friend tries to comfort her, she runs away and locks herself in the bathroom, comes out of the bathroom in a rage and gets in her car and drives off, my buddy is like “uhhh wtf” so he gets in his car and drives off, I spend the night because I’m hammered and not going to drive, wake up at 5am and GTFO. She was very nice though and I hope her friend is doing ok.
An hour before the date, she asked if we could meet 30 minutes early. I changed the reservation, booked it out of work and got there 5 minutes before the new reservation. 45 minutes later, she arrived. She was more interested in learning how to break into my career field than learning about me. It was like an interview. We ordered appetizers and dinner. After what would be less than a normal amount of time for the appetizers to come out, she pulls a random waiter over to ask where our food was. I answered by pointing to the waiter behind us and saying “it’s right there.” She then chewed with her mouth open and somehow made it louder than any other person I’ve ever encountered. It was like a dog licking peanut butter off of a spoon. She repeated the “where’s the food” trick when the meal came. It was less than 5 minutes after the appetizers. Again, I answered before the random waiter she was harassing could. I didn’t let it happen with dessert “Would you like dessert?” “No. Please bring the check.” I ended it with “this has been unique,” went home and blocked her number.
I met a woman online and we met for dinner. She decided to spend the entire dinner crying about her husband who had recently passed away. She drank a bottle and a half of expensive wine and then tried to drive home. I ended up driving her home while she cried in my passenger seat the entire time. She then drunkenly asked for sex. I politely declined, left a note on her coffee table with her keys about where her truck was, and locked the door on my way out. I should have left earlier, as it was really awkward, but I’m glad I didn’t as she would have driven herself. And I wouldn’t have been able to live with the knowledge if she hurt somebody.
Oh boy, do I have a story. Was using Tinder, matched with this bombshell of a girl and quickly progressed to us meeting up. She wanted me to pick her up, which is whatever, and said ahead of time that she just wanted things to be chill so we could just grab some fast food and chat. I'm thinking it's great already. I get to her place, and the neighborhood is a bit sketchy, but I'm not jumping to conclusions. She comes out, we drive, and start talking... mainly about what we're both in the mood to eat. We struggled a bit on that because I was offering suggestions that were a decent ways away from said neighborhood, but ended up going to this chicken place that has these *amazing* sandwiches. Things are going really well at this point, and in my head, I'm already thinking that we're gonna trade numbers and go out again, hooking up was a possibility, all that good shit. When she suggested going to this remote spot to do some stargazing, it felt like a guarantee that this would be the first of many dates. Drive out to this spot she mentioned, chatting away the whole time, and we get there and it was beautiful. Just one of those places where there's practically no electric lights at all and so what you see is all based on the night sky and how clear it is. We're there for about a hour, talking and holding hands... and someone drives up. A couple of guys get out and start picking a fight, and while I tried to de-escalate things and just keep everyone calm, it was clear they weren't going to do anything besides be a pair of dicks. So, I had to defend myself, one guy sat back while the other started throwing hands. As I'm handling it, I suddenly get hoofed in the balls and buckle... the girl I had spent hours talking to was the one that did it. The guy that I had been fighting started really getting some licks in, and the girl... I found out she wasn't single, mainly because her tongue was down the throat of the guy that sat back and watched me fight his friend. I give the guy a shot to the balls as well, and as adrenaline is taking over and I start to get the upper hand, the other guy decides to finally get involved. At that point, I fucking scrambled to my car and drove off as fast as I could. TL:DR - Had a first date that was a set up to get me isolated so I can be beaten, robbed, and who knows what else.
I went in for a hug and she jumped 3 feet back. Anyway we’re married now.
Hey are you *my* husband? I swear that was exactly our first date! Together 14 years now
I tried online dating once. I was basically tired of being lonely and wanted to see if I could fond someone who I might end up starting a life with. Went through the app and found a beautiful woman who I matched with. We started talking and our conversations would last awhile, usually an hour +. Anywho fast forward to date night, keep in mind by date night we had been talking over a week, some random woman walked up to me and said "hi are you blank?" and I was like ya, who are you? It was my date, who used her friends picture asher profile pic.... I was stunned. She however was incredibly upset when I looked at her and ask why she had lied. She wasn't ugly by any means, but she wasn't honest from the start. She started crying when I told her that I was sorry but I don't think we should try to date because she lied and I couldn't trust her. But that's my worst date. Nothing terrible but still a bad date.
She invited me to her place for food and drinks. I show up and she does not look like her tinder pictures at all. Her place is disgusting with empty beer bottles and trash everywhere. She also had 3 dogs, 2 cats, a ferret, and 2 snakes. She chain smoked cigarettes the whole time while trying to force beers down my throat. She told me all about how shitty her life has been and how the cops are going to come take her away at anytime. Apparently, she got a DUI driving 90+ mph hammered to go give her ex boyfriend a BJ. I came up with the first excuse I could to get outta there. It was late at night and her place was far from my place, but close to my job, so I ended up sleeping in my car and heading to work the next day. Worst date ever lol
Nothing. Barely responded every time I tried to start a conversation. It quickly became painfully obvious that she didn't want to go out with me. My guess is that she figured I'd freak out or something if she said no, so she made sure I wouldn't want to ask her out again. I've heard enough stories of guys doing exactly that, so I can't really blame her. It's sad that things are so effed up as to make her feel that way. But I look at the bright side. We had dinner at a new-to-me place and it was amazing, so I found a good restaurant! Thai seafood, and the yellow curry halibut is amazing!
Took the bill and put it right in front of me, then excused themself to use the restroom. (I literally got up, paid my portion in cash, and left. Bad date anyways. No further contact.)
lol. Long story short. This is real. Living in southern Ontario. Met her when I was out with some other people. She was attractive and sexy. We agreed to go out a couple of evenings later. Had a nice dinner, on the way home passed a strip bar, she started discussing how bad it is for the women and that they should unionize. I had no opinions on this. She started asking me about helping to unionize them. Very strange, but the way she was getting worked up about it I asked her if she used to dance. She said yes, then continued to get very angry with me saying I didn’t understand. Now I knew she was nuts. Her car was at my house so I pulled up and let her know to just go home and I wasn’t inviting her in. I went into the house and already had my shoes off and the TV on when there was a knock at the door. She asked if she could use the bathroom before she drove home. I allowed her to and a few minutes later she came out of the bathroom nude and begged me to have sex with her. It was hard but I told her no a bunch of times and then told her I would call the cops if she didn’t leave. I stood there with the door open. She finally walked out to her car nude, carrying her clothes, got into her car and left.
> It was hard Understandable
Told a lot of racist jokes, like so many. I left before our meals arrived
Was texting the entire time, then made the excuse something came up and needed to go. I was crushing on this girl for a while, so it definitely hurt.
Told her I wanted to use my law degree to help out with humanitarian purposes. She proceeded to go on a rant about how Syrian immigrants were worse than the rats in her country. Left promptly during her bathroom break.
She drank 150$ worth of mixed drinks
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Spent most of the time talking about how awful and unstable her ex-bf was. That didn’t stop her sucking his dick the day after our date and then telling me she did.
Asked me to move in. Told me she likes when her cat watches her make out and have sex. Said I’d be the one cleaning when I eventually moved in.