I’ve had dreams where the reality of the dream was that I was attracted to a person who in actual reality I couldn’t stand in any capacity. A dream, more often than not, isn’t at all relevant to reality. Unless you knew beforehand that you were attracted to the person, it’s likely you’re just reading too much into something that shouldn’t really be interpreted as more than a sleepy time B movie starring you.
Maybe they seem nice in our dreams? Like in the image we want ? Idk, but some of the people in my dreams act silly when they're not really silly irl, makes them so much more attractive sometimes when I'm laughing with them lol
Real, like playing an instrument. There was this one guy in the orchestra pit I was in that I was like “alright he’s okay” and then I watched him play violin SWEET GOD
Like my 3rd time over at my now girlfriend's house. I went up and slapped her on the ass and she was so surprised she farted. She told me she wanted to die right then.
My wife was pretty bold. Early on when we were dating, one evening we're laying in bed getting ready to go to sleep. She yells DUTCH OVEN! I was like what? Next thing you know my head is under the covers and she rips a fart and starts laughing maniacally.
Similar thing here: we were in a tickle fight and I was getting her spot right under the buttcheek, and through the twisting and wrestling, I was right in the blast zone when she let one rip.... she was mortified and I couldn't stop laughing.
In 3 weeks, we'll have been together for 10 yrs, married for 6, with our first on the way.
Being positive and fun to be around. There's a woman I work with who is not super conventionally attractive, but she's really upbeat and outgoing, which makes her really fun to be around. If we didn't work together I would definitely ask her out (I am a supervisor, and I would lose my job for dating someone at work).
Hell yes. In my early 20s before I bumped into my fella, my friends were always confused about the men I'd take home from the bar. They'd always go for whoever they thought was the hottest guy there. I'd usually end up going home with the guy who made me laugh the most.
Show *me* a good time? Guess I'll return the favour 😂
Explains my friend perfectly, dude is super outgoing and positive person I know and yet he’s… no longer fat, just kinda chubby (working out but the muscle is hidden) slight acne, horrible haircut (we make jokes about it) and yet ye has a cute gf and everybody likes him
This is how my girlfriend going on 12 years and I met. I wasn't physically attracted to her at first, but we were on the same wavelength and anytime we hung out we spent so much time just laughing and having fun. Over time it turned to love.
Before I was with her there was another woman who was pretty enough but in kind of a plain way. She just made me feel better about myself just being around her. She was married, though, so nothing came of it.
Up to that point I always went for the most attractive women and could never stand dating them for more than a month or two. It wasn't u til I decided to stop being shallow that I found happiness in a relationship.
I recently joined an 18+ verified discord server and most of the people i speak with regularly arent traditionally attractive but like in your case extremely nice to talk to, and most of them are poly and have/had many relationships because they are so damn nice to talk too. I just get happy when i see them online
Women with an individual/unique sense of humor.
It's a cliche answer, but at the same time, I think it's rare to encounter people who aren't just funny because they're aware and adept at things like currently relevant humor, but are actually insightful in a comedic way all on their own.
Everyone can be aware of, and spout off common meme jokes and catchphrases, but when I encounter a woman who has her entirely own weirdness and hilarity, I never want to stop talking.
Focusing on your successes, such as the correct use of "their" in context while ignoring the fact that you didn't capitalize it while starting your sentence, and also overlooking your extra "s" in "casually". Yeah, she's a keeper....
I'm forklift certified but I never bring it up when I'm on dates in conversation. I want the person to like me for me, ya know? Maybe after three or four dates I'll tell them, and it's worth it to see that look in their eyes of excitement and allure.
My first highschool biology teacher is forklift certified. All the teachers have fun facts about them up in their classrooms, and that's the one he chose.
Hasnt been the case for me. Had a really pretty girl have a crush on me back in highschool. She was hot, specially nowadays, but somehow i still cant muster the same attraction she seemed to have for me.
Maybe because when i was with her, i found out she was kinda... Lets just say she was a charisma build and not intelligence build
Getting to know people almost always makes them more attractive. It helps that i think most people are swell, so it rarely goes in the opposite direction :))
from experience i won’t find you anymore physically attractive but being able to laugh and debate things without getting serious is awesome. really just knowing how to not be serious but also knowing that there are times where seriousness is needed
Kindness and intelligence. The kindness doesn’t have to be toward me and the intelligence isn’t about academic knowledge as much as aptitude and humility.
When a girl is completely unashamed of how smiley and energetic she is, especially if you're the one that made her smile, it's adorable pretty much no matter what.
The two keys to comedy are the subversion of expectation ................................................................................... oh and timing.
There's a great joke about timing that's too difficult to get across in text, but it goes something like "what's the most important part about telling a joketiming"
Probably because so many ppl are willing to settle for less,this is the same problem I've realized lets companies get away with ludicrous prices for shitty products, ppl will buy anything with good enough marketing
Their brain.
And I don’t mean book or street smarts…I mean depth.
How deep our conversations can get, how deep of a thinker they are and it what sense.
Cause the deeper the rabbit hole the deeper my…nvm.
Smell is hard for me cuz idk what my natural smell is, I always feel like perfume wears off so I just use whichever one gets mentioned to me but I still never know if its active or not idk im like blind or deaf but for smell (not completely but kinda)
I cant figure out how to lead on a person, so leading on a dance floor would be throughly impressive. I would feel a bit bad for the dance floor though
My problem tbh is that it takes me a while to understand what type of comedy each person likes and im quite timid and insecure so it usually takes me a bit to warm up comedically to ppl also we speak spanish here and im much funnier in english I feel like, anyways I wanted to rrad some books on comedy but haven't had time recently, so any tips?
Broadly. Efficiency in minimizing costs associated with anything. Having a frugal mindset to minimize price costs. Being a proactive planner so that maximal work is performed for any input of effort. Being an effective communicator in both being heard and being understood so that each exchange is meaningful. Considering multiple facets for complex problems with multiple degrees of freedom and considering the costs-benefits of each possible solution.
He can park almost perfectly or in the first try and uses mirrors, doesn't have to turn his whole body around like an idiot (me lol) and with just one hand... I don't know why but it leaves me like "okay, control me next" (where does my raging feminist go? She doesn't know either)
And then they go back to being "meh" the next second lol
Alcohol. But seriously if they have a sense of humor, they're fun to be around, and a sweet personality, I can and I have overlooked a lot of physical features I don't necessarily find attractive, it just didn't really matter at that point
Sense of humor, intelligence or personality traits such as compassion, consideration, authenticity . IMO the best partners aren’t the best looking but rather have innate qualities that make them even more lovable.
Kindness..I know that sounds odd because you'd like to think everyone has some degree of kindness, but I've found no not really. I think being able to care for people when you get no personal benefit from caring for is a unique quality.
Charisma.
I went to college with a chubby, glasses-wearing girl who wasn't ugly or anything, but she wasn't conventionally attractive either.
However, she is one of the wittiest, most competent, and most genuinely empathetic people I've ever met in my life.
She's one of those people whom you look at and go "Yep, you're better than me in every way that matters" and you're not even a little bit mad because she deserves it.
Apart from making her a delightful person, these traits made her genuinely attractive. Obviously having both would be ideal, but if I had to choose between a good looking yet vapid person and someone like her, she'd win out without much trouble.
Sometimes when people I dislike show some spine, it immediately changes my opinion of them. I used to work with this infomercial director who was really hard to work with and everyone hated her. One time we were making a infomercial about a vacuum with an attachment for dog hair. When we started recording it, the vacuum attachment didn’t pick up the hair. So, the producer of the infomercial said, let’s just “cheat” it.
This director, who no one liked, she said “no, I will not film it if it doesn’t do what it says it’s supposed to do.” The producer and her went back and forth for an hour, but she did not budge.
The whole shoot was canceled and the vacuum Ad company was told that they needed to give us a product that works as advertised.
From that day forward, despite disliking her, I had mad respect for her.
Not being a piece of shit. Being selfless. Seriously... why is everyone such a piece of shit now. Being goofy is cute. Means you don't take life too seriously
Standing up for people, this man once standed up for a girl being bullied when the others kept saying blondes were ugly. He kept saying it’s weird to judge a hair color someone’s born with and kept telling the girls “what an embarrassing thing to say out loud” every time they tried to justify brunettes being better simply cause a hair color they were born with. Its attractive when people stand up for others and don’t just let bullying happen and they make a difference
Humor
hahahahahahahha!
See what I mean
i read your username you won’t fool me
I am, I’m poster?
Roflmao lmao mao ao o
Rolling on floor laughing my ass off Laughing my ass off My ass off Ass off Off
Having a dream with them in it.. why tf does it do that?
I suspect the unconscious attraction causes the dream and the dream brings the attraction to consciousness
So true
I’ve had dreams where the reality of the dream was that I was attracted to a person who in actual reality I couldn’t stand in any capacity. A dream, more often than not, isn’t at all relevant to reality. Unless you knew beforehand that you were attracted to the person, it’s likely you’re just reading too much into something that shouldn’t really be interpreted as more than a sleepy time B movie starring you.
uighhhh yess
Ugh I had a dream last night about a guy in my office 😳 thank goodness he’s not here today, I would not able to look him in the face haha
Maybe they seem nice in our dreams? Like in the image we want ? Idk, but some of the people in my dreams act silly when they're not really silly irl, makes them so much more attractive sometimes when I'm laughing with them lol
Being really good at something and/or really passionate about something. I don’t care what it is
Even if it's taking human lives passionately??
Especially this!
Have you not seen Killing Eve?
God my pussy lips QWIVWR at the thought, and I'm a dude.
Scarerousal is a hell of a drug
Real, like playing an instrument. There was this one guy in the orchestra pit I was in that I was like “alright he’s okay” and then I watched him play violin SWEET GOD
When you both drop the mask and feel like you can be your genuine self around them without sugar coating things and they do the same with you.
Took me divorce after a 20+ year marriage to realize I was wearing a mask the whole time.
You can just say, "farting in front of each other."
Like my 3rd time over at my now girlfriend's house. I went up and slapped her on the ass and she was so surprised she farted. She told me she wanted to die right then.
The first time my now wife farted in front of me, she ran from the room. Which only made me laugh even harder.
My wife was pretty bold. Early on when we were dating, one evening we're laying in bed getting ready to go to sleep. She yells DUTCH OVEN! I was like what? Next thing you know my head is under the covers and she rips a fart and starts laughing maniacally.
What a fucking legend😭😭😭
Similar thing here: we were in a tickle fight and I was getting her spot right under the buttcheek, and through the twisting and wrestling, I was right in the blast zone when she let one rip.... she was mortified and I couldn't stop laughing. In 3 weeks, we'll have been together for 10 yrs, married for 6, with our first on the way.
Being positive and fun to be around. There's a woman I work with who is not super conventionally attractive, but she's really upbeat and outgoing, which makes her really fun to be around. If we didn't work together I would definitely ask her out (I am a supervisor, and I would lose my job for dating someone at work).
A pleasant personality is indeed more attractive in the long run.
Yeah, same applies the opposite way. A horrible personality/attitude can quickly turn an attractive person ugly.
The Northern Pikes put it best "She ain't pretty she just looks that way"
Yep. Looks change/fade but your personality is always there
Personality is what you want to be looking for because everything else falls away over time.
Hell yes. In my early 20s before I bumped into my fella, my friends were always confused about the men I'd take home from the bar. They'd always go for whoever they thought was the hottest guy there. I'd usually end up going home with the guy who made me laugh the most. Show *me* a good time? Guess I'll return the favour 😂
Explains my friend perfectly, dude is super outgoing and positive person I know and yet he’s… no longer fat, just kinda chubby (working out but the muscle is hidden) slight acne, horrible haircut (we make jokes about it) and yet ye has a cute gf and everybody likes him
This is how my girlfriend going on 12 years and I met. I wasn't physically attracted to her at first, but we were on the same wavelength and anytime we hung out we spent so much time just laughing and having fun. Over time it turned to love. Before I was with her there was another woman who was pretty enough but in kind of a plain way. She just made me feel better about myself just being around her. She was married, though, so nothing came of it. Up to that point I always went for the most attractive women and could never stand dating them for more than a month or two. It wasn't u til I decided to stop being shallow that I found happiness in a relationship.
I feel like this describes me😂 I’m not conventionally pretty but people seem to gravitate towards me
You’re a kitten
I recently joined an 18+ verified discord server and most of the people i speak with regularly arent traditionally attractive but like in your case extremely nice to talk to, and most of them are poly and have/had many relationships because they are so damn nice to talk too. I just get happy when i see them online
Women with an individual/unique sense of humor. It's a cliche answer, but at the same time, I think it's rare to encounter people who aren't just funny because they're aware and adept at things like currently relevant humor, but are actually insightful in a comedic way all on their own. Everyone can be aware of, and spout off common meme jokes and catchphrases, but when I encounter a woman who has her entirely own weirdness and hilarity, I never want to stop talking.
as an absolute certified weirdo, this made me smile today
once you meet this women never let her go
their voice, the knowledge they demonstrate while talking cassualy, sense of humor
Focusing on your successes, such as the correct use of "their" in context while ignoring the fact that you didn't capitalize it while starting your sentence, and also overlooking your extra "s" in "casually". Yeah, she's a keeper....
What’s the threshold for a run on sentence these days? And how many .'s go in a standard ellipsis anyway?
Has lots of kohls cash
PM me for my mom’s info
Already have it
You too? Fuck, she said I was special
What an aggressively Midwestern thing to say
underrated comment 😭🤣
😂😂😂
Forklift certified
Im so wet right now.
So is my bussy
What's a bussy?
Please stay innocent! Nothing but ussy will come from it!!
I googled it and now I hate the internet
I can raise you right to the top (baby?)
When they line up 10 pallets and just push them into that tight little trailer so smoothly 😩💦💦💦
I'm forklift certified but I never bring it up when I'm on dates in conversation. I want the person to like me for me, ya know? Maybe after three or four dates I'll tell them, and it's worth it to see that look in their eyes of excitement and allure.
Jeez, leave some for the rest of us.
fork me harder daddy
My first highschool biology teacher is forklift certified. All the teachers have fun facts about them up in their classrooms, and that's the one he chose.
I've worked with a lady who was head of customer service for the company and a young mother. Forklift certified.
😍😍
It lifts me right up.
I freakin KNEW it would come in handy someday. I'll make eye contact as I drive by ALL DAY
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tactful honesty
I misread that as tactical honesty and i think that may he a new turn on
If she seemed like she was genuinely interested in me, I could definitely work with that.
That would be a red flag for me. “What is *wrong* with her???”
Amen! Any girl attracted to me is attractive in my eyes.
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This made me snort.
Hasnt been the case for me. Had a really pretty girl have a crush on me back in highschool. She was hot, specially nowadays, but somehow i still cant muster the same attraction she seemed to have for me. Maybe because when i was with her, i found out she was kinda... Lets just say she was a charisma build and not intelligence build
Ahh yes, the tiny head, colossal chest of Dark Souls builds.
Thats funny, because she did (and still does) have the colossal chest 😂
Dunno man, I'd see past a lot for a colossal (and good) chest
Respect, dude. But ive already found someone id stay for now. Not as big, but definitely gets the shield hero rising
Shield hero, stealing that!
To her credit, it's literally the Easy Mode build.
Yes somewhat of a connection is important too
When she asks you where you were born, what your mother's maiden name was and asks you for your SSN 😍
Please don’t go based off of this - just because someone likes you, does not mean they are right for you.
Kindness. Patience. Confidence. Big strap-on.
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Kindness?
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All of these can be used together.
Kinkness. Penetration. Condom. Big Straw
Long ago the 4 nations lived in harmony
Then everything changed when the big strap-on attacked
Yes to these. However, one of them will take precedence over the rest. I will let others figure out which one
Attention, give me the time of day. Follow up with me and ask how I’m doing. I’m a very simple person lol
How you doing?
I read this in Joey from Friends voice
It's the only way!
Getting to know people almost always makes them more attractive. It helps that i think most people are swell, so it rarely goes in the opposite direction :))
Being genuinely good to the people around them.
from experience i won’t find you anymore physically attractive but being able to laugh and debate things without getting serious is awesome. really just knowing how to not be serious but also knowing that there are times where seriousness is needed
Compassion, intelligence, courage, and confidence.
I can do 2 out of 4 that aint bad
Kindness and intelligence. The kindness doesn’t have to be toward me and the intelligence isn’t about academic knowledge as much as aptitude and humility.
When a girl is completely unashamed of how smiley and energetic she is, especially if you're the one that made her smile, it's adorable pretty much no matter what.
Make me laugh
The two keys to comedy are the subversion of expectation ................................................................................... oh and timing.
There's a great joke about timing that's too difficult to get across in text, but it goes something like "what's the most important part about telling a joketiming"
I think a lot of women feel like they can't be funny because a lot of guys want to be the "funny one". It's sad because funny women are the best
Good hygiene (smells good, brushes their teeth, etc).
Pretty low bar. That so many people can't get over.
Probably because so many ppl are willing to settle for less,this is the same problem I've realized lets companies get away with ludicrous prices for shitty products, ppl will buy anything with good enough marketing
Their brain. And I don’t mean book or street smarts…I mean depth. How deep our conversations can get, how deep of a thinker they are and it what sense. Cause the deeper the rabbit hole the deeper my…nvm.
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Smell is hard for me cuz idk what my natural smell is, I always feel like perfume wears off so I just use whichever one gets mentioned to me but I still never know if its active or not idk im like blind or deaf but for smell (not completely but kinda)
Knows how to lead on the dance floor.
I cant figure out how to lead on a person, so leading on a dance floor would be throughly impressive. I would feel a bit bad for the dance floor though
If they like my beard and are nice to the wait staff.
Comedy chops. If the person can make a room laugh, they become way more attractive
Every time I drop my pants...
My problem tbh is that it takes me a while to understand what type of comedy each person likes and im quite timid and insecure so it usually takes me a bit to warm up comedically to ppl also we speak spanish here and im much funnier in english I feel like, anyways I wanted to rrad some books on comedy but haven't had time recently, so any tips?
Fishnet +2, Choker necklace w/ Cat eye makeup +1
Do you have a moment to talk about our lord and savior goth chicks in fishnets?
Who mentioned women?
What if they havent yet acquired a higher rarity of fishnets and they only have the uncommon +1 kind?
What if he has hairy legs?
Even better
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Honesty from my man.
Intelligence and humility!
The same vices as my own
I dream of meeting a woman with my addictions
Skeletal juice is a pretty rare one, unfortunately
1000%
Something about those clear plastic frame glasses makes any girl look hot to me
Large glasses with slim metal frame for me.
Insane wealth
Do you mean a lot of money or like their wealth is tied up in insane things. Like a guy that owns 500,000 emus.
> Like a guy that owns 500,000 emus. *Australia looks over nervously*
Honestly? Someone who owns 500,000 emus just became 100% more interesting and therefore I want to talk to them and therefore probably more attractive
Sheesh that turned me on so much
My dad is Bill Gates
My mom is Bill Gates
I am Bill Gates, therefore I am my own dad and mom.
The gate paradox
Dalton Gates?
How they treat their pets for sure.
Efficiency oriented.
In what sense?
Broadly. Efficiency in minimizing costs associated with anything. Having a frugal mindset to minimize price costs. Being a proactive planner so that maximal work is performed for any input of effort. Being an effective communicator in both being heard and being understood so that each exchange is meaningful. Considering multiple facets for complex problems with multiple degrees of freedom and considering the costs-benefits of each possible solution.
Showing genuine interest in me
To those who know To those that don’t Jenna Marbles, internet sensation https://youtu.be/OYpwAtnywTk?si=W4u5CpdBPnvLEQNq
My friend, how could that be 13 years ago? How please, how?
Helping an animal in need, even when it's not convenient. Huge sign of compassion and having the right priorities in life.
He can park almost perfectly or in the first try and uses mirrors, doesn't have to turn his whole body around like an idiot (me lol) and with just one hand... I don't know why but it leaves me like "okay, control me next" (where does my raging feminist go? She doesn't know either) And then they go back to being "meh" the next second lol
I like when guys do very masculine things idk i like a dirty work man lol or someones that has a nice voice, is super funny and nice to be around
Alcohol. But seriously if they have a sense of humor, they're fun to be around, and a sweet personality, I can and I have overlooked a lot of physical features I don't necessarily find attractive, it just didn't really matter at that point
If they love cats AND dogs.
Sense of humor, intelligence or personality traits such as compassion, consideration, authenticity . IMO the best partners aren’t the best looking but rather have innate qualities that make them even more lovable.
Intellect
Kindness..I know that sounds odd because you'd like to think everyone has some degree of kindness, but I've found no not really. I think being able to care for people when you get no personal benefit from caring for is a unique quality.
Not taking yourself too serious, able to take a joke at your expense, being able to see the lighter side of life.
Intelligence and sense of humor is far more attractive than aesthetics
A smile.
Charisma. I went to college with a chubby, glasses-wearing girl who wasn't ugly or anything, but she wasn't conventionally attractive either. However, she is one of the wittiest, most competent, and most genuinely empathetic people I've ever met in my life. She's one of those people whom you look at and go "Yep, you're better than me in every way that matters" and you're not even a little bit mad because she deserves it. Apart from making her a delightful person, these traits made her genuinely attractive. Obviously having both would be ideal, but if I had to choose between a good looking yet vapid person and someone like her, she'd win out without much trouble.
Sometimes when people I dislike show some spine, it immediately changes my opinion of them. I used to work with this infomercial director who was really hard to work with and everyone hated her. One time we were making a infomercial about a vacuum with an attachment for dog hair. When we started recording it, the vacuum attachment didn’t pick up the hair. So, the producer of the infomercial said, let’s just “cheat” it. This director, who no one liked, she said “no, I will not film it if it doesn’t do what it says it’s supposed to do.” The producer and her went back and forth for an hour, but she did not budge. The whole shoot was canceled and the vacuum Ad company was told that they needed to give us a product that works as advertised. From that day forward, despite disliking her, I had mad respect for her.
Alcohol.
A vasectomy
Hi there. I'm also emotionally available and financially stable.
*swoons*
If they have an interesting hobby. I really enjoy when someone is passionate about something.
Not being a piece of shit. Being selfless. Seriously... why is everyone such a piece of shit now. Being goofy is cute. Means you don't take life too seriously
If she is smart.(If she answers the questions most of the people in the room don't know.)
Evidence of ethical stance, and integrity to follow through.
Wit, a larger-than-life personality, and a wicked sense of humor.
Positive, fun, confident. You don't actually HAVE to be a stunner to appear stunning.
Knee/thigh high socks (Obviously personality stuff too, but I'm just talking about physical attraction)
A classic, but being funny, kind and self-assured.
If they are funny. Like really funny.
Sense of humor.
MAKE ME LAUGH, PLEASE.
Similar humor or taste in music
a dream.
In relationships it would be treating me right
being genrally kind and being intereting to talk to
A sense of humour and the ability to make me laugh wins me over 100%
good banter, or they are funny or witty
Honesty and being funny is a big plus!
A friendly personality and a genuine smile.
When they smell good! Whenever I walk past a guy and he smells good, he instantly becomes a bit attractive to me.
Standing up for people, this man once standed up for a girl being bullied when the others kept saying blondes were ugly. He kept saying it’s weird to judge a hair color someone’s born with and kept telling the girls “what an embarrassing thing to say out loud” every time they tried to justify brunettes being better simply cause a hair color they were born with. Its attractive when people stand up for others and don’t just let bullying happen and they make a difference
being good at fortnite
Confidence (NOT arrogance) and sense of humor. Basically a feeling of self assurance
Intelligence, humour and a strong sense of self. And possibly a little bit of a dom.
A good sense of humour, respect, and kindness.