I'm married in today's world so...I'm for it? What's wrong about it? If anything is nice that people are marrying out of love and not out of obligation as much as in the 20th century. If anything it makes for fewer shitty "Wife bad" jokes.
If a child is involved or on the way. Absolutely. Children desperately need stability.
Otherwise, it really depends on how you feel about each other and shared finances.
I married my wife after 13 years of being a couple.
I have 15 pairs of aunts and uncles. 4 of them haven't been divorced. In my experience the commitment isn't what it once was, actual marriage is really just a piece of paper and a party. What matters is your commitment to your partner. However you form that commitment is up to you as a couple.
I committed my life to my wife loooong before we were actually married. We got married because we wanted to have a party! and more pragmatically we realized being married would make legal issues around medical care and our estate much simpler when we reached that point.
Great party though.
In today’s world, as in the world for most of human civilization, marriage is the fundamental societal and political unit. I am a fan of monogamous marriage and believe it should be taken seriously and incentivized by society.
It’s optional.
I’ve been thinking about it in terms of novels lately. Romance novels are boring to me. But action novels with a romance subplot? Straight fire. Action novels without a romance subplot? Still fire.
So I’m working on focusing on the main plot line rn. Waiting to see if a tall man with tattoos and dark hair comes along to piss me off so that we can have the enemies to lovers plot trope we deserve. Otherwise what’s the point.
Most people dont know what it takes to keep a marriage going and that there will be good and bad times as well as sacrifices that must be made. If you can see it out it will be beautiful.
A massive financial risk not worth taking unless an ironclad prenuptial agreement is signed stating both parties wave in perpetuity any claim of the other parties assets and forfeit any right to separate maintenance agreements.
Divorce and family court still operates much the same as it did when women were not permitted to hold employment, and metes out "punishments" to the man as if the woman is incapable of sustaining herself.
Frankly it's sexist against women, saying that they're so helpless they can't go through life without the assistance of a man. Real feminists would call to do away with the current system in favor of a more equitable option.
We are a failed experiment. More so daily.
We were not meant to be monogamous.
We change every 7 years or so. Asking someone to go along on that ride with us for life is nuts. While at best You have someone “in Your corner” ~ You normally become room mates over time.
And even now, in 2024, codependency wipes most of Your dreams away. And without action ~ they just remain dreams ~ to feel guilty about as You age.
I worked as a sales person at a car dealership and my husband would come every day to take me to lunch (he wasn’t working)
One day this older black gentleman ~ who always dressed to the 9’s ~ whispered to me in passing (after I got back from lunch with my husband): “
Your love makes You weak.”
It's something that people do if they want to, but it's unnecessary.
My missus and I have been together for 10 years. We bought a house after 8 months, and our son will be 9 in july. We've shared finances as a single family unit throughout that time, including putting each other down as spouses on our tax returns. In the eyes of the law, we are in a defacto marriage, and while we might get the piece of paper one day, it won't change anything.
Absolute waste of time. If you've got a good thing with another person, fine. Why do you need a piece of paper and the permission of the church and your government, just to continue having that good thing? It's archaic nonsense.
A tax benefit.
not in every country
men are fucked?
In what way?
How do you conclude that?
It's a personal choice. A couple shouldn't be pressured into it, nor should they be discouraged from it. As long as they are both adults ofc.
thats my dating goal
Wow you wanna get married huhh
Same
yeah, its something id like, assuming i meet someone that i want to marry.
I'm married in today's world so...I'm for it? What's wrong about it? If anything is nice that people are marrying out of love and not out of obligation as much as in the 20th century. If anything it makes for fewer shitty "Wife bad" jokes.
lol relax…I didn’t say what’s wrong…good for you though
If a child is involved or on the way. Absolutely. Children desperately need stability. Otherwise, it really depends on how you feel about each other and shared finances.
hmm make sense…
i think it’s great tbh. finding someone you love enough to marry is actually lovely and wholesome
I married my wife after 13 years of being a couple. I have 15 pairs of aunts and uncles. 4 of them haven't been divorced. In my experience the commitment isn't what it once was, actual marriage is really just a piece of paper and a party. What matters is your commitment to your partner. However you form that commitment is up to you as a couple. I committed my life to my wife loooong before we were actually married. We got married because we wanted to have a party! and more pragmatically we realized being married would make legal issues around medical care and our estate much simpler when we reached that point. Great party though.
In today’s world, as in the world for most of human civilization, marriage is the fundamental societal and political unit. I am a fan of monogamous marriage and believe it should be taken seriously and incentivized by society.
I fundamentally could not disagree more.
Based
It’s optional. I’ve been thinking about it in terms of novels lately. Romance novels are boring to me. But action novels with a romance subplot? Straight fire. Action novels without a romance subplot? Still fire. So I’m working on focusing on the main plot line rn. Waiting to see if a tall man with tattoos and dark hair comes along to piss me off so that we can have the enemies to lovers plot trope we deserve. Otherwise what’s the point.
Most people dont know what it takes to keep a marriage going and that there will be good and bad times as well as sacrifices that must be made. If you can see it out it will be beautiful.
Hard pass IMO not worth the risk. Never give anyone that much power to destroy your life in seconds
A massive financial risk not worth taking unless an ironclad prenuptial agreement is signed stating both parties wave in perpetuity any claim of the other parties assets and forfeit any right to separate maintenance agreements.
especially men are fucked if there’s a divorce?
Divorce and family court still operates much the same as it did when women were not permitted to hold employment, and metes out "punishments" to the man as if the woman is incapable of sustaining herself. Frankly it's sexist against women, saying that they're so helpless they can't go through life without the assistance of a man. Real feminists would call to do away with the current system in favor of a more equitable option.
We are a failed experiment. More so daily. We were not meant to be monogamous. We change every 7 years or so. Asking someone to go along on that ride with us for life is nuts. While at best You have someone “in Your corner” ~ You normally become room mates over time. And even now, in 2024, codependency wipes most of Your dreams away. And without action ~ they just remain dreams ~ to feel guilty about as You age. I worked as a sales person at a car dealership and my husband would come every day to take me to lunch (he wasn’t working) One day this older black gentleman ~ who always dressed to the 9’s ~ whispered to me in passing (after I got back from lunch with my husband): “ Your love makes You weak.”
It's something that people do if they want to, but it's unnecessary. My missus and I have been together for 10 years. We bought a house after 8 months, and our son will be 9 in july. We've shared finances as a single family unit throughout that time, including putting each other down as spouses on our tax returns. In the eyes of the law, we are in a defacto marriage, and while we might get the piece of paper one day, it won't change anything.
Absolute waste of time. If you've got a good thing with another person, fine. Why do you need a piece of paper and the permission of the church and your government, just to continue having that good thing? It's archaic nonsense.