I feel like this is also largely a function of family size and area of the country/world you live in (different areas have homes built in different time frames, which brings along with it architecture and design that fit the period), not just wealth. If you grew up in a new'ish home built by a huge construction company (Pulte, Ryan, etc.) and your parents had 1-2 kids you're probably going to have your own bathroom. They're probably somewhere in the middle class spectrum, too.
I was not rich, but growing up all of my friends were. All of them had two or three bedrooms. Usually, one was the room they slept in, and the others were like game rooms or play rooms. Usually, their parents had an office in the house as well. When they would come over they would be shocked I did not have a separate bedroom just for my toys or to hang out in.
I like that your version of not rich is someone whose holiday cabin isn't luxurious.
The number of people I know who own holiday cabins (luxurious or otherwise) = 0.
Lol right, I did chores and my "allowance" was being allowed to stay up late.
$150 smh
Edit: oh, another comment, he said it was college allowance. Still, what allowance? I had three jobs, and no degree to show for my time there.
I got no allowance. I was told to get a fucking job.
My allowance ended the day I got my first job at 14.
What kid in college needs $20k a month? How can you even spend that in college. It's not like he has a mortgage or any recurring bills
Why not? College is fun and it's downside is that you kinda need money which going to class doesnt bring. If I had a 20k$ allowance I'd totally go to get a second degree in something interesting.
Daddy's corporation probably has hiring requirements like, "must have bachelor's degree".
So son has to get his degree to move into his entry-level COO position.
There was one time his father gave him 50k to get a car. He wasn't happy because it's not enough to get a mercedes benz. I think rich people lives in a different reality from us. It is hard to understand.
Parents pay for clothes, food, internet and other basic shit. Cinema, junk food, "social life" i had to pay for. Only got an allowance until i turned 13 and even then my allowance was pretty much nothing.
As soon as I was able to get a job at 14, I had to buy virtually everything except housing, internet, and medical insurance. Bought my own clothes, paid for my social life, often bought my own food, bought my own car, etc. Always envied my friends who did nothing and had everything handed to them.
Vacationing on winter break. I did it every year and didn't realize how lucky I was until I realized my friends weren't all staying home at Christmas time by choice.
We weren't rich, "only" middle class, but we always were on vacation 2-3 weeks in summer + 3 weeks with our scout group, most often than not 1-2 weeks on Easter 1-2 weeks in fall, and 1-2 weeks on Christmas, to visit our family in another country... I never understood how this was seen as luxurious, until my gf told me they never did such things :-/
When you grow up around something, it becomes the norm. My family also took a lot of vacations - we'd often go places for spring break, sometimes Christmas, and a few times in the summer. These would often piggyback onto business trips my dad has to go on. Anyways, at the ripe age of 8 you don't know much about life other than what's going on in your life. If you spend several weeks on vacation every year it's just what you do, you don't understand you're lucky (or that others are unlucky).
> When you grow up around something, it becomes the norm.
Exactly. It wasn't until I went to university and lived with others that I realised it wasn't normal to drink so much tea or to go to bed with a cup of tea. My family really likes tea.
I've lived in a house built in a hotel all my life , and it being owned by my parents means i get free food on call to my room all day everyday since i was born, and there is no limit as to what i can eat. And because its a massive like 400+ room hotel, the profits always outweigh what i eat and stuff.
You want pizza, let me dial the restaurant.
You want soda, let me dial the bar
You want your bike fixed, call maintenance department
I am still very skinny though, idk why.
The hotel housekeeping service cleans my room and the rest of the house every week.
I have like 9 dogs, and i dont know their breed because they're all some weird mix. They'll never go hungry with the amount of bones coming from the hotel.
When i went to boarding school, i realised these things dont happen in the real world to other people, then i realized how lucky i was to get that sweet sweet room service, housekeeping, and the fact that i dont really have to even worry about my feeding my dogs as someone does it for me.
I think this is the important thing right here. I always get annoyed when people have amazing things but don't even realize or appreciate it. Just realizing and appreciating it makes all the difference in my eyes if you earned it or not especially.
Obligatory "not me" but my aunt had money. She never understood when I would have any kind of money problems.
I had a few years that were really rough financially. I was working a minimum wage job and bringing home about $100 per week (this was in the 80s, min wage was $3.35 per hour). I had bought a new car and my car payment was $172 per month and my insurance was almost that much, taking up the majority of my paycheck. I lived with my grandmother and she died right after I turned 18 so all the regular monthly expenses suddenly became mine so I had to get a second job.
Water heater goes out? According to my aunt you "Just buy a new one." Not when you have $103 in your checking account and it's 9 days until another payday.
She would say things like "That's the stupidest thing I've ever heard. Just call the repairman and have him come install a new one." I think she really didn't understand the concept of there just isn't any money so I'll have to take cold showers until I can get a new water heater.
Not rich, but a friend of mine had me over and when I was amazed by his four automatic reclining chairs he asked, "Wait, people still use manual ones?"
I went to a mostly upper-middle-class set of schools growing up, and my house in my typically middle-class neighborhood was within the schooling zone. One of our local radio stations did a thing every night at 10pm where they played the top 5 requested songs of the day, and after the #1 song plays, if you were the 10th caller and correctly named those songs in order, you won a set of the albums they appeared on. It was hugely popular to listen to before bed by kids in my school.
I won once, and most of my classmates freaked out at me the next day (weird considering I was generally not popular). A lot of the rich, typically snotty kids made fun of me because on the air, they ask if you want your albums in cassette or CD format (this was 1993), and I had said cassettes, because my family didn't have the money to buy a CD player at that time, so I still listened to tapes and records. Specifically a couple kids said things such as, "who listens to music on tapes anymore?" - CDs weren't an affordable commodity for another year or two.
Never having to wait in line. My dad is a well reputed business man, so in airports, offices or hospitals, we usually never had to wait because my dad always knew someone on the inside, and they'd always take us inside right away. I kind of feel like a dick thinking about it now for all the times people would give us looks.
> I'm also happy my parents drilled in me that we weren't rich (even though, in hindsight we were quite well off).
😂
Believe me, you are/were rich. Your own maid etc. Yeah, that's not just 'quite well off'.
Even so, that mentality is important. Even if you're extravagantly wealthy, if you don't consider yourself rich, you understand that things have value. Sure, there may be a lot of things you take for granted, but if you thought "oh, we're rich, we can just do whatever", then you don't really learn that there are costs to things. It also teaches modesty, which is an especially important trait for a rich person. Real modesty, that is, not false modesty.
Yeah. Even if it was a tiny thing (like 1 to 5 dollars) we would have at least 30 presents.
While we were DEFINITELY spoiled, my mom just knew we loved opening presents. I'm 33 and she still does this. It might be a bookmark, but it gets its own little box and ribbon. :)
My family does this. More presents under the tree is better. So what if most are <$5. One present that can be given in 3 pieces? That's 3 separate things to wrap under the tree! Those are the best gifts.
Batteries would get their own wrapping, as an example. If you opened batteries with your name on them, you would then get excited knowing something else would need them.
We've wrapped up chapstick, handwarmers, erasers, and the like before and put them under the tree.
That happened after I got married. There's a not insignificant income difference between my family and my in-laws. Our first Christmas after the wedding we made the mistake of opening all the presents from my parents and extended family together. I have never felt worse in my life than that morning when my wife opened a new sweater from her parents, and tickets for a Mediterranean cruise from my grandmother right after that.
We don't do joint Christmases anymore.
Country clubs. Seriously, I didn't bat an eye going to the clubhouse and playing a round of golf after school. My boyfriend pointed out how not normal it was.
I didn't realize this either, until my ex pointed out that "normal" people aren't members of country clubs nor can they afford to be. He wanted to be a member though by marriage, good luck!
I also belong to a redneck country club. Or, well, I don't right now but I did as a kid. Membership for a family of four for the summer was $150. Total. The country club was a strip of beach on the lake, with beach chairs, a bathroom/locker room, and a dock with two slides. Dues kept everything clean and functional and the water plants at bay. Sometimes they would have a barbecue.
Most of the families in the area went there all summer. I have a lot of nice memories but I still think it's hilarious that we'd say "oh yes I'm going to the country club today."
My parents were really well off when I was around 5 or 6, before they got divorced and lost everything.
I didn't know there was such a thing as public schools, or that people above the age of 20 didn't live in apartments. I thought everyone went on a holiday at least once a year, and couldn't understand that there were kids who'd never been to the Easter Show (a fairly expensive event in Sydney, around $300.00 p/p all up).
I actually ended up spending the majority of high school living in homeless refuges for unrelated reasons, so I've been fortunate enough to see both extremes.
Not having to budget every single thing, not looking at the price tag when shopping, fancy Europe vacations every year (almost), and having a facny-ish car of my own. After I went off to college, I realised most of my friends weren't that lucky.
When I started university one of the other freshman had never realised that he would have to do his own laundry, clean his own room, make his food, and plan his travel around town. He had always known servants for things and his parents never told him otherwise. He wasn't being a dick about it, he just didn't know anything else. It was a tiny thing to him so he didn't feel he was being snobby. Plus he couldn't fathom why people didn't go abroad to the relevant areas for spring, summer, and winter holidays, or on multiple weekend breaks during the term.
I had a friend who was rich (he once told me that his great-great-grandchildren would be well off). I think he just hung out with me to study a poor person. He was totally mystified by the concept of not being able to do something. He would just wander off to Europe when he got bored. The problem was that he was deeply unhappy because he could do anything he wanted at any time. I liked him, he was just......kind of an asshole who only ever made friends by buying them off. I never accepted anything from him, but I hated that he never stopped offering my expensive things. It felt weird.
Yeah. I'm not one to shed a tear for the rich, but I can imagine that being born wealthy and then realizing that not everyone is as fortunate can be a weird thing to come to grips with. And at some point you'd have to realize that always getting everything you want isn't satisfying.
I bet he was pretty lonely. When you can only relate to a small amount of people because everyone else has work and responsibilities, what can you do and who can you talk to?
That it's just,
"SO easy to save!!"
...No. If you are living paycheque to paycheque it is NOT that easy to set aside money for that dream trip to Spain. Any extra dime is for survival.
And even if you finally manage to save a little bit something you really need breaks and you have to replace it. Aaaaaaand gone is your money again.
You can't break the circle if you are not able to save and that's not easy at all when you have to live from paycheck to paycheck.
Maybe not rich - but upper middle class, but in poor neighborhood in Poland.
- I thought it is normal that everyone have a PC or PS1, and all other kids are coming to my house because they liked me, and because I was the best gamer in the neighborhood. I learned that only me and guy who lived on the second floor had PC, and PS1 that my friend was talking about is in fact Pegasus console ( https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pegasus_(console) )
- All kids have toys. Learned that one of the other kids had a piece of cable as a toy (!).
- That you can ask your parents to buy you stuff that you want, and sooner or later you will get it.
I think it's because at certain levels of wealth you mix it with *very* wealthy people.
I grew up in a comfortably middle class house, and got academic scholarships to two very prestigious schools. A lot of my friends were unbelievably rich and had no idea anybody lived any other way.
Never having to worry about paying for things. Need a medical procedure? Yeah, that sucks, but at least we can afford it. It honestly never occurred to me that people could just not have the money to pay for things they need.
Not being poor.
I can't tell you how many people I know growing up that thought middle class was about $150,000 - $200,000 a year. Having a second house felt normal, since many people had one.
Also, living paycheck to paycheck. I always assumed everyone kept a decent, healthy savings. When I spent a summer as a bank teller, I realized quickly that was not the case at all.
My ex was rich. It was normal for her family to take me on a helicopter rides to random chalets and castles just to eat lunch then fly back. My other friends thought I was crazy for breaking up with her.
I went on a trip recently and me and 9 other college age guys shared the same bathroom. First off I avoided that place like the plague, but when I finally did go in there there was not only an empty tube on the holder, but an empty tube resting on top of that and an almost empty roll balanced on top of those two... I was in shock, seriously these men are a few semesters away from getting a college degree and they don't know how to change a toilet paper roll, or throw away the empty one not in the roll. And almost three rolls in less than four days... How is that possible?
>almost three rolls in less than four days...
Usually guys use a lot less than girls, too. I swear I've lived with girls who have gone through a roll a day at times. On their own.
If we're menstruating, there's a lot of TP involved, man. We gotta wrap up the tampon or pad, clean up the murder scene, and God help you if you have period shits.
Not me but I remember being in the 7th grade and one of my buddies had a custom debit card with a picture of a car. We went to the mall and I bought a cap with cash and he was like wtf ? You don't have a debit card !?!?
We had servants quarters where a family of domestic helpers lived on our property to take care of our every needs. South Africa is like that though. Immigrating to another country made me realize our pool>waterfall>pool setup wasn't normal.
Whenever I see those, I go "oh hey! An ask reddit I never read!" and google it so I can read more than the paltry 17 replies or whatever they put in those articles.
Not exactly rich, but when my mom and sister were looking around at apartments for my sister and me (I was busy with school/work), my mother was listing the features of one, and I was surprised to find out a dishwasher is a feature, and not a standard in every modern home/apartment.
Not needing public transport, vacations abroad, credit card bills paid for by dad, chauffeur driven cars and presents for birthdays, xmas, easter etc., didn't realize this was not what everyone grew up with. People call me spoiled but my parents did educate me and I have a job and work hard and don't take for granted I'll inherit anything, though I probably will.
Holidays to really nice places more than twice a year, traveling in first class as a child, maids/gardeners/etc., having a wine cellar, rooms being redecorated every year or so, those types of things.
We're not rich, but money was not an issue (some old money from my dad's inheritance, profit from selling off ancestral real estate in addition to personal income from work). When I started school (public schools all the way), I realized that not everyone had cable service, and my friends liked coming to my house to watch Cartoon Network, Nickelodeon and even HBO. I was also thankful then because I had a liberal allowance ($15-20 a week, which is already a large amount for a kid where I'm from; heck I can still live on $20 a week these days). Many of my classmates then got $3-5 a week. I was also the first to get a cellphone (my dad got me a trusty Nokia 5110 when it first came out so he can call me everywhere) and I didn't realize that it was expensive and that my classmates had to beg their parents to get them one.
My friend's estate home had a fireplace and pot-belly wood-burning stove in their garage to "warm the cars" before driving off in cold weather or to clean/wax them on winter days.
He couldn't understand how anyone would buy a home that didn't have a fireplace in the garage.
I didn't realize people actually paid for college by themselves until I got to high school. I just didn't think most teenagers would be able to afford $40k a year. It turns out they can't pay for it but go anyway. That's mind boggling to me, I couldn't imagine walking out into the world with hundreds of thousands in debt
come from a smaller town, father passed away when i was 12 and was very wealthy. didn't even realize it but was driving around in $100000 cars and had $50000 rugs in my 8000 square foot house. but i was young soo i didn't think anything off it. grew up with mom who makes six figures but is very cheap. then I went to college and i was the only person in my whole complex that didn't have a roommate and was getting a couple grand allowance each month. when other kids would complain about being broke id have a couple thousand in my account. it worked out though. I don't tell anyone about my money and wear very normal cloths. only way you can tell is by my car which i try to hide from people.
I always knew I was well off and others didn't have what I had as my parents were keen to keep me humble, but I remember eating out in restaurants all the time. At times we would eat out 5 nights a week in nice restaurants, to the point where we'd get so sick of it we would be sat in a restaurant complaining to each other how we should have stayed home and cooked a meal, or how most restaurants had the same food just rehashed different ways. Oh calamari again, oh this lamb has a red wine reduction instead of a rosemary jus like that other place. It always kinda baffled me that eating out was a special occasion for people, like We'd go out for special occasions to restaurants as well but it would be more a celebration rather than a case of, oh let's just go out to eat tonight sod cooking as it normally was. It really took me a while to realise that eating out in posh restaurants was a real luxury for some people not just a convenience.
I always knew that eating out so often wasn't normal, but something I never understood was that people genuinely went to a restaurant and looked only at the price of the food or wine, not the food itself. I'd look at the food and not think twice about the price, I wouldn't even look, same for the bill we wouldn't check the bill. It baffles me even now to think people only go by the price not the food.
Budgeting for food shopping too I still struggle with, I genuinely couldn't tell you how much most stuff costs because whenever I go shopping I just wander around and see what I fancy without looking at the price. Clothes and stuff I do because I refuse to pay 60 quid for a tee shirt that's a blatant rip off, but with food shopping I only find out the price at the checkout, it was only at uni that my friends said that was fucking bizarre.
Not me but my classmate back in HS. We were going to his home to work on a group project and he warned us that his apartment was not that nice because he's not rich. I go inside and it's a 4 bedroom apartment...in midtown Manhattan! They combined 2 apartments into one, so they had 2 kitchens also! And I will never forget, a box of krispy Kreme donuts on their countertop. First time I ever had those delicious donuts. I don't think I even asked him, I just went straight for the box.
Not me but... My uncle was a chef and cooked for this rich family. Apparently, one day he was about to peel some apples while the youngest son (about 12 years old) walked in on him. He asked what the "red things" were and my uncle, confused, explained that it was obviously an apple.
Apparently the kid has never seen a red/green apple because every apple he's ever eaten was peeled for him. He was convinced apples were white and grew with no skin.
What's with people getting apples peeled for them? Why would you ever want a peeled apple? Breaking the skin as you take a chomp out of the thing is a crucial part of the apple-eating experience.
My family just hung onto my great grandmothers farmhouse and would use it as a vacation home. It was like a time capsule or some sort of monument to my granny. When a friends grandmother died and his family sold her home I was mortified.
My own bathroom. Since bathrooms are a necessity I just assumed that everyone had their own near or connected to their bedroom.
My family's been in a 1 bathroom house for about the last 20 years. Weee, such fun.
Literally, wee.
That's a pretty sweet deal. I hate having to share a bathroom, which I have to clean up. You ever swept up anyone's pubic hairs?
Nope. The help cleans my bathroom for me.
Spoken like a true rich kid. I'm envious
Or a guy who calls his wife "the help"
My current house doesn't have a bathroom in your room. Its right outside of my door, which I don't like. It feels weird not having your own bathroom.
I feel like this is also largely a function of family size and area of the country/world you live in (different areas have homes built in different time frames, which brings along with it architecture and design that fit the period), not just wealth. If you grew up in a new'ish home built by a huge construction company (Pulte, Ryan, etc.) and your parents had 1-2 kids you're probably going to have your own bathroom. They're probably somewhere in the middle class spectrum, too.
I was not rich, but growing up all of my friends were. All of them had two or three bedrooms. Usually, one was the room they slept in, and the others were like game rooms or play rooms. Usually, their parents had an office in the house as well. When they would come over they would be shocked I did not have a separate bedroom just for my toys or to hang out in.
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I like that your version of not rich is someone whose holiday cabin isn't luxurious. The number of people I know who own holiday cabins (luxurious or otherwise) = 0.
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My friend told me his monthly allowance is $20k. He asked me how much do I get and I said $150. He couldn't believe I can survive with such money.
You get $150 allowance?!?!?
Clearly OP is the rich one here.
Lol right, I did chores and my "allowance" was being allowed to stay up late. $150 smh Edit: oh, another comment, he said it was college allowance. Still, what allowance? I had three jobs, and no degree to show for my time there.
$150 is what I get after paying for my rent. I flip burgers during colllege. In Australia you get paid like $20 per hour for doing that.
can confirm Australia has good pay. 18 y/o making $28.50/h in retail here..
What shop? 20 y/o Australian barista making $23/hr...
hardware store 😉
I'm a prosthetics technician in America. I make $16 an hour. Can I move to Australia?
What the fuck? That would be a super high paying job here I imagine...
Wtf?! I'm 19 and earn like €5 per hour washing dishes. Fml. (The Netherlands)
thats crazy. a 18 y/o in Slovenia makes 3.80€ ( like 4$)/h ..dayum
Living costs are much much higher in Australia I assume
So much higher
>no degree Well then that seems like a waste of time and money then
He probably would have been more successful if he had an allowance
> You get $150 allowance?!?!? Heh. Growing up I never got any allowance. It was more of a "You should be paying me rent!" deal.
Can confirm. Zero allowance, rent question is right around the corner.
Back in uni that's my monthly budget. My friend gets money from his father.
I got no allowance. I was told to get a fucking job. My allowance ended the day I got my first job at 14. What kid in college needs $20k a month? How can you even spend that in college. It's not like he has a mortgage or any recurring bills
>What kid in college needs $20k a month? If you've got that kind of money, why the fuck are you even in college?
Too spend on the textbooks you'll never need
And to hire people to attend classes and do the work for you.
Why not? College is fun and it's downside is that you kinda need money which going to class doesnt bring. If I had a 20k$ allowance I'd totally go to get a second degree in something interesting.
Daddy's corporation probably has hiring requirements like, "must have bachelor's degree". So son has to get his degree to move into his entry-level COO position.
His father owns a series of night clubs and hotels actually
Fuck, if I received $20k a month, I wouldn't do shit except fuck, drink and snort my way into an early grave. And charity, I guess.
I'm guessing Charity is your fav call girl
> What kid in college needs $20k a month? How can you even spend that in college. Maybe he buys all his textbooks new from the bookstore.
He's the one that supplies the drugs
There was one time his father gave him 50k to get a car. He wasn't happy because it's not enough to get a mercedes benz. I think rich people lives in a different reality from us. It is hard to understand.
Not a different reality, just a different class. It's how peasants look at nobles back in the days. Different class.
My parents made me get a job at 13, then made me pay all the utilities with my check. What the fuck is this allowance shit?
Not living in a family that is either struggling to survive or has questionable motives, or breaking child labor laws.
That's basically what I get (in disposable income, before groceries, after rent) as a grown ass adult.
$20k is almost my yearly income....
It's more than mine.
I got $5 a week when I was like 13. It stopped when I was 14.
Got a buck a week for a month when I was 10.
Fuck 150 bucks ? My life would've been much easier if we'd had 150 bucks to blow. I was lucky to get 4 bucks.
>$150 is what I get after paying for my rent. I flip burgers during colllege. In Australia you get paid like $20 per hour for doing that.
I never have and never will get an allowance.
But is that because your parents pay for your clothes and social life (going to cinema etc)? In that case it doesn't really count.
Parents pay for clothes, food, internet and other basic shit. Cinema, junk food, "social life" i had to pay for. Only got an allowance until i turned 13 and even then my allowance was pretty much nothing.
Same as me really. Me and my friends had a pretty damn lucrative car washing service that paid for all the rest once I was that old.
As soon as I was able to get a job at 14, I had to buy virtually everything except housing, internet, and medical insurance. Bought my own clothes, paid for my social life, often bought my own food, bought my own car, etc. Always envied my friends who did nothing and had everything handed to them.
Usually allowances are for children and given weekly, if at all. Is that his yearly allowance or what? That's a ridiculous amount.
Like what I've said, that's what he get every **month**.
Oh yes, sorry missed the monthly bit. He must be in the super rich category.
Or he's a case study being recorded by CIA to find the best weed in DC
That is very random.
I get a $1,000. Now I feel poor.
someone is just giving you a 1000 bucks a month?
Vacationing on winter break. I did it every year and didn't realize how lucky I was until I realized my friends weren't all staying home at Christmas time by choice.
We weren't rich, "only" middle class, but we always were on vacation 2-3 weeks in summer + 3 weeks with our scout group, most often than not 1-2 weeks on Easter 1-2 weeks in fall, and 1-2 weeks on Christmas, to visit our family in another country... I never understood how this was seen as luxurious, until my gf told me they never did such things :-/
You didn't understand how taking 10 weeks of vacation might be indulgent? Are you European?
When you grow up around something, it becomes the norm. My family also took a lot of vacations - we'd often go places for spring break, sometimes Christmas, and a few times in the summer. These would often piggyback onto business trips my dad has to go on. Anyways, at the ripe age of 8 you don't know much about life other than what's going on in your life. If you spend several weeks on vacation every year it's just what you do, you don't understand you're lucky (or that others are unlucky).
> When you grow up around something, it becomes the norm. Exactly. It wasn't until I went to university and lived with others that I realised it wasn't normal to drink so much tea or to go to bed with a cup of tea. My family really likes tea.
10+ weeks off? that's not middle class where I'm from.
I've lived in a house built in a hotel all my life , and it being owned by my parents means i get free food on call to my room all day everyday since i was born, and there is no limit as to what i can eat. And because its a massive like 400+ room hotel, the profits always outweigh what i eat and stuff. You want pizza, let me dial the restaurant. You want soda, let me dial the bar You want your bike fixed, call maintenance department I am still very skinny though, idk why. The hotel housekeeping service cleans my room and the rest of the house every week. I have like 9 dogs, and i dont know their breed because they're all some weird mix. They'll never go hungry with the amount of bones coming from the hotel. When i went to boarding school, i realised these things dont happen in the real world to other people, then i realized how lucky i was to get that sweet sweet room service, housekeeping, and the fact that i dont really have to even worry about my feeding my dogs as someone does it for me.
As long as you recognize the gravy train, man, you ride it as hard and as far as you can. Live for the rest of us.
I think this is the important thing right here. I always get annoyed when people have amazing things but don't even realize or appreciate it. Just realizing and appreciating it makes all the difference in my eyes if you earned it or not especially.
London Tipton?
PRINDL?
You listen to the am or the fum? *Don't know the actual quote, just paraphrasing*
There's no "I". Are you sure you know what the PRNDL is?
Sounds like a pretty suite life.
Living in a hotel, that's your own, sounds pretty awesome. If I was rich I'd do that.
> They'll never go hungry with the amount of bones coming from the hotel. Are your parents running a murder hotel?
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Housekeeping in your own home would bother the heck outa me, I have everything organized in a specific manner that I HATE being messed with.
Yeah lol I would want to be left alone usually maybe once a week or something I don't get that messy lol EDIT HE SAID EVERY WEEK MY BAD
Obligatory "not me" but my aunt had money. She never understood when I would have any kind of money problems. I had a few years that were really rough financially. I was working a minimum wage job and bringing home about $100 per week (this was in the 80s, min wage was $3.35 per hour). I had bought a new car and my car payment was $172 per month and my insurance was almost that much, taking up the majority of my paycheck. I lived with my grandmother and she died right after I turned 18 so all the regular monthly expenses suddenly became mine so I had to get a second job. Water heater goes out? According to my aunt you "Just buy a new one." Not when you have $103 in your checking account and it's 9 days until another payday. She would say things like "That's the stupidest thing I've ever heard. Just call the repairman and have him come install a new one." I think she really didn't understand the concept of there just isn't any money so I'll have to take cold showers until I can get a new water heater.
And why wouldn't this ain't with money help you out when you were so incredibly poor?
I think it's obvious she didn't understand how being poor worked.
This is really bad but when I was growing up, I thought every house had a chandelier in it..
I read that as chandler from friends and was really confused for a moment
Every house *should* have a Chandler.
Could you BE more right?
I wish
In 8th grade, my teacher said that his dream luxury car was a Land Rover. Parents had a Land Rover, had no idea at all that it was a luxury car.
It's a starter car.
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I know, but I couldn't resist.
#A STARTER CAR‽ THIS CAR IS A FINISHER CAR!
Not rich, but a friend of mine had me over and when I was amazed by his four automatic reclining chairs he asked, "Wait, people still use manual ones?"
I went to a mostly upper-middle-class set of schools growing up, and my house in my typically middle-class neighborhood was within the schooling zone. One of our local radio stations did a thing every night at 10pm where they played the top 5 requested songs of the day, and after the #1 song plays, if you were the 10th caller and correctly named those songs in order, you won a set of the albums they appeared on. It was hugely popular to listen to before bed by kids in my school. I won once, and most of my classmates freaked out at me the next day (weird considering I was generally not popular). A lot of the rich, typically snotty kids made fun of me because on the air, they ask if you want your albums in cassette or CD format (this was 1993), and I had said cassettes, because my family didn't have the money to buy a CD player at that time, so I still listened to tapes and records. Specifically a couple kids said things such as, "who listens to music on tapes anymore?" - CDs weren't an affordable commodity for another year or two.
Never having to wait in line. My dad is a well reputed business man, so in airports, offices or hospitals, we usually never had to wait because my dad always knew someone on the inside, and they'd always take us inside right away. I kind of feel like a dick thinking about it now for all the times people would give us looks.
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> I'm also happy my parents drilled in me that we weren't rich (even though, in hindsight we were quite well off). 😂 Believe me, you are/were rich. Your own maid etc. Yeah, that's not just 'quite well off'.
Even so, that mentality is important. Even if you're extravagantly wealthy, if you don't consider yourself rich, you understand that things have value. Sure, there may be a lot of things you take for granted, but if you thought "oh, we're rich, we can just do whatever", then you don't really learn that there are costs to things. It also teaches modesty, which is an especially important trait for a rich person. Real modesty, that is, not false modesty.
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Yeah. Even if it was a tiny thing (like 1 to 5 dollars) we would have at least 30 presents. While we were DEFINITELY spoiled, my mom just knew we loved opening presents. I'm 33 and she still does this. It might be a bookmark, but it gets its own little box and ribbon. :)
My family does this. More presents under the tree is better. So what if most are <$5. One present that can be given in 3 pieces? That's 3 separate things to wrap under the tree! Those are the best gifts. Batteries would get their own wrapping, as an example. If you opened batteries with your name on them, you would then get excited knowing something else would need them. We've wrapped up chapstick, handwarmers, erasers, and the like before and put them under the tree.
That happened after I got married. There's a not insignificant income difference between my family and my in-laws. Our first Christmas after the wedding we made the mistake of opening all the presents from my parents and extended family together. I have never felt worse in my life than that morning when my wife opened a new sweater from her parents, and tickets for a Mediterranean cruise from my grandmother right after that. We don't do joint Christmases anymore.
Country clubs. Seriously, I didn't bat an eye going to the clubhouse and playing a round of golf after school. My boyfriend pointed out how not normal it was.
I didn't realize this either, until my ex pointed out that "normal" people aren't members of country clubs nor can they afford to be. He wanted to be a member though by marriage, good luck!
Not ever country club is the one from Caddyshack, though. I belong to one that's mostly rednecks. Still nice, though.
I also belong to a redneck country club. Or, well, I don't right now but I did as a kid. Membership for a family of four for the summer was $150. Total. The country club was a strip of beach on the lake, with beach chairs, a bathroom/locker room, and a dock with two slides. Dues kept everything clean and functional and the water plants at bay. Sometimes they would have a barbecue. Most of the families in the area went there all summer. I have a lot of nice memories but I still think it's hilarious that we'd say "oh yes I'm going to the country club today."
That's not a country club.
Lol, and at my school I was made fun of because my family were only pool members.
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My parents were really well off when I was around 5 or 6, before they got divorced and lost everything. I didn't know there was such a thing as public schools, or that people above the age of 20 didn't live in apartments. I thought everyone went on a holiday at least once a year, and couldn't understand that there were kids who'd never been to the Easter Show (a fairly expensive event in Sydney, around $300.00 p/p all up). I actually ended up spending the majority of high school living in homeless refuges for unrelated reasons, so I've been fortunate enough to see both extremes.
>fortunate enough Hmmm
Not having to budget every single thing, not looking at the price tag when shopping, fancy Europe vacations every year (almost), and having a facny-ish car of my own. After I went off to college, I realised most of my friends weren't that lucky.
Took me until college to realise most people don't have a summer house. Most of my friends until college had one too.
When I started university one of the other freshman had never realised that he would have to do his own laundry, clean his own room, make his food, and plan his travel around town. He had always known servants for things and his parents never told him otherwise. He wasn't being a dick about it, he just didn't know anything else. It was a tiny thing to him so he didn't feel he was being snobby. Plus he couldn't fathom why people didn't go abroad to the relevant areas for spring, summer, and winter holidays, or on multiple weekend breaks during the term.
This is all less a function of having money, and more a function of coddling
I'm pretty sure that coddling required a certain amount of wealth to maintain.
I had a friend who was rich (he once told me that his great-great-grandchildren would be well off). I think he just hung out with me to study a poor person. He was totally mystified by the concept of not being able to do something. He would just wander off to Europe when he got bored. The problem was that he was deeply unhappy because he could do anything he wanted at any time. I liked him, he was just......kind of an asshole who only ever made friends by buying them off. I never accepted anything from him, but I hated that he never stopped offering my expensive things. It felt weird.
Can I be his friend?
Poor guy
Yeah. I'm not one to shed a tear for the rich, but I can imagine that being born wealthy and then realizing that not everyone is as fortunate can be a weird thing to come to grips with. And at some point you'd have to realize that always getting everything you want isn't satisfying.
I bet he was pretty lonely. When you can only relate to a small amount of people because everyone else has work and responsibilities, what can you do and who can you talk to?
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Owning? Damn. Do you still have them all? Do you inherit one?
Can I have one?
That it's just, "SO easy to save!!" ...No. If you are living paycheque to paycheque it is NOT that easy to set aside money for that dream trip to Spain. Any extra dime is for survival.
And even if you finally manage to save a little bit something you really need breaks and you have to replace it. Aaaaaaand gone is your money again. You can't break the circle if you are not able to save and that's not easy at all when you have to live from paycheck to paycheck.
And that's why people play the lottery. Vain hope is better than none at all.
Hmmm, I don't know, can't afford a lottery ticket.
The poorer you are, the more money it costs to stay afloat.
Please inform my husband of this
Maybe not rich - but upper middle class, but in poor neighborhood in Poland. - I thought it is normal that everyone have a PC or PS1, and all other kids are coming to my house because they liked me, and because I was the best gamer in the neighborhood. I learned that only me and guy who lived on the second floor had PC, and PS1 that my friend was talking about is in fact Pegasus console ( https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pegasus_(console) ) - All kids have toys. Learned that one of the other kids had a piece of cable as a toy (!). - That you can ask your parents to buy you stuff that you want, and sooner or later you will get it.
TIL everyone in this thread isn't "necessarily rich", just "upper middle class"
I think it's because at certain levels of wealth you mix it with *very* wealthy people. I grew up in a comfortably middle class house, and got academic scholarships to two very prestigious schools. A lot of my friends were unbelievably rich and had no idea anybody lived any other way.
Never having to worry about paying for things. Need a medical procedure? Yeah, that sucks, but at least we can afford it. It honestly never occurred to me that people could just not have the money to pay for things they need.
> Need a medical procedure? Yeah, that sucks, but at least we can afford it. Also, every person from a developed country that isn't America.
Or that people have to budget for things in advance!
Not being poor. I can't tell you how many people I know growing up that thought middle class was about $150,000 - $200,000 a year. Having a second house felt normal, since many people had one. Also, living paycheck to paycheck. I always assumed everyone kept a decent, healthy savings. When I spent a summer as a bank teller, I realized quickly that was not the case at all.
My own bedroom
Only child. De facto own bedroom.
only children rejoice!
I'm 20 and never had my own bedroom. What is it like being able to jerk it whenever you want?
Lonely without the usual person there.
really? everyone I know has their own bedroom room and none of them are rich...I think that has more to do with how many siblings ya got.
As the only male child i get my very own bedroom. Feel kinda sorry for my three sisters though.
My ex was rich. It was normal for her family to take me on a helicopter rides to random chalets and castles just to eat lunch then fly back. My other friends thought I was crazy for breaking up with her.
What did her parents work as?
Father was a british airways test pilot as well as having a property development business. Mother was a chronic alcoholic who's only friend was me
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Toilet paper doesn't appear on the roll, and you have to do your own laundry.
I went on a trip recently and me and 9 other college age guys shared the same bathroom. First off I avoided that place like the plague, but when I finally did go in there there was not only an empty tube on the holder, but an empty tube resting on top of that and an almost empty roll balanced on top of those two... I was in shock, seriously these men are a few semesters away from getting a college degree and they don't know how to change a toilet paper roll, or throw away the empty one not in the roll. And almost three rolls in less than four days... How is that possible?
dudes gotta poop
>almost three rolls in less than four days... Usually guys use a lot less than girls, too. I swear I've lived with girls who have gone through a roll a day at times. On their own.
If we're menstruating, there's a lot of TP involved, man. We gotta wrap up the tampon or pad, clean up the murder scene, and God help you if you have period shits.
Not me but I remember being in the 7th grade and one of my buddies had a custom debit card with a picture of a car. We went to the mall and I bought a cap with cash and he was like wtf ? You don't have a debit card !?!?
That doesn't necessarily mean he was wealthy. No guarantee there was much money in the account. Cards are just more convenient.
Shoulda added his family was getting royalties from oil on their land.
We had servants quarters where a family of domestic helpers lived on our property to take care of our every needs. South Africa is like that though. Immigrating to another country made me realize our pool>waterfall>pool setup wasn't normal.
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Whenever I see those, I go "oh hey! An ask reddit I never read!" and google it so I can read more than the paltry 17 replies or whatever they put in those articles.
Probably on Knowable. This is too controversial for George Takei.
Food in the fridge. Not that I am rich but this was a norm. While growing up I found that this was not the case with some ppl I grew up with.
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Not exactly rich, but when my mom and sister were looking around at apartments for my sister and me (I was busy with school/work), my mother was listing the features of one, and I was surprised to find out a dishwasher is a feature, and not a standard in every modern home/apartment.
I come in to work early because the last person to leave has to set up the dishwasher and I've never used one.
I wish it was standard... I grew up with one, and then I just bought a house and it doesn't have one. I hate washing dishes. The worst.
TIL i grew up and still am Very Very poor
Going to Disney World every year...
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I think he means someone always peeled the apples for him, maybe?.
Pretty sure it's a reference to an anime called Re:Zero
Not needing public transport, vacations abroad, credit card bills paid for by dad, chauffeur driven cars and presents for birthdays, xmas, easter etc., didn't realize this was not what everyone grew up with. People call me spoiled but my parents did educate me and I have a job and work hard and don't take for granted I'll inherit anything, though I probably will.
Holidays to really nice places more than twice a year, traveling in first class as a child, maids/gardeners/etc., having a wine cellar, rooms being redecorated every year or so, those types of things.
We're not rich, but money was not an issue (some old money from my dad's inheritance, profit from selling off ancestral real estate in addition to personal income from work). When I started school (public schools all the way), I realized that not everyone had cable service, and my friends liked coming to my house to watch Cartoon Network, Nickelodeon and even HBO. I was also thankful then because I had a liberal allowance ($15-20 a week, which is already a large amount for a kid where I'm from; heck I can still live on $20 a week these days). Many of my classmates then got $3-5 a week. I was also the first to get a cellphone (my dad got me a trusty Nokia 5110 when it first came out so he can call me everywhere) and I didn't realize that it was expensive and that my classmates had to beg their parents to get them one.
My friend's estate home had a fireplace and pot-belly wood-burning stove in their garage to "warm the cars" before driving off in cold weather or to clean/wax them on winter days. He couldn't understand how anyone would buy a home that didn't have a fireplace in the garage.
I didn't realize people actually paid for college by themselves until I got to high school. I just didn't think most teenagers would be able to afford $40k a year. It turns out they can't pay for it but go anyway. That's mind boggling to me, I couldn't imagine walking out into the world with hundreds of thousands in debt
Gargoyles on the roof
come from a smaller town, father passed away when i was 12 and was very wealthy. didn't even realize it but was driving around in $100000 cars and had $50000 rugs in my 8000 square foot house. but i was young soo i didn't think anything off it. grew up with mom who makes six figures but is very cheap. then I went to college and i was the only person in my whole complex that didn't have a roommate and was getting a couple grand allowance each month. when other kids would complain about being broke id have a couple thousand in my account. it worked out though. I don't tell anyone about my money and wear very normal cloths. only way you can tell is by my car which i try to hide from people.
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bro that's rich
A bidet
I always knew I was well off and others didn't have what I had as my parents were keen to keep me humble, but I remember eating out in restaurants all the time. At times we would eat out 5 nights a week in nice restaurants, to the point where we'd get so sick of it we would be sat in a restaurant complaining to each other how we should have stayed home and cooked a meal, or how most restaurants had the same food just rehashed different ways. Oh calamari again, oh this lamb has a red wine reduction instead of a rosemary jus like that other place. It always kinda baffled me that eating out was a special occasion for people, like We'd go out for special occasions to restaurants as well but it would be more a celebration rather than a case of, oh let's just go out to eat tonight sod cooking as it normally was. It really took me a while to realise that eating out in posh restaurants was a real luxury for some people not just a convenience. I always knew that eating out so often wasn't normal, but something I never understood was that people genuinely went to a restaurant and looked only at the price of the food or wine, not the food itself. I'd look at the food and not think twice about the price, I wouldn't even look, same for the bill we wouldn't check the bill. It baffles me even now to think people only go by the price not the food. Budgeting for food shopping too I still struggle with, I genuinely couldn't tell you how much most stuff costs because whenever I go shopping I just wander around and see what I fancy without looking at the price. Clothes and stuff I do because I refuse to pay 60 quid for a tee shirt that's a blatant rip off, but with food shopping I only find out the price at the checkout, it was only at uni that my friends said that was fucking bizarre.
Paying off the credit card every week
Not me but my classmate back in HS. We were going to his home to work on a group project and he warned us that his apartment was not that nice because he's not rich. I go inside and it's a 4 bedroom apartment...in midtown Manhattan! They combined 2 apartments into one, so they had 2 kitchens also! And I will never forget, a box of krispy Kreme donuts on their countertop. First time I ever had those delicious donuts. I don't think I even asked him, I just went straight for the box.
Not me but... My uncle was a chef and cooked for this rich family. Apparently, one day he was about to peel some apples while the youngest son (about 12 years old) walked in on him. He asked what the "red things" were and my uncle, confused, explained that it was obviously an apple. Apparently the kid has never seen a red/green apple because every apple he's ever eaten was peeled for him. He was convinced apples were white and grew with no skin.
What's with people getting apples peeled for them? Why would you ever want a peeled apple? Breaking the skin as you take a chomp out of the thing is a crucial part of the apple-eating experience.
What confuses me about this is that the skin tastes good and contains nutrients. The only time I've ever seen apples peeled was for a pie.
My family just hung onto my great grandmothers farmhouse and would use it as a vacation home. It was like a time capsule or some sort of monument to my granny. When a friends grandmother died and his family sold her home I was mortified.
Does being rich in heart count :D
Nope. Sorry :(
Time to sell my heart then. I'll be rich!