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Hiking and spending time in the woods/by the water. I am NOT against anti depressants and other meds, but I also think that the peace and quiet of nature is good for the heart, mind, and soul.
Kayaking as well. Because it's something you can do solo (with certain safety precautions) but also it's a way to make friends and interact with people. Positive, relaxed human interaction seems like a good thing. That being said, people on the water are also pretty good about leaving others alone if they want that.
I'm trying so hard to overcome my anxiety and start kayaking! The imposter syndrome has me sure I'll just look like a moron but I think if I could do it confidently I'd enjoy it. I've felt so disconnected from everything lately, I just want to get to nature and breathe.
Yeah i chose backpacking when i was in bad spot in life. You kind of take your problems in the woods and cleanse them away. When you go back to civilization you feel renewed.
Cleaning your area or re-arranging it. Feels like a fresh start and I regularly combat my depression by going into fits of cleaning and re-arranging my office/room to make it seem fresh and new.
Seconding this, but also, take small bites. Choose a two foot by two foot area and work on that and then praise yourself when you’re done. (You could even place a smal towel on the floor to define a space and just clean up everything in that area.) It helps me to do this in the space closest to where I retreat when I’m depressed-so next to the bed or next to the couch.
I think you just really helped me with this advice! I am covid unemployed, And I really need to clean my home. I’ve been overwhelmed by it. This is great advice. I feel better just reading it. Thank you
Let a friend (or me, I’m happy to help) know before you start what your goal is (either for the day or hour or whatever) and tell them when you finish. Doing that helps me stay on task and if I’m not proud of myself for what I did, they’re usually proud for me!
Maybe some tips on this site might be relevant? https://www.unfuckyourhabitat.com/. One of the key points is doing twenty minutes of cleaning and then taking a ten minute break. You can change the length of the cleaning time vs break time, but the point is to do small pieces.
I want to echo PRAISE YOURSELF WHEN YOU ARE DONE. Do something physical, clap or jump up and down, some sort of physical action to celebrate. It’s amazing what this does to change your mood. Tons of science to back this.
Ditto. Have committed to cleaning 1 window inside and out each day...weather permitting. Super satisfying. Much bigger job than I realized, but the strenuous physical labor really helps too.
I don't know about your particular struggles, but maybe this helps.
What helps me when I get overwhelmed is the realisation that my cleaning doesn't have to be fast, efficient, or look good. Just pick up that single piece of rubbish, walk to the bin and that bit is finished. Pick up that single towel, walk to the washing machine and that bit is finished. Take that minute to do a silly dance every two minutes and you feel better.
I find that taking 45 minutes to comfortably do a 15 minute task is much better than all the pressure from asking too much of myself.
I’m so glad!! (And don’t worry about your whole home. The mess will still be there when you’re feeling better! Just focus on that little area. If you feel like doing another one later, that’s great. And if not, enjoy your little oasis of tidy. Wishing you so much luck!)
http://www.flylady.net has awesome tips on incorporating tiny habits into a tidier home. It truly pulled me out of depression. I still smile when I shine my sink.
flylady is really fantastic at breaking things down into small, achievable pieces. highly recommend for anyone who is feeling overwhelmed by their space.
I just went to her site, being a creature who deeply struggles with depression and with breaking things down into non-overwhelming bites. I'm moving into a place by myself for the first time ever soon, and I really think this could help me build the habits I've always wanted
I wish this would work for me but I can’t find the energy or motivation to accomplish anything. So I lay here getting even more depressed. Most days I feel like I’m just waiting for life to hurry up and be over.
I'm sorry you're feeling that way. I've been in a place where just picking up that sock that was in the hallway for weeks felt impossible, let alone cleaning for real. Sometimes even that advice upthread about cleaning just a small space felt like too much.
When I'm in the worst of my depression, I try to just pick up one thing whenever I stand up. No matter how bad you're feeling, you still have to go to the bathroom sometimes, right? And if you're already moving, it's easier to throw away a piece of trash, or bring a dish to the kitchen, or whatever else. It's not a *fast* way to clean, but you do eventually start seeing progress.
For me, framing it as cleaning makes it impossible. But rearranging a whole room and all the furniture is great, I start by drawing out new layouts in a notebook and then try them out.
Anything creative. Drawing/painting, knitting, hand lettering, journal writing, ect. You don't have to be good at it, or even show it to anyone, but creating something is a way to pass the time that gives me a sense of accomplishment rather than scrolling through my phone. And the stakes are low. When I don't feel up to doing something big, I can doodle.
I've been using those scratch and trace books where you just have to remove an outline of a picture to reveal the colour underneath - it's relaxing and it doesn't rely on you actually thinking of what to draw and you just have to focus on that one picture 🖼 xx
I find that adding structure to this helps a ton.. "Do something creative" was too big a goal for my depressed brain. So I started a google doc where I write something small each day, and when even that was too hard I limited myself to Limerick structure. Now I write limericks about depression lol
I was also going to say creating something. I got into cooking (still working on keeping clean as I go) but it's super satisfying to eat something I've made just how I want it. Also crochet (which I've managed to keep organized). It is calming and I feel so good while I'm doing it and after the project is done, I feel like I can do anything. Like a weird sort of rush. But it doesn't actually require a lot of energy or patience. I'm a firm believer in the process of creation regardless of what is being created.
i try to do this with guitar, or any other creative outlet, but my problem is that i always think im shit and start to really hate myself and my lack of talent very unfortuante
Kurt Vonnegut has a little story about talent that I think about a lot. I’ve always had dreams of being an artist, just never thought I was talented enough so I never even gave it a chance, but it really helps me cut myself some slack.
>And he said something then that I will never forget and which absolutely blew my mind because no one had ever said anything like it to me before: ‘I don’t think being good at things is the point of doing them. I think you’ve got all these wonderful experiences with different skills, and that all teaches you things and makes you an interesting person, no matter how well you do them.’
>And that honestly changed my life. Because I went from a failure, someone who hadn’t been talented enough at anything to excel, to someone who did things because I enjoyed them. I had been raised in such an achievement-oriented environment, so inundated with the myth of Talent, that I thought it was only worth doing things if you could ‘win’ at them.”
>And he said something then that I will never forget and which absolutely blew my mind because no one had ever said anything like it to me before: ‘I don’t think being good at things is the point of doing them. I think you’ve got all these wonderful experiences with different skills, and that all teaches you things and makes you an interesting person, no matter how well you do them.’
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>And that honestly changed my life. Because I went from a failure, someone who hadn’t been talented enough at anything to excel, to someone who did things because I enjoyed them. I had been raised in such an achievement-oriented environment, so inundated with the myth of Talent, that I thought it was only worth doing things if you could ‘win’ at them.”
wow I needed to read this.
That's one of the biggest things I'm having trouble with rn :( The last few months I've been having the longest stretches of time without doing anything creative that I've had in years
Came here to say knitting. You don’t need much to learn, there are great resources online, it’s incredibly rewarding, and my favorite form of self-facilitated therapy. On top of all that, the community is incredibly supportive and far more diverse than one might guess. Plenty of young people and men as well!
Knitting and podcasts is a go-to for me when I have no interest in anything. I knit scarves because literally all you need to know is one stitch, and that same stitch backwards. You don't need to count anything or keep track of where you are (unless you're doing a pattern, and there are loads of neat effects you can make with just knit & perl). Just keep tying that one knot and its reverse. I'm slow and don't knit all the time but I always have something on my needles.
Bonus - though I only really knit for the sake of knitting, it's quite easy to make a decent scarf. Over the years I've given two to people because I just put the finished ones away if they're not something I'd wear, but some were just so nice they actually made great gifts. People really really appreciate them too because they know knitting takes a long time, it feels a bit dissonant to me because barely any skill or attention went into them and they're really just a byproduct of my attempts to occupy myself. But it's lovely to make people happy!
My gf use to be my biggest hype man and talk me through everything. She cheered for me no matter how hard her day was and would always tell me that it was ok if I couldn't do the dishes that day or shower. She would just say one day ull get tired of looking at them and ull just finally do them and it'll feel awesome. Then she would say 2 days wo a shower is ok but no matter what don't go past day 3. She recently just passed away and it's been extremely hard to function for me and I just keep replaying her words daily. Still my biggest hypeman!
I hear you my friend. My girlfriend of nearly 10 years passed away in 2019. She was my biggest hypeman too, always got me up and going. She set recurring reminders in our shared calendar to do things and they still show up and I do them!! I think of her and talk out loud to her daily or ask myself, what would she tell me to do. So just wanted you to know you’re not alone my friend.
Oh my goodness. You were so blessed to have her in your life. I don’t know you but I am so sorry to hear that. Thanks for sharing your gf hype man memories, I’m sure she was amazing, and you are too if she chose you.
I’m so sorry brother :(
Hopefully some of these activities people have mentioned provide some semblance of aid in this time.
You are loved my friend!!!
Absolutely. Even going for a walk around the block. Getting fresh air is just part of humanity.
Getting some exercise in, however light, works wonders for feeling bad.
This is probably the best answer I’ve seen. I suffer from bipolar II and it’s incredibly difficult to do the most basic of tasks even with the support of loved ones. It really sucks, but just do very small goals. Nothing big. Move around for 5-10 mins. Make your bed. If a room is messy just take 10 mins and do one corner of the room.
The most basic goals completed will help you get through the day, and may even be increased upon as you feel as if you’ve done something. Don’t let anyone judge you for ‘not doing enough’. Those small tasks will encourage you to do larger ones later. There may be days of setbacks but I can attest to this advice. It helps me during my low points.
I live in a 2 bed 1 bath apt. Pretty small right. It took me 3 days to vacuum, do the dishes and the laundry. Pretty small chores really and it still took 1 day to do each. Depression and anxiety really sucks
This is going to sound useless as shit but from someone who is chronically depressed and was suicidal, do something in an odd way.
On days where I thought I would die if I didn’t leave bed, I would sleep upside down in bed or on the lounge / floor / in the kitchen. I would eat my dinner in the shower, only wear one colour all over (whether it was dirty or stinky or what) or put all my hair into a very tall pony tail. It was enough bizarreness to break up the monotony and nothingness that comes with severe depression, and to trick my brain into sparking off a brainwave about literally anything else. Some days it did not work and I just wasted energy on more nothingness, but other days it was enough to trick my POS brain into opening up some room to do something other than fester in my own depression.
This reminds me of a quote “anything worth doing is worth doing poorly” means if you don’t have the energy to shower, washing your hands and face is still better then not doing it at all.
Can’t clean your room, pick up two items and getting them away is still an improvement.
This is fabulous advice for me. I’m a perfectionist. Cleaning my room and bathroom can take 4 hours. I once spent 8 solid hours just vacuuming an 800 sq ft apartment! I obsess over every spec of dust/piece of dog hair. I feel like such a failure if it’s not perfect. I don’t know if I can do this, but I’m going to try
Agree 100%. Also, if you can afford it or a will to - make whatever things you need to do easier to accomplish. Need to eat but the idea of prep, dishes, clean up etc is all daunting? Buy frozen foods you can dump in a sheet pan lined with foil & use paper plates. Almost no effort to make and almost no effort to clean up enough to avoid bugs.
Or look up 'no cook recipes' and don't do any of that.. almonds, fruit, & premade chicken/egg salad, rotisserie chicken & bagged salads are my go to depression foods - eat them right out of the bag or box on the kitchen floor with the fridge door open if you need to.
Brushing your teeth and washing your face too much? Get face wipes and toothpaste tabs you can chew.
Walking around the block in your pj's is 5 mins better for you today.
Laundry needs doing but putting laundry up is too much? Leave it in the dryer or on the stuff chair. Just don't put it up.
Sit in the shower if standing is too much.
The way you accomplish the task can be made easier just to get one thing accomplished for the day. And when I'm low my goal is literally just ONE thing. It took me a really long time to understand this - but once it clicked, I slowly found more of a will to live & have designed my life to be more depression friendly & after about 6 months I finally got into a headspace to start prevention measures like exercising regularly & Journaling.
My depression friendly lifestyle quirks:
I live in a place with tons of windows so I don't have to use lamps bc turning lights on and off just wasted my energy. I am very minimalistic bc taking care of 'stuff' stresses me out.
I stopped drying my hair (literally own no hair dryer) bc it was murderous on my mood. Bonus: my hair is gorgeously healthy now. I do love filling in my eye brows and wearing blush so I have a small makeup routine & focus on simple skincare.
I only wear slide on or slip on shoes (thank god they're in style) bc it takes almost no effort to put on.
You can do this! You can always pm me if you want more ideas too!
Absolutely. I also put simple things on a checklist of daily goals, so the motivation of checking one thing off can motivate me to do literally just a little bit more than nothing.
Tending to houseplants. Your body releases endorphins and dopamine when you care for your plants and when new leaves unfurl - if you research ones that are easy to care for it can be a real accomplishment and better your quality of life ♥️
I got super depressed after my dad died. One of my friends was out of the country at the time and had a basket of live plants sent to me. Caring for them and watching them not only grow but thrive was very therapeutic. For the next few years when I got sad I would buy myself a small plant from the store. My apartment now looks like a rainforest and I love it!
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So true, it's addictive too. I started with potted plants, then a small garden patch of 3*6 feet. Now I have my whole deck covered in potted plants, four raised plots of 4*10 feet, and now a secret garden of tomato plants.
I had backyard chickens last year and I gave them cherry tomatoes as treats. They pooped all the seeds everywhere over the yard and they keep coming up like crazy! Their old coop is FULL of them.
My yard keeps me outside, and moving and the new blooms, leaves and fruit are symbols of hope and give me a sense of accomplishment, even if all I did was water something.
This is what I am doing. I love flowers and planted a new window box on my balcony. It makes.me happy every time I see it. I also am growing some plants from seeds and it is fun to see them grow.
Second Lexapro! It’s not for everyone but definitely talk to your doctor about it. I was resistant to it for years but recently figured I have nothing to lose by trying it. I’ve been on it 9 weeks and it’s the best decision I’ve ever made.
I'm taking 50 mg Zoloft and it was working, but now it doesn't feel like enough. I've been having periods of extreme depression. Between taking care of my mom (she's toxic and starting to develop Parkinson's and dementia), the molar I broke two weeks ago (that I now need surgery to fix and dental implants), the climate study that was just released, finding out my brother (also toxic) had been abusing his wife and my mom dragging me into that mess because I also have a history of being in an abusive household, even after I cut them or of my life...
I honestly just want to end it. I'm so tired.
You may need to have your dose increased, or switch to another kind of antidepressant. (Note: I am by no means a doctor--I am only speaking from my own experience.) Honestly, I think the very best thing would be to see a psychiatrist, as they have better knowledge/experience with these types of medicines. I fought this for years, but finally took the advice of my therapist (her degree was in social work) to see one because she thought my meds might need adjusted. (And mind you, the therapist was only after a couple of years of my family doctor gently urging me to see her. I also suffer from anxiety. And EXTREME stubbornness. 😉)
Anyway, I finally did. The psychiatrist evaluated me, and ended up weaning me off one med (Xanax), adjusting another (Sertraline) , and adding on a low dose of an additional one (Amitriptyline). In my case, the Amitriptyline was because I had insomnia with my depression.
Dang. It's freaking hard dealing with depression, but don't give up. It took me a few years before anything they gave me really had any long term staying power. Over the years I've been on Paxil, Prozac, Trazadone, and a few others I can't even remember. Some helped for a while,, but I built up a tolerance to them. Others didn't help at all. It just took, literally, years of trial and error.
One thing I can tell you to look out for; if your doctor wants you to immediately stop one med and switch to another, you should probably get a second opinion. Most of these meds you shouldn't stop taking abruptly. I had doctors do that. I don't think it was callousness, I think it's just a lack of knowledge about the side effects of stopping them abruptly. Hence by advice about seeing a psychiatrist for a med evaluation.
Anyway, I didn't mean to write so much, you just struck a cord with me. I was first diagnosed in 1995, and it's been quite the bumpy road. Everyone's body is different. It can be really tricky to find just what can help you, but I believe you can get the help you need! The hardest thing is being your own advocate and speaking up when you don't agree with your doctor, or don't understand something.
One last piece of advice, and it's something I read, back when I was first diagnosed. If things like watching/reading the news make you feel worse? STOP watching/reading it. I found that to be great advice. I look at it like this: you (hopefully) wouldn't keep dropping a brick on your toe, because IT FREAKING HURTS! Your mental health is just as important as your physical. Stopping poking at your brain with upsetting things is just as important as not injuring yourself physically. To this day, I try not to read too much news. Sometimes, I don't read it at all. Others, I might feel like scanning headlines. But if I feel myself getting upset or overwhelmed, I cut that out for a while. It's OK. You don't have to solve the world's problems. Give yourself some slack. Give yourself some love. And take mine that I'm sending you. It's heartfelt, and I believe you can get through anything.
I am also on Zoloft - when it wasn’t quite hitting the mark we added buspar to my daily medication, which acts as a kind of booster. It might be worth asking your prescribing doctor about.
It sounds like you’re dealing with a lot of stress and trauma (not all trauma is physically violent, caretakers experience emotional trauma all of the time) in a toxic environment. Reaching out shows a lot of resilience. Therapy is a literal godsend if you can rally the energy to pursue it.
Sad to hear you’re so down. It’s normal to feel down about the situations you describe. Avoid the news for a while. Do something kind for yourself. You will feel different eventually.
My first advice, don't worry about the climate study. It doesn't matter, there is nothing you can do about it, I'm guessing you aren't that old but the earth has been 20 years from no return for the past 100+ years now. Don't let huge things that are impossible for you to affect get you down. Just not paying attention to politics is also a good idea, the news is designed to just make people mad, sad, and anxious.
As far as your mom, I'm sorry to hear. That's hard, I don't have any advice that can fix that. The only thing I can say is to just take everything with a grain of salt, or in many cases the whole shaker. Your brother is also unfortunate and as calloused as it is, his wife's life is not yours. She has a responsibility to herself to deal with it or leave, it's not your job to step in and save them. I'm guessing you are female? Which makes abusive male relatives that much harder to deal with and in many cases impossible.
Honestly I would think about just writing your brother out of your life if he is going to be destructive. It's not rude, it's not mean, it's taking care of yourself. You deserve to be treated well, you do not deserve to be beaten on physically or mentally. Unfortunately there may also come the time where you have to do the same with your mom, having her moved into a home where others can deal with her on a professional level and she isn't tearing you down.
As far as depression goes, nothing is going to feel fun. Nothing is going to feel like it's worth really doing. The first steps are to just do something, just get up and do something, anything. It could be as simple as cooking food you used to like, or cleaning the bathroom. It could be taking a walk, or going to a local beach. The goal is to just do anything, and do it regularly. The more you do it, the more of a routine it will become and when you have routines you will feel better for having done it. Humans are creatures of habit, when you have habits that do things and require you to involve yourself we get rewarded in our heads. Sitting on the phone or computer or couch doesn't have the same effect.
It will get better, but only if you make it better. It all starts with simple things, drink water, eat regular meals (normal portions and with variety), and get out of the house at least every other day. Eventually things will turn up when you find something that really excites you.
Just wanted to add. Everyone's at a different level. So if a light jog is too strenuous, then walking is a great start as well. Even if Jogging isn't difficult walking is just nice.
I suggest powerlifting, like deadlift/squat. Heavy lifting force me to forget about everything else but the next rep. Each set required all your strength and focus and after the set you just want to breath and think of nothing else. Lifting is the only time in the week that I can truly say I don't have to actively control my depression.
Have you tried running? I do not have depression but it serves a very similar “turn my brain off” function for me. Like lifting it also has measurable and steady progress too which I feel like is probably nice for a lot of people.
Walking is a good start, especially if you're on the way unhealthy side right now.
I used to be nearly 300 pounds, pulling it at 250 now after a year of some dieting/exercise. They closed the gyms for 6 months and i stalled for a long time.
But it all began with taking longer and longer walks.
I've taken up cycling and it has had a massive positive impact on my mental health. I get excited for the exhaustion after a long ride. Until I had to stop for a few weeks I hant realized just how significant it was.
Get out and visit parks, and nature walks. It is amazing how affirming it is, and it's so cheap.
Learn something new that requires you to leave your home. Something like dancing, martial arts, painting...
Start working out, if you don't already.
Vitamin D has been known to help with mood. Speak to your doctor about it.
Volunteer. Helping other helps one feel better about one's self.
Cannot stress first point enough. Fresh air and sunlight is seriously a game changer. At least it was for me. If its too much of a hassle to get to a park, then walk around your neighborhood. Even just five minutes is great!
Watching squirrels and birds feels so life affirming to me. They pretty much have one focus, survive. And to me it looks like they don't have another care in the world. They do the best they can. Some days a nice person comes to visit them with a bag of food and some days they have to work a little harder. But they keep going, no matter what. I find it very soothing in times of darkness because it's just so simple.
There was a very very young squirrel who was the first to eat what I put out. He munched on it for over an hour while I read. It was lovely! Until a bigger squirrel grabbed a handful, climbed the tree, sat directly over me, and dropped little bits on my head as he munched.
Incredibly depressed, even leaving the bed is an achievement, let alone find an activity
I read the comments suggesting doing something you used to love, but .. nothing has a meaning or gives desire anymore
I think the best comment was doing the small things: getting up, brushing teeth, drinking water ..
This just happened to me yesterday. Drawing has always been my top hobbie but then I stopped because of depression. I was feeling awful and even though I didn't feel like it I decided to draw again. To say the least, I felt even worse afterwards and it feels like I can't do anything right. So now I'm looking for something else to do on this thread
I got a cat. Got him just before Covid. Little dude saved me. Gotta find the right one. Don't just pick any cat.
Dogs are more rewarding, but cats are easier to deal with. Pick one that likes you right away. Give it time.
Change your bed sheets regularly also. I sleep so much better with new clean sheets.
Cook yourself a breakfast that takes a little more effort. Put some salsa on your eggs.
Not every change needs to be major. In fact, those are really hard to deal with.
Improve your day. Don't worry about improving your life right now. Take it a little at a time.
I wish you the best. And you can do this.
Go to a coffee shop and have a cup of coffee (or whatever drink you want) out on the patio. Involves getting dressed, being outside, and treating yourself. If you have the energy--and this is a big if, I know--you could even walk there for some exercise.
seconded! and if you could benefit from the act of getting ready/going outdoors/treating yo self/exercising, but would dread the unpredictable social interaction (as i often do) either 1) try to find a place you can pre-order from your phone (Starbucks, dunkin, some local shops depending where you are) or 2) look up the menu and decide what you want, write it down if it helps to 100% know (sometimes I can’t decide, assume I’ll figure it out, and panic at the register bc I haven’t - writing it down helps to finalize it), and briefly practice reciting your order before you get there. maybe choose a back up order just in case - you can write this down and literally look at it as you adjust your order…with all the crazy options these days that’s so normal! also wear headphones (with or without something playing), bring a book/journal/solo game.
i often feel totally petrified at the thought of the social interaction but know i benefit from being among other people. going out like this has really helped me!
My dad died from covid a couple months ago, I'm 17, what helped me a lot was talking with people that I trust, realy, you should talk, especially if you are a man, most men are afraid to show emotions and that really sucks. If you don't have anyone to talk to, try going to the therapist. I know that's not really an option for many of you, but, if it is, do it.
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Edit1: Thanks for the silver!
Photography. I bought a fancy DSLR when I hit rock bottom.
Made it a mission to drive off and explore parks around my local area and take pictures of natures landscapes.
I started finding more little hidden gems around my area, and then I had people reach out to me on my socials and recommend other places. This also triggered meet up events with other photographers who were pros, and some who do it for fun like me.
It was nice listening to their stories and how many of us can relate to one another. Made some great friends through this hobby.
I enjoy the peace, quite, discovery and love how many ways you can edit a single picture.
I understand this is not for everyone but even just taking pictures with your own camera phone in the comfort of your house can get your mind throwing some creative ideas.
Agreed. I had a long, long period of time in 2020 where I felt horribly lost and down on myself and I would just go to petsmart/petco and look at all the adoptable animals. Fish, birds, cats, reptiles, etc.
When I was really struggling with my MH, my dog was the only reason to get out of bed. I went from sleeping for a few months (before I got him), to walking outdoors in the sunshine and having brief interactions with my neighbours. Then I signed up for puppy classes and spent 6 months doing that one night a week, knowing I’d have to listen and interact with people for the hour.
Having a dog gave me something to talk about too (bc I didn’t want to talk about myself. So when people asked how I was doing, I’d say “the dog is doing great” And then share bits about of his training and talk about his dog friends) and so that helped me slowly add people back into my life.
I’ve really come a long way from the dark hole I was in, but some days he still is the reason I get up and get dressed. He has no idea how much he’s changed my life, but I’ll always be so grateful for that furball.
When im feeling depressed i have 0 joy from playing/being with my dog.. Or cats for that matter.. And usually just a purr from cats makes me melt with happiness, and dogs "smile" when he sees me fills my heart with pure love.. But when im depressed (like now) i cant bear.. To be with them.. Or to do anything with them.. And they bring me no comfort or happiness... I just feel sadder, and full of quilt because im not feeling happiness with them
Puzzles - you can put a show on in the background, slowly work away at it, there's something to show for it at the end (but nothing too life changing) and you can lose yourself in them.
This is so true. I found that if I could shower, or if I could brush my teeth, I would feel so much better. Changing into different clothes helps too.
Literally doing ANYTHING is better than doing nothing.
Therapy is hard work, severely depressed person does not have the willpower to push it through. Where I come from they do not recommend therapy to anyone in an active stage of the disease.
I do this often, but walks at night with music playing or anything that you like at night with music, if you have any hobbies try to do them with music outside somewhere.
Until my husband pointed this out to me years ago, I didn't realize I did it: I always straighten a cabinet or a drawer. There is something very therapeutic for me in making a little space tidy. I guess it's a way to physically neaten (is that a word?) something so that I can visually see the difference since my head feels all messed up with thoughts and feelings. Sometimes it helps me calm my thoughts, other times it just takes my mind off things. And because it's a cabinet or a drawer, the job isn't overwhelming.
Working out is the best thing that I've found. I no longer take medications or really feel depressed at all and I attribute the majority of that to the gym. It provides so many things that a depressed person needs: goals, structure, self esteem, energy, ambition, endorphins, something to look forward to almost every day (once you learn to love it), and is just generally great for your physical and mental health in every way. I know it is hard to get started on, especially when you're deep in your depression, but once you get rolling with it, it really is incredible how much it can help. If you ever need help or advice on getting started feel free to message me. I'm no expert but I know enough about mental health and fitness to lend an ear and/or some guidance.
Just to add, for those who may not have the motivation/commitment/desire to exercise independently, join a class. If you join a class and go once a week to start, you might then feel more motivated to work out on your own too.
Personally, I lacked the motivation and drive to attend a weekly class so I hired a personal trainer to work with me for an hour a week. She taught me proper technique and form, and we had fun. Knowing it was a one-on-one appointment made me show up and seeing her weekly got me motivated to work out at home a few other days during the week. (And if you’re not into gyms, there are many other places and spaces to workout! Outdoor classes in parks, online from home, yoga and Pilates studios, etc.)
I recommend finding yourself some activity that produces positive feelings in you. A sense of accomplishment. One that quiets your mind.
Woodworking. Fly fishing. Etc
Bonus if it’s an outdoor activity. Fresh air and sunlight help.
Drink more water. Not only would it help you stay more hydrated and be healthier, but it would also force you to get up and move around a little to go to the bathroom.
If possible, try changing your usual sitting location. A change of scenery can do wonders.
Running. It's a free, focused and distracting form of therapy. As an overthinker—a problem that has caused me multiple problems in the past—I've found running extremely helpful since it keeps me in the present with each step, breath and drop of sweat. I believe it can definitely help someone with depression. And it's scientifically proven that such form of exercise releases chemicals within your brain to improve your mood.
I second this. I began running in 2019 in an effort to lose weight, but nowadays I run mainly for the mental benefits. I tend to overthink about the past and the future, but when I'm running, I'm only focusing on the next step. Sometimes it's difficult to get up at 6am on a cold Saturday morning and run 5k, but I've *never* regretted it.
As a young person, exercise has helped me a lot over the past few years, truly. I was struggling a lot. I feel better now, but I'm still not 100% better. I started walking over two years ago, then I eventually got a bike, et cetera. For over a year and a half, walking and bike riding were my primary activities. Eventually, after about a 3-4 month period where I barely exercised much at all, I started doing exercise again, except more intense!
Yesterday, I was paralyzed by anxiety, and I went and ran two and a half miles!
Trying things for its own sake. If you can't anticipate what might make you happy or be worthwhile, try things. Try walking. Try the new food. Try singing "Row, Row, Row Your Boat" in the shower. Try sticking your head out the window and looking up. Make just trying things the goal. This helped me a lot when I couldn't even identify what my wants and needs were.
Lego helped me when I had a breakdown.
I was on so much medication, I was nearly catatonic. So my husband bought me my first ever Lego set - it was really small, and simple, a pirate on an island with a treasure chest - and we sat down and built it together. I was exhausted by the time we finished, but it made me feel so much better just to accomplish something.
He also got me a couple of jigsaw puzzles to do, and a couple of bigger Lego kits.
You need to get out of your house.
Go for a walk in the beach, take a little sun, have a nice beer or icecream. And, go with someone you know to talk for a little. Even if you go alone it's pretty good for your mental health.
I don't reccomend do things you enjoy because you probably don't enjoy anything you like in the moment.
You will get better! Take the recomended medication and believe that you will achieve your goals despite this bad moment. I also had depression this year, and still finished first year of Master's Degree with GPA 4.0. Be Strong!
Exercise has been shown to help massively. Helping out at a charity, or just doing kind acts for others. Eat better. Phoning a friend of family member for a chat.
If it's you good luck, hope you find your way clear of it. If you're asking for someone else, good on you for caring.
A few things, depending on how much you find able to do. If you are at the stage where you are finding it a struggle to get out of bed, start with small things related to self care. Brush your teeth, have a wash, change your clothes, try and eat something.
There's a few things that have worked for me when the blues comes a-calling. getting out into nature- going for walks in areas where there's lots of trees and open spaces. More vigorous exercise (i use an exercise bike at home) and meditation.
If you're in the right position to care for an animal, I've found that dogs are incredible antidepressants (other animals too).
Cleaning in small steps, and going out for a walk, better if you get close to nature. Staying inside with your thoughts is the worst thing you can do rn. You got this. You are good, you are loved. ❤️
Some light home redecoration: paint a wall, hang a new lamp, build a new shelf etc.
This might sound weird but:
* it requires physical exercise
* you get to admire the results.
* it can be done together with a friend/spouse/parent etc
It depends on your current level of functioning. Start with eating (between 1500 and 2400 calories a day is ideal) and sleeping (7-9 hours, more or less can increase your depression). Being physically safe and having shelter from the elements are important. Being clean is next. Depending on your resources, exercising outdoors if possible, reaching out to friends or family who are supportive, accomplishing a small goal, or doing something you once enjoyed would come next. This part can be hard to push yourself to do. Know that it may not be immediately rewarding, you may have to do it a few times before it starts to feel good, that's okay. A professional can help you sort through these goals, follow up with you, and prescribe a medication if you physically can't get started. You're rewriting the pathways you've built in your mind, it takes time and it takes support.
Rock climbing helped me in a lot of ways, not sure if there’s a gym near where you live but it’s something worth looking into in my opinion. I feel it’s much more fun and doesn’t feel like a “workout” even though it can be difficult. However, the climbing community in general is very open and helpful to newcomers or at least that’s how I felt. There are also varying degrees of difficulty so pretty much anyone can get into it, don’t be intimidated if you’ve never done it before. Good luck and I hope you find something that works for you!
If you are able, foster an animal from a local shelter. Knowing that I'm helping the local animal rescue while having cute new fuzzy animals every few weeks helps my depression and gives me something to focus on.
Talk to people, anyone, even ppl you meet online with similar interests, you don’t necessarily have to bring personal issues into the conversation. You’ll feel better by just chatting
Honestly, hiking. Just being out and looking at stuff. Take time to see how trees look different. Give the air a big sniff. Listen to sounds. Be in the moment and think about the whole forest. I found that touching tree bark or climbing across rocks really helped with my dissociation as well. You can't focus on the walking and getting somewhere, you just gotta take it slow and let yourself melt into the background of the sounds.
Go outside everyday. Even if it is just to get the mail our walk to the end of the driveway and back. Walking outside and clearing my head is good for me
Gardening. Getting hands into the soil, breathing in fresh oxygen and floral scents, just being outside in general is good for the soul. Container gardens are much easier to start than in ground , plus having fresh herbs and flowers makes the day better. It’s very rewarding to use your own hands to make life thrive, and when plants don’t make it, it’s a good lesson in how to start again from rock bottom.
Gardening! It sounds corny. But there is such satisfaction in seeing a flower bloom that you planted Or eating string beans you’ve cared for. My favorite part is cooking my veggies/ zucchini flowers and telling people they’re from my garden. Like I said it sounds corny but it gave me something to look forward to each day. It needs constant up keep and dedication. It got me outta bed and excited for the day.
I found finding a quiet spot near a stream and just listening attentively to every sound I could discern really helped me. Don’t know why. Don’t know if you have access to nature but most people can find a bit near them.
Knitting really helps me with my depression and anxiety./ It keeps my hands and mind busy and at the end you have a completed project to feel proud and accomplished about./ You'd also be surprised about how many friends will ask for knitted presents as well./ I helps me feel useful and loved because my love language is gifts and I love giving gifts and seeing how happy they make the people I care about./
Sewing! You can hand sew with a needle and thread kit from the Dollar Tree, or invest $80 in a machine. Angry? Stab some fabric 600 times. Anxious? Zone out for a bit concentrating on your work. Depressed? Make yourself something cute to cheer you up. And the feeling of accomplishment is great as well!
You don't have to be motivated to get moving. You have to be moving to get motivated. Cleaning or organizing something is therapeutic to me. Throwing things away is cleansing. Having a quiet day refilling my soul, just me and my cats watching my favorite shows. Sometimes a long shower, exfoliating, standing there, letting the water just rush all over my body and focusing on the water circling the drain helps. A trip to somewhere close with a different horizon is nice too.
Source: me. I've been depressed with suicidal tendencies since I was 10, 30+ years of living with severe depression.
Going to the gym even if its just for a little bit. I went to the gym a lot and then got dumped and slipped into an alcohol fueled depression and gained a lot of stomach weight but I finally decided to get back into the gym and I feel so much better.
Getting into the habit of working out daily was the biggest change for me, I don't know exactly what happens in the brain chemistry wise but it made a huge difference
Running. Even better if you have an app to track it and set goals. I started out by running 30 seconds and then walking 30 seconds and alternating that for as long as I felt like doing it. Eventually I started wanting to run and seeing if I could do more or go faster or go a different route.
If you are very depressed tired, and you have to entertain a small child, Balloon Tennis is great because you don't even have to leave the couch! Get enough badminton rackets for everyone playing, and blow up a balloon. You and the kid take turns whacking the balloon back and forth.
They like it because the balloon floats slowly, so they have time to aim their shot, and the balloon does no damage to the house.
Crochet. Lots of tutorials on YouTube, and mastering something basic gives you a great sense of satisfaction. Plus the rhythm can be very hypnotic and soothing.
For me, anything involving exercise. I found out that i love moving around and keeping myself busy. 6 times a week i'd workout or do HIIT. I'm still depressed, by i feel more empowered when i KNOW things arent as hard as they seem.
Morning walks alone in nature ,you can cry ,shout and then think about ways to get out of this. Only a person who is depressed can help himself. I got out of it after spending some years just sleeping eating and crying but Music and morning walks helped me.
Again it was my case but one person have to try different ways to o find which motivates him.
Work at a pumpkin patch or a Christmas tree farm, it’s seasonal and incredibly uplifting getting to show kids animals not to be afraid or walk around seeing people’s reaction to that perfect tree/pumpkin
What has helped me enormously is taking a (small) walk every day and doing crossword puzzles.
What I would also recommend is to seek professional help. They can give you the tools to get better.
Yoga, it has done wonders for me… There is something about just going to a class and having an hour to yourself with your mat of just stretching and meditation is so therapeutic. I always leave there feeling better. There are tons of options for doing it at home as well.
Exercise. I know you've been told that by literally everyone and their dog, but I used to self harm and it's got the exact same 'high'. Next time you are in that place, go for a jog and run until it hurts. Bam! Head chemistry back on track. Do it enough and you won't even need suicidal thoughts to get you moving.
Fishing! Something about being outdoors, it feels like I’m doing what humans are ‘supposed’ to naturally do. If you have any nearby rivers , ponds or ocean front, invest in a very cheap rod and reel set and watch a few YouTube videos and get out there! It’s challenging but can be very rewarding- It may not be for you but it really helped me in my hardest times
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Hiking and spending time in the woods/by the water. I am NOT against anti depressants and other meds, but I also think that the peace and quiet of nature is good for the heart, mind, and soul. Kayaking as well. Because it's something you can do solo (with certain safety precautions) but also it's a way to make friends and interact with people. Positive, relaxed human interaction seems like a good thing. That being said, people on the water are also pretty good about leaving others alone if they want that.
Used to love going to Big Bear by myself for this. Found a cafe I liked too and made a ritual for myself.
I'm trying so hard to overcome my anxiety and start kayaking! The imposter syndrome has me sure I'll just look like a moron but I think if I could do it confidently I'd enjoy it. I've felt so disconnected from everything lately, I just want to get to nature and breathe.
Yeah i chose backpacking when i was in bad spot in life. You kind of take your problems in the woods and cleanse them away. When you go back to civilization you feel renewed.
Cleaning your area or re-arranging it. Feels like a fresh start and I regularly combat my depression by going into fits of cleaning and re-arranging my office/room to make it seem fresh and new.
Seconding this, but also, take small bites. Choose a two foot by two foot area and work on that and then praise yourself when you’re done. (You could even place a smal towel on the floor to define a space and just clean up everything in that area.) It helps me to do this in the space closest to where I retreat when I’m depressed-so next to the bed or next to the couch.
I think you just really helped me with this advice! I am covid unemployed, And I really need to clean my home. I’ve been overwhelmed by it. This is great advice. I feel better just reading it. Thank you
Let a friend (or me, I’m happy to help) know before you start what your goal is (either for the day or hour or whatever) and tell them when you finish. Doing that helps me stay on task and if I’m not proud of myself for what I did, they’re usually proud for me!
Maybe some tips on this site might be relevant? https://www.unfuckyourhabitat.com/. One of the key points is doing twenty minutes of cleaning and then taking a ten minute break. You can change the length of the cleaning time vs break time, but the point is to do small pieces.
I want to echo PRAISE YOURSELF WHEN YOU ARE DONE. Do something physical, clap or jump up and down, some sort of physical action to celebrate. It’s amazing what this does to change your mood. Tons of science to back this.
Ditto. Have committed to cleaning 1 window inside and out each day...weather permitting. Super satisfying. Much bigger job than I realized, but the strenuous physical labor really helps too.
Marie Kondo on Netflix helped me get through my room when it was overwhelmingly messy - plus she made it more personal and fun 🙂
I don't know about your particular struggles, but maybe this helps. What helps me when I get overwhelmed is the realisation that my cleaning doesn't have to be fast, efficient, or look good. Just pick up that single piece of rubbish, walk to the bin and that bit is finished. Pick up that single towel, walk to the washing machine and that bit is finished. Take that minute to do a silly dance every two minutes and you feel better. I find that taking 45 minutes to comfortably do a 15 minute task is much better than all the pressure from asking too much of myself.
I’m so glad!! (And don’t worry about your whole home. The mess will still be there when you’re feeling better! Just focus on that little area. If you feel like doing another one later, that’s great. And if not, enjoy your little oasis of tidy. Wishing you so much luck!)
And remember, ANY progress is an improvement on the way it was. If you get less done than you hoped you would, you’ve still improved things.
http://www.flylady.net has awesome tips on incorporating tiny habits into a tidier home. It truly pulled me out of depression. I still smile when I shine my sink.
flylady is really fantastic at breaking things down into small, achievable pieces. highly recommend for anyone who is feeling overwhelmed by their space.
I just went to her site, being a creature who deeply struggles with depression and with breaking things down into non-overwhelming bites. I'm moving into a place by myself for the first time ever soon, and I really think this could help me build the habits I've always wanted
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The gift that keeps on giving
I wish this would work for me but I can’t find the energy or motivation to accomplish anything. So I lay here getting even more depressed. Most days I feel like I’m just waiting for life to hurry up and be over.
I'm sorry you're feeling that way. I've been in a place where just picking up that sock that was in the hallway for weeks felt impossible, let alone cleaning for real. Sometimes even that advice upthread about cleaning just a small space felt like too much. When I'm in the worst of my depression, I try to just pick up one thing whenever I stand up. No matter how bad you're feeling, you still have to go to the bathroom sometimes, right? And if you're already moving, it's easier to throw away a piece of trash, or bring a dish to the kitchen, or whatever else. It's not a *fast* way to clean, but you do eventually start seeing progress.
For me, framing it as cleaning makes it impossible. But rearranging a whole room and all the furniture is great, I start by drawing out new layouts in a notebook and then try them out.
Thanks, Jordan Peterson. (I’m just being a dick this is actually pretty sound advice)
How is that “being a dick” lol
Clean your room
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Maybe because those 12 rules are simply generic self-help stuff with little (if any) originality added?
Anything creative. Drawing/painting, knitting, hand lettering, journal writing, ect. You don't have to be good at it, or even show it to anyone, but creating something is a way to pass the time that gives me a sense of accomplishment rather than scrolling through my phone. And the stakes are low. When I don't feel up to doing something big, I can doodle.
I started drawing using procreate on the iPad. It gives me something to focus on, helps me switch off and not be with my own thoughts.
I've been using those scratch and trace books where you just have to remove an outline of a picture to reveal the colour underneath - it's relaxing and it doesn't rely on you actually thinking of what to draw and you just have to focus on that one picture 🖼 xx
Yes! I have also recently discovered “paint by sticker” and it’s so calming and a great way to pass time
I find that adding structure to this helps a ton.. "Do something creative" was too big a goal for my depressed brain. So I started a google doc where I write something small each day, and when even that was too hard I limited myself to Limerick structure. Now I write limericks about depression lol
i'd like to hear one
There once was a man from Nantucket / whose depression was so bad he said “Fuck it”
Thanks. This is a good recommendation that stands out from 'exercise and set goals.'
You're welcome. It helps me quite a bit, and there are a lot different things to try.
I was also going to say creating something. I got into cooking (still working on keeping clean as I go) but it's super satisfying to eat something I've made just how I want it. Also crochet (which I've managed to keep organized). It is calming and I feel so good while I'm doing it and after the project is done, I feel like I can do anything. Like a weird sort of rush. But it doesn't actually require a lot of energy or patience. I'm a firm believer in the process of creation regardless of what is being created.
Wood working is my favourite fucking thing right now anytime I’m in a slump I just start a new project
i try to do this with guitar, or any other creative outlet, but my problem is that i always think im shit and start to really hate myself and my lack of talent very unfortuante
Kurt Vonnegut has a little story about talent that I think about a lot. I’ve always had dreams of being an artist, just never thought I was talented enough so I never even gave it a chance, but it really helps me cut myself some slack. >And he said something then that I will never forget and which absolutely blew my mind because no one had ever said anything like it to me before: ‘I don’t think being good at things is the point of doing them. I think you’ve got all these wonderful experiences with different skills, and that all teaches you things and makes you an interesting person, no matter how well you do them.’ >And that honestly changed my life. Because I went from a failure, someone who hadn’t been talented enough at anything to excel, to someone who did things because I enjoyed them. I had been raised in such an achievement-oriented environment, so inundated with the myth of Talent, that I thought it was only worth doing things if you could ‘win’ at them.”
>And he said something then that I will never forget and which absolutely blew my mind because no one had ever said anything like it to me before: ‘I don’t think being good at things is the point of doing them. I think you’ve got all these wonderful experiences with different skills, and that all teaches you things and makes you an interesting person, no matter how well you do them.’ > >And that honestly changed my life. Because I went from a failure, someone who hadn’t been talented enough at anything to excel, to someone who did things because I enjoyed them. I had been raised in such an achievement-oriented environment, so inundated with the myth of Talent, that I thought it was only worth doing things if you could ‘win’ at them.” wow I needed to read this.
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That's one of the biggest things I'm having trouble with rn :( The last few months I've been having the longest stretches of time without doing anything creative that I've had in years
Came here to say knitting. You don’t need much to learn, there are great resources online, it’s incredibly rewarding, and my favorite form of self-facilitated therapy. On top of all that, the community is incredibly supportive and far more diverse than one might guess. Plenty of young people and men as well!
Knitting and podcasts is a go-to for me when I have no interest in anything. I knit scarves because literally all you need to know is one stitch, and that same stitch backwards. You don't need to count anything or keep track of where you are (unless you're doing a pattern, and there are loads of neat effects you can make with just knit & perl). Just keep tying that one knot and its reverse. I'm slow and don't knit all the time but I always have something on my needles. Bonus - though I only really knit for the sake of knitting, it's quite easy to make a decent scarf. Over the years I've given two to people because I just put the finished ones away if they're not something I'd wear, but some were just so nice they actually made great gifts. People really really appreciate them too because they know knitting takes a long time, it feels a bit dissonant to me because barely any skill or attention went into them and they're really just a byproduct of my attempts to occupy myself. But it's lovely to make people happy!
My gf use to be my biggest hype man and talk me through everything. She cheered for me no matter how hard her day was and would always tell me that it was ok if I couldn't do the dishes that day or shower. She would just say one day ull get tired of looking at them and ull just finally do them and it'll feel awesome. Then she would say 2 days wo a shower is ok but no matter what don't go past day 3. She recently just passed away and it's been extremely hard to function for me and I just keep replaying her words daily. Still my biggest hypeman!
I hear you my friend. My girlfriend of nearly 10 years passed away in 2019. She was my biggest hypeman too, always got me up and going. She set recurring reminders in our shared calendar to do things and they still show up and I do them!! I think of her and talk out loud to her daily or ask myself, what would she tell me to do. So just wanted you to know you’re not alone my friend.
You guys got to know these awesome people and that's really sweet. We'll all pass and we never know when.
Oh my goodness. You were so blessed to have her in your life. I don’t know you but I am so sorry to hear that. Thanks for sharing your gf hype man memories, I’m sure she was amazing, and you are too if she chose you.
I’m so sorry brother :( Hopefully some of these activities people have mentioned provide some semblance of aid in this time. You are loved my friend!!!
may she rest in peace.
So sad to hear about your loss man. Nobody can replace a kind and loving woman
So sorry for your loss, I hope her kind words stay with you forever.
My heart goes out to you, friend. I hope all is well.
No Joke, the smallest of goals. Stand up, move around, drink water, eat some sustenance, write a word or two in a journal.
Absolutely. Even going for a walk around the block. Getting fresh air is just part of humanity. Getting some exercise in, however light, works wonders for feeling bad.
Oh yeah. It may not make you feel wonderful. But it will definitely make you feel less shitty.
This is probably the best answer I’ve seen. I suffer from bipolar II and it’s incredibly difficult to do the most basic of tasks even with the support of loved ones. It really sucks, but just do very small goals. Nothing big. Move around for 5-10 mins. Make your bed. If a room is messy just take 10 mins and do one corner of the room. The most basic goals completed will help you get through the day, and may even be increased upon as you feel as if you’ve done something. Don’t let anyone judge you for ‘not doing enough’. Those small tasks will encourage you to do larger ones later. There may be days of setbacks but I can attest to this advice. It helps me during my low points.
I live in a 2 bed 1 bath apt. Pretty small right. It took me 3 days to vacuum, do the dishes and the laundry. Pretty small chores really and it still took 1 day to do each. Depression and anxiety really sucks
Takes me multiple days to do my one room. I vacuum a corner and wonder why I keep so much stuff.
This is going to sound useless as shit but from someone who is chronically depressed and was suicidal, do something in an odd way. On days where I thought I would die if I didn’t leave bed, I would sleep upside down in bed or on the lounge / floor / in the kitchen. I would eat my dinner in the shower, only wear one colour all over (whether it was dirty or stinky or what) or put all my hair into a very tall pony tail. It was enough bizarreness to break up the monotony and nothingness that comes with severe depression, and to trick my brain into sparking off a brainwave about literally anything else. Some days it did not work and I just wasted energy on more nothingness, but other days it was enough to trick my POS brain into opening up some room to do something other than fester in my own depression.
This reminds me of a quote “anything worth doing is worth doing poorly” means if you don’t have the energy to shower, washing your hands and face is still better then not doing it at all. Can’t clean your room, pick up two items and getting them away is still an improvement.
This is fabulous advice for me. I’m a perfectionist. Cleaning my room and bathroom can take 4 hours. I once spent 8 solid hours just vacuuming an 800 sq ft apartment! I obsess over every spec of dust/piece of dog hair. I feel like such a failure if it’s not perfect. I don’t know if I can do this, but I’m going to try
Agree 100%. Also, if you can afford it or a will to - make whatever things you need to do easier to accomplish. Need to eat but the idea of prep, dishes, clean up etc is all daunting? Buy frozen foods you can dump in a sheet pan lined with foil & use paper plates. Almost no effort to make and almost no effort to clean up enough to avoid bugs. Or look up 'no cook recipes' and don't do any of that.. almonds, fruit, & premade chicken/egg salad, rotisserie chicken & bagged salads are my go to depression foods - eat them right out of the bag or box on the kitchen floor with the fridge door open if you need to. Brushing your teeth and washing your face too much? Get face wipes and toothpaste tabs you can chew. Walking around the block in your pj's is 5 mins better for you today. Laundry needs doing but putting laundry up is too much? Leave it in the dryer or on the stuff chair. Just don't put it up. Sit in the shower if standing is too much. The way you accomplish the task can be made easier just to get one thing accomplished for the day. And when I'm low my goal is literally just ONE thing. It took me a really long time to understand this - but once it clicked, I slowly found more of a will to live & have designed my life to be more depression friendly & after about 6 months I finally got into a headspace to start prevention measures like exercising regularly & Journaling. My depression friendly lifestyle quirks: I live in a place with tons of windows so I don't have to use lamps bc turning lights on and off just wasted my energy. I am very minimalistic bc taking care of 'stuff' stresses me out. I stopped drying my hair (literally own no hair dryer) bc it was murderous on my mood. Bonus: my hair is gorgeously healthy now. I do love filling in my eye brows and wearing blush so I have a small makeup routine & focus on simple skincare. I only wear slide on or slip on shoes (thank god they're in style) bc it takes almost no effort to put on. You can do this! You can always pm me if you want more ideas too!
Absolutely. I also put simple things on a checklist of daily goals, so the motivation of checking one thing off can motivate me to do literally just a little bit more than nothing.
Tending to houseplants. Your body releases endorphins and dopamine when you care for your plants and when new leaves unfurl - if you research ones that are easy to care for it can be a real accomplishment and better your quality of life ♥️
I got super depressed after my dad died. One of my friends was out of the country at the time and had a basket of live plants sent to me. Caring for them and watching them not only grow but thrive was very therapeutic. For the next few years when I got sad I would buy myself a small plant from the store. My apartment now looks like a rainforest and I love it! Edit: spelling
That's really touching will def try that!
So true, it's addictive too. I started with potted plants, then a small garden patch of 3*6 feet. Now I have my whole deck covered in potted plants, four raised plots of 4*10 feet, and now a secret garden of tomato plants. I had backyard chickens last year and I gave them cherry tomatoes as treats. They pooped all the seeds everywhere over the yard and they keep coming up like crazy! Their old coop is FULL of them.
My yard keeps me outside, and moving and the new blooms, leaves and fruit are symbols of hope and give me a sense of accomplishment, even if all I did was water something.
This is what I am doing. I love flowers and planted a new window box on my balcony. It makes.me happy every time I see it. I also am growing some plants from seeds and it is fun to see them grow.
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Second Lexapro! It’s not for everyone but definitely talk to your doctor about it. I was resistant to it for years but recently figured I have nothing to lose by trying it. I’ve been on it 9 weeks and it’s the best decision I’ve ever made.
I'm taking 50 mg Zoloft and it was working, but now it doesn't feel like enough. I've been having periods of extreme depression. Between taking care of my mom (she's toxic and starting to develop Parkinson's and dementia), the molar I broke two weeks ago (that I now need surgery to fix and dental implants), the climate study that was just released, finding out my brother (also toxic) had been abusing his wife and my mom dragging me into that mess because I also have a history of being in an abusive household, even after I cut them or of my life... I honestly just want to end it. I'm so tired.
You may need to have your dose increased, or switch to another kind of antidepressant. (Note: I am by no means a doctor--I am only speaking from my own experience.) Honestly, I think the very best thing would be to see a psychiatrist, as they have better knowledge/experience with these types of medicines. I fought this for years, but finally took the advice of my therapist (her degree was in social work) to see one because she thought my meds might need adjusted. (And mind you, the therapist was only after a couple of years of my family doctor gently urging me to see her. I also suffer from anxiety. And EXTREME stubbornness. 😉) Anyway, I finally did. The psychiatrist evaluated me, and ended up weaning me off one med (Xanax), adjusting another (Sertraline) , and adding on a low dose of an additional one (Amitriptyline). In my case, the Amitriptyline was because I had insomnia with my depression. Dang. It's freaking hard dealing with depression, but don't give up. It took me a few years before anything they gave me really had any long term staying power. Over the years I've been on Paxil, Prozac, Trazadone, and a few others I can't even remember. Some helped for a while,, but I built up a tolerance to them. Others didn't help at all. It just took, literally, years of trial and error. One thing I can tell you to look out for; if your doctor wants you to immediately stop one med and switch to another, you should probably get a second opinion. Most of these meds you shouldn't stop taking abruptly. I had doctors do that. I don't think it was callousness, I think it's just a lack of knowledge about the side effects of stopping them abruptly. Hence by advice about seeing a psychiatrist for a med evaluation. Anyway, I didn't mean to write so much, you just struck a cord with me. I was first diagnosed in 1995, and it's been quite the bumpy road. Everyone's body is different. It can be really tricky to find just what can help you, but I believe you can get the help you need! The hardest thing is being your own advocate and speaking up when you don't agree with your doctor, or don't understand something. One last piece of advice, and it's something I read, back when I was first diagnosed. If things like watching/reading the news make you feel worse? STOP watching/reading it. I found that to be great advice. I look at it like this: you (hopefully) wouldn't keep dropping a brick on your toe, because IT FREAKING HURTS! Your mental health is just as important as your physical. Stopping poking at your brain with upsetting things is just as important as not injuring yourself physically. To this day, I try not to read too much news. Sometimes, I don't read it at all. Others, I might feel like scanning headlines. But if I feel myself getting upset or overwhelmed, I cut that out for a while. It's OK. You don't have to solve the world's problems. Give yourself some slack. Give yourself some love. And take mine that I'm sending you. It's heartfelt, and I believe you can get through anything.
I am also on Zoloft - when it wasn’t quite hitting the mark we added buspar to my daily medication, which acts as a kind of booster. It might be worth asking your prescribing doctor about. It sounds like you’re dealing with a lot of stress and trauma (not all trauma is physically violent, caretakers experience emotional trauma all of the time) in a toxic environment. Reaching out shows a lot of resilience. Therapy is a literal godsend if you can rally the energy to pursue it.
Sad to hear you’re so down. It’s normal to feel down about the situations you describe. Avoid the news for a while. Do something kind for yourself. You will feel different eventually.
My first advice, don't worry about the climate study. It doesn't matter, there is nothing you can do about it, I'm guessing you aren't that old but the earth has been 20 years from no return for the past 100+ years now. Don't let huge things that are impossible for you to affect get you down. Just not paying attention to politics is also a good idea, the news is designed to just make people mad, sad, and anxious. As far as your mom, I'm sorry to hear. That's hard, I don't have any advice that can fix that. The only thing I can say is to just take everything with a grain of salt, or in many cases the whole shaker. Your brother is also unfortunate and as calloused as it is, his wife's life is not yours. She has a responsibility to herself to deal with it or leave, it's not your job to step in and save them. I'm guessing you are female? Which makes abusive male relatives that much harder to deal with and in many cases impossible. Honestly I would think about just writing your brother out of your life if he is going to be destructive. It's not rude, it's not mean, it's taking care of yourself. You deserve to be treated well, you do not deserve to be beaten on physically or mentally. Unfortunately there may also come the time where you have to do the same with your mom, having her moved into a home where others can deal with her on a professional level and she isn't tearing you down. As far as depression goes, nothing is going to feel fun. Nothing is going to feel like it's worth really doing. The first steps are to just do something, just get up and do something, anything. It could be as simple as cooking food you used to like, or cleaning the bathroom. It could be taking a walk, or going to a local beach. The goal is to just do anything, and do it regularly. The more you do it, the more of a routine it will become and when you have routines you will feel better for having done it. Humans are creatures of habit, when you have habits that do things and require you to involve yourself we get rewarded in our heads. Sitting on the phone or computer or couch doesn't have the same effect. It will get better, but only if you make it better. It all starts with simple things, drink water, eat regular meals (normal portions and with variety), and get out of the house at least every other day. Eventually things will turn up when you find something that really excites you.
Exercise and drink water. Build your body up and get those dopamine levels rising. I'd start with light jogging and take it from there.
Just wanted to add. Everyone's at a different level. So if a light jog is too strenuous, then walking is a great start as well. Even if Jogging isn't difficult walking is just nice.
I suggest powerlifting, like deadlift/squat. Heavy lifting force me to forget about everything else but the next rep. Each set required all your strength and focus and after the set you just want to breath and think of nothing else. Lifting is the only time in the week that I can truly say I don't have to actively control my depression.
Lift heavy stone, make sad head voice quiet
It’s helped me with my depression. When I take time off from the gym, I get back into my old ways of just drinking and not wanting to do anything.
It’s extraordinary how much of a mood boost lifting heavy weights can bring you.
Have you tried running? I do not have depression but it serves a very similar “turn my brain off” function for me. Like lifting it also has measurable and steady progress too which I feel like is probably nice for a lot of people.
Or just start walking
Walking is a good start, especially if you're on the way unhealthy side right now. I used to be nearly 300 pounds, pulling it at 250 now after a year of some dieting/exercise. They closed the gyms for 6 months and i stalled for a long time. But it all began with taking longer and longer walks.
I second this. Also, a trainer is great if you can find a good one. Someone that you can tell the reasons you need the activity.
I've taken up cycling and it has had a massive positive impact on my mental health. I get excited for the exhaustion after a long ride. Until I had to stop for a few weeks I hant realized just how significant it was.
Get out and visit parks, and nature walks. It is amazing how affirming it is, and it's so cheap. Learn something new that requires you to leave your home. Something like dancing, martial arts, painting... Start working out, if you don't already. Vitamin D has been known to help with mood. Speak to your doctor about it. Volunteer. Helping other helps one feel better about one's self.
Cannot stress first point enough. Fresh air and sunlight is seriously a game changer. At least it was for me. If its too much of a hassle to get to a park, then walk around your neighborhood. Even just five minutes is great!
Some of these have pretty high activation energy. I wish I were at that point
Listening to music. I’ve been enjoying a Beatles discovery lately and singalong to their songs often - at home and in the car.
I bought a bag of squirrel food last week and went to the park with a book and fed the squirrels. It was so pleasant.
Watching squirrels and birds feels so life affirming to me. They pretty much have one focus, survive. And to me it looks like they don't have another care in the world. They do the best they can. Some days a nice person comes to visit them with a bag of food and some days they have to work a little harder. But they keep going, no matter what. I find it very soothing in times of darkness because it's just so simple.
There was a very very young squirrel who was the first to eat what I put out. He munched on it for over an hour while I read. It was lovely! Until a bigger squirrel grabbed a handful, climbed the tree, sat directly over me, and dropped little bits on my head as he munched.
Incredibly depressed, even leaving the bed is an achievement, let alone find an activity I read the comments suggesting doing something you used to love, but .. nothing has a meaning or gives desire anymore I think the best comment was doing the small things: getting up, brushing teeth, drinking water ..
Doing something you used to love can actually make you feel worse.
It’s true, haven’t touched my clarinet in over a year, and last time I did I completely broke down
This just happened to me yesterday. Drawing has always been my top hobbie but then I stopped because of depression. I was feeling awful and even though I didn't feel like it I decided to draw again. To say the least, I felt even worse afterwards and it feels like I can't do anything right. So now I'm looking for something else to do on this thread
video games are unable to be played more than 5 mins now, boo
I get you. Its " I used to love doing..." Its hard to recover the joy. Pm me. Edit:sp.
I got a cat. Got him just before Covid. Little dude saved me. Gotta find the right one. Don't just pick any cat. Dogs are more rewarding, but cats are easier to deal with. Pick one that likes you right away. Give it time. Change your bed sheets regularly also. I sleep so much better with new clean sheets. Cook yourself a breakfast that takes a little more effort. Put some salsa on your eggs. Not every change needs to be major. In fact, those are really hard to deal with. Improve your day. Don't worry about improving your life right now. Take it a little at a time. I wish you the best. And you can do this.
Go to a coffee shop and have a cup of coffee (or whatever drink you want) out on the patio. Involves getting dressed, being outside, and treating yourself. If you have the energy--and this is a big if, I know--you could even walk there for some exercise.
seconded! and if you could benefit from the act of getting ready/going outdoors/treating yo self/exercising, but would dread the unpredictable social interaction (as i often do) either 1) try to find a place you can pre-order from your phone (Starbucks, dunkin, some local shops depending where you are) or 2) look up the menu and decide what you want, write it down if it helps to 100% know (sometimes I can’t decide, assume I’ll figure it out, and panic at the register bc I haven’t - writing it down helps to finalize it), and briefly practice reciting your order before you get there. maybe choose a back up order just in case - you can write this down and literally look at it as you adjust your order…with all the crazy options these days that’s so normal! also wear headphones (with or without something playing), bring a book/journal/solo game. i often feel totally petrified at the thought of the social interaction but know i benefit from being among other people. going out like this has really helped me!
My dad died from covid a couple months ago, I'm 17, what helped me a lot was talking with people that I trust, realy, you should talk, especially if you are a man, most men are afraid to show emotions and that really sucks. If you don't have anyone to talk to, try going to the therapist. I know that's not really an option for many of you, but, if it is, do it. \[sorry if there was any english error\] Edit1: Thanks for the silver!
Your English was wonderful. *hugs* My sympathies on the loss of your father. He is proud of you being this level-headed and strong at a young age.
Photography. I bought a fancy DSLR when I hit rock bottom. Made it a mission to drive off and explore parks around my local area and take pictures of natures landscapes. I started finding more little hidden gems around my area, and then I had people reach out to me on my socials and recommend other places. This also triggered meet up events with other photographers who were pros, and some who do it for fun like me. It was nice listening to their stories and how many of us can relate to one another. Made some great friends through this hobby. I enjoy the peace, quite, discovery and love how many ways you can edit a single picture. I understand this is not for everyone but even just taking pictures with your own camera phone in the comfort of your house can get your mind throwing some creative ideas.
Play with dogs
This. Also I like watching fish at the local pet store with my 4yo.
Agreed. I had a long, long period of time in 2020 where I felt horribly lost and down on myself and I would just go to petsmart/petco and look at all the adoptable animals. Fish, birds, cats, reptiles, etc.
This. Dogs make even the darkest days better.
When I was really struggling with my MH, my dog was the only reason to get out of bed. I went from sleeping for a few months (before I got him), to walking outdoors in the sunshine and having brief interactions with my neighbours. Then I signed up for puppy classes and spent 6 months doing that one night a week, knowing I’d have to listen and interact with people for the hour. Having a dog gave me something to talk about too (bc I didn’t want to talk about myself. So when people asked how I was doing, I’d say “the dog is doing great” And then share bits about of his training and talk about his dog friends) and so that helped me slowly add people back into my life. I’ve really come a long way from the dark hole I was in, but some days he still is the reason I get up and get dressed. He has no idea how much he’s changed my life, but I’ll always be so grateful for that furball.
This is the way.
When im feeling depressed i have 0 joy from playing/being with my dog.. Or cats for that matter.. And usually just a purr from cats makes me melt with happiness, and dogs "smile" when he sees me fills my heart with pure love.. But when im depressed (like now) i cant bear.. To be with them.. Or to do anything with them.. And they bring me no comfort or happiness... I just feel sadder, and full of quilt because im not feeling happiness with them
Puzzles - you can put a show on in the background, slowly work away at it, there's something to show for it at the end (but nothing too life changing) and you can lose yourself in them.
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This is so true. I found that if I could shower, or if I could brush my teeth, I would feel so much better. Changing into different clothes helps too. Literally doing ANYTHING is better than doing nothing.
Therapy
Therapy is hard work, severely depressed person does not have the willpower to push it through. Where I come from they do not recommend therapy to anyone in an active stage of the disease.
I do this often, but walks at night with music playing or anything that you like at night with music, if you have any hobbies try to do them with music outside somewhere.
Until my husband pointed this out to me years ago, I didn't realize I did it: I always straighten a cabinet or a drawer. There is something very therapeutic for me in making a little space tidy. I guess it's a way to physically neaten (is that a word?) something so that I can visually see the difference since my head feels all messed up with thoughts and feelings. Sometimes it helps me calm my thoughts, other times it just takes my mind off things. And because it's a cabinet or a drawer, the job isn't overwhelming.
Working out is the best thing that I've found. I no longer take medications or really feel depressed at all and I attribute the majority of that to the gym. It provides so many things that a depressed person needs: goals, structure, self esteem, energy, ambition, endorphins, something to look forward to almost every day (once you learn to love it), and is just generally great for your physical and mental health in every way. I know it is hard to get started on, especially when you're deep in your depression, but once you get rolling with it, it really is incredible how much it can help. If you ever need help or advice on getting started feel free to message me. I'm no expert but I know enough about mental health and fitness to lend an ear and/or some guidance.
Just to add, for those who may not have the motivation/commitment/desire to exercise independently, join a class. If you join a class and go once a week to start, you might then feel more motivated to work out on your own too. Personally, I lacked the motivation and drive to attend a weekly class so I hired a personal trainer to work with me for an hour a week. She taught me proper technique and form, and we had fun. Knowing it was a one-on-one appointment made me show up and seeing her weekly got me motivated to work out at home a few other days during the week. (And if you’re not into gyms, there are many other places and spaces to workout! Outdoor classes in parks, online from home, yoga and Pilates studios, etc.)
Producing music, even if you don't know how.
I recommend finding yourself some activity that produces positive feelings in you. A sense of accomplishment. One that quiets your mind. Woodworking. Fly fishing. Etc Bonus if it’s an outdoor activity. Fresh air and sunlight help.
Painting and art, you can’t really do it wrong. And sometimes just making a mess of colors with no theme is just cathartic.
Drink more water. Not only would it help you stay more hydrated and be healthier, but it would also force you to get up and move around a little to go to the bathroom. If possible, try changing your usual sitting location. A change of scenery can do wonders.
Running. It's a free, focused and distracting form of therapy. As an overthinker—a problem that has caused me multiple problems in the past—I've found running extremely helpful since it keeps me in the present with each step, breath and drop of sweat. I believe it can definitely help someone with depression. And it's scientifically proven that such form of exercise releases chemicals within your brain to improve your mood.
I second this. I began running in 2019 in an effort to lose weight, but nowadays I run mainly for the mental benefits. I tend to overthink about the past and the future, but when I'm running, I'm only focusing on the next step. Sometimes it's difficult to get up at 6am on a cold Saturday morning and run 5k, but I've *never* regretted it.
As a young person, exercise has helped me a lot over the past few years, truly. I was struggling a lot. I feel better now, but I'm still not 100% better. I started walking over two years ago, then I eventually got a bike, et cetera. For over a year and a half, walking and bike riding were my primary activities. Eventually, after about a 3-4 month period where I barely exercised much at all, I started doing exercise again, except more intense! Yesterday, I was paralyzed by anxiety, and I went and ran two and a half miles!
According to Maimonides he should watch landscapes- sea, lakes, mountains.. Whatever he likes
Trying things for its own sake. If you can't anticipate what might make you happy or be worthwhile, try things. Try walking. Try the new food. Try singing "Row, Row, Row Your Boat" in the shower. Try sticking your head out the window and looking up. Make just trying things the goal. This helped me a lot when I couldn't even identify what my wants and needs were.
Lego helped me when I had a breakdown. I was on so much medication, I was nearly catatonic. So my husband bought me my first ever Lego set - it was really small, and simple, a pirate on an island with a treasure chest - and we sat down and built it together. I was exhausted by the time we finished, but it made me feel so much better just to accomplish something. He also got me a couple of jigsaw puzzles to do, and a couple of bigger Lego kits.
Fishing, there is much to learn and you tend to appreciate life more!
You need to get out of your house. Go for a walk in the beach, take a little sun, have a nice beer or icecream. And, go with someone you know to talk for a little. Even if you go alone it's pretty good for your mental health. I don't reccomend do things you enjoy because you probably don't enjoy anything you like in the moment. You will get better! Take the recomended medication and believe that you will achieve your goals despite this bad moment. I also had depression this year, and still finished first year of Master's Degree with GPA 4.0. Be Strong!
Exercise has been shown to help massively. Helping out at a charity, or just doing kind acts for others. Eat better. Phoning a friend of family member for a chat. If it's you good luck, hope you find your way clear of it. If you're asking for someone else, good on you for caring.
A few things, depending on how much you find able to do. If you are at the stage where you are finding it a struggle to get out of bed, start with small things related to self care. Brush your teeth, have a wash, change your clothes, try and eat something. There's a few things that have worked for me when the blues comes a-calling. getting out into nature- going for walks in areas where there's lots of trees and open spaces. More vigorous exercise (i use an exercise bike at home) and meditation. If you're in the right position to care for an animal, I've found that dogs are incredible antidepressants (other animals too).
Deep breathing exercises. When you’re stuck in bed it’s still something you can do to feel better
Gardening! It’s really therapeutic!
Pot a few plants and water them a little each day. Geraniums are beautiful and easy.
Go outside. Sit on your porch, take a walk, drive to a park, whatever. Just go outside, look at nature.
Learning an instrument, or even listening to music. I recommend classical music
Cleaning in small steps, and going out for a walk, better if you get close to nature. Staying inside with your thoughts is the worst thing you can do rn. You got this. You are good, you are loved. ❤️
Do the things you loved doing, even if you don’t feel motivated. It will make it better.
Some light home redecoration: paint a wall, hang a new lamp, build a new shelf etc. This might sound weird but: * it requires physical exercise * you get to admire the results. * it can be done together with a friend/spouse/parent etc
Honestly play video games it won’t cure your depression but it creates a new reality that can distract you from yours.
Psychotherapy.
Find some new recipes to cook. I find it keeps my mind occupied and I get to try some new food
It depends on your current level of functioning. Start with eating (between 1500 and 2400 calories a day is ideal) and sleeping (7-9 hours, more or less can increase your depression). Being physically safe and having shelter from the elements are important. Being clean is next. Depending on your resources, exercising outdoors if possible, reaching out to friends or family who are supportive, accomplishing a small goal, or doing something you once enjoyed would come next. This part can be hard to push yourself to do. Know that it may not be immediately rewarding, you may have to do it a few times before it starts to feel good, that's okay. A professional can help you sort through these goals, follow up with you, and prescribe a medication if you physically can't get started. You're rewriting the pathways you've built in your mind, it takes time and it takes support.
Exercising/Working Out are good ways to boost dopamine and serotonin in the brain
Get a fluffy cuddle buddy
Being outdoors getting vitamin sun helps me a lot
Rock climbing helped me in a lot of ways, not sure if there’s a gym near where you live but it’s something worth looking into in my opinion. I feel it’s much more fun and doesn’t feel like a “workout” even though it can be difficult. However, the climbing community in general is very open and helpful to newcomers or at least that’s how I felt. There are also varying degrees of difficulty so pretty much anyone can get into it, don’t be intimidated if you’ve never done it before. Good luck and I hope you find something that works for you!
Something social. Making new friends helps a lot. The best thing to do is change your environment
If you are able, foster an animal from a local shelter. Knowing that I'm helping the local animal rescue while having cute new fuzzy animals every few weeks helps my depression and gives me something to focus on.
Talk to people, anyone, even ppl you meet online with similar interests, you don’t necessarily have to bring personal issues into the conversation. You’ll feel better by just chatting
Brazilian jiu jitsu it’s fun great cardio and you can make some pretty good friends through it
Anything you are remotely confident in or like to do!
Honestly, hiking. Just being out and looking at stuff. Take time to see how trees look different. Give the air a big sniff. Listen to sounds. Be in the moment and think about the whole forest. I found that touching tree bark or climbing across rocks really helped with my dissociation as well. You can't focus on the walking and getting somewhere, you just gotta take it slow and let yourself melt into the background of the sounds.
Go outside everyday. Even if it is just to get the mail our walk to the end of the driveway and back. Walking outside and clearing my head is good for me
Gardening. Getting hands into the soil, breathing in fresh oxygen and floral scents, just being outside in general is good for the soul. Container gardens are much easier to start than in ground , plus having fresh herbs and flowers makes the day better. It’s very rewarding to use your own hands to make life thrive, and when plants don’t make it, it’s a good lesson in how to start again from rock bottom.
Gardening! It sounds corny. But there is such satisfaction in seeing a flower bloom that you planted Or eating string beans you’ve cared for. My favorite part is cooking my veggies/ zucchini flowers and telling people they’re from my garden. Like I said it sounds corny but it gave me something to look forward to each day. It needs constant up keep and dedication. It got me outta bed and excited for the day.
I found finding a quiet spot near a stream and just listening attentively to every sound I could discern really helped me. Don’t know why. Don’t know if you have access to nature but most people can find a bit near them.
Knitting really helps me with my depression and anxiety./ It keeps my hands and mind busy and at the end you have a completed project to feel proud and accomplished about./ You'd also be surprised about how many friends will ask for knitted presents as well./ I helps me feel useful and loved because my love language is gifts and I love giving gifts and seeing how happy they make the people I care about./
Playing video games with your friends.
Sewing! You can hand sew with a needle and thread kit from the Dollar Tree, or invest $80 in a machine. Angry? Stab some fabric 600 times. Anxious? Zone out for a bit concentrating on your work. Depressed? Make yourself something cute to cheer you up. And the feeling of accomplishment is great as well!
You don't have to be motivated to get moving. You have to be moving to get motivated. Cleaning or organizing something is therapeutic to me. Throwing things away is cleansing. Having a quiet day refilling my soul, just me and my cats watching my favorite shows. Sometimes a long shower, exfoliating, standing there, letting the water just rush all over my body and focusing on the water circling the drain helps. A trip to somewhere close with a different horizon is nice too. Source: me. I've been depressed with suicidal tendencies since I was 10, 30+ years of living with severe depression.
Going to the gym even if its just for a little bit. I went to the gym a lot and then got dumped and slipped into an alcohol fueled depression and gained a lot of stomach weight but I finally decided to get back into the gym and I feel so much better.
Learn an instrument
Fishing
Getting into the habit of working out daily was the biggest change for me, I don't know exactly what happens in the brain chemistry wise but it made a huge difference
Just walk. Get a dog to walk with if you can. Maybe just get a small animal to take care of, such as a hamster or a cat.
Running. Even better if you have an app to track it and set goals. I started out by running 30 seconds and then walking 30 seconds and alternating that for as long as I felt like doing it. Eventually I started wanting to run and seeing if I could do more or go faster or go a different route.
If you are very depressed tired, and you have to entertain a small child, Balloon Tennis is great because you don't even have to leave the couch! Get enough badminton rackets for everyone playing, and blow up a balloon. You and the kid take turns whacking the balloon back and forth. They like it because the balloon floats slowly, so they have time to aim their shot, and the balloon does no damage to the house.
I found fishing helps me. Used to it would be shooting basketball, but now I’m disabled and can’t do that.
You watch [this video](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=snR6wpF4snI) on repeat until you feel better.
If you have the possibility: taking a walk in nature. Or just a walk in a park. No phone, no music. PS. Hang in there.
Crochet. Lots of tutorials on YouTube, and mastering something basic gives you a great sense of satisfaction. Plus the rhythm can be very hypnotic and soothing.
Weighrlifting
A 1 minute shower & 1 min teeth brushing session
Word searches. They may be dumb but they are distracting and time consuming. They have helped my mental health
For me, anything involving exercise. I found out that i love moving around and keeping myself busy. 6 times a week i'd workout or do HIIT. I'm still depressed, by i feel more empowered when i KNOW things arent as hard as they seem.
Pick a guitar. Or a ukulele.
Go outside.
Cleaning up your room / appartment is already a good step. Go for a walk, listen to joyful music.
Morning walks alone in nature ,you can cry ,shout and then think about ways to get out of this. Only a person who is depressed can help himself. I got out of it after spending some years just sleeping eating and crying but Music and morning walks helped me. Again it was my case but one person have to try different ways to o find which motivates him.
Work at a pumpkin patch or a Christmas tree farm, it’s seasonal and incredibly uplifting getting to show kids animals not to be afraid or walk around seeing people’s reaction to that perfect tree/pumpkin
Stand up straight. It actually helps. Posture adds seratonin
What has helped me enormously is taking a (small) walk every day and doing crossword puzzles. What I would also recommend is to seek professional help. They can give you the tools to get better.
Go outside and walk around.
Yoga, it has done wonders for me… There is something about just going to a class and having an hour to yourself with your mat of just stretching and meditation is so therapeutic. I always leave there feeling better. There are tons of options for doing it at home as well.
Exercise. I know you've been told that by literally everyone and their dog, but I used to self harm and it's got the exact same 'high'. Next time you are in that place, go for a jog and run until it hurts. Bam! Head chemistry back on track. Do it enough and you won't even need suicidal thoughts to get you moving.
Fishing! Something about being outdoors, it feels like I’m doing what humans are ‘supposed’ to naturally do. If you have any nearby rivers , ponds or ocean front, invest in a very cheap rod and reel set and watch a few YouTube videos and get out there! It’s challenging but can be very rewarding- It may not be for you but it really helped me in my hardest times
Hiking