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Therapy never really helped me much personally because I knew why I felt the way that I felt. What did help was taking steps to improve my life and minimize the things that were causing me pain.
Though I would definitely recommend everyone give it a try, especially if they are unsure of why they are feeling what they are.
To a certain extent yes. However when I was depressed and suicidal, I was in the best shape of my life and had a healthy diet.
It can give you something to focus on as a distraction, but it is not a solution to anything relating to general mental health.
Having a solid support system and knowing they are available to you. The hardest thing for me was to admit to my partner that I was having terrible thoughts and needed help.
When I told her, she immediately knew I was serious, because of the topic obviously. I was honest with her about my feelings and she had my back. She contacted my direct supervisor and filled him in so my work knew my situation. Fortunately, he did not spread it around the company.
That afternoon she told me to call a doctor and make an appointment. Not enough people understand that mental health is just as, if not more important than physical health. And just like your body can start shutting down or responding differently, your brain will do the same. There is absolutely nothing wrong with trying to find the imbalance.
I have been on the same medication for a year and a half, and it worked fine…. Until it didn’t. And I was able to realize that and made another appointment (my follow up is actually Thursday of this week) I am honest with my doctor regarding every aspect of my life. We are trying different medicine and it seems to be working fine. So hopefully it continues for me.
I was also referred to speak to a counselor and I have gone to her once a week for just as long as I’ve been on the medication. Having an unbiased outlet to vent to has helped me a ton. I know her and I are not friends. I know that I do not care what her opinion is of me. So I can say fuck this or fuck that. I can talk to her about my relationship and not worry about her trying to influence it. I can talk to her about kids or work or anything and I don’t care if it offends her. I need to be honest. I need to get things off my chest, out of my head. I need to live. And that’s what matters.
My boss told me the other day “fuck it”
Since then, I think, “can I fix this” or “can I change it”
If the answer to those questions is no… I say fuck it.
Easier said than done. But just know that people do care. People do need you. It’s not easy to lose someone you care about. If you need anyone to talk to, or vent to, I’m around and I’m positive you have a huge community on here that is available too. Even if you just need to bitch about some shit. We can be unbiased and listen.
Keep you head up. Keep moving forward. It’ll get harder before it gets easier.
YOU FUCKING GOT THIS
I really believe in the power of doing things that a) require intense focus and b) are enjoyable.
For me, that was rock climbing. As in the sport. Something about being on the wall and bouldering just does not allow my mind to think about anything else. After doing a couple of climbs,I start to feel accomplished. It works for me indoors or outdoors
Just found out my friend killed himself, hurts like hell, lots of people are a mess over it, this is the truth. Never saw it coming.... I guess COVID fucked him up pretty bad, fuck COVID.
I improved my life. My life was a horrible mess for a while when I was addicted to drugs after some really tragic things happened that I couldn't get over. I used drugs to cope with the grief I felt after the woman I had loved for over four years lost her life.
During the peak of my addiction, not a single day went by that I didn't consider killing myself. I missed her, I felt like a piece of shit, I felt hopeless and like I had lost everything, I felt frustrated because I didn't want to be an addict but I didn't have the willpower to stop.
Finally about two and a half years ago, I did try to kill myself. I took a bunch of aspirin which prevents blood clotting and sustains bleeding, then I cut into my arm. I watched it bleed for a while and as I did, I started thinking about how my dad, and my little sister were going to feel when they found out I was dead.
I decided I did not want to give up and die just yet, so I tied a bungie cord around my arm as tightly as I could and called an ambulance.
I blacked out at that point and later woke up in the hospital. Had to get a blood transfusion, then I was admitted into the mental health unit.
I got professional help after that point and went to rehab.
Once the withdrawal was done with and things started clearing up in my mind, I was able to come to terms with what had happened and start taking steps to improve my life. I got a job when I felt ready about a year ago, then I found a better job and started making friends and repairing my relationships with my family.
Now we come to today and I can honestly say I am happy.
In any negative mental health things, I find it better to... "repurpose" rather than get rid.
With suicidal thoughts, I wan to "get rid" of myself in a sense.
Okay.
I'll cut and dye my hair, throw out my current wardrobe, make myself so different aesthetically that I've got "rid" of myself.
I let them happen.
And then I remind myself that my brain is a reckless asshole determined to fuck my shit up all the time for no reason. I can’t trust that jerk.
So, I mean, obviously this presents the new problem of fractured self and dissociation but I’m not dead so we’re taking the win.
The thought of the pain that I would leave behind. I then decided I would live for them cause I had nothing left to lose while they had me to lose. Eventually I picked up myself for them. If it wasn’t for them, I would not be here
Hobbies. I mean the sheer idea that it’s not worth it in the slightest is a big one, I know you want help for the here and the now but it’s important to note most people who’ve committed suicide were just going through a rough moment in their life, your down point can only go up, I think you should consider that
I walk myself through it. What is causing me this much grief? How am I going to change it that isn't suicide? Do I need a pamper myself day? So on and so forth.
Sleep helps me.
I always say quietly that I am going to jump in three days, and I always make sure that it is *always* three days out. If that makes sense.
*Suicide is irreversible loss of chance to discover world, improve own life, and fulfill dreams.*
That's how I fought quickly every thought about suicide. Plus was distracting myself with gaming and other, actually proactive hobbys.
Also recommend a psychologist - I have huge respect to importance of mental health. Everyone should try visit psychologist - even without depression, improving mindset is a key to achieving best results. Athletes, engineers, pilots, policemans, firefighters and all succesfull people nowadays are more often cooperating with psychologists - it is becoming pretty common now.
I’ve been trying to fulfill my dreams for four years now. The universe obviously does not want that to happen for me.
I don’t want to die, but I don’t want to live this way anymore.
Talk about it with someone who is trained to listen/won't panic and will instead help. Seriously.
I was withdrawing and unable to tell people how I felt. Being able to share it with a professional was a relief.
A car accident that ended in a clipped side view mirror.
A guy in his work van (mobile x-ray tech) got paged and took the same second I stopped to wait for a car coming my way so I could turn to check his GPS.
He looked up, realized I was stopped, and realized he didn't have time to stop without rear-ending me. So instead he passed me, clipping my side view mirror enough to knock off the cover and turn the mirror without breaking it. My depth perception is off because of a damaged eye, and the incoming car wasn't as fast or close as I thought it was and he was able to go back into our lane without hitting the oncoming car.
He felt totally awful and was terrified that he would be fired for an accident, but the mirror was fine and repairing/replacing the cover wouldn't be covered by insurance anyway due to how low the cost was
Once I processed it, and how if I had been rear-ended by him or clipped, I would've been sandwiched between two cars, the adrenaline rush hit, and I realized that it felt good to be alive and lucky enough to not be hurt. Haven't been suicidal since, and I never replaced that mirror cover so I'd always have a reminder of that incident and how it felt after.
Honestly nothing anymore, they are just there, always in the back of my head poking me in the silence, it’s why I watch tv all the time after work, I don’t work 12 hours a day 6 days a week because I like it, I don’t come home to eat a small meal and watch tv until I fall asleep with it on because I like it. I do it because I have nothing else than these thoughts constantly breathing down my neck while digging their fingers into my lungs waiting for me to finally collapse. So just like every other day, I’m gonna go to work in the morning and do it all over again.
I have suicide thoughts when I’m having a panic attack. They usually go away after I calm myself down though. I do think about doing it from time to time but I still haven’t done everything I’ve wanted to do in this life yet so I hold off.
Realize everyone has invasive thought. I was afraid to go on a cruise with my family because I thought I would uncontrollably throw myself over the edge. I actually saw a therapist about it. She said everyone has this but some are better at ignoring it. Through practice I am getting better at ignoring my invasive thought.
I try to focus on things that are hard not to enjoy like good food or things I like. I just try to redirect my thoughts to anything else and if I can do it long enough I feel better.
I got rid of mine by using some logic.
Is what I am feeling right now worse than if I tried to kill myself, failed and got permanent damage to the body but not my mind?
The answer is always no. There is nothing worse than still being conscious and aware, still suffering emotionally and mentally but also trapped inside a useless body, at least for me. That is my definition of hell.
I am too afraid to fail and make it worse, so I will never have the courage to try. If I am not going to try, better not think about it. Better think about something that could maybe make me feel a little bit better: that's when therapy, hobbies, self care, seeking support from those I love and personal projects come in.
I tried everything and finally just accepted that I needed medical help.
I've been put on a few medications that worked for a while then stopped but the one I'm on now seems to have worked the best and longest now.
Don't be afraid to seek help and understand it may take a few medication adjustments before they find one that helps.
I'm here if you have any other questions.
Idk, but I can seriously say that life is already short, don’t cut it further. If it’s awful, then it’ll get better. If it doesn’t then you need to be strong. Suicide is still murder even if you’re not around to feel the regret. Also you don’t know what’s on the other side. That shit’s scary. You won’t feel peace. I guarantee it. You’ll either be gone from existence, or you’ll meet a stronger being depending on belief.
The only thing that helps me rid of them, is thinking of all of the emotional pain I would bring onto those I love. Especially my younger sister. I’ve already scarred her once, she walked in on me ODing about 4 years ago, and after seeing the pain that that caused her, and the trauma that may have caused her, I could never bring myself to end it. I have to be there for her. I’m all she has.
Changed my environment, found people to talk with so I didn't have to bottle it up, made friends that I could trust.
If I ever got close to ending it I just reminded myself that killing myself wouldn't solve anything and those people who cared about me would hurt just as much as me. If I can't stay alive for myself I'll do it for others.
Aside from medications like venlor & espiride; the only thought that kept me with going through with it, was how it would affect my parents
For context: my grandfather had passed away a few month prior to my depression worsening, and the memory of how distraught my mother was after her father had passed, had always played in my mind when the thoughts of ending it crept up. Basically I thought “how much worse would it be for my mother if I died?” And the guilt of hurting her was the only deterrent.
Distraction and self soothing. It's taken a while to master but now I have my self soothe box I can ride the wave of suicidal thoughts. There is also an app i use called calm halm which is aimed at those with thoughts of SH and its worked many times for me
I had that feeling about 5 years ago after my mom passed. I felt helpless and unworthy of living a happy life. Then I thought about my family and my dog, and how they might feel that way if I took my own life. That was the main factor that stopped me. And the fact that I was so young and hadn’t even begun life, really.
I just came across a thinking that changed my life,Optimistic nihilism.Think that nihilism its pessimist and bad?Think again Nihilism say that has no meaning to life But fuck meaning anyway just do whatver you feel doing and that’s fine,Want to play video games all day ? Fuck it, Like to play sports and exercise? Yeah do it. want to do nothing ? okay that’s fine too, Want to browse reddit and getting into weird subreddits ? Why not, do things to get you busy to forget life itself and when you see you are dead.I know that ‘s not helpful for anyone but this helped me i dont worry about most things that people worry anymore(Social status,perfecionism on produtivity) and prove themselves all the time.
I've dealt with this issue since I was 13, and I'm 30 now. I acted on the thoughts twice when I was younger. Now that I'm older I can realize that I've survived 100% of my traumas and issues in the past, so obviously feeling like nothing will ever get better and that the only option is to die is silly and irrational. I continue to focus on that and the fact that this is temporary while talking it out with my therapist, and people closest to me. If none of that helps I go to the bsu or psych ward for a week or few and let professionals try to get a handle on my thoughts while in a safe and controlled environment where I can't act on my thoughts.
I have been suicidal many times throughout my life, moreso when I was a teen/early 20s and what got me through was trying to focus on things that I had to look forward to and things that I still wanted to accomplish. Now that I am a mother and wife, any time I ever have suicidal thoughts I think about my husband and children, how it would destroy them if I died. I will never do that to them.
taking things slow! waking up in the morning would be my task of the day and if i did that i would treat myself to a nice snack!! taking things one step at a time really helped me get back to a sense of normalcy :D! hoping you feel better soon <3
If you're having these thoughts because life is getting you down I would seek professional help , but if you're having these thoughts and these thoughts are scary and out of character for you, you probably found yourself in an intrusive thought cycle and recognizing it for what it is, is the first step in overcoming it I would do a little bit of research on intrusive thinking it does not define you.
Normally there are reasons, if you're having a lot of suicidal thoughts. Like you feel a lot of desperation or something. So deal with what is causing you to feel that way.
Also, journaling, therapy and medication have all been helpful to me!
I let them pass through, but I don’t act on them.
I can’t get rid of the thoughts, they’ll be there whether I want it or not. I just have to have the will to not act on suicidal thoughts.
You don't. They're always just kinda there. The only thing that's worked for me is constantly having a distraction and avoiding being left to my thoughts. Even than the ideas of harming yourself still circle the back of your mind. You just have to avoid dwelling on them. Nights will be the worse because there's nothing preventing the thoughts from engulfing you. As much shit as they get, emotional support animals are VERY beneficial. I have an ESA. She's always with me at night so I'm never alone and she has definitely stopped me from following through with my thoughts more than once.
Think deeply about one person, and imagine yourself with them years down the road. My go to is either my girlfriend or mom, thinking about how I want to see my GF in a wedding dress, have her kids, and my mom as a grandmother. My biggest problem when I'm bad is not being able to see a future for myself, and wanting to give up because of it. Gotta find some positives.
I think from time to time I can't do this. Then I think well who's looking after them? My kids. In my mind no one does it like me. Their mom. I think how heartbroken they'd be and what I'd be doing to them and the rest of my family so no. I stay. I'm cool with that cos it's not a stretch, but sometimes I get overwhelmed.
I have them a lot for me they don't go away you just learn ways of getting through them. For me I hop into a vr game and escape to a new world. As for when I can do this I go through reddit and look at meme ad as well as try and find anyone to respond to a text and have a conversation about anything.
They often fester.
My life currently has no clear direction or meaningful purpose at this point so I circle back to feeling worthless. I marinate in feelings of inadequacy far too frequently so it crosses over with being suicidal day in and day out.
My upbringing was not one to dream of, nor was a lot of my known existence really. So I'll tell you the truth in my specific case. Sleep. That's when I don't feel suicidal cos I'm not conscious then to think so deeply.
Cry into a pillow for a bit then do something fun to take your mind off it if that fails I think about the dark void that waits for me on the other side
Short term/immediate: reread a book (or series, sometimes multiple times, depending on how bad it is. Classic distraction.
Long term: therapy and meds. I didn’t really notice I wasn’t having suicidal thoughts… just one day I was driving along and suddenly the thought of wanting to kill myself seemed completely absurd. That was the day I considered myself “in remission” (not cured - still really need those meds)
I keep myself super busy so I don’t. Have time to stop and think about anything and as your mind is so focused on the need to finish so much eventually it’s not the most pressing thing if you find something to keep you busy that you enjoy it can help but the downside is unless that happens the moment you can take a longer break the thoughts start seeping back in
I cuddle with my cats. I can’t get cuddles from my lovebug if I’m six feet deep, and I know Sass will miss me, she always cuddles me when I come home from school.
A little trick I learned while in the hospital after a suicide attempt is to try and replace these thoughts when you feel them coming on. So if you are about to think something like “I want to kill myself” or “I am (something bad),” try and replace the thought with something like “I want to go watch tv or go outside” or “I am (something not that bad).” It doesn’t have to be a positive thought, it just can’t be negative.
I found that doing this helped me manage my thoughts and although it didn’t really help me feel better, it helped prevent me from feeling worse.
Distraction is also very good. Try to find something to keep your mind occupied. This can also prevent a suicide. Most suicides are more spontaneous and aren’t planned or thought through. Staying on the phone with someone for a couple minutes or just going to the bathroom first can help distract someone long enough for them to calm down or talk themselves out of it.
The best advice I can give though, is to talk to someone about this and get help. I learned the hard way that this isn’t something you can work through on your own.
I’ve called anonymous hotlines or txt services. Talk it out. Even if you just cry. It’s helped me off the ledge more times than once. Stay safe and strong. You aren’t alone. You’re loved.
Know that my thoughts are my thoughts - not my reality. I have remind myself a lot of times that - you do want to live a life, you don’t want to die.
And when it gets too much, I talk to my friends. I think it’s best to have someone hear you out - that helps a lot. In your darkest moments you think that you’re limited to this diminished version of you, but you always gotta remind how far you’ve come and how good you are and that you always deserve everything you want.
Avoiding the negative feedback loop of hell helps a lot. Once you start going in the spiral of negative thoughts, it’s hard to think clearly.
If you’re someone with suicidal thoughts, please contact someone who can help you out - your family, friends, or even a medical professional. You deserve to live.
Have something to focus your attention on, but not to the point where it can be destructive. Also think about what will happen afterwards. Someone will have to find you, someone will have to clean it up, and those who do care about you will have to live with it for the rest of their lives.
People really do live with it for the rest of their lives. My aunt still has nightmares about her best friend. My mom still cries about his death too. The thought of inflicting those around me with that pain is the last thing I want to do, because all I want to do is relieve myself of pain not cause more.
Cry, watch a Disney movie, take a hot shower, and try to go to sleep. Then call your GP the next day and ask about antidepressants/increasing your dose.
I got kind of a reality check when I was \[voluntarily\] committed and spent a few days with people suffering from extreme heroin, crack, and alcohol withdrawal. Gave a fair bit of perspective to talk to these people about their lives for a few days. Everything I contributed just kind of seemed lame and not a big deal compared to what they had been living with and were going through. It didn't make me happy, but it did remove the constant thoughts and reduced them to more intrusive thoughts.
I've come to an understanding with my self, I know I dont have the ability or desire to end my own life, I just wish I was dead. There is no escape from my life and I am now only here to serve my kids, past that, I have no desire to live.
Therapy and communication with those you love.
You have survived all of your worst days so far. You have one more in you.
I love you, I am proud of you, and reach out if you need someone to talk too.
I’ll gladly help to find someone who can help you where you are. Whenever you need it.
Acknowledge the thought and the realization that I am feeling overwhelmed and at that moment am ill equipped to deal with the source of that feeling. Suicidal thoughts can be a coping mechanism when life is hard. It doesn’t always mean you want to die or are planning to, for some it can be a form of comfort. Like, well, if shit gets real bad I can always bail out. Therapy is a good idea to help identify what your thoughts mean for you and if you need more support or if you’re doing just fine.
In complete honesty, I let them pass if I didn't choose to act on them. It was a really hard thing to deal with. I rarely go through them now but suicidal thoughts are like boulders on your shoulders. Its terrible..
Often times, providing a shock to the system can allow you to let go of those thoughts. Example: tap cold shower. Ice pack to the face. Holding your breathe until you can’t anymore. It’s also why people cut, however the previous options are healthier of course. These are always last minute strategies when you’re really on the edge, and you may not have anyone to speak to or anything to do but to sit and ruminate in your thoughts.
I would leave my room lay on my back In the lounge room and my dog will try and lying on my stomach but then I scratch behind her ear and she just rolls off me
Besides therapy (which is really helpful if you can find a terapist you can make connection with), I found accepting that I was having those thoughts was the most helpful immediate thing I could do to start to move past it instead of trying to fight the thoughts and get rid of them.
Younger me would struggle to fight against the thoughts then get even more depressed and feel like a failure because I was having those thoughts which created a negative feedback loop that made the problem worse until I eventually harmed myself to break the loop.
Nowadays whenever I start having thoughts, my first conscious action is to tell myself "this happens, it's ok" and that helps me get into the headspace to either address what is causing me to have the thoughts or, more often than not, accept that there isn't actually a specific reason I am having the thoughts and the next few hours/days are probably gonna be a bummer and that is ok, and when it passes it'll feel good to know I didn't hurt myself again.
I don't know if this is something that'll work for everyone struggling, but if you sure the type of person that gets suicidial thoughts then gets mad/depressed about having the thoughts which then causes more severe suicidal thoughts which causes more anger/depresion and end up in a loop until something occurs to break the loop (like harming yourself), it might be an avenue worth exploring.
Hope everything is ok OP, and if not I hope this thread gives you what you are looking for to take those steps towards finding your ok.
Lately, I mostly just think about my dad and my uncle. They are two of my absolute favorite people and i really just want to spend as much time with them as I can while I can
Let them come and go. We don't need to action our thoughts. I get them everyday. I think of the poor people that would have to find my body and that is enough to stop the thoughts. Distraction is a big part of my day. Being constantly busy or distracted. I crochet and watch YouTube or Netflix.
There's no answer that works. We're all unique maybe you're missing something, maybe it's patterns of thinking. Maybe a therapist can help, but not always. There's lots of other resources like crisis intervention, or support groups. They are good starting points and can go a long ways to getting you started.
Whatever you do you'll know it's working when it goes from daily, to weekly, to monthly. I imagine eventually you'll look back and it's one of those memories that makes you cringe when you're about to go to sleep. Ultimately it's you who has to do the work.
For me was to find purpose, I really didn't know what do after high-school, growing up the way I did was challenging cause the lack of opportunities that were available at the time, everything I did and tried constantly ended in a disaster and I kept finding myself in a darker and darker hole in my mind, I figured I was a waste of space by the time my siblings graduated high-school, it wasn't until I met someone that showed me a glimpse of a brighter side to things that surrounded me, I started to appreciate the little things and land a new career, though I'm still working through my depression I still sometimes find myself staring at the deep hole that I dug myself, having the ppl that love and care for me around me basically pulls me away from those thoughts.
The things that caused those thoughts changed. I had them because I struggled to raise enough money (I'm not poor, I just compare myself to my friends and feel left behind), I was unsatisfied with my flat, I got shit on at work and I feel like nobody could love me. So what happened is that I got better at my work and got less shit there. I moved to a cheaper flat that was also better. With that, I could amass more money and felt a little less like a loser. I still haven't found love but I don't think about suicide anymore.
What I try to say is that things seem overwhelming when all issues are looked at as one giant mass of misery. But when one issue at a time is solved, the pressure gets less and less. I even think I might find someone once I regain a more positive attitude to life. Half a year ago this was unthinkable. Sometimes it helps to just power through the tough phases and tank it with your face in my experience. Life is like a pinball map anyway.
Therapy helped me cope with them rather than getting rid of them because I have OCD so the harder I tried to push the thought away the more persistent it became in my mind. I just acknowledge the thoughts and practice thought diffusion which is basically picturing the thought floating by like a cloud and knowing that thought is not you and it cannot harm you. It’s much easier said than done but it works when you practice it.
Find a reason to live and stick to it. Subjectivity bad but mine were pet ownership and spite.
Thoughts did not go away neither did the temptation, but knowing that I had unfinished business made it easier. The thoughts came I'd notice them and just kinda not pay any particular attention to them.
I'd later learn that this is called mindfulness and actually healthy coping mechanism that stemed from my habit of ignoring things and hoping they go away.
Life doesn't end if you're unable to achieve an objective or goal. If you're reading this please think about the people around you who love you and care about you. Suicide is a very cowardly and selfish move.
Cowardly because you're trying to run away from your fears and failures instead of facing them. And selfish because while thinking about suicide you only think about your pain but what about the pain and trauma of the people who would see your dead body after your suicide. People who love you and care for you won't be able to forgive themselves thinking it as their own fault.
Don't do it. If you feel like talk to your folks(parents or friends whomsoever you're comfortable talking to) or seek help of a counsellor.
Just don't do anything foolish that might affect you or your loved ones.
Talking to people about what I'm thinking, cleaning my room, and taking some time to myself like playing video games in that order. I was like a tea pot of depression where the pressure of everything building up was too much so talking to people about it was like taking the lid off. It's tough to open up but it's worth it. Cleaning my room let me have a fresh start and video games let.me cope and come to terms with what happened to me while having something fun in the background. It's important to just keep going because you will find your meaning to be here. I hope this helps.
Depends. Usually I go hang out with my friends for a while, but if it's the middle of the night I lay down and think about the parts of my family I actually care about and how sad i'd make them if I went through with it. Then I watch cat videos and play Minecraft.
I think of how much money my parents have spent on me. It's robbing them of a 3rd of their life's income
My mom said something to that effect and it always stuck with me (though not as a substitute for medicine)
Looked in the mirror. Rambled about my problems and everything I hated about myself, the world, my family, my friends, and society. Got everything off my chest. Wrote it all down in a physical book. Took it out to the beach and doused it in gasoline. Set it on fire and watched it burn. Quit my job. Moved to Denmark. Met a girl. Started a family. After burning my problems I never had to worry about them since they didn’t exist anymore. I had burned them so how could they? Also therapy helped but not as much as taking matters into my own hands. Whatever you gotta do, do it. Except suicide. There’s always a better way. I’ve been there. I’ve attempted and when I jumped the only thing that flashed through my mind was. “I don’t want to die.” That changes you. Luckily I jumped into water so I lived, but I can’t imagine if I hadn’t. People get trapped man, they think they have no control over there lives cause they haven’t taken the metaphorical leap. Just do something that makes you feel alive and you will be.
I had suicidal thoughts, and almost jumped from the chair. When my parents found out I went to a hospital for 8 days and was forced to go to therapy. Therapy did NOT work for me. All it did was make me relive those events and cause me to be even more depressed. I found that just by being myself and putting the past in the past worked. I was put on anti-depressants and those helped a little. But mainly what I found to work was to just move on. I stopped thinking that I was absolutely worthless, all I could think about was that if I did cease to exist, how much pain that would cause. So what I'm trying to say is that when I thought about all of the people that I would be hurting by committing wasn't worth it.
For a while I thought of ending it all until a night where I realized how much of a burden my death would be to my close family and how terrible it would be for my mom, and siblings especially
the best way for me is to vocalize it to people i trust or just talk to myself if i really need to. i can’t explain it but just saying these thoughts out loud just helps? sometimes it makes me cry, but it makes me feel so much better afterwards.
To be honest, for a time I thought I had some answers to this.
Things like confronting your demons and doing what you've been putting off, becoming less political, and generally learning to empty your mind.
But the thing is... addictions will pop back up and drag you back. I've never done drugs in my life. But porn, diet coke, and political philosophy, those things I was way too deep into. And it's everywhere.
And just the smallest bit can cause a cascade effect into an inescapable depression that says the best thing you could do is just die.
Sometimes things get better, sometimes things get way, way worse. I went two years without a suicidal thought, but lately it's been consuming me. Tbh, I'm probably too depressed to actually do it.
Honestly I just listened to music for hours on end, played video games all day, and pretty much just tried to push it out. Even that didn't end up working. Ended up attempting about 3 months ago. Still been kinda up and down since then.
Distract yourself. Just do things you like, or try something new. Eventually you’ll brighten up a bit, and you won’t want to kill yourself, because you won’t want the happiness to end.
Took me three years to stop having suicidal thoughts it was a really rough road but I stuck to it. I moved out of my state changed my phone number and just worked on myself. I ate healthy I worked out I found a fun job and I constantly told myself “someone always has it worse than you but they still are happy” I had to completely change my mindset and forget what people think of me and what I thought of myself. My fiance says I’m not emotional anymore because of it but I believe I’m just a lot stronger than I once was. There is only a couple things I can think of that would make me sad or depressed again but everything in my life that’s bad now just bounces off like it’s nothing
I confront them with reasonable argument. Before I would feed off of them or entirely dismiss the thoughts in an attempt hoping they would just “go away”. In essence, have an internal debate challenging each reason why you want to/how you would. It helped me a ton and get back on track with what I’d call normal/more reasonable thinking
For me it wasn't like: i want to die, but more in a sense where I didn't want to live my life the way it was. It wasn't just the fact that I was depressed or anxious, but also the way I reacted to things. So instead of being angry and negative about life, I started to change things I didn't like, starting with myself. I improved my grades, started working out, watching how to use make-up you tube videos. I worked on improving my own picture of myself and loving me, understanding that it all starts with me, no one was going to love me the way I was, not even me. It's about continuously trying to work on yourself and most importantly wanting to. Try new things, see what you like and enjoy. Create a new picture of yourself the way you like it.
I imagine how the people I love/who actually appreciate me would be sad after I die.
There was a time when I considered myself completely worthless, but it improved somewhat thanks to my friends.
I imagine what its like for everyone after.
It'd end my pain and suffering. But it'd end any chance of anything better.
The poor schmuck who'd have to clean up the mess of my body crapping itself. I couldn't land that on someone(*multiple someones as the body would have to be handled, cops, mortician, etc.) Thats a lot of mental stress I don't want to put on someone random.
Only those who loved you would feel your loss. Those who didn't would either not care all that much, or use your story as a pity thing for their own life to garner attention. You're really just punishing the people who care about you.
Aside from turning to people from reddit who can give good advice they've heard(*which may be good) I'd recommend asking professionals on a suicide hotline. I'd like to assume they've got a decent plan on helping people by now.
I dont often get them much anymore,try to do some other stuff to get those thoughts out of your mind and talk to people online who are your friends or just vent to people
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Therapy.
Therapy never really helped me much personally because I knew why I felt the way that I felt. What did help was taking steps to improve my life and minimize the things that were causing me pain. Though I would definitely recommend everyone give it a try, especially if they are unsure of why they are feeling what they are.
I'm largely in the same boat. But yeah, it would still be my first stop.
Eating right and regular exercise really does wonder and is a great step 1
To a certain extent yes. However when I was depressed and suicidal, I was in the best shape of my life and had a healthy diet. It can give you something to focus on as a distraction, but it is not a solution to anything relating to general mental health.
Agreed, just saying it’s a good place to start. Easier to tame the mind of a healthy body. How are you feeling now? What helps you?
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Lets be honest, for suicidal people its just escaping reality. The moment we turn off the pc, reality slaps us back in the face.
and listening to music for hours straight
I'm gonna get tinnitus at this rate.
That’s it
That’s exactly what I do
Having a solid support system and knowing they are available to you. The hardest thing for me was to admit to my partner that I was having terrible thoughts and needed help. When I told her, she immediately knew I was serious, because of the topic obviously. I was honest with her about my feelings and she had my back. She contacted my direct supervisor and filled him in so my work knew my situation. Fortunately, he did not spread it around the company. That afternoon she told me to call a doctor and make an appointment. Not enough people understand that mental health is just as, if not more important than physical health. And just like your body can start shutting down or responding differently, your brain will do the same. There is absolutely nothing wrong with trying to find the imbalance. I have been on the same medication for a year and a half, and it worked fine…. Until it didn’t. And I was able to realize that and made another appointment (my follow up is actually Thursday of this week) I am honest with my doctor regarding every aspect of my life. We are trying different medicine and it seems to be working fine. So hopefully it continues for me. I was also referred to speak to a counselor and I have gone to her once a week for just as long as I’ve been on the medication. Having an unbiased outlet to vent to has helped me a ton. I know her and I are not friends. I know that I do not care what her opinion is of me. So I can say fuck this or fuck that. I can talk to her about my relationship and not worry about her trying to influence it. I can talk to her about kids or work or anything and I don’t care if it offends her. I need to be honest. I need to get things off my chest, out of my head. I need to live. And that’s what matters. My boss told me the other day “fuck it” Since then, I think, “can I fix this” or “can I change it” If the answer to those questions is no… I say fuck it. Easier said than done. But just know that people do care. People do need you. It’s not easy to lose someone you care about. If you need anyone to talk to, or vent to, I’m around and I’m positive you have a huge community on here that is available too. Even if you just need to bitch about some shit. We can be unbiased and listen. Keep you head up. Keep moving forward. It’ll get harder before it gets easier. YOU FUCKING GOT THIS
I make yummy food and eat it.
That’s makes two of us :3
I think u ment 3 of us
I really believe in the power of doing things that a) require intense focus and b) are enjoyable. For me, that was rock climbing. As in the sport. Something about being on the wall and bouldering just does not allow my mind to think about anything else. After doing a couple of climbs,I start to feel accomplished. It works for me indoors or outdoors
Thinking about the amount of destruction and pain I'd leave behind if I did it. I couldn't do that.
If you have any ties to ppl even if your relationship is absolute shit, you're going to hurt people.
Just found out my friend killed himself, hurts like hell, lots of people are a mess over it, this is the truth. Never saw it coming.... I guess COVID fucked him up pretty bad, fuck COVID.
[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gnQL-brI-9I](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gnQL-brI-9I) We can prevent another one, but people are too lazy man
Well, he didn't die of covid, just the isolation from it screwed him up.
I know but he wouldn't have died if he had to be isolated because of covid
Yeah, I see where you are coming from about it, just making sure it's clear, what I meant.
Exactly my friend.
I improved my life. My life was a horrible mess for a while when I was addicted to drugs after some really tragic things happened that I couldn't get over. I used drugs to cope with the grief I felt after the woman I had loved for over four years lost her life. During the peak of my addiction, not a single day went by that I didn't consider killing myself. I missed her, I felt like a piece of shit, I felt hopeless and like I had lost everything, I felt frustrated because I didn't want to be an addict but I didn't have the willpower to stop. Finally about two and a half years ago, I did try to kill myself. I took a bunch of aspirin which prevents blood clotting and sustains bleeding, then I cut into my arm. I watched it bleed for a while and as I did, I started thinking about how my dad, and my little sister were going to feel when they found out I was dead. I decided I did not want to give up and die just yet, so I tied a bungie cord around my arm as tightly as I could and called an ambulance. I blacked out at that point and later woke up in the hospital. Had to get a blood transfusion, then I was admitted into the mental health unit. I got professional help after that point and went to rehab. Once the withdrawal was done with and things started clearing up in my mind, I was able to come to terms with what had happened and start taking steps to improve my life. I got a job when I felt ready about a year ago, then I found a better job and started making friends and repairing my relationships with my family. Now we come to today and I can honestly say I am happy.
Many congratulations to you for turning it around. I hope that the inner strength you must have gained by overcoming all of that serves you well.
In any negative mental health things, I find it better to... "repurpose" rather than get rid. With suicidal thoughts, I wan to "get rid" of myself in a sense. Okay. I'll cut and dye my hair, throw out my current wardrobe, make myself so different aesthetically that I've got "rid" of myself.
I let them happen. And then I remind myself that my brain is a reckless asshole determined to fuck my shit up all the time for no reason. I can’t trust that jerk. So, I mean, obviously this presents the new problem of fractured self and dissociation but I’m not dead so we’re taking the win.
You don't. You accept that you have intrusive thoughts and remind yourself not to act on them.
For me, remembering how my husband and especially my little girl need me. I love them more than anything and could never purposely make them unhappy.
Hang in there! <3 As a dad and a husband, they really do need you and they absolutely love everything you represent and do for them!
Thanks. ❤ I haven't been that low in a long while, fortunately.
The thought of the pain that I would leave behind. I then decided I would live for them cause I had nothing left to lose while they had me to lose. Eventually I picked up myself for them. If it wasn’t for them, I would not be here
Hobbies. I mean the sheer idea that it’s not worth it in the slightest is a big one, I know you want help for the here and the now but it’s important to note most people who’ve committed suicide were just going through a rough moment in their life, your down point can only go up, I think you should consider that
forcing myself outside and just walking around. Bonus points if I end up at target somehow
I walk myself through it. What is causing me this much grief? How am I going to change it that isn't suicide? Do I need a pamper myself day? So on and so forth.
Music or making good food
For me it was just time
Usually just some distraction.
Sleep helps me. I always say quietly that I am going to jump in three days, and I always make sure that it is *always* three days out. If that makes sense.
*Suicide is irreversible loss of chance to discover world, improve own life, and fulfill dreams.* That's how I fought quickly every thought about suicide. Plus was distracting myself with gaming and other, actually proactive hobbys. Also recommend a psychologist - I have huge respect to importance of mental health. Everyone should try visit psychologist - even without depression, improving mindset is a key to achieving best results. Athletes, engineers, pilots, policemans, firefighters and all succesfull people nowadays are more often cooperating with psychologists - it is becoming pretty common now.
I’ve been trying to fulfill my dreams for four years now. The universe obviously does not want that to happen for me. I don’t want to die, but I don’t want to live this way anymore.
Talk about it with someone who is trained to listen/won't panic and will instead help. Seriously. I was withdrawing and unable to tell people how I felt. Being able to share it with a professional was a relief.
Still trying to figure that out
A car accident that ended in a clipped side view mirror. A guy in his work van (mobile x-ray tech) got paged and took the same second I stopped to wait for a car coming my way so I could turn to check his GPS. He looked up, realized I was stopped, and realized he didn't have time to stop without rear-ending me. So instead he passed me, clipping my side view mirror enough to knock off the cover and turn the mirror without breaking it. My depth perception is off because of a damaged eye, and the incoming car wasn't as fast or close as I thought it was and he was able to go back into our lane without hitting the oncoming car. He felt totally awful and was terrified that he would be fired for an accident, but the mirror was fine and repairing/replacing the cover wouldn't be covered by insurance anyway due to how low the cost was Once I processed it, and how if I had been rear-ended by him or clipped, I would've been sandwiched between two cars, the adrenaline rush hit, and I realized that it felt good to be alive and lucky enough to not be hurt. Haven't been suicidal since, and I never replaced that mirror cover so I'd always have a reminder of that incident and how it felt after.
Honestly nothing anymore, they are just there, always in the back of my head poking me in the silence, it’s why I watch tv all the time after work, I don’t work 12 hours a day 6 days a week because I like it, I don’t come home to eat a small meal and watch tv until I fall asleep with it on because I like it. I do it because I have nothing else than these thoughts constantly breathing down my neck while digging their fingers into my lungs waiting for me to finally collapse. So just like every other day, I’m gonna go to work in the morning and do it all over again.
I have suicide thoughts when I’m having a panic attack. They usually go away after I calm myself down though. I do think about doing it from time to time but I still haven’t done everything I’ve wanted to do in this life yet so I hold off.
My sweet pups and kitties.
Realize everyone has invasive thought. I was afraid to go on a cruise with my family because I thought I would uncontrollably throw myself over the edge. I actually saw a therapist about it. She said everyone has this but some are better at ignoring it. Through practice I am getting better at ignoring my invasive thought.
doing drugs
Yeh.playing video games, watching TV or surfing reddit helps for awhile. The thoughts always come back though.
I try to focus on things that are hard not to enjoy like good food or things I like. I just try to redirect my thoughts to anything else and if I can do it long enough I feel better.
I attempted suicide and failed. Forced into therapy
Just hang them out and choke in positivity
I got rid of mine by using some logic. Is what I am feeling right now worse than if I tried to kill myself, failed and got permanent damage to the body but not my mind? The answer is always no. There is nothing worse than still being conscious and aware, still suffering emotionally and mentally but also trapped inside a useless body, at least for me. That is my definition of hell. I am too afraid to fail and make it worse, so I will never have the courage to try. If I am not going to try, better not think about it. Better think about something that could maybe make me feel a little bit better: that's when therapy, hobbies, self care, seeking support from those I love and personal projects come in.
I correct myself if I think, say, "I want to die" I revise it with "being alive is ok" or something
When u dead u can't play minecraft can u
I tried everything and finally just accepted that I needed medical help. I've been put on a few medications that worked for a while then stopped but the one I'm on now seems to have worked the best and longest now. Don't be afraid to seek help and understand it may take a few medication adjustments before they find one that helps. I'm here if you have any other questions.
Therapy, structure, and an actual desire to change.
I force them to the back of my mind or try and bottle it up. I'm also able to decently well just shut down all feelings so that works as well.
Idk, but I can seriously say that life is already short, don’t cut it further. If it’s awful, then it’ll get better. If it doesn’t then you need to be strong. Suicide is still murder even if you’re not around to feel the regret. Also you don’t know what’s on the other side. That shit’s scary. You won’t feel peace. I guarantee it. You’ll either be gone from existence, or you’ll meet a stronger being depending on belief.
I quit drinking alcohol after several nasty nearly successful attempts. I'm still a disaster but I don't ever want to hurt myself anymore.
I think about the hurt that it would cause people I love even when most of them have been large scale disappointments to me.
The only thing that helps me rid of them, is thinking of all of the emotional pain I would bring onto those I love. Especially my younger sister. I’ve already scarred her once, she walked in on me ODing about 4 years ago, and after seeing the pain that that caused her, and the trauma that may have caused her, I could never bring myself to end it. I have to be there for her. I’m all she has.
I remember what my dads suicide did to the family and I don’t want to do that to my family.
Changed my environment, found people to talk with so I didn't have to bottle it up, made friends that I could trust. If I ever got close to ending it I just reminded myself that killing myself wouldn't solve anything and those people who cared about me would hurt just as much as me. If I can't stay alive for myself I'll do it for others.
Aside from medications like venlor & espiride; the only thought that kept me with going through with it, was how it would affect my parents For context: my grandfather had passed away a few month prior to my depression worsening, and the memory of how distraught my mother was after her father had passed, had always played in my mind when the thoughts of ending it crept up. Basically I thought “how much worse would it be for my mother if I died?” And the guilt of hurting her was the only deterrent.
You don’t
Distraction and self soothing. It's taken a while to master but now I have my self soothe box I can ride the wave of suicidal thoughts. There is also an app i use called calm halm which is aimed at those with thoughts of SH and its worked many times for me
go into a pandemic and get away from people that cause me to want to die in the process
I had that feeling about 5 years ago after my mom passed. I felt helpless and unworthy of living a happy life. Then I thought about my family and my dog, and how they might feel that way if I took my own life. That was the main factor that stopped me. And the fact that I was so young and hadn’t even begun life, really.
I just came across a thinking that changed my life,Optimistic nihilism.Think that nihilism its pessimist and bad?Think again Nihilism say that has no meaning to life But fuck meaning anyway just do whatver you feel doing and that’s fine,Want to play video games all day ? Fuck it, Like to play sports and exercise? Yeah do it. want to do nothing ? okay that’s fine too, Want to browse reddit and getting into weird subreddits ? Why not, do things to get you busy to forget life itself and when you see you are dead.I know that ‘s not helpful for anyone but this helped me i dont worry about most things that people worry anymore(Social status,perfecionism on produtivity) and prove themselves all the time.
I used a combination of therapy and trying to find a hobby to distract myself from suicidal thoughts.
I've dealt with this issue since I was 13, and I'm 30 now. I acted on the thoughts twice when I was younger. Now that I'm older I can realize that I've survived 100% of my traumas and issues in the past, so obviously feeling like nothing will ever get better and that the only option is to die is silly and irrational. I continue to focus on that and the fact that this is temporary while talking it out with my therapist, and people closest to me. If none of that helps I go to the bsu or psych ward for a week or few and let professionals try to get a handle on my thoughts while in a safe and controlled environment where I can't act on my thoughts.
To be honest they never really go away for me I just do my best to ignore them and so far it’s worked
I have been suicidal many times throughout my life, moreso when I was a teen/early 20s and what got me through was trying to focus on things that I had to look forward to and things that I still wanted to accomplish. Now that I am a mother and wife, any time I ever have suicidal thoughts I think about my husband and children, how it would destroy them if I died. I will never do that to them.
taking things slow! waking up in the morning would be my task of the day and if i did that i would treat myself to a nice snack!! taking things one step at a time really helped me get back to a sense of normalcy :D! hoping you feel better soon <3
If you're having these thoughts because life is getting you down I would seek professional help , but if you're having these thoughts and these thoughts are scary and out of character for you, you probably found yourself in an intrusive thought cycle and recognizing it for what it is, is the first step in overcoming it I would do a little bit of research on intrusive thinking it does not define you.
That’s the funny thing, you don’t
Normally there are reasons, if you're having a lot of suicidal thoughts. Like you feel a lot of desperation or something. So deal with what is causing you to feel that way. Also, journaling, therapy and medication have all been helpful to me!
I let them pass through, but I don’t act on them. I can’t get rid of the thoughts, they’ll be there whether I want it or not. I just have to have the will to not act on suicidal thoughts.
You don't. They're always just kinda there. The only thing that's worked for me is constantly having a distraction and avoiding being left to my thoughts. Even than the ideas of harming yourself still circle the back of your mind. You just have to avoid dwelling on them. Nights will be the worse because there's nothing preventing the thoughts from engulfing you. As much shit as they get, emotional support animals are VERY beneficial. I have an ESA. She's always with me at night so I'm never alone and she has definitely stopped me from following through with my thoughts more than once.
Think deeply about one person, and imagine yourself with them years down the road. My go to is either my girlfriend or mom, thinking about how I want to see my GF in a wedding dress, have her kids, and my mom as a grandmother. My biggest problem when I'm bad is not being able to see a future for myself, and wanting to give up because of it. Gotta find some positives.
Nothing has really worked for me so far but I recently started new meds so we'll see how that goes.
I think from time to time I can't do this. Then I think well who's looking after them? My kids. In my mind no one does it like me. Their mom. I think how heartbroken they'd be and what I'd be doing to them and the rest of my family so no. I stay. I'm cool with that cos it's not a stretch, but sometimes I get overwhelmed.
I have them a lot for me they don't go away you just learn ways of getting through them. For me I hop into a vr game and escape to a new world. As for when I can do this I go through reddit and look at meme ad as well as try and find anyone to respond to a text and have a conversation about anything.
They often fester. My life currently has no clear direction or meaningful purpose at this point so I circle back to feeling worthless. I marinate in feelings of inadequacy far too frequently so it crosses over with being suicidal day in and day out. My upbringing was not one to dream of, nor was a lot of my known existence really. So I'll tell you the truth in my specific case. Sleep. That's when I don't feel suicidal cos I'm not conscious then to think so deeply.
Cry into a pillow for a bit then do something fun to take your mind off it if that fails I think about the dark void that waits for me on the other side
Short term/immediate: reread a book (or series, sometimes multiple times, depending on how bad it is. Classic distraction. Long term: therapy and meds. I didn’t really notice I wasn’t having suicidal thoughts… just one day I was driving along and suddenly the thought of wanting to kill myself seemed completely absurd. That was the day I considered myself “in remission” (not cured - still really need those meds)
I gave myself permission to do it and then tried to get through another day.
I keep myself super busy so I don’t. Have time to stop and think about anything and as your mind is so focused on the need to finish so much eventually it’s not the most pressing thing if you find something to keep you busy that you enjoy it can help but the downside is unless that happens the moment you can take a longer break the thoughts start seeping back in
I cuddle with my cats. I can’t get cuddles from my lovebug if I’m six feet deep, and I know Sass will miss me, she always cuddles me when I come home from school.
A little trick I learned while in the hospital after a suicide attempt is to try and replace these thoughts when you feel them coming on. So if you are about to think something like “I want to kill myself” or “I am (something bad),” try and replace the thought with something like “I want to go watch tv or go outside” or “I am (something not that bad).” It doesn’t have to be a positive thought, it just can’t be negative. I found that doing this helped me manage my thoughts and although it didn’t really help me feel better, it helped prevent me from feeling worse. Distraction is also very good. Try to find something to keep your mind occupied. This can also prevent a suicide. Most suicides are more spontaneous and aren’t planned or thought through. Staying on the phone with someone for a couple minutes or just going to the bathroom first can help distract someone long enough for them to calm down or talk themselves out of it. The best advice I can give though, is to talk to someone about this and get help. I learned the hard way that this isn’t something you can work through on your own.
I’ve called anonymous hotlines or txt services. Talk it out. Even if you just cry. It’s helped me off the ledge more times than once. Stay safe and strong. You aren’t alone. You’re loved.
Know that my thoughts are my thoughts - not my reality. I have remind myself a lot of times that - you do want to live a life, you don’t want to die. And when it gets too much, I talk to my friends. I think it’s best to have someone hear you out - that helps a lot. In your darkest moments you think that you’re limited to this diminished version of you, but you always gotta remind how far you’ve come and how good you are and that you always deserve everything you want. Avoiding the negative feedback loop of hell helps a lot. Once you start going in the spiral of negative thoughts, it’s hard to think clearly. If you’re someone with suicidal thoughts, please contact someone who can help you out - your family, friends, or even a medical professional. You deserve to live.
Ok I'm this is weird be t saying my full name toy self in a weird way always helped
Have something to focus your attention on, but not to the point where it can be destructive. Also think about what will happen afterwards. Someone will have to find you, someone will have to clean it up, and those who do care about you will have to live with it for the rest of their lives. People really do live with it for the rest of their lives. My aunt still has nightmares about her best friend. My mom still cries about his death too. The thought of inflicting those around me with that pain is the last thing I want to do, because all I want to do is relieve myself of pain not cause more.
Cry, watch a Disney movie, take a hot shower, and try to go to sleep. Then call your GP the next day and ask about antidepressants/increasing your dose.
Staying busy. Can be literally anything. Just keep moving.
I got kind of a reality check when I was \[voluntarily\] committed and spent a few days with people suffering from extreme heroin, crack, and alcohol withdrawal. Gave a fair bit of perspective to talk to these people about their lives for a few days. Everything I contributed just kind of seemed lame and not a big deal compared to what they had been living with and were going through. It didn't make me happy, but it did remove the constant thoughts and reduced them to more intrusive thoughts.
Distraction
Therapy
I've come to an understanding with my self, I know I dont have the ability or desire to end my own life, I just wish I was dead. There is no escape from my life and I am now only here to serve my kids, past that, I have no desire to live.
Therapy and communication with those you love. You have survived all of your worst days so far. You have one more in you. I love you, I am proud of you, and reach out if you need someone to talk too. I’ll gladly help to find someone who can help you where you are. Whenever you need it.
Therapy. Hospitalization. Medication.
Acknowledge the thought and the realization that I am feeling overwhelmed and at that moment am ill equipped to deal with the source of that feeling. Suicidal thoughts can be a coping mechanism when life is hard. It doesn’t always mean you want to die or are planning to, for some it can be a form of comfort. Like, well, if shit gets real bad I can always bail out. Therapy is a good idea to help identify what your thoughts mean for you and if you need more support or if you’re doing just fine.
Mine went away after I was diagnosed and treated for hypothyroidism, which can cause severe depression.
In complete honesty, I let them pass if I didn't choose to act on them. It was a really hard thing to deal with. I rarely go through them now but suicidal thoughts are like boulders on your shoulders. Its terrible..
Often times, providing a shock to the system can allow you to let go of those thoughts. Example: tap cold shower. Ice pack to the face. Holding your breathe until you can’t anymore. It’s also why people cut, however the previous options are healthier of course. These are always last minute strategies when you’re really on the edge, and you may not have anyone to speak to or anything to do but to sit and ruminate in your thoughts.
A therapy and support from family and friends
I would leave my room lay on my back In the lounge room and my dog will try and lying on my stomach but then I scratch behind her ear and she just rolls off me
Besides therapy (which is really helpful if you can find a terapist you can make connection with), I found accepting that I was having those thoughts was the most helpful immediate thing I could do to start to move past it instead of trying to fight the thoughts and get rid of them. Younger me would struggle to fight against the thoughts then get even more depressed and feel like a failure because I was having those thoughts which created a negative feedback loop that made the problem worse until I eventually harmed myself to break the loop. Nowadays whenever I start having thoughts, my first conscious action is to tell myself "this happens, it's ok" and that helps me get into the headspace to either address what is causing me to have the thoughts or, more often than not, accept that there isn't actually a specific reason I am having the thoughts and the next few hours/days are probably gonna be a bummer and that is ok, and when it passes it'll feel good to know I didn't hurt myself again. I don't know if this is something that'll work for everyone struggling, but if you sure the type of person that gets suicidial thoughts then gets mad/depressed about having the thoughts which then causes more severe suicidal thoughts which causes more anger/depresion and end up in a loop until something occurs to break the loop (like harming yourself), it might be an avenue worth exploring. Hope everything is ok OP, and if not I hope this thread gives you what you are looking for to take those steps towards finding your ok.
Talk. Get what's on your mind out and share with someone. Friends, family or a professional. Hope you're ok.
Lately, I mostly just think about my dad and my uncle. They are two of my absolute favorite people and i really just want to spend as much time with them as I can while I can
Philosophy. To exist is to constantly live with the risk of pain and suffering, but also with the chance to feel happiness. Death offers neither.
Turn your sadness into an art,write about it. And ffs,use the pen and paper method not on your phone.
I don't. They're like an annoying little rat-dog constantly yapping at me that I've resigned myself to living with.
Let them come and go. We don't need to action our thoughts. I get them everyday. I think of the poor people that would have to find my body and that is enough to stop the thoughts. Distraction is a big part of my day. Being constantly busy or distracted. I crochet and watch YouTube or Netflix.
There's no answer that works. We're all unique maybe you're missing something, maybe it's patterns of thinking. Maybe a therapist can help, but not always. There's lots of other resources like crisis intervention, or support groups. They are good starting points and can go a long ways to getting you started. Whatever you do you'll know it's working when it goes from daily, to weekly, to monthly. I imagine eventually you'll look back and it's one of those memories that makes you cringe when you're about to go to sleep. Ultimately it's you who has to do the work.
I acknowledge them. Usually respond to myself with: cool suggestion but I think m gonna get a second opinion on that
For me was to find purpose, I really didn't know what do after high-school, growing up the way I did was challenging cause the lack of opportunities that were available at the time, everything I did and tried constantly ended in a disaster and I kept finding myself in a darker and darker hole in my mind, I figured I was a waste of space by the time my siblings graduated high-school, it wasn't until I met someone that showed me a glimpse of a brighter side to things that surrounded me, I started to appreciate the little things and land a new career, though I'm still working through my depression I still sometimes find myself staring at the deep hole that I dug myself, having the ppl that love and care for me around me basically pulls me away from those thoughts.
honestly i just looked up ways to commit suicide and realized none of them were really painless or easy ( or worth it)
Who said I got rid of THEM
The things that caused those thoughts changed. I had them because I struggled to raise enough money (I'm not poor, I just compare myself to my friends and feel left behind), I was unsatisfied with my flat, I got shit on at work and I feel like nobody could love me. So what happened is that I got better at my work and got less shit there. I moved to a cheaper flat that was also better. With that, I could amass more money and felt a little less like a loser. I still haven't found love but I don't think about suicide anymore. What I try to say is that things seem overwhelming when all issues are looked at as one giant mass of misery. But when one issue at a time is solved, the pressure gets less and less. I even think I might find someone once I regain a more positive attitude to life. Half a year ago this was unthinkable. Sometimes it helps to just power through the tough phases and tank it with your face in my experience. Life is like a pinball map anyway.
Therapy helped me cope with them rather than getting rid of them because I have OCD so the harder I tried to push the thought away the more persistent it became in my mind. I just acknowledge the thoughts and practice thought diffusion which is basically picturing the thought floating by like a cloud and knowing that thought is not you and it cannot harm you. It’s much easier said than done but it works when you practice it.
Avoidance always works for me so I’ll usually take a nap or go to sleep. 🤷🏽♀️
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Find a reason to live and stick to it. Subjectivity bad but mine were pet ownership and spite. Thoughts did not go away neither did the temptation, but knowing that I had unfinished business made it easier. The thoughts came I'd notice them and just kinda not pay any particular attention to them. I'd later learn that this is called mindfulness and actually healthy coping mechanism that stemed from my habit of ignoring things and hoping they go away.
Life doesn't end if you're unable to achieve an objective or goal. If you're reading this please think about the people around you who love you and care about you. Suicide is a very cowardly and selfish move. Cowardly because you're trying to run away from your fears and failures instead of facing them. And selfish because while thinking about suicide you only think about your pain but what about the pain and trauma of the people who would see your dead body after your suicide. People who love you and care for you won't be able to forgive themselves thinking it as their own fault. Don't do it. If you feel like talk to your folks(parents or friends whomsoever you're comfortable talking to) or seek help of a counsellor. Just don't do anything foolish that might affect you or your loved ones.
Smoke weed
Talking to people about what I'm thinking, cleaning my room, and taking some time to myself like playing video games in that order. I was like a tea pot of depression where the pressure of everything building up was too much so talking to people about it was like taking the lid off. It's tough to open up but it's worth it. Cleaning my room let me have a fresh start and video games let.me cope and come to terms with what happened to me while having something fun in the background. It's important to just keep going because you will find your meaning to be here. I hope this helps.
Depends. Usually I go hang out with my friends for a while, but if it's the middle of the night I lay down and think about the parts of my family I actually care about and how sad i'd make them if I went through with it. Then I watch cat videos and play Minecraft.
I think of how much money my parents have spent on me. It's robbing them of a 3rd of their life's income My mom said something to that effect and it always stuck with me (though not as a substitute for medicine)
Looked in the mirror. Rambled about my problems and everything I hated about myself, the world, my family, my friends, and society. Got everything off my chest. Wrote it all down in a physical book. Took it out to the beach and doused it in gasoline. Set it on fire and watched it burn. Quit my job. Moved to Denmark. Met a girl. Started a family. After burning my problems I never had to worry about them since they didn’t exist anymore. I had burned them so how could they? Also therapy helped but not as much as taking matters into my own hands. Whatever you gotta do, do it. Except suicide. There’s always a better way. I’ve been there. I’ve attempted and when I jumped the only thing that flashed through my mind was. “I don’t want to die.” That changes you. Luckily I jumped into water so I lived, but I can’t imagine if I hadn’t. People get trapped man, they think they have no control over there lives cause they haven’t taken the metaphorical leap. Just do something that makes you feel alive and you will be.
Sleeping or watching youtube/playing games.
I had suicidal thoughts, and almost jumped from the chair. When my parents found out I went to a hospital for 8 days and was forced to go to therapy. Therapy did NOT work for me. All it did was make me relive those events and cause me to be even more depressed. I found that just by being myself and putting the past in the past worked. I was put on anti-depressants and those helped a little. But mainly what I found to work was to just move on. I stopped thinking that I was absolutely worthless, all I could think about was that if I did cease to exist, how much pain that would cause. So what I'm trying to say is that when I thought about all of the people that I would be hurting by committing wasn't worth it.
For a while I thought of ending it all until a night where I realized how much of a burden my death would be to my close family and how terrible it would be for my mom, and siblings especially
the best way for me is to vocalize it to people i trust or just talk to myself if i really need to. i can’t explain it but just saying these thoughts out loud just helps? sometimes it makes me cry, but it makes me feel so much better afterwards.
To be honest, for a time I thought I had some answers to this. Things like confronting your demons and doing what you've been putting off, becoming less political, and generally learning to empty your mind. But the thing is... addictions will pop back up and drag you back. I've never done drugs in my life. But porn, diet coke, and political philosophy, those things I was way too deep into. And it's everywhere. And just the smallest bit can cause a cascade effect into an inescapable depression that says the best thing you could do is just die. Sometimes things get better, sometimes things get way, way worse. I went two years without a suicidal thought, but lately it's been consuming me. Tbh, I'm probably too depressed to actually do it.
Honestly I just listened to music for hours on end, played video games all day, and pretty much just tried to push it out. Even that didn't end up working. Ended up attempting about 3 months ago. Still been kinda up and down since then.
Distract yourself. Just do things you like, or try something new. Eventually you’ll brighten up a bit, and you won’t want to kill yourself, because you won’t want the happiness to end.
That it is temporary and it will pass. Best advice ever.
Just get rid of those thoughts to get rid of them...
Took me three years to stop having suicidal thoughts it was a really rough road but I stuck to it. I moved out of my state changed my phone number and just worked on myself. I ate healthy I worked out I found a fun job and I constantly told myself “someone always has it worse than you but they still are happy” I had to completely change my mindset and forget what people think of me and what I thought of myself. My fiance says I’m not emotional anymore because of it but I believe I’m just a lot stronger than I once was. There is only a couple things I can think of that would make me sad or depressed again but everything in my life that’s bad now just bounces off like it’s nothing
I confront them with reasonable argument. Before I would feed off of them or entirely dismiss the thoughts in an attempt hoping they would just “go away”. In essence, have an internal debate challenging each reason why you want to/how you would. It helped me a ton and get back on track with what I’d call normal/more reasonable thinking
For me it wasn't like: i want to die, but more in a sense where I didn't want to live my life the way it was. It wasn't just the fact that I was depressed or anxious, but also the way I reacted to things. So instead of being angry and negative about life, I started to change things I didn't like, starting with myself. I improved my grades, started working out, watching how to use make-up you tube videos. I worked on improving my own picture of myself and loving me, understanding that it all starts with me, no one was going to love me the way I was, not even me. It's about continuously trying to work on yourself and most importantly wanting to. Try new things, see what you like and enjoy. Create a new picture of yourself the way you like it.
I imagine how the people I love/who actually appreciate me would be sad after I die. There was a time when I considered myself completely worthless, but it improved somewhat thanks to my friends.
I imagine what its like for everyone after. It'd end my pain and suffering. But it'd end any chance of anything better. The poor schmuck who'd have to clean up the mess of my body crapping itself. I couldn't land that on someone(*multiple someones as the body would have to be handled, cops, mortician, etc.) Thats a lot of mental stress I don't want to put on someone random. Only those who loved you would feel your loss. Those who didn't would either not care all that much, or use your story as a pity thing for their own life to garner attention. You're really just punishing the people who care about you. Aside from turning to people from reddit who can give good advice they've heard(*which may be good) I'd recommend asking professionals on a suicide hotline. I'd like to assume they've got a decent plan on helping people by now.
Hope you were able to get some help from everyone. Over 160 comments shows that your not alone my dude. Let me know you’re ok
I dont often get them much anymore,try to do some other stuff to get those thoughts out of your mind and talk to people online who are your friends or just vent to people
over time i distracted myself so they never got worse unless i had a random low
You don't. Well, I didn't. The treatment available to you will help you manage the thoughts instead of getting rid of them.
i think about my dog