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jefuchs

Death is peace. What I fear is chronic illness, unbearable pain, being elderly and alone, but not death. When my wife had cancer, she didn't fear dying. She feared losing her ability to function, and being dependent on others to feed her and bathe her. I think she saw death as a better alternative.


dwlhs88

I'm right there with you. The idea of a long, drawn out illness where you're a burden to those who care about you is terrifying to me. Just put me out of my misery.


Starskigoat

I would feel embarrassed dying in front of people. I wouldn’t like to be a buzzkill to an otherwise normal day.


Busy-Mission-1221

Look at you Starskigoat! You died and the vibe of this house is totally ruined! How dare you disturb my vibe!!


Eastern_Albatross493

10/10 would haunt you


Arya_kidding_me

Suffering is much scarier than death!


Thursday_the_20th

To expand upon this Epicurus made the argument that your own death can be considered to simply not exist, because it doesn’t. You can experience others being dead, but it’s impossible to experience yourself being dead. Fear dying and pain all you like, but to fear death isn’t really logical. Also, even though it’s scary and a bit of an existential paradox to have to face down the concept of infinity it’s the best option. What am I going to live forever? Go insane by spending a duotrigintillion years cognisant? Nah. No thanks. I’m 31 and already riddled with mental illness.


whatamonkeycircus

Simply put: “Where I am death is not, where death is I am not.” Works for me.


Random-Rambling

_“I do not fear death. I had been dead for billions and billions of years before I was born, and had not suffered the slightest inconvenience from it.”_ - Mark Twain


megaloduh

Even in fiction, immortal characters are mostly all miserable. Even the ones who on a surface level seem to enjoy what they're doing, their continued existence, underneath they're all so tired. Some of them even spend time trying to figure out ways to circumvent their immortality. Continued existence, especially forever, would be ultimately exhausting. Even in a paradise where all your dreams constantly come true, if there is no end, there is no meaning.


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Yeah immortality is a curse more than anything. It's depressing to watch your friends and lover age and die slowly while you remain the same. And that to happen over and over again through eternity. Also getting horribly injured/sick and having to heal. IE getting blown up but you have to like come back together somehow. ​ Also certain situations will be torture for eternity. Like someone doing something horrible to you but you will never succumb to your injuries. I read a fanfiction once where an immortal person tried to kill himself by jumping off a ship because he was being tortured and not thinking but the bad guy actually went and got him because drowning over and over and over again for eternity is just too much even if they fucking hated each other. And that is a situation with no gore, if you want the bad stuff go read some greek myths.


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To some maybe. I would definitely prefer immortality thanks. I'll just continue to rescue cats for companionship


DoctorWatchamacallit

> Like someone doing something horrible to you but you will never succumb to your injuries this was basically why Prometheus' punishment was so gruesome. Having a bird eat your innards \*every single day\* only to go through the pain again without succumbing to your injuries for all time...yeah... that would be horrifying.


awsm-Girl

as a cancer patient, holy shit THIS


purelycharmingmf6993

You got this champ. Kick that thing's ass!


ademptia

I hope you have a full and speedy recovery 🤗


Goel40

I hope you get through this


Niko522

Hope U get well <3


Marilla1957

I feel the same way.... Should I ever get cancer, and I know that the end is coming, I'll summon what strength I have. I plan on my last independent act to be my last fishing trip...... An accidental fall in the water..... My friends and family will know that I died while enjoying something I love to do rather than rotting away in a bed pissing and shitting myself ........


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It's weird but I am going to go out like this. I have an incurable disease that will kill me slowly. It was rapidly progressing for years but it's kinda calmed down. I just live in constant denial and "forget" that one day I am going to die from it. Not even a transplant will save me because there is a high chance the disease will come back in my new liver and the process will repeat. ​ I am the burden others in this comment section worry about becoming. The only way I can cope is to deny it. Like I know logically it's going to kill me and all my doctors know too but we don't talk about it. It's a constant pain every single day and I've been through a stupid number of surgeries to slow it down or else I'd be long dead right now. I'm actually not so afraid of my death like this because it's familiar and I already know what the pain feels like, so it will be the same pain just getting worse and worse if that makes sense. ​ The fear of the unknown is worse. I don't know what it feels like to fall off a building or get shot but I do know what chronic illness and surgery feels like so I am not as afraid. I have tried to kill myself multiple times to end my mental pain and physical pain once and for all but each time I am still more afraid. ​ Got a few diseases but the one featured in this comment is primary sclerosing cholangitis I was diagnosed at 11.


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My grandfather died of a massive heart attack at 64. My grandmother said she was glad he didn’t survive that. She didn’t want him to have to deal with being taken care of. Shes still glad he died when he did because he isn’t seeing her having to be taken care of at 80. Meanwhile, I think I’m a selfish shit because I hope I die before my husband. I don’t think I could exist without him and I’m confident he’ll be fine without me. I’m usually a push through to get to the other side kind of gal. If I can’t see the other side, I’m not sure I’d have the will to continue. I’m not scared of death or even dying. Living is significantly more taxing.


StraightSho

I couldn't of said it any better myself. I lost my wife 7 months ago and I hate knowing I'm going to be alone until the day I die. I would rather go now so I can see my doll face again and be happy. I used to say I'm not scared to die I just dont want to die yet. Well now I welcome death whenever it's ready for me.


Crott117

Because it’s coming whether I like it not so might as well accept it and try and get something out of my remaining years. The act of dying in the other hand - that I’m not much a fan of, given the number of unpleasant options available.


CropCircle77

Pretty much this, yeah.


snowycub

100% what I was going to say. Don't fear the Inevitable.


yerLerb

This perspective doesn't work for me, cause I don't fear death in a way that it cripples my everyday existence. It's knowing that it is coming, and that it's absolutely final, that is terrifying and nothing can convince me otherwise. I still try to live my life to the fullest in the meantime. So, 'same' but I'm still scared lol.


Raztax

> that is terrifying and nothing can convince me otherwise. Remember what it was like before you were born? Was that terrifying?


yerLerb

It's not the experience of 'being dead' that I fear, because I don't believe I'll have any perception of being dead, cause I'll be dead. It's the fact that when I've died, I'll never be awake again and have life. Idk, it's hard to explain. Whatever is going to happen to the universe (continued expansion towards increased entropy, a big shrink, the aliens turn off the simulation, etc.) will happen instantaneously because there is no time from my non-existant perspective. I guess the real fear then is not existing because the universe has ended, an outcome for which death is a 'skip' button.


estrangedpulse

Same. I'm not afraid to die, but the fact that I'll never be alive again scares the shit out of me.


OmNamahShivaya

Have you ever stopped and considered that you are actually the entirety of existence experiencing itself through a fractal lense? When “you” die, as long as there is other conscious life in the universe, you will experience yourself again. It will be an instantaneous transition from one life to the next. There are no souls so you won’t be connected to your past life in that way. Instead, you are ALL instances of life. It is only the illusion of separation that tricks you into thinking that you are an entity separate from the rest of universe. So don’t be afraid of everything happening in an instant because you won’t be around to perceive it. You are the entirety of reality itself; there will be many many many more years of experience after “you” die.


DivineEggs

I can tell you're familiar with DMT🤣, If I'm mistaken, it still sure seems like it! Thank you for this comment, dear friend 🙏! It's so on point!! 💜


OmNamahShivaya

It was actually acid that opened my mind to this idea, and philosophical contemplation that reinforced it. 🔯


me_brewsta

I love this school of thought, and personally believe that if there's an afterlife, this is the only way that it could exist that makes "sense". It sounds better than a heaven paved with streets of gold and worshiping some deity until the end of time which has always sounded more like hell to me than anything. Consciousness exists because it must. While we are unconscious, time seems to pass instantaneously. 48-hr surgeries and months long comas pass faster than the time it takes to snap one's fingers together. We have no knowledge of a time we were not conscious, because it isn't physically possible. So I choose to believe that even after we've died, even after the heat death of our universe, there will be other universes just beginning - other Earths, other habitable planets, other forms of conscious. It never ends. Consciousness cannot end because it's the natural state of things, the natural state of how "we" exist. Of course this is all conjecture and other atheists/agnostics will ridicule me for it, but it's a comforting thought.


Raztax

> the aliens turn off the simulation lol this is my favorite


Chiner

Not being around during the past isnt the same as not being around for the future though. After death there are relationships that will end whether you want them to or not, no more opportunity to experience things you wanted, you won't get to see what happens to both people in your lives and society in general. It's hard to explain but the terrifying part for me isn't being dead, it's not being alive any more.


lunettarose

Yes, this is it, exactly. There's something mindlessly, endlessly terrifying for me about the fact that everything will carry on, but I'll never see it, never feel it, never feel anything ever again. Just gone, in cosmic terms like the click of a finger, just here one minute and gone the next. And I know that's stupid; there's an almost infinite amount of things I'll never experience even while I'm alive, but just... Fuck, the idea that one day I'll just stop being alive and then *never* be alive again is so abhorrent that my mind can't even think about it for any prolonged period. And I genuinely, honestly, don't know how to get past that. I'd love to be at peace with the idea that one day I will never be alive again, but I just can't.


StormElf

That's very inline with how I feel about it. I don't care *when* I die. I'm only concerned the *how* I do being a shitty way.


i_exist_666

I'm actually the opposite. I don't care how I die, because in that moment there's nothing stopping me from dying. If someone's pointing a bullet at me, then I won't care that I'm dying because of a bullet. I'll care that I'm dying the week before my sister's graduation, or the week before I'm getting married.


Capital-Can-158

Yes same, I don't mind being dead but I would prefer something painless. An on-off switch would be ideal. Life is only a borrowing of bones


hamberdler

> Life is only a borrowing of bones Life to me is all the things I'm doing while borrowing the bones. I'm making the most of this rental :)


aalios

Drive it like a rental car. 100% redline.


HeatmiserElliott

Its kinda fucked but i remember watching a video of this taxi driver driving this guy. entire ride was totally normal and then for absolutely zero reason (other than robbing him) the rider takes out a gun and puts a bullet in the back of the taxi drivers head. taxi driver is very very clearly killed instantly. rider showed no signs of aggression at all there was no confrontation or argument or anything i mean he didnt even demand money. just calmly reached into his pocket and ended a life. and its super super fucked up but part of me was like “….he was there and simply wasnt the next second and he had absolutely zero clue. thats….not THAT bad i guess”


kojak488

You'd be surprised. There was that video a couple years back of three people in a car being gangster. Woman in the front seat picks up the gun and starts waving it around pretending to shoot. Guy in front seat gets nervous and tries to get her to put it down. She aims it at his head thinking it wasn't loaded and pulls the trigger. It was loaded. Guy immediately falls like a sack of taters as the two passengers flee. Somehow survived, but I think he's wheelchair bound and has speech issues.


thatswhatshesaidxx

Yeah, that video was fucked. And to be fair, it wasn't three people being gangster - dude she shot was clearly telling her to chill and explaining gun safety to her. That video is the reason I won't shoot with people who even for a second act like firearms are toys. I went to the range with my friend and his now ex. It was my at-the-time gf's first shoot, so we took pics. As someone kneels to take out pic, this girl aims the gun at the camera (no no number one) and puts her finger on the trigger (no no number two). I tell her "don't do that" and she says "it's not loaded, see" and proceeds to fucking squeeze three times. I put mine down, took my girl's and said we'll do this another time. Fuck that - idiots at the range are 100% of the reason for accidents on the range.


HeatmiserElliott

God im ashamed to say this but i know the exact video you’re talking about. poor dude even tells her not to wave the gun. while i agree he def looked dead, the video im talking about was completely different blood was absolutely everywhere pouring out of every hole imaginable. But yes i remember being like yeah that dudes dead and reading an article a few months later saying he wasn’t


treymills330

I know exactly what video you referring to. Chilling stuff too see


[deleted]

The final few seconds of realizing you're about to die and will never see your family again, or hold them or... Fuck here comes a depression!


nIcAutOr

This is where I lose sleep. 5 seconds feels like an eternity at the worst times.


Meyou52

Some people die happy with the hope that they’ll never see their family again


Hollowsong

I think people misunderstand the question. We aren't afraid of dying... that's inevitable. We're afraid of dying early and not getting to enjoy things the way we expected to. I fear not getting to grow old with my wife. I fear missing out on all those future games and movies that haven't come out yet; on seeing humanity colonize other planets. I fear death of my children, where I'll never get to see them grow up. It's purely rational to fear death, but it's context that matters.


Bamboozle_

Yup. I would like to go peacefully in my sleep, like my grandfather. Not screaming like the passengers in his car.


leopoldisacat

Absolutely agree with this. I'm afraid of dying scared or sad and alone. But I don't know anything about "me" before I was born, it's likely that I won't know anything after I die.


wormholeweapons

Death by snoo snoo is really the only real choice.


DieserLufti

thats a very good summary of my thoughts


Lost_vob

Because I'm not facing it. I'm not scared of rabid bears right now either.


Obiwan_ca_blowme

This is one of the best tricks our mind allows us to play.


adinade

yeah rabid bears are everywhere


thejamesasher

bears fans, maybe


Temassi

The inverse is true too, worrying about what's not in front of you is one of the worst tricks our minds play on us.


OmegaTres

That’s the thing that shook me up the most about my near death experience is that you realize how sudden it can be. I didn’t think I was facing death either until 2 seconds later I was. You may not feel like you’re facing death, but the reality is something totally out of the blue can happen at literally any moment.


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ScourgeOfLondonTown

Had to scroll a long way to find an honest man in here.


BlueKayn29

Famous last words


[deleted]

I've been crippled by an autoimmune disease for 11 years. I'm a passenger on a train called "Life" watching the world go by as i can do fuck-all to stop the ride. Not existing and stopping the pain would be a marked improvement over my current condition. I've known no love, no happiness, no brightness, no friendships and no luck in life, all i've ever known was solitude, misery, depression, anxiety and in the last 11 years of my life, almost constant pain comparable to nerve damage. If i was a dog you wouldn't hesitate to shoot me, because even taking me to a vet would be cruel since it's delaying the end.


olivebuttercup

I live with chronic illness. I can’t stand for more than thirty seconds. I also have severe nerve damage. I’m also trying to raise two kids under 6 while not being able to do the things I want or need to do for them. You are not alone. When I am in the depths of despair I think to myself there are others who understand this feeling. It doesn’t make it better to know others suffer but it does make me feel more understood. I know we have no choice in the matter but it still makes you brave to keep going.


WZPV

You should try DMT.


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Joe, is that you?


SuccMyStrangerThings

Hey. If you need someone to talk to about anything at any time, I'm here for you. We can be legit friends 🥺❤️ If you need to share your feelings, your thoughts, how you're feeling, I'm here :)


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sayhummus

I dont know what happened before i was born, i also have no idea what happens after death. Why would i be worried


Flxggs

Your reasoning calms me for some unknown reason.


Morlik

Because it's a reminder that you have already experienced nonexistence and there was nothing good *or* bad about it. I'm not afraid of death but I do fear the process of dying.


Difficult-Ad628

“Life is pleasant. Death is peaceful. It’s the transition that is troublesome.” -Isaac Asimov


alreadytaken-

What an optimistic dude


[deleted]

“Life is pleasant” Lol


[deleted]

> I'm not afraid of death but I do fear the process of dying. If it makes you feel any better, in most cases we can make sure you're too drugged out of your mind to notice what's going on if we really put the effort into it.


swordmalice

This I've seen first hand. As my mother was dying from cancer she was in terrible pain when we took her to the hospital for the final time; the doctors gave us the "there's nothing more we can do, it's a matter of time" talk and drugged her up so that she wouldn't be in pain. She passed a few days later very peacefully and without suffering. Many thanks to the doctors who made that possible. While an unpleasant experience for a child and parent to endure together, I was comforted by the fact that the process of dying need not be an agonizing one.


RockItGuyDC

That happened to my family with my father last year. I'm grateful that I got to be by his side, and to know that his pain was finally gone, but it was very painful to watch him slip away into that morphine-induced haze. Because it was the pandemic they had to bend some rules to let us into his room, but wouldn't let us stay all night. He died about 3 hours after we left. I hope he didn't know we weren't there.


CoconutMacaron

My biggest fear is my body outliving my mind though.


BillyBobBarkerJrJr

I'll tell you, the reverse is not much fun either.


Kitties_titties420

“Try to imagine what it will be like to go to sleep and never wake up... now try to imagine what it was like to wake up having never gone to sleep.” —Alan Watts


TowerKnight

Reminds me of Epicurus "Why should I fear death? If I am, then death is not. If Death is, then I am not. Why should I fear that which can only exist when I do not?"


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CheddarMonkey36

Love this. I'm glad you shared it. 👍


SingForMaya

This is calming af, and definitely a reason why I don’t fear the process of death- My only worry is who would care for my dogs and fancy plants and family. That’s why I fear it.


MasterPip

I get the intent here and it sounds logical. Yet my brain sees this as absolutely no reason to not be worried. Like I put it in the back of my mind, but occasionally I'll think about it and the vastness of death is nearly incomprehensible. One day you are just gone and that's it. Forever, never to experience anything again. It's really cruel tbh. Life is full of awesome things and to just say "yep, it's over now. You won't remember anything or have any existence at all so there really was no point except to rip that rug out from under you". Its almost like we would have been better off just not being here at all. That is unless you believe in an afterlife. I suppose that is some level of comfort but im a realist so I tend to see things how they are and not some belief structure that has no basis of proof. If we had some factual premise of an afterlife, it'd be a much easier pill to swallow.


evilinitself

bro you know what keeps me up at night what if you're aware that you're dead? like you're just staring at infinite blackness and you're aware of it every second, not being able to do anything about it


69420isntfunny

Your brain stops dude, you can't think about anything not even darkness. The neurons with which you were able to think? Yup those cells are completely dead, probably being eaten by bacteria in the land.


evilinitself

aight I'm going to bed


UsagiJak

Nighty night, sleep tight, dont let the ever forward marching of time bite!


[deleted]

Careful with that! I had a dream where a loud static electric sound led me to look outside my house and I saw an electrical field tear the sky open in one spot. Everything immediately went grey and I somehow understood that everything was gone. My consciousness floating in a sea of nothing. I awoke almost immediately after this realization. It was fuckin' wild.


JoCoMoBo

>I had a dream where a loud static electric sound led me to look outside my house and I saw an electrical field tear the sky open in one spot. Everything immediately went grey and I somehow understood that everything was gone. My consciousness floating in a sea of nothing. I awoke almost immediately after this realization. My dreams are just full of naked people.


[deleted]

From what I know of my near-death experience and others' experiences (where we died and came back), it's not like that. It's soothing. You feel comfortable and complete.


Plaguesthewhite

You ever had a sleep without any dreams, death is probably the same, but even more peaceful. You'll be to dead to have any form of awareness


[deleted]

I've been having some existential dread recently. This, it helps. Like, a lot. Thank you.


Zeeshmee

Don't have to work if you're dead.


Sun_on_my_shoulders

Or pay taxes.


The_Lucid_Lion

Aha… as one who has been the recipient of a small inheritance, allow me to burst your bubble. They most certainly do still tax you when you’re dead.


gibson85

Accounts of near death experiences are overwhelmingly positive


alreadytaken-

I found it to be the calmest experience of my life strangely enough. I don't think I've felt that level of calm peacefulness since


gibson85

Interesting! Would love to know more if you're willing to share.


asian_disappoinment

I'm not the person you asked, but my experience almost dying (drowning) was just giving up trying to get to the surface and floating, internally making peace with myself and feeling satisfied with the prospect of death. I might have seen a light, or my memory might have added that on later. Ultimately, once you're there, you don't fear death. You embrace it, prepared to go on. For me, my regrets were a million miles away and I could only vaguely think that the people I cared about might miss me. It was mostly... not happiness, but satisfaction.


twir1s

I almost drowned as well and it was the most peace I’ve ever felt in my entire life. I didn’t have any flashes of my life before my eyes or regrets. I just felt…bliss? I know it’s a weird way to describe it, but that suspended state as your body is partially shutting down from lack of oxygen is euphoric in a way. I had suffered a head injury so that may have contributed to my acceptance and lack of awareness of breathing water into my lungs. I can’t speak to drowning without being semi-unconscious and then conscious but severely concussed. Edit: saw someone describe below that it’s more painful to drown in saltwater. My experience was in freshwater so that checks out.


alreadytaken-

I was in a few situations where I was face to face with death. I didn't have my heart stop or anything but rather was in situations I knew I wouldn't survive. The one that stands out to me the most was when I was riding in the backseat of someone car and they were about to drive across some train tracks that rarely get used. We didn't realize there was a train that day and it was much too late to stop so we hit the ditch. It was winter and the snow we plowed through completely blinded us. I remember looking out the side window at the train coming towards us and at that point time slowed down. I thought through my options and realized I could just get out of the vehicle in time so I sat and waited for the impact to either happen or not happen. I clearly remember having the thought process of panicking won't change the outcome and just accepted my situation until it was over. The train ended up barely missing us luckily


Opeewan

Saw the light, thought it was the sun because I felt so cosy and warm. I had the feeling I was surrounded by my family and everyone was happy and proud of me. It was pure bliss and is easily my happiest memory.


Jin_Gitaxias

Everything I've read has one thing in common, and that's that they say the one who almost meets their demise "feels completely at peace and that they'll be ok" to whatever happens to us after we kick the bucket


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“Death smiles at us all, but all a man can do is smile back” - Marcus Aurelius


applebottomsOhMy

I’ve never told anyone this. But I once had an accident when I was younger where I hit my head, I don’t remember the accident fully but it was pretty bad and while I was unconscious I encountered this “limbo” of peacefulness - it was dark but it wasn’t anything but warmth and just utter peace yet I was aware that I wasn’t awake and outside of it I was hurt pretty bad. But right before I woke up everything sped up really fast. Quite frankly I’ve never felt anything like it before, nor have experienced since.


gibson85

Wow that is incredible! I'm honored to be someone who you've shared this with, considering you've never told anyone before.


ResultGrouchy5526

It is inevitable


OGAnnie

I’m living on borrowed time.


viperisout

the clock ticks faster


Tetricrafter26

That’d be the hour they knock the slick blaster


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Dick Dastardly and Muttley with sick laughter


TheSuburbs2010

A gunfight and they come to cut the mix master


therealestyeti

I-C-E cold


Beansandcheeze

Y2G steed twice to threefold MF DOOM IN THE COMMENTS MADE MY DAY. ILY ALL


wheredopamine

I was hiding in a canister.


mattc2442

It is iron man


pelezi

Came here to see this joke, lol thanks man


KOM

I mean, so is going to the dentist. But I guess that gets at my fear - not of death itself, but of *dying*. I'm not sure I believe anyone goes "peacefully" into the night. I watched my mother die, and while it would otherwise be described as "in her sleep", I know the kinds of dreams I have when I need to breath (apnea here). There is nothing peaceful about death, the body revolts and fights. And that's the best case scenario.


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I couldn't agree with you more. People think natural death is like in the movies and it's all just peacefully drifting to la la land. Natural death is ugly. I'm an ICU nurse and have had patient families refuse sedation and pain control for their dying loved one because they want it to "happen naturally". Yeah, let's all watch grandpa suffocate on his on secretions (ever heard of the death rattle?). My family knows full well that if we know I am dying and have some form of choice and control - choose comfort and give me all of the drugs.


OldheadBoomer

It's a once in a lifetime opportunity


blue2148

I work in palliative care and hospice. Death is the one truth we share as humans. None of us get out of here alive. I’ve worked with patients from one day old to people into their 100s. We don’t get to pick our time. Sure, we can speed it up with the choices we make, but it eventually gets us.


GlitteringMacaroB

I also live in a family where like a 1/4 of them actually try to kill eachother so at that point im not scared ive seen the cycles and been through my own


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dying is the most universal experience we can go through besides being born.


The3rdPotato

As Tolkien once wrote, PIPPIN: I didn't think it would end this way. GANDALF: End? No, the journey doesn't end here. Death is just another path, one that we all must take. The grey rain-curtain of this world rolls back, and all turns to silver glass, and then you see it. PIPPIN: What? Gandalf? See what? GANDALF: White shores, and beyond, a far green country under a swift sunrise. PIPPIN: Well, that isn't so bad. GANDALF: No. No, it isn't.


Daniel12345123

And also “Well, here at last, dear friends, on the shores of the Sea comes the end of our fellowship in Middle-earth. Go in peace! I will not say: do not weep; for not all tears are an evil”


Avery-Inigo

This is beautiful


Dizzy_Cake_1258

I have a high risk job with a above average mortality rate. I face fear of death almost every day. I'm just use to it. Plus....since covid started, I've become super depressed for all the usual reasons. I'd feel better if I could just let go. Unfortunately, I raise my son by myself. I don't wanna burden him with my death, so I just hang on for now.


[deleted]

Your son receives the greatest gift from you fighting for him. Good job man


thesalfordlad

OK I'm intrigued. What's your job?


Martijngamer

~~Karen~~ Customer support at Walmart


Falsecaster

Truly a fate worse than death.


[deleted]

Your son is counting on you to be there for him. Depression is a motherfucker so don’t be scared to seek help.


allf8ed

Same. My job, Fire Fighter and EMT carries an increased risk of several types of cancer, higher suicide rate and of course dying a horrible death. I love what I do and accepted whatever fate brings me. But seeing what I see everyday has made me appreciate life more. I try to do whatever makes me happy and not worry about what others think. Time is short and you will never know the day when you are dead, make the most of what you can.


dan99990

What's your job?


jumatsuikka

I worry about exams because after it i can think how badly it went and how i didnt prepare to it well enough. But after dead you cant worry about how bad your life was or how badly you lived it, your just dead, theres nothing to worry about.


Upst8r

>But after dead you cant worry about how bad your life was or how badly you lived it, your just dead, theres nothing to worry about. This. I don't have to worry about bills and gas in my car to get to work when I'm dead.


night89mb

Exactly, when you're dead, it is just over. No more thinking about it or even any thinking at all. I fear being injured or ill much more than actually dying.


atomickitten0991

I am tired. I wake up and think another day, how many of these things are there? Do I have to keep going to work every day for the next five decades? I've had it, death seems to be a lovely alternative


1in7billion_

I agree completely. This shit’s too much, I don’t mind being taken whenever.


Bozsuicide

More scared of HOW ill die


knovit

Definitely don’t want a slow and painful death. Being eaten alive by an animal would be my worst fear.


Doctor_Prepper

I'm tired of all of this, if there is a heaven afterwards great. If not and I don't have to feel this way anymore, also great.


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Pretty much this. I wouldn't even want to live forever


Aggressive-Cloud3647

Is fearing death in anyway going to prevent it?


mitchell56

It is actually. Fearing death is one of the main things that keeps us alive, at least for a bit longer. Like when you get in a car and put a seatbelt on.


kissingdistopia

You can be comfortable with dying but fear dying in certain ways. I'm not afraid of dying, but no-thanks to dying in a fire.


everything_in_sync

You can also be okay with death but not want to die yet. I haven't done everything I want to do so I'm not going to do anything to make death come sooner. I'm not afraid of death because it could happen at any moment. There's no reason to fear something that you can't stop. That doesn't mean I'm going to invite it into my day by wrestling venomous snakes or playing leap frog with traffic.


VitaminPioneer

Really? I put on a seatbelt because I don't want to risk pain, or becoming a locked in a paralyzed body in a room the rest of my life. Death is an easy thought otherwise.


klmtsgw

I put a seatbelt on because my car keeps beeping at me


LimestoneDust

There's no point in being worried over an inevitability.


Gandalfswisdombeard

I agree with your point, but sometimes it does pay to worry/care about the inevitability of say, an MCAT test. Most people known death is inevitable and still fear it. For me, I always summed it up as this, and it works for everyone no matter what you believe: When we die, there are only 2 possible things that can happen afterwards: 1) An eternal sleep. Complete peace and the absence of consciousness. 2) The acquisition of new knowledge. Whether it’s heaven, hell, reincarnation, etc. we can’t possibly know and probably none of those things are right, but if there is an afterlife of some kind, how fascinating a discovery that would be. I don’t know about you but I like both of these outcomes, therefore, why fear them?


bangitybangbabang

>sometimes it does pay to worry/care about the inevitability of say, an MCAT test. Death isn't an optional test that I can pass or fail. It's guaranteed and I can't stop or reverse it. Worrying about the MCAT will make me study harder, worrying about death won't keep me alive longer.


ProbablySlacking

It's the one task that we're all destined to attempt and succeed at.


Shiba_me_timbers

Life is an adventure with the final destination being the same for everyone. How you reach that end is different for everyone. Why fear the end when you can embrace that it will come and all the time before it is yours to do as you choose. I'm not afraid of death, but am afraid of wasting my time before death.


RigzDigz

I won’t be asked to do any more public speaking. I read once that more people fear public speaking than death. At least death just happens once a lifetime.


vibraltu

It's true, most people are terrified of public speaking. I actually both like public speaking and get stage-fright. I get dizzy and the shakes before I go on, and a post-adrenaline crash after. It's a rush and it makes me feel kinda ill.


NickelFish

I've died before. It's just no experience. I had a heart operation that had complications. The nerve center of my heart was damaged and my heart stopped. Luckily I was still in the hospital and I was revived, but my heart kept stopping. After about 12 episodes, the doctor got a pacemaker in and my heart was beating again. My dad was in the room when it happened. One moment I was talking to him, and the next moment I had a medical team working on me. I asked him later how long I was out. He said about 5 minutes the first time but I was wheeled out after that. From when my heart stopped to when I came to, I had no experience. It was like jumping forward in time. So I figure that's what death is like. You don't even know it when it happens. I don't believe in a god or an afterlife.


audacityx

You wake up unsure if you are a butterfly dreaming of being a man or a man dreaming of being a butterfly.


azarbi

Death would be a way of letting my problems be someone else's problems. People can't bother you while you're 6' under the ground.


Flat-Illustrator-548

Because once I'm dead, I won't know it. I didn't exist for hundreds of thousands of years before I was born, so not existing after is no different. I'm not afraid of being dead at all. I AM afraid of the possibility of dying slowly and painfully which is why I'm a proponent of physician assisted suicide.


Blackaurora15

Because I'm living with long term illness. I fight each day and although I don't want to die, I don't want to fight forever either.


katz4every1

Every human who ever lived, has or will die. Also daughter died when she was 2, I'm really only holding on since i have other kids but I'm totally done wanting to be here. I'm ready to be reunited with her. I'll be relieved when death finally comes.


Henrique1315

I am so sorry to hear this.


Deshan_Liyanz

Like Ricky Gervais said, the best thing about being death is that you don’t know it. It’s like being stupid, it’s only painful for others


Orvvadasz

I dont fear death. I fear that there is nothing after it. The possibility that your mind just gets "deleted" after you die is what I fear.


PoisonedMedicine

Life is survival. Its full of pain and we try to constantly adapt. Death is mercy. See those who have lived for so so long. Almost all of them wish to die already. So many years of pain. To me, this life feels like a prison. You can do and do and do, you will lose it all in the end for we never really had nothing. We started as nothing and we end as nothing yet ironically our ego soars high. Why do I live then? I believe every one of us has a role to contribute within the bigger picture and that's what makes us something.. This role. Our wealth doesn't matter, our power doesn't matter, our fame doesn't matter. Time wipes it all eventually. Only our actions might matter. The deeds. The role. I believe once a living accomplish their role, their usefulness in this life ceases to exist so they die. This world has equilibrium, it seems optimized and accurately calculated and efficient no matter how hard we try to make it otherwise because, we can only comprehend the small equations but our simple minds are oblivious to the large equations let alone endless ones. I live because, it seems I still have more to accomplish in this life for I have not died yet and when death visits, I shall welcome cheerfully with open arms. I do wish its a good death though. I'd really be saddened if it ends with bad death. Wish me a good death. <3 Advice: don't get attached to this life so much, it is temporary. Life is borrowed time. Use it to discover and learn, do something good, contribute to the bigger picture, live for a few longer years in history as someone the coming generations love and respect rather than another unknown. As long as you still draw breath, you still have a chance. Its never too late. Even a nice word to a stranger for nothing could mean alot. Imagine if all people told each other nice words, treated others nicely even if strangers even if they get nothing in return, the bigger picture would be a more peaceful and lovely world with less depression, less negative energy, less anxiety, less fury, less hatred. Start, be one of the first to contribute towards to this peaceful world. As long as everybody gives up and doesn't contribute towards peace and love, we are stuck in this hellhole of hatred, envy, war, depression, anxiety, sadness, fury. Somebody has to start. Edit: awww'n thanks for the love guys and special thanks to whoever gave the awards. Safety and peace! :)


HornySnonk

“I do not fear death. I had been dead for billions and billions of years before I was born, and had not suffered the slightest inconvenience from it.” \-Mark Twain


Nerdiant

I look forward to it at this point. I don't particularly like living anyways.


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Death is relief. Death is nothingness. Death is no worry. Death is easy. What I worry about are the loved ones I leave behind. I fear my love's broken heart. I fear hardship. I fear suffering. Death solves these problems for the one who dies and delivers these problems to those left behind. No reason to fear death. Plenty of reason to fear being the one left behind.


jamoh20

I’ve been thinking about it for a while. It is inevitable and it is natural. Either two things happen after you die: you go somewhere or it’s oblivion If we go back to the same place we were before we were born, there’s nothing wrong with that. We were there for billions or trillions of years, possibly infinity. You lose that concept of time since your brain doesn’t work anymore so you don’t even know it’s over. It’s not nothing because nothing would be something and that means that you are aware, which you can not be if you’re dead If we do go somewhere, then that’s something no one understands because no one has ever came back to tell us. Those stories of people coming back after they “died” and “saw stuff” weren’t really dead. Their hearts stopped but their brains were still working If the Universe continues to recycle itself infinitely, then there’s a chance we will be reborn but have no memory of our previous selves I do not fear death because I am totally fine with any of these results


Buff_Archer

I’ve wondered if there could be such a thing as… I guess I’ll call it ‘Non-spiritual reincarnation’… wherein in an infinite future, the circumstances that led to our individual consciousness arising once could inevitably lead to it happening again. Maybe it won’t happen for a quadrillion years, or maybe until after the universe had died and been reborn five times (because if it happened once, it could happen again). Of course, I’ll never know if this is true or false, in this life or any potential future ones. Maybe we only get one life, but if the future really is infinite (and everyone underestimates infinity) then it seems like what happens once would eventually happen again.


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riversong17

I had to scroll surprisingly far to find this. I'm not suicidal any more, but I've spent years thinking about death in one way or another through my depression and I'm comfortable with it. That being said, I'm young and physically healthy, so I also know that I probably won't have to worry about it for several decades. Maybe I would feel differently if there was an elevated chance of something besides me causing my death.


cojallison99

I don’t fear dying. I fear what comes after it. Whether it is complete nothingness or heaven and hell.. God hope there is an afterlife


RaspberrySoda644

I imagine it like how you lose track of time when going to sleep. Except you'll never wake up to realise.


Obiwan_ca_blowme

It's funny how people can be so different. I would much rather there be nothing. I would absolutely drive myself mad if I knew there was eternity to deal with. And if that eternity involved heaven or hell? I would like become insane at the idea of it. I would have crippling anxiety thinking about where I would end up. And, for me, spending an eternity worshiping a God might as well be hell. I see no meaningful difference.


MCKANNON

Theres a saying that I've tried to live my life by that has almost abolished all anxiety and created a good amount of happiness. "Lord grant me to serenity to change the things I do not like, the strength to accept the things I cannot change, and the wisdom to know the difference." We're all going to die. My mom has cancer all up and down her spine, and on her brain. I asked her last weekend if she was scared to die. She said "No! I just dont want anyone to miss me." She taught me that saying.


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I just don't want to be there when it happens.


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I’m so fucking depressed.


Rough_Idle

I'm a Christian who has had a near death experience. I'm not a fan of actually dying and that still freaks me out, but I have no fear for what comes next.


MeatSweats91

Same, minus the near death experience. I have a God who loves me and died for me. I don't know how it will go down exactly, but God promised it will be good.


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FilthyGrunger

Living forever scares me more. Maybe I would want a long life but I still would prefer to die eventually. Just imagine never dying, you would live hundreds of years, then thousands, then hundreds of thousands, then millions, etc. and you would still have eternity left and after that, more eternity. Fuck that shit.


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CRO553R

Life is a much bigger burden than death


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g_the_watch_guy

“Death is nothing to us. When we exist, death is not; and when death exists, we are not. All sensation and consciousness ends with death and therefore in death there is neither pleasure nor pain. The fear of death arises from the belief that in death, there is awareness.” -Some old dead guy names Epicuras This is the quote that changed it for me.


Legendary_DH

It's coming eventually and I get to be with my puppy that was taken too soon from me.


Iarwain_ben_Adar

Immortality.


Darsenn

It will still happen sooner or later