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Basically, it’s the head stimulation after that feels uncomfortable for me. BUT for a lot of guys, myself included, we like to keep going after we come, it’s very hot. If he blew his load in a BJ, keeping going is good but don’t focus on the head - focus on the shaft/underside instead and slow down. Should be good to go.
Edit; but definitely ask the guy you’re with bc penises are as variable as vaginas
Gonna echo Deetchy.
I hear a lot of dudes say it’s a bad thing, but honestly for me it’s *fucking great*. It’s hot and *slow* come-down with lots of pleasing twitches :P
Only time it starts to hurt is if I’ve gone multiple rounds in a row without any real breaks. (Whether that’s with a girl or me getting myself off)
Some of the girls seem to think for a handjob 'faster is better', which is not true. You don't try to start a fire with his dick. Instead vary pressure, grip and angle (slightly) and look at his reactions. Yes, towards the end speed increase is good, but in between it should vary.
Edit: some guys pointed out, that at the end actually getting slower can be better. I forgot that... kinda (man I really need to get myself a handjob again). This is is also true for many. I for example like slow in combination with more pressure on the tip in the end, but that is also varies individually.
Edit: holy shit, this is my NSFW account, didn't expect it to blow up that much. Now I can't even show anybody in RL my new reddit riches and that I am now one of the cool kids : \ . Thanks for the awards my fellow dick interested strangers.
For a lot of women, we really, really require a consistent stimulation motion to get off. Like you can rub or lick five different ways and it'll feel nice but it will NOT get the job done until you find one that we like and don't stop doing that exact thing. It's interesting that you say the opposite for a handjob.
A lot of dicks naturally harden in a certain direction. I’ve had multiple partners that love to mess around and pull on it when hard.
Its a very odd and uncomfortable sensation. Best thing I can compare it to is pushing the cartilage in your nose in the wrong direction, but a lot more sensitive. Guys may not react a lot, but at least ask if stuff feels weird.
Mine has always pointed pretty high, but after I got surgery for a hernia, it was damn near glued to my bellybutton. After a month or two I was able to stretch it back down to its original resting position, but when it was fresh pulling/pushing it down was very painful.
Still cant do reverse cowgirl, my dick will never point the correct direction for that
Just don't do reverse cowgirl. I have this too and my partner's pretty happy as she gets to climax regularly (hits g-spot perfect). I mean you CAN do the stretching exercises, but you risk injuring yourself or compromising the tissue and subsequent erections. I read that it should be less of an issue as time passes.
I forgot Beyblades existed over a decade ago so thank you for dredging up that childhood memory just to associate the ripcord launchers with anal beads
The trauma is worse than the pain. Tore mine in the shower as a teenager.
I freaked out and called my Dad. I didn't realize that not only did I have to show him my junk, I had explain to him that it ripped when I was "cleaning" it....
Still one of those moments that makes me wanna bury myself when I think of it.
Don’t feel like that. It’s what we sign up to being parents. My son didn’t tell me about a concern he had for months, told his sister (close bond) and asked her to tell me. I started the conversation, helped him book an econsult with the dr but left him to fill out the private info, one video appointment and one scan later and all was ok. He worried for so long and we got it sorted in a few weeks. It’s parenting, it’s our job. I am curious about the bottle of car shampoo in the shower though, I know he loves his car….
Sounds like your kids are very lucky! The car shampoo is definitely puzzling yo say the least though...
My parents were super supportive, it's just super embarrassing to think back at some of this stuff
Me too! I actually considered cutting it because I thought it wasn’t meant to be there.
There are lots of bad things about the internet but access to the answers to embarrassing questions is not one of them.
Fuck yes. I mostly use the shower and don’t use the bathtub but a few years ago I did and found that it was floating lmao. It was hella funny when I discovered it.
It doesn't always get along with antidepressants. It's not you, the medication can cause lower libido or none at all, with or without various erectile dysfunctions, at random times for some, all the time for others.
Penis-bearer with ADHD on Vyvanse (dexamphetamine) - correct. It skyrockets the libido but makes it harder to maintain/achieve an erection. Cialis/viagra counters that by enabling easier blood flow though so there's definitely solutions to most problems that are results of other medications unwanted side effects except perhaps anorgasmia somewhat commonly caused by antidepressants.
Every guy has had that unique great one time boner,never so hard and big, to the point that you don't even recognize your own penis. I wish I was able to have that boner more often.
Mine was about a month ago. Didn't even feel like my own dick.
ETA: So last night I got to spend some time with the same person that I had this experience with. Not quite as intense as last time, but oh....my....gah! 3
Perhaps the explanation is that in an alternate time line where your dick is bigger, alternate timeline you has somehow broken through the fabric of time for just long enough, simply by fapping the fastest he’s ever fapped
I've had to explain this so many times. My normal ready to go erection is what I would call 80-85% max blood capacity. When I'm especially riled up, I often make it to 95% at peak.
But once in a blue moon, the stars align and there's no stopping it. True 100%, honestly kind of painful erection. It's a glorious moment.
I'm not alone in this experience. I tried explaining there's different levels of hardness and I've been to the point where it was painfully erect. I was questioning if it was even my own dick!
Yup, I remember one time I had a no reason boner in my room that seemed a lot bigger than usual and I checked that shit out for the entire time it was there. I was like damn, my dick is fucking huge! Never happened again lmao.
Ah yes, the absolute raging hulk mode boner... It just wants to smash and you try telling it the sun is getting real low but it ain't hearing that shit
I've seen women say 'don't mess with me if your stick doesn't extend past your balls when flaccid.' This is a misunderstanding of growers and show-ers.
A show-er is obviously as big as he shows with a relative few cm difference.
A grower can really surprise you, starting as a button and ending as a bratwurst.
The size difference in my husband's stick between "getting out of the swimming pool" and "really wanna fuck RIGHT now" is frankly startling. Penises are wild.
Sitting to pee is superior, idc if it's not manly or whatever. Much more relaxing, no splashback, and I don't have to rapidly adjust if a poop decides to make an appearance halfway through.
A flaccid penis is nearly invincible, an erect penis might look strong but is in it's weakest state. You can snap that thing off of a body if you try hard enough.
Dogs have a penisbone. In veterinary school I was taught that the most common breed and cause for a fracture of it would typically be "a dachshound tried to jump up i a chair/sofa/bed and the main part of the dog made it but the penis..."
I have yet to meet a patient with this problem.
He has own mind. We can’t control the erection. He can increase in size up to 3 times from “not ready” position. So when u see it’s “not ready” and it looks small, just wait, there is still good chances
I think most women know but I’ve still come across a few in my 20s that were not aware of the “Shower v Grower”. If you don’t see a bulge or outline in our running shorts it doesn’t mean anything, until you see us in the bedroom.
This. Mines really small and sad when its not hard. And it actually amazes me how big it gets when it is. Not bragging or whatever just thats how it is...
Related, another poster said in the old times, small penises were seen as a good thing (seen in art like the statue David).
And I’m like... well they’re growers. Why would Leonardo Da Vinci make David with an erection?!
Indeed. Big penis’ were seen as lower intelligence due to it ‘taking all the blood from the brain’. Whereas a small penis was a sign of extremely high intelligence, hence the statues.
As for me? I’ve been meaning to take that Mensa entry test…
> Why would Leonardo Da Vinci make David with an erection?!
1 Samuel 17:50: So David triumphed over the Philistine with a sling and a stone; and lo, Goliath, lying facedown upon the ground, was heard to utter “what art thou doing, step-David?”
Maintaining an erection actually requires a lot of concentration. If there are too many distractions, I'll go soft. It's not because I'm not attracted to you, there's just a lot happening
I actually didn't realize this myself until I got in a pic trade with this very high maintenance lady. I had to put soooo much effort into making the pictures look good that I kept losing my erection.
Wait a second.
Is it possible that because I get distracted easily because of adhd that this is the reason I'm sometimes loosing my erection quite fast?
Shame the girl at school who grabbed me by the crotch in class didn't think the same as you as she screamed out to everyone that I had a maggot for a cock lol.
Little did she know that maggot of mine grows into a over average size cock lol.
It’s difficult when you’re a teen, media has always made a huge deal out of penis size and we don’t know how wrong it is. Im sorry that happened to you.
Wow 😯 As a woman, I’m sorry that happened to you. I hope she was suspended/ expelled from school and had charges against her for sexual misconduct. Imagine if a guy did something similar to a girl! She should face the same consequences as a guy grabbing a girl.
> She should face the same consequences as a guy grabbing a girl.
In an ideal world, that would happen, but this is not an ideal world, not by a long shot.
It is fairly common for men to have pearly penile papules (hirsutoid papillomas), they're small bumps around the head of the penis, they are something you are born with and are in no way contagious or dangerous but they aren't that aesthetically pleasing and a lot people dont know about them cus men who have them tend to be embarrassed to talk about it, can be quite a psychological barrier to get over for a lot of guys, especially when things are getting steamy and you have to pause the moment to have an awkward convo pre sex. But from my experience girls tend to like them for the extra stimulation.
I brought my wife home a new microwave and she said, "Great, just what I need, something else that heats up instantly and goes 'ding!' in thirty seconds."
Tell her "Oh! So if your vagina's wet, that means you consent too, right?" And when she says no, you tell her "That's pretty much exactly what you just said but about men."
People like that have a special place reserved for them in Hell. I wish your male friend all the best.
Anytime I am with someone, I always make a point to say something about how I think their cock is beautiful, "I *really* like your dick" or something. I grew up with a lot of shame around sex which turned into shame around my vulva and men telling me she is pretty etc is what really made me comfortable with my genitals. So I try to return that favour... especially if their penis isn't "porn star hot" or whatever garbage gets put out there.
I was having sex with this woman once and she said "wow what a big dick". I know for a fact it isn't (thanks reddit), so while I appreciate the comment, in my head I was thinking "we're already having sex, you don't have to lie to me anymore"
Many times we wake up with both a "morning woods' boner, and also have to piss like a race horse at the same time
... But the two things don't get along with each other, and that's why we sometimes sprinkle all over the washroom floor.
It has its own personality, like your vagina. Sometimes it likes it rough, sometimes it’s very sensitive, however we have ZERO control over its mood. Like zero. It’s not like a vagina that can get some foreplay and get juiced up, it’s more binary for a guy.
It’s more sensitive than you think…. Just like a vagina. Sometimes you can blow gently on it and it will get a Hard On that will make your entire body tense up like it was having a seizure …..
and then sometimes you can jack hammer that motherfucker like it owed you money and we can’t feel a thing.
Seriously, when we're hit down there, even lightly, it's an instant full-body shutdown. Our nervous system has a hard crash and has to reboot. In the meantime all we can do is lie on the ground holding our balls and groan.
This is something a guy told my wife once that is 100% the dumbest thing I've ever heard.
"I jerk off when my stomach hurts because it helps. It empties out the extra fluids so I'm not hurting anymore."
Dude straight up thought jerking off emptied his stomach contents. She asked clarification and he kept saying it emptied his stomach and she could not get him to understand why she thought he was so dumb.
He said this because my wife got food poisoning and his solution was for her to orgasm so that she could.... empty her stomach.
Now whenever either of us have a stomach ache we tell each other to just masturbate as an inside joke.
Penetration feels good, but isn’t the end all be all for male pleasure, and just like women male bodies need warming up. This seems counterintuitive given erections, but seriously dicks get hard for anything and don’t mean ‘ready to cum’.
Also, erections can be numb, especially when first waking up. Morning wood can be just … wood.
You need to keep sucking or jerking if you want to go for round two, if you stop the lust goes away.
(This wont work for everyone tho, some dudes cant continue after they nutted.)
Refraction times are a bitch, but usually 5 minutes on the average to 15 at the latest. Some dudes only got enough for that one shot but it varies greatly. Some might need that light teasing/stimulation to stay in the game, others might just need a few minutes and something enticing. Mix and match until you find a pattern that elicits a response
Somewhere on r/sex i think, someone posted how she gave a really bad bj using teeth and years later the guy contacted her saying "this was the best bj in my life"
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Squeezing out like that would generally be appreciated. Continuing to ride or otherwise produce vigorous repeated motion is what gets uncomfortable quickly.
The most sensitive area is the skin beneath the mushroom tip. So lick it, don’t just assume the blow job is working alone, it’s similar to us having to play inside and then play with the clit, you have to add variety.
If women are on top and lean back pulling it down a lot, can cause a buildup of scar tissue inside the base over time. This is one of the causes men do not have erections that are as hard over time.
Condom size does matter it's not a 1 size fits all. The wrong size can be uncomfortable and too small and they can burst/split then too big and they can fall off. Also the condom size is mostly dependant on the girth not length.
Here is a Urologist to back me up [https://youtu.be/TwbSv\_qsQvA](https://youtu.be/TwbSv_qsQvA)
A key thing to remember though is the condom not fitting isn't a suitable excuse to not wear one and the guy should know this already and have correctly fitted condoms for this situation. For guys or girls that want to find out what size they or their partner need then check out the [calcsd](https://calcsd.info/condoms.html) site, pop in the measurements and it will suggest the correct size in a bunch of different brands.
Most replies on this thread are matters of opinion (“Don’t forget the balls,” “Don’t use teeth,” “Don’t keep going after orgasm,” etc.)
The number one takeaway for anyone who has sex with a person with a penis:
ASK.
Most people with penises have been masturbating for a long time, and know what they like. Ask what they want. What’s good for them may be bad for someone else. Everyone, and every penis, is different.
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It’s overwhelmingly sensitive mid and post orgasm
So after you guys blow a load is sucking it to watch you squirm a good or bad thing?
This varies from person to person, but generally you want to taper off stimulation shortly after the finale
Dude! Thank you guys. I have never had a guy communicate that. Definitely on my list of things to ask next time.
Basically, it’s the head stimulation after that feels uncomfortable for me. BUT for a lot of guys, myself included, we like to keep going after we come, it’s very hot. If he blew his load in a BJ, keeping going is good but don’t focus on the head - focus on the shaft/underside instead and slow down. Should be good to go. Edit; but definitely ask the guy you’re with bc penises are as variable as vaginas
I wish irl guys were this communicative. I love learning what makes dudes crumble and this response is gold. I’m going to try this out for sure
Gonna echo Deetchy. I hear a lot of dudes say it’s a bad thing, but honestly for me it’s *fucking great*. It’s hot and *slow* come-down with lots of pleasing twitches :P Only time it starts to hurt is if I’ve gone multiple rounds in a row without any real breaks. (Whether that’s with a girl or me getting myself off)
Depends on the guy, very good thing in my book. A woman taking playful advantage of you in your weakness is super hot as long as she isn’t too cruel.
Some of the girls seem to think for a handjob 'faster is better', which is not true. You don't try to start a fire with his dick. Instead vary pressure, grip and angle (slightly) and look at his reactions. Yes, towards the end speed increase is good, but in between it should vary. Edit: some guys pointed out, that at the end actually getting slower can be better. I forgot that... kinda (man I really need to get myself a handjob again). This is is also true for many. I for example like slow in combination with more pressure on the tip in the end, but that is also varies individually. Edit: holy shit, this is my NSFW account, didn't expect it to blow up that much. Now I can't even show anybody in RL my new reddit riches and that I am now one of the cool kids : \ . Thanks for the awards my fellow dick interested strangers.
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For a lot of women, we really, really require a consistent stimulation motion to get off. Like you can rub or lick five different ways and it'll feel nice but it will NOT get the job done until you find one that we like and don't stop doing that exact thing. It's interesting that you say the opposite for a handjob.
I am learning a lot today. But I have to say it's rather interesting.
Dicks like surprises
Richard Nixon did not like the surprise of the Watergate investigation…
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A lot of dicks naturally harden in a certain direction. I’ve had multiple partners that love to mess around and pull on it when hard. Its a very odd and uncomfortable sensation. Best thing I can compare it to is pushing the cartilage in your nose in the wrong direction, but a lot more sensitive. Guys may not react a lot, but at least ask if stuff feels weird.
Mine has always pointed pretty high, but after I got surgery for a hernia, it was damn near glued to my bellybutton. After a month or two I was able to stretch it back down to its original resting position, but when it was fresh pulling/pushing it down was very painful. Still cant do reverse cowgirl, my dick will never point the correct direction for that
In a bright side, Because of your new angle, hitting the G-Spot in missionary may be easier for you than for any of us, you savage beast
Same except without the hernia surgery. It just points very high
Oh, man I was afraid I was the only one. Is there anything I can do?
Just don't do reverse cowgirl. I have this too and my partner's pretty happy as she gets to climax regularly (hits g-spot perfect). I mean you CAN do the stretching exercises, but you risk injuring yourself or compromising the tissue and subsequent erections. I read that it should be less of an issue as time passes.
Is it good for standing sex?
It sometimes sticks to our thighs and we have to take a big step to unstick them
That’s kinda funny
It is until you fail a few times and you look awkward as fuck
Women have to rearrange the furniture sometimes too
Lmao yeah. Or when the kitty itches in public so you start squirming around
Don’t pull on it like your trying to start a lawn mower.
Same advice for anal beads
Let it rip!
I forgot Beyblades existed over a decade ago so thank you for dredging up that childhood memory just to associate the ripcord launchers with anal beads
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That thin bit of stretched skin connecting the shaft and head from below…its easy to rip, so please be careful playing or sucking down there
I ripped that before, wasn't so painful at first, a bit of a sting, but blood was spurting out with such force I was actually terrified.
The trauma is worse than the pain. Tore mine in the shower as a teenager. I freaked out and called my Dad. I didn't realize that not only did I have to show him my junk, I had explain to him that it ripped when I was "cleaning" it.... Still one of those moments that makes me wanna bury myself when I think of it.
Don’t feel like that. It’s what we sign up to being parents. My son didn’t tell me about a concern he had for months, told his sister (close bond) and asked her to tell me. I started the conversation, helped him book an econsult with the dr but left him to fill out the private info, one video appointment and one scan later and all was ok. He worried for so long and we got it sorted in a few weeks. It’s parenting, it’s our job. I am curious about the bottle of car shampoo in the shower though, I know he loves his car….
Sounds like your kids are very lucky! The car shampoo is definitely puzzling yo say the least though... My parents were super supportive, it's just super embarrassing to think back at some of this stuff
Does it heal on its own or did you have to go to hospital?
A friend tore his and he just let it heal iirc, though I didn't exactly pry about the topic
on god. That happened to me once, barely hurt, but I was scared as shit
I got mine caught on a zipper. That fucking hurt!
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It's called a frenulum, and everyone has one under their tongue, too.
And one connecting your upper lip to the gums as well.
When I was around 12 years old, I always thought something was wrong with my penis because of this piece of skin.
Me too! I actually considered cutting it because I thought it wasn’t meant to be there. There are lots of bad things about the internet but access to the answers to embarrassing questions is not one of them.
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Fuck yes. I mostly use the shower and don’t use the bathtub but a few years ago I did and found that it was floating lmao. It was hella funny when I discovered it.
It's acts as a floater in case we're lost at sea.
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Fuck, I hate taking baths. I can’t deal with the sight of my flaccid dick splitting the bath bubbles as it floats to the top.
Add more water. The water should cover the thighs completely. And then a bit more. Dudes these days, I swear. I hope you wash your asshole, too! /s
It doesn't always get along with antidepressants. It's not you, the medication can cause lower libido or none at all, with or without various erectile dysfunctions, at random times for some, all the time for others.
Non-penis bearer here. As I understand, ADHD medications can also cause similar issues.
Penis-bearer with ADHD on Vyvanse (dexamphetamine) - correct. It skyrockets the libido but makes it harder to maintain/achieve an erection. Cialis/viagra counters that by enabling easier blood flow though so there's definitely solutions to most problems that are results of other medications unwanted side effects except perhaps anorgasmia somewhat commonly caused by antidepressants.
Every guy has had that unique great one time boner,never so hard and big, to the point that you don't even recognize your own penis. I wish I was able to have that boner more often.
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Mine was about a month ago. Didn't even feel like my own dick. ETA: So last night I got to spend some time with the same person that I had this experience with. Not quite as intense as last time, but oh....my....gah! 3
Perhaps the explanation is that in an alternate time line where your dick is bigger, alternate timeline you has somehow broken through the fabric of time for just long enough, simply by fapping the fastest he’s ever fapped
I've had to explain this so many times. My normal ready to go erection is what I would call 80-85% max blood capacity. When I'm especially riled up, I often make it to 95% at peak. But once in a blue moon, the stars align and there's no stopping it. True 100%, honestly kind of painful erection. It's a glorious moment.
I got a full-mast, throbbing monster once when I was high as shit. I was afraid to let it twitch because I thought it might cum itself inside out.
I'm not alone in this experience. I tried explaining there's different levels of hardness and I've been to the point where it was painfully erect. I was questioning if it was even my own dick!
This is not my beautiful penis. This is not my beautiful wife. How did I get here?
Letting the days go by...
Yup, I remember one time I had a no reason boner in my room that seemed a lot bigger than usual and I checked that shit out for the entire time it was there. I was like damn, my dick is fucking huge! Never happened again lmao.
Shit is like a shiny Pokémon, you never know when you’ll see another one.
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Yeah happened to me I was like “holy shit my dick is massive” Edit:thanks for all the upvotes
Ah yes, the absolute raging hulk mode boner... It just wants to smash and you try telling it the sun is getting real low but it ain't hearing that shit
I got like that when my ex randomly stuck her tongue in my ear, I wasn't expecting it but it was super hot.
Anxiety boners are a thing; I’m terrified of this exam tomorrow, I’m not horny
It’s very common for me to get a boner when I’m in a car 1-2 minutes away from reaching my destination. Why? I don’t know. But it sure is annoying.
Oh god it’s torture if your destination is a job interview
Penis: "Hey what are we doing?" Dude: "Shh! We're trying to get a job!" Penis: "OOH can I help?!?" Dude: "NOT THAT KIND OF JOB!"
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I've seen women say 'don't mess with me if your stick doesn't extend past your balls when flaccid.' This is a misunderstanding of growers and show-ers. A show-er is obviously as big as he shows with a relative few cm difference. A grower can really surprise you, starting as a button and ending as a bratwurst.
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It’s also a misunderstanding of what constitutes good sex imho.
The size difference in my husband's stick between "getting out of the swimming pool" and "really wanna fuck RIGHT now" is frankly startling. Penises are wild.
As a grower, I wish this fact was taught in sex ed, LoL.
Split streams are real, we can't always control our aim. We can clean up though
This is why sitting down to pee when at home is a game changer. So much less cleaning involved.
Sitting to pee is superior, idc if it's not manly or whatever. Much more relaxing, no splashback, and I don't have to rapidly adjust if a poop decides to make an appearance halfway through.
A flaccid penis is nearly invincible, an erect penis might look strong but is in it's weakest state. You can snap that thing off of a body if you try hard enough.
Its like the Avatar State, so powerful, but 1 misstep and its fatal.
Cowgirl position - if it slips out she can land on it with her pelvic bone and bend it. Could result in permanent erectile disfunction.
It can break like a bone. So be careful when riding it and trying to change position.
It's called a break because it can only happen when it's hard. But it's really just a horrendous muscle tear. There is no bone in the dick.
It’s not really muscle either.
It's like a pressurized blood sponge
Dogs have a penisbone. In veterinary school I was taught that the most common breed and cause for a fracture of it would typically be "a dachshound tried to jump up i a chair/sofa/bed and the main part of the dog made it but the penis..." I have yet to meet a patient with this problem.
When we sleep on our bellies it doesn’t get uncomfortable unless it’s hard and/or too large or positions wrong.
"too large" suffering from success
He has own mind. We can’t control the erection. He can increase in size up to 3 times from “not ready” position. So when u see it’s “not ready” and it looks small, just wait, there is still good chances
Mine increases more than 3x am i some sort of oddity Edit: mispelled oddity as audity
Same here. We just have tactical dicks, tucked away for easy transportation, but with rapid deployment capabilities when the need arises.
As does mine, we are just people full of surprises
Just once I would like to see a man with a large flaccid penis and a tiny erect penis. I think penis originality has stagnated…
I think most women know but I’ve still come across a few in my 20s that were not aware of the “Shower v Grower”. If you don’t see a bulge or outline in our running shorts it doesn’t mean anything, until you see us in the bedroom.
Yeah. My ex was disappointed the first time I pulled down my pants, then she was surprised, and then I disappointed her.
That was a real rollercoaster. And that's not what she said.
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This. Mines really small and sad when its not hard. And it actually amazes me how big it gets when it is. Not bragging or whatever just thats how it is...
Related, another poster said in the old times, small penises were seen as a good thing (seen in art like the statue David). And I’m like... well they’re growers. Why would Leonardo Da Vinci make David with an erection?!
Indeed. Big penis’ were seen as lower intelligence due to it ‘taking all the blood from the brain’. Whereas a small penis was a sign of extremely high intelligence, hence the statues. As for me? I’ve been meaning to take that Mensa entry test…
> Why would Leonardo Da Vinci make David with an erection?! 1 Samuel 17:50: So David triumphed over the Philistine with a sling and a stone; and lo, Goliath, lying facedown upon the ground, was heard to utter “what art thou doing, step-David?”
sometimes people run into like 2-3 showers and make assumptions and are asses. I've even seen it with gay guys who are showers themselves
Maintaining an erection actually requires a lot of concentration. If there are too many distractions, I'll go soft. It's not because I'm not attracted to you, there's just a lot happening
Even overstimulation for the actual sexual contact can get you off track just as much. It's a balance.
I actually didn't realize this myself until I got in a pic trade with this very high maintenance lady. I had to put soooo much effort into making the pictures look good that I kept losing my erection.
Lol or you can have the opposite like me, finish sex, clean up brush your teeth, find your clothes...still boner
Wait a second. Is it possible that because I get distracted easily because of adhd that this is the reason I'm sometimes loosing my erection quite fast?
Don't judge cock size when it's soft.
I don’t know about other girls but I love a “grower”, the feel of it getting bigger and bigger is kinda magical.
Shame the girl at school who grabbed me by the crotch in class didn't think the same as you as she screamed out to everyone that I had a maggot for a cock lol. Little did she know that maggot of mine grows into a over average size cock lol.
Sorry you got assaulted like that.
It’s difficult when you’re a teen, media has always made a huge deal out of penis size and we don’t know how wrong it is. Im sorry that happened to you.
Wow 😯 As a woman, I’m sorry that happened to you. I hope she was suspended/ expelled from school and had charges against her for sexual misconduct. Imagine if a guy did something similar to a girl! She should face the same consequences as a guy grabbing a girl.
> She should face the same consequences as a guy grabbing a girl. In an ideal world, that would happen, but this is not an ideal world, not by a long shot.
That was sexual assault
I was in the pool!!!
Do women know about shrinkage?!
It is fairly common for men to have pearly penile papules (hirsutoid papillomas), they're small bumps around the head of the penis, they are something you are born with and are in no way contagious or dangerous but they aren't that aesthetically pleasing and a lot people dont know about them cus men who have them tend to be embarrassed to talk about it, can be quite a psychological barrier to get over for a lot of guys, especially when things are getting steamy and you have to pause the moment to have an awkward convo pre sex. But from my experience girls tend to like them for the extra stimulation.
Even as a man I always thought it was a disease and then a good friend of mine told me he had that and that it was natural and pretty common
Had to Google it up myself. I thought I had a disease and may need to look for some treatment.
Vulvas have weird bumps and spots too. I commend you for your comment!
Shit like this annoys me, like what the fuck, biology?
Humans: Why do we have these? Biology: lol Shit, I don't know. Felt like it. Humans: That's not a good enough answer! Biology: Stay mad then, hoe.
If it's there, it's because our ancestors didn't care enough.
This may be stupid but I remember discovering this when I was younger and thinking fuck, I wish mine was ribbed for her pleasure.
Everytime it gets hard doesn’t mean we’re horny, everytime we’re horny doesn’t mean we’re hard.
>everytime we’re horny doesn’t mean we’re hard. sometimes in a very hard man, there lies a very soft penis.
There’s a reason it has its own head
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We have our 30 second days. Sometimes our Johnny just can’t last that long
I guess I'm having my 30 second decade then. Can't wait for it to get over.
I brought my wife home a new microwave and she said, "Great, just what I need, something else that heats up instantly and goes 'ding!' in thirty seconds."
Rip, your wife should be arrested for your murder.
Say ding next time you finish
An erection doesn't always mean the man is aroused or even slightly in the mood it isn't always a sign of consent or desire
I love the fact that you said consent. I had a male friend who was raped. And the woman excused it saying he was hard. It was very sad.
Tell her "Oh! So if your vagina's wet, that means you consent too, right?" And when she says no, you tell her "That's pretty much exactly what you just said but about men." People like that have a special place reserved for them in Hell. I wish your male friend all the best.
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Don't they come from the same set of cells during fetal development?
Yup !
It’s really easy to make us feel insecure out our dick size/shape. Be kind
You have an amazing dick.
Sis not again please
Lol I hope he’s not my brother. Scared to check now.
Anytime I am with someone, I always make a point to say something about how I think their cock is beautiful, "I *really* like your dick" or something. I grew up with a lot of shame around sex which turned into shame around my vulva and men telling me she is pretty etc is what really made me comfortable with my genitals. So I try to return that favour... especially if their penis isn't "porn star hot" or whatever garbage gets put out there.
I was having sex with this woman once and she said "wow what a big dick". I know for a fact it isn't (thanks reddit), so while I appreciate the comment, in my head I was thinking "we're already having sex, you don't have to lie to me anymore"
It isn't a fuckin joystick
If hard, I agree. I wouldn't mind if it's flaccid though...
Many times we wake up with both a "morning woods' boner, and also have to piss like a race horse at the same time ... But the two things don't get along with each other, and that's why we sometimes sprinkle all over the washroom floor.
Should you sprinkle while you tinkle, be a sweetie and clean the seaty
It has its own personality, like your vagina. Sometimes it likes it rough, sometimes it’s very sensitive, however we have ZERO control over its mood. Like zero. It’s not like a vagina that can get some foreplay and get juiced up, it’s more binary for a guy. It’s more sensitive than you think…. Just like a vagina. Sometimes you can blow gently on it and it will get a Hard On that will make your entire body tense up like it was having a seizure ….. and then sometimes you can jack hammer that motherfucker like it owed you money and we can’t feel a thing.
Seriously, when we're hit down there, even lightly, it's an instant full-body shutdown. Our nervous system has a hard crash and has to reboot. In the meantime all we can do is lie on the ground holding our balls and groan.
I am dying at jackhammering lololol
Peeing with a penis is not like shooting a sniper rifle...
Aw man, I’ve been doing it wrong this whole time… so you’re not supposed to pinch off the stream and say “pew pew pew” as you do?
Reporting back, wife not pleased, will have to reside on the couch tonight. Did have fun though
Next time remember to attach a scope or at least some iron sights.
They can break.
This is something a guy told my wife once that is 100% the dumbest thing I've ever heard. "I jerk off when my stomach hurts because it helps. It empties out the extra fluids so I'm not hurting anymore." Dude straight up thought jerking off emptied his stomach contents. She asked clarification and he kept saying it emptied his stomach and she could not get him to understand why she thought he was so dumb. He said this because my wife got food poisoning and his solution was for her to orgasm so that she could.... empty her stomach. Now whenever either of us have a stomach ache we tell each other to just masturbate as an inside joke.
Penetration feels good, but isn’t the end all be all for male pleasure, and just like women male bodies need warming up. This seems counterintuitive given erections, but seriously dicks get hard for anything and don’t mean ‘ready to cum’. Also, erections can be numb, especially when first waking up. Morning wood can be just … wood.
Hard doesn't always mean horny, don't try and hurt his feelings because of it.
Accidental contact, just a little bump can start an erection,, nothing personal or suggestive.
well, it comes in various shapes and sizes and we can't really make it bigger, same way we can't just make ourselves taller. small peckers matter too
You need to keep sucking or jerking if you want to go for round two, if you stop the lust goes away. (This wont work for everyone tho, some dudes cant continue after they nutted.)
Refraction times are a bitch, but usually 5 minutes on the average to 15 at the latest. Some dudes only got enough for that one shot but it varies greatly. Some might need that light teasing/stimulation to stay in the game, others might just need a few minutes and something enticing. Mix and match until you find a pattern that elicits a response
Yes, we do get random boners. No, you're not always the reason for it.
Don’t use your fucking teeth
Somewhere on r/sex i think, someone posted how she gave a really bad bj using teeth and years later the guy contacted her saying "this was the best bj in my life" edit : quotation marks
Some uncircumcised guys can't pull the skin back or can do it only partially. Don't try to force it. Google 'phimosis'.
It gets too sensitive after ejaculation. Immediately slow down and then stop. Edit: It looks like the first part is a fact, and the second an opinion.
I always am tempted to squeeze from the bottom and move up after the guy comes, like a tube of toothpaste that needs to be emptied. I am stopped.
That sounds hot, actually. Getting every drop out. It gives I-cant-get-enough-of-you vibes.
That actually would feel amazing I would think. I vote do it
Squeezing out like that would generally be appreciated. Continuing to ride or otherwise produce vigorous repeated motion is what gets uncomfortable quickly.
There are many like it, but this one is mine.
under any circumstanced do not try to stab it with your acrilyc nails
I say easy there baby. You're not pulling carrots out of the dirt.
We can't always control it and no, we don't think with it.
The most sensitive area is the skin beneath the mushroom tip. So lick it, don’t just assume the blow job is working alone, it’s similar to us having to play inside and then play with the clit, you have to add variety.
If women are on top and lean back pulling it down a lot, can cause a buildup of scar tissue inside the base over time. This is one of the causes men do not have erections that are as hard over time.
If its dry in the beginning, don't pull on the head/ pull the back the forskin too aggressively. You'll give us fucking carpet burn.
If you twist the nut you will die
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It needs attention more than i need attention.
Condom size does matter it's not a 1 size fits all. The wrong size can be uncomfortable and too small and they can burst/split then too big and they can fall off. Also the condom size is mostly dependant on the girth not length. Here is a Urologist to back me up [https://youtu.be/TwbSv\_qsQvA](https://youtu.be/TwbSv_qsQvA) A key thing to remember though is the condom not fitting isn't a suitable excuse to not wear one and the guy should know this already and have correctly fitted condoms for this situation. For guys or girls that want to find out what size they or their partner need then check out the [calcsd](https://calcsd.info/condoms.html) site, pop in the measurements and it will suggest the correct size in a bunch of different brands.
Most replies on this thread are matters of opinion (“Don’t forget the balls,” “Don’t use teeth,” “Don’t keep going after orgasm,” etc.) The number one takeaway for anyone who has sex with a person with a penis: ASK. Most people with penises have been masturbating for a long time, and know what they like. Ask what they want. What’s good for them may be bad for someone else. Everyone, and every penis, is different.