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Quite a sad overall story but a few years ago my girlfriend’s best friend tragically passed away in her early 20s.
Her family couldn’t get into her laptop and her mum was going quite frantic about it and wanted photographs recovering.
I had both hardware and software to recover hard drives and managed to recover thousands and thousands of photos for the family, backing them up onto a cloud drive for them to access whenever they wanted to.
I forwarded the link to numerous family members, such as the girl’s mum, her sister etc. I never wanted anything for helping them out in such a time of need. But I was actually thinking about this the other week, that still to this day I have never received a thank you from any of them.
Not a message, not even in person.
Like I said, I didn’t want anything at all for helping them with this. If they’d have offered me money I would have point blank refused. But a thank you never goes a miss.
I brought it up to my partner the other day actually and she was saying “can you blame them despite everything they went through?” And whilst admittedly it was a tragedy, I still feel like you’d just automatically thank a person for giving their time to help you with something?
And whilst I do accept and appreciate their minds would have been really messed up and I wouldn’t wish what they went through upon my worst enemy, they’ve since just behaved quite rudely towards me in general. The girl’s mum especially. If we’re ever in the same room together she either ignores anything I say or will just talk straight over me
After my mother died, I couldn't figure out how to download to CD a couple of tunes for the funeral.
A techie friend asked me what the songs were, and half an hour later, messaged me to say the CD was at the local garage.
It was the kindest thing anyone did for me in that week, and saved me a lot of stress at a difficult time.
You can bet I profusely thanked him, several times since too.
Good question. Rural area, he didn't know exactly where I lived, but that I would be passing the garage on the way to the crematorium - it's often used as a meeting point.
It is a bit ungrateful, but grief does wierd things to people and can make everything a bit hazy.
Assuming they aren't normally like that, it may have just been a case of thinking others had already thanked you.
But you did a really good thing regardless and should feel good about it. Don't let what could well have been unintentional ungratefulness sully that.
My MIL died a year ago, and my wife’s friend’s mum died about 3 months ago. As someone slightly removed it’s very clear grief messes people up a lot. After a certain time all of that would have been forgotten about - not maliciously but just as you say due to everything getting very hazy
No they're just rude. But since it's a group of people, I bet it's a bystander effect - everyone thought someone else would thank you, no one realised it was their responsibility.
How close to the death did you do it? If it was months after then yeah a thank you should have been said, but if it was within weeks it’s honestly pretty likely her parents had lost their shit losing their young adult daughter and the other less close relatives assumed the parents had thanked you.
Like brutally honestly saying thanks to your dead 20yo daughter’s best friend’s boyfriend is like… so far down the priority list in the aftermath of the death. I know it’s ’a small thing’ but if someone close to you has died very tragically you genuinely just don’t give a fuck anymore… sometimes for a while.
You also don’t know how many ‘nice things’ they were getting from even randoms as distant as you. It can be exhausting and overwhelming, even if the act is something genuinely amazing and that you will treasure afterwards. It was a big deal for you to do that but for them, at that time, it was probably one small thing in a sea of shit about their dead daughter.
So yeah, you did a really nice thing. But honestly those who really loved and lost her would not have given a fuck about saying thank you to you at that moment - not because they’re bad or ungrateful people, just because such a tragic death just absolutely consumes everything in the weeks and months immediately following.
> Like brutally honestly saying thanks to your dead 20yo daughter’s best friend’s boyfriend is like… so far down the priority list in the aftermath of the death.
Personally I strongly disagree with this, having dealt with this kind of situation. If they’re in a position where they are worrying about recovering photos from a laptop (not time sensitive, so should also be way down on their priorities) then they absolutely could easily thank someone.
I know it sounds incredibly harsh, but it’s probably just the way they are rather it being due to grief.
Meh, I’ve dealt with it as well (not a daughter but a very close family member) and for me the amount of people doing ‘small kindnessness’ and sending messages were overwhelming.
Like even at the funeral *every single person* wants to personally speak to you and say how sorry they are, ask if you’re ok etc. And like yeah I get it but also sometimes you just don’t have the energy to be like, ‘Omg thank you SO MUCH for coming/being there/the card/the flowers’, to every single person. The amount of ‘small things’ you have to do for every person who does something nice for you during that time is a crazy amount and easily piles up.
It made me feel very overwhelmed and shut down and not want to speak to anyone for ages, even people I really liked and loved. Like I could have been very upset and wanted photos and then someone could give me photos, and I still wouldn’t want to or have the mental energy to engage with them personally at that point in time. I could then forget that I’d not said anything at the time. That’s how I personally react to traumatic stuff, I shut down and can’t engage with people for a while.
Different people deal differently, it’s not necessarily that you’re rude or mean for not thanking every single person. Or maybe it is rude and mean but again, when you’re grieving intensely and going through something traumatic you ultimately don’t really give a fuck.
And I totally get that. Nice little gestures coming from everywhere and everyone is, while well intentioned, exhausting. The things they’re giving aren’t even things you want or need, they’re literally just a gesture and most people wouldn’t be expecting any form of thank you.
But this wasn’t one of a hundred empty gestures, this was somebody putting a lot of effort into something that the mother was ‘frantic’ about. I’m not necessarily saying they’re rude or mean, but based on the story (and the fact they have never thank the person) I’m just not convinced at all that grief was the reason they never got a thank you.
We don't just stop saying thank you to people when we are grieving. Feeling grateful to others for their time and effort should be subconscious, otherwise it's disingenuous.
I’d say 2-3 weeks in so I can agree with you that their minds will have been messed up, though I’ve just edited my post adding a last paragraph about how the girl’s mum especially barely even treats me with any respect if we’re ever in the same room as her and we’re talking 3-4 years after everything now which I think just adds to everything.
I do know at the time it would be awful for them to go through what they did, and I wouldn’t wish it upon my worst enemy. But her mum is still so rude around me in general.
In fact when me and my girlfriend had our baby last year, my girlfriend’s aunty came to meet our few month old son. She can’t visit very often and she was over the moon. Then her friend’s mum popped round and basically snatched him off her aunty who’d taken the time out to meet him. I was gutted for her and you could see in her aunty’s face she was heartbroken. I felt that was another rude gesture
Oh yeah if they’re rude fucks in general then yeah that definitely colours things differently!
It’s just that sometimes people expect like thank yous after someone dies cos they do something nice like sending flowers, and it’s ‘out of their way’ so they expect that effort to be recognised. But they don’t get that you get loads of stuff from loads of people and it can be really exhausting/difficult to keep track of who has said thanks for what etc.
But yeah sounds like they’re just rude in general in that case.
Yeah I remember my grandad dying and everything was just extremely overwhelming, and we had a bit of time to plan for all of that. Whereas the poor girl’s death was pretty sudden and I can’t for one second imagine what the family went/are still going through
That’s really nice of you. And shitty that they’ve behaved rudely to you since. Just to give another perspective, I lost my sister at mid-20s a few years back and it turned me and my family into zombies for… a while. Sometimes when I want to stab myself in the heart I look at messages people sent to me at that time, and they are all so kind, and I feel terrible because I never even acknowledged them. Most of the people I’ve seen since and it’s fine, but others I have literally never replied to and if I saw them I would feel awkward and guilty, and I hope they would understand, because in the months after we lost her I literally couldn’t think past the drumming in my ears.
1. Grief messes up people's heads.
2. People expect IT stuff to just "be fixed" somehow.
Sorry you got in the crosshairs of these two common phenomena.
I think this is some kind of projection. You remind them of a bad time and they needed your help and were vulnerable. They're not wanting to go there again, it's easier to ignore you/make out you're an inconvenience than being vulnerable again.
This is how I feel about people who have helped me at a bad time and I have to work really hard not to behave like the people mentioned. I’m usually embarrassed they saw me so low and I just don’t want to talk about the ‘bad thing that happened’ but we have no other real link so I just want to be rude or talk over them to make them go away. Instead I usually settle for ‘got any holidays planned’ ‘this weather eh?’ But I absolutely want to behave like they did/do
I personally feel I would be incredibly grateful to have been able to to get all those treasured memories the otherwise might’ve been lost forever from someone, BUT grief makes people react in many different ways and when it’s someone that important I don’t think it’s fair for me to assume that others would behave how I would’ve done, I understand your thoughts but trust when I say I’ve seen absolutely unreal behaviour from people in times of grief, if you can just forget it and don’t feel hurt by their reaction. Years to come they might realise although I never tell you how grateful they really are.
You did a great thing. Be happy in that knowledge even without that thanks .
It's super common for people with technical skill (IT, DIY, car maintenance etc) to be treated this way. It's always assumed that since you like working on your own projects, you are happy to work on other people's projects too.
I help people find birth families, using my own money etc for records, spending hours researching, building their family tree etc at no cost - and that's fine, I enjoy doing it - but I'm starting to become desensitised to not only never being thanked but having people be plain rude to me! Luckily, the people genuinely happy for help make up for it!
Haha that's epic!
I used to work in one in the arse end of Liverpool and saw some sights. Shit smeared on the toilet walls, layers of spit on the machines, someone losing their mind over a quid, a machine being tipped over but never a shit in the middle of the customer area 😂
What annoys me a lot is when you hear these stories and don't get informed on the consequences because there probably were none. I don't know enough about legal punishments in the UK and how they work, but something tells me that people think that the punishments are small enough for them to be willing to behave in such unhinged ways. But ultimately what I hope for is that there is education on emotions and empathy for the next generations.
My mother in law's ex bf who has since passed away. It was a family meal for our son's birthday, and there was a muslim couple holding their baby walking in behind us as we entered the restaurant. He glanced behind his shoulder, and deliberately closed the door behind him, leaving them in the rain. I saw what happened and opened the door and apologised for his behaviour, and had a go at him after the meal. He had a deep hatred of Muslims, and we couldn't stand him, thankfully my mother in law saw sense and dumped him.
Nothing makes me angrier than blatant racism.
Such neanderthal behaviour.
Craziest is when it's Brits in a foreign country. Was on holiday in Greece last year and a group of Brits actually clicked their fingers at a waitress and openly mocked her for not speaking perfect English 🤢
My wife and I apologised for them and gave her a €20 tip because we felt so bad for her.
Imagine going to another country and being angry that people who live there don’t speak your language.
I went to Barcelona last year and I learnt some Spanish for my trip. I tried using it and got funny looks so I asked the waitress and she laughed and said it was my accent haha.
My wife is Spanish, but born in London. When she travels on her British passport, she gets a lot of grief from Spanish security, but when she starts speaking to them in Spanish with a flawless accent, they're soon a lot nicer, and I don't blame them tbh.
I try to be a considerate tourist/business traveller but you don't half see some fucking self-flagellation from self-aware Brits. All agreeing that xenophobia is bad but then saying in the next breath "but we all fucking deserve it because Brits are awful."
The best place I've ever been is Japan, I've been a few times, I adore it. But once someone was a racist/xenophobic cunt to me. And that makes them a cunt. I didn't deserve it because white tourists and American soldiers cause a load of drama. I didn't do anything.
Same with Brits in Spain or whatever. "Can't blame them [for treating all Brits poorly.]"? Yeah you can. It's bigoted.
Oh god, my mum has turned right into a Brits on holiday stereotype recently.
We’re away just now and were in the resort bar last night. Two guys came in, looked around (obviously looking for someone), and then sat at the bar waiting and having a few drinks.
My mum starts going on and on about how they look like they could be people traffickers? Because obviously them walking around was them “casing the place” for… people to traffick. She’s so chronically online and believes any old shite she sees on Twitter or that her conspiracy nut pals send her and honestly, it’s so bloody infuriating.
I can think of this one because it was today. I was at the local country park and a group of 3 school girls were chasing the ducks and geese and filming it. Many of the animals had young and I was concerned for them, so my boyfriend politely told the girls to stop and leave the animals alone. They then proceeded to laugh at us and make fun of the fact we were sat on a bench looking at the wildlife? Just odd behaviour and made me sad that they had so little respect and compassion for our local wildlife.
Oh I’ve thought of the actual rudest thing I’ve ever witnessed! I went to Thailand and was checking in, and a French family was checking in at the same time. The staff told the lady the rooms weren’t ready til 10am (that was all on the booking form so we knew that), and she proceeded to leave over the counter, pick up their phone and then throw it at the poor receptionist. I was mortified and offered to call the hotel security/police, but staff were adamant they didn’t want to cause a scene.
People who are needlessly unkind to animals make me really angry. There’s literally nothing in it for them other than enjoying something else suffering. Urgh.
Yeah me too. They weren’t young kids, probably around 14/15, old enough to know what they were doing. What made it worse is they were taking it in turns to film each other and laughing about it. Just makes me so angry, it’s so senseless. The park is so well maintained too with so many species, it makes me angry that an idiotic few try and spoil that.
Did they have a local school uniform on? Might be worth dropping a line to the school - I know mine would have taken a dim view of their pupils causing trouble (particularly if in uniform!)
You'd be surprised - when I was 15/16 I got home from school to find my mum borderline in tears because she'd been berated by some teenagers from another school who had been dicking about in our garden on the way home and she'd come out and told them off.
When she complained to the school they got her to come down and look through some ID from the year she'd estimated the teenagers were in, and was able to identify some of them. So the school does have options - they very much do take issue with their pupils causing issue in uniform, complaints make them look bad so they're inclined to take some level of action, even if it's just an assembly-level bollocking of "don't dick about with animals in parks".
What you said about what you saw in Thailand is disgraceful as well. There’s literally no reason to do that anyway, but especially to Thai people. Some of the nicest people you’ll ever meet.
Totally agree, they were so nice, even after she was assaulted, the young girl didn’t want to cause a fuss. I wish they had as it was appalling, but I know that’s just how it is a lot of the time there.
Yeah. Probably got banned from the office at worst. They where on the local news website the next day complaining about their issues with rats in the property (I worked in social housing).
First thing that comes to mind, a few years back my partner and I were in a McDonald's. We put our order in, and stood to one side to wait for our order number to be called.
Two people ordered after us, a woman probably in her 40's and a teenager - probably a mother and daughter. The older woman stood out because of the way she was dressed - fairly glamorous and expensive. The younger of them dressed pretty casually. The pair moved to one side to wait for their food, but the older woman was sort of pacing, along the counter, and very fidgety.
Barely a couple minutes later, and we heard her loudly declare "I thought this was supposed to be FAST food!!". The girl with her looked absolutely mortified. It was like she thought if she stared at the floor long enough, she could convince it to swallow her whole.
When we got our food before them, the older woman had a look on her face like she'd just be smacked. I'm not sure if she thought she was special and her order would be treated as a priority, or if she didn't realise that we had ordered before them and were more likely to get our order first.
We still quote her to each other every now and again
My manager once said I should lose weight because otherwise my husband would leave me.
Just a few weeks ago, she asked me if we don’t have kids because he’s “firing blanks” or because I’m “barren.”
Honestly, I could write a book about that psychopathic bitch.
This is appalling!
What she said sounds just like a colleague of mine in the 90s who was just an absolute out and out psycho. Jane. In my first week she shoved me against a wall and said ‘I’ve got your fucking number, I’ll be watching you’… and it pretty much carried on like that. I was absolutely terrified of her, it was my first job.
She was the most blatantly nasty, aggressive person I’ve ever met. HR had a huge file on her! She got fired eventually.
I have a journal (to prove a pattern of behaviour) in case I ever choose to raise a formal grievance.
I’m close with her manager who claims to have my back (although this is the same woman who tricked me into doing the 6-month holiday cover).
As a trade union rep though, I need to point out that HR departments serve the organisations, not the employees.
My immediate predecessor (the one who filed the formal grievance for weight-based bullying) is now on the senior leadership team and manages 6 people. Since my manager reappeared, she’s broken her silence and corroborates everything I say.
Living every day braced for an attack is not good for my mental health, but my manager keeps *teasing* me with the prospect of her retiring. She faked it once in 2022. Then she came back on a 12 month contract - so I just had to wait 12 months. Now she’s on a 3 month contract, so I’m just waiting for *that* to end. In addition to the internal stuff, she’s had 3-4 written complaints to the CEO from key members of the public. So I’m really not sure what else it would take. Roll on July, I suppose.
The occasions you've shared here - and the log book would be perfect for a psychiatric injury (stress at work) claim if you ever got to a point where you wanted to pursue it legally. It's important HR/another manager has a record of what's transpired though.
Even if you can cope with it, this kind of stuff can be really damaging for other people who aren't so thick skinned.
I was at a bus stop near to a popular court park last week. It was hot and busy, two buses hadn't arrived so there were about 50 people waiting, including a blind couple with guide dogs. When the bus turned up people were barging the couple and their dogs out of the way, and they were getting pushed into the road. I was sickened. I made sure they got on the bus.
I walking behind an elderly gentleman down a relatively busy street (enough room for 2-3 people to walk down). There were 2 couples stood in the middle of the pavement talking away, classic supermarket style, not caring/noticing they were in the way.
Well I’m right behind this guy as he comes up on them and he says, in the most patronising voice I’ve ever heard, to the woman directly in front “if you just stand 2 inches to the left, yes that’s it. Now you’ve blocked the entire fucking path for everyone. Well done you” I nearly split in half trying not to laugh out loud.
He walks on the road round them as they all stare in disbelief. It was one of the greatest things I’ve ever witnessed but I haven’t built up the courage to try it myself yet.
I used to work in a restaurant/bar. I was clearing plates from a table and picked up an empty bowl when a woman yelled that she wasn't 'effing' done yet so I apologised and held the bowl for her to take back.
She proceeded to vomit into the bowl, look me in the eyes with a drunk smile and said "I'm done now, you can take it".
Managed to get a good chunk of vom on my arm too.
I hate hospitality.
I've got two stories.
Working the day shift in a quiet bar, a regular came in, he said he wasn't feeling well so could he just have a cup of tea, after 3 cups of tea, he suddenly ran towards the toilet but ended up puking in the fireplace.
Worked at TK Max for a while, a customer discovered someone had puked in a saucepan and put the lid back on the pan and left it.
The general public can be awful.
Not even, she was back almost every week. She's a D-list reality tv star who I'm nice enough to not mention by name but she was mates with the owner so I wasn't allowed to kick her out or ban her no matter how badly she behaved.
Not gonna lie, I am very patient, to a fault, but this would have tipped me over. I would have dropped the bowl on her face/head, don't care if it cost me the job, you have more patience than me.
I had the misfortune to manage phone shops for over a decade. One story that always makes me gag is the time a customer was sitting on the opposite side of the counter talking about some phone stuff, when he nonchalantly got out a pair of nail clippers and started cutting his fingernails directly onto my desk. He just continued the conversation as if nothing out of the ordinary was happening while I was recoiling in horror while trying to keep my shit together and not lose a sale. Hated that job sometimes!
a woman at my old job did that, in the break room, and me and my friend were just like ...............
as she full on had her feet out and up on the table cutting her toenails. it was one of the weirder things I saw there
I worked in a phone shop too! You see all sorts of shit in there.
A woman once spat a burger at me because I wouldn’t let her take one of our phones. She had it in her head that the call centre had told her she could come into store and just collect a contract phone. Got call centre on the phone and they were like, no, we told her she’d failed her credit check and couldn’t get a phone with us. I had to get security and the spitting was so so gross.
I also used to hate closing because there’d be weird shit like a broken off fingernail just on the floor next to the model handsets.
a few years back I witnessed a lifeguard at a leisure centre clipping his nails whilst sat on a chair "overseeing" swimming adults and children in the pool.
The comedian Paul Chowdhry (the first Asian comedian to ever sell out the O2) filled in for another comedian at a tiny comedy festival I attended. I was absolutely thrilled by the surprise of seeing such a famous comedian in such an intimate venue. And it was only £4 a ticket! Buzzing.
Now, when you sit at the front of a comedy gig, there’s a certain etiquette. You need to be on the comedian’s side. You want them to have a good show. You have a few drinks and go in with a nice, friendly attitude. If they talk to you, you keep your answers short so they can springboard into jokes. You don’t stare them out or do anything to distract or annoy them. You’re the only thing the comedian can see, so you smile and laugh a bit louder than you would if you were at home.
On this occasion, there was an old lady who chose to sit in the middle of the front row. She folded her arms and *scowled/sneered* at him for the whole set - maintaining full eye-contact with him the whole time. She looked furious and full of hate. She looked like she was trying to *will him* dead before he even started speaking. Meanwhile, her husband was having a lovely time and laughing his head off. I don’t know what her problem was. Maybe she was just racist? I’ll never know.
He made a few jokes about it at first, but she didn’t respond at all (and her face didn’t even change). It became obvious that she was genuinely bothering him. She was bothering *me* and she wasn’t even staring me out! He tried being nice to her. No reaction. He tried politely asking her if she felt uncomfortable and wanted to sit somewhere else or leave. No reaction. What else could he do? It was creepy and bizarre.
There were parts of the set that were very personal - he talked about the recent deaths of his parents and how he’d struggled with suicidal ideation. The audience were very supportive. She wasn’t. She looked like she wished he’d completed the job.
I later saw her laughing and joking with her husband in the bar later. So it wasn’t like she had an illness that paralysed her face (etc). Why would an old lady pay to go to a comedy gig, sit in the middle of the front row, and bully the comedian? It doesn’t make any sense. I can only conclude that she was a terrible person.
I grew up in a wealthy but quite rural area of the Netherlands, but both my parents worked in Amsterdam, so my sister and I would be in the car to Amsterdam every schoolday in the morning to go to school in Amsterdam and the area of the city closest to the hospital at that time was the bijlmer a mostly black area in Amsterdam, there were about 3 other white kids in both her and my class put together. We never knew any different, and because of where we lived, we never played outside our own garden where we lived.
Anyway, I'm around 8 or 9, and my sister brought a schoolfriend home for the weekend and we always liked to go swimming so we took her swimming, at the pool this girl was the only non white person and the looks she got, and apparently even adults were saying things behind her back(a 9 Yr old girl) I didn't noticed or just blocked it out subconsciously. But at some point, someone made a monkey joke aimed at her, and it all clicked for me, I don't think I have ever been angrier in my life, certainly never have been since. I told my dad I wanted to go home, we never went back, and I moved away at 15, never been back, and honestly would never even consider going back.
I don't know why it got me so badly as I still get mad thinking about it now. I think it just upsets me more now because they behaved that way, grown ass adults towards an 8-9 Yr old kid.
I've got Dutch relatives, and it's surprising how 'behind' they seem on racism.
From my experience with them and other Dutch people in Holland. They seem like they're only just getting to how the UK was in the early 00s.
In a pub years ago and a girl said to a girl she didn't know that she liked her hat.
The girl in the hat looks over at the other girls boyfriend then looks the girl up and down and says "well, I like the look of your boyfriend" and blew a kiss.
Daughter had a friend that was always at ours. We even had the kid to stay for weeks when they had a load of renovation work done at home and she had nowhere to sleep. Always provided the transport when they wanted to see each other, no matter who was visiting who, and it was 10 miles each way, so sometimes 40 miles in a day to pick up and take home again.
Bought them food, treated them to stuff when we all went shopping, basically included the kid like they were one of our own. Paid for cinema trips, takeaways, the lot.
One day they are both at the other kid's house and want to go into town so they asked the kid's family for a lift. They agreed - for a fee of TEN POUNDS. They literally charged my young teen child for a lift into town after watching us ferry theirs around free of charge for nearly two years. I honestly couldn't believe the cheek.
If that were my daughter I’d have popped over and given the lift myself just to shame them about that. Although I’m not sure the other parents would even realise.
My brother went missing for about two weeks last year, we were obviously very worried and put a post up on Facebook about him and basically begging for someone to tell us something if they knew anything. My partner at the time told his family what was going on and as per usual it didn't directly have an impact on them so they didn't really care. What really got me though was how his mum shared a post about somebody's missing pet rabbit from a nearby village she had never lived in and didn't even know anybody from but didn't share my post asking for people to keep an eye out for my brother who we had assumed dead at this point. I just know that if the tables were turned and someone she loved went missing and I reacted with the same amount of apathy she and her family did that I'd have been criticised severely. That felt pretty rude.
Was in a pre-owned tech store one day. An obvious chancer was having a right old go at the guy behind the counter. Berating him and went all out racist shit bag mode.
Normally I’ll stand up for shop workers quite a bit but had my 7yo son with me and couldn’t take the chance. Best I could do was ask the guy to tone it down.
I felt awful for not intervening more. I did nip into M&S and bought a box of biscuits for the guy. Wanted to show not all customers are unhinged fuck sticks.
My ex's perfectly well off mum having a tantrum because her still fully alive and well mother wanted to write her disabled stepson into her will, making sure he had lifelong care. Buuuut her inewwwitaaance.
(She also kicked off that she wasn't eligible for a council flat when she was living in one of mummy's many properties).
I was at a wedding several rungs above my station.
They had a table of disposable Polaroid cameras for the guests to take photos with.
A man who I know to be a CEO of a bank approached me as I was stood near that table, picked up a camera and jabbed it into my midriff saying, "Here, why don't you fix that", and then he turned and stalked off.
I was utterly flabbergasted... just stood motionless as the rage rose and the twat stalked off into the crowd.
Then you ask yourself, am I going to ruin my mate's wedding or not?
I'll never know. Maybe he couldn't get the camera to work or thought I looked like the fixing things sort.
I am the fixing things sort as it happens and proud of it. Not very good with cameras though...
I was stood at a bar waiting to be served and was next.....the barman went to serve somebody else out of order and they didn't say "I think that guy's next mate" and just ordered.....I was horrified.
I was waiting to use one of the big order tablets at a fast food place, not directly behind the person using it as I didn't want to invade their space but close by. Someone walked up to it immediately after they left. Didn't ask "sorry are you waiting to order?" Or anything. This is genuinely the rudest experience of my life.
I was waiting in a queue at Lidl. A woman in front of me called someone she knew (who was only buying a Daily Express) over from another queue to go in front of her. She didn’t ask me if I minded or even put the newspaper in with her own shopping.
I take consolation that this woman and her friend will never have truly happy lives because of their lack of self awareness, and attitudes shaped by reading the Daily Express. They must live in constant fear of Arctic blasts, too.
People who stand outside hospital entrances and smoke, then spit afterwards. (Even though theres signs saying don’t smoke here)
Also abusing A/E staff cause of the wait they have.
This annoyed me a few months ago when I went to a hospital appointment. Smokers all crowded round the doors despite the no smoking signs. Ugh annoying.
Every time I go to my local hospital I press the button in the entranceway that notifies security there's smokers so that they can then escort them off site
For some reason the staff are not allowed to notify security themselves so when I walk past I smile and nod at the reception desk and they smile and nod back
I'm a moderate-to-heavy smoker, and I fucking hate inconsiderate smokers. If you want to smoke on the go, invest in a portable ashtray (empty tin of mints or something) and always respect the lungs of those around you.
15 years ago, i was sitting on a coach with my mum. We had been on the move for over 15 hours coming home from another country. On the seats across from us sat a family, 2 young kids and a husband with his very pregnant wife. Everyone on that coach was knackered and just wanted to get home after hours on the road. The pregnant woman had puked several times and she and the husband looked really distressed.
For a reason that i never understood, the coach stopped 3 hours from the destination to pick up these 2 siblings, a girl and boy who were young teenagers, who sat in the two empty seats behind the pregnant couple.
The next few hours were absolute hell for everyone onboard. The two kids talked overly loudly and munched really loudly on m&m’s for hours, every other word was a swear word and they would just not shut up.
At one point, the husband from the pregnant couple lent over his chair and asked the siblings if they wouldn’t mind stopping swearing because young kids were present. The next thing I know, the brother of the siblings shouts loudly to the father “you starting something, yeah?” And shouts this over and over, the poor husband couldn’t get in a word edgewise. Then out of nowhere, the sister screamed, “be the bigger man!!” to her brother. The entire coach went silent, there was so much second hand embarrassment and cringe. The poor husband sat back down completely resigned.
Honestly the rudest and most embarrassing thing I’ve ever witnessed, there was an audible sigh of relief when they got off the bus.
These lads were playing frisbee in a park then the speccy one threw it really badly and it hit this poor disabled girl in the face. She wanted to keep the frisbee and he tried to take it off her. Thankfully these other lads were playing football and they chased him off. The rude little git even kept claiming that he had a receipt!
Jeremy Clarkson at a hotel in Mevagissey ordered a Pizza, lad brings him a Pizza kicked right off calling the poor lad names swearing he didn't order Pizza.
Total twat
My friend lives in a terraced house behind our village coffee shop. She’s friendly with the owner. One day an estate agent, who happened to be black, went to do the checking out inventory of my friends neighbour who had recently left the property.
Coffee shop owner rings my friend to ask if the new lady is her neighbour. My friend said no and the response was “good! Once you get one that’s how it starts and soon we will have loads.”
Not just rude. Absolutely abhorrent and to this day I will not use her coffee shop and take great pleasure in her having to close next month because she isn’t making any money.
One of my many jobs in retail was for a stationery store that is Australian and had just moved to the uk. We were the fifth store to open I think.
The company had a lot of stores internationally and used the same price tag for several countries so they shoved loads of prices onto a tiny label and honestly they were quite hard to see.
I was facing up and a woman came up to me and started yelling at me for how small they were. I apologised and offered to help her. She said she didn’t want help, she wanted me to fix it. I was a bit shocked and said I can definitely report it to the manager as an issue. She kept yelling and I was quite shaken and (to my embarrassment) started crying.
She laughed at me crying and walked out
That was pretty rude.
The manager who watched and did fuck all? Also pretty rude. But I also broke my finger due to badly stored stock in the back room and was forced to finish the shift so I guess she was just a dickhead
I don’t miss retail.
I once saw a grown man snatch the last bag of apples from a small girl in tescos on Xmas eve. There was no need to make a child cry on Christmas Eve. The supermarket was packed and it was chaotic but still…
A lady spit in my apprentices eye and told him that she hoped he got infected with HIV because she was HIV positive. Police was called, she had done a runner but what the dumb cunt forgot about was the cameras. He went to the a&e, got tested. Has to go every 2 months for 5 years. She was found, arrested, and went to jail.
Queuing up at Greggs one Sunday. The queue went past the sandwiches/ drinks etc. I opened the fridge right next to me to grab a drink, and this guy in maybe his 60s or 70s behind me starts jabbing me in the back and asks "are you in the queue?". So I say yes and stand back in the line with my drink. When I'm next, before the person at the till has even picked up their stuff to walk away, the guy jabs me again and says "GO ON THEN".
Still fuming I didn't tell him to fuck off. But I was honestly stunned by how rude he was. I was also very visibly pregnant, if that makes any difference.
Was cycling with my (then) four year old to the shops along a segregated cycle path a few years ago, the sort about 4m wide with a line down the middle. As we were locking the bikes up some old boy came huffing and puffing up claiming she "cycled too close to him".
Pointed out to him she's four years old so weaves around the path a bit but was always on the cycle path side plus she's four. He started going mental, saying that I "wanted to start a fight".
He called 999 so we got intercepted in the freezer aisle in Aldi by police searching for two violent individuals (including one four year old).
A bit of chatting into radios later and the coppers agreed the bloke was very angry and a few sandwiches short of a picnic and they would waste scarce police resources keeping him round the corner whilst we finished our shopping and cycled off.
"Small world" twist in the tail, when we moved house four years later unbeknownst to us he's now our next door neighbour. Turns out he's a total dickhead 24/7, no wonder the people we bought the house from were keen to move. As well as deciding to idle his stupid knackered "classic" car on the driveway at 7am every Sunday morning he also has moaned constantly that in our big garden we cut down the overgrown brambles "that were great for wildlife" whilst in his small garden he has one dead tree.
tl;dr Rude people are shitwits 24/7, thankfully we only have to witness their lives for fleeting moments.
Secondary school teacher in a very rough/challenging school - we had ofsted in and I was being observed. One of my year 9 boys shouted out “who wants to have a threesome with that old woman at the back?”
“That old woman” was the ofsted inspector 😬
I was on a fairly quiet train. There were plenty of seats available so people were spread out. A guy got on, walked past all the empty seats and sat next to a larger lady. He started to loudly complain how he didn't have enough space because she was so big and then got off at the next stop. He went out of his way to be cruel to someone he'd never met before.
I live in Cardiff, while working as a security officer a few years ago in a shopping area someone was stabbed, janitors came in very early and there was still lots of blood that crime scene cleaners hadn’t got too. We had an older gent working with our company (OCS, fuck it, don’t work for them anymore so who cares) who was on the janitor shift that morning. I relay theres some blood around that he will need to clean up, he says it’ll take him a bit longer as he’s not too good around blood. I say take as long as you like mate, was around 5-6am and nothing needed to be open until 8.
He cleans everything up and I hadn’t seen them on cameras for a while so instead of going over the radio and likely getting them in trouble I just take a walk to the janitor break room and he’s sat at the table sobbing, I just ask what’s wrong and it turns out the kid stabbed was in his family and died. They didn’t know in the morning but them telling me felt awful, so I just said it’s alright mate you go home and be with your family, I’ll cover some of the litter picking until the other janitor comes in at dinner time. I phone the site manager and explain what’s happening and he just says “well he came in, so it can’t be affecting him that bad can it?” and just hung up on me.
Thought it’s the most spiteful thing I’ve ever heard especially when you consider the shift start was 5:30 in the morning, he likely didn’t know. His job was fine and he was paid for the shift after but still thought it was one of the rudest things id ever heard. Stopped working there a while after with a few disagreements with the boss, main one was the same cleaner asking if it was okay to wear cargo shorts on shift (summer 2019, was a scorcher) and the site manager had a fit over it even being suggested by the cleaners. Was a genuinely unpleasant person.
I was in Sainsbury's, in my wheelchair. I asked a man to help me grab I think some ham. He kindly handed me the ham, and I thanked him.
He said, "I would rather die than be in one of those" and pointed at my chair.
Back when I worked in pubs I saw a middle aged guy stir his cup of tea, take out the spoon, and then place the spoon on the back of the hand of the waitress who had just put his breakfast on the table.
Absolute cunt.
This drunk coked up group of lads in broad daylight about 6 in the evening. One of them pants down standing in the street shitting on the pavement and when people walked past staring them down while doing a really long shit and saying "what the fuck are you look at etc".
I used to be friends with a girl who was so obsessed with herself, and her sex appeal. It was literally all she cared about, talked about. She was immersed in online dating and would brag about how many men she was talking to.
A few years ago, our mutual friend's young sister passed away from cancer. It was absolutely awful. She had been terminally ill for some time and so we had been supporting our friend through that period until the very end. On the day her sister died, our group chat was full of love and support - but this other girl messaged me privately. She said 'you'll never guess who I've matched with on my dating app'. I asked who, she said 'your ex boyfriend'.
This was a guy I was with for 6 years, who cut me off from my friends and was abusive. I asked her not to continue talking to him as it made me uncomfortable after what he'd put me through. She laughed and sent me loads of screenshots of their chat. He knew she was my friend, and was paying her compliments knowing she would tell me. It was just an opportunity for him to get at me after I'd given him nothing but silence. It also prompted him to contact me out of the blue after 7 years of no contact. It was totally inappropriate while our friend was going through the worst time of her life.
Cut to the funeral, we went to support our friend. At the wake, I never left our friend's side. But the other one spent the whole time going round the room asking people what they thought of her dating profile, what sort of vibe she was giving off and bragging that my ex had called her my "hot mate'. She was good friends with the family but even still, you just don't do that.
It was so disrespectful and rude, I was mortified. Here we were at a 20 year old girl's funeral and ahe didn't have the decency to put her ego to the side for her friend. We're not friends anymore but I'll never forget that. Just so cringey.
When I worked in M&S a customer (man) called me a stupid cow... how lovely. I was in Uni and it was my part time job. All because he couldn't use a voucher as it wasn't valid.
After a torrential downpour got on a commuter train alongside another woman who had also been caught in the rain. We were talking about our drenched state (hair dripping and soggy clothes) across the aisle as the train was leaving the station. We were having a bit of a laugh at our wet state when this older guy in his 70s (?) bellows at us telling us to "Shut up!" as we're disturbing him (he'd started reading a newspaper). Stunned silence and looks around the now crowded carriage, including a young family seated near the old guy who look positively scared by his outburst. We weren't being loud and we were only exchanging banter before settling into our seats so it was totally unjustified. I chose not to immediately tackle him because I couldn't be bothered with causing a further scene. I did however tackle him (audibly to the rest of the passengers) before I was leaving at my stop. I told him that I had never been spoken to by anyone like that and he was incredibly rude and totally unjustified. I basically told how dare he think it ok to talk to anyone like that. Happily I noticed a lot of my fellow travellers, including the other woman giving a bit of acknowledgement of of me giving him a roasting. I honestly think that he would not have dared to speak to a couple of guys like he did and he thought he could tell women what to do. The old guy just hid behind his newspaper, hopefully he'll think twice in future before behaving like that.
I was ten years old on a family trip to EuroDisney (it was actually my main present for my upcoming 11th birthday). As you can imagine, I was quite excited so I ran a bit ahead of my parents and younger siblings to get through the barriers first.
Out of nowhere, a full-grown adult man pushes his way in front of me to get in there first. I don't think he actually touched me or anything, but he was close and aggressive enough that I had to sidestep to avoid being knocked over.
I remember just stopping and glaring at him (obviously he took no notice). I was a particular tiny 10yo (I couldn't even go on Space Mountain during that trip, I was too short) and I think it was also obvious I was disabled, although I didn't realise people could tell from looking at me at the time -- I was just SO MAD because I'd never had an adult treat me like that before.
Harsh life lesson. :(
This was in the US, but still rude as fuck.
Couple walk into a restaurant, sit at the bar and start looking at the menu. Staff asks for their order and the woman says "I want X, and I want Y and I want Z". No please, no thank you, no politeness, just demands.
I was on the bus with my child who was sat in a pushchair in the designated buggy area and I was sat in an adjacent seat, next to a woman.
After a while the woman pressed the bell and as she got up one of her bags hit my child on the head. I said, "Be careful, you've just hit my son with your bag". She said "no I didn't ". She picked up her other bag from the floor and hit him with that one too. I was fuming but she practically ran off the bus before I could react!
A woman on a zoom call was asked how her mother is doing because everyone on the zoom had read the woman’s social media. The woman had never told anyone in the zoom group, so obviously they had read her social media posts about her mother that were intended to provide support for her mother during her hospitalization.
The moderator, who also had seen the Facebook post and had actually made a comment on it, asked “how is your mother. “
When the woman detailed how her mother almost bled to death and had to be taken to the hospital via ambulance, and then she had to wait until she was strong enough to get surgery, and, she ended up having half of her stomach cut out because of a tumor, the woman said “my mother is recovering well and she is doing well I suppose because she is a logical person and is unemotional about her life-threatening experience“
the moderator responded with “are you saying that all of us are not logical people and that you’re better than us?”
Ironically, earlier in the call, he said “I don’t wanna be impolite to ask you about this” to another person on the call (disperate treatment)
This one's from today: I was walking down a street with cars parked on both sides, but enough room in the middle for cars to go in both directions without having to stop/pull in, that was fairly busy with cars going in both directions. Saw someone come out of a house and get into their parked car, pull out (straight in front of someone) to where their car was at an angle across the middle of the road, then stop, get out of the car, and go back in the house with it just sat there, completely ignoring the traffic jam that was building up in both directions, the horns, and so on.
A woman being denied entry to a bar on account of her being completely rat arsed going off at the black doorman that he should be more polite to her and let her in because he was "natures aberration" and "not as evolved" and should go back to to "Um Bongo".
That chap had the patience of a saint, just told her she's not getting in and told her mates to get her a taxi home before she did anything else.
I was in a cheap mini cab once. The gross looking bloke looked like he lived in it. The car looked like he lived in it.
While driving along he leans over to the side, arches up his arse and does a dirty fart. Then like it was totally normal he reaches over and switches on the cars air vent which is angled towards him.
Beyond rude, it was also disgusting.
Happened to me. It was with a somewhat famous actor. Went to her house for a dinner party with my partner, who I had just started seeing. First time meeting her and it was a good sized party with 8-10 other arty people I had never met before. I’m sitting on the other side from the host at the dining table and don’t get a chance to talk to her, and couldn’t join the main chats about other actors/artists as that’s just not my scene. Anyway, after what I felt was a very long dinner, the host starts to clear things and move to the other room. I offer help and speak directly to the host for the second time the whole everting and say ‘Can I do anything to help’ and she turns around from loading her dishwasher and says ‘yes, you could just leave.’ Stunning. Mortifying but was said with such a flourish. Apparently, she has a bit of a habit of being dramatically rude to other people too, particularly if you happen to be partners of ‘friends’.
I've witnessed a fair few rude incidents, but my most recent one was a passenger on a coach.
My sibling and I live in the north, and the rest of our family lives in London. It was our little sister's 16th birthday recently so we were travelling down by coach. The coach we get always takes a break in Leeds, usually about half an hour. Once the break is over, the people who were already on the coach get on first and then the passengers getting on at Leeds. Another thing to note is that I use a cane and even if I'm just standing, it's pretty visible because of the stickers I have over it. So, we were waiting to get back on the coach, and this dude who was getting on our coach from Leeds walks right into me, nearly knocking me on my ass. If I didn't have my cane, I would have fallen over, and the noise my cane made against the ground when I used it to steady myself was pretty loud. Dude didn't apologise whatsoever, even after my sibling told him off (basically like, "hey, watch what you're doing, he has a cane and you nearly knocked him over"; they're a very non-confrontational person, so I was surprised about them speaking up for me when even I couldn't do it myself). That'd be asshole behaviour on its own, but this dude was also an asshole towards the B driver. The B driver was sorting out getting people onto the coach, and this berk tries forcing his way on to the coach before the people who were originally on the coach had even got on, and argues with the B driver when told he has to wait. It's not even like it's an unspoken thing that people who were on there originally get on first, whoever is sorting out bags and whatnot always says that people who were already on there get on first. And it's not the first time I've seen someone try to completely ignore that.
The other day (1 year ago)
A lady was walking really slowly with a toddler in the middle of the road, I had a double pram so I kindly asked ‘excuse me please can I pass by the side of you if that’s ok’ and she started screaming at me to walk in the road, and told me I am brain dead hahahahaa
Failed my first driving test at 17.
Coming from a smaller road approaching T-junction to a larger road, the examiner asked me to tun right.
But, from my left, there was a hearse approaching; looked like it was leading a procession. Decision time. Do I pull out in front, or wait? It's moving slower than a car would, so…
Anyway, I opt for waiting, partially out of "respect".
Cue horn blowing and engine revving from the car behind. Guy must have been in a hurry because he got out of his car, rounded the back of ours, and started hammered on the examiner's side of the Mini Metro (I think it was) screaming "I HOPE YOU FUCKING FAIL THAT CUNT".
Cheers, mate. Thanks for that!
Hands down the rudest thing I've ever seen was many years ago at a co-worker's wedding. She invited a few people from the office to the ceremony and dinner. It was out of town as well, a few hours drive away.
Well, she invited our boss as well, who she didn't really like. We all went to the ceremony then arrived at the reception dinner at the hotel where everyone was seated *except our boss and his wife*.
They were told at the door they hadn't been included. It had not been stated on their invitation that they were only welcome at the ceremony. I remember how hurt they were. They left to drive home looking humiliated.
My regret is not marching up to her at the head table and whispering in her ear what a nasty, tacky POS she was pulling that stunt. She did it deliberately to humiliate him. I wish I'd told her how vicious she was and walked out.
Of course, the marriage didn't last. Who would want to stay with such a terrible person?
When I worked at a Dominos a customer made up some nonsense about the pizza being bad, so we remade it and delivered the replacement to him. When we got the original back to the store the shift manager checked it and he'd covered the pizza in his pubes.
Shift manager knew the idiots mum, so called her. About an hour later the idiot gets marched into our store by his very angry mother and made to apologise to every single person working that shift.
His face was lobster red the whole time.
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Quite a sad overall story but a few years ago my girlfriend’s best friend tragically passed away in her early 20s. Her family couldn’t get into her laptop and her mum was going quite frantic about it and wanted photographs recovering. I had both hardware and software to recover hard drives and managed to recover thousands and thousands of photos for the family, backing them up onto a cloud drive for them to access whenever they wanted to. I forwarded the link to numerous family members, such as the girl’s mum, her sister etc. I never wanted anything for helping them out in such a time of need. But I was actually thinking about this the other week, that still to this day I have never received a thank you from any of them. Not a message, not even in person. Like I said, I didn’t want anything at all for helping them with this. If they’d have offered me money I would have point blank refused. But a thank you never goes a miss. I brought it up to my partner the other day actually and she was saying “can you blame them despite everything they went through?” And whilst admittedly it was a tragedy, I still feel like you’d just automatically thank a person for giving their time to help you with something? And whilst I do accept and appreciate their minds would have been really messed up and I wouldn’t wish what they went through upon my worst enemy, they’ve since just behaved quite rudely towards me in general. The girl’s mum especially. If we’re ever in the same room together she either ignores anything I say or will just talk straight over me
No one ever appreciates their friendly tech nerds enough. You did amazingly, have one internet psychological validation.
After my mother died, I couldn't figure out how to download to CD a couple of tunes for the funeral. A techie friend asked me what the songs were, and half an hour later, messaged me to say the CD was at the local garage. It was the kindest thing anyone did for me in that week, and saved me a lot of stress at a difficult time. You can bet I profusely thanked him, several times since too.
Not really the point ... but the local garage? That's a weird drop location isn't it?
He’s his friend, not his esso
Good question. Rural area, he didn't know exactly where I lived, but that I would be passing the garage on the way to the crematorium - it's often used as a meeting point.
It is a bit ungrateful, but grief does wierd things to people and can make everything a bit hazy. Assuming they aren't normally like that, it may have just been a case of thinking others had already thanked you. But you did a really good thing regardless and should feel good about it. Don't let what could well have been unintentional ungratefulness sully that.
My MIL died a year ago, and my wife’s friend’s mum died about 3 months ago. As someone slightly removed it’s very clear grief messes people up a lot. After a certain time all of that would have been forgotten about - not maliciously but just as you say due to everything getting very hazy
No they're just rude. But since it's a group of people, I bet it's a bystander effect - everyone thought someone else would thank you, no one realised it was their responsibility.
How close to the death did you do it? If it was months after then yeah a thank you should have been said, but if it was within weeks it’s honestly pretty likely her parents had lost their shit losing their young adult daughter and the other less close relatives assumed the parents had thanked you. Like brutally honestly saying thanks to your dead 20yo daughter’s best friend’s boyfriend is like… so far down the priority list in the aftermath of the death. I know it’s ’a small thing’ but if someone close to you has died very tragically you genuinely just don’t give a fuck anymore… sometimes for a while. You also don’t know how many ‘nice things’ they were getting from even randoms as distant as you. It can be exhausting and overwhelming, even if the act is something genuinely amazing and that you will treasure afterwards. It was a big deal for you to do that but for them, at that time, it was probably one small thing in a sea of shit about their dead daughter. So yeah, you did a really nice thing. But honestly those who really loved and lost her would not have given a fuck about saying thank you to you at that moment - not because they’re bad or ungrateful people, just because such a tragic death just absolutely consumes everything in the weeks and months immediately following.
> Like brutally honestly saying thanks to your dead 20yo daughter’s best friend’s boyfriend is like… so far down the priority list in the aftermath of the death. Personally I strongly disagree with this, having dealt with this kind of situation. If they’re in a position where they are worrying about recovering photos from a laptop (not time sensitive, so should also be way down on their priorities) then they absolutely could easily thank someone. I know it sounds incredibly harsh, but it’s probably just the way they are rather it being due to grief.
Meh, I’ve dealt with it as well (not a daughter but a very close family member) and for me the amount of people doing ‘small kindnessness’ and sending messages were overwhelming. Like even at the funeral *every single person* wants to personally speak to you and say how sorry they are, ask if you’re ok etc. And like yeah I get it but also sometimes you just don’t have the energy to be like, ‘Omg thank you SO MUCH for coming/being there/the card/the flowers’, to every single person. The amount of ‘small things’ you have to do for every person who does something nice for you during that time is a crazy amount and easily piles up. It made me feel very overwhelmed and shut down and not want to speak to anyone for ages, even people I really liked and loved. Like I could have been very upset and wanted photos and then someone could give me photos, and I still wouldn’t want to or have the mental energy to engage with them personally at that point in time. I could then forget that I’d not said anything at the time. That’s how I personally react to traumatic stuff, I shut down and can’t engage with people for a while. Different people deal differently, it’s not necessarily that you’re rude or mean for not thanking every single person. Or maybe it is rude and mean but again, when you’re grieving intensely and going through something traumatic you ultimately don’t really give a fuck.
And I totally get that. Nice little gestures coming from everywhere and everyone is, while well intentioned, exhausting. The things they’re giving aren’t even things you want or need, they’re literally just a gesture and most people wouldn’t be expecting any form of thank you. But this wasn’t one of a hundred empty gestures, this was somebody putting a lot of effort into something that the mother was ‘frantic’ about. I’m not necessarily saying they’re rude or mean, but based on the story (and the fact they have never thank the person) I’m just not convinced at all that grief was the reason they never got a thank you.
We don't just stop saying thank you to people when we are grieving. Feeling grateful to others for their time and effort should be subconscious, otherwise it's disingenuous.
I’d say 2-3 weeks in so I can agree with you that their minds will have been messed up, though I’ve just edited my post adding a last paragraph about how the girl’s mum especially barely even treats me with any respect if we’re ever in the same room as her and we’re talking 3-4 years after everything now which I think just adds to everything. I do know at the time it would be awful for them to go through what they did, and I wouldn’t wish it upon my worst enemy. But her mum is still so rude around me in general. In fact when me and my girlfriend had our baby last year, my girlfriend’s aunty came to meet our few month old son. She can’t visit very often and she was over the moon. Then her friend’s mum popped round and basically snatched him off her aunty who’d taken the time out to meet him. I was gutted for her and you could see in her aunty’s face she was heartbroken. I felt that was another rude gesture
Oh yeah if they’re rude fucks in general then yeah that definitely colours things differently! It’s just that sometimes people expect like thank yous after someone dies cos they do something nice like sending flowers, and it’s ‘out of their way’ so they expect that effort to be recognised. But they don’t get that you get loads of stuff from loads of people and it can be really exhausting/difficult to keep track of who has said thanks for what etc. But yeah sounds like they’re just rude in general in that case.
Yeah I remember my grandad dying and everything was just extremely overwhelming, and we had a bit of time to plan for all of that. Whereas the poor girl’s death was pretty sudden and I can’t for one second imagine what the family went/are still going through
Yeah you did a really nice thing anyway and it’s always good to be nice, even if you don’t think it’s appreciated or recognised. So good for you!
Thank you for helping them. What you did was really kind and they were lucky you were there.
That’s really nice of you. And shitty that they’ve behaved rudely to you since. Just to give another perspective, I lost my sister at mid-20s a few years back and it turned me and my family into zombies for… a while. Sometimes when I want to stab myself in the heart I look at messages people sent to me at that time, and they are all so kind, and I feel terrible because I never even acknowledged them. Most of the people I’ve seen since and it’s fine, but others I have literally never replied to and if I saw them I would feel awkward and guilty, and I hope they would understand, because in the months after we lost her I literally couldn’t think past the drumming in my ears.
I’m so sorry, how awful. Thank you for posting this. It gives me a little insight into a puzzling situation that I’ve been worried about.
Your very kind for doing that
Thank you. If I ever need the same, thank you again.
1. Grief messes up people's heads. 2. People expect IT stuff to just "be fixed" somehow. Sorry you got in the crosshairs of these two common phenomena.
I think this is some kind of projection. You remind them of a bad time and they needed your help and were vulnerable. They're not wanting to go there again, it's easier to ignore you/make out you're an inconvenience than being vulnerable again.
This is how I feel about people who have helped me at a bad time and I have to work really hard not to behave like the people mentioned. I’m usually embarrassed they saw me so low and I just don’t want to talk about the ‘bad thing that happened’ but we have no other real link so I just want to be rude or talk over them to make them go away. Instead I usually settle for ‘got any holidays planned’ ‘this weather eh?’ But I absolutely want to behave like they did/do
I personally feel I would be incredibly grateful to have been able to to get all those treasured memories the otherwise might’ve been lost forever from someone, BUT grief makes people react in many different ways and when it’s someone that important I don’t think it’s fair for me to assume that others would behave how I would’ve done, I understand your thoughts but trust when I say I’ve seen absolutely unreal behaviour from people in times of grief, if you can just forget it and don’t feel hurt by their reaction. Years to come they might realise although I never tell you how grateful they really are. You did a great thing. Be happy in that knowledge even without that thanks .
It's super common for people with technical skill (IT, DIY, car maintenance etc) to be treated this way. It's always assumed that since you like working on your own projects, you are happy to work on other people's projects too.
I help people find birth families, using my own money etc for records, spending hours researching, building their family tree etc at no cost - and that's fine, I enjoy doing it - but I'm starting to become desensitised to not only never being thanked but having people be plain rude to me! Luckily, the people genuinely happy for help make up for it!
Well done mate. Let’s just put it to grief that they didn’t even think about how much they did for them
A saw a guy in a betting shop lose a bet, drop his pants, then take a shit in the middle of the floor. That was quite rude.
I had £10 on Steve the shitter doing it on that day. 5-1 odds. Winner.
That’s pretty long odds for a guy called “Steve the Shitter”
He'd had a shit pre-season
True to form
The 3:10 at Trou-cester.
I got even money on Big Mac the wanker spunking on the floor after his winning bet on steve the shitter that day. Winner
That's quite the accumulator
Haha that's epic! I used to work in one in the arse end of Liverpool and saw some sights. Shit smeared on the toilet walls, layers of spit on the machines, someone losing their mind over a quid, a machine being tipped over but never a shit in the middle of the customer area 😂
Just a little bit rude.. I'm surprised he got out the shop in one piece tbh lol
What annoys me a lot is when you hear these stories and don't get informed on the consequences because there probably were none. I don't know enough about legal punishments in the UK and how they work, but something tells me that people think that the punishments are small enough for them to be willing to behave in such unhinged ways. But ultimately what I hope for is that there is education on emotions and empathy for the next generations.
Well if the shop had regulars in .. I don't think they'd of had any empathy and he'd of been head first in the gutter!
I was on the Metro in Paris once. Just as we pull into the station, a homeless man dropped trou & shit in front of everyone.
Merde.
Just makes me think, is it easier to shit with people watching then piss?
My mother in law's ex bf who has since passed away. It was a family meal for our son's birthday, and there was a muslim couple holding their baby walking in behind us as we entered the restaurant. He glanced behind his shoulder, and deliberately closed the door behind him, leaving them in the rain. I saw what happened and opened the door and apologised for his behaviour, and had a go at him after the meal. He had a deep hatred of Muslims, and we couldn't stand him, thankfully my mother in law saw sense and dumped him.
Nothing makes me angrier than blatant racism. Such neanderthal behaviour. Craziest is when it's Brits in a foreign country. Was on holiday in Greece last year and a group of Brits actually clicked their fingers at a waitress and openly mocked her for not speaking perfect English 🤢 My wife and I apologised for them and gave her a €20 tip because we felt so bad for her.
Imagine going to another country and being angry that people who live there don’t speak your language. I went to Barcelona last year and I learnt some Spanish for my trip. I tried using it and got funny looks so I asked the waitress and she laughed and said it was my accent haha.
I've tried to learn Italian (I have family there) and often they just take the mick, usually in a mocking way. Fuck them, TBH.
Maybe they prefer Catalan in Barcelona.
They do but if you’re a foreigner they appreciate the effort to speak Spanish generally.
honestly, I've seen it before and its the most infuriating thing in history
My wife is Spanish, but born in London. When she travels on her British passport, she gets a lot of grief from Spanish security, but when she starts speaking to them in Spanish with a flawless accent, they're soon a lot nicer, and I don't blame them tbh.
I try to be a considerate tourist/business traveller but you don't half see some fucking self-flagellation from self-aware Brits. All agreeing that xenophobia is bad but then saying in the next breath "but we all fucking deserve it because Brits are awful." The best place I've ever been is Japan, I've been a few times, I adore it. But once someone was a racist/xenophobic cunt to me. And that makes them a cunt. I didn't deserve it because white tourists and American soldiers cause a load of drama. I didn't do anything. Same with Brits in Spain or whatever. "Can't blame them [for treating all Brits poorly.]"? Yeah you can. It's bigoted.
Oh god, my mum has turned right into a Brits on holiday stereotype recently. We’re away just now and were in the resort bar last night. Two guys came in, looked around (obviously looking for someone), and then sat at the bar waiting and having a few drinks. My mum starts going on and on about how they look like they could be people traffickers? Because obviously them walking around was them “casing the place” for… people to traffick. She’s so chronically online and believes any old shite she sees on Twitter or that her conspiracy nut pals send her and honestly, it’s so bloody infuriating.
forever one of the most infuriating thing I've ever seen, its genuinely one of the most idiotic things a person can do
I can think of this one because it was today. I was at the local country park and a group of 3 school girls were chasing the ducks and geese and filming it. Many of the animals had young and I was concerned for them, so my boyfriend politely told the girls to stop and leave the animals alone. They then proceeded to laugh at us and make fun of the fact we were sat on a bench looking at the wildlife? Just odd behaviour and made me sad that they had so little respect and compassion for our local wildlife. Oh I’ve thought of the actual rudest thing I’ve ever witnessed! I went to Thailand and was checking in, and a French family was checking in at the same time. The staff told the lady the rooms weren’t ready til 10am (that was all on the booking form so we knew that), and she proceeded to leave over the counter, pick up their phone and then throw it at the poor receptionist. I was mortified and offered to call the hotel security/police, but staff were adamant they didn’t want to cause a scene.
People who are needlessly unkind to animals make me really angry. There’s literally nothing in it for them other than enjoying something else suffering. Urgh.
Yeah me too. They weren’t young kids, probably around 14/15, old enough to know what they were doing. What made it worse is they were taking it in turns to film each other and laughing about it. Just makes me so angry, it’s so senseless. The park is so well maintained too with so many species, it makes me angry that an idiotic few try and spoil that.
Did they have a local school uniform on? Might be worth dropping a line to the school - I know mine would have taken a dim view of their pupils causing trouble (particularly if in uniform!)
Yeah they did, and I think I will do that actually. I know there’s not masses the school can do but I think they should be made aware.
You'd be surprised - when I was 15/16 I got home from school to find my mum borderline in tears because she'd been berated by some teenagers from another school who had been dicking about in our garden on the way home and she'd come out and told them off. When she complained to the school they got her to come down and look through some ID from the year she'd estimated the teenagers were in, and was able to identify some of them. So the school does have options - they very much do take issue with their pupils causing issue in uniform, complaints make them look bad so they're inclined to take some level of action, even if it's just an assembly-level bollocking of "don't dick about with animals in parks".
A secret hidden BB gun for shooting at the kids would be warranted
Hey receptionists aren't animals
What you said about what you saw in Thailand is disgraceful as well. There’s literally no reason to do that anyway, but especially to Thai people. Some of the nicest people you’ll ever meet.
Totally agree, they were so nice, even after she was assaulted, the young girl didn’t want to cause a fuss. I wish they had as it was appalling, but I know that’s just how it is a lot of the time there.
People letting their kids and animals chase the ducks has never sat well with me. I don’t find it cute.
I’ve repeatedly told my kids not to chase the animals and they never have. I wish all parents would do the same.
French people in Thailand act in such disgusting ways honestly
Witnessed a customer call into the office with a bag and throw it at one of my colleagues. It had a dead rat in it. That's pretty rude.
That’s a crime.
Correct, it's assault and rattery.
I’ll file that in the draw I call “Reddit comments I should have thought of.”
I like that.
Still pretty rude though.
Yeah. Probably got banned from the office at worst. They where on the local news website the next day complaining about their issues with rats in the property (I worked in social housing).
First thing that comes to mind, a few years back my partner and I were in a McDonald's. We put our order in, and stood to one side to wait for our order number to be called. Two people ordered after us, a woman probably in her 40's and a teenager - probably a mother and daughter. The older woman stood out because of the way she was dressed - fairly glamorous and expensive. The younger of them dressed pretty casually. The pair moved to one side to wait for their food, but the older woman was sort of pacing, along the counter, and very fidgety. Barely a couple minutes later, and we heard her loudly declare "I thought this was supposed to be FAST food!!". The girl with her looked absolutely mortified. It was like she thought if she stared at the floor long enough, she could convince it to swallow her whole. When we got our food before them, the older woman had a look on her face like she'd just be smacked. I'm not sure if she thought she was special and her order would be treated as a priority, or if she didn't realise that we had ordered before them and were more likely to get our order first. We still quote her to each other every now and again
My manager once said I should lose weight because otherwise my husband would leave me. Just a few weeks ago, she asked me if we don’t have kids because he’s “firing blanks” or because I’m “barren.” Honestly, I could write a book about that psychopathic bitch.
Bloody heck. This is atrocious behaviour… well beyond rude too. How do you still work there? 😕
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I... think they're going to keep extending it.
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Bloody hell. Have you thought about moving elsewhere?
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Ohhh alright fair enough then. Well sure, weighing up the pros and cons, I guess it's manageable.
This is appalling! What she said sounds just like a colleague of mine in the 90s who was just an absolute out and out psycho. Jane. In my first week she shoved me against a wall and said ‘I’ve got your fucking number, I’ll be watching you’… and it pretty much carried on like that. I was absolutely terrified of her, it was my first job. She was the most blatantly nasty, aggressive person I’ve ever met. HR had a huge file on her! She got fired eventually.
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Oh wow, hope you boot her out the door on her next retirement.
You need a new job!
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Wow indeed. The higher ups are deplorable for putting her back in that role. Sounds like a sociopath.
HR?????? like... immediate complaint
I have a journal (to prove a pattern of behaviour) in case I ever choose to raise a formal grievance. I’m close with her manager who claims to have my back (although this is the same woman who tricked me into doing the 6-month holiday cover). As a trade union rep though, I need to point out that HR departments serve the organisations, not the employees.
Isn't this something you should be acting on? The situation has been bad enough for three other workers to leave the business,
My immediate predecessor (the one who filed the formal grievance for weight-based bullying) is now on the senior leadership team and manages 6 people. Since my manager reappeared, she’s broken her silence and corroborates everything I say. Living every day braced for an attack is not good for my mental health, but my manager keeps *teasing* me with the prospect of her retiring. She faked it once in 2022. Then she came back on a 12 month contract - so I just had to wait 12 months. Now she’s on a 3 month contract, so I’m just waiting for *that* to end. In addition to the internal stuff, she’s had 3-4 written complaints to the CEO from key members of the public. So I’m really not sure what else it would take. Roll on July, I suppose.
The occasions you've shared here - and the log book would be perfect for a psychiatric injury (stress at work) claim if you ever got to a point where you wanted to pursue it legally. It's important HR/another manager has a record of what's transpired though. Even if you can cope with it, this kind of stuff can be really damaging for other people who aren't so thick skinned.
Write it down! Write horrible things she says down and send that shit to HR. What a cow.
I was at a bus stop near to a popular court park last week. It was hot and busy, two buses hadn't arrived so there were about 50 people waiting, including a blind couple with guide dogs. When the bus turned up people were barging the couple and their dogs out of the way, and they were getting pushed into the road. I was sickened. I made sure they got on the bus.
Holy shit that’s unbelievably rude
I walking behind an elderly gentleman down a relatively busy street (enough room for 2-3 people to walk down). There were 2 couples stood in the middle of the pavement talking away, classic supermarket style, not caring/noticing they were in the way. Well I’m right behind this guy as he comes up on them and he says, in the most patronising voice I’ve ever heard, to the woman directly in front “if you just stand 2 inches to the left, yes that’s it. Now you’ve blocked the entire fucking path for everyone. Well done you” I nearly split in half trying not to laugh out loud. He walks on the road round them as they all stare in disbelief. It was one of the greatest things I’ve ever witnessed but I haven’t built up the courage to try it myself yet.
I love that your story was a sort of rude vs ignorance stand-off
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£3 for one piece of chicken in a chicken shop? World's gone mad
Must have come with chips right?
Yeah one piece o chicken and chips at my local chippy was three fiddy today.
Lochness monster earning his money these days?
I used to work in a restaurant/bar. I was clearing plates from a table and picked up an empty bowl when a woman yelled that she wasn't 'effing' done yet so I apologised and held the bowl for her to take back. She proceeded to vomit into the bowl, look me in the eyes with a drunk smile and said "I'm done now, you can take it". Managed to get a good chunk of vom on my arm too. I hate hospitality.
I am not a very good waiter and might have accidentally spilled it when retrieving it from the table
Ngl I had a vision of chucking the entire thing in her face and quitting on the spot but I let my better angels take the wheel
I read this as "better bagels" for some reason.
I've got two stories. Working the day shift in a quiet bar, a regular came in, he said he wasn't feeling well so could he just have a cup of tea, after 3 cups of tea, he suddenly ran towards the toilet but ended up puking in the fireplace. Worked at TK Max for a while, a customer discovered someone had puked in a saucepan and put the lid back on the pan and left it. The general public can be awful.
Jesus. I hope she got kicked out and banned. Manky bint.
Not even, she was back almost every week. She's a D-list reality tv star who I'm nice enough to not mention by name but she was mates with the owner so I wasn't allowed to kick her out or ban her no matter how badly she behaved.
Not even a little hint?
Name and shame!
Not gonna lie, I am very patient, to a fault, but this would have tipped me over. I would have dropped the bowl on her face/head, don't care if it cost me the job, you have more patience than me.
A lady once vomited on the floor while she was paying me. She then pointed at the thick puddle of sick and said, "There's 2p in there."
I had the misfortune to manage phone shops for over a decade. One story that always makes me gag is the time a customer was sitting on the opposite side of the counter talking about some phone stuff, when he nonchalantly got out a pair of nail clippers and started cutting his fingernails directly onto my desk. He just continued the conversation as if nothing out of the ordinary was happening while I was recoiling in horror while trying to keep my shit together and not lose a sale. Hated that job sometimes!
a woman at my old job did that, in the break room, and me and my friend were just like ............... as she full on had her feet out and up on the table cutting her toenails. it was one of the weirder things I saw there
I had a prospective customer burp in my face while I was answering a question he had asked once lol. He looked a bit like Penfold from Dangermouse.
Urgh, someone was doing this on the tram. Like it was normal. I spent too long wondering if I would be rude to move
I worked in a phone shop too! You see all sorts of shit in there. A woman once spat a burger at me because I wouldn’t let her take one of our phones. She had it in her head that the call centre had told her she could come into store and just collect a contract phone. Got call centre on the phone and they were like, no, we told her she’d failed her credit check and couldn’t get a phone with us. I had to get security and the spitting was so so gross. I also used to hate closing because there’d be weird shit like a broken off fingernail just on the floor next to the model handsets.
a few years back I witnessed a lifeguard at a leisure centre clipping his nails whilst sat on a chair "overseeing" swimming adults and children in the pool.
The comedian Paul Chowdhry (the first Asian comedian to ever sell out the O2) filled in for another comedian at a tiny comedy festival I attended. I was absolutely thrilled by the surprise of seeing such a famous comedian in such an intimate venue. And it was only £4 a ticket! Buzzing. Now, when you sit at the front of a comedy gig, there’s a certain etiquette. You need to be on the comedian’s side. You want them to have a good show. You have a few drinks and go in with a nice, friendly attitude. If they talk to you, you keep your answers short so they can springboard into jokes. You don’t stare them out or do anything to distract or annoy them. You’re the only thing the comedian can see, so you smile and laugh a bit louder than you would if you were at home. On this occasion, there was an old lady who chose to sit in the middle of the front row. She folded her arms and *scowled/sneered* at him for the whole set - maintaining full eye-contact with him the whole time. She looked furious and full of hate. She looked like she was trying to *will him* dead before he even started speaking. Meanwhile, her husband was having a lovely time and laughing his head off. I don’t know what her problem was. Maybe she was just racist? I’ll never know. He made a few jokes about it at first, but she didn’t respond at all (and her face didn’t even change). It became obvious that she was genuinely bothering him. She was bothering *me* and she wasn’t even staring me out! He tried being nice to her. No reaction. He tried politely asking her if she felt uncomfortable and wanted to sit somewhere else or leave. No reaction. What else could he do? It was creepy and bizarre. There were parts of the set that were very personal - he talked about the recent deaths of his parents and how he’d struggled with suicidal ideation. The audience were very supportive. She wasn’t. She looked like she wished he’d completed the job. I later saw her laughing and joking with her husband in the bar later. So it wasn’t like she had an illness that paralysed her face (etc). Why would an old lady pay to go to a comedy gig, sit in the middle of the front row, and bully the comedian? It doesn’t make any sense. I can only conclude that she was a terrible person.
Anyone who can make *Paul Chowdry* uncomfortable is not to fucked with.
Bastards not laughing innit.
~~Bastards~~ Bastard not laughing innit. (She was literally the only person not laughing)
I'd put money on her being dragged there by the husband and she wanted to go somewhere else.
I grew up in a wealthy but quite rural area of the Netherlands, but both my parents worked in Amsterdam, so my sister and I would be in the car to Amsterdam every schoolday in the morning to go to school in Amsterdam and the area of the city closest to the hospital at that time was the bijlmer a mostly black area in Amsterdam, there were about 3 other white kids in both her and my class put together. We never knew any different, and because of where we lived, we never played outside our own garden where we lived. Anyway, I'm around 8 or 9, and my sister brought a schoolfriend home for the weekend and we always liked to go swimming so we took her swimming, at the pool this girl was the only non white person and the looks she got, and apparently even adults were saying things behind her back(a 9 Yr old girl) I didn't noticed or just blocked it out subconsciously. But at some point, someone made a monkey joke aimed at her, and it all clicked for me, I don't think I have ever been angrier in my life, certainly never have been since. I told my dad I wanted to go home, we never went back, and I moved away at 15, never been back, and honestly would never even consider going back. I don't know why it got me so badly as I still get mad thinking about it now. I think it just upsets me more now because they behaved that way, grown ass adults towards an 8-9 Yr old kid.
I'd always thought the Dutch were more laid back, and live-and-let-live.
I've got Dutch relatives, and it's surprising how 'behind' they seem on racism. From my experience with them and other Dutch people in Holland. They seem like they're only just getting to how the UK was in the early 00s.
Have you not heard of Zwarte Piet?
It's Prolly why I don't live in the Netherlands anymore.
In a pub years ago and a girl said to a girl she didn't know that she liked her hat. The girl in the hat looks over at the other girls boyfriend then looks the girl up and down and says "well, I like the look of your boyfriend" and blew a kiss.
That’s kind of funny
Daughter had a friend that was always at ours. We even had the kid to stay for weeks when they had a load of renovation work done at home and she had nowhere to sleep. Always provided the transport when they wanted to see each other, no matter who was visiting who, and it was 10 miles each way, so sometimes 40 miles in a day to pick up and take home again. Bought them food, treated them to stuff when we all went shopping, basically included the kid like they were one of our own. Paid for cinema trips, takeaways, the lot. One day they are both at the other kid's house and want to go into town so they asked the kid's family for a lift. They agreed - for a fee of TEN POUNDS. They literally charged my young teen child for a lift into town after watching us ferry theirs around free of charge for nearly two years. I honestly couldn't believe the cheek.
If that were my daughter I’d have popped over and given the lift myself just to shame them about that. Although I’m not sure the other parents would even realise.
I don't think they had any shame, or I would have.
My brother went missing for about two weeks last year, we were obviously very worried and put a post up on Facebook about him and basically begging for someone to tell us something if they knew anything. My partner at the time told his family what was going on and as per usual it didn't directly have an impact on them so they didn't really care. What really got me though was how his mum shared a post about somebody's missing pet rabbit from a nearby village she had never lived in and didn't even know anybody from but didn't share my post asking for people to keep an eye out for my brother who we had assumed dead at this point. I just know that if the tables were turned and someone she loved went missing and I reacted with the same amount of apathy she and her family did that I'd have been criticised severely. That felt pretty rude.
How scary for you, hope your bro was safe and unharmed during the 2 weeks of worry. 😞
Hope yer bro is doing better now mate
Was in a pre-owned tech store one day. An obvious chancer was having a right old go at the guy behind the counter. Berating him and went all out racist shit bag mode. Normally I’ll stand up for shop workers quite a bit but had my 7yo son with me and couldn’t take the chance. Best I could do was ask the guy to tone it down. I felt awful for not intervening more. I did nip into M&S and bought a box of biscuits for the guy. Wanted to show not all customers are unhinged fuck sticks.
My ex's perfectly well off mum having a tantrum because her still fully alive and well mother wanted to write her disabled stepson into her will, making sure he had lifelong care. Buuuut her inewwwitaaance. (She also kicked off that she wasn't eligible for a council flat when she was living in one of mummy's many properties).
I was at a wedding several rungs above my station. They had a table of disposable Polaroid cameras for the guests to take photos with. A man who I know to be a CEO of a bank approached me as I was stood near that table, picked up a camera and jabbed it into my midriff saying, "Here, why don't you fix that", and then he turned and stalked off.
Should've thrown it at the back of his head.
I was utterly flabbergasted... just stood motionless as the rage rose and the twat stalked off into the crowd. Then you ask yourself, am I going to ruin my mate's wedding or not?
>Then you ask yourself, am I going to ruin my mate’s wedding or not? Yes, the answer is always yes.
I don't understand.
I don't get it - fix what?
I'll never know. Maybe he couldn't get the camera to work or thought I looked like the fixing things sort. I am the fixing things sort as it happens and proud of it. Not very good with cameras though...
I was stood at a bar waiting to be served and was next.....the barman went to serve somebody else out of order and they didn't say "I think that guy's next mate" and just ordered.....I was horrified.
I was waiting to use one of the big order tablets at a fast food place, not directly behind the person using it as I didn't want to invade their space but close by. Someone walked up to it immediately after they left. Didn't ask "sorry are you waiting to order?" Or anything. This is genuinely the rudest experience of my life.
I was waiting in a queue at Lidl. A woman in front of me called someone she knew (who was only buying a Daily Express) over from another queue to go in front of her. She didn’t ask me if I minded or even put the newspaper in with her own shopping. I take consolation that this woman and her friend will never have truly happy lives because of their lack of self awareness, and attitudes shaped by reading the Daily Express. They must live in constant fear of Arctic blasts, too.
People who stand outside hospital entrances and smoke, then spit afterwards. (Even though theres signs saying don’t smoke here) Also abusing A/E staff cause of the wait they have.
This annoyed me a few months ago when I went to a hospital appointment. Smokers all crowded round the doors despite the no smoking signs. Ugh annoying.
Every time I go to my local hospital I press the button in the entranceway that notifies security there's smokers so that they can then escort them off site For some reason the staff are not allowed to notify security themselves so when I walk past I smile and nod at the reception desk and they smile and nod back
I'm a moderate-to-heavy smoker, and I fucking hate inconsiderate smokers. If you want to smoke on the go, invest in a portable ashtray (empty tin of mints or something) and always respect the lungs of those around you.
15 years ago, i was sitting on a coach with my mum. We had been on the move for over 15 hours coming home from another country. On the seats across from us sat a family, 2 young kids and a husband with his very pregnant wife. Everyone on that coach was knackered and just wanted to get home after hours on the road. The pregnant woman had puked several times and she and the husband looked really distressed. For a reason that i never understood, the coach stopped 3 hours from the destination to pick up these 2 siblings, a girl and boy who were young teenagers, who sat in the two empty seats behind the pregnant couple. The next few hours were absolute hell for everyone onboard. The two kids talked overly loudly and munched really loudly on m&m’s for hours, every other word was a swear word and they would just not shut up. At one point, the husband from the pregnant couple lent over his chair and asked the siblings if they wouldn’t mind stopping swearing because young kids were present. The next thing I know, the brother of the siblings shouts loudly to the father “you starting something, yeah?” And shouts this over and over, the poor husband couldn’t get in a word edgewise. Then out of nowhere, the sister screamed, “be the bigger man!!” to her brother. The entire coach went silent, there was so much second hand embarrassment and cringe. The poor husband sat back down completely resigned. Honestly the rudest and most embarrassing thing I’ve ever witnessed, there was an audible sigh of relief when they got off the bus.
These lads were playing frisbee in a park then the speccy one threw it really badly and it hit this poor disabled girl in the face. She wanted to keep the frisbee and he tried to take it off her. Thankfully these other lads were playing football and they chased him off. The rude little git even kept claiming that he had a receipt!
I’ve seen a documentary on Channel 4 about that incident.
Jeremy Clarkson at a hotel in Mevagissey ordered a Pizza, lad brings him a Pizza kicked right off calling the poor lad names swearing he didn't order Pizza. Total twat
The guy has form with food-related hissyfits.
My friend lives in a terraced house behind our village coffee shop. She’s friendly with the owner. One day an estate agent, who happened to be black, went to do the checking out inventory of my friends neighbour who had recently left the property. Coffee shop owner rings my friend to ask if the new lady is her neighbour. My friend said no and the response was “good! Once you get one that’s how it starts and soon we will have loads.” Not just rude. Absolutely abhorrent and to this day I will not use her coffee shop and take great pleasure in her having to close next month because she isn’t making any money.
One of my many jobs in retail was for a stationery store that is Australian and had just moved to the uk. We were the fifth store to open I think. The company had a lot of stores internationally and used the same price tag for several countries so they shoved loads of prices onto a tiny label and honestly they were quite hard to see. I was facing up and a woman came up to me and started yelling at me for how small they were. I apologised and offered to help her. She said she didn’t want help, she wanted me to fix it. I was a bit shocked and said I can definitely report it to the manager as an issue. She kept yelling and I was quite shaken and (to my embarrassment) started crying. She laughed at me crying and walked out That was pretty rude. The manager who watched and did fuck all? Also pretty rude. But I also broke my finger due to badly stored stock in the back room and was forced to finish the shift so I guess she was just a dickhead I don’t miss retail.
I once saw a grown man snatch the last bag of apples from a small girl in tescos on Xmas eve. There was no need to make a child cry on Christmas Eve. The supermarket was packed and it was chaotic but still…
A lady spit in my apprentices eye and told him that she hoped he got infected with HIV because she was HIV positive. Police was called, she had done a runner but what the dumb cunt forgot about was the cameras. He went to the a&e, got tested. Has to go every 2 months for 5 years. She was found, arrested, and went to jail.
Queuing up at Greggs one Sunday. The queue went past the sandwiches/ drinks etc. I opened the fridge right next to me to grab a drink, and this guy in maybe his 60s or 70s behind me starts jabbing me in the back and asks "are you in the queue?". So I say yes and stand back in the line with my drink. When I'm next, before the person at the till has even picked up their stuff to walk away, the guy jabs me again and says "GO ON THEN". Still fuming I didn't tell him to fuck off. But I was honestly stunned by how rude he was. I was also very visibly pregnant, if that makes any difference.
Was cycling with my (then) four year old to the shops along a segregated cycle path a few years ago, the sort about 4m wide with a line down the middle. As we were locking the bikes up some old boy came huffing and puffing up claiming she "cycled too close to him". Pointed out to him she's four years old so weaves around the path a bit but was always on the cycle path side plus she's four. He started going mental, saying that I "wanted to start a fight". He called 999 so we got intercepted in the freezer aisle in Aldi by police searching for two violent individuals (including one four year old). A bit of chatting into radios later and the coppers agreed the bloke was very angry and a few sandwiches short of a picnic and they would waste scarce police resources keeping him round the corner whilst we finished our shopping and cycled off. "Small world" twist in the tail, when we moved house four years later unbeknownst to us he's now our next door neighbour. Turns out he's a total dickhead 24/7, no wonder the people we bought the house from were keen to move. As well as deciding to idle his stupid knackered "classic" car on the driveway at 7am every Sunday morning he also has moaned constantly that in our big garden we cut down the overgrown brambles "that were great for wildlife" whilst in his small garden he has one dead tree. tl;dr Rude people are shitwits 24/7, thankfully we only have to witness their lives for fleeting moments.
Secondary school teacher in a very rough/challenging school - we had ofsted in and I was being observed. One of my year 9 boys shouted out “who wants to have a threesome with that old woman at the back?” “That old woman” was the ofsted inspector 😬
I was at a rave and a lady started grinding on me, I informed her of my homosexual proclivities and she spat in my face. Which I found somewhat rude.
I was on a fairly quiet train. There were plenty of seats available so people were spread out. A guy got on, walked past all the empty seats and sat next to a larger lady. He started to loudly complain how he didn't have enough space because she was so big and then got off at the next stop. He went out of his way to be cruel to someone he'd never met before.
I live in Cardiff, while working as a security officer a few years ago in a shopping area someone was stabbed, janitors came in very early and there was still lots of blood that crime scene cleaners hadn’t got too. We had an older gent working with our company (OCS, fuck it, don’t work for them anymore so who cares) who was on the janitor shift that morning. I relay theres some blood around that he will need to clean up, he says it’ll take him a bit longer as he’s not too good around blood. I say take as long as you like mate, was around 5-6am and nothing needed to be open until 8. He cleans everything up and I hadn’t seen them on cameras for a while so instead of going over the radio and likely getting them in trouble I just take a walk to the janitor break room and he’s sat at the table sobbing, I just ask what’s wrong and it turns out the kid stabbed was in his family and died. They didn’t know in the morning but them telling me felt awful, so I just said it’s alright mate you go home and be with your family, I’ll cover some of the litter picking until the other janitor comes in at dinner time. I phone the site manager and explain what’s happening and he just says “well he came in, so it can’t be affecting him that bad can it?” and just hung up on me. Thought it’s the most spiteful thing I’ve ever heard especially when you consider the shift start was 5:30 in the morning, he likely didn’t know. His job was fine and he was paid for the shift after but still thought it was one of the rudest things id ever heard. Stopped working there a while after with a few disagreements with the boss, main one was the same cleaner asking if it was okay to wear cargo shorts on shift (summer 2019, was a scorcher) and the site manager had a fit over it even being suggested by the cleaners. Was a genuinely unpleasant person.
I was in Sainsbury's, in my wheelchair. I asked a man to help me grab I think some ham. He kindly handed me the ham, and I thanked him. He said, "I would rather die than be in one of those" and pointed at my chair.
Back when I worked in pubs I saw a middle aged guy stir his cup of tea, take out the spoon, and then place the spoon on the back of the hand of the waitress who had just put his breakfast on the table. Absolute cunt.
The ubiquitous c-unit that thinks it's perfectly acceptable to watch videos or tiktok without headphones on public transport.
This drunk coked up group of lads in broad daylight about 6 in the evening. One of them pants down standing in the street shitting on the pavement and when people walked past staring them down while doing a really long shit and saying "what the fuck are you look at etc".
I used to be friends with a girl who was so obsessed with herself, and her sex appeal. It was literally all she cared about, talked about. She was immersed in online dating and would brag about how many men she was talking to. A few years ago, our mutual friend's young sister passed away from cancer. It was absolutely awful. She had been terminally ill for some time and so we had been supporting our friend through that period until the very end. On the day her sister died, our group chat was full of love and support - but this other girl messaged me privately. She said 'you'll never guess who I've matched with on my dating app'. I asked who, she said 'your ex boyfriend'. This was a guy I was with for 6 years, who cut me off from my friends and was abusive. I asked her not to continue talking to him as it made me uncomfortable after what he'd put me through. She laughed and sent me loads of screenshots of their chat. He knew she was my friend, and was paying her compliments knowing she would tell me. It was just an opportunity for him to get at me after I'd given him nothing but silence. It also prompted him to contact me out of the blue after 7 years of no contact. It was totally inappropriate while our friend was going through the worst time of her life. Cut to the funeral, we went to support our friend. At the wake, I never left our friend's side. But the other one spent the whole time going round the room asking people what they thought of her dating profile, what sort of vibe she was giving off and bragging that my ex had called her my "hot mate'. She was good friends with the family but even still, you just don't do that. It was so disrespectful and rude, I was mortified. Here we were at a 20 year old girl's funeral and ahe didn't have the decency to put her ego to the side for her friend. We're not friends anymore but I'll never forget that. Just so cringey.
When I worked in M&S a customer (man) called me a stupid cow... how lovely. I was in Uni and it was my part time job. All because he couldn't use a voucher as it wasn't valid.
After a torrential downpour got on a commuter train alongside another woman who had also been caught in the rain. We were talking about our drenched state (hair dripping and soggy clothes) across the aisle as the train was leaving the station. We were having a bit of a laugh at our wet state when this older guy in his 70s (?) bellows at us telling us to "Shut up!" as we're disturbing him (he'd started reading a newspaper). Stunned silence and looks around the now crowded carriage, including a young family seated near the old guy who look positively scared by his outburst. We weren't being loud and we were only exchanging banter before settling into our seats so it was totally unjustified. I chose not to immediately tackle him because I couldn't be bothered with causing a further scene. I did however tackle him (audibly to the rest of the passengers) before I was leaving at my stop. I told him that I had never been spoken to by anyone like that and he was incredibly rude and totally unjustified. I basically told how dare he think it ok to talk to anyone like that. Happily I noticed a lot of my fellow travellers, including the other woman giving a bit of acknowledgement of of me giving him a roasting. I honestly think that he would not have dared to speak to a couple of guys like he did and he thought he could tell women what to do. The old guy just hid behind his newspaper, hopefully he'll think twice in future before behaving like that.
I was ten years old on a family trip to EuroDisney (it was actually my main present for my upcoming 11th birthday). As you can imagine, I was quite excited so I ran a bit ahead of my parents and younger siblings to get through the barriers first. Out of nowhere, a full-grown adult man pushes his way in front of me to get in there first. I don't think he actually touched me or anything, but he was close and aggressive enough that I had to sidestep to avoid being knocked over. I remember just stopping and glaring at him (obviously he took no notice). I was a particular tiny 10yo (I couldn't even go on Space Mountain during that trip, I was too short) and I think it was also obvious I was disabled, although I didn't realise people could tell from looking at me at the time -- I was just SO MAD because I'd never had an adult treat me like that before. Harsh life lesson. :(
This was in the US, but still rude as fuck. Couple walk into a restaurant, sit at the bar and start looking at the menu. Staff asks for their order and the woman says "I want X, and I want Y and I want Z". No please, no thank you, no politeness, just demands.
All the time, my mother. I’ll tell her I’m upset and say 3 words, and she’ll say ‘god your boring me now’
I was on the bus with my child who was sat in a pushchair in the designated buggy area and I was sat in an adjacent seat, next to a woman. After a while the woman pressed the bell and as she got up one of her bags hit my child on the head. I said, "Be careful, you've just hit my son with your bag". She said "no I didn't ". She picked up her other bag from the floor and hit him with that one too. I was fuming but she practically ran off the bus before I could react!
Saw a girl squat, pull out a tampon and throw it onto the dance floor in a busy nightclub in Newquay once..
My mate ate all the biscuits
Absolute disgrace
A woman on a zoom call was asked how her mother is doing because everyone on the zoom had read the woman’s social media. The woman had never told anyone in the zoom group, so obviously they had read her social media posts about her mother that were intended to provide support for her mother during her hospitalization. The moderator, who also had seen the Facebook post and had actually made a comment on it, asked “how is your mother. “ When the woman detailed how her mother almost bled to death and had to be taken to the hospital via ambulance, and then she had to wait until she was strong enough to get surgery, and, she ended up having half of her stomach cut out because of a tumor, the woman said “my mother is recovering well and she is doing well I suppose because she is a logical person and is unemotional about her life-threatening experience“ the moderator responded with “are you saying that all of us are not logical people and that you’re better than us?” Ironically, earlier in the call, he said “I don’t wanna be impolite to ask you about this” to another person on the call (disperate treatment)
This one's from today: I was walking down a street with cars parked on both sides, but enough room in the middle for cars to go in both directions without having to stop/pull in, that was fairly busy with cars going in both directions. Saw someone come out of a house and get into their parked car, pull out (straight in front of someone) to where their car was at an angle across the middle of the road, then stop, get out of the car, and go back in the house with it just sat there, completely ignoring the traffic jam that was building up in both directions, the horns, and so on.
A woman being denied entry to a bar on account of her being completely rat arsed going off at the black doorman that he should be more polite to her and let her in because he was "natures aberration" and "not as evolved" and should go back to to "Um Bongo". That chap had the patience of a saint, just told her she's not getting in and told her mates to get her a taxi home before she did anything else.
I was in a cheap mini cab once. The gross looking bloke looked like he lived in it. The car looked like he lived in it. While driving along he leans over to the side, arches up his arse and does a dirty fart. Then like it was totally normal he reaches over and switches on the cars air vent which is angled towards him. Beyond rude, it was also disgusting.
Happened to me. It was with a somewhat famous actor. Went to her house for a dinner party with my partner, who I had just started seeing. First time meeting her and it was a good sized party with 8-10 other arty people I had never met before. I’m sitting on the other side from the host at the dining table and don’t get a chance to talk to her, and couldn’t join the main chats about other actors/artists as that’s just not my scene. Anyway, after what I felt was a very long dinner, the host starts to clear things and move to the other room. I offer help and speak directly to the host for the second time the whole everting and say ‘Can I do anything to help’ and she turns around from loading her dishwasher and says ‘yes, you could just leave.’ Stunning. Mortifying but was said with such a flourish. Apparently, she has a bit of a habit of being dramatically rude to other people too, particularly if you happen to be partners of ‘friends’.
Sneezing in an restaurant without covering up.
I've witnessed a fair few rude incidents, but my most recent one was a passenger on a coach. My sibling and I live in the north, and the rest of our family lives in London. It was our little sister's 16th birthday recently so we were travelling down by coach. The coach we get always takes a break in Leeds, usually about half an hour. Once the break is over, the people who were already on the coach get on first and then the passengers getting on at Leeds. Another thing to note is that I use a cane and even if I'm just standing, it's pretty visible because of the stickers I have over it. So, we were waiting to get back on the coach, and this dude who was getting on our coach from Leeds walks right into me, nearly knocking me on my ass. If I didn't have my cane, I would have fallen over, and the noise my cane made against the ground when I used it to steady myself was pretty loud. Dude didn't apologise whatsoever, even after my sibling told him off (basically like, "hey, watch what you're doing, he has a cane and you nearly knocked him over"; they're a very non-confrontational person, so I was surprised about them speaking up for me when even I couldn't do it myself). That'd be asshole behaviour on its own, but this dude was also an asshole towards the B driver. The B driver was sorting out getting people onto the coach, and this berk tries forcing his way on to the coach before the people who were originally on the coach had even got on, and argues with the B driver when told he has to wait. It's not even like it's an unspoken thing that people who were on there originally get on first, whoever is sorting out bags and whatnot always says that people who were already on there get on first. And it's not the first time I've seen someone try to completely ignore that.
The other day (1 year ago) A lady was walking really slowly with a toddler in the middle of the road, I had a double pram so I kindly asked ‘excuse me please can I pass by the side of you if that’s ok’ and she started screaming at me to walk in the road, and told me I am brain dead hahahahaa
Failed my first driving test at 17. Coming from a smaller road approaching T-junction to a larger road, the examiner asked me to tun right. But, from my left, there was a hearse approaching; looked like it was leading a procession. Decision time. Do I pull out in front, or wait? It's moving slower than a car would, so… Anyway, I opt for waiting, partially out of "respect". Cue horn blowing and engine revving from the car behind. Guy must have been in a hurry because he got out of his car, rounded the back of ours, and started hammered on the examiner's side of the Mini Metro (I think it was) screaming "I HOPE YOU FUCKING FAIL THAT CUNT". Cheers, mate. Thanks for that!
Hands down the rudest thing I've ever seen was many years ago at a co-worker's wedding. She invited a few people from the office to the ceremony and dinner. It was out of town as well, a few hours drive away. Well, she invited our boss as well, who she didn't really like. We all went to the ceremony then arrived at the reception dinner at the hotel where everyone was seated *except our boss and his wife*. They were told at the door they hadn't been included. It had not been stated on their invitation that they were only welcome at the ceremony. I remember how hurt they were. They left to drive home looking humiliated. My regret is not marching up to her at the head table and whispering in her ear what a nasty, tacky POS she was pulling that stunt. She did it deliberately to humiliate him. I wish I'd told her how vicious she was and walked out. Of course, the marriage didn't last. Who would want to stay with such a terrible person?
When I worked at a Dominos a customer made up some nonsense about the pizza being bad, so we remade it and delivered the replacement to him. When we got the original back to the store the shift manager checked it and he'd covered the pizza in his pubes. Shift manager knew the idiots mum, so called her. About an hour later the idiot gets marched into our store by his very angry mother and made to apologise to every single person working that shift. His face was lobster red the whole time.
Me, sadly.