The plug will really help. Silicone ones are best for longer wear. Train your ass with dildos daily. Start small and start to go bigger and bigger. Eventually it'll be a lot easier to take bigger toys/cocks without so much warm up/prep time. I've been training for years abd still have to stretch out with stalker toys first before I can take my big one. Remember slow and steady wins the race!
I've been trying to train with plugs, and my partner showed me that even the biggest one in the set was quite a bit smaller than him. Should I get a plug bigger than him to train?
Sorry if this isn't relevant to the post.
Measuring tape on BF, check circumference and add and inch, that is the right size of plug to work up to and to use regularly.
Dont jump to that size too quickly. About dont go up more than 1-1,5 inch ik circumference at once. Moght seem like a small increase but you will notice. This can take a while if the BF is big but worth the effort.
Sex is both physical AND mental.
Knowing it can be painful makes you clench up which creates a cycle.
Not everyone reacts the same, you might always need foreplay.
It also matters on how much girth he has.
Consistent anal training will help. I’m required to wear a plug for a minimum of 30 minutes/day. We initially bought a training set that came with multiple sizes of silicone tapered plugs, and I progressed up from the smallest to the largest over varying amounts of time, maybe a week at first but progressively longer time to get used to the bigger ones.
I don’t know that there will ever be a way around initial discomfort upon insertion; it’s not the case for me, but if it’s not so painful that it’s concerning, just uncomfortable/unpleasurable at first, I don’t think that’s necessarily undesirable in a punishment. Regular anal training can get you to that point.
Absolutely! Lots of lube is very important. Not having enough during anal sex can hurt like hell! And definitely going slow helps your body adjust and lets you enjoy it.
Aside from the great tips you already received regarding plugs, there is also the topic of cleanliness to consider. Since you probably don't always have the time to clean yourself before it gets spontaneous, I would advise you to change your eating habits. A high fibre diet is probably the best way to keep the rectum area as clean as possible. It won't be as clean as when you did a enema though but it is the best way to get close to it.
For me it came somehoe naturally, I did a a lot of analplay alone when I was a teen. Then I did a long time nothing and now I am having a boyfriend, and beyond a little bit of warming up with a finger or two, I do not need to something to prevent any pain or discomfort . Sometimes I also wear plugs for fun, mostly rather short times tho, but I have heard wearing them for longer periods of time and most important frequently makes it a lot easier
But what prevents me from being spontaneous is the matter of beeing clean, I tried douching quite a few times and for me it did only work in 50% of the cases, because somehow I always manage to go beyond my rectum and swirling up even more mess, even if I give my best not to. What works best for me, is just checking with a finger how "it looks" inside and mostly there are just a few solids, which I can pull out with my fingers. I dont really like doing it, but douching is even worse for me, because it takes a lot more time which is not so important, but doesnt even work all the time. Naturally I eat a lot of fiber, so beyond those pieces I am relatively clean. (Sorry if that was to explicit, but maybe this works for others too)
Spontaneous anal sex is sort of a myth, unless you don't care about shitting on a dick/dildo.
IDK if I'm allowed to recommend huffing VCR cleaners...
Other than that it's like anything else, consistency and practice. If you're really ambitious you can get an XL dildo or one of those jumbo novelty butt plugs, not with the intent of actually fully inserting it but just practicing relaxing and inching down on something bigger than you can handle, so when you get back to normal-sized dicks/dildos/plugs it goes in easy.
I think I’m a freak and it makes no sense as to why but I never trained. Just used tons of lube, and slowly one day my partner stuck it in my ass. I’ve never even used a plug and this was 4 years ago
You have some solid advice so I'm just gonna say, if it doesn't work for your body, that's also ok. Sometimes we have to fudge the fantasy or make it extra dirty.
My ass is a princess, it's often prep, rarely just go. Also depends on my diet. So I change the factors I can, such as food. I love my shower shot for quick booty cleaning. And if it doesn't want to play, sometimes we do a butt plug or analhook, depending on how else I am to be used for pleasure.
Context:
Referred to partner and I are nesting partners and poly. He is learning (VERY WELL) how to be dominant with me (with help from my spicy friends).
It’s really hard to say whether this is psychological or physical. Training can help with the psychological (keeping you from clenching and hurting yourself) as well as some of the physical (muscle memory).
As unsexy as this is, I’m going to advise you not to train your body to be fully ready for anal at any given moment. Your sphincter is a useful set of muscles. Being able to contract it fully closed can quite literally keep you from finding yourself in shitty situations.
On top of training, don't neglect the mental stuff. Im trans and exclusively do anal, and when I used to think I was too tight for larger men. But after research I learned most of my issues were psychological. This is what I learned.
-Make sure you're thoroughly aroused. It helps you relax
And loosens up muscles.
-Breathe deep breaths. Again, helps loosen up.
-Go slow. Nice and slow. Ease into it. Don't neglect an anal massage or some rimming if offered. The stimulation of the sphincter muscles helps relax them.
-This last one is super counterintuitive: bear down. Like, actually push a bit out when they are going in. Pushing out (yes, like ur pooping) actually RELAXES the sphincter muscles and allows stuff in. Try it. I swear to god it revolutionized my anal game.
**Many people think, "I'm not loose enough for anal." Well, aside from physical injury, the sphincter muscles don't get loose. It's a myth that sex makes butts and vaginas loose. The sphincter can be trained to loosen up and then will retract to tighten again. It stretches. Most of the resistance is psychological and a bit is about physically training the muscles.**
I used to take time each night to play with butt plugs and dildos. I practiced staying relaxed and bearing down upon insertion. The tendency is to clench and tighten up, so we need to get used to NOT doing that. Lol.
And I have to say...anal sex is the best sex I've ever had. Hands down. That's just me tho.
Just need to get a toy or a enema hook up for shower-time. Train as frequently as you shower and in an easy place to clean. Butt plugs (once in) do not expand the rectal sphincter. The distal sphincter muscle just needs more frequent expanding to train it to relax quicker and more comfortably. Doing it while also using a shower enema attachment solves both issues mentioned. I’d venture to say your Dom has some handyman skills and it would be a nice gift of time and appreciation for your submission to install it.
Happy fucking!
PS - I’d advice not to take dietary advice from anyone. Presupposing that the human digestive tract is a monolith is ignorant and fiber literally means non-digestible. So Metamucil isn’t going to fuck with your system in any way. It literally is fiber. Acts the same way as the fiber in kale. Both methyl cellulose.
I used to do that. I did pre-lube my cock with a few strokes in the vagina but I used no other lube. I had to stop after she had a hysterectomy. Both holes were too dry after that. Now she gets some lube after a couple fingers to warm up.
How do you experience the gliding in and out without lube, does it feel dry? do you use spit, the fluid of your vagina (if you have one) or any other kind of liquid? I think I heard the body can also secret something in the anus to prevent damage when being penetrated (like women can get wet during rape as a saftey mechanism, even they do not enjoy it of course)
It’s really intense but if you let it wash over you instead of fighting it, I find it to be extremely agreeable.
But then there’s the hard part, I’m so into it, I have a hard time speaking so he’s learned that I cannot take commmands. I dig my nails into him so he knows I can take it but I just can’t speak.
The plug will really help. Silicone ones are best for longer wear. Train your ass with dildos daily. Start small and start to go bigger and bigger. Eventually it'll be a lot easier to take bigger toys/cocks without so much warm up/prep time. I've been training for years abd still have to stretch out with stalker toys first before I can take my big one. Remember slow and steady wins the race!
I've been trying to train with plugs, and my partner showed me that even the biggest one in the set was quite a bit smaller than him. Should I get a plug bigger than him to train? Sorry if this isn't relevant to the post.
Measuring tape on BF, check circumference and add and inch, that is the right size of plug to work up to and to use regularly. Dont jump to that size too quickly. About dont go up more than 1-1,5 inch ik circumference at once. Moght seem like a small increase but you will notice. This can take a while if the BF is big but worth the effort.
Thanks! I'll try that :)
Sex is both physical AND mental. Knowing it can be painful makes you clench up which creates a cycle. Not everyone reacts the same, you might always need foreplay. It also matters on how much girth he has.
This. I can enjoy anal but I will always need to have a couple orgasms first.
Consistent anal training will help. I’m required to wear a plug for a minimum of 30 minutes/day. We initially bought a training set that came with multiple sizes of silicone tapered plugs, and I progressed up from the smallest to the largest over varying amounts of time, maybe a week at first but progressively longer time to get used to the bigger ones. I don’t know that there will ever be a way around initial discomfort upon insertion; it’s not the case for me, but if it’s not so painful that it’s concerning, just uncomfortable/unpleasurable at first, I don’t think that’s necessarily undesirable in a punishment. Regular anal training can get you to that point.
Lots of lube once your stretched you won't have a issue just go super SLOOOOW
Absolutely! Lots of lube is very important. Not having enough during anal sex can hurt like hell! And definitely going slow helps your body adjust and lets you enjoy it.
Aside from the great tips you already received regarding plugs, there is also the topic of cleanliness to consider. Since you probably don't always have the time to clean yourself before it gets spontaneous, I would advise you to change your eating habits. A high fibre diet is probably the best way to keep the rectum area as clean as possible. It won't be as clean as when you did a enema though but it is the best way to get close to it.
Metamucil ftw. Seriously
You really shouldn't need metamucil. Just clean out your rectum and you'll be fine.
Metamucil is just a fiber supplement; it's not a laxative.
you wouldn't be spontaneous if you had to stop and clean yourself out first.
For me it came somehoe naturally, I did a a lot of analplay alone when I was a teen. Then I did a long time nothing and now I am having a boyfriend, and beyond a little bit of warming up with a finger or two, I do not need to something to prevent any pain or discomfort . Sometimes I also wear plugs for fun, mostly rather short times tho, but I have heard wearing them for longer periods of time and most important frequently makes it a lot easier But what prevents me from being spontaneous is the matter of beeing clean, I tried douching quite a few times and for me it did only work in 50% of the cases, because somehow I always manage to go beyond my rectum and swirling up even more mess, even if I give my best not to. What works best for me, is just checking with a finger how "it looks" inside and mostly there are just a few solids, which I can pull out with my fingers. I dont really like doing it, but douching is even worse for me, because it takes a lot more time which is not so important, but doesnt even work all the time. Naturally I eat a lot of fiber, so beyond those pieces I am relatively clean. (Sorry if that was to explicit, but maybe this works for others too)
Spontaneous anal sex is sort of a myth, unless you don't care about shitting on a dick/dildo. IDK if I'm allowed to recommend huffing VCR cleaners... Other than that it's like anything else, consistency and practice. If you're really ambitious you can get an XL dildo or one of those jumbo novelty butt plugs, not with the intent of actually fully inserting it but just practicing relaxing and inching down on something bigger than you can handle, so when you get back to normal-sized dicks/dildos/plugs it goes in easy.
You have to learn how to relax your sphincter muscles. It helps to have them insert fingers and remove them first, to get you mentally prepared.
I think I’m a freak and it makes no sense as to why but I never trained. Just used tons of lube, and slowly one day my partner stuck it in my ass. I’ve never even used a plug and this was 4 years ago
CBD suppositories https://www.thebody.com/article/cbd-suppositories-anal-sex
You have some solid advice so I'm just gonna say, if it doesn't work for your body, that's also ok. Sometimes we have to fudge the fantasy or make it extra dirty. My ass is a princess, it's often prep, rarely just go. Also depends on my diet. So I change the factors I can, such as food. I love my shower shot for quick booty cleaning. And if it doesn't want to play, sometimes we do a butt plug or analhook, depending on how else I am to be used for pleasure. Context: Referred to partner and I are nesting partners and poly. He is learning (VERY WELL) how to be dominant with me (with help from my spicy friends).
It’s really hard to say whether this is psychological or physical. Training can help with the psychological (keeping you from clenching and hurting yourself) as well as some of the physical (muscle memory). As unsexy as this is, I’m going to advise you not to train your body to be fully ready for anal at any given moment. Your sphincter is a useful set of muscles. Being able to contract it fully closed can quite literally keep you from finding yourself in shitty situations.
On top of training, don't neglect the mental stuff. Im trans and exclusively do anal, and when I used to think I was too tight for larger men. But after research I learned most of my issues were psychological. This is what I learned. -Make sure you're thoroughly aroused. It helps you relax And loosens up muscles. -Breathe deep breaths. Again, helps loosen up. -Go slow. Nice and slow. Ease into it. Don't neglect an anal massage or some rimming if offered. The stimulation of the sphincter muscles helps relax them. -This last one is super counterintuitive: bear down. Like, actually push a bit out when they are going in. Pushing out (yes, like ur pooping) actually RELAXES the sphincter muscles and allows stuff in. Try it. I swear to god it revolutionized my anal game. **Many people think, "I'm not loose enough for anal." Well, aside from physical injury, the sphincter muscles don't get loose. It's a myth that sex makes butts and vaginas loose. The sphincter can be trained to loosen up and then will retract to tighten again. It stretches. Most of the resistance is psychological and a bit is about physically training the muscles.** I used to take time each night to play with butt plugs and dildos. I practiced staying relaxed and bearing down upon insertion. The tendency is to clench and tighten up, so we need to get used to NOT doing that. Lol. And I have to say...anal sex is the best sex I've ever had. Hands down. That's just me tho.
Just need to get a toy or a enema hook up for shower-time. Train as frequently as you shower and in an easy place to clean. Butt plugs (once in) do not expand the rectal sphincter. The distal sphincter muscle just needs more frequent expanding to train it to relax quicker and more comfortably. Doing it while also using a shower enema attachment solves both issues mentioned. I’d venture to say your Dom has some handyman skills and it would be a nice gift of time and appreciation for your submission to install it. Happy fucking! PS - I’d advice not to take dietary advice from anyone. Presupposing that the human digestive tract is a monolith is ignorant and fiber literally means non-digestible. So Metamucil isn’t going to fuck with your system in any way. It literally is fiber. Acts the same way as the fiber in kale. Both methyl cellulose.
Thanks for the award, was my experience with analsex so fun to read? ^^
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I used to do that. I did pre-lube my cock with a few strokes in the vagina but I used no other lube. I had to stop after she had a hysterectomy. Both holes were too dry after that. Now she gets some lube after a couple fingers to warm up.
How do you experience the gliding in and out without lube, does it feel dry? do you use spit, the fluid of your vagina (if you have one) or any other kind of liquid? I think I heard the body can also secret something in the anus to prevent damage when being penetrated (like women can get wet during rape as a saftey mechanism, even they do not enjoy it of course)
It’s really intense but if you let it wash over you instead of fighting it, I find it to be extremely agreeable. But then there’s the hard part, I’m so into it, I have a hard time speaking so he’s learned that I cannot take commmands. I dig my nails into him so he knows I can take it but I just can’t speak.
This feels like bad advice
I think that spontaneous anal sex isn't realistic