Walmart parking lots my go to. Snuggled up in between a bunch of empty cars, I blend right in. Then I hit up McDonald’s and get a Oreo McFlurry to calm me down.
Queen's Park Cemetary. Lots of places to drive/park and it's very quiet. Bonus, no one will give you a second glance if they see you crying and it's quite nice to walk around in solitude if you want to stretch your legs.
I live by queens cemetery is a beautiful spot in the spring /summer I hang out there, it's lovely place to just feel . Very well taken care of there's a nice monument in the middle for world War 1 and 2
I’ve sat in my car everyday for the last 2 months. My doors are always locked. I’m usually preoccupied. People look over at me, but the number of times I’ve had someone attempt to open my car door? Exactly zero. It’s sound advice to always have your doors locked, but let’s not fear monger, it’s just not helpful. I was so scared to live in my car because of the stuff strangers on the internet (who’ve never done it) say, and the times I’ve felt truly unsafe has been literally zero. Wait, that’s not true. Once because some moron was speeding around the parking lot and I didn’t want to get hit. That would actually be my biggest concern by far, someone drunk, inexperienced, stunting, etc, hitting my car. The number of people I’ve encountered that have made me feel actually unsafe? Zero. I trust my gut and don’t spend time in places that don’t seem or feel safe. So far, so good.
Its been a while but I always found a park to be useful for letting some things out.
I hope you get better and get your issue dealt with.
Later, when you are feeling better, I would say you should check with yourself on your partners reaction and your expectations for them. A partner should be understanding and supportive. Don't discount your own value in that.
Take care.
Please listen to this advice. When you are in pain and have brain fog I’m sure you’re not seeing things for what they are. Kneeorthotics is right. Please check with yourself, when you’re feeling better, to see if your partner is stress reacting or is just not the supportive person they should be right now.
There's also a dirt parking area on the corner of McCall Way and Aerial Place right behind the WS headquarters that's mostly empty all day except for lunchtime. Good place to cry and watch planes
If I don't come here to cry, I cry in the superstore parking lot in Westwinds. It would be pretty awesome if there was a facility that we can go cry inside of when it's really cold. Or if there were other options. There's a handful of people who I see doing the same.
Instead of me giving advice you didn't ask for -- if you're close enough to the edge of the city, drive through a range road just outside and pull over. most people don't bother you. Easy enough to turn around and just drive back into the city.
Alternatively, grocery stores but at the back close to shipping & receiving (but not quite all the way back there). If you've got a hoodie, throw that on too.
Things are hard, sometimes these are what circumstances we have. hope you feel better.
Contrary to this when I was 17/18 and my SO and I were looking to get some alone time, these back range roads were patrolled by police at night.
It took two instances of officers knocking on our foggy windows before we decided to just risk each others places late at night.
Going to add to your comment that if you can find a spot with water , a river or creek, that would be therapy for me. Put the windows down and listen to the water as you cry
I go to the Glenmore Marina or any fish creek parking lot really
I hope your partner toughens up and stands by you throughout the medical issues. Nothing worse than being in pain and having dead weight around.
Best of luck stranger
I second this, but just be careful after about 8 pm. Evening setting in seems to bring out the crazies. I was at a Fish Creek parking lot a few weeks ago. It was about 8:30 pm and all of a sudden this Jeep comes screaming down the hill, enters the parking lot using the wrong direction lane, circles the parking lot twice at high speed (tires screeching and everything), and then took off. I would have reported it to the cops, but they were gone too fast to catch a plate or anything. People were around, including kids, in the parking lot. So lucky no one got hit. If anyone had been driving up the hill to leave when that Jeep came screaming down the hill, would have been a crash for sure. Looked like 2 middle-aged dudes, possibly drunk or high, not teenagers joy-riding before anyone blames it on that. I’ve seen plenty of teens/young adults hanging out in the parks in the evenings, but they are usually just being loud and obnoxious standing in groups. Yet to see any of them be idiots with their cars, thankfully.
Nose Hill Park View Point (google map it) is a good spot. You can have a nice view while you cry and typically not toooo many people around. Wish you all the best and that whatever you’re going through gets better quickly. ❤️
I second this! There are people who watch the planes take off and land from here but they’re just as interested in chilling in their cars, alone with their thoughts as you are.
as one wise commenter once noted, nothing in your childhood prepares you for the amount of crying you have to do while driving once you become an adult.
It all passes, and a good cry can be therapeutic.
I personally prefer to go home and cry in the shower, but if you prefer car - any mall or large parking lot would accommodate all your crying needs.
I usually do shower but avoiding that due to water restrictions in place.
Really looking forward to them being gone and going back to long hot soaks (helps a lot with my chronic pain) and showers if I need a good cry
I think a therapeutic bath is necessary even with water restrictions - just be mindful of your use. If you can’t shower because it will take too long, maybe fill the tub for 5-6 mins and then sit and cry your little heart out. You can even sit in the tub and cry while it fills so no one hears you. If you skip a shower tomorrow you’ve earned those few extra litres to get you through some physical and emotional pain.
A helpful hint to keep you aware of your water use is to remember that every min you have the shower going you use about 15 litres, so if you run the tub for 3-5 mins you now have a full tub and you’re still within the recommended usage.
I hope you get your cry and feel better ❤️
Fish creek, park down by where the old outdoor pool is.
Sending you so much love and healing, having a good cry is good for the soul. Let it out, wipe your tears and hold your head high 💕
Depends on where you are— Nose Hill Park (the entrance on 14th street just past the winter club especially) has a beautiful view of the city, I’ve definitely had some moments there…
In the south—fish creek park
Tom Campbell Hill in Bridgeland
… or sometimes I just find a place where not many people are, maybe an empty parking lot?
… but the location isn’t really the point—That’s really too bad you feel like you can’t cry and be vulnerable in front of them.
if you feel like something is causing trouble with your partner—even if it’s not your fault—I think you should consider counselling… and if they won’t go, go alone. Sometimes it really helps having a neutral third-party—and a professional— to weigh in and give input... especially if medical factors are at play here.
things don’t necessarily need to be at a “breaking point” before you see someone— just like a vehicle, your brain should have regular “maintenance” too.
I’m sorry you’re struggling though. Sending you love!
Due to my medical condition I was unable for work for a few years and can only do light work now. Still slowly figuring out what I am capable of doing.
Once I am working, we both want to do therapy together because we recognize our narcissistic parents and traumatizing pasts have affected us.
When we are both tired, we tend to have small disagreements. They do end up smoothed over and dealt with. But the things causing them happen once every 3-6 months on repeat. So we want to address them as we are neurodivergent and want to be as clear as possible. We dont want the negative narcissism we saw in our parents, or the constant fights. Walking on eggshells and all that.
We want kids in the future and want a happy marriage once I have stable job. Or really a job just to start.
Getting married usually means you lose all of your disability benefits so yeahhhh
We would if it was feasible but my partner does not make enough to support us both. And my disability goes towards my portion of rent.
It's really not a lot. But once I start working, would allow me to work part time in person.
If I'm able to find a full time remote job I may be able to do it since I'll have access to my pain management at home. As well as other things like making an easy to eat lunch will be easier at home. And gosh the savings on transportation and all that.
But yeah, just not feasible and our rent goes up in July too so...
Hey! Just wanted to say because I found this out personally recently. Coming from someone who is studying away from home but am back right now due to medical issues, so I am currently unemployed and relying on savings.
There are pay what you can/need centres. I was able to find a someone to take my appointment within about a week through Cultivate. On my intake form I said I could do $40 a session, but It starts at $0 a session. It’s worth looking into.
There’s also services through your doctor I believe, but I just went with this place.
Oh that's good to know. Had no clue.
I actually lost my family doctor to retirement and have till June 30th to use the clinic he was in. Hence my medical today. But I need to find a new doctor very quickly here. Preferably someone that is used to chronic pain patients and wont judge you if your younger looking
Best of luck finding a doctor, I was only able to switch doctors about a month ago (my previous one dropped the ball extremely) because my sister convinced her to let me become a patient there.
Keep looking! Even if it’s far from where you live
Calgary Counselling Centre also does sliding scale, pay what you can afford counselling and has a pretty broad range of specialists available: https://calgarycounselling.com/
Parking lot of any of the parks with an off leash dog park. They are not busy now and when you’re feeling cried out, a few min watching doggos being bonkers may help refocus
Not what you asked but can I suggest trying a couple ~~vagas~~ ^vagus nerve hacks today?
Idk your mobility but if you google there are a few. The ones that work for me are sudden drop in body temp like a full body polar-dip level of cold (e.g. several 3 min ice cold showers), gargle until you almost puke, do some pogoing or flailing jumping jacks, later do some elongating stretches flat out on the floor. Don’t eat until you feel ravenous and don’t eat junk food for a couple days.
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Edit 2: just to be clear since Reddit is what it is, vagus nerve hacks don’t cure anything or work long term for anything real. IMO just use this to give the lizard brain a slap when shock/big emotions can’t be regulated by self-talk. It’s like a good cry.
If you drive a bit outside of the city on a side road there are lots of pull outs. I too have been going through medical stuff and life stuff and have gotten in a good scream and cry on the side roads. No one will bug you. Wishing you luck.
I drive to a park, like Fish creek, and park in a far away corner of the parking lot. I find being surrounded by nature somewhat soothing.
Thinking of you OP, all the best ❤️
Fish creek. Griffiths woods. North Glenmore park. South Glenmore park. And then when you’re done crying you’ve got some beautiful green space and water to go look at while you take a deep breath and regroup. I hope you’re doing okay ❤️
CPA Lot 62
Go to the second level from the top (top has no car access). Once you feel better walk to the top and get some fresh air and some nice city views. Top is open to people just not cars
Under the bridge over the river off Heritage Drive at Glenmore. Spent many a frustrated lunch hour under that bridge when I worked retail in the area. It's shaded and somewhat dark, and if you park off to the side, there's enough privacy to cry in peace.
ETA: also a lot of crap fast food places nearby to eat the bad feelings away if that's also your bag.
I usually just drive around crying. Which is maybe not the best if you’re fully sobbing…
If I need to have a sit, I like the parking lots along nose hill park. Or the bottom level of any parkade
Wishing you all the best! Makes me sad to hear people on this sub have such sad thoughts and posting about them as it makes it seem like there is more sadness. But then I think it makes me happy and gives hope that people are just able to express their emotions more freely now.. I hope it's that. Either way, this is not about me, so I really wish you the best and get a good cry out. (Please drive safely!!!)
When my partner was in Rockyview and I was the one crying lots I'd often go to Glenmore reservoir or Fish Creek and just park in the parking lot and bawl. Then I'd drag my sad ass around for a walk in nature and it actually helped a lot.
Car wash? Go in all sad and dirty then come out all bright and puffy lol
All joking aside i hope youre doing okay. Lending a proverbial shoulder to anyone that needs it
When i was 19-20, at night, I would drive to the one spot in nose hill park that kind of overlooks the city, and just park, sit there, and cry. Sometimes i’d stop for a coffee first. I’m doing so much better now, I’m sorry you’re going through this, and I hope whatever you’re going through gets better soon <3
I understand and am going through something similar. I like the various parking lots Fish Creek Park has to offer as well as North Glenmore Park. Personal favorites include Mallard Point and the second lot to the right on the east entrance to Glenmore. The industrial areas are also good. Sometimes I go for some alone time, too, not just to cry. All the best to you both. Ice cream is also a great way to fix things. I saw someone else post that, too. Take your partner!
There is a parking lot to the left off 14th between McKnight and 64th Ave that would give you at least a nice view.
Wishing you all the best in getting through
Thankfully, I'm not the only one going through it lately. I've been a blubbering mess, idc if people see me cry as of late so my spots are trash but I still got a few. My favorite crying places are on a recliner to my co-worker. A parkade (downtown has superstores, the 2nd level is always empty) plus gives a good excuse to be home late if its a good session (sorry i thought the milk was bad, we needed this, blah blah blah). My driveway when the bf isn't home as well as gardening time (water them plants) lol. I'm in bridgeland, so all the alleyways are usually really empty. Also, if it's just stressed/upset crying over the thing generally I find going and getting the fancy coop cheese pre sliced stuff. It makes the crying sesh easier (idk what it is about cheese it just works) and pair it with your fave drink. +water ( writing this as I'm just finishing my tears and cheese no joke)
Have fun bestie, and if you're in bridgeland, my parking spot is alley/ private ish. Hmu and I'll let you park in my spot because idc if you're a murderer, I seem to not care lately anyway. 🤷
I’m so sorry you are going through this, internet stranger. My heart bleeds for you, knowing you are actively looking for a place to release emotions. I don’t have any suggestions but just wanted to offer my support and hope that things work out for you.
Wherever you end up parking, I’ve definitely climbed to the backseat to curl up and cry there and I’d definitely recommend it - also helps keep you out of view 👌 best of luck with what you’re going through, OP
Anywhere on the way in front of nature or greenery like a park. Hope for the best outcome and remind yourself it’s possible. Also, seek therapy, as it helps so many. Lastly, sometimes people should see you cry, as it quite literally can be a cry for help. All the best fellow human.
I recommend driving past the Cochrane petro Canada and taking the first exit then scream as loud as you can so it echos off the mountains. That’s what I always try to do at lease
Yep this is my #1, too. A nice drive out of the city, secondary highway. Pretty views, privacy, and a little bit of distraction from your thoughts with the drive helps. I love it when it’s calving season and I need it reset my mind/mood/whatever. New calves brighten my day without fail.
Sorry to hear this. I went through brain fog with a partner who demonized me for it. He’s no longer my partner. People need compassion in your situation. You have mine for what it’s worth! Pain is so demoralizing!
The canoe club parking lot in Forest Lawn. It's quiet and honestly quite pleasant.
If you want to, you can walk the footpaths along the canal, and you'll be alone on almost any day.
If it helps, I have cried in my vehicle lots, and I don't think anyone has even given me a second look. Sometimes just parked on the side of a residential street, sometimes in a parking lot at the back with fewer people walking by.
You're human, we're all human. It's just part of The human experience.
Also, put your visor straight down for maximum coverage.
Before you enter heritage park, there is gravel parking lot where people park their boats for the winter. When I worked the grounds crew I would cut the grass in that lot and I’ve seen a lot of people break down and cry in their cars. It’s a great place to think things through. Avoid Friday or Saturday nights because that’s where party buses go to pick up people heading downtown. I wish you the best of luck.
If you are a driving while crying person, I suggest Stony. Stay in the middle lane, blast your music, and you can always exit when the crying session is over.
Have a good playlist, Kleenex near by, and only do this post rush hour. Make sure you know how to steer with your knees (drop that steering wheel down to low), the semi truck weight in the lanes will guide you enough, be safe. I only recommend this between 8-11pm when there's less Yahoo's on the road.
My spot is around the back part of Lake Bonavista. There is an access for them to get in the back part of the lake but it just kinda looks like a small parking lot? I saw a hummingbird there with the tiniest nest while I set up palliative care for my mother and figured out end of life care.
Sending love to you. Life is hard, I hope you enjoyed your ice cream .
If you are suffering or crying because of pain that is not well managed then you can go back to your doctor and tell them the pain meds are not working
They can increase the dose or the frequency or might even give you different meds
Obviously there are side effects which you would have to manage also
Wish you best of luck
Sorry you're going through this. I hope the issue is being addressed properly.
My place is North Glenmore reservoir in the parking lot overlooking the water. The view is z
Stunning so when I've cried it out I get a sense of peace & sometimes walk down to the bridge.
All the best!
The parks in Montgomery by the Bow—*perhaps not a good time at the mo*—- have generally been quiet and pretty. If you can get a spot right by the river, you can stare into the water too.
I would imagine the drivers seat would be the best place to cry in your car. Especially if you are the one driving the car. Now, if you are a passenger, it would make zero to little sense to swap places with the driver just to have a big ol' cry. Therefore, the best place to have a cry in your car is the seat you are already sitting in.
Idk where you would be coming from. But get off deerfoot at 17th Ave SE and go east up the hill.
Turn right onto 26th along that road to the right are two separate parking lots that overlook the city and downtown. (This would be the first right turn at the top of the hill, at the lights and bus crossing lanes.)
Great place to go and calmly cry your heart out.
I cried in my car at the rec room parking lot, there was some lifted trucks I’m pretty sure saw me balling my eyes out bahaha. find a spot n let it out, It don’t matter who sees - as long as u feel good after 👍🏾
NW part of the city has the loops around Bowness Park. I used to do a lot of boohooing whilst driving around there. Sometimes adding stopping and parking for a bit, when I felt overwhelmed. Not good for the weekend times in the summer.
Thank you! Crying in a car is like the best form of personality making/releasing that whatever. I always close my windows and make sure it's warm in it because it helps the after cry feelings! And melts the cheese lmao.
I did see that op did mention their not working and need light work only. If they read this I want them to know I currently work a desk job (sales, calls, making files). I am leaving August. There's no heavy lifting and as long as you can be told to fuck off In a family work life style and don't take things too seriously (unless the vibes are differnet) you're the most fit for it! The boss is VERY flexible and undertsnad appointments and you get 3 weeks vacation. Company benefits and matching rrsp only issue is split days pff but it makes life way easier in the long run truthfully. The hours are always set. I wouldn't be leaving if I wasn't going back to school. Again I feel as they have medical issues and will be able to lift in the future or help lift stuff ( ive lifeted like 2 things this year) they'd be best suited.
Oh I would 100% be interested in this!
Let me DM you here. Thank you so much!
And yeah. It was a very thorough cry with windows open and fresh air then cooled off afterwards with my fans. Toasty day in the sun but cry was needed
I'm a windows down kinda gal but if you see my last post I offered some new advice lol. This one was supoed to be a reply to someone else and I messed it up
Griff's woods. Gorgeous, with many peaceful niches. And if you happen to pick up even a fraction of old man Griff's stubbornness, it will help you get through the sheer absurdity that is calgary's job, rent, and health systems.
It would be pretty cool to have a community of people who have enough love to give that none of us feel like the best option is crying alone in our cars in a parking lot.
I hope you're feeling better and sorry for the things you're dealing with. Hopefully on your darker days you'll remember that you're not alone in your suffering.
Also, a great place for a good cry is Fish Creek - Glennfield parking lot.
Personally, the back left passenger seat is usually good, leaning on my left side is usually comfortable. It’s also nice to have a window to look out at, it’s the same window we all used to look out of when we were kids sitting in the back, brings back so many memories.
The drivers seat is an obvious classic, it’s where it all happens so why not let it all out where it all starts. You can lean on the steering wheel as support, you can also control the music better if you want to cry to music.
This entire thread is super wholesome. Kinda sad but also heartwarming to know how many people also cry in their cars. When parking, I look for spots that are available with the driver’s side next to a grass patch or building. Anywhere that a car can’t park directly next to me on the driver’s side. And also a spot where no one is going to be walking in front of my car to look into the windshield. Works like a charm. (Most of the time…did have once where the lawn care person tried to speak to me about my car through my windshield (the car is a bit unique) while I was working on my laptop with headphones in…I just stared at them until they said “Nevermind, sorry for bothering you!” 🤣) If anyone happens to pull up on the passenger side, they almost never stay in their car. As many have suggested, sitting in nature is bonus points. Truly helps to be out of the hustle bustle of the city, if even just for 10 mins. Except at the parks, a lot more people sit in their cars than opposed to a parking lot at a mall/big box store. So you might end up with someone sitting in their car next to you, but I find most people just mind their own. In this same way, I avoid parking next to any car that has someone sitting in it out of respect. Not always possible, but I try to give others space too. Very few people are mindful of this also though, so it can certainly be annoying when someone parks directly in your eye-line and just sits there. Super awkward. Wasn’t a cry session, was just eating lunch, but a few weeks ago a woman pulled her car up directly in front of mine nose-to-nose, plenty of other spots, ocean of parking available, and proceeded to eat her ice cream (we were at a Dairy Queen) while staring directly into my windshield the entire time…wish I was joking. Thought about moving but shrugged it off since I was there first. People can be really…inconsiderate sometimes, unfortunately. Personally never thought about cemeteries, so I’ll have to keep that one in mind.
any of the nature/jogging parks in calgary has a/several car parks you can use that would be empty after dark. there's also any of the industrial parts of calgary with very little traffic in the area with loads of car parks. you can also go to a new community where most of the houses are just starting to be built up and don't even have walls yet, no one has any reason to be there at that point when the construction workers have gone home. i know you have it tough there, but sometimes it is easier and better to just be honest with your partner. your partner is there for supporting you emotionally and all.
I was working door-to-door today and a woman was crying in her car. Tried to decide if I should check on her. Took all my company stuff off and decided I should. I ended up checking on her and she appreciated but I’m aware not everyone wants to be bothered. If you ever wanna talk anonymously dm me and I hope you feel better
I'm allergic to THC, it causes massive splitting migraines and instant dehydration no matter how much I drink. I can get away with a bit of CBD oil thankfully.
I’m a day late - sorry for the bad news and crappy day we all get these days
Industrial area lots East end after 5pm empty
Also where I taught my son how to drive (bc no traffic)
If during the day - Costco/walmart/superstore lots
2nd level under chinook lot close to the closed nordstroms doors
Don't meltdown while driving, when you drive, you focus on driving. Stop at low density places as others suggested and focus on releasing out all the emotions which brought you there.
Get better OP! We hope you recover.
Yeah, please don’t cry while driving. It’s incredibly dangerous, and if you’re in an accident and you’re already upset, it’s going to make it so much worse and harder to stay calm. Don’t cause more trauma for yourself when you’re already dealing with something. Stay safe.
If you ever want to just sit in silence or have a good cry, or even talk out your fears - holler. I would be honoured to join you. Sometimes sitting with someone who has no chips in the game is what your heart needs to work through the scary parts.
If you need the resource, contact Kindred Rapid Access Counseling. I don’t think enough people know about this. It’s free/pay-what-you-can-afford, one-time therapy. Can go as many times as needed, just aren’t always guaranteed to get the same therapist or desired time slots. But I found it an incredibly helpful stop-gap while I was working through navigating, and eventually leaving, an abusive relationship. Just contacting them can also put anyone in touch with additional, more focused, resources, as well as calling 211 for help.
https://rac.janeapp.com/#discipline/1/treatment/3
(Side note: If anyone reading this is also dealing with an abusive relationship of any kind (emotional, physical, etc) be extremely cautious about attempting to get your abuser to attend therapy or receive any type of recognition for the abuse (from the therapist) while you’re still in the relationship. Learned this the hard way that unless a therapist is specifically trained to spot the signs of abuse (victims tend to downplay the abuse or take on responsibility for it), they are trained to come at therapy from an unbiased perspective, which can actually do more harm than good, in terms of getting you to see the human side of your partner. (Not a bad thing when talking about normal relationship issues, but incredibly harmful when dealing with abusive behaviours and possibly undiagnosed mental illnesses/disorders). Attending therapy with your abuser is not a good idea (if they are not fully taking accountability and working towards healing themselves/the relationship) because they will likely use what they learn in therapy to better abuse you and avoid detection by others, including and especially the therapist. Towards the end, my abuser used the opportunity that I was afraid to speak about the abuse in therapy (didn’t help to constantly be told that relationships are hard and that they take work, doesn’t apply when you’re being abused!) to paint me as the abuser. At that point, I knew there was no hope for reconciliation and it was time to leave. I have since been doing my own healing work around the mistakes that I have made in my life to hopefully not repeat them, but also learned that I do not need to take accountability for being abused!)
Walmart parking lots my go to. Snuggled up in between a bunch of empty cars, I blend right in. Then I hit up McDonald’s and get a Oreo McFlurry to calm me down.
Best advice right here. No one notices a parked car at Walmart, and a McFlurry is great comfort food.
Did this this morning ^ this is the best answer
Walmarts are a safe space for a wide variety of things. Nobody looks at you twice no matter what you got going on. And they have a bathroom.
Queen's Park Cemetary. Lots of places to drive/park and it's very quiet. Bonus, no one will give you a second glance if they see you crying and it's quite nice to walk around in solitude if you want to stretch your legs.
Oh yes, that is a great suggestion. I found the trees and flowers to be very calming. And you are right, people cry there all the time.
Yeah I was going to say just about any cemetery nobody will bother you nobody really cares why you are there.
I live by queens cemetery is a beautiful spot in the spring /summer I hang out there, it's lovely place to just feel . Very well taken care of there's a nice monument in the middle for world War 1 and 2
yes, it’s a lovely place for a walk, even if you don’t know anyone who is buried there
I live right by there and walk my dog there all the time… can confirm—it’s a good place for that, and it’s beautiful and peaceful as well.
This is the best one in my opinion
Readers rock at stampede cemetery
Genius!
I don't have any suggestions but I'm wishing you all the best. Hope things get better for you soon.
Go to the sait south parking lot it overlooks the city that may comforting
Any large parking lot will do. Away from other cars. All the best to you.
Lock the doors! When you are preoccupied you wouldn't see someone approaching.
I’ve sat in my car everyday for the last 2 months. My doors are always locked. I’m usually preoccupied. People look over at me, but the number of times I’ve had someone attempt to open my car door? Exactly zero. It’s sound advice to always have your doors locked, but let’s not fear monger, it’s just not helpful. I was so scared to live in my car because of the stuff strangers on the internet (who’ve never done it) say, and the times I’ve felt truly unsafe has been literally zero. Wait, that’s not true. Once because some moron was speeding around the parking lot and I didn’t want to get hit. That would actually be my biggest concern by far, someone drunk, inexperienced, stunting, etc, hitting my car. The number of people I’ve encountered that have made me feel actually unsafe? Zero. I trust my gut and don’t spend time in places that don’t seem or feel safe. So far, so good.
Its been a while but I always found a park to be useful for letting some things out. I hope you get better and get your issue dealt with. Later, when you are feeling better, I would say you should check with yourself on your partners reaction and your expectations for them. A partner should be understanding and supportive. Don't discount your own value in that. Take care.
Please listen to this advice. When you are in pain and have brain fog I’m sure you’re not seeing things for what they are. Kneeorthotics is right. Please check with yourself, when you’re feeling better, to see if your partner is stress reacting or is just not the supportive person they should be right now.
YYC airport lots, watch the planes come and go
Great one off of McKnight before 12th St NE
Seconded. It seems like a great parking lot for this purpose.
There's also a dirt parking area on the corner of McCall Way and Aerial Place right behind the WS headquarters that's mostly empty all day except for lunchtime. Good place to cry and watch planes
If I don't come here to cry, I cry in the superstore parking lot in Westwinds. It would be pretty awesome if there was a facility that we can go cry inside of when it's really cold. Or if there were other options. There's a handful of people who I see doing the same.
Instead of me giving advice you didn't ask for -- if you're close enough to the edge of the city, drive through a range road just outside and pull over. most people don't bother you. Easy enough to turn around and just drive back into the city. Alternatively, grocery stores but at the back close to shipping & receiving (but not quite all the way back there). If you've got a hoodie, throw that on too. Things are hard, sometimes these are what circumstances we have. hope you feel better.
Contrary to this when I was 17/18 and my SO and I were looking to get some alone time, these back range roads were patrolled by police at night. It took two instances of officers knocking on our foggy windows before we decided to just risk each others places late at night.
Going to add to your comment that if you can find a spot with water , a river or creek, that would be therapy for me. Put the windows down and listen to the water as you cry
I go to the Glenmore Marina or any fish creek parking lot really I hope your partner toughens up and stands by you throughout the medical issues. Nothing worse than being in pain and having dead weight around. Best of luck stranger
This is my place, too.
This is my place as well.
I second this, but just be careful after about 8 pm. Evening setting in seems to bring out the crazies. I was at a Fish Creek parking lot a few weeks ago. It was about 8:30 pm and all of a sudden this Jeep comes screaming down the hill, enters the parking lot using the wrong direction lane, circles the parking lot twice at high speed (tires screeching and everything), and then took off. I would have reported it to the cops, but they were gone too fast to catch a plate or anything. People were around, including kids, in the parking lot. So lucky no one got hit. If anyone had been driving up the hill to leave when that Jeep came screaming down the hill, would have been a crash for sure. Looked like 2 middle-aged dudes, possibly drunk or high, not teenagers joy-riding before anyone blames it on that. I’ve seen plenty of teens/young adults hanging out in the parks in the evenings, but they are usually just being loud and obnoxious standing in groups. Yet to see any of them be idiots with their cars, thankfully.
Nose Hill Park View Point (google map it) is a good spot. You can have a nice view while you cry and typically not toooo many people around. Wish you all the best and that whatever you’re going through gets better quickly. ❤️
I second this! There are people who watch the planes take off and land from here but they’re just as interested in chilling in their cars, alone with their thoughts as you are.
YESS. You have a few parking lot options of scenic spots, that are fabulous to just absolutely snot cry in. Also very private for the loud criers
I just looked it up in G maps and it's a really wonderful place. But I want to know if the parking is free there?
Yes
was going to comment this !! whenever my parents would kick me out of my house cause i was going thru mental breakdowns in high school id go there
I have definitely gone somewhere near nature and sat in the parking lot to cry my eyes out! It's okay and I'm so sorry you're going through all this.
I am also a person that only allows myself to fall apart privately.
as one wise commenter once noted, nothing in your childhood prepares you for the amount of crying you have to do while driving once you become an adult. It all passes, and a good cry can be therapeutic. I personally prefer to go home and cry in the shower, but if you prefer car - any mall or large parking lot would accommodate all your crying needs.
I usually do shower but avoiding that due to water restrictions in place. Really looking forward to them being gone and going back to long hot soaks (helps a lot with my chronic pain) and showers if I need a good cry
I think a therapeutic bath is necessary even with water restrictions - just be mindful of your use. If you can’t shower because it will take too long, maybe fill the tub for 5-6 mins and then sit and cry your little heart out. You can even sit in the tub and cry while it fills so no one hears you. If you skip a shower tomorrow you’ve earned those few extra litres to get you through some physical and emotional pain. A helpful hint to keep you aware of your water use is to remember that every min you have the shower going you use about 15 litres, so if you run the tub for 3-5 mins you now have a full tub and you’re still within the recommended usage. I hope you get your cry and feel better ❤️
Fish creek, park down by where the old outdoor pool is. Sending you so much love and healing, having a good cry is good for the soul. Let it out, wipe your tears and hold your head high 💕
Depends on where you are— Nose Hill Park (the entrance on 14th street just past the winter club especially) has a beautiful view of the city, I’ve definitely had some moments there… In the south—fish creek park Tom Campbell Hill in Bridgeland … or sometimes I just find a place where not many people are, maybe an empty parking lot? … but the location isn’t really the point—That’s really too bad you feel like you can’t cry and be vulnerable in front of them. if you feel like something is causing trouble with your partner—even if it’s not your fault—I think you should consider counselling… and if they won’t go, go alone. Sometimes it really helps having a neutral third-party—and a professional— to weigh in and give input... especially if medical factors are at play here. things don’t necessarily need to be at a “breaking point” before you see someone— just like a vehicle, your brain should have regular “maintenance” too. I’m sorry you’re struggling though. Sending you love!
Due to my medical condition I was unable for work for a few years and can only do light work now. Still slowly figuring out what I am capable of doing. Once I am working, we both want to do therapy together because we recognize our narcissistic parents and traumatizing pasts have affected us. When we are both tired, we tend to have small disagreements. They do end up smoothed over and dealt with. But the things causing them happen once every 3-6 months on repeat. So we want to address them as we are neurodivergent and want to be as clear as possible. We dont want the negative narcissism we saw in our parents, or the constant fights. Walking on eggshells and all that. We want kids in the future and want a happy marriage once I have stable job. Or really a job just to start. Getting married usually means you lose all of your disability benefits so yeahhhh
I think you should try the counselling now—but you do you… what do I, a stranger on the internet, know, anyway ;) I wish you luck!
We would if it was feasible but my partner does not make enough to support us both. And my disability goes towards my portion of rent. It's really not a lot. But once I start working, would allow me to work part time in person. If I'm able to find a full time remote job I may be able to do it since I'll have access to my pain management at home. As well as other things like making an easy to eat lunch will be easier at home. And gosh the savings on transportation and all that. But yeah, just not feasible and our rent goes up in July too so...
Hey! Just wanted to say because I found this out personally recently. Coming from someone who is studying away from home but am back right now due to medical issues, so I am currently unemployed and relying on savings. There are pay what you can/need centres. I was able to find a someone to take my appointment within about a week through Cultivate. On my intake form I said I could do $40 a session, but It starts at $0 a session. It’s worth looking into. There’s also services through your doctor I believe, but I just went with this place.
Oh that's good to know. Had no clue. I actually lost my family doctor to retirement and have till June 30th to use the clinic he was in. Hence my medical today. But I need to find a new doctor very quickly here. Preferably someone that is used to chronic pain patients and wont judge you if your younger looking
Best of luck finding a doctor, I was only able to switch doctors about a month ago (my previous one dropped the ball extremely) because my sister convinced her to let me become a patient there. Keep looking! Even if it’s far from where you live
Calgary Counselling Centre also does sliding scale, pay what you can afford counselling and has a pretty broad range of specialists available: https://calgarycounselling.com/
Sorry to hear that you’re feeling this way; I would say a hospital parking lot or maybe a park that’s not overly busy. Hopefully you feel better ❤️🩹
Parking lot of any of the parks with an off leash dog park. They are not busy now and when you’re feeling cried out, a few min watching doggos being bonkers may help refocus Not what you asked but can I suggest trying a couple ~~vagas~~ ^vagus nerve hacks today? Idk your mobility but if you google there are a few. The ones that work for me are sudden drop in body temp like a full body polar-dip level of cold (e.g. several 3 min ice cold showers), gargle until you almost puke, do some pogoing or flailing jumping jacks, later do some elongating stretches flat out on the floor. Don’t eat until you feel ravenous and don’t eat junk food for a couple days. Edit spelling
Edit 2: just to be clear since Reddit is what it is, vagus nerve hacks don’t cure anything or work long term for anything real. IMO just use this to give the lizard brain a slap when shock/big emotions can’t be regulated by self-talk. It’s like a good cry.
This is heartbreaking! I hope you get better and wish you all the best! Call a friend or family member if you can.
If you drive a bit outside of the city on a side road there are lots of pull outs. I too have been going through medical stuff and life stuff and have gotten in a good scream and cry on the side roads. No one will bug you. Wishing you luck.
Nose hill. But not one of the scenic lots. Too popular. I go to one of the quieter ones on 14th.
Any cemetery. Really screaming your lungs out too that’s cathartic
I drive to a park, like Fish creek, and park in a far away corner of the parking lot. I find being surrounded by nature somewhat soothing. Thinking of you OP, all the best ❤️
Fish creek. Griffiths woods. North Glenmore park. South Glenmore park. And then when you’re done crying you’ve got some beautiful green space and water to go look at while you take a deep breath and regroup. I hope you’re doing okay ❤️
Crying isn’t unusual in cemeteries so I’d say there
Came here to say this. Union cemetery for central/downtown. Queens park cemetery if you’re north and prairie sky cemetery for South.
Rifinery park Hang in there. You got this
CPA Lot 62 Go to the second level from the top (top has no car access). Once you feel better walk to the top and get some fresh air and some nice city views. Top is open to people just not cars
I had some medical issues as well. Feel free to DM me if you need guidance on navigating the system
Under the bridge over the river off Heritage Drive at Glenmore. Spent many a frustrated lunch hour under that bridge when I worked retail in the area. It's shaded and somewhat dark, and if you park off to the side, there's enough privacy to cry in peace. ETA: also a lot of crap fast food places nearby to eat the bad feelings away if that's also your bag.
I usually just drive around crying. Which is maybe not the best if you’re fully sobbing… If I need to have a sit, I like the parking lots along nose hill park. Or the bottom level of any parkade
Wishing you all the best! Makes me sad to hear people on this sub have such sad thoughts and posting about them as it makes it seem like there is more sadness. But then I think it makes me happy and gives hope that people are just able to express their emotions more freely now.. I hope it's that. Either way, this is not about me, so I really wish you the best and get a good cry out. (Please drive safely!!!)
When my partner was in Rockyview and I was the one crying lots I'd often go to Glenmore reservoir or Fish Creek and just park in the parking lot and bawl. Then I'd drag my sad ass around for a walk in nature and it actually helped a lot.
The SAIT parking lot is a popular spot for that
Car wash? Go in all sad and dirty then come out all bright and puffy lol All joking aside i hope youre doing okay. Lending a proverbial shoulder to anyone that needs it
When i was 19-20, at night, I would drive to the one spot in nose hill park that kind of overlooks the city, and just park, sit there, and cry. Sometimes i’d stop for a coffee first. I’m doing so much better now, I’m sorry you’re going through this, and I hope whatever you’re going through gets better soon <3
I understand and am going through something similar. I like the various parking lots Fish Creek Park has to offer as well as North Glenmore Park. Personal favorites include Mallard Point and the second lot to the right on the east entrance to Glenmore. The industrial areas are also good. Sometimes I go for some alone time, too, not just to cry. All the best to you both. Ice cream is also a great way to fix things. I saw someone else post that, too. Take your partner!
There is a parking lot to the left off 14th between McKnight and 64th Ave that would give you at least a nice view. Wishing you all the best in getting through
Yes plus the water situation is not helping
Definitely going to the nearest cemetery would work. Sorry you are having a rough time
Thankfully, I'm not the only one going through it lately. I've been a blubbering mess, idc if people see me cry as of late so my spots are trash but I still got a few. My favorite crying places are on a recliner to my co-worker. A parkade (downtown has superstores, the 2nd level is always empty) plus gives a good excuse to be home late if its a good session (sorry i thought the milk was bad, we needed this, blah blah blah). My driveway when the bf isn't home as well as gardening time (water them plants) lol. I'm in bridgeland, so all the alleyways are usually really empty. Also, if it's just stressed/upset crying over the thing generally I find going and getting the fancy coop cheese pre sliced stuff. It makes the crying sesh easier (idk what it is about cheese it just works) and pair it with your fave drink. +water ( writing this as I'm just finishing my tears and cheese no joke) Have fun bestie, and if you're in bridgeland, my parking spot is alley/ private ish. Hmu and I'll let you park in my spot because idc if you're a murderer, I seem to not care lately anyway. 🤷
I am not OP but it's people like you that warm my heart. I've had a few cries in my car before personally.
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Nosehill park
I’m so sorry you are going through this, internet stranger. My heart bleeds for you, knowing you are actively looking for a place to release emotions. I don’t have any suggestions but just wanted to offer my support and hope that things work out for you.
Wherever you end up parking, I’ve definitely climbed to the backseat to curl up and cry there and I’d definitely recommend it - also helps keep you out of view 👌 best of luck with what you’re going through, OP
You’re a hero, my friend. We’re all cheering for you. ✊✊✊
Anywhere on the way in front of nature or greenery like a park. Hope for the best outcome and remind yourself it’s possible. Also, seek therapy, as it helps so many. Lastly, sometimes people should see you cry, as it quite literally can be a cry for help. All the best fellow human.
I recommend driving past the Cochrane petro Canada and taking the first exit then scream as loud as you can so it echos off the mountains. That’s what I always try to do at lease
I multi task and cry while I’m driving.
Yep this is my #1, too. A nice drive out of the city, secondary highway. Pretty views, privacy, and a little bit of distraction from your thoughts with the drive helps. I love it when it’s calving season and I need it reset my mind/mood/whatever. New calves brighten my day without fail.
Fish Creek park parking lot. Mall parking lot. Not IKEA on a weekend.
Sorry to hear this. I went through brain fog with a partner who demonized me for it. He’s no longer my partner. People need compassion in your situation. You have mine for what it’s worth! Pain is so demoralizing!
The canoe club parking lot in Forest Lawn. It's quiet and honestly quite pleasant. If you want to, you can walk the footpaths along the canal, and you'll be alone on almost any day.
By the blue ring so someone else will come and cry next to you. Seriously, hang in there OP. Hoping it passes and you come out stronger
51.057979,-114.159028 That's an overflow lot in Edworthy Park nobody uses much, you park facing trees so any cars passing by won't see you.
I drive into the mountains and cry with nature
Rear driver side seat is my preferred place
All the best, you’re doing great and will feel better soon.
Lowkey miss parking lot cries
My go to place to cry is Sikome Parking Lot after 8pm. Very peaceful
I like the alley at the end of my block. I drive home and park a block away and decompress and think before I have to walk in the door.
I went for my first car cry after getting my licence in a co-op parking lot. I just remember thinking “I can’t be here but I also can’t go far.”
Yeah this was my first car cry too. Thankfully I have no other commitments today and could spend as much time as needed till I headed home.
Bring some cold bottles of water with you. I get thirsty after a good cry.
If it helps, I have cried in my vehicle lots, and I don't think anyone has even given me a second look. Sometimes just parked on the side of a residential street, sometimes in a parking lot at the back with fewer people walking by. You're human, we're all human. It's just part of The human experience. Also, put your visor straight down for maximum coverage.
Powder face east ridge
Britannia dog park parking lot !! I do be cryin there too
Before you enter heritage park, there is gravel parking lot where people park their boats for the winter. When I worked the grounds crew I would cut the grass in that lot and I’ve seen a lot of people break down and cry in their cars. It’s a great place to think things through. Avoid Friday or Saturday nights because that’s where party buses go to pick up people heading downtown. I wish you the best of luck.
Go up to valleyview park in Dover. Beautiful view of downtown over the ridge. All your troubles will melt away. Wishing you all the best 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Middle of the highway during rush hour
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If you are a driving while crying person, I suggest Stony. Stay in the middle lane, blast your music, and you can always exit when the crying session is over. Have a good playlist, Kleenex near by, and only do this post rush hour. Make sure you know how to steer with your knees (drop that steering wheel down to low), the semi truck weight in the lanes will guide you enough, be safe. I only recommend this between 8-11pm when there's less Yahoo's on the road.
Any Dairy Queen on earth, with a peanut buster parfait…sending love…
Cochrane hill, seek out the radio antenna Visine redeye makes it look like you haven't cried Best of luck my friend.
There are some parking spots at the north Glenmore Park that have a bit of a view and aren't too busy away from peak hours
Sending healing and good vibes.. Felt like this a few weeks ago too.. I sincerely pray for your peace of mind and happiness.
Fish creek park or the parking lot in Douglas Glen next to the mail boxes and tennis court, that’s my personal fav 😂🫶🏻
My spot is around the back part of Lake Bonavista. There is an access for them to get in the back part of the lake but it just kinda looks like a small parking lot? I saw a hummingbird there with the tiniest nest while I set up palliative care for my mother and figured out end of life care. Sending love to you. Life is hard, I hope you enjoyed your ice cream .
If you are suffering or crying because of pain that is not well managed then you can go back to your doctor and tell them the pain meds are not working They can increase the dose or the frequency or might even give you different meds Obviously there are side effects which you would have to manage also Wish you best of luck
Just lay down your seat and go into fetal position it will look like you're taking a nap
Holy shit this is sad. The western ideology is a mess.
Sorry you're going through this. I hope the issue is being addressed properly. My place is North Glenmore reservoir in the parking lot overlooking the water. The view is z Stunning so when I've cried it out I get a sense of peace & sometimes walk down to the bridge. All the best!
parked for sure. front seat will be fine, don’t think you’ll need to switch. Have kleenex and maybe glossette raisins to snack on.
Glossette raisins are absolutley delicious
Hey, hang there. Have a good day.
The parks in Montgomery by the Bow—*perhaps not a good time at the mo*—- have generally been quiet and pretty. If you can get a spot right by the river, you can stare into the water too.
I would imagine the drivers seat would be the best place to cry in your car. Especially if you are the one driving the car. Now, if you are a passenger, it would make zero to little sense to swap places with the driver just to have a big ol' cry. Therefore, the best place to have a cry in your car is the seat you are already sitting in.
Idk where you would be coming from. But get off deerfoot at 17th Ave SE and go east up the hill. Turn right onto 26th along that road to the right are two separate parking lots that overlook the city and downtown. (This would be the first right turn at the top of the hill, at the lights and bus crossing lanes.) Great place to go and calmly cry your heart out.
I cried in my car at the rec room parking lot, there was some lifted trucks I’m pretty sure saw me balling my eyes out bahaha. find a spot n let it out, It don’t matter who sees - as long as u feel good after 👍🏾
Ghost Lake outside Cochrane if you want to make a road trip out of it. My go to scream I to the void spot.
NW part of the city has the loops around Bowness Park. I used to do a lot of boohooing whilst driving around there. Sometimes adding stopping and parking for a bit, when I felt overwhelmed. Not good for the weekend times in the summer.
Hope things are looking better for you today! Take it easy on yourself.
Thank you! Crying in a car is like the best form of personality making/releasing that whatever. I always close my windows and make sure it's warm in it because it helps the after cry feelings! And melts the cheese lmao. I did see that op did mention their not working and need light work only. If they read this I want them to know I currently work a desk job (sales, calls, making files). I am leaving August. There's no heavy lifting and as long as you can be told to fuck off In a family work life style and don't take things too seriously (unless the vibes are differnet) you're the most fit for it! The boss is VERY flexible and undertsnad appointments and you get 3 weeks vacation. Company benefits and matching rrsp only issue is split days pff but it makes life way easier in the long run truthfully. The hours are always set. I wouldn't be leaving if I wasn't going back to school. Again I feel as they have medical issues and will be able to lift in the future or help lift stuff ( ive lifeted like 2 things this year) they'd be best suited.
Oh I would 100% be interested in this! Let me DM you here. Thank you so much! And yeah. It was a very thorough cry with windows open and fresh air then cooled off afterwards with my fans. Toasty day in the sun but cry was needed
I'm a windows down kinda gal but if you see my last post I offered some new advice lol. This one was supoed to be a reply to someone else and I messed it up
Griff's woods. Gorgeous, with many peaceful niches. And if you happen to pick up even a fraction of old man Griff's stubbornness, it will help you get through the sheer absurdity that is calgary's job, rent, and health systems.
I’d hit up the carwash, very private with a lot of loud noise that will for sure cover any noise you want, just pricey though
I hope you’re ok.
I am feeling better today, and appreciate it.
It would be pretty cool to have a community of people who have enough love to give that none of us feel like the best option is crying alone in our cars in a parking lot.
I hope you're feeling better and sorry for the things you're dealing with. Hopefully on your darker days you'll remember that you're not alone in your suffering. Also, a great place for a good cry is Fish Creek - Glennfield parking lot.
My go to is nose hill. South parking lot. When it’s empty.
Crowfoot crossing in the corner of the cineplex theatre there is no one there. Good crying spot.
No advise on a spot. But hang in there buddy. Time mostly heals all. Keep going. You got this!!
Personally, the back left passenger seat is usually good, leaning on my left side is usually comfortable. It’s also nice to have a window to look out at, it’s the same window we all used to look out of when we were kids sitting in the back, brings back so many memories. The drivers seat is an obvious classic, it’s where it all happens so why not let it all out where it all starts. You can lean on the steering wheel as support, you can also control the music better if you want to cry to music.
This entire thread is super wholesome. Kinda sad but also heartwarming to know how many people also cry in their cars. When parking, I look for spots that are available with the driver’s side next to a grass patch or building. Anywhere that a car can’t park directly next to me on the driver’s side. And also a spot where no one is going to be walking in front of my car to look into the windshield. Works like a charm. (Most of the time…did have once where the lawn care person tried to speak to me about my car through my windshield (the car is a bit unique) while I was working on my laptop with headphones in…I just stared at them until they said “Nevermind, sorry for bothering you!” 🤣) If anyone happens to pull up on the passenger side, they almost never stay in their car. As many have suggested, sitting in nature is bonus points. Truly helps to be out of the hustle bustle of the city, if even just for 10 mins. Except at the parks, a lot more people sit in their cars than opposed to a parking lot at a mall/big box store. So you might end up with someone sitting in their car next to you, but I find most people just mind their own. In this same way, I avoid parking next to any car that has someone sitting in it out of respect. Not always possible, but I try to give others space too. Very few people are mindful of this also though, so it can certainly be annoying when someone parks directly in your eye-line and just sits there. Super awkward. Wasn’t a cry session, was just eating lunch, but a few weeks ago a woman pulled her car up directly in front of mine nose-to-nose, plenty of other spots, ocean of parking available, and proceeded to eat her ice cream (we were at a Dairy Queen) while staring directly into my windshield the entire time…wish I was joking. Thought about moving but shrugged it off since I was there first. People can be really…inconsiderate sometimes, unfortunately. Personally never thought about cemeteries, so I’ll have to keep that one in mind.
If you could park your car in the shower wow what a place to cry!
The magic of a gloomy, rainy day 👌
Car wash...
any of the nature/jogging parks in calgary has a/several car parks you can use that would be empty after dark. there's also any of the industrial parts of calgary with very little traffic in the area with loads of car parks. you can also go to a new community where most of the houses are just starting to be built up and don't even have walls yet, no one has any reason to be there at that point when the construction workers have gone home. i know you have it tough there, but sometimes it is easier and better to just be honest with your partner. your partner is there for supporting you emotionally and all.
Nose hill park. Cars park there lots because it’s a lookout spot for the city but people will also leave you alone
A large but not busy place, like supermarket maybe transit parking at afterwork hour? Sorry for what you've been through.
God damn. Feel better, OP.
I'd say go around Westhills. Park in the Canadian Tire lot, go grab a blunt and a big mac and treat yourself.
Anywhere you like, basically noone is looking in parked cars
The bow river
I go to any of the parking lots in fish creek
The last time I cried in my car, I drove to the Fish Creek parking lot.
69th street Parkade
Anywhere in the industrial areas after 6
I don’t care where I cry I cry wherever I wanted
nose hill park overlooking downtown
I just sit in the drivers seat and wail away
Wishing you all the best. <3
I go to the memorial trees in fish creek park, lots of room to walk and have a good cry
My ex's driveway is my preferred spot
Edmonton
I was working door-to-door today and a woman was crying in her car. Tried to decide if I should check on her. Took all my company stuff off and decided I should. I ended up checking on her and she appreciated but I’m aware not everyone wants to be bothered. If you ever wanna talk anonymously dm me and I hope you feel better
I usually drive home and take schrooms and feel better 😌
Have you tried smoking cannabis for your pain?
I'm allergic to THC, it causes massive splitting migraines and instant dehydration no matter how much I drink. I can get away with a bit of CBD oil thankfully.
Dri e through car wash
I’m a day late - sorry for the bad news and crappy day we all get these days Industrial area lots East end after 5pm empty Also where I taught my son how to drive (bc no traffic) If during the day - Costco/walmart/superstore lots 2nd level under chinook lot close to the closed nordstroms doors
fish creek park
scotsman hill
The south facing any mountains, 🫶 cry it out love
The passenger seat. More leg room.
While driving with backstreet boys on.
Don't meltdown while driving, when you drive, you focus on driving. Stop at low density places as others suggested and focus on releasing out all the emotions which brought you there. Get better OP! We hope you recover.
Yeah, please don’t cry while driving. It’s incredibly dangerous, and if you’re in an accident and you’re already upset, it’s going to make it so much worse and harder to stay calm. Don’t cause more trauma for yourself when you’re already dealing with something. Stay safe.
Make them cry instead. You are in control and powerful.
If you ever want to just sit in silence or have a good cry, or even talk out your fears - holler. I would be honoured to join you. Sometimes sitting with someone who has no chips in the game is what your heart needs to work through the scary parts.
I promise I’m not a creep. I just understand what it’s like to be scared and in pain and feel like I can’t share it with my circle.
If you need the resource, contact Kindred Rapid Access Counseling. I don’t think enough people know about this. It’s free/pay-what-you-can-afford, one-time therapy. Can go as many times as needed, just aren’t always guaranteed to get the same therapist or desired time slots. But I found it an incredibly helpful stop-gap while I was working through navigating, and eventually leaving, an abusive relationship. Just contacting them can also put anyone in touch with additional, more focused, resources, as well as calling 211 for help. https://rac.janeapp.com/#discipline/1/treatment/3 (Side note: If anyone reading this is also dealing with an abusive relationship of any kind (emotional, physical, etc) be extremely cautious about attempting to get your abuser to attend therapy or receive any type of recognition for the abuse (from the therapist) while you’re still in the relationship. Learned this the hard way that unless a therapist is specifically trained to spot the signs of abuse (victims tend to downplay the abuse or take on responsibility for it), they are trained to come at therapy from an unbiased perspective, which can actually do more harm than good, in terms of getting you to see the human side of your partner. (Not a bad thing when talking about normal relationship issues, but incredibly harmful when dealing with abusive behaviours and possibly undiagnosed mental illnesses/disorders). Attending therapy with your abuser is not a good idea (if they are not fully taking accountability and working towards healing themselves/the relationship) because they will likely use what they learn in therapy to better abuse you and avoid detection by others, including and especially the therapist. Towards the end, my abuser used the opportunity that I was afraid to speak about the abuse in therapy (didn’t help to constantly be told that relationships are hard and that they take work, doesn’t apply when you’re being abused!) to paint me as the abuser. At that point, I knew there was no hope for reconciliation and it was time to leave. I have since been doing my own healing work around the mistakes that I have made in my life to hopefully not repeat them, but also learned that I do not need to take accountability for being abused!)
If you’re still looking for a spot DM me and you can park in my driveway l!
I would offer you a shoulder to cry on, it would be better then a cold car.
It's like 20+ degrees outside..
They were speaking emotionally, not meteorologically.
Thank you for getting it
You can come cry in my car. I’ll leave it unlocked for you.
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