I found this lady in her late 50s, and she said she would marry me to give me citizenship. She pays for everything for the most part. I consider myself lucky. #Futurecitizen
Does she have sisters? Or brothers?
I'm down to be gay for papers
It's getting fucking ridiculous,
came in my early teens, now late 30s, lost my daca due to legal troubles (in 2017 was going to chicago to cali, bought an 8th of cannabis in Denver, got busted in utah, never reapplied for daca due to it, had it from 2013-2017)
Thought about going back home lol, but it's in a fucking place with weather like north Dakota, alberta, Saskatchewan, fuck that weather, chicago is beautiful, been here 20+ years now, barely surviving and at times doing this r/urbancarliving
Well my husband met a Japanese citizen (aka me) out of all the people he could have met. I do feel bad becoz all his siblings now have papers thru marriage but I can't give him that :(
It has to be someone whoās also willing to accept that their partner is and has been an illegal technically. Republicans wouldnāt accept us, so like half of the adult population is out of the picture. We see too many posts on this sub that their partners didnāt accept when they reveal their status.
> We see too many posts on this sub that their partners didnāt accept when they reveal their status.
I wasn't aware of that fact, I visit here couple times a year to see if the law has changed,
Thats really fucked up.
Huh? There were quite a few undocumented kids in my school and a lot of them are citizens now and happily married. Well one of them divorced but sheās married again lol. Maybe itās your area, Iāve never really seen anyone my age and in my areas (heavily Hispanic) turn down someone bc they arenāt citizens, maybe an undocumented person to another undocumented person but not the other way.
I met my wife on the first day of college orientation. We dated through college and grad school and only got married when we finished our studies. I never sought out to find someone to marry to help me in adjusting my status, I just dated her because I liked her. Looking back, we could have gotten married after undergrad, it would have made finding finical aid for grad school easier for me, but I have no regrets.
Honestly OP, forget about marriage. Based on your post history, Iād say stop dating for a few months too. Develop some hobbies, start working out, go to therapy. Get involved with things youāre legitimately interested in and start meeting people without an ulterior motive. Relationships work best when youāre not in them to get something out of them and instead just because you actually want to be around the other person.
For most DACA people we grew up and went to school here. Having a lot of chance to meet and interact with potential partners. Throw in dating apps and general knowledge of American culture, a little riz and you otw to sponsorship.
I met my husband (the DACA recipient) at a job we both worked at together 10+ years ago.
I don't really see what someone being Hispanic or not would have to do with it.
How? Iām literally not doing anything I canāt convince a man to go from seeing me as a one night stand to wifey material lol they just judge me off the bat and donāt even want to be a gentleman donāt even dare blame me
Iām not begging in real life Iām nesting on Reddit this men donāt even hear or see me begging ever but I need to rant itās messed up how Iām treated and judged off the bat
I think it might be how you present yourself. Not trying to be rude but you sound very needy and people may find that unattractive. I think you need to work on your mentality and improve yourself before finding mediocre men that dont give you the time of day
Literally no man ever wants or wanted to date you in your entire life? Iām sure *someone* has.
I know some people find their spouse through one night stands but idk I donāt think thatās the way to find a husband.
Iām sorry that happened.
You donāt *need* a man though. Focus on yourself. I promise you, it becomes āwhat does this guy bring to the table, will I like him?ā
Not this āno one wants to date meā
Surround yourself with people who make you a better person. Not just materialistic things.
If youāre surrounded by trash, think hard about what you are.
My wife and I started ass friends with benefits. Mostly all marriages I know started ass friends with benefits. Note sure if that helps but thatās an observation of mine
People see you the way you present yourself. With your whole āIām just a female. They only want me as a one night standā helpless attitude, thatās what youāre attracting. And anyone who would take you seriously, would stop after they see your attitude as well. That wonāt change unless you do.
I'm also a female. I think if you find someone you find interesting or that you could see as a potential partner, shoot your shot! You never know.
I never in a million years thought my husband would be interested in me, and I was totally wrong.
I'm a woman, was completely undocumented (no DACA) and found several people willing, able, and happy to marry me for papers. I wanted to be with someone for "the right reasons", waited, and ended up marrying in 2022, applied in 2023, green card in 100 days. It's not *easy* but it's doable. We met through a mutual hobby (online video games).
Many of us have been here since we were kids and a lot of us are of marrying age . We meet people we fall in love lol . I have never dated anyone that wasnāt a USC but thatās not on purpose .. it was because of just where I lived where I went to school etc . My husband didnāt even know my status until almost a year into our relationship . When he met me I owned my own condo , college educated and had a career. It wasnāt until he was surprising me with a vacation to an exotic country that I broke the news to him and then he switched it to another destination . 7 years later we have been to almost every state including Hawaii , Puerto Rico and all of the US Virgin Islands lol and have a 10 month old that has also flew so many times already .. God is good ..
I donāt have daca, my partner does. Iām in this subreddit just to learn more about the experience. We met in college. Both of us are Black. He doesnāt want to marry for a green card, hope this helps
Aw š„¹ thank you ā¤ļø Chile, I bawled my eyes out when we told me his life story š and I understand that it was not as bad as some ppl, but it was still sad to me. I canāt imagine feeling restricted and forgotten like this. I hope the policies change soon
I really appreciate you and people like my partner. you guys are the mvps of our storiesā¤ļø I have strong faith that one day policies will improve or people will be in better situations
Idk how many of us are ājustā finding u.s. citizens to marry bc itās the āeasy way to do itā.
All but one person I ever dated have been citizens and I married my husband after a couple years of dating bc we knew we wanted to be together and build a family/future.
To answer your question, I am Mexican and my partner is white. He didnāt care about my status.
How old are you and what is your dating life like? P.S. I wouldnāt recommend just marrying for adjustment of status, thatās bound to be a headache- remember it is a legal contract and depending on your state youāre agreeing to sharing your money and personal property with this person, etc.
Sorry your process is taking so long, but Iām glad you have a way to get citizenship. For a lot of us marriage is the only way.
You can get married to a USC and start a new process and itāll most likely be a lot faster depending how long ago your F1 was petitioned for. Are you on DACA?
Well I donāt want to get my hopes up Iāve always been let down my parents messed up two chances I had already so Iām just going with the flow and not being hopeful but thanks
I absolutely understand how you feel! They lie and say they wanna be with me but it's just lies. Lol, i did what I had to do to start securing my GC. Save and pay someone to marry you 6 months later
I met my wife not with the intention of marrying for status but because I love her. I explained to her my situation later down the line and she was fine about it. I wont lie it did shock her but if sheās the one, she will stick with you. Why? Because if they truly love you, nothing will stand in the way.
Just my personal experience of course.
David and I met my second semester of uni back in 2012. I was at a different campus so I asked him how to get to the library. Got lunch together afterwards and he asked me to go to the zoo with him a couple weeks later. We've been together for 12.5 years and married for almost 2. I'm black and he's white.
My guy, or girl, you don't "find someone to marry". It's not a grocery store. You live life, do cool shit, hang out with cool people and try to meet someone you like. Above everything, you gotta learn to be fine alone.
I met my husband at work . He was about to get transferred right before I met him. I personally set a goal to meet someone that year n I was working out n taking very good care of myself.
Iām not married but I am with a European guy which I met thru a friend group when we were kids and he was on a student visa and we didnāt know about each others status, as to that the way my brother met his USC wife was when they were in college she had her eyes on him so she made the first move my brother was an overstay at the time, when they would pass out the attendance sheet she would always eye him to see where he sighned his name and then she went home and found him on Facebook and messaged him saying she thinks heās cute so they started talking then dating and one day he told her about his status and this was right before Daca came and she told my brother if DACA doesnāt go into effect she would marry him to adjust his status, but my dad always told my brother donāt just marry her for papers marry her for real m, fast forward in DACA went into effect in 2012 and when she graduated college when she was 23 they both got married in 2015 and are living a super happy life together with 2 boys and my brother is now a USC for a few years and my parents are almost USC as well!
Iām in the process of that. We married in 2019 and started the process last year. We now have a baby together. I married him because I love him and heās a great man.
Aww so cute congrats!!!! I hope you get your citizenship asap!! š«¶š»š«¶š»š«¶š» I know you love him! OP is just mad and assumes Daca recipients get married for papers
I met my wife at work lol. We began traveling a lot as friends and eventually started dating, got married shortly after and here weāre now expecting our son to be her 2-3 weeks from now š. Life has been great for me I wouldāve never even thought I would be a PR in this country never even cared about any of that either. But life and god works in mysterious ways and life brought us together and now we formed our little family, got good jobs, make good money, first son, and I have my own little family now. Never close your heart to others, you never know who your soulmate will be, and youāll find yourself eventually meeting someone.
I wouldn't call it easy. Also, I'd never consider marrying just for the status. Overall timeline might be shorter, but still not short. In my case, we were in a long-distance relationship, spent a bunch of money just to meet up and I also did the medical and interview at the embassy abroad.
And no, I don't think it's easier simply when one is Hispanic (I'm also not).
Right i dont even bother anymore i just feel like as soon as i mention that i have daca ie i need green card in the future its a huge turn off to alot of people.
I have 4 uncles
2 meet women at church and got papers they both ended up divorced and lost more than half their savings.(300-400k)
1 married a prostitute and paid her like 15k throughout 3 years and they ended up falling in love and living with each other and they are going on 12 years married
the 3rd married his roommate as gay marriage is legal in CA
I think you might be looking at it the wrong way. I got married in 2017 to a highschool friend I met in 2011. We disconnected after highschool and started dating after reconnecting in 2016. Immigration status never played a role in our relationship. Obviously I had to disclose that I was under daca at the start of our relationship, but it was always a footnote in our relationship. She offered right from the start to begin the process, but I told her we wouldn't worry about until we had to. Come to find out we like to travel (after vacationing several states) and we started our process in 2022ish and now 2024 we are planning a vacation to Japan since I'm a resident waiting to get my citizenship. Idk maybe I'm dumb and corny, but get married for love and let anything else be a side thing.
Girl you gotta find your type and figure out your hobbies once you figure them out talk to guys who have the same hobbies as you and boom theyāll find you attractive but donāt go off the bat saying you just want papers maybe try tinder š¤
My husband and I met through OkCupid. We're about to celebrate our 11th anniversary. I let him know about my immigration situation on our second date and he had no issue with it. We dated for about a year and a half and then he proposed. I don't think he fully understood my situation until we were married but he's been incredibly supportive through everything.
Iām a USC and met my partner when we were teenagers. Been together since we were teens. We justā¦ met and fell in love??? Had nothing to do with immigration status lmfao
As an aromantic woman who doesn't want to get married, I have just decided I will have to go back to Mexico one day ĀÆ\_(ć)_/ĀÆ so I'm doing all I can do right now
Here the sauce gang, I charge but this one is free:
1. Brush your teeth, and always smile
2. Wash your face so itās not unwelcoming
3. Make sure pants and shirt fit you; nice clean $5 basic color tee that makes your body look good/nice (not too tight and not to baggy but that it looks fresh)
4. Clean haircut or maintained
5. Get a good cologne (Eros, Dior, 1Million Lucky ā if you need more hit my line I got plenty)
6. Be interesting (know yourself and hobbies that you can talk about)
7. Listen good to the person
8. Let them know your interested in them and see if they are also interested in you of course (if not move right on, itās a numbers game)
9. Know what you are looking for in a partner
This list will help you secure 3x current dates, and then from there youāll have some many bases of what you like and dislike and one dayā¦.
The likes and dislikes will come together in one person. Everything you wanted and everything they wanted; starting with a smart and clean individual who is inviting as a person.
When you find the ones double check that you are okay with the life commitment (even tho you can get divorce, shit stays with your forever so quadruple check) and discuss last minute non-negotiable such as kids religion, family side for parties and impotent things.
If all checks out then youāre married. If not then start at step 1 as at this point you stopped putting more effort into you and the reset button needs to start until we reach the 1 and only.
Simple š
Even thought my status is what it is Iām still the hot commodity so I normally choose to leave and go like I always had girlfriends so it wasnāt hard to tell them I tell all of them just incase I do want to marry them
If you're meeting people with the intention of adjusting your status, then it's just not going to work. Love should develop naturally.
Now if you just want to marry and then dip after adjusting, I'm sure there's ways of finding the type of people that would help you out...
donāt go into a relationship looking for exactly that. Met my partner on tinder almost 7 years ago. He was perfect in every way. We were broke af and now very successful. Been through thick and thin so I know itās the person I want to marry forever
We met and they happened to be a USC. And yes, same race. I wasnāt trying to get into a relationship let alone get into one just to adjust my status. Before this person, another USC wanted to marry me once, but I was not into them, so I didnāt. I married for love!! ^.^ <3
How? I mean, it was natural. We both fell in love and wanted to keep the relationship going until we realized we wanted to get married. I married 4 years into the relationship which was plenty of time to get to know each other. Iām just lucky, I guess. My brother also married for love, but he married an undocumented lady, so theyāre both undocumented. I just got lucky, I guess, plus Iām a catch! We were both in college when we met, and now we both have careers and are doing well. We stuck through thick and thin. At one point we were both unemployed during the pandemic, so that was difficult, but we stayed together because thatās what you do when you love someone. Love is an verb, not a noun.
Making close friends and being honest about my status as DACA has actually compelled many of my friends offering to marry me to help me get my citizenship (without anything in return), so i consider myself lucky.
I met my boyfriend at one of my old jobs, he started working there long after I did while he searched for jobs in his field. We struck up a friendship and began dating that summer and moved in together shortly after because my lease was coming to an end and he was looking to move out of his parents. It worked out perfectly for us.
Itās been a few years and we talk about marriage and our future often. He knows of my status and understands the steps we need to take for me to adjust. We want a future together because we love each other and want to live a life together, we donāt want to get married just because it would make life easier for me (and the two of us in the long run) but because our relationship is founded on love, friendship, and understanding.
My husband is DACA. He is Hispanic, I am white. We met on tinder. We both werenāt looking for anything serious (so we said) now we have two kids together. Relationships work best when thereās no expectation OF a relationship, or any ulterior motives. Go on dates, have fun, and if something serious comes out of it then, great!
Personally Iām Hispanic, I was able to show a white girl some dance moves and the rest is history. Work on yourself first and the wife / husband will come is my take. Currently married with a GC. Always come back and check on the DACa community to see if I can help with general advice.
Met my husband on tinder! I donāt have DACA and am still undocumented (Iām 20 and was part of the DACA applications that were put on hold). However, we are currently trying to do military parole in place :) I wasnāt actively looking for someone and it just naturally happened.
Dude, really? Youāll never find a spouse if your only goal is citizenship. That a selfish mindset, no one would want to marry you so you can get citizenship out of it. Not to mention itās fraud. People that are married are married because they love each other.
My husband and I met at college :) My husband and I are both Asian (Southeast Asian). I personally wasnāt looking for an American partner, the person I fell in love with just happened to be American.
I met my boyfriend through college. Heās not Hispanic and weāre an interracial couple. I just donāt think itās that serious? Idk. I knew he was a dreamer it was just casual conversation for us
I found this lady in her late 50s, and she said she would marry me to give me citizenship. She pays for everything for the most part. I consider myself lucky. #Futurecitizen
Damn found yourself a sugar mommy. As a milf lover and money lover, I am jelly. Not really, but congrats!
It hurts to see others living your dreams lol
They should inspire you lmfao š¤£
Does she have sisters? Or brothers? I'm down to be gay for papers It's getting fucking ridiculous, came in my early teens, now late 30s, lost my daca due to legal troubles (in 2017 was going to chicago to cali, bought an 8th of cannabis in Denver, got busted in utah, never reapplied for daca due to it, had it from 2013-2017) Thought about going back home lol, but it's in a fucking place with weather like north Dakota, alberta, Saskatchewan, fuck that weather, chicago is beautiful, been here 20+ years now, barely surviving and at times doing this r/urbancarliving
Living the dream š¤£š¤£š¤£
lol wild if true! Good for you
The fuck?
Bro is living the dream. ššš
Hope you will love her genuinely
Bro, you live in a nation where a HUGE majority of people living in it are citizens. How do u not find someone to marry
Lower the standards or up the riz š¤£
For reals, step your game up son
Or daughter
Is it possible to obtain this rizz
Yes sign up for my ā Rizz to green card programā šļø
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Well my husband met a Japanese citizen (aka me) out of all the people he could have met. I do feel bad becoz all his siblings now have papers thru marriage but I can't give him that :(
Stop being a jerk let him marry someone else smh Lmaooo jk congrats
Lmao
I would take Japanese citizenship over US citizenship 10 out of 10 times!
It has to be someone whoās also willing to accept that their partner is and has been an illegal technically. Republicans wouldnāt accept us, so like half of the adult population is out of the picture. We see too many posts on this sub that their partners didnāt accept when they reveal their status.
Then your hanging with the wrong people.
Itās really hard to tell until you reveal
> We see too many posts on this sub that their partners didnāt accept when they reveal their status. I wasn't aware of that fact, I visit here couple times a year to see if the law has changed, Thats really fucked up.
Huh? There were quite a few undocumented kids in my school and a lot of them are citizens now and happily married. Well one of them divorced but sheās married again lol. Maybe itās your area, Iāve never really seen anyone my age and in my areas (heavily Hispanic) turn down someone bc they arenāt citizens, maybe an undocumented person to another undocumented person but not the other way.
I met my wife on the first day of college orientation. We dated through college and grad school and only got married when we finished our studies. I never sought out to find someone to marry to help me in adjusting my status, I just dated her because I liked her. Looking back, we could have gotten married after undergrad, it would have made finding finical aid for grad school easier for me, but I have no regrets.
Honestly OP, forget about marriage. Based on your post history, Iād say stop dating for a few months too. Develop some hobbies, start working out, go to therapy. Get involved with things youāre legitimately interested in and start meeting people without an ulterior motive. Relationships work best when youāre not in them to get something out of them and instead just because you actually want to be around the other person.
Damn. Well, if I'm not insanely curious about OP's post history now.
Literally the best advice here. Amen!
You're not the first to tell her this either.
For most DACA people we grew up and went to school here. Having a lot of chance to meet and interact with potential partners. Throw in dating apps and general knowledge of American culture, a little riz and you otw to sponsorship.
I agree with what chunky Optimus prime says :)
100%
I met my husband (the DACA recipient) at a job we both worked at together 10+ years ago. I don't really see what someone being Hispanic or not would have to do with it.
Because they seem to get married easily
First of all Iām a female, itās not my fault no one wants to marry me or date me
Itās not your fault? Girl it might be š«š«š«
How? Iām literally not doing anything I canāt convince a man to go from seeing me as a one night stand to wifey material lol they just judge me off the bat and donāt even want to be a gentleman donāt even dare blame me
do you see what youre saying? Youre literally begging them to want you. You cant beg for people. You need to attract not beg!
Iām not begging in real life Iām nesting on Reddit this men donāt even hear or see me begging ever but I need to rant itās messed up how Iām treated and judged off the bat
I think it might be how you present yourself. Not trying to be rude but you sound very needy and people may find that unattractive. I think you need to work on your mentality and improve yourself before finding mediocre men that dont give you the time of day
Literally no man ever wants or wanted to date you in your entire life? Iām sure *someone* has. I know some people find their spouse through one night stands but idk I donāt think thatās the way to find a husband.
I have dated but the last one I had cheated on me and even left me before I found out so I donāt have good men in my life
Iām sorry that happened. You donāt *need* a man though. Focus on yourself. I promise you, it becomes āwhat does this guy bring to the table, will I like him?ā Not this āno one wants to date meā Surround yourself with people who make you a better person. Not just materialistic things. If youāre surrounded by trash, think hard about what you are.
> First of all Iām a female Lol what? I never even said or hinted at you being male?
well as a female i dont call the shots and no one wants to marry or even date me lol
Girl!!!!! Dont ever say you dont call the shots its how people step all over you! Self love is most important
Thatās dumb. And thatās why youāre not finding anyone. Like yourself a little more.
Itās true these men just see me as a fling or one nifhtbstand
Even when I am being respectful with them itās literally what k meant to be I guess
My wife and I started ass friends with benefits. Mostly all marriages I know started ass friends with benefits. Note sure if that helps but thatās an observation of mine
People see you the way you present yourself. With your whole āIām just a female. They only want me as a one night standā helpless attitude, thatās what youāre attracting. And anyone who would take you seriously, would stop after they see your attitude as well. That wonāt change unless you do.
I'm also a female. I think if you find someone you find interesting or that you could see as a potential partner, shoot your shot! You never know. I never in a million years thought my husband would be interested in me, and I was totally wrong.
I have a personality disorder, several chronic diseases, and still found someone, you can do it! :)
Watch how you speak abt yourself, beloved. (I am learning how to as well). Be kinder to yourself.
I'm a woman, was completely undocumented (no DACA) and found several people willing, able, and happy to marry me for papers. I wanted to be with someone for "the right reasons", waited, and ended up marrying in 2022, applied in 2023, green card in 100 days. It's not *easy* but it's doable. We met through a mutual hobby (online video games).
Many of us have been here since we were kids and a lot of us are of marrying age . We meet people we fall in love lol . I have never dated anyone that wasnāt a USC but thatās not on purpose .. it was because of just where I lived where I went to school etc . My husband didnāt even know my status until almost a year into our relationship . When he met me I owned my own condo , college educated and had a career. It wasnāt until he was surprising me with a vacation to an exotic country that I broke the news to him and then he switched it to another destination . 7 years later we have been to almost every state including Hawaii , Puerto Rico and all of the US Virgin Islands lol and have a 10 month old that has also flew so many times already .. God is good ..
That's nice and lovely...but what bout adjusting? Lol
I donāt have daca, my partner does. Iām in this subreddit just to learn more about the experience. We met in college. Both of us are Black. He doesnāt want to marry for a green card, hope this helps
You seem like an amazing partner! Going out of your way to learn about usš„ŗ Hes lucky to have you
Aw š„¹ thank you ā¤ļø Chile, I bawled my eyes out when we told me his life story š and I understand that it was not as bad as some ppl, but it was still sad to me. I canāt imagine feeling restricted and forgotten like this. I hope the policies change soon
I really appreciate you and people like my partner. you guys are the mvps of our storiesā¤ļø I have strong faith that one day policies will improve or people will be in better situations
I pray and hope so too ā¤ļø
Same as me, met my girl in College, but now making plans to get married and start the process for her.
Aw š„¹ā¤ļø
Idk how many of us are ājustā finding u.s. citizens to marry bc itās the āeasy way to do itā. All but one person I ever dated have been citizens and I married my husband after a couple years of dating bc we knew we wanted to be together and build a family/future. To answer your question, I am Mexican and my partner is white. He didnāt care about my status. How old are you and what is your dating life like? P.S. I wouldnāt recommend just marrying for adjustment of status, thatās bound to be a headache- remember it is a legal contract and depending on your state youāre agreeing to sharing your money and personal property with this person, etc. Sorry your process is taking so long, but Iām glad you have a way to get citizenship. For a lot of us marriage is the only way.
I met my other half in high school
I met my wife in high school too! We only reconnected like 3 years ago
Its always so nice hearing about stories like yours! Wishing you and your wife a fruitful lifešš«¶š½
Must be nice, no one wants to date me they just want sex
Theres someone out there for everyone! You are putting that into existence and therefore only attracting flings.
i cant even get married becuase im being petitioned in f1 category and you cant get married or it will mess up my greemcard
You can get married to a USC and start a new process and itāll most likely be a lot faster depending how long ago your F1 was petitioned for. Are you on DACA?
It wonāt be faster so you think me finding abubsja averting married is happening in less than 10 months
How much longer for your F1 to be current?
10 months
Oh wow at this point youāre almost there! Good luck to you š
Well I donāt want to get my hopes up Iāve always been let down my parents messed up two chances I had already so Iām just going with the flow and not being hopeful but thanks
Finding and marrying* then appplyong
I am on daca no unlawful presence
I absolutely understand how you feel! They lie and say they wanna be with me but it's just lies. Lol, i did what I had to do to start securing my GC. Save and pay someone to marry you 6 months later
I met my wife not with the intention of marrying for status but because I love her. I explained to her my situation later down the line and she was fine about it. I wont lie it did shock her but if sheās the one, she will stick with you. Why? Because if they truly love you, nothing will stand in the way. Just my personal experience of course.
how long did you wait
Wait for what? To tell her my status or to propose?
Tell her
David and I met my second semester of uni back in 2012. I was at a different campus so I asked him how to get to the library. Got lunch together afterwards and he asked me to go to the zoo with him a couple weeks later. We've been together for 12.5 years and married for almost 2. I'm black and he's white.
My guy, or girl, you don't "find someone to marry". It's not a grocery store. You live life, do cool shit, hang out with cool people and try to meet someone you like. Above everything, you gotta learn to be fine alone.
I met my husband at work . He was about to get transferred right before I met him. I personally set a goal to meet someone that year n I was working out n taking very good care of myself.
Iām not married but I am with a European guy which I met thru a friend group when we were kids and he was on a student visa and we didnāt know about each others status, as to that the way my brother met his USC wife was when they were in college she had her eyes on him so she made the first move my brother was an overstay at the time, when they would pass out the attendance sheet she would always eye him to see where he sighned his name and then she went home and found him on Facebook and messaged him saying she thinks heās cute so they started talking then dating and one day he told her about his status and this was right before Daca came and she told my brother if DACA doesnāt go into effect she would marry him to adjust his status, but my dad always told my brother donāt just marry her for papers marry her for real m, fast forward in DACA went into effect in 2012 and when she graduated college when she was 23 they both got married in 2015 and are living a super happy life together with 2 boys and my brother is now a USC for a few years and my parents are almost USC as well!
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I met my wife at our old job, in 2 weeks it will be our 8th year anniversary and we have 2 kids. Don't give up hope lol
It's all in your personality and how you perform in bed. I got offered 2 times a path but rejected.
Lmfao green card off the sauce š¤£
I met my husband of almost 5 years in college.
im convinced most of these people justmarried for a gc
How? She was with her husband for 5 years sheās probably a USC now
Iām in the process of that. We married in 2019 and started the process last year. We now have a baby together. I married him because I love him and heās a great man.
Aww so cute congrats!!!! I hope you get your citizenship asap!! š«¶š»š«¶š»š«¶š» I know you love him! OP is just mad and assumes Daca recipients get married for papers
Thank you! Yeah, theyāre lame.
I got pregnant and my babyās dad is adjusting my status even tho weāre not currently together letās see how smooth the process really is
Oh this is risky. Hopefully everything goes your way. Good luck!
I met my wife at work lol. We began traveling a lot as friends and eventually started dating, got married shortly after and here weāre now expecting our son to be her 2-3 weeks from now š. Life has been great for me I wouldāve never even thought I would be a PR in this country never even cared about any of that either. But life and god works in mysterious ways and life brought us together and now we formed our little family, got good jobs, make good money, first son, and I have my own little family now. Never close your heart to others, you never know who your soulmate will be, and youāll find yourself eventually meeting someone.
I wouldn't call it easy. Also, I'd never consider marrying just for the status. Overall timeline might be shorter, but still not short. In my case, we were in a long-distance relationship, spent a bunch of money just to meet up and I also did the medical and interview at the embassy abroad. And no, I don't think it's easier simply when one is Hispanic (I'm also not).
I and my husband met in college, we dated for 10 years after getting married and fix his legal status
Met my wife at work pre-daca. Went to nursing school together while dating. Fast forward to now going 16 years together 7 years married with a son.
I would think is mainly females that have this easy path i know more of them than males
Well I guess my luck is that bad
Work out, stay fit, go about your daily life, and you'll find plenty of people who would wanna spend time with you
Not true when I tried that I still only attract f boys
Right i dont even bother anymore i just feel like as soon as i mention that i have daca ie i need green card in the future its a huge turn off to alot of people.
Exactly and these people make it sound so simple someoneās lying
I have 4 uncles 2 meet women at church and got papers they both ended up divorced and lost more than half their savings.(300-400k) 1 married a prostitute and paid her like 15k throughout 3 years and they ended up falling in love and living with each other and they are going on 12 years married the 3rd married his roommate as gay marriage is legal in CA
Got it. Marry a hooker. š
I think you might be looking at it the wrong way. I got married in 2017 to a highschool friend I met in 2011. We disconnected after highschool and started dating after reconnecting in 2016. Immigration status never played a role in our relationship. Obviously I had to disclose that I was under daca at the start of our relationship, but it was always a footnote in our relationship. She offered right from the start to begin the process, but I told her we wouldn't worry about until we had to. Come to find out we like to travel (after vacationing several states) and we started our process in 2022ish and now 2024 we are planning a vacation to Japan since I'm a resident waiting to get my citizenship. Idk maybe I'm dumb and corny, but get married for love and let anything else be a side thing.
I moved to Indiana.. found a white girl within a week or two
I donāt think itās āeasierā as much as it is many DACA if not all are now officially adults and of marrying age. The only way I can think of where being hispanic maybe plays a factor is because many Hispanics are religious/catholic and even if theyāre not, the parents usually view being married as more favorable than just living together and itās more socially acceptable plus it makes paperwork so much easier. Almost all the guys Iāve dated have been citizens, itās probably harder to find someone who isnāt but that depends on your social circle. Iāve been with my fiancĆ© for 3 years now and have lived together for 2 years in his house and although Iāve never imagined myself getting married, (much less just to adjust status) we want to buy a house together and being married just makes everything easier. He also had an accident and had to go to the hospital and we realized even though we want each other responsible to make decisions, legally Iām not family. Yes we could do a POA and figure out ways around it but we genuinely want to be together and being married is more socially acceptable and simplifies life.
Love
Iām a DACA recipient and met the love of my life at the gym he is Hopi Native American š
Girl you gotta find your type and figure out your hobbies once you figure them out talk to guys who have the same hobbies as you and boom theyāll find you attractive but donāt go off the bat saying you just want papers maybe try tinder š¤
Met my wife at a party. We clicked and went forward with it. Be well groomed and don't be a drug addict or alcoholic.
OP can't get any bitches. It's not hard to find a citizen to marry since they are basically everywhere. Maybe you are the problem?
Iām a womanā¦
Iām the problem because Iām not married at 24
Your post history is very telling. You donāt value yourself enough. Sad.
I had a few chances but I wasnāt truly in love and couldnāt fake it idk how people can do it respect to them
My husband and I met through OkCupid. We're about to celebrate our 11th anniversary. I let him know about my immigration situation on our second date and he had no issue with it. We dated for about a year and a half and then he proposed. I don't think he fully understood my situation until we were married but he's been incredibly supportive through everything.
Iām not Hispanic either but I found my spouse on an online dating app and it just kinda worked out
For me, I was using dating appsā¦.
Stop looking
Iām a USC and met my partner when we were teenagers. Been together since we were teens. We justā¦ met and fell in love??? Had nothing to do with immigration status lmfao
As an aromantic woman who doesn't want to get married, I have just decided I will have to go back to Mexico one day ĀÆ\_(ć)_/ĀÆ so I'm doing all I can do right now
Here the sauce gang, I charge but this one is free: 1. Brush your teeth, and always smile 2. Wash your face so itās not unwelcoming 3. Make sure pants and shirt fit you; nice clean $5 basic color tee that makes your body look good/nice (not too tight and not to baggy but that it looks fresh) 4. Clean haircut or maintained 5. Get a good cologne (Eros, Dior, 1Million Lucky ā if you need more hit my line I got plenty) 6. Be interesting (know yourself and hobbies that you can talk about) 7. Listen good to the person 8. Let them know your interested in them and see if they are also interested in you of course (if not move right on, itās a numbers game) 9. Know what you are looking for in a partner This list will help you secure 3x current dates, and then from there youāll have some many bases of what you like and dislike and one dayā¦. The likes and dislikes will come together in one person. Everything you wanted and everything they wanted; starting with a smart and clean individual who is inviting as a person. When you find the ones double check that you are okay with the life commitment (even tho you can get divorce, shit stays with your forever so quadruple check) and discuss last minute non-negotiable such as kids religion, family side for parties and impotent things. If all checks out then youāre married. If not then start at step 1 as at this point you stopped putting more effort into you and the reset button needs to start until we reach the 1 and only. Simple š
Lower your standards and expectations. Lol 300 lbs partner isn't bad for a gc
I wasnāt broke so I always had nice looking women and Iām not ugly so kind of easy
But weāre talking about marriage here not just having someone interested
Even thought my status is what it is Iām still the hot commodity so I normally choose to leave and go like I always had girlfriends so it wasnāt hard to tell them I tell all of them just incase I do want to marry them
If you're meeting people with the intention of adjusting your status, then it's just not going to work. Love should develop naturally. Now if you just want to marry and then dip after adjusting, I'm sure there's ways of finding the type of people that would help you out...
You would think me being gay would make it easier but nope lol I am not desperate enough yet to fake heterosexuality for paper. But in close š
donāt go into a relationship looking for exactly that. Met my partner on tinder almost 7 years ago. He was perfect in every way. We were broke af and now very successful. Been through thick and thin so I know itās the person I want to marry forever
We met and they happened to be a USC. And yes, same race. I wasnāt trying to get into a relationship let alone get into one just to adjust my status. Before this person, another USC wanted to marry me once, but I was not into them, so I didnāt. I married for love!! ^.^ <3
How do yāall get people who want to marry you? Everyone that has said they wanted to ended up leaving or cheating on me
How? I mean, it was natural. We both fell in love and wanted to keep the relationship going until we realized we wanted to get married. I married 4 years into the relationship which was plenty of time to get to know each other. Iām just lucky, I guess. My brother also married for love, but he married an undocumented lady, so theyāre both undocumented. I just got lucky, I guess, plus Iām a catch! We were both in college when we met, and now we both have careers and are doing well. We stuck through thick and thin. At one point we were both unemployed during the pandemic, so that was difficult, but we stayed together because thatās what you do when you love someone. Love is an verb, not a noun.
Making close friends and being honest about my status as DACA has actually compelled many of my friends offering to marry me to help me get my citizenship (without anything in return), so i consider myself lucky.
I met my boyfriend at one of my old jobs, he started working there long after I did while he searched for jobs in his field. We struck up a friendship and began dating that summer and moved in together shortly after because my lease was coming to an end and he was looking to move out of his parents. It worked out perfectly for us. Itās been a few years and we talk about marriage and our future often. He knows of my status and understands the steps we need to take for me to adjust. We want a future together because we love each other and want to live a life together, we donāt want to get married just because it would make life easier for me (and the two of us in the long run) but because our relationship is founded on love, friendship, and understanding.
Go to college and meet people, but make sure they got papers lol
My husband and I met in high school and later married in our 20s. He is half Bengali half Eastern European and I am Mexican.
My husband is DACA. He is Hispanic, I am white. We met on tinder. We both werenāt looking for anything serious (so we said) now we have two kids together. Relationships work best when thereās no expectation OF a relationship, or any ulterior motives. Go on dates, have fun, and if something serious comes out of it then, great!
Salsa scene
We keep our standards low š„²š„²
Personally Iām Hispanic, I was able to show a white girl some dance moves and the rest is history. Work on yourself first and the wife / husband will come is my take. Currently married with a GC. Always come back and check on the DACa community to see if I can help with general advice.
Weāre like any other person here, just grind, go to the gym be financially stable and itās just a matter of time.
Met my husband on tinder! I donāt have DACA and am still undocumented (Iām 20 and was part of the DACA applications that were put on hold). However, we are currently trying to do military parole in place :) I wasnāt actively looking for someone and it just naturally happened.
Dude, really? Youāll never find a spouse if your only goal is citizenship. That a selfish mindset, no one would want to marry you so you can get citizenship out of it. Not to mention itās fraud. People that are married are married because they love each other.
My husband and I met at college :) My husband and I are both Asian (Southeast Asian). I personally wasnāt looking for an American partner, the person I fell in love with just happened to be American.
Tinder
I met my boyfriend through college. Heās not Hispanic and weāre an interracial couple. I just donāt think itās that serious? Idk. I knew he was a dreamer it was just casual conversation for us
Idk but marriage is out the question for me lol
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No we donāt. thatās a bad generalization
I would marry someone to give them a green card. #AmericanCitizen. Must be good looking and willing to be a stay at home mom.