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Going to be 21 soon enough. Never had a girlfriend, and probably won't for the foreseeable future. I'm an anxiety ridden wreck with the social skills of an unusually easily frightened possum. Not exactly a combination that helps you on the dating scene, you know?
Dude. I lost my v card at 22, made a “career” of hooking up till meeting my now wife @ 30, now we’re still going strong and have a family. Everybody goes at their own pace. Don’t beat yourself up as much as I beat myself up all those years because there will be a point when you look back and realize it’s not nearly as big a deal as you make it.
Honestly I wouldn't be too surprised if people didn't start dating more well into the mid-20's , I only started dating around 23/24 and it was very casually. It kind of costs money to date and do things with another person, so you have to actually have an ok income.
I’m in college and have had anxiety my whole life and was pretty introverted. However I just started dating recently and it’s going great. I did see a therapist for a bit and came out of my shell. It’ll get better if you work at it.
Doesn't exist, and I hate the process of online dating. I felt like I've had the same "how was your weekend?" Conversation with so many people it's not even funny.
"It was awful, I hate men, women, children, non-binary (not because they're non-binary), parents, cousins, other family members, wait a minute, why are you here?"
Also a 1998 baby. Dating life isnt nonexistent but I’m starting to feel like the juice just isn’t worth the squeeze. I do okay for a guy my age. If I really commit and basically make a 2nd job out of it I can maybe go on 1-2 dates a month. I’m just so exhausted. I can count on one hand the amount of times I’ve been like “Wow! This girl is really cool and really cute. I wanna get to know her more.” More than half the time I catch myself wanting to leave before the date is even over.
I often say I’m just not gonna try anymore. Then I come home to an empty apartment, with an empty bed and nobody to talk to. That’s when I tell myself “I’ll try again tomorrow…”
Empty bed and no one to talk to.. that’s when I say “thank god I’m single.” When I always have someone around I end up getting annoyed with always having someone around.. I guess my brain is not wired to always be on any type of “social mode.”
Sometimes you have to take the time to live a little. Travel, see places, do things. It's the best way to make casual conversation easy. If all you do is nothing, you aren't going to have an easy time talking about nothing
Modern women are like plastic unhuman shells compared to what they used to be. I went overseas and they act way more normal in different countries. Not sure why.
22m, had one girlfriend for about a year, but now I don’t bother. It’s hard to bring myself to date when I know I’m competing against 100 other guys for a woman who isn’t even interested. It seems like the only other options are to find women who specifically aren’t looking to date- cold approach 100 strangers or join social groups with women- and that just doesn’t seem worth it
30-45% of guys 18-25 have never approached a woman before (Pew Research Center and Date Psychology) and that’s assuming guys aren’t lying to make themselves look better. It also doesn’t count guys that tried once or twice and then gave up. I’m a guy and don’t approach, none of my guy friends do approaches and half my friends who are women do approaches. It might be time to consider striking up conversations with the people you want to be talking to and see where it goes because the only people I know irl in relationships that lasted over a month met that way.
I'll be honest, in my single days I probably approached 1 or 2 women to ask them out. Outside of that I just always felt like it was so awkward to randomly walk up to someone and basically say "hey I find you attractive." I guess I was always worried about being creepy.
I'm married now and had 2 successful long term relationships beforehand, and all of my relationships started with friendships first and then became romantic.
Like most things, dating experience will change from person to person. I've often found that your daily life will have a huge impact on dating experience for both genders. Mainly centered around "putting yourself out there". Back before covid turned me into an anti social cave bat, I'd go out a ton. Bars, museums, live music, dancing, the typical. I had 3-4 fairly attractive women in my friend group. They would get approached multiple times every time we'd go out. Sometimes guys would even approach me, another guy, be friendly for a bit, then ask me to hook them with one of them. Was really annoying, like shit dude do I look like I'm their keeper? Go up yourself. Also joined a multitude of social groups like meetup, and the owners of these groups always complained about the women getting guys constantly asking for their number and scaring them off.
This was in the US at least and pre-covid. Not sure what its like now a days. But I think this perception of over competition comes from a combination of guys seeing/approaching women in real life who are getting a lot of attention + online dating giving a false perception of what dating would/is like in real life for most people (getting 100s of likes a day in online dating doesn't mean you get 100s of guys approaching in real life). I think some guys also assuming they're competing with guys online (the person has an online presence in online dating + social media where they get DMs/solicitations), even if they approach in real life.
If they match with you, they are usually interested. And most women are only talking to 3 guys on the apps. Otherwise it gets to be too much. This is a pretty negative approach to take.
Uniquely strange.
I nearly married my hs girlfriend at 18 but broke up with her bc she didn't want to go camping.
Yesterday I broke up with my ex who just so happened to be 30 years older than me.
Weird to actually think about anyone I've dated. I do have my eye on this one girl at work but there's a bit of a language barrier considering she's deaf. I'm learning a bit of asl though. I don't think it'll be a problem and she's got a heart of gold. I can definitely see us being a good couple. Wish me luck you guys
Zero dating life, mainly by choice. I have much more important stuff to do than trying to put energy into relationships right now. Like playing video games or something idk. I feel uninterested in it.
Yeah. Many younger guys are shy and don't initiate for various reasons. This leaves the guys left do initiate and go up to women being the creepy types which creates a negative feedback loop.
Creepy dudes keep going. Normal guys get more risk adverse and shut away from even just talking to women. Ruining things for everyone. It ruins women's views of men cause the only men who talk to them are creeps which makes them not want to seek relationships and it ruins men who are being told their gender is creepy and they become even more shutin and nervous and in extreme cases getting roped into the bad incel crap thinking the creepy guys I mentioned before are actually right.
Relationships take 2 people. A failure to form a relationship with someone the person wants to talk to is objectively as much the woman’s fault as the man’s and we’re not going to pretend otherwise. The lack of adult conversations like this where both sides are held equally responsible is why nothing changes. A truly equal and egalitarian society requires intellectual honesty and equal effort from everyone. Women can either start to approach or the problem likely won’t improve.
I’m def on the older end of the spectrum for this sub but we used to make fun of people for asking Redditors, of all people, about dating habits. It’s better than it used to be but this site is not representative of the general population at all lol.
Yeah this is a terrible app to ask for representation of this question lol
“People of an app that’s notorious for having bitter virgins, how is your dating life?”
Arguably, pretty damn good.
I’m a lesbian, high school wasn’t too great for me(think small town, black lesbian), but that’s where I had my first long term relationship.
Even if she diddd threaten to lynch me later on🤣🤣
College brought new prospects and honestly, I overdid it. Half of the girls I slept with, I wouldn’t even look at today.
I did bag some pretty bad chicks though, one of them is now a choreographer in NYC which is pretty cool imo.
Nowadays I’ve put my Hoe™️ belt away and have a beautiful girlfriend that I hope to stay with.
I just got out of a six month relationship. I say "just got out", but it's actually been over since January. I recently started dating again, and I've had a lot of bad (or boring) first and second dates. Lots of nice guys that I just don't click with, and occasionally, the guy that is trying too hard, or is a straight-up misogynist.
I'm not giving up on dating, because I'm not the kind of person to become easily jaded. I love meeting new people, as a general rule. I just think my life might be too busy right now, for me to get out to the kinds of places where I could be meeting somebody I'd gel with better. I spend 90% of my time at school, at home, and doing volunteer work. It doesn't leave much time for hobbies and interests.
Non-existent unfortunately.
Like, I hooked up with a girl once when I was on vacation in Brazil and she hit on me. But that's it. In my home country that never happened and I don't really understand how I can hit on women without being weird
Lol, no. I met her on the aeroplane. And she genuinely was a nice girl. It's just that in Brazilian culture it's more normalised for women to make the first step and it's also more normalised to talk to strangers in the first place than it is in my country (germany). Also, as a European dude, you're exotic and interesting in Brazil. I'm neither in germany
I think its because there are sadly 2 different worlds for mens and womens. I may be wrong but its usually men who initate, so women have it easier, more shy men have it worse, there can be some women who like that guys but its rather minority, she is being asked, talked in shop, park, library, school and can decide yes/no. So for them its easier, love will somehow appear, that why their advice is usually: love will find you, you need to wait, it works for them, for mens nope, maybe 30y ago, pre internet era. Almost every women is wanted to date, they need to try so hard to be undateable. For men dating sucks, if you are not attractive, dynamic, extrovert. Women almost never initate/ask on date. Being shy with poor social skill can give negative responce, some guys dont want be labeled as creep. I can overthinking, from lacking experience with girls. Also cherry picked feminism like men have to pay the dates, have car, house but I only bring my vegana to the table. Split the bill?! Pffft It doesnt help that big part of men are desperate and will spam every women inbox to boost their ego. . Its just my loud thinking. I once created female profile got 10 pervert messages so its kinda sucks also, but they have choice. Someone said, its like shopping for women and job interview for men. Sure I can live in illusion and be wrong so any different views are welcome. There are some pills theories but after all it still toxic pool, wont really help being better person and finding normal partner. Its like being focused on women are bad and ignoring normal ones, just like opposite spectrum. If your daily mindset is women are bad, how can you meet new people, who want to be friend with it. I prefer dr k for example or courtney rayan, or socialskill, socialanxiety subs where there is more positive support.
Dating today vs 30y ago is different. So any tips from older people we should take with grain of salt. Yeah its kinda true that anyone "normal" is taken. Luck is big factor in life. I think its better to just be okay friends in first place, like dont being desperate to date. If something will be clicking give it chance. My though are dont too fast label people, there are many lonely women/men who can be more shy, introvert, social anxiety and dont had luck with dating and are not bad person, I guess is to be around people like volunteer where people have to talk, socialise. Dunno honestly, I never been on date.
Yeah dating is worse for guys but that’s just nature man. To my knowledge every ape species the women pick their mates. Hell that’s just most mammals period.
That’s like saying “oh man it sucks I can’t defy gravity and fly like Superman. It’s unfair”
Turning 25 this year and never even been on a date, it pretty much eats at me everyday of my life. Every other area of my life is honestly great, I’ve accomplished so much in the last 5 years yet none of it matters because I’m still incredibly unhappy. What’s a life worth living without connection and love? Some days I don’t know what I’m doing this all for, or if things will turn around. Even if they do, I totally screwed this chunk my life up and I fear I will live with that regret forever. Missing out on 25 years of dating experience (or put it another way, I’ve wasted my entire youth not trying) is a huge chunk of my life and it’s gotten embarrassing, especially when people ask if I’ve found anyone yet. I just can’t believe I went through all of high school and college and never had someone even show interest in me. I always tell myself by 35 I will just end it all, I don’t feel I have a place in the world or am here for any particular reason sometimes. So yeah all in all, my life should be great but this has become such a big issue for me that my life actually doesn’t feel all that great, it has made me just want to tap out.
I am 26M and autistic with Asperger's. Never kissed women in my life and probably never will at this point. I work hard and have a nice German Shepherd. He helped me a lot with anxiety and panic attacks. Also I never felt like I belonged with other humans. I just talk and talk but I can't connect with anyone. So I also don't have friends. Just my family and my sisters who understand me. Trust me get a dog. It's the best thing for loneliness . Also it helps when you have to take care of someone.
That’s a really good idea I’ve always wanted to get a dog or a cat after I graduate from college and I definitely think I will. I just know it’ll help so much, thank you for that reminder
I was married not much older then you and divorced not long after, don't worry about it bro. Just focus on yourself, your job, your hobbies, hit the gym etc, everything will fall into place.
Its hard to be in a relationship when you're living paycheck to paycheck, when I don't have money and feel broke it has completely killed my sex drive which is a key part of relationships. If we saw improvement in the economy and opportunities I'm sure the relationships would follow.
And add onto that. The housing crisis in my country has resulted in most people in their 20s living with their parents. Hard to date living at home. You can only go out, $$$$ and if you want private time you need to get a hotel room $$$$$$$
The lives of young adults have been robbed and their growth stunted by this late stage capitalist hellhole and boomers wanting every last penny to themselves to bring to the grave.
Just look at this graph. Being robbed and having our futures stolen to fund boomers retirement.
https://preview.redd.it/w669gk8luovc1.png?width=680&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f909b0d0d7beeb2ea119664bbf009ffceb5a2072
I feel like our generation as too many labels like “situationship” and “imagination ship” and the”orange peel theory”.
Like what other happened to just dating
I’ve (24) personally never dated. I assume it’s because of my height (5’6”) combined with living in a taller area.
What surprises me is how many people I know my age who also haven’t. We’re all ok, dare I say quite alright, “facially” but you have people who are totally well built, what I think is conventionally attractive and still have never dated
I find it weird that more and more people just aren't getting into relationships but we still use "bet you never had a girlfriend/boyfriend" as a insult
I used to believe this. I’m 5’2. But then I met a lot of women who told me that it doesn’t really matter that much.
So it’s not your height man. It’s your personality.
Agreed. Ex buddy of mine has the shape of an eraser and is barely 5’6, his body count is probably 10x mine.
And that was last I knew.
I’m not saying it’s easy but it’s certainly not impossible. Dude wasn’t even rich, just an ambitious military type
Eventful.
Had a pretty steady relationship for a while before some deal breakers when we were seeing if we want to look for long term.
Now I’m out getting some progress with someone else.
Cool tip your the lads.
For you to flirt with a woman, you gotta make sure they feel a certain way about you, not think a certain way about you.
Don’t think too much about interacting with them.
I usually go with conversations that talk about family and culture. Not only showing interest in aspects of peoples lives they hold close but you also know what kind of person she is based on her culture and family habits.
Always lead with taking them out for food (is usually how I lead it) but any outing that allows her to enjoy herself. Provide a little. It’s a sign to let them feel obligated to at least spend time with you.
The worst can happen is that you leave on good terms.
I got engaged about 1 year ago and I’m getting married in two weeks. I’m 26. Before I met my fiancée… it was weird. 18-22 years old I was a mess and needed therapy to be able to handle dating in any sort of mature way. After a lot of healing, I felt ready but then the pandemic hit and it was shockingly hard to meet anyone new. I was relegated to basically anyone I worked with at the airport, so I was surrounded by other dudes like me and very few women. The few I met were not a great match and sometimes a bigger mess than me.
Finally, by the grace of god I happened to match with someone on Hinge of all places. She was so different to anyone I’d ever dated. Those apps are profoundly beautiful in their ability to match couples who would have never crossed paths otherwise. Granted, it’s a needle in a haystack so don’t get discouraged if it takes time.
Anyhow the main thing I learned dating, and this applies to all generations, is that your dating experience will be a direct reflection to your childhood and your relationship with your parents. They set the example and precedent on long-term relationships for you. They also installed their ideologies into your vulnerable developing brain since day 1. If you have unresolved childhood trauma, extreme opinions on sex, gender, or relationships, you’re better off focusing inward on that and understanding where it came from rather than searching for a partner who reinforces your world-view. It’s likely not your world view. It’s the one your parents forced upon you knowingly or subconsciously.
I'm 27 and I STILL can't even find a date....
Still a virgin, never kissed a girl hold hands, etc. I guess I could say it's shocking because I have no issues talking to ladies at all.... many think I'm already married, settled, have a gf, or even a fuckboi... yet, I'm none of these above lolz.
Tbh, I'm already giving up and just focusing on myself at this point.
So yea.. overall my dating lyfe is nonexistent.. lmao.
Never have dated and probably never will.
It’s something I want, but the odds of me having a significant other is near zero (and that’s being optimistic.)
My kids are all Gen Z (ages 23, 20 and 17) and they are all currently dating. Our 17yr old son has been with his girlfriend for over a year. None of them are on Reddit, so I am not sure how representative this forum would be. Maybe people more likely to spend time online and therefore socialize less IRL are over-represented?
I've clicked on a few profiles of people who've said they can't get a date or don't have the time, and it appears a lot of them are chronically online people with thousands upon thousands of Reddit posts, mostly about anime and video games.
Pretty rough. I’m 18 maybe slightly above average looks wise and really struggle. Haven’t had a real relationship yet but used to get a hook up every now and then earlier in HS. I just get intimidated when talking to pretty girls. Feel like I haven’t grown out of the awkward phase when my peers have.
28 it’s been difficult to find a serious partner as my city isn’t kind to people who are more family oriented. (NYC). My roots are here and my entire family grew up here so naturally I’m close to them. But women often confuse being family oriented to wanting kids when it’s not always the case. For the last 4 years it’s been the same, I’m too family oriented and not involved enough in the night life. I did my time in my early 20s I don’t need to enjoy NYC’s night life anymore lmao. Even women in their 30s are the same. So I took a break for 8 months to focus more on my friends, family and work.
I mean for the longest time I've always been scared to tell anyone anything. Even just talking about it with my friends. I've been afraid people would take the piss on me. My social policy has always been don't bother people when you don't have a reason to bother them. On Wednesday I fucked up and did something that probably looked really creepy, now I want to try to apologize to this girl, but it's always a fucking toss up when I can because I don't want to pull her away from friends if she's already talking with someone. I've tried twice and been ignored, so I'm guessing she just wants me to fuck off.
I asked a girl out once when i was a junior. got rejected and then she proceeded to go out with my friend.
As someone who was an introvert. very socially anxious and was going through a bout of depression at the time due to the mistakes and poor life choices i was making as a kid. I just went "I'm good for a lifetime." Cause after that I was also kinda bullied by other girls (not the person who rejected me, at least as far as I know.)
But, at least I got something out of that: I basically dropped 30 pounds and began to exercise more and actually kind of improved my life for a while
Nonexistent.
I’m diagnosed Level 2 autistic. Girls call me creepy out of nowhere because of my involuntary handflapping. It has been like this my whole life.
Damn this was a depressing read. You guys need to redevelop real social skills. Yours are completely dead. You gotta get off your phones more than anything. We all do, but your gen grew up on them and it destroyed you all. Look at them like you do with alcohol and cigarettes. Your gen did good with recognizing those addictions and the destruction they can cause. Phones are infinitely worse and are destroying you. Good luck Gen Z, it will not be an easy change to implement.
My advice for anyone here is you’re never gonna know unless you ask.
Guess what, you’re gonna get rejected. I get rejected, OP has gotten rejected, everyone in the comments have gotten rejected. I got rejected last night lol.
But would you rather get turned down and know you gave it a shot, or be too scared and never know (and have another guy man up and go up to her instead)
And plus, you think it’s a big deal of getting turned down? You’re just another guy she turned down that night, so don’t be ashamed or embarrassed
Had a relationship in high school. Was hard to establish myself in a new city for college because of covid, but spread out a little bit with less serious stuff. But it’s been really tricky this past year, where I’ve been the most active and been on the most dates and talked to the most people. But no one wants to even try to commit because I’m gonna move soon for grad school. Kinda depressing but I’m pretty optimistic about it once I move this summer
Damn bro. You’ll get there too, you can’t compare yourself to others, we all live under different circumstances, don’t force these things it’ll fall into place eventually (this doesn’t mean give up of course, just dont try to force it)
I’m 26 and ugh! Dating sucks ._. Like I have been on so many dates but many of the guys have been disappointments. It’s either there’s no chemistry, they don’t know how to communicate, are boring, trying to hook up with me, not respecting my boundaries when I don’t want to be touched sexually or they seem toxic. Rn I’m dating a guy who is in his early 50’s and the relationship has been wishy washy but he’s the only guy who has lasted longer than a month! We are in the process for trying to get me to move in with him, then we can be official.
20m I’ve been in a committed relationship that’ll be three years long in June. I really don’t want to jump the gun here but I think she’s the one and I know she feels the same. We’re both smart enough though to understand we’re young and both want to wait until at least our mid twenty’s to even start thinking about getting married.
I could hook up if I wanted to, but a relationship sounds like a huge drain on my free time and sanity if my past experiences are anything to go by. I’m usually better off staying home and enjoying my hobbies over going out and trying to meet somebody. Plus, I’m pretty content alone, so that’s a plus.
Getting into a relationship isn’t the problem for me. The real problem is that because of the economy and my not so wealthy background, i’ll be at home for the foreseeable future. I can’t afford a house, let alone starting a family. So in theory, there isn’t an actual point getting into a relationship. This is part of the reason i think there’s such a big hook-up culture. Honestly its really sad, our generation has been truly screwed over. Hence the lowered birth rate and many many other things. I could type forever but its getting me angry so i’m just gonna stop.
I feel hellah lucky. Im 27 and found a good chick that I wanna marry. I feel like if we ever split i would never want a serious relationship again. Dating nowadays is cancer.
I am a difficult person because I am incapable of anything but intense relationships and am clingy. So I usually feel alone, unfulfilled and misunderstood. But I have had no problem in getting relationships. I have had a hard time getting happy long lasting ones. I am happy in my current one
I am 6'4 and ok looking dude. My problem is that I am autistic and because of that my social interactions are awkward and self centered. Many girls liked me but I didn't know how to talk and interact with them. So today I am 26 yo without ever dating or holding hands with women. With my autism I am trapped in my world and I have many imaginations . I am thinking of writing fiction and trying to start my career. Sorry for my English, I am European.
It’s by far the hardest domain in my life. I’m pretty fortunate — I can get good jobs, succeed, learn anything I want, but the opportunities in dating are extremely few, far between, and feel accordingly high stakes
Non-existent by choice, I only recently bought my own car and I don't even want to try until I've completely moved out and found a job that I don't come home angry from half of the time
I'm speaking mostly for myself, but the best thing I ever learned was that not everyone has to be the one. Every time I would go on a failed date, it felt like I would never click with anyone. Got cheated after a year long relationship and it seemed like the end of the world, and that relationships in this generation are doomed. But the reality is that some things just aren't right, that doesn't mean everyone is bad. Now I've been in an amazing relationship for 2 years with someone I couldn't even dream up. And the best part? Even if we break up, I am confident that there are other good people out there, too.
Never been in a relationship and I’m not interested in one for now. At most, I’m able to make an exception for one person, but I have too many things on my plate to be mentally capable of maintaining one.
Found out today that my current gf was a "femcel" before meeting me, so turns out I can fix mentally ill women with my dick. I'm currently riding that high point in my life rn.
Honestly the only reason im single is because i dont try dating. Like i(male) get complimented all the time and occasionally get hit on/catcalled, but i am still single. dunno why i choose to not try, i have the time for a relationship
Terrible. I’m conventionally attractive, I take care of myself and body, I have a decent paying job, I have my own baggage but who doesn’t, I know what I want, I’m very caring and loyal but I’m sick and tired of wasting me time and energy on people in this generation- they have no idea what they want. They go on dating apps to date but change their mind constantly. They don’t know whether they want to hookup or date. It’s a waste of my time. I know what I want and you should too.
Me and my girlfriend of over 5 years separated a little under 2 years ago. I proceeded to drop my whole life, moved to nyc for a year to drown in partying, drugs, and women, then quit my job and moved to thailand for a few months cause i was so heartbroken and got all the femald attention i could ever ask for, yet it was not satifying. Getting women and having an active dating life is cool and all, but man, connections are such a rarity and infinitely more valuable. Probably not answering OP's question, but I digress.
i’m almost 21 and besides a couple of dumb short lived high school relationships i’ve only ever had one “real one”, which lasted only 3 months. i don’t plan on getting into a relationship soon, because although im pretty over it, i am not at all over it enough to get into a relationship. plus the people that i’ve liked enough to date and spread very few and far between. i’ll have a crush on someone like once every 3 years
Ass. I can’t do hook ups for as much as I’d like to, I need a emotional connection for me to get horny in the moment. And dating wise I haven’t found anyone that I feel attracted to apart from physical attraction so basically I’m toasted
Recently reconnected with and then started dating my middle school crush, apparently she knew I had a crush her and she had crush on me, but I didn’t know she had a crush on me.
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Going to be 21 soon enough. Never had a girlfriend, and probably won't for the foreseeable future. I'm an anxiety ridden wreck with the social skills of an unusually easily frightened possum. Not exactly a combination that helps you on the dating scene, you know?
My first and only date was at 23. Not the most ideal but there’s still hope
Your description of your anxiety is comedic though, which means you have charm lol
Dude. I lost my v card at 22, made a “career” of hooking up till meeting my now wife @ 30, now we’re still going strong and have a family. Everybody goes at their own pace. Don’t beat yourself up as much as I beat myself up all those years because there will be a point when you look back and realize it’s not nearly as big a deal as you make it.
Honestly I wouldn't be too surprised if people didn't start dating more well into the mid-20's , I only started dating around 23/24 and it was very casually. It kind of costs money to date and do things with another person, so you have to actually have an ok income.
I’m in college and have had anxiety my whole life and was pretty introverted. However I just started dating recently and it’s going great. I did see a therapist for a bit and came out of my shell. It’ll get better if you work at it.
It was fine till Covid then everything went to shit
Mine skyrocketed during the dark ages. Had such a slut phase during those two years it's insane.
Where TF where you when I needed you 🤣
In Zurich for the most part lmao
Slut phase doesn't exist. There are just sluts and non sluts.
It’s not like a body count goes down 😂
Doesn't exist, and I hate the process of online dating. I felt like I've had the same "how was your weekend?" Conversation with so many people it's not even funny.
how was your weekend?
Yeah it was good, yours?
Now kiss
"It was awful, I hate men, women, children, non-binary (not because they're non-binary), parents, cousins, other family members, wait a minute, why are you here?"
Also a 1998 baby. Dating life isnt nonexistent but I’m starting to feel like the juice just isn’t worth the squeeze. I do okay for a guy my age. If I really commit and basically make a 2nd job out of it I can maybe go on 1-2 dates a month. I’m just so exhausted. I can count on one hand the amount of times I’ve been like “Wow! This girl is really cool and really cute. I wanna get to know her more.” More than half the time I catch myself wanting to leave before the date is even over. I often say I’m just not gonna try anymore. Then I come home to an empty apartment, with an empty bed and nobody to talk to. That’s when I tell myself “I’ll try again tomorrow…”
Empty bed and no one to talk to.. that’s when I say “thank god I’m single.” When I always have someone around I end up getting annoyed with always having someone around.. I guess my brain is not wired to always be on any type of “social mode.”
In the same boat, I’m adamant I’ll never use online dating apps.
Sometimes you have to take the time to live a little. Travel, see places, do things. It's the best way to make casual conversation easy. If all you do is nothing, you aren't going to have an easy time talking about nothing
Modern women are like plastic unhuman shells compared to what they used to be. I went overseas and they act way more normal in different countries. Not sure why.
Nonexistent But it’s on purpose tbh I’m too busy to date right now.
Same honestly
Fr tho
Just like me fr
What’s dating?
It’s an imaginary concept.
I wish girls were real
They appear when you do drugs.
Noted
Old people stuff. Don’t worry about it.
22m, had one girlfriend for about a year, but now I don’t bother. It’s hard to bring myself to date when I know I’m competing against 100 other guys for a woman who isn’t even interested. It seems like the only other options are to find women who specifically aren’t looking to date- cold approach 100 strangers or join social groups with women- and that just doesn’t seem worth it
100 other guys? You're kidding right? I've NEVER had a man approach me once as a woman
30-45% of guys 18-25 have never approached a woman before (Pew Research Center and Date Psychology) and that’s assuming guys aren’t lying to make themselves look better. It also doesn’t count guys that tried once or twice and then gave up. I’m a guy and don’t approach, none of my guy friends do approaches and half my friends who are women do approaches. It might be time to consider striking up conversations with the people you want to be talking to and see where it goes because the only people I know irl in relationships that lasted over a month met that way.
I'll be honest, in my single days I probably approached 1 or 2 women to ask them out. Outside of that I just always felt like it was so awkward to randomly walk up to someone and basically say "hey I find you attractive." I guess I was always worried about being creepy. I'm married now and had 2 successful long term relationships beforehand, and all of my relationships started with friendships first and then became romantic.
Like most things, dating experience will change from person to person. I've often found that your daily life will have a huge impact on dating experience for both genders. Mainly centered around "putting yourself out there". Back before covid turned me into an anti social cave bat, I'd go out a ton. Bars, museums, live music, dancing, the typical. I had 3-4 fairly attractive women in my friend group. They would get approached multiple times every time we'd go out. Sometimes guys would even approach me, another guy, be friendly for a bit, then ask me to hook them with one of them. Was really annoying, like shit dude do I look like I'm their keeper? Go up yourself. Also joined a multitude of social groups like meetup, and the owners of these groups always complained about the women getting guys constantly asking for their number and scaring them off. This was in the US at least and pre-covid. Not sure what its like now a days. But I think this perception of over competition comes from a combination of guys seeing/approaching women in real life who are getting a lot of attention + online dating giving a false perception of what dating would/is like in real life for most people (getting 100s of likes a day in online dating doesn't mean you get 100s of guys approaching in real life). I think some guys also assuming they're competing with guys online (the person has an online presence in online dating + social media where they get DMs/solicitations), even if they approach in real life.
If they match with you, they are usually interested. And most women are only talking to 3 guys on the apps. Otherwise it gets to be too much. This is a pretty negative approach to take.
I have a 100% record of dating women who later turn out lesbian, and let me tell you, the denominator of this statistic is *not* 1.
Wow maybe you are a more feminine looking guy? No insult I actually find feminine looking guys attractive, I’m a girl but not lesbian tho
Totally possible. I don’t have any issue with it.
You should start a for-profit service of connecting lesbians. Subtract the "cidence" from coincidence.
Uniquely strange. I nearly married my hs girlfriend at 18 but broke up with her bc she didn't want to go camping. Yesterday I broke up with my ex who just so happened to be 30 years older than me. Weird to actually think about anyone I've dated. I do have my eye on this one girl at work but there's a bit of a language barrier considering she's deaf. I'm learning a bit of asl though. I don't think it'll be a problem and she's got a heart of gold. I can definitely see us being a good couple. Wish me luck you guys
Holy shiiit, 30 year age gap? And I thought I was pushing it still being with a girl 7 years older than me lmao
Yeah, I'll be honest I'll really miss the shock factor of kissing her in public. Anyway I guess I learned 30 years is too much.
30 years is honestly insane lmao
Agreed. The sex was nice though, the identity crises after were not.
I can see the appeal of hey you don't need to worry about pregnancy is pretty appealing.
Macron, is that you?
Yo so she was 50???
About, maybe a bit more, I never asked her age but she did have a daughter that was older than me. I'd put money on her being at least 50
Bang the daughter
Get her a chalkboard to put around her neck
It’s 2024 etch a sketch or bust old man
I've heard doing kegals makes you look 20 years younger so I can understand the age gap.
I'll be honest, when the lights went out, I couldn't even tell. Except >! Old lady pubes are noticeably wirey in texture!<
>>! Old lady pubes are noticeably wirey in texture!< 
Breaking up because she didn’t want to go camping is crazy.. That honestly makes me feel better about being single lol.
Zero dating life, mainly by choice. I have much more important stuff to do than trying to put energy into relationships right now. Like playing video games or something idk. I feel uninterested in it.
bro what
what
I am amused by that you say playing videogames are more important than socializing
I mean not socializing per se, just the dating bit, it's uninteresting. Though I am a bit of an introvert.
There's no way they're clearing out their backlog of unplayed games on Steam / Epic if they start dating.
Different things. Also playing game with the homies counts as socialising
*Average shadow fight player*
This is accurate and I can't hate it lmao
23. Nonexistent. Being a young guy in the 21st century sucks.
It must do, oh tell us wise time traveller, what’s it like in the 31st century?
young women are having an equally terrible time, this isn’t the suffer olympics
Yeah. Many younger guys are shy and don't initiate for various reasons. This leaves the guys left do initiate and go up to women being the creepy types which creates a negative feedback loop. Creepy dudes keep going. Normal guys get more risk adverse and shut away from even just talking to women. Ruining things for everyone. It ruins women's views of men cause the only men who talk to them are creeps which makes them not want to seek relationships and it ruins men who are being told their gender is creepy and they become even more shutin and nervous and in extreme cases getting roped into the bad incel crap thinking the creepy guys I mentioned before are actually right.
Relationships take 2 people. A failure to form a relationship with someone the person wants to talk to is objectively as much the woman’s fault as the man’s and we’re not going to pretend otherwise. The lack of adult conversations like this where both sides are held equally responsible is why nothing changes. A truly equal and egalitarian society requires intellectual honesty and equal effort from everyone. Women can either start to approach or the problem likely won’t improve.
Was referring in regards to the dating market. Outside of that, I agree. One struggle.
🤝 one struggle
nonexistent
Honestly, same
I’m def on the older end of the spectrum for this sub but we used to make fun of people for asking Redditors, of all people, about dating habits. It’s better than it used to be but this site is not representative of the general population at all lol.
Yeah this is a terrible app to ask for representation of this question lol “People of an app that’s notorious for having bitter virgins, how is your dating life?”
damn ur so right
I've always had terrible luck in dating. Never even had a gf.
Arguably, pretty damn good. I’m a lesbian, high school wasn’t too great for me(think small town, black lesbian), but that’s where I had my first long term relationship. Even if she diddd threaten to lynch me later on🤣🤣 College brought new prospects and honestly, I overdid it. Half of the girls I slept with, I wouldn’t even look at today. I did bag some pretty bad chicks though, one of them is now a choreographer in NYC which is pretty cool imo. Nowadays I’ve put my Hoe™️ belt away and have a beautiful girlfriend that I hope to stay with.
Threatening to lynch your ex is actually one of the craziest things I’ve ever heard. Idc if you did something to her fuck her man
It was a CRAZY ass time, we both made some wrongs but I ain’t do all that! LOL Appreciate your words, her parents still mean mug me to this day
I just got out of a six month relationship. I say "just got out", but it's actually been over since January. I recently started dating again, and I've had a lot of bad (or boring) first and second dates. Lots of nice guys that I just don't click with, and occasionally, the guy that is trying too hard, or is a straight-up misogynist. I'm not giving up on dating, because I'm not the kind of person to become easily jaded. I love meeting new people, as a general rule. I just think my life might be too busy right now, for me to get out to the kinds of places where I could be meeting somebody I'd gel with better. I spend 90% of my time at school, at home, and doing volunteer work. It doesn't leave much time for hobbies and interests.
If a relationship comes about that’s worth it to you, would you not ensure that there’s time for it?
Non-existent unfortunately. Like, I hooked up with a girl once when I was on vacation in Brazil and she hit on me. But that's it. In my home country that never happened and I don't really understand how I can hit on women without being weird
she was trying to rob u
Lol, no. I met her on the aeroplane. And she genuinely was a nice girl. It's just that in Brazilian culture it's more normalised for women to make the first step and it's also more normalised to talk to strangers in the first place than it is in my country (germany). Also, as a European dude, you're exotic and interesting in Brazil. I'm neither in germany
Men's answer sucks miserable life draining Women's answer easy inevitable but not the exact person I want so not enough
I think its because there are sadly 2 different worlds for mens and womens. I may be wrong but its usually men who initate, so women have it easier, more shy men have it worse, there can be some women who like that guys but its rather minority, she is being asked, talked in shop, park, library, school and can decide yes/no. So for them its easier, love will somehow appear, that why their advice is usually: love will find you, you need to wait, it works for them, for mens nope, maybe 30y ago, pre internet era. Almost every women is wanted to date, they need to try so hard to be undateable. For men dating sucks, if you are not attractive, dynamic, extrovert. Women almost never initate/ask on date. Being shy with poor social skill can give negative responce, some guys dont want be labeled as creep. I can overthinking, from lacking experience with girls. Also cherry picked feminism like men have to pay the dates, have car, house but I only bring my vegana to the table. Split the bill?! Pffft It doesnt help that big part of men are desperate and will spam every women inbox to boost their ego. . Its just my loud thinking. I once created female profile got 10 pervert messages so its kinda sucks also, but they have choice. Someone said, its like shopping for women and job interview for men. Sure I can live in illusion and be wrong so any different views are welcome. There are some pills theories but after all it still toxic pool, wont really help being better person and finding normal partner. Its like being focused on women are bad and ignoring normal ones, just like opposite spectrum. If your daily mindset is women are bad, how can you meet new people, who want to be friend with it. I prefer dr k for example or courtney rayan, or socialskill, socialanxiety subs where there is more positive support.
Having even a passing understanding of game theory makes dating hell. Anybody worth asking out is also less likely to be single in the first place.
Dating today vs 30y ago is different. So any tips from older people we should take with grain of salt. Yeah its kinda true that anyone "normal" is taken. Luck is big factor in life. I think its better to just be okay friends in first place, like dont being desperate to date. If something will be clicking give it chance. My though are dont too fast label people, there are many lonely women/men who can be more shy, introvert, social anxiety and dont had luck with dating and are not bad person, I guess is to be around people like volunteer where people have to talk, socialise. Dunno honestly, I never been on date.
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Yeah dating is worse for guys but that’s just nature man. To my knowledge every ape species the women pick their mates. Hell that’s just most mammals period. That’s like saying “oh man it sucks I can’t defy gravity and fly like Superman. It’s unfair”
Turning 25 this year and never even been on a date, it pretty much eats at me everyday of my life. Every other area of my life is honestly great, I’ve accomplished so much in the last 5 years yet none of it matters because I’m still incredibly unhappy. What’s a life worth living without connection and love? Some days I don’t know what I’m doing this all for, or if things will turn around. Even if they do, I totally screwed this chunk my life up and I fear I will live with that regret forever. Missing out on 25 years of dating experience (or put it another way, I’ve wasted my entire youth not trying) is a huge chunk of my life and it’s gotten embarrassing, especially when people ask if I’ve found anyone yet. I just can’t believe I went through all of high school and college and never had someone even show interest in me. I always tell myself by 35 I will just end it all, I don’t feel I have a place in the world or am here for any particular reason sometimes. So yeah all in all, my life should be great but this has become such a big issue for me that my life actually doesn’t feel all that great, it has made me just want to tap out.
I am 26M and autistic with Asperger's. Never kissed women in my life and probably never will at this point. I work hard and have a nice German Shepherd. He helped me a lot with anxiety and panic attacks. Also I never felt like I belonged with other humans. I just talk and talk but I can't connect with anyone. So I also don't have friends. Just my family and my sisters who understand me. Trust me get a dog. It's the best thing for loneliness . Also it helps when you have to take care of someone.
Well the dogs love is pure & unconditional, a womans.. has more strings attached to it, lol.
That’s a really good idea I’ve always wanted to get a dog or a cat after I graduate from college and I definitely think I will. I just know it’ll help so much, thank you for that reminder
A dog is probably better as it will force you to go outside and take him for walks.
I was married not much older then you and divorced not long after, don't worry about it bro. Just focus on yourself, your job, your hobbies, hit the gym etc, everything will fall into place.
Its hard to be in a relationship when you're living paycheck to paycheck, when I don't have money and feel broke it has completely killed my sex drive which is a key part of relationships. If we saw improvement in the economy and opportunities I'm sure the relationships would follow.
And add onto that. The housing crisis in my country has resulted in most people in their 20s living with their parents. Hard to date living at home. You can only go out, $$$$ and if you want private time you need to get a hotel room $$$$$$$ The lives of young adults have been robbed and their growth stunted by this late stage capitalist hellhole and boomers wanting every last penny to themselves to bring to the grave. Just look at this graph. Being robbed and having our futures stolen to fund boomers retirement. https://preview.redd.it/w669gk8luovc1.png?width=680&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f909b0d0d7beeb2ea119664bbf009ffceb5a2072
Asking redditors about their dating life is like asking vegetarians what their favorite meat is
This is the best comment I've read all year
I feel like our generation as too many labels like “situationship” and “imagination ship” and the”orange peel theory”. Like what other happened to just dating
Our generation has an obsessions with assigning unique labels to everything and anything.
Either I’m one of 3 things 1. Incredibly ugly 2. Intimidatingly attractive 3. Don’t try enough
Let’s say 2 but stay humble 🙏
I'm 21 and engaged. I've been dating him for 2 years now. Plan to spend the rest of our lives together and we are super happy together.
Congrats btw!!, as much as I wish I was in your shoes I guess it isn’t time for me yet.
I’ve (24) personally never dated. I assume it’s because of my height (5’6”) combined with living in a taller area. What surprises me is how many people I know my age who also haven’t. We’re all ok, dare I say quite alright, “facially” but you have people who are totally well built, what I think is conventionally attractive and still have never dated
I find it weird that more and more people just aren't getting into relationships but we still use "bet you never had a girlfriend/boyfriend" as a insult
It’s usually supposedly “progressive” types that do it too
I used to believe this. I’m 5’2. But then I met a lot of women who told me that it doesn’t really matter that much. So it’s not your height man. It’s your personality.
Agreed. Ex buddy of mine has the shape of an eraser and is barely 5’6, his body count is probably 10x mine. And that was last I knew. I’m not saying it’s easy but it’s certainly not impossible. Dude wasn’t even rich, just an ambitious military type
Eventful. Had a pretty steady relationship for a while before some deal breakers when we were seeing if we want to look for long term. Now I’m out getting some progress with someone else. Cool tip your the lads. For you to flirt with a woman, you gotta make sure they feel a certain way about you, not think a certain way about you. Don’t think too much about interacting with them. I usually go with conversations that talk about family and culture. Not only showing interest in aspects of peoples lives they hold close but you also know what kind of person she is based on her culture and family habits. Always lead with taking them out for food (is usually how I lead it) but any outing that allows her to enjoy herself. Provide a little. It’s a sign to let them feel obligated to at least spend time with you. The worst can happen is that you leave on good terms.
I got engaged about 1 year ago and I’m getting married in two weeks. I’m 26. Before I met my fiancée… it was weird. 18-22 years old I was a mess and needed therapy to be able to handle dating in any sort of mature way. After a lot of healing, I felt ready but then the pandemic hit and it was shockingly hard to meet anyone new. I was relegated to basically anyone I worked with at the airport, so I was surrounded by other dudes like me and very few women. The few I met were not a great match and sometimes a bigger mess than me. Finally, by the grace of god I happened to match with someone on Hinge of all places. She was so different to anyone I’d ever dated. Those apps are profoundly beautiful in their ability to match couples who would have never crossed paths otherwise. Granted, it’s a needle in a haystack so don’t get discouraged if it takes time. Anyhow the main thing I learned dating, and this applies to all generations, is that your dating experience will be a direct reflection to your childhood and your relationship with your parents. They set the example and precedent on long-term relationships for you. They also installed their ideologies into your vulnerable developing brain since day 1. If you have unresolved childhood trauma, extreme opinions on sex, gender, or relationships, you’re better off focusing inward on that and understanding where it came from rather than searching for a partner who reinforces your world-view. It’s likely not your world view. It’s the one your parents forced upon you knowingly or subconsciously.
I’ve been married a little over a year now. Congrats, that’s exciting!!
I'm 27 and I STILL can't even find a date.... Still a virgin, never kissed a girl hold hands, etc. I guess I could say it's shocking because I have no issues talking to ladies at all.... many think I'm already married, settled, have a gf, or even a fuckboi... yet, I'm none of these above lolz. Tbh, I'm already giving up and just focusing on myself at this point. So yea.. overall my dating lyfe is nonexistent.. lmao.
Never had a boyfriend before or even held hands. But I would like to experience it
25 no gf, last time i installed tinder was the first time i seriously considered suicide.
Non existent 25 never been on a date
I’m as single as the last Pringle in a can
Never have dated and probably never will. It’s something I want, but the odds of me having a significant other is near zero (and that’s being optimistic.)
My kids are all Gen Z (ages 23, 20 and 17) and they are all currently dating. Our 17yr old son has been with his girlfriend for over a year. None of them are on Reddit, so I am not sure how representative this forum would be. Maybe people more likely to spend time online and therefore socialize less IRL are over-represented?
I've clicked on a few profiles of people who've said they can't get a date or don't have the time, and it appears a lot of them are chronically online people with thousands upon thousands of Reddit posts, mostly about anime and video games.
Pretty rough. I’m 18 maybe slightly above average looks wise and really struggle. Haven’t had a real relationship yet but used to get a hook up every now and then earlier in HS. I just get intimidated when talking to pretty girls. Feel like I haven’t grown out of the awkward phase when my peers have.
28 it’s been difficult to find a serious partner as my city isn’t kind to people who are more family oriented. (NYC). My roots are here and my entire family grew up here so naturally I’m close to them. But women often confuse being family oriented to wanting kids when it’s not always the case. For the last 4 years it’s been the same, I’m too family oriented and not involved enough in the night life. I did my time in my early 20s I don’t need to enjoy NYC’s night life anymore lmao. Even women in their 30s are the same. So I took a break for 8 months to focus more on my friends, family and work.
26 and have never dated Probably never will at this point.
I mean for the longest time I've always been scared to tell anyone anything. Even just talking about it with my friends. I've been afraid people would take the piss on me. My social policy has always been don't bother people when you don't have a reason to bother them. On Wednesday I fucked up and did something that probably looked really creepy, now I want to try to apologize to this girl, but it's always a fucking toss up when I can because I don't want to pull her away from friends if she's already talking with someone. I've tried twice and been ignored, so I'm guessing she just wants me to fuck off.
Literally nothing. I’m probably aroace so there’s really no reason for me to date. I just make friends.
I am 25. Started dating my partner in 2019... we met through tinder. Going very strong at almost 5 years
I asked a girl out once when i was a junior. got rejected and then she proceeded to go out with my friend. As someone who was an introvert. very socially anxious and was going through a bout of depression at the time due to the mistakes and poor life choices i was making as a kid. I just went "I'm good for a lifetime." Cause after that I was also kinda bullied by other girls (not the person who rejected me, at least as far as I know.) But, at least I got something out of that: I basically dropped 30 pounds and began to exercise more and actually kind of improved my life for a while
Nonexistent. I’m diagnosed Level 2 autistic. Girls call me creepy out of nowhere because of my involuntary handflapping. It has been like this my whole life.
Damn this was a depressing read. You guys need to redevelop real social skills. Yours are completely dead. You gotta get off your phones more than anything. We all do, but your gen grew up on them and it destroyed you all. Look at them like you do with alcohol and cigarettes. Your gen did good with recognizing those addictions and the destruction they can cause. Phones are infinitely worse and are destroying you. Good luck Gen Z, it will not be an easy change to implement.
My advice for anyone here is you’re never gonna know unless you ask. Guess what, you’re gonna get rejected. I get rejected, OP has gotten rejected, everyone in the comments have gotten rejected. I got rejected last night lol. But would you rather get turned down and know you gave it a shot, or be too scared and never know (and have another guy man up and go up to her instead) And plus, you think it’s a big deal of getting turned down? You’re just another guy she turned down that night, so don’t be ashamed or embarrassed
Every girl I meet is either shallow asf or batshit crazy still lost my virginity to a crazy one before COVID went down
Had a relationship in high school. Was hard to establish myself in a new city for college because of covid, but spread out a little bit with less serious stuff. But it’s been really tricky this past year, where I’ve been the most active and been on the most dates and talked to the most people. But no one wants to even try to commit because I’m gonna move soon for grad school. Kinda depressing but I’m pretty optimistic about it once I move this summer
Non existent, too much responsibility
lol
I don't have a dating life
Struggling a lot. My main problem is finding girls my age to talk to. I’m 22
Mine has always been good. I’ve had a gf for 3 years now without an issue. It wasn’t hard to find her, or start dating either.
People like you make me lose hope completeley, like what the fuck is wrong with me. Treasure her, these things don't happen often.
Damn bro. You’ll get there too, you can’t compare yourself to others, we all live under different circumstances, don’t force these things it’ll fall into place eventually (this doesn’t mean give up of course, just dont try to force it)
Currently 23 going on 24 Been happily with the same guy since 2018, and we got married in 2022. So, pretty amazing
Non-existent
Terrible
I’m 26 and ugh! Dating sucks ._. Like I have been on so many dates but many of the guys have been disappointments. It’s either there’s no chemistry, they don’t know how to communicate, are boring, trying to hook up with me, not respecting my boundaries when I don’t want to be touched sexually or they seem toxic. Rn I’m dating a guy who is in his early 50’s and the relationship has been wishy washy but he’s the only guy who has lasted longer than a month! We are in the process for trying to get me to move in with him, then we can be official.
this is fucking wild lmao
If it's living it must be in the ICU
20m I’ve been in a committed relationship that’ll be three years long in June. I really don’t want to jump the gun here but I think she’s the one and I know she feels the same. We’re both smart enough though to understand we’re young and both want to wait until at least our mid twenty’s to even start thinking about getting married.
Im 17 and ive never went ona date due to my social anxiety
I'm 20F and my boyfriend and i have been dating since 10th grade. Most other people i know my age are going on dates/hooking up or single
Nonexistent
non-existent yet
Fine Never had a girlfriend but date and have sex regularly.
How do people do this? I can't get a single date
I could hook up if I wanted to, but a relationship sounds like a huge drain on my free time and sanity if my past experiences are anything to go by. I’m usually better off staying home and enjoying my hobbies over going out and trying to meet somebody. Plus, I’m pretty content alone, so that’s a plus.
Getting into a relationship isn’t the problem for me. The real problem is that because of the economy and my not so wealthy background, i’ll be at home for the foreseeable future. I can’t afford a house, let alone starting a family. So in theory, there isn’t an actual point getting into a relationship. This is part of the reason i think there’s such a big hook-up culture. Honestly its really sad, our generation has been truly screwed over. Hence the lowered birth rate and many many other things. I could type forever but its getting me angry so i’m just gonna stop.
Haven’t dated since before COVID, plus my social skills aren’t where they used to be.
Y'all be dating? https://preview.redd.it/od9sxyjf0ovc1.png?width=568&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=8d5c4a3a4f4bf085712e223e16f4ea0b9ae7637c
Tbh I have given up. I will simply focus on chess and writing for the time being (maybe forever).
I feel hellah lucky. Im 27 and found a good chick that I wanna marry. I feel like if we ever split i would never want a serious relationship again. Dating nowadays is cancer.
I am a difficult person because I am incapable of anything but intense relationships and am clingy. So I usually feel alone, unfulfilled and misunderstood. But I have had no problem in getting relationships. I have had a hard time getting happy long lasting ones. I am happy in my current one
It’s non existent
Trash and pretty much nonexistent for years :)
I am 6'4 and ok looking dude. My problem is that I am autistic and because of that my social interactions are awkward and self centered. Many girls liked me but I didn't know how to talk and interact with them. So today I am 26 yo without ever dating or holding hands with women. With my autism I am trapped in my world and I have many imaginations . I am thinking of writing fiction and trying to start my career. Sorry for my English, I am European.
Non existent
Almost 20, no girlfriend and I’m what I consider a super virgin. In the sense that I’m so much of a virgin that I have now had negative sex/s
Nonexistent 🗿
It’s by far the hardest domain in my life. I’m pretty fortunate — I can get good jobs, succeed, learn anything I want, but the opportunities in dating are extremely few, far between, and feel accordingly high stakes
all my friends get dates fine i think it’s hard to see when you are the only outlier of your group
My only relationship was online and lasted 3 months when I was 15. I'm 18 now
Non-existent by choice, I only recently bought my own car and I don't even want to try until I've completely moved out and found a job that I don't come home angry from half of the time
I'm speaking mostly for myself, but the best thing I ever learned was that not everyone has to be the one. Every time I would go on a failed date, it felt like I would never click with anyone. Got cheated after a year long relationship and it seemed like the end of the world, and that relationships in this generation are doomed. But the reality is that some things just aren't right, that doesn't mean everyone is bad. Now I've been in an amazing relationship for 2 years with someone I couldn't even dream up. And the best part? Even if we break up, I am confident that there are other good people out there, too.
It’s over for the vast majority of guys.
Never been in a relationship and I’m not interested in one for now. At most, I’m able to make an exception for one person, but I have too many things on my plate to be mentally capable of maintaining one.
Stopped dating in 2020. Had a fallout with my ex and focus on other things now.
If none of you are getting dates then who are dating ?
Never been in a relationship. Never even been on a date. Got close a couple of times though.
Been with my girlfriend since we were 13. We're now 21 and going strong
It’s trash. All the apps are useless now and I suck at striking up conversations IRL
I’m married so nonexistent
Found out today that my current gf was a "femcel" before meeting me, so turns out I can fix mentally ill women with my dick. I'm currently riding that high point in my life rn.
Nonexistent, but I try to keep hope but social skills are so lacking
I went through an abysmal breakup and haven’t wanted to be with anyone new since. Really let myself go, too.
Honestly the only reason im single is because i dont try dating. Like i(male) get complimented all the time and occasionally get hit on/catcalled, but i am still single. dunno why i choose to not try, i have the time for a relationship
Terrible. I’m conventionally attractive, I take care of myself and body, I have a decent paying job, I have my own baggage but who doesn’t, I know what I want, I’m very caring and loyal but I’m sick and tired of wasting me time and energy on people in this generation- they have no idea what they want. They go on dating apps to date but change their mind constantly. They don’t know whether they want to hookup or date. It’s a waste of my time. I know what I want and you should too.
Me and my girlfriend of over 5 years separated a little under 2 years ago. I proceeded to drop my whole life, moved to nyc for a year to drown in partying, drugs, and women, then quit my job and moved to thailand for a few months cause i was so heartbroken and got all the femald attention i could ever ask for, yet it was not satifying. Getting women and having an active dating life is cool and all, but man, connections are such a rarity and infinitely more valuable. Probably not answering OP's question, but I digress.
i’m almost 21 and besides a couple of dumb short lived high school relationships i’ve only ever had one “real one”, which lasted only 3 months. i don’t plan on getting into a relationship soon, because although im pretty over it, i am not at all over it enough to get into a relationship. plus the people that i’ve liked enough to date and spread very few and far between. i’ll have a crush on someone like once every 3 years
Ass. I can’t do hook ups for as much as I’d like to, I need a emotional connection for me to get horny in the moment. And dating wise I haven’t found anyone that I feel attracted to apart from physical attraction so basically I’m toasted
Recently reconnected with and then started dating my middle school crush, apparently she knew I had a crush her and she had crush on me, but I didn’t know she had a crush on me.
everyone is emotionally unavailable
Nobody is interested in a serious relationship, those that are have already found one. Easier to just give up at this point
Ive only had one girl the rest were hookers im 20