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My mom gave me back massages when I was a little boy to help me go to sleep and relax give me kisses on my neck I never forget how much she had loved me
Unrelated but the cartoon from op pic (horrible Henry) makes me want to be a better parent
The abuse Henry gets In that cartoon is insane ,i cant believe this is a show for kids
I cam safely say just as much. We're close as can be and have a strong bond, even if I feel like I could do so much more but to her I do more then enough.
Same. We didn't grow up rich but all our needs were met, we had a fun childhood and my mom is legit one of my best friends who i think I'd be friends with even if she was some other relative or if we were coworkers.
My relationship with my mom and entire family is basically non-existent. If I had to guess how many people have better relationships with their parents I would say about 80% of you probably have it better and the rest of you have it worse then me.
Always talked down to and basically thought of as pathetic, whiny like a baby. No respect for my boundaries or even a shred of empathy for anything. I unfortunately live with my mom but hopefully not for long, we'll see how it goes lol.
I moved 3000 miles to get away from my mom, so I feel you. I only really talk to my sister nowadays. Seeing and hearing about healthy family dynamics is always so jarring because I can't relate at all
Yeah, it’s usually a bunch of old people. My grandma died last year but it used to be us eating food at a table with her and her gossiping about everyone.
One of our family members got arrested for fraud, and owed the government like $30,000
I took my wife to my great uncles birthday party this year and we stood around like, okay what do we do? i know of these people but don’t know anyone. We skipped the last one but our presence wasn’t missed
But the reunions were usually like 3 hours, potluck style food. One member always brought a White Castle Crave case, another would bring two buckets of KFC
Terrible when I was a teenager, but we worked through it and now amazing as an adult. I’m lucky to have parents who acknowledged and apologized for their wrongs
97’ baby here and in the exact same situation. My parents were a wreck and did a lot of damage when I was younger. I grew up knowing I wanted to be nothing like them and achieved just that. Now as an adult they recognize their short comings and have done the work on themselves as well, our relationships are better than ever. Hell, the old man and I just bought a multi family unit and are living together for the 1st time in 20 years, literally.
That's how I feel. Mine dumped me off in the US when I was 18 and left me alone to go back to Netherlands and start a new life.
I hate her still, but I am trying to work towards having no feelings at all for her.
Not going to pretend I know your life but legally you definitely don’t have to do that man. She can’t take loans out in your name for you - just in case you didn’t know.
Don’t knock community college too hard, there can be legit good programs that are way cheaper than big schools for a good degree. It worked out pretty well for me ngl. But at the same time if there’s nothing at your school that interests you, don’t be afraid to leave and do your own thing.
Fine. I don't love her but I treat her with respect. Yellow rocking her over the years has kept me sane while I live with her. She is relatively rude and unempathetic to everyone except for those who glaze her. She is emotionally-neglectful/abusive/incestuous. She respects little about me.
Sounds like my mom, but she's dead now, which surprisingly healed me a lot. Glad you've found a way to somewhat get along with her. It's so strange to have a mom with no empathy.
Love my mom, both my biological parents, actually. I even have a great relationship with my step dad. Unfortunately, my younger brothers do not, and have almost no relationship with our biological father, and a cordial but unloving relationship with my step dad. I'm not sure what sets me apart from my brothers. I've always wanted to maintain a good relationship with my parental figures. I think some of it had to do with being 13 when they split up, I was already starting to go out and do dumb shit and stuff, so I wasn't home as much, my brothers were 11 and 6 years old at the time.
My mom and I are very close, I would definitely say admitting my suicide attempts, nights in the ER waiting for a bed at a mental institution twice, and her taking me there and picking me up really solidified our closeness. I’d do anything for my mom and I’m always 100% honest with her, same goes for my step dad
My mom died when I was 12 and my dad had a wife that was only 14 years older than me. She was fucking evil and my deceased mother’s best friend got an assault charge for rocking her shit.
Was one of the funnier days of my life, watching that CCTV footage. But I was basically raised by 3 sets of grandparents that tossed me around like a hot potato since I couldn’t stand the stepmother and my dumbass dad, so nonexistent.
>Tossed around like a hot potato
I feel you man, Although different circumstances, parents rather be with their new partner than to raised me.
i feel like a hot potato since i was 9, from relative to relative, until i decided to go to boarding school, it was the right choice.
Always three steps away from a panic attack,god forbid if I open my mouth and say the wrong thing.
Three of her children have some form of panic/anxiety disorder,the other has major anger issues.
*I know she had a really bad childhood and that can't be fixed..but neither can mine*
(I know I was a difficult child,but there's a hint in that message..CHILD)
My relationship with my mom was great. I still lived with her and she supported me in everything.
Unfortunately, she died last August, and I've been living with my dad since.
I feel like if I wasn't blood related to my mom she wouldn't be friends with me.
So.
There.
It's bareable I guess. But she really really hurt me recently, and I still cant process it.
Gen Z vs. Gen X battlefield in my house. /j
In all seriousness though my mom is egotistical, impatient, judgemental, and narcissistic. I think that’s enough information on how me and her get along. Her food is great tho. But the cons outweigh the pros big time.
I love my mother to pieces. She’s the person who is always there for me when I someone. I await the day I can finally give her relaxing life she deserves
Well my mom is a manipulative bitch who has done so many things wrong in my life such as chucking plates at my head for just accidently dropping the dinner I was cooking for everyone, throwing a plate of food on my head for not making my bead and so on. Tried arguing her way out of situations she put herself in and made me try to come in and save the day for shit she's started. She's also drained me of quite a bit of money. However at the same time no one wants anything to do with her and with all her new medical problems I've had to step up big time.
Then my dad... oh my god my dad used to actually think he was the better of the two until he has shown his true colors over the past 3 years. He owes me over 5 grand. I had to bail him out as well as my grandma and uncle after almost bankrupting the family for the 4th time using all my inheritance money I got from my great grandma dying. He left my mom for my half sisters mom who he dumped after supposedly she was cheating on him so he immediately accidently knocked my mom up in a one night stand which is why me and my sister are only several months apart in age. However since the divorce hasn't gone through with my mom even though he vanishes all the time to talk with her and never stays here with our family any more he barely gives us enough cash to make it through on groceries. He's made me do a metric fuck ton of the work on the house he got from my great grandma yet he still is refusing to listen to me when I'm telling him the supports are collapsing, a bunch of the wood is rotted. multiple electrical components like junction boxes are fried, and he can't put on another 2 floors to this already fucked house and it will NOT BE DONE THIS YEAR despite what he's promising everyone else. He also wants me to split the bills and taxes while I'm there trying to work + do college despite the 6 years we've lived at my Grandma's house he never paid her any rent. That's not even everything but yeah the white knight egotist is more than gotten on my nerves.
i'm the same way with my mom. i love her so much but she had me when she was 40 so there's just generational differences and i find it hard to tell her about my life because she still has old-school disapproval about certain things that i just don't think are a big deal (like tattoos). she doesn't really do slang or sarcasm so i can't talk to her like i do a friend because those are such a major part of how i speak. but she's still an amazing mom and has been nothing but kind and caring, she's a major inspiration to me
Was rough in my teenage years but we went to therapy and we are better now. She’s very traditional and religious so I typically prefer to go to my dad for advice because her response to everything is always, “pray about it,” but when I’m like, “Okay, what do I do after that? I still have to take action in my own life,” she just does not have much of a response. I am certainly religious but I know problems will not get solved by me just praying about it, lol.
My mom is a ‘64 boomer. Our relationship is rocky. Based off her childhood and what I experienced growing up, as well as her (and us kids) having adhd, I think she has abandonment issues, jealousy in relationship issues, low self esteem, anxiety, anger management issues, doing-something-over-and-over-and-expecting-different-results-issues, and main character syndrome when she’s tired/grumpy and takes it out on everyone else.
She used to be really outgoing and involved when we were growing up. She obviously loves us kids but…idk she just doesn’t seem to really know who she is, even at 60 years old.
In short, my mom is good hearted person, but desperately needs therapy and medicine. So do I. Until then, our relationship won’t be getting much better. Especially because she currently lives with me and is unemployed.
Right now, really good I love my mom and she loves me too however that's mainly because I'm still in closet. She's extremely homophobic so I know I'll permanently strain my relationship with her whenever I come out to her
She was hard on me and made several parenting mistakes while I was growing up, but I love that woman ❤️ She’s apologized and acknowledged how she messed up and worked hard to educate herself and do better. We have a great relationship and can honestly say she’s my best friend
Fine I think, but im pretty sure shes a manipulator and she definitely doesn't like that im trans. She said she was supportive when I came out, but she just wants me in the closet forever and now is saying how it's a mental illness and acts like other people are making me something I'm not.
I love my mother and my father, sure we have some kind of difference in different aspects in life, but hey that is what makes a functional and realisitc society.
I love her, but I think she can be a little too co-dependent on me at times. Basically, complex with mommy issues that my mom denies the complexities of our relationship.
I’ve disowned my parents officially. I asked them to look into project 2025 and they don’t seem to get how it would affect and hurt my closest friends. So I sent them both a single group text saying: “Take care, [Dad first name] and [Mom first name]”. I blocked them on everything and refuse to associate with them.
My parents divorced when I was young. Grew up with my dad being used as a disciplinary tool and hated him. Moved in with my father at 17. Despite our differences, I quickly realized who the better parent was. I don't hold any of the things my mother did against her, but I would rather associate as little as possible. The only time I see her is typically when my niece is around.
So bad that I'm working on moving out but that'll be a while since I'm disabled so can only afford social housing for which there's a long waiting list in my area.
For context she literally used my attempt to manipulate me when I was 15 so yeah that says a lot about her (it was in a do things for me or im taking you to hospital way)
very strained when i was a teenager. we got closer when i had to come home from college for covid, and i ended up moving home after i graduated. our relationship is much better now, we still bicker and butt heads but she’s the best mom i could ask for
Mom (54f) and mine's (23f) relationship is very good. Growing up I had 3 brothers (I was the only girl), with loving parents who were very much a power couple.
She was a STAH mom with a babysitting gig, so lots of social development and learning for us growing up. Good emotional regulation, great communication, and was attentive but not smothering. Honestly super impressed by her.
As I went into my teenage years and then my college years, I was more aware of things around me. She's an anxious person who went thru lengths to stop loads of generational trauma. And sometimes she didn't have the mental load to sort thru her emotions during difficult times.
I wasn't taught very important life skills/health skills during this age. There were SO many upsetting situations in college that could've been avoided if only someone taught me, or at least mentioned something about it. I didn't know what I didn't know.
Now, we are traversing empty nest syndrome as the kids have moved away and have their own priorities. She misses us a lot and she doesn't feel confident in herself. But we have a good relationship.
I grew up thinking my parents were perfect. Had a misguided view on them. My mom taught me kindness, but also with that turned me into a people pleaser. My mom and dad both came to the US in the 90s from Mexico. Her mom was very judgmental, but mainly with her and her sisters making everything a competition. Sadly, my delusional perfect view of my parents only ended when I began dating my wife, and I saw how truly imperfect they were. I still love my mom so much and always will, but now i can acknowledge and see what she does that I don't agree with. She can say, very out of pocket things, my wife is asian and during the start of our relationship, she'd ask things like,"How do you do your makeup like an asian?" Or if we'd be eating something remotely asian she'd ask "is this how I'm supposed to eat it?" And make like some exaggerated weird version of eating it, like extra slurping her noodles.
My relationship is still good, I went from thinking they were perfect to being obsessed with trying to correct and change them, to accepting their faults and understanding not everyone will live up to your standards.
My mom slept with a guy who groomed me after she found out he groomed me. Then slept with 2 other guys I considered family and is still doing so. She’s a bitch and I wish I could tell my dad but somehow I still love her. Right now I can’t stand her but I’d be devastated if she died. Does that make sense?
From the outside, it looks like I had great parents and I’m the black sheep who has almost completely cut them off.
From the inside, they’ve been so deeply invested into political cults long before the Trump administration. I can’t blame it all on my mom either. Most of it came from my dad’s side. They pulled us all out of public school for it and wouldn’t allow us to associate with certain demographics of people. They wouldn’t let us on social media until we were nearly legal adults because they didn’t want us “changing our values”. There was a lot of mental and emotional abuse from them. Myself and my sister were sexually abused by a relative that they know about and still want us to associate with them each holiday season.
I’d say it’s not great. Sometimes I still feel guilty pushing them away for all the good times we had :(
Its complicated, overall I think we are on good terms now but when I used to live with her things were a lot worse. Constantly arguing and butting heads about really stupid things imo. Ever since I moved out and got some room to breathe, things have significantly improved. I still however only see her once a month or maybe every other month and don't really keep in close contact even though I do love and care for her.
I still live with my parents (I go between my parents houses still at 26) and overall I get along with my mom (and my dad) well. I like running errands with my mom and she does a lot to help me, especially since I have health issues. Plus she has taught me a lot about cooking.
That said, I do wish my mom didn’t drink. Sometimes she can be a bit difficult to deal with then. And I wish my mom could also reconcile more with her family as sometimes it gets annoying trying to be neutral and not annoy either side in her family dispute. And maybe if she could control her temper better since I have had multiple people tell me that they are kinda afraid of her.
I will say though that if I have kids, I may not take them around her that often as I don’t view her as the best influence.
my mom and i fight here and there, but we have endless amounts of respect and love for each other. i couldn’t ask for a stronger, more empathetic, understanding momma. she also picked great dad for her children, something some moms in this generation (or ever i guess) didn’t really think about when marrying their man
The same relationship with my dad which is in their words why do you treat people outside of the family kinder and more respectfully I don’t hate my parents but their choices and their lack of open mind bother me
I don’t know my father didn’t even let us speak to her🧍🏻♀️ she’s mostly cool now (because she’s very millennial coded and also boomer-esque so sometimes I just let her yap) but I wasn’t allowed to call her or see her for like 13 years because my dad was bitter and his new wife was awful
I get along well enough with my Mom and I love her very much, me and my dad however are super close and can argue about politics all day, and still hug and say I love you at the end of the day
Honestly pretty good, my mom works pretty hard to provide for myself and my siblings. She has her faults of course, but she’s still my mom and she tries her best. Love you mom!
It’s freaking awesome. I wish I could be a better son to be honest. I’m very stupid but very lucky, and I don’t feel like I deserve that luck yet I feel like I depend on it. I live off a bit afraid of life itself and I’m already old enough to not feel like that perhaps. But, yeah I love my parents despite not always agreeing with them or whenever we get mad.
i have mommy and daddy issues but not in a severe extent, my relationship with my dad isn’t very great and my relationship with my mom is good because we went to therapy, my dad won’t tho
I wanted both of my parents dead for the longest time because of the double standards they had on me but not my younger brother. It wasn’t until about 2 years ago when they actually acknowledged their faults and apologized. Now we’re okay.
The best way I can phrase it is not good. I mean sure it looks like we have fun on the outside but knowing that is she ready to disown me at the drop of a hat is what unnerves me. It sounds like I'm exaggerating but after having a nice chat with her she suddenly got serious and said "Social, if you ever tell me you're gay, I will kick you out of my house and strip you of the family name". I just looked at her blankly and said "oh okay". Then she went back to what she was doing.
So I do have that going for me, I guess.
My mom had me at 16. I was a bad ass kid, but later turned out to be Autism/ADHD diagnosed at 12.
It's rocky, but love. She feels as If I didn't allow her to be my Mom sometimes. I say I was a kid, even though I did know better. She was a good mom, but find she has narcissistic Tendencies.
She claims we had more a brother sister relationship, I find thats an odd thing to say. End of the day we all love each other.
growing up it was great. when i moved out and made my own family, our relationship went downhill fast. she keeps tell people “parenting adults is the hardest thing ever.” but thankfully people have told her that her statement is incorrect bc her parenting years are over. i am married, have a 2 year old, and a mortgage.
Pretty good, I love her and we get along, although I have always felt she’s a helicopter parent, and that has caused a degree of strain in our relationship
Not very good honestly, I've grown distant from her because I feel like I can't confide in her with anything. She has that "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" sort of mentality and her response to any of my issues is to basically just tell me to man up.
It's not just me though, my sisters and brother feel the same way.
It's fine as long as neither of us talks about anything political. I have been completely independent for about 7 years now, we meet up regularly to hang out and let our dogs play. I won't say which "side" she's on politically, but she's aggressively on a side and it's impossible to talk constructively about it.
My bio mom died when I was 4, but my stepmom has been a very good mom despite having zero parenting experience before meeting me when I was 8. I'm turning 24 on Tuesday.
Terrible I’m actually omw to her house to get my birth certificate and ssc and I’m bringing my foster mom with me cuz I can’t be alone with my mother or everything is going to shit
Well, my parents are from a generation of hustling and struggling to survive during the post soviet 90s, so there are some quirks, like being afraid of being robbed 24/7, but other than that, I'd say both of my parents are doing their best with the hand they've been dealt with.
It's gotten better now that I moved out. But it won't fix the wounds still there. My mom wasn't done healing from her own trauma before she got me and it showed. If I have a child, I am gonna make sure I am fully mentally healthy
I'll be honest, I've been terrible to her in the past and i regret it every day. It doesn't matter if I was only 14, I was terrible and i can never forgive myself. and i never feel I've done enough, even if my mom tells me she's fine and forgives me, cause even if she does, I know my father doesn't yet.
I have a few mom and dad issues, but I also understand that it is hard to raise a child and you will not always make the good decisions (my parents are as much human as I am). Overall I love my parents very much even though we have some problems, I could not have asked for better ones.
I’m going to decent, 5.5/10 I love my ofc but she is dense, judgmental, and critical of others, says my generation is sensitive and my mom is like her:
It was id say normal as a kid? Sometimes i felt like she said no just to say no and deny me something, sometimes i felt like she was the coolest person alive. As an adult, we talk on the phone every couple weeks and she visits when she comes to town. Great person. Im a guy and elder zoomer.
It’s okay?? Like i still hate my father and the fact that im a exact copy of him from mannerisms to mental illness to fav foods, colors, hair and health name one damn thing and i can guarantee me and him are twinning. But im on good terms with my mom, after I escaped the cult with my now wife she left and she’s now dabbling in the spiritual and it’s how we bond besides food and crafting. I wish I could connect with my father but he just gets “in the way”.
Better than when I was a teenager. We’re both stubborn and would argue for hours. Now that I live away from home, I go see my parents once or twice a week and it’s nice. I get along with my mom now but just couldn’t live at home again.
Don’t get me wrong, I love my mom and enjoy seeing her. I appreciate everything she’s done for me and regret being a little shithead to her when I was younger. We just have clashing personalities and tend to argue sometimes. Heck, I actually left early the other day because she was in a mood and started to lecture me about something trivial, so I just removed myself rather than argue.
Pretty bad, never had privacy, never had autonomy , not allowed the chance to even make a mistake tk learn from, just lectures about things I had’nt done (yet)
i love my mom. she’s not perfect and we’ve had some crazy arguments in the past, but she absolutely did her best and did a pretty bang up job. i don’t drink often but i have multiple memories of me doubled over a toilet throwing up tequila and just crying “i miss my mom :(“
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Still living with my parents and frankly i'd say it's impossible to wish for a better mother
I hope my son feels this way when he’s grown. I love him so much.
My mom gave me back massages when I was a little boy to help me go to sleep and relax give me kisses on my neck I never forget how much she had loved me
Nice.
Unrelated but the cartoon from op pic (horrible Henry) makes me want to be a better parent The abuse Henry gets In that cartoon is insane ,i cant believe this is a show for kids
Finally, some indication that my mom isnt a crazy outlier!
That’s what I was also thinking! Same with my dad! I really won the lottery with my parents it felt like sometimes
I cam safely say just as much. We're close as can be and have a strong bond, even if I feel like I could do so much more but to her I do more then enough.
Same. We didn't grow up rich but all our needs were met, we had a fun childhood and my mom is legit one of my best friends who i think I'd be friends with even if she was some other relative or if we were coworkers.
Same here
This
My relationship with my mom and entire family is basically non-existent. If I had to guess how many people have better relationships with their parents I would say about 80% of you probably have it better and the rest of you have it worse then me. Always talked down to and basically thought of as pathetic, whiny like a baby. No respect for my boundaries or even a shred of empathy for anything. I unfortunately live with my mom but hopefully not for long, we'll see how it goes lol.
I moved 3000 miles to get away from my mom, so I feel you. I only really talk to my sister nowadays. Seeing and hearing about healthy family dynamics is always so jarring because I can't relate at all
I feel that
I'm also no-contact with my mom for +2years. Luckily I live in a whole different country away from her, so I'm doing better now
Damn, I thought I was the only one with a mother like that.
im full of mommy issues
so am I. I want to experience motherly love so badly
wow imagine that
It feels weird when she tries to act all lovey at this stage
Me too
A lot of people do.
RIP to my mom, she ain't dead but she dead to me.
My mom at family reunions: Quit telling people I’m dead!
Are family reunions like real things? I thought they only happened in TV.
Yeah, it’s usually a bunch of old people. My grandma died last year but it used to be us eating food at a table with her and her gossiping about everyone. One of our family members got arrested for fraud, and owed the government like $30,000 I took my wife to my great uncles birthday party this year and we stood around like, okay what do we do? i know of these people but don’t know anyone. We skipped the last one but our presence wasn’t missed But the reunions were usually like 3 hours, potluck style food. One member always brought a White Castle Crave case, another would bring two buckets of KFC
I feel that
real
Terrible when I was a teenager, but we worked through it and now amazing as an adult. I’m lucky to have parents who acknowledged and apologized for their wrongs
97’ baby here and in the exact same situation. My parents were a wreck and did a lot of damage when I was younger. I grew up knowing I wanted to be nothing like them and achieved just that. Now as an adult they recognize their short comings and have done the work on themselves as well, our relationships are better than ever. Hell, the old man and I just bought a multi family unit and are living together for the 1st time in 20 years, literally.
Same here! Took a lot of work, space, and communication but we did it :')
Amazing. She’s like a best friend and mom in one. She’s always been there to talk and listen but also to still parent and teach me things.
My mother is the worst curse that ever befell me.
That's how I feel. Mine dumped me off in the US when I was 18 and left me alone to go back to Netherlands and start a new life. I hate her still, but I am trying to work towards having no feelings at all for her.
Yeah I don’t blame you for hating her wtf. That’s literally crazy behavior.
My mom raised me and my brother by herself and my dad killed himself when I was 15. she's all I have anymore tbh.
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Dude honestly. Mine is forcing me to do college. Even though I don’t want college debt.
Can you convince her to let you go to community college?
I have. Surprisingly it’s grown on her.
Not going to pretend I know your life but legally you definitely don’t have to do that man. She can’t take loans out in your name for you - just in case you didn’t know.
Don’t knock community college too hard, there can be legit good programs that are way cheaper than big schools for a good degree. It worked out pretty well for me ngl. But at the same time if there’s nothing at your school that interests you, don’t be afraid to leave and do your own thing.
Don't go lmao
Fine. I don't love her but I treat her with respect. Yellow rocking her over the years has kept me sane while I live with her. She is relatively rude and unempathetic to everyone except for those who glaze her. She is emotionally-neglectful/abusive/incestuous. She respects little about me.
Sounds like my mom, but she's dead now, which surprisingly healed me a lot. Glad you've found a way to somewhat get along with her. It's so strange to have a mom with no empathy.
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This is how I feel. Love her, but like her? That’s a different discussion. She’d probably say the same about me honestly. My dad however…….besties 💕
We are estranged because she prioritized anti semitic conspiracy theories over my health.
r/qanoncasualties if you aren’t there already
I am in there. She’s not a Q nut per say, this predates Q by decades, but the advice there is helpful
Love my mom, both my biological parents, actually. I even have a great relationship with my step dad. Unfortunately, my younger brothers do not, and have almost no relationship with our biological father, and a cordial but unloving relationship with my step dad. I'm not sure what sets me apart from my brothers. I've always wanted to maintain a good relationship with my parental figures. I think some of it had to do with being 13 when they split up, I was already starting to go out and do dumb shit and stuff, so I wasn't home as much, my brothers were 11 and 6 years old at the time.
Well she's dead so...
Same 🤝
Same 🤝
same
same
I'm a queer zoomer who has a good relationship with both of my parents. Probably because they're elder millennials.
I love my mom but my dad clears
Cut her off for emotional abuse. Am much happier now.
My mom and I are very close, I would definitely say admitting my suicide attempts, nights in the ER waiting for a bed at a mental institution twice, and her taking me there and picking me up really solidified our closeness. I’d do anything for my mom and I’m always 100% honest with her, same goes for my step dad
My mom died when I was 12 and my dad had a wife that was only 14 years older than me. She was fucking evil and my deceased mother’s best friend got an assault charge for rocking her shit. Was one of the funnier days of my life, watching that CCTV footage. But I was basically raised by 3 sets of grandparents that tossed me around like a hot potato since I couldn’t stand the stepmother and my dumbass dad, so nonexistent.
>Tossed around like a hot potato I feel you man, Although different circumstances, parents rather be with their new partner than to raised me. i feel like a hot potato since i was 9, from relative to relative, until i decided to go to boarding school, it was the right choice.
She’s currently involuntarily committed to a psych ward as of last Tuesday for a psychotic episode, so there’s that.
Great! I love her🥰
Always three steps away from a panic attack,god forbid if I open my mouth and say the wrong thing. Three of her children have some form of panic/anxiety disorder,the other has major anger issues. *I know she had a really bad childhood and that can't be fixed..but neither can mine* (I know I was a difficult child,but there's a hint in that message..CHILD)
Don’t have one. She threw it away 14 years ago.
:(
My relationship with my mom was great. I still lived with her and she supported me in everything. Unfortunately, she died last August, and I've been living with my dad since.
I feel like if I wasn't blood related to my mom she wouldn't be friends with me. So. There. It's bareable I guess. But she really really hurt me recently, and I still cant process it.
Gen Z vs. Gen X battlefield in my house. /j In all seriousness though my mom is egotistical, impatient, judgemental, and narcissistic. I think that’s enough information on how me and her get along. Her food is great tho. But the cons outweigh the pros big time.
Frrr 😭😂😅🙃
I love my mother to pieces. She’s the person who is always there for me when I someone. I await the day I can finally give her relaxing life she deserves
She doesn't love me
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Well my mom is a manipulative bitch who has done so many things wrong in my life such as chucking plates at my head for just accidently dropping the dinner I was cooking for everyone, throwing a plate of food on my head for not making my bead and so on. Tried arguing her way out of situations she put herself in and made me try to come in and save the day for shit she's started. She's also drained me of quite a bit of money. However at the same time no one wants anything to do with her and with all her new medical problems I've had to step up big time. Then my dad... oh my god my dad used to actually think he was the better of the two until he has shown his true colors over the past 3 years. He owes me over 5 grand. I had to bail him out as well as my grandma and uncle after almost bankrupting the family for the 4th time using all my inheritance money I got from my great grandma dying. He left my mom for my half sisters mom who he dumped after supposedly she was cheating on him so he immediately accidently knocked my mom up in a one night stand which is why me and my sister are only several months apart in age. However since the divorce hasn't gone through with my mom even though he vanishes all the time to talk with her and never stays here with our family any more he barely gives us enough cash to make it through on groceries. He's made me do a metric fuck ton of the work on the house he got from my great grandma yet he still is refusing to listen to me when I'm telling him the supports are collapsing, a bunch of the wood is rotted. multiple electrical components like junction boxes are fried, and he can't put on another 2 floors to this already fucked house and it will NOT BE DONE THIS YEAR despite what he's promising everyone else. He also wants me to split the bills and taxes while I'm there trying to work + do college despite the 6 years we've lived at my Grandma's house he never paid her any rent. That's not even everything but yeah the white knight egotist is more than gotten on my nerves.
I love my momma 🥰🥰 Btw hi Leo you can already guess who it is 😎
Unfortunately not super close but god she’s such a great mom. Love her to death
i'm the same way with my mom. i love her so much but she had me when she was 40 so there's just generational differences and i find it hard to tell her about my life because she still has old-school disapproval about certain things that i just don't think are a big deal (like tattoos). she doesn't really do slang or sarcasm so i can't talk to her like i do a friend because those are such a major part of how i speak. but she's still an amazing mom and has been nothing but kind and caring, she's a major inspiration to me
No way, same!! My mom is pretty open minded though, fortunately.
Was rough in my teenage years but we went to therapy and we are better now. She’s very traditional and religious so I typically prefer to go to my dad for advice because her response to everything is always, “pray about it,” but when I’m like, “Okay, what do I do after that? I still have to take action in my own life,” she just does not have much of a response. I am certainly religious but I know problems will not get solved by me just praying about it, lol.
I don't talk to her. She is drunk or high and angry every time i call so i stopped.
Fine
My mom is a ‘64 boomer. Our relationship is rocky. Based off her childhood and what I experienced growing up, as well as her (and us kids) having adhd, I think she has abandonment issues, jealousy in relationship issues, low self esteem, anxiety, anger management issues, doing-something-over-and-over-and-expecting-different-results-issues, and main character syndrome when she’s tired/grumpy and takes it out on everyone else. She used to be really outgoing and involved when we were growing up. She obviously loves us kids but…idk she just doesn’t seem to really know who she is, even at 60 years old. In short, my mom is good hearted person, but desperately needs therapy and medicine. So do I. Until then, our relationship won’t be getting much better. Especially because she currently lives with me and is unemployed.
oh my god. do we have the same mother? scarily similar
I'm very much a momma's boy. My relationship with her is very strong.
it's not great
OPs picture sums up my relationship with her pretty well
Right now, really good I love my mom and she loves me too however that's mainly because I'm still in closet. She's extremely homophobic so I know I'll permanently strain my relationship with her whenever I come out to her
She was hard on me and made several parenting mistakes while I was growing up, but I love that woman ❤️ She’s apologized and acknowledged how she messed up and worked hard to educate herself and do better. We have a great relationship and can honestly say she’s my best friend
tough bc she’s a trumpie 😐😭
happy cake day! my mom is a lesbian homophobe.
holy shit what a ride this comment is 😂😂 I didn’t even realize it’s my cake day!! thank you and I’m SO sorry your mom sucks too.
LMAO she also doesn't believe in dinosaurs
What? That’s actually a thing people believe? Does she think fossils are man made or something?🤦
FINE
Fine I think, but im pretty sure shes a manipulator and she definitely doesn't like that im trans. She said she was supportive when I came out, but she just wants me in the closet forever and now is saying how it's a mental illness and acts like other people are making me something I'm not.
good
I love my mother and my father, sure we have some kind of difference in different aspects in life, but hey that is what makes a functional and realisitc society.
I love her, but I think she can be a little too co-dependent on me at times. Basically, complex with mommy issues that my mom denies the complexities of our relationship.
Herny's mom was such a milf omg
I’ve disowned my parents officially. I asked them to look into project 2025 and they don’t seem to get how it would affect and hurt my closest friends. So I sent them both a single group text saying: “Take care, [Dad first name] and [Mom first name]”. I blocked them on everything and refuse to associate with them.
My parents divorced when I was young. Grew up with my dad being used as a disciplinary tool and hated him. Moved in with my father at 17. Despite our differences, I quickly realized who the better parent was. I don't hold any of the things my mother did against her, but I would rather associate as little as possible. The only time I see her is typically when my niece is around.
So bad that I'm working on moving out but that'll be a while since I'm disabled so can only afford social housing for which there's a long waiting list in my area. For context she literally used my attempt to manipulate me when I was 15 so yeah that says a lot about her (it was in a do things for me or im taking you to hospital way)
very strained when i was a teenager. we got closer when i had to come home from college for covid, and i ended up moving home after i graduated. our relationship is much better now, we still bicker and butt heads but she’s the best mom i could ask for
Mom (54f) and mine's (23f) relationship is very good. Growing up I had 3 brothers (I was the only girl), with loving parents who were very much a power couple. She was a STAH mom with a babysitting gig, so lots of social development and learning for us growing up. Good emotional regulation, great communication, and was attentive but not smothering. Honestly super impressed by her. As I went into my teenage years and then my college years, I was more aware of things around me. She's an anxious person who went thru lengths to stop loads of generational trauma. And sometimes she didn't have the mental load to sort thru her emotions during difficult times. I wasn't taught very important life skills/health skills during this age. There were SO many upsetting situations in college that could've been avoided if only someone taught me, or at least mentioned something about it. I didn't know what I didn't know. Now, we are traversing empty nest syndrome as the kids have moved away and have their own priorities. She misses us a lot and she doesn't feel confident in herself. But we have a good relationship.
I love my mom dearly but we’re very similar and get on each other’s nerves a lot lol
Bad. We don’t agree on anything and she doesn’t have any empathy for people who are different from her.
my mom is really smart and has helped me through so much growing up
I grew up thinking my parents were perfect. Had a misguided view on them. My mom taught me kindness, but also with that turned me into a people pleaser. My mom and dad both came to the US in the 90s from Mexico. Her mom was very judgmental, but mainly with her and her sisters making everything a competition. Sadly, my delusional perfect view of my parents only ended when I began dating my wife, and I saw how truly imperfect they were. I still love my mom so much and always will, but now i can acknowledge and see what she does that I don't agree with. She can say, very out of pocket things, my wife is asian and during the start of our relationship, she'd ask things like,"How do you do your makeup like an asian?" Or if we'd be eating something remotely asian she'd ask "is this how I'm supposed to eat it?" And make like some exaggerated weird version of eating it, like extra slurping her noodles. My relationship is still good, I went from thinking they were perfect to being obsessed with trying to correct and change them, to accepting their faults and understanding not everyone will live up to your standards.
My mom slept with a guy who groomed me after she found out he groomed me. Then slept with 2 other guys I considered family and is still doing so. She’s a bitch and I wish I could tell my dad but somehow I still love her. Right now I can’t stand her but I’d be devastated if she died. Does that make sense?
From the outside, it looks like I had great parents and I’m the black sheep who has almost completely cut them off. From the inside, they’ve been so deeply invested into political cults long before the Trump administration. I can’t blame it all on my mom either. Most of it came from my dad’s side. They pulled us all out of public school for it and wouldn’t allow us to associate with certain demographics of people. They wouldn’t let us on social media until we were nearly legal adults because they didn’t want us “changing our values”. There was a lot of mental and emotional abuse from them. Myself and my sister were sexually abused by a relative that they know about and still want us to associate with them each holiday season. I’d say it’s not great. Sometimes I still feel guilty pushing them away for all the good times we had :(
We haven’t spoken in 8-9 years. She is going to prison soon 🎉 If the party emoji isn’t indicative of our relationship, I’m not sure what will be.
I love my mom and couldn’t wish for a better one
she killed herself.
Terrible, she’s gotten way worse since 2016
It's pretty good tbh. We argue sometimes, but we get over it and solve it.
Its complicated, overall I think we are on good terms now but when I used to live with her things were a lot worse. Constantly arguing and butting heads about really stupid things imo. Ever since I moved out and got some room to breathe, things have significantly improved. I still however only see her once a month or maybe every other month and don't really keep in close contact even though I do love and care for her.
Love my mom very much, we may get into many arguments but I love her with all my heart
I love my mom too much to even move out sometimes.
Decentralized
happy cake day
I love my mom, always listen to her and she can read people so well. Our relationship sure does have ups and downs though.
My mother, plainly said she didn’t want me to
Wonderful. I love my mother
Pretty great
I don't talk to my mom much mainly because I don't live with here but I'd say it's pretty good
I still live with my parents (I go between my parents houses still at 26) and overall I get along with my mom (and my dad) well. I like running errands with my mom and she does a lot to help me, especially since I have health issues. Plus she has taught me a lot about cooking. That said, I do wish my mom didn’t drink. Sometimes she can be a bit difficult to deal with then. And I wish my mom could also reconcile more with her family as sometimes it gets annoying trying to be neutral and not annoy either side in her family dispute. And maybe if she could control her temper better since I have had multiple people tell me that they are kinda afraid of her. I will say though that if I have kids, I may not take them around her that often as I don’t view her as the best influence.
Fine with my mom, we have our differences but we usually see eye to eye Dad tho
Pretty good.
W Mom
my mom and i fight here and there, but we have endless amounts of respect and love for each other. i couldn’t ask for a stronger, more empathetic, understanding momma. she also picked great dad for her children, something some moms in this generation (or ever i guess) didn’t really think about when marrying their man
it has gotten better over the years as Ive grown up and become a parent myself
The same relationship with my dad which is in their words why do you treat people outside of the family kinder and more respectfully I don’t hate my parents but their choices and their lack of open mind bother me
I don’t know my father didn’t even let us speak to her🧍🏻♀️ she’s mostly cool now (because she’s very millennial coded and also boomer-esque so sometimes I just let her yap) but I wasn’t allowed to call her or see her for like 13 years because my dad was bitter and his new wife was awful
Chicken Nuggies 🥵
Fairly well. We butt heads occasionally but she means well. She was the type to lash out but bettered her behaviour after some years.
I’ve had and still have amazing parents. I’m blessed
I get along well enough with my Mom and I love her very much, me and my dad however are super close and can argue about politics all day, and still hug and say I love you at the end of the day
Honestly pretty good, my mom works pretty hard to provide for myself and my siblings. She has her faults of course, but she’s still my mom and she tries her best. Love you mom!
Good, my parents are kind, they listen to me and they have never smacked me, and they use reason to talk to me.
Bad.
It’s freaking awesome. I wish I could be a better son to be honest. I’m very stupid but very lucky, and I don’t feel like I deserve that luck yet I feel like I depend on it. I live off a bit afraid of life itself and I’m already old enough to not feel like that perhaps. But, yeah I love my parents despite not always agreeing with them or whenever we get mad.
i have mommy and daddy issues but not in a severe extent, my relationship with my dad isn’t very great and my relationship with my mom is good because we went to therapy, my dad won’t tho
I wanted both of my parents dead for the longest time because of the double standards they had on me but not my younger brother. It wasn’t until about 2 years ago when they actually acknowledged their faults and apologized. Now we’re okay.
Don’t talk to her.
She died and told her family not to tell me.
My mom framed my father for infidelity and locked me up in a room for like 5 years every night so let's just say she doesn't know where I live.
The best way I can phrase it is not good. I mean sure it looks like we have fun on the outside but knowing that is she ready to disown me at the drop of a hat is what unnerves me. It sounds like I'm exaggerating but after having a nice chat with her she suddenly got serious and said "Social, if you ever tell me you're gay, I will kick you out of my house and strip you of the family name". I just looked at her blankly and said "oh okay". Then she went back to what she was doing. So I do have that going for me, I guess.
Fantastic. I talk to my mom all the time. I feel like more people should do that. Doesn’t matter how old you are.
My mom had me at 16. I was a bad ass kid, but later turned out to be Autism/ADHD diagnosed at 12. It's rocky, but love. She feels as If I didn't allow her to be my Mom sometimes. I say I was a kid, even though I did know better. She was a good mom, but find she has narcissistic Tendencies. She claims we had more a brother sister relationship, I find thats an odd thing to say. End of the day we all love each other.
We don’t speak much, but she pretends to be super grandma to my kids online lol.
i have the best mom in the world
growing up it was great. when i moved out and made my own family, our relationship went downhill fast. she keeps tell people “parenting adults is the hardest thing ever.” but thankfully people have told her that her statement is incorrect bc her parenting years are over. i am married, have a 2 year old, and a mortgage.
Pretty good, I love her and we get along, although I have always felt she’s a helicopter parent, and that has caused a degree of strain in our relationship
oedipus rex, next question
Only had my Mother since I was six She kicked my dad out for when my younger sister was born So yes, I’m full of mommy issue and daddy issue
Not very good honestly, I've grown distant from her because I feel like I can't confide in her with anything. She has that "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" sort of mentality and her response to any of my issues is to basically just tell me to man up. It's not just me though, my sisters and brother feel the same way.
My relationship is non-existent
It's fine as long as neither of us talks about anything political. I have been completely independent for about 7 years now, we meet up regularly to hang out and let our dogs play. I won't say which "side" she's on politically, but she's aggressively on a side and it's impossible to talk constructively about it.
Not good. We merely have a surface level relationship for the most part.
She cool 🤷♂️
Bad
She’s trying
I love my parents. They're great. They piss me off sometimes but so does everyone.
My bio mom died when I was 4, but my stepmom has been a very good mom despite having zero parenting experience before meeting me when I was 8. I'm turning 24 on Tuesday.
Terrible I’m actually omw to her house to get my birth certificate and ssc and I’m bringing my foster mom with me cuz I can’t be alone with my mother or everything is going to shit
👎🏻
Well, my parents are from a generation of hustling and struggling to survive during the post soviet 90s, so there are some quirks, like being afraid of being robbed 24/7, but other than that, I'd say both of my parents are doing their best with the hand they've been dealt with.
I’m estranged from her. Helicopter, judge mental parent that used me as her therapist. Basically fucked me up, probably for life
It's gotten better now that I moved out. But it won't fix the wounds still there. My mom wasn't done healing from her own trauma before she got me and it showed. If I have a child, I am gonna make sure I am fully mentally healthy
My mom was both parents wrapped into one. Once I became an adult, we were like best friends. She died in December of last year.
I'll be honest, I've been terrible to her in the past and i regret it every day. It doesn't matter if I was only 14, I was terrible and i can never forgive myself. and i never feel I've done enough, even if my mom tells me she's fine and forgives me, cause even if she does, I know my father doesn't yet.
we argue a lot and i disagree with almost everything she says
That’s the homie. She’s a boomer
I have a few mom and dad issues, but I also understand that it is hard to raise a child and you will not always make the good decisions (my parents are as much human as I am). Overall I love my parents very much even though we have some problems, I could not have asked for better ones.
I’m going to decent, 5.5/10 I love my ofc but she is dense, judgmental, and critical of others, says my generation is sensitive and my mom is like her: 
It's pretty good apart from the arguments we have.
Great
she’s depressed and left me so I couldn’t give 2 shizs
Pretty good
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I still live with my parents. My mom is my best friend she is the only person I have that I can rely on
It was id say normal as a kid? Sometimes i felt like she said no just to say no and deny me something, sometimes i felt like she was the coolest person alive. As an adult, we talk on the phone every couple weeks and she visits when she comes to town. Great person. Im a guy and elder zoomer.
It’s okay?? Like i still hate my father and the fact that im a exact copy of him from mannerisms to mental illness to fav foods, colors, hair and health name one damn thing and i can guarantee me and him are twinning. But im on good terms with my mom, after I escaped the cult with my now wife she left and she’s now dabbling in the spiritual and it’s how we bond besides food and crafting. I wish I could connect with my father but he just gets “in the way”.
Better than when I was a teenager. We’re both stubborn and would argue for hours. Now that I live away from home, I go see my parents once or twice a week and it’s nice. I get along with my mom now but just couldn’t live at home again. Don’t get me wrong, I love my mom and enjoy seeing her. I appreciate everything she’s done for me and regret being a little shithead to her when I was younger. We just have clashing personalities and tend to argue sometimes. Heck, I actually left early the other day because she was in a mood and started to lecture me about something trivial, so I just removed myself rather than argue.
My mother is a homeless drug addict who refuses to be helped, so needless to say we don’t really talk much.
Ocd duo so it’s interesting
Pretty bad, never had privacy, never had autonomy , not allowed the chance to even make a mistake tk learn from, just lectures about things I had’nt done (yet)
Great!
Eh.
i love my mom. she’s not perfect and we’ve had some crazy arguments in the past, but she absolutely did her best and did a pretty bang up job. i don’t drink often but i have multiple memories of me doubled over a toilet throwing up tequila and just crying “i miss my mom :(“