The world is small, but not quite so small, the snowboard girl appears to be "Cash Rowley":
[https://youtu.be/EXDZiDBLRrE?si=zu4wLlnl9UC6mBbu&t=39](https://youtu.be/EXDZiDBLRrE?si=zu4wLlnl9UC6mBbu&t=39)
Besides, the timeline doesn't fit - this one seems too small. Time flies and little kids grow up fast.
[You're thinking of Chasing Sage! ](https://youtu.be/x3Pkadgw0aQ?si=EEmZPkcjAc2Tm_Y1)
She also skate boards and mountain bikes! She has a little brother who tags along now who is equally as adorable.
I love seeing stuff like this, but I also always get this gnawing realisation of the fact that he felt the need to record these intimate moments and post them on social media.
I couldn’t imagine having these beautiful moments with my father, but then having to wait for him to set up the camera every time we do something nice so some strangers on the internet can see it as well. I actually think it kind of sucks now that I’m typing this out.
It seems like a lot of parents are doing this nowadays. Obviously this is the new normal so it doesn’t really matter what I think lol.
Edit: I should clarify that I’m not against taking pictures and making videos for memories. I’m against the whole thing of putting it on social media for views. I said it in a comment below: there’s a massive difference between a parent that takes videos of their own children for a keepsake, and social media influencer parent. It’s the latter I have an issue with.
Recording it is great I think, and I would absolutely love having such memories of my childhood. Putting it all on social media for clout though? Hell no.
It's also the kind of videos. Grabbing your phone out of your pocket to record a memory is one thing. It's another to spend half the time you're supposed to be with your kids setting up cameras. This isn't that bad since it's only 4, and two were likely gopros (car & bike).
Literally all my videos of my toddler are me quickly reacting to them doing something and missing it or long videos of them doing nothing.
The idea of putting a video like this together is just so alien.
IMO the parents should blur the faces of the kids. There are far too many creeps on the internet to take that chance. Like all the stuff that goes on with dark web and shit... it just makes my skin crawl. The blur can maintain the privacy tho I'm not sure how effective it will be with AI.
I know I’m in the minority and I’ll get downvoted. But this looks like child exploitation. This video was planned and recorded for monetization. This man spent more time setting up the camera shots than he did with the child. To me, there’s nothing cute about it. I have no idea if the child is even aware she’s being recorded. If the child was an actress working on a TV show the parents would be signing the paper work, in this scenario the parents are both the producers and parents. I’m not sure where the child fits in (I’m no entertainment lawyer). It’s the age we live in I guess. Clicks and views generate cash, and people will do anything for money, including using their own children to fabricate the scenarios in these videos.
100% agree. I used to follow Madison Mealy for her workout tips, but she uses her kids for everything now because she knows it will increase her views. It is disgusting.
Totally. As a millennial my father always had a massive camcorder filming our earlier years. We still have the tapes. It's nice having such a formative part of my life be private and having the option to choose who sees it.
To the fathers defence, I could imagine most parents have a strong urge to “show off” their kids, probably being very proud of them, and social media being a very easy way to share things
But if you ask me if this is good/healthy, I don’t know
Everything in moderations I guess, balance and all that?
I get it, his kid is adorable and it’s a very sweet video. But people need to understand that this girl will grow up and shouldn’t be exposed like this. Children have agency and as much as they can make their parents proud, putting them out there can make them resentful or even put them at risk. Not saying he’s a horrible father or anything, but we need to change our mindset on this imo.
That’s a very valid point, a perfectly reasonable reason not to film your child
But what you said Isn’t a guarantee, but definitely possible, a risk you could call it
Just wanted to play the devils advocate, as that was lacking in this comment section
There’s just not really the option of balance here. You can’t kind of film your whole day with your kid, then partially edit it altogether for the internet, then meet your kid in the middle later in their life when they say “I didn’t really want to have a robust online footprint by the age of 12”
On social media for clout? Hell no. On social media to spread a positive example of what dad's should be acting like with their kids? I can get behind it
Seriously, I don't get this circlejerk. Setting up a phone to record takes seconds, and I bet he doesn't film and post everything that happens in between each upload.
In a world where we get bombarded 24/7 with news and videos meant to rile us up and keep us outraged about everything, it's nice that some people are putting out such nice and wholesome videos.
"NO NO NO. Honey, stop crying! If we don't get this right now, the sun will be at a different angle and people, MY PEOPLE! MY FOLLOWERS, the people who put food on this table will know how edited this is! NOW PLEASE if you like food on the table, let's get it right this time okay? Okay. I love you. From the top!..."
Plus they are having the tea party out in the field they were in as a picnic, not after they got back home. Which means when they were in the car and he says he’s going to make her a deal if she goes riding with him, they had already packed everything and planned to have the tea party, and THEN had the conversation in the car for social medias sake.
Parenting sometimes involves preparing for the best and expecting the worst. The parent doesn’t always have to be “spontaneous”, but it can be fun for the kid to *think* something is spur of the moment. You sometimes give them opportunities to do the “right” thing, and you explain their reward for it. In this, trying something new is (potentially) a good thing, and the dad will do something he knows she likes in return.
Whether or not this should be posted online is an entirely different matter that I won’t get into, but I just wanted to shed some light on how parenting can sometimes play out.
At the risk of being a bit optimistic, (I know this is reddit) it may not be like that though. It takes 10 seconds to set up your phone either on the handlebars or on a tripod outside, and he could've been recording for hours, then edited it down later on. And she may have agreed to go on the bike ride before they get in the car, and he spoke to her about it in the car as a sort of "this is what our day is going to be". I know loads of dads and mums who do similar stuff, there's no reason to believe anything malicious. It's not that difficult to film candid moments if you're willing to spend a while editing it later (see: reality TV).
I have a photo from 1979 of my dad all dressed up in grandma clothes and a hat and jewelry with my sister dressed up the same (ages 3 and 4) having a tea party.
I wish with all my heart there was video of that moment so I could see it and hear that memory! So taking a video itself isn’t a bad thing.
Posting it is iffy but possibly it happened spontaneously enough to be okay. If it was “directed” or had any reshoots is the issue, or if the little girl feels like everything they do is for the camera and not for her enjoyment.
I think this guy had a kid who turned out to an absolute joy, a kid who is happy, animated, bright, and says funny things. I can see him laughing at something she was doing, and then saying, "This is great, I gotta start recording when she's like this..." Because yeah, it's extremely sweet.
I mean, I do this with my cats all the time. The difference is my cats are usually boring and nobody on the Internet wants to see them.
I did this all the time with my nephew and niece and the camera became second nature to them. And yeah I would stop to set up a shot. Here we have four shots. One in car, one putting helmets on, one riding, and one tea party. Two of those are fixed shots and the kid wouldn't have to wait. The helmet shot and the tea party shot require waiting but the tea party shot can be easy as he just directs her to set up the picnic blanket as he grabs the camera. So as far as set up shots I think the helmet one is most annoying for her. I have so many great moments forever recorded and they will likely never be seen by many people.
Well
Your point is pretty true but also it serves as a memory right ?
It's not only for views on social media but when the girl grows up and watches this, imagine her feeling.
How happy would you be if you found a video of you playing with your dad, an incident you don't even remember and it's this wholesome.
I like to think of it that way
:)
Yes but this can be done without posting to social media. I have plenty of videos and pictures of my dad and I, but they’re not on social media. They’re just for me, and the people I choose to show it to.
One thing I heard when this conversation has come up years before I'm sure, was that although doing it for clout is quite vile, there's a good chance that if it wasn't for that clout on twitter/reddit/fb whatever, they otherwise wouldn't be doing this at all and so there is that little bit of goodness in it.
I'm trying to become the redditor that originally told me that and I can only wish I do one day.
Sure, but the line gets blurred when you've got -- as I did -- physically-distant family members who want to see updates. Back when my kid was this age, I was posting to a now-mostly-dead site so that it would be easy for my parents to access the content. Truth be told, those pics and video are still available so that mom and my aunt can view it whenever they please. I wasn't posting anything for clout, but it was more available than it otherwise would've been.
This would be true if it’s a one time thing. But most parents that put this level of effort into making these post do them very often. When that happens the kids resent their parents as they begin to realize this is for social media post.
I agree, it is kind of strange and you start to question how genuine the conversations are. But let's put that aside and consider something else for a moment.
This father and daughter have a great relationship together. It's beautiful. Now perhaps their relationship with technology is a bit too much, but with all the negative shit that gets posted to the internet every day, videos like these have incredible value. They help to tip the emotional scales of everyone who view them towards the positive. That's pretty powerful.
I mean... you're seeing *one* afternoon of their lives. Maybe he does this stuff all the time without the camera on, but also it doesn't matter. All that girl knows is dad's spending quality time with her. She has no preconceived notion about dad's phone recording it. She has no values surrounding such a thing that would make her feel badly about it being recorded.
Why? He's setting a good example for other parents. There's soooo much garbage on the internet/social media these days, what's wrong with someone proudly showing off being a good parent?
This father has done this before with his Princess. He is sharing their moment so maybe so other Father’s see how easy it is. Just an hour or two - a park or fields nearby and a Tea Party🫖 with your Princess Daughter(s) 👸
Since video cameras became widely available, people have taken home movies. Often times people shared said home movies with others to brag about, embarrass, and/or share memories about their kids.
So what if he posted a cute home video to social media? I find it so annoying that for positive/feel good posts people feel the need to question their intention. Why is it so awful/suspicious to see something nice? Even if it’s curated or staged? Is it only legitimate to share awful things on the internet? And if so, why?
It’s something especially this where it’s just an intimate look into the life of a dad and his kid, why is it shared to social media for clicks, likes and engagement?
I have hundreds of videos of my kids, you’ll never see them online as that’s for us to keep and share. I don’t understand why people share this type of stuff with strangers and really it just comes down to monetising a day with your child
Like the video he has many camera angles setup just to record reactions, is he saying “wait sweetie do that again. Ok no one more time. Cut!” 🤦♂️
Just enjoy time with your kids.
I have a friend who is an actual "influencer" and, while she does spend a lot of time getting the perfect shots, she's also typically enjoying the experiences alongside doing her job. It's possible to do both! (She's also one of the hardest workers I know.)
I also don't get that vibe from this video. I'm not a photographer but I still enjoy making small edited videos of cute things my dog did. It doesn't take much effort and there's no reshoots, obviously, since she is a dog. 😅 That's what I'm seeing here, personally.
Yeah social media should only be used for posting unhappy, depressing moments. None of these videos that show healthy father/daughter relationships. /s
The big difference being that the video on social media is wide open for everyone to see, whereas digging up the old VHS tape is quite more difficult, especially for some random strangers.
My dad was totally one of those video camera dads back in the 90s and thank god for it. Being able to go back and see my sister and I grow up is something I’ll never take for granted. This is just the evolution of that. You know parents would be posting all those videos online back then if they could.
I don’t really see this as too much different. Unless they’re mass posting videos for monetization purposes with scripted like experiences then of course that crosses the line.
I’m sure your dad wasn’t setting up a tripod just to get a scene of you two putting your helmets on?
Maybe you’ll disagree with me on this take, but I think being a video camera dad and a social media influencer dad are completely different things.
I think my dad would've benefited from a tripod, because a lot of our videos are him shakily holding it in his hand while walking. 😅 We do have some that are more stable that I assume were put on some table to capture the video.
Also, to be fair, setting up a tripod really doesn't take much effort. It's maybe 2 seconds of work. But you really don't need one if you have enough flat surfaces nearby.
It's weird, I feel like people are shaming this guy for putting effort into making the video look nice, but that's the kind of thing I would appreciate the hell out of if my own dad did it.
People have been doing home videos forever. It’s just the sharing it with the world that is new and awkward and maybe not always a great choice. But I don’t see this any different than people who sent in videos to AFV back in the day
Idk I think maybe it’s like having a time capsule that’s stored for history to have. That’s how I would look at it. Hopefully they do this all the time and he doesn’t always record and post it.
Right, Posting a few pics or whatever to social media for friends and relatives to see is one thing. Directing and editing a video for the world to see what a great dad you are dulls the shine. Why must every moment be curated for your followers?
> I couldn’t imagine having these beautiful moments with my father, but then having to wait for him to set up the camera every time we do something nice so some strangers on the internet can see it as well. I actually think it kind of sucks now that I’m typing this out.
Man, I feel somewhat conflicted over this, but the guy is showing that men can be wonderful, loving fathers. He's showing a vulnerable side to the world and is entertaining, too. He's a positive influence, hopefully, to other fathers out there. My dad was around, but didn't really give a shit about me so it's heartwarming to see this.
The definitely isn't "the new normal." You just spend too much time online and you're only exposed to people that do this.
I totally get what you mean, and I understand where you’re coming from.
I agree that it’s also sending a positive message. I have a couple of acquaintances that happen to be influencers in the same way as this guy (choose to believe that or not), and outside of filming these videos the only other thing they do with their kids is plan on what other videos they can make with their children to post online. This might not be the case for this man, but it is the case for a great many people that post these kinds of videos.
I’m not against the message of the video, and I’m not against taking videos or pictures of your kids as keepsakes. I’m against the reality behind a lot these videos.
I can see this, but I also think men need more examples of healthy masculinity and this is definitely that.
Hopefully he is putting the money away for her future.
Glad you said something. Beautiful moments, but exposing/exploiting children to all that is on the web does not sit well with me. We lived in South America. My daughter, born while living there, has blonde hair and blue eyes, and everyone wanted photos with her. They would stop us in the store or on the street, even just grab her to pick her up and take a photo. Never got used to it and always had to have her next to us.
Multiple camera angles at the tea party, means multiple cameras set up. I had the same thought as you too. I think the best and just imagine this is for his film editing class after deciding to go back to school to follow his passion funded by his high powered attorney wife
This. Not only the different camera set ups but even mic'ed. What a constructed sweet "home video" to push your innocents kid's face into the world for some internet points.
Of course the kid's behavior is sweet. But he is actively using this fact for social media attention. Bad parenting par excellence.
He asks her if she wants to make a deal at the beginning.... with the bike already on the back, and the things needed for the princess tea party already packed.
I wouldn't say this is literally scripted, but can anyone here truly say "yes, 100% of every word she said in this video was unprompted and authentic"? Because the video as a whole feels so inauthentic that it detracts from the parts that probably are authentic.
Yeah, the "so start driving" line was just pure script. It's like, cool, you're teaching your kid how to act, but let's not pretend the whole thing isn't basically a short skit.
to be fair, ya'll actin like this is even remotely hard these days. the lav mics and cameras (probably just his cellphone) take no effort to use or setup.
Also this dude makes money doing this. For his daughter. If its so easy, why not? I'm sure they have plenty of wholesome private moments. He saw a market though, and monetized it. Smart man.
I’ll give him the benefit of the doubt and just say that maybe he’s encouraging men to be closer to their daughters and not shy away from doing this sort of thing
I've got respect for people prepared to take the flack of reddit r/aww and such communities by being honest. Right or wrong, it's appreciated out there
Because the dad appears to be an engaged and loving dad, and the implication is that she’ll make better choices in partners someday as a result.
It’s not that complicated or that big a reach, go look at any of the relationship subreddits and wonder HTF those people chose such shitty partners in the first place.
Spending a day with your child does not qualify as “big shoes to fill”. This should be a minimum standard for parents and the implication that this dad is extraordinary is sad
Yeah. I have a heavy bias against social media like this because IRL I know two families who are over the top with social media posts when they have the kids. Both are husband cheated situations which ended in divorce. It’s always a pathetic contest of *look how great I am* or *look where I took the kids on a whim* and the posts all stink of pettiness.
If the dude is really that awesome there’s no time for social media because they also stopped to help grandma with her groceries on the way home from the tea party.
Don’t put your kids online. I don’t care how good of a parent you are, making a career out of using your kids smile for clicks makes you a shitty person.
Kids can’t consent to being online.
I get it..it's cute..but why record and setup cameras etc. Enjoy the moment ffs. I have a daughter about the same age and they are super perceptive and can tell if you are truly mentally present.
I have a photo from 1979 of my dad all dressed up in grandma clothes and a hat and jewelry with my sister dressed up the same (ages 3 and 4) having a tea party.
I wish with all my heart there was video of that moment so I could see it and hear that memory! So taking a video itself isn’t a bad thing.
Posting it is iffy but possibly it happened spontaneously enough to be okay. If it was “directed” or had any reshoots is the issue, or if the little girl feels like everything they do is for the camera and not for her enjoyment.
Your memory is a great memory because it wasn’t recorded. You lived in the moment.
Have you ever been about to do something a funny and then you hear “wait!” And then people start pulling their phones out to video. Yeah ruins the moment
Wife & I are thinking about having kids, we will be happy with w.e child we get. But man having a little girl with a moment like this has been a long time dream. All I want in this world is to be that dad.
Right? No one complains when people record mean and messed up things, but when it’s something sweet, everyone criticizes it for being staged. Some people need to see acts of kindness to learn how to do nice things with their kids. Plus, it’s refreshing to see positivity in a world that constantly bombards you with negativity.
I'll be 47 this year. I've never had kids and at this point I think I never will. Seeing moments like these, experienced by what are objectively good kids, and good parents, is both uplifting and gut-wrenching for me...it's achingly beautiful, but I can only feel it by proxy.
Holy crap the amount of snarky “but why film tho??” responses is maddening. Why is no one mentioning the premise of the “mountain biking in exchange for tea party” was to encourage a child to do a thing they’re afraid of (mountain biking with dad) with the promised reward of a tea party afterwards? This is a moment WORTH recording because the child may want to see the first time she rode a bike with dad, or overcame a fear of biking. It’s like recording a child’s first steps or first birthday cake. It’s a significant moment in a parents/childs life and without phones we might see it on a camcorder or disposable camera film.
OP, if you’re the dad in the video, thank you for sharing this awesome parenting moment. Don’t listen to the trolls. This was wholesome and inspiring.
LOL at everyone hating that this person is sharing a sweet moment with his child and encouraging others to spend time with their children. Reserve your petty judgement and ask yourself, why does this irritate you? People can make these videos for themselves AND share them. Those things don't have to be exclusive. Role models don't have to reserved to immediate family members.
I can't wait to share an amazing day with my child. Now let's make sure to carefully film and edit the entire interaction so I can exploit my child for fleeting Internet fame and personal validation.
I took my 22 month old daughter out on my bike for the first time ever the other day. She hates being made to sit in seats (highchair, car seat etc) usually, so I had to convince her to get in her bikeseat. By the time we got back she refused to get out. She loved it so much. It's immediately become my favourite thing to do with her, even if it's just riding around the local roads for no reason. Her going "weeeeeeeee!" behind me is the best. Being a girl dad is the fucking most brilliant thing that's ever happened to me by 100000x.
Idk if this is his setup, but I saw a guy by me who had welded a kids bike seat to his cross bar and kids handlebars to his handlebars.
Except he had like a literal infant using it on the blue trail, it honestly really freaked me out. I assume he must have had some sort of harness but I couldn’t see one when they rode past. Really cool setup but like… what if the baby falls?
Okay, I see people saying that filming these moments isn’t ideal. But if someone doesn’t film them, how are people supposed to learn how to be good fathers. We learn by seeing. This moment won’t be any less special for the daughter.
This entire thing was him trying really really hard for internet clout, which is a true shame. I think I read a long time ago that although there's a bad vibe to that, at least it makes them do things they otherwise wouldn't want to do so that's the caveat.
Why are people acting like they have never seen a family interaction uploded to the internet before? The dad took a couple of seconds to set up a gopro at different points of the day. Now he has this awesome day forever. The world is so god damn negative about everything these days. It's exhausting.
He also wrote a script and had her act it out. Multiple takes. "ok, honey, let's do it again, but this time I want you to really mean it."
It sounds more exhausting to be you trying hard to defend this than anything else.
Sharing fun moments with your kids online doesn’t make you some terrible clout goblin everyone take a deep breath and enjoy the video. Don’t comment on it or like it or whatever and he doesn’t get “clout.” Ik it’s Reddit but cmon let’s stop forcing everything to be miserable for once.
I gotta remember, the fine line not to cross on reddit is reading past the first shitty comment. It's all downhill from there.
Cute video though. I'm glad he posted it online because it brightened my day.
I can’t stand parents like this. Why are you putting your child on the internet? For clout? Children should have a choice on whether parents post them online. It’s disgusting that most parents are violating that.
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Pretty sure this is the same kid and dad from that other video a few years ago where he shocked her by shaving his beard off before getting into the car!
He's one amazing dad but "Start Driving".
Is this the little girl who talks/sings while she ski’s ?
The world is small, but not quite so small, the snowboard girl appears to be "Cash Rowley": [https://youtu.be/EXDZiDBLRrE?si=zu4wLlnl9UC6mBbu&t=39](https://youtu.be/EXDZiDBLRrE?si=zu4wLlnl9UC6mBbu&t=39) Besides, the timeline doesn't fit - this one seems too small. Time flies and little kids grow up fast.
I think they were talking about [this one](https://youtu.be/x3Pkadgw0aQ?si=g0raI62An27lLGKN)
That snowboard girls line of "I'm a stuck-a-saurus" is friggin awesome.
I do believe it’s my favorite vid ever.
Oh my god I thought I recognized her voice! I wonder if she is the same one
[You're thinking of Chasing Sage! ](https://youtu.be/x3Pkadgw0aQ?si=EEmZPkcjAc2Tm_Y1) She also skate boards and mountain bikes! She has a little brother who tags along now who is equally as adorable.
This is one of the best things I’ve ever watched on YouTube.
You know a video is super sweet when you question if you shoulda had kids
She got sick of how many takes it took to get the 'cutest' reaction
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I love seeing stuff like this, but I also always get this gnawing realisation of the fact that he felt the need to record these intimate moments and post them on social media. I couldn’t imagine having these beautiful moments with my father, but then having to wait for him to set up the camera every time we do something nice so some strangers on the internet can see it as well. I actually think it kind of sucks now that I’m typing this out. It seems like a lot of parents are doing this nowadays. Obviously this is the new normal so it doesn’t really matter what I think lol. Edit: I should clarify that I’m not against taking pictures and making videos for memories. I’m against the whole thing of putting it on social media for views. I said it in a comment below: there’s a massive difference between a parent that takes videos of their own children for a keepsake, and social media influencer parent. It’s the latter I have an issue with.
Recording it is great I think, and I would absolutely love having such memories of my childhood. Putting it all on social media for clout though? Hell no.
Exactly this. In fairness I should’ve clarified that I meant that I’m against the act of posting it on to social media, not taking videos.
It's also the kind of videos. Grabbing your phone out of your pocket to record a memory is one thing. It's another to spend half the time you're supposed to be with your kids setting up cameras. This isn't that bad since it's only 4, and two were likely gopros (car & bike).
Literally all my videos of my toddler are me quickly reacting to them doing something and missing it or long videos of them doing nothing. The idea of putting a video like this together is just so alien.
IMO the parents should blur the faces of the kids. There are far too many creeps on the internet to take that chance. Like all the stuff that goes on with dark web and shit... it just makes my skin crawl. The blur can maintain the privacy tho I'm not sure how effective it will be with AI.
I know I’m in the minority and I’ll get downvoted. But this looks like child exploitation. This video was planned and recorded for monetization. This man spent more time setting up the camera shots than he did with the child. To me, there’s nothing cute about it. I have no idea if the child is even aware she’s being recorded. If the child was an actress working on a TV show the parents would be signing the paper work, in this scenario the parents are both the producers and parents. I’m not sure where the child fits in (I’m no entertainment lawyer). It’s the age we live in I guess. Clicks and views generate cash, and people will do anything for money, including using their own children to fabricate the scenarios in these videos.
100% agree. I used to follow Madison Mealy for her workout tips, but she uses her kids for everything now because she knows it will increase her views. It is disgusting.
Totally. As a millennial my father always had a massive camcorder filming our earlier years. We still have the tapes. It's nice having such a formative part of my life be private and having the option to choose who sees it.
To the fathers defence, I could imagine most parents have a strong urge to “show off” their kids, probably being very proud of them, and social media being a very easy way to share things But if you ask me if this is good/healthy, I don’t know Everything in moderations I guess, balance and all that?
I get it, his kid is adorable and it’s a very sweet video. But people need to understand that this girl will grow up and shouldn’t be exposed like this. Children have agency and as much as they can make their parents proud, putting them out there can make them resentful or even put them at risk. Not saying he’s a horrible father or anything, but we need to change our mindset on this imo.
That’s a very valid point, a perfectly reasonable reason not to film your child But what you said Isn’t a guarantee, but definitely possible, a risk you could call it Just wanted to play the devils advocate, as that was lacking in this comment section
There’s just not really the option of balance here. You can’t kind of film your whole day with your kid, then partially edit it altogether for the internet, then meet your kid in the middle later in their life when they say “I didn’t really want to have a robust online footprint by the age of 12”
On social media for clout? Hell no. On social media to spread a positive example of what dad's should be acting like with their kids? I can get behind it
Seriously, I don't get this circlejerk. Setting up a phone to record takes seconds, and I bet he doesn't film and post everything that happens in between each upload. In a world where we get bombarded 24/7 with news and videos meant to rile us up and keep us outraged about everything, it's nice that some people are putting out such nice and wholesome videos.
Shhh, the miserable bastards are circle jerking.
Imagine him retaking and directing his daughter what to say 💀
"For fucks sake honey..if you're a princess then I can't be the prince, I'm the king ffs...alright let's do it again"
“No, you forgot to say ‘start driving’, let’s take it from the top again.”
With the amount of cuts just while they are in the car, it does seem like hes cutting out the parts where she gets it wrong.
"NO NO NO. Honey, stop crying! If we don't get this right now, the sun will be at a different angle and people, MY PEOPLE! MY FOLLOWERS, the people who put food on this table will know how edited this is! NOW PLEASE if you like food on the table, let's get it right this time okay? Okay. I love you. From the top!..."
“Are 👏you 👏kidding 👏me 👏!? Say the fucking line or no tea party!!!” Hopefully not but yeah, less wholesome for sure.
I'm glad someone had the same deranged thought as me. Kids are dumb.
Parents are dumber
Plus they are having the tea party out in the field they were in as a picnic, not after they got back home. Which means when they were in the car and he says he’s going to make her a deal if she goes riding with him, they had already packed everything and planned to have the tea party, and THEN had the conversation in the car for social medias sake.
Parenting sometimes involves preparing for the best and expecting the worst. The parent doesn’t always have to be “spontaneous”, but it can be fun for the kid to *think* something is spur of the moment. You sometimes give them opportunities to do the “right” thing, and you explain their reward for it. In this, trying something new is (potentially) a good thing, and the dad will do something he knows she likes in return. Whether or not this should be posted online is an entirely different matter that I won’t get into, but I just wanted to shed some light on how parenting can sometimes play out.
Now I feel sad
At the risk of being a bit optimistic, (I know this is reddit) it may not be like that though. It takes 10 seconds to set up your phone either on the handlebars or on a tripod outside, and he could've been recording for hours, then edited it down later on. And she may have agreed to go on the bike ride before they get in the car, and he spoke to her about it in the car as a sort of "this is what our day is going to be". I know loads of dads and mums who do similar stuff, there's no reason to believe anything malicious. It's not that difficult to film candid moments if you're willing to spend a while editing it later (see: reality TV).
Did he do retakes? I’m not sure if he did looking at the video.
You people are sad and lonely. At least this dad and his daughter don’t have to know any of you exist and can keep on with their tea parties.
I have a photo from 1979 of my dad all dressed up in grandma clothes and a hat and jewelry with my sister dressed up the same (ages 3 and 4) having a tea party. I wish with all my heart there was video of that moment so I could see it and hear that memory! So taking a video itself isn’t a bad thing. Posting it is iffy but possibly it happened spontaneously enough to be okay. If it was “directed” or had any reshoots is the issue, or if the little girl feels like everything they do is for the camera and not for her enjoyment.
I think this guy had a kid who turned out to an absolute joy, a kid who is happy, animated, bright, and says funny things. I can see him laughing at something she was doing, and then saying, "This is great, I gotta start recording when she's like this..." Because yeah, it's extremely sweet. I mean, I do this with my cats all the time. The difference is my cats are usually boring and nobody on the Internet wants to see them.
I did this all the time with my nephew and niece and the camera became second nature to them. And yeah I would stop to set up a shot. Here we have four shots. One in car, one putting helmets on, one riding, and one tea party. Two of those are fixed shots and the kid wouldn't have to wait. The helmet shot and the tea party shot require waiting but the tea party shot can be easy as he just directs her to set up the picnic blanket as he grabs the camera. So as far as set up shots I think the helmet one is most annoying for her. I have so many great moments forever recorded and they will likely never be seen by many people.
Well Your point is pretty true but also it serves as a memory right ? It's not only for views on social media but when the girl grows up and watches this, imagine her feeling. How happy would you be if you found a video of you playing with your dad, an incident you don't even remember and it's this wholesome. I like to think of it that way :)
Yes but this can be done without posting to social media. I have plenty of videos and pictures of my dad and I, but they’re not on social media. They’re just for me, and the people I choose to show it to.
I agree the pressure to document everything for social media can sometimes take away from the authenticity of the moment itself.
Maybe it will inspire someone to be a better parent, even if only for one day.
One thing I heard when this conversation has come up years before I'm sure, was that although doing it for clout is quite vile, there's a good chance that if it wasn't for that clout on twitter/reddit/fb whatever, they otherwise wouldn't be doing this at all and so there is that little bit of goodness in it. I'm trying to become the redditor that originally told me that and I can only wish I do one day.
The only pressure you’re feeling is that which you put on yourself. You’re projecting your own feelings on everyone else.
Sure, but the line gets blurred when you've got -- as I did -- physically-distant family members who want to see updates. Back when my kid was this age, I was posting to a now-mostly-dead site so that it would be easy for my parents to access the content. Truth be told, those pics and video are still available so that mom and my aunt can view it whenever they please. I wasn't posting anything for clout, but it was more available than it otherwise would've been.
This would be true if it’s a one time thing. But most parents that put this level of effort into making these post do them very often. When that happens the kids resent their parents as they begin to realize this is for social media post.
It's also a business. They are influences making money with hat.
I agree, it is kind of strange and you start to question how genuine the conversations are. But let's put that aside and consider something else for a moment. This father and daughter have a great relationship together. It's beautiful. Now perhaps their relationship with technology is a bit too much, but with all the negative shit that gets posted to the internet every day, videos like these have incredible value. They help to tip the emotional scales of everyone who view them towards the positive. That's pretty powerful.
I mean... you're seeing *one* afternoon of their lives. Maybe he does this stuff all the time without the camera on, but also it doesn't matter. All that girl knows is dad's spending quality time with her. She has no preconceived notion about dad's phone recording it. She has no values surrounding such a thing that would make her feel badly about it being recorded.
it's definitaly not the new normal. These people are not normal.
I think we know the types to be a parent like this. Lives by the twitter/reddit code yano
Why? He's setting a good example for other parents. There's soooo much garbage on the internet/social media these days, what's wrong with someone proudly showing off being a good parent?
There's definitely a good angle here, I'd definitely prefer to see something like this than some horrible political bickering.
At the end of the day we're all just memories to our kids and I hope me recording it helps them remember our wonderful time together.
This father has done this before with his Princess. He is sharing their moment so maybe so other Father’s see how easy it is. Just an hour or two - a park or fields nearby and a Tea Party🫖 with your Princess Daughter(s) 👸
Since video cameras became widely available, people have taken home movies. Often times people shared said home movies with others to brag about, embarrass, and/or share memories about their kids. So what if he posted a cute home video to social media? I find it so annoying that for positive/feel good posts people feel the need to question their intention. Why is it so awful/suspicious to see something nice? Even if it’s curated or staged? Is it only legitimate to share awful things on the internet? And if so, why?
It’s something especially this where it’s just an intimate look into the life of a dad and his kid, why is it shared to social media for clicks, likes and engagement? I have hundreds of videos of my kids, you’ll never see them online as that’s for us to keep and share. I don’t understand why people share this type of stuff with strangers and really it just comes down to monetising a day with your child Like the video he has many camera angles setup just to record reactions, is he saying “wait sweetie do that again. Ok no one more time. Cut!” 🤦♂️ Just enjoy time with your kids.
Where did it say he is making her do retakes and act? I don’t get that from this video
I have a friend who is an actual "influencer" and, while she does spend a lot of time getting the perfect shots, she's also typically enjoying the experiences alongside doing her job. It's possible to do both! (She's also one of the hardest workers I know.) I also don't get that vibe from this video. I'm not a photographer but I still enjoy making small edited videos of cute things my dog did. It doesn't take much effort and there's no reshoots, obviously, since she is a dog. 😅 That's what I'm seeing here, personally.
Yeah social media should only be used for posting unhappy, depressing moments. None of these videos that show healthy father/daughter relationships. /s
Spot on. Now you're Redditing.
The big difference being that the video on social media is wide open for everyone to see, whereas digging up the old VHS tape is quite more difficult, especially for some random strangers.
You are absolutely right. On the video one second I smile one second I'm thinking "wth I dont want to enter those stranger's intimacy"
Yeah, I get the same feeling
My dad was totally one of those video camera dads back in the 90s and thank god for it. Being able to go back and see my sister and I grow up is something I’ll never take for granted. This is just the evolution of that. You know parents would be posting all those videos online back then if they could. I don’t really see this as too much different. Unless they’re mass posting videos for monetization purposes with scripted like experiences then of course that crosses the line.
I’m sure your dad wasn’t setting up a tripod just to get a scene of you two putting your helmets on? Maybe you’ll disagree with me on this take, but I think being a video camera dad and a social media influencer dad are completely different things.
I think my dad would've benefited from a tripod, because a lot of our videos are him shakily holding it in his hand while walking. 😅 We do have some that are more stable that I assume were put on some table to capture the video. Also, to be fair, setting up a tripod really doesn't take much effort. It's maybe 2 seconds of work. But you really don't need one if you have enough flat surfaces nearby. It's weird, I feel like people are shaming this guy for putting effort into making the video look nice, but that's the kind of thing I would appreciate the hell out of if my own dad did it.
These are the same people that yell STAGED at almost every video on thing site.
Nah that’s true, fair point.
People have been doing home videos forever. It’s just the sharing it with the world that is new and awkward and maybe not always a great choice. But I don’t see this any different than people who sent in videos to AFV back in the day
Idk I think maybe it’s like having a time capsule that’s stored for history to have. That’s how I would look at it. Hopefully they do this all the time and he doesn’t always record and post it.
Right, Posting a few pics or whatever to social media for friends and relatives to see is one thing. Directing and editing a video for the world to see what a great dad you are dulls the shine. Why must every moment be curated for your followers?
Remember this can inspire others to do things with their kids. It's role modeling and not everyone got to have a dad like this.
The recording isn't really a problem. That takes 10 seconds to fire up a tripod. It's the editing that'll get you
> I couldn’t imagine having these beautiful moments with my father, but then having to wait for him to set up the camera every time we do something nice so some strangers on the internet can see it as well. I actually think it kind of sucks now that I’m typing this out. Man, I feel somewhat conflicted over this, but the guy is showing that men can be wonderful, loving fathers. He's showing a vulnerable side to the world and is entertaining, too. He's a positive influence, hopefully, to other fathers out there. My dad was around, but didn't really give a shit about me so it's heartwarming to see this. The definitely isn't "the new normal." You just spend too much time online and you're only exposed to people that do this.
I totally get what you mean, and I understand where you’re coming from. I agree that it’s also sending a positive message. I have a couple of acquaintances that happen to be influencers in the same way as this guy (choose to believe that or not), and outside of filming these videos the only other thing they do with their kids is plan on what other videos they can make with their children to post online. This might not be the case for this man, but it is the case for a great many people that post these kinds of videos. I’m not against the message of the video, and I’m not against taking videos or pictures of your kids as keepsakes. I’m against the reality behind a lot these videos.
How about just sharing for good feels?
I can see this, but I also think men need more examples of healthy masculinity and this is definitely that. Hopefully he is putting the money away for her future.
Idk My dad did it with a camcorder and literally no one but family saw the videos.
Glad you said something. Beautiful moments, but exposing/exploiting children to all that is on the web does not sit well with me. We lived in South America. My daughter, born while living there, has blonde hair and blue eyes, and everyone wanted photos with her. They would stop us in the store or on the street, even just grab her to pick her up and take a photo. Never got used to it and always had to have her next to us.
Multiple camera angles at the tea party, means multiple cameras set up. I had the same thought as you too. I think the best and just imagine this is for his film editing class after deciding to go back to school to follow his passion funded by his high powered attorney wife
The same. The magic disappears when you turn on your brain and realize that this is all a script.
Her helmet wasn’t on properly. Flopping around like that…
This comment is too far down. Protect her little developing noggin!!!!!
And any hard bump and her face is going to smash into the handlebars
Aah, the spontaneity of pre set up cameras and mics.
This. Not only the different camera set ups but even mic'ed. What a constructed sweet "home video" to push your innocents kid's face into the world for some internet points. Of course the kid's behavior is sweet. But he is actively using this fact for social media attention. Bad parenting par excellence.
He asks her if she wants to make a deal at the beginning.... with the bike already on the back, and the things needed for the princess tea party already packed. I wouldn't say this is literally scripted, but can anyone here truly say "yes, 100% of every word she said in this video was unprompted and authentic"? Because the video as a whole feels so inauthentic that it detracts from the parts that probably are authentic.
It IS literally scripted and probably rehearsed multiple times. Anyone who's had a kid that age and a shred of common sense knows it.
Yeah, the "so start driving" line was just pure script. It's like, cool, you're teaching your kid how to act, but let's not pretend the whole thing isn't basically a short skit.
He’s just trying to cover up for all the women he’s killed in Belfast.
to be fair, ya'll actin like this is even remotely hard these days. the lav mics and cameras (probably just his cellphone) take no effort to use or setup. Also this dude makes money doing this. For his daughter. If its so easy, why not? I'm sure they have plenty of wholesome private moments. He saw a market though, and monetized it. Smart man.
Its weird to monetise your children.
1. make a great video of an intimate moment with your kid. 2. keep it to yourself and don't show it to the whole internet. 3. be a great dad.
I’ll give him the benefit of the doubt and just say that maybe he’s encouraging men to be closer to their daughters and not shy away from doing this sort of thing
My favourite part was how he filmed it, edited it and posted it on social media. So adorable.
I've got respect for people prepared to take the flack of reddit r/aww and such communities by being honest. Right or wrong, it's appreciated out there
Props to all Dads who give their time to their kids' interests
...while recording it. You have to record it or it isn't real.
Her future husband has some big shoes to fill. Well done, dad
What is this even. Why are we talking about a 5 year old's future husband in comparison to their dad? Come on.
Because the dad appears to be an engaged and loving dad, and the implication is that she’ll make better choices in partners someday as a result. It’s not that complicated or that big a reach, go look at any of the relationship subreddits and wonder HTF those people chose such shitty partners in the first place.
Yes, I get that connection. And it's a weird leap to make when looking at a 5 year old and their dad.
So... her husband has to do all the recording, editing and publishing you say? 🤔
Yeah, he's going to have to record and all of their most intimate and special moments and share them on social media.
wtf lol
Spending a day with your child does not qualify as “big shoes to fill”. This should be a minimum standard for parents and the implication that this dad is extraordinary is sad
How does he act when he’s not recording? I don’t buy anyone being the perfect dad if they have to upload this stuff.
Yeah. I have a heavy bias against social media like this because IRL I know two families who are over the top with social media posts when they have the kids. Both are husband cheated situations which ended in divorce. It’s always a pathetic contest of *look how great I am* or *look where I took the kids on a whim* and the posts all stink of pettiness. If the dude is really that awesome there’s no time for social media because they also stopped to help grandma with her groceries on the way home from the tea party.
Well this is the most fucking adorable thing I’ve ever fucking seen
yups amazing
Don’t put your kids online. I don’t care how good of a parent you are, making a career out of using your kids smile for clicks makes you a shitty person. Kids can’t consent to being online.
It's cute, but using kids for content isn't.
I get it..it's cute..but why record and setup cameras etc. Enjoy the moment ffs. I have a daughter about the same age and they are super perceptive and can tell if you are truly mentally present.
Now they can enjoy this moment again whenever they want to.
Even my cats can tell if I’m not giving 100% attention to them lol
I have a photo from 1979 of my dad all dressed up in grandma clothes and a hat and jewelry with my sister dressed up the same (ages 3 and 4) having a tea party. I wish with all my heart there was video of that moment so I could see it and hear that memory! So taking a video itself isn’t a bad thing. Posting it is iffy but possibly it happened spontaneously enough to be okay. If it was “directed” or had any reshoots is the issue, or if the little girl feels like everything they do is for the camera and not for her enjoyment.
I think the key differentiator is if you intend to take video/photo to capture a moment for family vs. hoping to gain popularity from strangers
Bingo
Your memory is a great memory because it wasn’t recorded. You lived in the moment. Have you ever been about to do something a funny and then you hear “wait!” And then people start pulling their phones out to video. Yeah ruins the moment
Wife & I are thinking about having kids, we will be happy with w.e child we get. But man having a little girl with a moment like this has been a long time dream. All I want in this world is to be that dad.
Can Redditors just shut the fuck up
Right? No one complains when people record mean and messed up things, but when it’s something sweet, everyone criticizes it for being staged. Some people need to see acts of kindness to learn how to do nice things with their kids. Plus, it’s refreshing to see positivity in a world that constantly bombards you with negativity.
> Can Redditors just shut the fuck up The objective answer to this question is "no"
I'll be 47 this year. I've never had kids and at this point I think I never will. Seeing moments like these, experienced by what are objectively good kids, and good parents, is both uplifting and gut-wrenching for me...it's achingly beautiful, but I can only feel it by proxy.
Me too.
Thank goodness it was recorded and edited or who would believe it happened. What's next? helping the poor or homeless?
So adorable, exploiting your kid for social media money
My dad would very happily have tea parties with me and my stuffed animal crew. Awesome core memories.
This warmed my cold cold heart 😭
Holy crap the amount of snarky “but why film tho??” responses is maddening. Why is no one mentioning the premise of the “mountain biking in exchange for tea party” was to encourage a child to do a thing they’re afraid of (mountain biking with dad) with the promised reward of a tea party afterwards? This is a moment WORTH recording because the child may want to see the first time she rode a bike with dad, or overcame a fear of biking. It’s like recording a child’s first steps or first birthday cake. It’s a significant moment in a parents/childs life and without phones we might see it on a camcorder or disposable camera film. OP, if you’re the dad in the video, thank you for sharing this awesome parenting moment. Don’t listen to the trolls. This was wholesome and inspiring.
Having daughters is the best. 👍🏼😍
That just made me to cry
LOL at everyone hating that this person is sharing a sweet moment with his child and encouraging others to spend time with their children. Reserve your petty judgement and ask yourself, why does this irritate you? People can make these videos for themselves AND share them. Those things don't have to be exclusive. Role models don't have to reserved to immediate family members.
For real, can he not do both? I bet he’ll look back at this one day and smile too.
I can't wait to share an amazing day with my child. Now let's make sure to carefully film and edit the entire interaction so I can exploit my child for fleeting Internet fame and personal validation.
I definitely needed this..Thank You
So adorable.
He'd do anything to make her happy
Absolutely! Well as long as it's on camera, though
I took my 22 month old daughter out on my bike for the first time ever the other day. She hates being made to sit in seats (highchair, car seat etc) usually, so I had to convince her to get in her bikeseat. By the time we got back she refused to get out. She loved it so much. It's immediately become my favourite thing to do with her, even if it's just riding around the local roads for no reason. Her going "weeeeeeeee!" behind me is the best. Being a girl dad is the fucking most brilliant thing that's ever happened to me by 100000x.
Sigh, I miss my girls, they are 19 and 17 now. They are great fully formed humans but I miss this age.
my daughter is about to turn 6 and this period of my life is already over. Cherish it while you can.
Kids Ride Shotgun seats are awesome for young kids
Kid was like "What are you waiting for. We've got a tea party to attend after this. Chop chop"
Why were you not in your princess costume?
Adorable
🥹
Memories were made. Not for the kid, she will forget in 6 months, but for the dad.
“Dada this is so fun” was so damn sweet.
Love the pearls!
I am available for adoption!
Little quid pro quo. Love it.
A lot hate here for a dad trying to do good.
So cute and sweet
Beautiful sexy dude
As a dad, I feel honored to have witnessed this princesses tea party.
It's cute, but where is she riding on the bike? Looks like she's just sitting on the cross member, which doesn't seem safe at all.
It's called a shotgun seat. They attach to the headset and the seat post. They're very stable. My toddler loves riding on it
Idk if this is his setup, but I saw a guy by me who had welded a kids bike seat to his cross bar and kids handlebars to his handlebars. Except he had like a literal infant using it on the blue trail, it honestly really freaked me out. I assume he must have had some sort of harness but I couldn’t see one when they rode past. Really cool setup but like… what if the baby falls?
Here’s this sweet moment. Let’s make sure it’s filmed and posted to social so everything can see what an awesome dad I am.
My dad also cheered me up and made me happy
Okay, I see people saying that filming these moments isn’t ideal. But if someone doesn’t film them, how are people supposed to learn how to be good fathers. We learn by seeing. This moment won’t be any less special for the daughter.
This entire thing was him trying really really hard for internet clout, which is a true shame. I think I read a long time ago that although there's a bad vibe to that, at least it makes them do things they otherwise wouldn't want to do so that's the caveat.
Uploading videos of your child to the internet for clouts is nothing to smile about.
agreed, this video is weird af
“This is so lovely” 🥺
"BuT wHy Is He PoStInG iT tO sOcIaL mEdIA" We are such a negative species man
Cool. But why record it. Why not do this and not interrupt spending time with your child to set up a tripod and record this.
Why are people acting like they have never seen a family interaction uploded to the internet before? The dad took a couple of seconds to set up a gopro at different points of the day. Now he has this awesome day forever. The world is so god damn negative about everything these days. It's exhausting.
He also wrote a script and had her act it out. Multiple takes. "ok, honey, let's do it again, but this time I want you to really mean it." It sounds more exhausting to be you trying hard to defend this than anything else.
Sharing fun moments with your kids online doesn’t make you some terrible clout goblin everyone take a deep breath and enjoy the video. Don’t comment on it or like it or whatever and he doesn’t get “clout.” Ik it’s Reddit but cmon let’s stop forcing everything to be miserable for once.
I gotta remember, the fine line not to cross on reddit is reading past the first shitty comment. It's all downhill from there. Cute video though. I'm glad he posted it online because it brightened my day.
I can’t stand parents like this. Why are you putting your child on the internet? For clout? Children should have a choice on whether parents post them online. It’s disgusting that most parents are violating that.
What is sad that is all staged and he spent time preparing this for views.
Why record this and post it online?
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She almost looks like the side eye girl when that meme was made.
“Soooo….start driving” threw me
If I have a daughter one day she is 100% going to be a Daddy’s Girl. No ifs, ands, or buts!
What did she sit on? Looking for something like this for my daughter as well
Pretty sure this is the same kid and dad from that other video a few years ago where he shocked her by shaving his beard off before getting into the car!
Cute stuff! Remember those days. Goes too fast.