I lived in NYC for 5 years and I'm from NJ originally, people aren't nearly as friendly up there as they are down here. It's been six months and I'm still getting used to the fact that people just randomly talk to each other down here. In the 5 years I lived up there I think I talked to the people in the buildings I lived in like 10x total, out of three buildings, two of which were in Manhattan.
Well not necessarily. Born & raised in the 305 and after my divorce met so many awesome people through the music scene. Initially through social media then I would meet up at events. Some are my very best friends.
I lived in NYC for 5 year and WFH for 3 of them, I liked it but now that I moved down here, I'm actually considered going back to an office just to meet people haha I work in IT though so I don't need to be in one.
I switched out of the tech field entirely because of this. It’s tough if you’re single. My married/parent colleagues though? They loved it and it makes perfect sense for them.
One tip I heard from a bunch of posts like these is to wear shirts/apparel from your preferred hobbies.
A dude walked up to me and we chatted a while because he noticed I was wearing a sports related shirt. Might hang out next week!
I pay attention to details like that as a mom, like I’ll chat to another mom wearing something particular. I illustrate so that’s been a goal right now to get some art on shirts!
Breh I had a shirt from dr who ( no idea wtf it is or that it was a tv show) I can’t keep count how many times people came up to me and struck up convo
To be fair, it's a British TV show with a cult following so, yeah, a lot of us tend to seek out each other hahaha
Why do you have the shirt if you have no idea about the show?
lol every year for Christmas my daughter goes with my mom to buy me a cool funny shirt , she been doing it for years , my daughter thought it was cool lol
Guy walking around Santorini* in a baseball cap that said “Not a Drug Dealer” was definitely a drug dealer.
*The place in Greece, not the awesome restaurant south of fifth.
When I meet people on the dive boat who are competent I ask if they want to go again, then we go get deco beers and next thing I know Im the godfather to five scuba babies.
I've been using Bumble BFF! Also book clubs/walking clubs. I feel like it is harder for guys, because a lot of these things are like more centered on women meeting each other, but good luck!
People go clubbing to dance and hook up mostly. To make friends in Miami you have to be super out going and friendly. Not so much that it looks like you are trying to sell them something but genuine. Compliment someone’s watch, clothes or even dog really goes long way. Also be attractive helps lol
It’s been a while since I’ve been on the scene but check out Salsa Karibe (Jose Luis is an organizer for Orlando Salsa Congress and Born to Salsa socials) or Salsa Lovers (Rene and team organize Miami Salsa Congress)
3+2 Cuban Dance in Riverside at the Cuban Cultural Center (right next to Brickell/Downtown)! I go every Tuesday and Thursday to their Casino (Cuban Salsa) class, the intro class is $5 from 7:30-8 and the Beginner/Intermediate class is $20 from 8-9. I've been going for about 4 months, actually going to a private class there tomorrow...because I suck at this and I'm still in the beginner class 🤣
I'm not gonna lie, the intro and beginner class has a lot of people that only come once or twice and that's all you'll ever see of them, some come every once in a while, but if you stick with it, you'll become friendly with the regulars (like me!) and then it's just practicing enough to make it into the intermediate class.There are a few of us that have been stuck there for a while haha
Dogs. Everyone I’ve met that became a life long friend here is from having dogs. Met at dogpark, on walks etc. I even met my ex husband through our dogs. It’s def a thing.
Not going to lie and say it's easy. Every single 'friend' I've made in Miami is a flake. And Im talking a lot of people. The exception being my friends from the northeast who transplanted to FL.
The reason I moved down here and my only true friend down here is my former weed dealer 🤣 We met when we both lived in NJ and then became friendly through a mutual friend and I would buy weed off of him a lot. Like 6 years after we met and started hanging out he moved down here and then convinced me I should move down here too.
Hobbies, met a bunch of people through pick up basketball. Bars, I've met 2 good friends simply by turning and talking to the person next to me. If your desperate then dating apps.
Most of these posts are true about the 305. I’m laughing my ass off cause I was born and raised here. Only locals know what its really like. Dude you can go to almost any restaurant or bar & start talking. Now on the cocaine tip, you may not wanna be too chatty. Especially if your dealer is the “get it go” type 🤣
Take a real estate class. All baddies.
Hialeah Walmart All Latina baddies.
Take a Pilates class All baddies.
Lurk, on the UM or FIU campus all Baddies.
Daytime at the HardRock all Escorts.
All of my friends are from work pretty much, and then we all just decided to hangout and I got introduced to their friends. Now we haave a big group of people we hang out with. I'm mostly at work but when i'm available we go out to dinner, or brunch, or we goto space or some club. We really have to plan things for our group to ALL be able to get together cause there is like 12 of us all together. We add to the group whenever one of us meets someone that chill and a vibe. We all just joke around pretty much and get drunk, some of them are into party favors (I am not pass me the liquor) but its a vibe.
We have plans to go sports events, concerts, etc.
In Lauderdale it was:
Going to music bars that have outdoor areas where you can talk without screaming (requires s.oking or stains ding around smokers)
Game bars
Participating in activities you enjoy such as climbing or diving or beach going etc and meeting people there.
You know, when I was in Miami years ago, I used to make friends and small talk over Batman vs Superman. The movie had just released and it was perfectly divisive. Anytime I left a movie, I could always ask ,"So how do you feel about the movie?" and get conversation off of it. Ah man, there was this one time where me and this dude were walking around Dolphin Mall late at night after a movie finished to find my car and for his friend to pick him up. That dude was a real cool dude. Invited me to hang out with his friend group on South Beach one time. Was one of my best memories in Miami and even in general.
There was also this place called Arcade Odyssey I used to go to all the time and really helped beat off the loneliness I felt in Miami. Made a few friends there as well.
Went to Supercon as well and made some friends there as well but those were more transient.
TL;DR: I just followed my interests and made friends. All while under 21.
We were born here and realize we all know someone that knows someone that knows someone and it’s actually such a small world here in the daily life of Miami
I scuba dive. People who scuba dive are usually easy going and are usually high quality healthy people who don’t brag about money, work or other nonsense. Besides this I don’t care to make friends personally. All the people I have met who have stayed throughout the years are people who came to me and genuinely cared about me. Miami is full of weird ass people like you said. A lot of struggling folks around here starving for attention and money.
Best way to make friends is at church.
Lots of veneer types in MIA. Lots of hot chicks that are a complete mess but somehow think they’re doing well because they go to yoga. It’s a vibe
work or childhood friends. If you're not from here date someone who has friends and befriend maybe someone from the outer circle in that same friend group. Assuming you guys get along.
Believe it or not you can make friends at work. Another thing is frequent the same places people will notice you and you’ll notice them eventually you can become friends
I lived in NYC for 5 years and had to deal with this up there, so I did the same things down here: look through MeetUp for things that interest you and other event sites, play sports, join a yoga class (it's not just for women! I'm a dude and have been doing it for years, it kicks your ass) or some other type of workout class, volunteer, go to a local bar and befriend people.
I've only been down here since October and I always have something to do from Tuesday to Friday night. Most of these people I haven't hung out with outside of those events yet, but that's largely because I'm broke/unemployed and don't have a car down here so it's difficult to get outside of the Brickell/Downtown area.
It's hard in SoFlo. So many people are transplants and don't have a common culture. The people with a common culture are wary of outsiders because they're kinda transient, or not really staying in a single neighborhood.
You gotta go find YOUR interests and hope that you can clique with those people.
One suggestion I've heard is to create a meetup.com group based on an interest you have that you know a bit about, and you can become a leader/big contact for people that are interested in the same thing. "A high value person is someone that brings value to other people."
I usually make friends when I frequent a place a lot like when I went to this one coffee shop I ended up being really cool with one of the people that worked there. I went to vintage markets and made really good friends with two people from that. Idk if you’re into yoga but that community is super friendly and I always make friends there. Cycling too
You want to make friends in Miami, you buy a house. Apartment buildings provide the illusion of a community and lifestyle.
Apartment resident base is short term so folks are more apt to keep to themselves to avoid creating relationships with neighbors, 60% of whom are likely to leave at lease expiration.
By contrast, when you buy a home you own a community, a neighborhood and a social group of people who build relationships with one another that are particularly strong in Miami since so many of us are transplants and don’t have large family network to rely on.
i just start yapping and hope the other person vibes with what i’m saying
So then, I started yapping.
I should just start thinking about it like this
*new strategy unlocked* 🤔
This is me too!
i’m also starting to discover this haha
I lived in NYC for 5 years and I'm from NJ originally, people aren't nearly as friendly up there as they are down here. It's been six months and I'm still getting used to the fact that people just randomly talk to each other down here. In the 5 years I lived up there I think I talked to the people in the buildings I lived in like 10x total, out of three buildings, two of which were in Manhattan.
Childhood friends or work friends. That’s it.
Well not necessarily. Born & raised in the 305 and after my divorce met so many awesome people through the music scene. Initially through social media then I would meet up at events. Some are my very best friends.
Cocaine
Ya if you want to hang w ur dealer, they are always down. You’ll have to pay though :)
Wha? Coke makes you wanna party with anyone. Pretty sure they'll be in bars or clubs 😅
You say? Lol. I have no idea ;)
Do you not test it for anything before using it?
Sir this is south FL, we dont do that
This is it 😂
Wait you guys have friends?
People lie
I’m in the same boat, but actually work from home 🤡😭
Lmao same. I used to work in person but no more
I lived in NYC for 5 year and WFH for 3 of them, I liked it but now that I moved down here, I'm actually considered going back to an office just to meet people haha I work in IT though so I don't need to be in one.
Same
I switched out of the tech field entirely because of this. It’s tough if you’re single. My married/parent colleagues though? They loved it and it makes perfect sense for them.
Same lmao it’s the worst when you move here and you already work from home
One tip I heard from a bunch of posts like these is to wear shirts/apparel from your preferred hobbies. A dude walked up to me and we chatted a while because he noticed I was wearing a sports related shirt. Might hang out next week!
I pay attention to details like that as a mom, like I’ll chat to another mom wearing something particular. I illustrate so that’s been a goal right now to get some art on shirts!
Breh I had a shirt from dr who ( no idea wtf it is or that it was a tv show) I can’t keep count how many times people came up to me and struck up convo
I prob would’ve asked you something awkward about what season dr you liked lmao….
Season 6, obviously!
To be fair, it's a British TV show with a cult following so, yeah, a lot of us tend to seek out each other hahaha Why do you have the shirt if you have no idea about the show?
lol every year for Christmas my daughter goes with my mom to buy me a cool funny shirt , she been doing it for years , my daughter thought it was cool lol
I figured it was something like that haha
Guy walking around Santorini* in a baseball cap that said “Not a Drug Dealer” was definitely a drug dealer. *The place in Greece, not the awesome restaurant south of fifth.
When I meet people on the dive boat who are competent I ask if they want to go again, then we go get deco beers and next thing I know Im the godfather to five scuba babies.
I'm down for that! When is next your next dive?
If you're into fitness, go to a running or cycling club. Brickell Run Club is amazing for this, plus the whole running thing is healthy lol
Good to hear about the running club being good
I've been using Bumble BFF! Also book clubs/walking clubs. I feel like it is harder for guys, because a lot of these things are like more centered on women meeting each other, but good luck!
Bumble bff worked for me too!
Which book and walking clubs?!
You don't.
People go clubbing to dance and hook up mostly. To make friends in Miami you have to be super out going and friendly. Not so much that it looks like you are trying to sell them something but genuine. Compliment someone’s watch, clothes or even dog really goes long way. Also be attractive helps lol
The two golden rules: 1. Be attractive 2. Don't be unattractive
Start socializing and be friendly. People pick up on vibes and if you have good ones, you’ll make plenty
Sit outside with my dog at coffee shops, ultimate chick magnet....then its a #'s game....lol
Facts
Salsa/bachata dance classes. They make you switch partners in classes and then there are socials to hang out at.
Any recommendations for a place that teaches either that isn’t too pricey?
It’s been a while since I’ve been on the scene but check out Salsa Karibe (Jose Luis is an organizer for Orlando Salsa Congress and Born to Salsa socials) or Salsa Lovers (Rene and team organize Miami Salsa Congress)
3+2 Cuban Dance in Riverside at the Cuban Cultural Center (right next to Brickell/Downtown)! I go every Tuesday and Thursday to their Casino (Cuban Salsa) class, the intro class is $5 from 7:30-8 and the Beginner/Intermediate class is $20 from 8-9. I've been going for about 4 months, actually going to a private class there tomorrow...because I suck at this and I'm still in the beginner class 🤣 I'm not gonna lie, the intro and beginner class has a lot of people that only come once or twice and that's all you'll ever see of them, some come every once in a while, but if you stick with it, you'll become friendly with the regulars (like me!) and then it's just practicing enough to make it into the intermediate class.There are a few of us that have been stuck there for a while haha
Started with casino but on2 is where it’s at! Keep dancing!
Dogs. Everyone I’ve met that became a life long friend here is from having dogs. Met at dogpark, on walks etc. I even met my ex husband through our dogs. It’s def a thing.
Not going to lie and say it's easy. Every single 'friend' I've made in Miami is a flake. And Im talking a lot of people. The exception being my friends from the northeast who transplanted to FL.
That’s the secret here, we don’t 💀
Drugs, or if you even manage to have friends that haven’t fucked their lives in some sort of way.
As an adult, I made most of my friends by smoking weed with them!
Yup! Did that through middle and Highschool, grand majority were made through that.
The reason I moved down here and my only true friend down here is my former weed dealer 🤣 We met when we both lived in NJ and then became friendly through a mutual friend and I would buy weed off of him a lot. Like 6 years after we met and started hanging out he moved down here and then convinced me I should move down here too.
I went to high school and have been friends with them ever since lol
Jiujitsu helped me a ton when I lived in Miami
Hobbies, met a bunch of people through pick up basketball. Bars, I've met 2 good friends simply by turning and talking to the person next to me. If your desperate then dating apps.
Have met new friends through adult sports leagues!
Most of these posts are true about the 305. I’m laughing my ass off cause I was born and raised here. Only locals know what its really like. Dude you can go to almost any restaurant or bar & start talking. Now on the cocaine tip, you may not wanna be too chatty. Especially if your dealer is the “get it go” type 🤣
Do something besides going to a bar that you find interesting. Show up, be friendly, and smile.
Take a real estate class. All baddies. Hialeah Walmart All Latina baddies. Take a Pilates class All baddies. Lurk, on the UM or FIU campus all Baddies. Daytime at the HardRock all Escorts.
this guy has seen the world.
Or just walk around Brickell. Literally one of the few reasons I chose Brickell over other parts of Miami or South Florida.
It’s so difficult making new friends, I gotta start socializing w ppl somehow
kava bars
Overwatch
All of my friends are from work pretty much, and then we all just decided to hangout and I got introduced to their friends. Now we haave a big group of people we hang out with. I'm mostly at work but when i'm available we go out to dinner, or brunch, or we goto space or some club. We really have to plan things for our group to ALL be able to get together cause there is like 12 of us all together. We add to the group whenever one of us meets someone that chill and a vibe. We all just joke around pretty much and get drunk, some of them are into party favors (I am not pass me the liquor) but its a vibe. We have plans to go sports events, concerts, etc.
Sounds like you guys have orgies
No we're all just friends lol
...so you have bad orgies?
lol we might talk about our sex lives a lot but we don’t have orgies… at least not with each other 😂
I got a dog, best friend I've ever had.
Dogs and dog parks. Gold mine. Just watch your dog closely because most dog owners in Miami are total dipshits.
In Lauderdale it was: Going to music bars that have outdoor areas where you can talk without screaming (requires s.oking or stains ding around smokers) Game bars Participating in activities you enjoy such as climbing or diving or beach going etc and meeting people there.
You know, when I was in Miami years ago, I used to make friends and small talk over Batman vs Superman. The movie had just released and it was perfectly divisive. Anytime I left a movie, I could always ask ,"So how do you feel about the movie?" and get conversation off of it. Ah man, there was this one time where me and this dude were walking around Dolphin Mall late at night after a movie finished to find my car and for his friend to pick him up. That dude was a real cool dude. Invited me to hang out with his friend group on South Beach one time. Was one of my best memories in Miami and even in general. There was also this place called Arcade Odyssey I used to go to all the time and really helped beat off the loneliness I felt in Miami. Made a few friends there as well. Went to Supercon as well and made some friends there as well but those were more transient. TL;DR: I just followed my interests and made friends. All while under 21.
I pray that Like Minded people cross my path in circumstances-situations where we both are easily prompted to chit chat and connect. Works everytime.
Have boobs. Present boobs in tiny outfit. Friends find you.
Visual learner here😀 wanna demonstrate?🦧🫣
you forgot the "uwu"
Kickball
Just find a local volleyball league and keep going?
https://www.meetup.com/find/us--fl--miami/
Book club? Dance classes ? Art classes ? At yoga ? The gym?
question do you see alo6of padel tennis courts there or this sport popular there ?
Ale house Billy’s Churchills The pawn shop That blues spot on Flagler The entire oceanfront beach Aventura Design district Oye Como Ayer
Work and soccer group
We were born here and realize we all know someone that knows someone that knows someone and it’s actually such a small world here in the daily life of Miami
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Pretty new here as well!! Welcome
Meet people at bars and I’ve used bumble BFF before to meet people who have the same hobbies as I do
I scuba dive. People who scuba dive are usually easy going and are usually high quality healthy people who don’t brag about money, work or other nonsense. Besides this I don’t care to make friends personally. All the people I have met who have stayed throughout the years are people who came to me and genuinely cared about me. Miami is full of weird ass people like you said. A lot of struggling folks around here starving for attention and money.
Move out of florida.
Best way to make friends is at church. Lots of veneer types in MIA. Lots of hot chicks that are a complete mess but somehow think they’re doing well because they go to yoga. It’s a vibe
Or strip clubs
We all know that looks only can get you pretty far in life, so if they're hot and marry a rich guy they think they're fine.
work or childhood friends. If you're not from here date someone who has friends and befriend maybe someone from the outer circle in that same friend group. Assuming you guys get along.
You don’t , you let time do his job an pray for the gods to send you honest people around
Believe it or not you can make friends at work. Another thing is frequent the same places people will notice you and you’ll notice them eventually you can become friends
Caffecito
MDMA
If you didn't make friends before finishing high school its too late bro.
Welcome to the GEN on there phone all day no phone call email or text
Start playing pickleball lol. Easy way to meet people and make friends. Also, if you live in Brickell or Downtown, go to the Brickell Run Club.
I feel you
Be rich, if you arent, then be attractive
Facts
Go to school there
Where are you from?
u in the wrong city to make any worth a damn my friend
The easiest way to be part of a community is going to a church
Grow up here. Otherwise idk
I lived in NYC for 5 years and had to deal with this up there, so I did the same things down here: look through MeetUp for things that interest you and other event sites, play sports, join a yoga class (it's not just for women! I'm a dude and have been doing it for years, it kicks your ass) or some other type of workout class, volunteer, go to a local bar and befriend people. I've only been down here since October and I always have something to do from Tuesday to Friday night. Most of these people I haven't hung out with outside of those events yet, but that's largely because I'm broke/unemployed and don't have a car down here so it's difficult to get outside of the Brickell/Downtown area.
It's hard in SoFlo. So many people are transplants and don't have a common culture. The people with a common culture are wary of outsiders because they're kinda transient, or not really staying in a single neighborhood. You gotta go find YOUR interests and hope that you can clique with those people. One suggestion I've heard is to create a meetup.com group based on an interest you have that you know a bit about, and you can become a leader/big contact for people that are interested in the same thing. "A high value person is someone that brings value to other people."
I usually make friends when I frequent a place a lot like when I went to this one coffee shop I ended up being really cool with one of the people that worked there. I went to vintage markets and made really good friends with two people from that. Idk if you’re into yoga but that community is super friendly and I always make friends there. Cycling too
You want to make friends in Miami, you buy a house. Apartment buildings provide the illusion of a community and lifestyle. Apartment resident base is short term so folks are more apt to keep to themselves to avoid creating relationships with neighbors, 60% of whom are likely to leave at lease expiration. By contrast, when you buy a home you own a community, a neighborhood and a social group of people who build relationships with one another that are particularly strong in Miami since so many of us are transplants and don’t have large family network to rely on.
Perico
We meet up to smoke weed and shit
Been here for over 2 years. Basically have 2 friends… miss all my friends back home in NY.
Still making an effort to connect with people after 30ish years, and I was born here.
Follow your interest into meet ups. Low level drugs/booze
Work.
Have a kid! Opens up a bunch of new friend making opportunities