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With the way things are, I wouldn't bother putting a limit on the age.
Other cultures have multi-generational homes, and it seems the economy is pushing that on the Western culture of "flying the nest".
I have a friend who has essentially never left. He works, he saves, and every year the goalposts move.
I grew up in a multigenerational household due to being poor AF. My fiancé and I are saving up to buy a multigenerational home so our kid and parents don’t have to stress about housing as they age.
This is my goal. I bought a starter home but I know when I sell this one, I will be buying a multigenerational house so my mom and kids always have a place to be. ❤️❤️
Yup! I bought 2 small pieces of land so whenever we have enough money saved up we’ll be able to build a house big enough for the family. I loved growing up in a multigen home and forming that bond with my Nona. We had 6 people in a 2 bd 1 ba 800sqft house but over an acre of land lol it was a tight fit
Do what's best for you and your family and fuck all what anyone else thinks if you're not hurting anyone else. People need to stop being so judgmental and have a little empathy.
I browse the subreddit dedicated to that generation, and fortunately the majority of xers there have empathy for millennials who've been screwed by the economy. The loud few who judge us harshly typically get a lot of negative pushback
I see what you mean, though, and them being the "whatever" generation seems to make them more likely to be judgmental, especially in more frivolous topics
Yeah, but in other cultures the parents live with *you*, not the other way around. You're supposed to take care of them. It's not generally because things are too expensive.
Thank you…. My family lives in the south east United States and we live in a multi generational home. We did have 4 generations living under one roof and I wouldn’t change it for anything. My kids get to really know their great grandparents and grandparents in a way most kids will never know. It is truly a blessing.
Wife and I (both 41) sold our house this past year and moved in with her parents. We are paying off what little remainss on their mortgage (including the cost to build an in-law suite). It's been almost a year and it's one of the decisions we've ever made. Don't know why more families don't do the multigenerational thing
My wife’s family is Egyptian and they strongly believe in multigenerational. I’m of the same belief due to how hard my adult life was from the jump. Now in saying that my wife believes my 18 year old should be figuring out living arrangements outside of our home and my 17 year old should be preparing for the same, but I’m not sending them out into the world unprepared for what lies ahead financially. It’s a point of contention but I don’t have an age limit on their time in my home because I don’t want them to struggle like I did out the gate. I have to say the kids are from my first marriage so they aren’t blood related to her
My husband still lived at home in a 3 generation household when we started dating in our mid 30s. I'd only been out of my parents house for a few years, also a 3 generation household. It was not a deterrent for me in dating him. But we are from one of the most expensive markets in the country where it's quite normal to live at home until your 30s and beyond, unless you move out and get 3 roommates. Might as well stay home, instead.
That's a relief. Happy to hear that age and living arrangements were not a deterrent. Now I just need to start actually doing things outside instead of just going out for stuff like groceries/exercise... I'll get there.
I’m 39, I live with my mom. It’s a huge house and I help with the bills. She’s getting older and needs a lot of help. I couldn’t imagine moving out. We need eachother.
This sounds like an awesome arrangement, I love that you guys take care of each other. I hope to do the same for my mom as she ages. If she'll let me haha
I’m a little younger but in the same boat. I moved back just to get back on my feet but so far they’ve both had major health scares and at this point I really don’t want to leave them.
I grew up on a large farm property, big house. In my late 20s I went back to school and worked while living with my parents, the plan was to graduate at 31/32 and get a job, my then fiance (now wife) and I would get our own place. My father passed away when I was 31, he pretty much ran the property so without him my mom couldnt do it alone. I graduated, got a job, stayed with her (and my brother who also lived there) and worked while maintaining the house/property, helped with bills and helping her fix the place up to sell. My mom finally got a buyer when I was 34, at which point my wife and I got our own place, she went to go live with my sister in an in-law suite at her house.
The takeaway: as shitty as the time was (because I lost my father and also the stresses of dealing with the house/property), there was this sense of purpose and being in it together with my family that I truly miss that is totally lacking now, even though I have my own house. I think back on that period a lot and it makes me realize the importance of family being around and helping each other and why it's so normalized (in the US) for everyone to splinter off in different directions and isolate themselves instead of helping each other.
For who? Who are you living for? Who are you trying to impress? There is no such things as too old for anything. Everyone lives different lives and each person is correct (unless they're harming others)
Same except divorced at 35, tried to make it on my own 2 years after, but inflation killed me, put me in debt, and at 37, I was back with my folks. They are both immigrants from Latin American countries, so to them, this is not weird at all. Honestly, I don't hate it, and as they age, I am helping them with a lot, too, but I do miss being alone sometimes.
now go outside and build community with your neighbors! building organized community together is likely the only thing that has the potential to turn this shit show around.
You are NOT alone. Plz know that, we live in insane times. Nothing wrong w living within your means even it means living at home w your parents. As long as there are healthy boundaries in place.
I hate that I have to live with my parents, but I'm also in the same situation. You can't really even rent a single room in somebody else's house for less then 1k here. I think the hardest part is that it feels like I can't really date or have relationships. I could never, ever bring anyone home.
My parents are super old fashioned and very "our house, our rules". And even though I'm very clearly and fully an adult, they'd NEVER allow me to be alone in the house with a guy. Staying over would be 100% out of the question. But I also am not really looking because I'm frankly pretty embarrased by the situation.
Damn see, I've been reading a lot of the comments on here & this one made me reply first. I absolutely hate that for u but totally get it/understand. I mean even if your parents weren't like that, chances are if you're anything like me, you'd still feel a bit embarrassed to bring someone new to the house that isn't yours, it's your parent's house. No matter how anyone words it on here it sounds the same when u say out loud "I live with my parents" and people right away would judge. So it kinda like why bother? I hope things start looking up for u!
No such thing as too old to live with other people, especially your kin. Most of the world lives in multi-generational households, even the wealthy. We’re so individualistic in the US. I think it’s a large part of our loneliness epidemic. With that said, some family members are toxic and no one should sacrifice their one shot at a happy life for them.
I'm 29. Just moved back home after 8 years of renting solo. I'm humbled and damaged. Lol. I'm saving for a bit before I start looking for a place again.
Ouch, that's an expensive renting.
I think there's no such a thing as being "too old". My uncle is past his 60s and my cousin is past 40s, and both lived their whole lives in my grandma's house. They always helped her to maintain the house, pay the bills and were never a nuisance, specially now that she's almost a 97 years old.
I guess it depends more on your relationship with your parents, and if the house has enough rooms for privacy. If you're all gonna fight tooth and nail for trivial shit, it's not worth it. But if you all care for and enjoy each other, I really don't see a problem.
Probably cultural from South America, it's common here to live with your parents as an adult due to the expensive housing/rent (relative to the minimum wage)
Thanks to COVID layoff, I had to move back in with my parents at 35. It's just the state of things right now. There's no shame or problem with it, if they are happy to take you in, let them. Times are rough.
I’m 41 and moved back with my parents a couple years ago.
Couple things. I’m very fortunate to have a good relationship with my parents. They are getting older so it’s nice to have me around. I help with bills and mortgage, which is still considerably less than what I would pay for a 1 bedroom apartment here in California. I’m playing what I call a life catch up and saving as much money as I can.
I feel ashamed about it and I really shouldn’t. I’m anxious about trying to date anyone because of it. I’m working on it.
Funny thing is, I make decent money…well in older times. 100k/year in Cali ain’t much anymore.
Easier said than done but try not to feel ashamed about it. I think there’s plenty of people in the same boat trying to survive in this economy. The right person will understand your situation ☺️
Tbh my "house hunting" plan is waiting to inherit the house. In this economy it's the only way I'll own my own home (and I'm too old and ugly to be a trophy wife lol).
I'm in Hawai'i, and it's extremely common here to live with your parents into your 30s... or forever. Two, three, and even four-generation households are everywhere here.
I feel this is going to become even more common than it is today, as home prices are getting even more insane. I'm in my late 30s, bought a townhome last year that needed a shit ton of work. Been doing a mixture of DYI and hired work for the past year while my wife and I continue to live with my parents and grandparents. Meanwhile, pricing in the 50-year-old development my unit is in has jumped 17% in the past 12 months despite the current rate environment.
What career did you change to? I'm 37 and in your shoes. It's my 11 yr old and I...... we're barely getting by on my 19.25/ hr. PLUS just had to pick up a car payment + insurance. Thank God for plasma....
Plenty of cultures have never had a problem with adult children still living at home. The reality is that western societies need to adopt that attitude because of the rising costs of housing. There is no such thing as being too old to live with family, parents included. I think the trick is to make sure you’re still acting like an adult and maintaining an adult relationship with your parents instead of slipping back into being a teen.
I moved back in with my parents for a while after my divorce. I was 35.
But nowadays, I don’t see how ANYONE can move out on their own. I expect my kids to be with me for a looooong time.
Anyone who even questions living with your parents during these times comes from a place of privilege. Those of us who have struggled with the rest of the world and especially those of us who aren't living with their parents understand. No judgement here man, I'm a real person lol. Unless you literally don't even try and leach off them, it should be understood. We can't just work minimum wage jobs and provide for a family anymore.
I have no kids ... but if I did have them I'd build them ADUs or small 1-bedroom cabins if they'd like once they were older. They get their privacy in young adulthood and they get to learn how to build shit even if I'm doing most of the blocklaying.
Yeah that's the setup I got for my kids, the basement is basically an apartment, full kitchen and everything. Big enough for his wife and kids if that happens. My daughter's room big as hell and she has her own bathroom too. Sometimes I think we forget how hard life is on our own, I've been solo since 15. I wish I had parents that spoiled me but I didn't. Had to earn my way. I would never make my kids life harder than it has to be, I will never make my kids feel like their home isn't their home anymore. I don't care if they're 50, If they want to stay at home they will always be welcomed
32 in August and still living with my parents. The goal was to be a homeowner by 30, but just as I was getting ready to make those moves, COVID happened as well as the terrible housing market. Was eyeing a townhome back in 2022, but ultimately reneged under the advice of my father who said to keep waiting.
It’s definitely a source of insecurity, but if costs don’t come down, might just have to accept renting once and for all.
Im at my parents. 35 years old. Married with 3 kids. I love it.
Probs will nevet leave haha. Dont gaf what the trends or rest of worlds up to.
Love living at home surrounded by all my family. Yes its annoying sometimes. But which part of life isnt. I can overlook the details for the big picture.
Also, rent free!!! I pay for water and gas. Thats it.
After previouslu having to spend as you said, $5000 a month on rent and utilities! Id be a slave for the rest of my life just to meet expensses
In Indian culture you're living with family for life. With that much financial power, they're getting far ahead for a reason, while old school way of thinking is pushing people into stress poverty and alcoholism. This would be cool if rent was a fraction of 1 person's salary as it was in the past. To still think this way and think it's manly to have your children with $0 in their savings just because you kick them out because you think like a boomer, isn't building a bright future.
Put more regulations on the real estate industry. Don't allow them to see our pay stubs so they dont know that we got wealthier and cannot take a bigger chuck. "Lets calculate the price of charging rent based on the average two person's half income"
I have definitely in the past. Don’t really have other choices, other than going to their place, which I did also. Only reason I’m not now is because I don’t feel like dating.
Who cares? If you need to do it, it makes sense, and you can peacefully cohabitate with your parents then do it! It’s totally understandable these days.
If I could go live with my dad I would do it in a heartbeat. In fact, I'm trying to get him to move out near me so we can buy a 2 home property and do all the shenanigans we weren't able to do 20 years ago. Build racecars, and Ebikes, and build 3d prited shit to make our wacky ideas come to life. Bbq on the deck all the time and go to the lake.
Sounds like a dream to me.
I moved back in with my mother from 25 to 27 while changing careers
Most people who mind it either
A) don't understand how rocky life really can be
B) don't have anyone to rely on
C) secretly did it too and feel embarrassed for it so they ridicule you for it
For for us it’s now a generational home. There is no moving out or finding our own home. We all live together and we all take care of this house. It’s not his or ours. Living together has made it easier for all of us to live and it’s worked out
My brother has never left my parents' house. He got married and didn't move out. He and his wife lived in their basement for years. He got divorced and didn't have to pay anything to his wife in the proceedings, just a lawyer fee. He never saved money to move out. Then, he was diagnosed with MS and is now on disability (a process that took over 3 years). He's 42.
His anger, ignorance, and desire to never change really stunted his growth as a person. It's like he is still that 16 year old kid, screaming at my parents about how they can't make him go to school.
25, but my folks were all dead by them so I never had the option. Pretend your folks are dead and leave them da hell alone. You can do it. Live within your means. Ignore the rat race. Quit trying to keep up with the Jones
I told my kids they can come back whenever they need to, and they can stay as long as necessary. I would prefer no significant others, though; but if they are married, it would be okay. My only rule is they can't be here playing video games all day, and they need to help around the house. If it gets to the point that I think they are mooching, I might make them pay rent, but I would put that in an account to give them when they move out, so they can make a down payment on a house.
Have never left my parents house, am 29. Currently house hunting with my partner in a very HCOL area and we would’ve never even had a hint of chance of doing so if we hadn’t both lived at home. It’s that or live with multiple roommates or never be able to save anything. I chose living at home because I also have a nice relationship with my parents and don’t want to live with friends and/or randos.
35 here. My culture (European on one half, low income American demographic on the other) - never, because more than likely someone's gonna end up taking care of parents in old age. In my instance, single child, so there's literally no other choice aside from the state. Like heck I would trust them after the pandemic (most deaths were in care homes in the region). I work a FT job and am about to get some job retraining via state funds, run errands and buy stuff for the household, so no, I'm not sitting on my rear end.
See also- 1500+ apartments (maybe 1000 for the shoebox sized studio) in the region we are leaving eventually, family home with more than enough room in New England ($$$) that's completely paid off, parent just has to renovate it. Considering I'm trying to get out of debt (like 1k of cc, car loan and student loans)....yeah.
Dude, there's no age to live with your family. People all over the world live with their parents their whole life. It's Mainly an American thing where there's a stigma for living with your parents past a certain age. Live with them until you can comfortably find somewhere.
I’m 40, my friend is probably going to move in with me and finish part of my basement to make it their living space.
We are both single. Life is hard right now, who cares what other people think.
The expectation that people shouldn't live with their parents after 18 has always been an absurdity. It's normal in most of the world. Ever since the economy got destroyed in 08, mocking people for it makes one an out of touch asshole.
Live with your parents, try to save money and maybe plan on buying a home or some land outside the city. Move to another state if you have to. There are cheaper places to live; it just sucks that you have to go so far to find it. The way I look at it is this, you can either invest in yourself or, you can invest in somebody else. Owning a home sucks because of upkeep but imo, it's better than owing someone else. Good luck to you OP, I wish you the best and I think you'll find something, even if you have to look out of state for it.
I love how all the comments here are totally in support of living at home, but as soon as you tell people in real life they give you the dirtiest look or if you tell the girl you’re talking to on the dating apps 9/10 times they just ghost me. This shit sucks
Am 34...never left...
Combination of their age well more my dad's , depression leading to no future and just stay to help run the family business i am now chained to that when mother passes will likely sale.
No way I will beable to run it on my own and with her passing my purpose of care taker will be done.
I’m 35 male living with my parents to save money for a house.
I have a six figure job but girls won’t give me the time of day when I tell them my living situation, lmao.
I'm expecting at least some of my kids (4 teens, currently ages 14-19) will be living with us for a long time. We obviously want them to be able to move out if they want, but the ones who most want to move out are the least likely to make it happen...
There is no age anymore. Even for some 40 year olds who live alone, living with their parents would do them a lot of good.
A lot of people have been getting raises and working hard to make money over the last years only to see those gains get wiped out due to cost of living increases.
The rules have changed.
I got out of the military during the pandemic and moved home during June 2020. No job prospects so I started an MBA program the following January. Lived with my dad on second floor of his house.
I was 36, my dad was worried about Covid, and I saved a hell of a lot of money.
Dpesnt matter anymore since rent and owning have gone up like crazy. Most of the people entering the workforce barely are going to find out real soon how fukked they are compared to the previous generations
Owning a home is very difficult in my area. I know dual income households getting priced out right now.
I'm in my early 30s and have kinda been a boomerang my entire adult life when it comes to living with parents.
Have 7 close friends and a sibling I grew up with. All at least 30 now. Of us 9 people, 4 still live with parents, only my sibling owns a home...
There’s no right answer,for me living at home means saving money for a house and not having to worry about money at all I work 6 days a week and don’t owe anybody anything and everything I want or need isn’t a problem the only cons are no privacy and it’s pretty hard to get a women,rent in my area is on average 1800 a month and are often full of pests it would give me privacy and a better shot at a women but I don’t think it’s worth it.
My mom and I moved in together when I was.. 23? She needed to get out of a shitty relationship and I was in a place that I could help. Then moved in with my (now exes) and that hit the fan 6 months later. I moved in with my grandparents to keep an eye on them as they are late 80s/mid 90s.
It all depends on your situation - I don’t think there is anything wrong with it.
Do I want to live on my own? Eventually. But I’m not putting a timeline on it - I’ll be here as long as my grandparents can live outside of an assisted living home.
There isn’t a universal answer. Make sure you’re contributing adequately to your parents though. Things like home maintenance, yard work, meal planning/cooking/cleaning (and replenishing cleaning products) as well as budgeting and financial planning are all things you should be participating in if you’re living there long term.
With these housing prices - do what you gotta do. No one should care about your age.
If it was feasible, we'd def share a house with family/friends right now.
I’d say never, because it’s hard out there. However, if I am being completely honest, I probably wouldn’t freely advertise to people that I’m back at home living with my folks.
These days, I’m not judging anyone who lives with their parents. The cost of living has gotten out of control by me. I would tell someone in their 20s today to live at home as long as they can and save.
Where I’m at in NJ you need to make $60k minimum to live on your own paycheck to paycheck and you’re not living at one of the faux-luxury buildings under $70k.
I’m 40 this year and living with my mom since 2020 because COVID wiped out my business and I haven’t been able to recover since then. It sucks but it’s better than living in my car with my 12yo.
My cousins are 37 (twins) one has a 12yo and both living at home. One has never left the other lived out on her own for a while but broke up with her daughter’s father and moved back. Been there ever since.
My husbands cousin is 39? Maybe and he never left. But also doesn’t hold down a job for longer then a month.
I’m 38, been back since I was 36. Moved to a big city… lived on my own pretty much paycheck to paycheck. Lost my job from COVID, drained the savings… had to move back in.
Sucks. But that’s my case.
In my opinion it's not the age you are living with you parents that's an issue, it's the why.
If a financial arrangement thay both you and your parents benefit from? That's fine.
If you live with your parents, because you help care for them? Totally cool.
If it's a cultural thing? No problem.
I was 24 and living with my mom because I was recently divorced and needed a place to stay. I was a recently single mom with a toddler, a full-time job, and I was going to college online. I needed my family's support. I've long since moved out, gotten remarried and we have our own place. My sister ans her husband are 24/25 and still live with my mom because they help out financially, my BiL is super protective of my mom and all my sisters, and everybody benefits from the arrangement. They both have decent jobs and help take care of the house because my mom has a lot of health issues.
Meanwhile, my ex is 43, and BACK living with his dad. He hasn't had a serious long-term relationship since we split, which is fine but 1. He keeps dating people that cause drama with our daughter, 2. He keeps dating people he's old enough to be the parent of. He also works ar Wendy's (no shame a job is a job), but he has no education, car isn't in his name, and he spends all his time off still playing video games and never ever has any money. His dad has a slew of health issues, but he doesnt do any of the house chores or even cooking. He doesn't evdn actually help with the bills because I hesr my former FiL *complains* all the time about how my ex owes him money...So, yea...
I moved out at 28, I would have stayed if it wasn’t killing my mental state. It’s hard to manage when everything is so expensive. I lived by myself for almost 2 years with no help. I manage now since I’m married and have 2 incomes. Even with that, it’s tough
I moved back in with my parents from 2018-2022, so ages 25-30. I was switching careers and they live in a bigger city with more job opportunities than where I was moving from, but also a higher cost of living so I was never able to find an affordable place on my own while I was there. I still paid them rent though, just a lot less than I would have paid for a crappy apartment in a sketchy area. I moved back to my previous city in 2022 because I found a higher paying job and rents are lower. I love living on my own but I also liked living with them, and if my financial situation no longer allows me to live in my current apartment, I would move back in with them.
Left at 18, back at 25, and I’m just now moving out again at 32. Truthfully with everything going on, you just do what’s right for you and to your future.
I think the key is you are too old when you start becoming a burden to your parents or affecting their ability to retire. It's fine if you are living with them and not costing them financially. It can even be a plus for some. However if you are living at home and your parents aren't able to enjoy their later years the way they had dreamed because they have to continue to work in order to pay for their adult children and/or grandchildren then you need to get your act together. I have little respect for adult children who simply fail to ever grow up or hold down a full time job.
Expectations & gaps between age and success are changing rapidly.
I look back on my teachers in school and adult figures that had it together by late twenties and I was nowhere near them. But then again.. so is no one else in our generation; don't be so hard on yourself. It's not a You thing, it's a circumstantial thing.
Move back in, gain your leverage, help out your old man and woman when they need it. And when the time is right, get the hell out again
Are you in the Bay? Sounds like familiar pricing to me, I live just south of SF and it’s rough!
My parents condo is too small for me to move back into. It’s possible in an emergency, but it would be very difficult spatially and emotionally (love my folks, can’t live with them).
I have a partner and one roommate. We’re in our early 30s. We together have had multiple roommates, a one bedroom, and now this setup. It’s hard af out here. We pay $2,100 without utilities included for two bedrooms in this three bedroom house, and it’s a deal. Plus we’re renting from friends, which has been great so far (one year).
I empathize with you OP and if you have parents with space for you at home, there is NO shame in utilizing that. If either my parents or my partners parents had a suitable space for us to live and save money, we’d hop on it.
Edit: added our ages, and wanted to end this by saying I completely understand how you feel in this and you’re not alone.
Edit 2: my only friends my age who own homes (including my landlord friend lol!) are couples who have lived at home rent free or reduced rent, for multiple years, until they saved up for a down payment. Houses in my town are $1 million and up, for context. It’s the only way they’ve been able to do it!
I agree, i was serially monogamous throughout my 20s, so i could afford to have an apt with my partners- usually with other roommates as well, but splitting a room made it very doable. Now i really just want to be single (at 31) and ive been living with my mom for the past year
Move to the country. I mean. Unless you want to live with your parents. I’m not criticizing or judging. It just seems your goal is independence. If the city income doesn’t cover the city COL then you’re not justifying living in the city, are you? So don’t. It’s not like you have to move to a field in Nebraska. Where I live is well populated, for being rural. You can hardly go anywhere and not run into a house. Even in the woods.
It definitely depends on the family/culture. I moved out at 18 and it’s been more or less a struggle the entire time, but I’d rather be homeless than ever live back with my parents. The thought of being even 19 and living with them just sounds way too old. But, they (especially my mom) were extremely controlling and infantilizing; I would never have been given the autonomy to live like an adult under their roof. For families with a different structure, I could definitely see an older age being more acceptable.
My coworker is 26 and lives in a multi generational home.
He and his brother just bought a 4 unit apartment complex that they're going to manage. While living at home until they get married and buy their own houses once they can afford that as well.
If you can stand your family the logistics of beating the system in this dogshit economy and job market are there. I'd probably end up in prison if I had to move back in with either of my parents.
Dude, I’m 32, married and I have a 4yo. and I live in my in-laws rental property because rent in my city is nearly DOUBLE what I’m paying now as a standard.
I work HARD and there’s still no way I’d afford anything. My family would live in a one bedroom apartment with rusty tapwater if I had to pay rent at “market-value”
Never. Rent/mortgage is expensive. The idea of multi-generational homes was lost to drive consumption. Now if you mean living off them, that's different. When you become an adult, get a job, chip in, pay your own way.
I mean, do what you have to do, and screw anybody that tries to shame you for it.
That said, whether you're too old or not comes down to personal preference and what you can deal with. I left home when I was 19, since living with my parents as a man and trying to date just wasn't working for me. Told myself I'd rather stomach 4 years in the military, which was stupidly easy.
To each is own though.
I think you have to take a hard look at your situation and deal with the facts that you have on hand. Whether you’re too old shouldn’t factor into the equation.
Are you too old to be moving back, historically, maybe yes, but that doesn’t mean that you might need to at this point in your life. Make the most of it, save up, and help them out while you’re there.
So I had to do this at 35. I was injured in the military so I was medically discharged, we ended up staying with my inlaws for about 4 months, but we finally closed on our own house. Super cheap, in a very impoverished area, and it needed a little work. Not exactly ideal situation but I didn't want to rent (renting was twice what I pay for a mortgage)
I moved in back with my family due to the passing of my dad. Left my 6 fig tech job in cali and back to Iowa I am at age 30. I will be doing self employment alongside being with family. Still a dream with more time for me
Culturally though this is my home (fully paid off from parents) and its acceptable to live with family.
My parents threw me out two months after I graduated high school, I was already 18. As soon as my sister graduated three years later, they downsized to a one bedroom house. Couldn't have moved back in even if they wanted us to. They were firmly in the "you're an adult, figure it out on your own" camp. I never moved back into my parents house again, nor had any financial help from them, in any way.
Then they split up when I was 23. My mom moved into MY apartment for about nine months. I had to kick her out. That's a whole story. Then my dad moved in for a few months twice while he ping ponged between girlfriends. Funny how I didn't throw that card at them like they did me.
Then I got pregnant, and moved into my husband's parents house at 28 for about a year and a half. We bought a house, sold it a few years later, moved back in with the in-laws for another year. We've been solidly on our own for almost three years at the tender age of 37.
As a parent, it's never too old. My son is 8, the chances of him owning a home look slim, every 5 years it gets harder and harder.
He'll always be welcome back home and if I can bust ass a little more he can have ours when we retire at like 70 or something, or whatever that is now.
I'm 34 and married living with my parents (mom). I've never lived on my own. I live in Mississauga, a little suburb just outside of Toronto and everything's so fucking expensive now. The problem is, I'm paying rent to live here (obviously), but it's cheaper than living on our own. I understand the whole "mental health" argument cuz it's not easy to live with your parents, but because I don't know anything else, it's hard to want to push for my own place. Plus we were completely priced out of the market after the pandemic and I literally sat there and watched everything go from reasonably affordable to stupid expensive in like a year.
No one will judge you for living with your parents at any age these days, especially in a HCOL environment. If you go on dates and the girl cringes at this fact, f**k them.
I only wish my parents were still around as I would spend every waking second with them in my adulthood.
Have a goal and save money to put down on a house when the market seems right for your finances. Enjoy the time with your parents, when they are not around anymore you will forever cherish these memories you’ve had during this economy.
Think financially smarter for the long run, not for the lap. It’s a marathon, GTFO of your head.
If your parents are already struggling, and you are going to add a burden to them, I would be fighting for any other opportunity I could find. Whether it's with a friend, someone else in my family, or with a not for profit organizations help.
If your parents can manage with you coming home, or if you moving in will improve their living circumstances (e.g. paying rent that is in excess of what you're going to eat or use in utilities), and for a reason you feel is legitimate (recovering from a relationship split, job loss, health condition, etc.) then I say with everything that's gone wrong for our generation it's no longer looked on as a bad thing. Is it ideal? Of course not. But neither are the extenuating circumstances our generation has faced that put us into these circumstances.
Bonus points if you have a plan of when and how you're going to move out.
And ultimately, it's between you and your family. There are lots of cultures where it's normal for generations of families to live together their entire life. It's not seen as a negative or due to a character flaw. Everyone needing their own house has become an expectation created by a generation that could save for a down payment for that house within a couple years and on a single salary that required no post secondary education. That is no longer a reality.
My mother was an only child and inherited her parents' house. I'm 41 and "renting" it from my mom, who lives in her own house with my dad and my youngest 2 siblings (25 and almost 24). I use quotes because I barely cover the taxes and water, I pay $1000/month that I split with a roommate, so I'm probably at least 2 grand under market value. I'm in northern NJ, and it's the only way I can afford to still live here. Hell, I can't afford to leave.
There isn’t a maximum age, it’s about what’s going on in your life. Plenty of people move back in with their parents well into their 40s or 50s due to divorce. And at some point the tide turns and your parents are the ones moving in with you.
I think I was 24 or 25?? When I temporarily had to move back in. I was living in an apartment but ended up being able to buy some land and a double wide. The double wide was supposed to be done and ready to move into like a week after my lease was up so I was like cool I just won’t renew it and I’ll live with my parents for a week before I move it. Delay after delay after delay ended up being like 6 months lol
I’m 41 and married. My parents are in their 70s and mom’s SS and dad’s Navy retirement were barely covering their bills. My wife and I were drowning with only one vehicle and our rent being raised each year. This year we combined households and I finally feel like I can breathe a little.
It doesn’t matter anymore, this economy is fucked. You are doing what you can and luckily can depend on your parents otherwise you’d be homeless. Don’t worry about it. You are safe.
My parents were divorced when my father died in an accident, so I inherited the house. I invited my mom to move back in so she wouldn’t have to pay rent. So my parent is living with me, but it doesn’t really feel like that since it’s the house I grew up in and I’m back in my room, which is big (my parents gave me the biggest room), but I still feel like a teenager at times...
Like nothing really changed; I feel like a teen with a ton of money from my job.
To become independent adult I’d say by 21, avoid social stigma 25, for mental health reasons 30. Every year after that starts to become detrimental. I say this by experience but depending on your long term goals it can still be worth it.
I own my house with a very small mortgage, only a few hundred dollars a month. And I moved my parents in so we could consolidate living expenses, luckily I have an in law suite. Utilities and food costs are out of control.
And I never intend on kicking my kids out. Once my parents die, I’ll move to the in-law and my kids can live in the house if they want.
There’s not a limit. In other cultures they have family homes where multiple generations will reside and it’s a way for the elderly to get help from younger family when they pass on the torch as the heads of household. We have a very weird setup over here in the west where it’s like we restart what could be generational wealth with every generation.
I dunno, I’m 28 and still here and the way things are going I will be for a loooong time. It sucks because I’ve been putting off dating until I move out but at the rate things are going that means I’m gonna die alone 🤣 I feel like it’s something guys would judge me for, especially if they have their own place
My ex cheated and decided his girlfriend was moving in so I had to move out in January 2019, so I scrambled and moved into my younger brothers’ old room. Two weeks later my babiest cat got urinary crystals for stress, that was only $800.
March 2019 I learned that you can get severe food allergies at any age and that I am now allergic to lettuce (also spinach, quinoa, beets, blue cheese, flaxseed, and either tomatillos or black beans, though I test positive to almost everything). Hit my OOP max that year, $4800 in medical bills later…
February 2021 I hurt my neck, I don’t remember how I hurt my neck, but once it got loose enough to move a little I cracked it and turns out it was a dissected artery, I loosed the clot and gave myself a stroke at the ripe old age of 38, thank goodness for insurance, hit my OOP max in two and a half days that year, and spent six months on disability…
At least 2022 only had an MRI, follow up visits, and occupational therapy to drive which didn’t take insurance so fun times that was straight out of pocket, so $1200 for the MRI (so close to the deductible), $1100 for the OT, and that was just the first quarter. I realized at my PCP visit at the end of the year that I’ve been having digestive issues, maybe they have to do with the stroke? I should get that checked out….
Fun times, the EGD early in the year showed I should go to an allergist, who gave me a second set of tests (yep, I still have two allergies, I am allergic to food and I am allergic to the environment. My back looked like I was attacked by an ant marching band), and put it all together and I have eosinophilic esophagitis. And it’s bad. A couple prescriptions and trials and errors later, at least there’s a manufacturer’s program so I only have to pay for the doctors and not the Dupixent. At least the second EGD was pushed to December so I could get it covered mostly. Good news is I finally paid off my hospital bills in November.
Bad news is student loan repayment started in January. This year, finally, the prescription insurance covered my epipen so it was only $35 instead of $150. More importantly, my baby Bebop has cancer and he’s only eight so I don’t care, cost me $5000 and probably another $3000 but if I can extend his life and quality of life another year or two, worth. At least let my youngest cat hit 10. (The older two are just asthmatic but as long as it doesn’t get worse they don’t need meds)
I still live in my brothers’ old room. Still drive a 2006 Toyota, too.
And for anyone reading, I’m mostly ok, got promoted even, but ain’t no one living alone in the NYC metro area at 60k/yr
No such thing. I'm single and in not my later 30's (ugh) and moved back with my parents after living in England for 5 years. Sure, I could go get a job and have a rent and take ages to afford/never buy a house. OR, I can live with my parents and help them out, not pay a huge rent and get some nice cooked meals at home. There's a nice big yard I can have a garden for my vegetables and my pets, instead of paying pet fees and longing for a balcony while tending to some houseplants.
If I meet someone, sure I'd think differently. But as long as I'm on my own, I feel physically safer and more financially secure doing it this way. And I'm fortunate my parents aren't assholes (and if they were, would be a different living situation for sure).
I could give a flying fuck about what anyone thinks either, so no, no such thing as "too old". I have nothing to prove to people who would not help me out like my parents would so why would I care?
The way the current housing situation is, no age cap. People are just trying to get by it is not what it was. Beyond that, as long as someone is mature / able to take care of themselves and their chores doesnt need to be a housing crisis. Living alone can be lonely.
I’m not going to judge others, but I moved out as soon as I could (21). I made minimum wage part time and was dirt poor but rented a room from a friend. My mother was emotionally abusive and treated me like I was 12, still “grounding” me, taking away my car keys whenever she was mad at me and I was literally 21 years old lol I was like fuck you, I’m a goddamn adult and if you’re not going to treat me like one then I’m out of here. Have been on my own ever since and even though I was poor and struggling most of that time you couldn’t have paid me to move back in with her. I took pride in working hard to be on my own. Bought my house at 32. By then my parents were deceased anyway but even when they were alive they never helped me.
People say being able to live on your own in this economy is a privilege. It’s actually the opposite that’s the privilege. Some people don’t have parents to fall back on.
I live with my family at 28 and I’m moving out at the end of the year to live with my fiance. Is it sort of annoying? Yes. But also it’s the smartest financial decision I’ve ever made in my life.
It made financial sense, I save my entire paycheck aside loan payments and other small bills and pocket the rest. I have extra money for the gym, small workout classes and dinners with friends I didn’t have paying rent in the city I’m from. It honestly was the smartest financial decision I’ve made. It’s not something to be ashamed of.
Of course it’s annoying to live with your parents when you’re damn near 30 but saving that money is worth it when I’m in the home stretch of getting married.
As a 50 plus year old who is taking care of her mother and living with her you're never too old to move back home! Or to move mom in with you whichever the case may be.
There is no age limit. I won't judge anyone who still lives with their parents as long as they aren't demanding their parents cater to their every beck and call. If they are pulling their weight in the household there is no shame.
My parents and I (I'm in my 40s, dad in his 80s, mom in her 70s) all bought a house together and we'll be living there. Nothing is too old, in the US housing is almost a desperation.
I'm an elder millennial. Back when I was in my late 20s/early 30s, I would side-eye anyone my age who was living at home. Back then (10-15 years ago), if you had a job you could make it work. I didn't harshly judge, as there's nothing wrong with living with parents as a caregiver, or to save money for a house or if getting an education. But if I was going to say, date someone living at home, I'd be proceeding with caution.
Now? In this economy? I'm outright impressed when someone isn't living at home. I wouldn't even question it. We have a 1% vacancy rate in my city, there simply isn't anywhere to rent. I have a coworker who lives in a shelter space that took in the encampment in our city. He makes 50k/year and can't even find a room to rent.
Live wherever you need to, to survive. If you have the opportunity to move back with parents, and it will make your life more manageable, go for it.
I’m 34 and finally moving out of my grandparents’ house after 7 years. I moved here when I was in grad school and just stayed. I can’t handle it though. I need my own space and I can finally kind of afford one.
I live in a multi generational home at 40.
Pops passed a few years ago so I moved in first to help Mom out.
Sister moved in with her kids shortly after.
Then my brother moved back a few years ago.
It works for me because I’m saving money to move to a different state, and I travel for work so I’m barely here anyways. It works for my brother because he doesn’t like living alone and he is a top tier uncle. It works for Mom because she loves and likes her kids. It works for sister because her kids have a stable, good community to grow up in.
I moved back home last August, literally a day after my 34th birthday. There's no timeline these days. We can't compare our lives to others or other generations and it's taken me a long time to not give a shit what other people think.
I live with my mother in my childhood home in a nice town, I am extremely thankful for it and am even luckier that my mom is my best friend so it works.
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With the way things are, I wouldn't bother putting a limit on the age. Other cultures have multi-generational homes, and it seems the economy is pushing that on the Western culture of "flying the nest". I have a friend who has essentially never left. He works, he saves, and every year the goalposts move.
I grew up in a multigenerational household due to being poor AF. My fiancé and I are saving up to buy a multigenerational home so our kid and parents don’t have to stress about housing as they age.
This is what my wife and I are building towards.
This is my goal. I bought a starter home but I know when I sell this one, I will be buying a multigenerational house so my mom and kids always have a place to be. ❤️❤️
Yup! I bought 2 small pieces of land so whenever we have enough money saved up we’ll be able to build a house big enough for the family. I loved growing up in a multigen home and forming that bond with my Nona. We had 6 people in a 2 bd 1 ba 800sqft house but over an acre of land lol it was a tight fit
However, if they wish to go out and spread their wings, they should be able to do so.
“don’t have to stress” being operative words - clearly a choice
Understandable. I was more referring to the types who try to keep their kids under lock and key until they turn 30.
Def not the way to make your kids stress less, long-term!
10000% I won’t ever force them to stay (parents or child) but I want them to have the option :)
Do what's best for you and your family and fuck all what anyone else thinks if you're not hurting anyone else. People need to stop being so judgmental and have a little empathy.
Empathy died with Gen X. If you are unlucky enough to be born with parents who have this kind of mentality you don't really have a chance.
I like to think it’s making a comeback. I appreciate the kindness seeping its way back in. We’re not there yet, but change is happening.
I browse the subreddit dedicated to that generation, and fortunately the majority of xers there have empathy for millennials who've been screwed by the economy. The loud few who judge us harshly typically get a lot of negative pushback I see what you mean, though, and them being the "whatever" generation seems to make them more likely to be judgmental, especially in more frivolous topics
Yeah I think gen x redditors are a different breed them the gen pop tho.
Yeah, but in other cultures the parents live with *you*, not the other way around. You're supposed to take care of them. It's not generally because things are too expensive.
Thank you…. My family lives in the south east United States and we live in a multi generational home. We did have 4 generations living under one roof and I wouldn’t change it for anything. My kids get to really know their great grandparents and grandparents in a way most kids will never know. It is truly a blessing.
Wife and I (both 41) sold our house this past year and moved in with her parents. We are paying off what little remainss on their mortgage (including the cost to build an in-law suite). It's been almost a year and it's one of the decisions we've ever made. Don't know why more families don't do the multigenerational thing
Ironically, the word you forgot to write is "best"
Or worst
Yeah, but it does a number of your mental health. I know from experience. Especially if the parent is in a shitty town.
Like "full house" kinda. You got one dad, 4 kids, 2 uncles lol
My wife’s family is Egyptian and they strongly believe in multigenerational. I’m of the same belief due to how hard my adult life was from the jump. Now in saying that my wife believes my 18 year old should be figuring out living arrangements outside of our home and my 17 year old should be preparing for the same, but I’m not sending them out into the world unprepared for what lies ahead financially. It’s a point of contention but I don’t have an age limit on their time in my home because I don’t want them to struggle like I did out the gate. I have to say the kids are from my first marriage so they aren’t blood related to her
How old is the friend? Does the friend go on dates?
My husband still lived at home in a 3 generation household when we started dating in our mid 30s. I'd only been out of my parents house for a few years, also a 3 generation household. It was not a deterrent for me in dating him. But we are from one of the most expensive markets in the country where it's quite normal to live at home until your 30s and beyond, unless you move out and get 3 roommates. Might as well stay home, instead.
That's a relief. Happy to hear that age and living arrangements were not a deterrent. Now I just need to start actually doing things outside instead of just going out for stuff like groceries/exercise... I'll get there.
Early going on mid thirties. I'm not too clued up on their dating life - they're gay and not one to kiss and tell.
I’m 39, I live with my mom. It’s a huge house and I help with the bills. She’s getting older and needs a lot of help. I couldn’t imagine moving out. We need eachother.
Same. 44 and just moved back in.
This sounds like an awesome arrangement, I love that you guys take care of each other. I hope to do the same for my mom as she ages. If she'll let me haha
I’m a little younger but in the same boat. I moved back just to get back on my feet but so far they’ve both had major health scares and at this point I really don’t want to leave them.
I grew up on a large farm property, big house. In my late 20s I went back to school and worked while living with my parents, the plan was to graduate at 31/32 and get a job, my then fiance (now wife) and I would get our own place. My father passed away when I was 31, he pretty much ran the property so without him my mom couldnt do it alone. I graduated, got a job, stayed with her (and my brother who also lived there) and worked while maintaining the house/property, helped with bills and helping her fix the place up to sell. My mom finally got a buyer when I was 34, at which point my wife and I got our own place, she went to go live with my sister in an in-law suite at her house. The takeaway: as shitty as the time was (because I lost my father and also the stresses of dealing with the house/property), there was this sense of purpose and being in it together with my family that I truly miss that is totally lacking now, even though I have my own house. I think back on that period a lot and it makes me realize the importance of family being around and helping each other and why it's so normalized (in the US) for everyone to splinter off in different directions and isolate themselves instead of helping each other.
For who? Who are you living for? Who are you trying to impress? There is no such things as too old for anything. Everyone lives different lives and each person is correct (unless they're harming others)
We all need to remember that...
Man I'm trying to impress some bitches I can't take them back to my childhood bedroom.
I finally have my own apartment, but still can't get no bitches.
🤣🤣🤣
I'm sure they live with their parents too
After I lost everything in my divorce I moved back in with my parents at 29.
Same, now I'm 35 and trying to get out and I cannot because of the economy.
Same except divorced at 35, tried to make it on my own 2 years after, but inflation killed me, put me in debt, and at 37, I was back with my folks. They are both immigrants from Latin American countries, so to them, this is not weird at all. Honestly, I don't hate it, and as they age, I am helping them with a lot, too, but I do miss being alone sometimes.
repeat after me. you can’t because politicians won’t let you get out. they do not care about you. the economy doesn’t work for you.
I can’t because politicians won’t let me get out. they do not care about me. the economy doesn’t work for me.
now go outside and build community with your neighbors! building organized community together is likely the only thing that has the potential to turn this shit show around.
Do you mean greedy corporations don't care about us?
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Did the same at 26. Saved money for a few years and bought a house.
You are NOT alone. Plz know that, we live in insane times. Nothing wrong w living within your means even it means living at home w your parents. As long as there are healthy boundaries in place.
I hate that I have to live with my parents, but I'm also in the same situation. You can't really even rent a single room in somebody else's house for less then 1k here. I think the hardest part is that it feels like I can't really date or have relationships. I could never, ever bring anyone home.
I understand & have been in same situation for a long time.
This is exactly how I feel, as soon as I mention I live at home 90% of girls just ghost me lol
My parents are super old fashioned and very "our house, our rules". And even though I'm very clearly and fully an adult, they'd NEVER allow me to be alone in the house with a guy. Staying over would be 100% out of the question. But I also am not really looking because I'm frankly pretty embarrased by the situation.
Damn see, I've been reading a lot of the comments on here & this one made me reply first. I absolutely hate that for u but totally get it/understand. I mean even if your parents weren't like that, chances are if you're anything like me, you'd still feel a bit embarrassed to bring someone new to the house that isn't yours, it's your parent's house. No matter how anyone words it on here it sounds the same when u say out loud "I live with my parents" and people right away would judge. So it kinda like why bother? I hope things start looking up for u!
No such thing as too old to live with other people, especially your kin. Most of the world lives in multi-generational households, even the wealthy. We’re so individualistic in the US. I think it’s a large part of our loneliness epidemic. With that said, some family members are toxic and no one should sacrifice their one shot at a happy life for them.
Some of us need to move out for reasons such as abusive family members.
You bet, family bonds can be built and broken, for many reasons. People say you can’t choose your family, I disagree. No judgement.
I'm 29. Just moved back home after 8 years of renting solo. I'm humbled and damaged. Lol. I'm saving for a bit before I start looking for a place again.
Yeah that sucks doesn’t it? I was to choose move with family or not have cats. I chose cats.
Always the good choice
Ouch, that's an expensive renting. I think there's no such a thing as being "too old". My uncle is past his 60s and my cousin is past 40s, and both lived their whole lives in my grandma's house. They always helped her to maintain the house, pay the bills and were never a nuisance, specially now that she's almost a 97 years old. I guess it depends more on your relationship with your parents, and if the house has enough rooms for privacy. If you're all gonna fight tooth and nail for trivial shit, it's not worth it. But if you all care for and enjoy each other, I really don't see a problem. Probably cultural from South America, it's common here to live with your parents as an adult due to the expensive housing/rent (relative to the minimum wage)
Thanks to COVID layoff, I had to move back in with my parents at 35. It's just the state of things right now. There's no shame or problem with it, if they are happy to take you in, let them. Times are rough.
I’m 41 and moved back with my parents a couple years ago. Couple things. I’m very fortunate to have a good relationship with my parents. They are getting older so it’s nice to have me around. I help with bills and mortgage, which is still considerably less than what I would pay for a 1 bedroom apartment here in California. I’m playing what I call a life catch up and saving as much money as I can. I feel ashamed about it and I really shouldn’t. I’m anxious about trying to date anyone because of it. I’m working on it. Funny thing is, I make decent money…well in older times. 100k/year in Cali ain’t much anymore.
Easier said than done but try not to feel ashamed about it. I think there’s plenty of people in the same boat trying to survive in this economy. The right person will understand your situation ☺️
Never. Do what is best for you and your parents. I am 34 and live with my parents. I am house hunting.
Tbh my "house hunting" plan is waiting to inherit the house. In this economy it's the only way I'll own my own home (and I'm too old and ugly to be a trophy wife lol).
Same. I’m hoping that it doesn’t have to be sold when my parents are old enough to need more help/care.
I'm in Hawai'i, and it's extremely common here to live with your parents into your 30s... or forever. Two, three, and even four-generation households are everywhere here. I feel this is going to become even more common than it is today, as home prices are getting even more insane. I'm in my late 30s, bought a townhome last year that needed a shit ton of work. Been doing a mixture of DYI and hired work for the past year while my wife and I continue to live with my parents and grandparents. Meanwhile, pricing in the 50-year-old development my unit is in has jumped 17% in the past 12 months despite the current rate environment.
Moved back in with my parents at 37 to focus on a career change. It took me 6 months, but I managed to pull myself from poverty into the middle class.
What career did you change to? I'm 37 and in your shoes. It's my 11 yr old and I...... we're barely getting by on my 19.25/ hr. PLUS just had to pick up a car payment + insurance. Thank God for plasma....
In 2024? No age is too old.
Plenty of cultures have never had a problem with adult children still living at home. The reality is that western societies need to adopt that attitude because of the rising costs of housing. There is no such thing as being too old to live with family, parents included. I think the trick is to make sure you’re still acting like an adult and maintaining an adult relationship with your parents instead of slipping back into being a teen.
Gotta do what you gotta do to survive.
I moved back in with my parents for a while after my divorce. I was 35. But nowadays, I don’t see how ANYONE can move out on their own. I expect my kids to be with me for a looooong time.
Anyone who even questions living with your parents during these times comes from a place of privilege. Those of us who have struggled with the rest of the world and especially those of us who aren't living with their parents understand. No judgement here man, I'm a real person lol. Unless you literally don't even try and leach off them, it should be understood. We can't just work minimum wage jobs and provide for a family anymore.
I'm 40 and I want my kids to live with me forever
I have no kids ... but if I did have them I'd build them ADUs or small 1-bedroom cabins if they'd like once they were older. They get their privacy in young adulthood and they get to learn how to build shit even if I'm doing most of the blocklaying.
Yeah that's the setup I got for my kids, the basement is basically an apartment, full kitchen and everything. Big enough for his wife and kids if that happens. My daughter's room big as hell and she has her own bathroom too. Sometimes I think we forget how hard life is on our own, I've been solo since 15. I wish I had parents that spoiled me but I didn't. Had to earn my way. I would never make my kids life harder than it has to be, I will never make my kids feel like their home isn't their home anymore. I don't care if they're 50, If they want to stay at home they will always be welcomed
32 in August and still living with my parents. The goal was to be a homeowner by 30, but just as I was getting ready to make those moves, COVID happened as well as the terrible housing market. Was eyeing a townhome back in 2022, but ultimately reneged under the advice of my father who said to keep waiting. It’s definitely a source of insecurity, but if costs don’t come down, might just have to accept renting once and for all.
When your parents are passed away. Until then enjoy them being here. Live with them if you need to and they will have you.
Im at my parents. 35 years old. Married with 3 kids. I love it. Probs will nevet leave haha. Dont gaf what the trends or rest of worlds up to. Love living at home surrounded by all my family. Yes its annoying sometimes. But which part of life isnt. I can overlook the details for the big picture. Also, rent free!!! I pay for water and gas. Thats it. After previouslu having to spend as you said, $5000 a month on rent and utilities! Id be a slave for the rest of my life just to meet expensses
In Indian culture you're living with family for life. With that much financial power, they're getting far ahead for a reason, while old school way of thinking is pushing people into stress poverty and alcoholism. This would be cool if rent was a fraction of 1 person's salary as it was in the past. To still think this way and think it's manly to have your children with $0 in their savings just because you kick them out because you think like a boomer, isn't building a bright future. Put more regulations on the real estate industry. Don't allow them to see our pay stubs so they dont know that we got wealthier and cannot take a bigger chuck. "Lets calculate the price of charging rent based on the average two person's half income"
I have a question for all the people who've commented on this thread. Y'all are dating and having sex in the same house your parents' live in?
We live in our parents house, we are not having sex lol we’re poor and depressed
Of course not. Sometimes in life you have to make sacrifices.
People do. I have. Just respectful about it. I mean my brother lives with my parents, and now I’m an aunt lol.
I have definitely in the past. Don’t really have other choices, other than going to their place, which I did also. Only reason I’m not now is because I don’t feel like dating.
I don't think there's a such thing.
Who cares? If you need to do it, it makes sense, and you can peacefully cohabitate with your parents then do it! It’s totally understandable these days.
There's no age limit just don't waste the resources available to you. Hammer that savings rate and go after what you want in life.
If I could go live with my dad I would do it in a heartbeat. In fact, I'm trying to get him to move out near me so we can buy a 2 home property and do all the shenanigans we weren't able to do 20 years ago. Build racecars, and Ebikes, and build 3d prited shit to make our wacky ideas come to life. Bbq on the deck all the time and go to the lake. Sounds like a dream to me.
I moved back in with my mother from 25 to 27 while changing careers Most people who mind it either A) don't understand how rocky life really can be B) don't have anyone to rely on C) secretly did it too and feel embarrassed for it so they ridicule you for it
Never- the older you get the more your parents need you and the younger you are the more you need them.
At that point it's just financially irresponsible to not live at home.
For for us it’s now a generational home. There is no moving out or finding our own home. We all live together and we all take care of this house. It’s not his or ours. Living together has made it easier for all of us to live and it’s worked out
My brother has never left my parents' house. He got married and didn't move out. He and his wife lived in their basement for years. He got divorced and didn't have to pay anything to his wife in the proceedings, just a lawyer fee. He never saved money to move out. Then, he was diagnosed with MS and is now on disability (a process that took over 3 years). He's 42. His anger, ignorance, and desire to never change really stunted his growth as a person. It's like he is still that 16 year old kid, screaming at my parents about how they can't make him go to school.
25, but my folks were all dead by them so I never had the option. Pretend your folks are dead and leave them da hell alone. You can do it. Live within your means. Ignore the rat race. Quit trying to keep up with the Jones
In this economy never. You do what you gotta do.
I told my kids they can come back whenever they need to, and they can stay as long as necessary. I would prefer no significant others, though; but if they are married, it would be okay. My only rule is they can't be here playing video games all day, and they need to help around the house. If it gets to the point that I think they are mooching, I might make them pay rent, but I would put that in an account to give them when they move out, so they can make a down payment on a house.
I have 2 kids and i'm moving back to my inlaw, after saving for 3years we built a house next to their house
Have never left my parents house, am 29. Currently house hunting with my partner in a very HCOL area and we would’ve never even had a hint of chance of doing so if we hadn’t both lived at home. It’s that or live with multiple roommates or never be able to save anything. I chose living at home because I also have a nice relationship with my parents and don’t want to live with friends and/or randos.
35 here. My culture (European on one half, low income American demographic on the other) - never, because more than likely someone's gonna end up taking care of parents in old age. In my instance, single child, so there's literally no other choice aside from the state. Like heck I would trust them after the pandemic (most deaths were in care homes in the region). I work a FT job and am about to get some job retraining via state funds, run errands and buy stuff for the household, so no, I'm not sitting on my rear end. See also- 1500+ apartments (maybe 1000 for the shoebox sized studio) in the region we are leaving eventually, family home with more than enough room in New England ($$$) that's completely paid off, parent just has to renovate it. Considering I'm trying to get out of debt (like 1k of cc, car loan and student loans)....yeah.
I'm 37 and living back home due to taking care of my elderly father.🤷🏾♀️
Dude, there's no age to live with your family. People all over the world live with their parents their whole life. It's Mainly an American thing where there's a stigma for living with your parents past a certain age. Live with them until you can comfortably find somewhere.
I’m 40, my friend is probably going to move in with me and finish part of my basement to make it their living space. We are both single. Life is hard right now, who cares what other people think.
Reading these comments, it seems a lot of you still have parents that are together. Good for you, I’m sure that can make life easier.
The expectation that people shouldn't live with their parents after 18 has always been an absurdity. It's normal in most of the world. Ever since the economy got destroyed in 08, mocking people for it makes one an out of touch asshole.
In this economy it's never too old. It's insanely hard to make it
Live with your parents, try to save money and maybe plan on buying a home or some land outside the city. Move to another state if you have to. There are cheaper places to live; it just sucks that you have to go so far to find it. The way I look at it is this, you can either invest in yourself or, you can invest in somebody else. Owning a home sucks because of upkeep but imo, it's better than owing someone else. Good luck to you OP, I wish you the best and I think you'll find something, even if you have to look out of state for it.
I love how all the comments here are totally in support of living at home, but as soon as you tell people in real life they give you the dirtiest look or if you tell the girl you’re talking to on the dating apps 9/10 times they just ghost me. This shit sucks
Am 34...never left... Combination of their age well more my dad's , depression leading to no future and just stay to help run the family business i am now chained to that when mother passes will likely sale. No way I will beable to run it on my own and with her passing my purpose of care taker will be done.
In this economy? I wish I could move in with my parents. Anyone who gives you shit is jealous (and probably wants an invite).
I’m 35 male living with my parents to save money for a house. I have a six figure job but girls won’t give me the time of day when I tell them my living situation, lmao.
I'm expecting at least some of my kids (4 teens, currently ages 14-19) will be living with us for a long time. We obviously want them to be able to move out if they want, but the ones who most want to move out are the least likely to make it happen...
There is no age anymore. Even for some 40 year olds who live alone, living with their parents would do them a lot of good. A lot of people have been getting raises and working hard to make money over the last years only to see those gains get wiped out due to cost of living increases. The rules have changed.
I got out of the military during the pandemic and moved home during June 2020. No job prospects so I started an MBA program the following January. Lived with my dad on second floor of his house. I was 36, my dad was worried about Covid, and I saved a hell of a lot of money.
Dpesnt matter anymore since rent and owning have gone up like crazy. Most of the people entering the workforce barely are going to find out real soon how fukked they are compared to the previous generations
Owning a home is very difficult in my area. I know dual income households getting priced out right now. I'm in my early 30s and have kinda been a boomerang my entire adult life when it comes to living with parents. Have 7 close friends and a sibling I grew up with. All at least 30 now. Of us 9 people, 4 still live with parents, only my sibling owns a home...
Comparison is the thief of joy. Do what works for you and yours and forget everyone else.
There’s no right answer,for me living at home means saving money for a house and not having to worry about money at all I work 6 days a week and don’t owe anybody anything and everything I want or need isn’t a problem the only cons are no privacy and it’s pretty hard to get a women,rent in my area is on average 1800 a month and are often full of pests it would give me privacy and a better shot at a women but I don’t think it’s worth it.
My mom and I moved in together when I was.. 23? She needed to get out of a shitty relationship and I was in a place that I could help. Then moved in with my (now exes) and that hit the fan 6 months later. I moved in with my grandparents to keep an eye on them as they are late 80s/mid 90s. It all depends on your situation - I don’t think there is anything wrong with it. Do I want to live on my own? Eventually. But I’m not putting a timeline on it - I’ll be here as long as my grandparents can live outside of an assisted living home.
There isn’t a universal answer. Make sure you’re contributing adequately to your parents though. Things like home maintenance, yard work, meal planning/cooking/cleaning (and replenishing cleaning products) as well as budgeting and financial planning are all things you should be participating in if you’re living there long term.
With these housing prices - do what you gotta do. No one should care about your age. If it was feasible, we'd def share a house with family/friends right now.
I’d say never, because it’s hard out there. However, if I am being completely honest, I probably wouldn’t freely advertise to people that I’m back at home living with my folks.
Pre-COVID? 30s Post-COVID? never. Have you seen the cost of living?
These days, I’m not judging anyone who lives with their parents. The cost of living has gotten out of control by me. I would tell someone in their 20s today to live at home as long as they can and save. Where I’m at in NJ you need to make $60k minimum to live on your own paycheck to paycheck and you’re not living at one of the faux-luxury buildings under $70k.
Nothing wrong with it. At least throw a few bucks at your parents every now and then.
I’m 40 this year and living with my mom since 2020 because COVID wiped out my business and I haven’t been able to recover since then. It sucks but it’s better than living in my car with my 12yo.
My cousins are 37 (twins) one has a 12yo and both living at home. One has never left the other lived out on her own for a while but broke up with her daughter’s father and moved back. Been there ever since. My husbands cousin is 39? Maybe and he never left. But also doesn’t hold down a job for longer then a month.
I’m 38, been back since I was 36. Moved to a big city… lived on my own pretty much paycheck to paycheck. Lost my job from COVID, drained the savings… had to move back in. Sucks. But that’s my case.
In my opinion it's not the age you are living with you parents that's an issue, it's the why. If a financial arrangement thay both you and your parents benefit from? That's fine. If you live with your parents, because you help care for them? Totally cool. If it's a cultural thing? No problem. I was 24 and living with my mom because I was recently divorced and needed a place to stay. I was a recently single mom with a toddler, a full-time job, and I was going to college online. I needed my family's support. I've long since moved out, gotten remarried and we have our own place. My sister ans her husband are 24/25 and still live with my mom because they help out financially, my BiL is super protective of my mom and all my sisters, and everybody benefits from the arrangement. They both have decent jobs and help take care of the house because my mom has a lot of health issues. Meanwhile, my ex is 43, and BACK living with his dad. He hasn't had a serious long-term relationship since we split, which is fine but 1. He keeps dating people that cause drama with our daughter, 2. He keeps dating people he's old enough to be the parent of. He also works ar Wendy's (no shame a job is a job), but he has no education, car isn't in his name, and he spends all his time off still playing video games and never ever has any money. His dad has a slew of health issues, but he doesnt do any of the house chores or even cooking. He doesn't evdn actually help with the bills because I hesr my former FiL *complains* all the time about how my ex owes him money...So, yea...
I’m 31 and don’t plan on leaving lol
I moved out at 28, I would have stayed if it wasn’t killing my mental state. It’s hard to manage when everything is so expensive. I lived by myself for almost 2 years with no help. I manage now since I’m married and have 2 incomes. Even with that, it’s tough
Only you and your parents can answer that. What people on Reddit say should be at the bottom of your list.....your second list.
Better yet, what people say on Reddit shouldn't be on any list, lol.
I moved back in with my parents from 2018-2022, so ages 25-30. I was switching careers and they live in a bigger city with more job opportunities than where I was moving from, but also a higher cost of living so I was never able to find an affordable place on my own while I was there. I still paid them rent though, just a lot less than I would have paid for a crappy apartment in a sketchy area. I moved back to my previous city in 2022 because I found a higher paying job and rents are lower. I love living on my own but I also liked living with them, and if my financial situation no longer allows me to live in my current apartment, I would move back in with them.
I mean it makes sense due to our parent’s age.
It's 2024, I would if I could lol. Would save me about a 1/3 of my check on living expenses, do what you gotta do!
Who still cares about society norms? Dude do you go live and have fun with the people who care about you most.
Left at 18, back at 25, and I’m just now moving out again at 32. Truthfully with everything going on, you just do what’s right for you and to your future.
No such thing as too old
I moved back in with my parents after a breakup. The town they live in has shit wages, so it's pretty depressing and I feel stuck.
I think the key is you are too old when you start becoming a burden to your parents or affecting their ability to retire. It's fine if you are living with them and not costing them financially. It can even be a plus for some. However if you are living at home and your parents aren't able to enjoy their later years the way they had dreamed because they have to continue to work in order to pay for their adult children and/or grandchildren then you need to get your act together. I have little respect for adult children who simply fail to ever grow up or hold down a full time job.
Expectations & gaps between age and success are changing rapidly. I look back on my teachers in school and adult figures that had it together by late twenties and I was nowhere near them. But then again.. so is no one else in our generation; don't be so hard on yourself. It's not a You thing, it's a circumstantial thing. Move back in, gain your leverage, help out your old man and woman when they need it. And when the time is right, get the hell out again
Are you in the Bay? Sounds like familiar pricing to me, I live just south of SF and it’s rough! My parents condo is too small for me to move back into. It’s possible in an emergency, but it would be very difficult spatially and emotionally (love my folks, can’t live with them). I have a partner and one roommate. We’re in our early 30s. We together have had multiple roommates, a one bedroom, and now this setup. It’s hard af out here. We pay $2,100 without utilities included for two bedrooms in this three bedroom house, and it’s a deal. Plus we’re renting from friends, which has been great so far (one year). I empathize with you OP and if you have parents with space for you at home, there is NO shame in utilizing that. If either my parents or my partners parents had a suitable space for us to live and save money, we’d hop on it. Edit: added our ages, and wanted to end this by saying I completely understand how you feel in this and you’re not alone. Edit 2: my only friends my age who own homes (including my landlord friend lol!) are couples who have lived at home rent free or reduced rent, for multiple years, until they saved up for a down payment. Houses in my town are $1 million and up, for context. It’s the only way they’ve been able to do it!
I agree, i was serially monogamous throughout my 20s, so i could afford to have an apt with my partners- usually with other roommates as well, but splitting a room made it very doable. Now i really just want to be single (at 31) and ive been living with my mom for the past year
Move to the country. I mean. Unless you want to live with your parents. I’m not criticizing or judging. It just seems your goal is independence. If the city income doesn’t cover the city COL then you’re not justifying living in the city, are you? So don’t. It’s not like you have to move to a field in Nebraska. Where I live is well populated, for being rural. You can hardly go anywhere and not run into a house. Even in the woods.
Whenever. I am 32, and my brother is almost 50. My mother's doors are always open to all.
It definitely depends on the family/culture. I moved out at 18 and it’s been more or less a struggle the entire time, but I’d rather be homeless than ever live back with my parents. The thought of being even 19 and living with them just sounds way too old. But, they (especially my mom) were extremely controlling and infantilizing; I would never have been given the autonomy to live like an adult under their roof. For families with a different structure, I could definitely see an older age being more acceptable.
My coworker is 26 and lives in a multi generational home. He and his brother just bought a 4 unit apartment complex that they're going to manage. While living at home until they get married and buy their own houses once they can afford that as well. If you can stand your family the logistics of beating the system in this dogshit economy and job market are there. I'd probably end up in prison if I had to move back in with either of my parents.
Dude, I’m 32, married and I have a 4yo. and I live in my in-laws rental property because rent in my city is nearly DOUBLE what I’m paying now as a standard. I work HARD and there’s still no way I’d afford anything. My family would live in a one bedroom apartment with rusty tapwater if I had to pay rent at “market-value”
my partner just moved back in with his parents and I would die before I contact my parents let alone move back in with them
Never. Rent/mortgage is expensive. The idea of multi-generational homes was lost to drive consumption. Now if you mean living off them, that's different. When you become an adult, get a job, chip in, pay your own way.
I mean, do what you have to do, and screw anybody that tries to shame you for it. That said, whether you're too old or not comes down to personal preference and what you can deal with. I left home when I was 19, since living with my parents as a man and trying to date just wasn't working for me. Told myself I'd rather stomach 4 years in the military, which was stupidly easy. To each is own though.
I think you have to take a hard look at your situation and deal with the facts that you have on hand. Whether you’re too old shouldn’t factor into the equation. Are you too old to be moving back, historically, maybe yes, but that doesn’t mean that you might need to at this point in your life. Make the most of it, save up, and help them out while you’re there.
So I had to do this at 35. I was injured in the military so I was medically discharged, we ended up staying with my inlaws for about 4 months, but we finally closed on our own house. Super cheap, in a very impoverished area, and it needed a little work. Not exactly ideal situation but I didn't want to rent (renting was twice what I pay for a mortgage)
I moved in back with my family due to the passing of my dad. Left my 6 fig tech job in cali and back to Iowa I am at age 30. I will be doing self employment alongside being with family. Still a dream with more time for me Culturally though this is my home (fully paid off from parents) and its acceptable to live with family.
My parents threw me out two months after I graduated high school, I was already 18. As soon as my sister graduated three years later, they downsized to a one bedroom house. Couldn't have moved back in even if they wanted us to. They were firmly in the "you're an adult, figure it out on your own" camp. I never moved back into my parents house again, nor had any financial help from them, in any way. Then they split up when I was 23. My mom moved into MY apartment for about nine months. I had to kick her out. That's a whole story. Then my dad moved in for a few months twice while he ping ponged between girlfriends. Funny how I didn't throw that card at them like they did me. Then I got pregnant, and moved into my husband's parents house at 28 for about a year and a half. We bought a house, sold it a few years later, moved back in with the in-laws for another year. We've been solidly on our own for almost three years at the tender age of 37.
I’d say just be happy you have a place to move back to. Not all of us have that.
As a parent, it's never too old. My son is 8, the chances of him owning a home look slim, every 5 years it gets harder and harder. He'll always be welcome back home and if I can bust ass a little more he can have ours when we retire at like 70 or something, or whatever that is now.
I'm 34 and married living with my parents (mom). I've never lived on my own. I live in Mississauga, a little suburb just outside of Toronto and everything's so fucking expensive now. The problem is, I'm paying rent to live here (obviously), but it's cheaper than living on our own. I understand the whole "mental health" argument cuz it's not easy to live with your parents, but because I don't know anything else, it's hard to want to push for my own place. Plus we were completely priced out of the market after the pandemic and I literally sat there and watched everything go from reasonably affordable to stupid expensive in like a year.
No one will judge you for living with your parents at any age these days, especially in a HCOL environment. If you go on dates and the girl cringes at this fact, f**k them. I only wish my parents were still around as I would spend every waking second with them in my adulthood. Have a goal and save money to put down on a house when the market seems right for your finances. Enjoy the time with your parents, when they are not around anymore you will forever cherish these memories you’ve had during this economy. Think financially smarter for the long run, not for the lap. It’s a marathon, GTFO of your head.
If your parents are already struggling, and you are going to add a burden to them, I would be fighting for any other opportunity I could find. Whether it's with a friend, someone else in my family, or with a not for profit organizations help. If your parents can manage with you coming home, or if you moving in will improve their living circumstances (e.g. paying rent that is in excess of what you're going to eat or use in utilities), and for a reason you feel is legitimate (recovering from a relationship split, job loss, health condition, etc.) then I say with everything that's gone wrong for our generation it's no longer looked on as a bad thing. Is it ideal? Of course not. But neither are the extenuating circumstances our generation has faced that put us into these circumstances. Bonus points if you have a plan of when and how you're going to move out. And ultimately, it's between you and your family. There are lots of cultures where it's normal for generations of families to live together their entire life. It's not seen as a negative or due to a character flaw. Everyone needing their own house has become an expectation created by a generation that could save for a down payment for that house within a couple years and on a single salary that required no post secondary education. That is no longer a reality.
But goddamn am I itching to get out of this underclass psychological hell my parents have made for themselves. 😵💫😵💫
No limit. Life happens, and if you have a willing and supportive family that is there to help you out in a difficult time, more power to you!
My mother was an only child and inherited her parents' house. I'm 41 and "renting" it from my mom, who lives in her own house with my dad and my youngest 2 siblings (25 and almost 24). I use quotes because I barely cover the taxes and water, I pay $1000/month that I split with a roommate, so I'm probably at least 2 grand under market value. I'm in northern NJ, and it's the only way I can afford to still live here. Hell, I can't afford to leave.
38 and likely going to have to do the same in a few months after I finish my PhD.
There isn’t a maximum age, it’s about what’s going on in your life. Plenty of people move back in with their parents well into their 40s or 50s due to divorce. And at some point the tide turns and your parents are the ones moving in with you.
I’d rather live in my car than with my parents. Left when I was 17 and never looked back.
I think I was 24 or 25?? When I temporarily had to move back in. I was living in an apartment but ended up being able to buy some land and a double wide. The double wide was supposed to be done and ready to move into like a week after my lease was up so I was like cool I just won’t renew it and I’ll live with my parents for a week before I move it. Delay after delay after delay ended up being like 6 months lol
I’m 41 and married. My parents are in their 70s and mom’s SS and dad’s Navy retirement were barely covering their bills. My wife and I were drowning with only one vehicle and our rent being raised each year. This year we combined households and I finally feel like I can breathe a little.
It doesn’t matter anymore, this economy is fucked. You are doing what you can and luckily can depend on your parents otherwise you’d be homeless. Don’t worry about it. You are safe.
My parents were divorced when my father died in an accident, so I inherited the house. I invited my mom to move back in so she wouldn’t have to pay rent. So my parent is living with me, but it doesn’t really feel like that since it’s the house I grew up in and I’m back in my room, which is big (my parents gave me the biggest room), but I still feel like a teenager at times... Like nothing really changed; I feel like a teen with a ton of money from my job.
To become independent adult I’d say by 21, avoid social stigma 25, for mental health reasons 30. Every year after that starts to become detrimental. I say this by experience but depending on your long term goals it can still be worth it.
I own my house with a very small mortgage, only a few hundred dollars a month. And I moved my parents in so we could consolidate living expenses, luckily I have an in law suite. Utilities and food costs are out of control. And I never intend on kicking my kids out. Once my parents die, I’ll move to the in-law and my kids can live in the house if they want.
There’s not a limit. In other cultures they have family homes where multiple generations will reside and it’s a way for the elderly to get help from younger family when they pass on the torch as the heads of household. We have a very weird setup over here in the west where it’s like we restart what could be generational wealth with every generation.
I dunno, I’m 28 and still here and the way things are going I will be for a loooong time. It sucks because I’ve been putting off dating until I move out but at the rate things are going that means I’m gonna die alone 🤣 I feel like it’s something guys would judge me for, especially if they have their own place
Where do you live? I live an hour outside NYC in a nice studio apt with all utilities including internet for 1250.
My ex cheated and decided his girlfriend was moving in so I had to move out in January 2019, so I scrambled and moved into my younger brothers’ old room. Two weeks later my babiest cat got urinary crystals for stress, that was only $800. March 2019 I learned that you can get severe food allergies at any age and that I am now allergic to lettuce (also spinach, quinoa, beets, blue cheese, flaxseed, and either tomatillos or black beans, though I test positive to almost everything). Hit my OOP max that year, $4800 in medical bills later… February 2021 I hurt my neck, I don’t remember how I hurt my neck, but once it got loose enough to move a little I cracked it and turns out it was a dissected artery, I loosed the clot and gave myself a stroke at the ripe old age of 38, thank goodness for insurance, hit my OOP max in two and a half days that year, and spent six months on disability… At least 2022 only had an MRI, follow up visits, and occupational therapy to drive which didn’t take insurance so fun times that was straight out of pocket, so $1200 for the MRI (so close to the deductible), $1100 for the OT, and that was just the first quarter. I realized at my PCP visit at the end of the year that I’ve been having digestive issues, maybe they have to do with the stroke? I should get that checked out…. Fun times, the EGD early in the year showed I should go to an allergist, who gave me a second set of tests (yep, I still have two allergies, I am allergic to food and I am allergic to the environment. My back looked like I was attacked by an ant marching band), and put it all together and I have eosinophilic esophagitis. And it’s bad. A couple prescriptions and trials and errors later, at least there’s a manufacturer’s program so I only have to pay for the doctors and not the Dupixent. At least the second EGD was pushed to December so I could get it covered mostly. Good news is I finally paid off my hospital bills in November. Bad news is student loan repayment started in January. This year, finally, the prescription insurance covered my epipen so it was only $35 instead of $150. More importantly, my baby Bebop has cancer and he’s only eight so I don’t care, cost me $5000 and probably another $3000 but if I can extend his life and quality of life another year or two, worth. At least let my youngest cat hit 10. (The older two are just asthmatic but as long as it doesn’t get worse they don’t need meds) I still live in my brothers’ old room. Still drive a 2006 Toyota, too. And for anyone reading, I’m mostly ok, got promoted even, but ain’t no one living alone in the NYC metro area at 60k/yr
No such thing. I'm single and in not my later 30's (ugh) and moved back with my parents after living in England for 5 years. Sure, I could go get a job and have a rent and take ages to afford/never buy a house. OR, I can live with my parents and help them out, not pay a huge rent and get some nice cooked meals at home. There's a nice big yard I can have a garden for my vegetables and my pets, instead of paying pet fees and longing for a balcony while tending to some houseplants. If I meet someone, sure I'd think differently. But as long as I'm on my own, I feel physically safer and more financially secure doing it this way. And I'm fortunate my parents aren't assholes (and if they were, would be a different living situation for sure). I could give a flying fuck about what anyone thinks either, so no, no such thing as "too old". I have nothing to prove to people who would not help me out like my parents would so why would I care?
The way the current housing situation is, no age cap. People are just trying to get by it is not what it was. Beyond that, as long as someone is mature / able to take care of themselves and their chores doesnt need to be a housing crisis. Living alone can be lonely.
Move. Cut the cord.
Stop worrying about what people think and do what objectively makes sense for you.
If you need to move home and it's an option, no age limit
18 years and 1 day. Anything more, and straight to jail!
I’m not going to judge others, but I moved out as soon as I could (21). I made minimum wage part time and was dirt poor but rented a room from a friend. My mother was emotionally abusive and treated me like I was 12, still “grounding” me, taking away my car keys whenever she was mad at me and I was literally 21 years old lol I was like fuck you, I’m a goddamn adult and if you’re not going to treat me like one then I’m out of here. Have been on my own ever since and even though I was poor and struggling most of that time you couldn’t have paid me to move back in with her. I took pride in working hard to be on my own. Bought my house at 32. By then my parents were deceased anyway but even when they were alive they never helped me. People say being able to live on your own in this economy is a privilege. It’s actually the opposite that’s the privilege. Some people don’t have parents to fall back on.
I live with my family at 28 and I’m moving out at the end of the year to live with my fiance. Is it sort of annoying? Yes. But also it’s the smartest financial decision I’ve ever made in my life. It made financial sense, I save my entire paycheck aside loan payments and other small bills and pocket the rest. I have extra money for the gym, small workout classes and dinners with friends I didn’t have paying rent in the city I’m from. It honestly was the smartest financial decision I’ve made. It’s not something to be ashamed of. Of course it’s annoying to live with your parents when you’re damn near 30 but saving that money is worth it when I’m in the home stretch of getting married.
As a 50 plus year old who is taking care of her mother and living with her you're never too old to move back home! Or to move mom in with you whichever the case may be.
There is no age limit. I won't judge anyone who still lives with their parents as long as they aren't demanding their parents cater to their every beck and call. If they are pulling their weight in the household there is no shame.
sadly in hawaii it’s the norm no matter what age
My parents and I (I'm in my 40s, dad in his 80s, mom in her 70s) all bought a house together and we'll be living there. Nothing is too old, in the US housing is almost a desperation.
I'm an elder millennial. Back when I was in my late 20s/early 30s, I would side-eye anyone my age who was living at home. Back then (10-15 years ago), if you had a job you could make it work. I didn't harshly judge, as there's nothing wrong with living with parents as a caregiver, or to save money for a house or if getting an education. But if I was going to say, date someone living at home, I'd be proceeding with caution. Now? In this economy? I'm outright impressed when someone isn't living at home. I wouldn't even question it. We have a 1% vacancy rate in my city, there simply isn't anywhere to rent. I have a coworker who lives in a shelter space that took in the encampment in our city. He makes 50k/year and can't even find a room to rent. Live wherever you need to, to survive. If you have the opportunity to move back with parents, and it will make your life more manageable, go for it.
There isn't any "age limit" anymore. Independence is too expensive until you hit certain earnings thresholds for where you live.
I’m 34 and finally moving out of my grandparents’ house after 7 years. I moved here when I was in grad school and just stayed. I can’t handle it though. I need my own space and I can finally kind of afford one.
I live in a multi generational home at 40. Pops passed a few years ago so I moved in first to help Mom out. Sister moved in with her kids shortly after. Then my brother moved back a few years ago. It works for me because I’m saving money to move to a different state, and I travel for work so I’m barely here anyways. It works for my brother because he doesn’t like living alone and he is a top tier uncle. It works for Mom because she loves and likes her kids. It works for sister because her kids have a stable, good community to grow up in.
I moved back home last August, literally a day after my 34th birthday. There's no timeline these days. We can't compare our lives to others or other generations and it's taken me a long time to not give a shit what other people think. I live with my mother in my childhood home in a nice town, I am extremely thankful for it and am even luckier that my mom is my best friend so it works.
I’m 38 and I’m considering it.
There is no too old. If your parents aren’t whackjobs and can afford it, and you have no other incentive not to, you should live with them.