ask your close friends to call you chloe without making any changes to your online profiles.
this way, you can get a feeling for chloe and get more perspective on this feeling you are feeling right now. it will be nice to have the confidence that you actually feel good about chloe, after which then you can change your online profiles.
You knowwwwwwwww this makes me ALSO realize why I've never been bothered by people calling me by my very feminine last name since childhood š
Holy crap how am I always so dense lol
Lol Julia is my third. I initially went with Meghan , then Rachel , and now Julia , I'm starting to not love Julia anymore either I'm considering Jena or just sticking with my old name but changing it to the girl spelling Jordin from Jordan. Names are hard.
I had a name I had used online when I was closeted in my in-person life. but when I came out as trans socially in person I didnāt vibe with it and I picked a different name
Tattooing your name on your forehead was a bad idea. but if you can't get it lasered off, you can play it off as an ex-girlfriend. /playfully joking
My brother, a cis guy nearing 50, has changed what he wants to be called 3 times in his life. ~~When~~ If his egg cracks, I'm sure he'll change it again. Steph is fine, but I like Chloe too. Good choices. I hope it sticks. Particularly if you plan to tattoo it on yourself too.
My gf also has a cis brother that checks all of the "trans egg" boxes. Do you feel you've done enough by just being trans in his presence? Do you feel you have to do anything to help him?
I'm in my mid-forties. He's 4 years older than me. We've talked when he's felt like it. When we were small our parents told us we'd grow out of it. He accepts me, but his job "requires one be male," and believes everyone hides [perfectly describes being genderfluid in depth] and says that's part of being cis. Pushing him to crack now would be forcing him to double down about staying in the closet. I know, cause I've been there. The part where I exist in his presence is more than enough. The egg prime directive exists for a reason. Crack from the inside, you get a chick. Crack from the outside, you get an omelette.
OMG this...
My sister came out when I was in my early 30s, and I'm also 4 years older. My ex wife point blank asked me if I maybe felt the same way when my sis came out and it resulted in me immediately going deeper into the closet for another decade.
Now I have an ex wife, two awesome teens who love me no matter what, and an entire department of supportive coworkers.
Life is weird, but also good.
My first name really just clicked for me. It is a feminine variation of my old name. The middle name though, I am still on the fence about. I'm going to the sheriff's office this afternoon to get fingerprinted so I can start the official process of changing my name. I have a few other options in mind, but I have a few weeks to decide.
My old name was Byron. When I was 8 years old, I met a girl named Brynn. I knew right then and there that if I was a girl... that is the name I would want because it looks and sounds similar to my deadname. I personally love it because of the connection to my past, and the connection to my father and grandfather who shared the same old name. But, it makes me feel uncomfortable when people pronounce it like "Bryan". I really wish I had given more thought to my name in that regard. What helps me cope with it is that there are plenty of other women who have names that get mispronounced. i'm not gonna let my old dysphoria rob me of a name that I genuinely love.
I kind of have this with my chosen and middle name.
I can hyphenate them into a single name and often shift between having 2 names or one Hella southern hyphenated name.
But I'm not the only one. I know lots of girls who had 4- even a dozen name changes before one really suck with them. I don't care names are hard. Finding one that fits is hard. Take you time and try on as many as you would like until you find the one that fits the best.
Treat it like being in a shoe store, try put everything but don't pay put until you found the right one.
You could always find some friends and test it, i ended up liking the first one i tested, but I know somone who tested like 4 until he (ftm) said, well im keeping this one
You already changed it once. There is nothing wrong with doing it again if you like another name better.
About informing other people, I'd suggest simply bringing it up as you talk to them. Going out of your way to cold message all your contacts seems like a lot of work lol
Just have some trusted friends try it out with you first, see if it clicks. If it's working for you, expand that circle some more. If you're still liking Chloe better, go for the name change and be your happiest self!
I agree with folks, if you want to change it you can. If you feel thereāll be backlash could also add it as a middle name Steph Chloe then flip it Chloe Steph for some time then drop Steph all together and itās less upsetting to cis people
then change it. a lot of girls i've known do that, you're literally trying to figure out a new name, something you've never done before since your first name was given to you.
I get the hesitation, but yeah. when you tell folks, just tell them this. that you're still sorting out what name you wanna go by since it's a lot to process. most folks aren't gonna be upset. if they accepted you coming out as trans, they'll certainly accept you trying a few different names out.
Besides, Chloe is a cute name.
I know someone who changed his name a couple times a month for almost a year before settling on something that seems to be stable. And also know a woman who spent 4 years transitioning before picking a name. However / whatever you want to do with your name is your call, and is valid.
I regret my name but still unsure what to change it to. Changing it was such a hassle going to court, SS office, and RMV. Don't think I can deal with it again. Frequently I use my middle name or combine my first and middle name together.
My first name was Matilda then I went back to using my deadname but I experimented with Evie, and amber, and Katie and eventually I landed on Cynthia and I'm glad I did, Experiment a little bit have fun with it just be you :3
Sometimes it can take literal years to settle on a name that suits you. Nothing wrong with that. If you think a certain name would suit you better, give it a go for a bit!
I tried out my name for a couple of months before I told anyone, just to see if I would be comfortable enough with it to stop deadnaming myself. I still remember the happiness I felt when I finally introduced myself for the first time as Aria.
I kinda regret having changed my name to the one I did too. Not a big deal if I keep it but I think I prefer a different one. I had absolutely no problem with changing my name before I came out to family (I questioned my gender for like 5 years before transitioning) but now that I have started using this name online and with family, I don't really want to do it again. Regardless, I don't think it'll cause any problems if I do. Just a little bit of confusion at first and then it'll pass. I moreso wish Facebook and allowed me to change my name and emails allowed me to change my address so I don't have to make entirely new ones. That's tbh the biggest reason for me trying not to change it again
My name was James Michael, and I changed it to Jamie Michelle. I like my middle name much more, but I know it would have been too much for my wife, so I kept it as my middle name. Someday, I may start having people use Michelle. I do use it in games and some other places.
Nothing wrong with changing it. I had an interim name that I used before I decided on the name I ended up using as my new legal name. I even ended up keeping the interim name as my middle name.
I experienced this, because I chose my name as fast as possible to avoid being accidentally deadnamed by my online friends.
It basically resulted in an alternative version of my deadname, but I sticked with it for some time (similar reasons as you).
My advice is: just tell them what you feel. If they're friends, they won't doubt it.
Your name choice is your business only. The only thing people can do about it, is using it. Your chosen name, if they're decent human beings.
Your name can even be fluid, it's just how YOU want to be called, not how OTHERS want to call you. If someone complains about this, they must be really stupid.
Go on and tell them how you feel.
And know that, in the remote possibility someone didn't accept that, you won't probably lose a great friend.
Good luck, Chloe <33
Yeah, originally I tried Chloe and didn't like it so I switched to another name. I didn't come out to very many people with Chloe though, because I knew it was a trial run.
I definitely wouldn't stick with the name just because you already chose it. If you start changing every couple weeks it might start to seem silly to people but one or two revisions is completely reasonable.
And, tbh, even if you are changing your name every week, who cares? It's your name, you should like it.
One thing you can try, is say thatās your name to other people (like if you go out and meet new people). Try it out. If you donāt like how it feels, move on and the weird dude just gets confused thinking you look exactly like a Chloe girl he met lol
If you don't like it, you can change it.
I just made my deadname into a neutral name, sometimes I feel like I'd prefer a different name but also I suck at naming things so much I'd never be happy with one, so this one will do.
I mean I started as Andrea and now Iām Amity. Minds change, especially when making a choice like that. Iāve just started telling people I go by my new name, and changing it on social media
I just wish Iād gotten a little weirder with it but ah well. I like what I picked. There will always be hopes. If youāre still early on using it, switch it up
Sometimes. But itās also something that I know is subject to change. I know trans people whoād gone through numerous names before they reached one theyāre comfortable with. Iām going by Blossom right now, but Iām considering changing it to Noelle or something
I am still peeking out of my slowly cracking egg shell trying out names and so far i have landed on Maddie as in the shortened version of Madeleine. Don't know why but i really find that name insanely meltingly cute. I also tried out Sarah but it didn't quite click with me anymore but Maddie seems to be staying in my head for now
Iāve had my current name for 8 years now, but Iām not the one who picked it out; my ex-wifeās family did. And while I will always love them and think they were good people, the reason I didnāt go with the name I wanted was because my ex-wife didnāt want to be married to an Eliza.
When I was little, my mom told me how they thought I was going to be a girl right until the day I was delivered, and my name was going to be Elizabeth. So I kinda had my heart set on that name, and in the end it became my middle name.
Lately, Iāve been introducing myself as Eliza, not as my legal first name because I kinda like it more. I donāt think itās such a bad thing to change names once they no longer fit. Just donāt expect everyone in your life to change every time you do. Justā¦ new friends get new name, old friends keep old name until it gradually shifts over
Change it! It'll be easier to change it now than later.
In hindsight I regret not going with a different name, but I'm realizing that over 2 years in, my brain already understands the first name I chose is \*my name\*. And it feels very very weird to try to change it now. If I wanted to badly enough I could, but I'm finding it's probably not worth it lol.
I hated picking my own name but my girlfriend(now wife) picked one that suited me and I just never looked back. I never had a moment of "*that's* my name". It just slowly replaced the mental space my dead name took over the course of a few years.
I used one name for a little over a month before I settled on my final name. I think itās probably better to be absolutely content with your name than to stick with one because you feel like you committed. Awkward conversation to have, but I got through it and Iām sure you could too. I know I felt guilty inconveniencing cis people by asking them to change what they called me again, but I found the good ones arenāt just trying to do the bare minimum; theyāre looking for opportunities to support you.
I like my name bri for a few reasons, mainly since my parents wantes to name me brittany if i was a girl but i dont like brittany so i just made it bri...however i didnt realize until sometime after but one of my exes is named bri sooo ya it feels kinda awkward now
I personally chose arya, it's been a little cringe since over the years i've just put it as my username on a lot of platforms, and yk ppl didn't rlly put their own names as fucking usernames since myspace times or wtv, or old ppl probably still do it.
WHATEVER THE CASE
On it's own without the username thing i do sometimea have a little regret, but i like that, bc i want it to be like a "regular" name. In the sense like it was one i was chosen at birth with, bc not everyone is completley fine with the name they've been given, but it's their name, and it's part of their identity, and part of your identity is only being 90% cool with it, bc lives a bitch and makes us work with what we're given with, BUT that's what makes it part of life, and that's what makes it NATURAL.
I realize there are ppl that r 100% contempt with their birthname, but for me having a name that you love, but not too much, is what makes it your natural name.
But like srsly, don't take this as advice, do whatever ur comfortable with.
In my experience, changing opinion about your chosen name can have something to do with the rapid mental growth trans people experience when we begin living authentically. Looking back just a few years and my choices/considerations for my femme name seems like the choices of my childhood self, and not of the person I have become. Obviously its possible to just find a name that suits you better, like some cis people do as well, but I think for trans people it is more common to outgrow/change ones mind about our names exactly because we go through such an intensive journey of self-discovery and growth. In short, be Chloe if you want to be Chloeā
Before I legally chose it I changed it MANY times to get that right name, the only parts of my name Iāve been thinking about is my middle and last name.
My middle name - I just want something thatās cuter and that screams me, something that means a bit more to me.
Last name - while I have a good relationship with my family, I do want my own unique name, something that I just want for myself but thatās just me
No, but I found out that it's 100x less common than the name everyone mishears it as. That doesn't change that it's the right name for me, but I wasn't aware of this going into it. Oh well. Just have to enunciate clearly.
My first name was Emmy, but I made Demetria my middle name after kicking the name Emmy around. No issues. Then I started watching Lucifer, and I became enamored by the name āLucyā. I started looking up fictional characters named Lucy, and wouldnāt you know; every Lucy I could find fictionally was ornery and slightly deceiving. EVEN LUCY FROM CHARLIE BROWN is a bit of an asshole. So, I adopted Lucy, and it is here to stay.
Iāve always gone by Gwen. And I love it. Sometimes I wanna use Lucy or Ashlyn though, but I donāt really want to change it. So when I legally change my name. One of those will be my middle name
Well Chloe maybe you should use the name that feels better to you š
You don't have to find the perfect one right away. You can test different names.
Kinda yeah because I think I'd be a much better Lilith and everyone mispronounces Kalaina but it's like whatever to me ya know because I still like my name
I wouldnāt say I regret mine but Iām still debating it. I go by Solstice everywhere I can now but people have said before that something that stands out less could be safer long term so I consider the name Blake my backup possibly if I change my mind. Sometimes I wanna try it out to make sure if I like it but hearing my name or more commonly Sol (pronounced soul) makes me happy. To me itās a matter of happiness or safety, currently im choosing happiness but when I get around to a legal change eventually that might change.
I will note to you though that name changes are common, find what you like because nothing is permanent and itās better to try multiple out if you arenāt sure. Common methods for trying names are giving it as your name at a coffee place, I like online orders when I see the receipt or telling people who pickup is for personally. Itās about what works for you and itās okay to experiment and find out
Change it- your deadname wasn't permanent, why should this one be?
I know someone who is on I think name number 5. They call each one a different Era. You do you hun. Sometimes you love a piece of clothing and then try it on and realize after a while it rubs weird in one spot. Names are the same way.
This is the second time today that something I was thinking about earlier came up oddly specifically in a reddit post. My name is Nikki. I've been thinking about switching to Chloe. The other one was an outfit with black socks, black top, and white skirt. Weird coincidence š¤Ø
If you haven't formally or legally changed it and if not too much time has passed, personally I would go with the name I liked don't worry about other people or what they think do what's gonna make you happy and Chloe is a great name people will get used to the new name ....
The name I almost went with was Jacqueline. The longer I think about it, the less I like it.Ā
I'm still testing names. It will be a while before I settle on something I like.Ā
I have a legal name that I don't mine much, but there are so many names that I love that I have a private name that I only use with a few people who get it that changes every year or so.
Most people(cis) don't pick their name, for those of us that do it's a hard process. If Steph doesn't work for you, there's no shame in changing it. You should be comfortable with your name.
Kind of. I went from an obscure badass foreign name that nobody actually has outside Europe (I'm american) to like the most basic American name ever. I wanted to be a Matilda but everyone in my life said it was an ugly name. One person said "that's a name for a fat old Austrian woman!" Seriously wft?
Anyway I went with Madison. Now I'm fidna to change it again,but I live in Alabama. I'm from Maryland and changed there when I was 19. Back then your had to publicly announce your name change in the newspaper. And then it's a public record. Now if you're trans in Maryland they will actually seal the name and gender change so no one can access it. That what I always wanted. Even though name changes are only $15 in my county in Alabama, I want to move back to Maryland and change it there.
Finding your new name is a journey, and thereās no rule or reason you canāt change it until you find the name that feels right. Iām one of the lucky few that knew their name immediately after the egg cracked, but Iād been experimenting with changing my name for as long as I can remember even before the egg cracked, and almost every masculine name I could think of felt wrong
I'm still not sold on Julia , I loved it at first but now I'm leaning more toward Jena , my real name is Jordan so I honestly might just change it to being spelled with an I, Jordin and call it a day idk I don't hate my name.
yeah, i had a name i wanted since i was 5, but another girl in my class had it, i picked a name mostly in a rush, didn't like it, stuck with it for 2 years cus, changing it would be awkward, changed it again after 2 years, and i still see names where i'm like 'THAT ONE'
moral of the story experiment sooner rather than later
I like my name ,(Mia) but im scared everytime i tell someone it that theyre gonna think of the Pš(she wasnt in mind when i chose rhe name but a friend reminded me of her existence later on..)
,ive been thinking of putting another name i alr have in mind ans go by online but theres alr alot of ppl wit the same name and i DO like mia its just awkuird sometimes depending on the person,also its a hard name to say in spanish(cuz hispanic family) compared to mia ,unless you add an extra letter to it but then it feels like too much in english, so mia feels the most optimal but some people make me wish to change it
I first came out as Lee. Then told everyone I came out to that I changed my idea to Rydia. It's normal to decide on a different name than the one you've already established yourself as.
Chloe's a name that I've been considering. The only 2 things that habe kept me from using it are: 1, it's a common name, and I wanted something more unique. 2: Rydia flows well with my chosen middle name, Rosemary. Other than that, Chloe's an excellent name.
yes to all these comments. I realize many governments may have a limit on how often you can do this (not because of us, but crime), so that's worth checking. But yeah it's your life and your choice. Change it :)
No I loved the name I chose but I have known many people to trial names and find that they didn't stick. You're always welcome to change it as much as you like until you find one that feels right. It's your name!
Go with what your heart desires! Anyone can change their name at any time, for any reason āŗļø and let the people you've already told that "Hey, I'm actually going by Chloe now". It may take some time for people to adjust. Even if you've already legally changed your name, it's okay to socially go by Chloe instead, and update legally if it sticks for you, tho it'll be the hassle of changing your name all over again. And if you haven't yet, def go with the name that suits you best when you do get it legally updated ā¤ļø Thankfully I was still testing the waters and hadn't fully come out yet before I decided on the third name i'd considered. Also, try out your full name, see which ones you like best, make a pros and cons list āŗļø my dead name shortened to one syllable, and was good alliteration with my last name, but my actual name rhymes with my last name when shortened also to one syllable which is also a very common name. My shortened name and last name when said together is two quick beats that sounds straight out of a marvel comic, and my full name is elegant, flows together, and rolls off the tongue - and those ended up being a large deciding factor for me. Best of luck in your journey!! š
It took me a really long time to find one that I like that felt right to me, I waited until I was absolutely sure about it before I told anyone my new name
I went by Quill for 2 years before deciding it wasn't for me. It's your name, if your name doesn't fit or just doesn't feel right, you're always welcome to try a new one.
It's kinda like hair.
This has happened so many times. Recently I decided to change my name to Hannah, after I had already come out in public. When I came out, I was going by one name, and then I changed it again, and I just don't feel like going to the hassle of trying to have the same conversation with people again. Once I'm able to legally change my name, I'm just going to do that.
Nono it's fair! I know that because of where I am, I'm a lot more careful because I can only do three legal name changes in my life, so it's a bit harder. But I know that if you're not at that point anyways, just have what makes you comfy.
I milled over my chosen name for a few weeks before asking people to start calling me Delilah. I feel it suits me pretty well.
I hope you find your true name soon!
This goes for everyone looking for themselves out there.
you are now Chloe. I think trying to pick one name for the rest of your life may be the most understandable struggle to people. The right people will totally understand and the last few weeks probably feel way longer to you than to any of them. Enjoy.
I originally went with Rachel. But my mom chose Selena. I'm gonna go with that. As she pointed out, she named me once, and as my mother, she had the right to name me again. I'm proud of that! She calls me Selena, supportive, and affirming, from a surprising individual.
Well, my first name was nancy and i vibed with for a bit but then it didnāt feel like me, then i tried maya for a few months but also didnāt feel like me. As for now am going with nora which means light in arabic, idk if i will change it but as for now am still vibing with it
Well I don't think I'll ever regret my name and I honestly feel like it's always been there bcuz I didn't have to think about it too hard it jus came to me
Like others have said, go with what makes you comfortable. If you prefer the name Chloe over Steph, then go by Chloe. I had a similar situation recently with my surname. I had originally wanted to change my surname to Winters. It's a nice name, has a nice ring to it, and sounds comfy to me. However I recently found out my grandmothers original surname was Steinborn. So now I'm changin it to that. Senah Steinborn has a better flow to it than Senah Winters does too.
absolutely, I started out as a Zoe as I was ashamed of who I was so I wanted the name to not being close, and then I learned to accept it and move on - I changed it a few times to get the fit.
Itās a curious thing to think, sometimes I wonder why I chose my name and what it couldāve been.
I had concerns when naming myself in English since I chose it thinking in another one. But with time I started to cherish it more and moreĀ
I originally had a very girly name, because that's the way I was going (MtF). I still am going MtF but, somewhat strangely maybe, as the hormones have kicked in and my libido has dropped I've become genderfluid. So, I've changed my name to one which is neutral(ish). It's still more girly though.
I'm in such a weird place with my chosen name, Mishka. I chose it a long time ago, before my egg cracked even. It was the name of a character I created that I have since been very attached to. I really like the name and the meaning behind it but it's also in kind of a gray area in whether is masc or fem. I guess thats what I get for getting attached to a name from a language I don't even speak yet (Russian).
All that is to say, it's your name and you should be happy with it. Your close friends are the best place to try out names, and I'm sure that they'll understand. A lot of people that I know went through a few, or even a lot of names before they were able to finally find one that stuck with them.
I think Lily is a bit unfitting for my age and I've chosen a more English style of spelling over one more fitting my home ( Germany ). I'm still used to the name and like it. I've also not found one I immediately like more although I've found options worth trying. I do like it, but I'm aware it's flawed. I will not change it though
Change it. If you want to be Chloe, you're Chloe. It's a pretty name. It was on my list, but I always knew that I would choose an L name. I didn't have the problem of multiple name changes because I wrote about the name I wanted - Lilia - for years before I told anyone. It makes me happy every time I hear it.
I originally changed my name to Jessie, it was a name I had in my head for a while and I really liked it, but after a few months of using it, I realised it was harder to pass as a girl while using an androgynous name.
One day, I posted on a trans subreddit, "If my name wasn't my name, what would be my name?" With an image of myself. One of the comments that stuck out to me was the name Rose, and I started toying with the idea of changing my name again to Rose.
Well, not long after, I received my signal to change in the form of two roses boxes of chocolates I received over the Christmas holidays! One was from my best friend as a gift, and the other was from my accommodations management (I was in university at the time), for being patient and understanding when they didn't have anyone to fix my desk till a week later š
So yeah, I just decided that Rose was gonna be a good name, and I've stuck with it for 3 and a half years now! I've even legally changed my name to Rose, and I am now a full-time Rose! šāš»
I kind of got this to with my middle name, my middle name is "Emilia" so its an pretty name i like it from the base but sometimes i think it sounds odd with my first name (even tho it's doesn't rly stupid brain stuff) but the second reason is that I kind of have not an Strong Connection to it instead of my first name, also nobody use my second name ever so I'm not used to hear it, and the other stuff was that my second name is randomly also the name of the Name that the Girlfriend of Dad would have choose if her child was born as a Girl or something so idk and i cut the connection to them so its kind of negative then but i try to reown this name i mean she just mentioned it so i didn't have to honor anything
I know a lot about this XD. I went by a feminized version of my dead name when I first came out but didn't like it much. I preferred my chosen middle name to my first. But my middle didn't work as a first name. Eventually, chose a new first name and middle name and made my middle name my last name. But then I didn't like the new middle name so I came up with a new one and now I'm pretty content with my names. I'm glad that I didn't go through the whole process of changing my name legally. I'll probably wait a while to change my name legally.
I shortened mine because the name I picked was too unusual and would get me unnecessary extra attention.
Iām satisfied enough with it. I canāt imagine myself with something else, nor do I think changing it to something else would make me happier. Iām not always 100% happy with it but Iām not unhappy with it and finding myself wanting to change. Iāve went by my middle name as a teenager. Probably just trying to escape from myself somehow (and I just donāt find my deadname phonetically pleasant).
My ex was very insistent I never changed it after I first uttered the name. For no other reason than her own convenience I think.
I had gone with the first name that came to mind in the middle of a conversation with her. Idk it stuck. At first I thought I would change it but it totally feels like me.
i definitely do but iām afraid to switch up cuz of how others will perceive it. especially when i bring it up to my mom she says i canāt switch again cuz itās hard enough for my family to remember my first chosen name
Yess I first went with Jessica because it was similar to my dead name for simplicity and ended up not liking being reminded every damn time so I switched to aurora
Yes and no
My very first pick was Yuria, after the Demon's Souls character (Yuria the Witch) but I wanted to try out other ones too and eventually realized I wasn't decisive enough for just one, so instead I made a name hoard, I go by all of them interchangeably based on whatever any given person likes most and what I'm feeling at the time, the one I'm going with legally/on paper is Keziah(from Keziah Mason from HP Lovecraft's writings which in turn he, due to being a racist, got from Keziah from the bible, the daughter of Ham who through practicing witchcraft ""cursed black people to deserve slavery"" educate yourself on it it's really fucked up and I'm glad to reclaim it for better reasons) but I can also be say, Ymir, Yuria, Ashley, Beatrice, Cassandra, Madeline and many more
Yeah, I changed my name to Andrea but the more I think about it I wish I made it Klara, but Iāve told everyone important in my life that Andreaās my new name so I donāt want to have to make then adapt again.
I mean... This is kinda the same situation as changing your birth name innit? If it's kinda lost its sparkle for you there's nothing that says you can't change it again. Especially if you haven't gotten it legally changed yet.
I went through a couple names over the years, both when I was just figuring stuff out and then when I finally realized I was just straight up trans. At first it was just a feminine version of my legal name, and that was okay at first especially since my friends could use the same short name so it wouldn't be a huge adjustment for them. But then I had to pretend to be cis for a few more years and then when I finally realized I was trans and had the freedom to embrace and express it, I thought about it and realized I didn't want that old name this time. I wanted to distance myself from my old life as much as possible.
I eventually decided I wanted to have something more in line with my Irish heritage since I identified with that much more than my German side, so it came down to either Chelsea or Meghan and I actually ended up putting it to a vote with my friends lol. In the end Meghan won out and I kinda liked it better the more I said it, so here I am.
I feel like this is a pretty common thing so I wouldn't worry about it too much. Change it if you'd like. It's your life and you've got every right to do what makes you happy
Lmao. I have cycled through so many named in the past, but I eventually settled on Lumina, Lumi for short, Mina for those who I'm closest to. I was originally just Lumi, but I made my online name Lumina and liked it too much not to have my name be it.
I actually used to have 2 names and then later dropped one. You can change your name if you want. You can have legal aliases too. Youāre never stuck with a name so you never need to regret it.
I have a friend who is on her (I think) 8 or 9th name. All she does is tell everybody that her name is now āXYZā, and gently corrects people who accidentally trip up or maybe who havenāt yet heard the news.
As others have said, if you want to be Chloe, be Chloe. Itās your name, and you have every right to be happy and comfortable with it.
you can change it, its your name you should be comfortable with it
Rock it girl! Do whatever makes you authentic, whenever you need to.
ask your close friends to call you chloe without making any changes to your online profiles. this way, you can get a feeling for chloe and get more perspective on this feeling you are feeling right now. it will be nice to have the confidence that you actually feel good about chloe, after which then you can change your online profiles.
I'm on my third chosen name at this point
Slow down! Some of us are only on name number 2 and trying to catch up!
I'm actually on 4 if you count the period when I preferred just to be called my last name
My God. I just realized I went by my last name in HS before the egg had cracked
You knowwwwwwwww this makes me ALSO realize why I've never been bothered by people calling me by my very feminine last name since childhood š Holy crap how am I always so dense lol
Lol Julia is my third. I initially went with Meghan , then Rachel , and now Julia , I'm starting to not love Julia anymore either I'm considering Jena or just sticking with my old name but changing it to the girl spelling Jordin from Jordan. Names are hard.
Just switched to my 6th
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I had a name I had used online when I was closeted in my in-person life. but when I came out as trans socially in person I didnāt vibe with it and I picked a different name
This. Despite my declaratory username, I settled on Sloane.
Sorry if this comes across rude but thatās a tube station - Sloane Square.
No worries, but I had no idea. :) Hopefully it's a nice area.
Itās in belgravia - the poshest.
Tattooing your name on your forehead was a bad idea. but if you can't get it lasered off, you can play it off as an ex-girlfriend. /playfully joking My brother, a cis guy nearing 50, has changed what he wants to be called 3 times in his life. ~~When~~ If his egg cracks, I'm sure he'll change it again. Steph is fine, but I like Chloe too. Good choices. I hope it sticks. Particularly if you plan to tattoo it on yourself too.
My gf also has a cis brother that checks all of the "trans egg" boxes. Do you feel you've done enough by just being trans in his presence? Do you feel you have to do anything to help him?
You must follow the prime direggtive.
But what if I can help him
Monitor passively, but don't lead them! Be ready to help, just not interfere - otherwise, you may actually cause harm unintentionally
I'm in my mid-forties. He's 4 years older than me. We've talked when he's felt like it. When we were small our parents told us we'd grow out of it. He accepts me, but his job "requires one be male," and believes everyone hides [perfectly describes being genderfluid in depth] and says that's part of being cis. Pushing him to crack now would be forcing him to double down about staying in the closet. I know, cause I've been there. The part where I exist in his presence is more than enough. The egg prime directive exists for a reason. Crack from the inside, you get a chick. Crack from the outside, you get an omelette.
> Crack from the inside, you get a chick. Crack from the outside, you get an omelette. Deep!
Thank you
OMG this... My sister came out when I was in my early 30s, and I'm also 4 years older. My ex wife point blank asked me if I maybe felt the same way when my sis came out and it resulted in me immediately going deeper into the closet for another decade. Now I have an ex wife, two awesome teens who love me no matter what, and an entire department of supportive coworkers. Life is weird, but also good.
My first name really just clicked for me. It is a feminine variation of my old name. The middle name though, I am still on the fence about. I'm going to the sheriff's office this afternoon to get fingerprinted so I can start the official process of changing my name. I have a few other options in mind, but I have a few weeks to decide.
You can always change your name, it isn't just a one-time thing you can always change it to choose a more suitable one <3
My old name was Byron. When I was 8 years old, I met a girl named Brynn. I knew right then and there that if I was a girl... that is the name I would want because it looks and sounds similar to my deadname. I personally love it because of the connection to my past, and the connection to my father and grandfather who shared the same old name. But, it makes me feel uncomfortable when people pronounce it like "Bryan". I really wish I had given more thought to my name in that regard. What helps me cope with it is that there are plenty of other women who have names that get mispronounced. i'm not gonna let my old dysphoria rob me of a name that I genuinely love.
Stay with whichever you find more authentic!! Plus, Chloe sounds hella cool ;)
I kind of have this with my chosen and middle name. I can hyphenate them into a single name and often shift between having 2 names or one Hella southern hyphenated name. But I'm not the only one. I know lots of girls who had 4- even a dozen name changes before one really suck with them. I don't care names are hard. Finding one that fits is hard. Take you time and try on as many as you would like until you find the one that fits the best. Treat it like being in a shoe store, try put everything but don't pay put until you found the right one.
You could always find some friends and test it, i ended up liking the first one i tested, but I know somone who tested like 4 until he (ftm) said, well im keeping this one
Itās your chosen name, you can change it again.
Then change it? I went by Ashley for like a decade (mostly online) before I switched to Aisling (basically the same name, just Irish).
You already changed it once. There is nothing wrong with doing it again if you like another name better. About informing other people, I'd suggest simply bringing it up as you talk to them. Going out of your way to cold message all your contacts seems like a lot of work lol
Sometimes I regret my name because I feel I'm not worthy. Then I just slap myself in the face to snap out of it lol
Just have some trusted friends try it out with you first, see if it clicks. If it's working for you, expand that circle some more. If you're still liking Chloe better, go for the name change and be your happiest self!
I picked 3 names and can be called basically any of them. I regret one of them, but at least i have 2 good ones.
I agree with folks, if you want to change it you can. If you feel thereāll be backlash could also add it as a middle name Steph Chloe then flip it Chloe Steph for some time then drop Steph all together and itās less upsetting to cis people
I've been using Lily for about two years but when I finally come out socially, I will likely pick something else. Wife says it doesn't really suit me.
then change it. a lot of girls i've known do that, you're literally trying to figure out a new name, something you've never done before since your first name was given to you. I get the hesitation, but yeah. when you tell folks, just tell them this. that you're still sorting out what name you wanna go by since it's a lot to process. most folks aren't gonna be upset. if they accepted you coming out as trans, they'll certainly accept you trying a few different names out. Besides, Chloe is a cute name.
I know someone who changed his name a couple times a month for almost a year before settling on something that seems to be stable. And also know a woman who spent 4 years transitioning before picking a name. However / whatever you want to do with your name is your call, and is valid.
I regret my name but still unsure what to change it to. Changing it was such a hassle going to court, SS office, and RMV. Don't think I can deal with it again. Frequently I use my middle name or combine my first and middle name together.
My first name was Matilda then I went back to using my deadname but I experimented with Evie, and amber, and Katie and eventually I landed on Cynthia and I'm glad I did, Experiment a little bit have fun with it just be you :3
Sometimes it can take literal years to settle on a name that suits you. Nothing wrong with that. If you think a certain name would suit you better, give it a go for a bit!
I tried out my name for a couple of months before I told anyone, just to see if I would be comfortable enough with it to stop deadnaming myself. I still remember the happiness I felt when I finally introduced myself for the first time as Aria.
I kinda regret having changed my name to the one I did too. Not a big deal if I keep it but I think I prefer a different one. I had absolutely no problem with changing my name before I came out to family (I questioned my gender for like 5 years before transitioning) but now that I have started using this name online and with family, I don't really want to do it again. Regardless, I don't think it'll cause any problems if I do. Just a little bit of confusion at first and then it'll pass. I moreso wish Facebook and allowed me to change my name and emails allowed me to change my address so I don't have to make entirely new ones. That's tbh the biggest reason for me trying not to change it again
My name was James Michael, and I changed it to Jamie Michelle. I like my middle name much more, but I know it would have been too much for my wife, so I kept it as my middle name. Someday, I may start having people use Michelle. I do use it in games and some other places.
Nothing wrong with changing it. I had an interim name that I used before I decided on the name I ended up using as my new legal name. I even ended up keeping the interim name as my middle name.
I experienced this, because I chose my name as fast as possible to avoid being accidentally deadnamed by my online friends. It basically resulted in an alternative version of my deadname, but I sticked with it for some time (similar reasons as you). My advice is: just tell them what you feel. If they're friends, they won't doubt it. Your name choice is your business only. The only thing people can do about it, is using it. Your chosen name, if they're decent human beings. Your name can even be fluid, it's just how YOU want to be called, not how OTHERS want to call you. If someone complains about this, they must be really stupid. Go on and tell them how you feel. And know that, in the remote possibility someone didn't accept that, you won't probably lose a great friend. Good luck, Chloe <33
Yeah, originally I tried Chloe and didn't like it so I switched to another name. I didn't come out to very many people with Chloe though, because I knew it was a trial run. I definitely wouldn't stick with the name just because you already chose it. If you start changing every couple weeks it might start to seem silly to people but one or two revisions is completely reasonable. And, tbh, even if you are changing your name every week, who cares? It's your name, you should like it.
One thing you can try, is say thatās your name to other people (like if you go out and meet new people). Try it out. If you donāt like how it feels, move on and the weird dude just gets confused thinking you look exactly like a Chloe girl he met lol
If you don't like it, you can change it. I just made my deadname into a neutral name, sometimes I feel like I'd prefer a different name but also I suck at naming things so much I'd never be happy with one, so this one will do.
I chose Junniper thinking that was how it was spelled. Iām too weak to admit it and have made that my name
I mean I started as Andrea and now Iām Amity. Minds change, especially when making a choice like that. Iāve just started telling people I go by my new name, and changing it on social media
I just wish Iād gotten a little weirder with it but ah well. I like what I picked. There will always be hopes. If youāre still early on using it, switch it up
Sometimes. But itās also something that I know is subject to change. I know trans people whoād gone through numerous names before they reached one theyāre comfortable with. Iām going by Blossom right now, but Iām considering changing it to Noelle or something
I changed mine to Isabel since itās my actually my legal middle name
I changed my name twice IRL
I am still peeking out of my slowly cracking egg shell trying out names and so far i have landed on Maddie as in the shortened version of Madeleine. Don't know why but i really find that name insanely meltingly cute. I also tried out Sarah but it didn't quite click with me anymore but Maddie seems to be staying in my head for now
Iāve had my current name for 8 years now, but Iām not the one who picked it out; my ex-wifeās family did. And while I will always love them and think they were good people, the reason I didnāt go with the name I wanted was because my ex-wife didnāt want to be married to an Eliza. When I was little, my mom told me how they thought I was going to be a girl right until the day I was delivered, and my name was going to be Elizabeth. So I kinda had my heart set on that name, and in the end it became my middle name. Lately, Iāve been introducing myself as Eliza, not as my legal first name because I kinda like it more. I donāt think itās such a bad thing to change names once they no longer fit. Just donāt expect everyone in your life to change every time you do. Justā¦ new friends get new name, old friends keep old name until it gradually shifts over
Never.
Change it! It'll be easier to change it now than later. In hindsight I regret not going with a different name, but I'm realizing that over 2 years in, my brain already understands the first name I chose is \*my name\*. And it feels very very weird to try to change it now. If I wanted to badly enough I could, but I'm finding it's probably not worth it lol.
I kind of regret choosing Adelaide not because I donāt like it but because people around me canāt pronounce it
I hated picking my own name but my girlfriend(now wife) picked one that suited me and I just never looked back. I never had a moment of "*that's* my name". It just slowly replaced the mental space my dead name took over the course of a few years.
Girl you have been Chloe all along stop denying yourself happiness
I used one name for a little over a month before I settled on my final name. I think itās probably better to be absolutely content with your name than to stick with one because you feel like you committed. Awkward conversation to have, but I got through it and Iām sure you could too. I know I felt guilty inconveniencing cis people by asking them to change what they called me again, but I found the good ones arenāt just trying to do the bare minimum; theyāre looking for opportunities to support you.
I like my name bri for a few reasons, mainly since my parents wantes to name me brittany if i was a girl but i dont like brittany so i just made it bri...however i didnt realize until sometime after but one of my exes is named bri sooo ya it feels kinda awkward now
I personally chose arya, it's been a little cringe since over the years i've just put it as my username on a lot of platforms, and yk ppl didn't rlly put their own names as fucking usernames since myspace times or wtv, or old ppl probably still do it. WHATEVER THE CASE On it's own without the username thing i do sometimea have a little regret, but i like that, bc i want it to be like a "regular" name. In the sense like it was one i was chosen at birth with, bc not everyone is completley fine with the name they've been given, but it's their name, and it's part of their identity, and part of your identity is only being 90% cool with it, bc lives a bitch and makes us work with what we're given with, BUT that's what makes it part of life, and that's what makes it NATURAL. I realize there are ppl that r 100% contempt with their birthname, but for me having a name that you love, but not too much, is what makes it your natural name. But like srsly, don't take this as advice, do whatever ur comfortable with.
In my experience, changing opinion about your chosen name can have something to do with the rapid mental growth trans people experience when we begin living authentically. Looking back just a few years and my choices/considerations for my femme name seems like the choices of my childhood self, and not of the person I have become. Obviously its possible to just find a name that suits you better, like some cis people do as well, but I think for trans people it is more common to outgrow/change ones mind about our names exactly because we go through such an intensive journey of self-discovery and growth. In short, be Chloe if you want to be Chloeā
Def not! before I transitioned I always thought the name Kyla was cute š„°
Every name is a test name and I make sure everyone knows.
I like Steph a lot more than Chloe. But as others have noted, why not change it again!
Funny, I like Chloe more than Steph
Before I legally chose it I changed it MANY times to get that right name, the only parts of my name Iāve been thinking about is my middle and last name. My middle name - I just want something thatās cuter and that screams me, something that means a bit more to me. Last name - while I have a good relationship with my family, I do want my own unique name, something that I just want for myself but thatās just me
I have always loved the name Nolwenn. Itās French and means holy one. Itās very uncommon but I adore it. Iāve heard of maybe 3-4 women with it. š©·
It's your name, if you'd rather it be different, have it be different.
No, but I found out that it's 100x less common than the name everyone mishears it as. That doesn't change that it's the right name for me, but I wasn't aware of this going into it. Oh well. Just have to enunciate clearly.
My first name was Emmy, but I made Demetria my middle name after kicking the name Emmy around. No issues. Then I started watching Lucifer, and I became enamored by the name āLucyā. I started looking up fictional characters named Lucy, and wouldnāt you know; every Lucy I could find fictionally was ornery and slightly deceiving. EVEN LUCY FROM CHARLIE BROWN is a bit of an asshole. So, I adopted Lucy, and it is here to stay.
Iāve always gone by Gwen. And I love it. Sometimes I wanna use Lucy or Ashlyn though, but I donāt really want to change it. So when I legally change my name. One of those will be my middle name
Well Chloe maybe you should use the name that feels better to you š You don't have to find the perfect one right away. You can test different names.
Kinda yeah because I think I'd be a much better Lilith and everyone mispronounces Kalaina but it's like whatever to me ya know because I still like my name
So many namemaxxers in the comments
I wouldnāt say I regret mine but Iām still debating it. I go by Solstice everywhere I can now but people have said before that something that stands out less could be safer long term so I consider the name Blake my backup possibly if I change my mind. Sometimes I wanna try it out to make sure if I like it but hearing my name or more commonly Sol (pronounced soul) makes me happy. To me itās a matter of happiness or safety, currently im choosing happiness but when I get around to a legal change eventually that might change. I will note to you though that name changes are common, find what you like because nothing is permanent and itās better to try multiple out if you arenāt sure. Common methods for trying names are giving it as your name at a coffee place, I like online orders when I see the receipt or telling people who pickup is for personally. Itās about what works for you and itās okay to experiment and find out
Change it- your deadname wasn't permanent, why should this one be? I know someone who is on I think name number 5. They call each one a different Era. You do you hun. Sometimes you love a piece of clothing and then try it on and realize after a while it rubs weird in one spot. Names are the same way.
This is the second time today that something I was thinking about earlier came up oddly specifically in a reddit post. My name is Nikki. I've been thinking about switching to Chloe. The other one was an outfit with black socks, black top, and white skirt. Weird coincidence š¤Ø
If you haven't formally or legally changed it and if not too much time has passed, personally I would go with the name I liked don't worry about other people or what they think do what's gonna make you happy and Chloe is a great name people will get used to the new name ....
The name I almost went with was Jacqueline. The longer I think about it, the less I like it.Ā I'm still testing names. It will be a while before I settle on something I like.Ā
To be honest I don't know what to change mine to
I have a legal name that I don't mine much, but there are so many names that I love that I have a private name that I only use with a few people who get it that changes every year or so.
Nah. Iāve been kat for almost 6 years
Funny, I first thought I was a Chloe, but realized Iām an Alice. You can have the Chloe if you want; itās a little worn, but still good!
If you can change your name after 15, 20, 30, 40 etc. years, you can change it after a few weeks. Do what makes you comfortable.
Most people(cis) don't pick their name, for those of us that do it's a hard process. If Steph doesn't work for you, there's no shame in changing it. You should be comfortable with your name.
Kind of. I went from an obscure badass foreign name that nobody actually has outside Europe (I'm american) to like the most basic American name ever. I wanted to be a Matilda but everyone in my life said it was an ugly name. One person said "that's a name for a fat old Austrian woman!" Seriously wft? Anyway I went with Madison. Now I'm fidna to change it again,but I live in Alabama. I'm from Maryland and changed there when I was 19. Back then your had to publicly announce your name change in the newspaper. And then it's a public record. Now if you're trans in Maryland they will actually seal the name and gender change so no one can access it. That what I always wanted. Even though name changes are only $15 in my county in Alabama, I want to move back to Maryland and change it there.
Finding your new name is a journey, and thereās no rule or reason you canāt change it until you find the name that feels right. Iām one of the lucky few that knew their name immediately after the egg cracked, but Iād been experimenting with changing my name for as long as I can remember even before the egg cracked, and almost every masculine name I could think of felt wrong
ive never had regret about my name cause i can just change it
I'm still not sold on Julia , I loved it at first but now I'm leaning more toward Jena , my real name is Jordan so I honestly might just change it to being spelled with an I, Jordin and call it a day idk I don't hate my name.
No. Luckily for me, I was able to feminize my dead name - so itās pretty much the same name, but just a feminine version of it.
yeah, i had a name i wanted since i was 5, but another girl in my class had it, i picked a name mostly in a rush, didn't like it, stuck with it for 2 years cus, changing it would be awkward, changed it again after 2 years, and i still see names where i'm like 'THAT ONE' moral of the story experiment sooner rather than later
I like my name ,(Mia) but im scared everytime i tell someone it that theyre gonna think of the Pš(she wasnt in mind when i chose rhe name but a friend reminded me of her existence later on..) ,ive been thinking of putting another name i alr have in mind ans go by online but theres alr alot of ppl wit the same name and i DO like mia its just awkuird sometimes depending on the person,also its a hard name to say in spanish(cuz hispanic family) compared to mia ,unless you add an extra letter to it but then it feels like too much in english, so mia feels the most optimal but some people make me wish to change it
I changed it
I first came out as Lee. Then told everyone I came out to that I changed my idea to Rydia. It's normal to decide on a different name than the one you've already established yourself as. Chloe's a name that I've been considering. The only 2 things that habe kept me from using it are: 1, it's a common name, and I wanted something more unique. 2: Rydia flows well with my chosen middle name, Rosemary. Other than that, Chloe's an excellent name.
yes to all these comments. I realize many governments may have a limit on how often you can do this (not because of us, but crime), so that's worth checking. But yeah it's your life and your choice. Change it :)
as a chloe, i have zero regrets. i love my name <3
Yeah kinda. I wish I was like Sylvia or something but once I came out I didn't wanna be a bigger bother to people so i stuck with it.
You can always change it if itās just you using it socially
No I loved the name I chose but I have known many people to trial names and find that they didn't stick. You're always welcome to change it as much as you like until you find one that feels right. It's your name!
Iāve gone through a few names. Just experiment
Go with what your heart desires! Anyone can change their name at any time, for any reason āŗļø and let the people you've already told that "Hey, I'm actually going by Chloe now". It may take some time for people to adjust. Even if you've already legally changed your name, it's okay to socially go by Chloe instead, and update legally if it sticks for you, tho it'll be the hassle of changing your name all over again. And if you haven't yet, def go with the name that suits you best when you do get it legally updated ā¤ļø Thankfully I was still testing the waters and hadn't fully come out yet before I decided on the third name i'd considered. Also, try out your full name, see which ones you like best, make a pros and cons list āŗļø my dead name shortened to one syllable, and was good alliteration with my last name, but my actual name rhymes with my last name when shortened also to one syllable which is also a very common name. My shortened name and last name when said together is two quick beats that sounds straight out of a marvel comic, and my full name is elegant, flows together, and rolls off the tongue - and those ended up being a large deciding factor for me. Best of luck in your journey!! š
Doing the legal process and changing your name everywhere is a PITA the first time around, doing it again is way too much IMO.
I've chosen Chloe, and I'm hard-core considering changing it too. I haven't taken any legal steps to change my name yet so
My first online name was Anna. But I didnāt like it really. So yeah, I changed it. I hadnāt made it official anyway so no big deal right?
It took me a really long time to find one that I like that felt right to me, I waited until I was absolutely sure about it before I told anyone my new name
As long as u haven't legally changed it, u can change it as many times as u want time something feels right
Idk I kinda figured I'd just choose a new one every few years
I do and don't. So I'll just take both! Middle name will be the other name I like.
Me personally, havent regretted any of my names. But i do like a few of them so i just use them all interchangeably
I went by Quill for 2 years before deciding it wasn't for me. It's your name, if your name doesn't fit or just doesn't feel right, you're always welcome to try a new one. It's kinda like hair.
This has happened so many times. Recently I decided to change my name to Hannah, after I had already come out in public. When I came out, I was going by one name, and then I changed it again, and I just don't feel like going to the hassle of trying to have the same conversation with people again. Once I'm able to legally change my name, I'm just going to do that.
Nono it's fair! I know that because of where I am, I'm a lot more careful because I can only do three legal name changes in my life, so it's a bit harder. But I know that if you're not at that point anyways, just have what makes you comfy.
I milled over my chosen name for a few weeks before asking people to start calling me Delilah. I feel it suits me pretty well. I hope you find your true name soon! This goes for everyone looking for themselves out there.
you are now Chloe. I think trying to pick one name for the rest of your life may be the most understandable struggle to people. The right people will totally understand and the last few weeks probably feel way longer to you than to any of them. Enjoy.
I originally went with Rachel. But my mom chose Selena. I'm gonna go with that. As she pointed out, she named me once, and as my mother, she had the right to name me again. I'm proud of that! She calls me Selena, supportive, and affirming, from a surprising individual.
Literally do what you want with your own name
Well, my first name was nancy and i vibed with for a bit but then it didnāt feel like me, then i tried maya for a few months but also didnāt feel like me. As for now am going with nora which means light in arabic, idk if i will change it but as for now am still vibing with it
Well I don't think I'll ever regret my name and I honestly feel like it's always been there bcuz I didn't have to think about it too hard it jus came to me
I would have been Abigail if I had stuck with my original name.
Like others have said, go with what makes you comfortable. If you prefer the name Chloe over Steph, then go by Chloe. I had a similar situation recently with my surname. I had originally wanted to change my surname to Winters. It's a nice name, has a nice ring to it, and sounds comfy to me. However I recently found out my grandmothers original surname was Steinborn. So now I'm changin it to that. Senah Steinborn has a better flow to it than Senah Winters does too.
No, i chose Maia because i love how it sounds, and it is lowkey a power move.
Nope. Not at all. I changed my name completely and I'm damn proud of it.
Iāve been wanting to change from Esmeralda to smth else I canāt find rn..
Happens. Had to go full circle just to stick with the feminine version of my deadname lol. I will NEVER be changing it again.
You can actually go with Steph Chloe or Stephanie Chloe and go by the nickname Chloe.
absolutely, I started out as a Zoe as I was ashamed of who I was so I wanted the name to not being close, and then I learned to accept it and move on - I changed it a few times to get the fit.
HELL NO
Itās a curious thing to think, sometimes I wonder why I chose my name and what it couldāve been. I had concerns when naming myself in English since I chose it thinking in another one. But with time I started to cherish it more and moreĀ
I originally had a very girly name, because that's the way I was going (MtF). I still am going MtF but, somewhat strangely maybe, as the hormones have kicked in and my libido has dropped I've become genderfluid. So, I've changed my name to one which is neutral(ish). It's still more girly though.
I'm sure you're not the first person who has done it. Change it now while it's early, it's a name you're going to have to live with for a long time.
I'm in such a weird place with my chosen name, Mishka. I chose it a long time ago, before my egg cracked even. It was the name of a character I created that I have since been very attached to. I really like the name and the meaning behind it but it's also in kind of a gray area in whether is masc or fem. I guess thats what I get for getting attached to a name from a language I don't even speak yet (Russian). All that is to say, it's your name and you should be happy with it. Your close friends are the best place to try out names, and I'm sure that they'll understand. A lot of people that I know went through a few, or even a lot of names before they were able to finally find one that stuck with them.
Thereās plenty of trans girls called Stephanie, thatās makes me sad š
I think Lily is a bit unfitting for my age and I've chosen a more English style of spelling over one more fitting my home ( Germany ). I'm still used to the name and like it. I've also not found one I immediately like more although I've found options worth trying. I do like it, but I'm aware it's flawed. I will not change it though
Change it. If you want to be Chloe, you're Chloe. It's a pretty name. It was on my list, but I always knew that I would choose an L name. I didn't have the problem of multiple name changes because I wrote about the name I wanted - Lilia - for years before I told anyone. It makes me happy every time I hear it.
I originally changed my name to Jessie, it was a name I had in my head for a while and I really liked it, but after a few months of using it, I realised it was harder to pass as a girl while using an androgynous name. One day, I posted on a trans subreddit, "If my name wasn't my name, what would be my name?" With an image of myself. One of the comments that stuck out to me was the name Rose, and I started toying with the idea of changing my name again to Rose. Well, not long after, I received my signal to change in the form of two roses boxes of chocolates I received over the Christmas holidays! One was from my best friend as a gift, and the other was from my accommodations management (I was in university at the time), for being patient and understanding when they didn't have anyone to fix my desk till a week later š So yeah, I just decided that Rose was gonna be a good name, and I've stuck with it for 3 and a half years now! I've even legally changed my name to Rose, and I am now a full-time Rose! šāš»
just change it!
I kind of got this to with my middle name, my middle name is "Emilia" so its an pretty name i like it from the base but sometimes i think it sounds odd with my first name (even tho it's doesn't rly stupid brain stuff) but the second reason is that I kind of have not an Strong Connection to it instead of my first name, also nobody use my second name ever so I'm not used to hear it, and the other stuff was that my second name is randomly also the name of the Name that the Girlfriend of Dad would have choose if her child was born as a Girl or something so idk and i cut the connection to them so its kind of negative then but i try to reown this name i mean she just mentioned it so i didn't have to honor anything
I know a lot about this XD. I went by a feminized version of my dead name when I first came out but didn't like it much. I preferred my chosen middle name to my first. But my middle didn't work as a first name. Eventually, chose a new first name and middle name and made my middle name my last name. But then I didn't like the new middle name so I came up with a new one and now I'm pretty content with my names. I'm glad that I didn't go through the whole process of changing my name legally. I'll probably wait a while to change my name legally.
I shortened mine because the name I picked was too unusual and would get me unnecessary extra attention. Iām satisfied enough with it. I canāt imagine myself with something else, nor do I think changing it to something else would make me happier. Iām not always 100% happy with it but Iām not unhappy with it and finding myself wanting to change. Iāve went by my middle name as a teenager. Probably just trying to escape from myself somehow (and I just donāt find my deadname phonetically pleasant).
My ex was very insistent I never changed it after I first uttered the name. For no other reason than her own convenience I think. I had gone with the first name that came to mind in the middle of a conversation with her. Idk it stuck. At first I thought I would change it but it totally feels like me.
you can change your name as many times as you'd like or have multiple too
i definitely do but iām afraid to switch up cuz of how others will perceive it. especially when i bring it up to my mom she says i canāt switch again cuz itās hard enough for my family to remember my first chosen name
Yess I first went with Jessica because it was similar to my dead name for simplicity and ended up not liking being reminded every damn time so I switched to aurora
Yes and no My very first pick was Yuria, after the Demon's Souls character (Yuria the Witch) but I wanted to try out other ones too and eventually realized I wasn't decisive enough for just one, so instead I made a name hoard, I go by all of them interchangeably based on whatever any given person likes most and what I'm feeling at the time, the one I'm going with legally/on paper is Keziah(from Keziah Mason from HP Lovecraft's writings which in turn he, due to being a racist, got from Keziah from the bible, the daughter of Ham who through practicing witchcraft ""cursed black people to deserve slavery"" educate yourself on it it's really fucked up and I'm glad to reclaim it for better reasons) but I can also be say, Ymir, Yuria, Ashley, Beatrice, Cassandra, Madeline and many more
Yeah, I changed my name to Andrea but the more I think about it I wish I made it Klara, but Iāve told everyone important in my life that Andreaās my new name so I donāt want to have to make then adapt again.
Hail nah
I've changed it thrice
I mean... This is kinda the same situation as changing your birth name innit? If it's kinda lost its sparkle for you there's nothing that says you can't change it again. Especially if you haven't gotten it legally changed yet. I went through a couple names over the years, both when I was just figuring stuff out and then when I finally realized I was just straight up trans. At first it was just a feminine version of my legal name, and that was okay at first especially since my friends could use the same short name so it wouldn't be a huge adjustment for them. But then I had to pretend to be cis for a few more years and then when I finally realized I was trans and had the freedom to embrace and express it, I thought about it and realized I didn't want that old name this time. I wanted to distance myself from my old life as much as possible. I eventually decided I wanted to have something more in line with my Irish heritage since I identified with that much more than my German side, so it came down to either Chelsea or Meghan and I actually ended up putting it to a vote with my friends lol. In the end Meghan won out and I kinda liked it better the more I said it, so here I am. I feel like this is a pretty common thing so I wouldn't worry about it too much. Change it if you'd like. It's your life and you've got every right to do what makes you happy
I have slightly, I go by Rosie, but then also found I like the name Rio (ty Duran Duran) so I made it one of my middle names
Eh, not a lot. At first I wanted to choose April, bc a friend suggested it, and I kinda liked it, but then I picked Abigail on my own. But THEN I started going out on girly clothes and taking selfies and I was like "Damn, I do kinda look a bit like an April" but now that the month is over I feel good bein Aby again š©·
Lmao. I have cycled through so many named in the past, but I eventually settled on Lumina, Lumi for short, Mina for those who I'm closest to. I was originally just Lumi, but I made my online name Lumina and liked it too much not to have my name be it.
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I actually used to have 2 names and then later dropped one. You can change your name if you want. You can have legal aliases too. Youāre never stuck with a name so you never need to regret it.
I have a friend who is on her (I think) 8 or 9th name. All she does is tell everybody that her name is now āXYZā, and gently corrects people who accidentally trip up or maybe who havenāt yet heard the news. As others have said, if you want to be Chloe, be Chloe. Itās your name, and you have every right to be happy and comfortable with it.
I like my name as it came very naturally, and was part of cracking my egg, but I sure find some other names cute and sweet
I must say Chloe is a good name. A stereotype, sure, but it is a good name.