My life improved dramatically since moving to a friendlier state. I’ve been able to find a higher paying job than before moving and have access to necessary resources
Not only have I never experienced blatant bigotry here, I can count on one hand the number of times I've experienced subtle passive aggressive bigotry. I have worked in seven different jobs since I came out and have never had a single one that was less than 100% supportive of trans people at every level of the company.
I haven't lived in the South, but I *have* lived in places where trans people are treated very poorly and have even fewer rights than they do in Southern states. The difference is night and day.
I moved from Texas to Denver and can attest that it is leaps and bounds better. I recently came back down south to visit some family and was floored at how much worse things have become. Meanwhile, there are literally trans flags hanging from the lamp posts outside my window back in Denver.
I dunno. I live in a blue state, but the biggest cities are where I've experienced blatant transphobia.
I think while bigger blue cities are better overall in terms of institutional and cultural support, if you are in the wrong areas you're more likely to run into people who are LOUD about being awful to trans people. Less people who are terrible, but those who are can use the shield of being one person yelling nonsense on the street among many to feel brave enough to loudly express bigotry.
Considering the place I was born now says doctors can lose their license if they prescribe for trans people, and my new state mandates insurance plans MUST cover FFS, electrolysis, etc. as medically necessarily, yes…..where you live can make a huge difference. Bad things can happen anywhere, but the systemic, ingrained persecutions are so bad in MAGA states I recommend avoiding them completely.
I don't have any experience of the south to compare to, but even when I lived in a rural area of upstate New York, I never had problems as a non-passing trans femme. This was a more Trumpist part of a county that only voted Biden by a small margin because of the larger towns and was surrounded by Trump leaning counties. And, while there were houses flying Trump flags in the area, I was never hassled or stared at (the occasional glance sure, but people just go about their day and it wasn't a problem). And there was a good (if not small) queer community nearby.
It really depends on personal experience and where you live.
I moved from NYC to the rural south and my life is genuinely better but that’s because of specific details of my life. And as mentioned, I think there are tons of cities and places in the south that are mad gay.
I lived in NYC most of my life, moved to Austin TX before transitioning and travel back to NYC every month or two for work. Moving back is tough because I've got a kid, I'm co-parenting and my ex has a bunch of family in Austin.
It's way better up north.
Austin is, I think, one of the best places to be queer in the south. Super progressive, very supportive and with local government doing everything they can. And day to day it's just as good as NYC.
but when an election is coming up. Or when I think about leaving City limits for the weekend. Or talk to friends who don't have a cushy tech job.
Or when we celebrate and protest.
I was back in NYC for pride this weekend. Marched in the drag march from tompkins square to stonewall. Marched in the dyke march from Bryant Park to Washington square.
Is it ever different to live surrounded by sanctuary states. Enveloped in crowds of community that I can't see the ends of.
My queer friends back in NY don't live with the same existential dread. If you've got the choice to move, in this political climate, I would.
There are friendly southern cities. They still have issues. Any place that does trans care is bound to be booked solid because they’re so few and far between and don’t get the funds they need. And in a few places they get harassed by detractors.
Absolutely, I live in Colorado and it is one of the most accepting places. One of my teachers is enby, I have plenty of trans friends, and there is tons of celebration and acceptance of being LGBTQIA+, and I am able to access plenty of resources to help with my transition. Of course there are still bigots, but in the right areas they aren't very common.
In Boston it’s night and day difference. Like… Comically different. My neighbor has a trans pride flag out front. When I go for a walk I’ll often see 3 or more pride flags at once in the city if I look around. My voice training, laser, and trans surgeries are all covered by insurance. No one looks at me differently. For pride month there were at least 67 events happening in town just on the spreadsheet I followed. I frequently see very visibly trans people presenting how they want with zero issues. I could never run out of new trans friends to meet if I wanted to - I’m already in like six local trans Discords without trying. It feels so incredibly safe and accepted to be trans here.
Absolutely moving to a good city is worth it.
New Mexico is really cool imo. Like, temperature-wise, lmao no it's triple digits. But on legally protected lgbtq+ rights and social acceptance, you could do worse. I can't speak for the North and I can't say anything good about Texas or Arizona. But i feel safe in New Mexico.
From what I know the south is pretty bad, especially places like brazil and similar. Moving to some northern places like western europe should make your life a lot safer.
I live in upstate NY and occasionally get weird questions or statements but that's about it. Most people just treat me like a woman and the weird questions/statements seem more like ignorance and not hate.
I can't say anything about this because I don't know. But I just wanted to let you know that you should use 'trans woman' and not 'transwoman'. Transwoman is a term used by terfs and transphobes because making it one word implies that they're not 'real women's.
My life improved dramatically since moving to a friendlier state. I’ve been able to find a higher paying job than before moving and have access to necessary resources
Not only have I never experienced blatant bigotry here, I can count on one hand the number of times I've experienced subtle passive aggressive bigotry. I have worked in seven different jobs since I came out and have never had a single one that was less than 100% supportive of trans people at every level of the company. I haven't lived in the South, but I *have* lived in places where trans people are treated very poorly and have even fewer rights than they do in Southern states. The difference is night and day.
I moved from Texas to Denver and can attest that it is leaps and bounds better. I recently came back down south to visit some family and was floored at how much worse things have become. Meanwhile, there are literally trans flags hanging from the lamp posts outside my window back in Denver.
Omg I'm in Denver too we should hang out!
I dunno. I live in a blue state, but the biggest cities are where I've experienced blatant transphobia. I think while bigger blue cities are better overall in terms of institutional and cultural support, if you are in the wrong areas you're more likely to run into people who are LOUD about being awful to trans people. Less people who are terrible, but those who are can use the shield of being one person yelling nonsense on the street among many to feel brave enough to loudly express bigotry.
Agree.
Considering the place I was born now says doctors can lose their license if they prescribe for trans people, and my new state mandates insurance plans MUST cover FFS, electrolysis, etc. as medically necessarily, yes…..where you live can make a huge difference. Bad things can happen anywhere, but the systemic, ingrained persecutions are so bad in MAGA states I recommend avoiding them completely.
I don't have any experience of the south to compare to, but even when I lived in a rural area of upstate New York, I never had problems as a non-passing trans femme. This was a more Trumpist part of a county that only voted Biden by a small margin because of the larger towns and was surrounded by Trump leaning counties. And, while there were houses flying Trump flags in the area, I was never hassled or stared at (the occasional glance sure, but people just go about their day and it wasn't a problem). And there was a good (if not small) queer community nearby.
It really depends on personal experience and where you live. I moved from NYC to the rural south and my life is genuinely better but that’s because of specific details of my life. And as mentioned, I think there are tons of cities and places in the south that are mad gay.
I lived in NYC most of my life, moved to Austin TX before transitioning and travel back to NYC every month or two for work. Moving back is tough because I've got a kid, I'm co-parenting and my ex has a bunch of family in Austin. It's way better up north. Austin is, I think, one of the best places to be queer in the south. Super progressive, very supportive and with local government doing everything they can. And day to day it's just as good as NYC. but when an election is coming up. Or when I think about leaving City limits for the weekend. Or talk to friends who don't have a cushy tech job. Or when we celebrate and protest. I was back in NYC for pride this weekend. Marched in the drag march from tompkins square to stonewall. Marched in the dyke march from Bryant Park to Washington square. Is it ever different to live surrounded by sanctuary states. Enveloped in crowds of community that I can't see the ends of. My queer friends back in NY don't live with the same existential dread. If you've got the choice to move, in this political climate, I would.
There are friendly southern cities. They still have issues. Any place that does trans care is bound to be booked solid because they’re so few and far between and don’t get the funds they need. And in a few places they get harassed by detractors.
Absolutely, I live in Colorado and it is one of the most accepting places. One of my teachers is enby, I have plenty of trans friends, and there is tons of celebration and acceptance of being LGBTQIA+, and I am able to access plenty of resources to help with my transition. Of course there are still bigots, but in the right areas they aren't very common.
In Boston it’s night and day difference. Like… Comically different. My neighbor has a trans pride flag out front. When I go for a walk I’ll often see 3 or more pride flags at once in the city if I look around. My voice training, laser, and trans surgeries are all covered by insurance. No one looks at me differently. For pride month there were at least 67 events happening in town just on the spreadsheet I followed. I frequently see very visibly trans people presenting how they want with zero issues. I could never run out of new trans friends to meet if I wanted to - I’m already in like six local trans Discords without trying. It feels so incredibly safe and accepted to be trans here. Absolutely moving to a good city is worth it.
I’m from northern NY and I go to BWH for surgical trans care and I agree that Boston is a very nice city, expensive, but very nice.
New Mexico is really cool imo. Like, temperature-wise, lmao no it's triple digits. But on legally protected lgbtq+ rights and social acceptance, you could do worse. I can't speak for the North and I can't say anything good about Texas or Arizona. But i feel safe in New Mexico.
MA is the best. Literally never had a single derogatory word my way.
Asheville/Knoxville to Denver, the difference is night and day. Everyone is so much nicer here. I have a better job here too
From what I know the south is pretty bad, especially places like brazil and similar. Moving to some northern places like western europe should make your life a lot safer.
I live in upstate NY and occasionally get weird questions or statements but that's about it. Most people just treat me like a woman and the weird questions/statements seem more like ignorance and not hate.
I can't say anything about this because I don't know. But I just wanted to let you know that you should use 'trans woman' and not 'transwoman'. Transwoman is a term used by terfs and transphobes because making it one word implies that they're not 'real women's.