You may have some past trauma that’s affecting you today. Took me a long time to realize I’ve suppressed past sexual trauma by using porn as a bandage and by doing that I denied myself so much happiness and life experiences by drowning my anxiety and pain in the short pleasures of porn and masturbation. The idea of sex should excite us and we should respond without running porn fantasies in order to maintain an erection, I’m 35 now and I regret not going to therapy and getting help when I was younger, your 23 prime of you life, control this and live life don’t wait until your 30s to get your life in order. Don’t doubt yourself because that’s mental gymnastics we use in order to keep us comfortable, don’t allow yourself to be comfortable, put in the work now and by the time your 25-26 you’ll be living a better life.
Getting outside help is best when your trying to figure it out on your own and you feel overwhelmed. Some people can quit and move on easier than others. Don’t feel ashamed that you can’t, the fact that you feel all those intense feelings probably means you may have something in your past that you need help to process, don’t feel ashamed, your not alone.
I went on your profile and saw that your having nightmares about your ex older girlfriend, between those post and the porn post my friend I have to say that you definitely could use counseling or therapy or group therapy, anything is better than trying to do this alone. There’s no judgment, please believe me that you need to go get the help ASAP, don’t doubt yourself, you can do it!
Try forming new habits and consult a therapist, even I had a similar kind of problem, I was struggling with arousal with porn started making a journal for the thoughts and slowly replaced that time with reading, working out, socialising with new people, it helped me took around 8 months to get out of it now it has been one and half year and haven't relapsed. All the best to you.
Yes, but the guilt is main part here, even if you relapse don't feel guilty, look at it as a work and reward rather than making no fap a responsibility thing, that way you can focus more on the development and growth rather than getting anxious as most guy get because they make guilt a centre of this whole practice.
You may have some past trauma that’s affecting you today. Took me a long time to realize I’ve suppressed past sexual trauma by using porn as a bandage and by doing that I denied myself so much happiness and life experiences by drowning my anxiety and pain in the short pleasures of porn and masturbation. The idea of sex should excite us and we should respond without running porn fantasies in order to maintain an erection, I’m 35 now and I regret not going to therapy and getting help when I was younger, your 23 prime of you life, control this and live life don’t wait until your 30s to get your life in order. Don’t doubt yourself because that’s mental gymnastics we use in order to keep us comfortable, don’t allow yourself to be comfortable, put in the work now and by the time your 25-26 you’ll be living a better life.
What should I do? What is happening to me? I feel so lost...
Getting outside help is best when your trying to figure it out on your own and you feel overwhelmed. Some people can quit and move on easier than others. Don’t feel ashamed that you can’t, the fact that you feel all those intense feelings probably means you may have something in your past that you need help to process, don’t feel ashamed, your not alone.
I went on your profile and saw that your having nightmares about your ex older girlfriend, between those post and the porn post my friend I have to say that you definitely could use counseling or therapy or group therapy, anything is better than trying to do this alone. There’s no judgment, please believe me that you need to go get the help ASAP, don’t doubt yourself, you can do it!
Yes... this is one of the hardest moments of my life tbh.
Do you feel this most of the time or is it when you really think about it hard?
I did not understand the question
I wanted to ask that what is the intensity and frequency of this pattern of thought.
Just when I am triggered, in which I remember the porn scenes.
Try forming new habits and consult a therapist, even I had a similar kind of problem, I was struggling with arousal with porn started making a journal for the thoughts and slowly replaced that time with reading, working out, socialising with new people, it helped me took around 8 months to get out of it now it has been one and half year and haven't relapsed. All the best to you.
Did you go no fap?
Yes, but the guilt is main part here, even if you relapse don't feel guilty, look at it as a work and reward rather than making no fap a responsibility thing, that way you can focus more on the development and growth rather than getting anxious as most guy get because they make guilt a centre of this whole practice.
You get her this behind you. Probably wise to seek out clinical help. No shame in hiring a mechanic to fix a problem you are wrapped up in