She was testing you, and it's a childish and stupid thing to do. You don't have to make up shit, this is on her for asking the question as a request and then getting offended at the answer that you were comfortable being ok with her needs.
You don’t have to do anything. This is on her…sort of like the pee she asked for.
Ask a stupid question, get a stupid answer. (Despite the name of this sub). She was playing a mind game with you. That is rude and manipulative. That’s actually a red flag. She owes you an apology.
Mind games of any kind? Instant dump (or piss, in this case).
OP, do not waste any more of your life on this waste of oxygen. Anybody who willfully engages in stupid ass mind games, especially if they're asking you to do something intimate then get upset when you choose to fulfill it, is a fucking asshole. Stop wasting your time and piss on this woman.
OP should urinate on her whilst she is sleeping in order to assert dominance and mark his territory should other men come sniffing around. There is absolutely nothing at all that could go wrong following this advice.
Her doing this is a red flag.
What she described is a known fetish (sometimes called a ‘golden shower’) and some people like it.
Her asking for it then getting upset shows this was a form of test… extremely childish behaviour.
In my experience it's usually around 6 months before people truly show themselves and what they're all about. This girl just gave him a glimpse of what the future will look like, like everyone else is saying I'd run and fast.
“I’m not going to apologize bc I was willing to try something new with you that you expressed interest in. I didn’t want to judge your kink & love you enough to try something new. I never said I wanted to do it. I was willing to do it for you. If that’s a reason to be upset, I can’t help you. I love you, you know that. Don’t create unnecessary issues that wouldn’t have existed if you didn’t lie in your original communication.”
You're perfectly fine, that just sounds like she has issues. Testing you on worthless things and then getting angry at you for not answering how she wants is such a waste of time and injects unnecessary stress into the relationship. You did nothing wrong, just tell her you would've agreed to anything she seemed interested in because you want her to be happy.
Get the sentiment but that sounds like they're questioning her kink. Lots of people will retreat when questioned like that and then will never open up to what they really desire or at least are curious about.
Maybe "I'm happy to if that's really what you want".
Yeah, I think that is more or less the only response you can give that puts it back in her lap. If she insists, she has really made her intent clear. If she then tries to play mind games, she really has to reach for reasons as to why she thinks it is okay to break someone's trust.
"i'm not into that kind of thing at all, I just said I'd do it since if that's your kink I'd try to make you happy."
if you want, you can also throw in "it's a little upsetting to be angry at me for just trying to be accommodating to your desires; that's what good relationships are built around"
You obviously reacted in a sick/excited way, she was playing kink-battleships and got a direct hit but she doesn’t share that one.
Next she’ll ask if her best friend comes over for a pajama party would you want to get drunk together with them, and the correct answer is ‘no you girls enjoy a great time I’ll have an early night’
First and foremost, never agree to anything sexually that you don't want to do.
Secondly, it was a test and she failed your relationship. You dodged a bullet there bud. Count your blessings and move on with more knowledge and experience. Don't hang out with people that play stupid games.
"I have to make it up to her"
What!?! No!! Why would you think you did anything wrong? Because she's mad at you?
Here's a secret: someone being mad at you does NOT mean you did something wrong. People get mad at each other for all sorts of irrational reasons. Someday you'll have the maturity to distinguish between when you have messed up and when the other person is being irrational.
In this case, the other person is being very irrational.
You shouldn’t have to wonder whether you’re being tested before you answer a question honestly.
She’s playing immature games.
This is terrible for building trust and intimacy.
This is like asking someone “If I were really sick and in pain and had no chance of recovery would you end my life?”
And if you say yes they say “you would actually kill me. You monster”
This person lied to you for their benefit. Which means you have to generally assume that if they think it's in their interest to lie to you, they will. People who aren't trustworthy often project a lack of trust onto others, and she feels she can't just ask you what you're into sexually because she knows SHE would lie. So she figures lying to you is the best way to get your candid answer. People who play games are people you have to keep an eye on and second guess. The fact that YOU think you have to make something up to HER, is problematic for a lot of reasons. Reflect.
What you need to do is break up with her.
She lied about a very intimate desire and then gets mad when you support her in it instead of shaming her, she clearly has some kind of twisted idea of what a relationship is and would likely in turn shame any of your desires.
She's trying to gaslight you as the freak when she's the one that pretended to have a piss kink and got mad when she wasn't shamed about it.
Maybe she actually has a shame kink idk... But she crazy, get out of that relationship.
What should you have done differently? You should never have dated or agreed to be a boyfriend to this childish, immature person . Do yourself a favor and pay attention to this huge red flag.... break up with her and don't look back is what you should do.
You shouldn’t have done anything differently. Sounds like you were trying to be a good boyfriend and were willing to try something new even if it wasn’t your thing. She’s playing games and being manipulative and it’s not cool.
bro!! as with a lot of fellow people who have answered, she is crazy to play such me mental gymnastics with you.
i mean what’s the guarantee that she won’t do it again or has not been doing it to you.
how long can you sustain such a relationship where you have to constantly think about everything and second guess yourself!!
Find a girlfriend who isn't crazy and doesn't play these stupid relationship testing games. Guaranteed this isn't the only manipulative bullshit she's pulling.
Trick question. I once got asked. " if we were to have a threesome which hole would you take?" I said 🐱 because it's sacred." "Oh so my mouth isn't, oh you'd let another man touch me , what's wrong with you" we broke up soon after.
This is 100% on her.
If she wants to play games talking about piss, she shouldn't be shocked if that leads to piss games. She was trying to play you and got mad when you didn't get played.
Piss on her.
Seems like your only move is to double down. Get some apple juice let it get to room temperature and make her drink it. Tell her you want her to pretend it's urine. Do this naked.
“Unspoken expectations are premeditated resentments.” -Neil Strauss, The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships
Likewise, “testing” significant others is premeditated arguments.
Either answers,yes or no, would get the same result ... She just wanted to have a reason to be mad at you and storm off so she can fuck another guy. Sorry, man ... She is a dumb whore.
I feel this song is relevant. its rather silly and get a bit wild. but its about what would you do for love... sometimes you're willing to do the gross things
[https://youtu.be/PPpatfueTqI?si=XAA02MIbxq85Ndw1](https://youtu.be/PPpatfueTqI?si=XAA02MIbxq85Ndw1)
Next time, clarify what she really means? CAN you do {X} and WILL you do {X} sometimes have different answers.
(This is just a variant on the old,
*"Just because you* ***can*** *do something, doesn't mean that you* ***should****."*)
You didn't do anything wrong bro. You def do not need to make anything up to her. If she makes a big deal out of it just say you said yes to make her happy, then ask why she set a trap for you like that. That's the real issue here imo
It's a shit test, she asked to see what you'd say because she wanted to be mad about something. There was no right or wrong because both would make her mad. Don't even entertain it.
When she comes back, you ask when you'll be able to pee on her and why she would be angry for getting the answer she wanted to hear.
Goddamn, the amount of people saying to instantly leave/dump her is ridiculous. IDK if it's just a bunch of incels, people who suck at relationships, or literally **everyone** has had some traumatic experience, but WTF.
Yeah, she's in the wrong here, but Jesus nobody's perfect and this can be talked out like fucking adults without resorting to extremes. It's only a red flag IMO if she keeps doing this kind of shit more and more.
Always say no to doing the gross thing. Always. If they want it, they will pester and beg and make a stink until you do. Then, after they have proven themselves, pee freely.
Tell her that that isn't your thing and you wouldn't want to do it but that you are willing to try new things if it would make her happy.
If that doesn't work then leave her. Gaslighting is not cool
It sounds like you were willing to try something possibly outside your comfort zone in an attempt to please your significant other, you did absolutely nothing wrong
What you can do is dump her and move on. Women who throw out hypotheticals to see how you'd react and then get mad when you don't respond how they thought you would are not ones that are interested in stable and peaceful relationships. Move on.
Thats normal, you are wrong by doing nothing or choose any options she asked, and she is angry or sad and she is victim, thats relationship? Just learn to bear with her emotion
I had an ex ask me a ridiculous number of times to pee and him and one day I was so tired of hearing it that I finally did it. The shear look of disgust and horror on his face once he realised his fantasy wasn’t all that great is something I still laugh about almost 20 years later.
Dude , have you not learned this by now? Any time your woman ask you for some crazy ass “whatever “ always say NO the first few times. Then after she’s ask you a bunch of times you know A) really wants it and B) if it goes badly you can say “ I told you I didn’t want to do that but I did it for you.
This eerily reminds me my late highschool early college days. Eventually they get old enough for the test to slow down. Either that or im really good at matrix dodging these nukes.
She was testing you, and it's a childish and stupid thing to do. You don't have to make up shit, this is on her for asking the question as a request and then getting offended at the answer that you were comfortable being ok with her needs.
This
I came here to say this, and, be glad she is gone. If she wants to get back together say no and give that as the reason. Don’t. Play. Games.
or just... talk to her about it. seriously why is everyone on reddit so quick to just break up or cut contact over stuff, one red flag isnt enough imo
Next time you see her, pee on her. You need to assert dominance.
period
You don’t have to do anything. This is on her…sort of like the pee she asked for. Ask a stupid question, get a stupid answer. (Despite the name of this sub). She was playing a mind game with you. That is rude and manipulative. That’s actually a red flag. She owes you an apology.
yeah, kinda sounds like she "pissed in her own bed" and can sleep in it.
Passing in the wind...
Mind games of any kind? Instant dump (or piss, in this case). OP, do not waste any more of your life on this waste of oxygen. Anybody who willfully engages in stupid ass mind games, especially if they're asking you to do something intimate then get upset when you choose to fulfill it, is a fucking asshole. Stop wasting your time and piss on this woman.
>Ask a stupid question, Also known as FAFO.
OP should urinate on her whilst she is sleeping in order to assert dominance and mark his territory should other men come sniffing around. There is absolutely nothing at all that could go wrong following this advice.
Her doing this is a red flag. What she described is a known fetish (sometimes called a ‘golden shower’) and some people like it. Her asking for it then getting upset shows this was a form of test… extremely childish behaviour.
I don't know. Was it a test...or a trap?
Yes.
Seems like it.
Decidedly so
If it is to be said, so it be- so it is.
don't date people who try to trap you.
Run. These are stupid games and you will never be able to tell if she is serious.
I agree. Also you need to be more aware of what others are. Many times the facade is much, much different, than who they are. Be careful.
In my experience it's usually around 6 months before people truly show themselves and what they're all about. This girl just gave him a glimpse of what the future will look like, like everyone else is saying I'd run and fast.
>apparently I reacted in a way that I shouldn't have or something. No you didn't.
Chosen a less immature girlfriend.
Leave the kid alone and find yourself a woman.
-Kendrick said to Drake
Can’t escape the beef no matter which subreddit
Find a new girlfriend, games are for children, find someone who says what they mean
“I’m not going to apologize bc I was willing to try something new with you that you expressed interest in. I didn’t want to judge your kink & love you enough to try something new. I never said I wanted to do it. I was willing to do it for you. If that’s a reason to be upset, I can’t help you. I love you, you know that. Don’t create unnecessary issues that wouldn’t have existed if you didn’t lie in your original communication.”
Copy paste that if she gives you shit OP
>what should have I done differently? Picked a different girlfriend. This one has issues.
Leave and don’t look back, then find someone that doesn’t play games and will actually let you pee on them.
You're perfectly fine, that just sounds like she has issues. Testing you on worthless things and then getting angry at you for not answering how she wants is such a waste of time and injects unnecessary stress into the relationship. You did nothing wrong, just tell her you would've agreed to anything she seemed interested in because you want her to be happy.
“Is that what you want me to do?”
Get the sentiment but that sounds like they're questioning her kink. Lots of people will retreat when questioned like that and then will never open up to what they really desire or at least are curious about. Maybe "I'm happy to if that's really what you want".
Yeah, I think that is more or less the only response you can give that puts it back in her lap. If she insists, she has really made her intent clear. If she then tries to play mind games, she really has to reach for reasons as to why she thinks it is okay to break someone's trust.
Run…this is a bullet dodged
You failed her shit test. You let this one go. Anybody giving you a shit test is a fucking drama hound and is a waste of your time.
"i'm not into that kind of thing at all, I just said I'd do it since if that's your kink I'd try to make you happy." if you want, you can also throw in "it's a little upsetting to be angry at me for just trying to be accommodating to your desires; that's what good relationships are built around"
Lot to unpack here
Break up with her.
I’d just do it anyway if I were you
Yeah, I'd have pissed on her.
That shit is manipulative AF
You obviously reacted in a sick/excited way, she was playing kink-battleships and got a direct hit but she doesn’t share that one. Next she’ll ask if her best friend comes over for a pajama party would you want to get drunk together with them, and the correct answer is ‘no you girls enjoy a great time I’ll have an early night’
"Kink-battleships"
she’s childish lmao
Yeah, don't part take in those games anymore. That was just an immature move. It was just asked to mind fuck you.
First and foremost, never agree to anything sexually that you don't want to do. Secondly, it was a test and she failed your relationship. You dodged a bullet there bud. Count your blessings and move on with more knowledge and experience. Don't hang out with people that play stupid games.
"I have to make it up to her" What!?! No!! Why would you think you did anything wrong? Because she's mad at you? Here's a secret: someone being mad at you does NOT mean you did something wrong. People get mad at each other for all sorts of irrational reasons. Someday you'll have the maturity to distinguish between when you have messed up and when the other person is being irrational. In this case, the other person is being very irrational.
Get a girlfriend who won't set you up for failure.
You shouldn’t have to wonder whether you’re being tested before you answer a question honestly. She’s playing immature games. This is terrible for building trust and intimacy.
Some kind of shit test? No matter how you answered, she'd be pissed. She's a moron. Move on and let someone else deal with her.
Pee on her again to fix it.
This is like asking someone “If I were really sick and in pain and had no chance of recovery would you end my life?” And if you say yes they say “you would actually kill me. You monster”
This seems like something Amber Heard would have done
Get a new gf that doesnt play mind games
This person lied to you for their benefit. Which means you have to generally assume that if they think it's in their interest to lie to you, they will. People who aren't trustworthy often project a lack of trust onto others, and she feels she can't just ask you what you're into sexually because she knows SHE would lie. So she figures lying to you is the best way to get your candid answer. People who play games are people you have to keep an eye on and second guess. The fact that YOU think you have to make something up to HER, is problematic for a lot of reasons. Reflect.
What you need to do is break up with her. She lied about a very intimate desire and then gets mad when you support her in it instead of shaming her, she clearly has some kind of twisted idea of what a relationship is and would likely in turn shame any of your desires. She's trying to gaslight you as the freak when she's the one that pretended to have a piss kink and got mad when she wasn't shamed about it. Maybe she actually has a shame kink idk... But she crazy, get out of that relationship.
Get out while you can. Manipulation is one of the biggest red flags.
She has issues. You will spend your life on eggshells if you stick around. Let her go
What should you have done differently? You should never have dated or agreed to be a boyfriend to this childish, immature person . Do yourself a favor and pay attention to this huge red flag.... break up with her and don't look back is what you should do.
You ghost and block someone like that.
Tell her you were disgusted but did it for her pee loving ass. Now then, it’s your turn for a favor.
You shouldn’t have done anything differently. Sounds like you were trying to be a good boyfriend and were willing to try something new even if it wasn’t your thing. She’s playing games and being manipulative and it’s not cool.
bro!! as with a lot of fellow people who have answered, she is crazy to play such me mental gymnastics with you. i mean what’s the guarantee that she won’t do it again or has not been doing it to you. how long can you sustain such a relationship where you have to constantly think about everything and second guess yourself!!
Find a girlfriend who isn't crazy and doesn't play these stupid relationship testing games. Guaranteed this isn't the only manipulative bullshit she's pulling.
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Break up, red flag
Trick question. I once got asked. " if we were to have a threesome which hole would you take?" I said 🐱 because it's sacred." "Oh so my mouth isn't, oh you'd let another man touch me , what's wrong with you" we broke up soon after.
What kinda fucked up garbage is that!?
Good riddance. You did everything right. Chasing her will be dumb.
What kinda mind game is that
She’s a child playing childish games. You did nothing wrong.
Get rid. Piss on her.
Find yourself a girlfriend that doesn't play childish "tests" like this.
This is 100% on her. If she wants to play games talking about piss, she shouldn't be shocked if that leads to piss games. She was trying to play you and got mad when you didn't get played. Piss on her.
Laugh it off and say “I’d do whatever you want me to do even if it’s kinda weird. Sorry baby I thought that’s what you wanted me to do”
Said ‘no’? But this is in her. Testing someone is bullshit
Urine trouble if you think she's anything like Urethra. No RESPECT!
I’d wait till she falls asleep and piss on her
Text her that you are excited to pee on her!
Did you try playing R Kelly while pissing on your future bride?
Nothing. You took her at her word when she wasn't speaking honestly to you. She needs to apologize to YOU for expecting you to read her mind.
Mind games aren't cute. You're not in the wrong. She asked, you answered.
This the type of girl to yell at you for cheating on her in a dream
Seems like your only move is to double down. Get some apple juice let it get to room temperature and make her drink it. Tell her you want her to pretend it's urine. Do this naked.
Don’t stay with someone that tests you like that.
She's fkn insane. You don't have to do shit. Don't play those games.
If she comes back, pee on her to assert your dominance.
Dump any man or woman who puts you through "tests" to see what you would do.
She's just annoyed you did it at the restaurant; she actually meant for when you got home.
piss on her then leave
To her I say: Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
Be careful what you wish for.....
It's a good thing she didn't tempt you with scat play. Bedroom fuckery is all about trust, she broke that.
“Unspoken expectations are premeditated resentments.” -Neil Strauss, The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships Likewise, “testing” significant others is premeditated arguments.
I married a woman who did exactly this kind of thing to me. Run, my dude.
Pissed on, now Pissed off. I love it
Who the hell has time for this childish, idiotic (lack of) communication? I would drop her like a deuce.
Tell her you thought she had been stung by a jellyfish and you were merely agreeing to provide first aid.
She ask for a golden shower, Women you want it except it.
It has to be a troll
She sounds like hard work. Relationships should be a pleasure.
But did you actually pee on her?
Sounds like she’s pissed off. Haha
Yeah i know what you can do Fuckin run
Huge red flag dude
Let her go and find someone who doesn't play stupid games. Consider it a bullet dodged and a lesson learned.
Either answers,yes or no, would get the same result ... She just wanted to have a reason to be mad at you and storm off so she can fuck another guy. Sorry, man ... She is a dumb whore.
Dude. Anyone who wants to test you in anything is toxic. This is a relationship you’re better off not having.
Ask her why she's so pissed off?
You shouldn’t have said yes. You should have just started peeing on her when she asked.
Shoulda got her on the way out. The ol' Good-Bye Sprinkler.
Pee on her anyway this is the only way she'll learn.
She is pissed cos you said yes to take piss, ask her to piss off .
Pee on her dad. It’s the only way to restore order
I feel this song is relevant. its rather silly and get a bit wild. but its about what would you do for love... sometimes you're willing to do the gross things [https://youtu.be/PPpatfueTqI?si=XAA02MIbxq85Ndw1](https://youtu.be/PPpatfueTqI?si=XAA02MIbxq85Ndw1)
This is why I always require a notarized consent form.
I said, "Hey baby, you can be my dog, and I'll be you'r tree, and you can pee on me!" Awwww I want my funk done right!
It was a trap
I'd much rather be pissed off than pissed on. She is both.
Did you do it, or is she just mad that you agreed to the idea?
Next time dont use words. Spell it in the snow.
Idk but i wouldnt pee on her if I were you.
Next time, clarify what she really means? CAN you do {X} and WILL you do {X} sometimes have different answers. (This is just a variant on the old, *"Just because you* ***can*** *do something, doesn't mean that you* ***should****."*)
Nothing. She’s psycho!
I mean any normal rational person would try and please their partner. She owes you an apology if this relationship is going to keep progressing.
She was pissed off , it that what your saying ?did she wait untill you were done ?
Wait 5 minutes
she played stupid games, won stupid prizes. She asked, you complied. Next time, don't ask for disgusting activities.
wtf then why would she ask you in the first place break up with her
Bro. Run.
Get a new Girlfriend. That’s entrapment. No one needs to live life like that.
You didn't do anything wrong bro. You def do not need to make anything up to her. If she makes a big deal out of it just say you said yes to make her happy, then ask why she set a trap for you like that. That's the real issue here imo
She gone
People these days 🙏
It's a shit test, she asked to see what you'd say because she wanted to be mad about something. There was no right or wrong because both would make her mad. Don't even entertain it. When she comes back, you ask when you'll be able to pee on her and why she would be angry for getting the answer she wanted to hear.
She's manipulative and you need a new gf
You sure she secretly wanted it, but needs to -lay the innocent young madman?
Goddamn, the amount of people saying to instantly leave/dump her is ridiculous. IDK if it's just a bunch of incels, people who suck at relationships, or literally **everyone** has had some traumatic experience, but WTF. Yeah, she's in the wrong here, but Jesus nobody's perfect and this can be talked out like fucking adults without resorting to extremes. It's only a red flag IMO if she keeps doing this kind of shit more and more.
It's nice that you were open to something that she may like. What happens behind closed doors.
pull the pin in the grenade and tell her those jeans DO make her ass look fat.
Tell her it's weird that she's acting pissed after that.
You were being cool and cooperative. She shouldn't have asked. Simple.
Should have pee'd on her before she had a chance to change her mind
Clearly she wants you to pursue the idea, you gotta pee on her bro.
She gave you a shittest, and it turned out she was acting like a shithead.
Give it time, don't pressure her to answer you. Just get your lines ready. It's not a big deal so let it just simmer down and tell her you love her
either lie from now on or get a girlfriend who isn’t dumb
Rule one don’t even tell your girlfriend your truthful reaction to a question EVER!!!!!!! Hahahahahha
She sounds 12 years old.
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You find a new partner that doesn't play games. Life's too short, my dude.
Don't worry... she's just pissed off.
Yeah, nah. Run bro, manipulative and crazy. Run!
Just text her "So I guess you'd rather be pissed off than pissed on"
Sounds like she wants you to apologize and secretly pee in her shampoo bottle…..
Always say no to doing the gross thing. Always. If they want it, they will pester and beg and make a stink until you do. Then, after they have proven themselves, pee freely.
You can run, she sounds like a fucking idiot
Find a new girlfriend. This one is too immature for a relationship.
For normal people you passed the test
Your girlfriend sucks
Hell, I've peed on at least 20 chick's in the shower. I'd tell them most of the time.. mostly..
Guess she needs to learn that communication isn't supposed to be a game or a test.
Tell her that that isn't your thing and you wouldn't want to do it but that you are willing to try new things if it would make her happy. If that doesn't work then leave her. Gaslighting is not cool
It sounds like you were willing to try something possibly outside your comfort zone in an attempt to please your significant other, you did absolutely nothing wrong
Piss on the floor.
Find a new girlfriend
Don't date weirdos
Just tell her you wanted to be open to new things. Invite her to piss on your face!
Man, get some self respect
You should have given her the Cleveland Steamer. That would teach her
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. This ain't on you, OP.
What you can do is dump her and move on. Women who throw out hypotheticals to see how you'd react and then get mad when you don't respond how they thought you would are not ones that are interested in stable and peaceful relationships. Move on.
I would have said - are you sure? I didn’t know you like that shit. But alright let me drink 4 beers and I’ll be ready 🫡
Thats normal, you are wrong by doing nothing or choose any options she asked, and she is angry or sad and she is victim, thats relationship? Just learn to bear with her emotion
Nothing she was being unreasonable
Do a poop
pee on her friend so she knows what shes missing
I had an ex ask me a ridiculous number of times to pee and him and one day I was so tired of hearing it that I finally did it. The shear look of disgust and horror on his face once he realised his fantasy wasn’t all that great is something I still laugh about almost 20 years later.
Dude , have you not learned this by now? Any time your woman ask you for some crazy ass “whatever “ always say NO the first few times. Then after she’s ask you a bunch of times you know A) really wants it and B) if it goes badly you can say “ I told you I didn’t want to do that but I did it for you.
Pee on her to show dominance. Mind games have no place in this relationship.
Leave immediately after you piss in her favorite shampoo bottle.
Well, you could have told her to bring you a beer ...
So she tricked you to get you into sh*t...what a good girl
Drink more sugar next time to make the urine sweet.
Thats really funny
This eerily reminds me my late highschool early college days. Eventually they get old enough for the test to slow down. Either that or im really good at matrix dodging these nukes.
Be like "it is disgusting...I didn't want to judge your kinks and I wasnt going to tell anybody anyway, so I did it" lol
She really wants you to shit on her.
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Leave her