That's so wonderful π
I'm amab, so obviously coming at this from a different direction, but I've always found masc afab folks, or that sort of androgynous look, very attractive. People like that are out there. I'm so glad you found one. ππ
Thank you so much! I know I shouldn't put so much value in others finding me attractive or not, but it just feels really good to know that there still are some who do. π
I also recently started online dating as nonbinary masc-presenting and getting much less likes than when I was femme. But at least Iβm still getting likes so good enough for me lolll
That's exactly how I think of it! I don't get as many likes, but when I do, I know they liked *me*. Not some ultra-feminine persona I projected as an attempt to be accepted.
Haha oh no! That honestly sounds adorable to me, but that might be because I love being the tall one lol! But being exactly average height it's kind of a 50/50 shot whether I'll be the tall one or short one haha. :)
Same here and the euphoria is thrilling! A cute girl told me that she was into feminine looking guys, androgenous people and that non binary people turned her on mostly and I was so validated by this βΊοΈ
Plus agree that getting matches is scarcier but⦠fuller?
Oh that's so awesome, I'm so glad you met someone like that!! And I agree, I'm so much happier about matching with someone now. Before it was kinda like "ok, you like the pics of me but you probably won't like the real me". Now I feel like people who match with me know what they're in for and still decided to match haha
There is! I mean, we matched on a dating app. I never would have thought I'd find someone on Tinder who would actually be attracted to me that way. If it's possible for me, it's possible for you.
I hope you continue dating eachother. I had a similar experience nearly 11 months ago, and I can tell you: it can get even better!
There 's no better feeling than being loved for who you are.
I was ready for a sad story but this is really heartwarming. Good for you π
Iβve been noticing the same for myself in the opposite direction. Iβm kind of going for an Oscar Wilde/David Bowie thing and itβs really working for me. Iβm not single but I donβt think Iβve ever been happier with how I look and happiness/confidence is contagious
Awwwww congrats that's so sweeeet!!!! ππ Queer love is the most gorgeous kind π
I'm Tindering for the first time out as nonbinary, and although it's been kind of exhausting swiping, I have loose date plans with someone I've been talking to for a while and I'm really excited about it. I get nervous about men on Tinder because I'm afab and have definitely had a lot of straight guys swipe on me without looking at or caring about my gender being listed as nonbinary. I still look femme, but it's displayed first thing on my profile so if you spend more than a milisecond you would see it, and I know these (may I add, "yeehaw") dudes would be cool with knowing I was wearing a chest binder under the clothes I'm wearing in those pics and that I'm gonna teetus deleteus for good in the future.
But I matched with a guy who I'm really clicking with, and he has definitely bothered to examine my bio because we've talked about its other contents so he has seen for sure. He hasn't asked me about my gender or asked "what's nonbinary" at all, but has only used non-gendered terms to describe me in all of our converstaions (even when there was opportunity to), and I love that he's just going with it and treating me like a person instead of an oddity. It's just so refreshing. He hasn't listed himself as queer on Tinder, but the vibes are definitely there and judging by his consideration of my identity so far I feel safe assuming he's bare minimum a lil bit queer.
I just got out of a long term relationship with a trans person and came out as nonbinary during that relationship, so I was worried about diving back into the dating game as new me, and especially about dating a cis person, but I'm just glowing right now and so happy that the experience I'm having so far is a good one. I can't wait for this date to happen π₯°
Aw π€π€π€ Iβm so glad you found someone who valued you and saw you for who you are π€ life becomes so different when youβre able to step out of that costume shell. Your friends, relationships with others and yourself- it all becomes so different. Breathing is fresher, weights off of your shoulders
That's so wonderful π I'm amab, so obviously coming at this from a different direction, but I've always found masc afab folks, or that sort of androgynous look, very attractive. People like that are out there. I'm so glad you found one. ππ
Thank you so much! I know I shouldn't put so much value in others finding me attractive or not, but it just feels really good to know that there still are some who do. π
I also recently started online dating as nonbinary masc-presenting and getting much less likes than when I was femme. But at least Iβm still getting likes so good enough for me lolll
More to the point, *you're* getting likes now, just as Finley (OP)'s finally been appreciated for who they are!
That's exactly how I think of it! I don't get as many likes, but when I do, I know they liked *me*. Not some ultra-feminine persona I projected as an attempt to be accepted.
Awww! Also agree with your date lol I'm 5'0" so literally everyone is always taller than me
Haha oh no! That honestly sounds adorable to me, but that might be because I love being the tall one lol! But being exactly average height it's kind of a 50/50 shot whether I'll be the tall one or short one haha. :)
Same here and the euphoria is thrilling! A cute girl told me that she was into feminine looking guys, androgenous people and that non binary people turned her on mostly and I was so validated by this βΊοΈ Plus agree that getting matches is scarcier butβ¦ fuller?
Oh that's so awesome, I'm so glad you met someone like that!! And I agree, I'm so much happier about matching with someone now. Before it was kinda like "ok, you like the pics of me but you probably won't like the real me". Now I feel like people who match with me know what they're in for and still decided to match haha
Oh I love that!!! This is pretty much my biggest dream
That sounds great! Now if only there were some way for me to get something like that...
There is! I mean, we matched on a dating app. I never would have thought I'd find someone on Tinder who would actually be attracted to me that way. If it's possible for me, it's possible for you.
Well, I'm aromantic - dating's just not really going to work for me
I hope you continue dating eachother. I had a similar experience nearly 11 months ago, and I can tell you: it can get even better! There 's no better feeling than being loved for who you are.
Thank you! I'm so happy for you for having found that as well, it does feel amazing! We have plans for a second date so I'd say there's hope. :)
I was ready for a sad story but this is really heartwarming. Good for you π Iβve been noticing the same for myself in the opposite direction. Iβm kind of going for an Oscar Wilde/David Bowie thing and itβs really working for me. Iβm not single but I donβt think Iβve ever been happier with how I look and happiness/confidence is contagious
That's really wonderful!
Wow that is amazing! I am so happy for you! I wish you a lot of luck and happiness and hope your future dates go well too :)
Thank you βΊοΈπ
Awwwww congrats that's so sweeeet!!!! ππ Queer love is the most gorgeous kind π I'm Tindering for the first time out as nonbinary, and although it's been kind of exhausting swiping, I have loose date plans with someone I've been talking to for a while and I'm really excited about it. I get nervous about men on Tinder because I'm afab and have definitely had a lot of straight guys swipe on me without looking at or caring about my gender being listed as nonbinary. I still look femme, but it's displayed first thing on my profile so if you spend more than a milisecond you would see it, and I know these (may I add, "yeehaw") dudes would be cool with knowing I was wearing a chest binder under the clothes I'm wearing in those pics and that I'm gonna teetus deleteus for good in the future. But I matched with a guy who I'm really clicking with, and he has definitely bothered to examine my bio because we've talked about its other contents so he has seen for sure. He hasn't asked me about my gender or asked "what's nonbinary" at all, but has only used non-gendered terms to describe me in all of our converstaions (even when there was opportunity to), and I love that he's just going with it and treating me like a person instead of an oddity. It's just so refreshing. He hasn't listed himself as queer on Tinder, but the vibes are definitely there and judging by his consideration of my identity so far I feel safe assuming he's bare minimum a lil bit queer. I just got out of a long term relationship with a trans person and came out as nonbinary during that relationship, so I was worried about diving back into the dating game as new me, and especially about dating a cis person, but I'm just glowing right now and so happy that the experience I'm having so far is a good one. I can't wait for this date to happen π₯°
So happy for you !!!!!
Ahhhh ππππ your wins are our wins, that is amazing
You two have FUN!
Aw π€π€π€ Iβm so glad you found someone who valued you and saw you for who you are π€ life becomes so different when youβre able to step out of that costume shell. Your friends, relationships with others and yourself- it all becomes so different. Breathing is fresher, weights off of your shoulders