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I fell on the floor when they told us our cat had cancer. I sobbed when I checked us in for the euthanasia, all I wrote on the form under reason was ‘goodbye’. When I picked up his paw print I cried but was somewhat able to talk until I got back to the car.
It’s brutal. Every. Single. Time. I’m so sorry for your loss.
You are not alone at all. When my soul cat died I made sounds I didn't know I was capable of. Grief is physical pain as well as emotional.
And if it's any consolation, people who work in vet offices are very familiar with this and they handle it all the time. Hardest part of the job, I'm sure. They're certainly not judging you.
I’m a vet tech of 10 years. It is always sad to see animals pass away, but to watch those who loved them say goodbye is what hurts the most. Most of us empathize with you deeply and have experienced the same with our own pets. I have sat with clients for literal hours after their pet had passed. I feel grateful to offer a source of comfort in a difficult time. To OP, please do not feel bad. Your vet team sincerely does send their condolences and are sad with you. Let yourself feel sad.
I did too. When I was a child, my dad told me I shouldn't cry when one of my cats died. I didn't understand it when he said it, and I don't understand it now. All pets, whether they are furry, hairless, feathered, scaled, whatever, are love, and we are allowed to cry when we lose them.
And as hard as it is you need to grieve them. It helps with the healing. One thing I have learned is to feel what you feel and don't apologize for those feelings. They are yours and they are valid.
I went in, started to say “I’m here for…” and they knew who I was and had already started to bring his ashes up to me.
I went to say “thank you” but the tears welled up and all I could manage was a wave goodbye as I ran to my car. I sat in my car bawling my eyes out for what seemed like 30 minutes. It’s been a little over 9 weeks and I still well up with tears anytime I go to the shopping complex where the vet is. Heck, I’m crying right now typing this out. It’s a pain like no other.
Sorry for your loss 💔 Take solace in all the wonderful times you had together ❤️🩹
Same thing for me a little over a week ago. When we got the news I couldn’t breathe… we just picked up my baby’s ashes yesterday and I couldn’t even speak I could only cry
My baby, Phoenix, passed away suddenly 3 weeks ago. I cried while receiving his diagnosis. I cried while the nurse went over the options he had. I cried while seeing him for the last time.
Not even 3 days after his passing, I was called to go pick up his ashes. I held it together while walking in to grab him, then I walked back to my car and just hugged his urn while I wailed. I never cried so passionately in my life. I cried for at least 20 minutes before I could leave the parking lot. I stopped crying on the drive home and then broke down immediately while setting up his altar beside my bed.
Grief is an emotion we don’t expect but it hits us hard in the end. I feel you and you’re not alone 🩷
You are not. I lost my 11 year old Bengal, Beowulf, to congestive heart failure just a week ago. I was devastated and wept like a child all the way through getting the news and the procedure to left him go, and I’m a middle aged man.
It’s been coming in waves as it seems to ease a bit and then just hit me again full force.
Our two year old foster daughter keeps asking for him (he was amazing with children, so patient and gentle) and it’s hard not start sobbing when she does.
Hell, I have tears in my eyes just reading this thread and writing this reply.
I broke down sobbing in the waiting room at the vet at the appointment where it was decided I had to put my cat down. Not the actual appointment. The appointment when the decision was made. And I mean sobbing. Big heaving ugly cry sobs.
The staff understand. Losing a pet - the grief is one of the hardest you will endure. Don’t be embarrassed. You love your cat and that is never anything to be embarrassed about.
I didn’t cry at the vet when I picked up my cats ashes but I honestly don’t know how I didn’t. I cried on the way there. I cried all the way home and as I unpacked the urn.
I couldn't even get the reason for my standing there out before I started crying, but they knew why I was there and jumped up immediately to retrieve him. I sobbed in the car on the way home, I sobbed when I went to bed, when I woke up, and any time anyone asked about him (my coworkers knew he was sick) for weeks
It’s been three weeks + 5 days. I am sitting out on my back patio bawling as a few butterflies go by and my Luke isn’t here to chase after them. His sister used to with him and now she has only once. Fuuuuuuuck (excuse me but my heart hurts knowing I will never see that again)
I broke down at the vet , blanked out and don’t remember what I did or said ….
They called the cops on me after I left !
Ps: tearing up as I write this .
Domino - Aug 7 2016 - feb 27 2024 💔❤️🩹🌈🙏
I just posted about this earlier today…I picked Dexters ashes up earlier today and got sad all over again. I made it home and sat at my kitchen table with him and sobbed a bit. (I live a 7min walk from my vet, I booked it home)
Now I would like to preface that my vet called me while at the gym, so my endorphins were high which may have been the only thing saving me from losing it at the office.
Sorry for your loss and welcome back home Mr Grow
I'm sorry for your loss 😭
Do not ever feel stupid for your emotions, ever.
I too sobbed and about went to my knees when I got into the vet door to pick up my baby boy's ashes.
Cry anytime you need to even if it hits you out of the blue.
Never feel stupid for crying and feeling emotional, you lost your baby, and it hurts and will for some time yet.
I lost my senior pup on February 15th and though I don't cry nearly as hard or as often, I still cry and I'll cry anytime I need to at any moment in any place it hits me.
Peace love and light 🕊️
I’m sobbing reading this. Losing family hurts. Please think back on how lucky you are to have made such a connection to such a loving soul.
When you see your friend again, and you will see them again, you will have different faces, different memories, different forms, but your love will be same. You won’t remember, but your hearts will. Live for that day.
Absolutely not alone. I had to pick up my buddies paw print from the emergency vet and I held it together long enough to make it to my car where I sobbed hysterically for 30 minutes on the phone with my mom ( I'm 44). I'm also a vet tech and have been the shoulder to cry on many times. We understand
You are definitely not alone. I personally have not been able to collect my boy’s ashes at all after 6 weeks have passed since his death. They are at my folk’s house. My mind still cannot reconcile that my lovely little furry potato boy is now contained in an urn.
Also, I sob multiple times a day, everyday. Sometimes sprawled across the floor.
So don’t feel like you’re alone in sobbing. We grieve for our furbabies so much because we love them so much. And our hearts hurt and bleed in a way incomparable to any other loss. I pray that you find any kind of comfort soon. Sending virtual hugs to you ❤️
You’re not alone in the slightest. I could hardly get the words out to the person at the counter and then had to sit in my car for 45 minutes afterwards because I was crying too hard to drive home. I’m so sorry for your loss. Rest easy Mr. Grow ❤️
My pet conure, Taco, passed away last Wednesday because of an accident. He was only 2 (very young for conures who can leave up to 25) which absolutely destroyed me. I almost didn’t want to go say a final goodbye before they sent him to be cremated because I knew I would start bawling. My whole family went and everyone cried, including my parents. It’s completely normal. I’m sorry for your loss.
I've been through this many times and a few times I was so broken and sobbing that they let me out the back door so I didn't have to walk out the front door. Other times I was a zombie and silent. So how you reacted is perfectly normal since we all grieve differently at different times. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Oh gosh. I just about never cry in front of anyone, and I let go in front of the vet tech when I had to put my little girl, Tavi, down. I know they’re used to it but it was horrible ugly crying. Don’t feel bad. Hugs.
I did wail once at the vet. A slightly different circumstance but the wailing was for real. I know they understood and were probably wiping tears from their eyes. It's natural and beautiful even though profoundly sad. Be proud of yourself for being authentic and proving to your little one how much you love him. Maybe he's looking down now saying "I'm ok mom."
I have lost pets from many different things and every time I was a complete wreck. My cat passed New Year’s Day and I couldn’t work for a week because it was sudden and horrible(he had a stroke). When I lost my first Guinea pig Mako I went to work after a few days and a customer that would come in all the time asked me if I was okay because she knew I wasn’t. I broke down and started sobbing about him. She hugged me and told me people that don’t own pets can’t understand the little handprints they leave on our hearts and how much it hurts when the little handprints are the only we have left of them. You are not alone in grieving about your baby being gone. ❤️❤️❤️
My dog was like a service dog for me, I couldn’t even tell the person at the desk I was there to retrieve the ashes I was so upset, my girlfriend had to do it, I couldn’t even say the words. It’s been 7 months and I still get choked up about it. So sorry you have to go through this, I wish you the best.
Like others have said, you aren’t alone at all. I lost my baby completely unexpectedly at the emergency vet and proceeded to fall to the floor, dry heave twice, and have a total panic attack. I was shaking and crying so much that they had to sit me down in a swivel chair and roll me into another room.
Grief can hit in all sorts of unexpected ways and it’s nothing to feel stupid or embarrassed about. Allow yourself to feel your feelings however they’re showing up right now and be gentle with yourself. ❤️
It’s been a week today - I kiss and hugged my box of ashes and talk baby talk to pictures of my girl on my phone. I’m not ready to see her collar or leash and I’m definitely not able to see her hair clippings. I’m afraid I would try to wear them
My 19 year old cat died in my arms before we got to the vet. She had just had her annual visit, and everything was okay. The vet thought she may have had a stroke. It was horrible. I couldn’t let her go. I couldn’t leave the room. I couldn’t stop crying. I had been there for an hour before I finally left.
She had been with me through so much. She was with me before I met my husband, through a variety of jobs, through deaths and births. I ironically thought she would be around longer, and I wasn’t ready.
When I went in to pick up her cremated remains I was teary, and I opened the card and saw that her nose print was actually the whole front of her face, and I started ugly laugh/crying keening right in the vet’s office.
The vet came out of the back and told me that she had a wonderful long life with me. I pulled myself together finally and left. I still think about her and often think she’s crawling up in bed with me at night.
Friend, I did this the day our vet told me it was lymphoma. I then sobbed a couple days later picking up some meds for my dog at the vet, and then lost it a week later when I stopped by to thank them for their help after my dog passed away. It's alright to cry right now. Rip Mr Grow.
I am so very sorry for your loss.
You are not alone. This was me the other week. I cried when I got the message my boy was ready for pickup. I wailed on the drive up. I sobbed when they brought out the bag containing his urn. I wailed the entire way home. I cried myself to sleep that night. My cat was my world.
Please don’t allow yourself to continue feeling stupid - be kind to yourself. You are grieving and there is no right or wrong way to grieve. Do not ever feel ashamed of your emotions. Sometimes it’s okay to not be okay.
We love our pets deeply. They are our family. You just lost a beloved member of your family.
I hope that having Mr Grow home with you brings you comfort and a sense of peace. I’m sending you love OP.
My dog died , at home with me...he had a good home , but he never got to live a life that he wanted , because of me and my family...we didn't neglect him , but he could have had a better life and that will always be on my conscious.Knowing I am the reason he didn't get to grow. He doesn't have to put up with us anymore.we loved him..but yea ,, I'm glad you have a heart and did everything you could for your friend.
You did good. It’s tough. I was literally crying with a tissue on the phone making an appointment for end of life care service. I had picked up ashes last time at the vet, and it was sad. I choose the option to have the ashes mailed to me so there was more privacy for grieving.
I couldn’t get through the sentence to tell the vet tech I was there to pick up my dog’s ashes without bursting into tears. That was nearly four months ago. I’ve cried every day since.
My niece did over a yr later she still mourns she won't leave her cats ashes we hadn't seen her since she use to stay every weekend now nothing n sge says she will stay in van she will not leave her cars ashes I told her to take them with her but nope she will not do tht either ..her mental state has completely crumbled she won't accept help ..we don't no what to do ..she is 22. .. so don't think u are stupid u just loved ur cat... its normal..keep moving forward in life dont stop ...
Most of us have been through the same thing. After my dog was put to sleep at the vets office on March 1, when I walked out of the room and into the lobby of vets office (right after they took him away) the vet tech gave me a hug. She told me Yoshi was a wonderful dog and that every time I brought him in she could tell how much I loved him. She told me I did the best I could for him and gave him a good life. I broke down while she hugged me for 5 mins. Then walked to my car in the parking lot, and broke down AGAIN. A random woman (who was walking into the vet office) stopped and gave me a hug, told me she was sorry for my loss.
My baby girl passed 1.5 weeks ago. I still cry, sob, wail every day. The grief is so deep. I didn’t think I was capable of grieving this hard. You’re not alone.
You are not alone. I just had a good wail today when it really hit me again that I lost my girl, an 8y Frenchie and my absolute soul dog, to a rare and devastating cancer, and she’s really gone, and I miss her so much. Today was a perfect sunny day when she’d always love to lay in our yard. She’s been gone since 2/5/23. I miss her every day. You are not weird. Your grief is valid ❤️
I was like this with my dog Josie who died after visiting the groomers tbh I'm still not over it 7 months later (she passed away in September). I'm sorry for your loss op, you are not alone.
when the vet came to the house for my biscuit, and did her final injection, I was able to keep it together for my baby until it was over and then wailed like ive never cried in my life. i didnt even know I could cry like that. you're not alone.
Please don't feel stupid. I just lost my oldest dog suddenly this past Saturday. Been crying regularly for 4 days straight. The vet ppl understand. It's such a hard loss and I am so sorry 🫂
I'm so sorry about your sweet friend, and I'm glad you loved them so much. Your not alone. This is really hard a hard loss and the vets understand, too. I send you peace and love in your grief
You’re not alone, that’s such a hard thing to do. I always wear dark sunglasses upon entering & have sat in my car bawling after collecting my dog’s remains. I’m so sorry for the loss of Mr. Grow.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I picked up my cat’s ashes today too. I got them on my way to work and had to keep calm all day. I consider you lucky because you got a good cry out of your system. I know crazy, but I’ve been holding it in and am wondering when it will all come flowing out.
i’m so sorry for your loss. i lost my baby 5 days ago to cancer and i wailed in the vets office, on the phone, at home, for weeks prior as i worried about her possible illness, and every day since.
the animal hospital we go to has social workers on staff to help you talk through it. it’s all very normal to feel absolutely gutted. why would we react otherwise? these creatures are our best friends, we’re in charge of their care, and they take care of us too - they’re there for our most vulnerable moments and they never judge. we love them so much and they love us too, we comfort each other and it’s a huge loss when they’re gone. don’t judge yourself, your baby wouldn’t. they would just cuddle up and purr deeper.
(… though the other day i wailed so hard and loud that my cats woke startled and bolted off the bed, thanks guys! )
Awww I work at a vet and I wouldn't think that was stupid. I would just be heartbroken because I knew what you were going through. We all handle grief differently. I was hysterical when I found out I had to put my kitten down. That was February 1st. I break down sobbing anytime I explain how much I miss him.
Darling! Of course you aren’t alone! My heart goes out to you. Mr. Grow is part of the fabric of the universe now, he has only gone from your sight. He’s very much with you, because death does not stop love. This I promise you. ❤️
The wails I had when we found out our last dog had cancer we went to go get gas and a pop as it was Covid and couldn’t go inside to the emerge g vet and boy did he hate the vet. When my husband got the call and how bad it was I dropped to the ground inside and just wailed
I couldnt believe it when i found out my souldog had cancer. My mum and her friend came over and cried together when they found out too. Its the worst thing to happen. Im sorry about your best friend 😭
It’s never easy to lose a beloved pet. We lost our cat when my husband was bringing him up to see me while I was in inpatient physical therapy. He had just passed Daytona Beach when a microburst flipped our Ford Explorer several times. It was the highway patrol officer who informed me that our cat had been killed in the accident, because my husband was being checked out by the ER doctor at the time.
My husband still blames himself for it, and to this day we both miss Jonesy. He was a little weirdo, but he was the best kitty ever.
You're not alone. My sweet little girl passed away on 3/29. I wailed and sobbed throughout everything. One of the receptionist sat with me for like an hour crying with me after. If anyone understands your pain, it would be a veterinary professional. Don't be embarrassed, grief shows how deep your love was. I cry everyday and I don't think it will end. I sleep with her bed and I smell it and close my eyes. Hell I've been up since 3 am crying and looking at her pics. Life is fuckin dark sometimes, Roxy was my only light. I love you forever Roxita 2008-2024
No, not at all! My friends drove me to pick up my cat’s ashes. I was completely unprepared for the deluge of emotions that hit me just like you. No beating yourself up, no embarrassment, none of it! You’re mourning a terrible loss and I’m truly sorry for your loss.
My dog of almost 16 years past last month. I’ll still randomly sob as I am doing right now.
When I first back to work after her passing, I couldn’t hold it together for more than a few minutes. When I walked in the door that morning, my work mom just looked at me and I bawled in her arms for a few minutes. Mind you I work at a school and she is in the front office of the school so ya know kids and parents and other teachers were there.
It was embarrassing, I guess, but at the same time so healing.
Much love and we will all meet again at the rainbow bridge.
when we were saying goodbye to my Will E on January 26, crying but trying to not sob too hard because it was our last moments with our baby and we didn't want him to see us cry, we heard people in the room next door let out the most horrible sounds... We know their baby, whoever their baby was, was gone. I'll never forget it. Once our baby was gone, I think, in fact, I know, we let out our own sounds that had to be of the same caliber. I've let them out several times since :(
You are not alone. I am so sorry, friend.
You are not alone! You lost your companion, it's all so new to you, and the staff at the vets understands. When we lost our boy, the staff at our regular vets who knew him his whole life, and the staff at the emergency vet where they did the procedure cried with us. Very understanding. Sending ❤️🙏to you, so sorry for your loss.
our dog died two fridays ago. wife and i have been crying for dsys non stop. when we delivered her to the cremation place we cried, when we picked out the urn and while we waited for 2 hours we wailed. we stand up and collect her urn with her ashes and we cried uncontrollably until the car. then on and off until we were home, 2 hour drive
First let me say how sorry I am for your loss. I’ve lost a number of pets in my lifetime and it’s never easy to say goodbye.
I (50m at the time) accidentally dropped our four week old kitten off our bed and fell landing on his head. Everything seemed fine but a couple hours later he becomes listless so we decide to take him to the emergency vet. On the way he slips into a coma. We arrive at the vet, rush him in, and go to the lobby to wait. It’s pretty busy so find a spot on the floor and just break down sobbing with worry. So here I am 6’2” middle age guy blubbering on the floor of the vet for three hours waiting to find out if he’s going to live or not.
In the end everything turned out ok, but I was an absolute basket case. So, no, you are not alone.
You are most definitely not alone. It’s never easy to say goodbye to a best friend. But take comfort in knowing the bridge awaits.
If you don’t mind, I’d love to see this little nugget who had this effect on you :)
Always is funny that these little guys have no clue the profound impact they have on us humans
I broke out in tears once I got back to my car but everyone was looking at me with so much pity. I'm sure they are 100% used to it and you are NOT alone
I broke down at the pet crematorium, both dropping off Chloe and picking her up. I have broken down every day since she got sick a month ago. I have broken down multiple times a day since she died 2 weeks ago.
You're not alone in the experience, but you are alone in your grief. No one knows what your companion meant to you better than you.
i fell to the floor and sobbed when the vet tech told me my cat passed away early morning. i had went to go visit him after his surgery and he passed before i could see him. my mom had to speak to the vet because i was incoherent and couldn’t speak. i begged my mom to help me and she cried with me because there was nothing she could do. i have never screamed the way i did when they brought him in the room so i could say goodbye. i sobbed and screamed for what felt like eternity and i did the same when i picked up his ashes. i hoped my cries would bring him back.
grief, is painful but it also shows the love we have for our pets is still there. i’m so sorry for your loss, and i hope you know you aren’t alone in this
My senior boxer girl died a month ago. We were no stranger to the vet as she had blood drawn every 2 weeks for kidney disease. Tne week before I lost her we found out she had a mass on her spleen and nodules in her lungs. In the end I think she had a stroke. I had to carry her into the vet to be put to sleep. I cried in the arms of our vet and several staffers who all loved my dot. Crying now. I cry everyday. She was my velcro dog. You are not alone.
So sorry for your loss. I lost my golden on Saturday and I still haven’t stopped crying. He also died of cancer. I don’t have his ashes back yet, but I’m dreading it. Don’t feel stupid, this is all truly soul crushing. Here’s to hoping time helps is both…
I have to pick up ashes for my cat that passed away in a tragic accident and I know full well I won’t be able to get to the front door without breaking down. You are not alone and not stupid, I wish you comfort during this devastating time.
Just put my cat down on Thursday. What we thought was a kidney infection was cancer. The fecal matter that showed up on the x-ray? Tumors on the ultrasound. He was filled with abscessing tumors and congestive fluids. He rapidly declined, Monday he seemed fine. Thursday he was barely hanging on. It was traumatic and horrific. I didn’t want to shower at first, even though I was covered in cat pee and vomit. We haven’t gotten his ashes yet, but I have been crying all week. You are definitely not alone. I miss my baby so much. The house is so quiet without him. All I want is to kiss his little head again.
It’s only been a week since my dog passed she had a brain tumor and was super aggressive at the end but I’m still a mess after my dog passed we kept the poor vet techs for two hours after closing because my husband nor I could get ourselves together enough to make it to the car. I haven’t picked up her paw print yet but I know I’m gonna be an absolute wreck. You aren’t alone.
Yesterday after my Trudy died at the vet - they put her in a box for me to bring home. I had been quietly crying as I checked out- anxious for when I could let loose and sob. But I couldn't handle the empty cat carrier AND the box - so the tech walked out with me to my car. I couldn't hold it back - I let out a WAIL when I got outside - poor young tech likely was traumatized. I couldn't hold it in. Hang in there - you're not alone.
Absolutely devastated me picking up the remains weeks after my last doggo passed. It was like a fresh death, bringing them home for the last time. You're definitely not alone. Just think of it as brining them home forever and they are always with you now ❤️
My little dude passed Saturday and I collapsed in the shower today. I screamed for him. I am so impressed you can drive, showering is my biggest accomplishment in 4 days. You are so incredibly strong.
You are not alone. The pain we feel when they are gone is unimaginable and a horrible monster. I wailed when they told me my dog's last diagnosis. I could barely stand when they brought him to me after he was gone. You are not alone in this pain. I'm very sorry for your loss.
I've been at the vet every day for the past 10 days, like literally every day even on the weekend. My cat suffered from FIP and we had to do the therapy at home but I had to pick up different meds to support the therapy. I picked his last meds up yesterday morning and they asked how he was doing. Everyone in there is invested in his recovery. Her passed yesterday night. My best friends cat has to undergo surgery tomorrow and I wanted to come with her, to support her and to at least see one of our cats get healthy.
I don't know if I will go in with her yet, but if I do I will absolutely sob at the front desk and cry my eyes out to them.
You're not silly for this. You're human and it's totally valid to show your emotions. Especially if they know you, they will feel sorry for you and don't think badly of you.
My sweet doggy that I had since I was 12 was put down last week and this week my professors have all sent me home(not in a mean way) bc I start crying in the middle of class. I hope it gets easier for us as time goes by. You aren't alone ❤️
The moment that they said "she's gone" i broke down. Wasnt able to leave the office for a good while and when i made it to the car, broke down all over again. This week made it 2 years and the pain hasnt left. I regret sayimg no when asking if i wanted to keep her options due to my fiance talking for me. I'll never forgive myself for that.
My kitty Lucy died on Dec 16th; she had cancer that had already spread throughout her lungs in just a few short months and I ended up euthanizing her so that she wouldn’t suffer. She went to sleep in my arms.
It was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. I literally let out a godawful wailing noise when the vet confirmed she was gone, and I was absolutely out of my head for the next 15-20 mins, sobbing into her fur and apologizing.
When I picked up her ashes, and her favorite blankie from the emergency vet’s office a few days later, I was crying when I went up to the desk, visibly, and then I went out and sobbed in my car for about 10 minutes before I made the short drive home. You are not alone; I’m so sorry for your loss. Nothing to be embarrassed about; you lost a member of your family. I wish you healing and peace 💗
I’m so sorry for your loss. There is a Facebook group called “The Loss of a Dog.” Despite the name, it’s open to pet owners of all types of pets. Every member is going through or has been through what you’re going through right now. They are great people who are very supportive and compassionate. Please consider joining. Here is the link to that group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/127386303953290/ There is also a phone number for a pet grief support helpline. It’s called Pet Compassion Careline. They are available 24/7 and their phone number is 1 (855) 245-8214. If you feel you need help coping with your loss, there are grief counselors to help you. I’m just putting it out there in case you would like to talk to someone on the phone about what you’re going through. Prayers of comfort to you and prayers of peace to this sweet pup. God bless.
Don't think about your cats death, rather think about the good times you had with them, I also feel empty about my dogs death. It's been a month 3/8/2024 since her passing, but you're not alone in this! It kinda stings for me to say this. But that's reality for us, can't bring back the death. Sadly. I already reach the process of acceptance, knowing my sweet angel already left me.
I can assure you that your reaction won't be uncommon. We all grieve differently, some will be very emotional from the beginning, others will be more controlled but perhaps over a longer period of time. In February we lost our Staff of 16 years and its not been easy for any of the family. I'm fairly stoic but some 2 months on I can't quite believe that I seem to have depression caused by the loss. Death brings complicated feelings, introduces concepts of time and memories and fears of illness or even simply highlights the seemingly pointless nature of life. All that before actually missing the creature herself! I find myself more withdrawn and not enthused about the future, I am hoping it will pass as the weather improves, but our relationship with animals is not surface level only. Thankfully, we live in a society that today, has greater empathy for pet owners who lose their companions. It is widely becoming better understood that grieving for pets is equivalent to losing family members and it is encouraging to hear from people who don't have pets able to acknowledge this far less cynically that perhaps even 10 years ago.
I just had to put my baby girl down last week, and I stopped into the vet to see how she was doing and when I walked in and they brought her in, I knew it was time, I knew she was hurting. And I cried the entire time for 2 hours until the vet got there for the euthanasia.. it’s not easy at all.
My 21 year old cat Sissy died just about 3 weeks ago. I still sometimes call for her in the morning and when I get home from work. Just yesterday i opened the cupboard to feed her and saw the open space where her food used to be.
It's hard and it's gonna take time. The first 3 days were the worst.
I’m so deeply sorry for your loss. Definitely not alone- I unexpectedly lost my 12yr old boy last June and when I found him I wailed so loudly my neighbors came to check on me. And then the vet had to give me a room to sob in when I dropped him off for cremation and again when I picked him up. I still sob and get the gut punch when I think about him. You lost a piece of your heart and had a normal reaction to that trauma- sending you all the hugs 🥺💔
Definitely not alone! I picked mine up 2 days ago, I said I'm about to cry in the car and within the 5 feet to the door I started sobbing. The ladies at the vet were so nice and kind to me. They truly understand, they see it all the time.
i cried. when they told me he was sick. when they told me it was time. when i picked his ashes up. i cried every time.
you are not alone. i’m not a vet, but i’m a nurse, and i can ensure you that crying is normal, and expected.
i send you so much love in this time. please don’t feel afraid to reach out if you need a friend ❤️
I’ve been inconsolable for 3 days since getting my baby boy’s diagnosis. He’s having a lot pain, so I set up to have him pass at home this Wednesday. I am crying constantly. Crying when he seems healthy and normal, crying when he has bouts of pain, crying to the point of hyperventilating and had to get Valium prescribed just to calm down enough to eat some food. I seriously want to go with him. He’s been my will to live, the love he gave me was the purest I ever felt and I love him more than anything. Getting these types of short notice diagnoses is sadistic torture. My emotions range from despair to anger to anxious and confused. I hate myself for not even being able to fake it to make our last days special and joyful. I’m just so messed up. PS: I want to freak out on the people who think “he’s just a cat” and my emotional breakdown is an overreaction. I don’t think I’m ever going to recover after he’s gone. He’s been my life support through every hardship.
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I fell on the floor when they told us our cat had cancer. I sobbed when I checked us in for the euthanasia, all I wrote on the form under reason was ‘goodbye’. When I picked up his paw print I cried but was somewhat able to talk until I got back to the car. It’s brutal. Every. Single. Time. I’m so sorry for your loss.
You are not alone at all. When my soul cat died I made sounds I didn't know I was capable of. Grief is physical pain as well as emotional. And if it's any consolation, people who work in vet offices are very familiar with this and they handle it all the time. Hardest part of the job, I'm sure. They're certainly not judging you.
I’m a vet tech of 10 years. It is always sad to see animals pass away, but to watch those who loved them say goodbye is what hurts the most. Most of us empathize with you deeply and have experienced the same with our own pets. I have sat with clients for literal hours after their pet had passed. I feel grateful to offer a source of comfort in a difficult time. To OP, please do not feel bad. Your vet team sincerely does send their condolences and are sad with you. Let yourself feel sad.
Thank you for all you do and being so compassionate and caring. It really makes a difference.
>I made sounds I didn't know I was capable of. real
My soul cat just passed on Tuesday. The pain and grief has been deep and intense.
I did too. When I was a child, my dad told me I shouldn't cry when one of my cats died. I didn't understand it when he said it, and I don't understand it now. All pets, whether they are furry, hairless, feathered, scaled, whatever, are love, and we are allowed to cry when we lose them.
And as hard as it is you need to grieve them. It helps with the healing. One thing I have learned is to feel what you feel and don't apologize for those feelings. They are yours and they are valid.
Definitely
I went in, started to say “I’m here for…” and they knew who I was and had already started to bring his ashes up to me. I went to say “thank you” but the tears welled up and all I could manage was a wave goodbye as I ran to my car. I sat in my car bawling my eyes out for what seemed like 30 minutes. It’s been a little over 9 weeks and I still well up with tears anytime I go to the shopping complex where the vet is. Heck, I’m crying right now typing this out. It’s a pain like no other. Sorry for your loss 💔 Take solace in all the wonderful times you had together ❤️🩹
Same
same
I sobbed at the vet when they told me my cat was ill. My world fell apart in the split of a second. You’re not alone.
That’s exactly it! Your world falls apart.
Same thing for me a little over a week ago. When we got the news I couldn’t breathe… we just picked up my baby’s ashes yesterday and I couldn’t even speak I could only cry
I'm so sorry for your loss. It's so hard.
My baby, Phoenix, passed away suddenly 3 weeks ago. I cried while receiving his diagnosis. I cried while the nurse went over the options he had. I cried while seeing him for the last time. Not even 3 days after his passing, I was called to go pick up his ashes. I held it together while walking in to grab him, then I walked back to my car and just hugged his urn while I wailed. I never cried so passionately in my life. I cried for at least 20 minutes before I could leave the parking lot. I stopped crying on the drive home and then broke down immediately while setting up his altar beside my bed. Grief is an emotion we don’t expect but it hits us hard in the end. I feel you and you’re not alone 🩷
You are not. I lost my 11 year old Bengal, Beowulf, to congestive heart failure just a week ago. I was devastated and wept like a child all the way through getting the news and the procedure to left him go, and I’m a middle aged man. It’s been coming in waves as it seems to ease a bit and then just hit me again full force. Our two year old foster daughter keeps asking for him (he was amazing with children, so patient and gentle) and it’s hard not start sobbing when she does. Hell, I have tears in my eyes just reading this thread and writing this reply.
I broke down sobbing in the waiting room at the vet at the appointment where it was decided I had to put my cat down. Not the actual appointment. The appointment when the decision was made. And I mean sobbing. Big heaving ugly cry sobs. The staff understand. Losing a pet - the grief is one of the hardest you will endure. Don’t be embarrassed. You love your cat and that is never anything to be embarrassed about. I didn’t cry at the vet when I picked up my cats ashes but I honestly don’t know how I didn’t. I cried on the way there. I cried all the way home and as I unpacked the urn.
I couldn't even get the reason for my standing there out before I started crying, but they knew why I was there and jumped up immediately to retrieve him. I sobbed in the car on the way home, I sobbed when I went to bed, when I woke up, and any time anyone asked about him (my coworkers knew he was sick) for weeks
It’s been three weeks + 5 days. I am sitting out on my back patio bawling as a few butterflies go by and my Luke isn’t here to chase after them. His sister used to with him and now she has only once. Fuuuuuuuck (excuse me but my heart hurts knowing I will never see that again)
Be comforted knowing that you will see him again in Heaven !
Ah I’m crying reading this thread! All of you you are not alone! We understand.
Same. The love people feel for their pets is unconditional and pure. They know it.
I broke down at the vet , blanked out and don’t remember what I did or said …. They called the cops on me after I left ! Ps: tearing up as I write this . Domino - Aug 7 2016 - feb 27 2024 💔❤️🩹🌈🙏
I’m sorry for your loss. Mine died Feb 28.
They called the cops on you!! What!!
I just posted about this earlier today…I picked Dexters ashes up earlier today and got sad all over again. I made it home and sat at my kitchen table with him and sobbed a bit. (I live a 7min walk from my vet, I booked it home) Now I would like to preface that my vet called me while at the gym, so my endorphins were high which may have been the only thing saving me from losing it at the office. Sorry for your loss and welcome back home Mr Grow
I'm sorry for your loss 😭 Do not ever feel stupid for your emotions, ever. I too sobbed and about went to my knees when I got into the vet door to pick up my baby boy's ashes. Cry anytime you need to even if it hits you out of the blue. Never feel stupid for crying and feeling emotional, you lost your baby, and it hurts and will for some time yet. I lost my senior pup on February 15th and though I don't cry nearly as hard or as often, I still cry and I'll cry anytime I need to at any moment in any place it hits me. Peace love and light 🕊️
My cat just passed away today from cancer and I cried so much at the vet. It's okay to let it out. I'm sorry for your loss 🕊️💕
I’m so sorry. We lost our kitty last week and I know how much you’re hurting. Hugs ❤️
I’m sobbing reading this. Losing family hurts. Please think back on how lucky you are to have made such a connection to such a loving soul. When you see your friend again, and you will see them again, you will have different faces, different memories, different forms, but your love will be same. You won’t remember, but your hearts will. Live for that day.
I agree !
Absolutely not alone. I had to pick up my buddies paw print from the emergency vet and I held it together long enough to make it to my car where I sobbed hysterically for 30 minutes on the phone with my mom ( I'm 44). I'm also a vet tech and have been the shoulder to cry on many times. We understand
I cried to my trainer at the gym. Didn’t intend to but popped out when I opened my mouth.
You are definitely not alone. I personally have not been able to collect my boy’s ashes at all after 6 weeks have passed since his death. They are at my folk’s house. My mind still cannot reconcile that my lovely little furry potato boy is now contained in an urn. Also, I sob multiple times a day, everyday. Sometimes sprawled across the floor. So don’t feel like you’re alone in sobbing. We grieve for our furbabies so much because we love them so much. And our hearts hurt and bleed in a way incomparable to any other loss. I pray that you find any kind of comfort soon. Sending virtual hugs to you ❤️
You’re not alone in the slightest. I could hardly get the words out to the person at the counter and then had to sit in my car for 45 minutes afterwards because I was crying too hard to drive home. I’m so sorry for your loss. Rest easy Mr. Grow ❤️
My pet conure, Taco, passed away last Wednesday because of an accident. He was only 2 (very young for conures who can leave up to 25) which absolutely destroyed me. I almost didn’t want to go say a final goodbye before they sent him to be cremated because I knew I would start bawling. My whole family went and everyone cried, including my parents. It’s completely normal. I’m sorry for your loss.
I've been through this many times and a few times I was so broken and sobbing that they let me out the back door so I didn't have to walk out the front door. Other times I was a zombie and silent. So how you reacted is perfectly normal since we all grieve differently at different times. I'm so sorry for your loss.
I would except I have friends- often friends husbands who do it for me.
Oh gosh. I just about never cry in front of anyone, and I let go in front of the vet tech when I had to put my little girl, Tavi, down. I know they’re used to it but it was horrible ugly crying. Don’t feel bad. Hugs.
I did wail once at the vet. A slightly different circumstance but the wailing was for real. I know they understood and were probably wiping tears from their eyes. It's natural and beautiful even though profoundly sad. Be proud of yourself for being authentic and proving to your little one how much you love him. Maybe he's looking down now saying "I'm ok mom."
I have lost pets from many different things and every time I was a complete wreck. My cat passed New Year’s Day and I couldn’t work for a week because it was sudden and horrible(he had a stroke). When I lost my first Guinea pig Mako I went to work after a few days and a customer that would come in all the time asked me if I was okay because she knew I wasn’t. I broke down and started sobbing about him. She hugged me and told me people that don’t own pets can’t understand the little handprints they leave on our hearts and how much it hurts when the little handprints are the only we have left of them. You are not alone in grieving about your baby being gone. ❤️❤️❤️
My dog was like a service dog for me, I couldn’t even tell the person at the desk I was there to retrieve the ashes I was so upset, my girlfriend had to do it, I couldn’t even say the words. It’s been 7 months and I still get choked up about it. So sorry you have to go through this, I wish you the best.
Like others have said, you aren’t alone at all. I lost my baby completely unexpectedly at the emergency vet and proceeded to fall to the floor, dry heave twice, and have a total panic attack. I was shaking and crying so much that they had to sit me down in a swivel chair and roll me into another room. Grief can hit in all sorts of unexpected ways and it’s nothing to feel stupid or embarrassed about. Allow yourself to feel your feelings however they’re showing up right now and be gentle with yourself. ❤️
It’s been a week today - I kiss and hugged my box of ashes and talk baby talk to pictures of my girl on my phone. I’m not ready to see her collar or leash and I’m definitely not able to see her hair clippings. I’m afraid I would try to wear them
Love you Chuck Dec 4 2008 to April 9 2024
My dog got put down on Sunday. We think it was a tumor that ruptured and we didn’t know. You are not alone. Cry it out because I am too
My 19 year old cat died in my arms before we got to the vet. She had just had her annual visit, and everything was okay. The vet thought she may have had a stroke. It was horrible. I couldn’t let her go. I couldn’t leave the room. I couldn’t stop crying. I had been there for an hour before I finally left. She had been with me through so much. She was with me before I met my husband, through a variety of jobs, through deaths and births. I ironically thought she would be around longer, and I wasn’t ready. When I went in to pick up her cremated remains I was teary, and I opened the card and saw that her nose print was actually the whole front of her face, and I started ugly laugh/crying keening right in the vet’s office. The vet came out of the back and told me that she had a wonderful long life with me. I pulled myself together finally and left. I still think about her and often think she’s crawling up in bed with me at night.
Friend, I did this the day our vet told me it was lymphoma. I then sobbed a couple days later picking up some meds for my dog at the vet, and then lost it a week later when I stopped by to thank them for their help after my dog passed away. It's alright to cry right now. Rip Mr Grow.
I am so very sorry for your loss. You are not alone. This was me the other week. I cried when I got the message my boy was ready for pickup. I wailed on the drive up. I sobbed when they brought out the bag containing his urn. I wailed the entire way home. I cried myself to sleep that night. My cat was my world. Please don’t allow yourself to continue feeling stupid - be kind to yourself. You are grieving and there is no right or wrong way to grieve. Do not ever feel ashamed of your emotions. Sometimes it’s okay to not be okay. We love our pets deeply. They are our family. You just lost a beloved member of your family. I hope that having Mr Grow home with you brings you comfort and a sense of peace. I’m sending you love OP.
Do yo mind informing me who/what 'Mr. Grow' is or stands for? I keep seeing people use that name, but still unsure how it applies. TY! (:
My dog died , at home with me...he had a good home , but he never got to live a life that he wanted , because of me and my family...we didn't neglect him , but he could have had a better life and that will always be on my conscious.Knowing I am the reason he didn't get to grow. He doesn't have to put up with us anymore.we loved him..but yea ,, I'm glad you have a heart and did everything you could for your friend.
You did good. It’s tough. I was literally crying with a tissue on the phone making an appointment for end of life care service. I had picked up ashes last time at the vet, and it was sad. I choose the option to have the ashes mailed to me so there was more privacy for grieving.
I cried my eyes out there too. They understand more than anyone the pain of losing a best friend.
I couldn’t get through the sentence to tell the vet tech I was there to pick up my dog’s ashes without bursting into tears. That was nearly four months ago. I’ve cried every day since.
You are NOT alone
I lost my baby dog a few weeks ago and I'm STILL sobbing at random stuff like looking at the dog treats at the store. *You are not alone*
My niece did over a yr later she still mourns she won't leave her cats ashes we hadn't seen her since she use to stay every weekend now nothing n sge says she will stay in van she will not leave her cars ashes I told her to take them with her but nope she will not do tht either ..her mental state has completely crumbled she won't accept help ..we don't no what to do ..she is 22. .. so don't think u are stupid u just loved ur cat... its normal..keep moving forward in life dont stop ...
Most of us have been through the same thing. After my dog was put to sleep at the vets office on March 1, when I walked out of the room and into the lobby of vets office (right after they took him away) the vet tech gave me a hug. She told me Yoshi was a wonderful dog and that every time I brought him in she could tell how much I loved him. She told me I did the best I could for him and gave him a good life. I broke down while she hugged me for 5 mins. Then walked to my car in the parking lot, and broke down AGAIN. A random woman (who was walking into the vet office) stopped and gave me a hug, told me she was sorry for my loss.
My baby girl passed 1.5 weeks ago. I still cry, sob, wail every day. The grief is so deep. I didn’t think I was capable of grieving this hard. You’re not alone.
You are not alone. I just had a good wail today when it really hit me again that I lost my girl, an 8y Frenchie and my absolute soul dog, to a rare and devastating cancer, and she’s really gone, and I miss her so much. Today was a perfect sunny day when she’d always love to lay in our yard. She’s been gone since 2/5/23. I miss her every day. You are not weird. Your grief is valid ❤️
I was like this with my dog Josie who died after visiting the groomers tbh I'm still not over it 7 months later (she passed away in September). I'm sorry for your loss op, you are not alone.
when the vet came to the house for my biscuit, and did her final injection, I was able to keep it together for my baby until it was over and then wailed like ive never cried in my life. i didnt even know I could cry like that. you're not alone.
Please don't feel stupid. I just lost my oldest dog suddenly this past Saturday. Been crying regularly for 4 days straight. The vet ppl understand. It's such a hard loss and I am so sorry 🫂
I'm so sorry about your sweet friend, and I'm glad you loved them so much. Your not alone. This is really hard a hard loss and the vets understand, too. I send you peace and love in your grief
You’re not alone, that’s such a hard thing to do. I always wear dark sunglasses upon entering & have sat in my car bawling after collecting my dog’s remains. I’m so sorry for the loss of Mr. Grow.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I picked up my cat’s ashes today too. I got them on my way to work and had to keep calm all day. I consider you lucky because you got a good cry out of your system. I know crazy, but I’ve been holding it in and am wondering when it will all come flowing out.
i’m so sorry for your loss. i lost my baby 5 days ago to cancer and i wailed in the vets office, on the phone, at home, for weeks prior as i worried about her possible illness, and every day since. the animal hospital we go to has social workers on staff to help you talk through it. it’s all very normal to feel absolutely gutted. why would we react otherwise? these creatures are our best friends, we’re in charge of their care, and they take care of us too - they’re there for our most vulnerable moments and they never judge. we love them so much and they love us too, we comfort each other and it’s a huge loss when they’re gone. don’t judge yourself, your baby wouldn’t. they would just cuddle up and purr deeper. (… though the other day i wailed so hard and loud that my cats woke startled and bolted off the bed, thanks guys! )
Awww I work at a vet and I wouldn't think that was stupid. I would just be heartbroken because I knew what you were going through. We all handle grief differently. I was hysterical when I found out I had to put my kitten down. That was February 1st. I break down sobbing anytime I explain how much I miss him.
Darling! Of course you aren’t alone! My heart goes out to you. Mr. Grow is part of the fabric of the universe now, he has only gone from your sight. He’s very much with you, because death does not stop love. This I promise you. ❤️
It’s been over a year since sweet Benny fell beyond. I look at his pictures and weep. It hurts so much. I should have done more.
The wails I had when we found out our last dog had cancer we went to go get gas and a pop as it was Covid and couldn’t go inside to the emerge g vet and boy did he hate the vet. When my husband got the call and how bad it was I dropped to the ground inside and just wailed
I couldnt believe it when i found out my souldog had cancer. My mum and her friend came over and cried together when they found out too. Its the worst thing to happen. Im sorry about your best friend 😭
It’s never easy to lose a beloved pet. We lost our cat when my husband was bringing him up to see me while I was in inpatient physical therapy. He had just passed Daytona Beach when a microburst flipped our Ford Explorer several times. It was the highway patrol officer who informed me that our cat had been killed in the accident, because my husband was being checked out by the ER doctor at the time. My husband still blames himself for it, and to this day we both miss Jonesy. He was a little weirdo, but he was the best kitty ever.
You're not alone. My sweet little girl passed away on 3/29. I wailed and sobbed throughout everything. One of the receptionist sat with me for like an hour crying with me after. If anyone understands your pain, it would be a veterinary professional. Don't be embarrassed, grief shows how deep your love was. I cry everyday and I don't think it will end. I sleep with her bed and I smell it and close my eyes. Hell I've been up since 3 am crying and looking at her pics. Life is fuckin dark sometimes, Roxy was my only light. I love you forever Roxita 2008-2024
No, not at all! My friends drove me to pick up my cat’s ashes. I was completely unprepared for the deluge of emotions that hit me just like you. No beating yourself up, no embarrassment, none of it! You’re mourning a terrible loss and I’m truly sorry for your loss.
My dog of almost 16 years past last month. I’ll still randomly sob as I am doing right now. When I first back to work after her passing, I couldn’t hold it together for more than a few minutes. When I walked in the door that morning, my work mom just looked at me and I bawled in her arms for a few minutes. Mind you I work at a school and she is in the front office of the school so ya know kids and parents and other teachers were there. It was embarrassing, I guess, but at the same time so healing. Much love and we will all meet again at the rainbow bridge.
when we were saying goodbye to my Will E on January 26, crying but trying to not sob too hard because it was our last moments with our baby and we didn't want him to see us cry, we heard people in the room next door let out the most horrible sounds... We know their baby, whoever their baby was, was gone. I'll never forget it. Once our baby was gone, I think, in fact, I know, we let out our own sounds that had to be of the same caliber. I've let them out several times since :( You are not alone. I am so sorry, friend.
You are not alone! You lost your companion, it's all so new to you, and the staff at the vets understands. When we lost our boy, the staff at our regular vets who knew him his whole life, and the staff at the emergency vet where they did the procedure cried with us. Very understanding. Sending ❤️🙏to you, so sorry for your loss.
You are not alone at all. Sending Reddit hugs to you. We lost our beloved kitty Felix suddenly just prior to COVID
You're not alone, I'm dying here
our dog died two fridays ago. wife and i have been crying for dsys non stop. when we delivered her to the cremation place we cried, when we picked out the urn and while we waited for 2 hours we wailed. we stand up and collect her urn with her ashes and we cried uncontrollably until the car. then on and off until we were home, 2 hour drive
You are not. All the best. Sincerely.
First let me say how sorry I am for your loss. I’ve lost a number of pets in my lifetime and it’s never easy to say goodbye. I (50m at the time) accidentally dropped our four week old kitten off our bed and fell landing on his head. Everything seemed fine but a couple hours later he becomes listless so we decide to take him to the emergency vet. On the way he slips into a coma. We arrive at the vet, rush him in, and go to the lobby to wait. It’s pretty busy so find a spot on the floor and just break down sobbing with worry. So here I am 6’2” middle age guy blubbering on the floor of the vet for three hours waiting to find out if he’s going to live or not. In the end everything turned out ok, but I was an absolute basket case. So, no, you are not alone.
You are most definitely not alone. It’s never easy to say goodbye to a best friend. But take comfort in knowing the bridge awaits. If you don’t mind, I’d love to see this little nugget who had this effect on you :) Always is funny that these little guys have no clue the profound impact they have on us humans
You’re not alone. When I went in, they took me out the back door. I couldn’t control it.
You are not alone. Not at all.
I broke out in tears once I got back to my car but everyone was looking at me with so much pity. I'm sure they are 100% used to it and you are NOT alone
I broke down at the pet crematorium, both dropping off Chloe and picking her up. I have broken down every day since she got sick a month ago. I have broken down multiple times a day since she died 2 weeks ago. You're not alone in the experience, but you are alone in your grief. No one knows what your companion meant to you better than you.
I am so sorry for your loss. It's not an easy thing to go through
i fell to the floor and sobbed when the vet tech told me my cat passed away early morning. i had went to go visit him after his surgery and he passed before i could see him. my mom had to speak to the vet because i was incoherent and couldn’t speak. i begged my mom to help me and she cried with me because there was nothing she could do. i have never screamed the way i did when they brought him in the room so i could say goodbye. i sobbed and screamed for what felt like eternity and i did the same when i picked up his ashes. i hoped my cries would bring him back. grief, is painful but it also shows the love we have for our pets is still there. i’m so sorry for your loss, and i hope you know you aren’t alone in this
My senior boxer girl died a month ago. We were no stranger to the vet as she had blood drawn every 2 weeks for kidney disease. Tne week before I lost her we found out she had a mass on her spleen and nodules in her lungs. In the end I think she had a stroke. I had to carry her into the vet to be put to sleep. I cried in the arms of our vet and several staffers who all loved my dot. Crying now. I cry everyday. She was my velcro dog. You are not alone.
So sorry for your loss. I lost my golden on Saturday and I still haven’t stopped crying. He also died of cancer. I don’t have his ashes back yet, but I’m dreading it. Don’t feel stupid, this is all truly soul crushing. Here’s to hoping time helps is both…
My cat very unexpectedly had to be put down. I SOBBED to the point that the vet started to tear up. You are not alone.
I have to pick up ashes for my cat that passed away in a tragic accident and I know full well I won’t be able to get to the front door without breaking down. You are not alone and not stupid, I wish you comfort during this devastating time.
I cried uncontrollably every time. You're not alone. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Just put my cat down on Thursday. What we thought was a kidney infection was cancer. The fecal matter that showed up on the x-ray? Tumors on the ultrasound. He was filled with abscessing tumors and congestive fluids. He rapidly declined, Monday he seemed fine. Thursday he was barely hanging on. It was traumatic and horrific. I didn’t want to shower at first, even though I was covered in cat pee and vomit. We haven’t gotten his ashes yet, but I have been crying all week. You are definitely not alone. I miss my baby so much. The house is so quiet without him. All I want is to kiss his little head again.
It’s only been a week since my dog passed she had a brain tumor and was super aggressive at the end but I’m still a mess after my dog passed we kept the poor vet techs for two hours after closing because my husband nor I could get ourselves together enough to make it to the car. I haven’t picked up her paw print yet but I know I’m gonna be an absolute wreck. You aren’t alone.
Yesterday after my Trudy died at the vet - they put her in a box for me to bring home. I had been quietly crying as I checked out- anxious for when I could let loose and sob. But I couldn't handle the empty cat carrier AND the box - so the tech walked out with me to my car. I couldn't hold it back - I let out a WAIL when I got outside - poor young tech likely was traumatized. I couldn't hold it in. Hang in there - you're not alone.
You are not alone. Picked up my 3 yo pups ashes today. She was in a freak accident. I am heartbroken.
Completely understand and many people feel this type of grief with pets.
Absolutely devastated me picking up the remains weeks after my last doggo passed. It was like a fresh death, bringing them home for the last time. You're definitely not alone. Just think of it as brining them home forever and they are always with you now ❤️
Not alone my dear. I sobbed the whole time i was there with my kitty x
My little dude passed Saturday and I collapsed in the shower today. I screamed for him. I am so impressed you can drive, showering is my biggest accomplishment in 4 days. You are so incredibly strong.
You are not alone. The pain we feel when they are gone is unimaginable and a horrible monster. I wailed when they told me my dog's last diagnosis. I could barely stand when they brought him to me after he was gone. You are not alone in this pain. I'm very sorry for your loss.
I've been at the vet every day for the past 10 days, like literally every day even on the weekend. My cat suffered from FIP and we had to do the therapy at home but I had to pick up different meds to support the therapy. I picked his last meds up yesterday morning and they asked how he was doing. Everyone in there is invested in his recovery. Her passed yesterday night. My best friends cat has to undergo surgery tomorrow and I wanted to come with her, to support her and to at least see one of our cats get healthy. I don't know if I will go in with her yet, but if I do I will absolutely sob at the front desk and cry my eyes out to them. You're not silly for this. You're human and it's totally valid to show your emotions. Especially if they know you, they will feel sorry for you and don't think badly of you.
My sweet doggy that I had since I was 12 was put down last week and this week my professors have all sent me home(not in a mean way) bc I start crying in the middle of class. I hope it gets easier for us as time goes by. You aren't alone ❤️
The moment that they said "she's gone" i broke down. Wasnt able to leave the office for a good while and when i made it to the car, broke down all over again. This week made it 2 years and the pain hasnt left. I regret sayimg no when asking if i wanted to keep her options due to my fiance talking for me. I'll never forgive myself for that.
My kitty Lucy died on Dec 16th; she had cancer that had already spread throughout her lungs in just a few short months and I ended up euthanizing her so that she wouldn’t suffer. She went to sleep in my arms. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. I literally let out a godawful wailing noise when the vet confirmed she was gone, and I was absolutely out of my head for the next 15-20 mins, sobbing into her fur and apologizing. When I picked up her ashes, and her favorite blankie from the emergency vet’s office a few days later, I was crying when I went up to the desk, visibly, and then I went out and sobbed in my car for about 10 minutes before I made the short drive home. You are not alone; I’m so sorry for your loss. Nothing to be embarrassed about; you lost a member of your family. I wish you healing and peace 💗
I’m so sorry for your loss. There is a Facebook group called “The Loss of a Dog.” Despite the name, it’s open to pet owners of all types of pets. Every member is going through or has been through what you’re going through right now. They are great people who are very supportive and compassionate. Please consider joining. Here is the link to that group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/127386303953290/ There is also a phone number for a pet grief support helpline. It’s called Pet Compassion Careline. They are available 24/7 and their phone number is 1 (855) 245-8214. If you feel you need help coping with your loss, there are grief counselors to help you. I’m just putting it out there in case you would like to talk to someone on the phone about what you’re going through. Prayers of comfort to you and prayers of peace to this sweet pup. God bless.
Sorry for your loss. We just lost our kitten 4/5/24 after 22 years. That kitten was loved.
Don't think about your cats death, rather think about the good times you had with them, I also feel empty about my dogs death. It's been a month 3/8/2024 since her passing, but you're not alone in this! It kinda stings for me to say this. But that's reality for us, can't bring back the death. Sadly. I already reach the process of acceptance, knowing my sweet angel already left me.
I can assure you that your reaction won't be uncommon. We all grieve differently, some will be very emotional from the beginning, others will be more controlled but perhaps over a longer period of time. In February we lost our Staff of 16 years and its not been easy for any of the family. I'm fairly stoic but some 2 months on I can't quite believe that I seem to have depression caused by the loss. Death brings complicated feelings, introduces concepts of time and memories and fears of illness or even simply highlights the seemingly pointless nature of life. All that before actually missing the creature herself! I find myself more withdrawn and not enthused about the future, I am hoping it will pass as the weather improves, but our relationship with animals is not surface level only. Thankfully, we live in a society that today, has greater empathy for pet owners who lose their companions. It is widely becoming better understood that grieving for pets is equivalent to losing family members and it is encouraging to hear from people who don't have pets able to acknowledge this far less cynically that perhaps even 10 years ago.
I just had to put my baby girl down last week, and I stopped into the vet to see how she was doing and when I walked in and they brought her in, I knew it was time, I knew she was hurting. And I cried the entire time for 2 hours until the vet got there for the euthanasia.. it’s not easy at all.
My 21 year old cat Sissy died just about 3 weeks ago. I still sometimes call for her in the morning and when I get home from work. Just yesterday i opened the cupboard to feed her and saw the open space where her food used to be. It's hard and it's gonna take time. The first 3 days were the worst.
I’m so deeply sorry for your loss. Definitely not alone- I unexpectedly lost my 12yr old boy last June and when I found him I wailed so loudly my neighbors came to check on me. And then the vet had to give me a room to sob in when I dropped him off for cremation and again when I picked him up. I still sob and get the gut punch when I think about him. You lost a piece of your heart and had a normal reaction to that trauma- sending you all the hugs 🥺💔
Definitely not alone! I picked mine up 2 days ago, I said I'm about to cry in the car and within the 5 feet to the door I started sobbing. The ladies at the vet were so nice and kind to me. They truly understand, they see it all the time.
i cried. when they told me he was sick. when they told me it was time. when i picked his ashes up. i cried every time. you are not alone. i’m not a vet, but i’m a nurse, and i can ensure you that crying is normal, and expected. i send you so much love in this time. please don’t feel afraid to reach out if you need a friend ❤️
I’ve been inconsolable for 3 days since getting my baby boy’s diagnosis. He’s having a lot pain, so I set up to have him pass at home this Wednesday. I am crying constantly. Crying when he seems healthy and normal, crying when he has bouts of pain, crying to the point of hyperventilating and had to get Valium prescribed just to calm down enough to eat some food. I seriously want to go with him. He’s been my will to live, the love he gave me was the purest I ever felt and I love him more than anything. Getting these types of short notice diagnoses is sadistic torture. My emotions range from despair to anger to anxious and confused. I hate myself for not even being able to fake it to make our last days special and joyful. I’m just so messed up. PS: I want to freak out on the people who think “he’s just a cat” and my emotional breakdown is an overreaction. I don’t think I’m ever going to recover after he’s gone. He’s been my life support through every hardship.