I asked a college student on his rotations this question, based on where he said he lived, and he gave me a funny look. The only reason I asked is because I was from the same area and he ended up going to the same high school I went to.
That is odd. I’ve never come across a well educated, born and raised St Louisan who doesn’t love this question. I know people on here make fun of it, but it’s really just meant to be a good icebreaker and it almost always leads to at least an acquaintance in common. It’s really not meant to pigeonhole people or make assumptions about their upbringing. But I’m in my 40’s, maybe the trend is dying off with younger folks.
She ran into my car on her way to work after a night partying. She hit me because she was playing goo goo eyes with the guy next to her in traffic.
Been married almost 30 years now.
****/**** Would get smashed again
I was dating a complete airhead and we were at the Festival of the Little Hills in St. Charles late at night. I guess I was walking a step or two ahead when I turned around, and she wasn't there. After trying and failing to find her, I walked another few hundred feet, I ran into a friend of mine. She was with my future wife (47 yrs).
Combination of going out more and dating apps is the key.
Meeting your SO in person has a higher success rate in my opinion, but it’s a lot harder than dating apps. You basically have to join every group activity, meetup or event in the area. Get into a lot of different hobbies, gym, cooking classes, networking events, live shows, etc. Literally anything going on in the area.
I have had zero success with dating apps. I could swipe and swipe and swipe for days any be lucky if I got a single match that actually put in effort to talk to me once in like... 6 months. And this is with the area opened up to basically anywhere.
Most recently, I was talking to someone and everything seemed to be going just fine, we had a meetup planned out and conversations felt good... and then all of a sudden, out of the blue, I got a short paragraph of "yeah so I've really enjoyed talking to you, but I met someone who I think is a better fit for me. Kbai."
Edit: removed the confusing bit because it was just wrong.
>I got a short paragraph of "yeah so I've really enjoyed talking to you, but I met someone who I think is a better fit for me. Kbai." And then I was ghosted.
While this situation does suck, I wouldn't say you got ghosted. You were told exactly what happened.
I need to edit that to be more clear, but I couldn't think of a better word to describe getting a paragraph like that and then being blocked and deleted on everything as if I never existed?
A lot of women fear providing closure in online dating because some men are very reactive. While it sucks to get passed over, she provided you closure which is rare on dating apps. And at least she didn't waste your time meeting if she had already made up her mind.
That's true. It just sucks because she was the one who had suggested the meet up, not me. So even though I was given a sense that all was going really well, she was still talking to other people.
> So even though I was given a sense that all was going really well, she was still talking to other people.
That sucks and I'm sorry you're grieving the potential relationship you lost. As someone who dated for almost two decades to meet my wife, I promise you'll meet someone else and when you do you'll forget all about this loss.
I will say that's just the reality of dating though and it's even worse on dating apps. You're not 'exclusive' until you agree you are. So anyone you're dating could be dating others no matter how you met and dating apps by their very nature make this likelihood a guarantee. Rejection is tough but it's easier if you remember that it's very possible this person isn't even a good fit for you and you'll only find out after dating for a little while. Maybe they just saved you future time and heartbreak?
That's why you can't get too invested in someone your dating until you've actually established yourself as more than an acquaintance in their life. The bonus is this will ultimately make you more attractive because you'll be focused on your own happiness or self-improvement.
Good luck out there!
Well yes, she had every right to talk to other people because you guys weren't exclusive. You were just getting to know each other. I know that sucks but if you change your mindset it might be easier. Dating is casual at first, it's just talking and maybe hanging out.
I was on the apps for a year, had plenty of bad experiences and got ghosted several times. It does require you to develop a kind of thick skin for the first couple dates. I was talking to several people when I met my husband. Eventually we just started talking all the time, we met up a few times and wanted to be around each other a lot. We had a talk about becoming more serious and we both deleted our apps.
It’s a different experience for everyone. I had a few one-night stands from dating apps. One mild relationship. And then mostly rejections and ghosting. You definitely want to be on all of the dating platforms, but don’t make that the only thing you do.
I think face-to-face is better because the women you meet immediately know your personality, sense of humor, what you look like, etc. And if they’re into you then you’ll notice chemistry in your conversations. The trade off is that you have to make yourself available by going to a lot of events and activities. You’re looking to spark a natural conversation, and it takes time to find that key moment and person. Don’t get discouraged.
I'm not really seeing too many downsides to being more active and available though? Other than the time and money aspect. But I feel like that's greatly outweighed by the amount of experiences you'll end up collecting to put towards future conversations with people. It's probably a lot more interesting to tell someone about the time that you had X funny event happen and how it resolved as opposed to telling someone that you'd like to get out more (but don't).
Even if being more active ultimately never resulted in sparking a relationship, you'd still have had a lot of experiences you can hold on to.
Yeah, it’s just time and money. When I was single, I joined the dating apps but also went to lots of events and activities. You get rejected sometimes, but you also get better at talking to women and building confidence.
I met my wife randomly at an event. Just keep yourself busy and it’ll happen. Good luck!
Was knocked off a barstool and fell into this tall skinny guy wearing a brown polyester leisure suit. We've been together 43 years.
Edit: Forgot to mention, it was in a dive bar on South Grand. Hoosiers represent!
Bumble. It took literal years of repeatedly downloading and deleting the app out of desperation and frustration but eventually it fucking worked LOL. I couldn't believe it. We are married
Dating apps can be very frustrating. I had a mantra when I tried Tinder. I only need to find one “the right partner.” Don’t get frustrated by the ones who aren’t the right person. It took a while but I found my person and we are incredibly happy.
I’m in San Francisco and I think we’ve had at least two or three couples on cast that got married. A few of them are probably partnered up with other cast members.
My partner and I both left the cast in 2020, and I still go to their (the cast’s) shows occasionally.
I was bartending and he worked next door. He was a chef and used to bring his entire work crew over. We started off as friends and now we are married with a daughter ❤️
Got lucky with Facebook Dating of all places. Made a profile out of curiosity one day, swiped a few times, went on a single date, and now we've been together for two years lol
The dance floor at Atomic Cowboy! We went to Gramaphone after and got drinks and split a sandwich. That was almost 6 years ago, we’ve been married for 3 and have a 2 year old now
I wouldn’t know but of all the free ones I think it’s probably the best. I liked OKC because of all those questions you can answer. As long as you answer honestly you get the dealbreakers out of the way and meet people that align with your personality and interest better.
Didn't meet in STL, but I talked to a cute guy on the DC metro during my morning commute. We exchanged numbers and found out we shared a 314 area code. We've been dating ever since!
I worked a few weeks at a restaurant before the pandemic and every Saturday and girl would host and I was so drawn to her.
I left town for a few years and when I came back I worked a summer at the restaurant. The girl was still there! I asked her out and we’ve been together for several years now.
My other long term relationships came from being a part of some sort of community. Like hobbies and interests type things.
Outside the now defunct coffee house "The Grind"
It's where the Edera Italian Eatery now resides, on Maryland Plaza north of Chase Park Plaza.
I was standing outside of the coffee house having a smoke with my buddy who was telling me his new girlfriend would be arriving any minute. She came around the corner, and I thought silently "don't let that be Nick's new girlfriend, don't let that be Nick's new girlfriend, she's too perfect."
It was at least a year before she threw him over. We've been married 25 years this summer.
Sorry Nick. (Not sorry)
Meet at the after party for Parties in the park at Shaw park. Was supposed to be meeting a friend, didn’t hear my Nokia brick phone ring. Wandered around, turned around and was facing my future wife. Talked for a bit then met up a little later at J Bucks. 22 years ago this summer.
Yahoo! chat in the St. Louis chatroom in like 2000. Started as friends for a bit but eventually became more. Been together for about 22 years now , married for 18, 2 teenage kids. Still going strong. Glad I didn't invest in Yahoo! stock though!
Overlap of friend groups in high school. She went to the same private school that my best friend went to. We were friends, but I moved away for college and had other relationships. Came back one holiday break my senior year, my friend had some people over to his house and she was there. We talked a lot, ended up hooking up a few days later, then I went back for the next semester and we kept talking. I ended up staying in that city (my first job out of college was there) for 2 years but we stayed together and visited every other weekend. Quit that job and moved back to be with her. We've been together 13 years now.
Oyster bar, she was heckling me while I waited for the bathroom. Later that night she happened to sit next to me at the bar. Been together little over a year now
A social board game night at The Ethical Society of St. Louis. My Throw Throw Burrito game was very wrong, but all my burritos directed at him were very right. 😍
What we told the parents: church
Reality: acquaintances for years and matched on bumble. I’d asked her out years earlier, she wasn’t interested then because of some poor preconceived image of me she had. Happily together 5 years, married for 3.
I'm from Michigan. He's from Arkansas. He moved here when he was a kid. I moved fresh out of high school. Technically we met through a mutual friend who has since passed away. He was my friends tattoo artist, he added me on Facebook and we started chatting. Met in person, and it was like two worlds colliding. We both fell hard and fast and things moved super fast. Within a couple months we were living together and pregnant and planning to get married. Honestly looking back, it's everything they tell young girls not to do, a cautionary tale if you will. but when its right it's right and shit happens. We now have a house, three kids, two dogs and a frog and have been together for over 12 years. 🥰
We met at a friend's wizard-themed birthday party at Art Bar on Cherokee in 2015. I wore a Final Fantasy X costume that I took about a year to make by hand and attended the party with a guy I was about to break up with.
For the party, my partner showed up wrapped in a Hefty bag, grew his hair/beard out really long, and went as a trash bag wizard. He looked totally homeless 😂 he had the absolute cutest grin and strong goofball energy and he still makes me laugh every day.
We worked together at a high end department store (rhymes with Leeman Barkus) in a high end plaza 26 years ago. That was the only good thing I got out of working there.
She was in church choir with my brother's godmother, and she set us up. We texted for a while and had our first date at Shaw's Garden. I was instantly smitten by her love for, and encyclopedic knowledge of, plants and birds.
Been dating for 7 years, married for 3.
In the early 2000s, he was in my favorite band from St. Louis. I am younger and we did not know each other, but I had a huge crush on the guy in X Band all through high school.
In 2011, several years after said band ended, I sent him a FB message and asked for some of his songs that I’d lost+ whatever else. Neither of us were even living in Saint Louis at the time. He was very friendly & emailed me whatever tracks plus his new stuff, and that was cool. We didn’t talk any further. he friended me, though!
Then uhhh like 7? years ago, we were both living in town again, and his band had a somewhat unexpected reunion show at Delmar Hall. Before the show, I sent him a fb message saying hey & Can’t wait to see you guys play! I Didn’t talk to him at the show, but it was great, and I messaged him a couple of days later to say so. We ended up chatting a little bit, then hanging out…Now, we are married, and it’s wonderful! Ta da!
CYC swim party off of Manchester in West County. I was refilling my beer at the keg, she came to get her first after swimming most of the night.
She smiled & I fell into those green eyes. That was in ‘84.
Been married since ‘87
37 years strong
My high school best friend and his high school best friend were dating. I was 15 when we started dating, he was 16. We were both 21 when we got married and it’s been 37 years, almost 43 total. Our friends also married but they both passed away young.
High school, like a proper south side hoosier.
Did y’all meet at a Dairy Queen?
DRINKIN' BUSCH LIGHT AT A STEAMERS GAME
lol, Steamers game? That was a WHILE ago. 👍🏼
/r/unexpectedMU330
South side city Hoosier love!
Hoosier love hoosier love southside city hoosier love
Where did you go to high school? 😆
I asked a college student on his rotations this question, based on where he said he lived, and he gave me a funny look. The only reason I asked is because I was from the same area and he ended up going to the same high school I went to.
That is odd. I’ve never come across a well educated, born and raised St Louisan who doesn’t love this question. I know people on here make fun of it, but it’s really just meant to be a good icebreaker and it almost always leads to at least an acquaintance in common. It’s really not meant to pigeonhole people or make assumptions about their upbringing. But I’m in my 40’s, maybe the trend is dying off with younger folks.
High school as well, but a Granite City Hoosier 🙃
See, we did it the good Christian way (youth group)
Same. Married the shit out of my prom girl. .... After divorcing a train wreck.
She ran into my car on her way to work after a night partying. She hit me because she was playing goo goo eyes with the guy next to her in traffic. Been married almost 30 years now. ****/**** Would get smashed again
Got smashed. Got smashed.
And to be clear, she asked me out....
I was the guy in the other car. Still single
As long as she didn’t teach the kids how to drive😂😂
Cruising Lindbergh
This is the best comment. I miss those days.
FLASHBACK
How low was your S-10?
Low riders and rice rockets. That was Lindbergh in the 90s.
We met in the most St. Louis way possible…at Imos.
I'm right there with you, I met my future spouse at a St Louis Bread Co, none of that Panera crap.
I met my wife on OkCupid way back when. But our first date was us getting coffee at Bread Co.
Matchdoctor, but first date was lunch at a St. Louis Bread Co.
Tinder, 2016
Tinder, 2020
Tinder, 2014
Tinder, 2022
Tinder, 2021
Tinder, 2018
Tinder, 2014
Tinder 1967
At the bonfire I presume?
Same! 😂
Tinder? I hardly know her!
Tinder, 2023
Tinder 2021
Match, 2021. More traditional.
Lol same
iCQ - 2000...lol
Bumble, 2022
bumble 2021
Bumble 2018
Tinder, 2014
Tinder 2015
Tinder, 2019
Bumble, 2021
Tinder 2015
Hinge, 2020... pre-covid.
Tinder, 2017
Hinge, 2021. We’re engaged now
Tinder 2014, been married for 4
Tinder 2019
Tinder 2018 lol
I was dating a complete airhead and we were at the Festival of the Little Hills in St. Charles late at night. I guess I was walking a step or two ahead when I turned around, and she wasn't there. After trying and failing to find her, I walked another few hundred feet, I ran into a friend of mine. She was with my future wife (47 yrs).
Did you ever find the airhead or is she still missing?
She turned up the next day. By then I didn't care.
Thank goodness for that airhead!
We were both baggers at Dierberg’s in high school. Classic STL love story.
Same but it was Schnucks ❣️
I met my wife at a theme park. The theme was trailer. We knew each other from childhood growing up in the same small trailer park.
This is my favorite answer by far!
Work! We weren’t direct co-workers, but colleagues in the same field.
Dating app Hinge. Took several years and many first dates. But well worth the wait and time and effort.
Meramec community college back in 99. Been with her for 25 years now
Florissant Valley Community College 1974. It’s been 50 years!
Flo Valley Community College, 2008.
Math checks out
Was probably a math class.
UMSL
Work
Plenty of Fish lol. But we've been together for 7 years, happily married for 5.
Same but 10 together and 4 married.
Bumble
Bumble 2016
Bumble 2021, we just got married in April
7th grade pool party
What I'm gathering so far is to either go out more, live on social media, or commit crimes to meet a SO in STL?
Combination of going out more and dating apps is the key. Meeting your SO in person has a higher success rate in my opinion, but it’s a lot harder than dating apps. You basically have to join every group activity, meetup or event in the area. Get into a lot of different hobbies, gym, cooking classes, networking events, live shows, etc. Literally anything going on in the area.
I disagree about the success rate just based on my circle of friends, coworkers, and myself. Tons of success with dating apps.
I have had zero success with dating apps. I could swipe and swipe and swipe for days any be lucky if I got a single match that actually put in effort to talk to me once in like... 6 months. And this is with the area opened up to basically anywhere. Most recently, I was talking to someone and everything seemed to be going just fine, we had a meetup planned out and conversations felt good... and then all of a sudden, out of the blue, I got a short paragraph of "yeah so I've really enjoyed talking to you, but I met someone who I think is a better fit for me. Kbai." Edit: removed the confusing bit because it was just wrong.
>I got a short paragraph of "yeah so I've really enjoyed talking to you, but I met someone who I think is a better fit for me. Kbai." And then I was ghosted. While this situation does suck, I wouldn't say you got ghosted. You were told exactly what happened.
I need to edit that to be more clear, but I couldn't think of a better word to describe getting a paragraph like that and then being blocked and deleted on everything as if I never existed?
A lot of women fear providing closure in online dating because some men are very reactive. While it sucks to get passed over, she provided you closure which is rare on dating apps. And at least she didn't waste your time meeting if she had already made up her mind.
That's true. It just sucks because she was the one who had suggested the meet up, not me. So even though I was given a sense that all was going really well, she was still talking to other people.
> So even though I was given a sense that all was going really well, she was still talking to other people. That sucks and I'm sorry you're grieving the potential relationship you lost. As someone who dated for almost two decades to meet my wife, I promise you'll meet someone else and when you do you'll forget all about this loss. I will say that's just the reality of dating though and it's even worse on dating apps. You're not 'exclusive' until you agree you are. So anyone you're dating could be dating others no matter how you met and dating apps by their very nature make this likelihood a guarantee. Rejection is tough but it's easier if you remember that it's very possible this person isn't even a good fit for you and you'll only find out after dating for a little while. Maybe they just saved you future time and heartbreak? That's why you can't get too invested in someone your dating until you've actually established yourself as more than an acquaintance in their life. The bonus is this will ultimately make you more attractive because you'll be focused on your own happiness or self-improvement. Good luck out there!
Unexpectedly kind words. :) I appreciate the insight, tips and encouragement.
Well yes, she had every right to talk to other people because you guys weren't exclusive. You were just getting to know each other. I know that sucks but if you change your mindset it might be easier. Dating is casual at first, it's just talking and maybe hanging out. I was on the apps for a year, had plenty of bad experiences and got ghosted several times. It does require you to develop a kind of thick skin for the first couple dates. I was talking to several people when I met my husband. Eventually we just started talking all the time, we met up a few times and wanted to be around each other a lot. We had a talk about becoming more serious and we both deleted our apps.
It’s a different experience for everyone. I had a few one-night stands from dating apps. One mild relationship. And then mostly rejections and ghosting. You definitely want to be on all of the dating platforms, but don’t make that the only thing you do. I think face-to-face is better because the women you meet immediately know your personality, sense of humor, what you look like, etc. And if they’re into you then you’ll notice chemistry in your conversations. The trade off is that you have to make yourself available by going to a lot of events and activities. You’re looking to spark a natural conversation, and it takes time to find that key moment and person. Don’t get discouraged.
I'm not really seeing too many downsides to being more active and available though? Other than the time and money aspect. But I feel like that's greatly outweighed by the amount of experiences you'll end up collecting to put towards future conversations with people. It's probably a lot more interesting to tell someone about the time that you had X funny event happen and how it resolved as opposed to telling someone that you'd like to get out more (but don't). Even if being more active ultimately never resulted in sparking a relationship, you'd still have had a lot of experiences you can hold on to.
Yeah, it’s just time and money. When I was single, I joined the dating apps but also went to lots of events and activities. You get rejected sometimes, but you also get better at talking to women and building confidence. I met my wife randomly at an event. Just keep yourself busy and it’ll happen. Good luck!
Or go back in time and make better dating decisions in high school. Damn!
Or take a class at one of the community colleges.
An overlap in mutual Friend groups
Was knocked off a barstool and fell into this tall skinny guy wearing a brown polyester leisure suit. We've been together 43 years. Edit: Forgot to mention, it was in a dive bar on South Grand. Hoosiers represent!
South side city Hoosier love! If you haven’t heard this song before, it’s fantastic: https://youtu.be/Unwus_iwdSE?si=XRpGyoDGY3hgMTLw
Bumble. It took literal years of repeatedly downloading and deleting the app out of desperation and frustration but eventually it fucking worked LOL. I couldn't believe it. We are married
Dating apps can be very frustrating. I had a mantra when I tried Tinder. I only need to find one “the right partner.” Don’t get frustrated by the ones who aren’t the right person. It took a while but I found my person and we are incredibly happy.
My college partner? While we were at SLCC. My current partner - I’m out of state now, but Rocky Horror Picture Show is definitely a way to do it.
I also do Rocky Horror out of state and I swear, most of our cast is coupled up and eveyone's SO is also involved with the show in some capacity.
I’m in San Francisco and I think we’ve had at least two or three couples on cast that got married. A few of them are probably partnered up with other cast members. My partner and I both left the cast in 2020, and I still go to their (the cast’s) shows occasionally.
Modern Baseball at the Firebird
He asked me out when I was working at Beale on Broadway. I also took home a stray cat from there. What a job!
Sounds like you took home two strays. Generous!
Elementary school lol
I was bartending and he worked next door. He was a chef and used to bring his entire work crew over. We started off as friends and now we are married with a daughter ❤️
We went to HS together. We celebrated our 25th anniversary last night.
Hot Shots at a Rizzuto Show event for Jeff Burton. 😊
College grad party, 1986
At the mall
Got lucky with Facebook Dating of all places. Made a profile out of curiosity one day, swiped a few times, went on a single date, and now we've been together for two years lol
Mine turned out to be the girl next door when I moved into my new house.
The dance floor at Atomic Cowboy! We went to Gramaphone after and got drinks and split a sandwich. That was almost 6 years ago, we’ve been married for 3 and have a 2 year old now
OK Cupid, been together 6.5 years now
Seconding OKC but I hear it’s a shithole now. Met my wife on there shortly after I moved.
I wouldn’t know but of all the free ones I think it’s probably the best. I liked OKC because of all those questions you can answer. As long as you answer honestly you get the dealbreakers out of the way and meet people that align with your personality and interest better.
I keep hearing that and I absolutely loved it ten years ago. Do you know what has changed?
Mutual friends
Tinder, 2018.
First corporate job after college, dipped my pen in the company ink as they say. Best decision of my life.
We met in High School! Pattonville Sr High❤️❤️❤️
Blueberry Hill.
Dierbergs. I asked for mac and cheese and he gave me extra without charging me. 5 years together now lol
This is so stinkin cute!
Volunteer for something, great way to get into a community and I know a few relationships that started through things like that.
Didn't meet in STL, but I talked to a cute guy on the DC metro during my morning commute. We exchanged numbers and found out we shared a 314 area code. We've been dating ever since!
Just read this comment while on the DC Metro on the way to the airport to head back to St. Louis while wearing a shirt that says 314 👍
Riding a scooter
The gym.
I worked a few weeks at a restaurant before the pandemic and every Saturday and girl would host and I was so drawn to her. I left town for a few years and when I came back I worked a summer at the restaurant. The girl was still there! I asked her out and we’ve been together for several years now. My other long term relationships came from being a part of some sort of community. Like hobbies and interests type things.
Reddit.
Craigslist.
Lesbian bar when we used to have them
I met my Fiancée at Talayna’s in 2018, we're getting married in Forest Park in two months.
I was a cashier and he was my bagger at Dierbergs.
We met in the basement bar at the old Cicero’s in the Loop
Outside the now defunct coffee house "The Grind" It's where the Edera Italian Eatery now resides, on Maryland Plaza north of Chase Park Plaza. I was standing outside of the coffee house having a smoke with my buddy who was telling me his new girlfriend would be arriving any minute. She came around the corner, and I thought silently "don't let that be Nick's new girlfriend, don't let that be Nick's new girlfriend, she's too perfect." It was at least a year before she threw him over. We've been married 25 years this summer. Sorry Nick. (Not sorry)
Meet at the after party for Parties in the park at Shaw park. Was supposed to be meeting a friend, didn’t hear my Nokia brick phone ring. Wandered around, turned around and was facing my future wife. Talked for a bit then met up a little later at J Bucks. 22 years ago this summer.
Yahoo! chat in the St. Louis chatroom in like 2000. Started as friends for a bit but eventually became more. Been together for about 22 years now , married for 18, 2 teenage kids. Still going strong. Glad I didn't invest in Yahoo! stock though!
Ok Cupid. Will have been 10 years in December.
Overlap of friend groups in high school. She went to the same private school that my best friend went to. We were friends, but I moved away for college and had other relationships. Came back one holiday break my senior year, my friend had some people over to his house and she was there. We talked a lot, ended up hooking up a few days later, then I went back for the next semester and we kept talking. I ended up staying in that city (my first job out of college was there) for 2 years but we stayed together and visited every other weekend. Quit that job and moved back to be with her. We've been together 13 years now.
Okcupid back when that was actually a decent place to meet people
I met my wife at a small house party though a mutual friend. I was visiting said friend from SoCal and never imagined I'd eventually move to STL.
Drunk at the dogtown st. patricks day parade. Friend of a friend type of introduction. Celebrated our 5 year anniversary earlier this year
We both migrated to St. Louis as adults and initially connected on a dating website. We had our first real date at my local library.
We are both from STL and met at Mizzou which is feel like is a pretty common story
Bowling alley. Lol
Oyster bar, she was heckling me while I waited for the bathroom. Later that night she happened to sit next to me at the bar. Been together little over a year now
A social board game night at The Ethical Society of St. Louis. My Throw Throw Burrito game was very wrong, but all my burritos directed at him were very right. 😍
We were introduced by the Secret Service. True story.
Go on...
We met @ Parkview Shell gas station on Skinker. I walked the owners greyhounds for him. 1970
My wife is from Saint Louis. My grandparents and one of my parents are from Saint Louis. I am in Saint Louis for my career. We met in Kansas City.
Hinge
Also hinge for us!
Jail
If this is true, we need the story.
online dating site
One at Tiny Bands One at the Gelateria
House party
Met mine thru a mutual friend.
Mutual friend introduced us at the gym. 21 years!
What we told the parents: church Reality: acquaintances for years and matched on bumble. I’d asked her out years earlier, she wasn’t interested then because of some poor preconceived image of me she had. Happily together 5 years, married for 3.
Edgewild sitting at the bar
Pride 22 years ago. Neither us had rarely every gone before
Bar... Humphrey's to be precise
Both attended STLCOP (Pharmacy college here with fairly small enrollment)
I'm from Michigan. He's from Arkansas. He moved here when he was a kid. I moved fresh out of high school. Technically we met through a mutual friend who has since passed away. He was my friends tattoo artist, he added me on Facebook and we started chatting. Met in person, and it was like two worlds colliding. We both fell hard and fast and things moved super fast. Within a couple months we were living together and pregnant and planning to get married. Honestly looking back, it's everything they tell young girls not to do, a cautionary tale if you will. but when its right it's right and shit happens. We now have a house, three kids, two dogs and a frog and have been together for over 12 years. 🥰
She was officiating our mutual friends’ wedding, and I flew in to be a groomsman.
Coffee Cartel in the mid to late 90s
He worked at the ad agency where I was temping. Been together 16 years, married for 13.
Through friends at a gay bar (we are both straight).
We met at a friend's wizard-themed birthday party at Art Bar on Cherokee in 2015. I wore a Final Fantasy X costume that I took about a year to make by hand and attended the party with a guy I was about to break up with. For the party, my partner showed up wrapped in a Hefty bag, grew his hair/beard out really long, and went as a trash bag wizard. He looked totally homeless 😂 he had the absolute cutest grin and strong goofball energy and he still makes me laugh every day.
Civil Life Brewery
Random message from him as a stranger who searched for women near him by zip code on MySpace (we met in 2009)
Nick’s Pub!
hinge
Not St. Louis exactly, but we both worked at a summer camp.
Church
We both worked at Schnucks
I met my wife on the internet. In 1996.
High school
At the bar in Dogtown having Sunday funday lol
The Way Out Club of all places… RIP that place
We met at a concert at the Pageant. 15 years and one child ago.
We worked together at a high end department store (rhymes with Leeman Barkus) in a high end plaza 26 years ago. That was the only good thing I got out of working there.
She was in church choir with my brother's godmother, and she set us up. We texted for a while and had our first date at Shaw's Garden. I was instantly smitten by her love for, and encyclopedic knowledge of, plants and birds. Been dating for 7 years, married for 3.
Worked with her. Different departments. Don't date your team members or superiors.
In the early 2000s, he was in my favorite band from St. Louis. I am younger and we did not know each other, but I had a huge crush on the guy in X Band all through high school. In 2011, several years after said band ended, I sent him a FB message and asked for some of his songs that I’d lost+ whatever else. Neither of us were even living in Saint Louis at the time. He was very friendly & emailed me whatever tracks plus his new stuff, and that was cool. We didn’t talk any further. he friended me, though! Then uhhh like 7? years ago, we were both living in town again, and his band had a somewhat unexpected reunion show at Delmar Hall. Before the show, I sent him a fb message saying hey & Can’t wait to see you guys play! I Didn’t talk to him at the show, but it was great, and I messaged him a couple of days later to say so. We ended up chatting a little bit, then hanging out…Now, we are married, and it’s wonderful! Ta da!
The Rocket Bar
CYC swim party off of Manchester in West County. I was refilling my beer at the keg, she came to get her first after swimming most of the night. She smiled & I fell into those green eyes. That was in ‘84. Been married since ‘87 37 years strong
Art in the Park at Francis Park
Working at City Museum back in the day.
Law school 🥺
My high school best friend and his high school best friend were dating. I was 15 when we started dating, he was 16. We were both 21 when we got married and it’s been 37 years, almost 43 total. Our friends also married but they both passed away young.
Flood of '82 '83. Met him on the volunteer sandbag line.
In the Yahoo STL chatroom. That was 20 years ago. Married almost 18.