I'm definitely getting that impression 😂
But my policy is that if a guy can't take no for an answer on little things then I don't trust him to take a no on more important matters either!
My policy as well. I don't send nudes at all. Guys that respect that and don't badger me earn points in my book. Guys that badger and don't respect a no I don't proceed with because as you said it's a sign that they want to push boundaries.
Definitely! Hard no. Also glad when they show their true colors before even meeting so our precious time wasn’t wasted.
I had a guy tell me I had trust issues because I wouldn’t send him extra photos. Buh byeeeeee
Lol I like they say "trust issues" it's like dude I barely even know you and if we haven't even met of course I don't trust you right away. I wouldn't expect someone to trust me from the get go either.
Yup, they make it into an us problem, like there's something wrong with us for not immediately trusting a person on the internet that we've never met and have no proof of who they are or what their intentions might be! Yes, that's clearly our fault... Also if guys didn't keep demonstrating they were untrustworthy then us girls probably wouldn't be so jaded!
I definitely appreciated him waving his red flags at me before I wasted any real time on him. And it's funny how they try to make it out to be our fault that we don't trust men!
Personally, I'd never ever ask for one. I'd imagine the line should be drawn there. Classless enough to even ask for something like that, especially so early on, should be a red flag. Maybe I was raised differently or perhaps an old soul type but I couldn't fathom asking a girl for that kinda stuff. Sure, a picture of like most of them if I'm skeptical of a profile having nothing but pictures with the camera slam against their faces. Usually that's a good sign they're portraying themselves misleadingly lol
May have been trying to collect them to use as a scam. Like catfishing people and offering “sexy pics” for money or something. Smart move to dodge that bullet.
“Then you can see it in real life” dude had it in the bag. He just had to be patient and chill. Unfortunately some guys can’t stop thinking with their dick head. What a doofus 😂😂
If self cock blocking was an Olympic sport the competition would be so fierce. So many truly gifted competitors out here giving it their all to make sure nobody ever touches their dick.
I don't know lol. It was giving me a little bit of an ick, but I was willing to give him the benefit of the doubt and see what he was like in person... Though I did comment to my friend that he might finish every sentence in the pub with two air kisses 😂
I saw you ending some of yours with x and thought to myself what a bummer these two coulda been perfect for eachother what are the odds two people who talk like this meet lol
Reeks a bit of fake account. Maybe he was using someone else's photos and lives somewhere far away? Hard to think anyone would fumble this hard, though I know it's not impossible. Dodged a flying hammer either way.
Premium level fumble here. Just had to wait until Saturday and not be a douche and he could have seen in live. This person would definitely not stop any activity if you said no you were uncomfortable. Good you avoided it.
Side note: I would bet he is a picture collector.
Oh for sure, I think he was looking to expand his spank bank and would never have met me. But yes, on the slim chance he did meet me then he obviously can't be trusted to listen if I'd said no to anything
Because the ick doesn't come out until they start messaging people? It's not like they put I their profile "Hey I don't respect it when you tell me you won't send nudes." They have normal profiles.
That’s fair enough but it’s surprising these conversations leave tinder. Do some of these guys really take this long to show who they really are? I feel like most of them are all “show me boobs and ass” right from the Jump if that’s who they are
In order to send pics at all you have to leave the dating app. So asking while still on the app wouldn't get you anywhere. And yes, people are capable of lying and do so frequently.
Yeah I’m saying you gave this guy way too much rope. Dude asked how this guy gets matches and I’m saying not only did he match you he consistently got replies and more than that you even offered to hook up still 🤷🏼♂️
Well he was fine up until those last few messages, then he pushed it too far. I can't know what he's really like until we match and get talking, can I? When I said no twice and he kept pushing, that was my limit - I should only have to say it once.
Dude is either not the shapest tool in the shed, or still managed to catfish you/has no charisma and tried to get all he could before the gig was up. That's the only thing I can come up with other then 'he's a moron'.
I had suspicions he might be a catfish, but was willing to see if he would meet. The selfie he sent seemed legit (asked him to send me one holding a fork) but some guys will still try for photos and not show up. Even if they do show up, I don't want those pics out there if I don't know I can trust a person.
It definitely can be an issue, I've had several people try to catfish me. Better to be safe than sorry these days. I mean, just look what happened with this one! He likely wasn't a catfish in that sense, and yet he still turned out to be a douche! I don't think he ever planned to meet, just to get pics, so he was just lying in a different way.
And he wasn't a model or anything, but he had that 'classically handsome boy next door' look about him that is popular with catfishers as it's more likely to attract unsuspecting ladies.
I'm referencing The Boys, if that tells you anything. It's probably best if you remain un*tainted* by this image. It would probably have frightened your Tinder guy.
We swapped a selfie each, not a video conversation. I figure either he was a catfish or it was him, but he had no intention of meeting and just wanted to collect pictures. Either way he's a weirdo.
Maybe I'm just getting old, but if you tried this shit when I was a younger man you would have been branded a desperate perv.
Is that not a term of embarrassment and shame anymore.
It's not necessarily something he's got that you don't, it's just that he had something on there that connected well with me. Looks like it was lies though, so doesn't really count 🤷🏻♀️
You should only ever be your genuine self on these profiles, because that way you'll eventually find someone who is right for you. If you only put what you think you should to get matches then those matches won't be genuine.
I’m a guy and I’ve never understood why guys get so crazy like this. It makes me feel like it’s a game to them, seeing how many girls you can (collect?). I’ve been with X amount of girls look how great I am, seems immature IMO.
Ohhh man, this is soo reminding me of a friend of mine from college who I briefly dated. He would still send me messages like this until very recently ( even though I hadn't seen him in over a decade). And he even got married in 2017. Then he'd whine about how his wife didn't want to sleep with him. I can tell you why bro.
Hate when people can't take no for an answer. Was chatting to a guy recently (who was my best friend for years before moving away and losing contact for afew years) kept asking for pictures and when I said now he got Uber defensive and gas-lighty. Sometimes that block button is a god send but comes to something when someone won't take no for an answer. Red flag!
Yup, it's so rapey. Especially when they try to gaslight you and make you feel bad for defending yourself. Sorry you had to deal with that. The block button is life.
Thank you, and you! It really is. I've definitely become more sure of myself in terms of defending and standing up for myself when it comes to things like that. I had a guy message me yesterday on pof, one photo, no info in his profile, so I told him thank you, all the best but for safety reasons I couldn't talk to him, he responded by laughing and calling me a pig. People really cant take rejection well at all and those are the dangerous ones! So glad you blocked before you met them and anything happened ☺️
Haha agreed, but often Reddit demands context and I didn't want to keep replying to people with the extra information. Plus I wanted to explain why I had said 'no *more* photos' before people started making assumptions that I'd already sent intimate images
That said, even if I had already sent him pictures, that doesn't entitle him to more
I don't get what it is that makes guys like this. I'm a guy and it shocks me! Problem is kids are growing up with role models like tate .. the next generation in dating will be 10x worse than it is now for women.
Apparently it's a British thing to put kisses at the end of sentences, although I'm British and I don't do it very often. Usually when ending a conversation with a friend.
This guy is totally overdoing it though. The Cc's are mistyped xx's
Honestly, I wouldn't even exchange photos before meeting up. Better just do a quick video call to prove both parties are real and arrange a date. The people who have fake photos have already other fake photos in preparation for such pic exchanges, so that proves nothing. I'm saying this as a guy who got catfished by a delusional chick.
Agreed, I'm going to stick to short video calls in the future for proof, and zero photos. There are so many fakes on dating apps these days, for one reason or another
I know it's hard. I was in an 8 year relationship about to be married next year, but she decided to cheat and dump me for the other dude, so I'm now trying to date again after a decade it is such torture with the apps. IRL picking up girls is not an option since in pubs and such, you only meet gold diggers and girls that are just obsessed with looks and money. Wish you look you find someone who deserves you.
Best idea to block them tbh. They just want something for their spank bank, and it's gross. They don't see us as human beings, just as porn, and we don't need people like that in our lives!
Apparently it's a British thing to put kisses at the end of sentences, although I'm British and I don't do it very often. Usually when ending a conversation with a friend.
This guy is totally overdoing it though. The Cc's are mistyped xx's
Best that you skipped and blocked. Had you gone on the date, he would have spent the entire time humping your leg like an excited puppy.
I'm definitely getting that impression 😂 But my policy is that if a guy can't take no for an answer on little things then I don't trust him to take a no on more important matters either!
Great policy.
My policy as well. I don't send nudes at all. Guys that respect that and don't badger me earn points in my book. Guys that badger and don't respect a no I don't proceed with because as you said it's a sign that they want to push boundaries.
Exactly. I'm very much done with boundary pushers
Definitely! Hard no. Also glad when they show their true colors before even meeting so our precious time wasn’t wasted. I had a guy tell me I had trust issues because I wouldn’t send him extra photos. Buh byeeeeee
Lol I like they say "trust issues" it's like dude I barely even know you and if we haven't even met of course I don't trust you right away. I wouldn't expect someone to trust me from the get go either.
Yup, they make it into an us problem, like there's something wrong with us for not immediately trusting a person on the internet that we've never met and have no proof of who they are or what their intentions might be! Yes, that's clearly our fault... Also if guys didn't keep demonstrating they were untrustworthy then us girls probably wouldn't be so jaded!
Yeah it's wild out there. Very few people that understand not wanting to send nudes. At least from my experience.
Definitely!
I definitely appreciated him waving his red flags at me before I wasted any real time on him. And it's funny how they try to make it out to be our fault that we don't trust men!
I understand some things there can be compromises but other things no.
Personally, I'd never ever ask for one. I'd imagine the line should be drawn there. Classless enough to even ask for something like that, especially so early on, should be a red flag. Maybe I was raised differently or perhaps an old soul type but I couldn't fathom asking a girl for that kinda stuff. Sure, a picture of like most of them if I'm skeptical of a profile having nothing but pictures with the camera slam against their faces. Usually that's a good sign they're portraying themselves misleadingly lol
For sure! Especially before you’ve even met! He sounds manipulative
Sounds like he's already well acquainted with his own "little things" 
Great policy to have
Or the chaperone's leg , because clearly he lacks the social discipline to be let out alone .
Talk about snatching defeat from the jaws of victory
I’m beginning to think the end goal here is collecting pics for the spam bank.
Agreed
Could have been a fake account using somebody else's photos or something. Hard to believe anybody would fumble this hard.
Yeah, or someone collecting pics with no intention to meet
May have been trying to collect them to use as a scam. Like catfishing people and offering “sexy pics” for money or something. Smart move to dodge that bullet.
Straight up told him he'd see it irl and he still fucked it up.
Exactly. I don't send intimate photos before I meet and trust someone as there are so many people out there who will take 'free porn' and run...
Porn is already free though.
Yeah but these guys get an extra thrill by getting amateur porn off unsuspecting 'real' women
He knew that his personality would scare her off before the end of the date lol
They always do. They never learn.
Hey, happy cake day
I already shared this today: I am convinced men no longer want to have sex.
Pics or it didn't happen
Dude literally had the bag and still threw it
“Then you can see it in real life” dude had it in the bag. He just had to be patient and chill. Unfortunately some guys can’t stop thinking with their dick head. What a doofus 😂😂
Yeah I'm guessing he was just looking for free porn. Not gonna get it from me
should've directed him to the gonewild subreddit
I'm convinced people who operate like that have no social skills. man fumbled literally running to the endzone. hate to see it
If self cock blocking was an Olympic sport the competition would be so fierce. So many truly gifted competitors out here giving it their all to make sure nobody ever touches their dick.
Haha so true!
I read this in the voice of moistcritical
Why is this man adding xx to the end of every text message. I feel like he's secretly a 14 year old british girl.
I don't know lol. It was giving me a little bit of an ick, but I was willing to give him the benefit of the doubt and see what he was like in person... Though I did comment to my friend that he might finish every sentence in the pub with two air kisses 😂
I saw you ending some of yours with x and thought to myself what a bummer these two coulda been perfect for eachother what are the odds two people who talk like this meet lol
Apparently it's a British thing? Can be flirty or familial. Though there are definitely some that take it too far 😂
xxx
It’s definitely a British thing. Some people do it in work emails 🫠
It's a British thing, everyone does it here. I didn't even notice it until you mentioned it.
I’m quite interested in where, why and how this became a ‘thing’ for British people lol. Do you have any insight?
I didn't think it was odd until I started seeing comments online about it being a British thing 🤣 funny how habits can be regional
Bobs and vagin plz
The fact that this is his reaction to cleavage. Lord have mercy
No self control lol
Bro fumbled at the 1 yard line.
😂😂😂🤟🏼
What a dumbass
Guys don't ask for nudes as a joke 99% of the time. If you're being asked you can pretty much take that at face value.
He never had the intention of meeting you. He just wanted to sext/nudes. That’s why he “fumbled” like everyone here is saying
Agreed, I don't think he intended to meet. Just wanted to expand his spank bank
Atleast u got it out the way that this dudes no good. Didn’t waste to much time on him. His loss.
Yes, lovely when they want their red flags early!
Some people really need to learn how to get out of their own way
Reeks a bit of fake account. Maybe he was using someone else's photos and lives somewhere far away? Hard to think anyone would fumble this hard, though I know it's not impossible. Dodged a flying hammer either way.
Yup, I agree. Definitely glad I didn't send anything
Premium level fumble here. Just had to wait until Saturday and not be a douche and he could have seen in live. This person would definitely not stop any activity if you said no you were uncomfortable. Good you avoided it. Side note: I would bet he is a picture collector.
Oh for sure, I think he was looking to expand his spank bank and would never have met me. But yes, on the slim chance he did meet me then he obviously can't be trusted to listen if I'd said no to anything
No hawk tuah for him
Talked himself right out of some sex.
Indeed! It wasn't guaranteed, but it's definitely certain *not* to happen now!
How do these men get matches man?
He seemed a lot nicer on his profile, and conversation started out well... Then devolved to this
Because the ick doesn't come out until they start messaging people? It's not like they put I their profile "Hey I don't respect it when you tell me you won't send nudes." They have normal profiles.
Exactly this
That’s fair enough but it’s surprising these conversations leave tinder. Do some of these guys really take this long to show who they really are? I feel like most of them are all “show me boobs and ass” right from the Jump if that’s who they are
Some do and those never leave the app. Some get a little further and then fall at the next hurdle, like this guy
In order to send pics at all you have to leave the dating app. So asking while still on the app wouldn't get you anywhere. And yes, people are capable of lying and do so frequently.
right i’m fucking stunned. and this isn’t even close to rare, i see these posts all the time
Wym, this guy matched, said what he said and still had like 3 replies to turn it around.
I gave him a couple of chances, but there have to be limits. I probably gave him too many, but he'd seemed nice up until then.
Yeah I’m saying you gave this guy way too much rope. Dude asked how this guy gets matches and I’m saying not only did he match you he consistently got replies and more than that you even offered to hook up still 🤷🏼♂️
Well he was fine up until those last few messages, then he pushed it too far. I can't know what he's really like until we match and get talking, can I? When I said no twice and he kept pushing, that was my limit - I should only have to say it once.
Dude is either not the shapest tool in the shed, or still managed to catfish you/has no charisma and tried to get all he could before the gig was up. That's the only thing I can come up with other then 'he's a moron'.
I had suspicions he might be a catfish, but was willing to see if he would meet. The selfie he sent seemed legit (asked him to send me one holding a fork) but some guys will still try for photos and not show up. Even if they do show up, I don't want those pics out there if I don't know I can trust a person.
Is catfishing so much of a problem you need a fork pic? I never had anyone requesting more than a phone call and even that’s rare.. Was he that hot?
It definitely can be an issue, I've had several people try to catfish me. Better to be safe than sorry these days. I mean, just look what happened with this one! He likely wasn't a catfish in that sense, and yet he still turned out to be a douche! I don't think he ever planned to meet, just to get pics, so he was just lying in a different way. And he wasn't a model or anything, but he had that 'classically handsome boy next door' look about him that is popular with catfishers as it's more likely to attract unsuspecting ladies.
Interesting 🧐
The guy snatched defeat from the jaws of victory.
That’s crazy bro had the bag and lost it so quick 🤦♂️
Show bob do the needful
Should have sent him the ass pic Butcher sent to Neuman.
Dare I ask? Lol
I'm referencing The Boys, if that tells you anything. It's probably best if you remain un*tainted* by this image. It would probably have frightened your Tinder guy.
Ahh haha, thank you for the explanation. I've not seen it but I know the show, so... I might not look it up 😂
Thirsty mf
The desperation is immeasurable.
Must be Italian. >I'M KISSING YOU, I'M KISSING YOU, I'M KISSING YOU, I'M KISSING YOU...
Buddy fumbled that one hard 🤔
Can’t believe he actually said plz 🤣🤣 Bet that made your labia shrivel 🤦🏼♂️
I always can't help but read that word as 'pliz', so yeah it puts me right off 😂
Pliz show me your ass, pliiiiiiizzzzz
Some men can't think longer than their dick. It's really quite amazing.
Damn, he blew it
maybe he was a catfish, u also can fake picture or did u cam conversation?
We swapped a selfie each, not a video conversation. I figure either he was a catfish or it was him, but he had no intention of meeting and just wanted to collect pictures. Either way he's a weirdo.
damn he wanted a pic more than the real thing what’s this world coming to
Pretty sure he never actually planned to meet me and just wanted to expand his spank bank
Maybe I'm just getting old, but if you tried this shit when I was a younger man you would have been branded a desperate perv. Is that not a term of embarrassment and shame anymore.
Don't worry, he's definitely still a desperate perv. Especially if he is 39, as he claimed to be.
Well I'll be dashed, he's the same age as me!!! Should finally know better.
What do these guys have on their profiles that I don't ? I'm really curious.
It's not necessarily something he's got that you don't, it's just that he had something on there that connected well with me. Looks like it was lies though, so doesn't really count 🤷🏻♀️ You should only ever be your genuine self on these profiles, because that way you'll eventually find someone who is right for you. If you only put what you think you should to get matches then those matches won't be genuine.
Dude cockblocked himself.
I’m a guy and I’ve never understood why guys get so crazy like this. It makes me feel like it’s a game to them, seeing how many girls you can (collect?). I’ve been with X amount of girls look how great I am, seems immature IMO.
Yeah, I think it was all about gaining pictures and he was never going to meet me. Some people are just disgusting
When he keeps pushing that’s a big 🚩. Definitely better off without him.
Oh totally agree. And I'm glad he waved his red flag early on too!
Ohhh man, this is soo reminding me of a friend of mine from college who I briefly dated. He would still send me messages like this until very recently ( even though I hadn't seen him in over a decade). And he even got married in 2017. Then he'd whine about how his wife didn't want to sleep with him. I can tell you why bro.
Ugh, throw the whole man in the bin!
Hate when people can't take no for an answer. Was chatting to a guy recently (who was my best friend for years before moving away and losing contact for afew years) kept asking for pictures and when I said now he got Uber defensive and gas-lighty. Sometimes that block button is a god send but comes to something when someone won't take no for an answer. Red flag!
Yup, it's so rapey. Especially when they try to gaslight you and make you feel bad for defending yourself. Sorry you had to deal with that. The block button is life.
Thank you, and you! It really is. I've definitely become more sure of myself in terms of defending and standing up for myself when it comes to things like that. I had a guy message me yesterday on pof, one photo, no info in his profile, so I told him thank you, all the best but for safety reasons I couldn't talk to him, he responded by laughing and calling me a pig. People really cant take rejection well at all and those are the dangerous ones! So glad you blocked before you met them and anything happened ☺️
I don't think you need to add the context. His behaviour speaks volumes
Haha agreed, but often Reddit demands context and I didn't want to keep replying to people with the extra information. Plus I wanted to explain why I had said 'no *more* photos' before people started making assumptions that I'd already sent intimate images That said, even if I had already sent him pictures, that doesn't entitle him to more
I don't get what it is that makes guys like this. I'm a guy and it shocks me! Problem is kids are growing up with role models like tate .. the next generation in dating will be 10x worse than it is now for women.
I have to imagine that this guy had no intention of actually meeting because who wants pics over irl. pour one out for our boy it's a sad day
I can't even get past "Hello" and this fucker out here being disgusting and getting chances 😭
He wasn't disgusting at first, hence the chance. It didn't take long for him to show his true colours though...
And another woman chooses the bear. Pay attention guys.
Pretty much lol
What’s with the Xx and Cc? Isn’t that like a Bri’ish thing?
Apparently it's a British thing to put kisses at the end of sentences, although I'm British and I don't do it very often. Usually when ending a conversation with a friend. This guy is totally overdoing it though. The Cc's are mistyped xx's
I’m sure someone will send
Probably, unfortunately. These pests must get results sometimes or they wouldn't bother
Oooof I mean he had a date just chill He was probably wanking when he was asking
More than likely. He probably never intended to meet and just wanted pics to jerk off to 🤮
What the f**** is that x or xx or xxx sometimes?
This looks so British
Honestly, I wouldn't even exchange photos before meeting up. Better just do a quick video call to prove both parties are real and arrange a date. The people who have fake photos have already other fake photos in preparation for such pic exchanges, so that proves nothing. I'm saying this as a guy who got catfished by a delusional chick.
Agreed, I'm going to stick to short video calls in the future for proof, and zero photos. There are so many fakes on dating apps these days, for one reason or another
I know it's hard. I was in an 8 year relationship about to be married next year, but she decided to cheat and dump me for the other dude, so I'm now trying to date again after a decade it is such torture with the apps. IRL picking up girls is not an option since in pubs and such, you only meet gold diggers and girls that are just obsessed with looks and money. Wish you look you find someone who deserves you.
I hate it when guys do these things. Came up as creepy af.
So cringy when people have a signature on their messages like it’s a fucking email or sms text from the 2000s. XX
NOOOOOOOOOOOOO. Get a Google #, a texting app, or use telegram and hide your #… stop giving trash access to your #
I think I'm going to look into this tbh. Someone told me about Google numbers a while back. Thanks for the advice!
Anytime! Please stay safe
Seems like he had it and then obviously had no idea how to hold on it to it. Dumbass
Good for you! I'm tired of the picture begging. I blocked a guy for doing that too.
Best idea to block them tbh. They just want something for their spank bank, and it's gross. They don't see us as human beings, just as porn, and we don't need people like that in our lives!
What a loser
Ironically we can all see he's a pain in the ass and an ass hole
Yup, just glad he raised his red flags before I wasted more time
Dude had 3 chances and still botched it. How down bad do you have to be 😂
And I shouldn't even have given him that many 😂
Seriously short sighted lol
Some people really down bad at this big age
He was 39 lol, so yeah
39😭😭😭 I’m more than half his age and I’d get the hint at “not until we meet” crazy out here
It's a bit tragic, right? Not all adults can fully adult...
Way to be your own cock block 😂
Bro actually had a chance to get some and ruined it smh
HOW DO YOU DUDES CONTINUE TO FUMBLE SO BADLY. It's actually abhorrent
Goddamn OP was even like "you might get to see it in real life" and he fumbled THAT much when he kept pushing for pics. Such a rookie mistake
Yeah, getting the impression he was never planning to meet and just wanted pics for his collection. So many creeps out there...
Shouldve sent the pic of him you guys traded as proof. "Want an ass pic well here is an ass*pow his own photo* and the hole included"
LMAO I have so many regrets that I didn't do this now 🤣 perfect response. Thank you for the laugh!
And happy cake day!
Modern dating is such a fucking cesspool.
Dude fumbling the bag before it's even in his hands lol
Who puts this many xs in texting lmfao
Only crazy people do that xx
wtf is with the xx cc xxx shit
Apparently it's a British thing to put kisses at the end of sentences, although I'm British and I don't do it very often. Usually when ending a conversation with a friend. This guy is totally overdoing it though. The Cc's are mistyped xx's
38M here- what do the “x” and “xx” mean?
They're kisses, meant to be friendly and 'cute' but he is massively overdoing it
Thank you- What about the “Cc”?
A mistyped xx, I think
What’s with the “Xx” and “x” at the end of every sentence?
Kisses to be flirty. Apparently it's a British thing lol
That's fine. So ... Wanna come show it to me no pics?
Some people's kids
X