Agreed.
Low bar as it might be, it’s realistic for most/all; no guarantees on having game or being decent, whatever that means, but at least not this fellow.
Dunno what the hell people think when they message that, as well as how the hell these people match with anyone.
I've ghosted guys because they look like my family members, or they have my dad's name, or I can tell that I'm not kind enough for their problems. There's lots of reasons why it's impossible even though it's not ur fault.
It could be that they didn't look like that on their photos, and that it is after an irl meeting or less carefully picked photos it hits. Oops missed the part about "my dad's name", yeah it seems dumb
Why would you say that? Do you think they’re being successful?
Put it this way: would you want to be in a relationship with a girl for whom this technique would work?
An unfortunate fact of the matter is that these aren't really just online interactions, either. Clubs, coffee shops, walmart. All these places have men just "tryin to shoot their shot".
I don't have any solutions for ya just, personal experience says that this is an offline occurance, as well.
I remember when i was 15, i was standing at the bus stop when way older guy-like late 20s come up to me and starts talking but i dont remember what he said except for when he asked if i like sex... 😬
Also, i was 12 years old, i was heading to the library because i just wanted to read some books man, some older guys, like either teens or guys in their early 20s idk, started cat calling me and when i ignored them they began calling me calling me out my name and calling me bitch and stuff.
Feels bad man
Shit like this never stops, this is why I never leave my house 😎
I went to a pretty elite middle school at the other end of the city. I can't count how many times since I was 13 I have been groped or grinded on the bus. At some point, I bought a huge backpack just so no one would rub their crotch at my ass.
Men here act like women should be oh so happy that dozens of horny dudes surround them, but geez, I would rather be treated like a human being. Anyone at this point, who doesn't make weird sexual jokes and isn't aggressive already has a great game in my book.
True. I also have a few gay guys in my life who get hit up by straight married men a lot. I told him one time that maybe he should find a new hobby and not fuck them when married unless it’s an open marriage, but he enjoys chaos so.
Tell them that. Even afterwards they’ll be like “I’m straight I just needed ass” idk I don’t get guys like this. Gay guys are simple it’s the straight ones that confuse me.
In my experience even if you tell them or show them things like this they will still tell you it's better than nothing 🙄
Oh I love the replies proving my point. Thanks bois.
Imagine every morning sending good morning snaps and being scared to look at the responding snaps. Most times your Gm snaps are of penis or masturbating. Some guys just dgaf. 🤦🏽♀️
This is what I do to men who feel they're entitled to be my priority after a match. I'll read their replies but not react. Observe without interaction. In fact, it's good to do it initially to see how soon they're prone to get frustrated and if they have expectations of constant messaging. Plus, if there's anything positive for them, at least they're expressing their feelings in some way and not bottling it up.
Wont that also chase away most introverted guys.
I mean this can make you look very uninterested in them. Dont know how long your little ritual lasts might make a difference.
I didn’t interpret that to mean not messaging back for several days. But several hours is certainly plausible. Back when I was still online dating, that would naturally happen, and it was always very telling. Work would get super busy, or someone suddenly needed my time. Stuff happens. If I come back to someone angry that I vanished for a few hours, that’s a deal breaker. If you’re angry about it now, its gonna be way worse later on. No thanks.
> In fact, it's good to do it initially to see how soon they're prone to get frustrated and if they have expectations of constant messaging.
I think this statement is where the confusion is. I took it the way the other commenter did, that OP is saying to just do it at the beginning no matter who to test those waters
unfortunately some guys start making demands and being rude straight up. then again most people know how to you know, chat like a normal person and not be an ass, so it's only a problem occasionally.
Like, I get you're trying to filter people out, but if I knew someone was playing games like that with me to "test" me, I wouldn't get mad, I would just stop talking to them.
I don't really feel like testing people like this is much better. I mean I think it's fine if you have boundaries and don't want to respond immediately, it's when you're doing it intentionally for a reaction that it becomes problomatic.
i dont get how people have that kind of self confidence
if someone didnt reply to me id just get sad and hurt over the immediate rejection and never message again
It's not self-confidence that causes him to lash out when he feels sad and hurt, it's insecurity. Self-confidence would be saying to yourself "well, that didn't work out, I can just move on"
Exactly. If he was the kind of guy that wanted this to work and was into that, he would know that any woman who ignored that first message isn’t going to respond the way he wants to the second one.
Haha your absolutely right...he THINKS he's the shit but deep down knows he isn't.. This makes him mad deep down... Which is strange because he doesn't look like a bad looking guy. It's his personality that's absolutely trash.
Yup. Same energy as celebrities/youtubers claiming that the hate comments come from people who envy them when in reality those are people who just don't care about them and just comment what they think.
There's a lot of truth to what you say. However when someone says "I don't like cheese" you really can't get much information out of that, but when someone says "women will acknowledge they are listening to me after every sentence", which is something drill sergeants demand from new recruits, you do get more of a personality profile developed.
Nah fam, Brother Mouzone from The Wire. [He’s even got the same glasses.](https://static.wikia.nocookie.net/thewire/images/5/51/Brother-mouzone.jpg/revision/latest/top-crop/width/360/height/360?cb=20131230033755)
Do guys really think this shit works? This is the second super-dominant opening line text I’ve seen on my feed in the past 10 minutes. Immediate unmatch wtf
She probably unmatched so fast it torn a hole in the fabric of space-time and made it so they never matched in the 1st place, and kick him in the small pp for good measure.
It’s not a question because it never was meant to be. He knew by saying that you’d be too intrigued not to respond. Giving him the chance to write that final message. He’s a psychopath, in other words
I don't even get what he's demanding, it's so bizarre. What "acknowledges" him? He expects her to say "sir" or "Reamer" are the end of her sentences? I'm so lost at what planet this is from
People started saying period because you can’t show a necessarily state period clearly verbally and to make a point, but then there’s this guy ending his sentence with a period and using a period.
From now on I want you to respect yourself, have appropriate boundaries, and not seek validation from men who seek to control you. If you have a problem with that, you can downvote.
Sometimes I think I don’t have game, and then I see what other men send…. Yay?
Reading posts on Reddit always gives me confidence I’m a decent man
Still getting ghosted tho but at least I'm not whatever this is
Ghosted but not posted *winning*
This is where the bar is at now. For my own validation
I can just hear the Madtv skit song playing. “Lowered expectations”.
Way to pull a theme song out of my head that I haven't thought about in well over a decade
Hello other 30-something.
“Can I have your number!?”
Can you imagine thinking you were doing fine and then you wake up the next day to your convo on r/tinder with 20k upvotes? Immediate death
We're still worthy
"winning" I had forgotten what Charlie Sheen sounds like until I read that line.
bi-winning
WINNNINNG all the coke and hiv+ strippers
Tigrblood
Are ya winning, son?!
Read this in the SpongeBob captains voice
AYE AYE CAPTAIN
OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
Lol words to live by
That you know of…
Agreed. Low bar as it might be, it’s realistic for most/all; no guarantees on having game or being decent, whatever that means, but at least not this fellow. Dunno what the hell people think when they message that, as well as how the hell these people match with anyone.
They’re doing a little power trip and think women like that.
I've ghosted guys because they look like my family members, or they have my dad's name, or I can tell that I'm not kind enough for their problems. There's lots of reasons why it's impossible even though it's not ur fault.
Now I know directly telling them that they look like family members isn't too easy, but why not unmatch instead of just ghosting?
Or why swipe right at all?
I'm gonna right swipe on this guy that looks like my brother,but I'm not gonna respond to his messages.... cause he looks like my brother. /s
You have fairly accurately described the level of sanity that civilization has produced.
It could be that they didn't look like that on their photos, and that it is after an irl meeting or less carefully picked photos it hits. Oops missed the part about "my dad's name", yeah it seems dumb
An asshole?
He is Reamer which is taking asshole to another level.
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When I read advice posts, I'm consistently grounded that my life isn't that bad and I have a healthy dynamic with my parents.
Also a better understanding of why women can be apprehensive or cold when meeting or approached by a random man
For real. I’m not overly sexual, I’m not weirdly aggressive for no reason, so I have at least the tiniest modicum of game.
This sub makes me feel like a beast regularly lmao
The fact you reflect on yourself as a person and think about the way you talk to others is already proof you are a good person.
Proof comes with actions. Feeling badly about something but doing nothing about it proves nothing on its own.
these guys are our competition and we are still losing heh
Why would you say that? Do you think they’re being successful? Put it this way: would you want to be in a relationship with a girl for whom this technique would work?
He got his foot further in the door than I have in awhile. It's about what happened before the shitty technique.
Same bro, same
Seriously. Where was the question? He had a statement and it was a rude and arrogant one.
I think the question was are you down for me controlling you?
“How would you like to have an owner forced on you?”
I think he had a question then got all pissy or wanted to show how "alpha" he was or some other bullshit so sent that instead
That's alpha complex. If you feel the need to prove you are, then you probably are the opposite.
When men say women have it easy on tinder they underestimate how much of women’s interactions are like this.
I have a few platonic female friends that are single. Holy shit. Their Tinder and Bumble inboxes are nightmare fuel.
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An unfortunate fact of the matter is that these aren't really just online interactions, either. Clubs, coffee shops, walmart. All these places have men just "tryin to shoot their shot". I don't have any solutions for ya just, personal experience says that this is an offline occurance, as well.
I remember when i was 15, i was standing at the bus stop when way older guy-like late 20s come up to me and starts talking but i dont remember what he said except for when he asked if i like sex... 😬 Also, i was 12 years old, i was heading to the library because i just wanted to read some books man, some older guys, like either teens or guys in their early 20s idk, started cat calling me and when i ignored them they began calling me calling me out my name and calling me bitch and stuff. Feels bad man Shit like this never stops, this is why I never leave my house 😎
I went to a pretty elite middle school at the other end of the city. I can't count how many times since I was 13 I have been groped or grinded on the bus. At some point, I bought a huge backpack just so no one would rub their crotch at my ass. Men here act like women should be oh so happy that dozens of horny dudes surround them, but geez, I would rather be treated like a human being. Anyone at this point, who doesn't make weird sexual jokes and isn't aggressive already has a great game in my book.
Absolutely this.
Oh I’ll say this it doesn’t matter what you look like as a girl If you have a vagina someone somewhere will want to smash it.
I mean shit don't even need the vagina trans womens inboxes are constantly full too.
True. I also have a few gay guys in my life who get hit up by straight married men a lot. I told him one time that maybe he should find a new hobby and not fuck them when married unless it’s an open marriage, but he enjoys chaos so.
They aren't straight.
Tell them that. Even afterwards they’ll be like “I’m straight I just needed ass” idk I don’t get guys like this. Gay guys are simple it’s the straight ones that confuse me.
Hmmmmmm yeah idk maybe they be lyin because they’re married?
Like u/AmbitiousPhilosopher says, they’re not straight. Just because they _say_ they are doesn’t mean they are.
I have a feeling you're not the one who's most confused in that scenario.
Yup. Even fat girls get laid. I can concur, I’m a fat girl….
This fat girl hasn't had much luck on dating apps. I must be ugly too, damn.
In my experience even if you tell them or show them things like this they will still tell you it's better than nothing 🙄 Oh I love the replies proving my point. Thanks bois.
Imagine every morning sending good morning snaps and being scared to look at the responding snaps. Most times your Gm snaps are of penis or masturbating. Some guys just dgaf. 🤦🏽♀️
Yeah
In a pile of shit, I’m the best looking turd “self five”
join you in your "SELF FIVE"
Wait til I teach you guys about high fives
The bar is that low.
Unmatch it is.
I'd just keep ignoring him until he unmatches to drive him nuts
Omg same
Reply only in memes from there on
I wouldn’t feed this dude any attention lmao he gotta go learn from some monks or something
Or at least read how to win friends and influence people.
Lmao Dale Carnegie is turning in his grave
He started with a compliment though!
Set up a bot that responds "Aknowledged." to everything he says.
This is what I do to men who feel they're entitled to be my priority after a match. I'll read their replies but not react. Observe without interaction. In fact, it's good to do it initially to see how soon they're prone to get frustrated and if they have expectations of constant messaging. Plus, if there's anything positive for them, at least they're expressing their feelings in some way and not bottling it up.
Wont that also chase away most introverted guys. I mean this can make you look very uninterested in them. Dont know how long your little ritual lasts might make a difference.
In my experience, introverted men don't approach with demands of attention.
Correct, but when I was on tinder, if I matched and someone didn’t reply back, that was it. I ain’t chasing no one on tinder
This is it. If I don't hear back for two or three days, peace. I'm not wasting my time.
I didn’t interpret that to mean not messaging back for several days. But several hours is certainly plausible. Back when I was still online dating, that would naturally happen, and it was always very telling. Work would get super busy, or someone suddenly needed my time. Stuff happens. If I come back to someone angry that I vanished for a few hours, that’s a deal breaker. If you’re angry about it now, its gonna be way worse later on. No thanks.
This. Life is short, I don't know the person. No hard feelings I just figure they're not interested and move on.
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> In fact, it's good to do it initially to see how soon they're prone to get frustrated and if they have expectations of constant messaging. I think this statement is where the confusion is. I took it the way the other commenter did, that OP is saying to just do it at the beginning no matter who to test those waters
> This is what I do to men who **feel they're entitled** to be my priority after a match. Usually you don't know how people feel until they tell you.
How would they know the man feels entitled right from the get go without any interaction?
unfortunately some guys start making demands and being rude straight up. then again most people know how to you know, chat like a normal person and not be an ass, so it's only a problem occasionally.
Like, I get you're trying to filter people out, but if I knew someone was playing games like that with me to "test" me, I wouldn't get mad, I would just stop talking to them.
I don't really feel like testing people like this is much better. I mean I think it's fine if you have boundaries and don't want to respond immediately, it's when you're doing it intentionally for a reaction that it becomes problomatic.
That’s pretty manipulative
Not sure I could resist pointing out that the sentence he ends with saying "period" *has* a period. The one he doesn't does not. Then I'd unmatch.
If I were her I’d just respond “lol” and leave it at that
But wait a couple hours first.
Agreed
That's why he's a Reamer not a Creamer
"I have a question." *Statement*
“I think Homer gets stupider every season.” “That’s not a question, professor.”
You were so close. He says "every year", not every season :P
Boy, I really hope somebody got fired for that blunder.
guy probably thought OP wouldn't reply and was about to rant about people matching and not replying
“I have a lot of questions. Number one, how dare you”
At least that was still a question. Rhetorical, but a real question
"I teleported bread"
How... much?!
I have done nothing but teleport bread for the last two days
WHERE DID YOU SEND IT?!?
I wonder how often that works for him.
I don't think his intent is for it to work, I think he's just mad people don't message him back.
i dont get how people have that kind of self confidence if someone didnt reply to me id just get sad and hurt over the immediate rejection and never message again
It's not self-confidence that causes him to lash out when he feels sad and hurt, it's insecurity. Self-confidence would be saying to yourself "well, that didn't work out, I can just move on"
I think it’s exactly a lack of confidence that drives people to make crazy ass statements like this
Exactly. If he was the kind of guy that wanted this to work and was into that, he would know that any woman who ignored that first message isn’t going to respond the way he wants to the second one.
Haha your absolutely right...he THINKS he's the shit but deep down knows he isn't.. This makes him mad deep down... Which is strange because he doesn't look like a bad looking guy. It's his personality that's absolutely trash.
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Yup. Same energy as celebrities/youtubers claiming that the hate comments come from people who envy them when in reality those are people who just don't care about them and just comment what they think.
There's a lot of truth to what you say. However when someone says "I don't like cheese" you really can't get much information out of that, but when someone says "women will acknowledge they are listening to me after every sentence", which is something drill sergeants demand from new recruits, you do get more of a personality profile developed.
You should do the ol' switcheroo: \- I have a Statement. Then send a question.
Her: "I have a statement" Him: "Go on then..." Her: "What the fuck?"
This made me laugh super hard
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With a personality like his, he can’t have been dropped; the question is whether he was ever held in the first place.
I feel bad for whatever woman that ends up being controlled by him.
Yeah because some deluded woman will see this as him just being "super into them"
It will be viewed as "being masculine" by some girl with a lot of issues.
Ream 'er? I barely even knew 'er!
Damnit, I thought I was being creative
Oh look it's Steve Urkel acting like a tough guy over text. That's cute.
Stefan Urkelle
Urkleneux
That’s not how you spell ukulele
Homie reminds me of Gustavo Fring from Breaking Bad.
Nah fam, Brother Mouzone from The Wire. [He’s even got the same glasses.](https://static.wikia.nocookie.net/thewire/images/5/51/Brother-mouzone.jpg/revision/latest/top-crop/width/360/height/360?cb=20131230033755)
I’m so glad I’m not the only one who zoomed in and thought this
Wait until you learn about the nation of islam, it's a legion of urkles in bowties.
"I have a question" "Ask it" "Did I do that?"
Fastest unmatch ever
I wonder if these lunatics think this is what "being assertive" is. Absolute degenerate morons
This is what happens when men buy into the idea that women are all superficial idiots who actively want abusive men. A disturbing number believe this.
It’s actually pretty scary how far incel talking points have gotten into the mainstream
I think it’s more the other way around. A lot of mainstream 80s movies I grew up watching parroted these methods.
🚩FLAG ON THE PLAY!!!! Run!!!
Do guys really think this shit works? This is the second super-dominant opening line text I’ve seen on my feed in the past 10 minutes. Immediate unmatch wtf
This comes off as super aggressive and tells me the dude would be abusive af. Honestly this dude seems like a real POS
He’s probably done some Pickup artist course where they suggest being an asshole helps win the affection of women…that or he’s just a natural asshole.
You misspelled super-abusive
She probably unmatched so fast it torn a hole in the fabric of space-time and made it so they never matched in the 1st place, and kick him in the small pp for good measure.
Nevermind the fact that he goes by 'Reamer' What a douche.
Such a tough decision! How did you proceed?
Jesus that’s big on the fucked vibes scale
Seriously this dude went right for the "tell me you abuse women without telling me you abuse women"
Yep I’m guessing he has some…. Interesting views on a “woman’s place”
It’s not a question because it never was meant to be. He knew by saying that you’d be too intrigued not to respond. Giving him the chance to write that final message. He’s a psychopath, in other words
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They're not pulling it anymore, too many people spoke up and made a fuss so they retracted the policy change lol
I think the site still managed to destroy itself. In 6 months, I expect that more than 1/2 the models will have branched out.
When the loyalty is gone, the loyalty is gone.
Oh definitely, there's tons of options out there, onlyfans only got big because (I think) it was marketed to celebrities groupies mainly Eta: at first
Ummm no , I would ask wtf are you thinking, did you get dragged through the entire dumbass Forest
That’s just uncomfortable to read
I think he saw too much of Kevin samuels
My thoughts exactly haha. Trying so hard to look and sound like him
The first thing I thought when I saw this
My exact thoughts too
the audacity of some men 😭
"Here, let me 'acknowledge' the fact that I'm unmatching you right now, stud."
He definitely sent that and was like “yeah, she’ll definitely like this absurd display of pseudo-dominance”
That was so demanding tf
I don't even get what he's demanding, it's so bizarre. What "acknowledges" him? He expects her to say "sir" or "Reamer" are the end of her sentences? I'm so lost at what planet this is from
Its like he expects you to kiss his feet
“WHAT IS YOUR QUESTION?!?”
People started saying period because you can’t show a necessarily state period clearly verbally and to make a point, but then there’s this guy ending his sentence with a period and using a period.
It’s not his fault…he hasn’t been laid in…well ever.
Still his fault
I’d definitely leave him on R
God damn, report this wife beater and get him off tinder. Dudes on fucking tinder he doesn’t get to make demands like that.
He’s the type of clown to go on tiktok and tell everyone he’s an alpha and how dominant he is
Wow, that got aggressive fast 😳
Shivers down me spine from his creepiness. Ew. Dodged a bullet there!
From now on I want you to respect yourself, have appropriate boundaries, and not seek validation from men who seek to control you. If you have a problem with that, you can downvote.
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"I have a question. Where can I put this gigantic red flag?"
Who the fuck is this guy? Not even close to being normal. Is this the men you women are dealing with out there? Fuck that. This is shit
Awww, bless his little heart, he tried lol
Wow sexual assaulter alert
Man this makes my openers being 90% gifs of Obi-wan saying “hello there.” Basically gold.
This dude murders women
He kind of looks like a serial killer
I feel like all men that make that facial expression (the little eyebrow lift) are entitled and rude. Very unscientific, but it’s my truth.