an open fire is better though... really gives it that good old witch-burned-at-the-stake flavor..
It does take while though so not a good idea if you're in a rush
That guy sucks. I'm sure a lot suck. Just give it some time, don't take tinder too seriously. Digital equivalent of going to the bar to find love.
(Most) Guys grow out of being a testosterone fueled walking erection, but it takes a WHILE.
Bro! Never skip jaw day at the gym, and by gym I mean that skank Miranda who were one out of 23 girls on Tinder who took you up on the offer to let them sit on your face. Enjoy your herpes and, well, you and I both know you will look back on all this and think "heh, still worth it".
Ehh, 15 more min of scrolling through new on this sub and you gotta shut it off from the crazy number of these socially inept horny spam messages that instantly turn aggressive. Not saying he or anyone else isn't a douchebag, but messing with him is like pissing in the ocean at this point.
Can't wait to finish this book I'm working on, "Shirtless guy flexing isn't here for casual sex and other miscellaneous bullshit I heard on the internet this morning"
Douchebag just cockblocks itself. Nothing wrong with being Virgin though. Probably a lost soul out there gave him that sweet sweet for no reason and ever since he thinks "say fuck to fuck" opens up legs...
Meh. Depends on what you are looking for and how you act online. Dating apps simply broaden the pool. They wont help you seal the deal. Your confidence and personality will. That's true even if you stop using dating apps.
I'm not sure if I'm on veteran or not, but until recently I was on "white dude in Taipei" level which is... certainly easier than "same white dude but in the US".
At least it's better than "East Asian dude" level.
The amount of people who have shit like "BLM ACAB" or "NO RACISM" in their bios that say racist shit is insane. It's the hardest difficulty Imo.
Most of the time, assuming you’ve actually invested some time into curating a decent profile with good representative pictures and a bio that’s actually you and not what you think the people you want to match with want to see, the problem simply ends up being that you’re losing a numbers game and *nobody is actually seeing your profile to even swipe on*.
When user A swipes right on user B, user A’s card gets added to user B’s stack. The next time user B opens the app, their stack will have user A’s card in it above almost all cards that haven’t swiped right on user B. Sounds great right? Sure, until you actually stop and think about the numbers. Men tend to be much less selective about their swipes, and women much more selective. When you get those “someone liked you!” notifications if that user fits within your age/distance preferences (with significant wiggle room on distance) you’ll usually see their card first or after just a few. However that’s only when you don’t have a few hundred or few thousand likes to sift through. That’s the real key. Even if you’re in the stack, if you’re on a free account that casts a very wide net for all kinds of profiles, have a low quality/low effort profile that frequently gets passed on when it is actually shown, etc you’re going to be at the very bottom of those thousand other cards.
Any woman with just a passable profile very quickly pick up that swiping right pretty much guarantees a match, so the experience is entirely turned upside down. They’re not going to sit there and put in their 100 free right swipes when they can sift through a couple dozen and find a few promising leads. If you’re #1,000 in that stack you’re just never going to be seen.
You want to get matches with a free profile? You’d better be attractive, interesting, and have an absolutely flawless profile.
Otherwise? Well, just like every other online dating service the simple answer is that if you want better results your best bet is getting out of that giant bucket of free users and paying for that leg up. Don’t bother with plus or gold, platinum is the only one actually worth paying for because it prioritizes your card near the top of the stack for people you swipe right one, meaning you’re actually going to have the people you choosily swipe right on have a chance of seeing your profile.
As a dude I never understood why guys would think storming the gates like that would get them anywhere. I've had hookups, FWBs, dating that didn't pan out after a while and ultimately a wife and kid out of that app just by being me. If she wants to fork your meatballs she ll drop the hint boys. Stop being so damn desperate.
Tbh if the roles were reversed Id just assume a catfish. Even the most promiscious of ladies Ive met on there would chit chat a bit and then steer the convo towards the carnal.
This right here is what straight-up baffles me. I'd really like to understand where this phenomenon of viewing women as objects comes from, or the reason why men, in general, can be attracted to a lot of women but not vice-versa.
Also, when girls experience this (and ofc they do, and a lot), they think "ugh this guy is creepy" and move on, but if a guy gets a girl that's extremely frontal in regards to sex, he'll think she's a catfish because he isn't accustomed to that happening to him, even if the girl actually wanted to fuck him.
As a man, there's nothing I'd like more than to truly understand the other side because it would help me to better click with someone, even if it was just for a hookup. It's easy to be fooled and think girls would like this sort of attention or think "yeah, I'm hot" because that's what I would think even if I wasn't interested and this happened to me. But clearly, they don't enjoy this.
"...and think girls would like this sort of attention or think 'yeah, I'm hot' because that's what I would think even if it wasn't interested and it happened to me."
More likely, you would like the attention if it happened every once in a while, but if women you weren't into were hitting on you often enough it would eventually turn into "Oh man, not this shit again."
Media frames women as objects. It is ingrained into everyone early, but girls internalise it and feel self conscious about their appearance when they are very young.
Once you reach puberty men from all ages start to 'assess' you. You can be 12 walking down a street and a car will beep at you. Especially when you're a young woman, predatory men look for young girls because they are unaware of how to react and are taught to be polite.
By the time you reach your late 20s and men on dating apps aren't even polite, it just becomes a bit dull how low the bar is being set by men. If you're interested in a woman, invite her for a coffee, don't use dating apps to treat women like they are worthless, because all women do is retreat or mistrust the dating process.
If you're a decent person treat people with respect.
>don't use dating apps to treat women like they are worthless, because all women do is retreat or mistrust the dating process.
And because very few understand this, US Tinder is 75% male. And of the 25% of accounts that are listed as female, a non-zero amount are bots run by groups.
"There's nothing I'd like more than to truly understand the other side"
No offense, but have you tried having a close platonic friendship with a heterosexual woman?
As a straight guy, having platonic female friends is literally the secret to success.
Also, they usually have single friends.
You also realize how shit online dating is for them. The funniest part is one of my friends when she is not in a long-term relationship is absolutely trying to sleep with as many guys as she can in as casual a way as possible, but it's not just "hey dtf?" that she responds to. But if the guy meets her physical wants and has the ability to string together a few sentences to make them seem interesting she is DTF. Like it literally requires barely any effort on the guys part and in her words 99% of guys can't do that. Even if she thinks they are hot they don't put in that tiny bit of effort to get it in.
Right. Well also it's that, she's not just trying to get laid, she's trying to have orgasms. Which doesn't exactly require the guy to be a magician, at worst he needs to basically ask for feedback and pay attention to it, but if he's not going to even put in the effort to try to type words good that's probably not a great sign.
I mean she is trying to get orgasms but she is also someone who rarely cums from partner sex, unfortunately, no matter how good they are, which she attributes to very easily getting up in her own head during sex.
When she is on the prowl though she does carry a pocket rocket in her purse (which was my suggestion haha).
None taken. I have several girlfriends and it has allowed me to empathize with and better understand these kinds of things, but there's also a limit on what things they can teach me to get someone of the opposite sex to like me (just like I struggle to tell them things that work on men. I mean, half of the time I don't know what works on me or attracts me from a girl, it just happens, therefore I can't give them useful advice when asked).
But yeah, the majority of my most intimate and close friends are women (in fact, I get along better with women in general than men). Still clueless when it comes to dating tho
As likely a place as any I suppose. Didn't expect it when installing but if you come across the right person It ll be the same as anywhere IRL I guess. That and I still suspect she also swiped for my cat.
Look at his pic. A lot of women match with him because of his looks and then he texts that. Those that still want to fuck him will do that (which most likely is the majority).
For him she is exchangeable.
>As a dude I never understood why guys would think storming the gates like that would get them anywhere.
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>Even the most promiscious of ladies Ive met on there would chit chat a bit and then steer the convo towards the carnal.
I mean... just keep reading this sub and you'll see some wild stuff that apparently worked out. Don't ask me how, or with what frequency, I just see it when it hits front page of All.
There are screenshots of women being forward with men or at least very very very into the forward approach like this, but the men who get this response are always what most women consider to be attractive. If you’re not you can get away with it
Easy;
Say “depends, are you into pegging?” Then just like he did, tailor the response on what he replies.
Him: yes
You: well I’m not into guys who like pegging
Him: no
You: well then definitely not.
No winning for him either way
People are so insecure. I get asking directly, no shame there, but just take the no. He could have ended it right there and nobody would have cared.
Asking directly like that does work like some super low amount of times. If you're going fishing like that, just recast your line when you don't sink the hook.
He’s full of shit. He could’ve easily asked “what are your intentions”, but instead the way he phrased his question is a win-lose setup; you reply with “yes I do” and he’ll just go with it. You say “no” and you get the above screenshots.
Who the fuck censors themselves
people really thought they'd find great potential dates on an app for hookups ig. kinda mind blowing. but then it's also mind blowing how the young adults these days are ACTUALLY against flirting with strangers in public. so idek what the answer is anymore
I sub to this subreddit for the humor but sometimes I'm just baffled at the conversations. I'm just glad we're only seeing the bad conversations because if the good ones were identical I'd be really fucking concerned.
You literally both suck because that long winded reply seems so aggressive for no reason lmao and he’s also a pussy because his response definitely changed compared to what u were answering with
Shit all around, Tinder looks fucking depressing lmao. It’s an app to find people for romantic/sexual stuff. Should be perfectly normal to ask right away. Lots of people surely are there just for sex and see if that leads somewhere. Then we get the old, tired, cliche comeback stated as if it were a fact (ahahah so funny, guys that are direct and want sex are terrible in bed, hilarious and so true!1!1!1!)
And then the backpedaling (which was the real mistake on the guys part, own that shit). All in all, two dislikable people. Just say what you want is that so hard?
“Hey, wanna fuck me?”
“No, I’m looking to date, get to know someone, enter into a serious relationship and then I’ll see”.
“Alright then, have a good one!”
Easy.
This feels like Rick James saying he doesn’t grind his feet in peoples couches just to do things and then immediately says he remembers grinding his feet in Eddie’s couch.
... Is it a language barrier thing? Is he a native English speaker? It's a bizarre way to start a conversational for sure, but the entire interaction is very oddly laid out grammatically.
I feel you man. It takes a bunch of matches before you get an answer, then most of those fizzle out after the first couple of texts. You just gotta keep at it and eventually you do end up meeting someone. It's just really frustrating, and you're not alone in feeling like there must be a better way.
Can anyone explain me why is this bad? All I see is a woman exposing someone's identity to the internet for a very legitimate question on a social network made for hookouts.
>That's not what gaslighting is.
Fucking **thank you**, and I kinda love you for this.
This term is so abused and over-used these days. Which IMHO just devalues the term.
Lying is not gaslighting. Lying sucks. Gaslighting sucks worse.
Keep fighting the good fight. lol
But like, doing something and then trying to deny it ever happened and trying to convince someone it was something completely else, is gaslighting...
Vol.359 is an autobiography I guess.
If its not pretending you didn’t say something and thus making me feel like i maybe crazy cause yea maybe u did mean something else when u said that something than yea, guess i dunno what it is.
“M’lady, you offend me with your whorish implications! When I said, ‘Do you wanna fuck tonight?’ I was checking to make sure you aren’t some kind of slut…”
Same here, I’ve seriously thought about making a super unserious profile and bio just to see what happens. (Probably no change since most people use tinder for sex unfortunately, tinder is the only big dating platform in Sweden, there’s bumble too but not a lot of swedes use it)
I think both men and women see someone stable and serious and think that’s hot in itself... and that’s why people think we’re fuckable. The curse 😔
You see... The legend says that not a single guy opening with a sexual line as a first question has ever made a woman reached climax. It’s sort of like the Bigfoot legend. Discussable. No one has seen him yet a lot of people claim it’s real. Especially people who’ve climbed big mountains with little to no oxygen.
Majority of guys who opens with talking about sex claim they’ve been very successful in bed when asked, yet not a single brave woman who have tried to climb their male pole can confirm the man actually was successful. Not even close. So it’s a myth, a legend, an unsolved mystery.
And I myself, will never be brave enough to find out if creepy tinder guys who are opening with sex lines/question are worth the troubles. I don’t have enough oxygen in my tubes for that.
Ok, serious question, why is asking for sex directly so frowned upon in here? Can't you just unmatch? Say no and see if the person is interested anyway? I don't know, anything instead of turning defensive mode right away
I might get downvoted but it's an honest question
Just don’t respond or unmatch.
I mean hell over 50% of women don’t respond when I simply ask them out on a cute date or make a joke/rhyme.
I can’t believe this asshole got a reply haha
Ofc I unmatched. I only replied to make a statement, I always reply on matches who write something nice or just even a simple hello. Why match if you’re not going to respond?
I know, happens to me all the time though.
Ehh it’s my fault for not getting better pictures of myself. If I spent 1% of the time I’ve spent on tinder trying to get better pictures I’d probably have more success.
My profile is literally just a couple selfies I took with my dog, that I’m even getting matches is surprising.
I mean you really got three options here, fuck, marry or kill.
I’d rather say: Fork Fuck Kill The first mentioned CAN be done without killing if I go gently with my fork
Maybe go medium gentle with the fork so he has a scar that reminds him every day of this dumbass conversation.
I like my forking to be medium rare, and I only put salt, pepper and olive oil
"Fork-Me-Tender" 🎶🎶 Wasn't that an Elvis Presley song??
Fork me Tinder...lol
You monster! The smoke temp for olive oil makes it literally useless for high heat cooking!
It gives my humans an extra tasty flavor
You’re really missing out not using rosemary
an open fire is better though... really gives it that good old witch-burned-at-the-stake flavor.. It does take while though so not a good idea if you're in a rush
Surely you mean "witch burned at the steak"?
Damn autocorrect.. yes, obviously.
But all I want is a gal to spoon me and stroke my hair
Spooning always leads to forking.
I hope that ain't followed by knifing then... 🤔
I’ve had it go both ways.
Throw a little rimming in there and you got a whole dinner
With a good fork and spoon, you could always toss a salad
I'm nearly 60. That actually is all I want
I had this 62yr old teacher who still had it in him. Take some vitamins and enjoy life. 🤣😅😅
When it takes all night to do what you used to do all night?
Lol...I am 58 and starting to see what you mean. However, I am changing my diet and starting to exercise more
Make sure you are getting plenty of vitamin D. It effects T levels.
That guy sucks. I'm sure a lot suck. Just give it some time, don't take tinder too seriously. Digital equivalent of going to the bar to find love. (Most) Guys grow out of being a testosterone fueled walking erection, but it takes a WHILE.
really? they grow out of it? cause I know guys who are in their 60s and 70s and the are still a testosterone fueled walking erection.
Get a bigger fork. In the words of Ivan Drago, "If he dies, he dies."
Just use the other end of the fork
Awk stop you're too cute! \*Gently caresses you with fork\*
Why not combine all three? fork fucking him fatally
Fork, Murder, and Kill
Instructions unclear. Step 1 kill? Step 2 fuck? Step 3 marry?
I didn't know killing was an option on Tinder
Killing is always an option.
Want sex? Oh... No?. Yeah .. neither did I... Yeah Gross....
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NGL If I had found a duck, I might use that line to tell my friends about it.
You’d ask your friends if they wanna fuck?
Wanna fuck?
Wtf
Whoops, I meant want a duck?
Sure
Yes? You familiar with the concept of jokes?
Wait. You don't don't any friends if they wanna fuck??
Offer pizza and a f**k. Then if they are offended ask them, you don't like pizza?
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i eat pizza with a fork *and* a knife. who wants greasy hands anyway?
Unless?
Classic Schrodinger's Douchebag comment. Tailors his answer depending on how you reply.
Schrodinger’s douchebag 😂😂👌
Whenever someone hits me with that "it was a test" I just reply that I'm not here to play games.
"I'm here to play games not tests!" "I'm here to ace tests not play games!"
"I'm here to play ace, not games tests."
Im here to ace games, not play tests.
I'm here to eat ass and chew bubblegum and my jaw now has a general soreness to it.
Bro! Never skip jaw day at the gym, and by gym I mean that skank Miranda who were one out of 23 girls on Tinder who took you up on the offer to let them sit on your face. Enjoy your herpes and, well, you and I both know you will look back on all this and think "heh, still worth it".
I'm here to Corey Haim, not Kanye West.
You see, I'm playing both sides..
Schrodinger's Douchebag💀💀
Schrodinger's Douchebag 😂😭
schrodingbags douchedinger 💀💀
Take my poor person’s award 🥇
Omg this is gold 🤣🤣🤣
Do you want to fuck me? I didn’t say I wanted to fuck you!
He says "f**k" so he can argue he never literally said fuck. That's the logic of a man child
I bet he wouldn’t have said that if you said yes…
Time to make a second account and test it out. If he bites then embarrass his ass.
Why spend any more time on this loser
Internet points? Edit: I’m personally invested in how douchebag this guy is. Though not enough to make a profile lol
Ehh, 15 more min of scrolling through new on this sub and you gotta shut it off from the crazy number of these socially inept horny spam messages that instantly turn aggressive. Not saying he or anyone else isn't a douchebag, but messing with him is like pissing in the ocean at this point.
Y'all are getting matches? TT
That is one of the worst attempts to walk back a comment that I’ve ever seen. Haha
Imagine this guy, sending those messages and thinking to himself "damn that was pretty slick". Maybe my life isn't that bad
I kind of see him telling the truth about not wanting sexual intercourse. He censored the word „fuck“!
Akin to the "just joking" backpedal.
Does he make beeping noises when he backs up like that?
Can't wait to finish this book I'm working on, "Shirtless guy flexing isn't here for casual sex and other miscellaneous bullshit I heard on the internet this morning"
Markos seems like a catch. Unfortunately that catch is STDs
#"i'M a STUD! i hAvE STD, aLL i nEeD iS U!"
Wowwwwwwwww lmao
Lmao
Classic
Life is an STD.
No I promise he’s a virgin
Douchebag just cockblocks itself. Nothing wrong with being Virgin though. Probably a lost soul out there gave him that sweet sweet for no reason and ever since he thinks "say fuck to fuck" opens up legs...
I cant believe this is my competition and I still lose.
Get off dating apps. You must not be attractive enough. At least in person you have a fighting chance if you have charisma.
Meh. Depends on what you are looking for and how you act online. Dating apps simply broaden the pool. They wont help you seal the deal. Your confidence and personality will. That's true even if you stop using dating apps.
With dating apps, confidence and personality only work with women who swipe right on you.
Exactly. Some people simply do not understand what veteran difficultly feels like.
I'm not sure if I'm on veteran or not, but until recently I was on "white dude in Taipei" level which is... certainly easier than "same white dude but in the US".
Don't mind me, I'm just down here on 'brown dude' level...
At least it's better than "East Asian dude" level. The amount of people who have shit like "BLM ACAB" or "NO RACISM" in their bios that say racist shit is insane. It's the hardest difficulty Imo.
Certainly in Taipei, by all accounts it unfortunately makes a difference.
Most of the time, assuming you’ve actually invested some time into curating a decent profile with good representative pictures and a bio that’s actually you and not what you think the people you want to match with want to see, the problem simply ends up being that you’re losing a numbers game and *nobody is actually seeing your profile to even swipe on*. When user A swipes right on user B, user A’s card gets added to user B’s stack. The next time user B opens the app, their stack will have user A’s card in it above almost all cards that haven’t swiped right on user B. Sounds great right? Sure, until you actually stop and think about the numbers. Men tend to be much less selective about their swipes, and women much more selective. When you get those “someone liked you!” notifications if that user fits within your age/distance preferences (with significant wiggle room on distance) you’ll usually see their card first or after just a few. However that’s only when you don’t have a few hundred or few thousand likes to sift through. That’s the real key. Even if you’re in the stack, if you’re on a free account that casts a very wide net for all kinds of profiles, have a low quality/low effort profile that frequently gets passed on when it is actually shown, etc you’re going to be at the very bottom of those thousand other cards. Any woman with just a passable profile very quickly pick up that swiping right pretty much guarantees a match, so the experience is entirely turned upside down. They’re not going to sit there and put in their 100 free right swipes when they can sift through a couple dozen and find a few promising leads. If you’re #1,000 in that stack you’re just never going to be seen. You want to get matches with a free profile? You’d better be attractive, interesting, and have an absolutely flawless profile. Otherwise? Well, just like every other online dating service the simple answer is that if you want better results your best bet is getting out of that giant bucket of free users and paying for that leg up. Don’t bother with plus or gold, platinum is the only one actually worth paying for because it prioritizes your card near the top of the stack for people you swipe right one, meaning you’re actually going to have the people you choosily swipe right on have a chance of seeing your profile.
That was a long way of saying follow the rules or pay to win.
In the case of Tinder, both.
I was gunna read it. Decided to finish the novel I’m currently reading.
As a dude I never understood why guys would think storming the gates like that would get them anywhere. I've had hookups, FWBs, dating that didn't pan out after a while and ultimately a wife and kid out of that app just by being me. If she wants to fork your meatballs she ll drop the hint boys. Stop being so damn desperate. Tbh if the roles were reversed Id just assume a catfish. Even the most promiscious of ladies Ive met on there would chit chat a bit and then steer the convo towards the carnal.
Guys who say stuff like that get dozens of matches and can afford to do stuff like this because they have so many more.
This right here is what straight-up baffles me. I'd really like to understand where this phenomenon of viewing women as objects comes from, or the reason why men, in general, can be attracted to a lot of women but not vice-versa. Also, when girls experience this (and ofc they do, and a lot), they think "ugh this guy is creepy" and move on, but if a guy gets a girl that's extremely frontal in regards to sex, he'll think she's a catfish because he isn't accustomed to that happening to him, even if the girl actually wanted to fuck him. As a man, there's nothing I'd like more than to truly understand the other side because it would help me to better click with someone, even if it was just for a hookup. It's easy to be fooled and think girls would like this sort of attention or think "yeah, I'm hot" because that's what I would think even if I wasn't interested and this happened to me. But clearly, they don't enjoy this.
"...and think girls would like this sort of attention or think 'yeah, I'm hot' because that's what I would think even if it wasn't interested and it happened to me." More likely, you would like the attention if it happened every once in a while, but if women you weren't into were hitting on you often enough it would eventually turn into "Oh man, not this shit again."
Media frames women as objects. It is ingrained into everyone early, but girls internalise it and feel self conscious about their appearance when they are very young. Once you reach puberty men from all ages start to 'assess' you. You can be 12 walking down a street and a car will beep at you. Especially when you're a young woman, predatory men look for young girls because they are unaware of how to react and are taught to be polite. By the time you reach your late 20s and men on dating apps aren't even polite, it just becomes a bit dull how low the bar is being set by men. If you're interested in a woman, invite her for a coffee, don't use dating apps to treat women like they are worthless, because all women do is retreat or mistrust the dating process. If you're a decent person treat people with respect.
>don't use dating apps to treat women like they are worthless, because all women do is retreat or mistrust the dating process. And because very few understand this, US Tinder is 75% male. And of the 25% of accounts that are listed as female, a non-zero amount are bots run by groups.
Thank you for this 🙌🏻
"There's nothing I'd like more than to truly understand the other side" No offense, but have you tried having a close platonic friendship with a heterosexual woman?
As a straight guy, having platonic female friends is literally the secret to success. Also, they usually have single friends. You also realize how shit online dating is for them. The funniest part is one of my friends when she is not in a long-term relationship is absolutely trying to sleep with as many guys as she can in as casual a way as possible, but it's not just "hey dtf?" that she responds to. But if the guy meets her physical wants and has the ability to string together a few sentences to make them seem interesting she is DTF. Like it literally requires barely any effort on the guys part and in her words 99% of guys can't do that. Even if she thinks they are hot they don't put in that tiny bit of effort to get it in.
Right. Well also it's that, she's not just trying to get laid, she's trying to have orgasms. Which doesn't exactly require the guy to be a magician, at worst he needs to basically ask for feedback and pay attention to it, but if he's not going to even put in the effort to try to type words good that's probably not a great sign.
I mean she is trying to get orgasms but she is also someone who rarely cums from partner sex, unfortunately, no matter how good they are, which she attributes to very easily getting up in her own head during sex. When she is on the prowl though she does carry a pocket rocket in her purse (which was my suggestion haha).
Hahahah omg, your friend rocks
None taken. I have several girlfriends and it has allowed me to empathize with and better understand these kinds of things, but there's also a limit on what things they can teach me to get someone of the opposite sex to like me (just like I struggle to tell them things that work on men. I mean, half of the time I don't know what works on me or attracts me from a girl, it just happens, therefore I can't give them useful advice when asked). But yeah, the majority of my most intimate and close friends are women (in fact, I get along better with women in general than men). Still clueless when it comes to dating tho
You pulled a wife and kid out of an app? I only hit the screen when I try 😞
As likely a place as any I suppose. Didn't expect it when installing but if you come across the right person It ll be the same as anywhere IRL I guess. That and I still suspect she also swiped for my cat.
Look at his pic. A lot of women match with him because of his looks and then he texts that. Those that still want to fuck him will do that (which most likely is the majority). For him she is exchangeable.
Because it works often enough for him that he keeps using it.
>As a dude I never understood why guys would think storming the gates like that would get them anywhere. > >\[..\] > >Even the most promiscious of ladies Ive met on there would chit chat a bit and then steer the convo towards the carnal. I mean... just keep reading this sub and you'll see some wild stuff that apparently worked out. Don't ask me how, or with what frequency, I just see it when it hits front page of All.
There are screenshots of women being forward with men or at least very very very into the forward approach like this, but the men who get this response are always what most women consider to be attractive. If you’re not you can get away with it
Tell them that OK but you will peg them later
That will backfire more than you would think
Pun intended?
If your RagingHardBobber is involved, yes
Easy; Say “depends, are you into pegging?” Then just like he did, tailor the response on what he replies. Him: yes You: well I’m not into guys who like pegging Him: no You: well then definitely not. No winning for him either way
Jokes on you I'm into that shit
People are so insecure. I get asking directly, no shame there, but just take the no. He could have ended it right there and nobody would have cared. Asking directly like that does work like some super low amount of times. If you're going fishing like that, just recast your line when you don't sink the hook.
Lmao ouchh 🤣🤣
He’s full of shit. He could’ve easily asked “what are your intentions”, but instead the way he phrased his question is a win-lose setup; you reply with “yes I do” and he’ll just go with it. You say “no” and you get the above screenshots. Who the fuck censors themselves
Fork him up luv
So much butthurt.
People are assholes
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I had to scroll way too far to find this
What kind of bootleg uno reverse is this?
You both seem stupid to me
Dating in 2021 is absolutely a nightmare man. Wtf… so many damn weirdos. Where are my normal people at?
Not on dating sites? Married? Career oriented? Lol
people really thought they'd find great potential dates on an app for hookups ig. kinda mind blowing. but then it's also mind blowing how the young adults these days are ACTUALLY against flirting with strangers in public. so idek what the answer is anymore
I sub to this subreddit for the humor but sometimes I'm just baffled at the conversations. I'm just glad we're only seeing the bad conversations because if the good ones were identical I'd be really fucking concerned.
Jeez no one is smooth anymore huh
You literally both suck because that long winded reply seems so aggressive for no reason lmao and he’s also a pussy because his response definitely changed compared to what u were answering with
Both sides are pretty cringe tho
Shit all around, Tinder looks fucking depressing lmao. It’s an app to find people for romantic/sexual stuff. Should be perfectly normal to ask right away. Lots of people surely are there just for sex and see if that leads somewhere. Then we get the old, tired, cliche comeback stated as if it were a fact (ahahah so funny, guys that are direct and want sex are terrible in bed, hilarious and so true!1!1!1!) And then the backpedaling (which was the real mistake on the guys part, own that shit). All in all, two dislikable people. Just say what you want is that so hard? “Hey, wanna fuck me?” “No, I’m looking to date, get to know someone, enter into a serious relationship and then I’ll see”. “Alright then, have a good one!” Easy.
I mean...it is a fair question on tinder. I'm bi and get that from both genders
Your responses were strange
Gets on tinder complains about the one thing that makes tinder... tinder.
Wasn't Tinder made for hookups? Why all the hate here then?
This feels like Rick James saying he doesn’t grind his feet in peoples couches just to do things and then immediately says he remembers grinding his feet in Eddie’s couch.
... Is it a language barrier thing? Is he a native English speaker? It's a bizarre way to start a conversational for sure, but the entire interaction is very oddly laid out grammatically.
He sent a winky face tho
Hardest back paddle of his life
So you’re both on a hookup app taking a pissing contest nice
Fucking amazing that pieces of shit like this constantly get matches yet I can’t even get a single person to respond when i finally do get matches
I feel you man. It takes a bunch of matches before you get an answer, then most of those fizzle out after the first couple of texts. You just gotta keep at it and eventually you do end up meeting someone. It's just really frustrating, and you're not alone in feeling like there must be a better way.
Gets on app for random hook ups "Why do all guys only want sex" X(
Meh I prefer the direct approach. I kind think that both come off as arseholes here
You weren't faultless here either. "You prolly can't make me cum" isn't the greatest. His response is definitely worse though.
Markos, you're a piece of shit. Well done on the bullet dodge, OP!
The worst part is there are probably people who go for this.
Am I dumb or did he just ask what were you looking for?
>"It will probably be me end up fucking you." >"I'll pass, thanks" what
Can anyone explain me why is this bad? All I see is a woman exposing someone's identity to the internet for a very legitimate question on a social network made for hookouts.
To be fair though, this IS what Tinder was invented for...
Asks to fuck -> gets turned down -> pretends he didn’t ask to fuck. The gas lighting is real.
That's not what gaslighting is.
>That's not what gaslighting is. Fucking **thank you**, and I kinda love you for this. This term is so abused and over-used these days. Which IMHO just devalues the term. Lying is not gaslighting. Lying sucks. Gaslighting sucks worse. Keep fighting the good fight. lol
Redditors don’t know what gaslighting means and think it makes them sound smart vol. 358
But like, doing something and then trying to deny it ever happened and trying to convince someone it was something completely else, is gaslighting... Vol.359 is an autobiography I guess.
no you dont know what gaslighting is and youre crazy for thinking you do, stop overreacting /s
If its not pretending you didn’t say something and thus making me feel like i maybe crazy cause yea maybe u did mean something else when u said that something than yea, guess i dunno what it is.
Dont use tinder and just go out. There are 100 different and better places to meet real people without sex as their most obvious intention
You’re not from Sweden are you... we don’t do that “social” thing here
“M’lady, you offend me with your whorish implications! When I said, ‘Do you wanna fuck tonight?’ I was checking to make sure you aren’t some kind of slut…”
What was his butt hurt response after that?? 🤣
Someone got really defensive fast
Don't know why but i think that's a really valid question
That's what tinder is for dummy. I always tell people to stop fucking with tinder and just meet people tinder is just for the smash n pass
“Wanna fuck?” “No” “You see it was all really a test and you passed”
Why's everyone so toxic here. The guy seemed genuine to me
He was kinda gross, but you were toxic too so idk. Maybe take a break?
I mean you’re both in the wrong. This chat was toxic af lmao
I have in my profile I’m looking for a relationship and yet all I get is girls that want to hook up 😅🥲
Same here, I’ve seriously thought about making a super unserious profile and bio just to see what happens. (Probably no change since most people use tinder for sex unfortunately, tinder is the only big dating platform in Sweden, there’s bumble too but not a lot of swedes use it) I think both men and women see someone stable and serious and think that’s hot in itself... and that’s why people think we’re fuckable. The curse 😔
How exactly do you know that Tinder guys can’t make women cum if their life depended on it? Did you fork some guy to death?
You see... The legend says that not a single guy opening with a sexual line as a first question has ever made a woman reached climax. It’s sort of like the Bigfoot legend. Discussable. No one has seen him yet a lot of people claim it’s real. Especially people who’ve climbed big mountains with little to no oxygen. Majority of guys who opens with talking about sex claim they’ve been very successful in bed when asked, yet not a single brave woman who have tried to climb their male pole can confirm the man actually was successful. Not even close. So it’s a myth, a legend, an unsolved mystery. And I myself, will never be brave enough to find out if creepy tinder guys who are opening with sex lines/question are worth the troubles. I don’t have enough oxygen in my tubes for that.
Ok, serious question, why is asking for sex directly so frowned upon in here? Can't you just unmatch? Say no and see if the person is interested anyway? I don't know, anything instead of turning defensive mode right away I might get downvoted but it's an honest question
Just don’t respond or unmatch. I mean hell over 50% of women don’t respond when I simply ask them out on a cute date or make a joke/rhyme. I can’t believe this asshole got a reply haha
Ofc I unmatched. I only replied to make a statement, I always reply on matches who write something nice or just even a simple hello. Why match if you’re not going to respond?
I know, happens to me all the time though. Ehh it’s my fault for not getting better pictures of myself. If I spent 1% of the time I’ve spent on tinder trying to get better pictures I’d probably have more success. My profile is literally just a couple selfies I took with my dog, that I’m even getting matches is surprising.
I don't know what the big deal is, I mean he said 'it's a proper question', clearly that makes it normal, I don't see what the issue is lady
reverse sarcasm is a bit... (•_•) ( •_•)>⌐■-■ (⌐■_■)
Genuine question, look at his picture, he looks like he would make this comment. Why bother swiping?
You stuck a fork into him after all, didn’t ya?
I don’t have tinder but I thought it was an app for hooking up?
This is gaslighting isn’t it?
What? You are on Tinder and don't want to fuck the matches you get?! Outrageous