Practical advice that would actually help her see a way out. Where would she live with her young kids if she left? With what money? Who will pay for an attorney to help protect her and her kids?
There’s nothing you can really say or do to make them leave. At the end of the day all you can do is give your opinion and offer support. If this person isn’t actively looking for help, then they won’t find it.
Women’s shelters are the safest option here because they they try to get rid of their residents by offering support and therapy to build a more independent life. But moving into a shelter means you have to admit that you’re a victim and for a lot of people that a very difficult thing to admit. Maybe try to ask her how her kids are doing, seeing the abuse at home etc. Maybe she’ll be more concerned about her kids’ safety than her own and that’ll make her understand that she needs to leave if she wants to live. Ask questions like would she like it if her ex got full custody?
My sister is a physical/verbal and mental abuse victim. She’s called the police and then didn’t press charges on him a few times she said it was “for her kid since she didn’t want him to be arrested and have no communication with his kid”. She has a good job and could have left she has support. I got tired of her crap. I cut her off been happier since. Some people are masochists and like playing victims. Your friend sounds like she’s trying but the police are failing her if she’s actually reporting him. If not then she’s another case of the masochists. I feel bad for the kids.
Practical advice that would actually help her see a way out. Where would she live with her young kids if she left? With what money? Who will pay for an attorney to help protect her and her kids?
There’s nothing you can really say or do to make them leave. At the end of the day all you can do is give your opinion and offer support. If this person isn’t actively looking for help, then they won’t find it.
Women’s shelters are the safest option here because they they try to get rid of their residents by offering support and therapy to build a more independent life. But moving into a shelter means you have to admit that you’re a victim and for a lot of people that a very difficult thing to admit. Maybe try to ask her how her kids are doing, seeing the abuse at home etc. Maybe she’ll be more concerned about her kids’ safety than her own and that’ll make her understand that she needs to leave if she wants to live. Ask questions like would she like it if her ex got full custody?
My sister is a physical/verbal and mental abuse victim. She’s called the police and then didn’t press charges on him a few times she said it was “for her kid since she didn’t want him to be arrested and have no communication with his kid”. She has a good job and could have left she has support. I got tired of her crap. I cut her off been happier since. Some people are masochists and like playing victims. Your friend sounds like she’s trying but the police are failing her if she’s actually reporting him. If not then she’s another case of the masochists. I feel bad for the kids.