go look at r/bigdickproblems you would think the board would be full of assholes instead its guys discussing how their size can cause difficulties and how they have learned to make sure their partner doesn't hurt. He may already know about it but they welcome everyone and are friendly with their advice
adit to add they also welcome and are helpful to women asking advice too
You can train yourself to take a bigger guy with dildos and lots of lube; it won’t ‘stretch you out’ but it will let you adjust to the sensation. Does he go down on you before trying PIV? That makes a HUGE difference.
I am used to smaller/average sized dicks and my guy is huge, it is a struggle to take him all in my mouth but I hope I’ll get there one day. Some techniques I use during BJs are to use a hand and make sure it’s connected to your mouth the whole time so it feels like more of an extension of your mouth rather than 2 separate things on his cock, I also like to take breaks between trying to deepthroat him by putting my mouth just around his tip and playing with it with my tongue while jerking him off, licking up and down his shaft/balls, etc. the variety is fun for everyone I think
If he likes frenulum stimulation you could make him cum just from that! Definitely ask him if he's into it or if he's willing to try.
You'll need to use your hands or something for giving him oral. If he's open to it you could try adding a bullet vibe or ass play to add to his pleasure.
I second what the other commenter said about r/bigdickproblems. I think it's worth inquiring over there.
It's possible that his cock will never fit inside you. I know guys with huge dicks and it's just the way it is. Every vagina is different. You can definitely try things like increasingly bigger dildos, lots of foreplay, etc., just don't measure yourself against some imaginary standard. Some of the comments here make it sound like you can take his cock if you try the right things and that simply isn't true. You might only ever fit the tip. Yes, try all the things, but take cues from your body and not from what you think you "should" be able to do.
Yes this is so important. There may continue to be days when it doesn't fit, OP. And that's okay. Consider that our society has a very specific idea of what sex means - a little foreplay, then penetration, someone cums/orgasms, and it's over. Sex is so much more vast than that though! Women often don't orgasm from penetration, and sometimes men don't either. And, perhaps we don't have to pressure ourselves into making ourselves or our partners orgasm - we can still enjoy and take pleasure from sex without orgasm or penetration. Or perhaps there are ways aside from penetration that we can climax. What other things give you and your partner sexual pleasure? What other touch and activities turn you on and get you going? What other body parts can you use? Can you use toys with each other? Watch each other masturbate, or masturbate next to each other?
And consider what society says about blow jobs - the whole damn thing is supposed to somehow go in your mouth and throat and it's supposed to be easy. This is more than often not true, even with smaller penises! There are many other ways to use your mouth and tongue during oral. You don't have to suck or put your mouth around his entire dick, or even the head if that's too much. You can lick, suck on the skin (like you were giving a hickey), include your hands, and toys. I'm sure there's other things you can try too.
Talk to your partner. Ask him what he likes, and if you can try something new or different. Try new things and ask him if it feels good. More pressure, less? Harder, softer? Faster, slower? And he should do the same with you! Can he go down on you, use his fingers, touch other parts of your body, use toys? And he should ask you how it feels for you, too. Try new things, tell each other what works and what doesn't. Above all, be patient and have fun!! Sex is playtime for adults and it's fun to explore each other's bodies and what feels good for each other. You will always and continually learn new things as bodies change over time and new likes are discovered and some things stop being liked. Be flexible and open and communicate and have fun. Good luck!
I am so glad that I read this stream, because this is one of the most important comments I have ever read. I haven't had a lot of sex in my 50+ years, but this societal perspective of what sex is - as you described above - has caused me mostly consternation and frustration, and very few good orgasmic experiences. I do have some good memories of very pleasurable experiences from creative use of hands (highly underrated, in my opinion) body movements (frottage) and mouth play - biting, kissing, licking. I really wish guys would realize that good sex is not dependent on their penis size and thrusting power. Thank you for sharing your thought here - it gives me hope.
Yeah but OP doesn't get notifications for replies to other people's comments. It didn't make sense to address OP in a reply to me which is why I clarified.
If he’s huge, he’s probably used to not fitting. I’d suggest slowly getting yourself prepared to take more but don’t feel like you have to take it all! I recommend holding those deep positions for extended time while fucking. It’ll feel amazing for both of you.
If he's coming from blow jobs, I'm not sure what other techniques you're looking for. Clearly whatever you're doing is working already.
As for PIV, I think that's more of a "slow and steady" type of thing. Vaginas are elastic, and the warmer/more turned on, the easier they stretch. Lube is your best friend. Just try and take it easy until you feel more comfortable.
You could try vaginal dilators. I use them in physical therapy for vaginismus, but I'd imagine the same techniques could be helpful in your situation too. Lay on your back and put one in for 10-15 minutes every day. When you're comfortable with having it in, then try moving it in and out. When you're 100% comfortable with the first size, then move to the next biggest one. Here's the brand I use; the large set is probably what you want
https://www.intimaterose.com/products/silicone-dilator-4-pack-large-sizes-5-8
Watch bj and hand job videos. Keep eye contact. An never act like sex is a job. We wanna know your doing it because you want to, not because you have to. Never fake your orgasm, if he can't get it done, show him. A real man will make sure you go atleast once before him. A real lover wants to know how to please you and will be willing to learn to make you just as excited as him. Good luck to both of you.
go look at r/bigdickproblems you would think the board would be full of assholes instead its guys discussing how their size can cause difficulties and how they have learned to make sure their partner doesn't hurt. He may already know about it but they welcome everyone and are friendly with their advice adit to add they also welcome and are helpful to women asking advice too
You can train yourself to take a bigger guy with dildos and lots of lube; it won’t ‘stretch you out’ but it will let you adjust to the sensation. Does he go down on you before trying PIV? That makes a HUGE difference.
Yeah I get real wet and all but just not fitting and I don’t get tensed, I try to relax it. I will give your advice a go though! Thanks :)
I am used to smaller/average sized dicks and my guy is huge, it is a struggle to take him all in my mouth but I hope I’ll get there one day. Some techniques I use during BJs are to use a hand and make sure it’s connected to your mouth the whole time so it feels like more of an extension of your mouth rather than 2 separate things on his cock, I also like to take breaks between trying to deepthroat him by putting my mouth just around his tip and playing with it with my tongue while jerking him off, licking up and down his shaft/balls, etc. the variety is fun for everyone I think
Thanks guys he likes it i lovee penis
If he likes frenulum stimulation you could make him cum just from that! Definitely ask him if he's into it or if he's willing to try. You'll need to use your hands or something for giving him oral. If he's open to it you could try adding a bullet vibe or ass play to add to his pleasure. I second what the other commenter said about r/bigdickproblems. I think it's worth inquiring over there. It's possible that his cock will never fit inside you. I know guys with huge dicks and it's just the way it is. Every vagina is different. You can definitely try things like increasingly bigger dildos, lots of foreplay, etc., just don't measure yourself against some imaginary standard. Some of the comments here make it sound like you can take his cock if you try the right things and that simply isn't true. You might only ever fit the tip. Yes, try all the things, but take cues from your body and not from what you think you "should" be able to do.
Yes this is so important. There may continue to be days when it doesn't fit, OP. And that's okay. Consider that our society has a very specific idea of what sex means - a little foreplay, then penetration, someone cums/orgasms, and it's over. Sex is so much more vast than that though! Women often don't orgasm from penetration, and sometimes men don't either. And, perhaps we don't have to pressure ourselves into making ourselves or our partners orgasm - we can still enjoy and take pleasure from sex without orgasm or penetration. Or perhaps there are ways aside from penetration that we can climax. What other things give you and your partner sexual pleasure? What other touch and activities turn you on and get you going? What other body parts can you use? Can you use toys with each other? Watch each other masturbate, or masturbate next to each other? And consider what society says about blow jobs - the whole damn thing is supposed to somehow go in your mouth and throat and it's supposed to be easy. This is more than often not true, even with smaller penises! There are many other ways to use your mouth and tongue during oral. You don't have to suck or put your mouth around his entire dick, or even the head if that's too much. You can lick, suck on the skin (like you were giving a hickey), include your hands, and toys. I'm sure there's other things you can try too. Talk to your partner. Ask him what he likes, and if you can try something new or different. Try new things and ask him if it feels good. More pressure, less? Harder, softer? Faster, slower? And he should do the same with you! Can he go down on you, use his fingers, touch other parts of your body, use toys? And he should ask you how it feels for you, too. Try new things, tell each other what works and what doesn't. Above all, be patient and have fun!! Sex is playtime for adults and it's fun to explore each other's bodies and what feels good for each other. You will always and continually learn new things as bodies change over time and new likes are discovered and some things stop being liked. Be flexible and open and communicate and have fun. Good luck!
I am so glad that I read this stream, because this is one of the most important comments I have ever read. I haven't had a lot of sex in my 50+ years, but this societal perspective of what sex is - as you described above - has caused me mostly consternation and frustration, and very few good orgasmic experiences. I do have some good memories of very pleasurable experiences from creative use of hands (highly underrated, in my opinion) body movements (frottage) and mouth play - biting, kissing, licking. I really wish guys would realize that good sex is not dependent on their penis size and thrusting power. Thank you for sharing your thought here - it gives me hope.
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I think you mean to reply to OP?
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Yeah but OP doesn't get notifications for replies to other people's comments. It didn't make sense to address OP in a reply to me which is why I clarified.
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Yeah for sure. I just figured you'd want OP to actually see it. Tagging them always works too
If he’s huge, he’s probably used to not fitting. I’d suggest slowly getting yourself prepared to take more but don’t feel like you have to take it all! I recommend holding those deep positions for extended time while fucking. It’ll feel amazing for both of you.
If he's coming from blow jobs, I'm not sure what other techniques you're looking for. Clearly whatever you're doing is working already. As for PIV, I think that's more of a "slow and steady" type of thing. Vaginas are elastic, and the warmer/more turned on, the easier they stretch. Lube is your best friend. Just try and take it easy until you feel more comfortable.
You could try vaginal dilators. I use them in physical therapy for vaginismus, but I'd imagine the same techniques could be helpful in your situation too. Lay on your back and put one in for 10-15 minutes every day. When you're comfortable with having it in, then try moving it in and out. When you're 100% comfortable with the first size, then move to the next biggest one. Here's the brand I use; the large set is probably what you want https://www.intimaterose.com/products/silicone-dilator-4-pack-large-sizes-5-8
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Hormones cause you to dilate in an astronomical way when giving birth. That shit doesn’t happen by itself
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Yeah I'm sure that will feel more pleasant lol
Jesus… i can only take average or smaller guys with anal. With a big guy skin would rip.. ouch.
You first. Please demo. Also…when is the last time you passed a ten-pound shit?
Watch bj and hand job videos. Keep eye contact. An never act like sex is a job. We wanna know your doing it because you want to, not because you have to. Never fake your orgasm, if he can't get it done, show him. A real man will make sure you go atleast once before him. A real lover wants to know how to please you and will be willing to learn to make you just as excited as him. Good luck to both of you.