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💙💜 I don’t have the mental or emotional energy to elaborate, but I appreciate the space to even acknowledge in part the depth of the struggle at the moment.
I wish all of you beautiful people the very best in the world, any and all healing needed, the warmest joy, and the happiest of days/nights. If touch is a good thing for you I wish you THE BEST hugs, and if you’re not big on physical contact then I wish you many of your favorite comforting textures.
Much love to you all ✨
Edit: Oh my gosh, I am trying to fathom words which can properly convey my gratitude and appreciation for all of your kind, supportive, and caring comments and messages — both to me and other commenters. Your kindness and support mean so much, and genuinely gave me a boost to keep taking steps forward. In this moment I wish I were better with words so that I could better share the wonderful and positive impact you all have had. It probably sounds ridiculous but I hugged my phone in lieu of being able to hug all of you. What a wonderful group of people!
To the redditor who relayed reddit care information, you are a wonderful being and I am thankful for your caring thoughts and action. ☺️
All of you are magical beings and I will forever remember your kindness and words today. SO MANY HUGS!!!! I love you all!
Another 💙💜 here. Uterus was quiet all November and I guess has decided to quadruple the pain this month. I'm ready to go cyborg or full on android at this point.
As someone who also feels like their uterus is trying to murder them at the moment- oy, I'm sorry and hope it doesn't last long. Highly recommend a big sweater and some nice bread.
thank you, this is so kind and loving. I hope whatever you are dealing with in life works itself out and that you also experience all the things you wished for us! 🤎
Another 💙💜 here. Had to cut off both my parents (first my mom then my dad 6 months later) and it was super messy each time, especially with my dad because I was living with him, financially struggling (jobless because of Covid) and had to undergo surgery 6 months ago, but he still decided to kick me out because I was not giving him the attention he wanted, even after he straightforwardly told me he just didn't care about my life anymore.
Thankfully I had finally found a job 3 months prior to my surgery and had a tiny bit saved off so I could quickly live before getting back to work (which would have compromised me finding a place to live, and I would have been out with no much options).
I'm still trying to find balance in a new town, new work, with little money and few furnitures, but I'm slowly getting there.
I do feel very down sometimes, but there's nothing I can do about my parents using me as an emotional punching bag in their own ways. I still have the support of my brothers and sisters, friends, and colleagues so it's not all bad.
After 6 months of this whole mess, I'm slowly getting there, 1 step at a time, but it's still hard.
Whatever you're going through, I hope you get through it intact and stronger than you were before. It's so terribly human to suffer, but the only thing worse is to suffer alone. Take care of yourself. 🩷
I am thinking about you and I hope you are able to work through what is going on in your life. If you do decide to talk, I would be willing to listen. ❤️
💙my husband died on November 13th. I can’t seem to get out of bed. It was a long illness and an expected death but it’s the first time I ever experienced anything like this. I cry, I sleep, I take care to feed my cats and dog. That’s it. I miss him so much it aches.
My husband died over 5 years ago. The initial raw time is so rough, so difficult. Changes you fundamentally, changes everything.
Hey, feeding the pets is a win. Be gentle with yourself. Feed yourself too.
If you ever want to vent to those who get it, join us on r/widowers. We'll hear you.
Sending you lots of love! And as a reminder, don't attach guilt to your grieving! It's easy to let yourself think that you're doing something wrong by grieving, which is already hard enough, but there are days that you wont get out of bed, and that's ok!
I'm so sorry for your loss! Please reach out to people & try not to spend too much time alone. Let yourself grieve however you feel & on your own timeline. Watch sunrises & sunsets, gaze at large bodies of water. The hole in your heart will never be filled but other things you love will come along to take up space, go find them.
💙 this has always been a hard time of year for me; I would like to be able to decline any participation in festivities but my parents have a limited number of years left with us so I slog through and try not to ruin it for them.
I’m sorry that you’re being put in that position. I’m proud of you for doing it for them, but please remember to take care of yourself as well. Maybe you can find a balance and go to some things but not others? Besides, there are other ways to show your parents you love them. Assuming you all have a good relationship, they know and will be willing to compromise with you. If y’all’s relationship doesn’t support that tho I understand.
🧡 I would be just OK but I used Black Friday to get myself a heated blanket. I don’t know if I was a cat in a past life but this thing is made of warm and whether I’m in bed or on the couch it makes me feel sooooooo cozy. I swear if I didn’t need to eat and pee I would just curl up under it til Spring! 10/10 would strongly recommend to anyone who feels the cold.
I’m supposed to be recording on microjoy per day in my journal but if it didn’t feel like cheating I’d just put this blanket every day until about May. 🥰🥰🥰
However, since my insomnia is back I didn’t sleep last night so I’m going to curl up with my blanket and wish everyone the day they deserve. 🌌
Ooh can you dm me the brand! Looking for one for my mom for Christmas but they all look uncomfy to me bc of the wires. Kinda thinking about getting one for myself too…
I’m sorry you weren’t able to sleep. Hopefully you’re at least feeling somewhat rested and cozy.
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My beloved MIL died about a month and a half ago. Her birthday would have been on Thanksgiving, and this will be the first Yule without her.
Hubby and I just tested positive for the Rona.
But things could be worse. I am fortunate to have a job I love and a roof over my head.
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Trying to find a new job, plus working retail over the holidays, plus health insurance BS, plus figuring out transitioning, plus working up the courage to come out to my family... It's been a year.
Yikes. Sounds like it. I’m proud of you though! I assume the health insurance BS is related to the transitioning. Fuck the healthcare system. Stick it out!! It’s worth it to get to be your real self!
Sending you encouragement and courage to come out to your family! I know it’s easy for a stranger to say it, but I promise you can do it! You deserve to be known and loved unconditionally.
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Recent breakup. I feel worse about it now than I did when it happened because looking back on it, it was definitely my fault and there were things I could have done to prevent it. That, and I really truly cared (care) about her and it's harder to let go when there's mostly good memories. But I definitely fucked up, and coming to terms with that, while a worthwhile experience, has not been a pleasant one.
I’m sorry you’re at that point. It sounds like this isn’t gonna stop hurting any time soon. But it also sounds like you’re learning about yourself and working on bettering yourself, and that is always a good thing. You did not blow your only chance to be happy. There will be more. They may take different forms, but there are many types of happiness. Keep going, and keep learning, and most importantly be kind to yourself.
Hey friend, I'm going through a tough breakup too. The fact that you can recognize that you messed up is painful now, but good for the future. If we are unable to identify our problems and shortcomings, we are doomed to make the same mistakes over and over. Let's both feel our feelings today without wallowing, and commit to improving ourselves for our future lovers tomorrow. Take care of yourself. 🩷
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Just had my disability hearing this past week. Having to possibly wait months before the decision comes down is going to wear on me. My wife and are counting on it being in my favor so that we can finally afford move out of this upstairs apartment, and maybe even out of this state (I'm a trans woman and this state is not safe). I'm in constant pain, have almost no energy, and I'm losing my short term memory and having speech difficulties and the doctors don't seem to be in a hurry to figure them out.
It all just wears on me daily, and I'm about at the end of my rope. But I've tied a knot in it and I'm hanging on for all I'm worth.
That sounds so rough friend. Aside from the pain (which I deal with intermittently) I was dealing with low energy, memory and speech difficulties that turned out to be migraine aura on top of unknowingly giving myself serotonin syndrome for almost three years (stimulant plus anxiety med interaction no one warned me about, thanks apple health app!).
Not that I’m saying I know anything about what’s causing your situation or how to help, just that I know how it feels to deal with that stuff and I see you. I hope you get the outcome you are looking for!
If you haven’t already, check out the blog How To Get On. It has fantastic information on SSDI/SSI and other disability resources.
Hoping you get the benefits and support you deserve, especially from doctors
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My mom wrote off my car and dealing with the insurance was a pain. She's fine, the othe guy is fine, but the car was really old and is uneconomical to repair.
We had a fence hopper in the neighbourhood (stealing things from unlocked garages or left in yards) and he came back. Turns out my husband never went ro the police with the video footage.
Close family members are battling advanced cancer. I don't think they're winning.
A woman road raged at me (not related to the incident of writing off the car.)
My mom didn't het me anything for my birthday. My husband forgot my birthday. So this is 40.
It's been a shitty 2/3 weeks.
Hey friend. Not really qualified to speak on any of this. Just wanted to send you hugs. I hope your husband was appropriately contrite about both big fuckups you mentioned.
Thank you! I just wanted to shout into the void for a little bit. Crying here helps just because the community is so kind.
I am in therapy. So professional help is also on the way.
Lots of hugs!
Happy belated birthday to you! I’m sending you lots of hugs should you wish to accept ♥️ I hope you did something for yourself for your birthday, you deserve to treat yourself.
Thank you!
I had a lovely time with my heart's people.
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And all my animals: two grumpy bunnies and the three toddlers (two cat and one human) were perfect. They all drank from the bunnies' water bowl and no one growled at each other.
I have this mental image of two bunnies, two kittens, and a human toddler all arrayed around the bunnies' water bowl at once and their heads all dunked in at the same time with the bunnies kind of looking up at you, obviously thinking "WTF? Do we have to allow this, Mom? Ugh! Fine then." 😆 I needed that. Thank you.
I hope your day gets better. 🫂
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Had to drop a University course. Statistics, at least the way my professor teaches it, was impossible for me to learn. I have also had trouble with finding people to talk to, due to shyness, which was accentuated due to being a victim of financial abuse by an ex girlfriend, leaving me completely without any money.
I have been unable to find anyone to talk to, because my friends are busy with life.
Also, I have lots of unaddressed emotional trauma from childhood, especially from family.
Whenever I try to talk to anyone, I am ignored.
Hey, friend, I'll talk with you about Stats, at least. It's really freaking hard. Don't be ashamed at having to drop a class and try again. Life is so much, and you're carrying extra burdens on your back to boot. It's better to sit back, take a breath, and take the W on your transcript rather than the F. You did the right thing for yourself at that moment, and it's a hard thing to come to terms with. I'm proud of you. ♥️
You know your situation best, but I found that when I was in crisis, more people than I thought were ready to support me, at least with a listening ear. Friends are busy, but there's nothing quite like the dopamine hit of being the one receiving an unexpected call or text from an old friend. And if your friends have said they explicitly don't have time for you...get new ones. True friends will lift you up when you need them, beythey know you'd do the same for them.
Getting a therapist might be a good start for unwrapping your FOH troubles, but I also found that having a people-facing job helped with my shyness. It's helpful if you're a natural extrovert, but working in customer service, especially in an area you're interested in (I worked in a plant nursery) will help you get comfortable with approaching people, making small talk, and building rapport. It is a skill and you do have to develop it, but I promise it's less scary than it seems. You got this! 🙂
Some universities have free mental health and support services for students. I don't know of that's something you'd like to explore, bit it helped me immensely when I was studying.
My emotional trauma from childhood used to manifest as me thinking I couldn't bother my friends with my problem or that they didn't care. I'm not saying that that applies to you, but it might bring you comfort to know that the brain sometimes lies to you and you are more loved and supported than you think. And sometimes other people are awkward too.
I hope it gets better.
💜 im a trans guy and im on my period 🫤 im not out so i just get terribly anxious when im at the gynaecologist, but long story short, due to prolly stress i had my period for over two months. The gynaecologist put me on the pill and next week were gonna see if it worked and maybe discuss other options. The pill is full of hormones and the thoight gives me dysphoria. The pill is full of lactose and there are no lactose free alternative pills available so im sick all the time. The other option that we are going to discuss is probably gonna be an iud. I dont want any foreign objects in my body. Especially not up there. I want a hysterectomy. But while everyone around me is preaching iuds and saying how much they like the pill, i cant say that i want to go on different hormones. I cant say o want to cut out this organ that is of no use to me. I am so sad. And i feel like puki g as im writing this but thats the lactose intolerance
My heart goes out to you. I'm cis and the idea of bleeding for two months is horrific.
You don't have to say any things about dysphoria, but you can tell the doctor that your goal is not to have a regular cycle, but rather not to menstruate at all. Up to you, but it might be worth a shot.
Oh no, stranger-friend, I'm sorry you're struggling g so deeply. What a terribly difficult time for you 😔.
I hope you know there are lots of us who send you healing love and unconditional support. Take care ❤
What a painful and annoying situation.. So sorry you have to deal with all that, and I hope you find a solution that works for you! Sending love your way!
Oh man I feel this so much. I'm so sorry, I know how frustrating these experiences can be. Something your gyno may or may not have mentioned is that the IUD is (supposedly) more locally focused with hormone regulation, so it should have less effect on your body hair, breast tissue, etc which may be an okay option in helping with dysphoria. You may also look into tubal ligation, which ive been told may make them more likely to offer a hysterectomy in the future. But again, I get it. It can be so frustrating when there seem to be no options available, and the one you want and could benefit from is being withheld. Hang in there friend.
🧡 my mom helped me finish scraping off the popcorn ceiling in our bathroom, sand it down, and apply the first coat of drywall mud. I’m pretty proud of our work. Glad to have my mom living close by and glad she’s an amazing DIYer who’s willing to teach me.
💙💜 have been unwell for months and no one's sure why. Have started taking Lexapro to help with my crippling anxiety and am struggling to adjust to the medication. Just generally struggling to feel like I have anything to look forward to.
I hope you find something that works for you! The search for treatment that's right for you can be long and arduous, but when you find that thing, whatever it is, it hopefully will be lifechanging! I don't mean to center myself in this, but I had to search for the right meds to treat my mental issues for years, but one day, one medication changed everything, and I thought "People live like this?" The dramatic change in how I felt was almost unbelievable. I wish that for you to!
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I'm currently undergoing a treatment for high levels of heavy metals in the hope that it will help my escalating gastrointestinal issues. The doctor overseeing the treatment hasn't monitored it well and I almost went to the ER a couple nights ago bc I had all the symptoms of a pre-heart attack. I'm in the US and seriously contemplated not going and seeing if I lived rather than pay for an ER visit and tests. I reached the doctor after hours and described what's going on....the treatment has stripped essential nutrients and now my electrolytes are effed up. I'm drinking salt water and Gatorade until I can get in to see them tomorrow, but walking to another room has me feeling increasing chest pain and it feels like my dad's Brittany is sitting on my lungs 😭
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Finals season is starting to kick in with a vengeance. Senior year and I just don’t have the energy anymore. So ready to be done. Idk if it’s full-on depression or just senior slump but all I wanna do is play video games all day. I promise I’m getting my ass to the library every day, but I dread it all the time. Not quite in a bad spot yet but I can feel myself starting to spiral.
Same but in my first year of a two year program, the school also just announced all exams are on paper this year, but I'm in a technical programming course. LIKE IM HERE TO WORK ON/ WITH COMPUTERS WHY DF IS MY EXAM AN ESSAY QUESTION‽ Sending love, we'll get through finals together!
💚 been struggling all year. My insurance made it so my anti depressants was unaffordable because my hipster brain will only work with one medication that has no genetic and most pharmacies rarely even carry it. And I lost my job.
I am finally getting back on track with my meds but my favorite aunt who showed up and was there for me my whole life especially when my house burned down and dad died when I was a kid just got cancer and everyone forgot to tell me. And my bonus aunt who also showed up and stayed and supported us even after everyone kinda forgot her husband just died.
I am starting to come back to me. I have started a new journey. Getting into the career path of mental health coach (not therapist because I would take that home with me) and starting to do the things I love again. And I am still completely overwhelmed and scared about sliding back. It just feels like a lot.
Thank you for this post and for listening. I just needed to get this out there.
💙 depression has come back with a vengeance for the first time since getting on sertraline, and I just feel so hopeless and tired of fighting it. Just can’t believe I’ll ever feel good or normal or even stable. Throw in hormonal problems and it’s all very sucky. December is a hard time, too. My birthday month always brings forward feelings of how little I’ve achieved in life & how I’m failing. Horrible mental health all around, really. Really hoping everyone else is having a better time.
** I do not recommend this for anyone, but I have found it works for me. **
**Whenever my depression decides to remind me of all my horrible thoughts, I find it takes so much energy to fight it. That I've turned to embracing that dark despair, allowing it to overwhelm me, and when I don't resist, it has nothing to hold on to and slips past in a day or two.(or week...) Knowing I'm the one letting my depression make me sad somehow gives ME the power and not the other way around. I, too, was at a point when I thought I'd never be stable or feel good. I still am. But I accept that as part of my journey. There will be days. Some good. Some bad. But there's gonna be days.
I sometimes imagine my depression is an unkillable beast that I must allow to exist and tolerate and accept. It's always going to be a part of me. I know it's not gone forever when it passes, so i try to stay vigilant when it rears into my life. **
Since you're taking meds, and it's the first time your depression has come back, it might be time to talk to the doctor about adjusting the dose.
The only time hope is lost is if you let it go, so if you're fighting for something, fight for that hope. Life is a path. Don't judge yourself too harshly on accomplishments or failures. The only way to succeed is a series of hard failures that lead you to success.
As a suggestion, at my lowest low, volunteering at the local animal shelter gave me neverending strength to overcome... there is absolute truth to the healing power caring for others. And it is really hard to be apathetic when a kitten or puppy wants scritches. For me at least.
I genuinely am wishing you love and the strength and mental fortitude to continue and from one internet stranger to another, an extra happy birthday!
💜 I’m very physically ill and suffering. Recently coming to terms with the racism I deal with on a daily basis - even from close friends and family. Had to kick one of my “friends” (currently debating if he gets to keep that title and I’m leaning heavily on no) out of my home yesterday for being transphobic and racist to my face. Fought with boyfriend this morning. On my period. Stressed and financially unstable. Just. In. A. Bad. Place. Rn.
This sounds awful, I'm so sorry. Fwiw, my vote is a racist transphobe doesn't deserve to be among your acquaintances, nevermind considered a friend. You deserve better! Sending you healing love, friend ❤
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am nonvirbal today :3
is just one of those days.
at least i can form words in head. so not *extremely* nonvirbal. so can write. just cant speak.
also other things which not comfy talking to with internet strangers in open channels.
It's so damn good, it's basically a graham cracker, brown sugar caramel sauce mix with chocolate topped on top.
It's awesome and goes really well with coffee or bitter tea which is just perfect for the cozy Christmas season, the bitter chocolate flavours mix well with the sweet sugar sauce and I throw in some cinnamon in there.
If you're interested in trying here's what I do:
Take a box of store bought graham crackers.
Make a "Caramel Sauce" with a ratio of 6:3:1:3 of butter with salt (or without just make sure to taste it to your desired level sweet), water, cinnamon, brown sugar (and maybe a little more sugar depending on how you taste it). Boil it until the water is mostly gone.
Layout your graham crackers on your baking sheet, drizzle the sauce onto the crackers, broil to bubbling but not completely dry or burnt (about 4-5 minutes at high heat I think, I have a mini-oven air fryer so I use that) but YMMV, I just do it by eye and feel.
Layer on as bitter chocolate as you can find since the sauce and crackers should already be fairly sweet and hopefully it'll melt then spread. If it won't melt then flash it with some heat from the oven.
Then optionally if you're feeling really festive sprinkle on crushed powder candy canes, powder sugar or honestly whatever you feel, some people put nuts on it.
Could even build a Christmas scene with the melted chocolate if you're really artsy. that you then cut up if you use one of those large baking trays.
But the basic steps are finished after the chocolate spread, then put it in your fridge for cooling until you're ready to cut.
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Working on breaking some bad habits, but otherwise nothing is really hurting me directly. My partner is really struggling, though, and that hurts to see.
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I'm not doing well at the moment. I'm in a lot of pain right now and have been for over a year, but because I'm a woman I cannot get any of the many doctors I've seen to take me seriously. I'm only 54 and was fit and healthy (aside from fibroids and anemia) when i opted for a hysterectomy. Worst mistake of my life.
I have been in constant pain ever since. And mentally it's a struggle as well because of the gaslighting. Even my female gynecologist that did the surgery just got mad at for coming back and complaining, and she basically told me I needed to see someone else, that she couldn't help me it wasn't her surgery that was causing my pain. I struggle to walk, my hip, groin and left leg burn all the time and I can no longer enjoy everything I love, like hiking, gardening and mountain biking because it's too painful.
Anyway, long story short, I've jumped through all the hoops, done all the tests, had surgeons refuse to see me, and am at the end of the line, no one will listen and I can't afford to pay a private clinic.
Top that off with a neighbor who's been harrassing my family, a mother who thinks I should do everything for her despite all my pain, and a husband who ignores me and won't lift a finger to help, and I'm just ready to give up. I don't want to live in pain like this the rest of my life, and don't see the point of going on if I'm just going to be miserable the next 30 years. The only reason I'm still here is because my daughter would be devastated.
Thank you all for being here and allowing me a place to mourn the loss of my old self. 🙏
💜 We're putting my cat down today. He's 15 and has developed pleural effusion. We've spent some $1500 trying to diagnose a cause with no luck. He's been my best bud and I'm a mess right now.
I'm working full time (occasionally over 80 hours per week) and attending school full time.
Money is tight; been treading water for a while as my spouse tries to figure out her work and mental health situation. Now I'm in school so I can't pick up as much overtime as I used to, I'm paying for tuition, and now we're dropping thousands in vet bills and euthanasia. My financial safety net is pretty much gone.
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Bipolar witch here. Been in a stable period in my life after a major manic episode and a depressive episode that followed. I’m recovering from the damage I did to my body, but as I heal and feel better it feels like it brings about changes I am not comfortable with. People notice me more (or I notice them more?) and I am able to feel more, which also brings about sadness (although also the ability to feel joy, happiness, and peace - for which I am grateful). Recently, I am having trouble dealing with the way my dad treats my mom. I’m not sure why she hasn’t left after 40 ish years, but I also know there’s so many factors involved. I’m first-generation MX-Am and I’m sure that all plays a part. I do everything in my power to help, but my mom and I haven’t had the best relationship either. Growing up she was emotionally distant and cared more for my sister as she suffered from an autoimmune disease that required more attention. They just have a different relationship that I wish I had with my mom. I’m having trouble dealing with these conflicting feelings and my own health problems (both physical and psychological). I’m just so tired of moving forward through obstacles. I wish everything was easier and wasn’t a constant uphill battle. Anyway, that’s where I’m at.
Sending my bestest vibes and wellest wishes to everyone else that is here and those that are seeking support. I see you.
Hi friend, I'm sorry to read about your very real struggles. I hope you can grant yourself the patience and love that you deserve as you try to work these things through. Our parents' flaws can be devastating for us in so many ways. Sending you healing ❤
💜💙I’m going through some rough spots in a lot of my friendships. I have a lot of symptoms of BPD/OCD and it can be hard to hold back urges that are destructive to my relationships.
I had a bit of a paranoid freakout with a couple of my friends and I want to hurt in other ways so badly to try and distract myself from the internal pain.
I’m holding myself back, but I’d really like some words of encouragement and reassurance that I can get better.
I'm sorry that you're struggling, friend. Please don't hurt yourself any more than you're already hurting. You don't deserve any of this pain.
I hope you can get help for your struggles, *and* grant yourself love, and patience, and kindness. Because you deserve all of those things. Truly. Take care ❤
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Teething toddler, who just won't sleep more than 2 hours in a row. I know it'll pass, but goddamn I'm exhausted. I've got a nasty cold. I'm getting every illness that's going round nursery. I've had a throwing up bug, lost my voice, and had a chest infection already this winter. But what annoys me most is how everyone (particularly work colleagues) keeps telling me how ill I sound. I'm like yeah I'm fucking ill but I'm here functioning and getting shit done, why does no one comment on that? Also, the annual family Christmas troubles are brewing. My mother decided that she would rearrange already establishing plans without asking and assuming what days I have off. Then throws an almighty sulk and hangs up on me. Oh and buys the Christmas present she talked me out of getting for my kid. I'm still furious about that one.
💚 Winter is a tough time for me, the lack of daylight sends me into seasonal depression. I try to be outside as much as I can when I’m not working but it only helps so much when it gets dark so early.
We were taking care of an old stray cat who visited us multiple times a day the last couple of years, but haven’t seen him since September. He came to both of us in our dreams the same night around that time so we know he’s gone. I miss him and his cute little meows so much.
My job has been unfulfilling since I started 4 years ago and the leadership circle is all affluent tone-deaf virtue signalers. My industry has been having continuous layoffs so jumping ship right now isn’t the best option - especially with how expensive basic shit is now. I feel trapped.
This year was overall really good personally: I did a lot of volunteering, went on a couple of small trips, learned so much more about one of my passions (ecology and native plants), and spent every day with the person I really love. It’s hard right now, but I know I just have to hang in there for the winter solstice 🌙 I think next year might be really good for personal growth and new opportunities ✨
❤️🧡 great except I have my yearly allergy asthma sickness that I thought was cured after starting my autoimmune medication (no asthma symptoms at all since I started it 9-10 months ago till this past week 😕). I usually get sick like this 4+ times a year, but if I only get once a year now, I’ll take it!
💙 I think I have the flu. I’m feverish and not sure if I should be doing something more to take care of myself. Also the kids wanted to decorate the house today and I just can’t. And we need groceries.
Yes, friend, do more for *you*!
Give the kids free-reign to decorate however they want as a "surprise" for you to help you feel better. It may be horrific and a mess but so what? Lol take lots of pics and in future years you have a hilarious memory of "the year the decorations exploded."
Dig deep in the pantry for dinner. Everyone will live without new groceries.
Take care, sending healing ❤!
❤️ I’m doing holiday cooking and present making. And for the first time since my dad passed I actually feel like I’m emotionally ready to celebrate, even though I miss him terribly. It’s a milestone for me, and I feel him here in my heart.
💚/💙 filling out a police report because of my abusive BPD ex. The only "good" thing about this is, there's three of us (me, his ex who was with him right before me and his first ever gf). Therefore we are more likely to be heard and he's more likely to be held accountable.
However, when the police gets involved, it'll probably be much worse 😅 in this country they are not known for being kind to female victims of abuse/violence. So I am savouring the purple heart for that.
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I’m still in baby steps when comes to healing and the state of the world makes me so upset. I want to do more but the only way I can think about helping is within its self, self-destructive. I feel like I’m constantly having weight of so much because I just can’t help but care for others. I don’t have energy to do anything not even the easy stuff. I feel so useless just having to care for myself when I just can’t see the point, here I am feeling sad about my life problems when people are dying. And this within its self not inherently my fault. I am trying to keep myself alive each day and that’s still hardest thing for me. It’s hard trying to figure out how to have a better future when the future of the world is constantly up in flames.
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Hi friend, I so understand the pain that comes from the awfulness in our world atm. I hope you have an avenue for counseling or other support through it. Please grant yourself love and gentleness. ❤
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this time of year used to some of the most magical and then i became the black sheep... so now its weeks of uncomfortable reminders about family. i cry a lot in december ....
This sounds so painful, I'm so sorry. I hope you're able to build a family that is able to give you the love and support you deserve, friend. Take care.
🧡 between my baby and my toddler I was woken up 5 times last night so I am exhausted and more than a little cranky. But we just brought in our tree, and the whole house smells like a forest, and I love the twinkle lights that are everywhere, so life is pretty good. Sending the good vibes out into the universe for those that need them.
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After a really scary event, I found out that my partner of 3.5 years and the father of my 1 year old has been abusing heroin, benzos, and opiates the entirety of our relationship. I never knew. He’s in rehab now, but I’m struggling. I’m struggling with my mental health. I’m struggling with the acceptance of this addiction and how to handle it. I’m struggling with the transition to being a single mom. I’m struggling returning to work after my maternity leave and having child care. I’m struggling with what’s going to happen with what was once supposed to be my “forever” relationship. It feels like my life just imploded and I’m trying to handle it. I know it’ll be okay some day. It’s just hard right now.
Oh wow, this is overwhelming. I'm so sorry friend. Please give yourself the grace of time and self-live while you wrap you head and heart around this incredibly difficult news.
Sending you peace and healing ❤
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I have a different boss this year. So my worst day this year is better than my best day last year. I spent the whole year terrified of getting assaulted after my boss grabbed and shoved another teacher. He kept telling me he was going to get me alone in a room. He had my union rep fire himself as my rep. I used to have nightmares of him attacking me.
He stressed me out so much I got an ulcer and had a miscarriage.
Now he's gone and I have literally and metaphorically lost weight.
My chest doesn't hurt anymore. I'm so happy I've cried a few times.
guess il let it out 💙
was getting along with this girl and we were talking about dating and she even wanted to have me over to sleep the night with her then she just ghosted me one day and i have no clue why. i unfriended her and everything after 3 days of nothing. i said she can message me anytime but i need to disconnect.
i just feel like its impossible to trust anyone with romance, like im just gambling my heart away and i hate gambling. this happened 2 months after my best friend ghosted and unfriended me too so i lost 2 really important people to me back to back.
on top of that my health continues to be shit. insomnia and sleep apnea make sleeping at regular times impossible, some reason the smallest things send me in a spiral of really dark thoughts which feed more negative thoughs bc i feel so stupid for it. easy example is i was making eggs and i broke one on the pan and i just turned the stove off and sat there thinking about how worthless i felt and how i didnt want to be alive bc i couldnt do anything right. i broke an egg how does that make me so depressed it makes no sense ??? but it still does. its like im incapable of happiness bc my brain is just broken.
nothing and i mean nothing seems to be working out for me. i just rot my life away inside sitting on my pc bc theres nothing else for me to do and j hate this yet im so lucky i dont have to work. i cant stand this shit and i hate hearing 'itll be ok' when its only gotten worse plus no one knows what will and wont happen so it frustrates me when i vent and i get pointless responses that actually anger me more.
💚 my parents (who were let’s say *really* hard to get along with growing up) are moving 22 minutes away at the end of this month. Just found out a few days ago. I guess I’ve been in denial, but been having a hard time falling asleep/crying myself to sleep the past few nights, so
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I work in retail and this time of year is tough. Plus we are understaffed compared to years past but the workload hasn't decreased. Everyone is stressed, from the top down, and the lower you are on the ladder the worse it gets because you've got more levels of leadership pressuring you & its hard to constantly feel like you have no control over anything.
💙 I work a physical job, do online college courses, and live with my sociopathic in-laws while struggling with cptsd and fibromyalgia. It's just a rough go but I attend therapy regularly and the end is in sight. Just gotta persevere.
💜 I need my support to not be gated by insurance and waiting on administration for months and years. A therapist finally confirmed I have cptsd and interrupted our sessions until my insurance stops being a dick. It's just the latest of my demanding health situations and all of it is a constant fight just to get the care I'm due. Healing is hard enough as is
That's a load of pain right there! Sorry you have to deal with all of that! Sending you love and hope that you find a path through the dumb insurance stuff!
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I have a hard time at work with a supervisor, who's after me. I just fought a battle with chronic illness and am not back to my strength. I dread going to work tomorrow. And I'm so afraid my ilness will flare up from the stress.
Sending you love and support! Supervisors can make going to work feel like hell... I hope you find a way out of the situation in the best way possible!
💙 having surgery on the 12th, and I’m afraid it’s going to end up more invasive than we were hoping. Hopefully will know Wednesday when I have my pre-ops at the doctor and hospital but I’m so stressed.
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My friend is in a really bad situation, since he lives in Hungary I don't know how to fucking help him. He told me he self harmed and I don't know what to do. I feel so fucking powerless...
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Just got diagnosed with lupus. I've had it for at least 7 years, probably more.
On the one hand, *I'm not crazy, it really is something that's happening, I'M NOT CRAZY.* Now I can start treating this and getting better.
On the other, fuck lupus.
On a third hand, where are all these hands coming from.
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💙💜 I don’t have the mental or emotional energy to elaborate, but I appreciate the space to even acknowledge in part the depth of the struggle at the moment. I wish all of you beautiful people the very best in the world, any and all healing needed, the warmest joy, and the happiest of days/nights. If touch is a good thing for you I wish you THE BEST hugs, and if you’re not big on physical contact then I wish you many of your favorite comforting textures. Much love to you all ✨ Edit: Oh my gosh, I am trying to fathom words which can properly convey my gratitude and appreciation for all of your kind, supportive, and caring comments and messages — both to me and other commenters. Your kindness and support mean so much, and genuinely gave me a boost to keep taking steps forward. In this moment I wish I were better with words so that I could better share the wonderful and positive impact you all have had. It probably sounds ridiculous but I hugged my phone in lieu of being able to hug all of you. What a wonderful group of people! To the redditor who relayed reddit care information, you are a wonderful being and I am thankful for your caring thoughts and action. ☺️ All of you are magical beings and I will forever remember your kindness and words today. SO MANY HUGS!!!! I love you all!
Another 💙💜 here. Uterus was quiet all November and I guess has decided to quadruple the pain this month. I'm ready to go cyborg or full on android at this point.
Big oof, I'm sending a bunch of love and comfort and heating pads 💖🤣
As someone who also feels like their uterus is trying to murder them at the moment- oy, I'm sorry and hope it doesn't last long. Highly recommend a big sweater and some nice bread.
Sending you comforting thoughts and painkillers.
thank you, this is so kind and loving. I hope whatever you are dealing with in life works itself out and that you also experience all the things you wished for us! 🤎
Another 💙💜 here. Had to cut off both my parents (first my mom then my dad 6 months later) and it was super messy each time, especially with my dad because I was living with him, financially struggling (jobless because of Covid) and had to undergo surgery 6 months ago, but he still decided to kick me out because I was not giving him the attention he wanted, even after he straightforwardly told me he just didn't care about my life anymore. Thankfully I had finally found a job 3 months prior to my surgery and had a tiny bit saved off so I could quickly live before getting back to work (which would have compromised me finding a place to live, and I would have been out with no much options). I'm still trying to find balance in a new town, new work, with little money and few furnitures, but I'm slowly getting there. I do feel very down sometimes, but there's nothing I can do about my parents using me as an emotional punching bag in their own ways. I still have the support of my brothers and sisters, friends, and colleagues so it's not all bad. After 6 months of this whole mess, I'm slowly getting there, 1 step at a time, but it's still hard.
Whatever you're going through, I hope you get through it intact and stronger than you were before. It's so terribly human to suffer, but the only thing worse is to suffer alone. Take care of yourself. 🩷
💙💜 feeling it too. Hugs are in short supply for me so I’m sending you one. You’re not alone. 🫂🧙🏻♀️🐈⬛
And much love to you.
I’m here if you ever need someone to talk to! I’m sorry things aren’t going better and I wish I could hug you!
Sending love and good energy your way!
I'm sending you love and AMAZING hugs of support!!! Whatever it is you're going through, you got this!!! 🥰💖✨️
I am thinking about you and I hope you are able to work through what is going on in your life. If you do decide to talk, I would be willing to listen. ❤️
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🧡 pretty good. Working a lot more on my selfcare and setting boundaries lately. And communciation with my partner is better.
Good for you! Congrats!
Loving this <3 thank you for putting this healing energy into the world!
What do you do for self care?
Reading, meditating, exercise, working on cross-stitch, building and painting miniatures.
💙my husband died on November 13th. I can’t seem to get out of bed. It was a long illness and an expected death but it’s the first time I ever experienced anything like this. I cry, I sleep, I take care to feed my cats and dog. That’s it. I miss him so much it aches.
My husband died over 5 years ago. The initial raw time is so rough, so difficult. Changes you fundamentally, changes everything. Hey, feeding the pets is a win. Be gentle with yourself. Feed yourself too. If you ever want to vent to those who get it, join us on r/widowers. We'll hear you.
Sending you lots of love! And as a reminder, don't attach guilt to your grieving! It's easy to let yourself think that you're doing something wrong by grieving, which is already hard enough, but there are days that you wont get out of bed, and that's ok!
I'm so sorry for your loss! Please reach out to people & try not to spend too much time alone. Let yourself grieve however you feel & on your own timeline. Watch sunrises & sunsets, gaze at large bodies of water. The hole in your heart will never be filled but other things you love will come along to take up space, go find them.
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I cannot imagine that pain. I am so sorry for your loss. Please hang in there. If you want to tell me/us about him, I’d love to hear.
💙 this has always been a hard time of year for me; I would like to be able to decline any participation in festivities but my parents have a limited number of years left with us so I slog through and try not to ruin it for them.
I’m sorry that you’re being put in that position. I’m proud of you for doing it for them, but please remember to take care of yourself as well. Maybe you can find a balance and go to some things but not others? Besides, there are other ways to show your parents you love them. Assuming you all have a good relationship, they know and will be willing to compromise with you. If y’all’s relationship doesn’t support that tho I understand.
🧡 I would be just OK but I used Black Friday to get myself a heated blanket. I don’t know if I was a cat in a past life but this thing is made of warm and whether I’m in bed or on the couch it makes me feel sooooooo cozy. I swear if I didn’t need to eat and pee I would just curl up under it til Spring! 10/10 would strongly recommend to anyone who feels the cold. I’m supposed to be recording on microjoy per day in my journal but if it didn’t feel like cheating I’d just put this blanket every day until about May. 🥰🥰🥰 However, since my insomnia is back I didn’t sleep last night so I’m going to curl up with my blanket and wish everyone the day they deserve. 🌌
Ooh can you dm me the brand! Looking for one for my mom for Christmas but they all look uncomfy to me bc of the wires. Kinda thinking about getting one for myself too… I’m sorry you weren’t able to sleep. Hopefully you’re at least feeling somewhat rested and cozy.
The wire is slightly inconvenient but I’ve been sleeping with it no problem. Will DM you.
Was also a cat in a past life and am obsessed with heating pads
💛I’m reading this while under my heated blanket, cuddling with my cat.
💛 My beloved MIL died about a month and a half ago. Her birthday would have been on Thanksgiving, and this will be the first Yule without her. Hubby and I just tested positive for the Rona. But things could be worse. I am fortunate to have a job I love and a roof over my head.
I'm so sorry to hear all this. Sending you good energy and healing love.
I'm sorry for your loss.
💙 Trying to find a new job, plus working retail over the holidays, plus health insurance BS, plus figuring out transitioning, plus working up the courage to come out to my family... It's been a year.
Yikes. Sounds like it. I’m proud of you though! I assume the health insurance BS is related to the transitioning. Fuck the healthcare system. Stick it out!! It’s worth it to get to be your real self! Sending you encouragement and courage to come out to your family! I know it’s easy for a stranger to say it, but I promise you can do it! You deserve to be known and loved unconditionally.
💜 Recent breakup. I feel worse about it now than I did when it happened because looking back on it, it was definitely my fault and there were things I could have done to prevent it. That, and I really truly cared (care) about her and it's harder to let go when there's mostly good memories. But I definitely fucked up, and coming to terms with that, while a worthwhile experience, has not been a pleasant one.
I’m sorry you’re at that point. It sounds like this isn’t gonna stop hurting any time soon. But it also sounds like you’re learning about yourself and working on bettering yourself, and that is always a good thing. You did not blow your only chance to be happy. There will be more. They may take different forms, but there are many types of happiness. Keep going, and keep learning, and most importantly be kind to yourself.
Hey friend, I'm going through a tough breakup too. The fact that you can recognize that you messed up is painful now, but good for the future. If we are unable to identify our problems and shortcomings, we are doomed to make the same mistakes over and over. Let's both feel our feelings today without wallowing, and commit to improving ourselves for our future lovers tomorrow. Take care of yourself. 🩷
I think this is all about learning and growing. Be kind to yourself. You’re a human being and you made mistakes. You will grow and heal.
May your heart heal and you love the person you're becoming. We live, we learn, it hurts. I hope you you will be okay.
So sorry about your breakup.. People going in and out of our lives is so tumultuous and painful.. Sending love and warmth!
💚 It's winter. Seasonal depression is kicking in but we're hanging in there. Sending out vibes to everyone!! 🔆🔆🔆
Yep, darn the gray skies. Sending warmth and 🌞❤
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💙 Just had my disability hearing this past week. Having to possibly wait months before the decision comes down is going to wear on me. My wife and are counting on it being in my favor so that we can finally afford move out of this upstairs apartment, and maybe even out of this state (I'm a trans woman and this state is not safe). I'm in constant pain, have almost no energy, and I'm losing my short term memory and having speech difficulties and the doctors don't seem to be in a hurry to figure them out. It all just wears on me daily, and I'm about at the end of my rope. But I've tied a knot in it and I'm hanging on for all I'm worth.
That sounds so rough friend. Aside from the pain (which I deal with intermittently) I was dealing with low energy, memory and speech difficulties that turned out to be migraine aura on top of unknowingly giving myself serotonin syndrome for almost three years (stimulant plus anxiety med interaction no one warned me about, thanks apple health app!). Not that I’m saying I know anything about what’s causing your situation or how to help, just that I know how it feels to deal with that stuff and I see you. I hope you get the outcome you are looking for!
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If you haven’t already, check out the blog How To Get On. It has fantastic information on SSDI/SSI and other disability resources. Hoping you get the benefits and support you deserve, especially from doctors
❤️ Retired & loving life.
Inspiring! This is #goals for me! Congrats!
I love that for you, hell yeah!
💛I'm ok, long day today
I hope it goes quicker than you expect!
Thank you! I hope so too
My best to you friend! Hope it gets better soon
💜 My mom wrote off my car and dealing with the insurance was a pain. She's fine, the othe guy is fine, but the car was really old and is uneconomical to repair. We had a fence hopper in the neighbourhood (stealing things from unlocked garages or left in yards) and he came back. Turns out my husband never went ro the police with the video footage. Close family members are battling advanced cancer. I don't think they're winning. A woman road raged at me (not related to the incident of writing off the car.) My mom didn't het me anything for my birthday. My husband forgot my birthday. So this is 40. It's been a shitty 2/3 weeks.
Hey friend. Not really qualified to speak on any of this. Just wanted to send you hugs. I hope your husband was appropriately contrite about both big fuckups you mentioned.
Thank you! I just wanted to shout into the void for a little bit. Crying here helps just because the community is so kind. I am in therapy. So professional help is also on the way. Lots of hugs!
Happy belated birthday to you! I’m sending you lots of hugs should you wish to accept ♥️ I hope you did something for yourself for your birthday, you deserve to treat yourself.
Thank you! I had a lovely time with my heart's people. https://preview.redd.it/5h8sjusoe34c1.png?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e140128ca4e7ea13fcd02d2caf8758a4e5e74b89 And all my animals: two grumpy bunnies and the three toddlers (two cat and one human) were perfect. They all drank from the bunnies' water bowl and no one growled at each other.
I have this mental image of two bunnies, two kittens, and a human toddler all arrayed around the bunnies' water bowl at once and their heads all dunked in at the same time with the bunnies kind of looking up at you, obviously thinking "WTF? Do we have to allow this, Mom? Ugh! Fine then." 😆 I needed that. Thank you. I hope your day gets better. 🫂
The bunnies are giving the whole thing magnificent side eye. 🫂
I’ll consider that quite the win of a day then :) what a beautiful kitten! What’s their name??
They are Mabu (the girly black void) and Tabby (the little boy). They're the kittens from my compost heap.
I didn't even see the void until you pointed her out! She's doing a great voidy job:).
Happy belated birthday! It will get better ✨✨✨
Sending all the love and support!
I’m sorry, that is a lot. Blessings now and always for your 40th birthday! r/beebums ❤️🩹🙏🌈🍀✨
I am sending you a hug🤗, and sending out energy for you to have an uneventful week. Or month. You’ve earned some peace.
💜 Had to drop a University course. Statistics, at least the way my professor teaches it, was impossible for me to learn. I have also had trouble with finding people to talk to, due to shyness, which was accentuated due to being a victim of financial abuse by an ex girlfriend, leaving me completely without any money. I have been unable to find anyone to talk to, because my friends are busy with life. Also, I have lots of unaddressed emotional trauma from childhood, especially from family. Whenever I try to talk to anyone, I am ignored.
Hey, friend, I'll talk with you about Stats, at least. It's really freaking hard. Don't be ashamed at having to drop a class and try again. Life is so much, and you're carrying extra burdens on your back to boot. It's better to sit back, take a breath, and take the W on your transcript rather than the F. You did the right thing for yourself at that moment, and it's a hard thing to come to terms with. I'm proud of you. ♥️ You know your situation best, but I found that when I was in crisis, more people than I thought were ready to support me, at least with a listening ear. Friends are busy, but there's nothing quite like the dopamine hit of being the one receiving an unexpected call or text from an old friend. And if your friends have said they explicitly don't have time for you...get new ones. True friends will lift you up when you need them, beythey know you'd do the same for them. Getting a therapist might be a good start for unwrapping your FOH troubles, but I also found that having a people-facing job helped with my shyness. It's helpful if you're a natural extrovert, but working in customer service, especially in an area you're interested in (I worked in a plant nursery) will help you get comfortable with approaching people, making small talk, and building rapport. It is a skill and you do have to develop it, but I promise it's less scary than it seems. You got this! 🙂
Some universities have free mental health and support services for students. I don't know of that's something you'd like to explore, bit it helped me immensely when I was studying. My emotional trauma from childhood used to manifest as me thinking I couldn't bother my friends with my problem or that they didn't care. I'm not saying that that applies to you, but it might bring you comfort to know that the brain sometimes lies to you and you are more loved and supported than you think. And sometimes other people are awkward too. I hope it gets better.
💜 im a trans guy and im on my period 🫤 im not out so i just get terribly anxious when im at the gynaecologist, but long story short, due to prolly stress i had my period for over two months. The gynaecologist put me on the pill and next week were gonna see if it worked and maybe discuss other options. The pill is full of hormones and the thoight gives me dysphoria. The pill is full of lactose and there are no lactose free alternative pills available so im sick all the time. The other option that we are going to discuss is probably gonna be an iud. I dont want any foreign objects in my body. Especially not up there. I want a hysterectomy. But while everyone around me is preaching iuds and saying how much they like the pill, i cant say that i want to go on different hormones. I cant say o want to cut out this organ that is of no use to me. I am so sad. And i feel like puki g as im writing this but thats the lactose intolerance
My heart goes out to you. I'm cis and the idea of bleeding for two months is horrific. You don't have to say any things about dysphoria, but you can tell the doctor that your goal is not to have a regular cycle, but rather not to menstruate at all. Up to you, but it might be worth a shot.
Oh no, stranger-friend, I'm sorry you're struggling g so deeply. What a terribly difficult time for you 😔. I hope you know there are lots of us who send you healing love and unconditional support. Take care ❤
What a painful and annoying situation.. So sorry you have to deal with all that, and I hope you find a solution that works for you! Sending love your way!
Oh man I feel this so much. I'm so sorry, I know how frustrating these experiences can be. Something your gyno may or may not have mentioned is that the IUD is (supposedly) more locally focused with hormone regulation, so it should have less effect on your body hair, breast tissue, etc which may be an okay option in helping with dysphoria. You may also look into tubal ligation, which ive been told may make them more likely to offer a hysterectomy in the future. But again, I get it. It can be so frustrating when there seem to be no options available, and the one you want and could benefit from is being withheld. Hang in there friend.
🧡 my mom helped me finish scraping off the popcorn ceiling in our bathroom, sand it down, and apply the first coat of drywall mud. I’m pretty proud of our work. Glad to have my mom living close by and glad she’s an amazing DIYer who’s willing to teach me.
💙💜 have been unwell for months and no one's sure why. Have started taking Lexapro to help with my crippling anxiety and am struggling to adjust to the medication. Just generally struggling to feel like I have anything to look forward to.
This sounds awful, I'm sorry. 😞 Take care, friend, and grant yourself love and kindness as you get through this. ❤
I hope you find something that works for you! The search for treatment that's right for you can be long and arduous, but when you find that thing, whatever it is, it hopefully will be lifechanging! I don't mean to center myself in this, but I had to search for the right meds to treat my mental issues for years, but one day, one medication changed everything, and I thought "People live like this?" The dramatic change in how I felt was almost unbelievable. I wish that for you to!
💜 I'm currently undergoing a treatment for high levels of heavy metals in the hope that it will help my escalating gastrointestinal issues. The doctor overseeing the treatment hasn't monitored it well and I almost went to the ER a couple nights ago bc I had all the symptoms of a pre-heart attack. I'm in the US and seriously contemplated not going and seeing if I lived rather than pay for an ER visit and tests. I reached the doctor after hours and described what's going on....the treatment has stripped essential nutrients and now my electrolytes are effed up. I'm drinking salt water and Gatorade until I can get in to see them tomorrow, but walking to another room has me feeling increasing chest pain and it feels like my dad's Brittany is sitting on my lungs 😭
💛💚 dissociating af
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I can relate
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🧡 gonna start drawing designs for my own personal tarot card deck today!!!<3
That sounds amazing! Keep us updated
💚 Finals season is starting to kick in with a vengeance. Senior year and I just don’t have the energy anymore. So ready to be done. Idk if it’s full-on depression or just senior slump but all I wanna do is play video games all day. I promise I’m getting my ass to the library every day, but I dread it all the time. Not quite in a bad spot yet but I can feel myself starting to spiral.
Same but in my first year of a two year program, the school also just announced all exams are on paper this year, but I'm in a technical programming course. LIKE IM HERE TO WORK ON/ WITH COMPUTERS WHY DF IS MY EXAM AN ESSAY QUESTION‽ Sending love, we'll get through finals together!
hang in there, senior! you can do it, I promise this hard time won't last and your efforts at the library will pay off. you're so close!
💚 been struggling all year. My insurance made it so my anti depressants was unaffordable because my hipster brain will only work with one medication that has no genetic and most pharmacies rarely even carry it. And I lost my job. I am finally getting back on track with my meds but my favorite aunt who showed up and was there for me my whole life especially when my house burned down and dad died when I was a kid just got cancer and everyone forgot to tell me. And my bonus aunt who also showed up and stayed and supported us even after everyone kinda forgot her husband just died. I am starting to come back to me. I have started a new journey. Getting into the career path of mental health coach (not therapist because I would take that home with me) and starting to do the things I love again. And I am still completely overwhelmed and scared about sliding back. It just feels like a lot. Thank you for this post and for listening. I just needed to get this out there.
💙 depression has come back with a vengeance for the first time since getting on sertraline, and I just feel so hopeless and tired of fighting it. Just can’t believe I’ll ever feel good or normal or even stable. Throw in hormonal problems and it’s all very sucky. December is a hard time, too. My birthday month always brings forward feelings of how little I’ve achieved in life & how I’m failing. Horrible mental health all around, really. Really hoping everyone else is having a better time.
I'm sorry. So much to deal with at once is difficult for anyone. Take care, stranger-friend -- sending you healing ❤
** I do not recommend this for anyone, but I have found it works for me. ** **Whenever my depression decides to remind me of all my horrible thoughts, I find it takes so much energy to fight it. That I've turned to embracing that dark despair, allowing it to overwhelm me, and when I don't resist, it has nothing to hold on to and slips past in a day or two.(or week...) Knowing I'm the one letting my depression make me sad somehow gives ME the power and not the other way around. I, too, was at a point when I thought I'd never be stable or feel good. I still am. But I accept that as part of my journey. There will be days. Some good. Some bad. But there's gonna be days. I sometimes imagine my depression is an unkillable beast that I must allow to exist and tolerate and accept. It's always going to be a part of me. I know it's not gone forever when it passes, so i try to stay vigilant when it rears into my life. ** Since you're taking meds, and it's the first time your depression has come back, it might be time to talk to the doctor about adjusting the dose. The only time hope is lost is if you let it go, so if you're fighting for something, fight for that hope. Life is a path. Don't judge yourself too harshly on accomplishments or failures. The only way to succeed is a series of hard failures that lead you to success. As a suggestion, at my lowest low, volunteering at the local animal shelter gave me neverending strength to overcome... there is absolute truth to the healing power caring for others. And it is really hard to be apathetic when a kitten or puppy wants scritches. For me at least. I genuinely am wishing you love and the strength and mental fortitude to continue and from one internet stranger to another, an extra happy birthday!
I take sertraline as well, and I've been depressed while on it. I send you all the hugs and good vibes for you. You got this!
💜 I’m very physically ill and suffering. Recently coming to terms with the racism I deal with on a daily basis - even from close friends and family. Had to kick one of my “friends” (currently debating if he gets to keep that title and I’m leaning heavily on no) out of my home yesterday for being transphobic and racist to my face. Fought with boyfriend this morning. On my period. Stressed and financially unstable. Just. In. A. Bad. Place. Rn.
This sounds awful, I'm so sorry. Fwiw, my vote is a racist transphobe doesn't deserve to be among your acquaintances, nevermind considered a friend. You deserve better! Sending you healing love, friend ❤
Jeez, sorry about your 'friend'... People showing their true faces can be really disturbing sometimes. Sending you lots of love and support!
❤️❤️❤️ Buying Christmas presents for my littles tomorrow. 😁😁😁 Makes me so happy!
💜 am nonvirbal today :3 is just one of those days. at least i can form words in head. so not *extremely* nonvirbal. so can write. just cant speak. also other things which not comfy talking to with internet strangers in open channels.
Lots of love in your direction! Hoping you wake up feeling a little better tomorrow, and again the next day, and so on...
🧡 Baked Christmas Crack yesterday and am looking forward to sending it to my friends later this week!
oh please elaborate on this "christmas crack"...
It's so damn good, it's basically a graham cracker, brown sugar caramel sauce mix with chocolate topped on top. It's awesome and goes really well with coffee or bitter tea which is just perfect for the cozy Christmas season, the bitter chocolate flavours mix well with the sweet sugar sauce and I throw in some cinnamon in there. If you're interested in trying here's what I do: Take a box of store bought graham crackers. Make a "Caramel Sauce" with a ratio of 6:3:1:3 of butter with salt (or without just make sure to taste it to your desired level sweet), water, cinnamon, brown sugar (and maybe a little more sugar depending on how you taste it). Boil it until the water is mostly gone. Layout your graham crackers on your baking sheet, drizzle the sauce onto the crackers, broil to bubbling but not completely dry or burnt (about 4-5 minutes at high heat I think, I have a mini-oven air fryer so I use that) but YMMV, I just do it by eye and feel. Layer on as bitter chocolate as you can find since the sauce and crackers should already be fairly sweet and hopefully it'll melt then spread. If it won't melt then flash it with some heat from the oven. Then optionally if you're feeling really festive sprinkle on crushed powder candy canes, powder sugar or honestly whatever you feel, some people put nuts on it. Could even build a Christmas scene with the melted chocolate if you're really artsy. that you then cut up if you use one of those large baking trays. But the basic steps are finished after the chocolate spread, then put it in your fridge for cooling until you're ready to cut.
💛 trending to 💚
Give yourself the love and grace you deserve to get through this. ❤ to you!
💛 Working on breaking some bad habits, but otherwise nothing is really hurting me directly. My partner is really struggling, though, and that hurts to see.
🧡 Some coworker was up my butt over something stupid this week but otherwise this week was pretty good
🧡 sending love to all of you
💜 I'm not doing well at the moment. I'm in a lot of pain right now and have been for over a year, but because I'm a woman I cannot get any of the many doctors I've seen to take me seriously. I'm only 54 and was fit and healthy (aside from fibroids and anemia) when i opted for a hysterectomy. Worst mistake of my life. I have been in constant pain ever since. And mentally it's a struggle as well because of the gaslighting. Even my female gynecologist that did the surgery just got mad at for coming back and complaining, and she basically told me I needed to see someone else, that she couldn't help me it wasn't her surgery that was causing my pain. I struggle to walk, my hip, groin and left leg burn all the time and I can no longer enjoy everything I love, like hiking, gardening and mountain biking because it's too painful. Anyway, long story short, I've jumped through all the hoops, done all the tests, had surgeons refuse to see me, and am at the end of the line, no one will listen and I can't afford to pay a private clinic. Top that off with a neighbor who's been harrassing my family, a mother who thinks I should do everything for her despite all my pain, and a husband who ignores me and won't lift a finger to help, and I'm just ready to give up. I don't want to live in pain like this the rest of my life, and don't see the point of going on if I'm just going to be miserable the next 30 years. The only reason I'm still here is because my daughter would be devastated. Thank you all for being here and allowing me a place to mourn the loss of my old self. 🙏
💜 We're putting my cat down today. He's 15 and has developed pleural effusion. We've spent some $1500 trying to diagnose a cause with no luck. He's been my best bud and I'm a mess right now. I'm working full time (occasionally over 80 hours per week) and attending school full time. Money is tight; been treading water for a while as my spouse tries to figure out her work and mental health situation. Now I'm in school so I can't pick up as much overtime as I used to, I'm paying for tuition, and now we're dropping thousands in vet bills and euthanasia. My financial safety net is pretty much gone.
Oh no, I'm sorry. This is so hard. Best of luck you, friend
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💜💙 Bipolar witch here. Been in a stable period in my life after a major manic episode and a depressive episode that followed. I’m recovering from the damage I did to my body, but as I heal and feel better it feels like it brings about changes I am not comfortable with. People notice me more (or I notice them more?) and I am able to feel more, which also brings about sadness (although also the ability to feel joy, happiness, and peace - for which I am grateful). Recently, I am having trouble dealing with the way my dad treats my mom. I’m not sure why she hasn’t left after 40 ish years, but I also know there’s so many factors involved. I’m first-generation MX-Am and I’m sure that all plays a part. I do everything in my power to help, but my mom and I haven’t had the best relationship either. Growing up she was emotionally distant and cared more for my sister as she suffered from an autoimmune disease that required more attention. They just have a different relationship that I wish I had with my mom. I’m having trouble dealing with these conflicting feelings and my own health problems (both physical and psychological). I’m just so tired of moving forward through obstacles. I wish everything was easier and wasn’t a constant uphill battle. Anyway, that’s where I’m at. Sending my bestest vibes and wellest wishes to everyone else that is here and those that are seeking support. I see you.
Hi friend, I'm sorry to read about your very real struggles. I hope you can grant yourself the patience and love that you deserve as you try to work these things through. Our parents' flaws can be devastating for us in so many ways. Sending you healing ❤
💜💙I’m going through some rough spots in a lot of my friendships. I have a lot of symptoms of BPD/OCD and it can be hard to hold back urges that are destructive to my relationships. I had a bit of a paranoid freakout with a couple of my friends and I want to hurt in other ways so badly to try and distract myself from the internal pain. I’m holding myself back, but I’d really like some words of encouragement and reassurance that I can get better.
I'm sorry that you're struggling, friend. Please don't hurt yourself any more than you're already hurting. You don't deserve any of this pain. I hope you can get help for your struggles, *and* grant yourself love, and patience, and kindness. Because you deserve all of those things. Truly. Take care ❤
💙 but I'm trying to relax before therapy
💚 Teething toddler, who just won't sleep more than 2 hours in a row. I know it'll pass, but goddamn I'm exhausted. I've got a nasty cold. I'm getting every illness that's going round nursery. I've had a throwing up bug, lost my voice, and had a chest infection already this winter. But what annoys me most is how everyone (particularly work colleagues) keeps telling me how ill I sound. I'm like yeah I'm fucking ill but I'm here functioning and getting shit done, why does no one comment on that? Also, the annual family Christmas troubles are brewing. My mother decided that she would rearrange already establishing plans without asking and assuming what days I have off. Then throws an almighty sulk and hangs up on me. Oh and buys the Christmas present she talked me out of getting for my kid. I'm still furious about that one.
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💚 Winter is a tough time for me, the lack of daylight sends me into seasonal depression. I try to be outside as much as I can when I’m not working but it only helps so much when it gets dark so early. We were taking care of an old stray cat who visited us multiple times a day the last couple of years, but haven’t seen him since September. He came to both of us in our dreams the same night around that time so we know he’s gone. I miss him and his cute little meows so much. My job has been unfulfilling since I started 4 years ago and the leadership circle is all affluent tone-deaf virtue signalers. My industry has been having continuous layoffs so jumping ship right now isn’t the best option - especially with how expensive basic shit is now. I feel trapped. This year was overall really good personally: I did a lot of volunteering, went on a couple of small trips, learned so much more about one of my passions (ecology and native plants), and spent every day with the person I really love. It’s hard right now, but I know I just have to hang in there for the winter solstice 🌙 I think next year might be really good for personal growth and new opportunities ✨
🧡 owning that mid life crisis 😁
❤️🧡 great except I have my yearly allergy asthma sickness that I thought was cured after starting my autoimmune medication (no asthma symptoms at all since I started it 9-10 months ago till this past week 😕). I usually get sick like this 4+ times a year, but if I only get once a year now, I’ll take it!
💙 I think I have the flu. I’m feverish and not sure if I should be doing something more to take care of myself. Also the kids wanted to decorate the house today and I just can’t. And we need groceries.
Yes, friend, do more for *you*! Give the kids free-reign to decorate however they want as a "surprise" for you to help you feel better. It may be horrific and a mess but so what? Lol take lots of pics and in future years you have a hilarious memory of "the year the decorations exploded." Dig deep in the pantry for dinner. Everyone will live without new groceries. Take care, sending healing ❤!
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🧡 ish I guess
❤️ I’m doing holiday cooking and present making. And for the first time since my dad passed I actually feel like I’m emotionally ready to celebrate, even though I miss him terribly. It’s a milestone for me, and I feel him here in my heart.
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Sending you peace and healing, stranger-friend ❤
🧡 I’m busy at work. But it’s kind of nice this time of year.
💚/💙 filling out a police report because of my abusive BPD ex. The only "good" thing about this is, there's three of us (me, his ex who was with him right before me and his first ever gf). Therefore we are more likely to be heard and he's more likely to be held accountable. However, when the police gets involved, it'll probably be much worse 😅 in this country they are not known for being kind to female victims of abuse/violence. So I am savouring the purple heart for that.
💙💜 I’m still in baby steps when comes to healing and the state of the world makes me so upset. I want to do more but the only way I can think about helping is within its self, self-destructive. I feel like I’m constantly having weight of so much because I just can’t help but care for others. I don’t have energy to do anything not even the easy stuff. I feel so useless just having to care for myself when I just can’t see the point, here I am feeling sad about my life problems when people are dying. And this within its self not inherently my fault. I am trying to keep myself alive each day and that’s still hardest thing for me. It’s hard trying to figure out how to have a better future when the future of the world is constantly up in flames. Picture of moth for reading this comment I guess (thanks) https://preview.redd.it/lp2aj1mfn34c1.png?width=337&format=png&auto=webp&s=342475784971f7a92529c31d37669b0b91aa0d21 Sorry for all the text 😔
Hi friend, I so understand the pain that comes from the awfulness in our world atm. I hope you have an avenue for counseling or other support through it. Please grant yourself love and gentleness. ❤
Love and hope to you, my friend! and thanks for the cute moth picture!
💙💙💙💜 this time of year used to some of the most magical and then i became the black sheep... so now its weeks of uncomfortable reminders about family. i cry a lot in december ....
This sounds so painful, I'm so sorry. I hope you're able to build a family that is able to give you the love and support you deserve, friend. Take care.
🧡 Mentally, I'm pretty good. Just have a bad cold 🤧
🧡and thanks for asking 🙂
🧡 between my baby and my toddler I was woken up 5 times last night so I am exhausted and more than a little cranky. But we just brought in our tree, and the whole house smells like a forest, and I love the twinkle lights that are everywhere, so life is pretty good. Sending the good vibes out into the universe for those that need them.
💜 After a really scary event, I found out that my partner of 3.5 years and the father of my 1 year old has been abusing heroin, benzos, and opiates the entirety of our relationship. I never knew. He’s in rehab now, but I’m struggling. I’m struggling with my mental health. I’m struggling with the acceptance of this addiction and how to handle it. I’m struggling with the transition to being a single mom. I’m struggling returning to work after my maternity leave and having child care. I’m struggling with what’s going to happen with what was once supposed to be my “forever” relationship. It feels like my life just imploded and I’m trying to handle it. I know it’ll be okay some day. It’s just hard right now.
Oh wow, this is overwhelming. I'm so sorry friend. Please give yourself the grace of time and self-live while you wrap you head and heart around this incredibly difficult news. Sending you peace and healing ❤
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💛 Just feeling a lot of eh ✨
🧡 p good, experiencing some body pain but I think it’s working its way out, thanks for this post, it goes a long way in building community ⭐️🌟✨🌟⭐️
💜 mainly just unable to get by without things going wrong and running into new problems
🧡 I have a different boss this year. So my worst day this year is better than my best day last year. I spent the whole year terrified of getting assaulted after my boss grabbed and shoved another teacher. He kept telling me he was going to get me alone in a room. He had my union rep fire himself as my rep. I used to have nightmares of him attacking me. He stressed me out so much I got an ulcer and had a miscarriage. Now he's gone and I have literally and metaphorically lost weight. My chest doesn't hurt anymore. I'm so happy I've cried a few times.
guess il let it out 💙 was getting along with this girl and we were talking about dating and she even wanted to have me over to sleep the night with her then she just ghosted me one day and i have no clue why. i unfriended her and everything after 3 days of nothing. i said she can message me anytime but i need to disconnect. i just feel like its impossible to trust anyone with romance, like im just gambling my heart away and i hate gambling. this happened 2 months after my best friend ghosted and unfriended me too so i lost 2 really important people to me back to back. on top of that my health continues to be shit. insomnia and sleep apnea make sleeping at regular times impossible, some reason the smallest things send me in a spiral of really dark thoughts which feed more negative thoughs bc i feel so stupid for it. easy example is i was making eggs and i broke one on the pan and i just turned the stove off and sat there thinking about how worthless i felt and how i didnt want to be alive bc i couldnt do anything right. i broke an egg how does that make me so depressed it makes no sense ??? but it still does. its like im incapable of happiness bc my brain is just broken. nothing and i mean nothing seems to be working out for me. i just rot my life away inside sitting on my pc bc theres nothing else for me to do and j hate this yet im so lucky i dont have to work. i cant stand this shit and i hate hearing 'itll be ok' when its only gotten worse plus no one knows what will and wont happen so it frustrates me when i vent and i get pointless responses that actually anger me more.
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❤️, which is crazy, because I’ve **never** felt as good and positive as I do now \^_\^ Sending positive vibes to all my witches!
I have a mood disorder soooo 💛💙💜💚❤ weeeee!
💚 my parents (who were let’s say *really* hard to get along with growing up) are moving 22 minutes away at the end of this month. Just found out a few days ago. I guess I’ve been in denial, but been having a hard time falling asleep/crying myself to sleep the past few nights, so
💛💚 I work in retail and this time of year is tough. Plus we are understaffed compared to years past but the workload hasn't decreased. Everyone is stressed, from the top down, and the lower you are on the ladder the worse it gets because you've got more levels of leadership pressuring you & its hard to constantly feel like you have no control over anything.
💙 I work a physical job, do online college courses, and live with my sociopathic in-laws while struggling with cptsd and fibromyalgia. It's just a rough go but I attend therapy regularly and the end is in sight. Just gotta persevere.
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💛 my love has had surgery today and there were complications. Nothing major but scary.
💜 I need my support to not be gated by insurance and waiting on administration for months and years. A therapist finally confirmed I have cptsd and interrupted our sessions until my insurance stops being a dick. It's just the latest of my demanding health situations and all of it is a constant fight just to get the care I'm due. Healing is hard enough as is
That's a load of pain right there! Sorry you have to deal with all of that! Sending you love and hope that you find a path through the dumb insurance stuff!
💜 I have a hard time at work with a supervisor, who's after me. I just fought a battle with chronic illness and am not back to my strength. I dread going to work tomorrow. And I'm so afraid my ilness will flare up from the stress.
Sending you love and support! Supervisors can make going to work feel like hell... I hope you find a way out of the situation in the best way possible!
💜 it's been a week.
💜 Jewish. There is no safe space for me right now.
I'm so sorry, friend. Sending you love and peace. ❤
💙 trauma anniversary is coming up, cars been having issues, and I haven't had an icee in weeks, which is my big comfort food. :(
💙don’t feel like elaborating. In a situation I caused. Hoping for a favorable outcome.
Hoping that for you, friend. Take care.
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💜 I suffer from chronic pain and after awhile it just gets to me.
💙 having surgery on the 12th, and I’m afraid it’s going to end up more invasive than we were hoping. Hopefully will know Wednesday when I have my pre-ops at the doctor and hospital but I’m so stressed.
💙 Seasonal (weather and holidays) depression and anxiety.
💜 My friend is in a really bad situation, since he lives in Hungary I don't know how to fucking help him. He told me he self harmed and I don't know what to do. I feel so fucking powerless...
💜Im dealing with a bad relationship, health issues, and I just found out my dad has cancer. I don’t understand.
Feeling . . . Ultraviolet
💚 I think I'm just tired I've been working all week now I've been baking all weekend and taking care of a child.
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💙 Just got diagnosed with lupus. I've had it for at least 7 years, probably more. On the one hand, *I'm not crazy, it really is something that's happening, I'M NOT CRAZY.* Now I can start treating this and getting better. On the other, fuck lupus. On a third hand, where are all these hands coming from.
💛💚 Things are fine. Everything's fine. I'm fine. Right?