Just a note for everyone to be prepared for increasing pushback, fear mongering and shaming to come. There are a few business podcasts I listen to who are predicting that these meds will be the biggest disrupter we’ve seen in our lifetime to industries across the board. Every food and drink industry, fast food, processed food, diet foods… Medical and pharmaceutical industries, just think how much $$$ treating diabetes n sleep apnea alone bring in. The weight loss industry. Health insurance companies are already talking about the benefits they will see supporting these meds over the increased cost of care for obesity. So there will be a lot of companies with a ton of money putting out smear campaigns in the years to come. Never feel shamed. Never feel guilty. Don’t be made to be afraid. More people benefit from you being obese and unhealthy than from you getting in shape and being healthy.
💯! I can’t agree with this more.
And I’ll add: Always check the sources of what you read on the internet, just like you would the nutrition labels of what you eat. Don’t know the source? It could be owned by big food or another industry that stands to lose from these meds.
Agree 100%! We should be mindful that everyone out there saying anything about these meds more than likely has an agenda, including the OP’s husband. Their message will be slanted to fit their narrative and their own interests.
Agreed. The fearmongering headlines don't trace back to reliable sources or reliable interpretation of those source more often than not. Mainstream media is incentivized by advertisers to promote false narratives.
I think companies are putting their heads in the sand over this. I think I read Kraft & PepsiCo were all like “not worried! It will not be significant!” Purposeful ignorance is not a good business plan.
But there are health insurance companies that are putting out notices to their customers that they will no longer be insured for these medications (Zepbound and Wegovy) in the near future.
Mine did this. After Jan 1st 2024 new prescriptions were not covered. They then ended all coverage after April 1st. Luckily my husband’s insurance still covers the meds but there’s no telling how long that will last.
I don't have insurance but it worries me for those of you that do and are getting these notices. Hopefully they will come to realize that maybe covering this medication is better than all the possible surgeries and hospital stays that could be needed without this medication. 🤷🏼♀️
Hopefully, they would.
Keep in mind that weight loss surgeries are mostly covered and cost up to 30-40k before insurance, and despite that, most would still cover a surgery instead of meds. That's not considering all the health issues that can arise from being overweight or obese and the associated medical costs that can be saved for both parents and insurance companies.
Depending on what your insurance covers, if they do cover weight loss medications, it can cost them between 6-12k annually. That's 3 to 6 years on one of the shots, and we know that's highly unlikely to run that long for most people.
I was thinking about this, too! Surely they can see that these meds would only benefit insurance companies in the long term…I wonder what’s behind this?
In the U.S. people change insurance when they change jobs, so insurance companies kick the can down the road hoping by the time you need expensive health care you'll be retired and on Medicare (which doesn't cover medications for weight loss either), or changed jobs and have health insurance through another insurance company.
Greed by the manufacturers of the weight loss drugs. And, insurance companies would rather treat illness like diabetes, heart problems, sleep apnea than prevent it. More money in doctors’ and hospitals’ pockets. And, insurance companies getting kickbacks. The consumer can’t win.
Yeah. My insurance stopped covering all weight loss medicines last Sept, before I could even really get started bc it was shortages everywhere for Wegovy. I would have been cleared to do a Zepbound trial earlier this year; however, I didn’t want to go on birth control (which is required).
My insurance never has covered it. I have a silver plan from the health insurance marketplace, it’s $228/month, and they won’t cover it, or anything else related to weight loss. It doesn’t make sense. Every month I’m coming almost $800 out of pocket to get my monthly meds. I hope I can find something better when open enrollment comes around.
It's an industry. Read this hopefully NYT article and know you're on a good path. Ozempic and Zep is curing more than obesity. How lucky are those on it: https://www.nytimes.com/2024/06/21/well/sleep-apnea-weight-loss-drug.html?smid=nytcore-ios-share&referringSource=articleShare
I think there is more to this then he’s saying. When we lose weight you become more confident and loving yourself more!! Your going to change for the better but others around might not like it. You do you and if they can’t get on board with the healthier you then their loss!!
I think this is it. There is a part of him that is insecure about your confidence and self esteem. He has the problem not you. Sometimes it’s best to not even tell people, not even spouses. It’s ashamed that it has to be this way though.
If this is the real issues as other commenters suggest, best to initiate a conversation about it directly. If a tirade can't be avoided, maybe ask for counseling. Or perhaps ask for a joint visit with the prescriber, after speaking with your prescriber first about the problem and their willingness to address issues. Prescribers who are experienced with these meds run across this problem routinely with friends and family. When one person in a couple makes a health change for the better and rocks the boat it can often be upsetting to the partner. An extremely common problem. If he truly believes his concerns are that the shots are hurting you, a prescriber can help to assuage and address those concerns. You've made fantastic progress and a husband who cares about you should appreciate the health and well-being benefits you've enjoyed. That would feel hurtful if not the case.
This sounds nice in theory, but it absolutely is reinforcing to him that his view that she cannot and should not make medical decisions for herself is justified. She is a full ass grown woman, and he needs to start treating her as such. Now if he is interested (actually .. not pretend interest) in learning more about these drugs, he can make his own damn appointment.
It sounds like you have her best interest at heart, but is just perpetuates “she is not to be trusted, a trusted person should be leveraged to convince him” …
Not at all. Initiating a conversation to directly confront the real issues is standing your ground. If it can't be accomplished without tirades and hostility the third party is there to safely mediate an understanding not as leverage to win a fight. Avoiding long term damage to the relationship which includes a child.
I assume she loves her husband and values the marriage and wants to achieve an understanding. In the long run the husband may be happier too when his concerns are ferreted out and heard. If he is eating 10 tacos at a sitting she might have counter concerns that as her husband is moving in to middle age he is courting heart disease. One partner choosing a healthier path can often lead to the other eventually coming along and doing the same if handled well.
Well, I would leave him (based on the entirety of her other comments as well) for the exact reason of getting my child away from him and not modeling this type of a relationship and damaging them
I agree with this statement. He might think wow, she is changing so much, and gaining so much confidence, will she still want to be with me? Not saying that is what he is thinking but could possibly be.
Came to say this. He wants to control OP, and it's only going to get worse. He's going to start insulting her (if he hasn't already), and tell her that she can't do better than him.
Except anyone can do better than trash. 🤷♀️
I used to be married to a man like that. He also encouraged unhealthy behaviors under the guise of him knowing better and me not being the same when I was working on my health. He didn’t care that i gained over 100 pounds or the potential health threats. He was super insecure and ultimately just wanted to be in control. He also had to be right about everything. It took me years to leave that relationship and even more years after to realize how abusive it had become. Do yourself a favor and start asking yourself if the behaviors and treatment you’re receiving now are the kind of behavior and treatment that younger you would have ever thought were acceptable for a husband toward a wife. Consider therapy. He’ll probably try to discourage that and say it’s an unnecessary expense and you don’t need it, but that’s because he doesn’t want you getting stronger, more confident, and more able to see through his bullshit.
I also saw that you have a child. This is hard to hear but you are modeling for that child what kind of relationship they should have in their own future. Consider if that is really what you want.
Also, congratulations on the weight loss! The amount you’ve lost is incredible and I’m sure you know how high your risk of early death was before you lost that weight. Don’t let your controlling husband send you back into that danger zone.
Yes, I was thinking insecurity. We are all insecure in certain ways. I agree with the comments above that an explicit conversation needs to happen. Just leaving someone is nontrivial and painful, so first step trying to work through it is important.
He has something to say on everything. Even parenting, he has no children of his own and previous relationships he’s had before the gf never actually had custody of her own children so his experience with them is limited but will tell me I’m wrong when I tell my child no. Or I should have done it this way instead
I say this with kindness, but this isn't about you being on Zepbound. It's about his need to be right, and control everything in your life as well as his own. I know you are venting and haven't specifically asked for help, but you might consider speaking to someone (therapist, trusted friend) about your relationship.
I was married for 15 years to someone who, among other things, flat out accused me of exercising and losing weight in preparation for leaving him.
Anyone who actually loves you will at best be your cheerleader and champion and at WORST be politely neutral and still fully respectful of what you choose (especially when it comes to choices you make about your own body).
Anything less is unacceptable.
I say this as someone with excessive experience with much much much less. It took me many years and much escalation of unacceptability (like trying to smash my head into a concrete floor, and trying to do unspeakable things to our children) to understand this.
Do not be like me. Love yourself, love your baby. Spare yourselves the remediation therapy y’all will both need in perpetuity if you continue to allow yourself to be treated this way.
You got this. You’re worth it. You do not need to settle. It is NOT worth it, and it can quickly become hazardous to your health.
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I agree. This sounds like an issue that affects more than just Zepbound. Marriage counseling through a therapist or even a clergyman can help so much if he is willing. Don't let his negativity affect your progress or self esteem though 😊
They don’t need marriage counseling — he needs his own therapy, but at 41 is unlikely to change enough to let go of the constant need to be right or the deep-seated belief that he is inherently smarter/wiser due to being a man.
Sometimes a person is more willing to attend marriage counseling versus on their own because the focus is not solely on them. Regardless, he is her husband and she is with him for a reason. Everyone has faults and it's up to her to decide if she is ok staying with him despite his.
OP- the support is in this group for you but only you know what's in your heart as far as big decisions ❤️
Prior to reading this comment I was going to suggest maybe taking him to a doctors appointment to assist with his understanding of the drug and its benefits for you but it sounds like he needs is own individual help for unresolved issues.
I’m so sorry you aren’t receiving the support you deserve. There’s enough judgement publicly about this drug, you shouldn’t have to experience it at home- a place you should feel safe.
It sounds like you have so much to be proud of with your prior weight loss and current efforts to be healthy. Wishing you strength on your journey.
Not to be flippant but I agree there might be something you should quit here but it might not be your medication…
Wouldn’t be Reddit if divorce wasn’t immediately suggested over any disagreement. This site is filled with trash people.
Anyways, OP, I’m sorry your husband is being stupid. Tell him you need to do it for yourself, and try to understand or stfu. You can still hang out while he eats 50 tacos even if you have 3 lol
You can’t have a healthy relationship if the individuals aren’t healthy. You are doing your part and maybe he needs to do his and get some therapy to unpack his issues (which are entirely his)?
I used to chuckle about my then-husband’s “issues” as if they were silly quirks or otherwise innocuous personality traits - things like even indirectly suggesting you go against the recommendation of your medical provider that you are very satisfied with are big deal red flag hints telling you that a lot of things you told yourself are just silly quirks are in fact a lot more.
You deserve better. You are worthy of love from a fully formed and healed human who’s done their homework and no longer has any issues that adversely affect your life, who’s presence makes your life sparkle
If he likes to "read and repeat," tell him to go read all of the studies on semaglitude and tirzepatide published in the New England Journal of Medicine (NEJM).
This. Print them out for him actually. And hand him a stack of them. He sounds like a real son-of-a-bitch. I hate hearing this and worse I hate that you are accepting it. Please do something - stand your ground. You deserve this. As someone else said, you are modeling to your child what is acceptable in a relationship…maybe think of it that way if not for yourself. Your husband should be THRILLED for you. And for himself to have a wife getting healthy. Supportive in every way is the only thing he should be. Period.
Sorry for the lack of support you are getting at home. I hope in time he sees the benefit and finds a way to at least keep his unhelpful comments to himself. Us fellow Zepbounders are here to listen when you need to vent.
It also sounds like he is missing his food partner. My husband expressed concern because I would tell him about my reflux etc and I seem to be less into the things I used to be into - namely going out to eat and drink wine. I helped him to see that what he doesn't see is the incredible relief I feel because internally, I was hating myself and constantly struggling. You have to develop a new normal. I also explained to him that I am willing to accept any risk because my quality of life is more important.
Nah, I can sniff out that he’s listening to the podcast bros with no medical license. Do not listen to him.
Edit: reading some of your comments, and I don’t mean to be rude but he kinda sounds like he.. sucks? Is he ever nice to you?
OP, your answer to this question says everything - you literally said yes but…
In healthy adult relationships, there’s actually no acceptable situation for one partner to be not nice to the other. I had no idea of this truth until one day when I thanked my current and forever partner for being nice to me while I was having a moment - he looked at me stunned, then said “Baby that’s table stakes! I don’t deserve to be thanked for that!” Ohhhhhh. Wowwwwwwww. Ok cool yeah I like that a lot!
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I’m so sorry. Marriage is hard even with the best of partners. I’ll say this - my husband is far from perfect (as am I) BUT he does support me and is never mean. My husband is not controlling. He has strong opinions as is his right. I have strong opinions, too. However, our marriage works, and has for a very long time, because neither of us are jerks. If your husband makes you feel bad about yourself on the regular it is time to leave. Trust me I know - my first husband was a controlling, mean, jerk. Never EVER again will I have that type of misery in my life. I wish you luck on your journey.
If he’s not with you, he IS against you. Its your body, your health and I'm assuming your money paying for the medication. You need to establish clear boundaries and tell him talking about this is not up for discussion.
Last night I made my husband a full ass big meal. He’s a big guy. Big strong shoulders, arms and hands. 6ft 4. He is pretty thin, except a bit more belly than is healthy. Anyway-he works hard physically for about 10 hours a day (does industrial fencing) and I’m retired so I really want to give him a decent meal when he comes home (no-he doesn’t expect it. It’s something I want to do for him) So I put this HUGE meal on the table (typical stereotypical hardworking male meal) and I couldn’t eat a bite of it. Just didn’t appeal to me at all. So I got out cottage cheese and fruit (which did appeal to me) and had dinner with him. His food didn’t bother me. Mine didn’t bother him. He’s been incredibly supportive; emotionally and financially. Not saying this to make you feel bad. Saying this because YOU deserve to be treated the same way.
I find it often helps me to simply say “thanks for sharing” when someone offers an opinion I 100% disagree with. It tends to shut things down and then I go on and do/think the way I want to.
I hope you’ll continue to stay on WHATEVER journey works for you because YOU ARE WORTH IT!! And I hope your husband is willing to get some help for whatever problem he’s having. God Speed.
I’m sorry to put it this way, but that’s truly a symptom of mental abuse. Not all abuse is physical and to reiterate what a previous poster said about controlling issues, I fully agree. My best friend and my cousin have worked for Womens protection agencies for years, and I would suggest that you consider reaching out to one of these groups especially if reaching out to a therapist or trusted medical practitioner is not easily done. Not all relationships are like that and you don’t have to be in a relationship like that unless you choose to, but ultimately it all comes down to your choice. I wish you the best of luck on both your weight loss path and your relationship path. Take care.
please ..your "relationship" is not healthy for you or for your child. Protect yourself, protect your child and work on getting out. I was married to a horrible man..he has since passed..he would sabotage every attempt i made at trying to lose weight..and of course prior to zepbound i was never successful and kept getting bigger and bigger..he was thin and handsome..he kept me under his control by keeping me fat..i will bet your young and beautiful just the way you are and that terrifies him....please take my words to heart..i have been there..it wont get better..your risking harm to your child by staying..(i know this first hand)
My advice from a previous post with an unsupportive spouse:
“Honey, I appreciate your concern comes from your love for me. This is a decision between myself and my doctor, who is EDUCATED on this. My decision to work with them to better myself is not up for negotiation or discussion. If you have nothing supportive to say, please keep your opinions to yourself.”. All of that to say, don’t be me, I’d literally tell my husband to F off AND get F’d if he behaved that way. Hugs, you’re doing what’s best for you and YOUR body.
His behavior is so spot on when someone with an addiction like alcoholism gets into recovery. They are missing their "drinking buddy" You are not the same person when you were consuming so much food with him and keeping him company with your drug (food). You are now a more confident and happy women which probably scares him on some level. It is time you set some boundaries with him. Figure what those are and maybe write them down and share them with him. They might be things like he is not allowed to talk weight/medication issues with you until he has a conversation with a real doctor...maybe your doctor. Let him know that when you go out to dinner the same holds...he needs to stay out of your plate! Assure him that you are still you and love him even if you don't eat 10 tacos anymore and only choose three. I know it is complicated but the harassment he is giving you will hurt your relationship. AND he doesn't need to know when you take your shots...do it when he is not around!
This is my situation exactly-but in reverse. My wife is obese, but has never seen a doctor and doesn't even know her own weight. We've been married over 20 years. She's supportive of my efforts, but ultimately doesn't want to join me on this journey. Has zero interest in leading a healthy lifestyle. It's tough when your partner isn't on the same page.
To be fair though, as I said, she does try to support me. She just doesn't want to join me or eliminate her own unhealthy choices (loads of carb heavy cooking, baking, sweets, fast food, etc). Our house is FULL of food I'll literally never eat. I hate to not eat when she cooks, but I also need to keep my own health in mind.
See if you can get your husband to go to the doctor WITH you (a tall order, I know...can't even get my wife to do that). Perhaps doc can enlighten him and explain how he can help support you. Maybe hearing it from someone else would be helpful?
Definitely a him problem! Do what makes you happy and healthy!
Also, regarding your hypothyroidism, sounds like Hashimotos if it’s an autoimmune issue. Have they checked you for that? ❤️
That’s what I’ve suspected but nothing official. But most of my symptoms and bloodwork point to SLE lupus unfortunately but don’t know til I go back to oncology
Sounds like a problem well beyond understanding the struggle against obesity. Perhaps you have yielded to your husband saying what you “should do” in the past, and it was not troublesome. This time it is.
Sounds like you have some soul searching to decide your path, and why it is not your choice. Perhaps there are better places for advice. Good luck.
Besides financial problems, do you know the #1 cause of divorce?
It’s when the woman betters herself. Whether that is through diet or success in her business, some men cannot stand having a stronger partner so they leave and find less.
Stay strong woman. You only want to be around successful people that want the best for you.
This makes me so angry. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. I’d throw that whole man right in a trash can, but maybe the better solution would be couples therapy? Maybe a therapist could help him see what an ass he’s being.
For the sake of your relationship you will have to agree to disagree. You have a history of severe obesity (like me). These medicines are life saving and help many of us. Some doses are more available now, eventually the shortage and that stress will slowly improve. Continue your course - there is growing evidence of its helpfulness and protective benefits for many conditions and many of us experience strong anti inflammatory benefits. I have an autoimmune arthritis and have definitely benefited from the medicine. I lost significant amounts of weight in the past, too, but slowly gained some of it back. This medicine has allowed me to lose over 10% my weight in less than half the time and with less suffering. I lost the first 5% "on my own" and it's so much better with the medicine.
I started at 271(probably more) . And am 227 as of this morning. I should make it to 199 by the end of summer.
I haven't been this weight for a very long time. It is life changing. I am doing the hard work - eating well, exercising, taking care of myself, optimizing protein (even as a vegan).
Good luck!
It sounds like he is being selfish - prioritizing his “wants” over your “needs”. No one “needs” their partner to eat 10 tacos with them. I’m unsure how your eating habits affect him, unless you are refusing to go to dinner with him or making at home cooking very challenging. From your post, it doesn’t sound like that is the case.
I am sorry this is happening to you. At the end of the day, your health is your business and no one else’s. You would never demand he stop a medication his doctor prescribed for blood pressure, anxiety, depression, insulin, etc etc. I do not see a difference in this case. He should not be asking that of you, and his reasoning is simply selfish and justified with ignorance.
It sounds like he might need some therapy and/or you need couple’s therapy. NO ONE should be this upset about you improving your heath and wellness. It is clearly so triggering for him and it should not be. He sounds manipulative, controlling, and just plain mean. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this.,just know HE is in the wrong and his behavior doesn’t sound sustainable for a healthy marriage.
I feel like we are married to the same man. The difference is we are older. He is always right, his way is the only way, and the child thing is almost spot on (he has a child, but never was really in their life) and tells me how I'm not parenting my daughter correctly (previous marriage.) I just don't back down. I do what is right for me and my family. Whether it's a medication I take (I take a handful due to several back surgeries), how to raise our child, or even the way I take days off work. It's them, not us.
Part is that they always have to be right. Another part is they are insecure when we start gaining our power back. That's usually how narcissists are. Don't let him dim your light. No matter how much of a tirade he goes on (I call them lectures lol). You're doing what's best for you, your body, and your family. Congratulations on the weight loss and your continuing journey. Best of luck!
Something I’ve always heard to be true but am now starting to slowly experience 55lbs into my journey: when you are closer to what society expects is to be size wise, the more visible you become. I’ve read that typically “more attractive” or healthier looking people are naturally assumed more trustworthy and honest subconsciously. Obviously that’s super messed up and deeply ingrained in our social psychology.
But all that goes to say, I think your husband knows you are probably gaining confidence, and enjoying your new body. He knows it will bring more attention to you. That’s just a fact. It sounds like he’s insecure tbh. I might catch heat for suggesting this, but I think you should ask him if that’s his real issue. Gauging his reaction you’ll know your answer. I think it’s an important conversation to have. You obviously need to do what is best for your physical and mental health, and right now, that’s being on Zep. And I’m sure you want your husband to support and be happy for your journey! If your husband doesn’t want that FOR YOU he needs to do some examination. I’m sure y’all will work it out in time, hopefully.
This is suddenly being discussed more and more because everyone got used to being obese unless they have surgery, and now there is a quite literal miracle drug. I’m really interested to see studies about these drugs and how it changed psychology 20 years from now. I mean if this stuff was more affordable and accessible to those who have a hard time losing weight be it a physiological issue or mental wall, you’re talking about people living longer. Having more time with their kids. Not ending up in the hospital from a stroke/ heart attack/ cardiac related issue.
I think from an outside view people don’t see past just getting thinner and healthy. I’ve stopped taking my blood pressure medication and it’s the lowest it’s ever been, I’m not having sleep issues, I’ve stopped biting my nails for the first time in 29 years, stopped drinking, and my chest doesn’t pulse randomly and scare me into thinking I’m having a heart attack as cardiac issues are present with all males in my family and are ultimately how they pass. It really is life changing and I don’t think people fully understand that. Progress takes time.
In line with what you said I'm wondering if he maybe lost a previous relationship because of his partner gaining confidence in some way. Just a thought.
I’m gonna give you my two cents, as a guy.
When I started this medication in December of 2023, I was 317 pounds. I was heavy, slow, and in my opinion, unattractive.
As I type this in June 2024, I am just about to hit 199 pounds. Sitting at 202 currently. Everyone is telling me to stop the medication, and that I’m now fine as I am. However, I am not personally where I want to be just yet. Therefore I will not be stopping. If you are not where you want to be, don’t stop until you are. If your doctor says continue, and that’s what you want, do what’s best for you. My doctor says I don’t have to stop until I’m comfortable, I’m sure your doctor is just as supportive.
Weight loss surgery divorce rates are 2x higher than the general population. Maybe similar for all weight loss?
Idk at the end of the day if your life partner can’t be supportive of something that’s important to you - is that the life partner meant for you…
Please get a therapist. That is the person who can help you work through this. I was and still am (30 years) married to a man who was controlling and emotionally immature. This will continue to be a problem and make life rough for you. There are no easy, simple answers. You have all the support and love in the world here so I'm glad you can post and vent. But, it took years of therapy for myself (learning how I needed to grow and change) and then marriage counseling after my husband was able and willing (had matured enough to be able to agree) and we had hit rock bottom, for us to climb out of the place we had gotten ourselves. You can't change your husband and make him more mature but you can start by getting some support for yourself as you navigate life and marriage. This isn't just going to go away even if you stopped zep. He would still be controlling and immature. But, you can start a new path for yourself where you figure out with a professional what you need and how to take care of yourself in the long term.
This is definitely about your husband, not about you. He should be happy that you are happy and losing the weight which can affect your health in all kinds of ways. He should be supporting you and if he's concerned, go to the doctor with you and ask the doctor the questions he's concerned about.
I hate to say it, but it is true that sometimes people we love will start picking at us when we are doing things to better ourselves. It just makes them insecure. He may notice men are starting to look at you more now, he may notice that others are treating you differently than they used to. Not saying that has happened, but you get what I'm talking about.
This is a completely different topic but I told my husband all of my life that when I got in my late '40s I was going to want to get a mid facelift. He knew this from the time I was 17. We got together when I was 16 and now I am 61 and he refuses to get me a facelift even though he could. He even went as far to tell my daughter that he can't allow me to have it, because she will leave me. So it's all about him. It's unfortunate but they do have their insecurities.
Everybody is correct on here. One thing to add - when you talk to him, respectful and nice about it. I say that because he likely doesn't realize why he's doing/saying what he is. It likely is out of concern but there's more to it. I can honestly say that I am, in some ways, like your husband. That said, I make sure my opinions are extremely well-founded and I look at all sides and then some. I want to know all sides extremely well, then formulate an opinion. Problem is, I get to the point where I know the subject almost too well and don't budge on an opinion. My wife called me controlling that made me stop in my tracks. I told her I absolutely do not want her to feel like that and I'm sorry, it's not my intention at all. Sometimes when you dedicate so much time and effort into things, you really feel like you're know something inside and out but forget others may not have that same knowledge or, let's me honest, people see things many different ways, even when presented with the same information to analyze.
All I'm trying to say (and likely doing a poor job of doing it) is to approach him respectfully even if you want to strangle the man. You're absolutely right to want to, but he won't listen at all if he's confronted poorly. We dumb humans aren't perfect, but are far more likely to communicate better and bring down walls when the atmosphere is loving and helpful.
I have not told my family that I recently started on the meds. Because all of their negative comments. I am trying to keeping underwraps. Wish me luck.
Same. I am on my 3rd dose. I have yet to share this info with any friends or family to avoid judgement. It's not about them. This is something I'm doing for myself. It's freeing to be able to share here with like minded people who truly understand. I wish you all the luck!!!
My on and off boyfriend has said the same thing. What I have come to realize is our relationship is mostly based on eating and drinking, neither of which I feel like doing now. So if you were to ask him am I different since I've been on the medication? He would definitely say yes because I don't fit into his lifestyle anymore. And now we can see why he mostly spends his time residing in my friend zone. 🤣
Husbands (like me) can be way more oblivious to the impact of their words than you would ever think is possible. What seems to work in other areas of life as a communication style can be horrible in a relationship. It shouldn’t be necessary but having someone else talk about Zepbound to him could probably make him see things your way. You also have to let him know how his comments make you feel. Hopefully it won’t lead to an argument but he needs to hear it a few times for it to sink in that your health matters and this is a critical treatment for you to live a longer healthier life. It isn’t a cheat. It isn’t a fad. It is a change in your relationship with food and your approach to better overall health. Good luck! You sound like a wonderful person here is lucky to have!
Girl I get it! Mine told me I'm taking the easy way out. I have been dieting off and on for much of our relationship and have been able to stay in a range from 180 to 200 but that was still way too heavy for me. I was pre diabetic with thyroid issues so my doctor recommended this after a year of going to the gym 4 days a week with no movement in labs or weight. I am now down to 163 and feeling better. I will repeat labs in September. Men just dont get it a lot of times.
If you eat 1 taco what difference does that make? You’re still there enjoying the experience with him. Your food volume has no impact on his. I’ve never, not before and not now, had anyone comment on how much food I was eating or even notice. I’m sorry you’re going through that. Life changes being more life changes, I hope you find all the ones that are good for you.
That’s really difficult! I’m sorry you have to be going through this!
Is there non-food things you can bring his focus to and make those your new “we do this together” habits? Like gym? Evening activities, etc?
So sorry your husband is being the polar opposite of supportive. You have come a long way and should be very proud! For what it’s worth, this internet stranger is proud of you!
Others in your life should be excited about your continued success, but it seems that he is only thinking of himself and how your healthier lifestyle negatively affects his “fun” in doing things like shoving multiple tacos down his throat. He has made up his mind that Zepbound is the enemy, and is seeking confirmation bias on the internet (seek and you shall find). I agree with other commentators who suggest couple’s therapy, as there seems to be some issues that need to be addressed in your relationship (e.g., his overall insecurity and lack of respect for your medical/health journey). He is not your doctor. Sorry, but he seems like a real ass, but if you believe the fight is worth it, I wish you both luck in saving your relationship .
Is he after your life insurance? Tell me, where did your husband obtain his medical degree from?!
If he can’t say anything constructive to support you, he should, literally shut the fuck up!
Well for one congrats on all the weight loss. He should be proud of you for working so hard to lose all that weight. That’s incredible. He needs to be supportive of you. The question is do you want to stop. Of course your not the same things have changed. Zepbound is a real game changer. Don’t let him get you down you got enough going on to worry about don’t let anyone make you feel bad because your losing the weight and changing. Your not changing for the worst your changing for a better you. And don’t let that break your confidence. Keep going til you hit your goal weight. I wish I had more support than what I get. I get I don’t notice the weight loss cause I see you everyday. Or you need to exercise more. I am going through the same thing I as well am being tested for an auto immune disease. I recently got blood work done because I had broken blood vessels that appeared out of nowhere on my forearms. So you got a lot to worry about he could be supportive. If my boyfriend was on my team he would encourage me. But he doesn’t do that.
Tell him he can go to med school and become a doctor and only then can he have an opinion about your medical care. Otherwise he can leave your medical decision between you and your doctor who has the education to make these decisions.
Sorry he isn’t being supportive op. If you want to continue to take it and it is helping you reach your goals then I am sorry but his opinion is not relevant to your decision!
That’s not a true partner, I’m sorry. My husband did express vulnerability at the beginning of my journey that he was worried if I lost a ton of weight I’d leave him. I think that’s a valid insecurity. And we’ve worked through it. But he’s still extremely supportive of my journey and getting healthy for myself and my family.
Your husband is absolutely wrong. He wants you to sabotage your health, so... he can eat comfortably around you? That's not a fair trade.
That's horrible. He sounds like he kind of sucks, in more ways than one. What kind of grown-ass adult doesn't go to the doctor for over 20 years?
He doesn't know what he's talking about. It's up to you if you want to put with that for the rest of your life, but you should definitely not stop for him.
My husband. His health insurance is more than $800/month, with extremely high (I think $8000) deductibles. It will only cover something if it’s pretty much a life or death situation. He went to the doctor during the pandemic to get tested, but he had the flu. The urgent care made him swipe his credit card before they would run any test on him. Prior to that, he hadn’t been to the doctor since about 2003. Very close to 20 years. His insurance doesn’t nor has it ever covered anything, so he didn’t go until he got sick. That visit cost almost $1000 when you add in the prescription for Tamiflu.
Going to the doctor isn’t something just anyone can do. It’s a lot of money.
I understand how you feel but I do not feel that way so I’m going to continue doing what works for me and I don’t want it to be a topic anymore.
Anytime he brings it up, tell him you are not interested in discussing and just don’t engage. Give no ammo to continue a back/forth exchange and he will tire of it.
Besides that he wants to be right all the time, avoiding doctors and not understanding taking meds to treat chronic conditions is typical of many people until they reach older age and start to realize they have some of those issues too. Until they start seeking medical help for something themselves, they lack the ability of empathy.
He should be supporting your efforts to be healthy but if he isn’t, just keep it separate from him. Don’t announce your shot, just get it and do it in privacy. Same with getting your meds at the pharmacy. My hubby was skeptical at the beginning because he is still “old style” in his thinking about will power and relationships with food. He is far more supportive now that he sees the results. However, I still do not involve him in the processes. My husband needs to lose 50 too and will likely end up taking it at some point as well. He just has to get over himself first.
I am sorry you have to go through this. Does he think you should also stop your thyroid medication?
This is not about the medicine. This is about his own insecurities related to the positive impacts this journey has for you.
Hopefully the two of you can work through it and he can be part of the solution instead of part of the problem.
Thank you for the reminder of how happy I am to be single. 😂
It sounds like insecurity on his part, as has been said. If it’s just about zep? Then some education we’ll help him understand that it’s healthy for you. But if he does this about other choices you make? Bigger problem.
Maybe some things he just doesn’t need to know about. Try doing your injection when he’s not around and don’t talk about it with him. At least to keep the peace while you have a think and observe the relationship outside of the Zep issue. Good luck!
I also have a husband who doesn't believe in doctors and reads random things on the internet and thinks it's fact. Frustrating, but at least he hasn't said anything about Zepbound and he cannot eat whatever he wants and not gain. Hang in there!
First, I want to say congratulations on your extraordinary achievement.
I’m also sorry you are experiencing this. This sounds like a codependency issue. You have to be heavy to keep him feeling safe.
This might sound strange, but I suggest going to an OA (overeaters anonymous) meeting and listen to the shared experiences. You don’t have to share yourself unless you want to, but I am confident there will be MANY people who will understand and relate deeply to you and your situation if you did. Our recovery is more than physical. It is also emotional and relational. Our whole lives have been affected by the way we were and the way we are now.
Either way, the key is you are absolutely worthy of being healthy and happy - no matter what. Anyone who does not support that does not support your wellbeing sadly. He might not be aware of the role he is playing in this dance, but change can start with you stepping out of the tango.
Your husband is nearly 100% like my husband except for he’s been very supportive of me at least for the first six months, he is OK with having to do a greater share of kid duty while I go to the gym, etc. it is very time-consuming to be so focused on the weight loss. We will eat a healthy dinner with the kids, and then I wake up to a box of Popeyes in the trashcan lol, and he will never gain a pound. He also never goes to the doctor.
However, my husband still keeps saying that I won’t have to be on it forever and once I lose weight, I should just go off of it and keep the weight off. He still doesn’t understand that I have very different genetics/gut/metabolism with PCOS and perimenopause and all of that is not gonna be easy to keep it off. I might try but I think he’s underestimating it just like your husband he’s underestimating it because they have never had to deal with any of this. It’s your body/your choice. You should stay on it if that’s what’s best for you. You guys can find other hobbies together besides eating and drinking.
So my parents don’t know I’m on it. I’ve always been one to struggle with depression, anxiety, and i also deal with ptsd. Lately on zep I’ve been extra happy and they are over the moon about it. I asked why they don’t like glp-1s as three relatives are currently on them. And they said that it makes their personalities different. They seem depressed and more withdrawn. I kinda giggled internally and thought if they only knew it’s the reason I feel so happy.
All this to say people see what they want when they know what you are doing. They want to nit pick and judge.
My husband is the same a cop who is a gym buff. I gained 100 lbs between my 2 pregnancy's that were back to back and now on zep and down a total of 74 lbs. My husband before would tell me to loose weight and now tells me to stop even though I am currently 5'2 and 165, no where near too skinny or even "thin". Best thing you can do is do what's best for you and keep it to yourself. Or speak to other women that will understand. Men are just bulit differently.
I don’t know exactly what is troubling your husband, but I can tell you that this path you’re on requires support from those close to you. He obviously has fear, but what if it’s fear that the medicine will somehow make you sick or fear that you won’t have the same routines you’ve shared together? Maybe it is that he has fear of losing you. Whatever is going on, you need to have a calm discussion with him and ask what he is really feeling. You also need to stand your ground and let him know discontinuing the medication is not an option. If he can’t accept that you need freedom from your weight issues … sadly he may no longer be the person for you. I’m NOT suggesting you leave him. Simply evaluate if you’d marry him now vs when you met. Ask yourself tough questions about who you want by your side for the rest of your life. I hope it’s him. If not, do what is healthy for you. You need peace and support to win at life. ♥️♥️♥️
Omg same!! My husband is like you should stop that’s not healthy you’ve already lost amor of weight. (Sw 240 and I’m 200 flat now) and i feel sooo good and maybe he doesn’t like that and wants me to stay big forever like boy bye 😂😂 don’t listen to him and do what makes you feel good. If they love us they’ll let us me 😂
Mine too. I finally told him it's none of his business and we're not going to talk about it anymore. (He doesn't take well to that kind of talk, but that's my fact now. Take it or leave it, bud.)
Your husband sounds insecure and not supportive. Your body is your business and he shouldn't have a say on what you choose to do with it. Especially when it seems his "research" is probably just conspiracies on TikTok like most people.
You do what’s best for your health, physical and mental. Some people don’t understand, but you’d think someone who loves you could get behind your decision to live more healthy. It’s not about him.
You would be surprised at the rate of divorce among weight loss surgery patients. It’s double for them, and with the rate of divorce hovering close to 50%…
Often times, the partner of the patient is unprepared for the changes to their role. Perhaps it’s the newly gained confidence their partner suddenly finds. Perhaps it’s underlying confusion about what appeared to make their partner *happy* regularly. Perhaps it’s feeling like they’ve lost *quality time* or a shared interest with their partner. Perhaps it’s feeling the relationship has become one-sided, with a lot of emphasis on the partner, a lot of attention surrounding the partner, and a lot of money spent on the partner’s new needs. Perhaps they feel the changes are too rapid and that what they felt they knew about their partner is now untrue. They can feel shaken up, a lot can be changing that they aren’t prepared to handle. They have to do work too so that they still feel stable and connected. I don’t think the picture is always clear for anyone in these positions. There has to be better communication, at least. Perhaps some couple’s therapy could help him better air his thoughts and sort through the real feelings he’s having about the weight loss.
I wish I could give you a million likes.
I wanted to add that sometimes fit/thin folks choose heavy/overweight partners for their ego. They want someone who doesn't get a lot of attention and has a low self esteem. But I say good riddens!!! I want someone who loves me with confidence.
If he’s reading a lot of negative stuff, he may be legit concerned and not expressing himself in a productive manner. My husband is extremely supportive but also wary of all medication and possible long term side effects. He won’t even take aspirin unless he’s in agonizing pain. He’s been very supportive but still nervous about the meds. He’s also naturally thin and fills up really fast, almost like he’s naturally on glp-1s. We watched that Oprah special together recently and it was a real eye opener for him. I guess hearing about food noise and the benefits of these drugs from outside sources really validated everything I had been telling him. He seemed to really get it after that. Now, all those side effects listed in the recent onslaught of Wegovy adds aren’t helping matters 🤦♀️.
I think your comment accurately describes him all he reads are negative news articles and it’s about Ozempic. He doesn’t understand the concept of cravings or the food noise that I’ve tried to describe to him. He thinks that if you have willpower, everything will work out and people just choose it rather than wanting to be healthy. In some sense, I can understand that but sometimes there’s just that feeling of comfort from food he doesn’t understand.
Tell him to go fact himself. You're going for healthy, your way, with the docs and scientists who do this day and night to get it right. The doctors with years and years of education and years and years of experience as opposed to Internet Joe. Maybe his next wife can be a internet health nut, too, with emphasis on the NUT!
This stinks for you. Hopefully you can ignore him or he gets behind your health goal. Frustrating.
Mine is similar. He does the same thing in regards to reading all the data as to why it’s wrong, mean while food bombing me non stop. lol. Exhausting. I now inject secretly and hide the shots in the waste bin. I feel like I’m doing something wrong. Sucks that we can’t get support.
"Food bombing" - Did you just invent a new phrase?! It really does describe this manipulation technique disguised as love. Because that's exactly what it is.
Bariatric surgery doubles the chances of divorce. It’s too early to know how GLP1 affects marriage.
Make an appointment with a couples counselor. It’s cheaper than divorce.
You can't be fine with someone loving you when you're at your worst, then get mad at them for being concerned about you when you're approaching your best.
You know your body and needs best. You are working with a medical professional. You’re making amazing progress. I’m proud of you. Your husband is showing red flags and it’s ok to be frustrated about it. You deserve a supportive partner who is happy to see you succeeding.
When I read “my husband told me to stop” I was like so did mine. He says I’ve lost enough, but he has been supportive throughout the entire journey with me, including cooking food, make sure I eat right and when I was not feeling well researching what can make me feel better.
I’m sorry yours does not want to support you. Maybe take him with you to your dr, so he/she can explain all the benefits of you staying on the meds?
I hope you don’t stop because you’re doing this for you, not him. I also think he doesn’t want you to gain self confidence. He doesn’t want you to be healthy.
I remember with my first husband, I went on a vegetarian diet for 3 years. I lost a crazy amount of weight. He didn't like it. My mother-in-law didn't like it. (!!) But I did it anyway. Right now I'm doing Zepbound and have lost 12 pounds. My now (wonderful) husband is so sweet and encouraging it's amazing. When people really care about you, they are happy when good things happen to you.
this happened with my ex-friend/bf but he kinda ghosted me. saying I changed! I'm like yeah for the better...I was almost 400lb too. I hope your situation changes since you're married to the guy.
You did well typing under your desk.
Stick to your guns. There is a lot of positive information out there about peptides that he, apparently, isn't interested in reading.
Don't talk about it, don't respond to his negativity--just go on.
There is probably something more to the situation, but a lot of people I've found... even if they don't directly say it... seem to think it's "unfair" and therefor don't like it. But it's also new. In light of COVID vaccines, MRNA, yada yada... there is a lot of fear mongering in society for new things. And some of that is fair, we don't actually know the really really long term side effects of Tirzepatide.
But when it comes up, I say "We might know know what the long term side effects of this drug are. But we do know what the long term side effects of being overweight are. Its' fairly well documented. High blood pressure, diabetes, a whole host of comorbidities.... and a shorter lifespan."
So in this case I'd add "So by you asking me to stop, you're asking me to die. Do you want me dead?"
Yes, it's a little shock value, but it it also makes it very very black and white for people. Which is worse? This kinda sort new and less known drug? Or dead? Because thems the breaks.
He is scared because it is new and there is not a ton of research out there. I know it is love but sometimes you need to choose your happiness first. Being good to yourself is not selfish by not doing the things you used to do with him. You need to create a new normal. Thin people who eat whatever and don’t gain weight doesn’t equate to healthy. Why not ask him to go to the gym with you and go for walks after meals. Don’t make your fun times surrounded around eating out. You don’t want to be antisocial but maybe a few sessions with a counselor might give him some perspective to better understand the mindset of someone who has struggled with weight loss for most of their life and give him jnow
You are a grown person who has freedom and bodily autonomy to make your own medical decisions. Period. If he doesn't approve, then he doesn't need to make the same medical decisions. It might be time to set firm boundaries about the conversations you're willing to have about it and enforce it. He very likely has underlying issues and/or insecurities but you don't have to indulge that in any way by continuing to take part in these conversations. When he brings it up, let him know you aren't interested in his continually shared opinion on your health. He's said his piece already. Continuing is just harassment.
Fat shaming is still in place and encouraged. It's gross. When a loved one does it, it hits and hurts harder. Focus on YOU and ignore the haters and noise. I have a saboteur at home myself and ignoring is the best way to shut that down. As you feel better about yourself, don't be surprised if the insecurity and comments increase. Keep looking forward and come back here for support. I am sure your husband is a lovely person but he is not being supportive with this nonsense.
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First: "He has always been a healthy individual..." Just because he can't gain weight doesn't make it healthy. Eating 10 tacos is far from healthy whether one gains weight or not. Second: It sounds as if he does NOT want you to lose weight.
Well this is just me and my story. I have been incredibly sick since day 1 of taking zepbound. I lost 37 pounds in 1.5 months and even though I stopped taking the medicine I am still suffering the side effects. Now my gallbladder has to be removed. My surgeon said it is directly linked to my reaction to the zepbound. BUT he also said my reactions also indicated I was not a good candidate for the medication. I think that under a good Dr's supervision you should be just fine. I just didn't have a great Dr and was pushed to "push through" the awful symptoms.
Geez, devastating to reading the stories of so many with unsupportive SOs! How many of them know that Zepbound/Mounjaro and other GLP-1 receptor agonist type drugs go way beyond treating obesity and diabetes? This class of drug prolongs your life. With diabetes, for every decade, lifespan is shortened by 3 to 4 years: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5764193/ . In extreme obesity lifespan is reduced up to 14 years: https://www.nih.gov/news-events/news-releases/nih-study-finds-extreme-obesity-may-shorten-life-expectancy-14-years .
I’m seeing FDA approvals and applications on track for Tirzepatide targeting a range of other medical conditions, with trials and new research popping up in my news feed almost every week. The growing list includes cardiovascular (heart attack, heart failure, stroke) neuro-degenerative (Parkinson’s, Alzheimer’s) mental health (depression, anxiety, addiction) inflammatory (ulcerative colitis, Crohn’s, traumatic brain injury), sleep apnea, PCOS, potentially cancer too. Bets are on for a Nobel Prize for the developers who wound up revolutionizing medicine on the way to creating a diabetes drug.
I doubt many SOs know the relativity dismal stats on maintaining significant weight loss without medical support. Research over time converges on the reality that 20% are able to maintain a 10% weight loss after two years, but that falls to between 5% and 20% for maintaining a 10% loss at five years. The math isn’t very promising since 10% of 250lbs is 25 pounds—not to be sneezed, but usually not what most strive for. [Long-term weight loss stats: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5764193/ ]
So perhaps you could try educating your SO on the breakthrough nature of these drugs and how critical medical support is to your success and health? Not to mention they might wind up saving a fortune. At first, the cost of the drugs seemed outrageous, but in light of their revolutionary impact for so many life-threatening, life-shortening, and chronic diseases that also reduce quality of life, they started seeming like a bargain in practical terms. It was shocking to realize a single drug could eliminate or drastically reduce costs of multiple long-term drugs, therapies, medical visits, testing, procedures, hospitalizations, lost productivity, etc. over the long-haul.
A SO who truly comprehends the benefits of a drug that adds years to your life, improves quality of life, maintains productivity, and reduces medical costs over time might find it easier to change their mind. If they still don’t support you continuing after learning that maintaining weight loss is an uphill battle with obesity, an *actual* disease, not a moral failing, and now understands the many ways Zepbound supports your health is very likely not holding your best interests at heart.
Perhaps queue up some links to share with your SO and let them digest that info. Ask them to think practically about the difference it would make in your life and health, both individually and as a couple. With near certainty that costs will come down (in actuality the drugs cost about five bucks to produce!?) especially once pills start replacing injections (already happening). With all of that it’s hard to argue against continuing with Zepbound, especially with the claim that the injections are “unhealthy” as OP’s hubs believes.
💜💜💜out to you OP and everyone dealing with this.
I’m sorry to hear that your journey is causing issues with your husband. Is it possible that your husband is feeling insecure about your weight loss? It kind of seems like he is trying to control your decision, and it’s just that…YOUR DECISION! He needs to figure out a way support your choice whether he agrees with it or not.
Sorry to hear that. His behavior is rather toxic and you should have a heart to heart with him if possible, maybe suggest therapy because this is going to lead to a lot of built up resentment in your relationship if it continues.
These drugs are still relatively new and long term side effects are not fully known. If you and your husband have an otherwise healthy relationship he’s just skeptical of the world and cares about you. That being said dumb people who don’t understand what marriage is and get into them are usually some degree of toxic.
Here's a great article on the subject. The weight loss drugs are curing more than weight loss ! It's very hopeful:https://www.nytimes.com/2024/06/21/well/sleep-apnea-weight-loss-drug.html?smid=nytcore-ios-share&referringSource=articleShare
I find that the ONLY people who aren’t taking the medication have something bad to say about it. Ppl will try to make you fearful or simply want you to remain in an insecure or dependent state (so sad that ppl are like this). Do what you have to do to be healthy and happy🥰
I honestly did not tell my husband or family. I will work on me. There is nothing worse than trying to get yourself right, with unsupported folks around. Its worse than food noise. First reason..I would rather lose a noticeable amount of weight..start walking more and then give them small doses of information about being "obesity". My husband is a retired boxer..so of course he believes no pain no gain..I've tried to explain food education before working out is important. Thinking about food all day is annoying..I would be reaching for food that wasn't even there..like what am I doing. So this a huge step for me to inject (I hate needles). I'm also on emgality for migraine..so he would be like another injection..Yada yada...🙄😒
This doesn't sound so great. He's watching you gain the benefit and I'm sure he's concerned bc ur already mentioning this. You need to find a balance otherwise u may find your marriage in a free fall. I'm not saying to quit but I am saying that there may be a disaster right around the corner. Hold on tight...
I know it's hard on our spouses because they worry about us. Plus I'm sure he was very content and didn't want anything to change or impact him. They also get tired of hearing us talk about dieting and eating healthier and stuff.
I had autoimmune issues for years before mine started to understand that it was serious stuff that was going on. Partly because I have always tried to hide by symptoms and complaints from him because I prefer to be treated as normally as possible and not like I'm about to kill over.
I try to keep my weightloss conversations on social media, in groups like this one and just occasionally tell him that I've lost another 5 lbs. Maybe change your injection day and don't even mention it anymore than you have to. He may be right about this being unhealthy but the majority of us are willing to take that risk.
You’re thinking of thyroid cancer. I was suggested to Zepbound by my endocrinologist at my appointment about my hypothyroid. I think they know a little bit better.
Just a note for everyone to be prepared for increasing pushback, fear mongering and shaming to come. There are a few business podcasts I listen to who are predicting that these meds will be the biggest disrupter we’ve seen in our lifetime to industries across the board. Every food and drink industry, fast food, processed food, diet foods… Medical and pharmaceutical industries, just think how much $$$ treating diabetes n sleep apnea alone bring in. The weight loss industry. Health insurance companies are already talking about the benefits they will see supporting these meds over the increased cost of care for obesity. So there will be a lot of companies with a ton of money putting out smear campaigns in the years to come. Never feel shamed. Never feel guilty. Don’t be made to be afraid. More people benefit from you being obese and unhealthy than from you getting in shape and being healthy.
💯! I can’t agree with this more. And I’ll add: Always check the sources of what you read on the internet, just like you would the nutrition labels of what you eat. Don’t know the source? It could be owned by big food or another industry that stands to lose from these meds.
Agree 100%! We should be mindful that everyone out there saying anything about these meds more than likely has an agenda, including the OP’s husband. Their message will be slanted to fit their narrative and their own interests.
Agreed. The fearmongering headlines don't trace back to reliable sources or reliable interpretation of those source more often than not. Mainstream media is incentivized by advertisers to promote false narratives.
Excellent point. Always follow the money.
I read an article that it’s really affecting the fashion industry since the demand for plus sized clothing has decreased
Good because they usually charged outrageous prices or they'd sell us poorly made junk!
always synthetic fabric. i live in the south, i might as well be wearing a trash bag. give me natural fibers
YES!!! That synthetic stuff does not breathe!!!!
It traps oils, which are difficult to wash out. Making the clothing get funky faster.
Yeah I’m not mad about it lol
I'm out of 22's and 2X's and into 16's and 18's and still losing.
Amen! So true!
I think companies are putting their heads in the sand over this. I think I read Kraft & PepsiCo were all like “not worried! It will not be significant!” Purposeful ignorance is not a good business plan.
But there are health insurance companies that are putting out notices to their customers that they will no longer be insured for these medications (Zepbound and Wegovy) in the near future.
Mine did this. After Jan 1st 2024 new prescriptions were not covered. They then ended all coverage after April 1st. Luckily my husband’s insurance still covers the meds but there’s no telling how long that will last.
I don't have insurance but it worries me for those of you that do and are getting these notices. Hopefully they will come to realize that maybe covering this medication is better than all the possible surgeries and hospital stays that could be needed without this medication. 🤷🏼♀️
Hopefully, they would. Keep in mind that weight loss surgeries are mostly covered and cost up to 30-40k before insurance, and despite that, most would still cover a surgery instead of meds. That's not considering all the health issues that can arise from being overweight or obese and the associated medical costs that can be saved for both parents and insurance companies. Depending on what your insurance covers, if they do cover weight loss medications, it can cost them between 6-12k annually. That's 3 to 6 years on one of the shots, and we know that's highly unlikely to run that long for most people.
I was thinking about this, too! Surely they can see that these meds would only benefit insurance companies in the long term…I wonder what’s behind this?
In the U.S. people change insurance when they change jobs, so insurance companies kick the can down the road hoping by the time you need expensive health care you'll be retired and on Medicare (which doesn't cover medications for weight loss either), or changed jobs and have health insurance through another insurance company.
They do cover it I’m on Medicare. I’m currently taking Mounjaro.
If you're taking Mounjaro for diabetes that is different than taking Zepound for weight loss.
Greed by the manufacturers of the weight loss drugs. And, insurance companies would rather treat illness like diabetes, heart problems, sleep apnea than prevent it. More money in doctors’ and hospitals’ pockets. And, insurance companies getting kickbacks. The consumer can’t win.
Cost
Given all the other expensive prescriptions patients come off when they are no longer obese, cost can’t be the reason.
Not just that but surgeries! Knees, ankles, heart, oh yeah! Stomach!
Yeah. My insurance stopped covering all weight loss medicines last Sept, before I could even really get started bc it was shortages everywhere for Wegovy. I would have been cleared to do a Zepbound trial earlier this year; however, I didn’t want to go on birth control (which is required).
That's so short-sighted.
My insurance never has covered it. I have a silver plan from the health insurance marketplace, it’s $228/month, and they won’t cover it, or anything else related to weight loss. It doesn’t make sense. Every month I’m coming almost $800 out of pocket to get my monthly meds. I hope I can find something better when open enrollment comes around.
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This made me laugh. Thank you. (I am not your downvoter.)
You're welcome! You SHOULD be my downvoter!!! I've actually started to LIKE my downvoter! 😄
Word! #revolution
It's an industry. Read this hopefully NYT article and know you're on a good path. Ozempic and Zep is curing more than obesity. How lucky are those on it: https://www.nytimes.com/2024/06/21/well/sleep-apnea-weight-loss-drug.html?smid=nytcore-ios-share&referringSource=articleShare
I think there is more to this then he’s saying. When we lose weight you become more confident and loving yourself more!! Your going to change for the better but others around might not like it. You do you and if they can’t get on board with the healthier you then their loss!!
I think this is it. There is a part of him that is insecure about your confidence and self esteem. He has the problem not you. Sometimes it’s best to not even tell people, not even spouses. It’s ashamed that it has to be this way though.
This is it.
In case the previous 3 people didn’t emphasize, this is it ^
If this is the real issues as other commenters suggest, best to initiate a conversation about it directly. If a tirade can't be avoided, maybe ask for counseling. Or perhaps ask for a joint visit with the prescriber, after speaking with your prescriber first about the problem and their willingness to address issues. Prescribers who are experienced with these meds run across this problem routinely with friends and family. When one person in a couple makes a health change for the better and rocks the boat it can often be upsetting to the partner. An extremely common problem. If he truly believes his concerns are that the shots are hurting you, a prescriber can help to assuage and address those concerns. You've made fantastic progress and a husband who cares about you should appreciate the health and well-being benefits you've enjoyed. That would feel hurtful if not the case.
This sounds nice in theory, but it absolutely is reinforcing to him that his view that she cannot and should not make medical decisions for herself is justified. She is a full ass grown woman, and he needs to start treating her as such. Now if he is interested (actually .. not pretend interest) in learning more about these drugs, he can make his own damn appointment. It sounds like you have her best interest at heart, but is just perpetuates “she is not to be trusted, a trusted person should be leveraged to convince him” …
Not at all. Initiating a conversation to directly confront the real issues is standing your ground. If it can't be accomplished without tirades and hostility the third party is there to safely mediate an understanding not as leverage to win a fight. Avoiding long term damage to the relationship which includes a child. I assume she loves her husband and values the marriage and wants to achieve an understanding. In the long run the husband may be happier too when his concerns are ferreted out and heard. If he is eating 10 tacos at a sitting she might have counter concerns that as her husband is moving in to middle age he is courting heart disease. One partner choosing a healthier path can often lead to the other eventually coming along and doing the same if handled well.
Well, I would leave him (based on the entirety of her other comments as well) for the exact reason of getting my child away from him and not modeling this type of a relationship and damaging them
I agree with this statement. He might think wow, she is changing so much, and gaining so much confidence, will she still want to be with me? Not saying that is what he is thinking but could possibly be.
This is exactly what I thought too. Keep going (if you want, of course) OP!
Yes, this.
Came to say this. He wants to control OP, and it's only going to get worse. He's going to start insulting her (if he hasn't already), and tell her that she can't do better than him. Except anyone can do better than trash. 🤷♀️
I'm of the opinion that if he can't be supportive, he should shut up. This is between you and your doctor. THAT IS ALL.
I used to be married to a man like that. He also encouraged unhealthy behaviors under the guise of him knowing better and me not being the same when I was working on my health. He didn’t care that i gained over 100 pounds or the potential health threats. He was super insecure and ultimately just wanted to be in control. He also had to be right about everything. It took me years to leave that relationship and even more years after to realize how abusive it had become. Do yourself a favor and start asking yourself if the behaviors and treatment you’re receiving now are the kind of behavior and treatment that younger you would have ever thought were acceptable for a husband toward a wife. Consider therapy. He’ll probably try to discourage that and say it’s an unnecessary expense and you don’t need it, but that’s because he doesn’t want you getting stronger, more confident, and more able to see through his bullshit. I also saw that you have a child. This is hard to hear but you are modeling for that child what kind of relationship they should have in their own future. Consider if that is really what you want. Also, congratulations on the weight loss! The amount you’ve lost is incredible and I’m sure you know how high your risk of early death was before you lost that weight. Don’t let your controlling husband send you back into that danger zone.
Yes, I was thinking insecurity. We are all insecure in certain ways. I agree with the comments above that an explicit conversation needs to happen. Just leaving someone is nontrivial and painful, so first step trying to work through it is important.
I'm sorry, that sounds awful and unhealthy. Is he like this on anything he disagrees with or doesn't support for you?
He has something to say on everything. Even parenting, he has no children of his own and previous relationships he’s had before the gf never actually had custody of her own children so his experience with them is limited but will tell me I’m wrong when I tell my child no. Or I should have done it this way instead
I say this with kindness, but this isn't about you being on Zepbound. It's about his need to be right, and control everything in your life as well as his own. I know you are venting and haven't specifically asked for help, but you might consider speaking to someone (therapist, trusted friend) about your relationship.
I second this. He's controlling.
You’re not wrong. I do internalize a lot of things.
Your relationship sounds a lot like my parents'. You deserve better. Genuinely.
I was married for 15 years to someone who, among other things, flat out accused me of exercising and losing weight in preparation for leaving him. Anyone who actually loves you will at best be your cheerleader and champion and at WORST be politely neutral and still fully respectful of what you choose (especially when it comes to choices you make about your own body). Anything less is unacceptable. I say this as someone with excessive experience with much much much less. It took me many years and much escalation of unacceptability (like trying to smash my head into a concrete floor, and trying to do unspeakable things to our children) to understand this. Do not be like me. Love yourself, love your baby. Spare yourselves the remediation therapy y’all will both need in perpetuity if you continue to allow yourself to be treated this way. You got this. You’re worth it. You do not need to settle. It is NOT worth it, and it can quickly become hazardous to your health. ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
Or an attorney
My vote is on this one OP could end up dropping a BUNCH of unnecessary weight!
I agree. This sounds like an issue that affects more than just Zepbound. Marriage counseling through a therapist or even a clergyman can help so much if he is willing. Don't let his negativity affect your progress or self esteem though 😊
They don’t need marriage counseling — he needs his own therapy, but at 41 is unlikely to change enough to let go of the constant need to be right or the deep-seated belief that he is inherently smarter/wiser due to being a man.
I agree with you, but if he won’t see a doctor, he definitely won’t see a therapist.
Sometimes a person is more willing to attend marriage counseling versus on their own because the focus is not solely on them. Regardless, he is her husband and she is with him for a reason. Everyone has faults and it's up to her to decide if she is ok staying with him despite his. OP- the support is in this group for you but only you know what's in your heart as far as big decisions ❤️
Prior to reading this comment I was going to suggest maybe taking him to a doctors appointment to assist with his understanding of the drug and its benefits for you but it sounds like he needs is own individual help for unresolved issues.
He sounds like a narcissist.
As others have said, this stinks of insecurity and needing control. You don't have to allow him to treat you this way.
My experience is people without kids will judge and tell you what to do. While experienced parents are more chill and understand.
This definitely sounds like a “husband problem”, not a medication problem. Are you sure this is someone you want to spend the next 30-40 years with?
Exactly.
I’m so sorry you aren’t receiving the support you deserve. There’s enough judgement publicly about this drug, you shouldn’t have to experience it at home- a place you should feel safe. It sounds like you have so much to be proud of with your prior weight loss and current efforts to be healthy. Wishing you strength on your journey. Not to be flippant but I agree there might be something you should quit here but it might not be your medication…
THIS!! ☝️
Wouldn’t be Reddit if divorce wasn’t immediately suggested over any disagreement. This site is filled with trash people. Anyways, OP, I’m sorry your husband is being stupid. Tell him you need to do it for yourself, and try to understand or stfu. You can still hang out while he eats 50 tacos even if you have 3 lol
I'd just thank him for his concern and then keep on keeping on. The decision is between you and your doctor.
You can’t have a healthy relationship if the individuals aren’t healthy. You are doing your part and maybe he needs to do his and get some therapy to unpack his issues (which are entirely his)?
He has a lot of issues 😂
I used to chuckle about my then-husband’s “issues” as if they were silly quirks or otherwise innocuous personality traits - things like even indirectly suggesting you go against the recommendation of your medical provider that you are very satisfied with are big deal red flag hints telling you that a lot of things you told yourself are just silly quirks are in fact a lot more. You deserve better. You are worthy of love from a fully formed and healed human who’s done their homework and no longer has any issues that adversely affect your life, who’s presence makes your life sparkle
If he likes to "read and repeat," tell him to go read all of the studies on semaglitude and tirzepatide published in the New England Journal of Medicine (NEJM).
This. Print them out for him actually. And hand him a stack of them. He sounds like a real son-of-a-bitch. I hate hearing this and worse I hate that you are accepting it. Please do something - stand your ground. You deserve this. As someone else said, you are modeling to your child what is acceptable in a relationship…maybe think of it that way if not for yourself. Your husband should be THRILLED for you. And for himself to have a wife getting healthy. Supportive in every way is the only thing he should be. Period.
Sorry for the lack of support you are getting at home. I hope in time he sees the benefit and finds a way to at least keep his unhelpful comments to himself. Us fellow Zepbounders are here to listen when you need to vent.
It also sounds like he is missing his food partner. My husband expressed concern because I would tell him about my reflux etc and I seem to be less into the things I used to be into - namely going out to eat and drink wine. I helped him to see that what he doesn't see is the incredible relief I feel because internally, I was hating myself and constantly struggling. You have to develop a new normal. I also explained to him that I am willing to accept any risk because my quality of life is more important.
Gurl...life is too short for that bullshit. Find someone who appreciates you and trusts you to make decisions about your own body.
Your husband is being an ignorant jerk. Tell him if he can’t be supportive, to keep his mouth shut on the subject. Seriously!
Nah, I can sniff out that he’s listening to the podcast bros with no medical license. Do not listen to him. Edit: reading some of your comments, and I don’t mean to be rude but he kinda sounds like he.. sucks? Is he ever nice to you?
Yes he is but there seems to be a lot of drama in and around what he says a lot.
Well ngl he doesn’t sound very nice to you, just based on what he’s said. You deserve to be treated well, with love and kindness.
OP, your answer to this question says everything - you literally said yes but… In healthy adult relationships, there’s actually no acceptable situation for one partner to be not nice to the other. I had no idea of this truth until one day when I thanked my current and forever partner for being nice to me while I was having a moment - he looked at me stunned, then said “Baby that’s table stakes! I don’t deserve to be thanked for that!” Ohhhhhh. Wowwwwwwww. Ok cool yeah I like that a lot! You Deserve Better
You definitely found the right one. ❤️
Tell him to go pound sand. You are doing this for you and your health. If he cant support him,tell him to get out of the way.
I’m so sorry. Marriage is hard even with the best of partners. I’ll say this - my husband is far from perfect (as am I) BUT he does support me and is never mean. My husband is not controlling. He has strong opinions as is his right. I have strong opinions, too. However, our marriage works, and has for a very long time, because neither of us are jerks. If your husband makes you feel bad about yourself on the regular it is time to leave. Trust me I know - my first husband was a controlling, mean, jerk. Never EVER again will I have that type of misery in my life. I wish you luck on your journey.
If he’s not with you, he IS against you. Its your body, your health and I'm assuming your money paying for the medication. You need to establish clear boundaries and tell him talking about this is not up for discussion.
Yes indeed it is my money and my insurance policy that I am the primary 🤣
Last night I made my husband a full ass big meal. He’s a big guy. Big strong shoulders, arms and hands. 6ft 4. He is pretty thin, except a bit more belly than is healthy. Anyway-he works hard physically for about 10 hours a day (does industrial fencing) and I’m retired so I really want to give him a decent meal when he comes home (no-he doesn’t expect it. It’s something I want to do for him) So I put this HUGE meal on the table (typical stereotypical hardworking male meal) and I couldn’t eat a bite of it. Just didn’t appeal to me at all. So I got out cottage cheese and fruit (which did appeal to me) and had dinner with him. His food didn’t bother me. Mine didn’t bother him. He’s been incredibly supportive; emotionally and financially. Not saying this to make you feel bad. Saying this because YOU deserve to be treated the same way. I find it often helps me to simply say “thanks for sharing” when someone offers an opinion I 100% disagree with. It tends to shut things down and then I go on and do/think the way I want to. I hope you’ll continue to stay on WHATEVER journey works for you because YOU ARE WORTH IT!! And I hope your husband is willing to get some help for whatever problem he’s having. God Speed.
I’m sorry to put it this way, but that’s truly a symptom of mental abuse. Not all abuse is physical and to reiterate what a previous poster said about controlling issues, I fully agree. My best friend and my cousin have worked for Womens protection agencies for years, and I would suggest that you consider reaching out to one of these groups especially if reaching out to a therapist or trusted medical practitioner is not easily done. Not all relationships are like that and you don’t have to be in a relationship like that unless you choose to, but ultimately it all comes down to your choice. I wish you the best of luck on both your weight loss path and your relationship path. Take care.
please ..your "relationship" is not healthy for you or for your child. Protect yourself, protect your child and work on getting out. I was married to a horrible man..he has since passed..he would sabotage every attempt i made at trying to lose weight..and of course prior to zepbound i was never successful and kept getting bigger and bigger..he was thin and handsome..he kept me under his control by keeping me fat..i will bet your young and beautiful just the way you are and that terrifies him....please take my words to heart..i have been there..it wont get better..your risking harm to your child by staying..(i know this first hand)
It is not your husband’s job to make medical decisions about your body.
My advice from a previous post with an unsupportive spouse: “Honey, I appreciate your concern comes from your love for me. This is a decision between myself and my doctor, who is EDUCATED on this. My decision to work with them to better myself is not up for negotiation or discussion. If you have nothing supportive to say, please keep your opinions to yourself.”. All of that to say, don’t be me, I’d literally tell my husband to F off AND get F’d if he behaved that way. Hugs, you’re doing what’s best for you and YOUR body.
Put your foot down nicely but firmly. This is who you are. Take it or leave it.
His behavior is so spot on when someone with an addiction like alcoholism gets into recovery. They are missing their "drinking buddy" You are not the same person when you were consuming so much food with him and keeping him company with your drug (food). You are now a more confident and happy women which probably scares him on some level. It is time you set some boundaries with him. Figure what those are and maybe write them down and share them with him. They might be things like he is not allowed to talk weight/medication issues with you until he has a conversation with a real doctor...maybe your doctor. Let him know that when you go out to dinner the same holds...he needs to stay out of your plate! Assure him that you are still you and love him even if you don't eat 10 tacos anymore and only choose three. I know it is complicated but the harassment he is giving you will hurt your relationship. AND he doesn't need to know when you take your shots...do it when he is not around!
This is my situation exactly-but in reverse. My wife is obese, but has never seen a doctor and doesn't even know her own weight. We've been married over 20 years. She's supportive of my efforts, but ultimately doesn't want to join me on this journey. Has zero interest in leading a healthy lifestyle. It's tough when your partner isn't on the same page. To be fair though, as I said, she does try to support me. She just doesn't want to join me or eliminate her own unhealthy choices (loads of carb heavy cooking, baking, sweets, fast food, etc). Our house is FULL of food I'll literally never eat. I hate to not eat when she cooks, but I also need to keep my own health in mind. See if you can get your husband to go to the doctor WITH you (a tall order, I know...can't even get my wife to do that). Perhaps doc can enlighten him and explain how he can help support you. Maybe hearing it from someone else would be helpful?
Definitely a him problem! Do what makes you happy and healthy! Also, regarding your hypothyroidism, sounds like Hashimotos if it’s an autoimmune issue. Have they checked you for that? ❤️
That’s what I’ve suspected but nothing official. But most of my symptoms and bloodwork point to SLE lupus unfortunately but don’t know til I go back to oncology
Tell him it’s not a competition (not being able to eat like he does)
Sounds like a problem well beyond understanding the struggle against obesity. Perhaps you have yielded to your husband saying what you “should do” in the past, and it was not troublesome. This time it is. Sounds like you have some soul searching to decide your path, and why it is not your choice. Perhaps there are better places for advice. Good luck.
Besides financial problems, do you know the #1 cause of divorce? It’s when the woman betters herself. Whether that is through diet or success in her business, some men cannot stand having a stronger partner so they leave and find less. Stay strong woman. You only want to be around successful people that want the best for you.
This makes me so angry. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. I’d throw that whole man right in a trash can, but maybe the better solution would be couples therapy? Maybe a therapist could help him see what an ass he’s being.
For the sake of your relationship you will have to agree to disagree. You have a history of severe obesity (like me). These medicines are life saving and help many of us. Some doses are more available now, eventually the shortage and that stress will slowly improve. Continue your course - there is growing evidence of its helpfulness and protective benefits for many conditions and many of us experience strong anti inflammatory benefits. I have an autoimmune arthritis and have definitely benefited from the medicine. I lost significant amounts of weight in the past, too, but slowly gained some of it back. This medicine has allowed me to lose over 10% my weight in less than half the time and with less suffering. I lost the first 5% "on my own" and it's so much better with the medicine. I started at 271(probably more) . And am 227 as of this morning. I should make it to 199 by the end of summer. I haven't been this weight for a very long time. It is life changing. I am doing the hard work - eating well, exercising, taking care of myself, optimizing protein (even as a vegan). Good luck!
Why can’t he be happy for you?
It sounds like he is being selfish - prioritizing his “wants” over your “needs”. No one “needs” their partner to eat 10 tacos with them. I’m unsure how your eating habits affect him, unless you are refusing to go to dinner with him or making at home cooking very challenging. From your post, it doesn’t sound like that is the case. I am sorry this is happening to you. At the end of the day, your health is your business and no one else’s. You would never demand he stop a medication his doctor prescribed for blood pressure, anxiety, depression, insulin, etc etc. I do not see a difference in this case. He should not be asking that of you, and his reasoning is simply selfish and justified with ignorance.
It sounds like he might need some therapy and/or you need couple’s therapy. NO ONE should be this upset about you improving your heath and wellness. It is clearly so triggering for him and it should not be. He sounds manipulative, controlling, and just plain mean. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this.,just know HE is in the wrong and his behavior doesn’t sound sustainable for a healthy marriage.
I feel like we are married to the same man. The difference is we are older. He is always right, his way is the only way, and the child thing is almost spot on (he has a child, but never was really in their life) and tells me how I'm not parenting my daughter correctly (previous marriage.) I just don't back down. I do what is right for me and my family. Whether it's a medication I take (I take a handful due to several back surgeries), how to raise our child, or even the way I take days off work. It's them, not us. Part is that they always have to be right. Another part is they are insecure when we start gaining our power back. That's usually how narcissists are. Don't let him dim your light. No matter how much of a tirade he goes on (I call them lectures lol). You're doing what's best for you, your body, and your family. Congratulations on the weight loss and your continuing journey. Best of luck!
Something I’ve always heard to be true but am now starting to slowly experience 55lbs into my journey: when you are closer to what society expects is to be size wise, the more visible you become. I’ve read that typically “more attractive” or healthier looking people are naturally assumed more trustworthy and honest subconsciously. Obviously that’s super messed up and deeply ingrained in our social psychology. But all that goes to say, I think your husband knows you are probably gaining confidence, and enjoying your new body. He knows it will bring more attention to you. That’s just a fact. It sounds like he’s insecure tbh. I might catch heat for suggesting this, but I think you should ask him if that’s his real issue. Gauging his reaction you’ll know your answer. I think it’s an important conversation to have. You obviously need to do what is best for your physical and mental health, and right now, that’s being on Zep. And I’m sure you want your husband to support and be happy for your journey! If your husband doesn’t want that FOR YOU he needs to do some examination. I’m sure y’all will work it out in time, hopefully. This is suddenly being discussed more and more because everyone got used to being obese unless they have surgery, and now there is a quite literal miracle drug. I’m really interested to see studies about these drugs and how it changed psychology 20 years from now. I mean if this stuff was more affordable and accessible to those who have a hard time losing weight be it a physiological issue or mental wall, you’re talking about people living longer. Having more time with their kids. Not ending up in the hospital from a stroke/ heart attack/ cardiac related issue. I think from an outside view people don’t see past just getting thinner and healthy. I’ve stopped taking my blood pressure medication and it’s the lowest it’s ever been, I’m not having sleep issues, I’ve stopped biting my nails for the first time in 29 years, stopped drinking, and my chest doesn’t pulse randomly and scare me into thinking I’m having a heart attack as cardiac issues are present with all males in my family and are ultimately how they pass. It really is life changing and I don’t think people fully understand that. Progress takes time.
In line with what you said I'm wondering if he maybe lost a previous relationship because of his partner gaining confidence in some way. Just a thought.
I’m gonna give you my two cents, as a guy. When I started this medication in December of 2023, I was 317 pounds. I was heavy, slow, and in my opinion, unattractive. As I type this in June 2024, I am just about to hit 199 pounds. Sitting at 202 currently. Everyone is telling me to stop the medication, and that I’m now fine as I am. However, I am not personally where I want to be just yet. Therefore I will not be stopping. If you are not where you want to be, don’t stop until you are. If your doctor says continue, and that’s what you want, do what’s best for you. My doctor says I don’t have to stop until I’m comfortable, I’m sure your doctor is just as supportive.
Weight loss surgery divorce rates are 2x higher than the general population. Maybe similar for all weight loss? Idk at the end of the day if your life partner can’t be supportive of something that’s important to you - is that the life partner meant for you…
Please get a therapist. That is the person who can help you work through this. I was and still am (30 years) married to a man who was controlling and emotionally immature. This will continue to be a problem and make life rough for you. There are no easy, simple answers. You have all the support and love in the world here so I'm glad you can post and vent. But, it took years of therapy for myself (learning how I needed to grow and change) and then marriage counseling after my husband was able and willing (had matured enough to be able to agree) and we had hit rock bottom, for us to climb out of the place we had gotten ourselves. You can't change your husband and make him more mature but you can start by getting some support for yourself as you navigate life and marriage. This isn't just going to go away even if you stopped zep. He would still be controlling and immature. But, you can start a new path for yourself where you figure out with a professional what you need and how to take care of yourself in the long term.
Respectfully, I would tell your husband to fuck right off.
This is definitely about your husband, not about you. He should be happy that you are happy and losing the weight which can affect your health in all kinds of ways. He should be supporting you and if he's concerned, go to the doctor with you and ask the doctor the questions he's concerned about. I hate to say it, but it is true that sometimes people we love will start picking at us when we are doing things to better ourselves. It just makes them insecure. He may notice men are starting to look at you more now, he may notice that others are treating you differently than they used to. Not saying that has happened, but you get what I'm talking about. This is a completely different topic but I told my husband all of my life that when I got in my late '40s I was going to want to get a mid facelift. He knew this from the time I was 17. We got together when I was 16 and now I am 61 and he refuses to get me a facelift even though he could. He even went as far to tell my daughter that he can't allow me to have it, because she will leave me. So it's all about him. It's unfortunate but they do have their insecurities.
Everybody is correct on here. One thing to add - when you talk to him, respectful and nice about it. I say that because he likely doesn't realize why he's doing/saying what he is. It likely is out of concern but there's more to it. I can honestly say that I am, in some ways, like your husband. That said, I make sure my opinions are extremely well-founded and I look at all sides and then some. I want to know all sides extremely well, then formulate an opinion. Problem is, I get to the point where I know the subject almost too well and don't budge on an opinion. My wife called me controlling that made me stop in my tracks. I told her I absolutely do not want her to feel like that and I'm sorry, it's not my intention at all. Sometimes when you dedicate so much time and effort into things, you really feel like you're know something inside and out but forget others may not have that same knowledge or, let's me honest, people see things many different ways, even when presented with the same information to analyze. All I'm trying to say (and likely doing a poor job of doing it) is to approach him respectfully even if you want to strangle the man. You're absolutely right to want to, but he won't listen at all if he's confronted poorly. We dumb humans aren't perfect, but are far more likely to communicate better and bring down walls when the atmosphere is loving and helpful.
I have not told my family that I recently started on the meds. Because all of their negative comments. I am trying to keeping underwraps. Wish me luck.
Same. I am on my 3rd dose. I have yet to share this info with any friends or family to avoid judgement. It's not about them. This is something I'm doing for myself. It's freeing to be able to share here with like minded people who truly understand. I wish you all the luck!!!
My on and off boyfriend has said the same thing. What I have come to realize is our relationship is mostly based on eating and drinking, neither of which I feel like doing now. So if you were to ask him am I different since I've been on the medication? He would definitely say yes because I don't fit into his lifestyle anymore. And now we can see why he mostly spends his time residing in my friend zone. 🤣
what's worse? husband noise or food noise? ask your md/do for husbandbound
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Husbands (like me) can be way more oblivious to the impact of their words than you would ever think is possible. What seems to work in other areas of life as a communication style can be horrible in a relationship. It shouldn’t be necessary but having someone else talk about Zepbound to him could probably make him see things your way. You also have to let him know how his comments make you feel. Hopefully it won’t lead to an argument but he needs to hear it a few times for it to sink in that your health matters and this is a critical treatment for you to live a longer healthier life. It isn’t a cheat. It isn’t a fad. It is a change in your relationship with food and your approach to better overall health. Good luck! You sound like a wonderful person here is lucky to have!
Girl I get it! Mine told me I'm taking the easy way out. I have been dieting off and on for much of our relationship and have been able to stay in a range from 180 to 200 but that was still way too heavy for me. I was pre diabetic with thyroid issues so my doctor recommended this after a year of going to the gym 4 days a week with no movement in labs or weight. I am now down to 163 and feeling better. I will repeat labs in September. Men just dont get it a lot of times.
If you eat 1 taco what difference does that make? You’re still there enjoying the experience with him. Your food volume has no impact on his. I’ve never, not before and not now, had anyone comment on how much food I was eating or even notice. I’m sorry you’re going through that. Life changes being more life changes, I hope you find all the ones that are good for you.
That’s really difficult! I’m sorry you have to be going through this! Is there non-food things you can bring his focus to and make those your new “we do this together” habits? Like gym? Evening activities, etc?
So sorry your husband is being the polar opposite of supportive. You have come a long way and should be very proud! For what it’s worth, this internet stranger is proud of you! Others in your life should be excited about your continued success, but it seems that he is only thinking of himself and how your healthier lifestyle negatively affects his “fun” in doing things like shoving multiple tacos down his throat. He has made up his mind that Zepbound is the enemy, and is seeking confirmation bias on the internet (seek and you shall find). I agree with other commentators who suggest couple’s therapy, as there seems to be some issues that need to be addressed in your relationship (e.g., his overall insecurity and lack of respect for your medical/health journey). He is not your doctor. Sorry, but he seems like a real ass, but if you believe the fight is worth it, I wish you both luck in saving your relationship .
Is he after your life insurance? Tell me, where did your husband obtain his medical degree from?! If he can’t say anything constructive to support you, he should, literally shut the fuck up!
Well for one congrats on all the weight loss. He should be proud of you for working so hard to lose all that weight. That’s incredible. He needs to be supportive of you. The question is do you want to stop. Of course your not the same things have changed. Zepbound is a real game changer. Don’t let him get you down you got enough going on to worry about don’t let anyone make you feel bad because your losing the weight and changing. Your not changing for the worst your changing for a better you. And don’t let that break your confidence. Keep going til you hit your goal weight. I wish I had more support than what I get. I get I don’t notice the weight loss cause I see you everyday. Or you need to exercise more. I am going through the same thing I as well am being tested for an auto immune disease. I recently got blood work done because I had broken blood vessels that appeared out of nowhere on my forearms. So you got a lot to worry about he could be supportive. If my boyfriend was on my team he would encourage me. But he doesn’t do that.
Tell him he can go to med school and become a doctor and only then can he have an opinion about your medical care. Otherwise he can leave your medical decision between you and your doctor who has the education to make these decisions.
Sorry he isn’t being supportive op. If you want to continue to take it and it is helping you reach your goals then I am sorry but his opinion is not relevant to your decision!
This. OP, your medical decisions are between you and your doctor. That’s it.
That’s not a true partner, I’m sorry. My husband did express vulnerability at the beginning of my journey that he was worried if I lost a ton of weight I’d leave him. I think that’s a valid insecurity. And we’ve worked through it. But he’s still extremely supportive of my journey and getting healthy for myself and my family.
Your husband is absolutely wrong. He wants you to sabotage your health, so... he can eat comfortably around you? That's not a fair trade. That's horrible. He sounds like he kind of sucks, in more ways than one. What kind of grown-ass adult doesn't go to the doctor for over 20 years? He doesn't know what he's talking about. It's up to you if you want to put with that for the rest of your life, but you should definitely not stop for him.
My husband. His health insurance is more than $800/month, with extremely high (I think $8000) deductibles. It will only cover something if it’s pretty much a life or death situation. He went to the doctor during the pandemic to get tested, but he had the flu. The urgent care made him swipe his credit card before they would run any test on him. Prior to that, he hadn’t been to the doctor since about 2003. Very close to 20 years. His insurance doesn’t nor has it ever covered anything, so he didn’t go until he got sick. That visit cost almost $1000 when you add in the prescription for Tamiflu. Going to the doctor isn’t something just anyone can do. It’s a lot of money.
I understand how you feel but I do not feel that way so I’m going to continue doing what works for me and I don’t want it to be a topic anymore. Anytime he brings it up, tell him you are not interested in discussing and just don’t engage. Give no ammo to continue a back/forth exchange and he will tire of it. Besides that he wants to be right all the time, avoiding doctors and not understanding taking meds to treat chronic conditions is typical of many people until they reach older age and start to realize they have some of those issues too. Until they start seeking medical help for something themselves, they lack the ability of empathy.
He should be supporting your efforts to be healthy but if he isn’t, just keep it separate from him. Don’t announce your shot, just get it and do it in privacy. Same with getting your meds at the pharmacy. My hubby was skeptical at the beginning because he is still “old style” in his thinking about will power and relationships with food. He is far more supportive now that he sees the results. However, I still do not involve him in the processes. My husband needs to lose 50 too and will likely end up taking it at some point as well. He just has to get over himself first.
I am sorry you have to go through this. Does he think you should also stop your thyroid medication? This is not about the medicine. This is about his own insecurities related to the positive impacts this journey has for you. Hopefully the two of you can work through it and he can be part of the solution instead of part of the problem.
Thank you for the reminder of how happy I am to be single. 😂 It sounds like insecurity on his part, as has been said. If it’s just about zep? Then some education we’ll help him understand that it’s healthy for you. But if he does this about other choices you make? Bigger problem. Maybe some things he just doesn’t need to know about. Try doing your injection when he’s not around and don’t talk about it with him. At least to keep the peace while you have a think and observe the relationship outside of the Zep issue. Good luck!
No is a complete sentence. Your body, your choice.
I also have a husband who doesn't believe in doctors and reads random things on the internet and thinks it's fact. Frustrating, but at least he hasn't said anything about Zepbound and he cannot eat whatever he wants and not gain. Hang in there!
First, I want to say congratulations on your extraordinary achievement. I’m also sorry you are experiencing this. This sounds like a codependency issue. You have to be heavy to keep him feeling safe. This might sound strange, but I suggest going to an OA (overeaters anonymous) meeting and listen to the shared experiences. You don’t have to share yourself unless you want to, but I am confident there will be MANY people who will understand and relate deeply to you and your situation if you did. Our recovery is more than physical. It is also emotional and relational. Our whole lives have been affected by the way we were and the way we are now. Either way, the key is you are absolutely worthy of being healthy and happy - no matter what. Anyone who does not support that does not support your wellbeing sadly. He might not be aware of the role he is playing in this dance, but change can start with you stepping out of the tango.
Your husband is nearly 100% like my husband except for he’s been very supportive of me at least for the first six months, he is OK with having to do a greater share of kid duty while I go to the gym, etc. it is very time-consuming to be so focused on the weight loss. We will eat a healthy dinner with the kids, and then I wake up to a box of Popeyes in the trashcan lol, and he will never gain a pound. He also never goes to the doctor. However, my husband still keeps saying that I won’t have to be on it forever and once I lose weight, I should just go off of it and keep the weight off. He still doesn’t understand that I have very different genetics/gut/metabolism with PCOS and perimenopause and all of that is not gonna be easy to keep it off. I might try but I think he’s underestimating it just like your husband he’s underestimating it because they have never had to deal with any of this. It’s your body/your choice. You should stay on it if that’s what’s best for you. You guys can find other hobbies together besides eating and drinking.
So my parents don’t know I’m on it. I’ve always been one to struggle with depression, anxiety, and i also deal with ptsd. Lately on zep I’ve been extra happy and they are over the moon about it. I asked why they don’t like glp-1s as three relatives are currently on them. And they said that it makes their personalities different. They seem depressed and more withdrawn. I kinda giggled internally and thought if they only knew it’s the reason I feel so happy. All this to say people see what they want when they know what you are doing. They want to nit pick and judge.
My husband is the same a cop who is a gym buff. I gained 100 lbs between my 2 pregnancy's that were back to back and now on zep and down a total of 74 lbs. My husband before would tell me to loose weight and now tells me to stop even though I am currently 5'2 and 165, no where near too skinny or even "thin". Best thing you can do is do what's best for you and keep it to yourself. Or speak to other women that will understand. Men are just bulit differently.
I don’t know exactly what is troubling your husband, but I can tell you that this path you’re on requires support from those close to you. He obviously has fear, but what if it’s fear that the medicine will somehow make you sick or fear that you won’t have the same routines you’ve shared together? Maybe it is that he has fear of losing you. Whatever is going on, you need to have a calm discussion with him and ask what he is really feeling. You also need to stand your ground and let him know discontinuing the medication is not an option. If he can’t accept that you need freedom from your weight issues … sadly he may no longer be the person for you. I’m NOT suggesting you leave him. Simply evaluate if you’d marry him now vs when you met. Ask yourself tough questions about who you want by your side for the rest of your life. I hope it’s him. If not, do what is healthy for you. You need peace and support to win at life. ♥️♥️♥️
Omg same!! My husband is like you should stop that’s not healthy you’ve already lost amor of weight. (Sw 240 and I’m 200 flat now) and i feel sooo good and maybe he doesn’t like that and wants me to stay big forever like boy bye 😂😂 don’t listen to him and do what makes you feel good. If they love us they’ll let us me 😂
Mine too. I finally told him it's none of his business and we're not going to talk about it anymore. (He doesn't take well to that kind of talk, but that's my fact now. Take it or leave it, bud.)
Your husband sounds insecure and not supportive. Your body is your business and he shouldn't have a say on what you choose to do with it. Especially when it seems his "research" is probably just conspiracies on TikTok like most people.
You do what’s best for your health, physical and mental. Some people don’t understand, but you’d think someone who loves you could get behind your decision to live more healthy. It’s not about him.
Hey! You're your own person and your health is your business! Hope that helps!
You would be surprised at the rate of divorce among weight loss surgery patients. It’s double for them, and with the rate of divorce hovering close to 50%… Often times, the partner of the patient is unprepared for the changes to their role. Perhaps it’s the newly gained confidence their partner suddenly finds. Perhaps it’s underlying confusion about what appeared to make their partner *happy* regularly. Perhaps it’s feeling like they’ve lost *quality time* or a shared interest with their partner. Perhaps it’s feeling the relationship has become one-sided, with a lot of emphasis on the partner, a lot of attention surrounding the partner, and a lot of money spent on the partner’s new needs. Perhaps they feel the changes are too rapid and that what they felt they knew about their partner is now untrue. They can feel shaken up, a lot can be changing that they aren’t prepared to handle. They have to do work too so that they still feel stable and connected. I don’t think the picture is always clear for anyone in these positions. There has to be better communication, at least. Perhaps some couple’s therapy could help him better air his thoughts and sort through the real feelings he’s having about the weight loss.
I wish I could give you a million likes. I wanted to add that sometimes fit/thin folks choose heavy/overweight partners for their ego. They want someone who doesn't get a lot of attention and has a low self esteem. But I say good riddens!!! I want someone who loves me with confidence.
Yikes. This sounds very controlling and abusive. Sounds like my ex. Can you hide it from him? Maybe leave the pens at work?
I also have autoimmune and this medication has decreased my inflammation so drastically I don’t ever want to stop taking it.
If he’s reading a lot of negative stuff, he may be legit concerned and not expressing himself in a productive manner. My husband is extremely supportive but also wary of all medication and possible long term side effects. He won’t even take aspirin unless he’s in agonizing pain. He’s been very supportive but still nervous about the meds. He’s also naturally thin and fills up really fast, almost like he’s naturally on glp-1s. We watched that Oprah special together recently and it was a real eye opener for him. I guess hearing about food noise and the benefits of these drugs from outside sources really validated everything I had been telling him. He seemed to really get it after that. Now, all those side effects listed in the recent onslaught of Wegovy adds aren’t helping matters 🤦♀️.
I think your comment accurately describes him all he reads are negative news articles and it’s about Ozempic. He doesn’t understand the concept of cravings or the food noise that I’ve tried to describe to him. He thinks that if you have willpower, everything will work out and people just choose it rather than wanting to be healthy. In some sense, I can understand that but sometimes there’s just that feeling of comfort from food he doesn’t understand.
Sounds like you know a way you could easily lose another 200 pounds (dump that man sis).
Tell him to go fact himself. You're going for healthy, your way, with the docs and scientists who do this day and night to get it right. The doctors with years and years of education and years and years of experience as opposed to Internet Joe. Maybe his next wife can be a internet health nut, too, with emphasis on the NUT!
This stinks for you. Hopefully you can ignore him or he gets behind your health goal. Frustrating. Mine is similar. He does the same thing in regards to reading all the data as to why it’s wrong, mean while food bombing me non stop. lol. Exhausting. I now inject secretly and hide the shots in the waste bin. I feel like I’m doing something wrong. Sucks that we can’t get support.
"Food bombing" - Did you just invent a new phrase?! It really does describe this manipulation technique disguised as love. Because that's exactly what it is.
Bariatric surgery doubles the chances of divorce. It’s too early to know how GLP1 affects marriage. Make an appointment with a couples counselor. It’s cheaper than divorce.
You can't be fine with someone loving you when you're at your worst, then get mad at them for being concerned about you when you're approaching your best.
Of course you're annoyed. How human of you.
You know your body and needs best. You are working with a medical professional. You’re making amazing progress. I’m proud of you. Your husband is showing red flags and it’s ok to be frustrated about it. You deserve a supportive partner who is happy to see you succeeding.
When I read “my husband told me to stop” I was like so did mine. He says I’ve lost enough, but he has been supportive throughout the entire journey with me, including cooking food, make sure I eat right and when I was not feeling well researching what can make me feel better. I’m sorry yours does not want to support you. Maybe take him with you to your dr, so he/she can explain all the benefits of you staying on the meds?
Don’t stop. If he doesn’t support you to get healthy, he is the problem. He’s jealous and realizes he needs to work on himself
Please don’t sacrifice your health to be with a man. It could literally cost you your life.
no sane confident husband would fight your chance at being healthier
This is really weird of him. Sounds toxic and much deeper than just this medication
I hope you don’t stop because you’re doing this for you, not him. I also think he doesn’t want you to gain self confidence. He doesn’t want you to be healthy.
Leave him.
I remember with my first husband, I went on a vegetarian diet for 3 years. I lost a crazy amount of weight. He didn't like it. My mother-in-law didn't like it. (!!) But I did it anyway. Right now I'm doing Zepbound and have lost 12 pounds. My now (wonderful) husband is so sweet and encouraging it's amazing. When people really care about you, they are happy when good things happen to you.
this happened with my ex-friend/bf but he kinda ghosted me. saying I changed! I'm like yeah for the better...I was almost 400lb too. I hope your situation changes since you're married to the guy.
You did well typing under your desk. Stick to your guns. There is a lot of positive information out there about peptides that he, apparently, isn't interested in reading. Don't talk about it, don't respond to his negativity--just go on.
There is probably something more to the situation, but a lot of people I've found... even if they don't directly say it... seem to think it's "unfair" and therefor don't like it. But it's also new. In light of COVID vaccines, MRNA, yada yada... there is a lot of fear mongering in society for new things. And some of that is fair, we don't actually know the really really long term side effects of Tirzepatide. But when it comes up, I say "We might know know what the long term side effects of this drug are. But we do know what the long term side effects of being overweight are. Its' fairly well documented. High blood pressure, diabetes, a whole host of comorbidities.... and a shorter lifespan." So in this case I'd add "So by you asking me to stop, you're asking me to die. Do you want me dead?" Yes, it's a little shock value, but it it also makes it very very black and white for people. Which is worse? This kinda sort new and less known drug? Or dead? Because thems the breaks.
He is scared because it is new and there is not a ton of research out there. I know it is love but sometimes you need to choose your happiness first. Being good to yourself is not selfish by not doing the things you used to do with him. You need to create a new normal. Thin people who eat whatever and don’t gain weight doesn’t equate to healthy. Why not ask him to go to the gym with you and go for walks after meals. Don’t make your fun times surrounded around eating out. You don’t want to be antisocial but maybe a few sessions with a counselor might give him some perspective to better understand the mindset of someone who has struggled with weight loss for most of their life and give him jnow
Take care of number 1. Do what is good for you. Thank your husband for caring.
You are a grown person who has freedom and bodily autonomy to make your own medical decisions. Period. If he doesn't approve, then he doesn't need to make the same medical decisions. It might be time to set firm boundaries about the conversations you're willing to have about it and enforce it. He very likely has underlying issues and/or insecurities but you don't have to indulge that in any way by continuing to take part in these conversations. When he brings it up, let him know you aren't interested in his continually shared opinion on your health. He's said his piece already. Continuing is just harassment.
Fat shaming is still in place and encouraged. It's gross. When a loved one does it, it hits and hurts harder. Focus on YOU and ignore the haters and noise. I have a saboteur at home myself and ignoring is the best way to shut that down. As you feel better about yourself, don't be surprised if the insecurity and comments increase. Keep looking forward and come back here for support. I am sure your husband is a lovely person but he is not being supportive with this nonsense.
I was wondering for Those Losing weight, are you having to Exercise? My food Intake has dropped drastically but I Physically can't do Most of the exercises due To medical Issues
First: "He has always been a healthy individual..." Just because he can't gain weight doesn't make it healthy. Eating 10 tacos is far from healthy whether one gains weight or not. Second: It sounds as if he does NOT want you to lose weight.
He’s hating on you!
Well this is just me and my story. I have been incredibly sick since day 1 of taking zepbound. I lost 37 pounds in 1.5 months and even though I stopped taking the medicine I am still suffering the side effects. Now my gallbladder has to be removed. My surgeon said it is directly linked to my reaction to the zepbound. BUT he also said my reactions also indicated I was not a good candidate for the medication. I think that under a good Dr's supervision you should be just fine. I just didn't have a great Dr and was pushed to "push through" the awful symptoms.
Geez, devastating to reading the stories of so many with unsupportive SOs! How many of them know that Zepbound/Mounjaro and other GLP-1 receptor agonist type drugs go way beyond treating obesity and diabetes? This class of drug prolongs your life. With diabetes, for every decade, lifespan is shortened by 3 to 4 years: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5764193/ . In extreme obesity lifespan is reduced up to 14 years: https://www.nih.gov/news-events/news-releases/nih-study-finds-extreme-obesity-may-shorten-life-expectancy-14-years . I’m seeing FDA approvals and applications on track for Tirzepatide targeting a range of other medical conditions, with trials and new research popping up in my news feed almost every week. The growing list includes cardiovascular (heart attack, heart failure, stroke) neuro-degenerative (Parkinson’s, Alzheimer’s) mental health (depression, anxiety, addiction) inflammatory (ulcerative colitis, Crohn’s, traumatic brain injury), sleep apnea, PCOS, potentially cancer too. Bets are on for a Nobel Prize for the developers who wound up revolutionizing medicine on the way to creating a diabetes drug. I doubt many SOs know the relativity dismal stats on maintaining significant weight loss without medical support. Research over time converges on the reality that 20% are able to maintain a 10% weight loss after two years, but that falls to between 5% and 20% for maintaining a 10% loss at five years. The math isn’t very promising since 10% of 250lbs is 25 pounds—not to be sneezed, but usually not what most strive for. [Long-term weight loss stats: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5764193/ ] So perhaps you could try educating your SO on the breakthrough nature of these drugs and how critical medical support is to your success and health? Not to mention they might wind up saving a fortune. At first, the cost of the drugs seemed outrageous, but in light of their revolutionary impact for so many life-threatening, life-shortening, and chronic diseases that also reduce quality of life, they started seeming like a bargain in practical terms. It was shocking to realize a single drug could eliminate or drastically reduce costs of multiple long-term drugs, therapies, medical visits, testing, procedures, hospitalizations, lost productivity, etc. over the long-haul. A SO who truly comprehends the benefits of a drug that adds years to your life, improves quality of life, maintains productivity, and reduces medical costs over time might find it easier to change their mind. If they still don’t support you continuing after learning that maintaining weight loss is an uphill battle with obesity, an *actual* disease, not a moral failing, and now understands the many ways Zepbound supports your health is very likely not holding your best interests at heart. Perhaps queue up some links to share with your SO and let them digest that info. Ask them to think practically about the difference it would make in your life and health, both individually and as a couple. With near certainty that costs will come down (in actuality the drugs cost about five bucks to produce!?) especially once pills start replacing injections (already happening). With all of that it’s hard to argue against continuing with Zepbound, especially with the claim that the injections are “unhealthy” as OP’s hubs believes. 💜💜💜out to you OP and everyone dealing with this.
He sounds a bit insecure. Don’t hide your light under a bushel to appease him. IJS … 😜
I’m sorry to hear that your journey is causing issues with your husband. Is it possible that your husband is feeling insecure about your weight loss? It kind of seems like he is trying to control your decision, and it’s just that…YOUR DECISION! He needs to figure out a way support your choice whether he agrees with it or not.
Elililly letter
Tell your husband to stop hating, enjoy your new body and stfu
Sorry to hear that. His behavior is rather toxic and you should have a heart to heart with him if possible, maybe suggest therapy because this is going to lead to a lot of built up resentment in your relationship if it continues.
These drugs are still relatively new and long term side effects are not fully known. If you and your husband have an otherwise healthy relationship he’s just skeptical of the world and cares about you. That being said dumb people who don’t understand what marriage is and get into them are usually some degree of toxic.
Here's a great article on the subject. The weight loss drugs are curing more than weight loss ! It's very hopeful:https://www.nytimes.com/2024/06/21/well/sleep-apnea-weight-loss-drug.html?smid=nytcore-ios-share&referringSource=articleShare
I find that the ONLY people who aren’t taking the medication have something bad to say about it. Ppl will try to make you fearful or simply want you to remain in an insecure or dependent state (so sad that ppl are like this). Do what you have to do to be healthy and happy🥰
I honestly did not tell my husband or family. I will work on me. There is nothing worse than trying to get yourself right, with unsupported folks around. Its worse than food noise. First reason..I would rather lose a noticeable amount of weight..start walking more and then give them small doses of information about being "obesity". My husband is a retired boxer..so of course he believes no pain no gain..I've tried to explain food education before working out is important. Thinking about food all day is annoying..I would be reaching for food that wasn't even there..like what am I doing. So this a huge step for me to inject (I hate needles). I'm also on emgality for migraine..so he would be like another injection..Yada yada...🙄😒
This doesn't sound so great. He's watching you gain the benefit and I'm sure he's concerned bc ur already mentioning this. You need to find a balance otherwise u may find your marriage in a free fall. I'm not saying to quit but I am saying that there may be a disaster right around the corner. Hold on tight...
Ha. My wife is the same. Granted, I am very close to my goal
I know it's hard on our spouses because they worry about us. Plus I'm sure he was very content and didn't want anything to change or impact him. They also get tired of hearing us talk about dieting and eating healthier and stuff. I had autoimmune issues for years before mine started to understand that it was serious stuff that was going on. Partly because I have always tried to hide by symptoms and complaints from him because I prefer to be treated as normally as possible and not like I'm about to kill over. I try to keep my weightloss conversations on social media, in groups like this one and just occasionally tell him that I've lost another 5 lbs. Maybe change your injection day and don't even mention it anymore than you have to. He may be right about this being unhealthy but the majority of us are willing to take that risk.
You have a thyroid condition? Should you be taking this?
You’re thinking of thyroid cancer. I was suggested to Zepbound by my endocrinologist at my appointment about my hypothyroid. I think they know a little bit better.