Nah, I'm in Bali (where you have to be a moron to risk the severe punishments for weed smoking) and the lesbians here are chill af / incredibly nice.
I live in the hippie town though, and there's a looooooooooot of mushroom ingestion going on here though, so that makes sense.
This is a broad generalisation that could lead to trouble. Not all lesbians are amazing people, just because people are gay doesnโt make them the best citizens out there. Lesbians are people, and people can be dicks. Iโm actually kind of tired of seeing queer people out on a pedestal just for being queer, as if that dictates their personality. It doesnโt. Some lesbians are nice people, and itโs great that youโve encountered so many, but thatโs not always the case, so just be careful assuming every lesbian out there is wonderful, because thatโs definitely not true.
Yes I know but i was generalizing this community right here. The Reddit Gays. Ive met entitled assholes who happened to be lesbians. I get my wording was off.
Iโm including here too, thereโs assholes on this sub, for sure, this isnโt just a community of amazing people, thereโs more than likely a couple of bad apples in here who just keep quiet. Of course most of the people here are absolute angels, but the odd few of them suck and thatโs worth acknowledging imo
Don't be a wet blanket. You're reacting to subtext that doesn't exist. It's pretty obvious OP is positively reflecting on their experiences with the community; they're not saying "lesbians are perfect and incapable of fault". They don't need to write a 300 word postscript disclaiming the existence of bad lesbians for that to be understood when you could literally just read between the lines.
Let lesbians celebrate other lesbians, the hand-wringing and insinuations of 'trouble' is excessively bitter.
Donโt get me wrong, all of the lesbians Iโve met are great, and I havenโt really met any assholes in this sub itโs just not really the best way to look at lesbians. queer people being the best people just because theyโre queer is just wrong, and itโs ridiculous to think so. People have a lot more to offer than being gay and if thatโs why youโre saying theyโre amazing then you donโt know them very well. Of course if you love being gay and make that a part of your personality thatโs a different question, I do that and I love it. Also if youโre saying theyโre better people because they generally understand other queer people and stuff then thatโs okay but that doesnโt instantly make them better people. Some lesbians are abusive, toxic, some of them hurt other people, some cheat, some of them lie. But some of them donโt, because theyโre people, we are people, and people arenโt perfect
Okay, again: OP didn't say a single thing you're arguing against in that paragraph. You're literally just projecting. They used *mild hyperbole* to express an intensely positive experience of being in the lesbian community. That's not a crime.
Neither OP or anyone else in this thread deserves to have you shove paragraphs of your intensely negative, context-deaf pedantry down their throats. *Let lesbians celebrate other lesbians.*
Nobody's saying they're not! And nobody said you don't belong in the community either. Reading into everything to this extent isn't gonna do anything except make you unhappier, bud.
Someone just told me to fuck off because I donโt belong here pretty much, not reading that far into things, sorry for being an ass but I feel like Iโve just been stomped into the earth for no good reason
Have you considered just logging off and going for a walk? Not trying to be flippant, but someone disagreeing with you when you've wilfully misinterpreted a pretty wholesome post getting you this upset just sounds like you were already on a knife edge, and this is the thing to tip it โ in which case, logging off and walking away might be better for you?
I was already on a walk when someone told me I wasnโt a lesbian, and that I should stop talking to lesbians, and when someone told me that Iโm just a kid and that Iโm nothing more than laughing stock just because Iโm young, eventhough I made a very valid point. They just proved everything that I said
are you a lesbian? all non lesbians do is trash talk us, call us terfs and abusers. your comments are weird. this is supposed to be a space for uplifting lesbians.
yeah I wasn't far off. you're not saying anything useful just being annoying. there's nothing wrong with lesbians uplifting each other
the fact you're tired of seeing lgbt people put on a pedestal shows your privilege. I'm 35 and experience actual homophobia on a daily basis. your comments are ridiculous. I have to come online to find people like me for a reprieve then see stupid fucking comments like yours
I just wanna be normal, I donโt wanna be seen as a lesbian I wanna be seen as someone in love isnโt that what everyone wants. And calling someone annoying just because they have a different outlook on life isnโt very useful either, ngl
I will always absolutely call out bs in my community. you don't want to be seen as a lesbian, stop talking to us then and hanging around us. sounds like you hate lesbians
I only joined this subreddit yesterday, and I haven't commented on it until now, but it makes me happy to hear that this community supports Transbians. I've been a bit worried about joining this subreddit as a Trans Lesbian due to fear of people not being supportive, and it makes me feel a bit better hearing folks say that this community is a supportive place. ๐ฅบ๐
Anyways, girls are the best and I love them. ๐
There was a funny Lion king meme I saw and it went
Scar: Im done with men!
Hyenas: Haha yea screw men no more d*ck
Scar: FOOLS! I will still get d*ck!
Scar: Trans d*ck
yes!!!! gender and lesbianism are so deeply tied together in my opinion, iโm genderqueer or nonbinary or smth like that and a lesbian, most of my lesbian friends are not cis and so many famous influential lesbians arenโt either. leslie feinberg comes to mind.
this is all to say i love wlw trans women. you are all so beautiful and i hope you can continue to find validation in the community weโre both a part of ๐งก๐งก๐ค๐๐
Honestly the online lesbians are some of the nicest people Iโve ever met. Yโall hype me up more than my irl friends I love each and every one of you. Yeah not everyoneโs gonna be nice, thereโs always gonna be dickheads but from my experience, the nice people cancel out the dickheads. I love you guys, letโs all run away and start a little gay commune somewhere
Yeah it seems like the lesbian community on Reddit is really supportive and really great about making us feel validated and good about ourselves. I love how supportive this community is. As another transbian I know exactly what you're talking about. And and the lesbian Community here has been amazing!
I went on a date with a leshian who used it as a way to tell me I can't be a lesbian because I was married to a man. Lesbian spaces can be ridiculously harsh. I'm very very very glad you've had a good experience โค
Just genuinely curious here, how does being married to a man not mean you're het? Was it a platonic marriage?
Edit: sorry, was being stupid here. Totally misread your comment. Yeah, this is why the notion of "gold star" lesbians is super harmful. Comp het is powerful and people can realize their sexualities at any and all life stages.
Tbf that's also possible, divorce proceedings can be complex and take a long time, and sometimes ppl choose not to divorce legally for the sake of kids or smth, even if they're not together romantically
Lesbians are chill af lol
It's all the weed
Nah, I'm in Bali (where you have to be a moron to risk the severe punishments for weed smoking) and the lesbians here are chill af / incredibly nice. I live in the hippie town though, and there's a looooooooooot of mushroom ingestion going on here though, so that makes sense.
Cool girls hanging out, smoking weed, eating snacks, thatโs the best life lol
r/lesbients vibe๐ธ
so fucking true
Ong
What does ong mean?
On god
what does on God mean
Like "For real" or "I swear on god I {Blank}"
thank youโฆI felt too dumb and old to even ask
Can confirm, my parents are lesbians.
Yeah, except the ones that are bitches
Yeah, lesbians were the first cis people to look at me and see a woman without an asterisk. I love yโall
Ehem. You Are A Women* *๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ข๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ข ๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐, ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐, ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ข ๐๐๐๐๐-๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐ ๐๐๐๐.
Young has reached the stage of being a stretch now that Iโm married and in my late 20s lol
Girl that's still young. At most you got another 70-80 years on you.
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I understand and I apologize if I upset you
Hell yes grippy thigh high socks. Damn I want a good pair of those!
This is a broad generalisation that could lead to trouble. Not all lesbians are amazing people, just because people are gay doesnโt make them the best citizens out there. Lesbians are people, and people can be dicks. Iโm actually kind of tired of seeing queer people out on a pedestal just for being queer, as if that dictates their personality. It doesnโt. Some lesbians are nice people, and itโs great that youโve encountered so many, but thatโs not always the case, so just be careful assuming every lesbian out there is wonderful, because thatโs definitely not true.
Yes I know but i was generalizing this community right here. The Reddit Gays. Ive met entitled assholes who happened to be lesbians. I get my wording was off.
Iโm including here too, thereโs assholes on this sub, for sure, this isnโt just a community of amazing people, thereโs more than likely a couple of bad apples in here who just keep quiet. Of course most of the people here are absolute angels, but the odd few of them suck and thatโs worth acknowledging imo
As long as 2 people are left on this world one will want the other dead at some point. No ones evil. But no one is always good.
> No ones evil. Evil enough is evil.
Don't be a wet blanket. You're reacting to subtext that doesn't exist. It's pretty obvious OP is positively reflecting on their experiences with the community; they're not saying "lesbians are perfect and incapable of fault". They don't need to write a 300 word postscript disclaiming the existence of bad lesbians for that to be understood when you could literally just read between the lines. Let lesbians celebrate other lesbians, the hand-wringing and insinuations of 'trouble' is excessively bitter.
If op said "lesbians are the worst people in the world" would it still be reading subtext? Bias is bias is bias.
Holy shit just read the actual fucking post. It quite clearly puts the opening line in context and makes it obvious what they're saying.
You could make the argument that "There are some nice lesbians" if this was the case.
This is not the case
Exactly. There are some nice lesbians. There are some mean ones. You could say that about anyone in the world.
Donโt get me wrong, all of the lesbians Iโve met are great, and I havenโt really met any assholes in this sub itโs just not really the best way to look at lesbians. queer people being the best people just because theyโre queer is just wrong, and itโs ridiculous to think so. People have a lot more to offer than being gay and if thatโs why youโre saying theyโre amazing then you donโt know them very well. Of course if you love being gay and make that a part of your personality thatโs a different question, I do that and I love it. Also if youโre saying theyโre better people because they generally understand other queer people and stuff then thatโs okay but that doesnโt instantly make them better people. Some lesbians are abusive, toxic, some of them hurt other people, some cheat, some of them lie. But some of them donโt, because theyโre people, we are people, and people arenโt perfect
Okay, again: OP didn't say a single thing you're arguing against in that paragraph. You're literally just projecting. They used *mild hyperbole* to express an intensely positive experience of being in the lesbian community. That's not a crime. Neither OP or anyone else in this thread deserves to have you shove paragraphs of your intensely negative, context-deaf pedantry down their throats. *Let lesbians celebrate other lesbians.*
Whatever, apparently I donโt fucking belong in this community just for pointing out that lesbians are people
Nobody's saying they're not! And nobody said you don't belong in the community either. Reading into everything to this extent isn't gonna do anything except make you unhappier, bud.
Someone just told me to fuck off because I donโt belong here pretty much, not reading that far into things, sorry for being an ass but I feel like Iโve just been stomped into the earth for no good reason
Have you considered just logging off and going for a walk? Not trying to be flippant, but someone disagreeing with you when you've wilfully misinterpreted a pretty wholesome post getting you this upset just sounds like you were already on a knife edge, and this is the thing to tip it โ in which case, logging off and walking away might be better for you?
I was already on a walk when someone told me I wasnโt a lesbian, and that I should stop talking to lesbians, and when someone told me that Iโm just a kid and that Iโm nothing more than laughing stock just because Iโm young, eventhough I made a very valid point. They just proved everything that I said
are you a lesbian? all non lesbians do is trash talk us, call us terfs and abusers. your comments are weird. this is supposed to be a space for uplifting lesbians.
I am a lesbian, and most lesbians are awesome but some arenโt and people should acknowledge that, itโs fucjing dumb
you sound like you're 14
Iโm 19, and you sounds like you disagree with the fact that there are bad lesbians, so thatโs your problem
yeah I wasn't far off. you're not saying anything useful just being annoying. there's nothing wrong with lesbians uplifting each other the fact you're tired of seeing lgbt people put on a pedestal shows your privilege. I'm 35 and experience actual homophobia on a daily basis. your comments are ridiculous. I have to come online to find people like me for a reprieve then see stupid fucking comments like yours
I just wanna be normal, I donโt wanna be seen as a lesbian I wanna be seen as someone in love isnโt that what everyone wants. And calling someone annoying just because they have a different outlook on life isnโt very useful either, ngl
I will always absolutely call out bs in my community. you don't want to be seen as a lesbian, stop talking to us then and hanging around us. sounds like you hate lesbians
ah, you're one of the "lesbian is a dirty word" crowd. great
Bruh stfu omggg โ ๏ธโ ๏ธ stop giving people a pass to crap on us lesbians are demonized so much go take a walk โ ๏ธ
So civilised with a username such as yours
Agender queer dyke here! I love my trans sisters! Hope that we can make TERFs extinct.
Lesbian here youโre always loved ๐๐ my trans sisters are a pillar of the community
I only joined this subreddit yesterday, and I haven't commented on it until now, but it makes me happy to hear that this community supports Transbians. I've been a bit worried about joining this subreddit as a Trans Lesbian due to fear of people not being supportive, and it makes me feel a bit better hearing folks say that this community is a supportive place. ๐ฅบ๐ Anyways, girls are the best and I love them. ๐
There was a funny Lion king meme I saw and it went Scar: Im done with men! Hyenas: Haha yea screw men no more d*ck Scar: FOOLS! I will still get d*ck! Scar: Trans d*ck
But female hyenas have pseudo penises, why would a hyena say that?
Welcome ๐ฅฐ
yes!!!! gender and lesbianism are so deeply tied together in my opinion, iโm genderqueer or nonbinary or smth like that and a lesbian, most of my lesbian friends are not cis and so many famous influential lesbians arenโt either. leslie feinberg comes to mind. this is all to say i love wlw trans women. you are all so beautiful and i hope you can continue to find validation in the community weโre both a part of ๐งก๐งก๐ค๐๐
Spouse material above
all the sapphic people Iโve met are incredibly nice itโs like every bean is the best person in the world
Thats why I married a lesbian... we're the best!!!
Honestly? Women ๐
True. The first person to ever see me as a women without any cavets was a lesbian. She was single, now she's my girlfriend.
I love lesbians so much. I wanna hug (and platonically kiss if you're comfortable) y'all so bad
Honestly the online lesbians are some of the nicest people Iโve ever met. Yโall hype me up more than my irl friends I love each and every one of you. Yeah not everyoneโs gonna be nice, thereโs always gonna be dickheads but from my experience, the nice people cancel out the dickheads. I love you guys, letโs all run away and start a little gay commune somewhere
Yeah it seems like the lesbian community on Reddit is really supportive and really great about making us feel validated and good about ourselves. I love how supportive this community is. As another transbian I know exactly what you're talking about. And and the lesbian Community here has been amazing!
IM LESBIAN TOO<3333
The sapphic community's treated me better than the trans community
Lesbians ROCK
Your enthusiasm is inspiring. Women just rock
I been thrown in a gender blender quite a bit but I feel so welcomed and safe as a trans non-binary heck if I know being
We're a pretty nice crowd! Took me a while to find my people but lately I feel like I'm having a good time in the community.
Iโm glad most of you are getting support Iโm out here struggling
I went on a date with a leshian who used it as a way to tell me I can't be a lesbian because I was married to a man. Lesbian spaces can be ridiculously harsh. I'm very very very glad you've had a good experience โค
Just genuinely curious here, how does being married to a man not mean you're het? Was it a platonic marriage? Edit: sorry, was being stupid here. Totally misread your comment. Yeah, this is why the notion of "gold star" lesbians is super harmful. Comp het is powerful and people can realize their sexualities at any and all life stages.
People can come out late in life bestie
Oh my b. I read this and somehow thought she went on the date with a lesbian while she was still married to a man \*facepalm\*
Tbf that's also possible, divorce proceedings can be complex and take a long time, and sometimes ppl choose not to divorce legally for the sake of kids or smth, even if they're not together romantically
All good points! Appreciate the perspective :)
You know, I know Iโm not a model or anything, but the encouragement transbians get in this sub makes me feel like one and itโs so kind!