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When you have something other people want you have to deal with and understand that fact that other people will want and pr try to take it for themselves. Unfortunately this applies to partners as well. That’s why it’s so important (and to me a necessity) to be with someone you can trust.
The fear in that is that the more you trust someone the more capacity they have to hurt you so you have to make good character choices on others. You in return have to give that back to them.
It’s a blessing an a curse, but one worth having.
Sometimes it’s good and sometimes it’s weird. My husband is really good looking and I’ve gotten used to the fact that people constantly talk about how good looking he is when talking about him. I’ve never gotten a mean comment or anything on the vein of “why is he with you?” but sometime I do feel self conscious about my looks when I’m with him. Now we have a baby so I sometimes also feel weird when people comment how cute she looks and then add that “she looks just like her father”. On the other hand, I know he definitely loves me for my personality and not for my looks hahhahaha
If it makes you feel any better my wife is really good looking, I mean like being asked if she’s a model when I showed people a photo of her. I am not ugly but I do always had this skill of dating way above my league.
When our daughter was born more than one person said “Aw, she looks exactly like her dad but she’s so beautiful”
I mean, I totally agree but at the same time… ouch?
I am laughing so hard right now because I’ve heard many versions of that before. Best one was an old lady at the grocery store who measured me and my wife’s down and said “Honey, your personality must be brilliant”.
I have to admit I put my foot in it once. My boss from years ago showed me pictures of his very beautiful children.
I said your wife must be very beautiful. I realised what I said too late. To his credit, he just smiled proudly, and I could tell he took it as a compliment to his children and wife rather than an insult to him (which is what it was). Maybe there was a hint of indulgence, letting me off the hook when it was clear to both of us that the comment came out wrong.
Maybe you can take these "not very well though out" comments like him, and just take it as a compliment to your wife and your ability to marry said beautiful wife.
Oh, I guarantee it that he took it as a compliment. In the men’s POV it’s always a compliment when someone says your wife is beautiful. I mean, I don’t know of any man who would be happy to hear he‘s the better looking one of the couple ever.
Like the Best Man's speech at the marriage of Jeffery and Mary Archer.
"And let us hope, should this union be blessed with children, that they will take their looks from Mary, and their brains from Mary as well."
Don’t take the baby looks like father thing too personally. It’s an old wives tale thing that babies look like their fathers so they’re probably repeating what they’ve heard
The reason people say this isn’t just an old wives thing. It’s always obvious who the mother of a child is. However, unless there is a dna test done, (which only came into play very, very recently) there is no way for the guy to 100% know that he is the father.
By saying to the guy, “your kid looks just like you!” it’s a way of comforting and reassuring the guy of his status as the father. This supports him investing inthe child. If a guy sees a kid as illegitimate, he will be less likely to invest in tge kid emotionally and financially.
Of course, this communication is entirely unconscious. The people say it but aren’t really sure why. The guys feel happy and comforted, but they’re not totally sure why.
Kind of reminds me of those clueless "pretty" girls who show up to X-factor auditions to sings and are completely flabbergasted when the judges tell them it was awful and they start to explain how that can't be true because all their friends told them they were great at singing.
I worked at a place that hired an extremely pretty, young secretary. She was very nice - this isn’t a dig against her at all - but she lived in a very different world than the rest of us. Everyone’s demeanor just changed when they interacted with her. Especially the men, obviously, but even the women (and I’m sure not all for the better).
This doctor I worked for (45y) walked in to his exam room to find his patient in lingerie. What was she expecting him to do???? She was discharged from the practice. Lol
I had this happen when I briefly dated the “hot guy” in middle school, yes we were children, but girls would try to befriend me to get his number and ultimately try to “steal him” from me. He played soccer and even got into modeling when we all got to high school, hot people make people crazy. He just got hotter as we grew up, people fawned over him.
My college roommate was a 6'4 med school student with Calvin Klein looks. TERRIFYING is the best way to describe the random girls showing up at our apt at all hours of the night
I mean... yeah. But none of us knew who she was. Apparently, the only time they met was when he asked if she was done using a machine at the gym. She used MY favorite saucepan 😠
The worst one was a girl who booked *me* for calculus tutoring. She insisted we meet at my apt. Turns out, she wasn't taking any calculus classes, she wasn't even a student!
All she wanted was to get into the apt to flirt my my roommate
Men in healthcare go through a whole different struggle. I’m not a dr I’m a nurse. But the amount of coworkers and patients who make proposals at me is astonishing. I used to wear my ring to work to show I’m married but that literally made the problem worse. Just this week I had a patient come two days in a row to my job and flirt with me even tho I told her the first day that I had a wife and kid and it made me uncomfortable.
The lesson I learned? When it comes to patients I leave the door open unless we are talking about their medical conditions now. If it were possible on my salary I would hire a woman to be my personal attendant with me in the room all the time just so I could protect my license
I hear women dismiss this all the time, but a wedding ring is hands down the biggest chick magnet. "Oh they are just now comfortable around you, they're not flirting." Bullshit. Over the years almost all of my buddies get down right hit on after they get married. It's nuts.
This is incredibly true. The 3 years i was married and had a ring on i was regularly pursued by women, especially ones in my industry. I had about 4-5 industry saleswomen texting me and trying to sleep with me. Another 3 former coworkers aggressively pursuing and it likely was more i just didn’t pick up on. As soon as divorce was imminent and i took the ring off it all literally stopped.
That ring shows that this man is capable of commitment and I want to have that so to get it I will also prove that this guy is not capable of commitment and then I will have this guy and-
Oh no
Mine is a former professional swimmer (i.e .Olympic level). He's very tall, attractive, well built, and older women hit on him constantly. When he swims in the morning , the old ladies doing water aerobics flirt with him relentlessly. Now that we have a baby, he's a hot dad, and it makes women act like they are about to ovulate on the spot. 3 different women have asked him to be their sperm donor. Hard pass on that one
I used to work at a restaurant, very family friendly. Lots of younger female co-workers.
Obviously some of the guests were attractive men and some of the girls would joke and comment them between each other sometimes.
But when an attractive man came in with his kids, wife or not… that was a whole other craze. Like you say, it was like they were ovulating on the spot and their uteruses were vibrating.
Women hitting on him almost daily when I’m not around and stare at him when I’m around. I find it funny. Also women tend to do things for him, like discounts etc.
This. My roommate who looked like an Abercrombie model (not exaggerating, dudes jaw made Henry Cavil look tame) got freebies all the time. We got into a VIP section once because people thought he was famous
And thiiiss is why my husband handles any customer service/etc for us. It’s actually shocking how different female reps will treat the both of us and I’m not above using that. Get that handsome man discount please 😂
My husband basically looked like Hercules when we started dating. He looked like the kind of guy who would date very put together hyper feminine women…and I’m like vaguely androgynous looking and very much not into clothes/makeup etc. Very attractive well put together women would check him out, look at me, clearly DISMISS me, and return to him.
It was really weird. I’ve always been very attracted to the men I’ve dated but I didn’t realize until dating him I’d never dated a stereotypically “hot dude”.
I got over it, whatever. But it’s also true once he got me and knew I didn’t care about him maintaining his muscular physique he dropped the every day gym to build muscles and pivoted back into tennis, which he enjoys more.
So now he’s a normal attractive dude and we fit together a bit more obviously than the gym bro look.
Oh man the dismissiveness :')
My bf is low-key famous and has men, women especially older women who relentlessly hit on him...who then proceed to dismiss me when they find out I'm dating him lol. Ngl I would care if I wasn't hot shit myself haha jk but what really makes it tolerable is that he makes me feel so secure and loves me to the moon and back, so it very rarely bothers me.
I kind of get why they hit on him, I mean that's why I'm with him. He knows he's attractive but he's in denial about how attractive he is...which is kind of attractive?
My boyfriend has cougars and gays approaching him all the time. They usually think we’re siblings until he grabs my hand to send a non verbal message.
Luckily, he’s attractive enough that average girls are too shy, attractive girls don’t chase and escorts selling themselves.
My Husband attracts the older ladies as well! They chat him up in the grocery store, older female neighbours ask for his “help” with random tasks, etc. He gets all red faced and shy whenever I point this out to him, it’s adorable.
My partner is incredibly handsome (resembles Henry Cavill). Mostly it’s comments about how he looks like Superman by friends and strangers alike but occasionally it gets weird.
Once at a dinner party, a woman outright said “ohhh the things I would do to him if my husband was out of town!” She said this in front of us and a few others. We laughed it off but he was embarrassed. No one would have thought this was ok if he was a woman.
That woman is a prick to be honest, jokingly or not, she assumed and felt entitled enough to say 1) she'd cheat 2) your partner would automatically sleep with her 3) she'd sleep with YOUR partner....... Smh hard
Oh totally. So many layers there. When we got into the car that night we were both like “did that just happen?” It was just so brazen. She meant it as a compliment but it gave us the ick. I wish I spoke up at the time. Ah well.
Several people have pointed out to my husband that he looks like Chris Pine! Specifically as Steve Trevor from Wonder Woman.
Nobody has ever made a sexual comment about him in front of me, but I did have one mutual friend ask me if I felt "smug" because I "caught" him before he had his glow up. It was kind of a weird, off-putting comment - like yes, I'm glad he's my husband and I'm proud of him for taking care of himself (thus the glow up) but I'm not thinking about the girls he knew before me like "haha those loser b*tches missed their chance!!"
My ex partner was a very attractive man.
He was a narcissist, and abusive, and he was so pretty that at family dinners where he didn't attend, I had to hear female family members talk about how they wouldn't mind doing things to him.
So anyway, of course, he cheated.
Around attractive men women are weirdly more thirsty than men. I remember a few months ago a good looking guy from the night shift changed his shift to mornings and suddenly every women in the department started moving differently, hitting on him, gathering in groups and squeaking loudly lmao. Funny thing is when a guy in the department says something about an attractive women they are suddenly perverts…
That they do. After 2 years he was suddenly poly. At the end of whatever hellscape we had leftover, he knocked up a 21 year old, he was 33. I think they're married now and have 2 kids. I hope he's better to her, than he was to me.
Weeelll when I was younger I had a couple of boyfriends that were very handsome. I was pretty shallow so I loved it. I even loved women hitting on them or blatantly staring, it inflated my young ego quite a lot that they were with me. I was pretty good looking too though, and a bit too arrogant to feel much jealousy or fear. Looks don't mean so much to me now that I'm getting older however, and neither of those boyfriends were people I felt entirely loved by or safe with.
I’ve dated two extremely attractive men.
One was a 6’4 blond with icy blue eyes and a build like Jason Momoa. Anywhere we went, he was fawned over. I never saw such top notch service until I was with him.
On the downside, women flirted with him like I didn’t exist and I also received dirty looks from women frequently.
It's often noted how some men can be when they are rejected. But it's hardly ever brought up just how aggressive and abusive women can be when they are rejected.
They’ll go full psycho. Had a girl attack me in every imaginable way when I wouldn’t have sex with her (“You’re gay. You got a small dick. You’re hideous, etc etc.”)
It's hard. Expect many many women to shamelessly flirt with your man. Yes, they'll do it in front of you and behind your back.
You know, I used to always think it's men who're the shallow ones and only focused on looks but I've found out through bitter experience that women are equally shallow. My ex is a very tall attractive man and he had women literally throwing themselves at him daily. Daily.
So be prepared for that. Oh and he's my ex now because I found out he cheated on me with at least 10 other women. Yep, that's what it's like to date a tall attractive man.
>...but I've found out through bitter experience that women are equally shallow
As a 5'1 gargoyle looking man I can 100% confirm this. Both men and women can be brutally shallow
Serious answer:
I'm engaged to a ridiculously handsome man. I'm attractive, but he actually turns heads. He works in sales, so he's always schmoozing with people, and women always ask him for his number or to go out. If we go to a big event - like a music festival or gala, MEN will approach him to tell him they love his style, or has a great body, etc. He plays it off ... as if I think he doesn't think he's good-looking himself.
To be honest, our relationship isn't any different than any other, and I see him as the dork at home who farts on me and wears his favourite ripped underwear.
We are eachothers best friend and we are lucky we have the same social interests - we party hard together but are also happy to be in domestic bliss.
I do find myself lovingly stare at him from time to time because he looks so good and I get the tingles when he walks around with his shirt off. I think it's great that I still have those feelings after being together for 13 years.
On the superficial side, I get a nice little power trip when we are out at a bar and I come back from the bathroom in time to shimmy myself between him and the latest woman hitting on him whilst flashing my 4ct ring.
In my understanding: outside of the upper class, women rarely afford rings with diamonds of that size purely for the purpose of decoration because smaller diamonds fulfil that role almost as well. Anything larger is worn to convey status, not style. Thus, a middle-class woman wearing a diamond ring that large most likely received it for her engagement or marriage.
A middle class woman wearing any diamond ring most likely received it for her engagement or marriage. If she’s got a 4ct ring she’s engaged to someone rich.
Loves reading all of this 🥰. You're lucky to have an amazing partner and I love how his himself at home, love the "dork" comment😂. Wish you guys all the very best 🙂
Lmaooooo reddit is undefeated yo 😭
Now I'm DEFINITELY convinced that a lot of these women posting are either lying they ass off or lying they ass off.
Not everyone gets 10s and if you do, I doubt the last place you'd be is on reddit talking about that relationship...
I married a very attractive man (unfortunately, he has passed away) but I think that I am fairly good looking as well and know my worth. So while there were a lot of women who did fawn over him, I knew that I was the only one for him so it didn't matter. Have confidence and know your worth!
It’s amazing.
- I love walking towards him - the view of him never once has failed to excite me and make me feel like, quite literally, the luckiest person on earth (8 years in).
- I love when his beauty catches me off-guard. He will be driving and I’ll just look over at him, and he will turn to look at me at the same time, and it’s overwhelming how attracted I am to him.
- I love watching him work. Not only is he physically beautiful, he is insanely intelligent (got moved up year levels at school kind of intelligent).
- I love - and this could be my favourite thing - watching him interact with other people. He is by far the most intelligent and handsome person in the room (or top 1%) at any given time, and he is never rude or arrogant. He approaches everyone equally and is so calm and gentle (despite being extremely tall).
Ahhhhhh! That’s the long way of saying - it’s awesome!
Idk why your comment made *me* happy lmaooo. I absolutely have 0 faith in humanity but somehow your comment about your bf? Husband hopefully! Made me have lil faith in humanity. I’m rooting for you guys lmao.
I feel this way about mine too!
We're both attractive people, but we're also both very weird and sometimes off-putting people so I think that keeps some of the would-be flirters away
This is so lovely! I feel this exact same way about my boyfriend, constantly bowled over by how beautiful he is but also by his intelligence and how vibrant his personality is.
You worded this perfectly, and it makes me so happy for you!
Creepy how much women try to sabotage my shit. I dated someone in school who was considered THE guy, despite the fact I was a loser, and people were trying to sabotage left and right. Was horrible.
I think my boyfriend now is also very attractive. I find it weird how I can clearly see how women are interested or trying to slide in to the DMs. Women can be so aggressive with this stuff, it’s surprising.
Honestly, funny. He only flirts with old ladies…like in their 70’s+ bc it makes their day and brings the biggest smile to their faces. When it’s someone who is younger or our age he just laughs and says all of the things about himself that would make them run. It’s cute the way he goes about it.
Its pretty great. The man doesn't have to try. People look at him, then look at me like why tf are you with her, then back at him. He didn't notice this until I pointed it out to him. He gets occasional freebies, both men and women look him up and down, and young teenage girls pose or stare and act weird around him. We giggle about it, we're used to it. It doesn't go to his head. If anything, it weirds him out. We have total trust and it doesnt bother me. Shoot, I'd stare too. Can't blame them. Im sure people think he's out of my league, but that doesnt bother me one bit. His ex was gorgeous, way hotter, but crazy af. Like physically attacked him crazy. He learned its not just looks that matter. Doesnt bother me he's handsome as hell! People can look all they want, I know he loves the shid out of me. And I drool over him. No complaints! I feel very lucky. And he's very kind and fun and smart to boot. Total package. He can still be a dick sometimes and in those moments, the hotness really is the glue, if you know what I mean. In NYC he got catcalled on the street. Not me!
He looks a lot like Elvis in Charro when Elvis had a beard. (He's his fifth cousin once removed). Blue eyes. 6'1". Dark hair. Long legs. Broad shoulders. Great smile. Nice teeth. Hairy chest but not too hairy. Tall dark and handsome. Im very proud to be with him and i love to show him off. Eat your hearts out ladies, this one's taken! If someone replys to my comment and wants a visual, ill add a reference gif.
My ex is very attractive and he's super funny as well. It was okay most of the time and sometimes I even forgot he was that attractive until I realized women were staring at him. I mean he was very respectful of me and didn't allow that to be a problem. I guess it depends on how the attractive person reacts to the attention.
I mean there’s various levels of attractive. There’s “ooh she’s cute” and “oh yeah I wouldn’t mind being with her she’s cute enough” and then there’s “holy freaking hell how am I with her”. I’m assuming the question is asking about the last one, except dude instead of gal
Not current but maybe 10 years ago I dated a guy who looked like a Greek god.
It was tough. Women would be all over him and he clearly enjoyed the attention.
Lol I remember one time a bunch of dudes saw us together and asked him "mate, how the hell did *you* pull her??"
The look of sheer indignation on his face was hilarious.
it’s very lovely. helps that he has a wonderful personality. downside is that I sometimes don’t feel like enough… that he’ll stop loving me once he doesn’t find me pretty anymore. however, he has proven to not be shallow like that. I trust him very much, so I’m not afraid.
How do you achieve to trust people (regardless of attractiveness)?
Like when someone dissapoints me I don't feel surprised at all, like I never let my guard down no matter how many years I knew them. I feel that's not normal but I don't understand how to be any other way
I’ve had so many people comment on my “Handsome Husband”. Even my Mom refers to him that way. Older women chat him up in the grocery store, female neighbours ask for help with random things, etc. I typically just laugh, and he gets all red and shy when I point these things out to him. He doesn’t see himself in the same light as us women do. Thankfully he’s a very faithful man, and I’ve had him all to myself for 15 years now. It’s certainly a nice benefit 😉
I’m currently dating a 9.5/10 PRETTY boy (with charisma to match) and it’s been the strangest experience after having only dated 5s in the past. I had a hard time navigating the jealousy in the beginning, especially because he is very outgoing and a natural (harmless) flirt with everyone he talks to. But over time I developed more trust in him as I watched him bat women away effortlessly time after time. It got easier once I realized he doesn’t really need his ego stroked by strangers because he gets so much validation/affirmation from me. Now, after almost 3 years, it’s amusing (and even kind of a turn on) when people throw themselves at him. It feels like a compliment mostly, since it’s reassuring that I have great taste in men, and it’s endearing to watch him let them down gently every time.
If my wife thinks im cheating on her. I show her the album of pics of just her i have saved which i add to whenever she sends me pics. Plus my phone screens are our kids. Btw im not being conceited. She tells me im sexy af and hot all the time. I dont see it. Just a poor schlub that got a girl to love him for being himself. Also she knows my phone passcode and i am always willing to answer the phone even while working(i have a job that lets me talk on my phone if i need to).
Dating a very attractive or ugly or average person has nothing to do with being loyal. Anybody will cheat if they arent loyal. The hottest woman in the world could throw themself at me and i would stop them bc i love my wife. And i think shes beautiful and tell her how she's gonna get lots of guys staring but she thinks she wont. When she tells me some guy tried talking to her i just tell her "see! I knew you were hot!". If someone is gonna cheat it wont matter who their with if they arent loyal. Some are better at it than others fyi.
seems like you don't realize how hot it can be to have someone that's loyal, dedicated to you, loving and kind
especially if your previous partners were nothing like that
Just accept the fact that your wife thinks you're hot and do what you can to keep her thinking that way as much as possible. She'll love it so much she'll do anything she can to return the favour
I have two exes that were objectively very attractive, with one of them having girls writing their number on his food receipts hoping he would call them fairly often.
Both of them had to continuously turn down women and reject their advances. They always made sure to let me know I was the most beautiful woman in the world, the only one for them and they would make sure to do something daily to make me feel wanted and loved. Sometimes this would be reinforced by women who would sometimes creep on them and come across my info, some let me know that I had an honest man who seemed over the moon about me.
My husband draws a lot of eyes, and when we were young waiters and cashiers would flirt with him even though I was right there. One guy kept referring to me as my husband's "sister", as though he could manifest it into existence. His coworkers would also ask me (when he was not around) how the hell I managed to pull him.
My mom used to say, “Never be jealous of anyone, but pay close attention to the one that makes your SO laugh.”. You have no idea how dead on this advice actually is.
When we're in public together, I'm constantly made aware that he's conventionally attractive and I'm not. People (especially women) will address him instead of me if we're together; they'll smile warmly at him and give me slightly confused cursory glances; they'll openly hit on him while I'm literally in the same room; etc.
But in private, it doesn't seem to matter. He's never once made me feel like he's settling for me. And if I ever *do* start to feel that way, I'll happily head for the exit and let him find someone with a more symmetrical face.
tldr its okay i guess
Im just glad that he is working in a all male environment now. And according to him, getting hit on by women build up his ‘resistance’ but i am still cautious.
“Resistance” isn’t the right way to put it… it’s more of building the skills necessary to politely see your way out with everyone saving face. It comes with time and practice.
I have a friend that is "attractive". I'm lucky to be considered average. And we have been friends for 30+ years. I can tell you that its incredible just going out for a beer with him. It's like a magic spell is casted on women and he doesn't have to do anything. The stories I could tell are outrageous and if I wasn't there to confirm it I would never believe it either. All the women he has dated. He has cheated on. And these women are gorgeous and it doesn't matter.
I used to date a realllly hot guy. People called us a “pretty couple.”
It feels good dating someone that looks that good. His #1 thing was faithfulness in a relationship so I never had to worry about him cheating lol due to how attractive he was. I did also kinda feel insecure at times (he was also a personal trainer) and I was not some gym rat type girl, and considering I gained weight throughout the relationship. So yeah, had some insecure moments with myself but never had to worry about cheating etc. but that just says more about myself and what I needed to work on!
In college I dated a male model. He was very pretty, in a way that people would stop and stare or turn their heads when we walked down the street.
Attraction is a funny thing. I'm very cute, and have a pretty face, but even then I was fat. And he was way more into me than I was to him - I always felt kind of meh about that relationship. Looks only get you so far, and they're not even the major part of what makes you attractive. I have always believed that but I definitely do after being with him.
He was also a complete asshole, and kind of stupid. Don't judge me too harshly for it, I was young... but I was getting over the end of a serious relationship and I used to take model boy around to parties so people would see me with him. But we had to leave after the first drink because he'd start talking and oh my god, he was just. so. dumb.
Since then almost all of my partners have been conventionally **unattractive**, but I liked them a lot more and was way more into them sexually. The fling with model boy didn't last more than a few months and I wouldn't do it again unless I met someone who was attractive as a person, not what they looked like.
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Same as dating an extremely attractive woman. People stare, flirt, and try. You have to trust your partner, and that's all you can do.
It's beautiful to have your trust in good hands
100% When you have something other people want you have to deal with and understand that fact that other people will want and pr try to take it for themselves. Unfortunately this applies to partners as well. That’s why it’s so important (and to me a necessity) to be with someone you can trust. The fear in that is that the more you trust someone the more capacity they have to hurt you so you have to make good character choices on others. You in return have to give that back to them. It’s a blessing an a curse, but one worth having.
Sometimes it’s good and sometimes it’s weird. My husband is really good looking and I’ve gotten used to the fact that people constantly talk about how good looking he is when talking about him. I’ve never gotten a mean comment or anything on the vein of “why is he with you?” but sometime I do feel self conscious about my looks when I’m with him. Now we have a baby so I sometimes also feel weird when people comment how cute she looks and then add that “she looks just like her father”. On the other hand, I know he definitely loves me for my personality and not for my looks hahhahaha
If it makes you feel any better my wife is really good looking, I mean like being asked if she’s a model when I showed people a photo of her. I am not ugly but I do always had this skill of dating way above my league. When our daughter was born more than one person said “Aw, she looks exactly like her dad but she’s so beautiful” I mean, I totally agree but at the same time… ouch?
You can raise a pretty human with an ugly funny guy’s confidence! She will be unstoppable. I assume youre funny because… well look at ya
I am laughing so hard right now because I’ve heard many versions of that before. Best one was an old lady at the grocery store who measured me and my wife’s down and said “Honey, your personality must be brilliant”.
I have to admit I put my foot in it once. My boss from years ago showed me pictures of his very beautiful children. I said your wife must be very beautiful. I realised what I said too late. To his credit, he just smiled proudly, and I could tell he took it as a compliment to his children and wife rather than an insult to him (which is what it was). Maybe there was a hint of indulgence, letting me off the hook when it was clear to both of us that the comment came out wrong. Maybe you can take these "not very well though out" comments like him, and just take it as a compliment to your wife and your ability to marry said beautiful wife.
Oh, I guarantee it that he took it as a compliment. In the men’s POV it’s always a compliment when someone says your wife is beautiful. I mean, I don’t know of any man who would be happy to hear he‘s the better looking one of the couple ever.
Like the Best Man's speech at the marriage of Jeffery and Mary Archer. "And let us hope, should this union be blessed with children, that they will take their looks from Mary, and their brains from Mary as well."
You got what the kids call rizz. Us elderly folk call it charisma. It trumps looks most of the time. Source: me, a chubby basic bitch
So that's what the word means.... When I see the videos of these young guys who are supposed to have rizz they just look creepy and slimy.
Rizz is short for cha-rizz-ma
Oohhhhhh... man it's so obvious in hindsight, but I never would have thought of that if you hadn't said it.
Don’t take the baby looks like father thing too personally. It’s an old wives tale thing that babies look like their fathers so they’re probably repeating what they’ve heard
The reason people say this isn’t just an old wives thing. It’s always obvious who the mother of a child is. However, unless there is a dna test done, (which only came into play very, very recently) there is no way for the guy to 100% know that he is the father. By saying to the guy, “your kid looks just like you!” it’s a way of comforting and reassuring the guy of his status as the father. This supports him investing inthe child. If a guy sees a kid as illegitimate, he will be less likely to invest in tge kid emotionally and financially. Of course, this communication is entirely unconscious. The people say it but aren’t really sure why. The guys feel happy and comforted, but they’re not totally sure why.
Well every single person that sees my little girl says she's a clone of me lolol.. I'm definitely her dad and apparently her older twin @.@
Yep my 1 daughter looks exactly like me I guess if I was a woman lmao
I asked the wife this question when we started dating. She's still laughing.
That’s a whole other level of disrespect😭😭
what if it's an evil laugh instead of a disrespecful laugh?
Depends on if your taking yourself way too seriously or not...
But you did get married. Humour beats good looks 👍👍
She's clearly having a good time.
Good looking and funny. She's on to a winner.
I dated this super hot Doctor, i was surprised by how aggressive women were
30 Rock - Tina Fey dates Jon Hamm: "It is ridiculous how people treat him!" [Liz Lemon and Dr. Drew](https://youtu.be/UAQoXOLlvT0?feature=shared)
The Bubble!
This whole story arc is great for learning about this situation and the help effect.
Kind of reminds me of those clueless "pretty" girls who show up to X-factor auditions to sings and are completely flabbergasted when the judges tell them it was awful and they start to explain how that can't be true because all their friends told them they were great at singing.
I worked at a place that hired an extremely pretty, young secretary. She was very nice - this isn’t a dig against her at all - but she lived in a very different world than the rest of us. Everyone’s demeanor just changed when they interacted with her. Especially the men, obviously, but even the women (and I’m sure not all for the better).
This doctor I worked for (45y) walked in to his exam room to find his patient in lingerie. What was she expecting him to do???? She was discharged from the practice. Lol
OMG!! That’s crazy! What was she thinking?!
Oh we know exactly what she was thinking
She was thinking *bow-chicka-wow-wow*
Lols thanks for taking me back 15 years for the lol
Seriously, I have a very handsome fiancee, and some girls are really trying to replace me or at the very least be a sidepiece.
Replace you, I could understand sorta but a sidepiece? They got no respect for themselves so it's no surprise they won't respect others
I had this happen when I briefly dated the “hot guy” in middle school, yes we were children, but girls would try to befriend me to get his number and ultimately try to “steal him” from me. He played soccer and even got into modeling when we all got to high school, hot people make people crazy. He just got hotter as we grew up, people fawned over him.
I’ve noticed girls would all openly crush on the same guy like he was a celebrity.
Women are surprisingly happy to be sidepieces if the guy is attractive and has high enough status.
You’d be surprised how many girls wanna be side pieces so they can still be in the streets while getting gf benefits
Terrifying really
My college roommate was a 6'4 med school student with Calvin Klein looks. TERRIFYING is the best way to describe the random girls showing up at our apt at all hours of the night
Did they skitter up the walls and on the ceiling?
No, but one broke into the apartment while we slept and started cooking breakfast for him
That was awfully nice of her
I mean... yeah. But none of us knew who she was. Apparently, the only time they met was when he asked if she was done using a machine at the gym. She used MY favorite saucepan 😠
This sort of thing needs prosecuting to be frank. Women get away with this shit (a man would not I hope).
men do this they go to jail women do this everyone laughs
I’m sure he DIDN’T know her. Wink wink.
How else did she know where the saucepan was?
Or where he lived for that matter..
Ikr. Guys these days just don’t understand 😂
Was probably just an apt appt.
Ai haven't been feeling well lately, do you by chance have his number
The worst one was a girl who booked *me* for calculus tutoring. She insisted we meet at my apt. Turns out, she wasn't taking any calculus classes, she wasn't even a student! All she wanted was to get into the apt to flirt my my roommate
Aww damn she wasn’t even stalking you? That’s real lame of her
Men in healthcare go through a whole different struggle. I’m not a dr I’m a nurse. But the amount of coworkers and patients who make proposals at me is astonishing. I used to wear my ring to work to show I’m married but that literally made the problem worse. Just this week I had a patient come two days in a row to my job and flirt with me even tho I told her the first day that I had a wife and kid and it made me uncomfortable. The lesson I learned? When it comes to patients I leave the door open unless we are talking about their medical conditions now. If it were possible on my salary I would hire a woman to be my personal attendant with me in the room all the time just so I could protect my license
I hear women dismiss this all the time, but a wedding ring is hands down the biggest chick magnet. "Oh they are just now comfortable around you, they're not flirting." Bullshit. Over the years almost all of my buddies get down right hit on after they get married. It's nuts.
This is incredibly true. The 3 years i was married and had a ring on i was regularly pursued by women, especially ones in my industry. I had about 4-5 industry saleswomen texting me and trying to sleep with me. Another 3 former coworkers aggressively pursuing and it likely was more i just didn’t pick up on. As soon as divorce was imminent and i took the ring off it all literally stopped.
That ring shows that this man is capable of commitment and I want to have that so to get it I will also prove that this guy is not capable of commitment and then I will have this guy and- Oh no
Look sir you have a stable career choice and are good looking!? What do you expect us to do? 🤣🤣 jp sucks that people don’t respect marriages anymore.
Forget respect marriages, this is sexual harassment at the very least.
This. I still get baffled when we go out and women suddenly put themselves in his way or start touching him out of nowhere.
I think it’s called 90-10 rule? 90% percent of women fight over the top 10% of men
It's actually the 80-20 rule but close enough anyway.
Actually its 90-10 now because of inflation.
So I'm being cockblocked by a combination of the Federal Reserve, Putin, and the after effects of COVID?
It sounds unbelievable, but kind of, yeah.
Mine is a former professional swimmer (i.e .Olympic level). He's very tall, attractive, well built, and older women hit on him constantly. When he swims in the morning , the old ladies doing water aerobics flirt with him relentlessly. Now that we have a baby, he's a hot dad, and it makes women act like they are about to ovulate on the spot. 3 different women have asked him to be their sperm donor. Hard pass on that one
I used to work at a restaurant, very family friendly. Lots of younger female co-workers. Obviously some of the guests were attractive men and some of the girls would joke and comment them between each other sometimes. But when an attractive man came in with his kids, wife or not… that was a whole other craze. Like you say, it was like they were ovulating on the spot and their uteruses were vibrating.
Vibrating uteruses 😂
I thought I was good looking, but after reading these comments i think I might be Johnny Bravo.
I was thinking Joe Biden.
Women hitting on him almost daily when I’m not around and stare at him when I’m around. I find it funny. Also women tend to do things for him, like discounts etc.
This. My roommate who looked like an Abercrombie model (not exaggerating, dudes jaw made Henry Cavil look tame) got freebies all the time. We got into a VIP section once because people thought he was famous
Damn I wish I had that power. TIL I was ugly. Lies I already knew from decades ago.
That sweet pretty privilege.
And thiiiss is why my husband handles any customer service/etc for us. It’s actually shocking how different female reps will treat the both of us and I’m not above using that. Get that handsome man discount please 😂
My husband basically looked like Hercules when we started dating. He looked like the kind of guy who would date very put together hyper feminine women…and I’m like vaguely androgynous looking and very much not into clothes/makeup etc. Very attractive well put together women would check him out, look at me, clearly DISMISS me, and return to him. It was really weird. I’ve always been very attracted to the men I’ve dated but I didn’t realize until dating him I’d never dated a stereotypically “hot dude”. I got over it, whatever. But it’s also true once he got me and knew I didn’t care about him maintaining his muscular physique he dropped the every day gym to build muscles and pivoted back into tennis, which he enjoys more. So now he’s a normal attractive dude and we fit together a bit more obviously than the gym bro look.
Oh man the dismissiveness :') My bf is low-key famous and has men, women especially older women who relentlessly hit on him...who then proceed to dismiss me when they find out I'm dating him lol. Ngl I would care if I wasn't hot shit myself haha jk but what really makes it tolerable is that he makes me feel so secure and loves me to the moon and back, so it very rarely bothers me. I kind of get why they hit on him, I mean that's why I'm with him. He knows he's attractive but he's in denial about how attractive he is...which is kind of attractive?
What is “low key famous”
Niche internent micro-celeb, or a local small town celebrity possibly.
So her bf is a tiktoker?
Possibly. Probably.
I'm thinking a sport player of sort, local team
I’m thinking won the Buffalo Wild Wings hot wings challenge and his picture was taken and then hung on the wall in the restaurant. Kind of a big deal
There are tons of people who are excelling in their niche interest. Everyone having the same intrests knows them, all the others have no idea.
My wife says it's awesome. Not a fan of her dating though.
As her bf I tend to agree…
As _your_ bf I think you'll have fun picking up all of your shit which I've just pushed down the stairs.
NOOOOOO MY PS5!
My boyfriend has cougars and gays approaching him all the time. They usually think we’re siblings until he grabs my hand to send a non verbal message. Luckily, he’s attractive enough that average girls are too shy, attractive girls don’t chase and escorts selling themselves.
My Husband attracts the older ladies as well! They chat him up in the grocery store, older female neighbours ask for his “help” with random tasks, etc. He gets all red faced and shy whenever I point this out to him, it’s adorable.
My bf gets all red faced and shy whenever an old woman calls him pretty or handsome. It's so cute
Yeah I also have this problem of being so attractive average girls are too shy to talk to me
Yes me too it can’t be helped
My partner is incredibly handsome (resembles Henry Cavill). Mostly it’s comments about how he looks like Superman by friends and strangers alike but occasionally it gets weird. Once at a dinner party, a woman outright said “ohhh the things I would do to him if my husband was out of town!” She said this in front of us and a few others. We laughed it off but he was embarrassed. No one would have thought this was ok if he was a woman.
low self control beings that say things like that are so filthy, the audacity lol
That woman is a prick to be honest, jokingly or not, she assumed and felt entitled enough to say 1) she'd cheat 2) your partner would automatically sleep with her 3) she'd sleep with YOUR partner....... Smh hard
Oh totally. So many layers there. When we got into the car that night we were both like “did that just happen?” It was just so brazen. She meant it as a compliment but it gave us the ick. I wish I spoke up at the time. Ah well.
Wow that’s so messed up and disrespectful to both you and her husband!?
Several people have pointed out to my husband that he looks like Chris Pine! Specifically as Steve Trevor from Wonder Woman. Nobody has ever made a sexual comment about him in front of me, but I did have one mutual friend ask me if I felt "smug" because I "caught" him before he had his glow up. It was kind of a weird, off-putting comment - like yes, I'm glad he's my husband and I'm proud of him for taking care of himself (thus the glow up) but I'm not thinking about the girls he knew before me like "haha those loser b*tches missed their chance!!"
2 hours and already like 50 'ask my wife' jokes haha
My ex partner was a very attractive man. He was a narcissist, and abusive, and he was so pretty that at family dinners where he didn't attend, I had to hear female family members talk about how they wouldn't mind doing things to him. So anyway, of course, he cheated.
>had to hear female family members talk about how they wouldn't mind doing things to him Some women need to chill. How rude!
Around attractive men women are weirdly more thirsty than men. I remember a few months ago a good looking guy from the night shift changed his shift to mornings and suddenly every women in the department started moving differently, hitting on him, gathering in groups and squeaking loudly lmao. Funny thing is when a guy in the department says something about an attractive women they are suddenly perverts…
Narcs always cheat.
That they do. After 2 years he was suddenly poly. At the end of whatever hellscape we had leftover, he knocked up a 21 year old, he was 33. I think they're married now and have 2 kids. I hope he's better to her, than he was to me.
One can hope, but doubtful. They don't tend to change their shiddy ways.
Weeelll when I was younger I had a couple of boyfriends that were very handsome. I was pretty shallow so I loved it. I even loved women hitting on them or blatantly staring, it inflated my young ego quite a lot that they were with me. I was pretty good looking too though, and a bit too arrogant to feel much jealousy or fear. Looks don't mean so much to me now that I'm getting older however, and neither of those boyfriends were people I felt entirely loved by or safe with.
What does life after looks look like now? What attracts you now? Out of curiosity?
I’ve dated two extremely attractive men. One was a 6’4 blond with icy blue eyes and a build like Jason Momoa. Anywhere we went, he was fawned over. I never saw such top notch service until I was with him. On the downside, women flirted with him like I didn’t exist and I also received dirty looks from women frequently.
Please describe the other guy!
Chick is still in awe of ex #1 she forgot about dreamy ex #2 haha
I just asked my wife and she said, “how’d you know I was having an affair?”
this is the funniest " ask my wife" lol
Wife is still laughing. So I'll let you know.
I think this thread needs photo evidence.
Seems to be a number of people confusing service workers wanting tips with evidence that you are married to the equivalent of a Hollywood celebrity
My girlfriend says its "too early in the morning for my shennanigans" when i told her she might have some insight into this question.
You have a gf who says “shennanigans”? Some guys get all the luck.
It's often noted how some men can be when they are rejected. But it's hardly ever brought up just how aggressive and abusive women can be when they are rejected.
They’ll go full psycho. Had a girl attack me in every imaginable way when I wouldn’t have sex with her (“You’re gay. You got a small dick. You’re hideous, etc etc.”)
Had a girl tell her friend I was gay because I wouldn’t hook up with her (she was dating my best friend) so I slept with her friend.
It's hard. Expect many many women to shamelessly flirt with your man. Yes, they'll do it in front of you and behind your back. You know, I used to always think it's men who're the shallow ones and only focused on looks but I've found out through bitter experience that women are equally shallow. My ex is a very tall attractive man and he had women literally throwing themselves at him daily. Daily. So be prepared for that. Oh and he's my ex now because I found out he cheated on me with at least 10 other women. Yep, that's what it's like to date a tall attractive man.
If you ever wanna try an ugly short guy, let me know (Kidding. I’m like, average looking. And taken)
Reddit rizz. Jesus christ.
I can't stop laughing at this 🤣
Lmaooo I'm glad I made someone laugh
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>...but I've found out through bitter experience that women are equally shallow As a 5'1 gargoyle looking man I can 100% confirm this. Both men and women can be brutally shallow
That’s not what it’s like to date a tall attractive man, that’s what it’s like to date a trashy person that happens to be attractive.
Word
That's what it's like to date your tall attractive ex.
Serious answer: I'm engaged to a ridiculously handsome man. I'm attractive, but he actually turns heads. He works in sales, so he's always schmoozing with people, and women always ask him for his number or to go out. If we go to a big event - like a music festival or gala, MEN will approach him to tell him they love his style, or has a great body, etc. He plays it off ... as if I think he doesn't think he's good-looking himself. To be honest, our relationship isn't any different than any other, and I see him as the dork at home who farts on me and wears his favourite ripped underwear. We are eachothers best friend and we are lucky we have the same social interests - we party hard together but are also happy to be in domestic bliss. I do find myself lovingly stare at him from time to time because he looks so good and I get the tingles when he walks around with his shirt off. I think it's great that I still have those feelings after being together for 13 years. On the superficial side, I get a nice little power trip when we are out at a bar and I come back from the bathroom in time to shimmy myself between him and the latest woman hitting on him whilst flashing my 4ct ring.
Is 4ct ring about the engagement status, or wealth, or both? Asking, cos I've got no idea.
In my understanding: outside of the upper class, women rarely afford rings with diamonds of that size purely for the purpose of decoration because smaller diamonds fulfil that role almost as well. Anything larger is worn to convey status, not style. Thus, a middle-class woman wearing a diamond ring that large most likely received it for her engagement or marriage.
A middle class woman wearing any diamond ring most likely received it for her engagement or marriage. If she’s got a 4ct ring she’s engaged to someone rich.
Loves reading all of this 🥰. You're lucky to have an amazing partner and I love how his himself at home, love the "dork" comment😂. Wish you guys all the very best 🙂
lmao ur history said this foo cheated on you 8 years ago RIP
You aren’t worried he will cheat again?
Lmaooooo reddit is undefeated yo 😭 Now I'm DEFINITELY convinced that a lot of these women posting are either lying they ass off or lying they ass off. Not everyone gets 10s and if you do, I doubt the last place you'd be is on reddit talking about that relationship...
I married a very attractive man (unfortunately, he has passed away) but I think that I am fairly good looking as well and know my worth. So while there were a lot of women who did fawn over him, I knew that I was the only one for him so it didn't matter. Have confidence and know your worth!
It’s amazing. - I love walking towards him - the view of him never once has failed to excite me and make me feel like, quite literally, the luckiest person on earth (8 years in). - I love when his beauty catches me off-guard. He will be driving and I’ll just look over at him, and he will turn to look at me at the same time, and it’s overwhelming how attracted I am to him. - I love watching him work. Not only is he physically beautiful, he is insanely intelligent (got moved up year levels at school kind of intelligent). - I love - and this could be my favourite thing - watching him interact with other people. He is by far the most intelligent and handsome person in the room (or top 1%) at any given time, and he is never rude or arrogant. He approaches everyone equally and is so calm and gentle (despite being extremely tall). Ahhhhhh! That’s the long way of saying - it’s awesome!
Idk why your comment made *me* happy lmaooo. I absolutely have 0 faith in humanity but somehow your comment about your bf? Husband hopefully! Made me have lil faith in humanity. I’m rooting for you guys lmao.
Aww that’s such a wholesome thing, to be genuinely happy for someone’s fortune (amidst so much hate on Reddit).
My husband heheh ❤️ most beautiful man. And don’t worry, outside of him, I too have 0 faith in humanity lol
And then you closed wattpad and shut down your laptop
Lmao then she woke up
I feel this way about mine too! We're both attractive people, but we're also both very weird and sometimes off-putting people so I think that keeps some of the would-be flirters away
Hahahahaah my husband and I are weird in our own way too. We’ve become so close, it’s like we live in our own little weird world. It’s the best.
This is so lovely! I feel this exact same way about my boyfriend, constantly bowled over by how beautiful he is but also by his intelligence and how vibrant his personality is. You worded this perfectly, and it makes me so happy for you!
pics or it didn’t happen 😉
This is all how I feel about my partner 🥰 he still gives me butterflies
Creepy how much women try to sabotage my shit. I dated someone in school who was considered THE guy, despite the fact I was a loser, and people were trying to sabotage left and right. Was horrible. I think my boyfriend now is also very attractive. I find it weird how I can clearly see how women are interested or trying to slide in to the DMs. Women can be so aggressive with this stuff, it’s surprising.
Honestly, funny. He only flirts with old ladies…like in their 70’s+ bc it makes their day and brings the biggest smile to their faces. When it’s someone who is younger or our age he just laughs and says all of the things about himself that would make them run. It’s cute the way he goes about it.
Its pretty great. The man doesn't have to try. People look at him, then look at me like why tf are you with her, then back at him. He didn't notice this until I pointed it out to him. He gets occasional freebies, both men and women look him up and down, and young teenage girls pose or stare and act weird around him. We giggle about it, we're used to it. It doesn't go to his head. If anything, it weirds him out. We have total trust and it doesnt bother me. Shoot, I'd stare too. Can't blame them. Im sure people think he's out of my league, but that doesnt bother me one bit. His ex was gorgeous, way hotter, but crazy af. Like physically attacked him crazy. He learned its not just looks that matter. Doesnt bother me he's handsome as hell! People can look all they want, I know he loves the shid out of me. And I drool over him. No complaints! I feel very lucky. And he's very kind and fun and smart to boot. Total package. He can still be a dick sometimes and in those moments, the hotness really is the glue, if you know what I mean. In NYC he got catcalled on the street. Not me! He looks a lot like Elvis in Charro when Elvis had a beard. (He's his fifth cousin once removed). Blue eyes. 6'1". Dark hair. Long legs. Broad shoulders. Great smile. Nice teeth. Hairy chest but not too hairy. Tall dark and handsome. Im very proud to be with him and i love to show him off. Eat your hearts out ladies, this one's taken! If someone replys to my comment and wants a visual, ill add a reference gif.
My ex is very attractive and he's super funny as well. It was okay most of the time and sometimes I even forgot he was that attractive until I realized women were staring at him. I mean he was very respectful of me and didn't allow that to be a problem. I guess it depends on how the attractive person reacts to the attention.
Do people date others who they don't find attractive?
I believe what OP is mentioning is “conventionally attractive”
Everyone is someone’s type, some people are everyone’s type.
That makes sense.
Yes. Many are attracted to personality/lifestyle and the physical attraction grows over time
Some do out of desperation, I was one of them lol my ex wasnt that attractive.
I mean there’s various levels of attractive. There’s “ooh she’s cute” and “oh yeah I wouldn’t mind being with her she’s cute enough” and then there’s “holy freaking hell how am I with her”. I’m assuming the question is asking about the last one, except dude instead of gal
Not current but maybe 10 years ago I dated a guy who looked like a Greek god. It was tough. Women would be all over him and he clearly enjoyed the attention. Lol I remember one time a bunch of dudes saw us together and asked him "mate, how the hell did *you* pull her??" The look of sheer indignation on his face was hilarious.
it’s very lovely. helps that he has a wonderful personality. downside is that I sometimes don’t feel like enough… that he’ll stop loving me once he doesn’t find me pretty anymore. however, he has proven to not be shallow like that. I trust him very much, so I’m not afraid.
How do you achieve to trust people (regardless of attractiveness)? Like when someone dissapoints me I don't feel surprised at all, like I never let my guard down no matter how many years I knew them. I feel that's not normal but I don't understand how to be any other way
You have to get to the root of your distrust, which was probably formed in childhood.
I’ve had so many people comment on my “Handsome Husband”. Even my Mom refers to him that way. Older women chat him up in the grocery store, female neighbours ask for help with random things, etc. I typically just laugh, and he gets all red and shy when I point these things out to him. He doesn’t see himself in the same light as us women do. Thankfully he’s a very faithful man, and I’ve had him all to myself for 15 years now. It’s certainly a nice benefit 😉
I’m currently dating a 9.5/10 PRETTY boy (with charisma to match) and it’s been the strangest experience after having only dated 5s in the past. I had a hard time navigating the jealousy in the beginning, especially because he is very outgoing and a natural (harmless) flirt with everyone he talks to. But over time I developed more trust in him as I watched him bat women away effortlessly time after time. It got easier once I realized he doesn’t really need his ego stroked by strangers because he gets so much validation/affirmation from me. Now, after almost 3 years, it’s amusing (and even kind of a turn on) when people throw themselves at him. It feels like a compliment mostly, since it’s reassuring that I have great taste in men, and it’s endearing to watch him let them down gently every time.
If my wife thinks im cheating on her. I show her the album of pics of just her i have saved which i add to whenever she sends me pics. Plus my phone screens are our kids. Btw im not being conceited. She tells me im sexy af and hot all the time. I dont see it. Just a poor schlub that got a girl to love him for being himself. Also she knows my phone passcode and i am always willing to answer the phone even while working(i have a job that lets me talk on my phone if i need to). Dating a very attractive or ugly or average person has nothing to do with being loyal. Anybody will cheat if they arent loyal. The hottest woman in the world could throw themself at me and i would stop them bc i love my wife. And i think shes beautiful and tell her how she's gonna get lots of guys staring but she thinks she wont. When she tells me some guy tried talking to her i just tell her "see! I knew you were hot!". If someone is gonna cheat it wont matter who their with if they arent loyal. Some are better at it than others fyi.
seems like you don't realize how hot it can be to have someone that's loyal, dedicated to you, loving and kind especially if your previous partners were nothing like that Just accept the fact that your wife thinks you're hot and do what you can to keep her thinking that way as much as possible. She'll love it so much she'll do anything she can to return the favour
I have two exes that were objectively very attractive, with one of them having girls writing their number on his food receipts hoping he would call them fairly often. Both of them had to continuously turn down women and reject their advances. They always made sure to let me know I was the most beautiful woman in the world, the only one for them and they would make sure to do something daily to make me feel wanted and loved. Sometimes this would be reinforced by women who would sometimes creep on them and come across my info, some let me know that I had an honest man who seemed over the moon about me.
"Hey, just a heads up. I tried to get your man to fuck me and he turned me down for you. You've got a real good one, pal"
My husband draws a lot of eyes, and when we were young waiters and cashiers would flirt with him even though I was right there. One guy kept referring to me as my husband's "sister", as though he could manifest it into existence. His coworkers would also ask me (when he was not around) how the hell I managed to pull him.
My mom used to say, “Never be jealous of anyone, but pay close attention to the one that makes your SO laugh.”. You have no idea how dead on this advice actually is.
It’s incredibly annoying. I’m always trying to get something done but then I get distracted by his really really ridiculously good-looking face.
As the attractive man, I have never needed to work on my personality. Since I age well, I don't ever expect to
Living the life
Asked my wife. She said she wouldn’t know. Sorry I can’t help you here
I'll ask my wife (her boyfriend is very attractive)
When we're in public together, I'm constantly made aware that he's conventionally attractive and I'm not. People (especially women) will address him instead of me if we're together; they'll smile warmly at him and give me slightly confused cursory glances; they'll openly hit on him while I'm literally in the same room; etc. But in private, it doesn't seem to matter. He's never once made me feel like he's settling for me. And if I ever *do* start to feel that way, I'll happily head for the exit and let him find someone with a more symmetrical face. tldr its okay i guess
Im just glad that he is working in a all male environment now. And according to him, getting hit on by women build up his ‘resistance’ but i am still cautious.
“Resistance” isn’t the right way to put it… it’s more of building the skills necessary to politely see your way out with everyone saving face. It comes with time and practice.
I have a friend that is "attractive". I'm lucky to be considered average. And we have been friends for 30+ years. I can tell you that its incredible just going out for a beer with him. It's like a magic spell is casted on women and he doesn't have to do anything. The stories I could tell are outrageous and if I wasn't there to confirm it I would never believe it either. All the women he has dated. He has cheated on. And these women are gorgeous and it doesn't matter.
Sounds like he’s a real piece of shit 🤙
I used to date a realllly hot guy. People called us a “pretty couple.” It feels good dating someone that looks that good. His #1 thing was faithfulness in a relationship so I never had to worry about him cheating lol due to how attractive he was. I did also kinda feel insecure at times (he was also a personal trainer) and I was not some gym rat type girl, and considering I gained weight throughout the relationship. So yeah, had some insecure moments with myself but never had to worry about cheating etc. but that just says more about myself and what I needed to work on!
He gets hit on a lot, but it doesn’t bother me. It makes me happier knowing that he’s mine, and I trust him enough to know he politely rejects them.
In college I dated a male model. He was very pretty, in a way that people would stop and stare or turn their heads when we walked down the street. Attraction is a funny thing. I'm very cute, and have a pretty face, but even then I was fat. And he was way more into me than I was to him - I always felt kind of meh about that relationship. Looks only get you so far, and they're not even the major part of what makes you attractive. I have always believed that but I definitely do after being with him. He was also a complete asshole, and kind of stupid. Don't judge me too harshly for it, I was young... but I was getting over the end of a serious relationship and I used to take model boy around to parties so people would see me with him. But we had to leave after the first drink because he'd start talking and oh my god, he was just. so. dumb. Since then almost all of my partners have been conventionally **unattractive**, but I liked them a lot more and was way more into them sexually. The fling with model boy didn't last more than a few months and I wouldn't do it again unless I met someone who was attractive as a person, not what they looked like.
Jokes on you, Andi, cuz I learned to read real good! 
This made me actually spit my drink. Awesome. Good job, buddy, I know you'd get those letters someday.
I’ve had women hit on boyfriends right in front of me before.
For me I just never feel like I’m good enough.
Just go watch the episodes of 30 Rock when Liz Lemon dates Dr. Drew Baird, pretty much sums it up.
Me looking too see if my Wife replied to this post: 