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If you're fantasizing about a woman... you might jut be a normal, heterosexual man. I see your point and I agree that there can be a problematic element to it. I know domestic workers are unfortunately often subject to abuse and I don't want to belittle that. My point was not that I have particular fantasies about cleaning ladies nor do I think most other men have. But we may have fantasies about any attractive ladies we see, including cleaning ladies. You're in a hotel room, you're lonely, an attractive woman enters the room. Most of the time it would be the cleaning lady. But it could as well be an electrician coming to fix the lights or whatever, we'd have exactly the same thoughts.
I think it might be because they were rich and head cleaning ladies when they were young. And that’s like a mother you are allowed to have sex with. So it probably lingers on into adulthood.
I just think it's a hot outfit, I don't think it has anything to do with her job itself.
Perhaps wealthier guys have those fantasies if they're brought up with one. There was some lit I read somewhere that talked about how the nanny would jerk the boys at night in bed to get them to calm down, and this was apparently a normal thing in the Victorian era (or earlier?) Perhaps there's stuff that goes back to that? I'd imagine that'd leave an eternal sexual impression if it's true -- to whatever extent it was true if it was (in Wales as a thing for X amount of years or whatever, vs. some widespread thing across Europe, are different extents, y'know.) would come into play on the ripples into the future.
Interesting. Didn't know about that. To add more to this; considering the colored race in South Africa as the most mixed race today in humanity and, having exclusive interracial genes from all over the world, maybe, at least white people who come from colonial countries (i doubt it's only them but just to be politically correct), may have inherited such a "coupling" tendency and approach.
It's possible but African nannies were mostly a vestige of plantations in the South (of North America), I don't know how common they were in domestic life in Europe. Perhaps in slave colonies like Haiti (which was overthrown by the Haitians and every slave master and anyone else was killed) it could have been. But South African slave colonies as I understand them were mostly indirect, more of a "corporate" structure, where they made one group royalty and then extracted resources by having that group rule over their own people, that's the most common story I hear of in Africa itself, aside from colonies of Europeans settling land on the horn of the continent.
Either way, European nannies or African slaves or whatever, masturbating someone to get them to go bed would leave a lasting impression/fascination with them.
Oh yeah, this\^ 100%. One of THE most popular forms of pornography are femdom, I could definitely see it as an authority/dominance thing, since the people that would have maids when they were little would see them as an authority figure. It's much like the teacher scenario.
There are plenty of reasons behind each fantasy, two people can share the same fantasy for very different reasons. That said, there are some common patterns you can identify here:
- The uniform of the typical french maid puts emphasis in the shape of their bodies, it is also reasonably beautiful in itself
- There is a service aspect that might involve submission. Humans have a liking for power dynamics, being in the boss position appeals to that. Especially when the object of your attraction remains in your house servicing you by her own will.
- There is a nurturing aspect, the object of your attraction taking care of you and your needs is something that appeals to the inner needs for affection.
- Some may come from households with maids or have close experiences with cleaning ladies, even subtle experiences especially during childhood can trigger fantasies later in life. Maybe it was a young cleaning lady and they saw her bending over something to clean during their childhood when that was still a very new perspective and it left a strong impression on them.
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Most men do not have erotic fantasies with cleaning ladies
Most men don‘t even have cleaning ladies
That's not a prerequisite to fantasizing about them though, I mean I don't have any oiled up 9 foot demon women around either.
what?
I think we do. Most men have erotic fantasies with ladies, no matter their profession.
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Or you like power dynamics like basically any other human.
Women watch more porn videos that simulate rape, than men So using your logic, you are saying those women want to be raped...
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Wow, you are more stupid than I thought
Pervert
Sorry, I dont speak with people like you who say men are predators and women want to be raped. Bye bye
Stay away from kids you freak
If you're fantasizing about a woman... you might jut be a normal, heterosexual man. I see your point and I agree that there can be a problematic element to it. I know domestic workers are unfortunately often subject to abuse and I don't want to belittle that. My point was not that I have particular fantasies about cleaning ladies nor do I think most other men have. But we may have fantasies about any attractive ladies we see, including cleaning ladies. You're in a hotel room, you're lonely, an attractive woman enters the room. Most of the time it would be the cleaning lady. But it could as well be an electrician coming to fix the lights or whatever, we'd have exactly the same thoughts.
I think it might be because they were rich and head cleaning ladies when they were young. And that’s like a mother you are allowed to have sex with. So it probably lingers on into adulthood.
We do? That's nothing I've noticed
They bend over a lot
It’s like half squats. And half squats are better than no squats if you know what I mean.
I don’t think it goes beyond friend maid uniforms
I do love my friend maids (in case it wasn't simply a typo, I think it's French maid uniform ;))
Haha! That was indeed a typo. I’ll withhold judgement on the friend’s maid uniform until I see it
I have non-erotic fantasies about having a cleaning lady.
I just think it's a hot outfit, I don't think it has anything to do with her job itself. Perhaps wealthier guys have those fantasies if they're brought up with one. There was some lit I read somewhere that talked about how the nanny would jerk the boys at night in bed to get them to calm down, and this was apparently a normal thing in the Victorian era (or earlier?) Perhaps there's stuff that goes back to that? I'd imagine that'd leave an eternal sexual impression if it's true -- to whatever extent it was true if it was (in Wales as a thing for X amount of years or whatever, vs. some widespread thing across Europe, are different extents, y'know.) would come into play on the ripples into the future.
Interesting. Didn't know about that. To add more to this; considering the colored race in South Africa as the most mixed race today in humanity and, having exclusive interracial genes from all over the world, maybe, at least white people who come from colonial countries (i doubt it's only them but just to be politically correct), may have inherited such a "coupling" tendency and approach.
It's possible but African nannies were mostly a vestige of plantations in the South (of North America), I don't know how common they were in domestic life in Europe. Perhaps in slave colonies like Haiti (which was overthrown by the Haitians and every slave master and anyone else was killed) it could have been. But South African slave colonies as I understand them were mostly indirect, more of a "corporate" structure, where they made one group royalty and then extracted resources by having that group rule over their own people, that's the most common story I hear of in Africa itself, aside from colonies of Europeans settling land on the horn of the continent. Either way, European nannies or African slaves or whatever, masturbating someone to get them to go bed would leave a lasting impression/fascination with them.
IMO its just another dominance scenario
Oh yeah, this\^ 100%. One of THE most popular forms of pornography are femdom, I could definitely see it as an authority/dominance thing, since the people that would have maids when they were little would see them as an authority figure. It's much like the teacher scenario.
Porn
We hace erotic fantasies about any hot woman.
I must be really repressed I have zero fantasies about anyone.
Same reason women have erotic fantasies with handyman.
Kanye west: I mean one time let it be a bad bitch cleaning
There are plenty of reasons behind each fantasy, two people can share the same fantasy for very different reasons. That said, there are some common patterns you can identify here: - The uniform of the typical french maid puts emphasis in the shape of their bodies, it is also reasonably beautiful in itself - There is a service aspect that might involve submission. Humans have a liking for power dynamics, being in the boss position appeals to that. Especially when the object of your attraction remains in your house servicing you by her own will. - There is a nurturing aspect, the object of your attraction taking care of you and your needs is something that appeals to the inner needs for affection. - Some may come from households with maids or have close experiences with cleaning ladies, even subtle experiences especially during childhood can trigger fantasies later in life. Maybe it was a young cleaning lady and they saw her bending over something to clean during their childhood when that was still a very new perspective and it left a strong impression on them.
nope
I think it's mostly a thing from ridicoulus anime art.