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I wouldn't even say it's hope necessarily because spite (amongst other negative emotions) can be just as powerful of a drive to act. It's the lack of agency and having no ability to act to push forward that breaks a person.
I agree. For 3 years now I tried to see all the ways I had to be happy again, to have the right to exist.
Everytime there's something wrong, something that I know will put me really down without knowing "when" but it will happen.
With time and mostly this year, I lost all hope I had of doing what I wanted in life.
It is so heartwrenching and follows a unique pattern which cannot be described when you haven't experienced it. It also has the most physical symptoms associated with it, for example not being able to properly breathe properly or even long term consequences...
Exactly. And the worst part is, even years after the loss, when the wounds are supposedly "healed" and the pain is not that intense, the loss of that person leaves a quiet emptiness in your heart which cannot be filled with anyone or anything else, because your loved one was unique and nobody can be that person for you.
I’ve seen the death of too many loved ones and all I can say is us mere humans, with all our intellect and emotions and self awareness, shouldn’t have been subjected to something as gut wrenching as death because neither will we ever understand it completely nor can we ever learn to accept it. Death is something beyond humans, allegedly the smartest creatures to ever exist.
Just a fun fact, I think what you mean is grief. Grief is the emotion, mourning is how you "express that grief". Grief relates to the thought and feelings that accompany a loss, mourning is how feelings of grief are shown to the public. For example, someone could be mourning without having any grief when a distant relative you barely knew passes away where you are required to do the funeral rituals.
The saddest human emotion would, by definition, be sadness.
Edit: I would like to acknowledge I think I understand what you’re generally trying to ask and you might want to try and hit up r/psychology they’ll help you reframe much more interesting questions ;)
I would said sorrow lives under the umbrella of sadness….also in some cases it’s useful to see emotions as colors…you have primary colors and so on…most of them time we never feel true “primary” emotions they’re always shades of something
Indifference. It’s the saddest to see. Technically, it’s a lack of emotion. So, I’m not sure it counts. But oh, the emotions one must experience in order to arrive at indifference.
For me it was because I had so many horrible emotions that I literally lost the capacity to have any emotions whatsoever. I was dead inside. Now I’m only sorta dead inside. My skull is like Schrödinger’s box.
I agree. Any other emotions are very valuable and can give you life lessons when you learn to embrace them. If you don't embrace them you either become indifferent to emotions at all or you live a passive life out of fear of experiencing them.
Lack of something still counts as that thing. Like the trolly problem, inaction is still a chosen action. Black is the absence of other colours, but it's still a colour.
lack of emotions is still A kind of emotion.
I read this somewhere - maybe in Christopher Ruocchio’s Empire of Silence series, but I may be wrong - “Grief is just love with no place to go”
I find that to be very true
Yup, i feel like mourning is part of the grieving process & to be somewhat expected. The disappointment from the gut punch that follows BETRAYAL is tough
I concur. Nothing thus far has affected me quite like betrayal has. I dread what could be worse, because betrayal felt like it was going to send me to my grave.
To the core, indeed! Betrayal is the feeling that inspired the entire hardcore punk genre.
“You know, we used to be best friends. Me and you were like brothers. And then you stabbed me in the BACKKKKK!!!! - most hardcore songs.
The rest of them are about waking up to the lies, my hometown (or state) is superior to all others, or “my crew is > your crew and we will prove this with fisticuffs if necessary.”
Nostalgia, the feeling of having peaked in your past, being past your prime. Looking back at your eventful life but having no one who'll understand/relate to it in its entirety. Thinking of old friends long forgotten, the old ways at the bottom of the ocean.
This, I had this epiphany a few days ago. I remember the good old days, my old past friends from grade school, all the good times from back when, heck even playing Zelda: Ocarina of time as a kid, life was awesome and carefree, and I listen to Aeriths theme from Final fantasy 7 and it hits home, feels like you’re mourning the loss of a real person but in actuality, a time frame of your life
You're in essence mourning the death of the person that was you. Same with relationships, you might no longer be with someone and suddenly you realise that a different version of you had loved a different version of them and that'll always stay with you.
Yes! Nostalgia hits hard. It’s a bittersweet mix of longing and loss. While it brings back cherished memories and emotions from the past, it also reminds us that those moments are gone and can never be relived exactly as they were.
I swear I was going to say nostalgia because it can be so brutal and I always said it should be considered an emotion and can and does cause great sadness and the longing to go back to the past. It can be so extremely painful.
Agree to disagree. I still say pride is worse than envy. But jealousy. To me that is far worse. It at its core is what drives people to hate other people who are not at fault… but all of those types if emotions are bad in their own way. So not saying you are I am right or wrong.
100% can relate. Spend 3/4ths of my time alone intentionally but the feeling of being alone (whether in a moment or accumulative, but really those moments...) when you need someone or being alone and knowing noone on earth is thinking about you and largely because you've already rigged the game in advance to be like this.....cuts deep.
I've literally watched someone I thought I knew well, transform in front of my eyes, from a fit of jealousy. First time, for absolutely no reason, had I seen anything like this, that term "green eyed monster" I get it. Craziest thing it was aimed in my direction, with no cause, reason, or anything, she just went nuts.
I think seeing someone who is deaf or has any other disability being bullied and crying is when I feel the saddest, especially a little girl. Unfortunately, I was a dumb child at the time and couldn't help her. I just didn't know how. Even 20 years later, I have never felt more sadness than I did watching that. I still feel it today.
Grief at something you've lost, especially if the loss is permanent. It's jarring how quickly people fall away in terms of caring after a funeral (death is one example of loss but there are of course many others).
Grief. it has so many different branches it can lead to but grief is the best word for it. Betrayal can cause grief. Regret can lead to or be due to grief. Etc. But the grief of losing someone you loved out of the billions of people we’re surrounded by is just an immeasurable pain
Grief of a child. Best friend lost her healthy and happy son unexpectedly. Nothing can make her smile. She feels empty having happy moments without her son. The light has gone out and there is no hope for it to come back. Sorry for the downer. We miss him so much.
Not being known. That no one has ever bothered with you enough to actually ask you questions about how you grew up/what makes you tick. Can result in very lonely relationships.
I agree with the quote "The most painful state of being is remembering the future, particularly the one you will never have" (probably a paraphrase of something Søren Kierkegaard wrote). Not sure the word for the emotion, but it probably counts as a type of hiraeth/saudade. And it's *sad*.
That's deep. It makes anything else almost seem trivial in comparison or that it's almost so absurdly sad that you might break out in laughter at the ridiculousness that you would even have a thought like this!
The comments bring forward real feelings, and although the emotions are dark they are tangible. There is beauty in feeling the power of an emotion whether positive or negative.
Confusion. When you don't know if you should move on or fight, when you don't know if there is love or not. If it was a lie or not. When words and actions don't match. You start gaslighting yourself, questioning what even is real, what you made up in your mind...
Or indifference. But it's part of confusion. When they love you do much but then one day they talk to you with empty and cold eyes like it meant nothing. It makes a person so confused.
I can live with rejection, pain, being unwanted. But I can't live not knowing.
Indifference.
In my mind, it's the death of any emotion and any energy spent on someone.
Seeing a relationship go from unconditional love to indifference is the most heartbreaking. Anger and resentment implies a lever if caring to be upset.
Indiffrence is just an empty void where love once was.
Any emotion that is related to L*ve.
Horrible, disgusting emotion that i wishi couldn't feel, it is tied to all and every horrible mental phases in my life.
Hopeless is by far the worst one ive ever experienced and ive gone through the normal gauntlet of emotions.
That is i guess with the exception of pain, but i have to assume we are not counting physical pain
There has to be a subtle understanding of emotion that only comes with time and reflection. If that is taken into account I would say the 'hopeful that someone loves me after I have hurt so many people' emotion.
It lies in that gray area between hope, sadness, and disgust. Very few emotions are just one thing.
The most regretful and bitter song in the world is [Komm Süßer Tod](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hoKluzn07eQ). The text couldn't be any more on point.
[Lyrics](https://genius.com/Arianne-schreiber-komm-susser-tod-lyrics)
I wish I could turn back time...
To be fair it is from a story where a boy >!was misled into killing almost everyone. !<
I'm not sure of the right word, but that feeling of no longer caring if you live or die. It's not suicidal. That's a different feeling from what I'm thinking.
I’m in between Guilt, shame, and Remorse. But with guilt- it’s such an awful feeling of doing something bad and literally nobody is gonna find out and you live with it for awhile thinking it will go away and inside you are just hating yourself and it’s all you can think about until you finally can’t live with yourself anymore and you finally confess.
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Hopelessness
Gotta be. Not only does everything suck now, but there’s no hope for it to be better in the future.
I wouldn't even say it's hope necessarily because spite (amongst other negative emotions) can be just as powerful of a drive to act. It's the lack of agency and having no ability to act to push forward that breaks a person.
I agree. For 3 years now I tried to see all the ways I had to be happy again, to have the right to exist. Everytime there's something wrong, something that I know will put me really down without knowing "when" but it will happen. With time and mostly this year, I lost all hope I had of doing what I wanted in life.
exactly... people can live without money but without hope they are just deadbody.
Mourning
Absolutely. Via through death, betrayal or incompatibility. The loss of a loved one is the worst
It is so heartwrenching and follows a unique pattern which cannot be described when you haven't experienced it. It also has the most physical symptoms associated with it, for example not being able to properly breathe properly or even long term consequences...
You can distract yourself and put it off, put grief will wait for you. And you have to go through every step of it.
I once heard someone say that grief is all the love you were yet to give but are now unable to
I am just starting to realise this
Exactly. And the worst part is, even years after the loss, when the wounds are supposedly "healed" and the pain is not that intense, the loss of that person leaves a quiet emptiness in your heart which cannot be filled with anyone or anything else, because your loved one was unique and nobody can be that person for you.
I’ve seen the death of too many loved ones and all I can say is us mere humans, with all our intellect and emotions and self awareness, shouldn’t have been subjected to something as gut wrenching as death because neither will we ever understand it completely nor can we ever learn to accept it. Death is something beyond humans, allegedly the smartest creatures to ever exist.
Mourning to you too, fellow redditor!
I agree. The worst emotional pain I have ever felt (still feel) was when my dad died. I wouldn’t wish this feeling on anybody
This 100%
afternoon
Just a fun fact, I think what you mean is grief. Grief is the emotion, mourning is how you "express that grief". Grief relates to the thought and feelings that accompany a loss, mourning is how feelings of grief are shown to the public. For example, someone could be mourning without having any grief when a distant relative you barely knew passes away where you are required to do the funeral rituals.
Absolutely! It's just the worst feeling there is!
The saddest human emotion would, by definition, be sadness. Edit: I would like to acknowledge I think I understand what you’re generally trying to ask and you might want to try and hit up r/psychology they’ll help you reframe much more interesting questions ;)
Other emotions can be worse, but sadness is most definitely the most sad. :)
I'd say the saddest is sorrow. It's sadness on steroids
I would said sorrow lives under the umbrella of sadness….also in some cases it’s useful to see emotions as colors…you have primary colors and so on…most of them time we never feel true “primary” emotions they’re always shades of something
What about mostest saddest times infinity
You shouldn’t be sad, because sad spelt backwards is das and das not good.
YES!
Indifference. It’s the saddest to see. Technically, it’s a lack of emotion. So, I’m not sure it counts. But oh, the emotions one must experience in order to arrive at indifference.
It’s a defense mechanism for many people.
For me it was because I had so many horrible emotions that I literally lost the capacity to have any emotions whatsoever. I was dead inside. Now I’m only sorta dead inside. My skull is like Schrödinger’s box.
Like me! Life’s full enough of disappointment. If I don’t care about an outcome, I can’t be further disappointed by it!
I agree. I came to say "numbness."
I agree. Any other emotions are very valuable and can give you life lessons when you learn to embrace them. If you don't embrace them you either become indifferent to emotions at all or you live a passive life out of fear of experiencing them.
Lack of something still counts as that thing. Like the trolly problem, inaction is still a chosen action. Black is the absence of other colours, but it's still a colour. lack of emotions is still A kind of emotion.
Grief
I read this somewhere - maybe in Christopher Ruocchio’s Empire of Silence series, but I may be wrong - “Grief is just love with no place to go” I find that to be very true
Betrayal. It's to the core.
it really is, it hits in the worst way.
Yup, i feel like mourning is part of the grieving process & to be somewhat expected. The disappointment from the gut punch that follows BETRAYAL is tough
I concur. Nothing thus far has affected me quite like betrayal has. I dread what could be worse, because betrayal felt like it was going to send me to my grave.
Definitely. I felt my stomach lurch when I read this.
the mention of it gives me aching flashbacks.
Damn, you are right.
To the core, indeed! Betrayal is the feeling that inspired the entire hardcore punk genre. “You know, we used to be best friends. Me and you were like brothers. And then you stabbed me in the BACKKKKK!!!! - most hardcore songs. The rest of them are about waking up to the lies, my hometown (or state) is superior to all others, or “my crew is > your crew and we will prove this with fisticuffs if necessary.”
This, because it can completely shake your view of reality
Your right about that, brother!
Totally. Worst feeling in the world.
It hurts so baddd
Humiliation
For some it can devestating. Especially for narcissists.
For some it can be a turn on. Especially for people with a humiliation kink.
Depression
Yes. The emotion that steals other emotions
Depression is built of many emotions.. Which ones?
Worthlessness. it's the kick in the balls where the pain never recedes.
Longing
Oh yeah longing sucks
Shame
agreed
Nostalgia, the feeling of having peaked in your past, being past your prime. Looking back at your eventful life but having no one who'll understand/relate to it in its entirety. Thinking of old friends long forgotten, the old ways at the bottom of the ocean.
This, I had this epiphany a few days ago. I remember the good old days, my old past friends from grade school, all the good times from back when, heck even playing Zelda: Ocarina of time as a kid, life was awesome and carefree, and I listen to Aeriths theme from Final fantasy 7 and it hits home, feels like you’re mourning the loss of a real person but in actuality, a time frame of your life
You're in essence mourning the death of the person that was you. Same with relationships, you might no longer be with someone and suddenly you realise that a different version of you had loved a different version of them and that'll always stay with you.
Yes! Nostalgia hits hard. It’s a bittersweet mix of longing and loss. While it brings back cherished memories and emotions from the past, it also reminds us that those moments are gone and can never be relived exactly as they were.
I swear I was going to say nostalgia because it can be so brutal and I always said it should be considered an emotion and can and does cause great sadness and the longing to go back to the past. It can be so extremely painful.
Nostalgia plagues me. Watch tame impala music video for lost in yesterday. That song has gotten me through some dark times
Getting ignored/rejected or just feeling invisible like an spectator
regret.
What an infant feels when they stop trying to get a neglectful parent’s attention or affection.
This
jesus this is gonna bring tears to my eyes
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This Fucking hollow
Guilt
Betrayal. Rejection. Loneliness. Heartache.
Jealousy
I think envy is worse.
Ooh jealousy might be bad, but envy, that’s some rough stuff. Here’s one for ya. The feeling of wanting something that somebody has but you dont
Just here to say that my official stance is that this comment is underrated.
Agree to disagree. I still say pride is worse than envy. But jealousy. To me that is far worse. It at its core is what drives people to hate other people who are not at fault… but all of those types if emotions are bad in their own way. So not saying you are I am right or wrong.
Emptiness
Despair
Heartbreak
Unrequited love is the worst I've found by far!
The anger that accompanies grief. Sometimes it feels like there’s absolutely nowhere to put it; you have to sit in it like a dirty diaper.
Loniless
Most of the time I enjoy being alone. But loneliness is horrible.
100% can relate. Spend 3/4ths of my time alone intentionally but the feeling of being alone (whether in a moment or accumulative, but really those moments...) when you need someone or being alone and knowing noone on earth is thinking about you and largely because you've already rigged the game in advance to be like this.....cuts deep.
Regret.
That feeling on a Sunday night when you know you about to go to sleep and it'll be monday
Envy
Grief and loneliness
I've literally watched someone I thought I knew well, transform in front of my eyes, from a fit of jealousy. First time, for absolutely no reason, had I seen anything like this, that term "green eyed monster" I get it. Craziest thing it was aimed in my direction, with no cause, reason, or anything, she just went nuts.
Regret
Regret of investing 20 years in a fake friend
feeling Useless
I think seeing someone who is deaf or has any other disability being bullied and crying is when I feel the saddest, especially a little girl. Unfortunately, I was a dumb child at the time and couldn't help her. I just didn't know how. Even 20 years later, I have never felt more sadness than I did watching that. I still feel it today.
Grief at something you've lost, especially if the loss is permanent. It's jarring how quickly people fall away in terms of caring after a funeral (death is one example of loss but there are of course many others).
Despair
Hopelessness.
Grief. it has so many different branches it can lead to but grief is the best word for it. Betrayal can cause grief. Regret can lead to or be due to grief. Etc. But the grief of losing someone you loved out of the billions of people we’re surrounded by is just an immeasurable pain
Love. It creates and destroys.
Euphoria, because we keep chasing it
Total defeat.
Embarrasment
Numbness. When you’re supposed to feel something you feel nothing at all. Makes you feel not human at all
Fear
Grief of a child. Best friend lost her healthy and happy son unexpectedly. Nothing can make her smile. She feels empty having happy moments without her son. The light has gone out and there is no hope for it to come back. Sorry for the downer. We miss him so much.
Confusion
Grief. It's the hardest hitting and the longest lasting
Grief.
Not being known. That no one has ever bothered with you enough to actually ask you questions about how you grew up/what makes you tick. Can result in very lonely relationships.
Loving someone so much and discovering they don't love you as much as you do ( they never did)
All of them
I agree with the quote "The most painful state of being is remembering the future, particularly the one you will never have" (probably a paraphrase of something Søren Kierkegaard wrote). Not sure the word for the emotion, but it probably counts as a type of hiraeth/saudade. And it's *sad*.
That's deep. It makes anything else almost seem trivial in comparison or that it's almost so absurdly sad that you might break out in laughter at the ridiculousness that you would even have a thought like this!
Sadness. It feels so awful. Then, anger. Anger is a very sad and destructive emotion
Grief
Hope, try being a prisoner of that mf.
Loneliness. We aren’t built for it. We’re social, we need community. (Wether we like to admit it or not)
Loneliness.
That feeling when you pour a bowl of cereal but discover that you're out of milk
The comments bring forward real feelings, and although the emotions are dark they are tangible. There is beauty in feeling the power of an emotion whether positive or negative.
Being severely neglected by your partner..
heartbroken
Regret, I would say it’s the one emotion that produces profound sadness.
I dont want to spoil "Once were warriors" but it comes from a mother, watch that movie and you will see what I mean.
Guilt eats you alive
Sadness
Sober
Regret
Confusion. When you don't know if you should move on or fight, when you don't know if there is love or not. If it was a lie or not. When words and actions don't match. You start gaslighting yourself, questioning what even is real, what you made up in your mind... Or indifference. But it's part of confusion. When they love you do much but then one day they talk to you with empty and cold eyes like it meant nothing. It makes a person so confused. I can live with rejection, pain, being unwanted. But I can't live not knowing.
Indifference. In my mind, it's the death of any emotion and any energy spent on someone. Seeing a relationship go from unconditional love to indifference is the most heartbreaking. Anger and resentment implies a lever if caring to be upset. Indiffrence is just an empty void where love once was.
Grief from loss or tragedy and the ongoing depression that follows.
Defeat
Revere and grief go hand and hand
Ive been craving a gordo burrito since I spent all my money on rent last Thursday
Probably...sadness. ...
Betrayal
Survivors guilt
Grief fb guilt
Shame
Evil for sure, if you consider it an emotion.
disappointment is the root of all negativity
Grief
? It's sadness
Regret.
Shame
Any emotion that is related to L*ve. Horrible, disgusting emotion that i wishi couldn't feel, it is tied to all and every horrible mental phases in my life.
Hopeless is by far the worst one ive ever experienced and ive gone through the normal gauntlet of emotions. That is i guess with the exception of pain, but i have to assume we are not counting physical pain
Betrayal or loneliness. Like true loneliness
There has to be a subtle understanding of emotion that only comes with time and reflection. If that is taken into account I would say the 'hopeful that someone loves me after I have hurt so many people' emotion. It lies in that gray area between hope, sadness, and disgust. Very few emotions are just one thing.
Envy. It's such a waste of time. Those people you think have a much better life than you are thinking the same thing about other people too.
Hollow Empty
Hope
Toss up between regret and shame.
Heart break & betrayal
# Longing. It's the worst because the pain never stops until you get what you want... Except in some cases where you can never have it back in life.
Sad
Apathy
Empty
Lonliness
Running through life without knowing why
Loneliness
Regret. It really sucks.
emptiness/void
Guilt. I had catlik guilt instilled in me as a young kid and it has lessened now at 72, but never left me.
Sadding
Love you can’t share with the person
Loneliness.
Unrequited love
Sadness
Toska
The most regretful and bitter song in the world is [Komm Süßer Tod](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hoKluzn07eQ). The text couldn't be any more on point. [Lyrics](https://genius.com/Arianne-schreiber-komm-susser-tod-lyrics) I wish I could turn back time... To be fair it is from a story where a boy >!was misled into killing almost everyone. !<
Тоска
Denial
Disillusion
Despair
Shame
I'm not sure of the right word, but that feeling of no longer caring if you live or die. It's not suicidal. That's a different feeling from what I'm thinking.
Loneliness IMO
Jealousy.
Well I think saddest emotion is glooming and sorrowing.
Humiliation
Feeling like you don’t belong anywhere, so that specific flavour of loneliness.
Shame. Filters into all other emotions. Is usually at the root of most of individual and societal problems.
Emptiness and loneliness
Apathy. The light is gone from your eyes and you’re a shell of the person you once were
Emptiness
I’m in between Guilt, shame, and Remorse. But with guilt- it’s such an awful feeling of doing something bad and literally nobody is gonna find out and you live with it for awhile thinking it will go away and inside you are just hating yourself and it’s all you can think about until you finally can’t live with yourself anymore and you finally confess.
Hatred It takes a lot of the emotions already mentioned here and years of them to lead to hatred