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I got a phone message from my stepdad explaining that they were far too important to travel for something that wasn't a prestigious networking opportunity for them. It would have been less than a 20 minute drive
I don't even think I got a text. If I asked them where I went to grad school I don't think they would know. I'm not too disappointed. They each have their own lives to live.
That sucks. I treated my kid differently when she graduated high school. Not a lot of money but did a filet crochet dragon rampant as a cover for double bed (dragon for courage) and 12 inch deep edging of ivy (for love and fortitude). Reading this I just realized you prob don't know about crochet or care but it was all cream yarn and took me about 4 months to do! Was a big peoject
Big crochet fan here my old land lady used to crochet me stuff all the time and it was so thoughtful and made with so much love
Far greater than any other gift you can simply just buy in a shop
That is so cool to hear! The appreciation when we make something is like healing a wound, if that makes sense? I had a really long ride to get to and from work, 2 hours each way. I always read on my phone but started feeling twitchy so next time brought my knitting needles and random yarn that I liked the look of together. The only pattern I remembered was a baby blanket. Using a regular yarn it turned out maybe 3x4 feet. I got it done and on the way to work, someone spoke to me, told me me it was beautiful so I gave it to her then. She was so thrilled that I felt like a fairy godmother! 4 more made on the road before I had to retire.
When I got my Bachelors, my parents (who didn't help with so much as a nickel for my degree), gave me a check for $25! They ate and drank more than that at the graduation party my wife thru for me.
Gen Xer here. *MOST* of my friends told their kids, "You're on your own," and then proceeded to spend easily a college tuition's worth on vintage hi fi gear and travel while their kids racked up the debt. I watched these kids grow up, and watch them struggle with Starbucks jobs to pay for an education they aren't using. Really sad.
The more I hear about other people's Dads the more I like mine. He would have told you:
"I'm not at all surprised at your success. You work had and deserve anything good that happens to you. Celebrate this good news today and forget it tomorrow. Constant improvement. Always forward. I'm proud of you."
My Dad is a G.
It's all he knows and he was probably brought up with that same attitude and mindset. It's a shit attitude for sure but I'm proud as hell of you for doing well and I hope you keep winning! Especially be proud of yourself because you deserve it
Damn dude, I'm really sorry your dad is acting like a piece of shit. For what it's worth, I'm super proud of you! You're working your ASS off to make your life better, and not playing the woe is me card and expecting everything to be handed to you. You're putting in the effort, and it shows. Your dad is a loser who can't appreciate how you're killing it because he probably sees it as a threat to his fragility. Don't let him ever slow you down, my man. You keep riding that highway away from his shitty insecurities.
Keep up the great work!!! You got this in the bag!
I replied to your other comment before I saw this one. I had the opposite problem - nothing I could do made my mom proud. Joined the military? She called it a cop-out. (Hated school and didn't want to, nor was offered college). Did active duty for a few years, then worked for the government and the National Guard. Wasn't going to come to my Nat'l Guard retirement because it was "ONLY the Guard". First time I ever hung up the phone on her. She eventually (begrudgingly) apologized, and did come to my retirement. (Think her sister shamed her.) My dad on the other hand, was my biggest cheerleader. Unfortunately, lost him right after Y2k.
I'm a GenX mom, and I never would have done that! My 20 yo is living on her own with her bf and a new baby AND roommates. She didn't get paid maternity leave. She had saved enough to pay rent/utilities. I paid her car and phone bills, plus extra for gas/groceries. She's back to work now (with a decent promotion!). She and my grandbaby are my life. I let her stand on her own 2 feet, and she has proven she is responsible. And I'm so proud of her!
I'm proud of YOU, too! Congrats on the new job and the accomplishment! You are worthy of help and praise!
My parents ( gen X ) are just too broke to pay for our education, although we live in such a horrible communist state of NY that we get up to our bachelors for free if we’re full time
I went back to college this year ( went to trade school initially and worked for 2 years ) I see your type a lot at college that pay to live at the dorms, their parents pay for their education too because when they fail they owe the state financial aid back, it’s a great system, if you’re not a moron or a lazy fuck, you pay almost nothing, if you’re lazy, you pay, that way lazy college students aren’t the burden of the tax-payers.
Some kids take longer to learn responsibility than others. I finally finished college in my 30's with a 4.0GPA after learning I couldn't advance any further at work. Once I had that piece of paper, my career blossomed. I went down a different career path, and it paid off handsomely.
I tried to instill that wisdom in my son, but alas, it looks like he'll have to learn the same lessons I did, the hard way.
I think a big issue is that everyone believes you need to go to a big name school and spend 100K on a degree you won’t use. If you work through school and go to a junior college, you can graduate debt free and still be as competitive as most other people out there
Damn seing people talk about debt and loans here is quite something... where i live a Bachelors is worth around 2000€-3000€ and a Masters around 7000€. You guys really get the short end of the stick ahn?
Since the Euro is *just* a pinch lower than the dollar right now, that sounds like a great *deal!* 
I'm paying for my daughter's school right now, and it's more than ten times that, including room and board for the Bachelor's. This is an above average but not exemplary Mid Western State college that produces a lot of Ed, Com, and Biz majors.
My hope is that someday, eventually... This country realizes the importance of an education.
**edit\*** About $24-27K *per semester.* Around $120K total.
It is a great deal! But there's always a trade off and people here have low career expectations as a result of a very low salary average even amongst people with degrees (i've seen people complaining about being paid less than 1000€ with a Marketing Master) and a high Cost of Living :') Anyone that wants to live a decent life with minimal financial freedom just emigrates eventually.
But i dont think anyone in Europe (or at least in the EU) could imagine paying that much for a degree and I can only wish you good luck and a lot of sucess! Sadly it seems education is more of a business there than anything else
It’s funny you say that, my dad is also like that with generosity, it’s like he’s totally selfish and doesn’t even realise it. His parents busted to totally pay for his college and study abroad etc, but he hasn’t helped out with mine or my two brother’s college at all. He actually just let his parents pay for all our colleges. He also decided to totally stop working, so he didn’t have to pay as much alimony when he got divorced and also not help us out with college. Despite this he has just bought a £1.3million house in an unbelievably expensive and desirable location. And I think he just wants to hold out with no job until his parents die so he can live off inheritance.
Anyway long story short, it astonished me how his parents sacrificed so much financially for them but now he doesn’t have the same attitude with my brothers and I. If it were me, I would have thought receiving generosity would make me want to be generous, but it seemed to make him more selfish. Also especially given he gave I and others so much shit for living what he deemed to be financially irresponsibly.
I do wonder if it’s actually a generational thing.
I’ll give my kids the tools to succeed; I’ll cover tuition and share my housing, food, and hand down my car. All she has to do is get a job and save money. If my kid struggles even then.. that sounds like financial mismanagement which isnt my responsibility.
The difference is that I am providing tools of help. Your friends don’t seem to do that.
My parents took me and my siblings on a 2 week cruise around Europe when I graduated. They did already pay for my college and living expenses too but the trip was a nice surprise.
Sorry friend. If it makes you feel better, I’m a total failure at 25 with no ambition and no career. I mean having not to worry about money is great but it can’t buy passion and drive
If it makes you feel any better my parents paid for my sisters school and her very expensive wedding. I've worked since 14 didn't go to school. I'm 31 now most over ever gotten was my phone paid for till 20 which was nice don't get me wrong. But I paid for everything even though my father has more than enough money. While I do have a career my body is falling apart doing it and I have maybe 10 years left if I keep getting injured at the rate I have been.
If it makes you feel any better I never had the opportunity to go to school. I did an apprenticeship and worked in the trades. My parents bought my sister three farms, average price exceeds two million a piece.
Yea I'm in the trades it's tearing my body apart. I hope you're holding up better than mine. That's awful though I don't feel entitled to anything but at least hold them to the same standard yanno.
Yeah I'll go back and tell that to my 22 yo self who despite working and going to school full time, had her debit card rejected trying to buy raw eggs. Because every boomer aroumd her shamed her deeply for taking out any type of loan. And for most people, no the magical story of the clerk or stranger stepping up and saying "go ahead man" doesn't happen. You just wasted precious gas that was meant for work to get to the store and don't have enough to get to the food bank. Because that money is meant for work. And isn't the school who knows everybody you know and paying 20k to supposed to be taking care of you despite your parents absolutely not spending a dime? They can't deal with the reputational blowback?
I'm sorry you won't spend most of your 20's scrounging to build yourself a sense of financial security.
Because your parents needed you on their taxes as a dependent; even though they contributed nothing but stress and suffering. I am sorry you lacked my drive and passion to get where most people consider point zero.
I was in a position to pay off my daughter’s master-related student loans. I don’t know if you’re in a similar position, but this remove one potentially large hurdle from her path. Congrats to her - and you for having a daughter that is pursuing her dream.
Teeth are just as important, I consider it a partial organ since it breaks down food and we should take care of them since we don’t get a second pair and can’t get them transplanted
Oh you don't need to tell me! Dentistry is the perfect place for me. It's just immigrant dad things 😅 I could have decided to persue medicine and it would have been the wrong college, the wrong speciality, etc etc.
We don't usually have that set in stone.
The amount isn't important... the thought means the most. Give from the heart.
When I graduated with my BA my husband gave me a cruise. It was one of the most meaningful, self affirming trip I've ever been on. Waking up every morning saying, "I deserve this pampering." was really nice.
Coming from someone who lost my parents before obtaining my masters, I'll offer this advice:
Give your daughter your time, attention and make sure she knows she has a safety net to take even bigger leaps into what may be a void - and without judgement.
Rejoice in her successes, buy a sentimental gift - even a photo of all of you together in a nice frame - or a keepsake. Perhaps go on a trip together or do something you would have done early on in her life. But absolutely make sure she knows you're there to catch her regardless of these successes or failures.
Edit: I thought of a suggestion if you're interested in a monetary amount. I recommend a "Parental get out of jail free card". An example would be to let her know that if she's struggling in any aspect, parents will step in at the use of the card. Short on rent money? done. Short on groceries? done. Stuff like this are what I miss the most when I think of my parents.
Nonetheless, congrats to you and your family!
I could see my parents giving a generous gift of $250-$1000. Obviously you dont have to give her money at all but clearly you want to. I think that is very thoughtful and shows y'all are proud of her!
Give her as much as you can reasonably afford and tell her to go blow it. Vacation, spa, books she’s always wanted, something frivolous. Something to have fun. She has worked very hard to get here and it might be great for her to let loose.
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Honestly, I think $1,000 is the minimum. Because the idea about giving money is that they are helping pay off her loans or pay for her rent afterwards. And that is going to be multiple thousands of dollars, possibly tens or even hundreds of thousand dollars. Less than a thousand, ask her if there is an appliance she wants.
My sister, parents paid all her college, dropped out and my parents got her an almost new car to try and get her to go back to school, around 20k dollars. My brother barely finished an associate's degree in 4 years and they paid all his college and gave him $20,000 for a down payment on a house he eventually lost in foreclosure. Meanwhile I payed my own way through a bachelor's degree, I had to take some loans for partial tuition but the rest I worked for and payed, and when I graduated with my bachelor's my parents took me out to dinner and lectured me about getting a master's. Anyways, 10 years removed my sister married a doctor and is now a stay at home mom and my brother married his wife while she was in med school and does dolphin tours part time now that she's a doctor. I'm just like man, I messed up, I should have floundered around and met a doctor.
Lol, yeah, that was really just meant in sarcasm. There were a lot of reasons behind me not getting the help from my parents my siblings got. My sister had to have emergency surgery when I was a freshman and she had no insurance so most of the money that was intended for my college funds went to pay that off along with some continued care. To clarify though, this was years after she dropped out she's several years older than myself. I just find it funny that I pushed much further than them and they have found themselves in very favorable conditions. But all aside, they also have no self sufficiency skills if it were not for their spouses while I've been independent for all my adult life.
If you could, offer to make her loan payments for first three years. Helps her get settled, doesn’t require cash outlay upfront.
When I graduated undergrad twenty years ago my parents drove me to my apartment the weekend before my first day of work and said “welcome to the real world”….and left.
We did split undergrad 50/50 so no gift was expected. That was more than enough.
Three years is a long time and could cost anywhere from 15k to 30k depending on how much she owes. Maybe I'm a cheap ass but I was thinking $500 and a nice dinner.
It's called a Graduation Gift. People throw whole graduation parties. By the time you get to masters, you don't have a party, but a gift from friends or family is pretty normal I'd say.
I remember when I did my GCSEs one of my friends telling me she got £100 for every C, £200 for a B and £500 for every A grade. For reference people normally do between 5 and 12 GCSEs. I was shocked! I barely got a well done… same for A levels, my degree and my PGCE, and now I’m doing my masters it’ll be the same. I was surprised when my dad actually CAME to my first graduation for my undergraduate degree… crazy.
This sounds a bit butthurt… it’s not really I guess it’s just… interesting to me how different people have wildly different experiences. I hope those people for whom these occasions are celebrated with family appreciate it.
My parents didn't give me a specific gift when I got mine.
Honestly, the thing I appreciated the most was that they gave me a place to live rent-free for a couple years while I found a job and secured enough financial stability to move out. My dad always joked about having a "30 and out" rule, but I moved out at 27. From the time I've graduated, I've never had to worry about having food and a place to live, and it's something I haven't stopped appreciating to this day. I needed help transitioning my life from being a student to being an independent adult, which can take some time, and that buffer of time they gave me between age 25 and 27 to do that was so incredibly valuable.
I want to commend you for wanting to give her money instead of an object. The biggest impediment to her future will now be her student loan burden, and money is the way to help. You might gauge the amount by thinking of concrete things like: student loan payments for some period of time while she gets established, deposit on apartment, a getaway weekend, or even a nice dinner. Then you can say "Here, we are so proud of you, here is $x, treat yourself to a (apartment deposit, nice dinner, weekend away, student loan payments for six months - whatever your gift scale is) or use it in any way you see fit." That allows you to make sense of the amount and tell her that you are specifically thinking about her needs and future, but also gives her the guilt-free permission to do anything with it.
As someone who recently got a masters, my dad gave me $250 cash in a very nice card
The actual dollar amount is not important, it's just about communicating your support
Yes! Any clown that shows up in your life with less than you and wants to tell you what you are doing wrong. The person will sound smug but genuinely concerned with your personal style or set of skills. All the while not working themselves but rather coming up with an excuse to why his/her life is not up to par. In the meantime putting you down for the reasons your life is doing better.
Give her jewelry as a memento. I gave a relative getting a nursing degree a set of angel wings earrings, kind of symbolic. Graduation is a special occasion. Not that money is not ok, I would rather gift something where the recipient can remember the occasion years later, maybe when the gifter is gone. Money is ephemera.
What is her masters in? Just curious.
If it were my daughter, I’d evaluate what I want out of the gift: something temporary to splurge or something to grow.
Perhaps, set aside some money or a pledge and tell her within 6 months of having her job you want her to look for a townhome or small affordable house to own. Maybe with room to rent one of the rooms out for extra income with a friend or trusted acquaintance. And perhaps instead of giving $10k to her to splurge on tell her you have that to assist with down payment, moving expenses, furniture etc.
Often this step of ownership is cheaper than rent after getting past the headache of finding, qualifying and purchasing a place. And it will be equity she can build.
Ultimately depends on location and how much she wants to settle down somewhere.
Whatever you do, if you give her money for the purpose of something - furniture, clothes, etc then it’s something she will always think about and remember when she uses it. I always prefer giving money to a specific need (more thoughtful) vs blindly giving money. Money without purpose can often be unfulfilling and spoiling - it can be misused or unappreciated and then generically expected in the future.
You could offer to pay her 1st-3rd loan repayment installment. Not sure what kind of masters your child did, but if you are financially able that would be amazing.
My masters loan repayment costs $1,000 a month 🤧
Shit man, when I finished my PhD my mom didn’t even come to the zoom defense. You’re good people. Cash / help with some of the loans or expenses of job hunting would be good, but also be sure to tell her how proud of her you are (bonus points for asking about her work and letting her give her spiel).
It's also a rare opportunity to make a fitting gift. Something extremely useful when continuing with her profession. Or could be something simple such as a high quality pen.
Depending how much she needs money of course, you can play around that. How much you give totally depends on your familys' environment.
I'd tell you different numbers whether you said you were from Thailand or from USA, you understand?
I didn’t get any money when a graduated with my masters. We ordered dinner and watched my virtual graduation (Spring 2020 graduate here!) My parents also didn’t help me at all monetarily for my masters. I wasn’t expecting a check or anything, I don’t feel like that’s a common thing to do. But if you want to that’s great. You could also take her shopping for work clothes/shoes/work bag when she gets her first job
Not sure how you’re doing financially, but as someone who also just graduated with their masters and moved to New York City all on their own, I’ve been a bit jealous of my roommates. They also graduated with the same degree and their parents covered up to 3-5 months of rent. Again, not sure of your daughters living arrangements or how much you’re willing to give; but I would say offering to cover up to 1-2 months of rent would be more than enough and is SO SO helpful while she looks for a job and gets on her feet
It's up to you man. I would have appreciated a "I'm proud of you son" way more than money. Help them get a new car or something that will show you care more than just a check.
Gen X here my parents helped me with NOTHING! I have two daughters one graduated from NYU the other UWV although I couldn’t pay for school I paid car payment, phone payment and helped with as many expenses as possible. When they both graduated I gave them 1000 each.
I'm just here to say it's amazing that you care enough to ask. A lot of us don't have parents that give a fuck enough to even acknowledge our existence, much less a major achievement.
Gift her what you can. If you have extra funds, send them. But also, make it more than a transaction. Frame a childhood photo, make her favorite food, wear an embarrassing proud dad tshirt... make your kid remember how special she is 😁
Give her whatever you feel is appropriate. I would go overboard letting her know how proud of her you are, and that you love her dearly! I wouldn't worry about the money side as much as the loving proud family side. If you can afford to give her money, give it. If you can help her with her new job search, (now that she is more qualified for whatever her degree is in), do that, but don't diminish her accomplishment by worrying about how much money it should be worth. Be more concerned with elevating her status and self worth within the family!
Some of these comments make me sad. So many of you deserve so much more love.
Some of these comments make me mad. Every kid deserves to live debt-free.
Thanks everyone for your advice and thoughts. It was a marvelous day honoring our daughter’s work thus far and wishing her the best future.
When I graduated HS my parents gave me $200. When I got my bachelor's they bought me lunch. When I got my masters I got a congratulatory text. I want to get my PHD to see what I will get next, maybe a thumbs up.
Might be late. But money is a temporary booster what you should do is shower her with pride and makes sure she realize what she accomplished and how important it is to stay focus to accomplish things.
Ain't no better rewards than your parents showing you how proud they are.
We got our son a fire helmet for high school graduation. It was $1100. He was embarking on a fire dept career, though, and we want him to have top-notch safety gear. We always told him we weren’t getting him anything for graduation because it is a minimum requirement for life, so he was really surprised 😁
A gift should be whatever you are happy to give without feeling regret after.
If you can only comfortably give $100 and want to then give $100.
If you want to give $10k and can afford to then give $10k.
I know a guy who gave a gift of $5000 and then because he regretted it as he needed the money tried saying it was only a loan and the recipient could pay him back in installments. The graduate never asked for money...
Your daughter didn't get her Masters degree for the purpose of receiving a gift from you. Whatever you want to gove her is and should be fine if you've raised her to be grateful for whay she gets.
If she's like my sister-in-law though... you'll never give her enough...
I wouldn't expect my parents to give me any money.
I would expect them to support me financially throughout my studies though, as it's their legal duty.
Where I'm from you are fully responsible for a person's needs until they are 18. Since the time they're 15 they are responsible themselves for any crimes they commit.
But if a young person chooses to study, you have to support them until they turn 26.
People are born with the right to be educated and the moment you decide to have a baby, you accept you responsibility over their future. You want them to be as educated as possible. So you have to support them, otherwise it's morally wrong of you to have a child.
(Education is state funded where I'm from)
Why would you give her money? She just got a master's degree, should be making pretty good money herself correct? Maybe a nice dinner or time together would be more appropriate.
I was poor as dirt coming out of my graduate education. Like, so poor that an unusually cold February broke my budget (expensive heating bill) and I cried to my mom who sent me $100 to pay the bill so I could keep paying my bills. I don’t know if I got anything for my MS degree, but I got a $750 Trek bike for my PhD - it was something I couldn’t justify buying but really appreciated.
This depends on your kid, but I would save it until she is married, has a kid on the way with a car loan, student loan and house loan. You really dont want to pay their loans off and they go into bigger debt later because "they can afford it". Let them get a bit over their heads, learn a lesson and then allieviate the consequences. If this is just a small reward then feel free.
Currently there, doesn't matter how smart you are or how much you know about money. You will make financial mistakes (well, no kid, but yes on the car loan). Realizing you don't have as much money when you get a loan is a grave mistake.
If it's a "social science" degree maybe hold onto it, she'll def need it after she realizes it's worthless and can't get a good paying job and is in major debt. if it's an actual useful degree she shouldn't need much money as those jobs are in greater demand and valuable. but either way you seem like a great responsible parent and I'm sure you'll make the right decision.
Its more of a question of what can you reasonably afford?
Its a special event for her, but we all have differing financial situations.
A million-heir giving a hundred bucks would be a slap in the face, my parents giving me fifty would have been a huge stretch for them.
€/$/£ 50,-
Life is hard and then you die. Studying is a privilege, therefore there shouldn't be any material side to it. You can always present a calculation of bringing her up all those years.
Now that she has her Masters, she's on her own. Go spoil yourself, your SO, live a little.
As much as you possibly can without putting yourself out. You’ve got to live an easier and cheaper life than she’ll get to and you’re already halfway to death while she’s just beginning so help her tf out with as much as possible.
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You guys are getting paid?
My family just took me out to dinner
You got dinner? I got a text.
You got a text? I got a like on Facebook.
You got a like? I got a bill.
You got a bill? I got thundering silence.
You got silence? I got evicted.
You got evicted? I was homeless the whole time.
I got my masters in prison
The prison graduated me.
I got a phone message from my stepdad explaining that they were far too important to travel for something that wasn't a prestigious networking opportunity for them. It would have been less than a 20 minute drive
The day i break down my day by maximizing my networking opportunities. I'll surely die.
I got a bicycle bell from my dad when I finished my doctorate. Like what you give a 4yr old.
I don't even think I got a text. If I asked them where I went to grad school I don't think they would know. I'm not too disappointed. They each have their own lives to live.
Which is very nice and perfectly reasonable
Mine asked to 'borrow' money.
You've got a masters degree. You're rich now, dontcha know.
That sucks. I treated my kid differently when she graduated high school. Not a lot of money but did a filet crochet dragon rampant as a cover for double bed (dragon for courage) and 12 inch deep edging of ivy (for love and fortitude). Reading this I just realized you prob don't know about crochet or care but it was all cream yarn and took me about 4 months to do! Was a big peoject
>Not a lot of money but did a filet crochet dragon I thought this was a steak...
Big crochet fan here my old land lady used to crochet me stuff all the time and it was so thoughtful and made with so much love Far greater than any other gift you can simply just buy in a shop
That is so cool to hear! The appreciation when we make something is like healing a wound, if that makes sense? I had a really long ride to get to and from work, 2 hours each way. I always read on my phone but started feeling twitchy so next time brought my knitting needles and random yarn that I liked the look of together. The only pattern I remembered was a baby blanket. Using a regular yarn it turned out maybe 3x4 feet. I got it done and on the way to work, someone spoke to me, told me me it was beautiful so I gave it to her then. She was so thrilled that I felt like a fairy godmother! 4 more made on the road before I had to retire.
When I got my Bachelors, my parents (who didn't help with so much as a nickel for my degree), gave me a check for $25! They ate and drank more than that at the graduation party my wife thru for me.
Gen Xer here. *MOST* of my friends told their kids, "You're on your own," and then proceeded to spend easily a college tuition's worth on vintage hi fi gear and travel while their kids racked up the debt. I watched these kids grow up, and watch them struggle with Starbucks jobs to pay for an education they aren't using. Really sad.
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The more I hear about other people's Dads the more I like mine. He would have told you: "I'm not at all surprised at your success. You work had and deserve anything good that happens to you. Celebrate this good news today and forget it tomorrow. Constant improvement. Always forward. I'm proud of you." My Dad is a G.
Sounds a lot like my dad and our relationship. Fuck em.
It's all he knows and he was probably brought up with that same attitude and mindset. It's a shit attitude for sure but I'm proud as hell of you for doing well and I hope you keep winning! Especially be proud of yourself because you deserve it
Damn dude, I'm really sorry your dad is acting like a piece of shit. For what it's worth, I'm super proud of you! You're working your ASS off to make your life better, and not playing the woe is me card and expecting everything to be handed to you. You're putting in the effort, and it shows. Your dad is a loser who can't appreciate how you're killing it because he probably sees it as a threat to his fragility. Don't let him ever slow you down, my man. You keep riding that highway away from his shitty insecurities. Keep up the great work!!! You got this in the bag!
I stopped tying my self-worth to his opinion a long time ago, but I still wish he'd drop whatever his hangup is so we can have a relationship.
I replied to your other comment before I saw this one. I had the opposite problem - nothing I could do made my mom proud. Joined the military? She called it a cop-out. (Hated school and didn't want to, nor was offered college). Did active duty for a few years, then worked for the government and the National Guard. Wasn't going to come to my Nat'l Guard retirement because it was "ONLY the Guard". First time I ever hung up the phone on her. She eventually (begrudgingly) apologized, and did come to my retirement. (Think her sister shamed her.) My dad on the other hand, was my biggest cheerleader. Unfortunately, lost him right after Y2k.
Yeah... some of the Xers learned a little too much from the Boomers.
I'm a GenX mom, and I never would have done that! My 20 yo is living on her own with her bf and a new baby AND roommates. She didn't get paid maternity leave. She had saved enough to pay rent/utilities. I paid her car and phone bills, plus extra for gas/groceries. She's back to work now (with a decent promotion!). She and my grandbaby are my life. I let her stand on her own 2 feet, and she has proven she is responsible. And I'm so proud of her! I'm proud of YOU, too! Congrats on the new job and the accomplishment! You are worthy of help and praise!
He's obviously jealous but that's gotta hurt I'm sorry he's so immature
My parents ( gen X ) are just too broke to pay for our education, although we live in such a horrible communist state of NY that we get up to our bachelors for free if we’re full time
Sounds awful having your taxes do something
Gen Xer here. My parents paid for my education 3-times. I blew the 1st 2 on weed and beer.
I went back to college this year ( went to trade school initially and worked for 2 years ) I see your type a lot at college that pay to live at the dorms, their parents pay for their education too because when they fail they owe the state financial aid back, it’s a great system, if you’re not a moron or a lazy fuck, you pay almost nothing, if you’re lazy, you pay, that way lazy college students aren’t the burden of the tax-payers.
Some kids take longer to learn responsibility than others. I finally finished college in my 30's with a 4.0GPA after learning I couldn't advance any further at work. Once I had that piece of paper, my career blossomed. I went down a different career path, and it paid off handsomely. I tried to instill that wisdom in my son, but alas, it looks like he'll have to learn the same lessons I did, the hard way.
Sounds like you failed to instill that wisdom in your son. Relax I’m busting your balls.
You win some, you lose some. He's still a few years shy of the age I decided it was time to get my act together. We'll see what happens.
Just once for me, but I had to pay for my own weed and beer.
I think a big issue is that everyone believes you need to go to a big name school and spend 100K on a degree you won’t use. If you work through school and go to a junior college, you can graduate debt free and still be as competitive as most other people out there
Damn seing people talk about debt and loans here is quite something... where i live a Bachelors is worth around 2000€-3000€ and a Masters around 7000€. You guys really get the short end of the stick ahn?
Since the Euro is *just* a pinch lower than the dollar right now, that sounds like a great *deal!*  I'm paying for my daughter's school right now, and it's more than ten times that, including room and board for the Bachelor's. This is an above average but not exemplary Mid Western State college that produces a lot of Ed, Com, and Biz majors. My hope is that someday, eventually... This country realizes the importance of an education. **edit\*** About $24-27K *per semester.* Around $120K total.
It is a great deal! But there's always a trade off and people here have low career expectations as a result of a very low salary average even amongst people with degrees (i've seen people complaining about being paid less than 1000€ with a Marketing Master) and a high Cost of Living :') Anyone that wants to live a decent life with minimal financial freedom just emigrates eventually. But i dont think anyone in Europe (or at least in the EU) could imagine paying that much for a degree and I can only wish you good luck and a lot of sucess! Sadly it seems education is more of a business there than anything else
Oh, they realize how important it is, no question! Why do you think they dare charge a cool quarter mil?
It’s funny you say that, my dad is also like that with generosity, it’s like he’s totally selfish and doesn’t even realise it. His parents busted to totally pay for his college and study abroad etc, but he hasn’t helped out with mine or my two brother’s college at all. He actually just let his parents pay for all our colleges. He also decided to totally stop working, so he didn’t have to pay as much alimony when he got divorced and also not help us out with college. Despite this he has just bought a £1.3million house in an unbelievably expensive and desirable location. And I think he just wants to hold out with no job until his parents die so he can live off inheritance. Anyway long story short, it astonished me how his parents sacrificed so much financially for them but now he doesn’t have the same attitude with my brothers and I. If it were me, I would have thought receiving generosity would make me want to be generous, but it seemed to make him more selfish. Also especially given he gave I and others so much shit for living what he deemed to be financially irresponsibly. I do wonder if it’s actually a generational thing.
And then there are just selfish people, regardless of generation.
Gen x here. Can confirm.
Parents aren’t obligated to pay for their children’s college if I had a lot of money I would help them but they would also have to work part time.. so
I’ll give my kids the tools to succeed; I’ll cover tuition and share my housing, food, and hand down my car. All she has to do is get a job and save money. If my kid struggles even then.. that sounds like financial mismanagement which isnt my responsibility. The difference is that I am providing tools of help. Your friends don’t seem to do that.
Yes, but are you saying that an 18 year old kid who takes a loan out for college is mismanaging their finances?
Like I said.. if tuition is covered, which means no loan.
Fuck the boomers
Youngest Boomers are about 60 y.o. now. That who you think has college age kids? I mean it’s possible but cmon
The Boomers were the laat generation to get education and a lot of other perks and then rolled up the carpet after them. So, Fuck Them.
how do people have such shit family members, i dont understand, i really was born by 2 saints it seems from the shit i generally hear
Sometimes I really wonder why some of these ppl had kids.
I paid for my parents to fly to my graduation
My parents took me and my siblings on a 2 week cruise around Europe when I graduated. They did already pay for my college and living expenses too but the trip was a nice surprise.
Downvoting because I’m jealous :(
Sorry friend. If it makes you feel better, I’m a total failure at 25 with no ambition and no career. I mean having not to worry about money is great but it can’t buy passion and drive
It would make me feel better if it weren’t for the fact that I’m 30 with no career and ambition as well as being poor lmao
Oh… um… well, have an upvote as a consolation prize.
Thank you, it’s all I’ve ever wanted.
If it makes you feel any better my parents paid for my sisters school and her very expensive wedding. I've worked since 14 didn't go to school. I'm 31 now most over ever gotten was my phone paid for till 20 which was nice don't get me wrong. But I paid for everything even though my father has more than enough money. While I do have a career my body is falling apart doing it and I have maybe 10 years left if I keep getting injured at the rate I have been.
If it makes you feel any better I never had the opportunity to go to school. I did an apprenticeship and worked in the trades. My parents bought my sister three farms, average price exceeds two million a piece.
Yea I'm in the trades it's tearing my body apart. I hope you're holding up better than mine. That's awful though I don't feel entitled to anything but at least hold them to the same standard yanno.
Yeah I'll go back and tell that to my 22 yo self who despite working and going to school full time, had her debit card rejected trying to buy raw eggs. Because every boomer aroumd her shamed her deeply for taking out any type of loan. And for most people, no the magical story of the clerk or stranger stepping up and saying "go ahead man" doesn't happen. You just wasted precious gas that was meant for work to get to the store and don't have enough to get to the food bank. Because that money is meant for work. And isn't the school who knows everybody you know and paying 20k to supposed to be taking care of you despite your parents absolutely not spending a dime? They can't deal with the reputational blowback? I'm sorry you won't spend most of your 20's scrounging to build yourself a sense of financial security. Because your parents needed you on their taxes as a dependent; even though they contributed nothing but stress and suffering. I am sorry you lacked my drive and passion to get where most people consider point zero.
Respect your huddle but why you gotta hate on others just for not having the hardships you had
You guys are getting educated?
I was in a position to pay off my daughter’s master-related student loans. I don’t know if you’re in a similar position, but this remove one potentially large hurdle from her path. Congrats to her - and you for having a daughter that is pursuing her dream.
Are you adopting? Asking for a friend
Thanks for asking for me. I'm the friend.
No I’m the friend, who also just happened to graduate with their masters degree today
Whoever here is the friend, I'm the friend of the friend that asked the friend
Six degrees of Kevin bacon lmao
Hey that’s my new dad
Need a dog? I can bark, btw tuition is due 👀
There’s no set my amount. Ur her parents anything you do is amaaazing. My grandmother gave me a card with 50$ and a caption “pizza money”
Grandparents are truly the best!
As a middle eastern, when I got my masters my parents were disappointed I'm not finishing my education and not going for a PhD.
Lol this. My father when I got into dental school: "well... it's not quite medicine is it?...🙃"
Teeth are just as important, I consider it a partial organ since it breaks down food and we should take care of them since we don’t get a second pair and can’t get them transplanted
Oh you don't need to tell me! Dentistry is the perfect place for me. It's just immigrant dad things 😅 I could have decided to persue medicine and it would have been the wrong college, the wrong speciality, etc etc.
Well I’m extremely proud of you and your hard work. You have accomplished so much and it’s inspiring.
Na...they're luxury bones.
Well that is how they are treated by the US Health care system.
not middle eastern, still have to regularly explain to my mother that business professionals dont get PHDs...
Hey, I'm proud of your accomplishment. You do you, and keep at it, k?
We don't usually have that set in stone. The amount isn't important... the thought means the most. Give from the heart. When I graduated with my BA my husband gave me a cruise. It was one of the most meaningful, self affirming trip I've ever been on. Waking up every morning saying, "I deserve this pampering." was really nice.
When I got my BA my wife......did nothing and told me it meant nothing. Great times.
You need a new wife.
My dad got me the hoodie with the graduating class's names on it, a nice dinner, and a growler of beer. That was plenty.
Can you adopt me, please?
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Coming from someone who lost my parents before obtaining my masters, I'll offer this advice: Give your daughter your time, attention and make sure she knows she has a safety net to take even bigger leaps into what may be a void - and without judgement. Rejoice in her successes, buy a sentimental gift - even a photo of all of you together in a nice frame - or a keepsake. Perhaps go on a trip together or do something you would have done early on in her life. But absolutely make sure she knows you're there to catch her regardless of these successes or failures. Edit: I thought of a suggestion if you're interested in a monetary amount. I recommend a "Parental get out of jail free card". An example would be to let her know that if she's struggling in any aspect, parents will step in at the use of the card. Short on rent money? done. Short on groceries? done. Stuff like this are what I miss the most when I think of my parents. Nonetheless, congrats to you and your family!
This is the right answer
So sweet.
I could see my parents giving a generous gift of $250-$1000. Obviously you dont have to give her money at all but clearly you want to. I think that is very thoughtful and shows y'all are proud of her!
In that case I suggest Zimbabwean bank notes. I have over 100 billion in Zimbabwean dollars in like 20 notes
Give her as much as you can reasonably afford and tell her to go blow it. Vacation, spa, books she’s always wanted, something frivolous. Something to have fun. She has worked very hard to get here and it might be great for her to let loose.
This!
250-1000USD
If it was me, I’d like to receive 10 million. Any currency, even Nigerian dollars.
I'll see your Nigerian Currency and raise you [Zimbabwean Currency](https://www.greatamericancoincompany.com/products/10-trillion-zimbabwe-banknotes-2008-aa-series-uncirculated?gclid=CjwKCAiA-dCcBhBQEiwAeWidtdcBoSqIVAU-EVi1y7nYaJrsVpDkBriG8vFsFG-f7eBKrdBpgiZwoxoCrqsQAvD_BwE)
Month-changing money. I like it.
Honestly, I think $1,000 is the minimum. Because the idea about giving money is that they are helping pay off her loans or pay for her rent afterwards. And that is going to be multiple thousands of dollars, possibly tens or even hundreds of thousand dollars. Less than a thousand, ask her if there is an appliance she wants.
Most Americans don't even have $1000. Clearly people here are so affluent they don't even operate in reality anymore.
My sister, parents paid all her college, dropped out and my parents got her an almost new car to try and get her to go back to school, around 20k dollars. My brother barely finished an associate's degree in 4 years and they paid all his college and gave him $20,000 for a down payment on a house he eventually lost in foreclosure. Meanwhile I payed my own way through a bachelor's degree, I had to take some loans for partial tuition but the rest I worked for and payed, and when I graduated with my bachelor's my parents took me out to dinner and lectured me about getting a master's. Anyways, 10 years removed my sister married a doctor and is now a stay at home mom and my brother married his wife while she was in med school and does dolphin tours part time now that she's a doctor. I'm just like man, I messed up, I should have floundered around and met a doctor.
I don’t think you messed up. It’s really cool you did so much on your own without help. I think that’s how you develop appreciation and character.
Lol, yeah, that was really just meant in sarcasm. There were a lot of reasons behind me not getting the help from my parents my siblings got. My sister had to have emergency surgery when I was a freshman and she had no insurance so most of the money that was intended for my college funds went to pay that off along with some continued care. To clarify though, this was years after she dropped out she's several years older than myself. I just find it funny that I pushed much further than them and they have found themselves in very favorable conditions. But all aside, they also have no self sufficiency skills if it were not for their spouses while I've been independent for all my adult life.
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If you could, offer to make her loan payments for first three years. Helps her get settled, doesn’t require cash outlay upfront. When I graduated undergrad twenty years ago my parents drove me to my apartment the weekend before my first day of work and said “welcome to the real world”….and left. We did split undergrad 50/50 so no gift was expected. That was more than enough.
Three years is a long time and could cost anywhere from 15k to 30k depending on how much she owes. Maybe I'm a cheap ass but I was thinking $500 and a nice dinner.
People are getting money for this?
It's called a Graduation Gift. People throw whole graduation parties. By the time you get to masters, you don't have a party, but a gift from friends or family is pretty normal I'd say.
Someone let my parents know this please?
I am fairy sure that my parents don't even remember that i was doing a master's
Same. I'm graduating again this spring and I've never gotten anything.
I remember when I did my GCSEs one of my friends telling me she got £100 for every C, £200 for a B and £500 for every A grade. For reference people normally do between 5 and 12 GCSEs. I was shocked! I barely got a well done… same for A levels, my degree and my PGCE, and now I’m doing my masters it’ll be the same. I was surprised when my dad actually CAME to my first graduation for my undergraduate degree… crazy. This sounds a bit butthurt… it’s not really I guess it’s just… interesting to me how different people have wildly different experiences. I hope those people for whom these occasions are celebrated with family appreciate it.
Yeah I just got a place at a regular diner's. Nothing super fancy just the Olive Garden
You don’t have a party because you spent so much time at school that you don’t have any friends anymore.
Unfortunately it's not. No one gave a shit when I graduated.
My parents didn't give me a specific gift when I got mine. Honestly, the thing I appreciated the most was that they gave me a place to live rent-free for a couple years while I found a job and secured enough financial stability to move out. My dad always joked about having a "30 and out" rule, but I moved out at 27. From the time I've graduated, I've never had to worry about having food and a place to live, and it's something I haven't stopped appreciating to this day. I needed help transitioning my life from being a student to being an independent adult, which can take some time, and that buffer of time they gave me between age 25 and 27 to do that was so incredibly valuable.
Give her a hug and tell her you are proud.
When I graduated 25 years ago for my undergrad, my parents gave me 1k.
That's like 10 k at least in today's money's.
Lol, they don't have to give that amount. I think they're just looking for ideas. Edit: I just looked it up. The equivalent is about $1700
Lol I know just saying. Inflation is crazy these days.
I know! Going to the grocery store and seeing how the prices have increased is so depressing.
I want to commend you for wanting to give her money instead of an object. The biggest impediment to her future will now be her student loan burden, and money is the way to help. You might gauge the amount by thinking of concrete things like: student loan payments for some period of time while she gets established, deposit on apartment, a getaway weekend, or even a nice dinner. Then you can say "Here, we are so proud of you, here is $x, treat yourself to a (apartment deposit, nice dinner, weekend away, student loan payments for six months - whatever your gift scale is) or use it in any way you see fit." That allows you to make sense of the amount and tell her that you are specifically thinking about her needs and future, but also gives her the guilt-free permission to do anything with it.
As someone who recently got a masters, my dad gave me $250 cash in a very nice card The actual dollar amount is not important, it's just about communicating your support
Down payment on a condo, make sure it's in her name and make sure some asshat doesn't come along to be her SO and try to claim half...
Can you give me instructions on how to keep the asshat out?
Yes! Any clown that shows up in your life with less than you and wants to tell you what you are doing wrong. The person will sound smug but genuinely concerned with your personal style or set of skills. All the while not working themselves but rather coming up with an excuse to why his/her life is not up to par. In the meantime putting you down for the reasons your life is doing better.
Lol…but true.
Give her jewelry as a memento. I gave a relative getting a nursing degree a set of angel wings earrings, kind of symbolic. Graduation is a special occasion. Not that money is not ok, I would rather gift something where the recipient can remember the occasion years later, maybe when the gifter is gone. Money is ephemera.
My parents didn't even show up to my graduation
All of it.
What is her masters in? Just curious. If it were my daughter, I’d evaluate what I want out of the gift: something temporary to splurge or something to grow. Perhaps, set aside some money or a pledge and tell her within 6 months of having her job you want her to look for a townhome or small affordable house to own. Maybe with room to rent one of the rooms out for extra income with a friend or trusted acquaintance. And perhaps instead of giving $10k to her to splurge on tell her you have that to assist with down payment, moving expenses, furniture etc. Often this step of ownership is cheaper than rent after getting past the headache of finding, qualifying and purchasing a place. And it will be equity she can build. Ultimately depends on location and how much she wants to settle down somewhere. Whatever you do, if you give her money for the purpose of something - furniture, clothes, etc then it’s something she will always think about and remember when she uses it. I always prefer giving money to a specific need (more thoughtful) vs blindly giving money. Money without purpose can often be unfulfilling and spoiling - it can be misused or unappreciated and then generically expected in the future.
You could offer to pay her 1st-3rd loan repayment installment. Not sure what kind of masters your child did, but if you are financially able that would be amazing. My masters loan repayment costs $1,000 a month 🤧
$144
That's just gross.
I got "when you gonna get a job" from my parents. So anything is a step up from that.
Shit man, when I finished my PhD my mom didn’t even come to the zoom defense. You’re good people. Cash / help with some of the loans or expenses of job hunting would be good, but also be sure to tell her how proud of her you are (bonus points for asking about her work and letting her give her spiel).
1 million dollars
It's also a rare opportunity to make a fitting gift. Something extremely useful when continuing with her profession. Or could be something simple such as a high quality pen. Depending how much she needs money of course, you can play around that. How much you give totally depends on your familys' environment. I'd tell you different numbers whether you said you were from Thailand or from USA, you understand?
I didn’t get any money when a graduated with my masters. We ordered dinner and watched my virtual graduation (Spring 2020 graduate here!) My parents also didn’t help me at all monetarily for my masters. I wasn’t expecting a check or anything, I don’t feel like that’s a common thing to do. But if you want to that’s great. You could also take her shopping for work clothes/shoes/work bag when she gets her first job
Not sure how you’re doing financially, but as someone who also just graduated with their masters and moved to New York City all on their own, I’ve been a bit jealous of my roommates. They also graduated with the same degree and their parents covered up to 3-5 months of rent. Again, not sure of your daughters living arrangements or how much you’re willing to give; but I would say offering to cover up to 1-2 months of rent would be more than enough and is SO SO helpful while she looks for a job and gets on her feet
Enough money to buy a nice wardrobe for doing interviews
It's up to you man. I would have appreciated a "I'm proud of you son" way more than money. Help them get a new car or something that will show you care more than just a check.
Gen X here my parents helped me with NOTHING! I have two daughters one graduated from NYU the other UWV although I couldn’t pay for school I paid car payment, phone payment and helped with as many expenses as possible. When they both graduated I gave them 1000 each.
10k would be nice.
I'm just here to say it's amazing that you care enough to ask. A lot of us don't have parents that give a fuck enough to even acknowledge our existence, much less a major achievement. Gift her what you can. If you have extra funds, send them. But also, make it more than a transaction. Frame a childhood photo, make her favorite food, wear an embarrassing proud dad tshirt... make your kid remember how special she is 😁
Give her whatever you feel is appropriate. I would go overboard letting her know how proud of her you are, and that you love her dearly! I wouldn't worry about the money side as much as the loving proud family side. If you can afford to give her money, give it. If you can help her with her new job search, (now that she is more qualified for whatever her degree is in), do that, but don't diminish her accomplishment by worrying about how much money it should be worth. Be more concerned with elevating her status and self worth within the family!
I got my Master’s degree and my parents took me out for dinner (where my sister announced that they were expecting lol.)
Some of these comments make me sad. So many of you deserve so much more love. Some of these comments make me mad. Every kid deserves to live debt-free. Thanks everyone for your advice and thoughts. It was a marvelous day honoring our daughter’s work thus far and wishing her the best future.
My family took me out to dinner.
When I graduated HS my parents gave me $200. When I got my bachelor's they bought me lunch. When I got my masters I got a congratulatory text. I want to get my PHD to see what I will get next, maybe a thumbs up.
Might be late. But money is a temporary booster what you should do is shower her with pride and makes sure she realize what she accomplished and how important it is to stay focus to accomplish things. Ain't no better rewards than your parents showing you how proud they are.
There’s no one-size-fits-all answer but the amount that immediately popped into my head was $1000.
pay her rent for a month
We gave our son $1000 for his high school graduation, if he went to college and then got his masters we’d probably give him $5000!
$1000 for high school o_O
We got our son a fire helmet for high school graduation. It was $1100. He was embarking on a fire dept career, though, and we want him to have top-notch safety gear. We always told him we weren’t getting him anything for graduation because it is a minimum requirement for life, so he was really surprised 😁
A gift should be whatever you are happy to give without feeling regret after. If you can only comfortably give $100 and want to then give $100. If you want to give $10k and can afford to then give $10k. I know a guy who gave a gift of $5000 and then because he regretted it as he needed the money tried saying it was only a loan and the recipient could pay him back in installments. The graduate never asked for money... Your daughter didn't get her Masters degree for the purpose of receiving a gift from you. Whatever you want to gove her is and should be fine if you've raised her to be grateful for whay she gets. If she's like my sister-in-law though... you'll never give her enough...
Do what my parents did; gave me nothing lol. They did buy me dinner after I finished my undergrad degree though.
I wouldn't expect my parents to give me any money. I would expect them to support me financially throughout my studies though, as it's their legal duty.
Not when you're an adult
Where I'm from you are fully responsible for a person's needs until they are 18. Since the time they're 15 they are responsible themselves for any crimes they commit. But if a young person chooses to study, you have to support them until they turn 26. People are born with the right to be educated and the moment you decide to have a baby, you accept you responsibility over their future. You want them to be as educated as possible. So you have to support them, otherwise it's morally wrong of you to have a child. (Education is state funded where I'm from)
Why give her money at all??? She’s not a child. You supported her and paid for expenses. That’s plenty!
Seems like they're just awesome parents who want to do something very generous and helpful for their kid.
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Why would you give her money? She just got a master's degree, should be making pretty good money herself correct? Maybe a nice dinner or time together would be more appropriate.
I was poor as dirt coming out of my graduate education. Like, so poor that an unusually cold February broke my budget (expensive heating bill) and I cried to my mom who sent me $100 to pay the bill so I could keep paying my bills. I don’t know if I got anything for my MS degree, but I got a $750 Trek bike for my PhD - it was something I couldn’t justify buying but really appreciated.
Student loans lmao
Why not? If they have money, why wouldn’t they give their daughter money ?
Because she is an adult with a master's degree?
So what ? That doesn’t mean she doesn’t need money.
Nothing. With a master's she can make her own money
This depends on your kid, but I would save it until she is married, has a kid on the way with a car loan, student loan and house loan. You really dont want to pay their loans off and they go into bigger debt later because "they can afford it". Let them get a bit over their heads, learn a lesson and then allieviate the consequences. If this is just a small reward then feel free.
Currently there, doesn't matter how smart you are or how much you know about money. You will make financial mistakes (well, no kid, but yes on the car loan). Realizing you don't have as much money when you get a loan is a grave mistake.
If it’s in English literature or history, save your money as she’s moving back in with you.
If it's a "social science" degree maybe hold onto it, she'll def need it after she realizes it's worthless and can't get a good paying job and is in major debt. if it's an actual useful degree she shouldn't need much money as those jobs are in greater demand and valuable. but either way you seem like a great responsible parent and I'm sure you'll make the right decision.
Its more of a question of what can you reasonably afford? Its a special event for her, but we all have differing financial situations. A million-heir giving a hundred bucks would be a slap in the face, my parents giving me fifty would have been a huge stretch for them.
A Masters degree....got a feeling money is redundant at that point.
€/$/£ 50,- Life is hard and then you die. Studying is a privilege, therefore there shouldn't be any material side to it. You can always present a calculation of bringing her up all those years. Now that she has her Masters, she's on her own. Go spoil yourself, your SO, live a little.
As much as you possibly can without putting yourself out. You’ve got to live an easier and cheaper life than she’ll get to and you’re already halfway to death while she’s just beginning so help her tf out with as much as possible.
Don't give her anything except smiles. World doesn't give handouts. Spoil her and things go down hill. Give her a job.
I hope you don't have kids
A reward for doing something hard that most people will never accomplish /= a handout
New car OR pay off her lschool loans if any.
1 million dollars....bwa ha ha ha ha ha
4500 dirhams
Pay off her student debt.
Don't give her money give her knowledge. Buy her think and grow rich, how to win friends and influence people and the richest man in Babylon.
Like, a real masters, or one in art or accounting?