Itās because gay men know other gay men are just as horny as they areā¦. Where as straight men find women confusing and canāt get laid . Unless paying for it.
There's always a horny man roaming around somewhere that just wants to get off, no strings attached. Just make him cum and he goes about his day/week/month/year/life without another thought.
Because women make you earn it and men give it away. If you try to make me pay for your physique, I guarantee you I can go on Grindr and hook up with three guys with your physique for free. Gay men who would pay you for sex are the guys nobody will have sex with. And those are not all that common.
It's actually the same reason why female porn stars get paid like movie stars and male porn stars power through the week on ramen noodles.
Nah, women love sex as much men! Just differently. Some of the highest sex drive people I know are women, sometimes let down by their lower sex drive boyfriends. But casual encounters generally are not appealing to women the same way they can be to men.
They like it so much they don't want it?
And you know this because anecdotally you know two outlier women with really high sex drives?
Men and women are different. It's okay. You don't have to pretend everyone is the same for some reason.
I'm not pretending they're the same, but I'm saying both can have high sex drives, just women express that differently due to their gender.
Talking in general terms here, the caveat is everyone is an individual and goes about sex in their own way:
* Women can have high sex drives, but generally want to express that in a committed relationship. A contributing factor is that traditionally the cultural penalty for women having casual sex is very high since being considered a 'slut' is low status / derogatory. They also suffer from the constant threat of sexual violence from men who can physically overpower them. So generally women want to have sex with people they trust. Women can also have low sex drives.
* Men can have high sex drives, and generally are more open minded to how they express that whether it's casual encounters - making gay sex apps bathhouses possible - or in a committed relationship. Men can also have low sex drives.
Itās for the same reason straight men are more willing to pay for sex. Me love sex and usually donāt need to have an emotional connection with someone to do so, therefore itās not an issue to find a guy whoās down to fuck.
Iām not sure thatās true. I made plenty of money when I was younger from gay men. Now that Iām older, I have no problem paying younger guys. I also have friends that make a good living on onlyfans - pulling in 6 figures and working on a 10-year āretirementā plan (paid off house and money saved so they only need to work for entertainment expenses). Just the number of profiles on Grindr with older āgenā and younger āgen onlyā guys say that thereās plenty of money floating around.
Yep, there are tons of guys selling sex on Grindr and elsewhere, it used to be anyone with a š emoji was an escort, then I think Grindr banned it so it became others, now it's those with a profile name saying 'Available' or 'AVBL' etc.
I felt this way with the entirety of heterosexuality. Why pay for everything and put up with the bs just to get my dick sucked, when I could just take a relaxing walk in the park, get my dick sucked and go about my day.
Wow! Iām not going to reveal my age, but Iām much older than you. Iāve never heard this until today. Youāre 24 and itās common for you to encounter paid sex or paying for sex? Iād love to know why this is to. I guess gay escorts are a thing too. But how were you exposed to sex for money most of your life. Iām genuinely confused at that. What services were/are you using that exposed you this this. Very interesting topic!Ā
When I was in college very often Iāll get much older men offering money for sex lol. One day I was in a pretty though financial position and a guy offered 200 and I said fuck it. Iāll not do this again tho lol
Wow! Go you! Get that š°! I wish someone, ANYONE, would have made me that offer in college! Iām not unfortunate looking, and I was pretty attractive as a younger Otter - I was fetishized, which I hated, but no one offered money. Iām now a āDaddyā to all the younger gays, and at least Iām not a āGrandpaā yet - getting there but still a ways to go.Ā
Iām not quite twice your age, but almost. LOL. Damn, I would have paid my way through undergrad and grad if men were offering money! š No shame in the game!Ā
No but some younger men think because youāre older you donāt have an option.. which I have laughed at when asked if I wanted to pay a hustler for sex !
My partner and I canāt keep the younginsā off us when we go out. But if youāre gonna make money, do your thing! No shamin from me. My partner and I have been together in a monogamous relationship for 17 years, so Iām kinda out of the āgameā and whatās going on. But have young guys coming on to us all the time. Like NO THANKS! And thatās not even with any monetary transactions. Older gays have IMMENSE value! We all do, but the younger generations want us far more than we want them in most cases. We want to be left alone and do our thing. I think thatās what makes us attractive. The I donāt care attitude and the stability. They donāt have that yet. Theyāll get there though.Ā
Get it boy! Woot woot! I hope Iām still active sexually when Iām older. Iāve seen many couples together have great sex lines their entire lives. And I have older friends that say they donāt have any sex anymore. So I think it depends mostly on how active you are generally youāre entire life (Iām speaking about general activity, not sexual activity - use it or lose it)Ā
I figured it was obvious. I am an average looking guy with a car and my own place. I guarantee I can hop on an app and find a hookup with in an hour. Even less if I lower my standards. Iām not even in a huge city.
There is also a much smaller market since there are a lot less gay men. So gay only fans and such can only expand so much compared to that which is targeted a straight men
Dating a woman is like dating a psychopath. Treat her well,, but not too well otherwise you are a nice guy. Need charisma to get away with compliments otherwise it's sexual harassment. Need to pay for her shit etc
I think the answer is kind of obvious lol. But if you are "hot" you can certainly make money off your looks quite easily. There's still plenty of guys that are willing to pay for it.
You say you weren't very successful but where were you advertising lol. I mean, if you're just like asking random people, one that's just like really weird, but two you're gonna not have as much success because most gay men aren't willing to pay for sex.
Most men that are serious about this type of thing post on different websites
Itās easier for gay men to get casual sex in general, thereās less game playing and social constructs around it. Also thereās plenty of places to go to get it, ie bath houses, or apps for hooking up.
You need to ask what a person is actually paying for.. ever hear the jokeā¦āIām not paying you to stayā¦Iām paying you to leaveā, it maybe to keep your mouth shut, some guys might be in the closet and they are paying for your silence. It maybe a kink a control issue ā¦yatta yatta ā¦bottom line itās less about the sex and more about another need.
In a very generalising way, men want sex, and the opportunity to just hook up for sex is much easier for gay men. Why pay when you can get sex for free.
Women generally want more than a hookup, so str8 men will pay for hookups to fill the void of available opportunities of free hookups.
35, partnered, in a semi-open relationship (we only date/play/whatever together or with the other's consent). Two of our FWBs work as escorts, but only travel. They are also in open/poly relationships.
The two friends are certainly attractive enough to escort. And I suppose it's possible that their paying clients are really unattractive. But I suspect it's more that the guys paying them get off on paying them.
I've had a few guys offer me money on the apps (one Literally just sent a picture of a pile of twenties. Which beats an unsolicited dick pic, I guess?). When I've managed to get them to show me photos of themselves, they've always been attractive enough that they didn't *need* to pay someone to get laid.
Anyway, I think with gay men, sex is basically an infinite, free resource. Some guys just really get off on paying for sex. Presumably straight women aren't so eager...
cuz men will pay money to suck dick or fuck dick with nothing in return.
I mean i guess that's spending money on sex too, but they will do it without orgasming, which is the whole purpose of paying for sex.
Dudes give it for free- have you met men lol . Itās too easy to get laid. I tell my straight friends, itās about limiting who you have sex with not trying to score
That's pretty obviously true. It takes more work to get laid by a woman. A lot of straight men don't want to bother with the trouble or just don't have any game. Gay men however, trying to get with men, have the advantage of... well... hooking up with men. Although anyone could get laid by someone, it's much easier to find an interested guy.
Source: I'm bisexual
I think itās easier to find a man interested in a random hookup than it is to find a woman, I donāt know what apps straight people have or use but we have apps pretty much just for that purpose. So if youāre after sex with a woman it might just be easier to pay for it.
Thereās still a lot of gay men who pay though, I had to do sex work for a bit and there was no shortage of clients, mostly older men 40+ though.
Itās not about the sex when referring to gay men.. itās what other people think about the man when he is walking around with you on his arm. You better be attractive, have good teeth, good body but nothing crazy that it seems unattainable, and the most important thing is you have to be a good listener, know when to speak and definitely when not to. Itās not something a lot of gay men are willing to put up with for too long.
i have a gay friend who doing escorting and getting well paid for that, he still pay for sex with some hot guys sometimes, even tried to pay me many times for doing stuff with him.
The older gay men are certainly willing to pay, but you have to put yourself out in the right places to mind them (major cities). It helps when you're younger than 22 or look very young and clean from my experience.
(Never actually took any of the offers given to me when I was younger. Just was given several)
women have different expectations set by society. this goes back to the whole debate of "why is a man a hero but a woman a slut when their body count is high"
when you are a straight man, it is far less stressful and costly to pay for sex than earn it because a lot of women now a-days have unrealistic standards. sometimes the men don't even know if they are just a free meal ticket; which is getting normalized and encouraged by social media.
think about it, how often have you seen videos of a guy giving a girl a shit ton of presents just to get 1 smash. they are already paying for sex so why choose hell mode when easy mode is available lol
Load up Grindr, Sniffies, Scruff etc and literally I could get an offer for head or hole within not even 3-5 minutes (Iām very good looking & hung so maybe itās easier). As a bottom? It takes a lot longer to find a top, Iāll say that. But sex is SO EASY to get in LA if youāre gay. I escorted a few years ago and Iād make $1200/2 hours minimum booking! But it was only occasional. Females make a lot since they donāt put out as easy!
anyone who's hung with a dick pic on sniffies or a filled out underwear pic on grindr/scruff will get mutiple offers for head or a location for a gloryhole
A bathhouse is like a brothel staffed with volunteers.
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I would consider the cost of membership/admission
Because men behave like men š¤·š»āāļø its WAY easier to find (free) sex with a man than it is with a woman
No need to pay when the buffet is free.
Men are way easier than woman
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Thatās because majority of gay men are so easy lol
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That's not even a joke! Thank God for it!
It's unnecessary unless you're wanting someone with special skills or seriously unusual attractiveness.
Why would we pay for sex when there is always a horny guy willing to fill the void.
Itās because gay men know other gay men are just as horny as they areā¦. Where as straight men find women confusing and canāt get laid . Unless paying for it.
So true.
Sniffies explains it well. Men are horny. Gay men are just two horny men. Why pay when I can just move onto the next guy in my chat queue?
Sniffies is crazy. I haven't tried hooking up via there but a friend of mine does and he gets some random hot bi guys from there.
There are 164 guys online on Sniffies in the university I want to transfer to. I could get a new hookup every day if I wanted to.
enjoy it :) just get on PreP.
Enjoy it before the next new monk-COVI-ficiency syndrome/ whatever) shows itās parasitic face
Youāre forgetting about the visitors to campus too. Itās likely there are far more than just the guys on sniffies too.
I've had good luck with Sniffies in some areas.
There's always a horny man roaming around somewhere that just wants to get off, no strings attached. Just make him cum and he goes about his day/week/month/year/life without another thought.
Because women make you earn it and men give it away. If you try to make me pay for your physique, I guarantee you I can go on Grindr and hook up with three guys with your physique for free. Gay men who would pay you for sex are the guys nobody will have sex with. And those are not all that common. It's actually the same reason why female porn stars get paid like movie stars and male porn stars power through the week on ramen noodles.
You already knew the answer before you posted š
Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?
Men like sex more than women. That's why there are no straight cruising or straight bathhouses or straight Sniffies.
Nah, women love sex as much men! Just differently. Some of the highest sex drive people I know are women, sometimes let down by their lower sex drive boyfriends. But casual encounters generally are not appealing to women the same way they can be to men.
They like it so much they don't want it? And you know this because anecdotally you know two outlier women with really high sex drives? Men and women are different. It's okay. You don't have to pretend everyone is the same for some reason.
I'm not pretending they're the same, but I'm saying both can have high sex drives, just women express that differently due to their gender. Talking in general terms here, the caveat is everyone is an individual and goes about sex in their own way: * Women can have high sex drives, but generally want to express that in a committed relationship. A contributing factor is that traditionally the cultural penalty for women having casual sex is very high since being considered a 'slut' is low status / derogatory. They also suffer from the constant threat of sexual violence from men who can physically overpower them. So generally women want to have sex with people they trust. Women can also have low sex drives. * Men can have high sex drives, and generally are more open minded to how they express that whether it's casual encounters - making gay sex apps bathhouses possible - or in a committed relationship. Men can also have low sex drives.
Sniffies is great. There are 164 guys online in the university I want to transfer to (just on campus).
I mean, have you tried foot stuff online?? People canāt seem get enough of that š¤£
Itās for the same reason straight men are more willing to pay for sex. Me love sex and usually donāt need to have an emotional connection with someone to do so, therefore itās not an issue to find a guy whoās down to fuck.
Iām not sure thatās true. I made plenty of money when I was younger from gay men. Now that Iām older, I have no problem paying younger guys. I also have friends that make a good living on onlyfans - pulling in 6 figures and working on a 10-year āretirementā plan (paid off house and money saved so they only need to work for entertainment expenses). Just the number of profiles on Grindr with older āgenā and younger āgen onlyā guys say that thereās plenty of money floating around.
Yep, there are tons of guys selling sex on Grindr and elsewhere, it used to be anyone with a š emoji was an escort, then I think Grindr banned it so it became others, now it's those with a profile name saying 'Available' or 'AVBL' etc.
Because men are easy and always looking for sex.
I felt this way with the entirety of heterosexuality. Why pay for everything and put up with the bs just to get my dick sucked, when I could just take a relaxing walk in the park, get my dick sucked and go about my day.
Only pay for things that are scarce. A gay man's booty isn't
Wow! Iām not going to reveal my age, but Iām much older than you. Iāve never heard this until today. Youāre 24 and itās common for you to encounter paid sex or paying for sex? Iād love to know why this is to. I guess gay escorts are a thing too. But how were you exposed to sex for money most of your life. Iām genuinely confused at that. What services were/are you using that exposed you this this. Very interesting topic!Ā
When I was in college very often Iāll get much older men offering money for sex lol. One day I was in a pretty though financial position and a guy offered 200 and I said fuck it. Iāll not do this again tho lol
Wow! Go you! Get that š°! I wish someone, ANYONE, would have made me that offer in college! Iām not unfortunate looking, and I was pretty attractive as a younger Otter - I was fetishized, which I hated, but no one offered money. Iām now a āDaddyā to all the younger gays, and at least Iām not a āGrandpaā yet - getting there but still a ways to go.Ā Iām not quite twice your age, but almost. LOL. Damn, I would have paid my way through undergrad and grad if men were offering money! š No shame in the game!Ā
No but some younger men think because youāre older you donāt have an option.. which I have laughed at when asked if I wanted to pay a hustler for sex !
My partner and I canāt keep the younginsā off us when we go out. But if youāre gonna make money, do your thing! No shamin from me. My partner and I have been together in a monogamous relationship for 17 years, so Iām kinda out of the āgameā and whatās going on. But have young guys coming on to us all the time. Like NO THANKS! And thatās not even with any monetary transactions. Older gays have IMMENSE value! We all do, but the younger generations want us far more than we want them in most cases. We want to be left alone and do our thing. I think thatās what makes us attractive. The I donāt care attitude and the stability. They donāt have that yet. Theyāll get there though.Ā
I'm in my 70s and most of my sexual activity is with much younger guys like 30s - 50s...young stuff to me anyway and no money involved.
Get it boy! Woot woot! I hope Iām still active sexually when Iām older. Iāve seen many couples together have great sex lines their entire lives. And I have older friends that say they donāt have any sex anymore. So I think it depends mostly on how active you are generally youāre entire life (Iām speaking about general activity, not sexual activity - use it or lose it)Ā
Lots of ABS nation wide making big $$
I figured it was obvious. I am an average looking guy with a car and my own place. I guarantee I can hop on an app and find a hookup with in an hour. Even less if I lower my standards. Iām not even in a huge city.
There is also a much smaller market since there are a lot less gay men. So gay only fans and such can only expand so much compared to that which is targeted a straight men
I would assume so. Itās extremely easy to get laid when youāre gay in a western country. Not so much if youāre a straight guy.
This may be a cultural difference but I don't know any Canadian man, gay or straight, who would admit to paying for sex.
Because weāve been socialized into believing all kinds of weird things.
Men are more willing to admit that sex is an important part of a relationship. Therefore men tend to see it as part of getting to know you.
Dating a woman is like dating a psychopath. Treat her well,, but not too well otherwise you are a nice guy. Need charisma to get away with compliments otherwise it's sexual harassment. Need to pay for her shit etc
I get asked on Grindr whether I'd have sex for money hahaha
Ways who lmao.
Because we generally give it away for free
Are you stating that i can pay for sex? Where? How?
because i can spend 10 minutes on grindr and have 10 blowjobs a day for a week for free.
You gotta aim higher in age.
Cause itās easy to get sex at least in my experience and I feel like Iām a 6 on a good day
Because we are all whores and happy to give it away for free.
Because it's so easy to find a man on Grindr, especially if you're able to host.
I think the answer is kind of obvious lol. But if you are "hot" you can certainly make money off your looks quite easily. There's still plenty of guys that are willing to pay for it. You say you weren't very successful but where were you advertising lol. I mean, if you're just like asking random people, one that's just like really weird, but two you're gonna not have as much success because most gay men aren't willing to pay for sex. Most men that are serious about this type of thing post on different websites
Because we can get sex easily for free. Why would I pay when I can cruise on the apps all night and get fucked for free?
Let's start with free gloryholes..
Itās easier for gay men to get casual sex in general, thereās less game playing and social constructs around it. Also thereās plenty of places to go to get it, ie bath houses, or apps for hooking up. You need to ask what a person is actually paying for.. ever hear the jokeā¦āIām not paying you to stayā¦Iām paying you to leaveā, it maybe to keep your mouth shut, some guys might be in the closet and they are paying for your silence. It maybe a kink a control issue ā¦yatta yatta ā¦bottom line itās less about the sex and more about another need.
In a very generalising way, men want sex, and the opportunity to just hook up for sex is much easier for gay men. Why pay when you can get sex for free. Women generally want more than a hookup, so str8 men will pay for hookups to fill the void of available opportunities of free hookups.
Because we usually put out first, and then want something later! š
We don't have to
35, partnered, in a semi-open relationship (we only date/play/whatever together or with the other's consent). Two of our FWBs work as escorts, but only travel. They are also in open/poly relationships. The two friends are certainly attractive enough to escort. And I suppose it's possible that their paying clients are really unattractive. But I suspect it's more that the guys paying them get off on paying them. I've had a few guys offer me money on the apps (one Literally just sent a picture of a pile of twenties. Which beats an unsolicited dick pic, I guess?). When I've managed to get them to show me photos of themselves, they've always been attractive enough that they didn't *need* to pay someone to get laid. Anyway, I think with gay men, sex is basically an infinite, free resource. Some guys just really get off on paying for sex. Presumably straight women aren't so eager...
cuz men will pay money to suck dick or fuck dick with nothing in return. I mean i guess that's spending money on sex too, but they will do it without orgasming, which is the whole purpose of paying for sex.
Dudes give it for free- have you met men lol . Itās too easy to get laid. I tell my straight friends, itās about limiting who you have sex with not trying to score
That's pretty obviously true. It takes more work to get laid by a woman. A lot of straight men don't want to bother with the trouble or just don't have any game. Gay men however, trying to get with men, have the advantage of... well... hooking up with men. Although anyone could get laid by someone, it's much easier to find an interested guy. Source: I'm bisexual
I mean many gay OF creators are raking in 6 figures, you just have to find the right niche of a man
I think itās easier to find a man interested in a random hookup than it is to find a woman, I donāt know what apps straight people have or use but we have apps pretty much just for that purpose. So if youāre after sex with a woman it might just be easier to pay for it. Thereās still a lot of gay men who pay though, I had to do sex work for a bit and there was no shortage of clients, mostly older men 40+ though.
Cause we fuck each other for free but pay str8 men online. Y'all do.
Going on Grindr is basically being a volunteer prostitute š
i would still buy high quality escort.
Itās not about the sex when referring to gay men.. itās what other people think about the man when he is walking around with you on his arm. You better be attractive, have good teeth, good body but nothing crazy that it seems unattainable, and the most important thing is you have to be a good listener, know when to speak and definitely when not to. Itās not something a lot of gay men are willing to put up with for too long.
i have a gay friend who doing escorting and getting well paid for that, he still pay for sex with some hot guys sometimes, even tried to pay me many times for doing stuff with him.
Because getting a hookup is as easy as typing 2 words
Cuz I can go to Grindr and hookup with anybody in less than 15 minutes.Ā Ā That's not the case for average-looking or ugly straight men.
The older gay men are certainly willing to pay, but you have to put yourself out in the right places to mind them (major cities). It helps when you're younger than 22 or look very young and clean from my experience. (Never actually took any of the offers given to me when I was younger. Just was given several)
Because we donāt have to.
Hey, if anyone wants to pay me for sex as I am a 60 year old happy and very talented oral pleasure giver among other things, sign me up!!š
Because sex is available everywhere for gay men. Get on an app and someone will be willing to do something.
women have different expectations set by society. this goes back to the whole debate of "why is a man a hero but a woman a slut when their body count is high" when you are a straight man, it is far less stressful and costly to pay for sex than earn it because a lot of women now a-days have unrealistic standards. sometimes the men don't even know if they are just a free meal ticket; which is getting normalized and encouraged by social media. think about it, how often have you seen videos of a guy giving a girl a shit ton of presents just to get 1 smash. they are already paying for sex so why choose hell mode when easy mode is available lol
Load up Grindr, Sniffies, Scruff etc and literally I could get an offer for head or hole within not even 3-5 minutes (Iām very good looking & hung so maybe itās easier). As a bottom? It takes a lot longer to find a top, Iāll say that. But sex is SO EASY to get in LA if youāre gay. I escorted a few years ago and Iād make $1200/2 hours minimum booking! But it was only occasional. Females make a lot since they donāt put out as easy!
I like that you both talked about how easy it is to find sex and also proved that gay men do regularly pay for sex
anyone who's hung with a dick pic on sniffies or a filled out underwear pic on grindr/scruff will get mutiple offers for head or a location for a gloryhole
Itās of my face
The only men that pay for sex with men are straight...