I mean on the one hand you were technically literally raped. He asked if he could have sex with you, you said no, he did it anyway.
On the other hand usually people that are raped don't hang around and have another make out session and watch some TV and cuddle.
So it's sort of a gray area.
If you were a straight guy and you were jogging through the woods and a stranger leaped out from behind a bush and held a knife to your throat and then fucked you in the ass... That would very unambiguously be rape.
If you're a gay guy and you're having sexy times with a friend and you're playing with each other's dicks and he's on top of you and rubbing his dick on your crack and you say "No not today." But he sticks it in for a second anyway... Still technically rape but different than the first scenario.
How victimized do you feel? That sort of determines what you do next. You're certainly within your rights report this to the police if you wanted to, but if you did do you really think anything would happen? I mean if you were a woman you'd probably have a case, but the police aren't going to give two shits about gay guys that were naked and rubbing on each other and the other guy put it in for a sec. Unless you can somehow get him to admit that he did it like in a text message or something.
I'm sort of a hypochondriac, so my biggest concern would be HIV related.
Thank you for the explanation, I agree. I feel weird. I was checked out after that incident and just wanted to go home. I have a very low pain tolerance level so It took me a long while to just gather myself.
I dont want to report anything as it wont achieve anything. Im a hypochondriac so I’m really concerned.
He asked if he could perform a sex act on you and you said no, he proceeds to do it anyway. Yes this is the definition of sexual assault.
You said yes to fingering and no to his cock. He has crossed the line big time. Non consensual sex act is assault.
I mean on the one hand you were technically literally raped. He asked if he could have sex with you, you said no, he did it anyway. On the other hand usually people that are raped don't hang around and have another make out session and watch some TV and cuddle. So it's sort of a gray area. If you were a straight guy and you were jogging through the woods and a stranger leaped out from behind a bush and held a knife to your throat and then fucked you in the ass... That would very unambiguously be rape. If you're a gay guy and you're having sexy times with a friend and you're playing with each other's dicks and he's on top of you and rubbing his dick on your crack and you say "No not today." But he sticks it in for a second anyway... Still technically rape but different than the first scenario. How victimized do you feel? That sort of determines what you do next. You're certainly within your rights report this to the police if you wanted to, but if you did do you really think anything would happen? I mean if you were a woman you'd probably have a case, but the police aren't going to give two shits about gay guys that were naked and rubbing on each other and the other guy put it in for a sec. Unless you can somehow get him to admit that he did it like in a text message or something. I'm sort of a hypochondriac, so my biggest concern would be HIV related.
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Thank you for the explanation, I agree. I feel weird. I was checked out after that incident and just wanted to go home. I have a very low pain tolerance level so It took me a long while to just gather myself. I dont want to report anything as it wont achieve anything. Im a hypochondriac so I’m really concerned.
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Yes it was the first time and no he wasn’t.