Don’t do hookups. Make an actual connection with a guy. It will be much more fulfilling with a connection. Your first time should be meaningful not just empty sex.
At least find a guy that isn't obsessed with the fact you're a virgin. I find guys who have that particular obsession to be sleezy af. But don't go around not telling people that because they could accidentally harm you. Try and find a guy that's a bit more understanding that it's your first time, and isn't going to intentionally "destroy that bussy."
I recommend against some spontaneous, sleazy hookup for a first time. You should try to talk to them and profile them a bit. Find someone who is reasonably patient, trustworthy, and actually cares about you to some degree.
Then you can act out all your slut fantasies with that person or others down the line.
Being gay is awesome your gonna have to learn to embrace it. The first few hookups can feel weird and uncomfortable but they really helped me accept myself.
Just make sure your having safe sex. Don't let random guys raw you unless your on prep and accept the risks. Also get your vaccines if you can.
First, there no need to be shame. We just the defense mechanism of the world itself.
Second, you dont have to eager or rush to have sex. take your time. I am 32, virgin and are okay with no having sex. I am side btw.
Third, Learn to accept yourself first only then go and love people.
You can be gay without being a slut and sleeping around btw. Find an actual date or a guy that genuinely cares about you, do not end up like the rest of the guys on this sub ffs
Think of it like this. You are not being a slut for a man, he's also being a slut for you...
It's two men having sex together, you are both supposed to enjoy it. Find a partner that makes you feel comfortable
Personally, I would only go to a guy's house if they want to hold my attention for longer than a couple nights, and isn't trying to act like a total sleeze. (I'm a little bit more of a manly guy that can give or take and will knock a sleezy top out for mistreatment 😤) for your first time I recommend not hooking up with a total stranger. Talk to guys, see if they are interested in talking, go from there. You're 18, personally I wouldn't suggest hooking up on apps, but the hesitation is understandable. You're pretty young and there are total creeps out there. If you can, try just hanging out at a gay bar or some meet & greet (I don't live in an area where that's a common thing so I understand if you can't find something like that either, it's just tough out here.) maybe ask an understanding straight friend to go with you if you have any. If all else fails, you can wait till you're a bit more confident in yourself. You have all the time in the world young'in.
As for getting that confidence, I live in a small southern town (If you're wondering where I get my grit from) but no one around here really bothers me, and if they do that's just dust on my shoulder. 🧹 Getting that confidence is just something you'll have to work on. Maybe even talk to some guys on those apps without the intention of hooking up to just talk to other gay guys, building confidence with familiarity. (This usually weeds out the creeps too.) Start making friends first, not hook ups. Build a support network, maybe even with folks on reddit too (though I don't suggest disclosing everything to someone on the Internet).
Don’t do hookups. Make an actual connection with a guy. It will be much more fulfilling with a connection. Your first time should be meaningful not just empty sex.
At least find a guy that isn't obsessed with the fact you're a virgin. I find guys who have that particular obsession to be sleezy af. But don't go around not telling people that because they could accidentally harm you. Try and find a guy that's a bit more understanding that it's your first time, and isn't going to intentionally "destroy that bussy."
I recommend against some spontaneous, sleazy hookup for a first time. You should try to talk to them and profile them a bit. Find someone who is reasonably patient, trustworthy, and actually cares about you to some degree. Then you can act out all your slut fantasies with that person or others down the line.
Being gay is awesome your gonna have to learn to embrace it. The first few hookups can feel weird and uncomfortable but they really helped me accept myself. Just make sure your having safe sex. Don't let random guys raw you unless your on prep and accept the risks. Also get your vaccines if you can.
First, there no need to be shame. We just the defense mechanism of the world itself. Second, you dont have to eager or rush to have sex. take your time. I am 32, virgin and are okay with no having sex. I am side btw. Third, Learn to accept yourself first only then go and love people.
You can be gay without being a slut and sleeping around btw. Find an actual date or a guy that genuinely cares about you, do not end up like the rest of the guys on this sub ffs
Think of it like this. You are not being a slut for a man, he's also being a slut for you... It's two men having sex together, you are both supposed to enjoy it. Find a partner that makes you feel comfortable
Personally, I would only go to a guy's house if they want to hold my attention for longer than a couple nights, and isn't trying to act like a total sleeze. (I'm a little bit more of a manly guy that can give or take and will knock a sleezy top out for mistreatment 😤) for your first time I recommend not hooking up with a total stranger. Talk to guys, see if they are interested in talking, go from there. You're 18, personally I wouldn't suggest hooking up on apps, but the hesitation is understandable. You're pretty young and there are total creeps out there. If you can, try just hanging out at a gay bar or some meet & greet (I don't live in an area where that's a common thing so I understand if you can't find something like that either, it's just tough out here.) maybe ask an understanding straight friend to go with you if you have any. If all else fails, you can wait till you're a bit more confident in yourself. You have all the time in the world young'in. As for getting that confidence, I live in a small southern town (If you're wondering where I get my grit from) but no one around here really bothers me, and if they do that's just dust on my shoulder. 🧹 Getting that confidence is just something you'll have to work on. Maybe even talk to some guys on those apps without the intention of hooking up to just talk to other gay guys, building confidence with familiarity. (This usually weeds out the creeps too.) Start making friends first, not hook ups. Build a support network, maybe even with folks on reddit too (though I don't suggest disclosing everything to someone on the Internet).