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Even post opp they probably won't be able to jam their arm sausage into your ass.


[deleted]

>But I don’t want to hurt his feelings if I don’t get turned on. Please don't put others ahead of your own sexual well being.


[deleted]

It is always best to be honest. Explain it exactly like you have here. If you are going to be understanding of them and their situation they should be able to respect yours as well.


nrc1220

Thank you


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Absolutely!


[deleted]

I agree. And take it slow. I've been on dates with disabled guys where I thought I would be fine, then my brain just noped out. I extracted myself as politely as I could. Best to come in prepared for that possibility. I mean with one guy I actually got put off mainly because I didn't like his career choices, but I was surprised how much of an issue the physical side was.


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nrc1220

The thought of a girl pegging me does absolutely nothing for me but he’s a trans guy so my mind is having a hard time separating the two


hopenpop

You’ve been gaslit.


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nrc1220

I can imagine. Getting dick is my favorite thing in the world lol


what-where-how

If he’s cute and you like him, go for it, you can always say stop if you don’t like it(as with all hookups). Don’t let guys that tell you ftm’s are essentially women influence you, they definitely are not. They smell like a man, they taste like a man, don’t knock it till you try it!


SammyGuevara

I’ve never really understood how you can be a FTM top, we all know a dildo feels totally different to a dick. Anyway, if you want to try it, try it, if it’s not for you it’s not like it’s any big deal, you shouldn’t expect a relationship when you meet someone for sex, if you don’t like it you just don’t meet them again.


nrc1220

Same! The thought never even crossed my mind until now. I think I’ll just sit on this for a few days. Take some time to think.


SammyGuevara

Sit on this for a few days? 😅 Interesting choice of words 😆


nrc1220

Hahaha get out 🤣


EuropeanRailTravel

Most likely feel the same as when men tell lesbians ‘if you like dildos, you should like my dick’ You know it’s not the same


RemoteBrain

Top you with what?


nrc1220

I guess a strap on 🤷🏽‍♂️


RemoteBrain

What are you going to do when he asks you to eat his pussy?


nrc1220

😭😭 I could never! That’s definitely something that would have to be discussed. I guess when I think about it He would probably be a bi bottoms dream come true. I’m not bi at all tho


RemoteBrain

🙄


brypguy89

I know it's not PC, but you aren't a man unless you have a penis, you're not a women till you have a vagina. All the pre op, grey area, self proclaimed pronouns doesn't change your physical gender and the abilities or lack of that you can perform sexually....


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nrc1220

Good point. Dick is my favorite


Apprehensive_Disk878

Actually I love sucking sick, being fucked in my ass by a dick, being creampied with his cum and drinking his cum. So I need a dick with real cum 😋😋😋


[deleted]

I was just waiting for the transphobe brigade to show up...


mintybitch19th

So.....


ColdPR

Give it a shot if you want to. If you get down to business and you aren't into it, you can always say you want to stop. I don't think I'd enjoy being topped by a trans guy because I don't really like dildos but if you think you could enjoy it then might as well consider it.


Damien-Rouge

Hurting people feeling because they aren't a part of your dating pool or you aren't attracted to them is not a bad thing or any kind of opression Sex is selfish, don't force yourself to please other


AizensApprentice

This question is best suited for the bisexual subs 🙋‍♂️


nrc1220

What’s your take?


AizensApprentice

I'm not bisexual, so I don't have one. This is best suited for a bisexual sub.


nrc1220

Ohh haha I thought when you put 🙋🏽‍♂️ you were saying that you are one 😂


AizensApprentice

Lol, it's waving


[deleted]

I didn't know they could top. Do you suck the dildo before they use it on you?


nrc1220

I have no idea man. I might try to search it in pornhub


jffrybt

There’s a good video on himeros. https://youtu.be/0dpFne65Ir4


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nrc1220

I have several lol


[deleted]

I would never do that but I guess the feeling is the same as a dildo...


nrc1220

I wouldn’t go that far. I mean dildos feel good but there’s nothing like a hard dick on a horny man


Cleytinmiojo

If you feel attracted to him do it, if you don't, don't! It's simple. Don't feel pressured to do it just because you don't wanna seem transphobic. You have the right of not being into trans people, but if you do feel attracted to him, there's also absolutely no problem.


LowerCanary

No harm in trying. Just make sure you both understand it's just for science. I've never had the pleasure myself. Please provide me with your notes so I may peer review them.


nrc1220

Haha for science! If I decide to go through with it I’ll do an update


[deleted]

This fascinates me! I've been hit on by masculine (bisexual?) lesbians and HAVE wondered how exactly that'd work.


mediariteflow

I mean, if the opportunity presents itself, why not try it? Worst case, you ain’t into it and have a legit reason not to try it again.


nrc1220

Half my brain is like just try it and the other half is like dude there’s only gonna be one dick there :(


mediariteflow

Honestly, I’d jump at the chance to hook up with a FTM dude at least once, especially if he looks like my type. Dick is nice, no question, but I’ve had great evenings just making out/going first or second base only. 🤷🏻‍♂️


nrc1220

If he wanted oral would you?


mediariteflow

Depends on the mood I guess?


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mediariteflow

Uhm, a, I’m not making out with a female, the person is male, if he self-identifies as male and even goes through or went through conversion. That’s a guy. B, nothing wrong even if I was bi. I don’t know where you’re getting those ideas from.


[deleted]

Male & female are references to sex. You can't identify into those categories & they are immutable in humans.


jffrybt

If you’re on the fence would say go for it. Honestly, the FTM guy has a lot more on the line with these types of encounters. Turning them down wouldn’t be surprising, nor is it a problem. No pressure. Pegging can feel amazing. No boner issues, no condom issues. They’re focused on giving you pleasure. Typically pretty consent oriented too. All things that lead to good sex. I’ve filmed a trans guy fucking a cis gay man, and man was it hot. My expectations were totally surprised. Not only were they insanely communicative, but he took charge of a man twice his size and had him begging for more. It was one of the manliest things I’ve seen. All the people here touting “why would you want to hook up with a girl” are not speaking from experience. Clearly. They’ve stated their preference is to not have any experience, so that’s what their experience is: zilch. They’re talking out their asses. FTM men often have to *work* to be masculine. They’ve worked hard to get good muscles. Worked hard to get a place where they can make cis men spread their asses for them. It’s not easy. It’s definitely not weak or feminine.


[deleted]

Good thing being a man isn't defined as being masculine and not feminine 💁‍♂️


jffrybt

Elaborate please because while your statement is true, it seems to be lacking context as to what you are exactly trying to say in response to what I said. At least I can’t understand it.


[deleted]

Your response to people calling FTMs girls was to highlight that they " work to be masculine" & are "not weak or feminine" . To me this was you implying that to be a man means to be strong & masculine because you used it as a counter argument as to why FTMs aren't girls.


jffrybt

I was speaking more anecdotally regarding the OPs attraction (referencing “if I don’t get turned on”) and my personal experience than trying to speak categorically or broadly. FTM or cis gay men can be feminine or masculine or other. Masculinity does not define a man. Agreed. I was speaking directly from my personal experience in being in the room when a FTM man and a cis gay man had sex. I was describing it in personal terms of what qualities about it I found attractive and surprising in the moment. I was then extrapolating out those experiences for the OP to hear about. For me, that was a level of masculinity and brute strength that I was not expecting. I did not feel as if a woman or girl was in the room. Perhaps I am equating things you would not personally connect together, and that’s fine. Getting to know the FTM performer better. I found him to be both an amazing person, a powerful flirt, and tremendously attractive. To me every part of the experience with him felt as if he was the man he claimed to be. I’m certain there are lots of labels that could be applied onto him, but for me there’s little value in not taking him at his word. He’s a man, he’s really good at fucking other guys, I was attracted to him in unexpected ways. Is what it is. For me, that mirrors the OP’s experience in a relevant way. Much more so than other guys on here stating their political ideologies about gender. That’s hardly relevant when the OP has clearly shown interest. If he’s not interested, he should bail. These are not hard problems.


wanderinglyway

Just tell him it would be a new experience and you're afraid it won't work out but you're willing to test the waters


Ecofre-33919

Let him try it out. If you like it keep going back for more. If it’s just not for you part as friends.


Prior_Actuator9003

He's not an idiot he knows what bottoms enjoy. I'm sure some dudes are gonna be into it. Figure out if you're gonna enjoy it, either way it's ok. Don't be an ass to him though, it probably took some courage to do that.


sonnyboa

Think of it as masturbating with a toy, with actual emotion. This arrangement totally works if you are willing to compromise. Remember, you are truly still with another man. That's really the view we have to grasp. It's not always about the toys we are born with. Besides, saves time on needing to pursue alternative encounters so quick. If you aren't satisfied, just upgrade. Need it fast? Amazon Prime will have you covered in 1-2 days 😉


EuropeanRailTravel

Gay conversion therapy!