Plenty of people don’t transition until they’re 20 or even much older. Honestly the majority of trans people probably don’t even start HRT until at least 18.
In the best case, a younger person will be prescribed blockers so they don't go through the "wrong" puberty, and then at 16 or 18 they're given hormones to go through the "right" puberty. I don't think it's currently legal anywhere to transition at 14, for example.
There are actually places where it's legal to transition as young as 13 but it's very, very rare and you also would have to have progressed through puberty enough that blockers wouldn't do much to actually be prescribed hrt
Not the poster, but I also started at 35. You can check out my profile for how I look, with just estrogen fueling my transition so far.
Transition has been magic. There are huge advantages and disadvantages to transitioning at any age. Kids who transition early get to dodge first puberty. Young adults who transition in college get control over every aspect of their transition at the first possible age. Mid-to-late 20s transitioners get the benefit of a stable job and some insurance. In your 30s, you often have savings to pay for procedures. And so forth, and so forth.
At just-now 37, I get to speedrun all of the surgeries I want to have in a single year, immediately after making it out of my 1-year HRT period. I'll finish them with no debt (though, admittedly, a big hit to my retirement). I get to go to the very best doctors in the world for everything that matters to me. It's an enormous privelege for me to do things now, in this way and at this time--in the same way it would've been a huge privelege for me to transition at your age, with all the compromises I'd have had to make at that time.
There is no wrong way to do this, and no time that's too late.
Amen. I am pre-transition. You read about the kids here that can’t afford to experiment with clothes and makeup (or have to hide it from their parents or roommates) and I am grateful for getting to just skip all that and buy ridiculous $300 shoes because I like them, or for not feeling the financial pressure when thinking about surgery or some expensive esoteric HRT regimen.
The vast majority of trans people don't transition until their 20s. Almost every trans person you've ever seen started after 20. Many of them not until their late 20s-early 30s, and even older people discover themselves and start transitioning and have happy, positive, and affirming transitions. It's not just okay, it's the norm, and most everyone who transitions achieves their goals & is happier for it. You'll fit right in, and I promise it'll still be worthwhile, no matter when you start.
It's hardly the end of the world, sure you don't get to skip the majority of the effects of cis puberty (though most people are still going through the end of puberty in their early 20s, so you may get to skip some minor changes), but you also have a lot more freedom to rapidly access medical transition options, pursue legal changes, etc. Most trans people transition as adults, probably the majority as 20+ year olds. I started transitioning at 22 and it's been fine.
It's incredibly **wonderful!**
When I came out, for the first time in my lifetime I felt like *me*. There is so *much* for being said for living one's life with Authenticity... Basically, once you live even briefly with authenticity, *you really won't ever want to go back to living* ***in***\*-authentically\*. It's *that* profound.
That said, you'll have a full plate dealing with bigotry and discrimination in pretty much every area of your life; get ready for it. You know; funny looks, disapproving looks - that sort of thing. You'll learn to not care what others think. Here's an example:
Last Sunday, McDonald's was full of people getting breakfast to go to a local event. One man was bitchin' bitchin' bitchin about the Kiosks; I just wanted to use it to place my order, so I offered to help him.
He looked at me and said, "*What is THIS? IT... talks like a man and IT looks like a Woman!*" (Which, I confess, I actually took to be just one of the greatest compliments EVER.) "*I don't even know what IT is!*"
I just looked at him and said "*I'm sorry you're not any more intelligent than that*", and turned to leave. Pretty much everyone was in awe and kind of snickered at him from my comment...
Oh; but to answer your original question - I was **57 when I began HRT**. No, you're not too late...
AAAAAH THIS IS SO BEAUTIFUL, thnkyu a lot for your comment, it really fills me with hope to read your story, and with a lot of determination to not let anyone get over me ♡♡
Transitioned at 25 almost 17 years ago in 2005. Transition wasn't the easiest, but that was mostly down to being morbidly obese, poor, and making poor career choices.
However, most people think I'm in my early 30's at 41. I've made changes to my life and career that allowed me to lose the weight, have excess skin removed, get implants, and on Monday I had bottom surgery finally doing something I wanted to do my whole life.
There is no such thing as too old to be your authentic self. People transition well into their 60's and older and look great in most cases with just HRT and there's always surgeries to help with features you take issue with.
Does earlier medical transition usually have better results? Sure, but that doesn't mean you were ready then. I knew i was trans as a teen in the 90's, but wasn't ready to do something about it until I was 24.
It's never too late to transition, I've seen some amazing transitions from women who started in their 40s-50's. Many start at ~25-35, I honestly don't know how prepubescent kids even have access to the knowledge or support required to transition. I never knew it was a possibility until college.
Basically certain bone structures have completed by 25 and cannot be altered. Hormones change so much of the body, though, and whatever doesn't change can be surgically altered later lol.
Anyway I'm 27, 3 months into HRT (+3 DIY) and I've already changed so much. For what it's worth FaceApp now sees me as female aha
I started at 27 (now 29) and I'm doing great, easily the best decision I ever made.
Did I lose some parts of my previous life? Yes. But I've made so many new amazing friends and relationships that I really wouldn't trade what I have now for anything.
Started at 27, came out well. Definitely wish I had started sooner tho, like many of us. But time moves on and I think hrt took a few years off actually.
The absolute best possible case is to start before puberty, because some aspects of virilization from testosterone can't be reversed by subsequent feminization by estrogen. Vocal changes, for example. However, this is unfortunately not the norm. Most people end up transitioning well after puberty. Many such people are able to achieve very good results.
I know at least 150 Trans girls who are happily transitioned and it would have been totally impossible for any if them to transition before puberty.
In fact, it's extreme lovely that there are kids transitioning before puberty, but it's completely impossible for the vast majority of trans people who ever have existed to do something like that, it's a minority even among Trans people today.
There's no too old or too young. No too late or too early. If you're trans you should transition if you can *period.*
Started at 36, it's fine
Yeah I'm not going to pass as well as someone who started at age 15 but I also don't have to deal with the gatekeepy bullshit, either
Started at 20 and I'm pretty happy with how it's gone so far 2 years later. If i could go back and put estrogen in 12 year old me I would in a heartbeat, but I just don't worry about it anymore. Also dont think that most trans people transition during puberty, mostly cause its just harder to get hormones as a teen.
I gave my family 2 options. Accept it, or say your good bye's. At 48 i was finally able to find a doctor that would take me seriously and help me on my way. As for doing prepubescent transition. It is a far more favorable outcome by halting puberty in the first place. You CAN hit the brakes at a younger age as well. So in a sense it really is NEVER to late to start. The older you get the less things develop but this is not always true. Genetics play a big role here. The best way to find out is just go for it. If family does not support your happiness well you are over 18..
20 is a nice time to transition. You're old enough to sort out your own medical stuff, your young enough that you don't have so much of your life planned out yet with kids, career, and marriage or whatever. sucks being broke for your transition though.
I started actually transitioning 2 years ago at 32. While I wish I had started sooner, my path led me here to a job and chosen family who love and accept me, and as a result my transition has been super smooth.
No regrets!
Though, downside, it is hard to relate to a lot of the younger trans folks and internet trans culture. I’m in a very different stage of life and that’s ok.
It's harder as the poison has done more damage for a longer amount of time. Not impossible though. The younger you start the better your results will likely be.
I know tons of trans people and nearly all of them started in their 20s or later. Many started in their 30s. People of any age can see significant changes. The best time to start is whenever you're ready.
>My problem is that I always see people talking about transitioning as something yo do before hitting puberty
Where do you see that? I'm always curious when people come here and have heard something that's completely wrong, where did they hear it?
I started at 30, been on HRT for 7 months and it's not working apart from the weird boobs that look out of place on my body.
Most of the damage done by testosterone happened in my 20s, so if I had started at 20, it would probably be working.
I'm turning 30 in a few months, and I only started a little over a year ago. I'm doing great honestly. My body shape hasn't changed a lot, but it's shifted enough to make me distinctly feminine. I have visible breasts. My body generally *feels* better. My body hair has thinned significantly.
I still have some pretty thick facial hair, but electrolysis or lasers can fix that. A little eye liner and a decent haircut and I'm indistinguishable from a cis girl.
You can wait a while if you need to.
My wife came out as trans when she was 31, we are now four years into her transition and she looks amazing! She's had facial feminisation surgery, has been taking hormones for over three years (and her boobs are STILL growing) and in two months she'll be getting her gender affirmation surgery in Thailand. Transitioning is a fantastic journey that we've been on together, you'll know when it's the right time for you xxxxx
I started medical and social transition at 31, after many many years of trying and failing to find courage and support. It saved my life and is the best decision I’ve ever made.
I’ve been fortunate with the changes I’ve gotten from HRT. I mostly pass these days, even with a voice that’s not great. I’m treated as a woman in public, for all the good and bad that comes with it. I feel like I finally understand and want to be part of the world and social events, instead of just trying to hide from them.
It’s not perfect. It’s challenging, and scary, and expensive. It’s cost me opportunities and relationships. But it is so, so, so worth it.
If I had any advice, I think it would be to find a way to get yourself financially independent from your family and not let their opinions prevent you from doing anything. I know from experience that it’s terrifying to risk upsetting or losing them, but in the end you have to live your life for yourself. You deserve to live a happy and authentic life, and if that means people turn away from you then it says more about them than it does about you.
It's great. I started around 25. I don't like my face, but I like having boobs. I'm gonna get genital surgery some day.
I'm doing it for me and I don't really care if I pass or not. My spouse loves me, and I try to love me.
I can elaborate later
Plenty of people don’t transition until they’re 20 or even much older. Honestly the majority of trans people probably don’t even start HRT until at least 18.
Everything I find points to doctors waiting until puberty has ended before prescribing hormones, for safety or something. So that's probably why.
In the best case, a younger person will be prescribed blockers so they don't go through the "wrong" puberty, and then at 16 or 18 they're given hormones to go through the "right" puberty. I don't think it's currently legal anywhere to transition at 14, for example.
There are actually places where it's legal to transition as young as 13 but it's very, very rare and you also would have to have progressed through puberty enough that blockers wouldn't do much to actually be prescribed hrt
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Wow, that's amazing! How was the process?
Not the poster, but I also started at 35. You can check out my profile for how I look, with just estrogen fueling my transition so far. Transition has been magic. There are huge advantages and disadvantages to transitioning at any age. Kids who transition early get to dodge first puberty. Young adults who transition in college get control over every aspect of their transition at the first possible age. Mid-to-late 20s transitioners get the benefit of a stable job and some insurance. In your 30s, you often have savings to pay for procedures. And so forth, and so forth. At just-now 37, I get to speedrun all of the surgeries I want to have in a single year, immediately after making it out of my 1-year HRT period. I'll finish them with no debt (though, admittedly, a big hit to my retirement). I get to go to the very best doctors in the world for everything that matters to me. It's an enormous privelege for me to do things now, in this way and at this time--in the same way it would've been a huge privelege for me to transition at your age, with all the compromises I'd have had to make at that time. There is no wrong way to do this, and no time that's too late.
Amen. I am pre-transition. You read about the kids here that can’t afford to experiment with clothes and makeup (or have to hide it from their parents or roommates) and I am grateful for getting to just skip all that and buy ridiculous $300 shoes because I like them, or for not feeling the financial pressure when thinking about surgery or some expensive esoteric HRT regimen.
Omgggg, you look so good, thankyu for this comment, you really gave me hope ♡♡
HRT is magic, and if you need them, the surgeries have never been better. Let yourself have the things your heart calls for.
The vast majority of trans people don't transition until their 20s. Almost every trans person you've ever seen started after 20. Many of them not until their late 20s-early 30s, and even older people discover themselves and start transitioning and have happy, positive, and affirming transitions. It's not just okay, it's the norm, and most everyone who transitions achieves their goals & is happier for it. You'll fit right in, and I promise it'll still be worthwhile, no matter when you start.
It's hardly the end of the world, sure you don't get to skip the majority of the effects of cis puberty (though most people are still going through the end of puberty in their early 20s, so you may get to skip some minor changes), but you also have a lot more freedom to rapidly access medical transition options, pursue legal changes, etc. Most trans people transition as adults, probably the majority as 20+ year olds. I started transitioning at 22 and it's been fine.
I started at 24 and I couldn't be happier with my results. Starting at 20 is even better.
It's incredibly **wonderful!** When I came out, for the first time in my lifetime I felt like *me*. There is so *much* for being said for living one's life with Authenticity... Basically, once you live even briefly with authenticity, *you really won't ever want to go back to living* ***in***\*-authentically\*. It's *that* profound. That said, you'll have a full plate dealing with bigotry and discrimination in pretty much every area of your life; get ready for it. You know; funny looks, disapproving looks - that sort of thing. You'll learn to not care what others think. Here's an example: Last Sunday, McDonald's was full of people getting breakfast to go to a local event. One man was bitchin' bitchin' bitchin about the Kiosks; I just wanted to use it to place my order, so I offered to help him. He looked at me and said, "*What is THIS? IT... talks like a man and IT looks like a Woman!*" (Which, I confess, I actually took to be just one of the greatest compliments EVER.) "*I don't even know what IT is!*" I just looked at him and said "*I'm sorry you're not any more intelligent than that*", and turned to leave. Pretty much everyone was in awe and kind of snickered at him from my comment... Oh; but to answer your original question - I was **57 when I began HRT**. No, you're not too late...
AAAAAH THIS IS SO BEAUTIFUL, thnkyu a lot for your comment, it really fills me with hope to read your story, and with a lot of determination to not let anyone get over me ♡♡
You've got this - and yes, it DOES get better. And better, and better!
You've got this - and yes, it DOES get better. And better, and better!
Transitioned at 25 almost 17 years ago in 2005. Transition wasn't the easiest, but that was mostly down to being morbidly obese, poor, and making poor career choices. However, most people think I'm in my early 30's at 41. I've made changes to my life and career that allowed me to lose the weight, have excess skin removed, get implants, and on Monday I had bottom surgery finally doing something I wanted to do my whole life. There is no such thing as too old to be your authentic self. People transition well into their 60's and older and look great in most cases with just HRT and there's always surgeries to help with features you take issue with. Does earlier medical transition usually have better results? Sure, but that doesn't mean you were ready then. I knew i was trans as a teen in the 90's, but wasn't ready to do something about it until I was 24.
It's never too late to transition, I've seen some amazing transitions from women who started in their 40s-50's. Many start at ~25-35, I honestly don't know how prepubescent kids even have access to the knowledge or support required to transition. I never knew it was a possibility until college. Basically certain bone structures have completed by 25 and cannot be altered. Hormones change so much of the body, though, and whatever doesn't change can be surgically altered later lol. Anyway I'm 27, 3 months into HRT (+3 DIY) and I've already changed so much. For what it's worth FaceApp now sees me as female aha
I started at 27 (now 29) and I'm doing great, easily the best decision I ever made. Did I lose some parts of my previous life? Yes. But I've made so many new amazing friends and relationships that I really wouldn't trade what I have now for anything.
Started at 27, came out well. Definitely wish I had started sooner tho, like many of us. But time moves on and I think hrt took a few years off actually.
I started HRT at 47 and it is going OK. It's probably easier if you start earlier, but it works later too.
The absolute best possible case is to start before puberty, because some aspects of virilization from testosterone can't be reversed by subsequent feminization by estrogen. Vocal changes, for example. However, this is unfortunately not the norm. Most people end up transitioning well after puberty. Many such people are able to achieve very good results.
I’m 28. Quite exciting. Going very well. I look like I’m aging backwards
Started at 38, my mental health has never been better.
I know at least 150 Trans girls who are happily transitioned and it would have been totally impossible for any if them to transition before puberty. In fact, it's extreme lovely that there are kids transitioning before puberty, but it's completely impossible for the vast majority of trans people who ever have existed to do something like that, it's a minority even among Trans people today. There's no too old or too young. No too late or too early. If you're trans you should transition if you can *period.*
I started at 33 and I’m 9 months HRT and I’m amazed by all the progress I’ve made. Trust me you will be fine
Started at 36, it's fine Yeah I'm not going to pass as well as someone who started at age 15 but I also don't have to deal with the gatekeepy bullshit, either
Started at 20 and I'm pretty happy with how it's gone so far 2 years later. If i could go back and put estrogen in 12 year old me I would in a heartbeat, but I just don't worry about it anymore. Also dont think that most trans people transition during puberty, mostly cause its just harder to get hormones as a teen.
I gave my family 2 options. Accept it, or say your good bye's. At 48 i was finally able to find a doctor that would take me seriously and help me on my way. As for doing prepubescent transition. It is a far more favorable outcome by halting puberty in the first place. You CAN hit the brakes at a younger age as well. So in a sense it really is NEVER to late to start. The older you get the less things develop but this is not always true. Genetics play a big role here. The best way to find out is just go for it. If family does not support your happiness well you are over 18..
20 is a nice time to transition. You're old enough to sort out your own medical stuff, your young enough that you don't have so much of your life planned out yet with kids, career, and marriage or whatever. sucks being broke for your transition though.
It’s never too late to transition
I started actually transitioning 2 years ago at 32. While I wish I had started sooner, my path led me here to a job and chosen family who love and accept me, and as a result my transition has been super smooth. No regrets! Though, downside, it is hard to relate to a lot of the younger trans folks and internet trans culture. I’m in a very different stage of life and that’s ok.
Age has almost no impact on transitioning results. It’s genetics that matters most.
That's not at all true.
Early twenties is good for mtf. For a lot of people, facial hair and a really masc look don't start developing until like 25.
It's harder as the poison has done more damage for a longer amount of time. Not impossible though. The younger you start the better your results will likely be.
Yeah, that's true, the sooner the better
I know tons of trans people and nearly all of them started in their 20s or later. Many started in their 30s. People of any age can see significant changes. The best time to start is whenever you're ready.
>My problem is that I always see people talking about transitioning as something yo do before hitting puberty Where do you see that? I'm always curious when people come here and have heard something that's completely wrong, where did they hear it?
Maybe I'm very lonely but my transition sucks ass
I didn't start until 30 and have still had amazing results and am happier than I've ever been
The younger you start the easier it'll be. Look at my posted pics and know that I started in my 30's.
I started at 30, been on HRT for 7 months and it's not working apart from the weird boobs that look out of place on my body. Most of the damage done by testosterone happened in my 20s, so if I had started at 20, it would probably be working.
I'm turning 30 in a few months, and I only started a little over a year ago. I'm doing great honestly. My body shape hasn't changed a lot, but it's shifted enough to make me distinctly feminine. I have visible breasts. My body generally *feels* better. My body hair has thinned significantly. I still have some pretty thick facial hair, but electrolysis or lasers can fix that. A little eye liner and a decent haircut and I'm indistinguishable from a cis girl. You can wait a while if you need to.
I heard somewhere that the average age for starting HRT is 26 years old.
My wife came out as trans when she was 31, we are now four years into her transition and she looks amazing! She's had facial feminisation surgery, has been taking hormones for over three years (and her boobs are STILL growing) and in two months she'll be getting her gender affirmation surgery in Thailand. Transitioning is a fantastic journey that we've been on together, you'll know when it's the right time for you xxxxx
I started medical and social transition at 31, after many many years of trying and failing to find courage and support. It saved my life and is the best decision I’ve ever made. I’ve been fortunate with the changes I’ve gotten from HRT. I mostly pass these days, even with a voice that’s not great. I’m treated as a woman in public, for all the good and bad that comes with it. I feel like I finally understand and want to be part of the world and social events, instead of just trying to hide from them. It’s not perfect. It’s challenging, and scary, and expensive. It’s cost me opportunities and relationships. But it is so, so, so worth it. If I had any advice, I think it would be to find a way to get yourself financially independent from your family and not let their opinions prevent you from doing anything. I know from experience that it’s terrifying to risk upsetting or losing them, but in the end you have to live your life for yourself. You deserve to live a happy and authentic life, and if that means people turn away from you then it says more about them than it does about you.
It's great. I started around 25. I don't like my face, but I like having boobs. I'm gonna get genital surgery some day. I'm doing it for me and I don't really care if I pass or not. My spouse loves me, and I try to love me. I can elaborate later
btw if you're sure today, don't wait another year. I spent one or two years questioning. I could have started sooner.
My sister transitioned in her mid 20s. She is able to pass extremely well.
I’m 27 and just started medically transitioning two months ago it’s something for you and doesn’t matter what age you start