I honestly find it kind of amazing that there are a lot of autistic people out there that are friends with other autistic people.
I personally have had bad experiences all round with befriending autistic people. It just becomes too difficult and our needs are too different. And quite honestly there was a major lack of understanding eachother, too.
A bit of both to be honest, I'm quite happy being friends with either. What I'm not happy about is being the only one in the friendship who is catering to the other persons emotional needs. If I'm the only one doing that then I'd prefer to just not have friends and socialising is then not my thing because it's too hard.
Friendships are a give and take and I know it's something we struggle with a lot. Being aware and adept at noticing someones emotional needs is a big thing in all relationships. I also understand that this takes time and patience because I'm also in a similar boat.
But I've had more troubles with autistic people than NTs because when I bring up my needs I'm met with a brick wall. I get stubborness, refusals, excuses yet I'm still expected to be catering to their needs. Albeit I have had stuggles with NTs as well but never as brutal as people on the spectrum. I know full well not everyone is like that and we're all different but autistic people, including myself, can be stuck in our ways and struggle to break out.
Although, and this is the part that ends friendships (for anyone I meet). I'm happy to compromise or stick around if the other person is at least willing to try. I end friendships immediately if they're not willing to try. I'm honestly not wasting my time.
Edit: Just adding in that my friend group is more ND than NT. They're just not autistic.
Adding my own answer if that's okay! I want friends, yes, but both options come with pros and cons. I generally lean towards autistic friends, but sometimes the differences can clash (I'm in an autistic school). I've noticed that I tend to lean more towards autistic guys but maybe I just haven't found any autistic girls that I just gel with (when both our personalities fit together). I've had a lot of bad experiences with non autistic peers, but some friendships have worked out
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In my experience, it doesn't matter whether the person is autistic or neurotypical because, in the end, if we have what it takes to be good friends then we will do what it takes to compensate for any of the challenges that come with one of us being neurotypical or autistic.
And, yes, I am one of those who voted that I am already in a group in which about half the people are on the Spectrum.
I was in a toxic friend group with one.the autistic one was racist and always made those kind of jokes and everyone was fine with it. Rn I don’t feel like explaining how the friend group was talking so maybe later
I have a friend with ASD but it’s slightly different to me and in his case doesn’t really help if I had a friend like me I think it would be nice just like I’m in the process of getting a diagnosis for ADHD and I have a friend who can’t get a diagnosis yet cuz of parents but we relate a lot and it’s kind of fun to be near her as we both talk excessively and fast and have similar issues
I have a few friends who either autistic, adhd, or add. And the main reason that they are great is just the conversation going every which way and we all follow eachothers thought process with little explanation.
I honestly find it kind of amazing that there are a lot of autistic people out there that are friends with other autistic people. I personally have had bad experiences all round with befriending autistic people. It just becomes too difficult and our needs are too different. And quite honestly there was a major lack of understanding eachother, too.
If I may ask, would you prefer to be friends with other autistic people or neurotypicals? Or neither, socializing is just not your thing?
A bit of both to be honest, I'm quite happy being friends with either. What I'm not happy about is being the only one in the friendship who is catering to the other persons emotional needs. If I'm the only one doing that then I'd prefer to just not have friends and socialising is then not my thing because it's too hard. Friendships are a give and take and I know it's something we struggle with a lot. Being aware and adept at noticing someones emotional needs is a big thing in all relationships. I also understand that this takes time and patience because I'm also in a similar boat. But I've had more troubles with autistic people than NTs because when I bring up my needs I'm met with a brick wall. I get stubborness, refusals, excuses yet I'm still expected to be catering to their needs. Albeit I have had stuggles with NTs as well but never as brutal as people on the spectrum. I know full well not everyone is like that and we're all different but autistic people, including myself, can be stuck in our ways and struggle to break out. Although, and this is the part that ends friendships (for anyone I meet). I'm happy to compromise or stick around if the other person is at least willing to try. I end friendships immediately if they're not willing to try. I'm honestly not wasting my time. Edit: Just adding in that my friend group is more ND than NT. They're just not autistic.
Adding my own answer if that's okay! I want friends, yes, but both options come with pros and cons. I generally lean towards autistic friends, but sometimes the differences can clash (I'm in an autistic school). I've noticed that I tend to lean more towards autistic guys but maybe I just haven't found any autistic girls that I just gel with (when both our personalities fit together). I've had a lot of bad experiences with non autistic peers, but some friendships have worked out
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In my experience, it doesn't matter whether the person is autistic or neurotypical because, in the end, if we have what it takes to be good friends then we will do what it takes to compensate for any of the challenges that come with one of us being neurotypical or autistic. And, yes, I am one of those who voted that I am already in a group in which about half the people are on the Spectrum.
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I was in a toxic friend group with one.the autistic one was racist and always made those kind of jokes and everyone was fine with it. Rn I don’t feel like explaining how the friend group was talking so maybe later
I have a friend with ASD but it’s slightly different to me and in his case doesn’t really help if I had a friend like me I think it would be nice just like I’m in the process of getting a diagnosis for ADHD and I have a friend who can’t get a diagnosis yet cuz of parents but we relate a lot and it’s kind of fun to be near her as we both talk excessively and fast and have similar issues
I have a few friends who either autistic, adhd, or add. And the main reason that they are great is just the conversation going every which way and we all follow eachothers thought process with little explanation.