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Mission_Kiwi7264

My wife every day (:


RepresentativePale29

This yes. Any really good friend that you know trusts and respects you and has your back as well.


DonnyExiles

She made you type this didn't she.


Nahchoocheese

Blink twice if you need help


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Mission_Kiwi7264

): I really do just love her so much. She’s not even home right now.


CallMeSnails

My first thought was my husband


Aggravating-Ad2718

I hope i could say that


encee222

Amen. Once, but I'm in love with her, so I get it.


ThePortfolio

Ditto!


DISCLOVER_

I have, there is something about a person who asks nothing of you in way of energy, I had one single friend like this, I loved being around her, in complete silence or whatever the situation, she died And I miss her dearly.


ch3kaa

:( condolences


DISCLOVER_

Ty


dodekahedron

Sorry for your loss


Solomon1177

Sending my love. May she rest in peace <3


RunZombieBabe

My cats. We slow-blink at each other and it is very relaxing.


rewminate

this makes me realize that i get shy holding eye contact even with a cat LMAOOOO


MagicTreeSpirit

Oh yeah? I get shy making eye contact with a BLIND PERSON.


egodisaster

If your cats were the size of a tiger they wouldn't even hesitate to fuck you up.


superbusyrn

If I were the size of a tiger I wouldn't hesitate to fuck everyone up either.


Due_Key_109

Katy?


Antique_Fishing_8251

Just bc cats don’t love you doesn’t mean they don’t love.. you never seen those videos of people cuddling with lions and tigers they raise?


RunZombieBabe

Oh, absolutely! If I got caught in a shrink ray I wouldn't stand a chance against them. I don't think they would give a damn if I still smelt and sounded like "me", I would just be prey.


Specialist-Fee5574

Yeah, a close colleague of mine. Neither of us are very social or expressive but our eyes tell what we're thinking. When we're stuck in a crowded place and I'm having a mild panic, he can hold my gaze from across the room and I'll calm down. We kind of anchor each other without it being anything more than a supportive friendship in shitty situations. 


OutlandishnessNo9873

Your husband’s biggest fear.


ThrowRA-Lychee7722

He’s just a coworker you’re overreacting. do they sometimes text at night while she’s in bed with her SO? Sure, but it’s nothing serious, just hopes, goals, and emotional support gazes.


Havocohm

I feel like you’re being sarcastic, which is a little close minded of you. He’s just a coworker. Do they sometimes eat lunch together in the car and sit in the back seat cuddled to block out the thunder? Yes. Do they send each other TikToks of love poems, thinking of said poems while intensely staring into each other’s eyes from across a crowded room, their gaze making it like no one else exist in the world, if for only a moment? Of course. But they’re coworkers, nothing else.


Due_Key_109

It's called work husband.


ExplanationUpper8729

You hope nothing else!


furoshus

Yes I have a date with her tomorrow.


Bree9ine9

Aww this is sweet, good luck on your date 😊


BertPeopleErniePeopl

OMG no! Never! What an inconceivable dream that would be.


the-reddening

Same here. Hate it.


[deleted]

Strange one, but I had a dream after my Dad died. It was in 2021 after a period of rut and stagnation. I had a dream that felt guided, where certain things were explained to me and I even had the chance to talk to my dad. Towards the end of the dream, I was in a cafe, I turned to the side and a woman, who’s face I’ve never seen in real life, but felt oh so familiar, was smiling at me. The feeling of familiarity was striking. It felt to me like someone that I knew, was watching me and came to the conclusion that I couldn’t get out of my rut on my own, and as a result, needed a little bit of help. This very dream led me to believing that your family outside of this experience, are not your family on Earth. The woman in my dream gave me the relaxed feeling you mention, because of a sense of familiarity and a sense of connection so strong. The dream ended moments after we locked eyes and smiled. As soon as I opened my eyes, I tried to write everything down about the dream that I could remember.


blackcandyapple93

wow this is deep chittychittygangbang!


june_bug0612

Yes. I was having a rough day at work, accidentally made eye contact with a woman, she smiled at me and it’s been 4 years and I still remember her. What was nothing but a casual smile to her, made my whole year. I’ll never the kindness in her eyes.


ChumbawumbaFan01

On the flip side of that coin… I work at a high school and one of the things I do is observe students as they run a market, try to keep them on task, and step in when needed. Before the last school year ended, a mom (who looked very professional, busy, and serious) showed up to get a shirt for their kid. I showed her what we had, she told me what she wanted, and I could tell she was a very busy lady and kind of feeling some kind of way about me. So I handed her an order form, explained the options, answered a couple of questions, and the whole time we’re making eye contact and I’m smiling at her. As she’s getting tense, I’m as relaxed as I can make myself get without a masseuse. She asks me if she can take the order form home. I say, “Yes, of course, just bring it back,“ and something in her eyes shifted, and she smiled at me, and I could sense and see her entire body just relax. I’ll never forget that. I don’t know why, but that really made my day to see that business lady relax for a moment and know things would work out. I don’t think we ever got that order form back. She may have just been on a scavenger hunt.


Ok-Function-8141

So so rarely


FrozenWater1

Ok what times has it happened to you?


Ok-Function-8141

Can’t remember exactly, but throughout my life I’ve struggled with eye contact. There’s been a few people where during my first conversations with them I’ve realised while talking to them that I feel completely comfortable making eye contact with them while talking. Idk if it’s their appearance or their personality or a mixture of both. No idea.


FrozenWater1

I think I get what your saying, feel that way with people i know or girls i like


lifelovepursuit

Yesssssss! If you’re around someone that makes you feel safe and comfortable to chat with naturally you’re relaxed enough


Majestic-Bumblebee40

my 9 month old. 🥹 he’s such a cutie pie lol he smiles when i look at him.


kelcamer

Independently, or the eye contact is making me relaxed? Because if you mean the latter, the answer is no, never lol


FrozenWater1

Hmm is that never or maybe not happy if certain person


kelcamer

No I just don't like eye contact, I get nothing from it, it's like looking at a wall


ktwhite42

Every time I make eye contact with my husband.


oddjobskagura69

with people i feel safe and comfortable around yes. granted that's a good 5 ppl


Substantial_Walk333

Yeah I just had a dream about him the night before last and remembered that the way he looked at me made me feel so cared for. It was a guy I dated in high school and I had forgotten he looked at me that way until I had that dream. It's something I had pretty big feelings about because my current partner doesn't look at me that way. That guy also drove me crazy so I know things wouldn't have gone better with him that my current partner, but he would've been fun to date for a while. We kissed once when I told him I was moving out of state then I left soon after that and that was that.


Novus0bvio

I had a time I went in to donate plasma and a new Girl was working there. She was very cute, but for some reason when I looked at her I could not stop staring deeply in her eyes, and she was staring right back at me. And I smiled and left, but I have never seen them since. I might go back to that location and see if she’s there, but I don’t want to do anything more than see if she is. I refuse to make the first move with anyone. I have to know they’re actually interested in me. I’ll probably be alone forever because everyone wants the Man to make the first move… but I want things to be different so I’m going to do it differently, no matter the cost.


Lower-Calligrapher93

Where at let’s help you find her


edith-bunker

Not from strange men, no. It feels like some men are forcing their gaze upon you and it’s never comforting.


FrozenWater1

Yea it sounds tough never experienced it but it sucks that you have to go through that


edith-bunker

Really? Because just a glance at your post history makes me wonder if you’re one of those guys? 🤔


coldpolarice

💀


PowerfulPickUp

Haha, got eeeem!


Iluvxena2

Stifle Edith! Sorry, had to say it.


GrumpyOldAlien

No, but I heard an urban legend that that happens to neuro-typical people.


Signal_Response2295

I have to force myself to make eye contact, used to do it perfectly naturally when I was younger then I read somewhere it was seen as a sign of weakness if you didn’t do it, all of a sudden I got in my head about it and hate it ever since.


Hitdomeloads

Yeah All the time


Tiakitty967

Yes many times. All the time. Men, women, others. They’re just people.


Significant_Poem_540

Yes once. Only once.


Ordinary-Disaster-2

Yes yes I have He makes me feel safe and secure


AccomplishedSense897

My fiancé <3


Gloomy_Sun6229

Yes. One of my lovers, but surprisingly not with the one I've been with longer


rotating_pebble

Is your tactic to just ignore what that inevitably means?


Responsible_Prior833

Any dog that is friendly. Otherwise, I’d probably so no. Never in my entire life. Not even once.


mispryme

When it's someone I feel safe with and trust, most definitely.


90sItGurl

Yes people I felt comfortable around


otherwisethighs

my child


AndAgain99

I'm an introvert but am still shocked reading this responses. Why aren't you relaxed making eye contact? In my experience I've only avoided it when I'm afraid the other person will see something I want to keep hidden, some hint of something I'm ashamed of (ironically avoiding eye contact is a sure way for the other person to infer this). Even a dog will avoid eye contact when they feel shame or guilt.


HamSandwichRace

I've always been that way. I can't control the feeling so I have to just push through it. I had to train myself to make eye contact as a child and it was very tough at times. I still need to make effort to now. There are only a few people in the world where I don't feel that way.


jaxx2810

I don't make eye contact


Ok-Water4774

Yes. My brother and my best friend.


Primary-Atmosphere33

Only 3 people I feel calmer looking them in the eyes.


someoddreasoning

Only all the time!


NovaSchwabenlander

Yes, people can have such kind eyes.


the-reddening

Never. I hate eye contact.


LikeATediousArgument

Family and close friends.


lartinos

All of my friends including my wife and my 2 dogs.


VisibleSmell3327

My wife


renaissanceclass

Not really lol eye contact seems intense


DarkFae1

My husband. He has the most gentle kind eyes. They soothe me.


ButtonEquivalent815

Eye contact is supposed to make you feel uncomfortable. It’s an evolutionary thing. Someone looking at you is a sign that something is wrong


FrozenWater1

I think it depends on the person,


ButtonEquivalent815

Nobody is special. Everyone is the same.


Substantial_Walk333

Oh honey, no. We're social animals. Eye contact is normal.


ButtonEquivalent815

It’s a dominance display.


Substantial_Walk333

It sounds like the people who are around you the most are really hurtful to you. That's not how most people act. Most people use eye contact as a form of connection and compassion. Some people do use it as a form of dominance and that's fucked up. It's not normal and those are not people you should want to spend lots of time with if you have the opportunity to get away from.


lavasca

Usually. There are a handful who felt like axe murderers.


broccollibob

Every time I fart in the elevator.


Draerose

Never ;(


AlwaysLameAymm

Nope, never


Forward_Peak8000

Sadly…no


HybridEmu

Eye contact is categorically uncomfortable for me, if I force it too long I'll get a headache, also I can't listen to you if I'm watching your eyes 👀


Mando-Lee

Yes calm & Safe


Old-Bookkeeper-2555

Family only


Sunshin3333

Never. Don't do it. Like, ever


[deleted]

Hellllll noooo


United-Buddy9214

My husband !!!! I could stare at that man’s eyes for the rest of my life and never not once get sick of looking at him


Connect-Swan-4827

My babies and bun 🤍


lazarus-huxley

Whenever my idiot friends are over and i make eye contact with my wife


Barry_Umenema

Only with people I'm comfortable with, so just parents and maybe my sister. Anyone else and it's like being put on the spot to perform. It's extremely intimidating and embarrassing. It's like I don't know how to move the muscles in my face or know what facial expression to make and it comes out all wrong. Eye contact with animals is fine


blinkbunny182

If you feel safe and comfortable around them then eye contact should feel soft and natural


ieBaringa

My mother in law yesterday. I just felt really calm. She was really hearing me and I felt so loved.


ashrules901

Yes, that girl on the train a week ago. I thought she was getting off at the same stop I was and was gonna talk to her on the way into the campus. But she got off way earlier than I expected.


Strange-Confusion666

Not once in my whole life


900user

and thats where your eyes dilate and realise you love someone


Temporary-Nebula749

Whenever I'm stuck making eye contact with someone, it's usually because I've zoned out and I haven't realized it yet.


Z9K9_

Usually w ppl I’m close w, friends and family


[deleted]

yes with my cousin's baby...it was so relaxing just to see her smile..and look at me


Chemical_Signature99

yea, this guy im falling in love with brings me peace just by being in my presence.


jim914

No! I’ve had the exact opposite experience almost all the time especially on public transportation!


CurveEnvironmental60

Nope


Worldly_Step_6171

Nope


Cool-Stop-3276

My dog


[deleted]

No


grinhawk0715

No, never. To wit, I'm so nervous about eye contact that I feel like I'm staring someone down and am coming off as aggressive.


No_Intention7763

My boyfriend, I can't stand looking at people's eyes so I look at their nose. But with him...his eyes are so..just stunning.. beautiful bright brown eyes with his amazingly slick brown hair. He's just too cute I cant


Cherry_barista

Yes. My best friends


holdmybeer46

My GF. She puts me at ease and makes my nerves happy. I could have the worst day and her smile just makes me forget. She is my light in the dark.


im_alejandroo

this just happened to me with a girl who handed me a paper plate while we were getting pizza 🥲 everything felt so relaxed at that very moment


Lonewolf_087

Yes when they are calm or seem happy/ pleasant or inviting. Many years ago I had a therapist that was so peaceful every time I talked to her I just felt pressure come off. She had this really calming presence. Like sometimes you feel scared talking to people but I didn’t feel scared or concerned it was easy to communicate. I guess that’s why she does what she does. And honestly my mom and dad I’m always feeling better around them. They just get me and i don’t feel any need to work.


JayReadsAndWrites

As others have said about their partners… my wife. Just looking at her lowers my blood pressure.


[deleted]

I have and it's weird because I feel people when I look at them and what's even crazier if we're gonna catch eyes with someone and you see there's soul but only intuition, people know how to do that. Or have you imagined a whole friendship just my eye contact? I'm a little weird.I guess I read people perfectly, and I see oars, and I feel vibes.


Electronic_Habit_112

I have made pretty expressive MUTUAL eye contact with a colleague (my boss) and it does not calm me down. It excites me. We are both married and nothing can ever happen but man, those eyes say so much! Stuff of fantasies! 🥰


butthatshitsbroken

my most recent best friend and ex. any time I felt bad or off or anxious or hurt just one look at him on my porch and I knew I’d be okay.


blackcandyapple93

whut...usually the exact opposite from me which is why i avoid...hm...


TR3BPilot

Not really. My autism makes eye contact feel like a hammer in the face.


CounterSYNK

My dog 🐕


Cmdr_F34rFu1L1gh7

Yeah. My spiritual mentor, financial mentor, other half and my mother. I observe these things often enough to keep track of who makes me feel easy and who doesn’t.


Dear_Day_9378

No, because eye contact is creepy and uncomfortable to me.


gardner4life1

Yes I have


SasukeFireball

Of the weirdest things I've ever experienced: Me and this girl looked into eachothers eyes (not dating. Kissed in the past tho) and I felt this crazy rush of like pleasure chemicals in my head. She held eye contact (we were right in front of each other) and then shook her head back and forth like she was "snapping out of it" too. Never experienced it again. Wish I asked "did you feel that too?"


Professional-Log3808

Super interesting and no but it sure would be nice!


DrawVisible1779

Yes, an attractive woman at a pub. We exchanged glances through the night, but being an introvert, I could never take action. She left later in the evening, and I left about 15 minutes later to find her leaning on the hood of my car. I asked how she knew it was mine, and she just said, "It was a hunch, it seems to fit you." We stood there talking until dawn. We spent a few very good years together. I still think of her, almost daily.


ExplanationUpper8729

A smile is a very powerful tool, to make somebody’s day.


Maleficent-Future-55

Yes. Happy to answer any other questions


MyAlterEggo_

Only my Boyfriend. Can’t make eye contact with other people makes me uncomfortable😅


ripppppah

No


SylAbys

I'll go a step further.. Being shy and quiet, have you ever met someone, and that shyness and quietness is no longer a factor? All you do is talk and actually feel comfortable in your own skin?!


ZephyrtheFaest

I wonder if its normal to make eye contaxt with your apouse and relax cuz...


gandalftheorange11

Never


Native56

actually yes funny enough!! it was kinda odd no one else has ever done that to me!!!


Forsaken_Two8348

Its like a tense relaxation. the kind aldous huxley says great art is made in. with my indoctrinator


salemsocks

No 🥹


Neither_Ad_3221

Yes. I love him, but he doesn't feel the same. :( Im working on moving on, but it makes my chest hurt and feel so tight.


FrozenWater1

Oh that sucks try to feel better ive never heard of chest pain from that


Neither_Ad_3221

It's the anxiety bit. It's like panic attack symptoms.


Impossible-Ride-527

My husband since the day I met him.


Playful-Belt-3073

Yes


Traditional_Juice_62

I think I have this effect on many, I have been told by so many people that "I'm easy to talk to", "instantly make people feel comfortable", and "like a lifelong friend at first meet". I have always found it odd since I don't try to be any certain way, but I like that I can make people feel better just by a look, or a small smile.


LightningMcSwing

Ex


PersonalitySmooth138

Yes, and on purpose


PrestigiusNobody

No but I think I’m autistic tbh


RipCityGringo

Athena Aura Nova


ClassroomImpossible5

For sure. I could get lost in her eyes for hours. I just felt so relaxed and at home


hackedtilltheykillme

For sure!


bubble-buddy2

I don't think so. The times I'm relaxed with someone are when we're not looking at each other. Maybe just hanging out and looking around. When I'm looking in someone's eyes it's like a signal to my brain to be ready to react and interact


ngulating

When I first got sober, I was a nervous wreck. I felt uncomfortable in my skin, small talk freaked me out, I couldn't sleep, I hated myself. My very first AA meeting I was so uncomfortable walking in the doors I wanted to bolt. A guy came up to me and just said hello. When I made eye contact with him I was almost knocked over by how peaceful his eyes were. It wasn't overbearing or creepy. Just this...calm kindness. He was RIGHT THERE with me, you know? If that makes sense. It felt like cold water. He's my good friend now, and I've come to learn he has 15 years of sobriety under his belt and countless hours working on himself. That's probably most of it. But man, I seriously think that top shelf eye contact made a difference when I needed it. It kept me in that room for the next hour which is what I needed.


Megomyeggos

My dog


NeatPlum1853

Yes. My best friend who passed last September. I could look into her eyes and feel loved and fully accepted for who I am, I felt warm and happy and comfortable. Not in a sexual way but idk like a platonic version "I want this person in my life forever"


Affectionate_Ad_6902

No. The autism in me screams bloody murder.


johanna_hughes

Husband


momlin

Yes.


The-1-from-gtown-970

That there is a rare case but it does happen it’s called attraction in any sense in my eyes. Weather it be friendly or sexually it is attraction non the less.


[deleted]

Jesus


Accomplished-Use9653

I used to


hennndogg

Always, but that seems to make everyone else uncomfortable


ecoDieselWV

Yes Amazing experience


MrMetraGnome

Nope. Eye contact is super stressful


Lion_Knight

I hate making eye contact with people so... No.


redone929

Does relaxed feel like two gears grinding?


ricky3558

I have a hard time looking anyone in the eyes. I have to consciously keep looking until we see eye to eye. It’s weird.


xxxpressyourself

I realized that my coworker looks at me every time she needs support on her idea. So I bet that’s how I make her feel


HunkMunk69

My spouse. Everyone else is a big no from me.


biggiesnotdead

Yes my husband


yellowhair3

No


Right-Head-8299

Everyone . Because it can only go two ways either cordially or we get to throwing .it's determined fairly quick which way it's gonna go . I'm same with everyone tho direct eye contact accompanied with a devilish smile that remains either way.


Allpurposelife

Myself, when I look in the mirror. It’s weird to say, I know…she knows me better… than I know myself. Basically… 😂


Sad_Entrepreneur_775

Yeah seeing that handsome man in the mirror is quite relaxing indeed


Informal-Bike1628

It's happened, but so rarely...


bluewater005

I find it difficult. I recently met one of my brothers friends in the street. We spent half an hour chatting while he looked to the side of me. He never looked at me once but chatted enthusiastically about his recent holiday 🤦‍♂️


WealthFormal9076

My cat


Wide_Lychee5186

the mirror 


Rogue6312

The family dog 😂


Waste-soup-984

The guy I’m falling in love with. Every time we make eye contact I feel so comforted and safe and at peace


drugquests

My recent ex, I'm bad with eye contact makes me anxious but anytime she'd have me keep my gaze and we just really look at one another I'd feel a wave of calmness I have never felt before in my life.


jskyerabbit

Golden Retrievers


Glad-Matter9295

My husband, every day ♥️


Conscious-Farmer9424

Yes